Even my children don't want to go on vacations, because my home is like a vacation spot where they r happy doing stuff they like such as playing video games, or badminton or watching movies , going to the fitness classes and the keyboard classes and eating my homecooked delicacies...Kids just love that parents listen to them without judging them....They hate when we compare them with others and just want us to love them for who they are...but it is our responsibility to make them understand how the world works and that can be tricky....
I love your family. Y'all are amazing. I grew up with abusive parents in every way. We never had good holidays, birthdays, and vacations meant going to stay at grandparents house and paternal grandmother hated us. Your children are so mature for their age. Your daughter is so amazing. Happiness is something I've never experienced and a topic I speak of constantly with therapist. What is true happiness?
Zoya is vey smart and intelligent. She is very articulate and I believe her father needs to learn how to respect his daughter. Don’t dismiss her all the time.
Zoya is such an intelligent girl.. When she said failure is being disrespectful to the ones you care about or it is when you don't care about the exams... Not when you couldn't crack the exam.. She was thinking on a higher level... They all are raised well.. Not passing an exam is just a set back not a failure..
I am a parent, an older Indian parent, and I still agree with Zoya. There is an unacknowledged pressure you, Zarna, and Shalabh is putting on your children in different ways. Zarna you are overprotective and Brij is right, he needed space then to process his own emotions about the high school. However Shalabh surprised me with his old archaic Godfather stuff - it’s funny - but … he is inadvertently putting pressure on Brij by kind of insinuating that not getting in the high school of choice was a failure. It definitely was not. Your children may not know adult responsibility yet bc they are children but they definitely are not failures. Look at how beautifully they express themselves. And what Shalabh does not realize he in unconsciously dismissing your daughter - several times. Dad - go super slow please! Your daughter is very strong and very smart but some of this hurts. Women are not careless as that Goddamn Godfather said women are fragile. Please listen to your daughter more. She is super smart and on target about what needs to change about typical Indian immigrant parent mentality. Your one liner are hilarious, Shalabh but, they are conversation stoppers. I know you are not misogynist but I was laughing when Zoya said you are getting parent advice from Godfatger?? Lol 😂 . I am so happy you are all doing this as a family. More power to you!!! You are showing so much reality about any immigrant parent. Trust me we all have these situations in our families. You are making them laugh but you are also teaching them a lot by being so vulnerable yourself.seriously, More power to you !!!
@@bkirstie Zarna is actually showing a LOT of impressive growth here. She hears what her kids are saying, and when it stings she tries to soothe it with a joke (a very natural reaction that a LOT of people have to difficult conversations). However, the most impressive thing is that she is catching herself doing it and then refocusing on what her kids are trying to say.
Omg u said my thoughts exactly, only a little subtle than i would on Shalabh. Zarna, i immediately felt that many struggles you would have put through with Shalabh in validating your kids as they were growing up. You did a great job!! And papa, mellow down please, force make a space in your heart to take advice from your daughter, a profound soul!! Sorry to say, every now n then, Shalabh projected his typical Indian alpha male ego.
Huge respect for Zoya. The fact that the parents don't want to talk about happiness and don't want to listen to her viewpoint and that she is criticized by saying that she is hanging out with the wrong people. Such a sad day for Zoya and her siblings.
The DAD was spot on when he talked about shouldering responsibility and that this conversation would be a luxury when that happens. He came out as a practical person rather than emotional. Lovely family. Nice that the kids think the American way! May you guys have all the happiness in the world.
Amazing conversation!!! I am amazed to hear this whole new perspectives from the teens!! Especially, the point which Brij made....it's your battle and you have to deal with it!! Love the ways these teens / kids have been vocal about their emotions!! ❤
Your husband needs to stop cutting of Zoya. That’s NOT RIGHT. Zoya is right on track. She talks sense. But your husband boy, he needs to go home and listen to himself. Pls tell him to listen to Zoya and stop cutting her off. He quietly listens to brij😂but not Zoya. When she asked dad what makes you happy? Omg his answer!! The way he just was cutting her off and then says he doesn’t want advice from her. I really have lost all respect for this man. What message is he trying to put forward??? Disappointed in him totally. Btw why are there pineapples 🍍 under the table ? 😊😂
I totally understand what Brij is saying , sometimes parents try to be so strong for you that they don’t see that you are hurting when you fail at something. Parents want you to feel better so they try to make it feel like it doesn’t matter and there are other options. But at that moment when you are disappointed all you need for your family to be real and just say I understand it sucks but let’s gets real with our options, it’s a new day let try again and if you are not doing well take your time and we’re here for you. Eventually as Children we’ll get over it at some point.
my observations :- Dad - knows the reality of the world doesn't believes in everything will be good somehow he beleives in karma and understands the difference in how the boys and girls are going to be judged in the world mom - very caring motherly she too knows the reality and knows the difference between boys and girls but also has the ultimate mother responsibility hence sometimes she keeps back the reality to offer the motherly care to children daughter - she believes everything will be alright by itself isn't a lie which shows she still lives in a fairytale environment hasn't been pushed out of the comfort zone into the outer world of reality and responsibilities elder son - knows what is good and bad for him understands where the family comes from and understands how he needs to deal whith the failures on his own younger son - he is mature for his age but still some signs of childishness which is good he is enjoying his childhood and learning to take new responsibilities overall a nice healthy family destined to live a satisfied and happy life happy independence day
Congratulations on a great second family podcast. I am highly impressed with your beautiful, cohesive, and honest family! I have a renewed hope for the US if you influence your audience and they pass along your insights. Amazing parents and three astonishingly bright and self reflective children-BRAVO. I hope everyone of many generations and backgrounds come together to hear you. I am a 61 yo executive without children and I love your topics and hope everyone listens! ❤🎉😊
My daughter, now 22, has said the same things. She remembers us giving her attention and what I thought of as little things are some of her favorite childhood memories.
Zarna ma'am you literally have the curiosity of every mother of knowing that was she really a good mother or not? Being a new mother and a working one I always feel the same...but these episodes--- oh my god! Are really helping me a lot a lot......thank you so much....your children are well raised by you...kudos..much love❤
Hi Zarna, I’m a new mom to twin 10 month old boys from Indian family. My husband and I watched this and thoroughly enjoyed it ….. your kids are so self aware and intelligent and we aspire to be as good of parents as you guys are.
