The Real Reason I'm Ending My Podcast ft unreleased EP with Jesse Boykins III

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  • Опубліковано 13 гру 2023
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    In this engaging video, I delve into a conversation with the talented Jesse Boykins. We explore his personal journey and experiences within the complex world of dating. Jesse shares anecdotes and reflections, offering a unique perspective on the dynamics of modern relationships. This candid discussion sheds light on the challenges and triumphs he has encountered in the dating market, it also makes you think about how much power and confidence you get if you make an active effort to learn what you want and like before trying to date.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 109

  • @LaurenNicoleFK
    @LaurenNicoleFK 6 місяців тому +83

    As someone who’s watched you for ten years, I’m proud of you for making a necessary decision for you and your family. It’s inspiring!

  • @adalovelace521
    @adalovelace521 6 місяців тому +185

    we support you no matter what. and as a listener, i enjoyed the straightforward one-person interviews a lot more. maybe you could do just audio, which is far easier if you ever want to come back. take care of yourself and your peace

    • @RCJonieB
      @RCJonieB 6 місяців тому +5

      same. I enjoy the one person interviews too

    • @adetoroceballos211
      @adetoroceballos211 6 місяців тому +1

      Agreed!

    • @IntegrityMeansAll
      @IntegrityMeansAll 6 місяців тому

      The first dude was rambling and making no sense. I also think for the kids’ sake the content is kind of weird

    • @lanajane9591
      @lanajane9591 6 місяців тому +1

      Same. I prefer the one on one, the old formats left alot of open ends and wanting to hear more from the guests. Good Luck!

  • @BEAUTiFULSHAWTiE5
    @BEAUTiFULSHAWTiE5 6 місяців тому +54

    Not gonna lie I'm sad but I admire your decision and support it. Forever a fan of yours and can't wait until you come back! ❤

  • @OyayoTheStorm
    @OyayoTheStorm 6 місяців тому +74

    I do appreciate what you've brought to the podcast circle, and I empathize with deciding what's best for your relationships over the show, and your relationship With the show. It's been a great run, and I'd love for it to keep going, but I love this more for you. It's definitely a lesson to us, all, in terms of deeply thinking about finding the priorities that mean more to your present and future

  • @kheanuramirez8044
    @kheanuramirez8044 6 місяців тому +18

    I really respect this decision. I can only imagine how difficult it was. As an early listener of the pod, the original format was really really special. The other day I realized I haven’t listened for quite a while and was sad about it but realize it’s because things had changed. Being able to admit to the struggles of maintaining that and honoring your family in this decision is really admirable. Always a fan and will continue to follow your journey 🫶🏽

  • @TheGraveBunny
    @TheGraveBunny 6 місяців тому +37

    I get it; the majority of moms are all balancing a dozen things and cutting back on certain things are inevitable.

  • @ninayang9097
    @ninayang9097 6 місяців тому +6

    Awee I’m sad!! But I support your decision. I’m proud of you for choosing you and putting your priorities straight. We’ll be waiting for your return! Thank you for sharing and guiding and teaching us about real life!!! ❤❤ You’re an amazing, talented and inspiring soul!

  • @PfEMP
    @PfEMP 6 місяців тому +4

    Your podcast was absolutely amazing, always insightful and varied. I'll miss it so much. So will my friends I introduced it to. Hoping you'll be back soon but at the end of the day, as long as we get to hear your wisdom on this channel, I'll be soaring from happiness! Grateful for everything you have done, Shan.

  • @beloncekamz2821
    @beloncekamz2821 6 місяців тому +11

    Seasons comes and go. What you shared with the amazing guests on your podcasts is timeless✨ that generations will refer to. Thank you❤and all the best in your next chapter🙏🏾🙏🏾.

  • @forevergwladys
    @forevergwladys 6 місяців тому +5

    Forever supporting you, Shan! I'm glad you are taking the time for what's most important in your life. We will be here!!

