About a year ago I came out to my Dad as transgender (mtf) He is a retired street cop and I wasn’t sure how he would react. First he almost immediately offered to help pay for therapy and hormones, then growled at me for thinking it would change how he felt about me. My Mom was/is a whole different story but…. I have an amazing Dad.
that’s good but your mums i’ll learn to love you i hope and things will get better xx sending love ❤ (i’m gay so i can understand my dad was less supportive tha my mum 😂)
When my cousin came out, she was at a party and was FaceTiming my other cousin (her sister). She’d just met her wife and she called my cousin freaking out because she was so in love at first sight. Now they’ve been happily married for 4 years ❤️ For anyone who cares about the proposal story - my cousin proposed by booking a little beach hut and making a love heart out of candles and rose petals ❤️
I love watching your videos because they show me how far we have come. My Nana (born in 1897) came out to me when I accidentally walked in on her and her Katie kissing. I was in the kitchen getting cookies and Katie didn't know I was there. She asked me not to tell my mom because she wouldn't understand. Fast-forward 40 odd years, I came out to my mom as trans and lesbian. Her response was immediate and decisive, "You're my daughter and I love you!" I'm 65 now and divorced but still hopeful that I'll meet that special woman (around my age) to spend the rest of my life with. PS I love Toronto!
That second story with 83 protons made weak at the knees such beautiful story, and I have to say some of these are gorgeous stories but also emotional stories and horrific stories as well. Why do parents think they know better than their child, and I loved and enjoyed this video a lot and give the greatest advice. Lastly um just got to say love your chair just love the shape.
hey keara! just wanted to say that my understanding is that omnisexuality is more similar to bisexuality in the way that gender plays a significant role in attraction, and that you may have gender preferences. The difference is that bisexuality can often be described to as the attraction to same gender along with other genders (not necessarily all), whereas omnisexuality is attraction to ALL genders. Pansexuality on the other hand is the attraction to all genders, but gender does not play a role in their attraction (if that helps). hope that wasn't too confusing :) love the video!
OHHH okay that makes sense! thanks for the explanation. i had no idea there was an identity like that and if i had known sooner, i probably would have used it! LOL
hey keara! just wondering how you're doing health wise. hope you got over the covid situation without any complications and you're as healthy and happy as you could be! sending love as always ❤
aww thanks so much for checking in about that!🥺❤️ i love you so much! lauren and i are both doing perfect-- got those antibodies now so even better! haha
Yesterday I came out as trans! (They/he) to my parents and I feel so free I don’t have to hide anymore, I just did the plain simple write a letter coming out but I’m so happy and I’m gonna come out to my brother soon :)
I started discovering my sexuality pretty late into highschool, I had already been with a guy for over a year tho. So when I started finally trying to date a girl, my very conservative parents were getting very suspicious. Long story short I decided to tell my siblings about it instead, I thought it could help hide it from my parents & build some trust we lost over the years. My sister ended up outing me, which I quote, she said, " Its okay to be gay, a guy can like guys, a girl can like girls, but not both". In the end this resulted in a very bad fight & I ended up running away from home. I always thought about it for other reasons, but this was the last straw. Haven't been home in almost 7 years now, still with a guy, but proudly Demisexual & I love who I am, even tho it costed me the relationship with my family
Last week my parents, brother and I were celebrating my birthday and I wanted to come out to them, so when my dad wanted to go to bed and was staring at his phone to set an alarm I said 'I probably am gay' (I am still not sure). My dad went upstairs without even saying something. My brother asked my mom if she heard what I said and she actually didn't because she was to concentrated on her phone too. Both were not surprised though because they knew I was questioning for a long time. We talked for a long time about why I've come to this conclusion now and other things like celebrity crushes. I told my dad the news the next day and he said: ' I heard but it wasn't much of a surprise was it?' So he thought it was that normal that it didn't even need a response. I think this was actually quite nice
U have helped me so so so much just hearing u and people say I’m valid and mean it rly helps with my confidence and compulsory heterosexuality so thank u so much for just posting
I was forced to come out to my grandma when she went thru the messages between me and my (at the time) girlfriend, worst experience ever. I ran into my room crying after it happened because she was so unsupportive about it. 2 years later, still gay, and she still doesn’t fully support me. She’s starting to come around though. However, I came out to my parents and they were super accepting and so were a few of my other family members and most of my friends. I wish for everyone that hasn’t come out the best of luck for whenever you plan on doing so, and I know I don’t know you, but I fully support you :).
Hey keara I just went back and watched your video about gaining weight over quarantine, and just wanted to say thank you, I've been struggling with the way my body looks for the past few days. And you made me feel better about myself so thanks, and I love you and your videos :)
keara your videos are awesome and i am always excited to watch them!! it is also really nice to see someone who is genderfluid and you make me confident everyday! thank you so much!!
