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"Did you pay $50,000 for a car?"
"No, sir. 49"
😂😂😂😂💀
No sir 49 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 best laugh I’ve had all week! Love it!
That was a good one.
Dave’s laugh made my day
Don’t get married if you don’t trust your spouse or want to share finances. I just don’t get the point 🤷♂️
She said she wants it this way.
She's highly, highly empowered. She feels the power
@@AlexKaehler-qc8kdbut she is drowning in that power!
She sounds like a victim of 1980s feminism. Although her work ethic is admirable.
She just wants a reliable roommate I guess
No mortgage, $40,000/year and still living "paycheck to paycheck"
She doesn't seem to have a problem being dependent on creditors.
I was raised by a single mom with a similar mantra of "if no one pays for you, no one can expect anything." It was a hard lesson to unlearn.
Me too, this sounded exactly like my life. I am working on the being able to let go and trust someone with my financial life
Raised in similar situation. I have hard time with relationship with man romantically. It freaking tough. It'
Guarantee you it wasn't her choice, and it was the husband who got tired of this financially reckless woman and cut HER off. She bought a $50,000 car on a $40,000 income. Somebody bringing home $600/wk can't afford a $900 car payment and it shouldn't require a phone call to a show like this to figure that out. Guy probably got tired of her blowing away all the family income and not listening to him.
@@mattorama guarantee you don't have all the facts and don't know what's going on.
@@kiwiskiwi It's called reading between the lines, because we're only getting one side of the story. Her side is nothing but red flags.
I like how she only makes $50,000, bought a $50,000 car, but she can't trust *him.* 😅
49,000 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@SpoonHurler😅😂😂😂😂
First thing I thought about
She’s probably an apprentice
Did she say she didn’t trust him? Did I miss that part? It sounds like she just has a problem with herself depending on others. I don’t agree that in married you should have separate accounts, but I can see why some women behave this way even if it means they have less money.
This isn’t feminism, this is hyper independence. It’s a self protective reaction to trauma. No one can hurt you if you don’t rely on them. It’s a sad thing for her and it sounds like she has a great husband. Hopefully she can unlearn this.
Exactly. Over correction. She is trying to come over trautmatic experience and acts like an idiot. He is there to protect her and she pushes him away. If he finds a woman that needs him most , she might steal him
@@triplekillerable which would prove her hypothesis correct: she can’t depend on him. Hopefully they will work this out instead and have a healthier marriage.
Spot on. I struggle to trust my spouse of 30 years after watching my mom be abused because my step dad controlled all the finances. He beat us kids but not my mom. He was emotionally and financially abusive to her though and to us kids. Still cannot stand the man 40 years later
Its most definitely feminism and its killing this country slowly.
@@BusArch42 I highly recommend Tim Fletcher's videos on CPTSD here on UA-cam, life changing stuff. Once you understand why you do what you do and that it might have worked once but doesn't work now, it's almost easy to let go. Wish you lots of healing.
For better or worse. I’m thankful for my loving and generous hubby. He’s been there for me, as I’d be there for him. Marriage definition 👩🏼💻‼️💯
I am also grateful for my loving and generous husband😊
I have a buddy he makes $250k a year, his wife makes $40k.
They separate their finances.
Seeing them argue about who is paying for dinner when we go out with them is nuts.
He tells her she owes him for half of the kids' clothes... it's nuts.
What a lunatic. Why hang out with weirdos?
That’s my question for people with separate finances that have kids. Who pays for the kids? They are both of their kids! Splitting things down the middle while married seems like a ton of work.
That is absolutely just......wow.
Getinthrspace tell the buddy wife to quit her job. The husband will be paying for everything then 😂
Wow he is up to no good and does not love his family 😮
51 yrs old, struggling to save for retirement, just bought a new car. 😮
/RETIRE BY 30 IN AMERICA / Yeah I can't help but wonder what she did with the last 30 years of Adulthood. Really it sounds like she's living life on hard mode with the whole 1980s style Feminism.
