INTJ Weaknesses
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- Опубліковано 25 лип 2024
- In today's video I discuss some of the common struggle areas INTJs are likely to face in life.
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Here's another one: romantic obliviousness
Agree,who wouldn't notice that.Total bs
*me while looking at the mirror*
I feel called out... but also this whole video
@Trihardious Maximus I too have developed myself in this area. I mentioned it because I do believe that it is definitely one of our more prominent issues.
It was the indirectness/subtlety of the process that I wasn't aware of. I always assumed if someone didn't flat out state their romantic intentions that they simply weren't there. Then I would find out years later that quite a few people were into me lol
@Trihardious Maximus how or where do you find members of the opposite sex to encounter?
true. if you ask me, i've never been on a date in my life. because no one ever stated that we were going on a date. i also don't mind hanging out with people with whom i enjoy talking, i just never considered them to be "dates". turns out i've been to multiple dates without ever realizing it. somehow, i even managed to get married.
my intj weakness is not knowing wheather I'm great or awful.
Bro, tell me about it. One day I feel like a god amongst men, the next I feel inadequate.
i know exactly what you mean my confidence level can change day to day or sometimes within a day
Your work will tell.
Lol very true!!.. but at least you're not mediocre 😎
You need socialization if this is the case
INTJ here. I would like to add some more points:
1) Being impatient in general, especially when you are waiting for something to happen.
2) Oblivious in terms of romance and relationships.
3) Being a bit too brutally honest and upsetting other people who are a bit more emotional types.
4) Being to hard on your own self, and forcing yourself into a mould/standard that is set by your own mind.
5) Not being able to improvise in the face of chaos and multi task at the same time.
3 and 4 are the ones I struggle with the most. I'm not just blunt with others but I'm just as blunt with myself when it comes to self critique.
3-5 are big one. I seem to come off as jerk when I don't mean to. And the want to attain X standard can really cloud my vision on important details. I can't function in chaos
I especially relate to 2, 3 and 4
Chaos is hell Order is the way, Everything should be under control.I agree with your points fellow :)
All these points are so accurate it’s scary.
"Day to day sensory things." Yes. I swear I will run out of teeth by the time I'm thirty.
Is that an idiom? Or do you have a sweet tooth/an obsession with fizzy drinks that you can't seem to easily quench?
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I can appreciate work but not compliments.
I generally don't say "Thank you" when someone gives me praise.
I'll either try to suppress a smile, because if I did I'd be smiling like a maniac. I'm easily flattered in that way. If the person is giving the compliment unprovoked I'll instinctively resist it.
I'm not INTJ, but I am living with one. Even if you did not ask, I have an advice about the no thank you thing. The best thing to do is to say it out of respect, even if you don't mean it. It makes the other person happy. :)
Catherine B That INTJ you're living with likes you. That's why s/he wants to make you happy. Otherwise trying to make other people we don't really care about happy consumes too much energy.
We also fear that saying "Thank you" might be misunderstood as a sign that we like the other, and they will attempt to engage with us more to "get us out of our shell." Happens to me all the time. People think I'm suddenly "cured" of my weirdness and try to "coax me out more." What I do now is just nod to acknowledge the compliment, just to be polite, but my serious face discourages further social interaction.
@@catherineb855 I don't have any big social problems unlike a lot of other INTJs.
I understand that these people want to create rapport when complimenting me and it makes me feel bad when I don't say "thank you". I would feel a lot worse though if I violated my principals of honesty. I won't say something I don't mean.
Thank you for explaining this, guys, I really appreciate it. The INTJ I am living with is my soon to be husband and I understood him without giving an explanation. Now, after discovering MBTI and how the cognitive functions affect the personality it's so much easier to understand people around me and act accordingly.
Wish you all INTJs the best and all the love and happiness in the world,
- An INFJ
79 year old intj female. The attention to detail piece is very real. Prior to retirement I was an IT operations manager which was a good fit. I had staff under me who could handle all the detail work and I could primarily focus on the more strategic issues. I could get down into the details when necessary to understand a technical problem. But I also realized that if I stayed down in the weeds for too long I would lose my higher level perspective. So I learned to be conscious of what state I was operating in and then I could manage it pretty effectively. In terms of the day-to-day details of living, I simply automate as much as I possibly can. I can handle necessary detail work online better than physical paperwork.
