I do agree that the Hmong community needs to change our eating and hosting habits. As a woman, I'm tired of cooking for the entire village. My husband and I fight all the time regarding the need to cook a pot full of food. The community is hitting obesity really hard. Diabetes and high blood pressure and not enough exercise.
Agreed. I'm tired of cooking for the entire village. So everytime when we have a gathering, I always tell my husband not to invite a lot of people, only the immediate family. But my MIL always invite hella people.
Tus niam tij vam choj zoo siab tau los caum mloog koj cov neej neeg feem ntau yog qhov tseeb tsis yog dag neeg thov qhuas koj thiab txhawb koj nawj kuv paub koj cov sab sij huam tseeb no los tau 2 weeks no xwb os
Tu siab os....peb tej niag txiv ces yog kiag li koj hais ko li. Thaum kawg luag tseem muab yus povtseg es mus yuav cov niag pojnrauj Tim Nplog mas chim yus siab tshaj plaws os lawv e.......ua txijnkawm ib zaug tsi tsimnyog li os...
Glad you have the humility to share your story. Hopefully it will help other men out there to recognize the jewel they have before they mess it up like you Lol. Some people just don’t know how to appreciate what they have until it’s gone. You gain a son but loss a life partner, wife and friend.
I'm sorry. If you plan to do an event, please make enough food for people. If you don't want to waste money for an event, just don't do an event. Like my mom always say to us "you rather have more food than not enough. If you don't want to spend the money just don't do an event"
Lol that's right, when Hmong women let go of themselves and put that Hmong men first then it's not enough, they have to go seek that other woman who wont put the man before herself
You are better than my brother! Koj kuj yog txiv neej thiab mas,,,, koj tseem nrog tau koj tus pog yiag sib cav hos my brother ces nyoo tuag nthi,, ua qhev tuag nthi,, txhob tu 2 siab,, tus pojniam siab zoo 2 tseem muaj,,, txhob maj 2,,, maj mam nug, mam saib mam xyuas!!! nej twb tsis to taub tias lub ntees txawm yuav ua haib npaum twg los tus ntsuj plig yuav mus qhov twg?? Tus ntseeg ces tus ntsuj plig mus nrog Vajtswv nyob ntuj ceeb tsheej hos tus tsis tau ntseeg ces dab los tos mus rau ntuj tawg lawm xwb los mas hmoob aw!!
Thaub koj txhob tuaj complain os koj twb tsis ntshaw tus niam tsev tiag koj ntshaw tus pim niam dev xwb tab Tom phim phim koj thiab vim koj twb yog txiv dev xwb thiab peb nrog koj tus niam loj zoosiab tshaj plaws ua nws mus lawm
Vim koj xaiv tus zoo y nkauj.cov no siab me y.yog koj kwv tij cool koj nyiam phooj ywg nyiam kwv rij ces txhob yuab poj niam siab me li no koj lyb need music this tau
Koj tu siab ab tsi os koj twb ntshaw tus poj niam zoo li maiv liag xwb koj thiaj saib koj tus zoo niam tsev tsis muaj nqi thiaj muab nws tso tseg ne. Zoo rau qhov koj tus qub poj niam ntse es nrauj koj thaum ntxov tsis li ces ntshe koj tseem yuav tsim nws siab ntsws thiab nws tseem yuav nkim lub sij hawm ua zoo rau koj. Koj tsuas phim tus poj niam zoo li Maiv liag xwb. You got what you wanted so embrace it.
99% poj nraug ces kawg li no xwb. Cov phooj ywg tuav nej cov me poj laus ruaj2 nawb. Tsis txhob ntshawj poj nraug txog kev niam Dev li. Txhob xiam tiam nawb
Thanks for sharing your story, mister. May you find the one that fits you. I was taught to have more than not enough when it comes to parties. But I've come across those that make just enough for those that reserved to come. Each person is different.
