Every word you said resonates with me too. And with your permission I would like to explain the reason for this. Basically when we top a competitive exam it gives a high which is similar to huge dopamine kick but in a healthy way. So we naturally crave for higher dose by setting a bigger ambition. And the reason even I didn't celebrate just like you is because we were pretty sure of the result that we will fetch a descent rank. Only people who celebrate madly are the ones who achieved something by luck for instance lottery etc. not the ones who worked hard for their goal. And I don't think we should achieve something to proove anyone. We must live our lives in our own terms. Hope I made sense sir😅
The problem with many of middle class students is that we do not live in present. Many of us will talk of future without living in present. Remember that life is too short, whatever the situation, we should try to find happiness in small things, Do not wait for utopian Life
I completely understands your point sir , Last few years I worked really hard and late hours to make up for my failures to compete with random strangers without realizing I am running a race which got no finish-line , While I was earning decent on my job I started taking up more work just to have more money in my account just to compete with some ABC person and whenever I crossed his achievements I had someone XYZ person in mind to compete with and so on , Realizing I don't even have time to make use of this money in my account , Just read on Saturdays and Sunday about investments and parked it there. I had no time for family , friends and always gave an excuse that I am working towards my career. Later I had a feeling I am working like a machine , I decided to cut off some work and its really peaceful having evening tea with my parents :).
IIT - IPS - Entrepreneur . Wow U Can Do Anything U Want . U Have Strong Mind - Strong Will Power . Otherwise Majority Youngsters (Boy's ) Wo Ladki Ke Chakkar Me Pade Rehte Hai , Aashiqui Me Busy Hai . But U Were Not This Is Also The Reason For All Big Successes U Achieved. Great 👌
Just coming here from the gratitude workshop, I wanted to thank you for being so candid and honest about your life for the betterment of others. Always looking at the next mountain to climb made me realize that I was also too focused on the future or maybe the delayed gratification to be had in the future, So I decided to stop and take a look around me. Thank you rajan I am grateful to you :).
Point no1 bears special relevance for me. I spend my weekly off with my daughter. Playing, watching cartoons with her. My doctor colleagues often advise me to do private practice in off time.
You are narrating exactly my life. I have never felt happy with my achievements and looking for something new everytime I achieve my goal. I think a lot of middle class kids are brought up that way, to value achievements over everything else, to believe that they'll be happy ONLY when people think they've made something out of lives. But I'm grateful for this video and also the realisation that hit me last year that I'm constantly going about life feeling inadequate over something that's just in my mind.
Takes a lot of humility and courage to accept, share and move on! I wouldn't call them mistakes but it's being human with all our vulnerabilities and strengths. Thanks for sharing!
Sir, been a great admirer of your thoughts. Life is in the journey and not in the destination, rightly told by you. Trying to imbibe these things slowly along with empathy and gratitude towards others.
@RajanSingh A very Happy Teacher's day sir. You took us from ignorance to knowledge and lit up our life. Thank for your guidance and insights. You are like a Mozart in disguise for us.
Sir, I too struggle from this question almost everyday...I go very hard on myself...for my future goals...but when I try manage my goals between my entertainment...my family...my freinds...it seems to Cut me short of my Goal
Totally relate to this . Even today I am doing exactly same thing. I never really celebrate success. I thought it was detachment towards success. But I took full emotional hit for failures. That doesn't sound like detachment. Every video of yours is so relatable. Thanks for sharing insights 🙏 .
You have narrated wonderfully... mistakes are important thing which people dont share..but you did..you did great help to everyone who is listening this... overcrying on mistakes is human nature's bad habbit.. the only thing we can do is getting aware of this habit...
I get totally relate with every bit of your talk.I don't celebrate achievement(considering it's not a big deal), instead aspire more and more. I am in 20s(most enthusiastic age,I believe!) but still I don't enjoy life in chase of doing more & something extraordinary. Thank you so much Sir for this awakening message which made me realise that purpose of life may be bigger but meaning of life lies in small things(in balanced life). 🙏
Excellent video. I made the first and second mistake throughout my life, but fortunately, not the third. I still find it quite a challenge to achieve a good balance between life and work, and I still always look for the next mountain to climb, but after learning many lessons in life, do take a moment to appreciate the mountain I am standing on as Rajan Singh has said. But this video clip has definitely got me thinking.
