Common Traits of Someone Who Can NEVER Retire | Even One Will Stop You!

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  • Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
  • This video discusses the traits of people who can never retire. The most common trait is a lack of interest in learning even the most basic elements of personal finances. If you have this, you can (probably) work the rest out.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 494

  • @bobjacobson858
    @bobjacobson858 4 місяці тому +132

    I'm about to turn 72, and have been retired for a little over 11 years. Shortly before retiring, I asked my father why coworkers all have new cars but I'm driving a 20 y/o Oldsmobile. He answered "It's because THEY have debt but YOU have wealth!".

    • @DrSchor
      @DrSchor 4 місяці тому

      the answer is obviously the other way around. those with debt can't afford new cars; the wealthy can.

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 4 місяці тому +15

      Smart. Me 63 retired no debt no car. I just ride a bicycle

    • @turtleanton6539
      @turtleanton6539 4 місяці тому

      ​@@PInk77W1nice

    • @DanTheManIOM
      @DanTheManIOM 4 місяці тому +8

      Yea, related, I hated Wells Fargo, thought they were a bunch of arrogant pricks. I paid off my mortage two years early. They annoyed me, I sent the check. Done.

    • @PremiumFuelOnly
      @PremiumFuelOnly 4 місяці тому +4

      Im putting money in an interest bearing savings account so I can buy a newer truck with cash in 12 years when I retire, that way no debt, no driving a 25 year old truck. Just plan ahead.

  • @diane.moore-
    @diane.moore- 4 місяці тому +186

    People who are able to retire early are lucky . I have 15 months till 65 and need to look at calling it quits, my only fear is running out of funds much later, thus keen on investing. What could be the safest possible ways to invest for cashflow, in order to afford lifestyle after retirement?

    • @ThomasChai05
      @ThomasChai05 4 місяці тому +5

      consider investment planning, learning from a well experienced advisor is invaluable

    • @mariaguerrero08
      @mariaguerrero08 4 місяці тому +4

      That's right. I am a wife, mother of four and new grandmother, 28 years in Corporate America, retired recently at 57 after discovering the freedom investing could provide, been contributing to my portfolio since the pandemic in early 2020, and have grown a $250,000 savings account to almost 1 million, credits to my investment advisor.

    • @mikegarvey17
      @mikegarvey17 4 місяці тому +4

      @@mariaguerrero08who is your advisor please, if you don't mind me asking?

    • @mariaguerrero08
      @mariaguerrero08 4 місяці тому +3

      *Gertrude Margaret Quinto* is the licensed fiduciary I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment.

    • @CliveBirse
      @CliveBirse 4 місяці тому +1

      I looked up her full name online and found her page. I emailed and made an appointment to talk with her; hopefully, she gets back to me.

  • @waterbug1135
    @waterbug1135 4 місяці тому +162

    I knew someone who had all these traits. I divorced her. There was no way I could retire with her. That was 8 years ago. Smartest move I've ever made.

    • @HolySchmidt
      @HolySchmidt  4 місяці тому +7

      Thanks for the comment WB

    • @john-o1g9p
      @john-o1g9p 4 місяці тому +21

      mine died in her sleep 6 years ago. wake up EVERY morning
      with a giggle in my heart and a smile on my face. even the dog is happier...

    • @jamesp.7496
      @jamesp.7496 4 місяці тому +32

      WOW…….my wife and I will be married 40 years in October. I can’t imagine my life without her in it. Don’t really know how else to respond to these comments…I feel sorry for both your wives. Especially your dead wife sir. ❤

    • @robertperry814
      @robertperry814 4 місяці тому

      @@john-o1g9p she probably died to get away from you!

    • @Ella-Bella2024
      @Ella-Bella2024 4 місяці тому +40

      My husband, with these traits, left me for a younger woman just after I made us debt-free and was about to pay cash for a home. Now I'm getting richer and richer and he's $70,000 in credit card debt at 30% interest. The creditors just called me looking for him. It was the worst financial decision he ever made for himself and the best financial decision he could have made for me.

  • @MarjorieRyanJoy
    @MarjorieRyanJoy 3 місяці тому +104

    At 56, with health issues it meant early retirement with little savings, turning to investing became my lifeline. Now I'm retired at 58, with over $3M saved, It's been a journey from uncertainty to security and peace.

    • @GLADIATOR-tz7yt
      @GLADIATOR-tz7yt 3 місяці тому

      to be realistic, Luck plays a significant role more-so than the resources to thrive with investing. without it, it's very challenging to succeed, I've been there

    • @MarjorieRyanJoy
      @MarjorieRyanJoy 3 місяці тому

      When its consistent, its not considered luck. I attribute this to research which was the challenging part before it led me to Emily Ava Milligan, a top fund manager, in turn she made 310k into this and counting

    • @GLADIATOR-tz7yt
      @GLADIATOR-tz7yt 3 місяці тому

      I pasted her name into my browser, and her website popped right up. It became clear to me she is in high demand. Your example is rare, I wish i had it earlier. Thanks for the share

    • @goodbyspam
      @goodbyspam 2 місяці тому +1

      Watch out for internet scams that start out just like this!

    • @solarwinds-
      @solarwinds- Місяць тому +1

      You go @MarjorieRyanJoy! You go, cause you're awesome!

  • @ScooterOnHisWay2024
    @ScooterOnHisWay2024 4 місяці тому +81

    I went into retirement with no mortgage and no credit card debt. I used the final 18 months prior to clear what little debt I still had, to skew my financial holdings towards less risky investments & to divest myself of unnecessary material possessions. Then I moved to a beautiful, far less expensive country to retire.

  • @57054
    @57054 4 місяці тому +77

    My neighbor always made above 6 figures, even 15 yrs ago but always traded up into a new monster size SUV every 4 years. He's 53 and recently asked me for help about starting an IRA. I asked him about his 401K and he said he had quit making contributions years ago because of his mortgage. It's that easy not to save.

    • @thebigpicture2032
      @thebigpicture2032 4 місяці тому +1

      Hard to contribute if the mortgage takes everything.