Niam loj txawm yov zoo npaum twg Los yeej g muaj nqis 0ss, cov neeg siab2 phem li koj thiaj phim , xav ua hom hauj lwm hmo ntuj xwb, cia li ko thiaj yog nej dream wife, same as my X husband, niajhnub no, kv tus X, nkawv yeej g muaj tus zoo phoojywg li , nkawv cov phooj ywg ces yog pojnrauj, yawg nrauj sib sau ua neej g nrov koob nrov npe,
😂 Karma served you well. I hope it tasted bitter as hell. One good thing that came out of it: your ex-wife found someone better. Divorce was a blessing in disguise for her. I hope she realizes that.
In my opinion, you jumped the gun in divorcing your first wife. The doctor said your wife is capable of having kids so it’s probably just timing and you just need to keep trying.
I get that obesity is a problem in the hmong community but you still have to consider the people you are serving if you are a host. This lifestyle will take a lot of time to change, for a whole community. I never see family as a “whole village” because Hmong people have big families. During events you dont do everything yourself because you have family and its not frequent that you host these events. But whatever, do what floats your boat.
Txhob khuv xim koj tus niam loj mas hlub2 koj tus niam yau os. G yog koj g paub tias nws phem koj yeej paub ntsoov los tseem yuav qees ne...Nyob teb chaws no g muaj me nyuam los g ntshaw vim nyob teb chaws no me nyuam g hlub niam hlub txiv lawm tsuav muaj yus khub txij nkawm sib2 hlub yog qhov zoo tshaj os.😂
Yep. I hate these huuuuge nonsense hmong gathering. Immediate family is fine! Don't need to invite the whole village. I'm just glad my parents has stopped doing all these "ua neng" gathering and make it very small for my family and invite my uncles only. My in-laws.. I've been married to my husband for 12 years, they've only ever had these big event for (1) wedding and (1) house warming party. My husband and I are not interested in hosting these huge ass events either. Lol.
Koj tus maiv yiag tsis txawj ua niam tsev os. nws txawj ua niam dev xwb e koj thiaj li nyiam2 ne..muab koj tus zoo niamtsev nrauj mus ziag no tau qhov khuvxim lawm xwb puas yog.. cov neeg siab me qias dub tsis hais yog pojniam los txivneej ntxim ntxub tshaj li os hais txog kev ua zaubmov noj los yog ib pluag mov noj loj ua kev zoo siab tus neeg qias qub ntawd yeej los cheem kom txhob ua ntau ntau nws yeej tsis kay tsam tsis txaus noj poob ntsejmuag li.. muaj ibtug vauv siab me qias2 dub kawg niamtais/yawmtxiv tuaj saib tus ntxhais e tus ntxhais los ua hmo tus vauv los cheem kom txhob muab nqaij los ua ntau ntau kim povtseg niamtais thiaj li hais rau tus ntxhais tias wb tsis tshaib plab os ua me rau neb noj xwb.
I agree with the 2nd wife to a certain point like a family gathering should be just immediate family members. If you're planning an event, that's a different situation.
Bro instead of go with your first wife praying for children, you rather be a CHEATER! You deserve whatever happened to you!!! If you really love someone you should do whatever or be with her no matter what!!! I am glad she divorced you, bro!!!! You don't deserve a good wife like her. Karma got you good!
Npua yeem noj sua dev yeem noj quav no ces yog kj lawm los mas niag txiv yawm hmoob aw, li cas los tusiab rau kj tus kheej xwb os nawb, tsis muaj leej twg pab tau laud.
Li ntawv es thiaj li yog maiv yiag ntag Los mas, tsuav koj xya Tau mi nyuam rau NWS yug xwb CES zoo heev li lawm, koj tus Niam loj zoo npaum li Cas los koj twb xya tsis Tau mi nyuam rau NWS yug CES zoo ib qho los tsuav ib qho es nrog koj zoo Siab tias koj nrog luag muaj tub muaj ki lawm Xwb mas lov 🙅🤭
Nothing wrong with either of your ex-wives. They did what they did understandably based on what they were given on your decisions. You made your choices based on what you wanted and dumped your first wife wishing for a better life with your 2nd one. Your big happy family didn’t pan out as you hoped for. At this point, you better treat your children well and hope they love you enough to help you at old age.