And the reality is most people that are broke their whole lives it's usually due to the same things. It's not one choice it's a bunch of little choices along the way.
And usually it's trying to keep up with Joneses. Lol
A a bunch of people trying to prove to everyone else that they're actually worthy of their own existence. Ultimately a BlackHole futile endeavor.
Minimalism and cheap property for the win. Have retirement completely funded in 4 to 5 years doing OTR Trucking. Work another year and pay cash for a house in the fly over states. Work another year and have the new vehicle completely paid for. CASH! It's the only way to Fly 👍🏆💪
I see and hear this disconnect weekly. “I’m broke” then showing off a new car. “Everything is going up, can’t afford to pay for everything” buys a new car the following month.
What a weird way to live.
@@jorgealvarado7946 it's just people RENTING other people's admiration. In trying to justify to others that their life was worthwhile.
Worldwide it's pretty common. People getting shiny things and overpriced garage ornaments to show off.
It's generally a sign of lesser half evolved lesser two-legged Apes.
@@jorgealvarado7946I get it. It’s totally a mindset.
We paid off my car two years ago. Best feeling ever. But we’re also facing that we’re going to need a new one at some point. It’s a 2008 Highlander. It has repairs and maintenance coming up. And it won’t last forever.
And to be honest, it’s really easy to slip back into the mindset of “we can afford the payments”. That’s how my parents always had cars. Always with a payment, then trade it in for more payments. I don’t think my mom has ever owned a car outright.
But this is also why I binge DR clips. To change the mindset of always having a car payment.
Dugh.
Uhh Sad thing is, when she said she paid 49k, that WASNT a joke to her. She didn't even realize it til they started laughing..
I cracked up at that too! Seriously, though, it was crazy of her to spend that much on a car. Funny, but at the same time, not funny. I know Dave's gonna say "sell the car", and I haven't finished watching the video yet.
I had the same feeling. She wasn't being funny. She legitimately thought she was offering a serious defense.
17 years, she’s the one in debt, but she can’t trust him with the money?
/RETIRE BY 30 IN AMERICA/ She sounds like a victim of 1980s feminism.
They are both in debt. If he is in debt or she is in dent they are both in debt.
She didn’t say she can’t trust him with money. She said she doesn’t like depending on people for money because of how she was raised. And she admits it’s not working from her and she is calling in for help. She seems pretty rational about the problem despite her emotional baggage, which can be a very hard cycle to break. This comment section has a such hard on for feminism, you’d never have a man call in with debt and see the replies blame toxic masculinity
@@TonyCox1351 /RETIRE BY 30 IN AMERICA / Hey Lady. It's not wrong to point out how a large amount of a generation got Hoodwinked by Feminism.
There's nothing toxic about It.
Masculinity isn't sitting there holding back for people's feelings. If anything that's what leads people down the road of suffering.
Everyone else will tell you what you want to hear. And mostly for their own benefit. A Man will tell you what you need to hear.
But then again traditionalism is a pale shadow of what it used to be. Marriage is nothing more than a zombified ritual in America.
Enjoy the decline.
Minimalism and cheap property for the win. Have retirement completely funded in 4 to 5 years doing OTR Trucking. Work another year and pay cash for a house in the fly over states. Work another year and have the new vehicle completely paid for. CASH! It's the only way to Fly 👍🏆💪
@@drn13355 he is not in debt. Apparently he can pay it at any time. She is in debt until she decides to participate in the marriage
“I don’t depend on anyone for money…I owe my husband $6000.” Ok…thoughts and prayers for John and Dave who couldn’t find a way to blame her husband for this.
I think I've been watching too many of these videos I laughed with Dave as soon as she said $49,000 🤣🤣🤣
@TMPS93 -- Me too!
Yeah that part was hilarious 😆😂
Even if this was the first video you’ve ever watched of Ramsey, it’s still funny. People naturally laugh when others laugh…
I always find it so heartwarming and encouraging to hear Dave speaking so respectfully about his wife. Probably because I feel the same way: We wouldn't be where we are without both of us.
