Man, seeing Mark and his disease progression is tough, in Silverlake life he had KS lesions all over his body, but the progression onto his face and the weight loss is really tough to see, it's reality, but it's tough to see, they both seemed like such good people, RIP Mark and RIP Tom ...
This was such an important thing to document. My heart breaks everytime I watch it and the treacherous nature of HIV and AIDS on the human body and spirit. You guys and all the people that stood by these people and told their stories are real life hero’s. God bless Mark and ALL the souls lost to this horrendous disease. I feel blessed to have heard his story.
I cried my eyes out this morning seeing this. I ofcourse knew that Mark eventually died of AIDS but I always hoped that he didnt suffer or perhaps I convinced myself that he didnt suffer to make his death more palatable. To see how the disease progressed in him is just heartbreaking. Mr Friedman you did Tom and Mark proud. I wish we had a way to see more of Marks photography. I wish we had more moments of Mark and Tom together. I wish they had lived. I wish......
I watched Silverlake life 2 years ago, and I was in shock.. Never seen anything like this. I'm from Croatia where the risk of catching HIV is very low, and never heard anyone who is positive.. Thank you Mr. Friedman for this documentary, and seeing Mark covered with ks broke my heart.. The only time I smiled was when Mark danced, and cried when Tom said he lost steam of life.. Best documentary and as time passes it's getting harder to see true love in peoples today, like the one Tom and Mark had.
I was reading about Freddie Mercury’s battle with AIDS and that is how I stumbled upon Silverlake Life. It was by far one of the most beautiful yet heartbreaking films I’ve ever seen. Tom and Mark had such a deep and wonderful bond that, in that time, was a stark contrast to some of the hate and the awful things that were being said about gay men and the spread of AIDS in the media. They both showed just how special their relationship was. If Tom wanted to achieve anything from his film it was showing a human relationship that had no bounds, no judgement and no discrimination as well as breaking down a wall that people refused to see past, where two genuine people were living out their time together with nothing but love. It also makes you appreciate the time you have and not to waste a minute of it unhappy and without love. I think they will both hold a special place in my heart from here on out. Thank you Peter for helping Tom complete his film and for sharing it with us.
I watched the documentary, Silverlake life, about 5 years ago, for the first time,and about a year later, possibly several months later, not quite a year; I watched, Tom Joslin's 1977 documentary film, Blackstar: Autobiography of a Close Friend. Both were very touching films, obviously Silverlake life, had a sad ending, but it was a very touching piece, just as Blackstar is. I had learned that Mark died, because, I did wonder what had happened to him after Tom's death. The sad part was seeing how they deteriorated, especially seeing them in Blackstar both were so healthy looking in that. It's sad to see how Mark, looked a lot worst, just a year after Tom's death. Tom died in july 1990 a few months before I was born, that was interesting to me! and Mark died in july of 1991, just year after Mark, they seemed like good people! Nice men with beautiful souls! Seeing the epilogue showed a clear image of the effect that AIDS had at that time and continues to have.
Thank you so much for uploading this. I have been wondering about Mark. I lost an uncle name Mark in the LA area in 93 from AIDS. I moved to Las Vegas from TX in the early 90's. I worked for a nursing home where we had an entire wing for AIDS patients. I was one of the few who volunteered to work that wing. People were still very uneducated and scared. They kept saying we have families at home. No matter the amount of times we explained to them they couldn't contract it that way. I then left there and worked for a hospice. Once again I had the biggest case load of AIDS patients because everyone was too scared. I met and grew to love some very special people in this time. Tom and Mark's story touched me deeply. I watched the first film, then Silverlake, then found this. I'm glad they are being remember.
Thank you for your comment but even moreso for your courage and your contribution to humanity. You might also like a short film I did right before Silverlake Life, about and openly gay and HIV + mailman in the rural American South. His lover is a hospice nurse...I wish you the best - you deserve it! ua-cam.com/video/CpvebSvYTFs/v-deo.html
Tom dying choked me up I can’t imagine seeing marks it was so sad when he said a few days after toms death... “I miss going into his room and getting his attention or kissing his forehead”.So sad to lose a lifelong partner and the routine of his last days then to have to deal with your own impending death.
Thank you for posting this epilogue. I remember a late night television screening of Silverlake Life here in the uk. For many years I wondered what had happened to Mark after Toms death and this has completed their story for me. Although this film demonstrates the horrors of AIDS at the peak of the epidemic to me the film shows the power of love. It has been an honour to be able to see this couple fighting to get through everyday together. Once again thank you.
Thanks for your comment. You're the first to comment on it! I've been meaning to post it for years because many many people have asked me "What happened to Mark?" I intentionally left that question hanging in the original film. My only copy of the epilogue is on an American dvd, and it took a while to figure out how to make a digital copy that I could post.
Thank you so much for posting this video, Peter. Hard to find, harder to watch, the footage offers a poignant final look at Mark Massi's indomitable humour and almost unbearable anguish. Through your involvement in Silverlake Life, the world not only gained an essential documentary, but came to know -- and admire -- some truly singular human beings. Thanks again!
Thank you for your comment which brought tears to my eyes. I was very lucky to know them too. BTW the old footage in Silverlake comes from their 1976 autobiographical film Blackstar, which is here vimeo.com/209640111
Peter, this is the most incredible story i’ve ever seen. Thank you so much for taking the utmost care for this footage and these great films. It’s very sad to see what has happened to your friends Tom and Mark. They seemed like two amazing guys with a lot of love for eachother. Bless you for your hard work on this. I wish you all the best and a very happy life in good health Peter! Greetings from The Netherlands.
