It’s nice to do self care I’m also a single mommy although I share her with her father 50/50 I finally got a pedicure lol my nails were so crusty. You look refreshed. Don’t listen to the haters.
i think it's difficult for some of us to understand how you go from one end of the spectrum to the other. one video you did say that you're broke, then you write your budget and you bring in over 40,000 per year? i was a single mom with no and i mean no assistance ( this was in the 80's ) however i raised my son and lived in my own apt and had a car, all on 18,000 a year. i worked 48 hrs a week and i did not get my nails or hair done.... i focused on just raising my son and providing for him and teaching him life's lessons along the way. i got pregnant not the government or those who provide help for the truly poor. now, you're having a second child alone....you really need to think before you act on any situation because you complain about how hard things are and yet you get pregnant again with no father in sight. so.... maybe you'll understand why other viewers get upset.
I understand that my decisions upset people. It's my life that I choose to show online. I don't think it's ok to compare single mom to single mom nor mother to mother. Everyone's situation is unique and you only see a small portion of my life online. I can't stand the assumptions and judgement. I would much rather see questions to me directly instead.
Back when you was raising your son times were different. The cost of living goes up every single year compared to the 10 dollar rise you may get every now and then. You can only speak for yourself not for others. She has not run off and abandoned her responsibilities nor is the care system having to fork out on raising her children. Many many years ago things were different. Back when my mum was young, women did not work. The mother stayed home 🏡 raised the children, took care of the home, cooked freshly prepared meals not processed crap rushed meals with no good nutrition for their children and they paid the bills whilst the men went out to work. My mother was the youngest of 12, her father worked for the Royal Air Force. People now marry and divorce, there is no guarantee that love lasts forever & usually mothers are now left to do it all, work, raise a family alone and this lady does the work of both mum and dad, you therefore have no right to judge her or her situation. After all, if this is the case why did you not choose a better role model as the father of your son? Did you not get to know him first? Did you also believe he would be there? Sounds as though you have also made mistakes & others could judge you so maybe don’t go judging others.
@@neekagraceoffical because at 19 i had major surgery and 1/2 of my female organs were removed and i was told i could never conceive a child by 3 different doctors. you don't know my story.... i do know hers because she's makes $$$ telling it. by the time i paid my bills i had 18.00 a week to buy groceries and thats what we lived on. so take your philosophy and keep it to yourself.
@@neekagraceoffical why don't you ask vanessa the same ? about choices in a father. i never had another child until i met my husband and we've been married 32 years and he legally adopted my son. 😝
Love the hair! I don't know why people have such a hard time with your finances! I mean your are a content creator on YT., so yes you want to look good! Now you have extra income coming in from YT, that's awesome! It's called paycheck broke. We have all been there, broke until payday! Thanks for sharing a part of your life 🤗
Thank you so much! A lot of UA-camrs I watch I don't agree with a lot of things they say/do but I enjoy their content. I'm not sure why people let it affect them more than that.
I love your new hair! Penelope is so cute in her outfit. It's your life, do whatever you want. People will have their opinions and assumptions. At the end of the day this is your channel, and you can share whatever you want, explanation or not.
Thank you. I struggle with my mental health, I struggle with money, I don’t make the best decisions all the time. But I share what the reality is. I understand if people don’t want to watch it. That’s cool. But leave it at that rather than assume and judge and tell people what they can and can’t do.
Penelope has such a sweet smile, so fun to watch her! Vanessa you can honestly wear your hair long or short and it looks great either way! I bet it will be a nice change for you, take care🙂
People are way too hard and judgemental of you Vanessa. You’re a good mom and doing something nice for yourself can help keep you sane! Moms need care too!
It’s a very nice haircut. I don’t wanna sound rude at all, but I didn’t know if you know you can go to Sally’s and get the same color to color your own hair. It saves a lot of money.
Your hair looks good; I just hope it doesn't poof out again. You have thick hair like I do, and when I get it straightened, it's perfect fresh out of the hairdresser's. But then when I wash it and try to straighten it again at home, I can never get it that straight again.