This is unfortunately one of the many reasons why my marriage with my wife ended. We were house poor and had $35,000 in debt. I told her multiple times that we needed to tackle this debt if we were going to be prosperous and she absolutely refused to trust me on this. I am now completely debt free and have $60K in the bank. Men and women need to get on the same page about this stuff.
It’s the leading cause of divorce. Fights/problems with money.
Your friends: " Don't marry her. "
You: "But She's Hawt dude. "
@@John3.36 that’s not at all how it went but thank you for your input
Girl, your husband is waiting for you to trust him to help you. He is not pushing it because he loves you and wants you to want his help instead of forcing it.
Combining finances is one of the best decisions me and my wife made once we got married. Every paycheck we sit down and budget our money and we’ve done it so many times now that it doesn’t take but 5-10 minutes. If you don’t trust your spouse enough to combine finances then why get married to that person? I understand in some marriages one person might have a spending problem, but that’s not a reason to just have separate finances, that’s more of a reason to seek counseling and try to get on the same page. Or definitely get that situated before deciding to get married.
The best part about the no sir it was 49 answer is that she wasn’t trying to be funny
False.
I agree. I didn't interpret it as a joke, either...
@@superblump87 My daughter says, "it's not $5, it's $4.99."
It's a quarter past the hour, NO, it's 13 minutes past.
It is argumentative, it is a mindset.
A lot of people are like this.
Living paycheck to paycheck YET just purchased a $50K car. Yeah, pay him back the $6K to a man you'll claim to not need, who pays for your lifestyle, during the divorce so he can use it for the lawyer fees.
This is the fake strong and independent in a marriage. She ain't get approved for a $50K loan making $40K a year. Complete silliness.
/ RETIRE BY 30 IN AMERICA /She sounds like a victim of 1980s feminism. I mean her work ethic is admirable. But I don't understand why she's only making 40K if she's an electrician🤔?
Minimalism and cheap property for the win. Have retirement completely funded in 4 to 5 years doing OTR. Work another year and pay cash for a house in the fly over states. Work another year and have the new vehicle completely paid for. CASH! It's the only way to Fly 👍🏆💪
I love when someone can make Dave laugh.
Later on this same ppl complain about "the economy is bad" "the system is broken" "little man cant age ahead" etc n etc ppl will never stop doing these dumb things...
"It's not the money, it's the mirror." Parting quotable from Dr. John.
Combining money or assets is not about that material thing..its saying we are in this thing together and are pulling in the same direction.. to me it fosters more trust and loyalty!!
I have a friend whose husband treats her like she’s a guest in the house. They’ve been married almost 40 years. He won’t give her a debit card. She worked and retired. They redid the kitchen and he wouldn’t let her pick out anything, he’d ask her and then go to the opposite direction. She can’t even have anybody over I told her that’s her fault. She should’ve done something about that along time ago. And she’s such a sweet lady, dear friend. he’s got the whole basement at his pleasure and she has extra rooms in the house but she can’t have a sewing room. She said she feels like moving out and she’s a good Christian you know as far as any of us can be. it breaks my heart for her. I told her he’s a bully, I know she loves him though. He would be out of my life.
@burly636 Wait a minute...He won't "give" her a debt card? She has no say in the matter? He wouldn't "let" her pick out decorations for the re-doing of the kitchen? Usually men don't even care about that stuff. He even went so far as to go the opposite direction of what she wanted? Aaaannnd she can't have a sewing room (something she enjoys), aaaannnd she can't have anybody over?? If she were my friend, I would tell her he does it because he CAN. She ALLOWS this. She needs to stand up for herself because this is emotional and financial abuse. It's 2024, she needs to step up for herself because there is too much information out there to put up with that nonsense from anybody. Heck, she can do better and probably at least have a "peace of mind" being alone , without him...and not in prison. Tell your friend to stand up for herself. Blessings to her.
