Everybody We Call A Friend Isn't One //Framework For Friendships Pt. 1

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  • @GlendaJPhotography
    @GlendaJPhotography Рік тому +16

    I’m Trusting God. I’m learning to stop talking & be an active listener.

  • @abeekuworldchanger380
    @abeekuworldchanger380 Рік тому +26

    This has to be confirmation in my life without a doubt. Yesterday, I was listening to a message by Dr. Charles Stanley on the importance of building wise friendships. Today, the Lord brought me here on knowing that people we are calling friends aren't one.
    Furthermore, In prayer yesterday, I asked the Lord to send me people who are for me, and to release friendships that aren't, and be at peace with both decisions. The Christian life is the best with endless amounts of wisdom and spiritual growth. I'd never turn back to live in the world whatsoever. I'm glad to be living for Jesus, and being reminded of the importance of having good friendships in life. Like Dr. Dharius Daniels said. Friendships are either making deposits or withdrawals in our lives.

  • @nicdpowell
    @nicdpowell Рік тому +8

    I've been burned too many times by folks I called friend. God taught me to forget all of that. People are mostly transactional. They will surely go once they get what they want.

    • @abeekuworldchanger380
      @abeekuworldchanger380 Рік тому +1

      This is true. The percentage of.real friendships is small anyways, but how God reveals that clarity to us is so amazing

  • @ledonnathompson-cheek9540
    @ledonnathompson-cheek9540 5 місяців тому +1

    Whewww...This is an ON TIME word! Recently "AGAIN" God by His spirit through prayer told me to let a friend go...I tried to hold on to her for 18+ years. It hurts, but I know that it's necessary. I'm expecting God to place me around like-minded Christian believing women where we all LOVE Jesus for REAL! Thanks. so much for this video ❤❤❤

  • @Adrienne.Michelle91
    @Adrienne.Michelle91 Рік тому +30

    Making/Keeping friendships is probably one of the most stressful things about being an adult, especially as a woman. This message came right on time for me

    • @abeekuworldchanger380
      @abeekuworldchanger380 Рік тому +3

      It's hard for guys too. But I agree. Harder to maintain too as people are so different. The amount of people that have walked out of my life, but the Lord has protected me from. Thankful for his love that friends can't really fulfill.

  • @tinymenace9765
    @tinymenace9765 5 місяців тому +4

    Facts I’m letting go of a friendship that doesn’t serve me any longer there is no benefit I can gain from her spiritually, mentally nor emotionally. Thank you for all your wisdom

    • @Claudia-yc8xk
      @Claudia-yc8xk 4 місяці тому +1

      I'm going through the same with 2 friends, very hard process but I literally feel like I'm walking through cement with them, absolutely draining.

    • @tinymenace9765
      @tinymenace9765 4 місяці тому

      @@Claudia-yc8xk if they bring more chaos and drama into your life then you need it’s best to just block them without an explanation I know it’s easier said then done but the relief I have now it’s absolutely worth it

  • @tisha7252
    @tisha7252 Рік тому +10

    Unshakeable Character - It's so important. Friends basically become the everyday therapist for our lives and the trials we undergo. It's important that we keep those around us who are not afraid to hold us accountable and not just tickle our ears and life with nothing but fluff. It is disastrous and we cannot grow that way. The last thing you want is to have people around encouraging you to continue on in your mess. No.

  • @WorshipIsMyPosture
    @WorshipIsMyPosture Рік тому +8

    I been on this a lot lately. Relationships influence your character while making decisions, growing in ministry, and simply growing as a person & living out your calling and purpose. In this season I’m praying for discernment, so I will not be deceived and stagnant.

  • @ladybug0908
    @ladybug0908 Рік тому +6

    Your friends charter can be your crisis. 🙏🏾 Amen

  • @umohvictoria1834
    @umohvictoria1834 Рік тому +8

    Ran here as soon as my legs could carry me

  • @sobrinataylor3028
    @sobrinataylor3028 Рік тому +7

    I have a really tender heart and so I care about the broken-hearted. These facts have been taken for granted.
    Sometimes the heart of people who develop friendships is beyond the care factor. I am guarded now and will be extra careful who I allow into my space. Motives are real!

  • @essenceofqueens
    @essenceofqueens 11 місяців тому +1

    Man if I would of had this 8 year ago! Jesus!!!!!!!!! But hey lesson learned I will be better today on who I allow in my circle. Thank You Dr. D

  • @GodsSolutions
    @GodsSolutions Рік тому +2

    Yes relationship are a major part ..