Great comment. Another female INTJ here, also in IT. I totally agree, the overall forest has to be built first before I can put the trees in it.
I also automate most of my day to day life, the less mind power I have to spend on simple decisions the better.
Wow; insightful! Another "barely graduated high school, then straight As in college once I was personally motivated to go" INTJ here. I, too, have great (almost superhuman) drive to accomplish things that are meaningful to me, but find it almost impossible to do anything that isn't. That's a problem!
I’m an ENFP and totally relate to finding it almost impossible to do things that don’t have meaning to me.
Since my primary drive is for maximum efficiency that makes doing tasks which are lower priority a bit easier to tackle.
Apparently I started walking at 8 months, never crawled. Had one knee up and dragged the other leg until I could stand. Crawling is for losers ;)))
I activated the nitro around my senior year and people were surprised; especially my sister who swore up and down that I was as dumb as a box of hammers. And this continued into college.
You mean you don’t enjoy slavery?
There’s another one: laziness and complete detachment from the real world, though I find it awesome to drift away into my world, there are (unfortunately) consequences for my daydreaming😭, I wish there would be a job where I can daydream. (I think I am an INTJ, though I sometimes question it)
Edit: If there was a way to always being able to daydream without consequences, life would be much easier (and more amazing as you reach the limits of your imagination)
INTJ here, same problem. Hope Asura Psych sees this!
Yes, this can be very tempting, and not very helpful when I have a long list of things that need to get done.
Carole Smith my subconscious can creatively manifest a way of thought that makes me realize how insignificant those real life responsibilities actually are and that I can get around it, this makes it even harder to actually start doing it when there my mind already proved me that there is just no point in doing them. Complicated stuff...
I think about the future alot and different scenarios that may happen in my life. So I got into writing a job that allows you to 'daydream', explore your ideas and their possibilities in a fantastical land. Cheers mate!
My fiancé intj and I as infp spend time together in creating our own wonderland. I don’t want to invite anyone b/c only IN types can comprehend lol 😝
This whole world is truly sensory dominated so we need to survive in their world so keep who you are and find a right person, who can drift away from the world without lost. That’s my final thought on this sensory dominated world....
1. Lacks people skills
2. Appreciate other’s work
3. Intraverted intuition and intraverted feeling decides your main objective and extraverted thinking further finesses it
4. Impulsive and binges during stress due to extraverted sensing
5. Bad at taking care of their human body
As an INFJ (the only other type that shares the INTJ's repressed Se) I can 100% relate to how incredibly tedious and difficult it can be to take care of all of my day-to-day physical needs. Getting enough/consistent sleep, maintaining an exercise routine, walking my dog, managing my diet and mealtimes, taking the time for yoga/stretching and meditation, and lastly journaling. All of these things are essential to me basically not falling into depression regularly, and it is very, VERY easy for me to miss or lose track of these things. It's probably the single greatest annoyance in my life.
The collective time it takes for me to manage these things seems astronomical to me. I have to sleep for 9 or 9.5 hours to feel rested. Then you add on everything else and it literally takes like 60-65% of the time I'm alive just to take care of my body & mind. I'm not even taking into account time for work, hygiene, errands, social gatherings, fun time, etc. It honestly amazes me how some people find the time and energy to do these tedious things and also work a full time job, take care of children, do chores, errands, etc.
I feel like a Sim that has 30+ Basic Need bars to maintain instead of 8, and roughly half of them are hidden from me at random on any given day, and if any one of them falls below a certain threshold I become irritable, depressed, lethargic, etc. This happens all of the time because I often have no idea what it is that my body needs at any given time. It's extremely frustrating.
