Reason #352 of why so many sisters don’t wanna be called “strong.” She didn’t need to go through any of this in the first place. Glad she’s healing. ✊🏾❤️. @GeeThinks
Well they are strong. You’d have to be strong to survive such horrific foolishness that so many BW have experienced. Someone calls the BW weak then everyone will be up in arms defending why they’re not weak. Nothing wrong with being called STRONG because BW are STRONG. Look up the definition and it is the epitome of what BW are. Embarrass it. It’s not BW’s fault that others misinterpret what the true definition of what it means to be strong. That’s on THEM. Just because you’re strong doesn’t mean you’re not a flower. 🌹
I love your comment. Yes, we have to have some sort of strength when we've gone through things like this poor lady has gone through, but we still deserve the latitude and Grace to be vulnerable and soft... I don't like being called strong; I just like being called a woman ❤
Talking to strangers is a needed relase for ppl who experienced traumatic experiences. I pray that this women continues to recieve the healing she desperately needs 🙏🏾 😢.
Talking to strangers who want to listen is ok. This is a dating show and coming on here with unhealed trauma will not attract the right person for anyone.
This is weird, she didn’t come on to look for a man, she only came on to tell her story, she shares this story with anyone that will listen believe that. God Bless her.
This is her therapy. If she held it in she would probably be on drugs or an alcoholic. She also takes care of her grandchildren at an attempt to shield them from what happened to her. Last thing she needs is a man in her household. She probably doesn’t have the best knowledge of how to pick a solid partner.
I hope someone who’s watching her story has the courage to finally speak out against the abuse happening in their family. Last estimate I heard was 1 out of 3 women have experienced sexual abuse. A lot of these women who come on this platform and look dead behind the eyes, behave/think much younger than their chronological age, and are prone to promiscuity have likely dealt with similar issues. It’s written all over their energy. These men too, introduced to sex or explicit content by older people super early and then their minds are warped. We gotta start protecting these kids. Stop forcing your kids to hug or kiss adults, watch who your child clams up around, use correct terms for anatomy, and empower them to know that their body is theirs alone. And supervise your kids with other kids in your family. These children who are victims of SA may sometimes carry out certain behaviors that they have been subjected to on other children.
What a tragic life! This story is far too heavy for a dating show. ETA: I don’t know that this woman will ever truly recover from her upbringing. She kept referring to her family as a “great family”, but ain’t no way with all this trauma and abuse. I hope she’s learned to spot a predator when she sees one because I fear those are the types who will DM her.
I pray that any man who reaches out to her is genuine and have pure intentions. She deserves to be loved and appreciated. I pray God gives her the spirit to discern those who were not sent her way by him. In Jesus name
@therealmrs.p2820 granted, but she had to be heard, sometimes in the wrong platform but who are we to not listen.yes it's a dating show, rather she say it out loud.
I’m so fortunate and grateful that I’ve never experienced sexual assault…especially not at the hands of a family or even worse A PARENT. 😢 I think it’s crazy how people can be violated by the very ones that are literally meant to protect them.
@@logicalcritik2144 what’s crazy is how she still got on here and talked about how he was a great man and that he was a genius, girl none of that matters. The mom waiting until she has kids and is an adult to actually act is also w i l d.
Kendra is so kind and patient to allow her to share. She got into her trauma in less than a minute. I understand she wants to speak out and tell her story but this is still a dating show and like Kendra always says, she's not a therapist. It puts in her an awkward situation. Her story is heartbreaking.
I’ve heard it several times. A girl I went to school with was pregnant by her dad and the baby was for him. I was sick hearing about that when I was in HS. Worse part is everyone judged her but she opened up to me
My heart is breaking for this lady. It’s true that this was not the place for her to speak on it but obviously this strangles her everyday and is heavy on her mind. I pray for her continuous healing! Compassion for this lady please!! It costs nothing!
Honey, you just put your story out here. Now every predator will end up in your DMs. Abusers love previous victims. Until she gets the help she needs, she will continue to be victmized. Her father, her uncle and her brother inlaw all raped her. Her mother conveniently worked nights, leaving her children available to the men in the family. Everyone knew what the men were doing and no one helped. That family is a tragedy.
Nuff respect to Kendra for allowing Candice to share her story! And indeed Candice for being so brave to share..through her sharing she will give others the strength to heal as well❤
Way too heavy...This would be a lot for a man to deal with. Its going to take a compassionate and patient man. I had horrid horrid childhood but I dont look like what Ive been through and you would never know.God's peace is amazingggg..
I remember a girl I was seeing some years ago. She had a similar story. The day she told me the story, I knew I could never be with her. I can’t mentally lay down with someone I know was a previous sexual assault victim. I did stay in her life for a while and encouraged therapy etc but that was the end of it for me
@dialac1 per the CDC, over half of women have experienced sexual violence during their lives. The rates may even be higher than what is currently estimated. Men are also victimized at a rate of 1 in 3, per the CDC as well. Sexual violence is an endemic problem, a feature not a bug. There are phenomenal people out there who have had these experiences and done work to heal. If you meet a woman you really connect with, I hope you don't automatically block her out due to something she couldn't control
I totally understand that she needed to get this out, but this is a dating show, this is not a counseling show. She needs to speak to a therapist. I know she just started talking, but when she first said sexually assault, the whole conversation should have ended right then and there. My goodness. I’m done.
