If i were in the daughter in law situation, i will just carry on with me and my husband's life... I wouldn't expect my in laws to leave us anything. Bottom line is that i will create my own wealth.
I think the problem may be (and it's what it sounds like to me) is that once the parent's pass away, she and her husband (and his brother) are going to have to deal with all of this, but I'm thinking rather than trying to get the parents to talk to them about it, they just seek professionals (real estate people and/or an estate lawyer) to figure out what to do once the parents pass on if needed. This couple and the husband's brother don't have to have all the answers right now when the parents are still living. So it's not really so much about what the parents will leave them in their will as much as trying to deal with everything after the parents pass on. Because that is the important part in this call.
@@Sheryl777they can't deal with any of the parents' estate while the parents are alive, so it doesn't make much difference whether this DIL knows what's in the estate/will or not. It will all be taken care of when both parents pass away.
Sounds to me like the daughter-in-law wants to find out exactly what they are getting when the mother and daddy kick the bucket. She wants to find out how rich she is going to be.
Family money is handed down to family not folks who married into the family. It's not her business. Things can be figured out in the future. The parents may live another 20+ years and the situation may change.
It's not her business unless her in-laws choose to make it her business. It's THEIR estate. They choose who (or who not) they want to divulge information.
@ Whether the parents in law want to make it her business now or not, as long as she is still married to their son, whether they want her to be involved or not eventually she will be. I wasn't really talking about being involved in discussions with the parents right now...I was only responding to people who acted as if the daughter in law was some kind of outcast who wouldn't ever be involved in the situation.
Yes, I think they can just deal with everything they have to do (as far as what the will ends up saying) after the parents pass away, and get professional help with all of that if needed at the time.
It’s probably set up in a trust. Generational wealth is for the family not for those that marry into the family. You may not always be the spouse but your kids will always be your kids. Best of luck to her. ❤
Megan doesn't seem to be aware that these are not her parents. It's none of her business. In fact, the in-laws specifically said they don't want her involved. She had to pause a bit when Rachel asked her if she had a good relationship with them (so, obviously it's not the best), before giving her answer. Red flag warning! Megan also seems to have forgotten that there are professionals who will help the two BROTHERS (not HER) with the estate... attorneys, financial advisors, realtors. Even if she knew everything in the estate today, that information can change drastically by the time her in-laws pass away, depending on how much longer they live. Figuring out now what to do with a business in the unknown future is an effort in futility. Shoot, her FIL could sell the business before his passing. The same with the three properties. The value today most likely isn't what it will be in the future. She needs to stay in her own lane, live like she and her husband will receive nothing and plan accordingly. I would cringe is she was my DIL or SIL.
Yes, indeed. Let's not 'push' the parents into the grave so we can get their 'multi-millions'! Who is to say that the son & Megan will still be married at that point? Who is to say that possibly Megan is only staying with the son so SHE can 'inherit' some of that cash? She seems overly anxious to know and therefore, the husband is being kept in the dark as well by his wise parents.
What her husband's parents have is none of her business, or her husband and brother-in-law. Her husband and his brother only need to know who will be executor, where the will is, is there a DNR, POA, or Medical power of attorney. Where they are, not what is in the estate, what her grubby fingers get. My parents put everything in a joint revocable trust that my brother and I knew existed. Mom had created 3 binders of info, one for them and one each for my brother and me. They kept wanting to show them to us, they included what was in the trust. My brother and I refused, repeatedly, to look at them. We just wanted to know where they were for when the time came. We didn't earn anything that my parents owned, it was not our business what they did with anything they owned. My mom had all the contact information, legal paperwork, etc in the binders. I will say it was a jolt to my brother and to me when the time came and we found how much we inherited. Really a jolt. But it just was not our business, didn't need or want to know. This caller strikes me as greedy and grubby.
I don't know. It depends on how each of the family members feel about talking about these things beforehand really. The daughter in law just "might" be the type of person who gets anxious if she doesn't have everything scheduled and knows what's going to happen ahead of time. Some people are like that. So I wouldn't just assume that she is greedy, although I admit that could be the case.