Old school and new school can’t co-exist. Your wife has great points except it’s not going to work in the traditional Hmong family. We got to stop feeding the entire village. On the bright side, at least your wish came true with four kids.
Marrying your 2nd wife is not a mistake when you knew what you were getting yourself into, but you chose to still go that route. You should have thought twice about it before you stepped into temptation. If you really wanted a child that bad, what you could’ve done was adopt, that’s why they have adoption there for. Don’t feel so sad you deserve it too.
Tej laus hais tias zoo saib xwb tsi zoo noj no ces zoo li no mas. Cas peb cov txiv tsev es nej Pheej yuam khuav rau cov zoo nkauj li ko naj? Txhob yuav los saib xwb xaiv Tus uas yuav los ia neej mas. Yus twb muaj qhov muag muaj qhov ntsej ne.
Sad to hear you 2nd wife is a individual with NO HEART AND SOUL. Good thing she left you sooner than later. You should be happy and rebuild your family trust again. Be glad you have a son!
Oh boy, real American integration. Expect these challenges to be the norm. We are already seeing many changes in this area where physical labor has been reducing and catering supplementing. I think we are starting to realize the important of both men and women creatively inter-socializing. It is a small step in realizing the equality of labor that the women have been enduring and given very little credit. Brother, your 2nd wife was a visionary, and she is trying to bridge both cultures and finding better ways. Of course, it did not meet your needs because you guys didn't hear each other and come to agreements. Now, it is perfectly normal that some personalities just don't work out, and mainly because the beliefs are too different. Keep in mind that everyone is entitled to their own faith; it is their right. And when deep faiths clashes, we have incompatibilities, and the relationship can no longer continue. It wasn't the right timing and maturity, and it is okay to let things go. Good luck in your next venture.
Koj yuav chim tsis tau rsu leej twg vim koj tus muam twb qhia rau koj txog nws lub niag qe phem rau loj los koj tseem tsis ntseeg koj tus muam koj tseem muab koj tu me niam nkauj zuag paj nrauj pov tseg thiab ne.
I do agree that the Hmong community needs to change our eating and hosting habits. As a woman, I'm tired of cooking for the entire village. My husband and I fight all the time regarding the need to cook a pot full of food. The community is hitting obesity really hard. Diabetes and high blood pressure and not enough exercise.
Yes agreed. Most of the food goes to waste especially the ones on the table.
Yes!! I agree 💯
I'm glad I'm not in that boat, I'm enjoying my peace and watching all them Hmong women working their life away
RSVP Please! And don't forget the kids count...lol
Agreed. I'm tired of cooking for the entire village. So everytime when we have a gathering, I always tell my husband not to invite a lot of people, only the immediate family. But my MIL always invite hella people.
Tus niam tij vam choj zoo siab tau los caum mloog koj cov neej neeg feem ntau yog qhov tseeb tsis yog dag neeg thov qhuas koj thiab txhawb koj nawj kuv paub koj cov sab sij huam tseeb no los tau 2 weeks no xwb os
Tu siab os....peb tej niag txiv ces yog kiag li koj hais ko li. Thaum kawg luag tseem muab yus povtseg es mus yuav cov niag pojnrauj Tim Nplog mas chim yus siab tshaj plaws os lawv e.......ua txijnkawm ib zaug tsi tsimnyog li os...
Glad you have the humility to share your story. Hopefully it will help other men out there to recognize the jewel they have before they mess it up like you Lol. Some people just don’t know how to appreciate what they have until it’s gone. You gain a son but loss a life partner, wife and friend.
Nyuam qhuav ntxim txoj kev tsis pom tug niam los lub txiaj ntsig os
A real gentleman will love his wife regardless of the circumstances.
Mus yuav cov niag niam ntiav los ua neej ces kwv tij yeej Pooh yus tiag
I'm sorry. If you plan to do an event, please make enough food for people. If you don't want to waste money for an event, just don't do an event. Like my mom always say to us "you rather have more food than not enough. If you don't want to spend the money just don't do an event"
Why would you feel sorry yourself? You should be proud and happy. You got what you wanted and let go of what you needed.