These conversations are so important! Regradless of personal opinions of each of the kids/parents, the fact that you can have these conversations is better than 90% of families❤
Brij wanted validation for his feelings anger and frustration of not getting into the school of his choice. But saying family fed "lies" to him is not right. Family didn't lie, they tried to console the best they knew how but weren't aware of how to support by validating his feelings. Zoya is an intelligent, strong minded young lady and will go far in life. Veer is a smart , mature and funny kid. How many 11yo are familiar with the movie Godfather😂?! They each have their unique and wonderful qualities. Good job mom and dad!👏 .
Probably always setting a higher benchmark of success and suddenly consoling that it doesn't matter did not add up and he felt they were lying.. I understand why Brij may have felt that way.. Coming from an Indian family I always had a constant fear of being less successful than what my family expects of me.. I ve managed to consciously grow out of it
So much to learn in this family discussion, I have a 2.8 year old and 1.3 years old, both r US born boys. I think it’s a great discussion which I can understand when kids grown up and we would have to deal with different situations in future , it helps
Oh my God! Zoya... I watch this podcast just because of you... !! My daughter is 11 now, and seriously, this is giving me insight.. really love the way you are trying to articulate things and handle your dad who (sometimes) has no room (in this episode) for the advice being given by you. I am sure he is a little polite in later podcasts. Or may be I liked your perspective, and couldn't agree more. At the end of the day he is your dad, am sure he has reasons to say so. Lots of Love to you guys.
The greatest parenting gift I received from my single mom was definitely the quality time we spent. Going for walks together, going to TJMaxx, watching movies and eating together. Everything else is too stressful and too much work for everyone. People can feel when someone is stressed :)
What a productive discussion it is. Being a mother myself i completely understand on your point, we simply cant leave when someone is low. But as a person who was in the same shoe as brij when i was in college and didn’t get placed in the company i wanted. He is right too, no matter what the world says, you just have to overcome by yourself.
Wow!! The searing honesty. What a great family. My only comment is: Who defines 'success' / 'failure'? Darn society or community. Somewhere in our value system, we learn what works for us in an environment of unconditional love - and we keep trying to do our best for our children. Thanks much, Zarna - you DO rock.
I really enjoyed this conversation. Your eldest son and husband were on point without using so much emotion. This is a great example of how men and women communicate and process.
Sad to see how internally destructive your family is but externally good. Especially the father is internally going through a lot and he is unable to express it the right way.
i gave neet this year and didnt get into a college, acc to me, brij is so very right in his words. because getting out of the failure guilt is smth we do on our own and no ones words can help..
Omg this was so so informative about what can be important to one can be so different from what is important to the other even if we r members of same family. This shows how family is a unit of accepting all personalities without judgment more than being a unit of rules and discipline or a unit of parenting your kids. Holding space is what matters to every individual. Each age and each partnership makes it a unit. ❤❤❤❤
I my family we tend to remember the times everything went wrong: The camping trip than rained away 😭 The x-mas the turkey wasn't thawed propperly 😠 The catastrophic wedding 🥴 (it took 10 years before that episode became funny 😉 The trips to the ER with a child 😱 The picnic we set up an on top of an ant's colony🙄... and things like that. There's just NO fun in recollecting perfectness... That's NOT where the good loud laughs are hidden!!! Bonus? Those stories confirm that together WE can handle any crisis! And that's important knowledge for our young ones 🥰 Peace, love and laughs
I totally agree with dad .. fortunately they are enjoying or to even thinking how to be happy cause of the parents put them here on this pedestal after struggling and giving the the education and values they have .. if parents were busy being them self happy then kids wouldn’t have been at this place to even talk like this senseable
This conversation reminds me of the case against setting goals(Especially unrealistic ones or ones that define your sense of self worth ). A better way to go about this is to always have a backup plan in case Plan A fails and more than a goal (get into X college) it should be a sense of purpose ( I want to learn math because it is appealing to me and it helps make the world a better place). Then it doesnt matter if you succeed or fail at this 'goal' and it is actually more likely you will succeed coz there isn't the pressure of succeeding at this 'goal'
Hi Zarna Maam, I like the fact that you as a parent are asking the question to kids themselves on how they would have handled the situation cause I saw the same thing with my parents and realised that our parents including you have not read any "the right way of parenting" manuals (if there actually exists any) and are doing the best they can to help their children but the matter of fact is just that parents should never forget to keep learning about their children's lives if they actually want to remain involved in their lives throughout their childhood and adulthood!
Shalabh's misogynistic jokes were not funny. He was extremely rude to Zoya. And Brij got the question wrong. Of course accepting any failure is never easy bur when it comes to family, you always feel supported. He would have done the same. You want to hear the "truth" about the failure? Well you have the world to do that for you!
Very relevant issues. Talking it out helps in understanding each other. Looking fwd to more shows like this. I loved the comfort level you share in voicing your opinions. You are an example of a normal family.
Interesting conversations. We have similar conversations at our home and I can guarantee that after a stumbling block, especially their first, kids feel like it’s a huge setback to their life and with their next shining moment , they will realize it was insignificant. Brij will realize it was insignificant when he gets admitted to his dream school. Good luck for your college admissions. My son had a similar reaction in 9 th grade and is Zoya’s senior at Stanford. And ultimately this whole process is what builds resilience
Brij knows it does not matter, but his feelings do matter. He seems like a sensitive boy. Veer will be the most resilient and bindaas after learning from all the sibling experiences. You do really love pineapples- haha.
Brij, i feel you brother. you are being heard. we are listening and you carry on with your battle. suggestion: you can channel your inner aggression in something physical. it might help.
Zarna ji, I am your huge fan for an year now and started to admire your family members too. Kudos to you for both the episodes. I loved the way Brij felt about dealing with failures and sometimes no matter how much support he gets from family all he needs is may be simple ack and time to deal with it all by himself. Where as Veer innocently admitted that he never felt sad *touchwood*. How Zoya assertively challenged her parents about happiness or confronted about her failures and defined what failure meant her - disrespecting elders , not spending time with family when they need your time the most etc. Zarna's husband often trying to make the conversations lite. Above all , I loved to know that your kids think that you are most intelligent lady who can solve all their problems, which I knew you are. THANK YOU for the wonderful discussion. Lots of love to you all!