I have since washed it once and in the morning, it was super crazy poofy lol It looked cute after taming it with some clips or a headband. Otherwise I will straighten it more often.
I absolutely love it! It’s very fitting on you! 😀👌 And you did a great job at cutting your own hair as well! 😀 I thought that looked good too! You’re braver than I at cutting your own hair lol.
Cute hair! There is something about short hair I love. I recently cut mine to my shoulders. Penelope has such a cute entertaining and intelligent personality! I wonder if that tape at the river was because of that bridge that burnt down?
🤦🏼♀️ I can’t with this back and forth anymore. One video you’re so broke you’re going to food banks to make ends meet then the next you’re spending money frivolously on hair AFTER acknowledging it wasn’t necessary. Sorry, wish you luck, but I’m out. Going to food banks is fine if you TRULY NEED IT. Utilizing food banks so you can go get your hair done is shameful in my opinion.
Also, I never said I use the food bank because I'm so broke, I use it to help supplement us. It's available for everyone to use. Please don't assume things but that's ok if you don't like my content.
You use it to supplement because you spend your money on crap. It is there for people who truly need it. You’re taking food from someone who is probably truly in need. Maybe instead of your family member paying for an unnecessary haircut they could have bought you some food. I understand people need treats but sometimes you have to put on your big girl pants and suck it up. Don’t know how you’re going to manage with 2 kids 🙄
@@heyvanessamartin sorry, if I’m going to a food bank to supplement a shortage of food I would be telling my “family” the money would be better spent on FOOD! not hair!
I’m not sure how food banks work elsewhere, but where I live you have to show that your income is low enough to qualify. Food banks here are stocked with donations from stores and individuals. The meat, dairy, produce and bakery items are almost at the expiration date. No food bank here will take expired food. There are also non-perishable items, which have expiration dates further into the future. Many food pantries here have no refrigerators, so the patrons only get items that do not require refrigeration. I see many UA-camrs displaying their “hauls,” and dealing with a lot of negative comments. The truth of the matter is that the food, especially the perishable food, will be thrown out if someone doesn’t take it. For this reason, many people go at the end of the day so they can take more home than if they went earlier. That being said, a person who has a UA-cam channel has to deal with negativity. If you are putting your life out there, people will have something to say. As a frugal person, I have very definite ideas about how money should be prioritized. However, this is not my money.
today in this economy where things cost more ! babies are expensive no doubt ! i wonder have you priced things ! its like way up there with everything else ! you need to make dad pay that child support ! i took my sons father to family court belly and all he wanted to pay me what he wanted to pay me ! nope sorry your gonna pay me what they state of calif is deducting from your check every month ! that is how were gonna roll and that was 2004 ! shytt is not cheap now !
I think I'm going to make a video on whether or not I should file for full child support of 2 kids or not. It's not a simple decision to make. Especially when the dad doesn't care about his kids and threatens to file for custody just to spite me.
@@laughinlori6893sometimes it’s better not to. If he doesn’t care about the children he could get split custody and not care for them very well while in his care. Maybe she doesn’t want her babies taken from her even half of the time or a little bit of the time. Maybe that’s why it’s worth it for her not to pursue child support. Child support is often accompanied by a custody agreement, and maybe he could even take full custody as he’s threatened to do if his financial situation is better than her own.
@@heyvanessamartin my kids father made him pay well over 1,000 dollars a month you did not make these kids by yourself ! and it does not stop when they are 18 and dad has not paid my oldest son is 31 yrs old his dad owes 40.000 thousand in back support and its finally caught up with him he now is paying back ! my son has asbergers was in the hospital sick every few weeks i had to work my mom stayed up there during the day me after work and at night slept in the hospital ! i had no help but my family ! please if this dad wont step up you need to ! the court wont give him custody he has to prove you as an unfit mommy ! which you are clearly not !!!!!!! its going to help you so much sweetie ! i just pray that you will do what is best for your babies !
The problem is he has 50/50 with his other kid with someone else. He’ll get visitation and over time that will only strengthen his side. Not worth it to have him involved with our children.
