I only take pictures from certain angles so other people are getting me from other angles and lighting and it makes me look like a different person and I hate it :/
@@mariahmcinnis4955 Exactly, I get so insecure and very sad after they take a photo of me. I even openly say I'm going to look at the photo when I feel more confident(to my dad) :(
Yea this is why i never took selfies or posted my pics anywhere, i dont want others to have high expectations and just met with disappointment if they ever met me irl…
Lmao same, when i take pics i look good but i dont want people to think thats how i look like, because in real life i look different, makes me insecure about meeting people that only know me from pics.
Oh honey, the expectations of others about yourself are not your problem, are theirs🐱 you don't owe beauty or anything to anyone🧚♀️ i really hope you can someday accept yourself and embrace all the things that make u unique 💖 I wish u a happy life :)
@༊*·˚ʰᵃⁿⁿᵃʰ. i’m so sorry you’re going through that, i hope you’re well!! but yea people are taking this way too literally i can confirm that knowing better lighting will do me justice does not make me feel any better
i love this trend just because it goes to show that all the people you see on social media all have their insecurities and you only see what you wish you could be when everyone is all the same. everyone in this video is a normal human and everyone’s literally beautiful in their own way
y'all i literally dropped a friend cause she caused me so much anxiety snapping pics. she would like show me them and i'd tell her to delete that one cause i look ugly ... then she posts it on social media. i'm literally about to cry thinking about how insecure i am when i'm around her cause i have no control over what she's gonna post ahah
lol good!! sis seriously that's a big step! that's literally what abusive people do, they dig at your insecurities, it's not just for fun or good nature or quirky, it's on purpose. i had the same "frenemy" for years and now i'm just gaining back my confidence after being lowkey told for years how funny i look or the same pictures thing.. remember that they are doing this because they feel intimidated by you! and worse.. and feel the need to tear you down to lift themselves up and there's nothing more to it! glad you dropped the hoe
@@emily-ek7wq welp not gonna lie this pretty happens often, it's not overdramatic its just because the person is uncomfortable and does not like other people taking a pic of them
i feel like everyone knows that its because of angles and lighting however, its the fact that they cannot portray themselves as their "best selves" that gets to them. i struggle with this constantly but i hope you know that everyone is beautiful in their own way. stay safe :]
she doesn’t. you are beautiful, whether your posed, with perfect lighting, and perfect angles, or not. your stunning. incredible. breathtaking. please dont forget that. i love you.
Not to sound mean, but let's face the reality. Otherwise you'll be constantly disappointed that you'll not getting the privilege of being physically beautiful. If you look average in real life accept that. Accepting the reality humbles you. It's ok not to be beautiful or breathtaking after all being average looking is normal. What's most important is you know deep inside you are a good person. That's something won't fade even as you age.
Not me on the last year of my twenties feeling insecure watching all these beautiful girls feeling any less than beautiful. Don't waste your youth wishing you looked any different than the beauty you were always blessed with!
I feel like we should stop setting up filters and stuff in different angles just to look great in pictures. you might not look photogenic but at least it is genuine and an actual memory, so looking back, you'll remember what happened that day and not how hard you worked to set up that photot
Agree, we should just accept how we look even though truth hurts and we all have way more chances to just look average more than ugly or beautiful. I don't look good when I'm genuinely happy on pictures, but I'm happy and bro... It's what matters
I get so excited to see the “her” Ik people are acting like it’s a bad thing, but I get excited because they look so pretty and real. Like an actual smiling person
this reminds me of a story I heard where in Marylin Monroe had asked the women she was lunching with if the woman would like to see her "become her". The woman didn't understand what she was talking about but continued to watch her in interest and curiosity, and as if something had switched within the woman infront of her, it became so clear she was Thee Marilyn Monroe and not the average woman passing on the street, even the people around them seemed to notice the difference and it was if the world stopped to turn and stare where only moments ago they passed her with such ease. and not a second thought.
This is why I also take pictures that show my “flaws” or a part of me I’m kinda insecure about but learning to love. Like my dark neck I try to find filters that don’t cover up or lighten my completion. I used to do the opposite before. I try filters that don’t change my face just my background or colors. I take pictures that I look at and i am like damn I’m hot. The same way I used to take pictures with filters. My own reflection used to disappoint me but now I just smile at myself even when I don’t feel as confident. Because I’m not gonna look like a IG model 24/7 neither am I wearing a filter. I am beautiful all the time, but not standing in the perfect lighting and angle ready to take photos. Even when I have to, I just puff up my big chubby cheeks that make my eyes smaller and give a big smile like nothing in the world matters that can convince me I’m ugly because I’m not. I am beautiful and so is the person reading this. We all are. Don’t let society’s unreal beauty standards stop you from loving your beautiful self💜
i can relate to this situation so much.i look completely different in selfies vs in real life and sometimes my frnds make fun of me coz they think i use more filters.but srsly i dont use much filters and even then i look completely different😒
It's the front and back camera.. The front camera is taking your mirror image what you see yourself as and unfortunately the back camera is how others see you. But I'm sure you're pretty either way it's just that you're use to seeing yourself in the mirror so you like that better. And about your friends.. Drop them🙄
yeahhh thats why i dont take selfies theyre super inaccurate, phones make selfies look very slimming compared to reality. but back camera and even professional lenses can distort your face too. theres no winning lol
That is all you! That is how diverse you are. Accept yourself, your every bit and your every angle. You aren't perfect but so am I and so are they. But you know what? It's okaaaay. Don't be too hard on yourself. Just be you!