1. We have to deal with Inner battles on our own. I think as parents we have to be empathetic rather than sympathetic 2. Being able to fall back on your family and count on them unconditionally 3. Family time >> Vacations but parents need vacation even if kids don’t 😅 4. Grit >> happiness, disagree with Zoya on this. But she is wise beyond her years. I am in my early 30s and just realized this 5. Therapy has no relation to happiness. It’s important for being better versions of ourselves- to be a better parent, partner and human
Zarna and Shalab you have wonderful kids. Credit definitely goes to you both. They are gorgeous, handsome and well mannered too. Their eyes are the windows of their soul.
I agree with Zoya, happiness is the most important in today's generation. especially in the West so much loneliness. Asian parents put lots of pressure on their children academically, rather than the talents or passion
Each one of you guys have played important role in shaping the life of other person in the family, by playing their respective roles. For example, What Zoya is today, is her hard work plus the roles played by rest of the four in family. None of you may be perfect. But your family is simply awesome 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼👏🏼love you all 🎉🎉🎉🎉 spl thanks to Veer and Brij and Zoya..
What a realistic insights to so many relavant things in life..kudos to expressing yourself unapologetically because thats what being real means..no agreeing just for sake of it and not disagreeing just to prove a point..it only happens when roots are strong and every individual have immense clarity of mind..
A sense of failure is subjective imo. What Zoya says about what defines failure is true, but so is Brij. That’s his feeling of failure in his trajectory. And the right thing to do is to acknowledge what one feels and support them. What was said by the family members when he failed was not incorrect. Everyone said things to support him. But at the same time Brij not only felt he failed at that milestone in that moment but also couldn’t trust the words coming out of the family’s mouth. Not out of disrespect not out of malicious intent, but they were just his feelings in that moment. He couldn’t trust those words only because he felt since his family loves him unconditionally, they would not say things otherwise. I believe what he probably wanted to hear, “I understand that for you this was a failure. I empathize with you…but we are here to support you in your journey. Please let us know how we can help. We know that this failure won’t determine your goals, achievement, or detest you from trying harder the next time”
Great episode! Thank you for your vulnerability - especially Brij. Ultimately our children are looking for acknowledgement- “That sucks. You must be feeling disappointed/ frustrated/ upset that you worked so hard and didn’t get the outcome you wanted. It’s ok to feel that way. It might take some time. I’m here when you’re ready to talk about it more.” Those can be such powerful words. After the initial emotional response softens (maybe hours/days/ weeks), then you can go in with “That’s right, you’re gonna figure out your the next steps. I believe in you and I’m here to help with what to do next.”
@@ZarnaGarg And that’s ok too. Sometimes that’s enough to say “I get it, my words might not mean anything to you right now. That’s ok. You feel what you need to feel. I’m here however you need me.” But ultimately, show that you see them and that their emotions matter and their response to a situation is real and true - whatever form it takes.
Great kids Zarna! All credit to the parents ofcourse 👏 they are feeling insane pressure though to be ‘successful’ (unfortunately they don’t even know that there is this insane pressure cuz it’s that ingrained) and their definition of success is very robotic really. Being wise beyond your years catches up with you somewhere in between ur late 20s-30s where u have hustled to be that version of ‘successful’ and sit back for the first time ina long time for a break and realize you missed out on being on your formative years in attempt to be a step ahead from the rest & therefore not have ‘lived’ fully when it was time (which is kinda actually now for these kids) i wish they chill out a little and stop trying to figure out at 11 & 17 or even 20 what ‘life’ or ‘success’ means cuz it’s not necessary right now. What’s important according to me at their age atleast would be how they are when they are in relationships, how are they as partners, how is their outlook towards human kind, what positive change would they like to bring to the world, how is their connect with god or a higher power, what values would they pass on and what cultures would they leave behind, what would their contribution be to humankind (big or small) because to me being a good partner, being a good human, knowing your place in this world etc are measures of success. Money & health are something u can try to achieve but are in god/fate’s hands, would HATE for one of these brilliant kids to ever be in a phase where they did it all correct to be successful but fate/god had other plans for them and they go through a hard path of realization that their version of success was shortsighted. Also, Zoya has it figured better then her dad (no offense please) there is so much of the old school IIT mentality going on in her dad that he isn’t even willing to listen and accept that she is talking about something deeper then monetary happiness but then again he quoted a movie from 1972 which was the definition of misogynistic so I’m not expecting it any better also all his examples are monetary based tuition fees, therapist bills , loss of job etc and I understand he may feel insane pressure as a father but that being on the top of his head and tip of his tongue is sending a wrong message to the kids. I hope this feedback reaches him and he takes it positively. Lastly, Zoya all ur points were very much valid, now that u out and seeing the world and how different people function you are genuinely asking the right questions and questioning the right things and I hope minds open up to embrace your observations ❤️
It was a beautiful video ! I totally can relate to Brij. When my company announced layoffs and when I knew I cld be affected, noone anyone said made me feel better. I had to find some other job for myself to get out of the situation and only then I felt OK abiut it. Its an internal battle to be honest, and you know you have your family with you but this is something you have to deal with.
Both parties are right in what they are saying and what each of them felt. I guess what I understand is that Brij is asking for honest support. Like, tell me how bad it is instead of telling me it's all gonna be okay. Let him reach the 'it's all gonna be okay' phase by himself. Also Zoya has her heart in the right place. But spirituality can only come in the higher spectrum of life. By that I mean, unless you have the lower bases of Maslow's hierarchy satisfied, you won't think of spirituality. For e.g. a man constantly worried about how to get bread on his table is not gonna be attending a seminar of mental health. Also I love all you guys. My family's concept of spending time together is sitting around and chatting about random things. Like right from food to space and politics. That's the way we feel so happy, accomplished, engaged and also learn about other people's perspectives. So amazing to see you guys, as always.
I understand the father and Brij completely. One can understand what they are speaking only if one has faced some failure. Respect to Uncle for trying to understand Brij in this conversation. ❤
What Brij hinted at the feelings which no one could help with, he had when he did not get to the school of his choice, is what CBT- Cognitive Behavior Therapy aims at.
what family does not have disagreements. all families do. if not, there must be molly in their water. tho from watching this video, it sounds like and looks like your have a close knit family. and that is a blessing. your kids said they know they have a loving home to come to if shit hits the fan. on another note, many successful people state that they experienced many failures and set backs but they continued on no matter what; that it didn't hold them back. and that is what counts. so keep on keeping on!