  • @ineslorraine
    @ineslorraine 6 місяців тому +20

    You will be very missed, since your very first videos, you have indirectly accompanied me in a looooooot of moments of my life and I am so grateful to have stumble upon you and your Wisdom, thank you a million times and enjoy ❤

  • @MissSuperNerd
    @MissSuperNerd 6 місяців тому +6

    Wishing you blessings & joy on your next chapter💜

  • @nylaphillips6700
    @nylaphillips6700 6 місяців тому +1

    Love Jessie Boykins and his music too!!! Glad that you’re taking this time for yourself Shan!!! You’ve worked hard and putting in that wonderful work throughout the years!! Super proud of you! Been following you since 2013, like you’re growth as a person while showcasing parts of you, your life, sharing your knowledge and all of your accomplishments glad you allowing yourself more time to slow down and show up in your real life outside of making content!! I will be re-listening to your podcast I always learn something new! Take care my dear💖💖💖

  • @j_lynsation
    @j_lynsation 6 місяців тому +24

    The way you both nodded at each other at the very end as if to say" yep I think that about covers it. 🤣" Very beautiful message I think we could all use in our affirmations and reminders. Shan, take your time and enjoy life. You've given us so many beautiful talking points in your time on UA-cam as well as the podcast. Enjoy the fruits 💡🌄🌱

  • @mariacasas2011
    @mariacasas2011 6 місяців тому +4

    I love your content. Hopefully you come back soon ! I look forward to new episodes on the podcast and your videos here on UA-cam .

  • @premiumdre5228
    @premiumdre5228 5 місяців тому +1

    Wow Shan. I'm crying. You have given us everything on Lovers & Friends 💜 I couldnt thank you enough for the perspectives, conversation, and education

  • @kylaknight3655
    @kylaknight3655 6 місяців тому +2

    Amazing! Im newly not single for the first time in 3 years. And even though im solo-poly- it’s a WHOLE thing. I totally resonate with what he is saying.
    Also, I had no clue your podcast was so viral! I have to go binge some episodes! Congrats on a 100 episode run! Fantastic!!!

  • @storiesbynaima
    @storiesbynaima 6 місяців тому +4

    Thank you for your honesty Shan. Always love you!

  • @elianiem1691
    @elianiem1691 6 місяців тому +11

    Random note but Shan please know I have been inspired with your openness and honesty about your life and different decisions you have made with us watching. I hope this time helps you since maternal health is definitely the worst it can be here compared to globally.
    Random side note I wanted to add: I read and love all your books so I am always down for more content of any sort of yours so…yeh. (Aka if you make another book best believe im a read it in a week and recommend it to everyone I know no matter what it’s about)
    #Shanstan 🎉❤

  • @Paolachenriquez
    @Paolachenriquez 6 місяців тому +10

    I’ve never clicked so fast on a new video notification

  • @AishaandLife
    @AishaandLife 6 місяців тому +1

    I feel like you're speaking to me! This is how I've been feeling for a while as a content creator. I have 3 kids and I want to spend more time with them. Thank you for sharing Shan. As always, I love your transparency. I'll miss the conversations here and proud of you for being true to yourself 👏🏾

  • @jasmineshanice7879
    @jasmineshanice7879 5 місяців тому

    Just listening to this and Shan I will miss hearing your perspective and reflecting on the questions you ask your guests on this platform! I’m glad you are taking time for you because that is so necessary! Can’t wait to see what will come of this time away. Of course don’t focus on what’s next but simply focus on the time. 💛 until then I’ll be listening to old episodes I may have skipped during the run.

  • @notl33t
    @notl33t 6 місяців тому +3

    congrats on making new space in your life for other things that matter more! there's so much content for folks here to discover and rediscover.

  • @Ms_Holliday93
    @Ms_Holliday93 6 місяців тому +1

    I look forward to this next phase of your journey with this podcast and outside of it. If/when you bring it back I’d urge you to consider moving into season rather than every week all year. It might be easier to manage time wise. More than anything I think the podcast grows and flows with you and it will only become better as you cultivate the space to experience even more that life has to offer. Wishing you the best.

