@ I think men are the only ones who don’t know this or are surprised by this. ALL women know this. We have been through something similar or know someone who has.
Exactly. I don't trust any of them. Then you got the good ones taking up for the terrible ones, not knowing that they look just as bad as the bad men 🤷🏾♀️
@@yasminfrancis9069 no..men know..my dad and brothers were thee FIRST people to tell me how men are..if they dont know how men are..how come they wont let their sisters date ANY of their FRIENDS?
"Women have to take accountability" isn't a complete sentence. The rest of it is "for our behavior." That's the silent part. They don't say it outright, but they still say it every time they bring it up.
@MDjeliEl exactly, but that's not the type of accountability they want from us. We have to deal with them, and take on their accountability for them to have even a drop of happiness.
Honestly, since I stopped dating my confidence and love for myself has become so strong. They tell me I'm alone with cats, Big Shirley or unattractive. My response is: whatever keeps you away from me works for me lol
*Gossip* : the church labelled women talking to each other gossip, making it a sin, as they realized women talking to each other would make women realize that things happening to them were not isolated events, but systemic. They feared women learning this will cause them to organize and push back.
Any transgressions or crimes committed against women, men blame them. But when the same things happen to men, all hell rains down on the perpetrator . Double standard all the time.
To be deceived is not a character flaw. To deceive and betray -- these are marks of poor lack of character, lack of character. We aren't looking for $, abs, & tall, we are looking for good character.
When we call them out on their bullshit, THAT'S when we are disturbing their "Peace", if you want to be their peace, let them do whatever the hell want 😅
I am from the twin island federation of St. Kitts and Nevis (in the Caribbean). And my mom told me years ago about a man who told his girlfriend that he was going over to Nevis (they lived in St. Kitts) for a wedding. He asked her to iron his suit for him. Spent the night with her then went to Nevis. During that day she got a call from someone to tell her he was in Nevis getting married. HE ASKED HER TO IRON THE SUIT HE WAS GETTING MARRIED IN! You have to HATE someone to do something like that to them. Pure evil.
Nobody can vet a liar. Expecting women to do something no human alive can do is nasty work. This is the other side of the "when someone tells you who they are, believe them" coin. If they lied to you the whole time, then what?
That means like most people you have left out the best and last part of Maya Angelou's famous but almost always butchered quote. ' if someone shows you their face, BELIEVE THEM THE FIRST TIME'
Usually, when we actually do believe them the first time, we got to hit the door. In this instance, imagine how far the dating would go and how many we actually got to get rid of.
@DeannaBaileytheRavensFan I have been single for 6 years. Most men since my last release (which is actually extremely similar to this story) haven't even gotten to a 3rd date without me finding at least 1 red flag that makes me decide not to proceed. At this point, I find myself having to lecture them on how bad they are and who would deal with them???
It's a rigged game. If a woman is open, has no defenses, gives the man the benefit of the doubt, takes this almighty "accountability" (a word these clowns throw around, but don't know the meaning of or probably even how to spell) for the terrible thing a man did or tried to do to her, then she "should have chosen better". OTOH, if a woman has walls around her, doesn't give second chances, does background checks, leaves at the first sign of trouble? She's cold, she's paranoid, she's bitter and unlovable and will end up alone ... And nowhere in all this, are the man's actions held up to NEARLY as much scrutiny. Shameful.
Police want 😂]me[whoops to mentally be assessed - agaaaain (without letting me know 1st) and then when the wicked old (devil) man blocks my way agaaaaain holding keys in his hand agaaaaaain and I tell the creature to move and call him a POS they want to arrest me. Shameful? Yes!
Go to the police station and ask about their criminal history Someone was married to a man for 20 years. Didn't know he had multiple dv arrest with other women He had his record sealed and expunged Was arrested in different names. Who has time to play private detective. These men who are also this diabolical are 9/10 mediocre men anyways.
I don't understand why any man would go through all that to have a woman on the side. It sounds like a mental problem. No one should have to vet someone that much.
Same thing happened to me in 2007. I simply sent his wife the texts he’d sent me, apologized to her, explained that he was too good at this for me to be the only one, and blocked him. That’s when I started running background checks on males.
Happened to me 10 years after you. The wife contacted me. I broke up with him and blocked him too. He found new and interesting ways to contact me. It was scary for 2 years following.
I have never been able to understand how a man cannot know he was married. I have found myself dating a man who was married and a man who was in a "committed" relationship. I immediately tapped out. These days a woman has a major investment to investigate a man to determine if he is dateable. It isn't worth it. These games make the 4B movement a great idea. 4B is women tapping out.
If women vet and the guy hides stuff it’s her fault, but if she refuses to let her guard down she’ll be accused of bringing “baggage” into the relationship. Bottom line, men just make up whatever BS helps them get what they want and/or avoid taking responsibility.
You're right cause I'm thinking the same SHE'S STILL ALIVE. I'm from South Africa and years back, 2020 I think, this guy hired someone to kill his eight months pregnant girlfriend because he was married to a rich girl and didn't want to lose his standing with the family, the guy he hired stabbed this girl multiple time and hanged her on a tree in the bushes, that how she was found, So I'm with you on how low my expectations of such men are
A common claim men make is that they are "separated" which really means they are very much married. Anymore, I just assume a man is lying about everything he claims to be.