My wife and I going on 20 years have had combined money since day one. We joke about who’s paying for dinner sometimes when we get the bill even though it all comes out of the same bank account. Lol. It’s just fun.
My wife is such a sweetheart. She tells our boys to “thank daddy for dinner” when we go out and eat just because it was my idea and I paid the bill even though she makes more money than me. 😂
What do grandbabies have to do with your debt?😅
I’m 61 years old and have a car that is 14 years old, but still looks pretty good and drives like a luxury vehicle. I’m driving it until it drops or until I can save for another good used vehicle.
Again, tears of joy when I listen to Dave. Thank you, Sir, for being an important part of my life journey.
2:46 - this! My mother and her husband have been together for 35 years and they do not combine their money. Their finances are as bad as the quality of their marriage. It's so sad to see. All my other relatives that do it this way have a similar story.
Why? Why? making $40,000-50,000 a year would you buy a $49,000 car???? This makes no sense! Yet she can't trust her husband not to screw her over. smh
She wouldn't without knowing hubby is going to pay for it.
The fact that they glossed right over that is laughable
The main issue I see is what kind of life would it be to drive a used honda civic all day? Who would respect and appreciate her? The answer is to get a proper car, and one that tells the world you are a somebody. I completely understand why she did what she did.
@@costco_pizza broke!
It’s a trauma response
Two become one. One. My wife and I have one income regardless of whose name is on the checks.
No. She has one income and you have none!
Amen
@@juniorgod321judging by your comments and your avatar in getting the vibe that you’re single and childless and trying to convince everyone that’s how you want to be forever
@@TonyCox1351 But what if one of these days his wife “decides” that she no longer loves him and take him to the cleaners?
@@juniorgod321🤷♀️ He could decide to do the same. That’s why picking your spouse is important. If you can share your bed and your body, you can share finances. If you can’t, tells you what you need to know.
Owing your husband is hilarious man 😂
/ RETIRE BY 30 IN AMERICA / if anything it's actually more honest than what we see currently with so-called traditionalism.
At least she's paying her own way. And even if she does seem like a victim of 1980s feminism. If nothing else she has a decent abnormal work ethic.
Doesn't come off as a freeloader.
Had to be real most marriages are usually one person making all the money with all the realistic risk.
And the other person having a gun that's called divorce pointed at that person's head throughout the whole marriage.
It's respectable that she's actually making a decent effort to pull her own weight in life.
Minimalism and cheap property for the win. Have retirement completely funded in 4 to 5 years doing OTR Trucking. Work another year and pay cash for a house in the fly over states. Work another year and have the new vehicle completely paid for. CASH! It's the only way to Fly 👍🏆💪
It happens more than you think. I did it all the time until I started watching Dave Ramsey. Not everyone comes from a family that makes sense.
It boggles my mind. My husband and I have never had separate finances. Owing him money would be odd.
@@BlueDauntless It is. My mother and father always combined. However, as children, we always owed them money for something. Even at young ages. So, as I got older, it never dawned on me to not owe money to my husband. Weird, right?
Literally made me chuckle
I always always find that combining finances to be unreliable.
1st of all, marriage is just 2 people partnering up to make lives better. Wife/husband will be the most important partner, but not the only partner. There's business partners theres friendship partner etc.. And they dont combine finances..
What worked best has been that people have a joint account that pays the bills and does the couple activities. And then theres personal accounts that's the back bone of each individual. You and your partner wont be pressured or gaslighted into different things just because the"marriage" is binding. And when the differences arise on a philosophical level, each party has the right to simply walk away and being financially fine.
For ex, most people get married between 20s to 30s for the 1st time. And they are still kids by mental development and societal experiences. They change and develop, some grow to want kid or kids, some grow to no longer want kid or kids. People say oh you should talk this through before marriage. Thats the ideal situation but its never ideal, isn't it? No one can say their philosophies are the same 10 years later and its very normal for couple to grow apart and becomes no longer fit. Plan for the worst, have separate bank accounts.