    • @derwinmitchell9947
      @derwinmitchell9947 4 місяці тому +4

      ​@thebigpicture2032 Especially when you keep buying new big trucks every few years 😅

    • @thebigpicture2032
      @thebigpicture2032 4 місяці тому

      @@derwinmitchell9947 That’s a Boomer thing. Mortgages are too big these days for young people to buy big trucks.

    • @solarwinds-
      @solarwinds- Місяць тому

      I couldn't sleep at night if I lived like that.

    • @Jane5720
      @Jane5720 14 днів тому

      @@thebigpicture2032 start seeing the smaller picture

  • @MikeReisender
    @MikeReisender 4 місяці тому +24

    I retired last year. I have been shocked by how many people, many of whom I respect deeply, have asked questions about it that reveal they are basically financially illiterate. This is a huge problem in the US!

    • @Javalipapere
      @Javalipapere 4 місяці тому +4

      See this all the time. I’m 64 and still working but only bc I have a great boss. Living below one’s means is essential to not having any debt and saving each paycheck

    • @catherinesanchez1185
      @catherinesanchez1185 Місяць тому +1

      What amazes me is that we have access to more information than at any time in human history . And it’s EASY!! Just click and read or watch videos like this one . I’ve improved my future financial situation just by doing this

  • @billc4993
    @billc4993 4 місяці тому +80

    You need to do a video on people that can retire, but don't.

    • @gpdoyon
      @gpdoyon 4 місяці тому +13

      Why? I just met a 77 year old lady who works 6 days a week because she loves staying busy. As a new, fully retired 60 year old, I can't wrap my head around that. Forty two years of full time work was enough for me. To each their own.

    • @bethiciaprasek1008
      @bethiciaprasek1008 4 місяці тому +5

      I think that is a great idea because I expect I could retire soon but will not. My work is fun...so lower cost for entertainment. Extra retirement and living expenses money. Due to the extra money I can not only go to a pizza/pasta restaurant on an almost daily basis (my CHEERS...where "everybody knows my name") plus I have interesting things to talk about due to work, but I also am more in contact with coworkers and the coworkers I had previously due to participating in industry work groups.
      I can occasionally help family members or visit them more often. I act like I won the lottery at work when I have to make difficult decisions (though I haven't won the lottery), so that makes work even more rewarding...just due to having marketable skills.
      If I want time off to play (or just work from home) then I can. Why would I retire to volunteering to do that for free?😃

    • @john-o1g9p
      @john-o1g9p 4 місяці тому +1

      i can retire and ''have''.
      i can afford to sit on the sidelines, ''ala travis mcgee'' and wait till 70 to collect.
      ''the government soaked me, i want to return the favor''.

    • @MemphisMike901
      @MemphisMike901 4 місяці тому +4

      @@gpdoyoni am with you. Retired almost 2 yrs ago. Just turned 60 last october. 40 yrs at UPS plenty for me. I do not understand WORK being a persons only option for staying “busy”.. i have Zero shortage of activities to keep me busy

    • @megalodon1726
      @megalodon1726 4 місяці тому +1

      @@MemphisMike901 Work isn't the only option for staying busy, but many other options can cost $$$, for example golf or travel. Many people choose work because it's a net inflow of cash rather than an increase in their expenses. And work is less stressful when you have the ability to retire, as you have more leverage to resist BS from management.

  • @dougb8207
    @dougb8207 4 місяці тому +57

    Your neighbor was a piece of work. I'm at a loss for words. Nice job staying calm and being polite.

    • @Steve-gx9ot
      @Steve-gx9ot 4 місяці тому +8

      Agree = once the neighbir changed from " NO hassle" = I would walk away

    • @lyceum4177
      @lyceum4177 4 місяці тому +1

      Agreed, lol

    • @solarwinds-
      @solarwinds- Місяць тому +1

      Also, he was firm. Most people would have caved I think.

  • @nat9909
    @nat9909 4 місяці тому +89

    I am never going to retire because I don't have any interest in retirement. My grandfather was forced to retire at 65. He went right to the competition and hired on as an engineer and retired from that job at 85. He stayed active with his church and community up until the end. I like working!!!

    • @bob_frazier
      @bob_frazier 4 місяці тому +18

      Everybody gets to choose, that's the beauty of it. And even just the idea of "I could retire if I wanted to!" might make working just a little bit easier.

    • @Markevans36301
      @Markevans36301 4 місяці тому +16

      @@bob_frazier This exactly, I'm 65 and still working but it is a lot of pressure off that if I couldn't got to work tomorrow we would be okay.

    • @DanTheManIOM
      @DanTheManIOM 4 місяці тому +1

      Once you go, you lose your identity you had for years and many of your contacts.

    • @apollovizsla
      @apollovizsla 4 місяці тому +3

      @@bob_frazier This is so true! I wish that I was able to continue working full time at my current job, but my body is worn down. My employers are into hiring people who are 20 to 25 years old now and they are basically pushing the older people out the door! I don't like the idea of starting over again, just to be at the bottom.

    • @mysticaltyger2009
      @mysticaltyger2009 4 місяці тому +2

      Most people simply aren't able to work until age 85, even if they want to. It's crazy not to save/invest money with the idea that you won't be forced to retire at some point. Most people think they're going to work until age 67. Most of them don't make it. The typical retirement age is 62.

  • @WAL_DC-6B
    @WAL_DC-6B 4 місяці тому +33

    I was in the railroad industry for over 37 years. With railroad retirement you can retire with your full pension at age 60 with at least 360 months (30 years) service. I indeed retired at age 60. Also, I was one to always live within my means, so I was debt free upon retirement. One other thing, I never-ever made a time payment on a credit card. I always pay off my credit card bills at the end of the month and consequently my credit card companies pay me to use their cards with the rewards they provide (yes, I know, I'm known as a "dead beat" in the credit card industry).

    • @Steve-gx9ot
      @Steve-gx9ot 4 місяці тому

      But credit card companies are worse than dead beat you = they are thieves and butchers😮❤

    • @Javalipapere
      @Javalipapere 4 місяці тому +4

      That’s what we do w our credit card. We charge, write one check at end of month and, get points

    • @jameswitte5676
      @jameswitte5676 4 місяці тому +1

      Don’t worry they still make money off you.

    • @WAL_DC-6B
      @WAL_DC-6B 4 місяці тому

      @@jameswitte5676 I'm not worried as I know there are sometimes convenience charges.