@tanyabriggs8690 I’m sorry for whatever happened to you and your sister. Please find someone to talk to about it, please talk to God about your troubles also. Between a human therapist and God’s love, you’re going to be ok. None of you deserve what’s happened to you. Be well, God bless. ❤️🩹
I’m so glad Kendra allowed her to speak her truth. I know God has great things for her as he has given her so much strength to be here to share her story. May she heal from this and find the person who will truly be loving to her as she deserves it, as well as everyone here.
Prayers up for this woman!!! May Yah give her the strength and power to continue to fight for herself!!! KENDRA, YOURE A LIGHT FOR MANY!!! CONTINUE TO SHINE FOR THE PEOPLE, AS YOUVE BEEN DOING!!!! Kendra taught me just now how important it is to let people vent, sometimes.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ #MajorFanOfKendraG
Since I let go of my victim mentality, I can't listen to poor me stories anymore. While I understand she's been through stuff, she doesn't need to be a victim of it, it can make her a better person. Oversharing for why? Not the place for it, what kinda man she looking for? Ike? 😕
I’m glad she came on the show to expose her family, she thought she was looking for a man but God sent her to this show so she can get all this off her chest, so ppl could hear her story and show her sympathy and love that her family wouldn’t show her. God works in mysterious ways. It was definitely meant for her to come on and tell her story. Thanks Kendra for letting her talk and get everything out. I’m definitely gonna pray for this lady.
As someone who has experienced trauma throughout my life i can empathize with her but this was not the place to vent. I really hope she get psychotherapy and stop drinking. This is someone who could actually benefit from the free therapy that was offered to the woman who was cheating on her husband calling in the show looking for a new man ijs. Secondly this should not have been a highlight! Poor thing. This is double embarrassment.
She needs to be a highlight so hopefully she sees these comments and realizes she needs therapy and not a man in her life. She doesn’t have insight on her own and no one to guide her
The entire world is online based, we can’t do anything without the phone or the internet, we are way passed” keep things offline” most ppl get most of their healing and education online, show her luv and support or shut up about it.
My goodness 😢😢😢.... therapy and writing a memoir may also help unpack everything.. Wowsers. Lord send this woman the intervention she needs to fully heal.
I don’t understand how we got on the subject of her being molested. All Kendra asked was why didn’t she marry at least one of the men she had a baby with. It’s horrible what happened but she needs professional help to start the healing process.
But y’all tune in everyday and speak on what Kendra NEEDS to do!!!! STOP WATCHING….😂😂😂 I hope GOD continues to bless her, cuz her story may touch someone currently going through the same thing. Makes me appreciate A LOT…..❤
You can watch/support someone and still not agree with all of their choices/decisions. I say this not only in regards to this show.. but to life overall
It seems like Kendra asked one question, and the lady just took off.🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️ I hate that this was/is her life. I pray she gets some peace while she's still here on earth. God bless you 💛💛💛💛
This show is not what it used to be at this point Kendra just cares about the money cause this is wild and Kendra should have shut this down and reposting this is crazy disrespectful clearly this lady is broken! Kendra is really starting to exploit guests and it’s very sad to watch because I used to really enjoy Kendra
I think the lady should be able to share her story but this is not the platform and I’m more worried about the fact that this made her more vulnerable to abusers. She been letting anything pass lately. Married ppl, Ppl under 21, ppl trauma dumping, people saying they owe child support, ppl in prison. Some stuff is too much
For a dating show this is too much. Kendra you need to start setting boundaries because this is a lot. I highly recommend she seeks therapy because this is heavy. I, myself was molested by a family member as a young girl for years. I am healed from my traumatic experience, therapy, and amazing friends who support me. I pray for her healing as well. ❤
My ex went through a similar childhood, and even after six years, the relationship made no progress. If this woman is anything like my ex, she does not need a relationship right now she needs a therapist and time to heal
One day of telling her story is not going to heal her. This is 30 years of trauma. She needs therapy. Getting into a relationship is not the answer. She is not going to have a healthy relationship carrying all that baggage.
She should write a book. So much going on. Stay prayed up. Your family is not good, they are evil. Your father is evil. You have to say that and accept that. You've done so well for yourself. Keep your head up
@@Pam_ela do it all you want honey LOL I can't tell people how to waste time. Is like I said if prayer worked, this wouldn't be her or most people's story
@@ilovepdub or perhaps my story is the same or similar? Please if it don’t apply, let it fly. If your an atheist/non believer then it doesn’t apply to you. ✌️
Unfortunately there are young women and men going through this until this day I hope someone can see this and know this is not right my prayers are for her strength and healing
Sending positive vibes into the atmosphere for Candace. I know one too many women personally who have been molested and taken advantage of by males who were supposed to protect them and it’s extremely upsetting that they’re so selfish in their sick sexually abusive actions that they don’t even consider the life-lasting effect it has on their victims. Therapy is definitely recommended in scenarios like this but I don’t think there’s any true remedy for being abused sexually - especially as a child. Shout-Out to Kendra for letting her speak her testimony - you never know what keywords or questions may be a trigger for them and the marriage question unlocked this exchange.