Since you are documenting your life via video, I don't think it's impertinent to ask if Penelope and the second one have the same father? Why doesn't he want to provide for his children financially, it's not like you are asking him to actually raise them or anything.
@@heyvanessamartin Let me get this straight in my head if you don't mind. You got pregnant twice by a man who pays you partial payments of support for your first child together?
@@kenzieconnolly777 She doesn't want him to fully pay because then he might invoke his rights to his children. It's all so chaotic and now there's digital documentation for him to use against her. She's not very clever and needs help.
Your hair looks very nice and you deserve to have a refresh, hey we all do, but next video please don't be whining about finances and going to food banks. Maybe, you could have got the cut and colored your hair yourself, put the saving into stocking your cupboards.
It was a gift card from family to get my hair done. Sometimes I don’t share every little detail. I can’t guarantee my next video won’t be whining and food banks.
💕 VOTE daily for Penelope for Baby of the Year!!! 💕 babyoftheyear.org/2024/penelope-21
Please dont film your child for social media.
It’s nice to do self care I’m also a single mommy although I share her with her father 50/50 I finally got a pedicure lol my nails were so crusty. You look refreshed. Don’t listen to the haters.
Thank you!! ❤️
Your place always looks so nice and clean. P is always dressed nice and is happy. I think you are doing a great job and you deserve a hair day!
Thank you so much 😊🥰
i think it's difficult for some of us to understand how you go from one end of the spectrum to the other. one video you did say that you're broke, then you write your budget and you bring in over 40,000 per year? i was a single mom with no and i mean no assistance ( this was in the 80's ) however i raised my son and lived in my own apt and had a car, all on 18,000 a year. i worked 48 hrs a week and i did not get my nails or hair done.... i focused on just raising my son and providing for him and teaching him life's lessons along the way. i got pregnant not the government or those who provide help for the truly poor.
now, you're having a second child alone....you really need to think before you act on any situation because you complain about how hard things are and yet you get pregnant again with no father in sight. so.... maybe you'll understand why other viewers get upset.
I understand that my decisions upset people. It's my life that I choose to show online. I don't think it's ok to compare single mom to single mom nor mother to mother. Everyone's situation is unique and you only see a small portion of my life online. I can't stand the assumptions and judgement. I would much rather see questions to me directly instead.
Back when you was raising your son times were different. The cost of living goes up every single year compared to the 10 dollar rise you may get every now and then. You can only speak for yourself not for others. She has not run off and abandoned her responsibilities nor is the care system having to fork out on raising her children. Many many years ago things were different. Back when my mum was young, women did not work. The mother stayed home 🏡 raised the children, took care of the home, cooked freshly prepared meals not processed crap rushed meals with no good nutrition for their children and they paid the bills whilst the men went out to work. My mother was the youngest of 12, her father worked for the Royal Air Force. People now marry and divorce, there is no guarantee that love lasts forever & usually mothers are now left to do it all, work, raise a family alone and this lady does the work of both mum and dad, you therefore have no right to judge her or her situation. After all, if this is the case why did you not choose a better role model as the father of your son? Did you not get to know him first? Did you also believe he would be there? Sounds as though you have also made mistakes & others could judge you so maybe don’t go judging others.
@@neekagraceoffical because at 19 i had major surgery and 1/2 of my female organs were removed and i was told i could never conceive a child by 3 different doctors. you don't know my story.... i do know hers because she's makes $$$ telling it. by the time i paid my bills i had 18.00 a week to buy groceries and thats what we lived on. so take your philosophy and keep it to yourself.
@@neekagraceoffical why don't you ask vanessa the same ? about choices in a father. i never had another child until i met my husband and we've been married 32 years and he legally adopted my son. 😝
@@heyvanessamartin yes you share it sooooooo, be prepared for others offering opinions or guidance.