His life lessons are similar to Acharya Prashant's video - " Sahab Career bana rahe hai". He is lucky enough to even realise his mistakes otherwise we have so much of Ahankaar that we do not accept these mistakes and every next generationkeep on making same mistakes. The solution of such things is in Upnishads(Vedants) and Bhagwat Geeta. Life is very calm after coming in touch with Acharya Prashant and you Sir. Acharya Prashant also went to IIT,IIM and passed civil services exam.
This is exactly me..but the only difference is I failed in everything. I couldn't clear JNV, IIT, GATE, CAT, UPSC . I did my best in everything but still couldn't clear them. Buried in financial pressures. Completely burned out preparing for those many exams. I didn't enjoy any party or occasions. Recently I realised mental strength is more important than anything so I took break from everything and after a while I' ll search for any decent job
Dear sir, I was wondering what incident or event in particular led you to wait and introspect about all these mistakes done by you! Also, the major takeaway form the video is that "Making mistakes is also fine as it refines us" Thank you sir for this video.
Hahaha!! Buying the GMAT guide while in IPS training takes the cake!!! I am reminded of super-ambitious people who plans their next job search as soon as they have got the offer letter of the current company!!!
Honestly, I feel that whatever you did was right at that moment and you were living in the present. I can completely correlate to the fact that why you did not celebrate after clearing IIT since I too didn't do the same and after clearing the exam there is no special feeling left. But I feel life is all about the choices we make. Had you not been strict with yourself and sacrificed so much in life, you wouldn't have achieved so much that you have. The reason why people listen to you is all because of the fact that you have good credentials and achieving those requires a lot of hard work. Please don't say that it was a mistake since you did whatever you thought was correct at that moment. Time in life is limited for all. We cannot achieve more than what time allows us to do. So we have to sacrifice good things in life in order to achieve something great.
Ya..money is already made in dollars.. So now he is reaping the fruits of his hard work done back then... Can take it slow and work on passion projects.. for rest of the middle class guys like us...it's still a long way to go...
Exactly right , Right now I am doing same thigh but since now ,I try to enjoy every moment which I have and would don't think too much what are my next mountain to climb .🙏🔥
Sir, at this stage next big things actually give thrive. What a complex world we live in!! The things that make a lot of sense to me now are not going to make sense after few years. Knowing this also, I will be be searching for a new mountain 🏔️. What a complex word !!
You need to read the poem - The road not taken. There are no mistakes in life. There are only choices. It all depends on our perspective. As Robert Frost said, “No matter which road you take, you'll always sigh, and wish you'd taken another.”
Every action has its own 3 dimensions-good,bad,ugly.. Thinking about future, not celebrating, seamless success making, is not at all a bad idea but the point here is to acknowledge is that it has also it's own severe consequences.. Just think of whatsoever the benefits and goodness that has been reaped from these 3 seeds. But the spoken words are valuable treasure hunt that should be averted consciously.. Thank u sir.
#2 and #3 very much relatable. Only made my life sad so far. But thankfully I have a few decades ahead of me for correction. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. :) Kudos!
yes sir i can relate it too when i see myself most of time i think i have not completed a course and start searching for other one . yeah thanks for sharing this experience sir
Rajan, I can relate to each and every thing that you have said. I continue to make these mistakes and have had a bit of realization too, but this helps to bring it on the face. Thank you
My father is a businessman and he goes to work 365 days and if he is at home sometimes by miracle he has work in bank or he is home when he is not feeling well but he don't even talk to us that what happened throughout the day he has time to scroll Facebook but not for us but when I will become father I will definitely not become like my father 😔
I want to say something.. 99% of the chance is, your dad don't have something great to tell you, the lifestyle of a middle aged guy in India is huge boring. Instead select books to read make good friends to talk & chill somewhere. Don't wait for the dad, his circle is different. Explore the world.
LIVE IN PRESENT IS THE CONCLUSION. Thanks for Sharing Sir. Pl focus on living every moment from now onwards n pl pl do not miss out on those Small small things
Thanks for this video Rajan. Like a lot of people from middle class background, I can totally relate to it. I recently started to ponder on it as well.