Making documentaries has relatively few rewards. The best of all are comments like yours. It's really meaningful to read what you wrote, I actually felt a wave of emotion pass throughout my whole body. It wasn't just positive and appreciative but it was very precise and pointed. Thank you. By the way, right before Silverlake I made a short film on a very similar subject which is also on my channel, called "Fighting in Southwest Louisiana".
PS For many years I went to Amsterdam every year for the documentary film festival. I liked the city very much and felt welcome and at home there, although I never visited anywhere else in the Netherlands. Greetings and best wishes from Paris!
Peter Friedman bless you for your kind words Peter! :-) i will certainly watch that documentary as well! And Paris? You live there nowadays? That’s me and my wife’s favorite city! We visit it every year a few times. Also a very welcoming and interesting city! Wishing you well! All the best! :-)
@@AF-vm6xx I've been in Paris for 20 years because my husband is French and has a life-tenured position as a scientist here. You can reach me if you ever feel like it, at info@strange-attractions.com
An unapologetic view into not just living with AIDS but also dying from it. The clip of Mark lying shirtless sunning his withered body is so profound, to see what this disease can do to the human body is frightening. In the times when there was literally nothing to slow or stop the progression of the disease was an era of desperation & darkness. Once the illness began to manifest beyond wasting many became shut-ins! Mark had such a bold personality, there he is full blown AIDS and still out and about for the world to see and not care! He truly lived his life to the very last moment. R.I.P. Mark & Tommy.
I originally watched (Silverlake) many years ago. I knew what happened to Mark only because I Googled & found information. I didn't even know this existed until I looked up the documentary again & stumbled upon this. Its very sad. But it reminds me that life is short & we need to live our lives to the fullest.
Thank you, Peter for making this available to us. I was really wondering what happened to Mark. He was such a sweet and amazing soul and I am comforted to know that someone was there for him during his final days. Bless his heart and soul. This and the Silverlake - View from here.....truly touched my soul. I laughed and cried. Such sweet people to have had to go through this. No one deserves this disease. It ravages the body terribly and torments the soul. May Allah bless you, Peter. ☺️👌🏻🤲🏻
Thanks Peter I struggled through both because the film is so real it brings my own memories of California and losing my cousin to AIDS in 1993. It’s so close to being my own family my own loss that it brings it all back. Luckily I wasn’t there at the very end. One of my cousins best friends and his partner were there. His partner for what ever reasons has survived and after a time of noncontact we are back in contact like it was all just yesterday . You have succeeded in so many ways. This should be required viewing to teens who think it is a story about the past. It is and it isn’t the past. There’s still work to be done for a crisis the government back shelved as long as it could because it “didn’t concern anyone important”.
"Luckily I wasn't there at the very end". I'm not so sure that was lucky. "It is and it isn’t the past." Thank you for saying that! I'd add: "It is and isn't about AIDS: It's about love and loss." I say this because I can't tell you how many people were affected by the film because they'd lost someone to cancer. Just before making this I made short film on another couple with AIDS, one of whom, while dying, says he's "the luckiest human in the world:. ua-cam.com/users/results?search_query=fighting+in+southwest+louisiana+2019
To answer more directly , I see why your work to share their story speaks to so many esp in loss of family/friends to cancer. You’ve found a way to tell the story of grief and loss that is as healing as it can be sad While you’ve also been honest about the dark parts. I think many in the mental health community (I’m a retired nurse) will agree that that is the part of dealing with it patients misunderstand the most. That it must be dealt with to feel relief. All of the dark especially. Or it deals with us . Best of luck always. You are very talented. It’s no surprise that Tom and Mark trusted you so ♥️
@@peterfriedman7193 Peter, since both Mark and Tom are deceased as is most of their families, there shouldn’t be any privacy concerns so can you tell us the address where they lived prior to their deaths? I’ve always had nostalgia for places with a past and it would be interesting to see where they spent their last days.
@@peterfriedman7193 My condolences to those that have passed away from this dreadful virus. What do you think about researchers that are on the brink of having a functional cure for those infected with HIV? I know there have been so many possible cures to eradicate this virus since the 1980s, but it looks like science may have finally caught up to this virus. The two pending gene therapy approaches to curing ( *AGT103-T* and *EBT-101* ) are both currently undergoing human clinical trials, with final results to released between the years of 2027 to 2032. AGT103-T, a single dose cell & gene editing or modifying treatment disabling CCR5 receptors and is used the from the patients own product, is developed by American Gene Technologies. EBT-101, is a single does CRISPR based gene editing therapy that cuts out viral genes integrated into infected cells and deactivate HIV genetic blueprints in cells, is developed at Temple University in Philadelphia and Excision BioTherapeutics. After results of of AGT103-T & EBT-101, researchers may be able to combine AGT103-T + EBT-101 as a one two punch and have the possible combined AGT103-T + EBT-101 treatment as a "sterilizing cure" instead of a "functional cure".
I’ve watched silverlake life so many times... very powerful documentary. And always wondering what happened to Mark in his final days. Thank you so much for this upload. RIP Tom & Mark. You two will be together forever
Thank you for sending your love. The epilogue has been on the DVD since 2003 but I only just got around to transferring and posting it. Sorry about that!