For me I was sitting on the ground and I was talking about this club I’m in at school and my mom straight up asked “wait are you gay” I said yes but not fully (lmao that confused her) She then went on her phone naming sexualities and then finally said pansexual She was supportive, my dad will be a whole other story (he’s homophobic)
How I came out to my sister: so i used to have a secret tik tok account that none of my friends or family knew about, on this account I would talk a lot about struggling with my sexuality and at the time I was trying to figure out if I was bi or lesbian. Fast forward a couple days later and my sister walks into my room and just says “so your lesbian?” Turns out tik tok hates me and decided to put that video on my sisters fyp. I immediately denied it until I couldn’t anymore, she said she supports me no matter what except she always threatens to out me to my parents Bonus story that might be connected to this: on the first night that I started to think I could be lesbian instead of bi me and my mom decided to watch a new show. At one point in the show their was a character that just realized she was gay and for some reason my mom asked me “are you gay?” I said no because I was in the middle of a sexuality crisis and wasn’t ready to admit anything, she asked again “are you sure your not gay” and I again denied it. Fast forward to the next episode and she was about to finally tell her parents that she was gay and my mom says “how did her mom not know? I feel like I would know if my kid was gay” and you don’t even know how much panic I felt in that moment. My mom is also the type of person to claim they support the community but she also uses gay as an insult and says the f slur, idk why my family is both extremely homophobic and not homophobic at the same time. Also my mom is constantly making it a point to say she supports the community in front of me Idk do you think my entire family knows? Definitely not right
I’ve got one (not sure if it really counts though) Okay, so a little while before Covid started I had a massive crush on my (at the time) best friend and had realized I was bi. I didn’t tell anyone until one day I made a TikTok saying I was Bi and sent it to my friend. She was completely accepting and swore not to tell anyone (and she kept that promise) so everything was fine for a while. Fast forward to May 2020. One morning I wake up and realize my phone is nowhere to be found. After some panicking while looking for it, I go ask my mom if she’s seen it. She says AND I QUOTE, “yes, I went through it and you and me need to talk about some stuff.” I immediately knew what she was talking about and started coming up with excuses (that all sucked because I hadn’t even seen the video in like 4 months and didn’t remember what was in it other than my coming out) I then saw the messages from my friends mom. She had sent a recording of the video (filmed on her phone because the video was playing on the iPad) to my mother and said that she should have a talk with me about what “is and isn’t appropriate to say”. Basically my mom took my phone away, went through all my messages (and saw the messages with my best friend (the one I had a crush on) that said I liked her. (My mom told me I shouldn’t talk to her anymore.) After that I didn’t get my phone back for a month and my mom outed me to most of my friend’s moms, my aunt, cousins, grandparents and worst of all, my father (who is homophobic and then showed the video to my stepmom) So yea, I’m outed now, wasn’t planning on coming out until I was at least 15-16 but here we are…
I have a not quite similar but still relevant story. When I was 13 I came out to a group of what I thought was supportive church friends. One of the younger ones told their parents, who told the church leader, who called me in to meet with him. He made sexist comments, VERY homophobic comments, and compared me liking a girl to him committing adultery. So he recommended I attend therapy, my parents agreed, and there I was. The girls I told's parents spread the news and I began to get bullied by GODDAMN ADULTS. They also told my family
I'm not pan or omni, but from what i've learned, the main difference between the two is preference; pansexuals don't "see" gender in their attraction to others (aka the person's gender doesn't affect their attraction to them) whereas omnisexuals are also capable of attraction to people of all genders, but they may have a preference for one or multiple.
I finally came out to my mum a few days ago. Me and my mum are really close so it was really hard to keep it from her. I was telling her about my crush and after a little bit of conversation i wrote down on a piece of paper that the person i liked was a girl. I knew she would be but my mum was super supportive and i’m very glad. I’m not quite ready to come out to anyone else in my family but it’s a start. (I am Bisexual btw)
I went to Wendy’s on my own the other day and when I ordered this very nice lady asked my name for the order and I got to use my preferred name and I was happy about that then it got better because as I grabbed the food she said “have a good day sir😁” I’m nom binary but if someone uses gender pronouns I prefer masculine and I cried as I walked back to work
When i came out to my mom she laughed and i didnt know what to do till she told me i was just confused a year after my brother outedme as trans and half a year after that my other brother did the same thing so ive been forced to lie several times and now im a nonbinary bisexual who is scared to talk to anyone about this ,but i really love watching your videos.
Hi Keara! I recently discovered your videos and now i'm a big fan! As a queer youth, your videos are so engaging, you + Lauren are so sweet, and you're so amazing. I love your content. 💖💖
i came out at a small queer-owner cafe in my town. i was eating there with my mom we were mid-conversation and i said “oh yeah im gay” and then i started crying. an old queer couple was watching from another table 💛
Well I just discovered I'm omnisexual, When I came out I thought I was bi. Then after a few months I thought I was pan but then a two months later I realised I wasn't really gender blind. I have now been labelless for a while but now I realise I fit perfectly into that term
I love ur videos u rlly helped inspire me to be ok with me (a lesbian) and I love how open u r, and I want to remind everyone that ur not alone and someone cares about u very deeply and will be there for u and if u don't have that person yet I promise there out there and for now I will be that person stay strong I love u
If you don't feel safe coming out, you don't have to. It's something you do to share who you are with others, and it's okay to pick only people you safe with.
From a parent: You asked why parents feel the need to invade our children’s privacy? For me, and most parents I know, we do it ONLY when we absolutely HAVE TOO. If I noticed something had changed and made sure to try everything else first, before I had to invade their privacy. I did that when I had no other way to protect them. My husband worked child abuse cases for almost a decade and has seen it all. This has made us extra cautious, but we work hard to not take our fears and push them on them. They need warnings of danger not to feel debilitated by it. So we checked to keep them safe. Even adults aren’t great at navigating the real world, And if I break the trust and I’m wrong, or can’t find anything, we have a long talk about their life and usually I would get a confession, if not, apologize. But ultimately I DONT want to go through my kids or DO need their privacy but never at the cost of their health and life.