Lol that's right, when Hmong women let go of themselves and put that Hmong men first then it's not enough, they have to go seek that other woman who wont put the man before herself
Exactly 💯
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Nyob zoo o nej teb chawg zoo kawg li o
You are better than my brother! Koj kuj yog txiv neej thiab mas,,,, koj tseem nrog tau koj tus pog yiag sib cav hos my brother ces nyoo tuag nthi,, ua qhev tuag nthi,, txhob tu 2 siab,, tus pojniam siab zoo 2 tseem muaj,,, txhob maj 2,,, maj mam nug, mam saib mam xyuas!!! nej twb tsis to taub tias lub ntees txawm yuav ua haib npaum twg los tus ntsuj plig yuav mus qhov twg?? Tus ntseeg ces tus ntsuj plig mus nrog Vajtswv nyob ntuj ceeb tsheej hos tus tsis tau ntseeg ces dab los tos mus rau ntuj tawg lawm xwb los mas hmoob aw!!
Thaub koj txhob tuaj complain os koj twb tsis ntshaw tus niam tsev tiag koj ntshaw tus pim niam dev xwb tab Tom phim phim koj thiab vim koj twb yog txiv dev xwb thiab peb nrog koj tus niam loj zoosiab tshaj plaws ua nws mus lawm
สวัสดีค่ะพี่สาว nice picture 🙏🏻🤗
Vim koj xaiv tus zoo y nkauj.cov no siab me y.yog koj kwv tij cool koj nyiam phooj ywg nyiam kwv rij ces txhob yuab poj niam siab me li no koj lyb need music this tau
Cov poj nrauj tam sim no zoo deev xwb tsis zoo yuav los ua niam tsev nawb cov kwv tij hmoob aw...
Change is good Hmong people. We can't just live like 1970. All you can eat at every gathering and at the end let the women clean
Koj tu siab ab tsi os koj twb ntshaw tus poj niam zoo li maiv liag xwb koj thiaj saib koj tus zoo niam tsev tsis muaj nqi thiaj muab nws tso tseg ne. Zoo rau qhov koj tus qub poj niam ntse es nrauj koj thaum ntxov tsis li ces ntshe koj tseem yuav tsim nws siab ntsws thiab nws tseem yuav nkim lub sij hawm ua zoo rau koj.
Koj tsuas phim tus poj niam zoo li Maiv liag xwb. You got what you wanted so embrace it.
Tus mi txiv tsev txhob tu siab koj yog hmoob xeem dans TSI
99% poj nraug ces kawg li no xwb. Cov phooj ywg tuav nej cov me poj laus ruaj2 nawb. Tsis txhob ntshawj poj nraug txog kev niam Dev li. Txhob xiam tiam nawb
Thanks for sharing your story, mister. May you find the one that fits you. I was taught to have more than not enough when it comes to parties. But I've come across those that make just enough for those that reserved to come. Each person is different.
Niam loj txawm yov zoo npaum twg Los yeej g muaj nqis 0ss, cov neeg siab2 phem li koj thiaj phim , xav ua hom hauj lwm hmo ntuj xwb, cia li ko thiaj yog nej dream wife, same as my X husband, niajhnub no, kv tus X, nkawv yeej g muaj tus zoo phoojywg li , nkawv cov phooj ywg ces yog pojnrauj, yawg nrauj sib sau ua neej g nrov koob nrov npe,
Txhob tag kev cia siab poj niam muaj Coob muaj ntau tus phem tus zoo los muaj mam7 nrhiav yeej muaj tus siab zoo txhob tag kev cia siab 😅
😂 Karma served you well. I hope it tasted bitter as hell. One good thing that came out of it: your ex-wife found someone better. Divorce was a blessing in disguise for her. I hope she realizes that.
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In my opinion, you jumped the gun in divorcing your first wife. The doctor said your wife is capable of having kids so it’s probably just timing and you just need to keep trying.