Also, I have a background in skip trace, and the stories I could tell. I found out an ex was married in Nigeria and in the USA. I found my baby father's family in the USA, and learned his real name wasn't what he told me (this was 18 yrs ago). Some were married men, had hidden children and criminal charges. Truthfully, the saddest was me finding out this guy I was talking to abused a child so badly that the child passed away in 1997. Thankfully I stopped dating him much sooner than I found out. RIP to Baby Maliek WIllie xo
How was my mother to be accountable for my father being married? She wouldn't be and he punished her by being an absent parent to me. My mother got blamed for not using better discernment. I get blamed for being estranged.
The folks who say "she should have run a background check" (which cost real money) are probably also the people who would condemn her for not trusting the man because thats disrespectful or whatever. The upshot is men hate women and there is nothing a woman can do that is right. Submissive? She's assaulted and should have chosen better or what did she do to make him hit her? And he'll have a woman on the side or will leave her, probably with kids and no viable means of support.
And then will talk about women's intuition and discernment as though it's some woo-woo nonsense or paranoia. While still expecting women to always make the right choice
@@dblr4931 You’ve reminded me of a book I used to have. It was called “How to Spot a Bastard by his Star Sign”. It’s hilarious! However, you are right. They hate anything that informs women about their behaviors and antics. And, usually there’s a layer of hypocrisy served up too.
It’s a relief to hear a man say “I’m relieved to hear that she and the baby are ok”. Honestly, her confronting her cheating boyfriend/fiancé would be a dangerous thing to do
It's stupid for men to ask women to take accountability because women also suffer from the actions of men as well. No one wants to bring up women who suffered both physically and emotionally throughout their relationships with men despite being everything that he wants and needs in a woman because to acknowledge that would mean acknowledging the persistent resistance of holding men accountable for their actions. "He cheated? She must've done something to deserve it", "He's abusive? She should choose better". "He wants to be single? Oh is cause women this and women that". Men's definition of women taking accountability is when women suffer regardless of the situation and just shut the hell up about it.
I gave up on dating, too many lies & too much deception. It takes too much energy & it's JUST NOT WORTH IT! I've got my needs covered so it just doesn't make sense to deal with it.
A former friend was seeing someone for quite a while and was distraught that he would find every excuse to not commit. I told her something was up and he had another life. Of course she did not listen to me and judged me for my situation, which I always owned up to and admitted it was terrible. She even went on a short lived talk show about her situation. Well our friendship slowed down but we always talked every now and then. In our mid 30s she finally admitted to me why they were just friends now. Not only did dude get married and divorced while dealing with my friend but he also had two kids that were preteens. They were seeing each other since we were in college. She found out because he was updating his life insurance policy and she saw the paperwork.
“Mirror mirror on the wall, please tell me if god exists or not!” “That’s way too complicated can you change the question?” “OK then tell me if David has lied to me.” “…ugh, What’s your first question again?”
What did we learn? We learned that we live in a world where you can’t take people at face value. We learned that people who want to deceive you put in a lot of time and effort to do so. We learned that just because things look and feel good doesn’t mean that they actually are. And we learned that crazy can look completely normal. And we learned that your life can be irreversibly altered with a few wrong decisions. #WEST4B But think about it. Doesn’t this reflect the society we live in? Look who was just voted into office? Many of the people who voted for him thought he was going to do things that he blatantly lied about. A felon. If the president is this grimy, what do you think the rest of the society is like? IJS The hatred that he spewed openly. The obvious election interference. Article 3 of the 14th amendment that says an insurrectionist isn’t eligible to hold office, and yet … In the meantime, absolute chaos, confusion, incompetence, violence, hatred, people who want to see other people suffer. The media normalizes, downplays, or outright ignores atrocities committed by one people, while demonizing others. This is a microcosm of the macrocosm we live in. I know you didn’t ask me all of that. IJS 😂
It's actually not your responsibility. "At what point did I say you? YOU are the one who associated yourself and men in general with what I said, I DID NOT. I did not ask for an explanation. What you're doing right now is learned patriarchy, sit the fuck down."
After the events of last year, with the Pelicot case, the 70kman rape chat group, and the men signing up for marathon filmed sex with OF models... It really is all men, until it isn't. They have no rebuttal.
A particular exception does not make a general truth any less true. Men are generally taller than women. Sure basketball star Caitlin Clark is taller than boxing great Floyd Mayweather. Sure Taylor Swift is taller than Bruno Mars. But it's still a FACT that men are GENERALLY taller than women. A general truth doesn't have to be true 100%. It just has to be true enough that only a fool or a liar would deny that general truth.
Diabolical and reckless af. If that pregnant girl wanted to, after she had the baby, she could take the man to court for child support, and now the his new wife would be on the hook too. Hopefully the fiancé found out before the wedding and broke up with him, or she got an annulment.
Watching your content has really opened my eyes. I've been married for 24 years to an exceptionally good man, and I've often thought that if anything ever happened to him, I'd be done with dating. Seeing what's out there has reinforced that opinion a thousandfold.