I pray that she will consider intensive counseling. I can’t even pretend to understand what she’s been through, nor what that type of trauma can do to one’s mindset, but maybe in counseling, she’ll learn that no…your father actually was NOT a “great man”, he was an awful man who may have known how to do some great things, but he also knew how to do some truly awful, deprived things. She deserved to be protected, and no ones including her mother, cared enough to do that. I pray that she finds healing…
i just don't know about painting herself as a victim at every turn in her story. Not to mention 4 grand kids. she didn't want to touch on that and her ability to raise children.
Everything about this is alarming. This is a dating show. What is going on in her spirit and discernment that she thinks THIS is the proper platform for this? It’s sad because it reads as desperate, lonely and because it’s such a wild overshare it feels unstable. I wish Kendra would’ve stopped her and offered therapy/counseling rather than allow this.
I gather from your comment that she should have kept her shame to herself a and remained quiet. I'm sure her mother tells her bullshit like that too. Why should survivors of horror remain quiet? So that you can remain comfortable? No. Feel uncomfortable! How tf do you think the rape victims in the cult/family feel? Compassion, empathy and understanding are free.
God bless her but this is a DATING show, this isn't the appropriate platform. Sharing all of this information is going to scare a lot of men away, and the ones who are attracted after listening to this are much more likely to be predators looking for a person who is already accustomed to being victimized. Kendra has to do more to keep folks on topic because her sharing all of this not only negatively impacts her, but also her children. God please cover and protect that family I wish her the best
This is so sad! I pray for this woman. This is most Black people families. It happened to me. I hope she can find someone can deal with her trauma. Kendra should start another show for the people who are married. And for the broken people looking for Love. These stories are wild.
This wasn't the platform for her confession because it will draw every kind of broken evil spirit out there right to her. Some men will see that spirit in her and will be attracted to it like a moth to a flame. I suggest intense long term therapy with someone trained in treating victims of sexual abuse and incest. Even if a good man was interested, this would be a lot for him to try to bear. She needs mental and emotional healing even Spiritual Deliverance to be truly set free. She thinks she is okay. That's how she copes but a lot of us who are spiritually awake can see and hear that she needs help with this. It's a spirit that has attached to her. That's why that same perverted spirit in different men continued to be drawn to her throughout her life starting with the Dad. I hope this message finds it's way to her and I pray God will deliver her. Peace be with you Sister. 🕊️
I appreciate you Kendra for letting her vent and tell her story. If she needs a mental health professional I will definitely provide free services to her. I am an advanced practice nurse (psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner).
The trauma and mental illness just too much. So many traumatized people looking for relationships . She told her whole life story from just one question.
Could you imagine if this was a 'first date'!? Whoa 😳 ...I think I understand why she isn't getting call backs. This is too much for a first encounter...dating or otherwise.
Kendra needs to stop letting these people trauma dump on the show. It’s been happening a lot lately. The question was “why aren’t you with your child’s father?” “It was the result of non consensual intercourse.” It could’ve ended there. Her story is tragic, but it’s for a therapist to hear, not any of us.
Just cause u selfish and don’t wanna hear someone else’s hardships or misfortunes and cannot relate cause life has been great for you doesn’t mean Kendra should disregard their story. It’s called having empathy something u don’t have.
@@RELLOMUSTY37trauma dumping is a known phenomenon and phrase that already exists. Some people have poor boundaries and don't/can't/won't understand when and what is appropriate to share
@@thewinzerfam I do have empathy, but this is a show to find love, not a therapy session. The question was “why aren’t you with your child’s father?” “It was the result of non consensual intercourse.” It could’ve ended there, but she wanted to trauma dump which is not ok. She needs real therapy, not this show.
Wait I’m lost here why are we getting a play by play of her childhood? She needs to be talking to a therapist. What man is going to sign up for this? 🙄
Her story was so touching and uncomfortable to hear . She needs lots of healing cause she experienced a lot of trauma in her life . God bless her heart 🙏🏾😇
Whew! This was rough and it does hold relevance to dating. We can’t present ourselves to others with so many issues unresolved internally. Thank you for listing to her. I think she did this to feel “normal.”
It's a blessing Kendra is here to provide a platform for her to get it out. I'm lost for words right now. That was a lot. I'm glad she made it through. It's a shame how low and animalistic some people can be. Even animals operate more consciously than some people Smh.