I mean, uuuuh, it's a lot of fun haha! *happy crying face.* Stay strong my fellow INxJs - it's a real bitch out there haha.
as an INTJ, ive gone back and forth with this struggle throughout my life. At my best, I wake up early in the morning (7am) and do a workout, no ifs and buts. So my home workout consists of weight training (bodyweight and dumbells, arms, chest and shoulders), then I finish with a 7 minute intense ab workout. It should take around 30 minutes for this simple workout. Its objectively better to work out in the gym with friends because you perform better and you're encouraged cos of pack mentality. I'll have breakfast with eggs. My lectures start at 9am. Im usually late. If I know the day will be particularly challenging I will supplement myself with 50mg of modafinil (look it up).
Nutrition is way harder than workout in my opinion. On sundays I did meal prepping. It would give me atleast until wednesday for me to run out of this meal prepped food that I store in my fridge. I dont make enough to last the whole week though cos I dont have enough containers as a university student lol.
So if I come home from work or university, I give myself no time to rest, cos if i sit down on my laptop and watch youtube i will literally waste hours and i wont accomplish my tasks. So I came home from work and bashed out another workout at home. (better to go gym but i didnt have a membership at this point). Then I cook. (or eat my meal prep food but thats mainly for lunch, not dinner). at this point its around 7/8pm. I eat, which then takes another 45 mins or so. Now I'm free to do what I want. But guess what, im an INTJ who wants to be successful so i use my free time studying for atleast 1 hour minimum (but it is supposed to be 3 hours of extra study every single day after university/work). Then at around 11pm/midnight, I go to sleep while watching mindless entertainment on youtube.
I did not have any mental health problems during this time, it is only when I diverge from this strict plan when I get depressed because I become conscious that I am not living up to my potential.
As i return to uni, I will return to this lifestyle, my girlfriend will be moving in with me during this time for a short while so I encourage her to follow my schedule
Best way is to remind of blind spot. Best match for is is intj/infp & infj/intp...
I really love deep profound inner world in IN types.
@@kang-heeellalee9862 best match romantically or platonically?
I only have a reserve for only a certain amount of things that it might neglect some and do a sloppy job with others
Wow! This is very insightful. I know what you mean. I too have sometimes felt like my body and the social aspects around me are like a video game character like in the Sims or something. Another example is the game Fable which I found very strange in that it made you focus on your character's relationships to the NPCs in the game.
The way that I keep up with hygiene is slightly easier for me because I'm hypersensitive to irritations. If my hair gets 'too long' and starts touching my ears or shirt collar it bugs me so I cut it off. My wife sometimes insists that I go to a barber to get a 'nicer looking' haircut, so I find the least expensive one around for that. I just tell them to keep cutting it until it stops standing up and until it isn't touching my ears or bottom of my neck. Some of them laugh or shake their heads because they are surprised at how little I care about my hair. I've had a few ask me if I'd like them to shave it off. I tell them that I would, except my skin is so fair that I'd probably sunburn my head if I was bald. I only shave my face because the stubble itches if it gets too long.
I feel itchy and like I have a film all over me if I don't shower every day, sometimes twice a day as I often feel the need to shower after being around a lot of other people or when I'm in other stressful situations. I need to wash the sweat, dust, etc. off. If it wasn't for that quirk, I probably wouldn't bathe very often either.
I wear clothes that I find comfortable, practical for what I am doing, or that remind me of something positive in my life (one of my happy places like favorite movies, superhero comics etc.) I couldn't care less if what I wear is currently in style.
You guys can be so cute. Any INTJ who can admit weakness is healthier than a lot of other toxic INTJs. Good for you on introspection and being vulnerable. Please do it more you other INTJs!!! -an ENFP
What it's like being enfp? I've heard they pair well with intjs
To who i dont see the worth in admiting weaknesses i know them but whats the difference or have i already admitted them by knowing them. Should i be reminding myself of my weaknesses ? A bit weird to be honest
how about toxic enfps?
People are not obliged to tell you about their feelings. This is very private. Don't be entitled.
i'm a 58 y/o intj, and i 've been in technical (electronic engineering) sales my whole career. i'm good at technical details, but not clerical, so i make sure i surround myself with ppl who are good at that, and i listen to them. i get help when i need it, but sales is a team sport, so as long as i'm working in a quiet environment without a lot of external stimulation, i'm good. and i also shower my colleagues that fill in my gaps with praise! they deserve it!