Love the hair! I don't know why people have such a hard time with your finances! I mean your are a content creator on YT., so yes you want to look good! Now you have extra income coming in from YT, that's awesome! It's called paycheck broke. We have all been there, broke until payday! Thanks for sharing a part of your life 🤗
Thank you so much! A lot of UA-camrs I watch I don't agree with a lot of things they say/do but I enjoy their content. I'm not sure why people let it affect them more than that.
And your kid is fed, clothed, happy & healthy. So getting a haircut ain’t gonna ruin your lives!! Everybody deserves a treat here n there
You have raised such a confident little girl! Loved seeing her on zipline swing. She's so brave!
Thank you!!! 💘💘💘
Your hair looks stunningly gorgeous! I love the time you spend with your daughter. You are such a wonderful mom!
Thank you so much! 🥰🥰🥰
You have set the bar very low if you think she is a wonderful mum.
I love your new hair! Penelope is so cute in her outfit. It's your life, do whatever you want. People will have their opinions and assumptions. At the end of the day this is your channel, and you can share whatever you want, explanation or not.
Thank you. I struggle with my mental health, I struggle with money, I don’t make the best decisions all the time. But I share what the reality is. I understand if people don’t want to watch it. That’s cool. But leave it at that rather than assume and judge and tell people what they can and can’t do.
I think you’re a great mom , keep up the good work people are so mean I can’t believe it .
Thank you so much! It means a lot 🥰
I literally gasped when I saw your new haircut. It's perfect on you!
Thank you!!! 🥰🥰🥰
It looks like you had such a fun day. The hair looks so good! It suits you really well.
Thank you so much!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
You deserve to look and feel great ❤❤❤ You do look amazing!
Penelope has such a sweet smile, so fun to watch her! Vanessa you can honestly wear your hair long or short and it looks great either way! I bet it will be a nice change for you, take care🙂
Thank you! 🥰🥰🥰
Love the new hairstyle! Beautiful! Penelope is adorable. It's so good to see you doing well and being happy.
Thank you so much!! 🥰🥰
OMG I love your new hairstyle! It’s fabulous!! ❤ Will be sooo much easier too!
Yes! Thank you! 💖💖💖💖
I love how Penelope was hugging you as you brushed her hair, so sweet. Your hair looks adorable.
She's such a sweet girl! Thank you 💕💕💕
Hair looks amazing ❤
Thank you ❤️❤️
@@heyvanessamartin your welcome 🤗
You are such a wonderful,and sweet mama❤️
Thank you so much! It’s comments like this that I actually need to hear sometimes 🥲❤️
So cute! Makes you look younger!
Thank you!
Your new hair is gorgeous! So sleek and I love the color!! 💗
Thank you so much!! ❤️❤️
Your hair is gorgeous! I would love a makeup tutorial sometime!
Omg Penelope gotten so big! Aaaw☺️💜💜💜
Love, Love, Love your new haircut. You look so refreshed and chic 🌟
Thank you so much!! ❤️
Penelope is a little doll. Absolutely love your hair! It looks amazing!
Thank you so much 💝💝
Your hair looks SO GOOD!!
Thank you!! 🥰
This is not a hate comment Vanessa. I seriously think you need help. I am praying for you🙏🏼
yes mom to mom
@@katherinemeacham7809 😓🙏🏼
She does , she nakes dumb choices constantly.
Hey! You and Penelope look so cute. I just ordered my 4 year old a puffer vest, too. Hope you're doing fantastic!❤❤
Thank you!! 😊🥰🥰
People are way too hard and judgemental of you Vanessa. You’re a good mom and doing something nice for yourself can help keep you sane! Moms need care too!
Thank you so much for saying that! ♥♥
It’s a very nice haircut. I don’t wanna sound rude at all, but I didn’t know if you know you can go to Sally’s and get the same color to color your own hair. It saves a lot of money.
Your hair looks good; I just hope it doesn't poof out again. You have thick hair like I do, and when I get it straightened, it's perfect fresh out of the hairdresser's. But then when I wash it and try to straighten it again at home, I can never get it that straight again.
I have since washed it once and in the morning, it was super crazy poofy lol It looked cute after taming it with some clips or a headband. Otherwise I will straighten it more often.