Sir ,I respect you and watch your videos. Don't give such message that we people from Middle class don't get success. Work and work that's the only thing that can get us there. We have to build the best of ourselves to manage things not get weak.
I watch motivational video in the night nd then sleep till 9 after waking up i again watch motivational video to console myself.. this happens again nd again. I'm a morning person nd waking up at 9 makes me feel like like my life has ended
Best video sir Thank you so much for sharing such mistakes I am 21 and surely will not commit these mistakes. This video is surely an eye opener for me.I am also committing these mistakes but now I got the knowledge. Thank you so much sir for enlightening with your experience. Tonnes of positive energy and good wishes to you 💟❣️
my respect for you - before this video -> (tends to infinite ). after this video -> (infinite - something finite ). after realizing that you accepted your mistake's publicly for welfare of others -> ( infinite - something finite + something finite ). Thank you .
Agreed... But such realization happens only after certain achievements. Till that achievement/s, nobody really cares for such things, which is ignored in the process of desired achievements and which is later labelled as mistakes.
I have not achieved anything if I compare mine achievements with yours, I am a IT professional with similar family background...I felt...as if....it is my story and experience being told to everyone through you..
Does youtube algo reads mind. Its same situation i m currently in. Thinking just for next big thing. And to my surprise i have decided to embark on same route sir as yours. I need to contemplate more after seeing ur video.
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Hello Sir, every word in this video resonates with me.. thanks for sharing the wisdom
How it works?
Every word you said resonates with me too. And with your permission I would like to explain the reason for this. Basically when we top a competitive exam it gives a high which is similar to huge dopamine kick but in a healthy way. So we naturally crave for higher dose by setting a bigger ambition.
And the reason even I didn't celebrate just like you is because we were pretty sure of the result that we will fetch a descent rank. Only people who celebrate madly are the ones who achieved something by luck for instance lottery etc. not the ones who worked hard for their goal. And I don't think we should achieve something to proove anyone. We must live our lives in our own terms. Hope I made sense sir😅
True,simple but valuable words
Thanks for sharing your life experience.
Many speakers focus on building a career, spending more time on work, etc. Your lectures are different. You focus on the overall growth of a person.
JEE trauma is real thing u know.
@ss haha it takes time, took me 3 years.
Yes its great
The problem with many of middle class students is that we do not live in present. Many of us will talk of future without living in present. Remember that life is too short, whatever the situation, we should try to find happiness in small things, Do not wait for utopian Life
But life seems very long when u don't have anything in your pockets...
I completely understands your point sir , Last few years I worked really hard and late hours to make up for my failures to compete with random strangers without realizing I am running a race which got no finish-line , While I was earning decent on my job I started taking up more work just to have more money in my account just to compete with some ABC person and whenever I crossed his achievements I had someone XYZ person in mind to compete with and so on , Realizing I don't even have time to make use of this money in my account , Just read on Saturdays and Sunday about investments and parked it there. I had no time for family , friends and always gave an excuse that I am working towards my career. Later I had a feeling I am working like a machine , I decided to cut off some work and its really peaceful having evening tea with my parents :).
Only a great person can admit his mistakes so humbly, lots to learn from you Sir..
IIT - IPS - Entrepreneur . Wow
U Can Do Anything U Want . U Have Strong Mind - Strong Will Power . Otherwise Majority Youngsters (Boy's ) Wo Ladki Ke Chakkar Me Pade Rehte Hai , Aashiqui Me Busy Hai . But U Were Not This Is Also The Reason For All Big Successes U Achieved. Great 👌
Just coming here from the gratitude workshop, I wanted to thank you for being so candid and honest about your life for the betterment of others. Always looking at the next mountain to climb made me realize that I was also too focused on the future or maybe the delayed gratification to be had in the future, So I decided to stop and take a look around me. Thank you rajan I am grateful to you :).
Point no1 bears special relevance for me. I spend my weekly off with my daughter. Playing, watching cartoons with her. My doctor colleagues often advise me to do private practice in off time.