  • @soniamendez-rodriguez7884
    @soniamendez-rodriguez7884 6 місяців тому +9

    I get what you mean but also very sad 😢 you’re my top listened to podcast! You do what’s best for you!! Always good to take a break and reflect on what’s working and what’s not working and focus on other parts of life but I think we’d all agree less of you is better than none of you. As amazing as the videos are and I’ve found they do change the essence of it (seeing body language for example), I didn’t know you had a video version for the longest time and I loved just listening. There’s no one I know that’s so honest and authentic and brings that out of a topic or guest and brings out what I don’t think anyone else can. I liveeeeee for it please don’t abandon us for good!! Enjoy your hiatus 🎉 love from Australia

  • @niarahstansberry834
    @niarahstansberry834 6 місяців тому +1

    I love all of your content, Shan! I respect your choice to fall back to prioritize your personal life. You deserve it!

  • @adaaleide
    @adaaleide 5 місяців тому

    i’m so sad the pod is on hold as i am an avid listener and tune in every week, but take all the time you need shan! i really never took in that tv shows have a staff of like 50+ but my favourite youtubers are doing this shit on their own. you’ve really been doing the damn thing. so proud of you. sending love.

  • @bonnobalopi
    @bonnobalopi 5 місяців тому +1

    You have shared a lot of yourself Shan, thank you for the wisdom of unravelling life and interactions with each other ❤

  • @mollymartinez1385
    @mollymartinez1385 6 місяців тому

    I’ve been following you for years but have become a consistent fan of the pod recently. This is just another reason I admire you and to aspire to. Looking forward to supporting your other and new ventures!

  • @hurlscoutss
    @hurlscoutss 6 місяців тому +3

    Love to you and your beautiful family. I've been watching you for years and your early sexology videos were part of me becoming a therapist. You created a wonderful space and I've loved the podcast but I love the thought of you being happier the most! Life is really all about spending time with your loved ones. You'll blossom even more.

  • @UrBigSisKey
    @UrBigSisKey 6 місяців тому +4

    Jared popping in about SquareSpace is killing me 😂😂😂

  • @8wanda123
    @8wanda123 5 місяців тому

    I’ve loved to see how you’ve evolved over the years in so many ways. I appreciate you for always keeping it real. much love!! rest when rest is needed.

  • @jerrseyy1088
    @jerrseyy1088 6 місяців тому +1

    Aw no! Absolutely adored this show and love anything you do. What you bring is so incredibly NECESSARY!
    But as an OG Supporter, I completely understand and wish you the best in creating more balance and Happy in your personal world. ❤

  • @naturalhealermom
    @naturalhealermom 6 місяців тому

    It is freeing to lean into priorities. Fly like a bird, free, Shan! Appreciate your offerings, always. Thank you

  • @daintystar1
    @daintystar1 6 місяців тому

    Totally understand, I will miss it. I’m in a huge growth phase of life and have learned so much from you. Truly appreciate the time and effort.

  • @TinaMCuestas
    @TinaMCuestas 6 місяців тому +1

    I love you!!! ❤❤❤ I support you as well as wanting the best for your self and family. I am a strong supporter for you.

  • @kaylan5274
    @kaylan5274 6 місяців тому +3

    Nooooooo😭😭😭😭very sad but wishing you the best 💕

  • @ezaserrano4677
    @ezaserrano4677 5 місяців тому

    Going to miss these stimulating conversations and various perspectives. Happy for you doing what you feel is best. Great moment to end on btw

  • @jayb3473
    @jayb3473 5 місяців тому +1

    Best of luck. Enjoy your family. The kids grow up super fast.

  • @lovelyniteowl
    @lovelyniteowl 6 місяців тому

    Love you choosing yourself and family thank you for a insightful podcast its been wonderful to follow through out the years ❤️

  • @NickiBluIs
    @NickiBluIs 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you SO much for sharing this! I am a highly ambitious and excellence-oriented person too but I feel like sometimes women minimize the impact of that on their family/friendship/community life. Thanks for being honest cuz it helps someone like me make decisions with eyes wide open