Don't feel insecure for not always looking at your best. Lighting, health, angles- they make people look really different and it really kills me that boys and girls feel shamed of the simple fact of being human. You weren't created to be beautiful.
You look like the second, get others to take pics of you without directions to find out how you’re perceived! Any pics on yourself posed with makeup or hiding your angles is something manufactured by yourself, others who already see you everyday will just take the picture
On top of that being non photogenic just makes me feel terrible. Like no joke I got made fun of by my friends. They would always want to take ugly pictures of me on purpose and sometimes I couldn’t even say nothing cause it is my fault I look like that.
I really think it's even more than makeup and lighting for a lot of people. Unless your face is nearly symmetrical, and body well-proportioned, you're going to look different in various pictures, and that also changes depending on the angles, type of camera used, how you're positioned, etc. Take note that how you see yourself is literally through pictures and reflections; you've never actually seen the way you look as if you were another person looking straight at yourself. The way you look in the mirror is always going to look different than what you see in pictures, because they're entirely different materials used for creating that visual (camera vs mirror). I think it also depends on the psyche (like if you have body dysmorphia), so that just goes to show how many endless factors play into the conclusion that you will never truly know. The sooner we all try to accept that fact, the sooner we can focus less on what our eyes see (which is always deceiving), and more on what's on the inside.
Y'all need to turn off your filters and get used going out without makeup. Looking nice and feeling pretty is great but making sure other people never see you less than perfect is just compounding your insecurity, not managing it. Please don't hinge any part of your self worth on appearance. It's a surefire way to get mentally fucked up, because you'll always feel like a fraud, never pretty enough and forever afraid of losing your looks. When it's the most insignificant thing about you. You're not supposed to be pretty. You're supposed to be human.
What they need is help from actual experts. Not bad advice from someone on the internet. Without actual mental help all your advice accomplishes is them feeling insecure, anxious, and frustrated. It's not that easy and pretending like it's just, "be confident and don't do those things (wearing makeup and using filters)" is honestly insulting. How exactly would someone suffering from body dysmorphia who did that not just end up enforcing their body dysmorphia? They'll still think the same things. You talk as if you understand that it's a mental issue after but your advice pretends that it's a simple choice without any consequences. It also completely ignores societal influence and puts all the blame on the person with dysmorphia. We can't completely shut out social media or the effects media has on our culture. Even if they didn't wear makeup it wouldn't solely fix the insecurity or other mental issues. Unfortunately, makeup and filters are a lot more accessible than therapy and mental health resources. I get that you're trying to be encouraging and explain and whatnot but this to me really comes off as tone deaf, condescending, and just not at all understanding like the rest of your words pretend to be. It sounds like you have good intentions but your wording is bad and potentially harmful. Just so you know, I don't say this as someone who is angry, just concerned and frustrated. I don't have body dysmorphia but my boyfriend does. It's not as simple as telling him, "but you look great" nor is the solution, "just gym harder" or "it doesn't matter what you look like." None of that fixes what he thinks about himself and none of that comes even close to helping him as much as actual therapy that will teach him how to think about himself, give him strategies to cope, and create new pathways in his brain.
@@blu5018 I obviously wasn't talking about people with dysphoria??? The relentless cultural drive for perfection affects people with mental illness worst of all?? "The promotion of beauty culture creates unrealistic expectations and is toxic especially to women and girls who are already under tremendous pressure to be flawless and we need to stop subscribing to it" and "anyone who wants to feel pretty should be able to do whatever they like and receive praise and validation" are two things that can co-exist? What on earth makes you think I don't know anything about dysphoria or mental illness or have anyone with dysphoria in my own life? Because I said people need to try and buck capitalism and practice being comfortable in their own skin?? Where in my comment did I say it's easy or that people who struggle to do this should just get over their issues or blame people for not being able to do that? Maybe you're the one who needs to understand context and the difference between external and internal pressures before going on an essay length rant based on unfounded assumptions.