For the Omni thing: Omni is attraction to all genders with a preference for a certain of multiple genders while pan is attraction to all genders without a role in their attraction being their gender identity
Oh I felt that "you both like each other but do nothing about it for months" because that's what happened with my gf. I got a crush on her, and after 3 month of building a friendship I told her my feelings, and she was happy but didn't exactly say if she was interested or was just being polite (she was already out btw). So we kept texting each other for the whole 3 months of summer break that we have in Italy, like every other day- and sent each other wlw posts or wholesome memes. Finally after 4 moths I asked her out and we started dating. That was an emotional rollercoaster let me tell you-
I came out accidentally via dad joke. We were at the pool on vacation. Me, my parents, my brother and his gf, and our nana. So, we're sitting around the pool discussing a movie that came out (don't ask me which one, this was like 2019). Anyway, my brother's gf was talking about an actress she liked and said something along the lines of "she looked good in that movie, if you swing that way". My dumb bisexual brain malfunctioned and I blurted out, "luckily I do". I immediately dunked under the water and sat at the bottom of the pool contemplating my life choices. I'd already come out to my parents (a teary story for another day), so they weren't surprised, just shocked at how casual I was. When I came up for air I was met with many laugh, confused looks, and hugs. We still joke about it to this day. idk what gay spirit momentarily possessed me, but I'm glad it did.
My coming out was underwhelming because I was the oblivious ally.. when I came out to my boyfriend like a year ago, he was surprised because he assumed I'd already come out before we met 6 years ago 😂 speaking to a lot of my friends, they basically said the same thing 🤦
Something similar happened to me (The spotify story) My dad and I were talking about stuff and then music came up, he said that he liked to look at my public playlists (I forget my playlist were public) and said that he saw I really liked girl in red...
Aaawwwww, I love this soo much!! Thank you for ur awesome videos, they really do make me smile - I wasn't feeling that great before but watching this made me feel a bit better ✨✨
I was sort of forced to come out to my parents. I had gotten a new phone and my dad was helping me out with transferring my old stuff to my new phone. Apparently my dad and mom went through my texts as well and found the texts between me and my partner(now ex) And began questioning me. I have always been more comfortable talking with my mom about these kind of things. So it was just me and her. I was holding back tears because I felt like I was being interrogated. She eventually asked if I was apart of the LGBT community. I said yes and started crying. She told me that she loved me no matter what and that she would always support me❤️ I still haven’t come out as genderfluid because of fear. My parents don’t know about pansexuality or omnisexuality or anything like that so I have been worried they wouldn’t understand. I hope someday I will be confident enough to come out I love my parents and I am so glad to have supportive parents and siblings. I am so sorry if your parents, relatives, or friends don’t support you. But I will always support you❤️❤️❤️ Have a wonderful day/night
Keara: "You know how you either have like the Math gene and the Science gene or the English gene and the History gene?" Me: "I have the Science gene and the English gene... I should've guessed I was gender fluid" 😌
you are so right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! parents don't have a right to a kid's private things and no one should me forced to come out... (i kinda was, but it wasn't bc of my parents). love this videooo!
Hi Keara! Just wanted to quickly say that I just saw your Lifetime movie tonight, Pretty Cheaters, Deadly Lies and you were amazing! That was an intense movie! Thanks for this video, love hearing all kinds of these stories 😀
So my coming out story so far is this: I was up late on a Friday night working on an art project for school that I had brought home. I had to bring home paint because when I paint, I use acrylic paint, but my school only had the budget for preschool paint, and my teacher didn’t want anyone to have an advantage/difference because of paint. So I finally finished the project, and had extra orange and purple paint. So having recently discovered I was gay, I decided to paint the lesbian flag. Once I finished, on a compete whim I decided to text my best friend a picture of it, because I felt it was time to tell her. She was totally supportive, but for now that painting lives in the back of my closet with me 💀 I’m not ready to tell my family yet even though I know they’ll be supportive. So talking to my friends who know, joining the school GSA, and watching lgbtq youtube videos are my comfort activities
I came out to my best friend as lesbian while I had a boyfriend and basically how it happened was we kissed then she asked me out and I said yes and then before we technically started dating I broke up with my boyfriend lol and now we’ve been dating for a 2 and a half months
I genuinely don't remember coming out to my parents. I feel like they believed I was gay before I even knew. So when I went out with a gal for the first time and had her over, I don't think they had any different reaction than to the boys I'd brought over before. 😂 Then my sis came out as trans and a lesbian in her early 20s and my parents were completely chilled out about that as well. Literally they got the most queer kids possible. 😂 They are in their 60s, raised me Catholic but they are (especially my mum) extremely open minded and chilled out about gender and sexuality. Love them. 💗 Since I typed this much already, I will also say that my sexuality was greatly repressed for a long time because of religion (by things I was told in church and Sunday school). So it took me a very long time to come to terms with my queerness due to internalized homophobia.
that's not how genes work---- interests are determined by many things including exposure and quality of teaching, but they are also flexible, and anyone can learn math or science no matter how little experience they've had through commitment and practice or good teaching. however, it is of course okay to not enjoy or wish to pursue math and science. but, anyone can (: . but also, I love these videos, Keara's kindness and humor just make me so happy (:
Idk if you'll see this, Keara but do you think you could make a compilation of the times your cat meows or interrupts your videos? 😂 it's so cute when she just suddenly mews
Thank you for the whole “why do parents look through their kid’s phones and journals?” My mom literally is linked to my Instagram account like she has that much lack of trust in me- like what’s she think I’m gonna do? It’s ridiculous-
I’ve never had a bad experience with coming out but a friend of mine is trans and at around 14 he came out to his family and was sent to a conversion camp, its actually so sad what some people can do to their CHILDREN for something that’s out of their control.