  • @44nk96
    @44nk96 6 місяців тому

    Good for you for being a creative and entrepreneur. You create content based on what's authentic and relative to you at the time, AND you know when each season has its ending. There is NO SHAME in closing a creative chapter; we cannot force ourselves to do anything in life that our hearts cannot sustain. Create your work and set it free to be enjoyed by the masses 🩷 you are incredible, and you should be proud that you are listening to your heart and doing what's best for you and your family xxx

  • @dinachehrazi2563
    @dinachehrazi2563 5 місяців тому

    We love you and are so grateful for everything you’ve shared with us throughout your career, I’m 24 now and I’ve been following you since I was 16 and SO much of my views on relationships has been shaped by the education I’ve received from your work.
    I’m so excited for you to re shift your priorities in a way that’s best for you ❤ buuuuuuut, the only podcast I listen to is yours 😂
    Maybe if you have time could share with us a list of podcasts that you love and listen to consistently?
    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @AlicatStyle
    @AlicatStyle 5 місяців тому

    What a beautiful form of self love! Good for you! ⭐️ ❤

  • @daniellesanders9677
    @daniellesanders9677 5 місяців тому +1

    Agreed, once the change happened I found myself not listening as often. However, I do believe you still have crucial conversations that need to be had and shared.

  • @NadiaPink
    @NadiaPink 6 місяців тому +1

    I am loving all this for you!I pray to see you be able to figure out how to do both! Your work is important! You are living the dream. Doing what you love, providing value and getting paid. Where there is a will there is a way. I hope you get the machine behind you to help some, but be careful I herd the machine is rough as well. Good work missy ... 💕I can’t deny family,friendship and love is always number one for me.I can't knock you for stepping back! I actually applaud it, trust and believe when one door closes many times another one opens.
    You will come back stronger with a sustainable matter of your liking. You got something special. You got this! I will (we will) be waiting and sitting pretty :)

  • @EdwardSanchezProductions
    @EdwardSanchezProductions 6 місяців тому +7

    Shan I am going to miss the lovers and friends podcast so much

  • @adetoroceballos211
    @adetoroceballos211 6 місяців тому +2

    Regardless of how you design the delivery, I think your voice is valuable. ❤

  • @vannesacolin2565
    @vannesacolin2565 6 місяців тому

    Nooooo 😭😭😭 I love love love Lovers and friends ❤ I'll miss u and everyone you add on to the show. Especially your family 🤗 best of luck. I know we will see u again on the BIG screen somewhere. Many many blessings 💗

  • @SharmonJarmon
    @SharmonJarmon 5 місяців тому +1

    we are grateful to have someone as intelligent as you in the space ❤

  • @christinewhack8860
    @christinewhack8860 6 місяців тому

    Forever lovers and friends. There will always be another way you express, share and create meaningful content. Looking forward to the next iteration.

  • @magic6444
    @magic6444 6 місяців тому +1

    Glad your focusing on your family ❤

  • @kimberlymutalechileshe7619
    @kimberlymutalechileshe7619 5 місяців тому

    I have been listening to your podcast since I stumbled upon it last year. I am Zambian🇿🇲, we don’t have anything like what you brought to the podcast circle in Africa. I have learnt so much and have been inspired by you. I think you are a phenomenal person and I wish you nothing but love and happiness❤️

  • @yaya4nowrichardson934
    @yaya4nowrichardson934 5 місяців тому +1

    I would just like to thank you for your content, I will miss you and I wish you nothing but happiness, love and wonderful balance of excitement and peace in life. ♥️✌🏼

  • @reybae
    @reybae 6 місяців тому

    Regardless of what Shan you are an excellent interviewer and that really makes any conversation you have so interesting.. I really want to continue seeing you have conversations because you're so good at it fr fr.