I hate when ppl keep saying oh u should vet ppl. I live in Europe. It's hard to stalk ppl online. And why should I have to stalk ppl online to make sure they're not lying and fabricating things
I remember randomly being at someone's house in the complex i grew up. I saw a picture of their mom and a man. I knew the man in the picture so i asked how her mom new him. She said that was her mom's boyfriend. I said, that's my best friends boyfriend and she was pregnant at the time. I felt terrible to have to call my pregnant best friend and tell her this 😢
Very valid points and I'm only at 7mins. The manosphere bros cry about wanting innocent and un-jaded women, but then laugh at women for choosing the wrong man.
They do! Remember that dude who was trickin’ off w/ his wife’s money?? Got the car repo’d and everything! She had him dead to rights and he was still trying to lie and weasel his way out of it!🤦🏾♀️
This. My male partner told me last night if I do a 'thing' I'm being petty and difficult. I'll be doing something a male is actually doing and he excuses that behaviour because 'he probably doesn't know' Yet when I backed down from a male bully, he called me a coward. So if I stand up for myself I'm wrong and if I don't I'm wrong. Ladies, stay single!
@@trippinggauntlet4520Exactly. this is why I have come to the conclusion that the double standards exist solely to protect men in general from their inability to ever be fair to anyone. the only men i have any love for at this point are the ones who genuienly and regularly call out mens bs. At this point its necessary for them to take sides clearly and completely.
Had an Asian guy who specifically went after Black girls like me because, according to one of his associates, he thought we were easy. I was 17 at the time, and he was in college sooo. He broke up with me as soon as I cottoned onto his nonsense. Fast forward to me being 22, and he still tried to get back with me while going out with another Black girl. Like these dudes ONLY have the audacity. Now we gotta do background checks on these dudes like we're hiring them for the secret service. FOH
These are the say people that say if women have to follow him to see where he’s going etc, if she has to sneak and look in his phone then she shouldn’t be with him or chose wrong. Ladies can’t win! Getting background checks and helicopter around looking for evidence means you’re crazy and when you don’t and he ends up being a liar then you’re stupid or a home wrecker. Anything to shame women so they can get a chance to be the next lying man and hopefully they can get away with it too.
I found out an ex was married because my sister found photos from his wedding at her in laws house. He was married to one of their cousins. She immediately called us both on three way and blew up his spot. Small world. Evil lurks.
I love this channel. You do us so much justice and I express so much gratitude. You rock young man.I been single and celibate for 4+ years. I love being single not having to worry about another grown person. I love my peace, calmness and being one with my inner self.
Why do I have to a background check on someone who I am only dating…has dating really come down to HAVING to do a background on someone? If so, I’m good…I will remain single
My sister found out the guy she was seeing was married after she found a credit card receipt and did some investigation. Found out he was married with kids.
It's sad when everybody's probably thinking that. "At least he didn't kill her". Especially after she came to his house AND saw his mail. That was my FIRST thought.
From the ages of 16-31 I chose to be single solely for the reason of avoiding headaches!! When I met my now fiance, I told him he has to prove his presence is an improvement to my life, not a detriment. If your partner can't handle the honesty of your joy then how can they be expected to support you in harder times.
The average woman doesn’t think like this for real…I’m getting close to that where I’ve developed this ‘read between the lines’ skill which is actually low key sad. To have this radar the goes off when a man is talking is crazy 😢 the next step for me would be the online searching and investigating! Right now I go off vibes, piece the truth together from there and wait….
I experienced this twice...the first I was 16 and he was 25 married with 2 young kids. The second time i was 19 and he was 28 with a girlfriend of 1 yr. I was lucky that the wife and girlfriend didn't attack me or blame me. Well the girlfriend tried but she quickly realized that I was being truthful with her. I asked all the questions when I met these dudes, but they were pros and grown men and I was a inexperienced teenager.
The importance of women talking to each other is because of what's called a whisper Network. There's a few different types I'm not sure what they're called exactly but what she's talking about and the wedding registry video is an informal whisper Network where women can discuss with each other and warn each other about different men and keep each other safe basically
Ok, credit check by asking your sister friend to run his name through Experian: pluck a strand of hair, have him drink from a glass and then ask you sister friend who works at a hospital lab to run a DNA test, then have your sister friend who works at the FBI to run that DNA through the system. We do this for our protection. Yet they go around trying to put penicillin in our food, for their protection. Once again: I'll take the bear!!
Yup I was told it’s my fault that I was lied to and left alone. I took accountability my kids are adults. When I share my story to most they have no sympathy. I’m told I chose to be lied to and abused and since I’m in my late 40’s I have hit the wall and am now ran through and useless smh 🤦🏾♀️ 😅
If u are that suspicious men will also tell you that you are bringing old bagage into the now and that you shouldnt compare them to your exes, which you arent, you are careful because you have to...which men also tell us we have to be!! But in reality when we are, guys are always mad about it!
This. I feel like as women, some of us try to be so careful, and it's still not enough! Men still find ways to ruin us and treat us like we have no value, even when they proclaim themselves to be "one of the good ones." The sad part is that all it would take is for men to be honest, and most of these types of situations could be avoided. That's it! Just a little honesty, and that's still asking too much from them.