Im 27 , I have real responsibility but im with the daughter . Starting with I refuse to have a job I hate . It takes a lot for me to hate a job , I've worked damn near everywhere but I wouldn't work at like the local garbage dump lol id work at McDonald's though if I had to and probably not hate it . But after work (I currently enjoy my job) I also try to take time on a daily basis to do something i enjoy
I wish this family to always stay loving, connected and happy together.. Well, theres many ways to success.. One failure means there's another door to success.. The most importamt thing is we realise that and we need to work hard make effort to achieve your goal. Don't limit yourself to only one goal. Everyone has equal opportunity to be successful in whatever they do. Other than achieving ur dream goal, the utmost important things is to live life happily and be contempt.. Dont make condescending comment to one another. There's no right and wrong guys..
The same dynamic is mimicked in many families including mine though not all understand what is going on like you guys...it was a really valuable discussion 👍
Hi brijr, i am addressing the second one. I can understand what you try to say and getting stressed about. I am from india. Dear please remember all seeda dont germinate and give fruit in same time. Coconut tree takes it time so does a banana. You are mature enough to understand .. your family is family everthing comes later. If one way blocks its not the end of path. You only can solve the issues which you are talking about. Everyone are there to support
I am watching your podcasts from latest to oldest, and yesterday I commented on one saying “Zoya is the most sensible amongst all of you in all your podcasts”, well that’s certainly changed. (Just being sarcastic, no shade). But can definitely say that Zoya’s mindset is going to change once she grows up and faces some more challenges in life.
Very deep and open converstaion. I had somewhat similar experince what Brij mentioned, I was a very good student, topper of the class, when my high school results were about to come everyone was excited and was expecting that I will be topping the class or maybe whole district. Result came online and my name was not there (It was long back and only who passed their roll number used to get listed in list) and I was shocked, felt like whole world crashed on me. My mom and dad were shocked and they could not believe it either, they tried to make me feel it is okay you tried your best and may be something happend and thats why I did not pass the exam. I just felt like a failure and did not know how to handle it. Then they started talking to on the lines that I failed in something but that does not mean I am a failure they belived in me and started mentally preparing me that I have to go to same class and sit with students who were junior to me and it wont be easy. I can understand why he feels that you did not support him and lied to him. He realizes that he failed in that test, and it will alter his life, it was his big thing that he was looking forward to and he failed in that test, if he hears that it is okay he did not fail or if he hears it is okay, he will feel it is a lie because it is not okay and understands it and he is emotionally mature enough to handle that failure what he needed at that moment is just support to go through that failure. I did not fail my High shcool exam, one of the answer sheet was not checked and and once it was checked and result came back. I was the topper in my school. I am one of those rare people who have hand written highschol marksheet and the printed one could not be modified. On side note your daughter is an idealist , which is what youngsters should be at this change, because they are the torch bearer of change, you cant be a confirmist and change the world , so kudos to her. Shalabh, glad to hear his perspective on all these things.
These are obnoxious parents, trying desperately to be cool, caught up in their own bubble of”success”, no self awareness of their shortcomings. The kids at least the daughter seem more balanced. The father is pathetic- by minimization of his daughter’s opinion. Imagine these boys saying not getting into a particular high school is failure. These parents have already failed these kids.
It’s crazy that the parents don’t understand what zoya is saying about happiness. Especially when the boys say, they like staying home. Brig likes playing sports. That’s his happy place. Indian parents get so caught up in work, like that’s the only thing that matters. Taking some time out of your day to do something that makes you happy isn’t nonsense. Hated the way the dad just dismissed what zoya was talking about. She’s not saying to prioritize happiness over hard work, your job, or life matters. She’s saying to put it in the list of priorities because they can get lost in life’s daily grind. You have to actually mentally make it a point to do it. Where as going to work, and taking care of your responsibility become woven into you daily routine, to the point of autopilot.
I think the side that zoya doesn’t understand. Is that financially the parents have taken care of everything so she is able to talk about happiness so freely. It’s unfortunate but in order to get the life you live you have to sacrifice being happy at your workplace most of the time, because it’s not easy to just go make your own business when you have 3 kids to worry as there are major risks to it. But I think it’s good to do other things outside of work like your walks or even road trips, to balance the stressful work life.
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Even my children don't want to go on vacations, because my home is like a vacation spot where they r happy doing stuff they like such as playing video games, or badminton or watching movies , going to the fitness classes and the keyboard classes and eating my homecooked delicacies...Kids just love that parents listen to them without judging them....They hate when we compare them with others and just want us to love them for who they are...but it is our responsibility to make them understand how the world works and that can be tricky....
Aw this is the best!
Awesome
That’s awesome!
I love your family. Y'all are amazing. I grew up with abusive parents in every way. We never had good holidays, birthdays, and vacations meant going to stay at grandparents house and paternal grandmother hated us.
Your children are so mature for their age. Your daughter is so amazing.
Happiness is something I've never experienced and a topic I speak of constantly with therapist. What is true happiness?
Yes love it
Zoya’s emotional intelligence is the highest in this family. 👌👍
Brij is very mature for a 17 year old young man.
These parents can’t even closely compare to the emotional intelligence their children possess.
Your comment is not very respectful. You don't show emotional intelligence at all.
She’s the most balanced one. And most mature along with mom.
How did she, her parents and her brothers get to have such high emotional intelligence?
Zoya is vey smart and intelligent. She is very articulate and I believe her father needs to learn how to respect his daughter. Don’t dismiss her all the time.
Yes 1000% correct
Zoya is going places - she’s gonna be a guiding light for your family ! @ZarnaGarg you’ve done such a great job raising a wise young Indian woman.
Zoya is such an intelligent girl.. When she said failure is being disrespectful to the ones you care about or it is when you don't care about the exams... Not when you couldn't crack the exam.. She was thinking on a higher level... They all are raised well.. Not passing an exam is just a set back not a failure..
Totally agree
I am a parent, an older Indian parent, and I still agree with Zoya. There is an unacknowledged pressure you, Zarna, and Shalabh is putting on your children in different ways. Zarna you are overprotective and Brij is right, he needed space then to process his own emotions about the high school. However Shalabh surprised me with his old archaic Godfather stuff - it’s funny - but … he is inadvertently putting pressure on Brij by kind of insinuating that not getting in the high school of choice was a failure. It definitely was not. Your children may not know adult responsibility yet bc they are children but they definitely are not failures. Look at how beautifully they express themselves. And what Shalabh does not realize he in unconsciously dismissing your daughter - several times. Dad - go super slow please! Your daughter is very strong and very smart but some of this hurts. Women are not careless as that Goddamn Godfather said women are fragile. Please listen to your daughter more. She is super smart and on target about what needs to change about typical Indian immigrant parent mentality. Your one liner are hilarious, Shalabh but, they are conversation stoppers. I know you are not misogynist but I was laughing when Zoya said you are getting parent advice from Godfatger?? Lol 😂 . I am so happy you are all doing this as a family. More power to you!!! You are showing so much reality about any immigrant parent. Trust me we all have these situations in our families. You are making them laugh but you are also teaching them a lot by being so vulnerable yourself.seriously, More power to you !!!
you tell him Tasneem!!!