@@blu5018 "Unfortunately make up and filters are a lot more accessible than mental health resources" That's...not a good thing?? And proves my point?? Have you considered that telling people IN GENERAL that "you're fine the way you are" actually helps them with body image issues? Sorry for not specifically addressing the mental health needs of dysphoric people in a UA-cam comment bestie. 💗😘
@@ladymirth Have you considered that saying, "just don't wear makeup" when they clearly already have insecurities or body dysmorphia doesn't actually help them with their body issues at all and is really tone deaf, terrible advice, harmful, and condescending. That's exactly like telling people with depression to smile. It completely fails to understand what the person is going through and is honestly insulting. Even if they don't have body dysmorphia, do you honestly think that people who cope with makeup have good mental health? Do you honestly think that people who think so little of themselves that they're afraid to be seen as less than perfect, to use your example, have good mental health? You make a comment about not specifically mentioning body dysphoria but you still failed to understand that these people still would have mental issues even if it wasn't that and telling them to "take off the filters" wouldn't fix that. I like how you quoted me but didn't read the first word. "Unfortunately." I wasn't saying it was a good thing. I'm saying people use it to cope and telling them not to use that without getting them mental help will make them feel even worse. Not only that but telling them to take away their only coping methods does absolutely nothing. You should be sorry for your terrible advice to people with body dysmorphia and mental issues and for telling them to just 'take off their makeup.' I'm starting to think English isn't your first language but I specifically said that my tone was not aggressive and I was concerned that your comment and wording can be harmful because you are talking about people with mental issues and body dysmorphia even if you don't say "body dysmorphia." I'm not going to continue talking to someone who literally quotes me and failed to understand the first word you quoted nor am I going to talk to someone who was rude for no reason when I specifically told you the tone of voice I was speaking in was meant as non-aggressive and concerned. So continue to make tone deaf comments that potentially hurt people rather than listening to people you're making comments to and about who experience this every day. From a girl who doesn't wear makeup or use filters and still has problems because it IS a fucking mental issue that is not solvable by telling someone, "just take off the makeup" even if it's not specifically body dysmorphia.
@@blu5018 I ain't reading all that. Not everything in the world is about you my friend. Take some Valium and get off the internet. You're not the only one with problems jesus jiminy christ.
It isn’t just that, people are sharing their experiences with dysphoria. Stop commenting this kind of stuff, you’re making us feel like our experiences are invalid. As someone who faces dysphoria every day, and has breakdowns on the daily because of it, it’s so annoying to see you acting like the only reason is makeup and no makeup.
stop. not all of these people are wearing makeup. it’s called body dysmorphia, and i’ve almost killed myself over it. stop commenting things like this.
People have demonized natural human things such as pores and pimples, skin textures and stretch marks, certain body types etc.. Everybody is trying to fit into this weird beauty standard that people created, which is not what humans look like, that's why you look different than her, You are human but "her" is digital, with filters or modifications such as makeup, lighting, angle etc.
Oh my God I can finally relate to someone! I am 24 and still have no fucking idea of what I look like. Sometimes I look at pictures of me and I say: "Is that ME?"
*This is why I hate taking photos of myself- like especially snapchat - I'm one of those weird people who grew up without internet and phones cuz I have really strict parents while everyone else did and I am not like huge into social media but I definitely have felt really odd the last two years because like I will take a photo on Snapchat even without putting a filter on it I look so much better even if it's like not angled without light than I do in person and it makes me feel so weird and I'm glad I'm in my twenties because I can try to understand it more but I feel really bad for like younger girls and boys because it actually mine sucks you a little bit😓*
1. it's because of the poses, the lightning, the angles, sometimes the makeup (I don't wear makeup, am only 13) 2. I ask this when I think about mosquitoes. WHY DO THEY LOOK SO DIFFERENT - THEY WERE BROWN, NOW THEY'RE BLACK WITH WHITE DOTS
So some pictures they take look different than normal photos or non-filtered or non-makeup photos. Because the photos their using is them posing with a filter or makeup usually, and then they show what they're actually like.
I feel like they are expressing the body dysmorphia that they have, although some of these are made as a joke some of these are really meant to express that, I don’t know about the make up tho cause that’s a whole other thing. Some of these people I feel like struggle with their image because they see themselves in the mirror and then a picture taken of them, and that really messes up your mind at least it did for me, and I don’t want or take pictures anymore of myself and when I am asked to take a group pic I always say I don’t want to, so yeah I believe that’s the point of this tiktok
It’s not just selfies. I look different in mirrors too and I’ll be pretty confident but then someone takes a photo of me and I’d wish I hadn’t gone out at all :3
sometimes, I use my phone to record myself (the back camera, not selfie mode), it supposed to show how people see you in real life, it scared the shit outta me to see how different I look in that video and when I look at myself on a mirror, I got so much anxiety, but I had to do that, I have to realize that I'm not what I used to see, but I am what people see (my face). It's also the same with photos. I hate when people take photos of me or like a group photo, because I look so f ing ugly and my friends look like themselves. I actually talked to them about this topic and strangely enough, they feel the same way. So, I guess I have to accept that maybe people see me like that and I have to get used to it.
alot if not most people, taking selfies which flip to show our mirrored self, not actual self, but even the non-flipped version isnt our true self because of the camera lens distortion, angles, lighting...really its how other's perceive us
people who used to know me in the past might find me rude now, but i will always refuse whenever they ask for a picture of me. I'm not the same you used to know, i changed a lot.