How are you doing financially if you don’t mind me asking for myself
It's really refreshing to listen to someone addressing INTJ issues without stereotyping them. This is accurate and relatable. For example, on General bodily maintenance, I noticed I struggle with my nails. They are likely to go unkept without my notice.
Uh yeah the sensory stuff though. When I was a kid, whenever my parents told me to clean my room, I would just shove everything under my bed lol. When they found out, it was no good 🤪I’ve improved now that I’m an adult but still struggle sometimes lol.
Oh. I actually haven't looked under my bed since June
Should probably check it out
I appreciate people, even if they don't do perfect, but if I see they do their best I still tell the person that I appreciated their help, work and time.
the second one about appreciation got me like 💧👁👄👁
Bodily functions!!! I get agitated when I'm in the middle of something & my body FORCES me to stop... & eat or go to the bathroom!!! Sleep even frustrates me because I'm so focused... If I could find a way to "split" my "human bodily requirements" off into a "clone" who's entire existence centered in maintaining those pesky details, a huge percentage of my aggravation would be eliminated!!!
While working on a flight biological project at NASA KENNEDY in 1987, they put me in charge of managing the chemistry for the unit BECAUSE my attention to those precise values was key to the overall success: I think IF those "details" are the paramount pivot, INTJ(me!!!) has zero problem tracking multiple minute aspects in tandem, as well as their interrelated causal-effect ratios... In true fashion, IF I see the interconnected importance, it does not escape my scrutiny.💜
I hate it when I have to the bathroom before I head out to work every morning or when I'm working on something. Waking up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom is the worst
Absolutely. The body always nags to be cared for lol 😂😂😂!! Such a pain!
This video is great! The INTJs I've encountered tend to get very defensive when people talk about their weaknesses. So I really appreciate your humility. :-)
Exactly mate these are my life problems and I really sometimes want to work on it but I get back to what I always do.
INTJs have very poor self-discipline
It’s ok! I love the way INTJ brain wired is lol 😆 as infp this sensory world only weakens IN types. Don’t put you down but learn about how to deal with sensory oriented world!
Personally I tried to research types in politicians and celebrities omg more than 90 % are sensory oriented @@
@@t5396 self discipline is the difference between success and failure. I also struggle with self discipline my whole life unless I am motivated by passion
@@ZahdShah yes, but passion or willpower and self-discipline are not quite the same.
@@t5396 will power enables self discipline
The INTJ weakness you mentioned that resonate with me the most are the hedonism sensory abuse, selective focus, and improving fitness.
I can sometimes just binge things that give dopamine and that gives me an addictive personality.
I never really applied myself in school cos I didn't know what I wanted to be as an adult; at 21 I decided I want to study medicine and now my focus is laser-like to make this happen.
I am underweight. Fitness and health are important to me, I practice kickboxing, lift weights and do body weight exercises, I used to skateboard but I've outgrown it. I like competitive sport but I'm not very good at it compared to my friends who love it and practised since they could walk. The most difficult part of my fitness regime is nutrition, I often under eat which puts me at a calorie deficit. I have to consciously make an effort every hour of the day to implement healthy nutrition into my lifestyle. I've always struggled with self-discipline; this too requires conscious effort to manage.
I'm chronically underweight, too. Having to eat multiple times a day, every single day is just exhausting. I wish I could just take a pill
Yes, great advice! I'm 38 and I completely agree that these weaknesses are real and you have great advice in dealing with them. The lack of attention to detail is one that has plagued me forever, but I make sure that on jobs I have someone who is great at that, and I also make sure to compliment them! I know that we INTJ's hate working in groups or teams, but finding others who balance us out can be so beneficial to achieving the overall goal, and the level of quality we can produce in the end. (It's also great to have someone on the team that can read and translate feelings of others for me, that's super helpful!)
Thanks so much for these videos! I'm an INFP and my teenage son is an INTJ. Your videos have really helped me to better understand him and has improved our relationship too 😃
Energy supply seems to be minimal for me. For example, I have a hard time summoning the energy to start anything or put up the effort to be genuinely interested in other people's story even though I force myself.