The daughter has a great attitude
@@bkirstie Zarna is actually showing a LOT of impressive growth here. She hears what her kids are saying, and when it stings she tries to soothe it with a joke (a very natural reaction that a LOT of people have to difficult conversations). However, the most impressive thing is that she is catching herself doing it and then refocusing on what her kids are trying to say.
Omg u said my thoughts exactly, only a little subtle than i would on Shalabh. Zarna, i immediately felt that many struggles you would have put through with Shalabh in validating your kids as they were growing up. You did a great job!! And papa, mellow down please, force make a space in your heart to take advice from your daughter, a profound soul!! Sorry to say, every now n then, Shalabh projected his typical Indian alpha male ego.
I agree - she showed a lot of growth on this one specifically@@karyon1007
Zoya is a STAR.. She is so empathetic, articulate, confident yet so kind..❤
Absolutely...and Brij...so sorted already
Dad is great at shutting her down. It hurts
@@Maureen-MO ikr, i can see them getting uncomfortable but their kids are very vocal.
I ❤❤❤ this fam
I LOVE. OYS, and even though I’m in my 40s I so resonate with her
Huge respect for Zoya. The fact that the parents don't want to talk about happiness and don't want to listen to her viewpoint and that she is criticized by saying that she is hanging out with the wrong people. Such a sad day for Zoya and her siblings.
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The DAD was spot on when he talked about shouldering responsibility and that this conversation would be a luxury when that happens. He came out as a practical person rather than emotional.
Lovely family. Nice that the kids think the American way!
May you guys have all the happiness in the world.
Haha thank you!
Amazing conversation!!! I am amazed to hear this whole new perspectives from the teens!! Especially, the point which Brij made....it's your battle and you have to deal with it!! Love the ways these teens / kids have been vocal about their emotions!! ❤
Wooo!!!
Zoya is my hero she’s a brilliant young lady with great empathy and a gentle soul, I wish for her great success in her life, love your family….
No matter what the issues are or solutions you find. Its great to see a family open up and talk . Period ! its a real struggle
We would love to hear more such talks. It really builds the family.
More episodes coming!!
Your husband needs to stop cutting of Zoya. That’s NOT RIGHT. Zoya is right on track. She talks sense. But your husband boy, he needs to go home and listen to himself. Pls tell him to listen to Zoya and stop cutting her off. He quietly listens to brij😂but not Zoya. When she asked dad what makes you happy? Omg his answer!! The way he just was cutting her off and then says he doesn’t want advice from her. I really have lost all respect for this man. What message is he trying to put forward??? Disappointed in him totally. Btw why are there pineapples 🍍 under the table ? 😊😂
I totally understand what Brij is saying , sometimes parents try to be so strong for you that they don’t see that you are hurting when you fail at something. Parents want you to feel better so they try to make it feel like it doesn’t matter and there are other options. But at that moment when you are disappointed all you need for your family to be real and just say I understand it sucks but let’s gets real with our options, it’s a new day let try again and if you are not doing well take your time and we’re here for you. Eventually as Children we’ll get over it at some point.
my observations :-
Dad - knows the reality of the world doesn't believes in everything will be good somehow he beleives in karma and understands the difference in how the boys and girls are going to be judged in the world
mom - very caring motherly she too knows the reality and knows the difference between boys and girls but also has the ultimate mother responsibility hence sometimes she keeps back the reality to offer the motherly care to children
daughter - she believes everything will be alright by itself isn't a lie which shows she still lives in a fairytale environment hasn't been pushed out of the comfort zone into the outer world of reality and responsibilities
elder son - knows what is good and bad for him understands where the family comes from and understands how he needs to deal whith the failures on his own
younger son - he is mature for his age but still some signs of childishness which is good he is enjoying his childhood and learning to take new responsibilities
overall a nice healthy family destined to live a satisfied and happy life
happy independence day
Happy independence day to you also
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Congratulations on a great second family podcast. I am highly impressed with your beautiful, cohesive, and honest family! I have a renewed hope for the US if you influence your audience and they pass along your insights. Amazing parents and three astonishingly bright and self reflective children-BRAVO. I hope everyone of many generations and backgrounds come together to hear you. I am a 61 yo executive without children and I love your topics and hope everyone listens! ❤🎉😊
Aw thank you!
Zarna, this was such a wholesome watch. Having the kids perspective is so valuable and has made me think about my own parenting 😊 thank you all
It cracks me up that you have two pineapples under the coffee table as decor!! That’s too funny😅. Wonderful wholesome conversation.
Haha it should be!
Zoya is Oprah in the making 😊 such profound thinking
Haha maybe...
I appreciate what Shalab said, once real responsibilities hit you, many of the nice-sounding philosophies of life fall by the way side.
Zoya is definitely your Anchor to your ship, very intelligent, Vrij has a very great scene of reality and is very calm and composite.
Smuckers smothers 😂😂😂I am rolling. I love the family and Zarna!
My daughter, now 22, has said the same things. She remembers us giving her attention and what I thought of as little things are some of her favorite childhood memories.
Zarna ma'am you literally have the curiosity of every mother of knowing that was she really a good mother or not? Being a new mother and a working one I always feel the same...but these episodes--- oh my god! Are really helping me a lot a lot......thank you so much....your children are well raised by you...kudos..much love❤
Hi Zarna, I’m a new mom to twin 10 month old boys from Indian family. My husband and I watched this and thoroughly enjoyed it ….. your kids are so self aware and intelligent and we aspire to be as good of parents as you guys are.
Thank you so much for this! Idk how but this is giving me a sense of space for such conversations! Idk how but thank you❤️❤️❤️
Of course!
These conversations are so important! Regradless of personal opinions of each of the kids/parents, the fact that you can have these conversations is better than 90% of families❤
I just love every single person in this family so much ...