Also, we only see oursekves when we want to, like when were taking pics or looking in the mirror but what about what we look like when we laugh or fall asleep, well never know 🤷♀️
apparently i have body dysmorphia and i’m not sure. my older sister was scrolling through pinterest as i watched her and i just said “i could never have pinterest all those girls are skinny and pretty” and she pulled up a picture of one of those girls and told me i look like her but there is no way i do. she pulled up plus sizes and told me i didn’t look like any of them and i pointed at one and said that looked like me and she smacked my phone and started telling me how i’m being brainwashed by editing, airbrushing, surgery, etc and saying my body dysmorphia is the worst she’s ever seen. i’m only 12 and idk if it’s normal for me to feel like that:( i wanna be pretty that’s all
GIRL UR BEAUTIFUL AND DONT LET ANYONE LET U THINK OTHERWISE. Im 15 And ive struggled with insecurities And body image most of my tween years and now Im just realising that it was all a scam. DO NOT waste ur teenage years letting ppl make u think ur Not pretty ik its hard but just trust me. Go out there and be so confident that u cant let even urself think ur not the most gorgeous girl in the room. Hope ur doing good And having a great day!
Ask your parents if you can talk to a therapist, it sounds like you have really bad body image issues and if they go un addressed they will just get worse trust me
This is why I hate going out in public and other people taking pictures of me 🙂
Other people take bad pictures of me anyway the only thing I do is smile and stand there like a stick and they still manage to make it look bad
@@emilythara06 fr same
I only take pictures from certain angles so other people are getting me from other angles and lighting and it makes me look like a different person and I hate it :/
I just like being in pictures even tho I look finer in the mirror but it's like whatever nobody's gonna judge me
@@mariahmcinnis4955 Exactly, I get so insecure and very sad after they take a photo of me. I even openly say I'm going to look at the photo when I feel more confident(to my dad) :(
Yea this is why i never took selfies or posted my pics anywhere, i dont want others to have high expectations and just met with disappointment if they ever met me irl…
Lmao same, when i take pics i look good but i dont want people to think thats how i look like, because in real life i look different, makes me insecure about meeting people that only know me from pics.
Try being un photogenic, even with my best efforts people tell me "hey you look better in real life"
I know 😭😭😭😭
You spoke my mind 👁️👄👁️
Oh honey, the expectations of others about yourself are not your problem, are theirs🐱 you don't owe beauty or anything to anyone🧚♀️ i really hope you can someday accept yourself and embrace all the things that make u unique 💖 I wish u a happy life :)
@@javieraolate5408 such a Beautiful Comment! Thank you 💖💖💖
“lighting and makeup”
yea yall that’s the point 😭😭 this causes insecurities or even dysmorphia for some people
lol i have BDD and an eating disorder and i can confirm💀
@༊*·˚ʰᵃⁿⁿᵃʰ. i’m so sorry you’re going through that, i hope you’re well!! but yea people are taking this way too literally i can confirm that knowing better lighting will do me justice does not make me feel any better
@@serotonin7687 tysmmmm and yee it sucks
@@ilove_soup yass bestie
*dysmorphia? (unless you're actually talking about dysphoria, and in that case i'm sorry)
Different angles and lightning🧚🏾♀️
and makeup-
Wait i actually am gonna live by this, you don’t know how much I’m gonna quote this for myself and to everyone I know
Lightning?
@@angelinasadek4876 I’m prettyyy sure they met lighting lol
@@newday1590 yeah ik I was being kinda sarcastic
i love this trend just because it goes to show that all the people you see on social media all have their insecurities and you only see what you wish you could be when everyone is all the same. everyone in this video is a normal human and everyone’s literally beautiful in their own way
y'all i literally dropped a friend cause she caused me so much anxiety snapping pics. she would like show me them and i'd tell her to delete that one cause i look ugly ... then she posts it on social media. i'm literally about to cry thinking about how insecure i am when i'm around her cause i have no control over what she's gonna post ahah
lol good!! sis seriously that's a big step! that's literally what abusive people do, they dig at your insecurities, it's not just for fun or good nature or quirky, it's on purpose. i had the same "frenemy" for years and now i'm just gaining back my confidence after being lowkey told for years how funny i look or the same pictures thing.. remember that they are doing this because they feel intimidated by you! and worse.. and feel the need to tear you down to lift themselves up and there's nothing more to it! glad you dropped the hoe
honestly as overdramatic as it sounds, the same thing happened to me and it was a little bit traumatising
@@emily-ek7wq welp not gonna lie this pretty happens often, it's not overdramatic its just because the person is uncomfortable and does not like other people taking a pic of them
She sounds like she was jealous of you and wanted to embarass you to make herself feel better. 😒
@@coconut7086 Facts.
I don’t wear makeup but I still feel like I don’t know what I look like
I hate makeup because it doesn't suits me and I don't know how to do makeup 🤡
the point of the video isnt the make up its just lighting and camera lens distortion
Yeah that's the point it's angle camar lighting and front camera back camera.