Sounds like you have bigger problems than being an INTJ.
@@t5396 No, not really. Just the same thing. Thanks anyway.
Same, but I also have depression and stuff so maybe that's it.
@@muhsinashardow998 when I was younger I had my weakest point ( though I can't say if I was depress or extremely sad & lost; I wasn't diagnosed). But I grew up and learned to save and care for myself. And now it feels good to live like you don't owe the world anything and be able to put effort where you want to develop yourself more. Though generally, the downside is that once you learned to depend on yourself it kinda feels harder to learn to interact with other people & such current interests, this bit is draining.
I had the same problem. Assuming you're male I'm thinking you may need to up your vitamin D3 levels. Get a supplement and stick to it for a month and you'll feel like a new man. Mood regulation, energy levels as well as clarity of thinking suffer when testosterone is low.
All of these things are spot on. The praise thing is something I struggle with and am working on.
Also true for INFJs. Individualistic to a fault. As a result, losing touch with the real world, and even with their own body. It is interesting that these problems exist because they are hard to identify. It is a real challenge to realize that a variety of things I perceive as unnecessary and tedious are the norm for many people.
If the majority of people would suddenly stop paying attention to details nobody would see it as an issue.
One of my struggles as an INTJ is the limits in social energy. If I'm well rested, my mental energy is good, and I've had adequate alone time I have zero social trouble. If I'm tired, stressed, or have already socialized for a long time, I'm crap at it. I have a very distinct limit in energy for other people. It's annoying.
whoa this is really true, and i’m thankful for the advice. i will try to remember and try to improve, thank you (:
I learnt about the details from Vagabond manga
"If you too focused on a leaf, you missed the tree. If you focused on a tree, you will miss the entire forest"
Means I need to see some details and not forgetting the overall big pictures
We need to interact more with people. Because as I age, I find many of them have such great ideas that can fill the holes in this forest. Specific people, but we do need to increase average interaction level.
I identified with every single one of these, these have been very helpful!
Bro, you're an INTJ who can literally explain the way intjs are very well!
One of the most accurate, true, detailed and honest review about INTJs. Feels at home listening to the entire video!
All these weaknesses are potential strengths taken to an extreme (focus, self-reliance, etc). Trending towards extremes is a weakness of mine, and a lot of energy/effort goes into reigning that in. 👀
From watching this I realized that Elon Musk is a highly developed and effective INTJ
musk is ISTP
@@ABG-yc7mo gulugule says he intj
He's INTP
@@ABG-yc7mo LOL he is 100% INTx are you ok
Keep going, bro, I love what ur doing❤️
INTJ
I think the greatest weakness of an INTJ is their over estimation of themselves and under estimation of everyone else.
You are lucky, getting on top of this young, I didn’t find out about this until I was in my late forties, and learned that I was an INTJ in my fifties.
Since I know that I’m an intj I started taking care of the (se) and I think it’s helping me in my self improvement
How do you do that?
T started forcing myself to workout / and stop eating without watching what I eat
@@AM-qi3xy I need to do that as well
lol, the weakness of not taking care of hygiene hit home. I find I keep forgetting to shave my beard and people think I'm intentionally trying to make a fashion statement, but I just keep getting sidetracked...
Good thing that beards are now relevant, and not ewww you have hair on your face.
I mentioned this in a comment on another of your vids, but this seems a good place to do it too. I'd like to hear your take on intj types that experience childhood abuse/neglect, and how that affects them as they mature. The whole objectivity/emotion seesaw is a real and uncomfortable deal.
Great video. Thank you
This Mix is so good that I've saved it in my UA-cam account. I don't do that very often.
Great video man thank you so much for this (^:
I learned to be more appreciative of others by first realizing that I have an inner need to feel appreciated. It helps me to be able to measure my level of success and what level I am on with my progress with my work
As an INTJ I think my life is complicated, my job is complicated, my relationship is complicated and I always end up with too much to do because i can't delegate anything to anyone because it won't be done correctly.