15 years seperate finances no arguing. Its a person to person thing
17 years separate finances and no arguments… it really is😊
@@Kim-bv3xn about money anyways 😅
It's seems like the issue with combining her finances is that she does NOT want to be accountable for her spending habits.
Very good point!
It’s crazy how many of these ‘finance’ calls are just people generally having a messed up relationship.
I also think that statistic that ‘money problems’ being the number one cause of divorce is wrong after hearing all these calls. Relational problems appear in your wallet after long enough
2:09 Dave really liked that one 😂😂😂
Nah ! I call BS ! She played the independent woman game and now it’s backfiring . Instead of going to him and humbling down she calls Dave . Sad !
Yes her husband would delighted to finally get his well earned respect. Though it sounds like they may be better off apart
What do the grandchildren have to do with it? They are their parents' problem.
The State seized our grandchildren,
We took them in, under a licensed foster care home.
People told us to let them go, they're not your children.
Really???????
It was an excuse.
The problem here is the $55,000 car when she has no hope of retirement, not her $6,000 with her husband.
How many bad decisions can you cram into the first sixty seconds of a phone call? At least she didn’t waste anyone’s time.
How do you only make 50k as an electrician??
Yeah yeah Dave that’s not out real life work. I have been married for 9 years. Very happy but no way I will combine my income to my husband. We have very different views on money. Plus his kids from previous marriage don’t like me.
I hear you
My situation was just like yours
Except I am a man
Her kids were/are her god and life
Her marriage and me were outside the circle
Got dumped last year
I don't believe her for a second. She doesn't share finances with her husband because she chose that, she doesn't share finances with her husband because she's so bad with money HE split his finances from HER. "How come I don't have any money?" Guarantee you her husband has been explaining this to her for the last two decades and got fed up. She openly admits he's good with his money, and she's a financial train wreck.
How could someone work so hard against themselves? She has a man that loves her and she's working hard to remain separate from him financially. Doing a male dominant job at her age AND she's personally making bad purchases on top of it?!? Can someone say self sabotage? Something is going on here.
To me it sounds like pride. A prideful heart is a dangerous thing and can bring other issues.
Is her name on the deed to that house? I've talked to a lot of widows who found out after their husbands died that they'd been left with nothing.
No sir it was $49k is best line every on this show.
Incredible I been saying this forever and literally applies to almost everyone I know including my own wife! Crazy!
I have separate accounts from my DH. I advise anyone who is married to someone paying court-ordered child or spousal support or student loans do the same. When the courts or our government decide they are going to garnish your income they are indifferent regarding whether or it's a joint account. Oddly, Dave has had callers that have had this happen to them.
Interesting take.
My take is... joint income, joint accounts, joint assets, joint debts, joint responsibilities, joint etc. OR don't get married. Live together and play house.
Seriously if you don't trust your spouse, you don't have similar values as your spouse, you aren't willing to take the good and bad of your spouse, etc then you aren't truly married anyway.
And when you marry someone who had a life before, you accept all that comes with that, good and bad. Or don't marry that person.
@@GAFB1122 The spouse was not the problem. The problem in my case was an ex-wife and a court that enabled her. The child support he paid was never enough .... I do remember 1 call Dave got. She had a business account with her and her husband's name on it. One day they found $7000 drawn out of the account. Turned out there was a student loan the husband totally forgot about. It would seem that the United States government had a better memory. 😉
@@GAFB1122 Sorry but I don't think I incurred an obligation to pay any money to a greedy ex-wife. Dave had a call from a woman who had a joint business account with her husband. One day she found Uncle Sam had taken out $7000 for payment of a student loan her husband had forgotten he had. Our government didn't seem to be concerned the money was both theirs.
@@GAFB1122
??????
when you marry someone, you accept all that comes, good and bad. Or don't marry that person.
Interesting take
My wife and I made our Government Pensions 50/50.
Most people do not split pensions acquired prior to marriage.