Exactly
Same
i feel like everyone knows that its because of angles and lighting however, its the fact that they cannot portray themselves as their "best selves" that gets to them. i struggle with this constantly but i hope you know that everyone is beautiful in their own way. stay safe :]
habibi means beautiful
Wise words from a big q enjoyer
The Robert one got me crying
she doesn’t. you are beautiful, whether your posed, with perfect lighting, and perfect angles, or not. your stunning. incredible. breathtaking. please dont forget that. i love you.
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@Des Bernabela understandable
Not to sound mean, but let's face the reality. Otherwise you'll be constantly disappointed that you'll not getting the privilege of being physically beautiful. If you look average in real life accept that. Accepting the reality humbles you. It's ok not to be beautiful or breathtaking after all being average looking is normal. What's most important is you know deep inside you are a good person. That's something won't fade even as you age.
Not me on the last year of my twenties feeling insecure watching all these beautiful girls feeling any less than beautiful. Don't waste your youth wishing you looked any different than the beauty you were always blessed with!
theyre all so pretty
I feel like we should stop setting up filters and stuff in different angles just to look great in pictures. you might not look photogenic but at least it is genuine and an actual memory, so looking back, you'll remember what happened that day and not how hard you worked to set up that photot
Well said👍
T h a n k y o u. I completely agree with that.
Agree, we should just accept how we look even though truth hurts and we all have way more chances to just look average more than ugly or beautiful. I don't look good when I'm genuinely happy on pictures, but I'm happy and bro... It's what matters
i hate to have other people take pictures of me out in public cuz i swear i literally don’t recognize myself
Ugh ikr, I literally look so ugly in them, and don’t know how to pose 😭
IKRRR
this. i try and explain this to my family as honestly it gets really overwhelming sometimes but they just don’t understand
@@emily-ek7wq Same, I hate when people take pictures of me.
I shape shift every month. When I get my period I get hella bloated, face is puffy, and I get acne.
*I feel this every day.*
hey guys, i just wanted to tell you guys you’re all gorgeous, no matter what anybody says you’re beautiful. stay safe my loves😘
* litterally looks like the same person *
Fr
they might see two different versions of themselves idk
@@celestegalimberti6343 yeah maybe
Once? :D
@@pluto6648 yes☺️
I get so excited to see the “her” Ik people are acting like it’s a bad thing, but I get excited because they look so pretty and real. Like an actual smiling person
Yea right and not a highly edited anime character
this reminds me of a story I heard where in Marylin Monroe had asked the women she was lunching with if the woman would like to see her "become her".
The woman didn't understand what she was talking about but continued to watch her in interest and curiosity, and as if something had switched within the woman infront of her, it became so clear she was Thee Marilyn Monroe and not the average woman passing on the street, even the people around them seemed to notice the difference and it was if the world stopped to turn and stare where only moments ago they passed her with such ease. and not a second thought.
How did marilyn monroe switch tho
How did she switch?
@@aditypatil1512 by changing the composure with which she held herself, a lot about how others view you is dependent on how you perceive yourself.
@@shmeepness1700 It's simply a case of changing the perception of ones self and seeing the results of it take effect on those around you.
@@theaceofsage7777 ohh
her voice is so calming
This is why I also take pictures that show my “flaws” or a part of me I’m kinda insecure about but learning to love. Like my dark neck I try to find filters that don’t cover up or lighten my completion. I used to do the opposite before. I try filters that don’t change my face just my background or colors. I take pictures that I look at and i am like damn I’m hot. The same way I used to take pictures with filters. My own reflection used to disappoint me but now I just smile at myself even when I don’t feel as confident. Because I’m not gonna look like a IG model 24/7 neither am I wearing a filter. I am beautiful all the time, but not standing in the perfect lighting and angle ready to take photos. Even when I have to, I just puff up my big chubby cheeks that make my eyes smaller and give a big smile like nothing in the world matters that can convince me I’m ugly because I’m not. I am beautiful and so is the person reading this. We all are. Don’t let society’s unreal beauty standards stop you from loving your beautiful self💜
i can relate to this situation so much.i look completely different in selfies vs in real life and sometimes my frnds make fun of me coz they think i use more filters.but srsly i dont use much filters and even then i look completely different😒
It's the front and back camera.. The front camera is taking your mirror image what you see yourself as and unfortunately the back camera is how others see you. But I'm sure you're pretty either way it's just that you're use to seeing yourself in the mirror so you like that better. And about your friends.. Drop them🙄
@@rashianand7534
yeahhh thats why i dont take selfies theyre super inaccurate, phones make selfies look very slimming compared to reality. but back camera and even professional lenses can distort your face too. theres no winning lol
that second girl was so pretty.
Even the ‘her’ part was super pretty
Angles, lighting, makeup, weight loss or weight gain, filters.