I dont know how I found your channel but Im so glad I did. The stuff you say is common sense but when it comes from another man, men are more likely to listen.
The comments under her video were crazy! You would think he was the victim and not the perpetrators of all of it. All of it. He made all the decisions and people are acting like she is responsible.
My FIL actively interrupts the conversations I have with my MIL. He always comes to “ask” her to do something for him or the grandkids. She could be in my house talking up a storm and he will come knock on my door and tell her she needs to come home and do xyz…. One time, I heard her yelling “I’m a grown ass woman…”on the way to get mail. I laughed all the way to the mailbox.
I don’t get what the end game is for these men. You making a second family with another woman and for what? How you got a woman 7 months pregnant and still living separate from her? Like eventually the second woman is going want to move in with you because you gave her a child and proposing to her like how does it not all end bad.
She wasn't supposed to get pregnant, but morons like that won't wear a condom either. That's how short-sighted and self-centered they are. Anything to get their dicks wet.
13:54 about the name thing, being a creature of the internet and having been stalked before, I know these red flags about having a unique name not popping up. Sometimes you need your un-fun friend to break the spell. I hate being the not-fun friend all the time.
I was going to joke “What, she needs to run background checks on everybody?” Then she said it. Unbelievable. This is why we need stories like Mouthwashing, and A Handmaid’s Tale. Psycho-horror is our reality.
It’s not all men but IT’S ALWAYS A MAN. This is my new mantra
For those who don't know - a lot of men are doing things like this 😂.
@ I think men are the only ones who don’t know this or are surprised by this. ALL women know this. We have been through something similar or know someone who has.
Exactly. I don't trust any of them. Then you got the good ones taking up for the terrible ones, not knowing that they look just as bad as the bad men 🤷🏾♀️
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@@yasminfrancis9069 no..men know..my dad and brothers were thee FIRST people to tell me how men are..if they dont know how men are..how come they wont let their sisters date ANY of their FRIENDS?
And when you question their lies we are bitter, jaded, and have baggage 🤣🤣
Don't forget hurt and crazy lol.
Then they run and try to date 17 - 18 yr old girls.
@@Southern.Nappiness and wonder why they can't detect when a man lies and blame the little, inexperienced girls for not knowing better.
He gon say he's not the men in her past 😂😂😂
Same reason why they don’t go to therapy. Can’t stand to have their view challenged or have a mirror held up
I'll never understand why most FBI agents are men, when a woman's ability to find sh!t out is unmatched
Now you know what 🤔🤔 you are 1000% correct.
Girl
It's because men know how men think.
female honey traps have been and are most effective still (secret services)
My sister is like that. She's better than the FBI and CIA put together. My sister can find all the Devil's side chicks.😂😂😭😭
"Women have to take accountability" isn't a complete sentence. The rest of it is "for our behavior."
That's the silent part. They don't say it outright, but they still say it every time they bring it up.
@@martibee8984 … and we are. #WEST4B How many times do you have to be bitten by a snake, before you stop inviting it into your house?
@MDjeliEl exactly, but that's not the type of accountability they want from us. We have to deal with them, and take on their accountability for them to have even a drop of happiness.
@ I honestly don’t care what they want from us.
@@MDjeliEl same
Honestly, since I stopped dating my confidence and love for myself has become so strong. They tell me I'm alone with cats, Big Shirley or unattractive. My response is: whatever keeps you away from me works for me lol
Good answer. Cats are man repellant.
I tell them not to threaten me with a good time😂😂❤
@ LMAO exactly sis. 🥰
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I became celibate 13 years ago. No regrets. It's all about me for once❤. Life is too short.
Accountability to men looks like women not blaming men for anything and giving men what they want.
*Gossip* : the church labelled women talking to each other gossip, making it a sin, as they realized women talking to each other would make women realize that things happening to them were not isolated events, but systemic. They feared women learning this will cause them to organize and push back.
In my experience, men gossip as much as women. But gossip is deemed a womens vice, and policed as a feminine sin.
Wow, that is deep.
The church push the concept of purity for young women so they will have tight 🐈 for the men.
& severely phuked up, right?
organized religion is designed to suppress the ambitions of women. ALL of em.
Any transgressions or crimes committed against women, men blame them. But when the same things happen to men, all hell rains down on the perpetrator . Double standard all the time.
Women should return the favor with interest.
To be deceived is not a character flaw. To deceive and betray -- these are marks of poor lack of character, lack of character. We aren't looking for $, abs, & tall, we are looking for good character.
Well said.
And they say they want peace…but they do this….very zen of them
Peace from the chaos they cause
When we call them out on their bullshit, THAT'S when we are disturbing their "Peace", if you want to be their peace, let them do whatever the hell want 😅
I am from the twin island federation of St. Kitts and Nevis (in the Caribbean). And my mom told me years ago about a man who told his girlfriend that he was going over to Nevis (they lived in St. Kitts) for a wedding. He asked her to iron his suit for him. Spent the night with her then went to Nevis. During that day she got a call from someone to tell her he was in Nevis getting married. HE ASKED HER TO IRON THE SUIT HE WAS GETTING MARRIED IN! You have to HATE someone to do something like that to them. Pure evil.