Seeing Mark like this hurt my heart. KS lesions took over his body. And thrush in the back of his throat had to be agonizing pain. At least the pain meds helped relieve some of his pain.
Una parte de mí esperaba no ver a Mark terminando así; supongo que al final, aunque su cuerpo fue acabado por el SIDA, el SIDA no pudo terminar con la esencia de su ser. Me da gusto saber que al momento de su muerte no estuvo solo.
Thank you so much for posting this, Peter, and thank you for putting together ‘Silverlake Life’. I can’t begin to imagine what a heart-wrenching experience it must have been but also what an honour... I was so moved by the unflinching honesty in which Tom and yourself created this film, sharing both the unthinkable tragedy of living with AIDS but also the profound love and devotion that Mark and Tom had to each other. I was born the month after Mark passed away, in September of 1991. All of my knowledge about HIV/AIDS has come through reading and watching documentaries. But it’s become an area I feel passionately about and feel that people my age owe it to themselves and to those who have gone before us to educate themselves about this epidemic. I have been absolutely floored by the stories that have emerged from this era, and how the LGBT community of LA and San Fran in particular rallied together and supported one another, even when those who were helping and campaigning were very often living with the same illness, and eventually needed to be cared for themselves... It never ceases to amaze me how the voices of those with AIDS were so passionate, loud and often very rightfully angry in their calls for funding, research and support. Yet to hear those voices now and to see in unflinching detail what people went through, we have to search for it. But I’m so glad this film exists. ‘Silverlake Life’ has stayed with me for years and affected me on a level like nothing else has. I’ve told many of my uni friends about ‘Silverlake Life’ and told them to see it. Many people born from the early 90s onwards just have no idea about what happened... I decided only about a week ago that I wanted to write something in reflection on this film, to get something out there to tell more people my age about its significance. I was astounded to find you posted this epilogue about two days later... I’d love to send you what I write because I absolutely want to get it right and do justice to Tom and Mark’s story. Thank you again so much for putting this film out into the world. You said in your acceptance speech for the Peabody Award that Tom wanted his ‘personal tragedy to generate something of value’ and I can say, as someone who wasn’t even alive when Tom and Mark were, that that has absolutely happened in my eyes and the legacy of their story continues today. Much love. Sophie xx
Hi peter.. its Damian..I wanted to tell you im doing better...there is no cure for it but I'm doing better and its Friday..and I have a bass on my lap with Patrick Cowley and Sylvester in the back ground..... I wanted to say from observation of this ending that I think Mark may have very well stopped treatment and only took pain pills to manage…. Also I notice I think he's wearing toms old glasses.. all this tells me he was just simply heartbroken.... thanks for loading this for us..and again...im always up to see your new work... I was also trained in the arts at the north Carolina school of the arts in ballet and orchestra my sister works in NYC and she's an actress...was in Mozart in the jungle a few years back.. So with my back ground seeing mark and tom are like family to me...I had many friends who were similar.... and I miss those times.. who doesn't miss being surrounded by brilliance? lol..Damian
sprintbass .... hey Damian, back then they really had no way to stop the progression of the disease.. From what I saw from Mark he was trying to take care of himself, taking herbs, trying alternative medicines... I don’t think he ever stopped trying, I think the disease was just overwhelming him with no way to stop it ...
Omg 😲 this was shocking. I'm so sad, I wish they both were still here. They both were such beautiful people 🤧. I hope they are together ❤️ in heaven. Thanks for the video though !!!
THE Silver lake documentary was a very heartbreaking daily lives of what these beautiful souls had to endure with living with Aids...may they rest in peace..hit home for me.. losing a very beautiful friend ,teacher to this horrible disease..
OMG poor mark!!!! His spots became pretty bad it looks like. I'm glad they are both at peace and their story helps so many people battling AIDS and HIV .
Bless Tom and Mark - I am glad Mark tried to keep optimistic in his last months. Two beautiful souls and I hope whatever happens after this life they are still together somewhere. ⚘️
I will never forget them. I remember seeing the original documentary very sad to see the progression of this terrible disease. I pray that everyone now has the medicine they need to keep them well so it doesn't get to this point. Painful ans agonizing to watch. I can imagine how he feels. I suffer from psoriasis and it's sore and painful it's covering alot of my body it made self conscious it makes me feel disgusting it itches and it burns and it won't go away. My goodness. Today I dont see KS spread to these extremes I never rarely ever see anyone with those lesions anywhere. Please tell me there's a cure.
Mr Friedman I love this movie you have made but sad to see another getting credit from it. I will post the link for you that is using this, Keep up the good work I watch theses often as there so true to Tom and Mark. Both these sites claim to have made and produced them.
The way these two men were treated was disgraceful. No one would let an animal die like that. But they were left to their own devices. Fucking horrendous. Shame for you that let them down.
It’s my mark , oh how this breaks my heart ♥️ , I only wish you was still here , how I wish the government could of saved you from all this pain , but I feel better knowing you suffer no more and you are in the arms of the good lord xx sleep peacefully my mark x
You really have to think that if Aids was killing straight people it would have been cured in a few years. The insane amount of time it took to just create medication to make it a chronic disease is disgraceful.