People know that, it’s not just that omg people are sharing their experiences with dysphoria 🤦♀️
That is all you! That is how diverse you are. Accept yourself, your every bit and your every angle. You aren't perfect but so am I and so are they. But you know what? It's okaaaay. Don't be too hard on yourself. Just be you!
Don't feel insecure for not always looking at your best.
Lighting, health, angles- they make people look really different and it really kills me that boys and girls feel shamed of the simple fact of being human.
You weren't created to be beautiful.
"Look how pretty I am... look how pretty I still am" 🤣
i can relate sooo much from this sound.
You look like the second, get others to take pics of you without directions to find out how you’re perceived! Any pics on yourself posed with makeup or hiding your angles is something manufactured by yourself, others who already see you everyday will just take the picture
Oh my god no that’s literally horrible 😭 I don’t want to look like my second self
On top of that being non photogenic just makes me feel terrible. Like no joke I got made fun of by my friends. They would always want to take ugly pictures of me on purpose and sometimes I couldn’t even say nothing cause it is my fault I look like that.
@@strawberrydaurto3366 No, dear it's not your fault. Please change friends - they're hurting you... :(
why did u have to say all of that
thats just not true
I really think it's even more than makeup and lighting for a lot of people. Unless your face is nearly symmetrical, and body well-proportioned, you're going to look different in various pictures, and that also changes depending on the angles, type of camera used, how you're positioned, etc. Take note that how you see yourself is literally through pictures and reflections; you've never actually seen the way you look as if you were another person looking straight at yourself. The way you look in the mirror is always going to look different than what you see in pictures, because they're entirely different materials used for creating that visual (camera vs mirror). I think it also depends on the psyche (like if you have body dysmorphia), so that just goes to show how many endless factors play into the conclusion that you will never truly know. The sooner we all try to accept that fact, the sooner we can focus less on what our eyes see (which is always deceiving), and more on what's on the inside.
All still bootiful before and after
now feeling better about myself
The answer to all these: makeup ✨
Some of these are men
Shush
And poses. This is fucking stupid
no, it’s just body dysmorphia. not all of these girls are wearing makeup. i really hate these comments, especially because i have body dysmorphia too.
I love this Trend
Y'all need to turn off your filters and get used going out without makeup. Looking nice and feeling pretty is great but making sure other people never see you less than perfect is just compounding your insecurity, not managing it. Please don't hinge any part of your self worth on appearance. It's a surefire way to get mentally fucked up, because you'll always feel like a fraud, never pretty enough and forever afraid of losing your looks. When it's the most insignificant thing about you.
You're not supposed to be pretty. You're supposed to be human.
What they need is help from actual experts. Not bad advice from someone on the internet. Without actual mental help all your advice accomplishes is them feeling insecure, anxious, and frustrated. It's not that easy and pretending like it's just, "be confident and don't do those things (wearing makeup and using filters)" is honestly insulting. How exactly would someone suffering from body dysmorphia who did that not just end up enforcing their body dysmorphia? They'll still think the same things. You talk as if you understand that it's a mental issue after but your advice pretends that it's a simple choice without any consequences. It also completely ignores societal influence and puts all the blame on the person with dysmorphia. We can't completely shut out social media or the effects media has on our culture. Even if they didn't wear makeup it wouldn't solely fix the insecurity or other mental issues. Unfortunately, makeup and filters are a lot more accessible than therapy and mental health resources.
I get that you're trying to be encouraging and explain and whatnot but this to me really comes off as tone deaf, condescending, and just not at all understanding like the rest of your words pretend to be. It sounds like you have good intentions but your wording is bad and potentially harmful.
Just so you know, I don't say this as someone who is angry, just concerned and frustrated. I don't have body dysmorphia but my boyfriend does. It's not as simple as telling him, "but you look great" nor is the solution, "just gym harder" or "it doesn't matter what you look like." None of that fixes what he thinks about himself and none of that comes even close to helping him as much as actual therapy that will teach him how to think about himself, give him strategies to cope, and create new pathways in his brain.
@@blu5018 I obviously wasn't talking about people with dysphoria??? The relentless cultural drive for perfection affects people with mental illness worst of all??
"The promotion of beauty culture creates unrealistic expectations and is toxic especially to women and girls who are already under tremendous pressure to be flawless and we need to stop subscribing to it" and "anyone who wants to feel pretty should be able to do whatever they like and receive praise and validation" are two things that can co-exist?
What on earth makes you think I don't know anything about dysphoria or mental illness or have anyone with dysphoria in my own life? Because I said people need to try and buck capitalism and practice being comfortable in their own skin?? Where in my comment did I say it's easy or that people who struggle to do this should just get over their issues or blame people for not being able to do that?
Maybe you're the one who needs to understand context and the difference between external and internal pressures before going on an essay length rant based on unfounded assumptions.
@@blu5018 "Unfortunately make up and filters are a lot more accessible than mental health resources"
That's...not a good thing?? And proves my point??
Have you considered that telling people IN GENERAL that "you're fine the way you are" actually helps them with body image issues?