    • @mctd3693
      @mctd3693 4 місяці тому +2

      That's me in 8 yrs and 6 months then railroad retirement

  • @wildfoodietours
    @wildfoodietours 4 місяці тому +44

    I much prefer earning interest through stock investments vs paying interest through credit card debt!

    • @HolySchmidt
      @HolySchmidt  4 місяці тому +7

      No truer words were ever spoken.

    • @ericolens3
      @ericolens3 4 місяці тому +2

      same sentiments here.
      i want POSITIVE interest not negative interest, especially in a world with an ever decreasing purchase power of the dollar.

    • @NatesRandomVideo
      @NatesRandomVideo 4 місяці тому +3

      Pay for the banker’s vacations or pay for mine? Easy choice.

    • @autonomouscollective2599
      @autonomouscollective2599 4 місяці тому +2

      My father passed away in 2000 and my mother in 2005. When my mother passed, I received a bit of inheritance. Nothing extravagant, but enough it help me out and have some left over. I went to an investment advisor, saying I wanted to pay off my house and invest the rest. No, no, no, he said. Invest it all. The interest I’ll earn will be greater than the interest I’ll pay. I left and got myself another investment advisor.

    • @JBoy340a
      @JBoy340a 4 місяці тому +2

      Definitely, that is why this whole getting out of the stock market in retirement to reduce risk is very questionable.

  • @richdouglas2311
    @richdouglas2311 4 місяці тому +16

    My wife and I are military retirees. We moved around a lot. As a result, we don't have a mortgage that is near being paid off. Currently, our mortgage (from 2021) is at 2.25%, but we'll never pay it off (we're in our 60s). We overcome this limitation by having accumulated good Social Security payouts (which we have not yet taken), my two federal pensions--military and civilian, both being paid now--and a reasonably robust retirement savings (nearly a million).
    We'll never have a paid-off mortgage, but we're trying to make that point moot.

    • @SpookyEng1
      @SpookyEng1 4 місяці тому +2

      Why pay it off when you can earn 5% in a money market? If your guaranteed income pays the bills and cash flow isn’t an issue you are fine. Most people don’t have sufficient pension income to do that (I am a fellow Military retiree).

  • @scott1441
    @scott1441 4 місяці тому +148

    Between the liberalization of drugs and endless gambling promotions we are doing our youth a terrible disservice. We should be promoting financial courses in middle and high schools . The country's priorities are counterproductive

    • @HolySchmidt
      @HolySchmidt  4 місяці тому +13

      Totally true

    • @2023Red
      @2023Red 4 місяці тому

      Disagree. Our whole economy based upon consumer spending. It keeps inventory low, people working, and rich people richer. Spend spend spend! Wall street will love you!

    • @amyyates8273
      @amyyates8273 4 місяці тому +7

      I make my kids watch these with me! 😊

    • @ericolens3
      @ericolens3 4 місяці тому +5

      ​@amyyates8273
      you are an awesome parent.
      i hate to be morbid, but you never know what day youre gonna pass. so some wisdom must be passed down before the day its actually needed. and statically speaking, I'm not too sure how likely it is a parent will be alive while their child is entering retirement.
      essentially how many parents would even be alive when their kids are in their 50s and 60s. (i generally say a parent is 20 years older, so thats a 70-80 year old. thats a high risk, but COULD be possible)

    • @ericolens3
      @ericolens3 4 місяці тому

      ​@@amyyates8273
      my dad passed like 5 years after he retired. and he wont get to see my kids. neither did my grandfather get to see me. so I'm kinda baised towards early death.
      so I'm like 30 years until my retirement age, and while i may not have LOTS of money going into it. i dont want to be OBLIGATED to work if possible so I'm glad my dad taught me about a roth, and saving up. Im still factoring all the costs that can hamper or help my retirment process.

  • @walkingdude8779
    @walkingdude8779 4 місяці тому +10

    Never carry cc debt. It’s the poison of any debt.

  • @BarnabyBarry
    @BarnabyBarry 4 місяці тому +11

    A good option is to move to Thailand-gyms/pools/younger women-healthy food-$400 month condo and walk to the 🏖️-no need for a car-calm/stress free

  • @richdouglas2311
    @richdouglas2311 4 місяці тому +16

    Jeff is correct about whether a contract was in place. In most contract law, an oral contract is binding and enforceable. If you have an officer, acceptance, consideration from each side, legal capacity, and a legal objective, you have a contract. But real estate law is different, where the only things binding are what is in writing. Once the buyer changed the conditions, they killed the contract and made a new offer, which the seller was free to reject.

    • @SF-fb6lv
      @SF-fb6lv 4 місяці тому

      But look up Statute of Frauds -

  • @K24Z3CU2
    @K24Z3CU2 4 місяці тому +4

    I'm 42, I had the same mindset with endless credit card debt in my 30s. I made money, didn't care about the debt only paid the minimum, until I made a decision to finally pay all debts out, working to pay off debt rather than spend. I feel much better now that I have no debt owing to anyone!

  • @geoffgordon596
    @geoffgordon596 4 місяці тому +33

    “Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose”

    • @hanksta34
      @hanksta34 4 місяці тому +7

      Written by Lightfoot and sung by someone who burned out early in life

    • @arthurbishop3173
      @arthurbishop3173 4 місяці тому +9

      ​@@hanksta34wrong - was written by Kris Kristofferson

    • @MazyGillisPh.D
      @MazyGillisPh.D 4 місяці тому

      🤘🤘🤘

    • @rhunter98
      @rhunter98 4 місяці тому

      Amazing😢

    • @autonomouscollective2599
      @autonomouscollective2599 4 місяці тому

      @@arthurbishop3173
      Right, Kristofferson. If it was by Lightfoot, it would have been 3 times longer and boring. (OK, I’m not a Lightfoot fan.)

  • @glenn9057
    @glenn9057 4 місяці тому +4

    good vid Geoffrey. the main concern for retirement is NOT how much money you have, it is how much money you spend. in fact, spending should be the main concern during your working life also. "spending" is the one activity most people can control but have the most problem with😊

  • @arthouston7361
    @arthouston7361 4 місяці тому +23

    I could have retired 6 years ago. I just don't want to. I like having things to do every day, usually to help others. I go on mission trips, and I run my own company.