Brij wanted validation for his feelings anger and frustration of not getting into the school of his choice. But saying family fed "lies" to him is not right. Family didn't lie, they tried to console the best they knew how but weren't aware of how to support by validating his feelings. Zoya is an intelligent, strong minded young lady and will go far in life. Veer is a smart , mature and funny kid. How many 11yo are familiar with the movie Godfather😂?! They each have their unique and wonderful qualities. Good job mom and dad!👏 .
Probably always setting a higher benchmark of success and suddenly consoling that it doesn't matter did not add up and he felt they were lying.. I understand why Brij may have felt that way.. Coming from an Indian family I always had a constant fear of being less successful than what my family expects of me.. I ve managed to consciously grow out of it
So much to learn in this family discussion, I have a 2.8 year old and 1.3 years old, both r US born boys. I think it’s a great discussion which I can understand when kids grown up and we would have to deal with different situations in future , it helps
Aw so glad!
Oh my God! Zoya... I watch this podcast just because of you... !! My daughter is 11 now, and seriously, this is giving me insight.. really love the way you are trying to articulate things and handle your dad who (sometimes) has no room (in this episode) for the advice being given by you. I am sure he is a little polite in later podcasts. Or may be I liked your perspective, and couldn't agree more. At the end of the day he is your dad, am sure he has reasons to say so. Lots of Love to you guys.
The greatest parenting gift I received from my single mom was definitely the quality time we spent. Going for walks together, going to TJMaxx, watching movies and eating together. Everything else is too stressful and too much work for everyone. People can feel when someone is stressed :)
What a productive discussion it is. Being a mother myself i completely understand on your point, we simply cant leave when someone is low. But as a person who was in the same shoe as brij when i was in college and didn’t get placed in the company i wanted. He is right too, no matter what the world says, you just have to overcome by yourself.
Wow!! The searing honesty. What a great family. My only comment is: Who defines 'success' / 'failure'? Darn society or community. Somewhere in our value system, we learn what works for us in an environment of unconditional love - and we keep trying to do our best for our children. Thanks much, Zarna - you DO rock.
"I have folders of dragging you..." She's so awesome. So funny. Love this side of her too.
I love Zoya and Bru.They are so straight forward expressing themselves.
All the best ♥️
It was very moving to hear how much the kids love and value you parents and feel free to speak their own truth.
I really enjoyed this conversation. Your eldest son and husband were on point without using so much emotion. This is a great example of how men and women communicate and process.
Sad to see how internally destructive your family is but externally good. Especially the father is internally going through a lot and he is unable to express it the right way.
i gave neet this year and didnt get into a college, acc to me, brij is so very right in his words. because getting out of the failure guilt is smth we do on our own and no ones words can help..
Omg this was so so informative about what can be important to one can be so different from what is important to the other even if we r members of same family. This shows how family is a unit of accepting all personalities without judgment more than being a unit of rules and discipline or a unit of parenting your kids.
Holding space is what matters to every individual. Each age and each partnership makes it a unit. ❤❤❤❤
I my family we tend to remember the times everything went wrong:
The camping trip than rained away 😭
The x-mas the turkey wasn't thawed propperly 😠
The catastrophic wedding 🥴 (it took 10 years before that episode became funny 😉
The trips to the ER with a child 😱
The picnic we set up an on top of an ant's colony🙄... and things like that.
There's just NO fun in recollecting perfectness... That's NOT where the good loud laughs are hidden!!!
Bonus? Those stories confirm that together WE can handle any crisis! And that's important knowledge for our young ones 🥰
Peace, love and laughs
Zoya seemed to be concerned about her parents' happiness. Her dad could have been polite and listened to her.
I totally agree with dad .. fortunately they are enjoying or to even thinking how to be happy cause of the parents put them here on this pedestal after struggling and giving the the education and values they have .. if parents were busy being them self happy then kids wouldn’t have been at this place to even talk like this senseable
This conversation reminds me of the case against setting goals(Especially unrealistic ones or ones that define your sense of self worth ). A better way to go about this is to always have a backup plan in case Plan A fails and more than a goal (get into X college) it should be a sense of purpose ( I want to learn math because it is appealing to me and it helps make the world a better place). Then it doesnt matter if you succeed or fail at this 'goal' and it is actually more likely you will succeed coz there isn't the pressure of succeeding at this 'goal'
Love u Zoya.. Speak your mind..Lots of blessings to the kids..
Hi Zarna Maam, I like the fact that you as a parent are asking the question to kids themselves on how they would have handled the situation cause I saw the same thing with my parents and realised that our parents including you have not read any "the right way of parenting" manuals (if there actually exists any) and are doing the best they can to help their children but the matter of fact is just that parents should never forget to keep learning about their children's lives if they actually want to remain involved in their lives throughout their childhood and adulthood!
Shalabh's misogynistic jokes were not funny. He was extremely rude to Zoya.
And Brij got the question wrong. Of course accepting any failure is never easy bur when it comes to family, you always feel supported. He would have done the same. You want to hear the "truth" about the failure? Well you have the world to do that for you!
I absolutely lost it at the “smothers/ smuckers” part 😆
Excellent that’s for doing these topics and discussion’s for our Indian community 🙏💕
I love the way Zoya speaks she is truly a gem ❤
Thank you!
Wow, Zoya has wisdoms beyond her young age.
guess where it came from 😏
Very relevant issues. Talking it out helps in understanding each other. Looking fwd to more shows like this. I loved the comfort level you share in voicing your opinions. You are an example of a normal family.
Interesting conversations. We have similar conversations at our home and I can guarantee that after a stumbling block, especially their first, kids feel like it’s a huge setback to their life and with their next shining moment , they will realize it was insignificant. Brij will realize it was insignificant when he gets admitted to his dream school. Good luck for your college admissions. My son had a similar reaction in 9 th grade and is Zoya’s senior at Stanford. And ultimately this whole process is what builds resilience
I really hope so I truly hope that brij realizes in the end none of this matters!
Brij knows it does not matter, but his feelings do matter. He seems like a sensitive boy. Veer will be the most resilient and bindaas after learning from all the sibling experiences. You do really love pineapples- haha.
Brij, i feel you brother. you are being heard. we are listening and you carry on with your battle.
suggestion: you can channel your inner aggression in something physical. it might help.
God bless you and your children!!!
So beautiful and honest!
We can all relate on the topic of disappointment!!!😢
The father just makes me so mad. Zoya, you are a star.
The women are always the wiser ones it seems! Huge respect for Zoya! The world needs more like her!