I put this here, because I often see this misunderstood. It's not "gender-blind" that has bad connotations with "race-blind" castings that happen to choose 99% of non-POC actors for roles that should be POC and also suggests that we don't see gender or even don't respect somebody's gender. Pan is more like "I don't take gender as factor when I'm deciding if individual is sexually atractive" (I just don't need that information to have crush on someone) and omni is more like "Gender is a factor when I decide if individual is sexually attractive, but still like all genders" (which I understand as more like "I like this thing in girls, but other thing in boys, and something else in nbs etc.)
my coming out was forced🥲 I was like 12 or 13 and my parents went through my phone. I had a little like note pad app and they looked at that. I wrote down "I 'm pansexual and genderfluid... I like that, it makes me happy'' . My parents were not however. I got yelled at, smacked and banned from all social media platforms of a few years. Good times😐
12:58 is true, and u are killin/slayin it!!!!! I'm such a fan of yours 😍😍😍 just hope that someday and can come out too and tell u how it went 😂😂😂 someday, someday 😊
I tried coming out to my mom about 3 months ago, because she started asking me questions after going thru my phone. I tried telling her straight up and it sounded like she understood, but she is back to asking questions. It's awkward at home lol.
Im not out to my parents yet, but here is a funny coming out story to 2 of my friends. So basically, I didnt really know these people before, but I got seated next to them in biology class. We were bored, so we made a paper and we all wrote our celebrity crushes there. One of them only wrote boys, the other one wrote both, and I wrote only girls. That was the start, we basically became the gay friend group. Since then we all figured out who we are, and we always talk about new gay shit that came up. They are basically my support group :)
I came out as non-binary to my mom while discussing my plurality lol. So I had my therapist email my mom and tell her I'm a system with alters and stuff because social anxiety. And my mom mentioned it while she was driving me somewhere. At one point she asked "Do your alters have names or do you still want to be called ?" And I was thinking this is my chance, so i said "We don't have individual names, but I want to change my name actually." And then basically I kept being like "ask me why, ask me why" in my mind, and finally she was like "I have to put a reason on the name change form" and I was like "the reason is I'm non-binary" and then after that in my mind I was like "ask me my pronouns, ask about pronouns, pls." and so yeah she was accepting and I knew she would be because my sibling had already come out as trans before I did but I was still super anxious about it because being open and vulnerable in general makes the back of my head hurt but yeah.
I haven’t really come out to anyone in my family about sexuality or gender yet but the time when I was going to tell my mother in the car before I could say anything she just randomly goes “I don’t understand pronouns”. I was so terrified. I do set crew for a play my school the adult supervisor used they/them pronouns for me in an email to my mother and my mothers response was telling me “I don’t care how you feel right now, you will always be my daughter and nothing will change that you are my girl. Not my boy. Not non-binary. My daughter “. It’s gonna be a long while before I try again.
I know it's a small thing, but your 'hugs' at the end of videos are just so warm and comforting for some reason.
Agreed 💯
100%
About a year ago I came out to my Dad as transgender (mtf) He is a retired street cop and I wasn’t sure how he would react. First he almost immediately offered to help pay for therapy and hormones, then growled at me for thinking it would change how he felt about me. My Mom was/is a whole different story but…. I have an amazing Dad.
That’s really amazing, so happy to hear that for you
aw im so happy for you! congrats!
that is so sweet
More people should have dads like that
that’s good but your mums i’ll learn to love you i hope and things will get better xx sending love ❤ (i’m gay so i can understand my dad was less supportive tha my mum 😂)
When my cousin came out, she was at a party and was FaceTiming my other cousin (her sister). She’d just met her wife and she called my cousin freaking out because she was so in love at first sight. Now they’ve been happily married for 4 years ❤️
For anyone who cares about the proposal story - my cousin proposed by booking a little beach hut and making a love heart out of candles and rose petals ❤️
Stop it. That's way too cute!! Congrats to them 💓
Aww that’s so adorable I’m crying rn 😭😭😭
That is the most wlw thing I have ever heard and I love it.
Omg that’s so cute!!! ❤️
I love watching your videos because they show me how far we have come. My Nana (born in 1897) came out to me when I accidentally walked in on her and her Katie kissing. I was in the kitchen getting cookies and Katie didn't know I was there. She asked me not to tell my mom because she wouldn't understand. Fast-forward 40 odd years, I came out to my mom as trans and lesbian. Her response was immediate and decisive, "You're my daughter and I love you!" I'm 65 now and divorced but still hopeful that I'll meet that special woman (around my age) to spend the rest of my life with. PS I love Toronto!
aww i love this so much :)
That's really cool
Im also a trans lesbian and i plan on coming out soon and this made me feel better :)
Good luck coming out gal
You go gal!
That second story with 83 protons made weak at the knees such beautiful story, and I have to say some of these are gorgeous stories but also emotional stories and horrific stories as well. Why do parents think they know better than their child, and I loved and enjoyed this video a lot and give the greatest advice. Lastly um just got to say love your chair just love the shape.
I mean, one parent did know better - the mother who knew her child was gay years before they did!
hey keara!
just wanted to say that my understanding is that omnisexuality is more similar to bisexuality in the way that gender plays a significant role in attraction, and that you may have gender preferences. The difference is that bisexuality can often be described to as the attraction to same gender along with other genders (not necessarily all), whereas omnisexuality is attraction to ALL genders. Pansexuality on the other hand is the attraction to all genders, but gender does not play a role in their attraction (if that helps).
hope that wasn't too confusing :) love the video!