    • @TT-fq7pl
      @TT-fq7pl 4 місяці тому +1

      Mission trips? I hope you don't mean travelling to other countries to impose your religious views on them. That's so nineteenth century.

    • @HolySchmidt
      @HolySchmidt  4 місяці тому +1

      Outstanding Art.

    • @TT-fq7pl
      @TT-fq7pl 4 місяці тому +1

      YT deleted my comment because I'm critical of religion? What a world.

    • @hanksta34
      @hanksta34 4 місяці тому +3

      TT - “critical” or intolerant of people of faith?

    • @autonomouscollective2599
      @autonomouscollective2599 4 місяці тому

      @@hanksta34
      If you’re critical of Tarantino films, does that make you intolerant of Tarantino?

  • @Kirk_Mcgurk
    @Kirk_Mcgurk 4 місяці тому +14

    You're life stories and advice / analogies are priceless!
    Thank-you Geoff!
    -Curt

  • @quartytypo
    @quartytypo 4 місяці тому +12

    I was never interested in retiring. Quit working but still make money was the goal.

  • @paulkoza8652
    @paulkoza8652 4 місяці тому +49

    There is another aspect. The fear of running out of money, coupled with, "I don't to know what I'm going to do when I retire."

    • @HolySchmidt
      @HolySchmidt  4 місяці тому +4

      Thanks Paul

    • @philgretz
      @philgretz 4 місяці тому +19

      I'm 65 and retired 3 years ago. Between grandchildren, church, travel, outdoor sporting activities, home repair projects, and hobbies, my days and weeks are quite full. I'm so glad that my previous employer began requiring the Government's COVID injections in late 2021. That was the catalyst for my retiring. No jab, no job. Okay. A Dios...

    • @Steve-gx9ot
      @Steve-gx9ot 4 місяці тому +2

      Concern ( not fear) of running out of money is my only obstacle left before Full retirement. Want to remain "independent" forever and am transitioning into retirement by working less year by year. Am 66 and will try to wait to collect sic sec at age 70, as long as health is good

    • @lolal2502
      @lolal2502 4 місяці тому +1

      ​@@Steve-gx9ot I plan to do the same as long as I am able to work and find a job.

    • @ExtraordinaryLiving
      @ExtraordinaryLiving 4 місяці тому +2

      @@philgretz
      "No jab, no job. Okay. A Dios..."
      Kudos!!! 👏👏👏👏💪🗽

  • @JBoy340a
    @JBoy340a 4 місяці тому +5

    I would like to see a video on people who don't retire or retire later (say 70+) by choice. These are people who find work rewarding and/or switch to a second (third, ...) career later in life. I know doctors in their 70s who still do complex surgeries, sometimes for free, in 3rd world countries.

  • @kmilton1593
    @kmilton1593 4 місяці тому +3

    Dear Geoff, Have not had a "budget" for the last 40 years! As a small farmer i never know what my gross income or expenses will be year to year. (However, i have not had any debt for thirty years either: that is, no mortgages, loans, leases; I always pay my monthly visa bill in full). My father told me at age 18 when i left home: "if you can't afford to pay cash, then don't buy it".
    My bank said i didn't make enough money to qualify for a mortgage. I told her i would build a small house anyways, "one board at a time using cash". (took me 30 years). Am 76 and still working.

  • @stephendibari5010
    @stephendibari5010 4 місяці тому +11

    excellent video. i had many years of carrying CC debt until early last year. i’m about 4 1/2 years away from retirement and goal is to retire debt free except my mortgage.

  • @seymorefact4333
    @seymorefact4333 4 місяці тому +9

    I STOPPED alcohol and limit to 1 escort once a week! saved $3k a week!

    • @TheBigdog868
      @TheBigdog868 4 місяці тому +1

      Good job! I limit myself to one bimonthly. The 8 ball lasts longer

  • @gregwessels7205
    @gregwessels7205 4 місяці тому +14

    That neighbor and I have very different ideas of 'hassle free'.

  • @gpdoyon
    @gpdoyon 4 місяці тому +5

    Great house selling story and a valuable lesson. I'm glad that it all worked out so well for you! Great video!

  • @Abraham.Lincoln22
    @Abraham.Lincoln22 4 місяці тому +28

    That neighbor was an a hole.

    • @ednitsche8188
      @ednitsche8188 4 місяці тому +4

      Lucky you don’t have that neighbor any more.

  • @jackwilley9847
    @jackwilley9847 4 місяці тому +1

    You went away on vacation with that situation tells me that you are a tough man. You are so awesome my friend I have been encouraged to become financially literate

  • @BillyT531
    @BillyT531 4 місяці тому +10

    "Wouldn't you like to be...my neighbor". Mr. Rogers. 😂😂

  • @Gemmahaven
    @Gemmahaven 4 місяці тому +5

    I retired in November 2023…life is great. No debt and receiving military and corporate pensions.

  • @squidward66
    @squidward66 4 місяці тому +7

    I plan to never retire because I love working. If I die with extra money left over, it goes to my wife and kids, no problem.

    • @HolySchmidt
      @HolySchmidt  4 місяці тому

      First, I love your @name! Next sounds like a good place to be

  • @anniesshenanigans3815
    @anniesshenanigans3815 4 місяці тому +2

    Thanks for the great video, and story. I started a physical budget in 2017. And in months that I slacked off, I always overspent. People do not realize how much they 'overspend' on a daily/weekly basis without a budget. I have not had a car payment or CC balance in 5 years.

  • @cuz129
    @cuz129 4 місяці тому +1

    So true, never once failed to pay off the entire balance on my credit cards every month. Paid off the house early. Paid cash for used or new cars every time. Retired at 60 with no debt. Loving retirement because I followed the same advice you give.

  • @nickpavia9021
    @nickpavia9021 4 місяці тому +4

    At first I thought this video was going to be about the personality traits of people who love their job so much they can never bring themselves to retire.