Zarna ji, I am your huge fan for an year now and started to admire your family members too. Kudos to you for both the episodes. I loved the way Brij felt about dealing with failures and sometimes no matter how much support he gets from family all he needs is may be simple ack and time to deal with it all by himself. Where as Veer innocently admitted that he never felt sad *touchwood*. How Zoya assertively challenged her parents about happiness or confronted about her failures and defined what failure meant her - disrespecting elders , not spending time with family when they need your time the most etc. Zarna's husband often trying to make the conversations lite. Above all , I loved to know that your kids think that you are most intelligent lady who can solve all their problems, which I knew you are. THANK YOU for the wonderful discussion. Lots of love to you all!
Aw thank you!
1. We have to deal with Inner battles on our own. I think as parents we have to be empathetic rather than sympathetic
2. Being able to fall back on your family and count on them unconditionally
3. Family time >> Vacations but parents need vacation even if kids don’t 😅
4. Grit >> happiness, disagree with Zoya on this. But she is wise beyond her years. I am in my early 30s and just realized this
5. Therapy has no relation to happiness. It’s important for being better versions of ourselves- to be a better parent, partner and human
6. Also felt that Zoya was dismissed and invalidated mostly by dad.
Lovely 😊 well brought up kids ❤ nice to speak out from your heart. Great parents ❤
❤❤ now if only my mother in law agreed!
Zarna and Shalab you have wonderful kids. Credit definitely goes to you both. They are gorgeous, handsome and well mannered too. Their eyes are the windows of their soul.
I agree with Zoya, happiness is the most important in today's generation. especially in the West so much loneliness. Asian parents put lots of pressure on their children academically, rather than the talents or passion
and aren't the parents right??
@@ZarnaGarg parents are right too, being an immigrants mom, I also did the same, but things are also changing with the times, also with kids
Each one of you guys have played important role in shaping the life of other person in the family, by playing their respective roles. For example, What Zoya is today, is her hard work plus the roles played by rest of the four in family. None of you may be perfect. But your family is simply awesome 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼👏🏼love you all 🎉🎉🎉🎉 spl thanks to Veer and Brij and Zoya..
Brij, joy is a banquet, grief is a solitary meal.
JUST LISTEN TO ZOYA .. I FEEL YOU ZOYA I DO ❤❤❤❤
What a realistic insights to so many relavant things in life..kudos to expressing yourself unapologetically because thats what being real means..no agreeing just for sake of it and not disagreeing just to prove a point..it only happens when roots are strong and every individual have immense clarity of mind..
A sense of failure is subjective imo. What Zoya says about what defines failure is true, but so is Brij. That’s his feeling of failure in his trajectory. And the right thing to do is to acknowledge what one feels and support them. What was said by the family members when he failed was not incorrect. Everyone said things to support him. But at the same time Brij not only felt he failed at that milestone in that moment but also couldn’t trust the words coming out of the family’s mouth. Not out of disrespect not out of malicious intent, but they were just his feelings in that moment. He couldn’t trust those words only because he felt since his family loves him unconditionally, they would not say things otherwise. I believe what he probably wanted to hear, “I understand that for you this was a failure. I empathize with you…but we are here to support you in your journey. Please let us know how we can help. We know that this failure won’t determine your goals, achievement, or detest you from trying harder the next time”
Great episode! Thank you for your vulnerability - especially Brij. Ultimately our children are looking for acknowledgement- “That sucks. You must be feeling disappointed/ frustrated/ upset that you worked so hard and didn’t get the outcome you wanted. It’s ok to feel that way. It might take some time. I’m here when you’re ready to talk about it more.” Those can be such powerful words. After the initial emotional response softens (maybe hours/days/ weeks), then you can go in with “That’s right, you’re gonna figure out your the next steps. I believe in you and I’m here to help with what to do next.”
we did try to let him feel it, but nothing we said was helping him
@@ZarnaGarg And that’s ok too. Sometimes that’s enough to say “I get it, my words might not mean anything to you right now. That’s ok. You feel what you need to feel. I’m here however you need me.” But ultimately, show that you see them and that their emotions matter and their response to a situation is real and true - whatever form it takes.
Great kids Zarna! All credit to the parents ofcourse 👏 they are feeling insane pressure though to be ‘successful’ (unfortunately they don’t even know that there is this insane pressure cuz it’s that ingrained) and their definition of success is very robotic really. Being wise beyond your years catches up with you somewhere in between ur late 20s-30s where u have hustled to be that version of ‘successful’ and sit back for the first time ina long time for a break and realize you missed out on being on your formative years in attempt to be a step ahead from the rest & therefore not have ‘lived’ fully when it was time (which is kinda actually now for these kids) i wish they chill out a little and stop trying to figure out at 11 & 17 or even 20 what ‘life’ or ‘success’ means cuz it’s not necessary right now. What’s important according to me at their age atleast would be how they are when they are in relationships, how are they as partners, how is their outlook towards human kind, what positive change would they like to bring to the world, how is their connect with god or a higher power, what values would they pass on and what cultures would they leave behind, what would their contribution be to humankind (big or small) because to me being a good partner, being a good human, knowing your place in this world etc are measures of success. Money & health are something u can try to achieve but are in god/fate’s hands, would HATE for one of these brilliant kids to ever be in a phase where they did it all correct to be successful but fate/god had other plans for them and they go through a hard path of realization that their version of success was shortsighted.
Also, Zoya has it figured better then her dad (no offense please) there is so much of the old school IIT mentality going on in her dad that he isn’t even willing to listen and accept that she is talking about something deeper then monetary happiness but then again he quoted a movie from 1972 which was the definition of misogynistic so I’m not expecting it any better also all his examples are monetary based tuition fees, therapist bills , loss of job etc and I understand he may feel insane pressure as a father but that being on the top of his head and tip of his tongue is sending a wrong message to the kids. I hope this feedback reaches him and he takes it positively.
Lastly, Zoya all ur points were very much valid, now that u out and seeing the world and how different people function you are genuinely asking the right questions and questioning the right things and I hope minds open up to embrace your observations ❤️
It was a beautiful video ! I totally can relate to Brij. When my company announced layoffs and when I knew I cld be affected, noone anyone said made me feel better. I had to find some other job for myself to get out of the situation and only then I felt OK abiut it. Its an internal battle to be honest, and you know you have your family with you but this is something you have to deal with.
Aw thank you!!
Awww how sweet of your son to say you're the smartest person he knows😍😍😍
Both parties are right in what they are saying and what each of them felt. I guess what I understand is that Brij is asking for honest support. Like, tell me how bad it is instead of telling me it's all gonna be okay. Let him reach the 'it's all gonna be okay' phase by himself.