OHHH okay that makes sense! thanks for the explanation. i had no idea there was an identity like that and if i had known sooner, i probably would have used it! LOL
i cant get enough of these we need more! we need more! we need more!
Agreed 💯
hey keara! just wondering how you're doing health wise. hope you got over the covid situation without any complications and you're as healthy and happy as you could be! sending love as always ❤
aww thanks so much for checking in about that!🥺❤️ i love you so much! lauren and i are both doing perfect-- got those antibodies now so even better! haha
@@KearaGraves I'm so glad to hear that !!❤❤
Imagine thinking ‘the gay’ gave a cat pink eye 😭
Im going to cry. Someone omni was mentioned in this video!!! Keara thank you for actually knowing what omni is and explaining it well!!
Yesterday I came out as trans! (They/he) to my parents and I feel so free I don’t have to hide anymore, I just did the plain simple write a letter coming out but I’m so happy and I’m gonna come out to my brother soon :)
omg that's awesome!! congragulations, i'm so happy for you!
I started discovering my sexuality pretty late into highschool, I had already been with a guy for over a year tho. So when I started finally trying to date a girl, my very conservative parents were getting very suspicious. Long story short I decided to tell my siblings about it instead, I thought it could help hide it from my parents & build some trust we lost over the years. My sister ended up outing me, which I quote, she said, " Its okay to be gay, a guy can like guys, a girl can like girls, but not both". In the end this resulted in a very bad fight & I ended up running away from home. I always thought about it for other reasons, but this was the last straw.
Haven't been home in almost 7 years now, still with a guy, but proudly Demisexual & I love who I am, even tho it costed me the relationship with my family
Last week my parents, brother and I were celebrating my birthday and I wanted to come out to them, so when my dad wanted to go to bed and was staring at his phone to set an alarm I said 'I probably am gay' (I am still not sure). My dad went upstairs without even saying something. My brother asked my mom if she heard what I said and she actually didn't because she was to concentrated on her phone too.
Both were not surprised though because they knew I was questioning for a long time. We talked for a long time about why I've come to this conclusion now and other things like celebrity crushes.
I told my dad the news the next day and he said: ' I heard but it wasn't much of a surprise was it?'
So he thought it was that normal that it didn't even need a response. I think this was actually quite nice
I think you'll have to do a part 3! These are really wild stories!
U have helped me so so so much just hearing u and people say I’m valid and mean it rly helps with my confidence and compulsory heterosexuality so thank u so much for just posting
I was forced to come out to my grandma when she went thru the messages between me and my (at the time) girlfriend, worst experience ever. I ran into my room crying after it happened because she was so unsupportive about it. 2 years later, still gay, and she still doesn’t fully support me. She’s starting to come around though.
However, I came out to my parents and they were super accepting and so were a few of my other family members and most of my friends.
I wish for everyone that hasn’t come out the best of luck for whenever you plan on doing so, and I know I don’t know you, but I fully support you :).
that one coming out story sounds like a fanfic i'm so happy for them
Hey keara I just went back and watched your video about gaining weight over quarantine, and just wanted to say thank you, I've been struggling with the way my body looks for the past few days. And you made me feel better about myself so thanks, and I love you and your videos :)
I love your videos so much. I’ve been struggling with my mental health but when you post it makes me so happy. ILYSM
What's the reason for your menthal health issues?(;
I hope you're doing better soon
same tho :c hope we'll be better soon!
awww i love you 🥺 i'm here for you ( although virtually ) ❤️
keara your videos are awesome and i am always excited to watch them!! it is also really nice to see someone who is genderfluid and you make me confident everyday! thank you so much!!
For me I was sitting on the ground and I was talking about this club I’m in at school and my mom straight up asked “wait are you gay” I said yes but not fully (lmao that confused her)
She then went on her phone naming sexualities and then finally said pansexual
She was supportive, my dad will be a whole other story (he’s homophobic)
How I came out to my sister: so i used to have a secret tik tok account that none of my friends or family knew about, on this account I would talk a lot about struggling with my sexuality and at the time I was trying to figure out if I was bi or lesbian. Fast forward a couple days later and my sister walks into my room and just says “so your lesbian?” Turns out tik tok hates me and decided to put that video on my sisters fyp. I immediately denied it until I couldn’t anymore, she said she supports me no matter what except she always threatens to out me to my parents
Bonus story that might be connected to this: on the first night that I started to think I could be lesbian instead of bi me and my mom decided to watch a new show. At one point in the show their was a character that just realized she was gay and for some reason my mom asked me “are you gay?” I said no because I was in the middle of a sexuality crisis and wasn’t ready to admit anything, she asked again “are you sure your not gay” and I again denied it. Fast forward to the next episode and she was about to finally tell her parents that she was gay and my mom says “how did her mom not know? I feel like I would know if my kid was gay” and you don’t even know how much panic I felt in that moment. My mom is also the type of person to claim they support the community but she also uses gay as an insult and says the f slur, idk why my family is both extremely homophobic and not homophobic at the same time. Also my mom is constantly making it a point to say she supports the community in front of me
Idk do you think my entire family knows? Definitely not right
I’ve got one (not sure if it really counts though)
Okay, so a little while before Covid started I had a massive crush on my (at the time) best friend and had realized I was bi. I didn’t tell anyone until one day I made a TikTok saying I was Bi and sent it to my friend. She was completely accepting and swore not to tell anyone (and she kept that promise) so everything was fine for a while. Fast forward to May 2020. One morning I wake up and realize my phone is nowhere to be found. After some panicking while looking for it, I go ask my mom if she’s seen it. She says AND I QUOTE, “yes, I went through it and you and me need to talk about some stuff.” I immediately knew what she was talking about and started coming up with excuses (that all sucked because I hadn’t even seen the video in like 4 months and didn’t remember what was in it other than my coming out) I then saw the messages from my friends mom. She had sent a recording of the video (filmed on her phone because the video was playing on the iPad) to my mother and said that she should have a talk with me about what “is and isn’t appropriate to say”. Basically my mom took my phone away, went through all my messages (and saw the messages with my best friend (the one I had a crush on) that said I liked her. (My mom told me I shouldn’t talk to her anymore.) After that I didn’t get my phone back for a month and my mom outed me to most of my friend’s moms, my aunt, cousins, grandparents and worst of all, my father (who is homophobic and then showed the video to my stepmom)
So yea, I’m outed now, wasn’t planning on coming out until I was at least 15-16 but here we are…
I have a not quite similar but still relevant story.