Me too. People with children from a previous relationship should be very cautious if they remarry. It's all too common for the surviving spouse to take all and leave it to her or his kids, essentially disinheriting the kids from the other spouse. Combining finances in that situation is foolish.
I can understand this woman not depending on her husband financially, although, I would say it’s best to combine income.
The second guy I dated has a problem trusting women not dating him for his money. (He was only making a little over 100,000.) He said when we get married, he wanted us to sign a prenup. In the beginning of dating, he redacted everything that showed his income.. he made me feel like a gold digger not knowing my bf before him made far more money and spoiled me like a princess. I knew that if I ever married my second ex, we would have to have separate accounts. I didn’t want to give him ANY REASONS that I was only with him for money.
Baloney: “Tammy, are you safe?”
@Trenton OMG!!!! Yup!😂😂🤣🤣😁😁😋😋
Making 40k a year and bought a $50k car? Smh.. what is wrong with people?
My wife is retired on ~$40K/yr pension,
Why can't she not afford a $600/mo payment???????
I pay for everything; I'm retired on a pension also.
@@aolvaar8792 Buying a car that costs more than what you make in a year is generally not a good decision.
@@Chet_24
She is retired on a pension, and I pay for everything.
If you don't spend it, then WHAT?
Epic! Love it! Dave! That was hilarious
I told my wife to quit her job when she got pregnant. We’ve had joint accounts since then. Why do people bother getting the government involved if they’re unwilling to be one financially 😮
Joints are illegal yall should not have an account for buying joints
Yup, she was raised with that later boomer/early GenX sexual revolution book that family is an oppressive institution of the patriarchy and women need to be “free” from “control” of husbands, etc, etc… 🙄🙄🙄🙄
I wonder how that has impacted her children… 🤔🤔🤔🤔
Or she's reacting from a past trauma of getting financially abused...either way, no bueno.
Yes these are the weak people that created these hard times
@@NadeDogg
ding ding ding bingo! 🙌
Y’all better get yourselves ready for this post Christian world that we’re in…
I mean, spiritually ready! This new pagan world developing will be even more cruel than 2000 yrs ago! 😓😓😓
What do her grand babies have to do with this? Is she raising them?
Probably spoiling them or watching them instead of working
Lame excuse for her problems.
When i was married, my ex wife was the conservative one and got mad when i didnt fully abide by a super strict budget (long story short, we had a few month dip into our emergency fund before gaining money again, no debt), we ended up divorcing, and the first thing she did was purchase a new car to "feel safe". Im still driving the beater. Have fun with your separate finances!
What a hot mess. She's not dealing with reality. Debt = Broke.
She should’ve bought a $15k car. Not smart at all.
Get your mind away from Re-buying cars.
Buy the car you love and never buy another
Bought my 1972 Chevy Truck, NEW.
I don't understand combining finances either.
Oh my God I bought a Lexus with 17,000 miles on it for $17,000
My husband and I bought new cars every 2 or 3 years for over 35 years. Sooooo stupid! If we only had all that money! 😭
She said she owes her husband $6000. I can tell you that story, he doesn’t trust her, because he just had to bail her out with a $6000 loan, then she went out and bought a $49,000 car.
I have lived this scenario, and I never got financially stable until I divorced her. Even when I had to pay 33% of my income for child support, I was better off, because she spent 133% of my income when we “shared” the responsibility.
The saddest day of my life was when I finally realized that I was married to an adversary instead having an ally.
I am the single version of this caller. It is really hard to trust after trauma, especially when you still hear and see examples of infidelity, divorce and abandonment happening with people. It sounds like she has a great, supportive husband who she can let her guard down with and finally relax. I hope she does.
At least she got a sense of humor still intact 😂😂😂
If I were the husband I'd run for the hills
I never comment but I don’t think I’ve ever seen Dave laugh that hard
Everyone in the comments is acting like she's doing this out of preference. Guys, we don't know what she has went through, and whether the 'depending on a man' is due to something abusive in the past that's a big trauma, it's a very common scenario, which is very messed up.