    • @DrSchor
      @DrSchor 4 місяці тому

      and what do you think now

  • @bukki07
    @bukki07 4 місяці тому +228

    I'm a 50 year old doctor feeling burnt out from long hours and stress. Never invested before, cos the stock market seems to eventually crash, however I'm curious, I have $ 250k to invest over 4-5 yrs before retirement, what would be my safest picks to grow a $ 1m portfolio?

    • @arlenehill4ril
      @arlenehill4ril 4 місяці тому +7

      Agreed, many people discredit the use of advisors when planning for retirement until it's too late. Thankfully, for 5 yrs now, I’ve had a licensed advisor steadily restructuring my portfolio from quite a lump sum invested to about 10% shy of my 7figure goal as of today.

    • @fromthebirchwood
      @fromthebirchwood 4 місяці тому +1

      ambitious! mind sharing info of this person guiding you please? truly appreciate the implementation of ideas and strategies that result to unmeasurable progress, thus the search for a reputable advisor

    • @arlenehill4ril
      @arlenehill4ril 4 місяці тому +2

      I take guidance from ''Karen Lynne Chess'' a renowned figure in her industry with over two decades of experience. I'd suggest you research her further on the web.

    • @austingwatson
      @austingwatson 4 місяці тому +14

      nothing much you can do with that little money and that short of a timeline. keep working till you are 65.

    • @locusCeruleus
      @locusCeruleus 4 місяці тому +1

      Physical Gold and silver at least 20%, that will cushion any market downturn, hold in your hand no counter party risk

  • @Partysize2
    @Partysize2 4 місяці тому

    You really nailed it. Poor money management and discipline is one of the biggest failures too many people live to regret. You didn't skip any of the factors that need attention. Good info.

  • @KarenBradford-rl2oo
    @KarenBradford-rl2oo 4 місяці тому +3

    I'm pushing 80 and I figured all this out at 18 years of age! Carelessness is one example of stupidity.

    • @DrSchor
      @DrSchor 4 місяці тому +2

      you figured it ALL out? impressive. what is the rest of what you figured?

    • @KarenBradford-rl2oo
      @KarenBradford-rl2oo 4 місяці тому +3

      @@DrSchor Living in extreme poverty gave me the opportunity for quiet thinking without distraction. Working for a wage is the equivalent to giving your life away, regardless of how much you earn. Your life is finite but money is endless therefore your time is the most precious thing you possess. Spending more money than necessary for survival is giving away the moments of your life you worked to earn your money. I vowed two things, never give the IRS a dime more than required, and design my own life. There's much more but this was the foundation from which I made decisions that allowed me to fulfill my dreams and goals. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share.

    • @turtleanton6539
      @turtleanton6539 4 місяці тому

      ​@@KarenBradford-rl2ooyes

  • @oleradiodudea.m.4735
    @oleradiodudea.m.4735 4 місяці тому +3

    Any man who that has been saddled with a burden commonly as child support is sunk. The child support awards these days are excessive, punitive, unrealistic for the victim payer and crippling. For the recipient they are TAX FREE and rise in many states automatically with cost of living increases, even if the payer is not making more money. The payer victims cannot get a tax deduction for these punitive payments and they are often taxed at the rate of a single person.

    • @turtleanton6539
      @turtleanton6539 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes just dont get kids

    • @oleradiodudea.m.4735
      @oleradiodudea.m.4735 4 місяці тому +1

      @@turtleanton6539 That's right. Even though kids need both parents often times the Dad "just doesn't get the kids" because the Mom blocks visitation by using the kids as pawns. Very sad. And then they wonder this country is screwed up.

  • @c8086o
    @c8086o 4 місяці тому +8

    I saw a meme the other day that said “why you should never retire” the picture was a cemetery.
    My father had a fairly active job and a pretty good attitude. He’s 19 years older than my mother and few people realized he was even older than her. He lost his job when his cousin sold off the business when my dad was 65. He had no retirement. Within a couple years of being unemployed my father aged rapidly both physically and mentally declining. He went back to work eventually, but it was too late. He had aged 10 years in what seemed like overnight.
    He’s 88 now and the Covid vaccine had its way with him, losing most of his vision, not being able to do virtually anything on his own and being stuck on one floor of the house.
    The value of health is one important lesson he taught me by accident.

    • @Hypnotically_Caucasian
      @Hypnotically_Caucasian 4 місяці тому +1

      "When a man stops working, in a way he dies."
      I was medically retired from the military after a spinal injury. Although I can't move as easily (I limp very bad) I've been getting back into making artwork and computer repair. Our economy sucks right now though.

  • @offshorequest
    @offshorequest 4 місяці тому +1

    I agree with everything....except about carrying a mortgage into retirement. We bought this home right as we were ready to retire (12 years ) with an interest rate of 2.89%. Once we purchased and remodeled the new home we sold our existing home and netted enough to pay off the new mortgage but decided not to.With safe investments I have been earning slightly less than 6% in recent years and never below 5% and would have had more "stress" knowing that I had "left money on the table". I do have an extensive financial background so that might give me an advantage.

  • @keeping.it.simple.77
    @keeping.it.simple.77 2 місяці тому

    Useful video. Inspirational advice. Thank you.

  • @dwightwhite6738
    @dwightwhite6738 4 місяці тому +2

    I just read an article on the 15 things retired people miss at work. My answers: No, not so much, No way, nope, never, very little, not so much and 8 no ways. Life is good Never waste a day having a bad day

  • @maddkatter7948
    @maddkatter7948 4 місяці тому +4

    Im retired at 58. Construction worker. 😅

  • @scottchamberlain5594
    @scottchamberlain5594 3 місяці тому

    I'm now 70. People always told me to do without so I'd be comfortable now. At my age, I COULDN'T do the things I did then. And I've had a wonderful life. So, I work. Life goes on.

  • @henrycarlson7514
    @henrycarlson7514 4 місяці тому

    So Wise , Thank You . Remember to conster ALL of the costs.

  • @MelissaHobbs-qm8wi
    @MelissaHobbs-qm8wi 4 місяці тому +2

    Retirement planning can be quite overwhelming, especially when it comes to choosing the right investment options.