When I was 13 I came out to a group of what I thought was supportive church friends. One of the younger ones told their parents, who told the church leader, who called me in to meet with him. He made sexist comments, VERY homophobic comments, and compared me liking a girl to him committing adultery. So he recommended I attend therapy, my parents agreed, and there I was. The girls I told's parents spread the news and I began to get bullied by GODDAMN ADULTS. They also told my family
OK! Both those stories are! I mean, how could they do that? Are you both OK now?
There are churches that supports lgbtq+ maybe contact them and get sound arguments?
@@minabish1783 hey, yeah i’m doing good now :). i’m pretty comfortable in my identity and my dad is more accepting !! thanks for asking :)
I'm not pan or omni, but from what i've learned, the main difference between the two is preference; pansexuals don't "see" gender in their attraction to others (aka the person's gender doesn't affect their attraction to them) whereas omnisexuals are also capable of attraction to people of all genders, but they may have a preference for one or multiple.
I finally came out to my mum a few days ago. Me and my mum are really close so it was really hard to keep it from her. I was telling her about my crush and after a little bit of conversation i wrote down on a piece of paper that the person i liked was a girl. I knew she would be but my mum was super supportive and i’m very glad. I’m not quite ready to come out to anyone else in my family but it’s a start. (I am Bisexual btw)
Omg that one where they kissed in high school and moving in together is literally the dream. Waiting for the movie.
I went to Wendy’s on my own the other day and when I ordered this very nice lady asked my name for the order and I got to use my preferred name and I was happy about that then it got better because as I grabbed the food she said “have a good day sir😁” I’m nom binary but if someone uses gender pronouns I prefer masculine and I cried as I walked back to work
When i came out to my mom she laughed and i didnt know what to do till she told me i was just confused a year after my brother outedme as trans and half a year after that my other brother did the same thing so ive been forced to lie several times and now im a nonbinary bisexual who is scared to talk to anyone about this ,but i really love watching your videos.
Hi Keara! I recently discovered your videos and now i'm a big fan! As a queer youth, your videos are so engaging, you + Lauren are so sweet, and you're so amazing. I love your content. 💖💖
i came out by sticking pride flags everywhere. my mum said she already knew.
Omg, this "wall" story is everything
i came out at a small queer-owner cafe in my town. i was eating there with my mom we were mid-conversation and i said “oh yeah im gay” and then i started crying. an old queer couple was watching from another table 💛
heyyy i recently discovered your channel and im literally addicted lmaooo also your hair is so call
*cool
lmao typos😭
Nice to see THE CHAIR again
15:40 we stan this person's momma!!!
Your eyeliner looks so good
Well I just discovered I'm omnisexual, When I came out I thought I was bi. Then after a few months I thought I was pan but then a two months later I realised I wasn't really gender blind. I have now been labelless for a while but now I realise I fit perfectly into that term
Well I came out after a girl from my class told me for two months straight that I'm Bi. I started thinking bout that and finally realized I'm queer.
I'm a father of 3 grown up daughters!And wouldn't even think of going through their messages and diaries!Some things dads don"t need to know!??
I love ur videos u rlly helped inspire me to be ok with me (a lesbian) and I love how open u r, and I want to remind everyone that ur not alone and someone cares about u very deeply and will be there for u and if u don't have that person yet I promise there out there and for now I will be that person stay strong I love u
Tysm for this lovely and inspiring comment! Deserves many many more likes and should be pinned love u
@@mochimolala15armystay34 aww thank u I love u to I hope wonderful things come ur way ❤️❤️
QUING I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR THE CONTENT U GIVE US !!! I LOVE YOU KEARA, THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING :')
If you don't feel safe coming out, you don't have to. It's something you do to share who you are with others, and it's okay to pick only people you safe with.
Absolutely loved it! I wait every day for your videos 💖
From a parent: You asked why parents feel the need to invade our children’s privacy? For me, and most parents I know, we do it ONLY when we absolutely HAVE TOO. If I noticed something had changed and made sure to try everything else first, before I had to invade their privacy. I did that when I had no other way to protect them. My husband worked child abuse cases for almost a decade and has seen it all. This has made us extra cautious, but we work hard to not take our fears and push them on them. They need warnings of danger not to feel debilitated by it. So we checked to keep them safe. Even adults aren’t great at navigating the real world, And if I break the trust and I’m wrong, or can’t find anything, we have a long talk about their life and usually I would get a confession, if not, apologize. But ultimately I DONT want to go through my kids or DO need their privacy but never at the cost of their health and life.