I think that the reason why there are higher divorce rate among couples who lived together before marriage than those that did not is because of the keeping the finances separate tends to start and then carryover after the marriage.
100% certain if she had the money and he was broke she wouldn't even consider combinging finances.
Her roommate sounds awesome. He deserves better…
…she should have gotten cats, not a 2nd husband
he threatened to leave, he threatend to stay. Everything is a threat, unless he pays
"hows that working for you?" "Obviously sucks." 😂😂😂
I don need no man 😂
She does, she is married
This hubby is probably chuckling at his wife's struggle at her own behest.
Well, she don’t need him.
Yet she’s broke and can’t save for retirement. Seems to be working real well for her.
We completely took away the entire meaning of what marriage means. Now its just we had a party where i put on a suit and dress and now i live with my friend. But hey we say i kove you.
Drives a $50k car while making $45? And her husband makes over $100k/year? Must be nice. Some people have no idea how lucky they are.
When she's irresponsible: "our money"
When he's irresponsible: "his money"
Being in debt isn’t depending on someone else financially???????
Someone should point that out to her.
Women provide infrastructure into the marriage for husbands to be successful.
Sometimes they do. And sometimes they drag them down to nothing.
Living paycheck to paycheck with a new $55,000 vehicle.
And her husband probably pays most of the bills. Paycheck to paycheck my tail.
Don’t use “trauma” as an excuse when you actually just mean “stupid”
I would NEVER combine income with that woman. She admitted that she mismanages her money.
She’s not that bright
Too funny! Get it together people!
I agree and disagree on this one. I agree in the sense of you are working together toward your future. On the flip side, in order to save my sanity us having separate accounts where I take care of most of our incidental bills (cell phones, heat, electricity) and the groceries out of made sense. He is a highly anxious person. When we shared one account, if I spent even $5 at Starbucks we would be having a discussion about spending habits. We both know how much of our income is going into in each others accounts, but *he* stresses less and by extension my stress level is lower if we have separate accounts for separate functions.
Lol "only 49 k" got the like button
Nobody should be independent and be proud of it. This life is interdependent by nature
Well, it depends on the person. Some people are needy and need someone to take care of them and others are more independent and don't need someone. But in her case, she doesn't handle her money well and handle her finances well. So, she needs someone to take care of her. Of course if you are married, then yes you should be in it together. Living separate lives being married is not a recipe for a long marriage.
@@vickieclark5931it doesn’t really depend. Not everyone is a doctor so everybody depends on a doctor. Nobody can be independent
@@silentnot4812 I still depend on doctors and retail workers to live my daily life. Nobody is independent.
@@HOLDXSTEELNo one should depend on others for something you can do yourself. Got it, good!! But there are many things that you are not an expert at, so utilize their expertise to address your comments.
I'm just trying to figure you out. Do you think you should rely on others for things you can do yourself? Hmmm
@@GAFB1122I can’t operate on myself so I need a surgeon
I was waiting to hear her say the car thing was just a joke
She's "an electrician" but makes only $40-50K per year??
Works about 6 days per month.
She is a huge liability, that's why the husband doesn't complain, it will go from her being in debt to they are now in debt. That does not sound like a smart move for her husband.
*This lady has absolutely NO clue……..*
She was genuinely girl bossing when she said she spent 49k instead of 50k. She played it off.
Real Question is, is the husband going to want to combine with Cray Cray after 17 years?
I like how she only makes $50,000, bought a $50,000 car, but she can't trust him. Tammy is stubborn and dumb. Who buys a $50,000 vehicle? Electrician Salary in Atlanta, Georgia is about $75,000.
Hi my name is Tammy, I can’t trust anyone with money. I’m also bad with money and I bought a car that’s more than I make a year
“I pledge thee my troth”
She doesn't understand why she's living paycheck-to-paycheck, but buys a new car higher than her yearly income. All while "unofficially" owing her husband $6000.
Sounds to me like if they do combine finances, she's going to start eating into his finances as well.
It might be for the better that they stay separate.