I feel so sad for this lady 😢she’s hurting so much. Your own father who’s supposed to protect you. The mother let this happen to her daughter she will answer to God one day.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
😣😔😖😭😢💔. I cried a gazillion tears to just know monsters & predators as such are amongst Us. Who knows what poor Children who are now Adults went through. 💔 So Very Sorry To Hear This Beautiful Queen. Prayers Going Up. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
🙏 I want to give her a hug, it was so much unloaded to much for one to bare. I think we can just continue to pray for her healing. If your daddy can't protect you then you won't ever trust any man that comes your way so sad😢
Omg Lord! this was a lot I can’t imagine!y heart breaks for her.. we have no idea what people around us go through, family can be the absolute WORST! Family trauma is VERY REAL! I had to write a book about mine and on my second one.
Her story is sad and riveting but not exactly what you want to lead with when trying to date. And the fact she so long winded and doesnt know shes oversharing seems like shes got an unstable mind. She just needs therapy🙏. Leading with this type of trauma at hello will only attract abusers or trauma bonding..most men will keep scrolling. Really didnt learn anything positive about her.😢
I don't think she came on the show to lead with that...Kendra asked a question that led into that. At the same time...If she was comfortable sharing I don't have a problem. I much rather know something like this before I decide to proceed in dating a woman...I've dealt with women that have gone through traumatic experiences that I don't find out about until much later. Almost as if they were trying to conceal them from me.
I cringed everytime she said her father was a great man, He was a MONSTER and that farm was a hellhole.
Stockholm Syndrome, this is a excellent example unfortunately.🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@slayingthabullshyt6854exactly
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it was clear she meant success-wise.
It’s sad we see past the abuse and still love our abuser just because they are our parents sadly it’s a lot of untold stories !
She called the wrong show...she need iyanla fix my life. She definitely don't need a man.
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That's horrific what this woman went through. She doesn't need another man, she needs healing and prayer. I hope she finds it.
She need to sit her country as down
no a person min her life needs to be her shield… and love her like she needs… the 1st step is her healing.
That woman don’t care about prayer n healing she on this show looking for a man…
no one needs prayer. if that shit worked this wouldn't of happened to her. she come from religious ppl da fuq
@@dandan4132and if prayer work ,that shit would of never happened
Reason #352 of why so many sisters don’t wanna be called “strong.” She didn’t need to go through any of this in the first place. Glad she’s healing. ✊🏾❤️. @GeeThinks
Well they are strong. You’d have to be strong to survive such horrific foolishness that so many BW have experienced. Someone calls the BW weak then everyone will be up in arms defending why they’re not weak. Nothing wrong with being called STRONG because BW are STRONG. Look up the definition and it is the epitome of what BW are. Embarrass it. It’s not BW’s fault that others misinterpret what the true definition of what it means to be strong. That’s on THEM. Just because you’re strong doesn’t mean you’re not a flower. 🌹
@@Tonshmar Thanks for adding that perspective!
I love your comment. Yes, we have to have some sort of strength when we've gone through things like this poor lady has gone through, but we still deserve the latitude and Grace to be vulnerable and soft... I don't like being called strong; I just like being called a woman ❤
Thank you Kendra for allowing this women to vent .. and prayers to Candis for being vulnerable and sharing her story ..
strong Queen 💜🙏🏾👑
Baby that was one hell of a story for answering, “why didn’t you marry any of your kids father”?
The part that really caught my attention is when she said her father tried to sexually assault her when she was nine months pregnant
Can anyone make anyone marry them.🤷🏾♀️..should anyone even try to make anyone marry them.
Talking to strangers is a needed relase for ppl who experienced traumatic experiences. I pray that this women continues to recieve the healing she desperately needs 🙏🏾 😢.
Praying for blacks is saying you will pray lol.
Talking to strangers who want to listen is ok. This is a dating show and coming on here with unhealed trauma will not attract the right person for anyone.
You're making excuses for idiot behavior.
@@lifeisatripenjoytheridepreach!
I know you’re lying 😩
Therapy therapy therapy is needed in the black community! Lord help us😢
This is weird, she didn’t come on to look for a man, she only came on to tell her story, she shares this story with anyone that will listen believe that. God Bless her.
Yep you can definitely tell she talks about it a lot, which is ok but a dating show is not the place for it!
This is her therapy. If she held it in she would probably be on drugs or an alcoholic. She also takes care of her grandchildren at an attempt to shield them from what happened to her. Last thing she needs is a man in her household. She probably doesn’t have the best knowledge of how to pick a solid partner.
I hope someone who’s watching her story has the courage to finally speak out against the abuse happening in their family. Last estimate I heard was 1 out of 3 women have experienced sexual abuse. A lot of these women who come on this platform and look dead behind the eyes, behave/think much younger than their chronological age, and are prone to promiscuity have likely dealt with similar issues. It’s written all over their energy. These men too, introduced to sex or explicit content by older people super early and then their minds are warped. We gotta start protecting these kids. Stop forcing your kids to hug or kiss adults, watch who your child clams up around, use correct terms for anatomy, and empower them to know that their body is theirs alone. And supervise your kids with other kids in your family. These children who are victims of SA may sometimes carry out certain behaviors that they have been subjected to on other children.
Excellent advice.
This advice is spot on.
Great comment!!❤❤
@@webdevprogrammer8049ugh shut up.