@@peterfriedman7193 Glad you’re doing ok,Peter. Now I have to ask. Is there an extended version of ‘Met him on a Sunday’ where Mark and Peter walk off camera laughing? It sounds silly to want to see such a thing but I’ve gotten so deep into this film that I really want to experience every moment of it! With that being said..I revisited the film Blackstar today! Love the nostalgia! Tom truly had a filmmakers vision and belonged behind and in front of that camera! And he couldn’t have passed his craft and knowledge on to a better filmmaker such as yourself 😉
Yes it was...although in wealthy Western countries, it has become more of a chronic, manageable disease, thanks to activists and scientists. This film was shot in 1989, before effective medications were developed in the mid - 1990's.
Kinda ironic how Mark said "I don't think so dear,not when the msg comes before the chicken".He was weeks/days away from dying,yet he was still worried about the things he was eating.
That must’ve been so shocking, scary and sad to witness in a store?! I’ve never seen a person with AIDS or AIDS related symptoms and infections, such as KS, what Mark had here. But in the 80’s and 90’s it was probably not uncommon to see gay men with AIDS presenting those symptoms. Still it must’ve been shocking to see, very, very sad…
RIP TOM & MARK 💕⚰️🙃💜😇💐💚🙏🪦❣️ My only comfort is knowing you guys are no longer suffering and reunited again❣️ Im sorry I cry everytime I see this Mark looked like he had to battle this cruel disease alone towards the end. I miss you Mark and I'm sorry for all the suffering you went through. 💔
Thank you so much for sharing this. I have watched the profoundly moving documentary a few times over the years and never have forgotten Tom and Mark. The film was so personal, so incredible in many ways and it really touches you the love and commitment these two beautiful men had for each other. Mark seemed so strong and still showed his sense of humour in dark moments. What amazing men they were, you felt like they were dear old friends. I wish I had known them personally. There is an amazing comfort in knowing they had such amazing people/friends who helped them to complete their work/story. Sad to hear that Paul also died. Everyone who was involved in putting this film together were some of the best people you could ask for in this world. Such kindness, respect and love shone through. I think this is one of the most beautiful and important pieces of film ever to have been made and has certainly made a difference in my life not only as an education about the horrendous journey of AIDS but it really opened my eyes and heart to know that such beauty and kindness amongst the darkness existed then as it does now. My heart goes out to anyone who has battled this dreadful disease and also to those who have lost a loved one. To the people who supported anyone fighting AIDS, you are heroes and you deserve the world. Love to you all & thank you again Peter for sharing this with us x
I've literally received thousands of comments and yours is one of the very best. Thank you for all your sensitivities and insights. There are times when everything seems pointless and then out of nowhere you write me and I see it's not. Sending you love and gratitude from Paris.
Finally the last pieces of silverlake life. Rip mark massi
Man, seeing Mark and his disease progression is tough, in Silverlake life he had KS lesions all over his body, but the progression onto his face and the weight loss is really tough to see, it's reality, but it's tough to see, they both seemed like such good people, RIP Mark and RIP Tom ...
Such a terrible disease
@@TravisLoneWolfWalsh … It really is, HIV is a devastating human tragedy… So many lives lost around the world ..
@Johnny Capybara Jr … Yep, viruses have one mission, find a host cell and replicate…
This was such an important thing to document. My heart breaks everytime I watch it and the treacherous nature of HIV and AIDS on the human body and spirit. You guys and all the people that stood by these people and told their stories are real life hero’s. God bless Mark and ALL the souls lost to this horrendous disease. I feel blessed to have heard his story.
It's one of the best documentaries about AIDS that I have ever seen, you really feel for the two men.
I cried my eyes out this morning seeing this. I ofcourse knew that Mark eventually died of AIDS but I always hoped that he didnt suffer or perhaps I convinced myself that he didnt suffer to make his death more palatable. To see how the disease progressed in him is just heartbreaking. Mr Friedman you did Tom and Mark proud. I wish we had a way to see more of Marks photography. I wish we had more moments of Mark and Tom together. I wish they had lived. I wish......
@@deependofshallow FYI I deleted her comments and reported them as hate speech. Thanks for your comments though!
@@peterfriedman7193 she told me I was going to hell and called me a bitch RIP Mark and Tom 😢
@@reneehorner489 You have to wonder why people like that hang around channels like this. Pathetic, really.
@@peterfriedman7193 poop 💩
@@peterfriedman7193 Tom and mark in hell 🔥☹️
I watched Silverlake life 2 years ago, and I was in shock.. Never seen anything like this. I'm from Croatia where the risk of catching HIV is very low, and never heard anyone who is positive.. Thank you Mr. Friedman for this documentary, and seeing Mark covered with ks broke my heart.. The only time I smiled was when Mark danced, and cried when Tom said he lost steam of life.. Best documentary and as time passes it's getting harder to see true love in peoples today, like the one Tom and Mark had.
I was reading about Freddie Mercury’s battle with AIDS and that is how I stumbled upon Silverlake Life. It was by far one of the most beautiful yet heartbreaking films I’ve ever seen.
Tom and Mark had such a deep and wonderful bond that, in that time, was a stark contrast to some of the hate and the awful things that were being said about gay men and the spread of AIDS in the media.
They both showed just how special their relationship was. If Tom wanted to achieve anything from his film it was showing a human relationship that had no bounds, no judgement and no discrimination as well as breaking down a wall that people refused to see past, where two genuine people were living out their time together with nothing but love. It also makes you appreciate the time you have and not to waste a minute of it unhappy and without love.