Wow! This is so me! I did the bare minimum in elementary and middle school because everything felt forced. Once I got to college I was on the dean’s list. 😂
I find parties boring. I root for the villain. I can find my way out of any problem. I hate people that don’t better themselves. I like documentaries. I’ve slept with too many women. I am up 40 percent on my investments this year.
Lastly, I stare at people and don’t care what people think of me.
I now know my place in this world.
I do like to root for the villain, especially if there is sad and tragic back story to them or if the hero did them wrong or if the have deep reasoning behind what they're doing
I don't care about heroes or villains I'm just here for the bitchy side character with high Te and 5 speaking lines 😆
Excellent! I was an underperformer throughout my life...inspite of being able to hammer out 1k word treatises in 30 min, play 8 instruments, and communicate like an attorney.
I regret not reading enough and definately taking myself too seriously.
Same. I'm a self confessed high school failure in most subjects but when I took control and went into computing I scored almost perfect marks in all exams and blew my classmates out of the water. Applied focus on YOUR goals is the super power.
Very rewarding vid
Interesting video. As an INTJ, I don’t struggle with taking care of my body. It’s one of the things I’m best at. I’m an endurance athlete, eat healthy, and maintain excellent hygiene. I struggle with the other aspects mentioned.
Sometimes I always and forever will be struggling with 'why should I consider you/ why should I take your advice nor recommendation / why should i listen to you/ why should I /why would I, for this and that blablabla, and then doorslam people a lot and several of my colleague even said 'hey you can't just move very fast and go solo when you work with a team?!' which pretty close with the conclusion of 'why should I take it slow when I know I always can do it better yet profoundly the best in settling a huge task project?'. So I just ask back, are you down or not, if not, go find the other group project and be the last group presenter. I want to be first and then relaxxxzz (or go do partime job). Dang.
When I was working at a window construction business while doing my undergrad, my precise building of the actual windows was accurate to within 1/64"...& I was so efficient at it that I became the "floor lead:" I worked by myself but was always at least 1-2 days AHEAD of the rest of the plant... They ended up giving me Fridays as a paid day off, so the rest of the floor could catch up. Thursdays I often spent in screening or main frame, troubleshooting their issues so they could catch up...
I worked at a biomedical lab during my graduate, & same thing happened there... They would have me processing human interferon, bovine serum, blood components, because my aseptic technique was flawless...then I would end up in finishing troubleshooting there: I was one person, yet a team of 6 could not keep up with me...
In those & other situations, I always got a serious attitude from co-workers... I decided jealousy was the root of it, & continued to keep my quality high while ignoring them. When you're good, you're GOOD...the companies made their $$$... The quality was impeccable, but I've ALWAYS had issues w/co-workers because of it... It's WHY I have run my own business going on 15 years now... & I work ALONE.💜
It is very funny/strange how what you present in this video was exactly what I shared about me to my brother yesterday evening....those 'weaknesses traits'...
thanks for that
cool stuff, cool afro rock on brother
For hygiene, I make combinations.
I used to be very inconsistent about shaving; now I make sure to shave right before each shower.
I’m a big proponent of efficiency, so that’s what motivates me to tack on additions to pre-existing functions.
I am intj, and all you say is exactly 👍true
So true about pushing towards completion of projects while overlooking details. I wanted some shelving installed in a closet in my house. My husband asks me what I want. I sketch him a picture of the finished layout. Before he goes to the store he asks me a ton of questions about materials, hardware, and measurements. It didn't even occurred to me to measure out everything; I would have just estimated. Guess who only had to make one trip to the store?
When I first did a MBTI test, a couple months ago, it tagged me as ISTJ, I did several other tests and they almost all came up with the same, 1 came up as ISTP. Some parts of how ISTJ were described made sense to me but, not over all. I recently got typed and they came up with INTJ so I've started looking into that. I must say what you described was spot on for me, wow.
Years ago a I came up as an INFJ however I came up as an INTJ recently
that sword in the back
I'm an infp and one of my closest friends is an intj so I'm learning to understand her better
Afro man is back!
Wow, you nailed my childhood D grade experience!