Sorry for not specifically addressing the mental health needs of dysphoric people in a UA-cam comment bestie. 💗😘
@@ladymirth Have you considered that saying, "just don't wear makeup" when they clearly already have insecurities or body dysmorphia doesn't actually help them with their body issues at all and is really tone deaf, terrible advice, harmful, and condescending. That's exactly like telling people with depression to smile. It completely fails to understand what the person is going through and is honestly insulting. Even if they don't have body dysmorphia, do you honestly think that people who cope with makeup have good mental health? Do you honestly think that people who think so little of themselves that they're afraid to be seen as less than perfect, to use your example, have good mental health? You make a comment about not specifically mentioning body dysphoria but you still failed to understand that these people still would have mental issues even if it wasn't that and telling them to "take off the filters" wouldn't fix that.
I like how you quoted me but didn't read the first word. "Unfortunately." I wasn't saying it was a good thing. I'm saying people use it to cope and telling them not to use that without getting them mental help will make them feel even worse. Not only that but telling them to take away their only coping methods does absolutely nothing.
You should be sorry for your terrible advice to people with body dysmorphia and mental issues and for telling them to just 'take off their makeup.'
I'm starting to think English isn't your first language but I specifically said that my tone was not aggressive and I was concerned that your comment and wording can be harmful because you are talking about people with mental issues and body dysmorphia even if you don't say "body dysmorphia."
I'm not going to continue talking to someone who literally quotes me and failed to understand the first word you quoted nor am I going to talk to someone who was rude for no reason when I specifically told you the tone of voice I was speaking in was meant as non-aggressive and concerned. So continue to make tone deaf comments that potentially hurt people rather than listening to people you're making comments to and about who experience this every day.
From a girl who doesn't wear makeup or use filters and still has problems because it IS a fucking mental issue that is not solvable by telling someone, "just take off the makeup" even if it's not specifically body dysmorphia.
@@blu5018 I ain't reading all that. Not everything in the world is about you my friend. Take some Valium and get off the internet. You're not the only one with problems jesus jiminy christ.
0:53 gurlie omg is so beautiful ✨
I love the self awareness tho.
Don’t feel insecure! I know it’s hard cause I feel like that too
does anyone else like feet started doing dances when they hear a certain song or just me
Yes
I actually look the same in pictures I take myself and pictures others take of me
I know this feeling all too well. All you people are really beautiful tho. 💗💗💗
makeup
no makeup
of course ur gonna look different when ur wearing makeup, that’s the point
It isn’t just that, people are sharing their experiences with dysphoria. Stop commenting this kind of stuff, you’re making us feel like our experiences are invalid. As someone who faces dysphoria every day, and has breakdowns on the daily because of it, it’s so annoying to see you acting like the only reason is makeup and no makeup.
stop. not all of these people are wearing makeup. it’s called body dysmorphia, and i’ve almost killed myself over it. stop commenting things like this.
@@phoenixdelrey4757 ikr people can be so rude
People have demonized natural human things such as pores and pimples, skin textures and stretch marks, certain body types etc.. Everybody is trying to fit into this weird beauty standard that people created, which is not what humans look like, that's why you look different than her, You are human but "her" is digital, with filters or modifications such as makeup, lighting, angle etc.
@@wxnnie3728 how is it about dysmorphia
1:20 dad from coraline vibes
You are so underrated
2:03 she looks so different 😍
We can't always look perfect
0:48 I swear I saw Shakira for a sec
Omg yesssss
This is funny that it showed up on my page cause I actually forgot what I looked like earlier
The Tom Felton one got me wheezing ✋☠️
Here is the recipe of this magic : " Makeup, camera, lighting and photography skill" .
Now create your one 😂😂
Me in the mirror without glasses VS me in the mirror with glasses VS me in photos 😢
Without glasses my skin looks blurred and I love her but idk about the rest of them 🥱
Same except I look better with glasses
reason i dont wear make up is cuz i want to like my natural self
I wanna reassure some of them that they look no different :'D
You are pretty just the way you are🤓💙
THAT RDJ ONE KILLED ME 😭😭😂😂
I can relate so bad
1:04 BAHAHA STOP
Oh my God I can finally relate to someone! I am 24 and still have no fucking idea of what I look like.
Sometimes I look at pictures of me and I say: "Is that ME?"
makeup, lighting, angles, filters, photo shop.
Girl in the mirror authentic job 10/10
I legit start sobbing whenever I see myself
we're all ugly
*This is why I hate taking photos of myself- like especially snapchat - I'm one of those weird people who grew up without internet and phones cuz I have really strict parents while everyone else did and I am not like huge into social media but I definitely have felt really odd the last two years because like I will take a photo on Snapchat even without putting a filter on it I look so much better even if it's like not angled without light than I do in person and it makes me feel so weird and I'm glad I'm in my twenties because I can try to understand it more but I feel really bad for like younger girls and boys because it actually mine sucks you a little bit😓*
because you have makeup -
and good lighting
@@dumbledoreiscalm5923 yeah..
finish you sentence, and try and think a little harder next time small brain.