Clicked so fast when I saw you uploaded 🤣💖 love all of ur videos 😍
You're the best! Thank you! 🥰
Your hair looks beautiful!
Thank you!! 🥰🥰
Super cute and will be easier with little ones. 😊
Yes! Thank you ❤️
Love the new hair x
Thank you! 🥰
Love the hair looks so cute and healthy 😊
Thanks! 😊
OMG I LOVE IT! it looks soooooo good! xoxo the dark red looks amazing too
Thank you!!!! I love it too 🥰🥰🥰
I absolutely love it! It’s very fitting on you! 😀👌 And you did a great job at cutting your own hair as well! 😀 I thought that looked good too! You’re braver than I at cutting your own hair lol.
Thank you! 🥰🥰
Omggg that is your look you killed it... So beautiful!!!!
Thank you!!! 🥰🥰
Love it ❤
Thank you! ❤️
Cute hair! There is something about short hair I love. I recently cut mine to my shoulders.
Penelope has such a cute entertaining and intelligent personality!
I wonder if that tape at the river was because of that bridge that burnt down?
Oh yes!! You’re right about the bridge. lol pregnancy brain.
I know about short hair. It has personality and you don't look like everyone else.
Love the hair Vanessa. Penelope looks so cute in her wellies ❤
Thank you!! 🥰🥰🥰
So cute!!!❤
Thanks! 🥰
🤦🏼♀️ I can’t with this back and forth anymore. One video you’re so broke you’re going to food banks to make ends meet then the next you’re spending money frivolously on hair AFTER acknowledging it wasn’t necessary. Sorry, wish you luck, but I’m out. Going to food banks is fine if you TRULY NEED IT. Utilizing food banks so you can go get your hair done is shameful in my opinion.
Getting my hair done was an early birthday gift from a family member. I didn’t mention it in the video. Sorry to see you go!
Also, I never said I use the food bank because I'm so broke, I use it to help supplement us. It's available for everyone to use. Please don't assume things but that's ok if you don't like my content.
You use it to supplement because you spend your money on crap. It is there for people who truly need it. You’re taking food from someone who is probably truly in need. Maybe instead of your family member paying for an unnecessary haircut they could have bought you some food. I understand people need treats but sometimes you have to put on your big girl pants and suck it up. Don’t know how you’re going to manage with 2 kids 🙄
@@heyvanessamartin sorry, if I’m going to a food bank to supplement a shortage of food I would be telling my “family” the money would be better spent on FOOD! not hair!
I will manage wonderfully!
I’m not sure how food banks work elsewhere, but where I live you have to show that your income is low enough to qualify.
Food banks here are stocked with donations from stores and individuals. The meat, dairy, produce and bakery items are almost at the expiration date. No food bank here will take expired food. There are also non-perishable items, which have expiration dates further into the future.
Many food pantries here have no refrigerators, so the patrons only get items that do not require refrigeration.
I see many UA-camrs displaying their “hauls,” and dealing with a lot of negative comments.
The truth of the matter is that the food, especially the perishable food, will be thrown out if someone doesn’t take it. For this reason, many people go at the end of the day so they can take more home than if they went earlier.
That being said, a person who has a UA-cam channel has to deal with negativity. If you are putting your life out there, people will have something to say.
As a frugal person, I have very definite ideas about how money should be prioritized. However, this is not my money.
Ours isn't that way no pay stubs nothing if u need help you need help no questions asked
Super cute!
Thank you! 💘
Why do you go to food banks when you have a income and having another baby if you can't afford it don't have another baby
So cute! Now I want to chop mine!😍
Thank you! Go for it! 🥰
Beautiful hair. Penelope is adorable :)
Thank you so much! 🥰
Aw🥺 the short hair makes you look old. Grow your long hair back it looked so pretty on you.
She certainly isn't very attractive
Soooo cute! The color too 😍
Thank you!! 😊🥰
You have the most gorgeous hair, I love it that length 😊 !!