Sounds to me like the parents aren't that old, 60-70, and don't plan on going anywhere soon. Seems like the dil needs to worry about her life not her inlaws. Some children are a bit nosey, especially oldest children, and need to trust their parents.
After almost 40 years as an estate administrator I can tell you that if they truly are multimillionaires, they have an attorney in mind who will help them navigate everything they’ll need to know once the parents pass. It is audacious that this daughter-in-law wants to know anything. It is no one’s business except for immediate family. And if the parents don’t want to disclose anything, so be it it is their money to do with what they wish.
Her husband should talk to his parents without her present and find out what he would need to do if his father passed before selling the buildings or properties. They should not planning their finances based on a possible future inheritance.
I couldn’t believe she just had the value of the home in which they reside at the tip of her tongue! She’s been giving this a lot of thought! (Too much, IMO)
She sounds a bit greedy regarding the possibility of an inheritance. My Bro and I told my folks that if the last check they ever wrote before passing bounced, it would be a life well lived. She needs to focus on their own earning potential to provide for themselves and their kids and stop worrying about it. I am certain if you heard it on the phone…the parents are over her attitude.
Perhaps mom and dad are smart enough to realize getting the inlaws involved won't help. Looking back at my family situations like this - when the inlaws and kids start getting involved, nothing good comes of it.
My Dad is going on 92 and just shared all the info. that I need when I become the executor of his estate some day. I’m 64. It’s taken YEARS before he was ready to tell me what I needed to know.
It is perfectly normal for people to not involve their in-laws in their personal affairs. I’ve worked with hundreds of clients and very few discuss these things with in-laws even when they absolutely adore them. And as a wife, I would easily say that it is none of my business what my father-in-law does with his estate. I am here to support by husband and his family but unless they ask for my opinion or want my advice, it’s none of my business. If her husband’s parents don’t want her involved in conversations, let her husband have the conversation with his parents.
Bet she forced her husband to ask his folks. He knows how they work. On the other hand, I wish I had engaged my folks on their investment strategy, because my widowed mom is living a very restricted life, since my dad had total (fearful) control, and there is no income-producing investment for her.
This is only my opinion but it sounds like the daughter-in-law is only interested in the parents-in-law’s money. They probably feel like if she doesn’t want a relationship with them while they’re alive then she doesn’t need to know what their income is until they’ve passed.
MamaK apparently neither one of their sons (according to the parents) need to know what their income is or will says either just listening to the video.
Seems that it’s their business and their life. Please realize that with healthcare costs and end-of-life issues, it is possible that they use all the equity and cash up before they die. The money is theirs. You need not prepare for anything. I’d encourage you to go make your own millions.
Sounds suspicious. Apparently she is more interested in the money because she called in, not the sons. Why can’t she and husband try to make their own wealth, instead of expecting a big inheritance
regardless if I have $10,000,000 or $10 to leave my kids, anyone who comes across as entitled or pushy they wont be the ones in charge of my estate. Sounds like she wants to know who is named as executor just so she can start planing Her husband would definitely not be my executor
I think they should call a real estate agent to talk to them about what to do with the properties in the future after her in laws pass away, and also speak with a lawyer if need be for any questions about her in law's estate that she and her husband may have at the time after the in laws pass away. If the in laws don't want to talk about it, then obviously she and her husband are going to have to get help figuring it all out with other people who have knowledge about those types of things instead.
OMG. It's none of her business and that's why they're not telling their sons because this one's interest in their wills is far keener than it should be for a DIL If the parents said don't worry about it, you'll be looked after, then I would assume that they've arranged for a professional to look after the sale of the business and properties and subsequent distribution to beneficiaries.
Just because they have two sons doesn't mean they get 50/50 maybe they want to give some of the money away to a charity or other people. It's there money too do what they want. None of her business.
I actually disagree with most here who say it's none of her business. I think she does need to more or less stay on the sidelines and let the 2 brothers deal with the situation, but for people to say it's none of her business just doesn't ring true for me at all, since it will most likely affect her no matter what the will ends up saying, one way or the other.
@@Sheryl777I respectfully disagree with you. My in-laws' estate was none of my business, only my husband's and his brothers'. I was a bystander until after they passed away. Then I assisted my husband carry out his executor roll.