You are narrating exactly my life. I have never felt happy with my achievements and looking for something new everytime I achieve my goal. I think a lot of middle class kids are brought up that way, to value achievements over everything else, to believe that they'll be happy ONLY when people think they've made something out of lives.
But I'm grateful for this video and also the realisation that hit me last year that I'm constantly going about life feeling inadequate over something that's just in my mind.
It’s a weird way to msg here but I also just realised that we had talked somewhere on chat when u were in bhopal!?! Anyway hope u r doing good 👍🏻
@@rishabhjain7031 Hey! Yeah, chat :P
That was in 2018, I guess. I'm doing good. Hope you are too :)
@@aadyaantya362 haha yeah..I guess ur llm exam or something 😄 I’m ok..also comfortable talking somewhere else!?!
@@rishabhjain7031 you have a really good memory. I don't really use social media. Can't share personal details on comments. :/
Takes a lot of humility and courage to accept, share and move on! I wouldn't call them mistakes but it's being human with all our vulnerabilities and strengths. Thanks for sharing!
It's amazing how you are able to remember your past stories with so much detail and create so much value out of them! Thank you!
It's is the most valuable UA-cam video i ever watch in my 7 year online(UA-cam ) life..
I don't have any world to thank you sir 🙂
It's so difficult to accept your mistakes. Great job sir! Thanks a lot!
Even I have been committing the same mistakes but before it could become worse your advice came as a saviour. Thanks a lot sir👍
Sir, been a great admirer of your thoughts. Life is in the journey and not in the destination, rightly told by you. Trying to imbibe these things slowly along with empathy and gratitude towards others.
@RajanSingh A very Happy Teacher's day sir. You took us from ignorance to knowledge and lit up our life. Thank for your guidance and insights. You are like a Mozart in disguise for us.
Balance is the key....as a humans we forget small things and suffer. Daily reminder is important.
Acharya prashant and rajan sir's achievements are of great level
I humbly disagree
@@jaydistracted ok no problem
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Sir, I too struggle from this question almost everyday...I go very hard on myself...for my future goals...but when I try manage my goals between my entertainment...my family...my freinds...it seems to Cut me short of my Goal
Really gem of advice sir. Society will be thankful to your service
Totally relate to this . Even today I am doing exactly same thing. I never really celebrate success. I thought it was detachment towards success. But I took full emotional hit for failures. That doesn't sound like detachment. Every video of yours is so relatable. Thanks for sharing insights 🙏 .
You have narrated wonderfully... mistakes are important thing which people dont share..but you did..you did great help to everyone who is listening this... overcrying on mistakes is human nature's bad habbit.. the only thing we can do is getting aware of this habit...
Thanks sir i will never make these mistakes,i wanna enjoy my life every moment.
I get totally relate with every bit of your talk.I don't celebrate achievement(considering it's not a big deal), instead aspire more and more. I am in 20s(most enthusiastic age,I believe!) but still I don't enjoy life in chase of doing more & something extraordinary.
Thank you so much Sir for this awakening message which made me realise that purpose of life may be bigger but meaning of life lies in small things(in balanced life). 🙏
Sir I am preparing for UPSC CSE and got addicted to your lectures to improve my personality and learn moral values of life.
Excellent video. I made the first and second mistake throughout my life, but fortunately, not the third. I still find it quite a challenge to achieve a good balance between life and work, and I still always look for the next mountain to climb, but after learning many lessons in life, do take a moment to appreciate the mountain I am standing on as Rajan Singh has said. But this video clip has definitely got me thinking.
His life lessons are similar to Acharya Prashant's video - " Sahab Career bana rahe hai". He is lucky enough to even realise his mistakes otherwise we have so much of Ahankaar that we do not accept these mistakes and every next generationkeep on making same mistakes. The solution of such things is in Upnishads(Vedants) and Bhagwat Geeta. Life is very calm after coming in touch with Acharya Prashant and you Sir. Acharya Prashant also went to IIT,IIM and passed civil services exam.
Sir U Are Gem. Every Parents Want Son Like U . One After Another Big Success .