Damn. That's some next level evil shit right there.
wow😮 that’s crazy as hell.
Who has the energy to be playing inspector gadget??? If we have to do all that we might as well stay single and rested.
So true
And we are, that’s why they’re big mad.
Yes! This shit is exhausting. I'm married, but would NEVER do it again.
Girl!!! Resting well
And do! 😂
I gave up dating in 2021 and life is so much better, even when it’s hard. 💅🏽
Nobody can vet a liar. Expecting women to do something no human alive can do is nasty work. This is the other side of the "when someone tells you who they are, believe them" coin. If they lied to you the whole time, then what?
That means like most people you have left out the best and last part of Maya Angelou's famous but almost always butchered quote. ' if someone shows you their face, BELIEVE THEM THE FIRST TIME'
Usually, when we actually do believe them the first time, we got to hit the door. In this instance, imagine how far the dating would go and how many we actually got to get rid of.
@@christinewarren8134 Here's the thing. We DO believe folks the first time, and there are, unfortunately, folks who are very good at lying.
@DeannaBaileytheRavensFan I have been single for 6 years. Most men since my last release (which is actually extremely similar to this story) haven't even gotten to a 3rd date without me finding at least 1 red flag that makes me decide not to proceed. At this point, I find myself having to lecture them on how bad they are and who would deal with them???
It's a rigged game. If a woman is open, has no defenses, gives the man the benefit of the doubt, takes this almighty "accountability" (a word these clowns throw around, but don't know the meaning of or probably even how to spell) for the terrible thing a man did or tried to do to her, then she "should have chosen better". OTOH, if a woman has walls around her, doesn't give second chances, does background checks, leaves at the first sign of trouble? She's cold, she's paranoid, she's bitter and unlovable and will end up alone ... And nowhere in all this, are the man's actions held up to NEARLY as much scrutiny. Shameful.
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There is a third option. Gather dirt on him without his knowledge. Then start scamming or blackmailing him 😂
Police want 😂]me[whoops to mentally be assessed - agaaaain (without letting me know 1st) and then when the wicked old (devil) man blocks my way agaaaaain holding keys in his hand agaaaaaain and I tell the creature to move and call him a POS they want to arrest me.
Shameful?
Yes!
Go to the police station and ask about their criminal history
Someone was married to a man for 20 years. Didn't know he had multiple dv arrest with other women
He had his record sealed and expunged
Was arrested in different names.
Who has time to play private detective. These men who are also this diabolical are 9/10 mediocre men anyways.
I don't understand why any man would go through all that to have a woman on the side. It sounds like a mental problem. No one should have to vet someone that much.
That break off of the x to create a y is.
Same thing happened to me in 2007. I simply sent his wife the texts he’d sent me, apologized to her, explained that he was too good at this for me to be the only one, and blocked him. That’s when I started running background checks on males.
RUN BACKGROUND CHECK, facts, I don't trust the smiles and the looks, you can be foooled
Where can we do that?
Always!!!
Happened to me 10 years after you. The wife contacted me. I broke up with him and blocked him too. He found new and interesting ways to contact me. It was scary for 2 years following.
@@dblr4931 This happens again just start sending d pics 😂
I'm officially addicted to your channel. So much truth! I just wish MEN would watch your videos. You explain it clearly.
if he dressed more sexy they would
They don't like to hear the truth about themselves!! Men have told me outta there mouths!!
They do watch it and they crash out daily over the content 😂😂😂
Men can watch, but they STILL won't believe it
Same, i watch him and yv_edit, imani of 30 reasons why men deserve nothing, interchangeably on a daily basis
Ive already given up on men, these videos just validate my choice
This is why I'm out of the game... I'd be in jail for life after blacking out. I love my freedom too much to date.
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Yes lawd I don't have energy for anyone else but me
This part!!!!
I was 20 when I dated a married liar for 3 months. He was 19!!!!!! Who thinks to ask a 19 y/o if they're married?
I have never been able to understand how a man cannot know he was married. I have found myself dating a man who was married and a man who was in a "committed" relationship. I immediately tapped out. These days a woman has a major investment to investigate a man to determine if he is dateable. It isn't worth it. These games make the 4B movement a great idea. 4B is women tapping out.
If women vet and the guy hides stuff it’s her fault, but if she refuses to let her guard down she’ll be accused of bringing “baggage” into the relationship. Bottom line, men just make up whatever BS helps them get what they want and/or avoid taking responsibility.
If a woman did that,men would say she shouldve been honest. We can never win.
You're right cause I'm thinking the same SHE'S STILL ALIVE. I'm from South Africa and years back, 2020 I think, this guy hired someone to kill his eight months pregnant girlfriend because he was married to a rich girl and didn't want to lose his standing with the family, the guy he hired stabbed this girl multiple time and hanged her on a tree in the bushes, that how she was found, So I'm with you on how low my expectations of such men are
That's absolutely terrifying.. that poor woman. 💔
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This is why women pick the bear… At least the bear is honest about what it is.
A common claim men make is that they are "separated" which really means they are very much married. Anymore, I just assume a man is lying about everything he claims to be.