@ See that's where you and I "do" agree...you were a bystander "until" after they passed away you said. THEN you assisted your husband to carry out his executor role....so it "was" your business after his parent's passed on, and that made it your business in the end, even if you only married into the family.
@@Sheryl777 yes, it was only my business AFTER they passed, not while they were alive, although my in-laws gave us a copy of the will prior to their deaths since my husband was the executor. However, even though we knew everything would be split equally in thirds, we didn't know the amount of money that entailed. That didn't bother me since I wanted them alive...not the inheritance (which we received last year, unfortunately).
@@bettedavis9261 Exactly but it "was" your business though since you had to end up helping your husband with the after death issues. Some people were acting as if the wife should just "get out of the way" since she only married into the family, and were basically inferring that she wasn't really a family member because of that. I disagreed. If that were the case, then the wife never should have anything to do with "helping" either if she really doesn't belong in the family, but only just married into it and is still really an outsider (which is how they made it sound).
I actually disagree with most here who say it's none of her business. I think she does need to more or less stay on the sidelines and let the 2 brothers deal with the situation, but for people to say it's none of her business just doesn't ring true for me at all, since it will most likely affect her no matter what the will ends up saying, one way or the other.
@@Sheryl777 Her being so inquisitive is probably what’s making the parents wanting her to stay out of it. That’s how I’d feel if my daughter-in-law was inquiring into our finances. Last year we sat the boys and our DIL to go through our trust and will. She listened carefully and stayed quiet. We explained to her if our son died before her, she would get 1/4 of what my son would have gotten and our grandson would get the rest in trust for him, managed by a trust company we’ve selected. She would be well taken care of.
She wants to plan accordingly for $$$ she'll get when in-laws are gone - what a POS, no wonder they don't care for her. Concentrate on making wealth yourself "sweetheart", do not plan on what you'll receive and whatever you'll get after they are gone, be thankful and treat it as a bonus. There would be no conversation if they had zero in their account.
I think she's planning what she'll get when they're dead. I can recommend a few good charities to put in their will. They may have a trust that keeps the money away from her if husband dies first or they divorce.
I would think "most" multi millionaires have lawyers, financial and estate planners, who legitimately are the only people that need to be in the financial loop..she seems to be doing g a bit of "planning " herself..red flag waving..
Greed is oozing out of her pores. She doesn't need to know anything in advance. If I were her in-laws I would say 'assume you will be getting nothing'.
None of us know that she's a gold digger, although some may assume that (and maybe rightly so for all I know), but I believe it is partly her business, and that she shouldn't be left in the dark just because she's not their natural daughter either. So it sounds like some people don't realize that she might possibly (not saying she is) be the type of person who deals with things and is the one in the family that gets things done when needed also.
@Sheryl777 she is a gold digger, salivating over what she will get when her in-laws pass. I have never asked my parents what I'll be getting when they pass.
If they aren't talking about it, just assume you aren't in it. UGH we can't learn about finances but we have to have the Trump fiasco shoved in our faces. You might want to think carefully about what took place on January 6, 2021 before bragging about attending his inauguration Ball 😢😢😢
Madison is killing me with her awful storytelling and draggy way of giving information! That entire call could have been half the time! Could this be part of why she is flunking interviews for jobs?? Take a public speaking class free online sis. As someone in admin, you would drive your colleagues nuts but kudos for being a saver!
If i were in the daughter in law situation, i will just carry on with me and my husband's life... I wouldn't expect my in laws to leave us anything. Bottom line is that i will create my own wealth.
I think the problem may be (and it's what it sounds like to me) is that once the parent's pass away, she and her husband (and his brother) are going to have to deal with all of this, but I'm thinking rather than trying to get the parents to talk to them about it, they just seek professionals (real estate people and/or an estate lawyer) to figure out what to do once the parents pass on if needed. This couple and the husband's brother don't have to have all the answers right now when the parents are still living. So it's not really so much about what the parents will leave them in their will as much as trying to deal with everything after the parents pass on. Because that is the important part in this call.
