The dangers of loneliness| Richard Pile | TEDxSt Albans

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  • Опубліковано 28 лис 2024

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  • @Girlybunches
    @Girlybunches 11 місяців тому +17

    This is fascinating. I recently lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly. Before that happened I was going weekly to a ukulele group, my husband would often come with me. After my husband passed, I dug deep and decided that I HAD to go back to the group straight away. If I didn’t I knew I would never be able to get back. I also wanted to make to be with people that knew my husband. I’m 11 months into this life I wouldn’t wish on anyone. If I’d not had the people at that ukulele group in my life I honestly don’t think I would’ve made it past the first few weeks. I’ve met some wonderful people in the past 11 months some of them have become so ingrained in my life I consider them family now. Social Prescribing is exactly what it is. I hope anyone feeling lonely can pluck up the courage to join a group of something that interests you. If you need a suggestion, buy a ukulele!

    • @feelgoodforlife
      @feelgoodforlife 11 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for sharing your story. Very powerful and moving.

    • @winnmatthews
      @winnmatthews 4 місяці тому

      I'm sorry to hear that.
      "suddenly and unexpectedly" - Was he vaxxed??

    • @Girlybunches
      @Girlybunches 4 місяці тому

      @@winnmatthews The second part of your comment shows little to zero sincerity you thought you had for the first part, have the day you deserve.

    • @winnmatthews
      @winnmatthews 4 місяці тому

      @@Girlybunches How so? Why do you seem weirdly averse at the thought of it being the potential cause?

  • @andys8702
    @andys8702 6 місяців тому +12

    I recently had Cancer and i can tell you loneliness is worse than Cancer i am so lonely and heartbroken its long story to low to write about it right now.

    • @rjpile
      @rjpile 5 місяців тому +1

      Sorry to hear this. A powerful reminder that one of the most important aspects of cancer treatment is the support that people need along with drugs, surgery etc.

  • @jilumiah
    @jilumiah 10 місяців тому +5

    That’s my GP, proud of him !

  • @mikepalin7050
    @mikepalin7050 11 місяців тому +4

    Sooooo important. Please listen. Thanks Richard. 🙏

  • @ElfriedaPower-rg2vo
    @ElfriedaPower-rg2vo 11 місяців тому +4

    This is brilliant Richard! Thank you for raising the issue of loneliness, we need to screen for this more, very powerful statistics!
    I didn’t know there was a TED X S Albans!

    • @feelgoodforlife
      @feelgoodforlife 11 місяців тому

      Thanks Elfrieda. It was the very first one...more to come next year, hopefully!

  • @gedbyrne8482
    @gedbyrne8482 11 місяців тому +5

    Social prescribing sounds like a powerful movement. I hope we see it's impact in our communities.
    Not sure what the note from TED is about. There's no medical advice, just a practical recommendations from a somebody working at the front line. There's certainly no bad science here.

  • @huwdawson4046
    @huwdawson4046 10 місяців тому +2

    Really interesting Richard. Scary figures. Great to know more about social prescribers.

  • @Missbeee27
    @Missbeee27 11 місяців тому +4

    Such an interesting talk, I'd never thought about it until I watched this and it makes total sense. We could all help change this.

  • @skillsofWow
    @skillsofWow 11 місяців тому +3

    great talk - it begs the question - what does a meaningful social connection feel like?

  • @pseabright
    @pseabright 11 місяців тому +2

    I love the practicality of this talk, things we can all do to help the, far too many people are lonely.

  • @JakeWoolmer
    @JakeWoolmer 10 місяців тому +2

    Brilliant watch and lovely to see it being in my hometown.

  • @ecorenovationhome
    @ecorenovationhome 11 місяців тому +3

    Such an interesting talk - teaches us a great deal about our communities right now.

  • @BreakingBallet
    @BreakingBallet 11 місяців тому +2

    Such an important topic and delivered in an inspiring and thought provoking way. We can all do more in our communities.

  • @beastoftalvar
    @beastoftalvar 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for explaining the dangers of loneliness and sharing the storycof your son.
    I felt it too during covid and decelopped a drug addiction, from which I am sober now for the third year.
    All I can say the urge to relapse is the strongest when I feel the loneliest. When I am with people on the other hand, I don't even think about doing them.

  • @amruthashanbhag1360
    @amruthashanbhag1360 11 місяців тому +3

    Excellent content! I have been researching about loneliness in elderly and what can be done to alleviate the issue. Social prescription seems like an effective initiative. Interested to know more about it. Thanks for sharing this educational talk.