I think they will both hold a special place in my heart from here on out. Thank you Peter for helping Tom complete his film and for sharing it with us.
Same I was just seeing some doc about Freddie and the SilverLake popped up.
I’m glad you posted this. It gives viewers the closure to the story of their lives. Thanks!
I watched the documentary, Silverlake life, about 5 years ago, for the first time,and about a year later, possibly several months later, not quite a year; I watched, Tom Joslin's 1977 documentary film, Blackstar: Autobiography of a Close Friend. Both were very touching films, obviously Silverlake life, had a sad ending, but it was a very touching piece, just as Blackstar is. I had learned that Mark died, because, I did wonder what had happened to him after Tom's death. The sad part was seeing how they deteriorated, especially seeing them in Blackstar both were so healthy looking in that. It's sad to see how Mark, looked a lot worst, just a year after Tom's death. Tom died in july 1990 a few months before I was born, that was interesting to me! and Mark died in july of 1991, just year after Mark, they seemed like good people! Nice men with beautiful souls! Seeing the epilogue showed a clear image of the effect that AIDS had at that time and continues to have.
Thank you so much for uploading this. I have been wondering about Mark.
I lost an uncle name Mark in the LA area in 93 from AIDS.
I moved to Las Vegas from TX in the early 90's. I worked for a nursing home where we had an entire wing for AIDS patients. I was one of the few who volunteered to work that wing. People were still very uneducated and scared. They kept saying we have families at home. No matter the amount of times we explained to them they couldn't contract it that way. I then left there and worked for a hospice. Once again I had the biggest case load of AIDS patients because everyone was too scared. I met and grew to love some very special people in this time. Tom and Mark's story touched me deeply. I watched the first film, then Silverlake, then found this. I'm glad they are being remember.
Thank you for your comment but even moreso for your courage and your contribution to humanity. You might also like a short film I did right before Silverlake Life, about and openly gay and HIV + mailman in the rural American South. His lover is a hospice nurse...I wish you the best - you deserve it! ua-cam.com/video/CpvebSvYTFs/v-deo.html
Tom dying choked me up I can’t imagine seeing marks it was so sad when he said a few days after toms death... “I miss going into his room and getting his attention or kissing his forehead”.So sad to lose a lifelong partner and the routine of his last days then to have to deal with your own impending death.
Thank you for posting this epilogue. I remember a late night television screening of Silverlake Life here in the uk. For many years I wondered what had happened to Mark after Toms death and this has completed their story for me. Although this film demonstrates the horrors of AIDS at the peak of the epidemic to me the film shows the power of love. It has been an honour to be able to see this couple fighting to get through everyday together. Once again thank you.
Thanks for your comment. You're the first to comment on it! I've been meaning to post it for years because many many people have asked me "What happened to Mark?" I intentionally left that question hanging in the original film. My only copy of the epilogue is on an American dvd, and it took a while to figure out how to make a digital copy that I could post.
Thank you again for your comment. I uploaded a new version of the epilogue with better sound here ua-cam.com/video/BqQWnXLISjk/v-deo.html
Thank you so much for posting this video, Peter. Hard to find, harder to watch, the footage offers a poignant final look at Mark Massi's indomitable humour and almost unbearable anguish. Through your involvement in Silverlake Life, the world not only gained an essential documentary, but came to know -- and admire -- some truly singular human beings. Thanks again!
Thank you for your comment which brought tears to my eyes. I was very lucky to know them too. BTW the old footage in Silverlake comes from their 1976 autobiographical film Blackstar, which is here vimeo.com/209640111
Just FYI the epilogue with better sound is here ua-cam.com/video/BqQWnXLISjk/v-deo.html
God Bless you Mark! So glad your trials and tribulations are over! Now you and Tom can love and annoy each other all you want!
I really hope so
Thanks for uploading this. I often wondered what happened with Mark after Silverlake Life. RIP Mark and Tom 😢
Peter, this is the most incredible story i’ve ever seen. Thank you so much for taking the utmost care for this footage and these great films. It’s very sad to see what has happened to your friends Tom and Mark. They seemed like two amazing guys with a lot of love for eachother. Bless you for your hard work on this. I wish you all the best and a very happy life in good health Peter! Greetings from The Netherlands.
Making documentaries has relatively few rewards. The best of all are comments like yours. It's really meaningful to read what you wrote, I actually felt a wave of emotion pass throughout my whole body. It wasn't just positive and appreciative but it was very precise and pointed. Thank you. By the way, right before Silverlake I made a short film on a very similar subject which is also on my channel, called "Fighting in Southwest Louisiana".
PS For many years I went to Amsterdam every year for the documentary film festival. I liked the city very much and felt welcome and at home there, although I never visited anywhere else in the Netherlands. Greetings and best wishes from Paris!
Peter Friedman bless you for your kind words Peter! :-) i will certainly watch that documentary as well! And Paris? You live there nowadays? That’s me and my wife’s favorite city! We visit it every year a few times. Also a very welcoming and interesting city! Wishing you well! All the best! :-)
@@AF-vm6xx I've been in Paris for 20 years because my husband is French and has a life-tenured position as a scientist here. You can reach me if you ever feel like it, at info@strange-attractions.com
Peter Friedman thank you Peter! Best regards to you and your husband.