@@Sheryl777they can't deal with any of the parents' estate while the parents are alive, so it doesn't make much difference whether this DIL knows what's in the estate/will or not. It will all be taken care of when both parents pass away.
Sounds to me like the daughter-in-law wants to find out exactly what they are getting when the mother and daddy kick the bucket. She wants to find out how rich she is going to be.
Family money is handed down to family not folks who married into the family. It's not her business. Things can be figured out in the future. The parents may live another 20+ years and the situation may change.
I disagree...I think it is her business, but I also agree with you that these things can always be figured out in the future when necessary.
It's not her business unless her in-laws choose to make it her business. It's THEIR estate. They choose who (or who not) they want to divulge information.
@ Whether the parents in law want to make it her business now or not, as long as she is still married to their son, whether they want her to be involved or not eventually she will be. I wasn't really talking about being involved in discussions with the parents right now...I was only responding to people who acted as if the daughter in law was some kind of outcast who wouldn't ever be involved in the situation.
Daughter-in-law wants to tell everyone her in-laws are ‘multi millionaires’. This tells me all I need to know about her.
The daughter in law can't take no for an answer. That's why she called. 😊
You guys are right on with this one , that lady needs to back off
Yes, I think they can just deal with everything they have to do (as far as what the will ends up saying) after the parents pass away, and get professional help with all of that if needed at the time.
It’s probably set up in a trust. Generational wealth is for the family not for those that marry into the family. You may not always be the spouse but your kids will always be your kids. Best of luck to her. ❤
The daughter-in-law seems very pushy. With her attitude, I would set up my estate so she was excluded and assets would be protected from her.
Megan doesn't seem to be aware that these are not her parents. It's none of her business. In fact, the in-laws specifically said they don't want her involved. She had to pause a bit when Rachel asked her if she had a good relationship with them (so, obviously it's not the best), before giving her answer. Red flag warning! Megan also seems to have forgotten that there are professionals who will help the two BROTHERS (not HER) with the estate... attorneys, financial advisors, realtors. Even if she knew everything in the estate today, that information can change drastically by the time her in-laws pass away, depending on how much longer they live. Figuring out now what to do with a business in the unknown future is an effort in futility. Shoot, her FIL could sell the business before his passing. The same with the three properties. The value today most likely isn't what it will be in the future. She needs to stay in her own lane, live like she and her husband will receive nothing and plan accordingly. I would cringe is she was my DIL or SIL.
Yes, indeed. Let's not 'push' the parents into the grave so we can get their 'multi-millions'! Who is to say that the son & Megan will still be married at that point? Who is to say that possibly Megan is only staying with the son so SHE can 'inherit' some of that cash? She seems overly anxious to know and therefore, the husband is being kept in the dark as well by his wise parents.
Very hard for sure. Both of my parents passed the same day. Imagine our mess.
She said they were multimillionaires. I’m sure it will work out.🙄
They don’t owe her anything. She sounds money hungry and entitled and needs to focus on what she and her husband produce from their own sweat.
My Dad is going on 92 and just shared all the info.that I need when I become the executor of his estate some day.
What her husband's parents have is none of her business, or her husband and brother-in-law. Her husband and his brother only need to know who will be executor, where the will is, is there a DNR, POA, or Medical power of attorney. Where they are, not what is in the estate, what her grubby fingers get. My parents put everything in a joint revocable trust that my brother and I knew existed. Mom had created 3 binders of info, one for them and one each for my brother and me. They kept wanting to show them to us, they included what was in the trust. My brother and I refused, repeatedly, to look at them. We just wanted to know where they were for when the time came. We didn't earn anything that my parents owned, it was not our business what they did with anything they owned. My mom had all the contact information, legal paperwork, etc in the binders. I will say it was a jolt to my brother and to me when the time came and we found how much we inherited. Really a jolt. But it just was not our business, didn't need or want to know. This caller strikes me as greedy and grubby.
I don't know. It depends on how each of the family members feel about talking about these things beforehand really. The daughter in law just "might" be the type of person who gets anxious if she doesn't have everything scheduled and knows what's going to happen ahead of time. Some people are like that. So I wouldn't just assume that she is greedy, although I admit that could be the case.