Thank you!! 😊
💛💛💛💛💛💛
I use color out of a box! It's way cheaper Vanessa. Could have saved you money for more groceries!!!
No she gets them free, so she spends on nonsense
Love your new hair cut ❤
Thank you!! 😊
Love ur new hairstyle 😍👩🏻🦰
Thank you so much!!! I love it too it feels amazing. 🥰🥰🥰
Your bob & color is BOMB! 😍 It looks soooo beautiful!
THANK YOU!!!! 💕💕💕
Hair is beautiful.
Thank you!! ❤️
Your hair looks great.
Thank you!
❤Love your hair!!!⭐
Thanks!! 😊
Gorgeous!!!
Thank you!! 🥰
Love the hair
Thanks! 🥰
Love your hair ❤
Thanks! ❤️
love it
Thanks! 🥰
Love your hair 💜🌹
Thank you!! 🥰
@@heyvanessamartin Your welcome sweetie 💜🌹
Beautiful
Thank you!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Pity your mum didn't take wee lass when you where getting your hair done. Xx
Your hair should not be your first priority! Your children should be.
If you get some bangs it’ll just be like the girl from John Tucker must die minus the blonde obv ❤
Yes!! Love that movie.
today in this economy where things cost more ! babies are expensive no doubt ! i wonder have you priced things ! its like way up there with everything else ! you need to make dad pay that child support ! i took my sons father to family court belly and all he wanted to pay me what he wanted to pay me ! nope sorry your gonna pay me what they state of calif is deducting from your check every month ! that is how were gonna roll and that was 2004 ! shytt is not cheap now !
I think I'm going to make a video on whether or not I should file for full child support of 2 kids or not. It's not a simple decision to make. Especially when the dad doesn't care about his kids and threatens to file for custody just to spite me.
@heyvanessamartin That's why you need to go to court and make everything legal. He won't be able to hold that over you anymore.
@@laughinlori6893sometimes it’s better not to. If he doesn’t care about the children he could get split custody and not care for them very well while in his care. Maybe she doesn’t want her babies taken from her even half of the time or a little bit of the time. Maybe that’s why it’s worth it for her not to pursue child support. Child support is often accompanied by a custody agreement, and maybe he could even take full custody as he’s threatened to do if his financial situation is better than her own.
@@heyvanessamartin my kids father made him pay well over 1,000 dollars a month you did not make these kids by yourself ! and it does not stop when they are 18 and dad has not paid my oldest son is 31 yrs old his dad owes 40.000 thousand in back support and its finally caught up with him he now is paying back ! my son has asbergers was in the hospital sick every few weeks i had to work my mom stayed up there during the day me after work and at night slept in the hospital ! i had no help but my family ! please if this dad wont step up you need to ! the court wont give him custody he has to prove you as an unfit mommy ! which you are clearly not !!!!!!! its going to help you so much sweetie ! i just pray that you will do what is best for your babies !
The problem is he has 50/50 with his other kid with someone else. He’ll get visitation and over time that will only strengthen his side. Not worth it to have him involved with our children.
Since you are documenting your life via video, I don't think it's impertinent to ask if Penelope and the second one have the same father? Why doesn't he want to provide for his children financially, it's not like you are asking him to actually raise them or anything.
Same father. He does pay partial support.
@@heyvanessamartin Let me get this straight in my head if you don't mind. You got pregnant twice by a man who pays you partial payments of support for your first child together?
@@kenzieconnolly777 She doesn't want him to fully pay because then he might invoke his rights to his children. It's all so chaotic and now there's digital documentation for him to use against her. She's not very clever and needs help.
@@heyvanessamartinso it sounds like you are still with the same man. Is any of this real.
You are so impulsive, but you make me laugh. You are quite entertaining, you must be fun to work with!
Your hair looks very nice and you deserve to have a refresh, hey we all do, but next video please don't be whining about finances and going to food banks. Maybe, you could have got the cut and colored your hair yourself, put the saving into stocking your cupboards.
It was a gift card from family to get my hair done. Sometimes I don’t share every little detail. I can’t guarantee my next video won’t be whining and food banks.