The married guy I unfortunately got bamboozled by said he was single. That turned out to be a lie.
Also, I have a background in skip trace, and the stories I could tell. I found out an ex was married in Nigeria and in the USA. I found my baby father's family in the USA, and learned his real name wasn't what he told me (this was 18 yrs ago). Some were married men, had hidden children and criminal charges. Truthfully, the saddest was me finding out this guy I was talking to abused a child so badly that the child passed away in 1997. Thankfully I stopped dating him much sooner than I found out. RIP to Baby Maliek WIllie xo
Hello, can you tell me what u used to do background checks?
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They're monsters
How was my mother to be accountable for my father being married? She wouldn't be and he punished her by being an absent parent to me. My mother got blamed for not using better discernment. I get blamed for being estranged.
The folks who say "she should have run a background check" (which cost real money) are probably also the people who would condemn her for not trusting the man because thats disrespectful or whatever. The upshot is men hate women and there is nothing a woman can do that is right. Submissive? She's assaulted and should have chosen better or what did she do to make him hit her? And he'll have a woman on the side or will leave her, probably with kids and no viable means of support.
They can lead a whole double life but want you to believe they forgot a holiday, what u wanted for your birthday, make an appointment etc.
They are expecting women to be psychics. Both in picking a man and pleasing a man.
And then will talk about women's intuition and discernment as though it's some woo-woo nonsense or paranoia. While still expecting women to always make the right choice
But they dislike women who are into astrology because then you can kind of get a glimpse into their personality type.
@@dblr4931 You’ve reminded me of a book I used to have. It was called “How to Spot a Bastard by his Star Sign”. It’s hilarious!
However, you are right. They hate anything that informs women about their behaviors and antics. And, usually there’s a layer of hypocrisy served up too.
It’s a relief to hear a man say “I’m relieved to hear that she and the baby are ok”. Honestly, her confronting her cheating boyfriend/fiancé would be a dangerous thing to do
It's stupid for men to ask women to take accountability because women also suffer from the actions of men as well. No one wants to bring up women who suffered both physically and emotionally throughout their relationships with men despite being everything that he wants and needs in a woman because to acknowledge that would mean acknowledging the persistent resistance of holding men accountable for their actions. "He cheated? She must've done something to deserve it", "He's abusive? She should choose better". "He wants to be single? Oh is cause women this and women that".
Men's definition of women taking accountability is when women suffer regardless of the situation and just shut the hell up about it.
I gave up on dating, too many lies & too much deception. It takes too much energy & it's JUST NOT WORTH IT! I've got my needs covered so it just doesn't make sense to deal with it.
A former friend was seeing someone for quite a while and was distraught that he would find every excuse to not commit. I told her something was up and he had another life. Of course she did not listen to me and judged me for my situation, which I always owned up to and admitted it was terrible. She even went on a short lived talk show about her situation. Well our friendship slowed down but we always talked every now and then. In our mid 30s she finally admitted to me why they were just friends now. Not only did dude get married and divorced while dealing with my friend but he also had two kids that were preteens. They were seeing each other since we were in college. She found out because he was updating his life insurance policy and she saw the paperwork.
Afghanistan women are not allowed to speak to each other now
They're not allowed to be near windows in their own homes, either. It could tempt men.🫤🫤
These are the submissive women who men apparently give the world to for their cooperation
@ word!
“Mirror mirror on the wall, please tell me if god exists or not!”
“That’s way too complicated can you change the question?”
“OK then tell me if David has lied to me.”
“…ugh, What’s your first question again?”
There is a video of a woman in Russia that adopted a bear cub and now she has a full grown bear in her living room eating meals with her.
thats the textbook definition of 'choosing the bear"! LOL!
What did we learn? We learned that we live in a world where you can’t take people at face value. We learned that people who want to deceive you put in a lot of time and effort to do so. We learned that just because things look and feel good doesn’t mean that they actually are. And we learned that crazy can look completely normal. And we learned that your life can be irreversibly altered with a few wrong decisions. #WEST4B
But think about it. Doesn’t this reflect the society we live in? Look who was just voted into office? Many of the people who voted for him thought he was going to do things that he blatantly lied about. A felon. If the president is this grimy, what do you think the rest of the society is like? IJS The hatred that he spewed openly. The obvious election interference. Article 3 of the 14th amendment that says an insurrectionist isn’t eligible to hold office, and yet …
In the meantime, absolute chaos, confusion, incompetence, violence, hatred, people who want to see other people suffer. The media normalizes, downplays, or outright ignores atrocities committed by one people, while demonizing others. This is a microcosm of the macrocosm we live in. I know you didn’t ask me all of that. IJS 😂
#WEST4B 🎉🎉🎉🎉
This is next level fuckery!!! Holy shit! If he just put half that energy into working on himself …….
yes..........and/or building a business.............
They’re always wise to do evil…
I’m so tired of having to qualify everything with “not all men.”
It's actually not your responsibility.
"At what point did I say you? YOU are the one who associated yourself and men in general with what I said, I DID NOT. I did not ask for an explanation. What you're doing right now is learned patriarchy, sit the fuck down."