What a tragic life! This story is far too heavy for a dating show.
ETA: I don’t know that this woman will ever truly recover from her upbringing. She kept referring to her family as a “great family”, but ain’t no way with all this trauma and abuse. I hope she’s learned to spot a predator when she sees one because I fear those are the types who will DM her.
It’s called stockholms disease I think. Shameful men and women in this family that would allow this to happen to children. Nothin great about that!
It's called Stockholm Syndrome, and she has it bad. Praying for her
This interview had me screaming for jesus. Prayers for this woman. Omg 🙏🏾
The more i hear these stories the more i give thanks for the family I've been blessed with. This is crazy
Oversharing like this a direct sign of her no being heard as a child. I FEEL SO BAD FOR HER.. Hopefully she heals
I pray that any man who reaches out to her is genuine and have pure intentions. She deserves to be loved and appreciated. I pray God gives her the spirit to discern those who were not sent her way by him. In Jesus name
Amen 🤲🏾🙏🏾
Amen 🙏🏿
No good man should reach out to her. She needs healing or he will bear her trauma. Hurt people will hurt other people.
Amen 🙏🏾
No! She doesn’t need a man right now. She just needs to heal. Jesus and a really good therapist. She needs time.
So many women have been through similar stories. Thank you Candace for sharing your story.
She needed to let that out, Thank you Kendra for letting her speak her truth, sometimes we have to forget about Content and remember we human.
This is a dating show, Kendra isn’t a therapist.
@therealmrs.p2820 granted, but she had to be heard, sometimes in the wrong platform but who are we to not listen.yes it's a dating show, rather she say it out loud.
@@wpp1586I love your profile picture.
YES ❤
I’m so fortunate and grateful that I’ve never experienced sexual assault…especially not at the hands of a family or even worse A PARENT. 😢 I think it’s crazy how people can be violated by the very ones that are literally meant to protect them.
I agree with you! My father would have given his life for his children!
@@logicalcritik2144 what’s crazy is how she still got on here and talked about how he was a great man and that he was a genius, girl none of that matters. The mom waiting until she has kids and is an adult to actually act is also w i l d.
@@willshikacarter 💯
I Can Relate To Her Story….🥺. I Admire Her Strength For Being Able To Speak Up About It, God Bless Her Soul 🙏🏽
She needs a psychologist, not a romantic relationship. For her to lead with this information is disturbing.
Kendra is so kind and patient to allow her to share. She got into her trauma in less than a minute. I understand she wants to speak out and tell her story but this is still a dating show and like Kendra always says, she's not a therapist. It puts in her an awkward situation. Her story is heartbreaking.
I'm flabbergasted. Prayers for her healing and for their family. 🙏🏽
I'm happy she shared her story. And I pray she can maintain stability.
Amen.
i don't understand how a man can do this to someone yet alone his own daughter
They are demons
I’ve heard it several times. A girl I went to school with was pregnant by her dad and the baby was for him. I was sick hearing about that when I was in HS. Worse part is everyone judged her but she opened up to me
She is brave and I hope she inspires other women to come forward and TELL TELL TELL.
My heart is breaking for this lady. It’s true that this was not the place for her to speak on it but obviously this strangles her everyday and is heavy on her mind. I pray for her continuous healing! Compassion for this lady please!! It costs nothing!
Honey, you just put your story out here. Now every predator will end up in your DMs. Abusers love previous victims. Until she gets the help she needs, she will continue to be victmized. Her father, her uncle and her brother inlaw all raped her. Her mother conveniently worked nights, leaving her children available to the men in the family. Everyone knew what the men were doing and no one helped. That family is a tragedy.
💯. I just feel bad for her and her kids. This wasn’t the right outlet for this
Wrong outlet to tell her story and traumatize situation….. she sounds like she needs to be in therapy not on dating show…
Just awful 😞
This is evil! Evil
Yes indeed. Mom fed her girls to a monster.
Nuff respect to Kendra for allowing Candice to share her story! And indeed Candice for being so brave to share..through her sharing she will give others the strength to heal as well❤
Way too heavy...This would be a lot for a man to deal with. Its going to take a compassionate and patient man. I had horrid horrid childhood but I dont look like what Ive been through and you would never know.God's peace is amazingggg..
Amen!
I remember a girl I was seeing some years ago. She had a similar story. The day she told me the story, I knew I could never be with her. I can’t mentally lay down with someone I know was a previous sexual assault victim. I did stay in her life for a while and encouraged therapy etc but that was the end of it for me
@dialac1 per the CDC, over half of women have experienced sexual violence during their lives. The rates may even be higher than what is currently estimated. Men are also victimized at a rate of 1 in 3, per the CDC as well. Sexual violence is an endemic problem, a feature not a bug. There are phenomenal people out there who have had these experiences and done work to heal. If you meet a woman you really connect with, I hope you don't automatically block her out due to something she couldn't control
@@dialac1I commend you for the attempt. You were compassionate and it's understandable. ❤❤❤
Either she's held that in for years or tells every cashier when they ask cash or card
13:35 looks like it's the second one
I feel bad for this woman cause this is very sad. As far as dating hopefully you brothas stay away. She has to continue to get intense therapy
Don’t have tell us twice
I totally understand that she needed to get this out, but this is a dating show, this is not a counseling show. She needs to speak to a therapist. I know she just started talking, but when she first said sexually assault, the whole conversation should have ended right then and there. My goodness. I’m done.