Sounds to me like the parents aren't that old, 60-70, and don't plan on going anywhere soon. Seems like the dil needs to worry about her life not her inlaws. Some children are a bit nosey, especially oldest children, and need to trust their parents.
The parents spidey sense has her figured out! The sons get the money and I hope the married son keeps his eyes open!
After almost 40 years as an estate administrator I can tell you that if they truly are multimillionaires, they have an attorney in mind who will help them navigate everything they’ll need to know once the parents pass. It is audacious that this daughter-in-law wants to know anything. It is no one’s business except for immediate family. And if the parents don’t want to disclose anything, so be it it is their money to do with what they wish.
Her husband should talk to his parents without her present and find out what he would need to do if his father passed before selling the buildings or properties. They should not planning their finances based on a possible future inheritance.
The daughter in law is a gold digger. It is none of her business. Hopefully they leave all their money to charity.
I couldn’t believe she just had the value of the home in which they reside at the tip of her tongue! She’s been giving this a lot of thought! (Too much, IMO)
She sounds a bit greedy regarding the possibility of an inheritance. My Bro and I told my folks that if the last check they ever wrote before passing bounced, it would be a life well lived. She needs to focus on their own earning potential to provide for themselves and their kids and stop worrying about it. I am certain if you heard it on the phone…the parents are over her attitude.
Perhaps mom and dad are smart enough to realize getting the inlaws involved won't help. Looking back at my family situations like this - when the inlaws and kids start getting involved, nothing good comes of it.
My Dad is going on 92 and just shared all the info. that I need when I become the executor of his estate some day. I’m 64. It’s taken YEARS before he was ready to tell me what I needed to know.
It is perfectly normal for people to not involve their in-laws in their personal affairs. I’ve worked with hundreds of clients and very few discuss these things with in-laws even when they absolutely adore them. And as a wife, I would easily say that it is none of my business what my father-in-law does with his estate. I am here to support by husband and his family but unless they ask for my opinion or want my advice, it’s none of my business. If her husband’s parents don’t want her involved in conversations, let her husband have the conversation with his parents.
Bet she forced her husband to ask his folks. He knows how they work.
On the other hand, I wish I had engaged my folks on their investment strategy, because my widowed mom is living a very restricted life, since my dad had total (fearful) control, and there is no income-producing investment for her.
This is only my opinion but it sounds like the daughter-in-law is only interested in the parents-in-law’s money. They probably feel like if she doesn’t want a relationship with them while they’re alive then she doesn’t need to know what their income is until they’ve passed.
MamaK apparently neither one of their sons (according to the parents) need to know what their income is or will says either just listening to the video.
Seems that it’s their business and their life. Please realize that with healthcare costs and end-of-life issues, it is possible that they use all the equity and cash up before they die. The money is theirs. You need not prepare for anything. I’d encourage you to go make your own millions.
She sounds pretty awful to me. I mean the parents have made it clear that they don’t want her involved.🤷🏼♀
I wouldn’t want her involved either 😅
Sounds suspicious. Apparently she is more interested in the money because she called in, not the sons. Why can’t she and husband try to make their own wealth, instead of expecting a big inheritance
Get into their house and go through the safe!!! 😅
regardless if I have $10,000,000 or $10 to leave my kids, anyone who comes across as entitled or pushy they wont be the ones in charge of my estate. Sounds like she wants to know who is named as executor just so she can start planing Her husband would definitely not be my executor
I think they should call a real estate agent to talk to them about what to do with the properties in the future after her in laws pass away, and also speak with a lawyer if need be for any questions about her in law's estate that she and her husband may have at the time after the in laws pass away. If the in laws don't want to talk about it, then obviously she and her husband are going to have to get help figuring it all out with other people who have knowledge about those types of things instead.
OMG. It's none of her business and that's why they're not telling their sons because this one's interest in their wills is far keener than it should be for a DIL If the parents said don't worry about it, you'll be looked after, then I would assume that they've arranged for a professional to look after the sale of the business and properties and subsequent distribution to beneficiaries.
This is none of her business. The brothers will take care of things once they are gone. Their money is not her business.