  • @SiSiTheLyricist
    @SiSiTheLyricist 6 місяців тому +1

    I’m not a day one but I’m a day 3 or something 😂. But anyway…. I agree with the others that seasons change and it’s honestly awesome seeing you grow. I appreciate whatever you share through whichever medium. It’s a privilege to learn from. Congrats on everything and I hope you get more time to enjoy your well deserved blessings.🎉🥂 (s/n: that man is so handsome🥹)

  • @Jocarla5
    @Jocarla5 6 місяців тому

    So True I'm 48 and still changing and growing 🎉❤❤

  • @yervue9426
    @yervue9426 6 місяців тому

    You and the enjoy show got me through a LOT! 😢❤

  • @ShangHungxxx
    @ShangHungxxx 6 місяців тому +4

    Squarespace ad was fire lol smoodth

  • @peacheyearth
    @peacheyearth 6 місяців тому

    Makes sense, Shan. Sometimes we gotta make decisions to pivot towards the kind of life and work flow that feels more in alignment for us :)
    So, go forth and ENJOY YA LIFE!

  • @carinen8119
    @carinen8119 6 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for sharing.
    Taking care of babies is hard work, and having time and energy to be a present parent is not easy.

  • @lynettemokgano9009
    @lynettemokgano9009 6 місяців тому

    Take all the time. E you need mama. Rejuvenate and continue to grow until you come back. We will be here waiting to welcome you back. Stay blessed

  • @carrierobbins6800
    @carrierobbins6800 6 місяців тому

    Best wishes to you and yours❤❤

  • @lorenmilledge1569
    @lorenmilledge1569 5 місяців тому

    I feel it, I understand…… but I love Lovers&Friends 😢😢😢 it’s a weekly(ish) checkin. I love the topics and conversations. My favorite morning drive podcast

  • @stephanievelazquezdegarric3305
    @stephanievelazquezdegarric3305 6 місяців тому +1

    I’m happy for you!! Great decision ❤

  • @cerinashippey
    @cerinashippey 5 місяців тому +1

    Whenever you come back it would be amazing if you got actual T.V Show money + studio support. Congrats for taking time for you!

  • @kellirai35
    @kellirai35 6 місяців тому

    Wow I’m I really going to miss this show. Your content is only one of two podcasts I regularly watch. I understand your reasons for stopping but you will be missed

  • @EdwardSanchezProductions
    @EdwardSanchezProductions 6 місяців тому +4

    I will always support you no matter what

  • @shrewdshrew35
    @shrewdshrew35 6 місяців тому +2

    Family first. But I loved your approach to sex and relationship conversations. I loved your role playing episode, episodes with experts especially the episode on the Kama Sutra, the episode with your parents was enlightening. You're in grad school and working on your Phd, trying to juggle family, it's very difficult to balance it all without your relationship suffering or your academics suffering. You're an amazing communicator. Good luck to you!

  • @C2G2
    @C2G2 6 місяців тому

    I guess the time has come wishing you he very best for you as you venture off to what you want to do next 👍🏿❤️

  • @redaleta
    @redaleta 6 місяців тому +1

    Time is something we can never get back. Enjoy your family.

  • @Themis103
    @Themis103 6 місяців тому +1

    I love that he took the enneagram test and admitted to learning a lot about himself. If and when I have a future partner I’ll definitely be telling them about it! The books helps too.

  • @staygroovybritt
    @staygroovybritt 6 місяців тому

    Jared popping in with the ad 😂😂😂

  • @annap1171
    @annap1171 5 місяців тому

    Speaking for myself ✋I like the one on one long conversations. I don't mind them at all!

  • @princessroxy
    @princessroxy 5 місяців тому

    Love you Shan ❤

  • @AB-in2tj
    @AB-in2tj 6 місяців тому

    Jareds commercials are giving Everest college😂😂 I love them

  • @Momothesag
    @Momothesag 6 місяців тому

    This really fucking sucks! Only because I just recently found your channel and have been binge watching your content! I love it! You absolutely deserve some much needed time away with your family. I do hope that you return with a schedule that works better for you. An hour episode every week is a lot with small children. We will take what we can get! Twice a month, maybe? Wishing you the best ❤

  • @yvonne.g458
    @yvonne.g458 6 місяців тому +1

    The way Jesse just spoke about cheating is brazzzyyyy

  • @nikitesoro7387
    @nikitesoro7387 6 місяців тому

    I love this outfit where is it from😍

  • @lovergirlflormarie2162
    @lovergirlflormarie2162 6 місяців тому +1

    You will ABSOLUTELY be missed!!!! i have learned SO much from your podcast. A lot of your subjects have had me examining myself. i wish you nothing but the best & THANK YOU for the parts of you that you have shared with us. 🫶🏼

  • @monicaturcan9645
    @monicaturcan9645 6 місяців тому +5

    I disagree - your podcast is bomb!