Currently rewatching your vids and enjoying spring like weather! Hope all is well with you 💜
For the Omni thing: Omni is attraction to all genders with a preference for a certain of multiple genders while pan is attraction to all genders without a role in their attraction being their gender identity
Oh I felt that "you both like each other but do nothing about it for months" because that's what happened with my gf. I got a crush on her, and after 3 month of building a friendship I told her my feelings, and she was happy but didn't exactly say if she was interested or was just being polite (she was already out btw). So we kept texting each other for the whole 3 months of summer break that we have in Italy, like every other day- and sent each other wlw posts or wholesome memes. Finally after 4 moths I asked her out and we started dating. That was an emotional rollercoaster let me tell you-
ugh what a legend
I came out accidentally via dad joke. We were at the pool on vacation. Me, my parents, my brother and his gf, and our nana. So, we're sitting around the pool discussing a movie that came out (don't ask me which one, this was like 2019). Anyway, my brother's gf was talking about an actress she liked and said something along the lines of "she looked good in that movie, if you swing that way". My dumb bisexual brain malfunctioned and I blurted out, "luckily I do". I immediately dunked under the water and sat at the bottom of the pool contemplating my life choices. I'd already come out to my parents (a teary story for another day), so they weren't surprised, just shocked at how casual I was. When I came up for air I was met with many laugh, confused looks, and hugs. We still joke about it to this day. idk what gay spirit momentarily possessed me, but I'm glad it did.
My coming out was underwhelming because I was the oblivious ally.. when I came out to my boyfriend like a year ago, he was surprised because he assumed I'd already come out before we met 6 years ago 😂 speaking to a lot of my friends, they basically said the same thing 🤦
The 2nd story NEEDS to be a comic or something oml
Something similar happened to me (The spotify story)
My dad and I were talking about stuff and then music came up, he said that he liked to look at my public playlists (I forget my playlist were public) and said that he saw I really liked girl in red...
That's a brilliant song!And a great video!Love it!
Aaawwwww, I love this soo much!! Thank you for ur awesome videos, they really do make me smile - I wasn't feeling that great before but watching this made me feel a bit better ✨✨
I love your videos and I love you! btw you are very pretty (or handsome whichever you prefer)❤🌈
PLEASE DO ANOTHER PART!! I Love you and this mini series :)
15:59 the way i heard this and said yeah they’re together now aren’t they
I love the hair and your look in general:)
I was sort of forced to come out to my parents. I had gotten a new phone and my dad was helping me out with transferring my old stuff to my new phone. Apparently my dad and mom went through my texts as well and found the texts between me and my partner(now ex) And began questioning me. I have always been more comfortable talking with my mom about these kind of things. So it was just me and her. I was holding back tears because I felt like I was being interrogated. She eventually asked if I was apart of the LGBT community. I said yes and started crying. She told me that she loved me no matter what and that she would always support me❤️
I still haven’t come out as genderfluid because of fear. My parents don’t know about pansexuality or omnisexuality or anything like that so I have been worried they wouldn’t understand. I hope someday I will be confident enough to come out
I love my parents and I am so glad to have supportive parents and siblings. I am so sorry if your parents, relatives, or friends don’t support you. But I will always support you❤️❤️❤️
Have a wonderful day/night
Keara: "You know how you either have like the Math gene and the Science gene or the English gene and the History gene?"
Me: "I have the Science gene and the English gene... I should've guessed I was gender fluid" 😌
Love you Keara and allthe brave peeps who shared their stries! ❤❤❤
I came out to my dad by playing girls by girl in red on repeat until he noticed. he just hugged me and said “you know we just want you to be happy”
when i came out as lesbian to me best friend she was like “i know” i’m pretty sure she knew before i did
you are so right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! parents don't have a right to a kid's private things and no one should me forced to come out... (i kinda was, but it wasn't bc of my parents). love this videooo!
Hi Keara! Just wanted to quickly say that I just saw your Lifetime movie tonight, Pretty Cheaters, Deadly Lies and you were amazing! That was an intense movie! Thanks for this video, love hearing all kinds of these stories 😀
aww i'm so glad you loved the movie! 💕 it was definitely a fun one to make.
I would die of happiness if we got a makeup routine vid 🥰
I love your videos so much keep doing what you do!
So my coming out story so far is this:
I was up late on a Friday night working on an art project for school that I had brought home. I had to bring home paint because when I paint, I use acrylic paint, but my school only had the budget for preschool paint, and my teacher didn’t want anyone to have an advantage/difference because of paint. So I finally finished the project, and had extra orange and purple paint. So having recently discovered I was gay, I decided to paint the lesbian flag. Once I finished, on a compete whim I decided to text my best friend a picture of it, because I felt it was time to tell her. She was totally supportive, but for now that painting lives in the back of my closet with me 💀 I’m not ready to tell my family yet even though I know they’ll be supportive. So talking to my friends who know, joining the school GSA, and watching lgbtq youtube videos are my comfort activities
I came out to my best friend as lesbian while I had a boyfriend and basically how it happened was we kissed then she asked me out and I said yes and then before we technically started dating I broke up with my boyfriend lol and now we’ve been dating for a 2 and a half months
Wouldn’t mind a 2 hour version of this❤
I genuinely don't remember coming out to my parents. I feel like they believed I was gay before I even knew. So when I went out with a gal for the first time and had her over, I don't think they had any different reaction than to the boys I'd brought over before. 😂
Then my sis came out as trans and a lesbian in her early 20s and my parents were completely chilled out about that as well.