  • @fletcherandharris8558
    @fletcherandharris8558 Рік тому +1

    There is no one good but God gotta remember that. But I hear you. 😊

  • @Zneiero
    @Zneiero Рік тому +1

    I think I kind of learned the hard way. I lost a friend due to moving away starting a new job in another state. We were supposed to meet up when I tried to visit but he was busy. Years later he was on the bad end of a business deal and got burned badly. I still keep in touch with this person by text but I feel for his well being. He never elaborates on whats hes been doing like he used. I think he now suffers from severe PTSD due to this bad business deal. Hes now more an acquaintance than a friend you can call for a party. I keep telling myself I've moved past him, but keep feeling a sense of shame for what could have been if he had not engaged in that bad deal.

  • @pinkbutterfly213
    @pinkbutterfly213 Рік тому +8

    Your spiritual life is definitely affected by your friendships. You have to be aware of the company you keep. Friendships can either drain you or further help you grow.

    • @abeekuworldchanger380
      @abeekuworldchanger380 Рік тому

      YES. Say it lounder for the people in the back. That's GOOD. We often try to over exert ourselves in those instances when simeti, you have a better opportunity to Love them from a distance, spend less time with those people, not release them if it's in God's will.

  • @chelseascott8488
    @chelseascott8488 Рік тому +3

    I BeCome like who I walk with! Unshakable Character 💪🏽👊🏽❤💞 (Consistency in who they are)

  • @tashaross3360
    @tashaross3360 Рік тому +20

    Friendships are so important. Good friends are rare. & its kool to find ppl who are truthful & don’t try to diminish your light in any way!

    • @abeekuworldchanger380
      @abeekuworldchanger380 Рік тому +1

      Yes. That's why I love the Bible and even apps like youversion. I've read so many Devotionals on friendships and one that got me recently was really asking people to discern the kind of friendships people have in their lives. Longevity isn't enough in friendships these days. Who cares if one has been friends with someone since kindergarten, or University. Let alone High School. At the end of the day, if they're diminishing your light, and rebuking the favor of God over our lives, then we seriously need to tread carefully with those people we spend time with, or love them from a distance.

  • @alaynamckenzi-kw1eo
    @alaynamckenzi-kw1eo Рік тому +2

    Plz pray for me am currently going through this

  • @MyPerfectWellnessChannel
    @MyPerfectWellnessChannel 6 місяців тому

    Thank you Brother for a good word.
    I needed this.

  • @erekalvin
    @erekalvin Рік тому +3

    if I was in this city I would 100 percent be going here. I’ve learned so much from pastor

  • @joyouswentzel9429
    @joyouswentzel9429 Рік тому +1

    Beautiful encouragement!!! So insightful!!! Thank you Sir🙏

  • @helenarmstrong8725
    @helenarmstrong8725 Рік тому +2

    Some people character is toxic people pastor you telling the truth you are so telling the truth had a lot of friends go

    • @abeekuworldchanger380
      @abeekuworldchanger380 Рік тому

      Yes, let them. It's so funny I should add how God moves. Someone earlier last year tried to come back into my life after removing me from social media. 5+ years later. Forgiveness is important, but you don't forget these things, and I simply denied. The Bible reminds us to walk in wisdom. And when we do, it makes our lives way easier.

  • @emmathiongo2844
    @emmathiongo2844 4 місяці тому

    Emma is the best because he’s so

  • @jkenne28
    @jkenne28 Рік тому +3

    Speak Holy Spirit!!🔥♥️🙏🏼

  • @GodsSolutions
    @GodsSolutions Рік тому +6

    Thank you so much for this word Pastor Daniels.

  • @silouanos7398
    @silouanos7398 Рік тому

    💥💥💥💥YES ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! IT IS THE BIGGEST KEY. EXTREMELY POWERFUL TRUTH ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !💥💥💥💥

  • @omarflores1
    @omarflores1 Рік тому +2

    Bomb teaching!! Thank you Dr./ Pastor/ Coach!. 🦁

  • @mlungisitheoderecade-mnisi1522
    @mlungisitheoderecade-mnisi1522 7 місяців тому

    Thank you so much this was so helpful!!

  • @OVERCOMER72
    @OVERCOMER72 Рік тому +20

    Amen 🙏🏾 “Making deposits or withdrawals” Friendships are tough you really don’t know who to trust, I tend to keep a side eye with everyone 🙏🏾

    • @abeekuworldchanger380
      @abeekuworldchanger380 Рік тому +1

      Walk with the wise and become wise. Walk with fools and get.in trouble/suffer harm. Gotta love the Bible. It's true what you're saying.
      I've always pictured it that you never know who will walk out of your life tomorrow, so it's good to endlessly remember your foundation in Jesus and be reminded of who he says we are . The rights ones for our lives will come. Otherwise, some can drift be loved from a distance and be blessed.