    • @foolish4bulls
      @foolish4bulls 4 місяці тому

      Focus on gaining income (dividends) to generate cash flow from your self directed IRA. There are plenty of decent options including treasuries right now. Leave your principal alone and just tap into the dividends when you need cash beyond your social security, any pensions or annuities. It’s very important to have a budget. Monitor every $ spent. It’s not as difficult as it sounds. Tune out the commercial advisors. Get a good CFP if you don’t understand investing or get educated and do it yourself. Make wise choices regarding Medicare and live within your means.

  • @tedfisk1211
    @tedfisk1211 3 місяці тому

    knowing your monthly bills as well as annual bills such as insurance and taxes is a very good thing and lets us sleep without issue. paid off house and cars is wonderful.

  • @tomj528
    @tomj528 4 місяці тому +4

    To be fair, many advisors advocate not looking at your investments so you're not tempted to make short term decisions. I also don't like budgets, they're miserable and are nothing more that a rough plan as you can't predict exactly what may come up. I prefer just spending as little as possible by finding better alternatives as it creates the maximum savings and it's a lot of fun too. For instances, someone was complaining to me recently about how they wanted to buy a 1.55oz Hershey bar at a convenience store but it was $4, although they still bought it. I know that the best price at the grocery store is $1.29 which is quite a savings. However, I buy semi-sweet chocolate chips when they're on sale for $1.99 and a 1.5oz serving is only 25 cents. Lately I prefer having 1oz which is just 17 cents and still enough to satisfy since they have almost 4 times the cacao of a Hershey bar and taste far better. The really funny part is that the cost of the 1oz chocolate chips is actually less than the sales tax alone on the $4 convenience store candy bar. The bonus is that I can enjoy chocolate while saving money, calories, carbs and with the chocolate chips and Dutch processed cocoa powder I can make anything chocolate. Now imagine doing this with everything.

    • @davidpowell3347
      @davidpowell3347 4 місяці тому

      Some of the semi sweet baking chocolate tastes better to me and seems of higher quality than the common brands candy bar chocolate. Not sure but I don't know if the famous brand chocolate bar is still made at Hershey Pennsylvania.

    • @tomj528
      @tomj528 4 місяці тому

      @@davidpowell3347 As I recall a Hershey bar has 11% cacao and semi-sweet chocolate chips have 40% cacao, so quite a bit higher in quality.

  • @daveclark6324
    @daveclark6324 4 місяці тому +8

    I'm sure going through that house sale issue with your neighbor was annoying! I was getting annoyed for you during that story 😆 Thanks for the great tips 👍

    • @BadWolf762
      @BadWolf762 4 місяці тому +2

      The good thing was that they were not going to be neighbors for long.

    • @stevebc957
      @stevebc957 4 місяці тому +2

      From hassle-free to hardball almost overnight - so glad this blew up in your neighbors' faces. I'm sure they watched some YT videos on how to negotiate and figured they had the upper hand. Jeff is a soft-spoken guy so sometimes that's interpreted as weakness - but clearly that's not the case. 😆

  • @MarkJohnson-ht8wd
    @MarkJohnson-ht8wd 4 місяці тому +1

    I'm still working at part time. Friendly people at work and I get paid. Rewarding work in a hospital and it's interesting too.

  • @seminolefantodd4736
    @seminolefantodd4736 4 місяці тому +3

    My credit card company sent a letter stating they were to "audit" my account because I was not using the entire credit limit and wishing to reduce it. I had to phone to "opt out" of the audit keeping my limit. I have a suspicion my CC company does not like me as I pay off what is owed every month AND take advantage of the cash back to reduce the payment required. I guess in a sense I am not their "most wanted" customer because they lose money with me. Oh well, my only long term debt is my mortgage and I intend to keep it that way.

    • @TheBigdog868
      @TheBigdog868 4 місяці тому

      When they start playing games like that, I recommend shopping for a new card. You will be canceled soon, not that it matters. Plenty of options out there!

  • @1aikane
    @1aikane 4 місяці тому +4

    American politicians never retire 🙄

  • @tinalewis6782
    @tinalewis6782 4 місяці тому

    Wow! I’m so glad I workout. I want to maintain my good health for as long as I can.

  • @dbs555
    @dbs555 4 місяці тому +2

    So what about those of us cleaned out by the ex-wife?
    She got everything plus eight years of alimony, leaving just enough to live on

    • @locusCeruleus
      @locusCeruleus 4 місяці тому +3

      Enjoy your freedom! No money is worth living with a miserable person, praise God

  • @Reed-2big
    @Reed-2big 4 місяці тому

    We just replaced our 2002 minivan with a new minivan. We spent a long time figuring out which of the 2-3 vehicles that still had spare tires, had the fewest annoyances. Not sure buying a few years older would have worked, it certainly wouldn’t have been calming!

  • @mikeconner7682
    @mikeconner7682 4 місяці тому +4

    Great video Geoff
    Did you ever find out why they asked so much for the reserve on the septic system?

    • @HolySchmidt
      @HolySchmidt  4 місяці тому +3

      It was a weird one since the buyer is the one who puts the deposit in escrow. My guess is they thought that we were out of options so would capitulate.

  • @Omikoshi78
    @Omikoshi78 4 місяці тому +1

    Youve perfectly described my 75 year old mom

  • @jimmyamico4713
    @jimmyamico4713 4 місяці тому +3

    Excellent video Geoff ❤

  • @markdavis8888
    @markdavis8888 21 день тому

    I only check my TSP account when the market is up and I am never disappointed.

  • @thomaschew2191
    @thomaschew2191 4 місяці тому +3

    I know that there are some individuals and couples that have enough retirement income to begin their retirement with consumer debt and a mortgage. But I don't understand the thinking that just because your income is enough to pay your expenses and debt payments that it is a good idea to retire before all that debt is gone. For the average Joe I don't see how they can enjoy themselves with the stress of debt. In speaking with a friend, we touched on the issue of how much is needed in retirement investments to have enough money not to worry. When I mentioned that if you use the popular 4% rule and have one million dollars saved, that will allow you an annual withdraw of $40K. That is not rich. So, then the discussion moves to "well I cannot ever have one million in savings so I might as well be broke and have fun while I can." There seems to be no shame in being broke in our old age.

    • @jimfarmer7811
      @jimfarmer7811 4 місяці тому +1

      My uncle died in poverty in a Medicaid nursing home covered in his own filth. I wouldn't wish his last years of life on my worst enemy.