I get that obesity is a problem in the hmong community but you still have to consider the people you are serving if you are a host. This lifestyle will take a lot of time to change, for a whole community. I never see family as a “whole village” because Hmong people have big families. During events you dont do everything yourself because you have family and its not frequent that you host these events. But whatever, do what floats your boat.
Brother, tsis txhob tu tu siab, koj twb tau 4 tug menyuam lawm ne. Nrhiav phooj ywg poj niam noj fawm lawm xwb os.
KARMA LOS TXOG KOJ LAWM...Mloog tsis tau tag ces kuv twb....congratulations koj lawm os txiv siab phem....koj phem ces tau raws nkaus li koj phem ntag....TXHUA YAM KOJ UA RAU KOJ XWB. Koj puas paub tias......scientist keej keej lawm mus tso kab menyuam xwb. Hais los mas yog txiv neej tsis qoos noob ces pojniam tsis MUS YUAV TXIV YAU.....TIAM NO TXIV NEEJ THIAJ PHEM XWB.....Congratulations koj tsis tsimnyog deserves niam LOJ TUS SIAB ZOO
Txhob khuv xim koj tus niam loj mas hlub2 koj tus niam yau os. G yog koj g paub tias nws phem koj yeej paub ntsoov los tseem yuav qees ne...Nyob teb chaws no g muaj me nyuam los g ntshaw vim nyob teb chaws no me nyuam g hlub niam hlub txiv lawm tsuav muaj yus khub txij nkawm sib2 hlub yog qhov zoo tshaj os.😂
Yep. I hate these huuuuge nonsense hmong gathering. Immediate family is fine! Don't need to invite the whole village.
I'm just glad my parents has stopped doing all these "ua neng" gathering and make it very small for my family and invite my uncles only. My in-laws.. I've been married to my husband for 12 years, they've only ever had these big event for (1) wedding and (1) house warming party.
My husband and I are not interested in hosting these huge ass events either. Lol.
Koj tus maiv yiag tsis txawj ua niam tsev os. nws txawj ua niam dev xwb e koj thiaj li nyiam2 ne..muab koj tus zoo niamtsev nrauj mus ziag no tau qhov khuvxim lawm xwb puas yog.. cov neeg siab me qias dub tsis hais yog pojniam los txivneej ntxim ntxub tshaj li os
hais txog kev ua zaubmov noj los yog ib pluag mov noj loj ua kev zoo siab
tus neeg qias qub ntawd yeej los cheem kom txhob ua ntau ntau nws yeej tsis kay tsam tsis txaus noj poob ntsejmuag li.. muaj ibtug vauv siab me qias2 dub kawg niamtais/yawmtxiv tuaj saib tus ntxhais e tus ntxhais los ua hmo
tus vauv los cheem kom txhob muab nqaij los ua ntau ntau kim povtseg
niamtais thiaj li hais rau tus ntxhais tias wb tsis tshaib plab os ua me rau neb noj xwb.
Koj twb yog ib tug txiv tsev dhau los ntxiv koj yuav paub tab es mloog lwm tus hais txog koj tus niam zeeg ob ntawd na, tshwj xeeb uas twb yog koj tus muam kiag uas paub zoo txog nws.
I agree with the 2nd wife to a certain point like a family gathering should be just immediate family members. If you're planning an event, that's a different situation.
Wow... the sister is really a good advisor and trustworthy person, should have listened to her advice...
Bro instead of go with your first wife praying for children, you rather be a CHEATER! You deserve whatever happened to you!!! If you really love someone you should do whatever or be with her no matter what!!! I am glad she divorced you, bro!!!! You don't deserve a good wife like her. Karma got you good!
Tus aib maiv yiag no khij xuaj heev nawb, tsis tsim txiaj kiag li laiv.
Npua yeem noj sua dev yeem noj quav no ces yog kj lawm los mas niag txiv yawm hmoob aw, li cas los tusiab rau kj tus kheej xwb os nawb, tsis muaj leej twg pab tau laud.