@@elianagarcia5885 ewwww
Simple answer
✨Makeup✨
1. it's because of the poses, the lightning, the angles, sometimes the makeup (I don't wear makeup, am only 13)
2. I ask this when I think about mosquitoes.
WHY DO THEY LOOK SO DIFFERENT -
THEY WERE BROWN, NOW THEY'RE BLACK WITH WHITE DOTS
1:04
5:27
5:38
Robert is a beauty
The Tony Stark vs. Robert Downey Jr. 😂
I'm having a bad few years but i enjoy seeing people at their best dressed and they're goofiness, I'm going to search for more of these. warm.
The benit cucamberbatch made me crack up
That's why i don't put filters when i take a picture😔🥲
Wait I don’t understand this trend
So some pictures they take look different than normal photos or non-filtered or non-makeup photos. Because the photos their using is them posing with a filter or makeup usually, and then they show what they're actually like.
@@monkey2202 ohhhhhh okay thank youuuu
I feel like they are expressing the body dysmorphia that they have, although some of these are made as a joke some of these are really meant to express that, I don’t know about the make up tho cause that’s a whole other thing. Some of these people I feel like struggle with their image because they see themselves in the mirror and then a picture taken of them, and that really messes up your mind at least it did for me, and I don’t want or take pictures anymore of myself and when I am asked to take a group pic I always say I don’t want to, so yeah I believe that’s the point of this tiktok
...some of these people are even beautiful without angle, light and make up
It’s not just selfies. I look different in mirrors too and I’ll be pretty confident but then someone takes a photo of me and I’d wish I hadn’t gone out at all :3
Replace the her with him and this hits different as a trans man
Bruhh even when they take their makeup off they’re still so beautiful image me lmao
sometimes, I use my phone to record myself (the back camera, not selfie mode), it supposed to show how people see you in real life, it scared the shit outta me to see how different I look in that video and when I look at myself on a mirror, I got so much anxiety, but I had to do that, I have to realize that I'm not what I used to see, but I am what people see (my face).
It's also the same with photos. I hate when people take photos of me or like a group photo, because I look so f ing ugly and my friends look like themselves. I actually talked to them about this topic and strangely enough, they feel the same way. So, I guess I have to accept that maybe people see me like that and I have to get used to it.
2:05 is this true?
No
alot if not most people, taking selfies which flip to show our mirrored self, not actual self, but even the non-flipped version isnt our true self because of the camera lens distortion, angles, lighting...really its how other's perceive us
So i wasn't the only one...
0:17 who else sees Nicki Minaj so beautiful
people who used to know me in the past might find me rude now, but i will always refuse whenever they ask for a picture of me. I'm not the same you used to know, i changed a lot.
0:54 I'm still looking for the "Her"
Not the George ones I-🤚😔
What movie or show is this from?
The first one
THE FIRST ONE JS A JOKE IM CRHING
At least they can look good with makeup and good lighting, I just look like shit all the time and no amount of makeup can help me hahahha
6:00
PLS
🤠💀💀
Takes off makeup and cleans face
“I have no idea why I look so different”
Me: bish wha-
Like "excuse me, do u never look in the mirror in the morning after u wakeup ? U look exactly like yourself. Duh "
Also, we only see oursekves when we want to, like when were taking pics or looking in the mirror but what about what we look like when we laugh or fall asleep, well never know 🤷♀️
i would win ths trend
2:47 not George 😭
How about different angles makeup haircuts hair color glasses and lighting?
apparently i have body dysmorphia and i’m not sure. my older sister was scrolling through pinterest as i watched her and i just said “i could never have pinterest all those girls are skinny and pretty” and she pulled up a picture of one of those girls and told me i look like her but there is no way i do. she pulled up plus sizes and told me i didn’t look like any of them and i pointed at one and said that looked like me and she smacked my phone and started telling me how i’m being brainwashed by editing, airbrushing, surgery, etc and saying my body dysmorphia is the worst she’s ever seen. i’m only 12 and idk if it’s normal for me to feel like that:( i wanna be pretty that’s all
GIRL UR BEAUTIFUL AND DONT LET ANYONE LET U THINK OTHERWISE. Im 15 And ive struggled with insecurities And body image most of my tween years and now Im just realising that it was all a scam. DO NOT waste ur teenage years letting ppl make u think ur Not pretty ik its hard but just trust me. Go out there and be so confident that u cant let even urself think ur not the most gorgeous girl in the room. Hope ur doing good And having a great day!
@@diya_biju ty i’m working on my mental health more and i’m getting much better:] it means a lot that uu are supportive!!! sending much love!!
Ask your parents if you can talk to a therapist, it sounds like you have really bad body image issues and if they go un addressed they will just get worse trust me
@@444angelitaa that’s amazing! And thank you!
God loves you
they dont look that different...they are actually really pretty in the espontaneous pics