  • @katrinasmith6135
    @katrinasmith6135 Рік тому +2

    Quick and powerful pastor 🔥

  • @botanicagravez
    @botanicagravez Рік тому +1

    YES, THANK YOU PASTOR! No sugar coat straight reality.

  • @renadasoul
    @renadasoul Рік тому

    Thank you yet again for covering, guiding, and loving us, Lord. Thank you, sir, for this word. Thank you for yesterday, today, and tomorrow.

  • @therongarcia6988
    @therongarcia6988 Рік тому +1

    Great tips on friendships!

  • @laquitadeshaallison72177
    @laquitadeshaallison72177 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this teaching. Very important considerations.

  • @praisechinonye1320
    @praisechinonye1320 Рік тому +1

    Hmmmm,investing wrong people,a friend should be there all the time

  • @glendanesmith
    @glendanesmith Рік тому

    I love that sweater Pastor Daniels

  • @joycefredrick2414
    @joycefredrick2414 11 місяців тому

    Great message.

  • @ingridwoode
    @ingridwoode Рік тому +2

    The audio is a little low. Great message on friends.

  • @SJsRedemption
    @SJsRedemption Рік тому +2

    Great message but please level the audio from beginning to end. Dr. Dharius vocals are too low

  • @umohvictoria1834
    @umohvictoria1834 Рік тому +3

    Pastor Dharius! Thank you! Thank you so muchhhh

  • @deatriaharris1191
    @deatriaharris1191 Рік тому +2

    This was an excellent video on friendship 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

  • @maishaalexander9892
    @maishaalexander9892 Рік тому +2

    Excellent teaching Pastor! Thank you so much for this on time word! I’m having trouble in this exact area of my life. Good food for thought and action.

  • @chevy6947
    @chevy6947 Рік тому

    I needed this 🥹

  • @e.q.k.vision294
    @e.q.k.vision294 Рік тому +1

    Everyone Grows in this state of intelligence different stages

  • @emmathiongo2844
    @emmathiongo2844 4 місяці тому

    Mussa is the best making videos

  • @rochelle7166
    @rochelle7166 Рік тому +1

    This was so good! Thank You so much

  • @GodsSolutions
    @GodsSolutions Рік тому +1

    Yesss

  • @cpittman1527
    @cpittman1527 Рік тому

    Oh soooo real......teachhhh pastor teachhhhh! #unshakableCharacter

  • @brittanyl6348
    @brittanyl6348 Рік тому

    Thanks Pastor

  • @ingridwoode
    @ingridwoode Рік тому +1

    The audio level is a little too low. Great message on friends!

  • @eltonmack7455
    @eltonmack7455 11 місяців тому

    👀.....🔥🔥🔥Great Teaching

  • @mercysmartt9765
    @mercysmartt9765 Рік тому +2

    Please no one come for me... I'm not hating on this video at all but the sound levels really need to be adjusted. The music is way too loud compared to the actual message and as someone with sensory issues it really threw me off and made it harder for me to engage with the rest of the video. I know not much can be done about it now it's been posted, but please bear in mind for future content. I had to turn the sound up because the level on the recording was too low but then the music came in blaring 😩🙉

  • @karenadebrow7070
    @karenadebrow7070 11 місяців тому

    I so so love this

  • @JayDub2000
    @JayDub2000 Рік тому +52

    Friendship starts with being a friend to yourself first. The only way to set expectations for friendship is knowing your inner self and who God says I am. Once you know that, it becomes easier to decipher one’s true character. This practice will not happen overnight, so pray for discernment/wisdom and God will show you things. God showed me betrayal of a friendship behind my back the next day after I prayed about it that night. He showed me through a dream and brought forth a credible source a month after having the dream. Thus, it was all true at the end. Also, What I learn this year is when someone shows your their true character believe them! Don’t think you can change that person especially in a relationship.

    • @MS.lady100
      @MS.lady100 Рік тому +2

      Yessss God told me I had to be a friend to myself first

    • @abeekuworldchanger380
      @abeekuworldchanger380 Рік тому +1

      Everything you said is so good. I wj say though that we shouldn't discount that people can change but I get what you're saying and I'm in full agreement. I asked the Lord to expose my friendships, and exciting enough, there are people the Lord told me to remove, and exposed people.
      Just because they're saved or unsaved doesn't mean that they're for you. Some people come with hidden motives and as I've realized, especially in the age of social media, we need to endlessly discern the people in our lives. That's why his book Relational Intelligence helped me so much in addition to Dr. Henry Cloud's book on Boundaries because the Lord can answer our prayers in these moments when we invite him in.