After the events of last year, with the Pelicot case, the 70kman rape chat group, and the men signing up for marathon filmed sex with OF models... It really is all men, until it isn't.
They have no rebuttal.
The ones who aren't part of the problem will never have any gripes with not clarifying.
Dont..I dont and I dont give af..they dont "not all women" now do they?
A particular exception does not make a general truth any less true. Men are generally taller than women. Sure basketball star Caitlin Clark is taller than boxing great Floyd Mayweather. Sure Taylor Swift is taller than Bruno Mars. But it's still a FACT that men are GENERALLY taller than women. A general truth doesn't have to be true 100%. It just has to be true enough that only a fool or a liar would deny that general truth.
Diabolical and reckless af. If that pregnant girl wanted to, after she had the baby, she could take the man to court for child support, and now the his new wife would be on the hook too. Hopefully the fiancé found out before the wedding and broke up with him, or she got an annulment.
4B for 4 years. Most peaceful and productive years of my life!
5 years 4B and never going back.
Watching your content has really opened my eyes. I've been married for 24 years to an exceptionally good man, and I've often thought that if anything ever happened to him, I'd be done with dating. Seeing what's out there has reinforced that opinion a thousandfold.
I hate when ppl keep saying oh u should vet ppl. I live in Europe. It's hard to stalk ppl online. And why should I have to stalk ppl online to make sure they're not lying and fabricating things
I remember randomly being at someone's house in the complex i grew up. I saw a picture of their mom and a man. I knew the man in the picture so i asked how her mom new him. She said that was her mom's boyfriend. I said, that's my best friends boyfriend and she was pregnant at the time. I felt terrible to have to call my pregnant best friend and tell her this 😢
Very valid points and I'm only at 7mins. The manosphere bros cry about wanting innocent and un-jaded women, but then laugh at women for choosing the wrong man.
I bet he still tried to lie after being caught!
They do! Remember that dude who was trickin’ off w/ his wife’s money?? Got the car repo’d and everything! She had him dead to rights and he was still trying to lie and weasel his way out of it!🤦🏾♀️
Even when ur innocent ur guilty.... exhausting.
This. My male partner told me last night if I do a 'thing' I'm being petty and difficult. I'll be doing something a male is actually doing and he excuses that behaviour because 'he probably doesn't know' Yet when I backed down from a male bully, he called me a coward. So if I stand up for myself I'm wrong and if I don't I'm wrong.
Ladies, stay single!
@trippinggauntlet4520 omg run!!!
@@trippinggauntlet4520Exactly. this is why I have come to the conclusion that the double standards exist solely to protect men in general from their inability to ever be fair to anyone. the only men i have any love for at this point are the ones who genuienly and regularly call out mens bs. At this point its necessary for them to take sides clearly and completely.
Had an Asian guy who specifically went after Black girls like me because, according to one of his associates, he thought we were easy. I was 17 at the time, and he was in college sooo. He broke up with me as soon as I cottoned onto his nonsense. Fast forward to me being 22, and he still tried to get back with me while going out with another Black girl. Like these dudes ONLY have the audacity. Now we gotta do background checks on these dudes like we're hiring them for the secret service. FOH
Women have this experience at least once in their lifetime. It's happened to me.
So we need to be a lie detector and a cia agent to date men.
These are the say people that say if women have to follow him to see where he’s going etc, if she has to sneak and look in his phone then she shouldn’t be with him or chose wrong. Ladies can’t win! Getting background checks and helicopter around looking for evidence means you’re crazy and when you don’t and he ends up being a liar then you’re stupid or a home wrecker. Anything to shame women so they can get a chance to be the next lying man and hopefully they can get away with it too.
You are full of old fashioned common sense. It is rare today.
I found out an ex was married because my sister found photos from his wedding at her in laws house. He was married to one of their cousins.
She immediately called us both on three way and blew up his spot.
Small world. Evil lurks.
I love this channel. You do us so much justice and I express so much gratitude. You rock young man.I been single and celibate for 4+ years. I love being single not having to worry about another grown person. I love my peace, calmness and being one with my inner self.
Why do I have to a background check on someone who I am only dating…has dating really come down to HAVING to do a background on someone? If so, I’m good…I will remain single
Women have to be secret agents just to stay safe. That "his footprint is TOO clean" is some shit directly out of a spy thriller....
Lol. At this point "The Jig is Up!" Understatement of 2025.
I am that woman who got tired and checked out.
My sister found out the guy she was seeing was married after she found a credit card receipt and did some investigation. Found out he was married with kids.
It's sad when everybody's probably thinking that. "At least he didn't kill her". Especially after she came to his house AND saw his mail. That was my FIRST thought.
From the ages of 16-31 I chose to be single solely for the reason of avoiding headaches!!
When I met my now fiance, I told him he has to prove his presence is an improvement to my life, not a detriment.
If your partner can't handle the honesty of your joy then how can they be expected to support you in harder times.
The average woman doesn’t think like this for real…I’m getting close to that where I’ve developed this ‘read between the lines’ skill which is actually low key sad. To have this radar the goes off when a man is talking is crazy 😢 the next step for me would be the online searching and investigating! Right now I go off vibes, piece the truth together from there and wait….
4B is easier.
She needs to blackmail the man now.