Also Zoya has her heart in the right place. But spirituality can only come in the higher spectrum of life. By that I mean, unless you have the lower bases of Maslow's hierarchy satisfied, you won't think of spirituality. For e.g. a man constantly worried about how to get bread on his table is not gonna be attending a seminar of mental health.
Also I love all you guys. My family's concept of spending time together is sitting around and chatting about random things. Like right from food to space and politics. That's the way we feel so happy, accomplished, engaged and also learn about other people's perspectives. So amazing to see you guys, as always.
I understand the father and Brij completely. One can understand what they are speaking only if one has faced some failure. Respect to Uncle for trying to understand Brij in this conversation. ❤
What Brij hinted at the feelings which no one could help with, he had when he did not get to the school of his choice, is what CBT- Cognitive Behavior Therapy aims at.
You are an amazing family so refreshing
what family does not have disagreements. all families do. if not, there must be molly in their water. tho from watching this video, it sounds like and looks like your have a close knit family. and that is a blessing. your kids said they know they have a loving home to come to if shit hits the fan. on another note, many successful people state that they experienced many failures and set backs but they continued on no matter what; that it didn't hold them back. and that is what counts. so keep on keeping on!
Im 27 , I have real responsibility but im with the daughter . Starting with I refuse to have a job I hate . It takes a lot for me to hate a job , I've worked damn near everywhere but I wouldn't work at like the local garbage dump lol id work at McDonald's though if I had to and probably not hate it . But after work (I currently enjoy my job) I also try to take time on a daily basis to do something i enjoy
great family. love the godfather quote from pops
I wish this family to always stay loving, connected and happy together.. Well, theres many ways to success.. One failure means there's another door to success.. The most importamt thing is we realise that and we need to work hard make effort to achieve your goal. Don't limit yourself to only one goal. Everyone has equal opportunity to be successful in whatever they do. Other than achieving ur dream goal, the utmost important things is to live life happily and be contempt.. Dont make condescending comment to one another. There's no right and wrong guys..
The same dynamic is mimicked in many families including mine though not all understand what is going on like you guys...it was a really valuable discussion 👍
I like that the kids are going to stuck together. ❤
Why is noone talking about the two pineapples under the table 😂😂😂
Hi brijr, i am addressing the second one. I can understand what you try to say and getting stressed about. I am from india. Dear please remember all seeda dont germinate and give fruit in same time. Coconut tree takes it time so does a banana. You are mature enough to understand .. your family is family everthing comes later. If one way blocks its not the end of path. You only can solve the issues which you are talking about. Everyone are there to support
Wow lovely conversation i can relate to . As Indian i totaly agree with u . U r a great mother n have grear kids to deal with but its all real ❤😊
I am watching your podcasts from latest to oldest, and yesterday I commented on one saying “Zoya is the most sensible amongst all of you in all your podcasts”, well that’s certainly changed. (Just being sarcastic, no shade). But can definitely say that Zoya’s mindset is going to change once she grows up and faces some more challenges in life.
Very deep and open converstaion. I had somewhat similar experince what Brij mentioned, I was a very good student, topper of the class, when my high school results were about to come everyone was excited and was expecting that I will be topping the class or maybe whole district. Result came online and my name was not there (It was long back and only who passed their roll number used to get listed in list) and I was shocked, felt like whole world crashed on me. My mom and dad were shocked and they could not believe it either, they tried to make me feel it is okay you tried your best and may be something happend and thats why I did not pass the exam. I just felt like a failure and did not know how to handle it. Then they started talking to on the lines that I failed in something but that does not mean I am a failure they belived in me and started mentally preparing me that I have to go to same class and sit with students who were junior to me and it wont be easy. I can understand why he feels that you did not support him and lied to him. He realizes that he failed in that test, and it will alter his life, it was his big thing that he was looking forward to and he failed in that test, if he hears that it is okay he did not fail or if he hears it is okay, he will feel it is a lie because it is not okay and understands it and he is emotionally mature enough to handle that failure what he needed at that moment is just support to go through that failure. I did not fail my High shcool exam, one of the answer sheet was not checked and and once it was checked and result came back. I was the topper in my school. I am one of those rare people who have hand written highschol marksheet and the printed one could not be modified.
On side note your daughter is an idealist , which is what youngsters should be at this change, because they are the torch bearer of change, you cant be a confirmist and change the world , so kudos to her.
Shalabh, glad to hear his perspective on all these things.
These are obnoxious parents, trying desperately to be cool, caught up in their own bubble of”success”, no self awareness of their shortcomings. The kids at least the daughter seem more balanced. The father is pathetic- by minimization of his daughter’s opinion. Imagine these boys saying not getting into a particular high school is failure. These parents have already failed these kids.
"This is from the Godfather"
-Dad. 😂😂😂
It’s crazy that the parents don’t understand what zoya is saying about happiness. Especially when the boys say, they like staying home. Brig likes playing sports. That’s his happy place. Indian parents get so caught up in work, like that’s the only thing that matters. Taking some time out of your day to do something that makes you happy isn’t nonsense. Hated the way the dad just dismissed what zoya was talking about. She’s not saying to prioritize happiness over hard work, your job, or life matters. She’s saying to put it in the list of priorities because they can get lost in life’s daily grind. You have to actually mentally make it a point to do it. Where as going to work, and taking care of your responsibility become woven into you daily routine, to the point of autopilot.
Zoya i hear you loud and clear and i have learned something important from what you said.
The Dad is the guy! Giga Chad! Taking Godfather references. Man, I love that guy!!
The kids should have a show of their own
um what?
It's going to happen. You heard it here first:)
16:01 well done Bridj, he just like to deal with it rather than hear sweet words
Kids are messed up in their heads. Experience will straighten them
I think the side that zoya doesn’t understand. Is that financially the parents have taken care of everything so she is able to talk about happiness so freely. It’s unfortunate but in order to get the life you live you have to sacrifice being happy at your workplace most of the time, because it’s not easy to just go make your own business when you have 3 kids to worry as there are major risks to it. But I think it’s good to do other things outside of work like your walks or even road trips, to balance the stressful work life.
No judgement is the key and treating everybody's opinion is important
What he is saying is right. Just be with him. Give him the time to process his setback.
I saw you as a concerned mom here and not a comedian.. Enjoyed this episode.
it ebbs and flows