    • @amybienert1112
      @amybienert1112 Рік тому

      so good I agree

  • @Ivee_Ivana
    @Ivee_Ivana Рік тому

    Also I am coming home to Ewing nj for Christmas with the family, I will be coming to kingdom. I pray and hope you will be speaking the word on Sunday at kingdom. I look forward to next Sunday.

    • @nondumisomadlala1692
      @nondumisomadlala1692 Рік тому

      On Sunday, Pastor DD said the service will be on Saturday evening/ Christmas Eve… please check their websites.

  • @ebonieyes34
    @ebonieyes34 Рік тому +3

    This a powerful word!!!

  • @LRNJ-43
    @LRNJ-43 Рік тому +10

    Their character can become my crisis. Word up!!!

  • @neba_heals
    @neba_heals Рік тому +1

    Thank you teacher🙌🏾

  • @toyesunday2650
    @toyesunday2650 Рік тому

    I love your videos bro but please can you sort out the audio difference between the meat of the video and the intro- I nearly lost an ear drum with my headphones in! ❤️

  • @pretinaj.phoenix6532
    @pretinaj.phoenix6532 Рік тому +19

    I totally agree...we can't have the same relationship with the janitor as we do the lady in human resources. To call someone your friend starts with being a friend to yourself. A true friend will tell you when you smell good and when your attitude stinks.

  • @Ivee_Ivana
    @Ivee_Ivana Рік тому

    I listened to this message 3 time already within the last 30mins. Although pasterD where did you get your shirt from? I love it.

  • @Nasart7
    @Nasart7 Рік тому +1

    Excelent teaching Specially for times to face, also important
    Discernemt
    Than You very much GOD FATHER BLESS YOU 🙏🏽

  • @womensupportministrymentor5761

    Confirmation

  • @nathaniel4869
    @nathaniel4869 8 місяців тому

    Good word. If i may make a suggestion: your voice is really quiet, but the intro music is really loud by comparison. I had to turn it waaay up to hear. you, then the intro nearly made my eardrums bleed so i turned it back down. Then you came back on and I couldn't hear you!

  • @Breeandfree
    @Breeandfree Рік тому +1

    When is part 2?!

  • @vester7457
    @vester7457 2 місяці тому

    What if you have no family and no close friends?

  • @denisethornton7245
    @denisethornton7245 Рік тому

    The message speaks volume. However we can dive deeper. We’re calling it deposits and withdrawals when it comes to so called friendships but what is it called when your own grown children that you raised by yourself and in the Lord’s house behaves or communicates the same way as these so called friends. You can pick and choose friends but when it comes down to your own children they were given and assigned to you….

    • @NavyVetE5
      @NavyVetE5 6 місяців тому

      You pray for them. You "cast your care" on the Lord, but you don't enable family.
      Let your NO be NO and your YES be YES.

  • @praisechinonye1320
    @praisechinonye1320 Рік тому

    Unshake character

  • @GodsSolutions
    @GodsSolutions Рік тому

    🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @jessicaminor5763
    @jessicaminor5763 Рік тому

    Amen 🙏

  • @justjess8250
    @justjess8250 Рік тому

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @DevotedLady53
    @DevotedLady53 Рік тому +1

    Amen ❤️❤️❤️🙏

  • @frances7839
    @frances7839 Рік тому

    💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

  • @lisaperdue8033
    @lisaperdue8033 Рік тому

    Somebody going to say they say you talking with lines of cocaine because of all white background.
    I believe someone in cullman county predominantly white saw two of my friends enter our friend's house that's white. But she is rarely there anymore and studies s in different school from her siblings. She raised a black child from infant. They burned a cross in her family house yard only 20 years ago in 2003 not 1950s.
    I was telling my coworkers about her and they ohhhh we thoughtvyou meant somebody black. I never said that

  • @carlah8814
    @carlah8814 Рік тому

    Amen 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @finnianfinnian8359
    @finnianfinnian8359 Рік тому

    💖🙏blessings & gratitude Pastor Darius Such an annointed message

  • @brookecaylor6734
    @brookecaylor6734 Рік тому

    Thats deep where did you come up with that seminary lol

  • @brookecaylor6734
    @brookecaylor6734 Рік тому

    Did you learn that in seminary that’s deep man lol