Leaving IPS Requires Courage . 🙏
This is exactly me..but the only difference is I failed in everything. I couldn't clear JNV, IIT, GATE, CAT, UPSC . I did my best in everything but still couldn't clear them. Buried in financial pressures. Completely burned out preparing for those many exams. I didn't enjoy any party or occasions. Recently I realised mental strength is more important than anything so I took break from everything and after a while I' ll search for any decent job
Dear sir,
I was wondering what incident or event in particular led you to wait and introspect about all these mistakes done by you!
Also, the major takeaway form the video is that "Making mistakes is also fine as it refines us"
Thank you sir for this video.
Hahaha!! Buying the GMAT guide while in IPS training takes the cake!!! I am reminded of super-ambitious people who plans their next job search as soon as they have got the offer letter of the current company!!!
Sir your experiences are your niche! I absolutely enjoy listening to your experiences😊
You are 100 percent right sir. Very very precious insights ......
You are absolutely right sir....sometimes I also feel now even in starting of my carrier[ preparing for NEET]2021 ....thanks a lot sir.🙏🙏😊
Honestly, I feel that whatever you did was right at that moment and you were living in the present. I can completely correlate to the fact that why you did not celebrate after clearing IIT since I too didn't do the same and after clearing the exam there is no special feeling left. But I feel life is all about the choices we make. Had you not been strict with yourself and sacrificed so much in life, you wouldn't have achieved so much that you have. The reason why people listen to you is all because of the fact that you have good credentials and achieving those requires a lot of hard work. Please don't say that it was a mistake since you did whatever you thought was correct at that moment. Time in life is limited for all. We cannot achieve more than what time allows us to do. So we have to sacrifice good things in life in order to achieve something great.
Ya..money is already made in dollars..
So now he is reaping the fruits of his hard work done back then...
Can take it slow and work on passion projects.. for rest of the middle class guys like us...it's still a long way to go...
that ball playing story was heart touching....thank you for such a nice video
Exactly right , Right now I am doing same thigh but since now ,I try to enjoy every moment which I have and would don't think too much what are my next mountain to climb .🙏🔥
can relate to the 2nd and 3rd points so much. I’ve come to terms with it recently only and trying to change it consciously.
Sir , you have shared this story earlier in LinkedIn. I really like your stories and lessons. I really like the way you shared the story.
Sir, at this stage next big things actually give thrive.
What a complex world we live in!! The things that make a lot of sense to me now are not going to make sense after few years.
Knowing this also, I will be be searching for a new mountain 🏔️. What a complex word !!
You need to read the poem -
The road not taken.
There are no mistakes in life. There are only choices. It all depends on our perspective.
As Robert Frost said,
“No matter which road you take, you'll always sigh, and wish you'd taken another.”
Every action has its own 3 dimensions-good,bad,ugly..
Thinking about future, not celebrating, seamless success making, is not at all a bad idea but the point here is to acknowledge is that it has also it's own severe consequences..
Just think of whatsoever the benefits and goodness that has been reaped from these 3 seeds.
But the spoken words are valuable treasure hunt that should be averted consciously..
Thank u sir.
Thanks lot for guiding all of us sir.
#2 and #3 very much relatable. Only made my life sad so far. But thankfully I have a few decades ahead of me for correction. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. :) Kudos!
Thanks Rajan, we all have Regrets in life, but sharing it for the betterment of others life makes you a great person
yes sir i can relate it too when i see myself most of time i think i have not completed a course and start searching for other one . yeah thanks for sharing this experience sir
One of the best videos by Rajan Sir.
How truthfully you explain everything !!
Life, career, family must go on simultaneously.. ..
Very Good Experience. 3 Thing's rather 3 big regrets.
*Very interesting*
Rajan, I can relate to each and every thing that you have said. I continue to make these mistakes and have had a bit of realization too, but this helps to bring it on the face. Thank you
Sir..you are amazing...truely inspirational..expect more valuble content like this...all the best✌😊
My father is a businessman and he goes to work 365 days and if he is at home sometimes by miracle he has work in bank or he is home when he is not feeling well but he don't even talk to us that what happened throughout the day he has time to scroll Facebook but not for us but when I will become father I will definitely not become like my father 😔
I want to say something..