Literally they got the most queer kids possible. 😂
They are in their 60s, raised me Catholic but they are (especially my mum) extremely open minded and chilled out about gender and sexuality.
Love them. 💗
Since I typed this much already, I will also say that my sexuality was greatly repressed for a long time because of religion (by things I was told in church and Sunday school). So it took me a very long time to come to terms with my queerness due to internalized homophobia.
that's not how genes work---- interests are determined by many things including exposure and quality of teaching, but they are also flexible, and anyone can learn math or science no matter how little experience they've had through commitment and practice or good teaching. however, it is of course okay to not enjoy or wish to pursue math and science. but, anyone can (: . but also, I love these videos, Keara's kindness and humor just make me so happy (:
PLEASE MAKE MORE OF THESE 🥺🥺🥺
Idk if you'll see this, Keara but do you think you could make a compilation of the times your cat meows or interrupts your videos? 😂 it's so cute when she just suddenly mews
Slay Queera stand up for everyone like the royal you are
I love your shirt! ✨
please make another episode of this!!
That eyeliner look tho.... 👌❤❤
Omg love your hair so much
literally just watched part 1, amaazing lolol
16:32 KEARA YOU DIDN’T HAVE TO CALL ME OUT LIKE THAT
loved the video! i just have to say that your hair looks so good, like omg the hair envy i have right now haha
Thank you for the whole “why do parents look through their kid’s phones and journals?” My mom literally is linked to my Instagram account like she has that much lack of trust in me- like what’s she think I’m gonna do? It’s ridiculous-
I cant believe someone know 83 joke. Im proud of them. Im kinda crying
Bismuth joke 😭
Once my chem teacher asked the atomic no of bismuth and I shouted 83 and she thought I'm a big brain or smth
@@washingmachinelungs omg you know that joke. Im proposing to u
I’ve never had a bad experience with coming out but a friend of mine is trans and at around 14 he came out to his family and was sent to a conversion camp, its actually so sad what some people can do to their CHILDREN for something that’s out of their control.
The gay hand guns tho LOL
The rare people who have both the math and English gene become mathematical linguists (i.e. a syntactician or computational linguistics expert)
I put this here, because I often see this misunderstood. It's not "gender-blind" that has bad connotations with "race-blind" castings that happen to choose 99% of non-POC actors for roles that should be POC and also suggests that we don't see gender or even don't respect somebody's gender. Pan is more like "I don't take gender as factor when I'm deciding if individual is sexually atractive" (I just don't need that information to have crush on someone) and omni is more like "Gender is a factor when I decide if individual is sexually attractive, but still like all genders" (which I understand as more like "I like this thing in girls, but other thing in boys, and something else in nbs etc.)
my coming out was forced🥲 I was like 12 or 13 and my parents went through my phone. I had a little like note pad app and they looked at that. I wrote down "I 'm pansexual and genderfluid... I like that, it makes me happy'' . My parents were not however. I got yelled at, smacked and banned from all social media platforms of a few years. Good times😐
I'm sorry
omg that sucks, how is it going now??
@@homatomico could be better, but I can't wait to move out. Feeling guilty 'bout leaving my little sister (TnT)
12:58 is true, and u are killin/slayin it!!!!! I'm such a fan of yours 😍😍😍 just hope that someday and can come out too and tell u how it went 😂😂😂 someday, someday 😊
I tried coming out to my mom about 3 months ago, because she started asking me questions after going thru my phone. I tried telling her straight up and it sounded like she understood, but she is back to asking questions. It's awkward at home lol.
I just realized you live in canada - YES ANOTHER CANADIAN LGBTQ+ UA-camR - WHY AM I SO HAPPY
Im not out to my parents yet, but here is a funny coming out story to 2 of my friends. So basically, I didnt really know these people before, but I got seated next to them in biology class. We were bored, so we made a paper and we all wrote our celebrity crushes there. One of them only wrote boys, the other one wrote both, and I wrote only girls. That was the start, we basically became the gay friend group. Since then we all figured out who we are, and we always talk about new gay shit that came up. They are basically my support group :)
skating dates is the most Canadian thing ever.
I came out as non-binary to my mom while discussing my plurality lol. So I had my therapist email my mom and tell her I'm a system with alters and stuff because social anxiety. And my mom mentioned it while she was driving me somewhere. At one point she asked "Do your alters have names or do you still want to be called ?" And I was thinking this is my chance, so i said "We don't have individual names, but I want to change my name actually." And then basically I kept being like "ask me why, ask me why" in my mind, and finally she was like "I have to put a reason on the name change form" and I was like "the reason is I'm non-binary" and then after that in my mind I was like "ask me my pronouns, ask about pronouns, pls." and so yeah she was accepting and I knew she would be because my sibling had already come out as trans before I did but I was still super anxious about it because being open and vulnerable in general makes the back of my head hurt but yeah.
you: this video is super long
me: oh, over already?? I COULD WATCH THIS ALL DAY
I haven’t really come out to anyone in my family about sexuality or gender yet but the time when I was going to tell my mother in the car before I could say anything she just randomly goes “I don’t understand pronouns”. I was so terrified. I do set crew for a play my school the adult supervisor used they/them pronouns for me in an email to my mother and my mothers response was telling me “I don’t care how you feel right now, you will always be my daughter and nothing will change that you are my girl. Not my boy. Not non-binary. My daughter “. It’s gonna be a long while before I try again.
when you said medieval time's first thing i thought was Dickinson im so gay. (13:29)
This is so adorable 😊
I’ve listened to the intro 10 times and can’t tell if Keara is saying yay I’m back or gay I’m back…