This is super crazy. Maam, you been through too much for a relationship without proper work to heal and move forward.
She needed this. I needed this. My sister needed this.
@tanyabriggs8690 I’m sorry for whatever happened to you and your sister. Please find someone to talk to about it, please talk to God about your troubles also. Between a human therapist and God’s love, you’re going to be ok. None of you deserve what’s happened to you. Be well, God bless. ❤️🩹
I’m so glad Kendra allowed her to speak her truth. I know God has great things for her as he has given her so much strength to be here to share her story. May she heal from this and find the person who will truly be loving to her as she deserves it, as well as everyone here.
Prayers up for this woman!!! May Yah give her the strength and power to continue to fight for herself!!! KENDRA, YOURE A LIGHT FOR MANY!!! CONTINUE TO SHINE FOR THE PEOPLE, AS YOUVE BEEN DOING!!!! Kendra taught me just now how important it is to let people vent, sometimes.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ #MajorFanOfKendraG
" my family let it happen " right there, that statement is the trauma.
Kendra G thank you for this. SOMEONE was set free. We all got a story
Since I let go of my victim mentality, I can't listen to poor me stories anymore. While I understand she's been through stuff, she doesn't need to be a victim of it, it can make her a better person. Oversharing for why? Not the place for it, what kinda man she looking for? Ike? 😕
Totally agree with you
Absolutely! Thank you for this comment. I've been there, done that and got the t-shirt and thank God it has been thrown away.
She had no intentions of dating anyone. She just needed to tell her story on a public platform.
I’m glad she came on the show to expose her family, she thought she was looking for a man but God sent her to this show so she can get all this off her chest, so ppl could hear her story and show her sympathy and love that her family wouldn’t show her. God works in mysterious ways. It was definitely meant for her to come on and tell her story. Thanks Kendra for letting her talk and get everything out.
I’m definitely gonna pray for this lady.
you really think god sent this is individual on a dating show to expose her family?
I'm proud of you for sharing your story Candice! ❤️
As someone who has experienced trauma throughout my life i can empathize with her but this was not the place to vent. I really hope she get psychotherapy and stop drinking. This is someone who could actually benefit from the free therapy that was offered to the woman who was cheating on her husband calling in the show looking for a new man ijs. Secondly this should not have been a highlight! Poor thing. This is double embarrassment.
She needs to be a highlight so hopefully she sees these comments and realizes she needs therapy and not a man in her life. She doesn’t have insight on her own and no one to guide her
The entire world is online based, we can’t do anything without the phone or the internet, we are way passed” keep things offline” most ppl get most of their healing and education online, show her luv and support or shut up about it.
My goodness 😢😢😢.... therapy and writing a memoir may also help unpack everything.. Wowsers. Lord send this woman the intervention she needs to fully heal.
I don’t understand how we got on the subject of her being molested. All Kendra asked was why didn’t she marry at least one of the men she had a baby with. It’s horrible what happened but she needs professional help to start the healing process.
Because her first child was the result of rape-molestation.
But y’all tune in everyday and speak on what Kendra NEEDS to do!!!!
STOP WATCHING….😂😂😂
I hope GOD continues to bless her, cuz her story may touch someone currently going through the same thing. Makes me appreciate A LOT…..❤
If we stopped watching, it would be no show to tune into… remember where you get your money from.
You can watch/support someone and still not agree with all of their choices/decisions. I say this not only in regards to this show.. but to life overall
It seems like Kendra asked one question, and the lady just took off.🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️ I hate that this was/is her life. I pray she gets some peace while she's still here on earth. God bless you 💛💛💛💛
Praying for your healing, may god bless you! Thank you for being so courageous by sharing your story with us.
This show is not what it used to be at this point Kendra just cares about the money cause this is wild and Kendra should have shut this down and reposting this is crazy disrespectful clearly this lady is broken! Kendra is really starting to exploit guests and it’s very sad to watch because I used to really enjoy Kendra
I was thinking the same I wouldn't even repost this.
I agree. This story was too heavy.
I think the lady should be able to share her story but this is not the platform and I’m more worried about the fact that this made her more vulnerable to abusers. She been letting anything pass lately. Married ppl, Ppl under 21, ppl trauma dumping, people saying they owe child support, ppl in prison. Some stuff is too much
You said what I wanted to say. It’s a money thing now.
I feel like people in celebrity LA are just desensitized over time.
For a dating show this is too much. Kendra you need to start setting boundaries because this is a lot.
I highly recommend she seeks therapy because this is heavy. I, myself was molested by a family member as a young girl for years. I am healed from my traumatic experience, therapy, and amazing friends who support me.
I pray for her healing as well. ❤
My ex went through a similar childhood, and even after six years, the relationship made no progress.