  • @Reed-2big
    @Reed-2big 4 місяці тому

    We managed to get our wants so much in line with our budget that I can’t tell you how much we will spend this month, but I can guarantee, we won’t be overspending. Last month we overspent by the cost of a car, that we’d planned and search for for about 3 years!

  • @dforrest4503
    @dforrest4503 4 місяці тому +2

    That neighbor - wow. I honestly don’t think I would have trusted them after the lowball 85% offer. People like that are not worth the time.

  • @nonnieofsix7107
    @nonnieofsix7107 4 місяці тому +1

    My biggest concern is healthcare and/or extended care.

  • @TheTaytay198
    @TheTaytay198 4 місяці тому +1

    Your work is appreciated. Thank you

  • @jeffl7852
    @jeffl7852 4 місяці тому

    Riveting story. It will aid in our upcoming sale-offer of our home. Thank you {HS} for reasonable information. A solid show for sure.

  • @nancykurtz7333
    @nancykurtz7333 4 місяці тому +4

    Acquaintances I know who can’t retire, never planned for a retirement. They had a lot of fun throughout the years…

  • @lynnew6959
    @lynnew6959 4 місяці тому

    Great video. Totally important to watch those numbers on a regular basis. I couldn’t imagine not tracking my retirement funds!

  • @richardlincoln886
    @richardlincoln886 4 місяці тому +1

    Simple straightforward finances vs. Nickel and diming (is that the right American expression) has a lot to be said for it, retired or not.

  • @PInk77W1
    @PInk77W1 4 місяці тому +1

    2018 I was 56.
    I made $2300 a month take home
    I had $11k cc debt
    I was Paying $400 rent
    I had no savings. I was horrible.
    2024 I am 62.
    I make $4200 a month take home (pension)
    I have $0 debt at all
    I have home paid off.
    I have $60k in savings

  • @kathys1285
    @kathys1285 4 місяці тому +2

    Me and my husband are retiring in ten years he has a two pensions coming to him one is a state pension 😊 I too have a pension coming so with our three pensions NO credit card debt no car payments no children we will retire relaxed freedom no worries 😌 I can’t wait 😊

  • @kennethreynolds8
    @kennethreynolds8 4 місяці тому

    Excellent vid, I'm months away from retiring no mortgage and only a small payment on a small car which I intend to pay off asap.

  • @scabbymonkey1928
    @scabbymonkey1928 4 місяці тому

    Ive worked two full time jobs for the last 20yrs. Married for 20yrs as she did the finances and not only did we have no savings or 401K, but she was 20K in CC debt. 20K in back taxes. I took me the last 7yrs to pay off that debt, pay off a new jeep and save enough for retirement. The trick is to be single. Thats the trick. I can help out my kids with free rent and i still have more than enough for a great retirement.

  • @owen33333
    @owen33333 4 місяці тому +1

    Having an adult kid (mid 40's) that is a complete failure will mess up your retirement financial plan! (I know)

  • @Markevans36301
    @Markevans36301 4 місяці тому +1

    I'm not intuitive about money so something that has helped me with debt is to divide out the principle and the interest on any debt I don't pay in full. It makes me pay attention to the interest. Owe a $1000? I'll pay $200 principle and then add the interest.

  • @darkstar8827
    @darkstar8827 4 місяці тому +1

    I never expected to live to retirement, as all my friends had passed away before then. All of asudden, I'm 55 years old ! YIKES!! What to do? I found a financial advisor who told me to get rid of ALL my debt, BEFORE I would retire. I had enough time to do that and I paid off all debts. I lost my job at 62 years old, do to the economy.. There aren't many jobs available to senior citizens. Then, my apartment rent went up and other expenses as well. I wanted some security in this retirement time, and the Veterans Admin offered me a 2.6 % home loan!! Minimum down and a few closing costs. ($1500) I'm now 76 years old, living in my own home, and paying the few bills I have with my Social Security and VA checks.!😄

  • @joycejackson9315
    @joycejackson9315 4 місяці тому +2

    Sometimes, it's not an option to keep driving when you are retired. It's cheaper to take mass transit in the city. And the OATS bus in Rural America . Of course, car pooling is also an option .

  • @scrambaba
    @scrambaba 4 місяці тому +1

    I would have told the neighbour to get lost as soon as they started to show their true colours. Life’s too short for that nonsense.

  • @Lousybarber
    @Lousybarber 4 місяці тому

    Being involved in a broken marriage can be a retirement killer. We raised two children to adulthood. Fortunately the marriage did not fail and the kids know how to manage their finances. Looking back I realize how lucky I was. I know a number of guys that fell into a financial black hole due to divorce and child support. Also I am glad I do not have grandkids and probably never will. I have a sister that has three grandkids living with her because her daughter is an airhead.

  • @punisher6659
    @punisher6659 4 місяці тому +2

    Great content.

  • @richardb.7054
    @richardb.7054 4 місяці тому +6

    There's an old saying. Money talks, B.S. walks.😊

  • @ryanwilliams989
    @ryanwilliams989 4 місяці тому +4

    My original retirement plan was to retire at 62, work part-time, and save money. However, high prices for everything have severely affected my plan. I'm concerned if people who went through the 2008 financial crisis had an easier time than I am having now. The stock market is worrying me as my income has decreased, and I fear I won't have enough savings for retirement since I can't contribute as much as before.

    • @BiancaSherly-qt6sb
      @BiancaSherly-qt6sb 4 місяці тому +2

      It's recommended to save at least 20% of your income in a 401k. You can use online calculators to estimate how much you should save based on your age and income. Saving at least 20% of your income in a 401(k) can help ensure that you have enough money to retire comfortably. By saving this much, you can take advantage of investing in the stock market and potentially grow your retirement savings over time.

    • @maryHenokNft
      @maryHenokNft 4 місяці тому +2

      I've been in touch with a financial advisor ever since I started my business. Knowing today's culture The challenge is knowing when to purchase or sell when investing in trending stocks, which is pretty simple. On my portfolio, which has grown over $900k in a little over a year, my adviser chooses entry and exit orders.