Man I don't know that INTJ prone to addiction
Back then I stop my binge eating to smoke
Now I'm addicted to it, I really need to change it ASAP
@2:50
I'd argue that it doesn't stem from self-reliance although that's what young INTJs will be like, I mean that's what my school reports showed, but rather that it's just social obliviousness, if you're wrapped up in your own world you're going to be less engaged with the physical world and forget things like saying "thanks".
Hell, I remember a mother of a friend who used to drop me off at home from school every single day and she says that I never once thanked her for that. I heard that from her son. I was absolutely incredulous, I couldn't actually believe she was saying this about me, but to be honest it fitted my personality. It wasn't malicious, it was just about being aloof. That's a social situation I would have to be taught from earlier. I mean, if someone directly gave something physical to me I would automatically thank them but something I didn't recognise as a service or something someone was doing for me didn't really register in my brain as something to thank them for.
That something that plagued me in my younger years
wow. these are so accurate.
You are SO right. INTJ here. ✌️
So true with the school one I’m an A B some C student so average but everyone of my friends always says it’s intimidating to get into a debate or anything with me and call me scary smart when I want to be
This is so true
I was also a straight-D student in high school, and then a straight-A student in college.
I've always found the rejection of help to be somewhat hypocritical. For example I don't think I've met an INTJ that grows all of their own food, or built their own house, or collected their own garbage. It was interesting being in a relationship with one, she would often refuse help from me when she was clearly struggling, which was difficult for me because I always want to help those I like. At the same time of course she would want me to accept her help. I usually take whatever help I can get since I'm more mission focused (as an ENTJ). I thought ultimately your video was very spot on.
by what I see I could be pride or an expression of vulnerability and weakness that could be exploited if allot of people found out
It really feels like an awful lot of effort to keep my home just "kinda messy".
Hey Asura,
I recommend you research more about using internal monologue (or not using it). I think it might be connected to the intuition usage, especially Introverted Intuition. Not using internal monologue is like having a stream of thoughts that you are not counscious about.
Everything hit me where it hurts 😂
Also INTJs tend to have specific Ni fears! For example i’m not scared of dying or to get hurt when i’m focused on a goal but things like ghosts or aliens turn put to be the real fears for me
Clowns! Bozo traumatized me for life.
My INTJ son just told me recently, that my wild, loud, exuberant ESFJ friend “scared the living hell” out of him as a child, before he got to know her and know that she IS actually very kind, just very vocal, intense and very in your face, with all her loviness. My son and I both laughed sooo hard when he told me that. And when I told my friend about it, she laughed her ass off about it, too! She scared me a bit at first, too.
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Diamind - INFJ
🥲 thank youuuuuu! God I wish I knew this before lol
Very accurate and precise typical me
Intj strengths and how to amplify them? Good video btw!
researching things is definitely a strength of intj I have been researching how to become more social for a few years now and its auctaly working and making my weakness turn into a strength over time. I am also trying to help others on this youtube channel.
I couldn’t relate more
IDK if I'm an INTJ or an ENTJ, but my greatest weakness is that I tend to isolate myself from the people important to me in order to do a project
In my experience it's not that I am incapable of sharing the workload as much as I generally have not had the time to teach people how to produce quality results. Because of this it is generally faster and produces higher quality results if I assume their work will be substandard and do the entire project myself. I still assign them parts of equal difficulty but when they fail I don't have to rush to do their part because I expected them to fail to begin with. It just saves time that way.
The strange thing is, the only thing that i don't really struggle with is sensory stuff in regards to my immediate environment. Stuff like hygiene, organization, and bodily needs, I'm pretty good with. It's more the Se out of my environment such as appointments, deadlines and such that I struggle with.
Working in a team as a peer is very difficult for me. If I lead and build my own team, it’s easier for me trust others to follow through, delegating work according to the strengths of the contributors.
IMHO from an intj :
Appreciation and giving thanks is one of the hardest skills to learn for an intj .
Conscription mentally cripples intj and hence countries that employ that dont get genius level companies.