Ua ca pheej khua xim niam loj xwb tos li niam yaum g xav hlub koj
Li ntawv es thiaj li yog maiv yiag ntag Los mas, tsuav koj xya Tau mi nyuam rau NWS yug xwb CES zoo heev li lawm, koj tus Niam loj zoo npaum li Cas los koj twb xya tsis Tau mi nyuam rau NWS yug CES zoo ib qho los tsuav ib qho es nrog koj zoo Siab tias koj nrog luag muaj tub muaj ki lawm Xwb mas lov 🙅🤭
Nothing wrong with either of your ex-wives. They did what they did understandably based on what they were given on your decisions. You made your choices based on what you wanted and dumped your first wife wishing for a better life with your 2nd one. Your big happy family didn’t pan out as you hoped for. At this point, you better treat your children well and hope they love you enough to help you at old age.
Txoj me kev pom luag zoooooooo tshaj yus tus poj niam ces nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb los mas
You got what you're wishing for! Txhob tu tu siab os.. You don't deserve your first wife. She is too good for you.
Tham tau tu siab ua luaj li os,
Old school and new school can’t co-exist. Your wife has great points except it’s not going to work in the traditional Hmong family. We got to stop feeding the entire village. On the bright side, at least your wish came true with four kids.
I agree for that the woman
Maiv nkhaus
Marrying your 2nd wife is not a mistake when you knew what you were getting yourself into, but you chose to still go that route. You should have thought twice about it before you stepped into temptation. If you really wanted a child that bad, what you could’ve done was adopt, that’s why they have adoption there for. Don’t feel so sad you deserve it too.
Tus me txiv tsev aw koj tus niam yau no yeej coj tau zoo lawm tsuad yog koj yoog tsis tau xwb .
Ua li koj laus li Cas lawm ua li ko zoo heev
Maiv Nkhaus xwb , nim yuav yog Maiv Yiag.
It's never too late to make amends with your family. They never stopped loving you but kept their distance cus of her.
Tus vivncaus ko tuaj tua nej cov nas xwb🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Tej laus hais tias zoo saib xwb tsi zoo noj no ces zoo li no mas. Cas peb cov txiv tsev es nej Pheej yuam khuav rau cov zoo nkauj li ko naj? Txhob yuav los saib xwb xaiv Tus uas yuav los ia neej mas. Yus twb muaj qhov muag muaj qhov ntsej ne.
Sad to hear you 2nd wife is a individual with NO HEART AND SOUL. Good thing she left you sooner than later. You should be happy and rebuild your family trust again.
Be glad you have a son!
Twb hais tias 4000$ pub dawb xwb no es tseem ho yuav tau them rov qab thiab.
Lol you received what you deserved!
Go to Laos 🇱🇦
Pab tus siab tus zoo tsi yuav lol
Oh boy, real American integration. Expect these challenges to be the norm. We are already seeing many changes in this area where physical labor has been reducing and catering supplementing. I think we are starting to realize the important of both men and women creatively inter-socializing. It is a small step in realizing the equality of labor that the women have been enduring and given very little credit.
Brother, your 2nd wife was a visionary, and she is trying to bridge both cultures and finding better ways. Of course, it did not meet your needs because you guys didn't hear each other and come to agreements. Now, it is perfectly normal that some personalities just don't work out, and mainly because the beliefs are too different. Keep in mind that everyone is entitled to their own faith; it is their right. And when deep faiths clashes, we have incompatibilities, and the relationship can no longer continue. It wasn't the right timing and maturity, and it is okay to let things go. Good luck in your next venture.
She's 21st century women, and you are year 75 men, so it ain't gonna work. 😅
Tus neeg tsi sawm zoo ces yog koj kiag mas tus txiv tsev aw. Nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb os.
Koj yuav chim tsis tau rsu leej twg vim koj tus muam twb qhia rau koj txog nws lub niag qe phem rau loj los koj tseem tsis ntseeg koj tus muam koj tseem muab koj tu me niam nkauj zuag paj nrauj pov tseg thiab ne.
Txivneej ces phim kiag tej tug maum moslwj li koj niag pojniam ko xwb mas
Wow koj niag maum dev ko zoo txiag pim txiag qhov quav tag muab pov khib nyiab xwb thaub aw!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