Andy
An unapologetic view into not just living with AIDS but also dying from it. The clip of Mark lying shirtless sunning his withered body is so profound, to see what this disease can do to the human body is frightening.
In the times when there was literally nothing to slow or stop the progression of the disease was an era of desperation & darkness. Once the illness began to manifest beyond wasting many became shut-ins! Mark had such a bold personality, there he is full blown AIDS and still out and about for the world to see and not care! He truly lived his life to the very last moment.
R.I.P. Mark & Tommy.
I originally watched (Silverlake) many years ago. I knew what happened to Mark only because I Googled & found information. I didn't even know this existed until I looked up the documentary again & stumbled upon this. Its very sad. But it reminds me that life is short & we need to live our lives to the fullest.
Thank you, Peter for making this available to us. I was really wondering what happened to Mark. He was such a sweet and amazing soul and I am comforted to know that someone was there for him during his final days. Bless his heart and soul. This and the Silverlake - View from here.....truly touched my soul. I laughed and cried. Such sweet people to have had to go through this. No one deserves this disease. It ravages the body terribly and torments the soul. May Allah bless you, Peter. ☺️👌🏻🤲🏻
Thanks Peter
I struggled through both because the film is so real it brings my own memories of California and losing my cousin to AIDS in 1993. It’s so close to being my own family my own loss that it brings it all back.
Luckily I wasn’t there at the very end. One of my cousins best friends and his partner were there. His partner for what ever reasons has survived and after a time of noncontact we are back in contact like it was all just yesterday .
You have succeeded in so many ways. This should be required viewing to teens who think it is a story about the past. It is and it isn’t the past. There’s still work to be done for a crisis the government back shelved as long as it could because it “didn’t concern anyone important”.
"Luckily I wasn't there at the very end". I'm not so sure that was lucky. "It is and it isn’t the past." Thank you for saying that! I'd add: "It is and isn't about AIDS: It's about love and loss." I say this because I can't tell you how many people were affected by the film because they'd lost someone to cancer. Just before making this I made short film on another couple with AIDS, one of whom, while dying, says he's "the luckiest human in the world:. ua-cam.com/users/results?search_query=fighting+in+southwest+louisiana+2019
To answer more directly , I see why your work to share their story speaks to so many esp in loss of family/friends to cancer. You’ve found a way to tell the story of grief and loss that is as healing as it can be sad While you’ve also been honest about the dark parts.
I think many in the mental health community (I’m a retired nurse) will agree that that is the part of dealing with it patients misunderstand the most. That it must be dealt with to feel relief. All of the dark especially. Or it deals with us .
Best of luck always. You are very talented. It’s no surprise that Tom and Mark trusted you so ♥️
@@peterfriedman7193 Peter, since both Mark and Tom are deceased as is most of their families, there shouldn’t be any privacy concerns so can you tell us the address where they lived prior to their deaths? I’ve always had nostalgia for places with a past and it would be interesting to see where they spent their last days.
@@Steve-wf3vv I don't remember the address. I was there once or twice but that was 30 years ago.
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My condolences to those that have passed away from this dreadful virus.
What do you think about researchers that are on the brink of having a functional cure for those infected with HIV? I know there have been so many possible cures to eradicate this virus since the 1980s, but it looks like science may have finally caught up to this virus.
The two pending gene therapy approaches to curing ( *AGT103-T* and *EBT-101* ) are both currently undergoing human clinical trials, with final results to released between the years of 2027 to 2032.
AGT103-T, a single dose cell & gene editing or modifying treatment disabling CCR5 receptors and is used the from the patients own product, is developed by American Gene Technologies.
EBT-101, is a single does CRISPR based gene editing therapy that cuts out viral genes integrated into infected cells and deactivate HIV genetic blueprints in cells, is developed at Temple University in Philadelphia and Excision BioTherapeutics.
After results of of AGT103-T & EBT-101, researchers may be able to combine AGT103-T + EBT-101 as a one two punch and have the possible combined AGT103-T + EBT-101 treatment as a "sterilizing cure" instead of a "functional cure".
I’ve watched silverlake life so many times... very powerful documentary. And always wondering what happened to Mark in his final days. Thank you so much for this upload. RIP Tom & Mark. You two will be together forever
Thank u. I was looking for this video for a long time.
I send my love.
Thank you for sending your love. The epilogue has been on the DVD since 2003 but I only just got around to transferring and posting it. Sorry about that!
Seeing Mark like this hurt my heart. KS lesions took over his body. And thrush in the back of his throat had to be agonizing pain. At least the pain meds helped relieve some of his pain.
Wonderful documentary, deserves more recognition❤❤
God Bless Tom and Mark, you fought a long ,hard, battle and I thank you for bringing your stories to everyone's attention. Sweet dreams XXXXX
Una parte de mí esperaba no ver a Mark terminando así; supongo que al final, aunque su cuerpo fue acabado por el SIDA, el SIDA no pudo terminar con la esencia de su ser. Me da gusto saber que al momento de su muerte no estuvo solo.
Hay otro video donde esta con su novio marck
What ? ☹️
@@SebastianRodriguez-sx3fg mark in hell 🔥☹️
I wondered about Mark as well so thanks for sharing this. It’s hard to watch. God bless everyone. People need to be nice to everyone!