    • @feelgoodforlife
      @feelgoodforlife 11 місяців тому

      Thank you for your kind comments. Glad you found it helpful 😊

  • @jonnyfreedman533
    @jonnyfreedman533 11 місяців тому +2

    Really inspiring Richard. Well done and thank you

    • @rjpile
      @rjpile 11 місяців тому

      Thanks Jonathan. That means a lot coming from you 🙂

  • @faithellis2010
    @faithellis2010 Місяць тому

    Absolutely brilliant talk! So practical relevant and timely. Thank you so very much.

  • @davidstairs2476
    @davidstairs2476 8 місяців тому +1

    I've been so lonely I could cry but I don't think it would help getting worried feeling kind of invisible haven't drank in 2 yrs thought about starting back feels like that was my only friend

  • @valeriehealey1924
    @valeriehealey1924 7 місяців тому +2

    Very interesting I am going blind and use long white cane I go out every morning early to walk I have made friends with lots of dog walkers I always say good morning to people Most reply , some don’t , probably the lonely ones

    • @rjpile
      @rjpile 5 місяців тому

      Dog walkers are often nice people! Saying good morning can make such a difference 🙂

  • @daria_avery
    @daria_avery 5 місяців тому

    this is making me cry it resonates very much not sure if my recent skin issues were a result of the loneliness > inflammation but i have been stress eating i really wish i could cure myself of this problem it’s been a struggle for at least 6 years

  • @rickyshadix8481
    @rickyshadix8481 Місяць тому

    I’ve been in the loneliest time of my life since 2020 and I feel like I’ve aged 20 years in 4. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.

  • @silvermica
    @silvermica 2 місяці тому

    I’m in my late 50s. My birthday was a few days ago. I played myself a jazzy happy birthday song on the guitar. I have no family, no parents, no kids, no close friends, and no love. I’ve never even lived with a lover before. I'm no slouch either. I've earned my engineering degrees despite coming from an extremely poor background - and a dysfunctional family to boot. I bought a home in Silicon Valley and I'm an active musician. Yet, I spend every Christmas alone. If I were to disappear tomorrow only the bill collectors would notice.

  • @Scorned405
    @Scorned405 4 місяці тому +1

    Loneliness is peaceful. People are toxic

  • @krembryle
    @krembryle 11 місяців тому +1

    well as if it was my problem... people form small groups with people they like...I don't belong anywhere because I'm younger, I have trauma from abusive parents and come from poverty so I don't do interesting vacations or hobbies that I could talk about with them, so that's why I'm quiet. I'd love to have friends there. But this workplace seems to be fishing for the perfect, social employees, not encouraging the imperfect ones to grow.

    • @barnabaspalfrey
      @barnabaspalfrey 11 місяців тому +1

      bless you for writing this -- It sounds to me that perhaps you know your own pain more than some do (although I guess some whom you see may also know theirs, secretly). This will surely mean you can be the friend that some others most need, as well as a person who will be highly regarded and welcomed by some others also who will be ready to make space for you as you keep your door open for them. Do you think that perhaps it is not everyone who really wants to be "entertained" swapping stories about expensive vacations and hobbies?

    • @rjpile
      @rjpile 11 місяців тому +1

      I really appreciate your honesty. For what it's worth, my advice would be not to worry about being "interesting" or having great stories (we've got enough of this superficial rubbish with people polishing their lives on social media!). As Barnabas has commented, it could be that you're in a position to really support others...and in turn to benefit from starting your own network. It could start with just one or two people at work. I'm willing to bet if you feel like this at work, then others do too. I hope that this is helpful.

  • @alanmorris4896
    @alanmorris4896 3 місяці тому

    I already made my decision. I want to be alone

  • @UKs1stBlackPM
    @UKs1stBlackPM Місяць тому

    Great, where did the speaker get the final stats from, please?

  • @truthsRsung
    @truthsRsung 11 місяців тому +1

    Better Late than Never.
    What else did you learn during Covid?

  • @amelghrici3408
    @amelghrici3408 11 місяців тому +2

    SOS Gaza children and babies died no food no water many poeple died.poeple of usa stop this War please please

    • @Scorned405
      @Scorned405 4 місяці тому

      Then Libya needs to watch those sanctions with Great Britain. They knew what happened when the G7 and G8 committees decided they wanted a piece of the proverbial pie . Oil sanctions and corporate profits went thru the roof. If Israel stops their nonsense with Libya than maybe the percentages will decrease

  • @Beast.M.r-e9h
    @Beast.M.r-e9h 11 місяців тому +1

    Free 🇵🇸 Palestine