99% of the chance is, your dad don't have something great to tell you, the lifestyle of a middle aged guy in India is huge boring. Instead select books to read make good friends to talk & chill somewhere. Don't wait for the dad, his circle is different. Explore the world.
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We both are on the same boat. 😀😀 U r a pioneer !!! 🙏
LIVE IN PRESENT IS THE CONCLUSION. Thanks for Sharing Sir. Pl focus on living every moment from now onwards n pl pl do not miss out on those Small small things
Great....really true..live in present...
Thanks for this video Rajan. Like a lot of people from middle class background, I can totally relate to it. I recently started to ponder on it as well.
Sir you are true mentor. You teach us by your experience. Great👍👍👍
Sir ,I respect you and watch your videos. Don't give such message that we people from Middle class don't get success. Work and work that's the only thing that can get us there. We have to build the best of ourselves to manage things not get weak.
1.23 ,I really knew it was the ball.love from Changanacherry.
Most underrated youtube channel
What a guess man he has......millions dollar advice thanks sir , we get core information of life
I am writing here to bring the comment count to 100 😀 and to say that your videos are gradually changing my life in the positive direction. Sir..
A very good massage for every one
Thanks for Sharing Sir. LIVE IN PRESENT is the conclusion. Pl enjoy Every moment of Yours from now onwards Sir.
I watch motivational video in the night nd then sleep till 9 after waking up i again watch motivational video to console myself.. this happens again nd again. I'm a morning person nd waking up at 9 makes me feel like like my life has ended
Biggest and honest mistakes.. Thanks
Thank you for sharing Ur experiences Sir
Best video sir
Thank you so much for sharing such mistakes
I am 21 and surely will not commit these mistakes.
This video is surely an eye opener for me.I am also committing these mistakes but now I got the knowledge.
Thank you so much sir for enlightening with your experience.
Tonnes of positive energy and good wishes to you 💟❣️
my respect for you -
before this video -> (tends to infinite ).
after this video -> (infinite - something finite ).
after realizing that you accepted your mistake's publicly for welfare of others -> ( infinite - something finite + something finite ).
Thank you .
Very touchy and a reality of life. Thank you very much for sharing your experiences very honestly 🙏🙏🙏
Sir thank you for your guidance....I will always remember your point..... you are awasome 😊
I watch all videos of yours sir...Thanks for valuable info
Agreed...
But such realization happens only after certain achievements. Till that achievement/s, nobody really cares for such things, which is ignored in the process of desired achievements and which is later labelled as mistakes.
Completely agree.
Starting today i will watch all your video s...i got a mentor
Happy to hear you Warrior, Balance Life ✅
Always explains things with your life experiences. Thanks.
One compliment, you talk like harsh bhogle❤
Thank you sir you are such an inspiration i learnt a lot of good things from you videos May god bless you with healthy life.
Meanwhile me: the clock behind him isn't running
Career is more important if you don't have good career. It's worth to sacrifice something for career.
I can so relate to all the points especially second and third. Thank you for sharing
Thanks sir for sharing your mistakes with us, it will make us to think before setting another mileston
Well said!! Thanks Sir!!
Thank you sir for this!! I am 19 and have been making the same mistakes.
I have not achieved anything if I compare mine achievements with yours, I am a IT professional with similar family background...I felt...as if....it is my story and experience being told to everyone through you..
Very genuine suggestions sir, thanks a lot 🙏
1. Spend time with your family
2. Celebrate every small things as happiness is in the journey not destination.
Thanks for sharing your experiences, I hope i take lessons from you and not repeat the same mistake
Very honest talk...thank you... bring more🙏👍
this experience of yours will make me live more and put a satisfaction limit ...
Thank You.
Great Suggestion !!!!
Does youtube algo reads mind. Its same situation i m currently in. Thinking just for next big thing. And to my surprise i have decided to embark on same route sir as yours. I need to contemplate more after seeing ur video.
Sir, your videos are completely life-changing and realistic 👍
Thanks for creating such wonderful videos ❤️👍
Have Balance
Enjoy the process
Celebrate and cherish the small moments
One must celebrate with parents, bro n sis with love
It's called wisdom which comes with age and experience
Thanks a lot.. Take love from Bangladesh 🥰🥰