Thank you so much for posting this, Peter, and thank you for putting together ‘Silverlake Life’. I can’t begin to imagine what a heart-wrenching experience it must have been but also what an honour...
I was so moved by the unflinching honesty in which Tom and yourself created this film, sharing both the unthinkable tragedy of living with AIDS but also the profound love and devotion that Mark and Tom had to each other.
I was born the month after Mark passed away, in September of 1991. All of my knowledge about HIV/AIDS has come through reading and watching documentaries. But it’s become an area I feel passionately about and feel that people my age owe it to themselves and to those who have gone before us to educate themselves about this epidemic.
I have been absolutely floored by the stories that have emerged from this era, and how the LGBT community of LA and San Fran in particular rallied together and supported one another, even when those who were helping and campaigning were very often living with the same illness, and eventually needed to be cared for themselves...
It never ceases to amaze me how the voices of those with AIDS were so passionate, loud and often very rightfully angry in their calls for funding, research and support. Yet to hear those voices now and to see in unflinching detail what people went through, we have to search for it. But I’m so glad this film exists. ‘Silverlake Life’ has stayed with me for years and affected me on a level like nothing else has.
I’ve told many of my uni friends about ‘Silverlake Life’ and told them to see it. Many people born from the early 90s onwards just have no idea about what happened... I decided only about a week ago that I wanted to write something in reflection on this film, to get something out there to tell more people my age about its significance. I was astounded to find you posted this epilogue about two days later... I’d love to send you what I write because I absolutely want to get it right and do justice to Tom and Mark’s story. Thank you again so much for putting this film out into the world.
You said in your acceptance speech for the Peabody Award that Tom wanted his ‘personal tragedy to generate something of value’ and I can say, as someone who wasn’t even alive when Tom and Mark were, that that has absolutely happened in my eyes and the legacy of their story continues today. Much love. Sophie xx
Thanks again Sophie, just to let you know there's a an epilogue (with improved sound) here ua-cam.com/video/BqQWnXLISjk/v-deo.html
Hi peter.. its Damian..I wanted to tell you im doing better...there is no cure for it but I'm doing better and its Friday..and I have a bass on my lap with Patrick Cowley and Sylvester in the back ground..... I wanted to say from observation of this ending that I think Mark may have very well stopped treatment and only took pain pills to manage…. Also I notice I think he's wearing toms old glasses.. all this tells me he was just simply heartbroken.... thanks for loading this for us..and again...im always up to see your new work... I was also trained in the arts at the north Carolina school of the arts in ballet and orchestra my sister works in NYC and she's an actress...was in Mozart in the jungle a few years back.. So with my back ground seeing mark and tom are like family to me...I had many friends who were similar.... and I miss those times.. who doesn't miss being surrounded by brilliance? lol..Damian
sprintbass .... hey Damian, back then they really had no way to stop the progression of the disease.. From what I saw from Mark he was trying to take care of himself, taking herbs, trying alternative medicines... I don’t think he ever stopped trying, I think the disease was just overwhelming him with no way to stop it ...
Omg 😲 this was shocking. I'm so sad, I wish they both were still here. They both were such beautiful people 🤧. I hope they are together ❤️ in heaven. Thanks for the video though !!!
Thanks for sharing Peter.
Thanks for your comment. There's now a new upload of the epilogue with better sound here ua-cam.com/video/BqQWnXLISjk/v-deo.html
This makes me so sad.😔😟 Yeah I mean, at least neither are suffering anymore but a life lost is always so terrible and depressing! RIP Mark and Tom!
THE Silver lake documentary was a very heartbreaking daily lives of what these beautiful souls had to endure with living with Aids...may they rest in peace..hit home for me.. losing a very beautiful friend ,teacher to this horrible disease..
My heart hurt when I saw both videos .
Petter thank you for sharing
OMG poor mark!!!! His spots became pretty bad it looks like. I'm glad they are both at peace and their story helps so many people battling AIDS and HIV .
You again
You again ☹️🙏🏻✝️📿
Mark in hell 🔥☹️🙏🏻✝️📿
Bless Tom and Mark - I am glad Mark tried to keep optimistic in his last months. Two beautiful souls and I hope whatever happens after this life they are still together somewhere. ⚘️
I will never forget them. I remember seeing the original documentary very sad to see the progression of this terrible disease. I pray that everyone now has the medicine they need to keep them well so it doesn't get to this point. Painful ans agonizing to watch. I can imagine how he feels. I suffer from psoriasis and it's sore and painful it's covering alot of my body it made self conscious it makes me feel disgusting it itches and it burns and it won't go away. My goodness. Today I dont see KS spread to these extremes I never rarely ever see anyone with those lesions anywhere. Please tell me there's a cure.
Where are mark and Tom buried? I would love to pay my respects to them sometime
Kevin Eaton both were cremated as seen in the film. They have memorials on findagrave.com
Mark I love u soo much , u made me a very humble person after seeing you xx
Mr Friedman I love this movie you have made but sad to see another getting credit from it. I will post the link for you that is using this, Keep up the good work I watch theses often as there so true to Tom and Mark. Both these sites claim to have made and produced them.
ua-cam.com/video/s6I5qq93qU0/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/vuFS4z6xEvg/v-deo.html
This is so hard I love you Mark you were so strong
As well as Tom I'm so sorry ❤️
He was such a sweet man, with a great sense of humour. RIP Mark.