Not putting something enough effort in something that is no important to me important to me it's really accurate. I have as examples my birthdays, my family would always be pike "You should do this amd this and CLEAN and how the f have you not did this !?" Im also not dressing to impress so at my birthday I am the most casual dresses, again, no interest in certain things => no effort. I dont even want to celebrate birthdays.
Also I had so many arguments with people for me not paying attention to little details, most of those peopel were actually acting like perfectionist to me, especially cuz in most cases I had NO INTEREST AT ALL about those things they talked about. I also had peopel complaining about my memory "HOW COULD YOU NOT REMEMBER THAT PERSON ?" even some judging me more harsh cuz I am not good with names and even faces. I would forget your name and face but I would remember what you did and said. I dont pay attention tho those details as they seem uninteresting to me. I forget my closes friends and family members birthday's, I'm not expecting them to remember mine either but some actually do.
Extrovert sensing as inferior function, the one which people mostly use the moset when stressed actually makes me eat on impulse, I took a test from a psychiatrist I know and she was surprised to find out that I scored high on compulsively eating even when my depression and anxiety faded. She, like most peopel, sees me as: calm, calculated, with practical solutions but she also knew that I was in a stressful environment and that I also put pressure on myself cuz I had very high expectations for my future. I havent really improved in this, it's something that I'll need to put some work into.
Not taking care of their body. Hygiene, fat loss
My demon Se is bothered by the sword on the back.
Thanks for another great video. Not sure if there is a difference or not between male/female in the types. But curious how strengths/weaknesses manifest between the sexes if there are any differences between the two. Thanks again
Nice fro and nice sword
True...
I want you to know that I appreciate you... kind of.
Here's one .... I call it the burn down... It takes a lot to this point but it is having a hobby where after some negatives unjust things that happen an INTJ will throw out everything to do with that hobby. Basically burn all your books take down all your posters and give up on an endeavor. They will disconnect with the people and friends involved in that hobby as well
Oh my god this is on point. I did exactly this with writing and drawing in high school after enough negative experiences with my work being made fun of. Now that I'm older and back into both, I wish I had those old sketchbooks and notebooks to look back on.
Being germaphobic with eczema as an INTJ has its perks... I pay attention to hygiene and keep my place mostly tidy. But I think many INTJs like clean environment because they can get easily distracted by too much visual "smog". Minimalism is very useful...
Damn I have that same plastic long sword
I’ve decided to go live in seclusion as early as possible. Most INTJ issues come from dealing with ppl.
but there are so many good things that come from other people.
I feel like I handicapped myself in school by not getting glasses even though I needed them and failed classes, barely graduating. I thought i had no chance so i just got a menial jobs i ended up hating because of my AvPD. Now I'm a neet with few interests that I don't think I'd be successful in. I'm 24 and all I do is play games and use the internet.
I cant decide what's more Killer....The Insight or the Afro!
The basic hygiene stuff comes down to establishing habits, really. Just start doing the thing and the thing will become just the thing you do, it doesn't matter what the thing is. I will say this, tooth decay is a real thing. I know a few people that did not take care of their teeth and in their thirties had some not so fun experiences in the reclining chair. It's the same with diet and exercise. Do it, or save up the money to pay the doctors when bodily systems begin to fail. Of course, there is the quality life reason to engage in healthy habits. A healthy body lends itself to enjoyment of the everyday far more than an unhealthy one. If people insist on being lazy, be lazy about the minor things like the dishes and not the major things like cardiovascular health.
Watching this with I suppose at least a decade more experience of being a hardcore INTJ: ‘oh that’s cute he’s using reason a little bit’.
Being a hardcore INTJ is a hell of an experience.
Being an INTJ,i hate talking to people who are not knowledgeable which quite a lot in this world,i would rather talk to people who can keep up with my ideas and my imagination,and thats my weakness.now im 40 and getting more lesser friends😁
Details seem just unimportant to me. Unless they are connecting something I tend to completly Ignore them. I have an issue in school with essays about books. I write my whole idea about the book, put much effort and I get a bad grade. My teacher always says that I didn't write about this and this and she points out things that just seem so obvious to me, that they doesn't seem to be important at all. But turns out, many people think differently than I do.
Same here
I'm not going to lie