  • @curiouslymavismade
    @curiouslymavismade 5 місяців тому +1

    Shan, you are so gorgeous and beautiful, that's the only reason I watch your shows, to hear your beautiful voice, and gaze into those beautiful eyes of yours.

  • @phyliciabeauty
    @phyliciabeauty 6 місяців тому

    This had to be a early episode because I would have loved to deep dive his definitions of stuff

  • @dedricklane4899
    @dedricklane4899 6 місяців тому +2

    Bless

  • @grapesyrop
    @grapesyrop 6 місяців тому +5

    wait whaatt

  • @EmoeccentricShawty
    @EmoeccentricShawty 6 місяців тому

    You can make shorts out of the content you already have here. Thank the YT gods for the Remix button

  • @millsykooksy4863
    @millsykooksy4863 6 місяців тому

    That sounds exhausting, no wonder you don't want to do that anymore....totally understandable. Take care of yourself first.

  • @phyliciabeauty
    @phyliciabeauty 6 місяців тому

    Jared was top tier on the ads honestly

  • @magneticcreatives
    @magneticcreatives 6 місяців тому +2

    I missed my chance to meet you when I was pregnant at a mommy monitor event in Toronto😅 Check out rest is resistance by Tricia Hersey 💙 I am 8 months into my mat leave and im finally learning true vulnerability 😢❤
    I was thinking about your show today because ive learned so much from you over time and im so grateful 🙏
    Best of luck momma, thanks for the inspiration 🎉
    #rest
    #notpouringanymore

  • @add333
    @add333 6 місяців тому

    I’ve been wondering what Jesse was up to

  • @wmmayen
    @wmmayen 6 місяців тому

    You deleted your past eps on UA-cam?!

  • @kenyattadavis6411
    @kenyattadavis6411 6 місяців тому +3

    Why did the guy sit in the tub with the girl for eight hours a day for 4 days?

  • @EdwardSanchezProductions
    @EdwardSanchezProductions 6 місяців тому +2

    Shan I respect your decision to end the podcast

  • @gigilina1782
    @gigilina1782 5 місяців тому

    i know it’s parasocial but i have such a deep respect for you

  • @Practitionher
    @Practitionher 6 місяців тому

    Ok JB the 3rd I’m an enneagram 5w4

  • @soleneptune9498
    @soleneptune9498 6 місяців тому

    Omg omg wtf 😢😢😢😭😭😭

  • @lets.get.intoit.
    @lets.get.intoit. 6 місяців тому +1

    Why do you and Jared always take time away from your projects instead of hiring competent people to take over? Genuinely curious

    • @Drawingboredi
      @Drawingboredi 6 місяців тому

      No one can interview for them no matter how many employee they have. They've been endlessly making content for so many years. They're allowed breaks.

    • @lets.get.intoit.
      @lets.get.intoit. 6 місяців тому +1

      @@Drawingboredi I agree, they are. Just know they were really proud of the empire they were building and when they made $1M so I'm curious why they wouldn't keep that going like most organisations. If they removed the roles they don't need to do, the weight of doing what only they can accomplish would be much lighter. But again I don't know why they're making this choice as opposed to ones many other entrepreneurs do

  • @moderngoblin
    @moderngoblin 6 місяців тому +7

    Havnt listened yet but it’s devastating seeing women exit their projects and businesses due to having babies. I guess you really can’t have it all :/

    • @andreavfirst
      @andreavfirst 6 місяців тому +8

      & that is ok, the Goal in life is Finding Happiness not Having it all

  • @elleepiphany1
    @elleepiphany1 5 місяців тому

    This was a beautiful conversation. I loved that you two hit on the importance of education for preparation for love and relationships. 💛
    Enjoy your hiatus! Hopefully you return in a way that feels nourishing to you. because your voice is super important and you facilitate beautiful conversations.