If this woman is anything like my ex, she does not need a relationship right now she needs a therapist and time to heal
...i'm sad that she even came on a dating show with all of this 😢😮
WOW, I almost didn’t watch this but I’m glad I did. This woman is an example of pure unadulterated strength!!
Definition of trauma dumping live in effect.
One day of telling her story is not going to heal her. This is 30 years of trauma. She needs therapy. Getting into a relationship is not the answer. She is not going to have a healthy relationship carrying all that baggage.
She should write a book. So much going on. Stay prayed up. Your family is not good, they are evil. Your father is evil. You have to say that and accept that. You've done so well for yourself. Keep your head up
Kendra became a therapist in the last 2 weeks.
You never know what has happened in people’s lives. Prayers 🙏❤️🩹
if prayer worked, this wouldn't be her or any other woman's story
@@ilovepdub praying for you too🙏🙏🙏
@@Pam_ela do it all you want honey LOL I can't tell people how to waste time. Is like I said if prayer worked, this wouldn't be her or most people's story
@@ilovepdub or perhaps my story is the same or similar? Please if it don’t apply, let it fly. If your an atheist/non believer then it doesn’t apply to you. ✌️
@@Pam_ela or nothin lol I didn't read a thing you said. There's no or there's no but. It's that simple
Unfortunately there are young women and men going through this until this day I hope someone can see this and know this is not right my prayers are for her strength and healing
This is heavy! I’m sorry that she went through this! Hope she & her siblings get the help they need to live a healthy and fulfilled life💜
This posta be ya dating pitch to find a man ??? This wild af
Sending positive vibes into the atmosphere for Candace.
I know one too many women personally who have been molested and taken advantage of by males who were supposed to protect them and it’s extremely upsetting that they’re so selfish in their sick sexually abusive actions that they don’t even consider the life-lasting effect it has on their victims. Therapy is definitely recommended in scenarios like this but I don’t think there’s any true remedy for being abused sexually - especially as a child. Shout-Out to Kendra for letting her speak her testimony - you never know what keywords or questions may be a trigger for them and the marriage question unlocked this exchange.
I pray that she will consider intensive counseling. I can’t even pretend to understand what she’s been through, nor what that type of trauma can do to one’s mindset, but maybe in counseling, she’ll learn that no…your father actually was NOT a “great man”, he was an awful man who may have known how to do some great things, but he also knew how to do some truly awful, deprived things. She deserved to be protected, and no ones including her mother, cared enough to do that. I pray that she finds healing…
i just don't know about painting herself as a victim at every turn in her story. Not to mention 4 grand kids. she didn't want to touch on that and her ability to raise children.
Everything about this is alarming. This is a dating show. What is going on in her spirit and discernment that she thinks THIS is the proper platform for this? It’s sad because it reads as desperate, lonely and because it’s such a wild overshare it feels unstable. I wish Kendra would’ve stopped her and offered therapy/counseling rather than allow this.
Whew!! All of this.
Just wanting to be featured on this show to me is nuts.
I wish she gave a trigger warning
Agreed! 😩
I gather from your comment that she should have kept her shame to herself a and remained quiet. I'm sure her mother tells her bullshit like that too. Why should survivors of horror remain quiet? So that you can remain comfortable? No. Feel uncomfortable! How tf do you think the rape victims in the cult/family feel?
Compassion, empathy and understanding are free.
I relate so much with her story unfortunately 😔 u never get over it no matter how much therapy u have.
God bless her but this is a DATING show, this isn't the appropriate platform. Sharing all of this information is going to scare a lot of men away, and the ones who are attracted after listening to this are much more likely to be predators looking for a person who is already accustomed to being victimized. Kendra has to do more to keep folks on topic because her sharing all of this not only negatively impacts her, but also her children. God please cover and protect that family I wish her the best
Yeah this was too much! I forgot it was a dating show for a minute
Somebody needed to hear her story. If she just save one woman or child from this abuse she had done enough 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Ma’am this is a dating show. Not therapy. Are y’all not understanding this !?
You are so correct.
Thoughts and prayers goes out to Candice 🙏💜 No one should have to endure those horrible things. No one to run to either. My Sister.....🙏🌹💜
This is so sad! I pray for this woman. This is most Black people families. It happened to me. I hope she can find someone can deal with her trauma. Kendra should start another show for the people who are married. And for the broken people looking for Love. These stories are wild.
Why would she start a show for people who are married?
She needed to get that out. God bless her!
“My family let it happen” that hit hard😢
This wasn't the platform for her confession because it will draw every kind of broken evil spirit out there right to her. Some men will see that spirit in her and will be attracted to it like a moth to a flame. I suggest intense long term therapy with someone trained in treating victims of sexual abuse and incest. Even if a good man was interested, this would be a lot for him to try to bear. She needs mental and emotional healing even Spiritual Deliverance to be truly set free. She thinks she is okay. That's how she copes but a lot of us who are spiritually awake can see and hear that she needs help with this. It's a spirit that has attached to her. That's why that same perverted spirit in different men continued to be drawn to her throughout her life starting with the Dad. I hope this message finds it's way to her and I pray God will deliver her. Peace be with you Sister. 🕊️
I appreciate you Kendra for letting her vent and tell her story. If she needs a mental health professional I will definitely provide free services to her. I am an advanced practice nurse (psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner).