This is one heartbreaking scene but at least there both at peace
Please ignore my comment on silverlake life, regarding an update on Mark. I have found this now ❤️
Poor Marc breaks my fucking heart he and Tom didn't deserve this😡 RIP sweetie your at peace with your soul mate...
Podeis ponerlo subititulado en castellano, gracias!
The way these two men were treated was disgraceful. No one would let an animal die like that. But they were left to their own devices. Fucking horrendous. Shame for you that let them down.
This was before antiviral drugs were available. Prior to 1997, most aids patients died like this.
I always wanted to know what happened to Mark after the documentary. I'm sure they are dancing together now in heaven. Rest in peace 🙏
Omg the poor guy is absolutely smothered in KS.
So very sad how hard that hit him
It’s my mark , oh how this breaks my heart ♥️ , I only wish you was still here , how I wish the government could of saved you from all this pain , but I feel better knowing you suffer no more and you are in the arms of the good lord xx sleep peacefully my mark x
I’ve watched Silverlake life a few times. Wow Mark had it worse than Tom in the end. His KS was terrible.
What a way to live, what a way to die.
He died of AZT and other "AIDS drugs", as well as all the others.
Claudia Müller and before azt, the patients also died.... hic destroys cd4 cells.... without immunity.....
Im from Romania tanks you Peter !! RIP Tom & Mark ❤😪😪
You really have to think that if Aids was killing straight people it would have been cured in a few years. The insane amount of time it took to just create medication to make it a chronic disease is disgraceful.
My heart breaks for Mark RIP
@Debbie Harry you were a bully in school yes? Because you're acting like a bully in your response to my comment☹️
@Debbie Harry 🌻
Wow This man was a fighter.
So brave We miss these great souls
I have see the movie docu .was so sad but beautiful Rip ❤️🙏🏼
I seen Silver lake but my God I never thought Mark would get that bad
Had to revisit this film. Hope everyone’s doing well these days!
In my little circle we'll all doing great, thanks. Just preoccupied with US election & Project 2025...
@@peterfriedman7193 Glad you’re doing ok,Peter. Now I have to ask. Is there an extended version of ‘Met him on a Sunday’ where Mark and Peter walk off camera laughing? It sounds silly to want to see such a thing but I’ve gotten so deep into this film that I really want to experience every moment of it!
With that being said..I revisited the film Blackstar today! Love the nostalgia! Tom truly had a filmmakers vision and belonged behind and in front of that camera!
And he couldn’t have passed his craft and knowledge on to a better filmmaker such as yourself 😉
@@jasonwhite7452 Yes. It's the final scene in BLACKSTAR, which is here: vimeo.com/manage/videos/690199560/deabd31836
this is scary
Not for me ☹️
Very, very difficult to watch...... 😢
Good god AIDS is terrible. Thats actually shocking looking.
Yes it was...although in wealthy Western countries, it has become more of a chronic, manageable disease, thanks to activists and scientists. This film was shot in 1989, before effective medications were developed in the mid - 1990's.
Tom, Mark je vous aime❤
Kinda ironic how Mark said "I don't think so dear,not when the msg comes before the chicken".He was weeks/days away from dying,yet he was still worried about the things he was eating.
Good point! But that sort of vigilance helped him survive as long as he did.
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He was a fighter, very determined to survive. Just a few more years and there would be effective treatments. Beyond sad. RIP Mark
That must’ve been so shocking, scary and sad to witness in a store?! I’ve never seen a person with AIDS or AIDS related symptoms and infections, such as KS, what Mark had here. But in the 80’s and 90’s it was probably not uncommon to see gay men with AIDS presenting those symptoms. Still it must’ve been shocking to see, very, very sad…
He died a year after Tom died...if you know silver lake life.
AIDS even in the news anymore?
RIP TOM & MARK 💕⚰️🙃💜😇💐💚🙏🪦❣️ My only comfort is knowing you guys are no longer suffering and reunited again❣️ Im sorry I cry everytime I see this Mark looked like he had to battle this cruel disease alone towards the end. I miss you Mark and I'm sorry for all the suffering you went through. 💔
Thank you so much for sharing this. I have watched the profoundly moving documentary a few times over the years and never have forgotten Tom and Mark. The film was so personal, so incredible in many ways and it really touches you the love and commitment these two beautiful men had for each other. Mark seemed so strong and still showed his sense of humour in dark moments. What amazing men they were, you felt like they were dear old friends. I wish I had known them personally. There is an amazing comfort in knowing they had such amazing people/friends who helped them to complete their work/story. Sad to hear that Paul also died. Everyone who was involved in putting this film together were some of the best people you could ask for in this world. Such kindness, respect and love shone through. I think this is one of the most beautiful and important pieces of film ever to have been made and has certainly made a difference in my life not only as an education about the horrendous journey of AIDS but it really opened my eyes and heart to know that such beauty and kindness amongst the darkness existed then as it does now. My heart goes out to anyone who has battled this dreadful disease and also to those who have lost a loved one. To the people who supported anyone fighting AIDS, you are heroes and you deserve the world. Love to you all & thank you again Peter for sharing this with us x
I've literally received thousands of comments and yours is one of the very best. Thank you for all your sensitivities and insights. There are times when everything seems pointless and then out of nowhere you write me and I see it's not. Sending you love and gratitude from Paris.