I experienced this twice...the first I was 16 and he was 25 married with 2 young kids. The second time i was 19 and he was 28 with a girlfriend of 1 yr. I was lucky that the wife and girlfriend didn't attack me or blame me. Well the girlfriend tried but she quickly realized that I was being truthful with her. I asked all the questions when I met these dudes, but they were pros and grown men and I was a inexperienced teenager.
These bandits cannot be vetted….you are just ding the most for the least return!!
My question is; is he dusty because he is diabolical or is he diabolically dusty?
😂😂😂 yo comment is lit 🔥
The sad part is that had ol girl not done that she wouldn’t be able to get child support because of his fake name.
The importance of women talking to each other is because of what's called a whisper Network.
There's a few different types I'm not sure what they're called exactly but what she's talking about and the wedding registry video is an informal whisper Network where women can discuss with each other and warn each other about different men and keep each other safe basically
Ok, credit check by asking your sister friend to run his name through Experian: pluck a strand of hair, have him drink from a glass and then ask you sister friend who works at a hospital lab to run a DNA test, then have your sister friend who works at the FBI to run that DNA through the system. We do this for our protection. Yet they go around trying to put penicillin in our food, for their protection. Once again: I'll take the bear!!
It's better to just join the 4B movement 🤷
I really hope she can heal ;she is disttaught and remoseful.Sometimes you can't vett because they lie a lot to hide important details of their life.
I had the same reaction! 😂 I was NOT expecting her to say that….onus is on the dude, not her!!
Yup I was told it’s my fault that I was lied to and left alone. I took accountability my kids are adults. When I share my story to most they have no sympathy. I’m told I chose to be lied to and abused and since I’m in my late 40’s I have hit the wall and am now ran through and useless smh 🤦🏾♀️ 😅
Do not worry about any Wall. On the other side it is peaceful.
Damn now we got to run their name thru Target and Walmart now??
If u are that suspicious men will also tell you that you are bringing old bagage into the now and that you shouldnt compare them to your exes, which you arent, you are careful because you have to...which men also tell us we have to be!! But in reality when we are, guys are always mad about it!
Sir are you on here making sound effects with your sons toy? 😂
This. I feel like as women, some of us try to be so careful, and it's still not enough! Men still find ways to ruin us and treat us like we have no value, even when they proclaim themselves to be "one of the good ones." The sad part is that all it would take is for men to be honest, and most of these types of situations could be avoided. That's it! Just a little honesty, and that's still asking too much from them.
Comedian Russell Howard said women have to turn into Jason Bourne. 😢
I dont know how I found your channel but Im so glad I did. The stuff you say is common sense but when it comes from another man, men are more likely to listen.
Have you heard about that story from Tempe, AZ w/ the Bikini Barista? Would you consider a reaction video?
He shouldn’t have been exposing himself to that woman like that .I don’t feel sorry for him - one less predator on the planet.🤷🏾♀️
The comments under her video were crazy! You would think he was the victim and not the perpetrators of all of it. All of it. He made all the decisions and people are acting like she is responsible.
Audacity? How 'bout down right Sinister.. There's Clearly a Snake involved..
A snake and an apple at this point..
Dang Pub, I wanted to hear the rest of that story. Lol love what you do.
Amen!
I love you!
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My FIL actively interrupts the conversations I have with my MIL. He always comes to “ask” her to do something for him or the grandkids. She could be in my house talking up a storm and he will come knock on my door and tell her she needs to come home and do xyz….
One time, I heard her yelling “I’m a grown ass woman…”on the way to get mail. I laughed all the way to the mailbox.
If they got married in a different country you still can't find the information.
Not a diabolical dusty 😂😂😂
I don’t get what the end game is for these men. You making a second family with another woman and for what? How you got a woman 7 months pregnant and still living separate from her? Like eventually the second woman is going want to move in with you because you gave her a child and proposing to her like how does it not all end bad.
She wasn't supposed to get pregnant, but morons like that won't wear a condom either. That's how short-sighted and self-centered they are. Anything to get their dicks wet.
Unbelievable
You have a great channel
Shit like this is exactly why I don’t want to date anymore. I was exhausted just listening to the story! A full background check?! No thank you
13:54 about the name thing, being a creature of the internet and having been stalked before, I know these red flags about having a unique name not popping up. Sometimes you need your un-fun friend to break the spell. I hate being the not-fun friend all the time.
He's right.
You can personalize gifts so let’s normalize buying her a little treat and personalize it with “he cheating girl run”
Gossip used to be outlawed
Pub so understands us women. I wish we could clone him. Pub do you have a younger or older brother please? Lol
What was the man in the 2nd story going to do about the birth certificate? What name would he put?
Chile …. 😓
These dumb ninjas don't even think that far ahead
@@tlee9513 turtels are smart 🐢 no offence
I was going to joke “What, she needs to run background checks on everybody?” Then she said it. Unbelievable. This is why we need stories like Mouthwashing, and A Handmaid’s Tale. Psycho-horror is our reality.
Nerds are just as bad.
This is what we've come to...Background checks!!??? FBI CHECKS😂😂😂
You might as well stop dating and become a PI.
At least you'll get paid.