    • @maggysterling33254
      @maggysterling33254 4 місяці тому +1

      @@maryHenokNftKudos on the effective execution of innovative ideas and tactics that lead to significant advancement. As I seek guidance from a trustworthy advisor, would you be willing to share details about the individual assisting you?

    • @TheresaAnderson-kf5xw
      @TheresaAnderson-kf5xw 4 місяці тому

      Thanks for sharing, I just looked her up on the web and I would say she really has an impressive background in investing. I will write her an e-mail shortly.

    • @Steve-gx9ot
      @Steve-gx9ot 4 місяці тому

      Same boat as you but working less year by year. = "Trial retirement" and keep options open

  • @De-Centralized
    @De-Centralized 4 місяці тому +17

    Financial Literacy should be taught in highschool. But it's not. Ever wonder why...

    • @ScooterOnHisWay2024
      @ScooterOnHisWay2024 4 місяці тому +2

      The government prefers the population to be in debt. Desperate people tend to follow orders when given.

    • @duneme
      @duneme 4 місяці тому +1

      Teach Compounding!
      To me that is huge!

    • @pam5006
      @pam5006 4 місяці тому

      Financial literacy and other things like reading, math and writing literacy should be handed down from a parent. Can’t blame the government and school system for everything. I worked in the high school system and unfortunately the children didn’t behave, so they didn’t learn. My parents (may they rest in peace) taught me lots of things about money. Saving it, understanding the value of a dollar, where it could get the best interest, how to write a check, balancing a checkbook and other necessary things one needs to learn to survive. Hard for me to understand the “young people” taking selfies all the time and looking at their phone and not engaging in normal social behavior. I’m just old school.

  • @pagosabob10
    @pagosabob10 4 місяці тому +1

    Good reminders Geoff!

  • @jamesp.7496
    @jamesp.7496 4 місяці тому

    WOW that’s was a lot of content for one video….i can’t even comment until I soak this all in. 🌵❤️

  • @ModrnDayMonk
    @ModrnDayMonk 4 місяці тому

    I congratulate you on your ethical standards 🙂👍.

  • @duaneulman9915
    @duaneulman9915 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for video you and Dave both are a big help.

  • @royrogers2146
    @royrogers2146 4 місяці тому +3

    Good presentation. 👍

  • @FDR_progressive_liberal
    @FDR_progressive_liberal 4 місяці тому

    I always have a budget laid out for the month. I had a friend who didn't. He just whipped out some plastic to buy whatever frivolous item he just had to have that month. He bought boats and exercise machines for a bundle and then sold them 6 months later at a 60% loss. He and his wife had 7 credit cards between them, all maxed out. Needless to say he went into bankruptcy. Never did change his ways though.

  • @bob_frazier
    @bob_frazier 4 місяці тому

    We went camping the first week our home was listed. So we did not respond to the first offer we quickly got. It allowed us time to get some other offers in before responding. Works!

  • @cookielover1018TM
    @cookielover1018TM 4 місяці тому

    Self-employed people like myself don't see retirement because I like what I do and will supplement my social security when at retirement age. Most people I know that retire at 62 are usually school related jobs , Gov't and Corporation work, but after a few years they are working part-time or find something to do like mowing lawns. I do get over 3 months off during the year that it plenty of time off each year. Retirement sounds like death to me.

  • @NathanTill11
    @NathanTill11 3 дні тому +2

    Most Americans find it hard to retire comfortably amid economy downtrend. Some have close to nothing going into retirement, my question is, will you pay off mortgage as a near-retiree, or spread money for cashflow, to afford lifestyle after retirement?

    • @tmer831
      @tmer831 3 дні тому +1

      as most investing-related questions, the answer is, it depends.. my best suggestion is to consider advisory management

    • @DonaldStokes-p
      @DonaldStokes-p 3 дні тому +1

      Agreed, the role of advisors can only be overlooked, but not denied. I remember in early 2020, during covid-outbreak, my portfolio worth around 300k took a slight fall, apparently due to the pandemic crash, at once I consulted an advisor in order to avoid panic-selling. As of today, my account has yielded big fat yields, and leverages on 7-figure, only cos I delegate my excesses right.

    • @SeanTalkoff
      @SeanTalkoff 3 дні тому +1

      pls how can I reach this expert, I need someone to help me manage my portfolio

    • @DonaldStokes-p
      @DonaldStokes-p 3 дні тому

      'Sharon Ann Meny' is the licensed advisor I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment

    • @SeanTalkoff
      @SeanTalkoff 3 дні тому

      Thanks, i did a quick web search and i found Sharon, i hope she responds to my mail.

  • @andydogdixon1
    @andydogdixon1 4 місяці тому

    I’ve done a lot of traveling since my high school days and I’m 66 years old now and still love to travel but I recently received a diagnosis of early dementia. So, I need to get busy and do what I can now. I live in Charlotte North Carolina, and I’m having the urge to hop on plane from Charlotte to Paris.

  • @gregblair5139
    @gregblair5139 4 місяці тому

    I got $2000 off the purchase price of my car by agreeing to take a car loan with a ridiculously high interest rate (I was planning to pay cash). The dealer told me to take the loan and pay it off immediately. That was very good advice as I got the money off and still got the $2000 of the purchase price.

  • @XM394-xxx
    @XM394-xxx 4 місяці тому

    I retired at 40, went back to work at 41, leaving my job at 42

  • @duneme
    @duneme 4 місяці тому +2

    I must admit, I’m financing a car right now!
    Ford had 0% for 3years Financing offered!
    They really suckered me in with that 0%!

    • @pam5006
      @pam5006 4 місяці тому

      I don’t think so. I have a .9% on a new car (the first new car we ever had in 35 years) we have had used cars always and we wanted one that wasn’t going to need repairs all the time. If you have the money set aside for this purchase then don’t worry. Unfortunately, surprises come up and you might need a little extra cash to handle that.

    • @lauraarnold8117
      @lauraarnold8117 4 місяці тому +1

      I bought a low mileage used car. 10K down. Paid it off in a year. Made me happy.

  • @solutions553
    @solutions553 4 місяці тому +6

    Bizz-ness with friends, relatives, neighbors can be regrettable...just stick to contact my rep...he negotiates..sad u had to go thru that..wont miss that neighbor now...