I gotta go. She needs counseling and not a dating show. She will explode all over the next man who crosses her or shows aggression. I'm out.
Pray that she find healing 🙏
The trauma and mental illness just too much. So many traumatized people looking for relationships . She told her whole life story from just one question.
I'm glad you allowed her to vent. But she NEEDS THERAPY DESPERATELY!!! ASAP
Could you imagine if this was a 'first date'!? Whoa 😳
...I think I understand why she isn't getting call backs. This is too much for a first encounter...dating or otherwise.
Blessings & peace to her.
This woman should not be on here! SMH she needs therapy!!! I 🙏🏽 she finds peace and healing!
Kendra needs to stop letting these people trauma dump on the show. It’s been happening a lot lately. The question was “why aren’t you with your child’s father?” “It was the result of non consensual intercourse.” It could’ve ended there. Her story is tragic, but it’s for a therapist to hear, not any of us.
COIN THAT “TRAUMA DUMPING”
Just cause u selfish and don’t wanna hear someone else’s hardships or misfortunes and cannot relate cause life has been great for you doesn’t mean Kendra should disregard their story. It’s called having empathy something u don’t have.
@@RELLOMUSTY37trauma dumping is a known phenomenon and phrase that already exists. Some people have poor boundaries and don't/can't/won't understand when and what is appropriate to share
@@thewinzerfamgo get a therapist. She supposed to be looking for love. Ain't no man gonna deal with that mess.
@@thewinzerfam I do have empathy, but this is a show to find love, not a therapy session. The question was “why aren’t you with your child’s father?” “It was the result of non consensual intercourse.” It could’ve ended there, but she wanted to trauma dump which is not ok. She needs real therapy, not this show.
Wait I’m lost here why are we getting a play by play of her childhood? She needs to be talking to a therapist. What man is going to sign up for this? 🙄
Not a good one
A retard 😂😂😂
This too much chile 😢
Thank you for allowing her the space to share her journey. We never know what the next person is going through🙏🏾🥲🙏🏾
Her story was so touching and uncomfortable to hear . She needs lots of healing cause she experienced a lot of trauma in her life . God bless her heart 🙏🏾😇
Whew! This was rough and it does hold relevance to dating. We can’t present ourselves to others with so many issues unresolved internally. Thank you for listing to her. I think she did this to feel “normal.”
It's a blessing Kendra is here to provide a platform for her to get it out. I'm lost for words right now. That was a lot. I'm glad she made it through. It's a shame how low and animalistic some people can be. Even animals operate more consciously than some people
Smh.
Im empathetic to her situation. This is not the space to do this. Dumping your trauma on guests is wild.
Wounded people shouldn't date until those wounds have been tended to. I had to turn the volume down when Kendra asked why she didn't marry.
I feel so sad for this lady 😢she’s hurting so much. Your own father who’s supposed to protect you. The mother let this happen to her daughter she will answer to God one day.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thanks for sharing your story. This was a lot. God got you and God bless you.
KENDRA YA SHOW IS GRTTN CRAZY
She is a strong woman......Very very strong........She is still standing and moving on with her life.......wow....
😣😔😖😭😢💔. I cried a gazillion tears to just know monsters & predators as such are amongst Us. Who knows what poor Children who are now Adults went through. 💔
So Very Sorry To Hear This Beautiful Queen. Prayers Going Up. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
She seems like this trauma has caused a personality disorder. I hope she gets help.
🙏 I want to give her a hug, it was so much unloaded to much for one to bare. I think we can just continue to pray for her healing. If your daddy can't protect you then you won't ever trust any man that comes your way so sad😢
People really use Kendra's show as a therapy session. 😫😩😫😩
Omg Lord! this was a lot I can’t imagine!y heart breaks for her.. we have no idea what people around us go through, family can be the absolute WORST! Family trauma is VERY REAL! I had to write a book about mine and on my second one.
Her story is sad and riveting but not exactly what you want to lead with when trying to date. And the fact she so long winded and doesnt know shes oversharing seems like shes got an unstable mind. She just needs therapy🙏. Leading with this type of trauma at hello will only attract abusers or trauma bonding..most men will keep scrolling. Really didnt learn anything positive about her.😢
U just lack empathy.
Most are thinking the same thing.
I don't think she came on the show to lead with that...Kendra asked a question that led into that. At the same time...If she was comfortable sharing I don't have a problem. I much rather know something like this before I decide to proceed in dating a woman...I've dealt with women that have gone through traumatic experiences that I don't find out about until much later. Almost as if they were trying to conceal them from me.
You didn’t hear her say that she protects children and is a childcare provider? She seems like a very kind person who had unfortunate circumstances.
@sola2351 I didn't say she wasn't kind but dating a man at this point...?? Nawww