Just because they have two sons doesn't mean they get 50/50 maybe they want to give some of the money away to a charity or other people. It's there money too do what they want. None of her business.
I actually disagree with most here who say it's none of her business. I think she does need to more or less stay on the sidelines and let the 2 brothers deal with the situation, but for people to say it's none of her business just doesn't ring true for me at all, since it will most likely affect her no matter what the will ends up saying, one way or the other.
@@Sheryl777I respectfully disagree with you. My in-laws' estate was none of my business, only my husband's and his brothers'. I was a bystander until after they passed away. Then I assisted my husband carry out his executor roll.
@ See that's where you and I "do" agree...you were a bystander "until" after they passed away you said. THEN you assisted your husband to carry out his executor role....so it "was" your business after his parent's passed on, and that made it your business in the end, even if you only married into the family.
@@Sheryl777 yes, it was only my business AFTER they passed, not while they were alive, although my in-laws gave us a copy of the will prior to their deaths since my husband was the executor. However, even though we knew everything would be split equally in thirds, we didn't know the amount of money that entailed. That didn't bother me since I wanted them alive...not the inheritance (which we received last year, unfortunately).
@@bettedavis9261 Exactly but it "was" your business though since you had to end up helping your husband with the after death issues. Some people were acting as if the wife should just "get out of the way" since she only married into the family, and were basically inferring that she wasn't really a family member because of that. I disagreed. If that were the case, then the wife never should have anything to do with "helping" either if she really doesn't belong in the family, but only just married into it and is still really an outsider (which is how they made it sound).
None of her business
I actually disagree with most here who say it's none of her business. I think she does need to more or less stay on the sidelines and let the 2 brothers deal with the situation, but for people to say it's none of her business just doesn't ring true for me at all, since it will most likely affect her no matter what the will ends up saying, one way or the other.
@@Sheryl777 Her being so inquisitive is probably what’s making the parents wanting her to stay out of it. That’s how I’d feel if my daughter-in-law was inquiring into our finances.
Last year we sat the boys and our DIL to go through our trust and will. She listened carefully and stayed quiet. We explained to her if our son died before her, she would get 1/4 of what my son would have gotten and our grandson would get the rest in trust for him, managed by a trust company we’ve selected. She would be well taken care of.
@TheBeagle, It sounds as if you've been very fair in all of that, so that's good to hear.
She wants to plan accordingly for $$$ she'll get when in-laws are gone - what a POS, no wonder they don't care for her.
Concentrate on making wealth yourself "sweetheart", do not plan on what you'll receive and whatever you'll get after they are gone, be thankful and treat it as a bonus.
There would be no conversation if they had zero in their account.
I think she's planning what she'll get when they're dead. I can recommend a few good charities to put in their will. They may have a trust that keeps the money away from her if husband dies first or they divorce.
Why would she even ask?
The parents have it in hand. She just needs to back off.
What makes her think her in-laws will die before her? She sounds like a gold digger. SMH
Why should they have to?
I would think "most" multi millionaires have lawyers, financial and estate planners, who legitimately are the only people that need to be in the financial loop..she seems to be doing g a bit of "planning " herself..red flag waving..
She seems like a demanding DIL.
Greed is oozing out of her pores. She doesn't need to know anything in advance. If I were her in-laws I would say 'assume you will be getting nothing'.
Why does she need to know this now? She seems entitlted.
How would she know if she will pass before them .
They know she's a gold digger. She's not getting anything anyway. Her husband will be.
None of us know that she's a gold digger, although some may assume that (and maybe rightly so for all I know), but I believe it is partly her business, and that she shouldn't be left in the dark just because she's not their natural daughter either. So it sounds like some people don't realize that she might possibly (not saying she is) be the type of person who deals with things and is the one in the family that gets things done when needed also.
@Sheryl777 she is a gold digger, salivating over what she will get when her in-laws pass. I have never asked my parents what I'll be getting when they pass.
If they aren't talking about it, just assume you aren't in it.
UGH we can't learn about finances but we have to have the Trump fiasco shoved in our faces. You might want to think carefully about what took place on January 6, 2021 before bragging about attending his inauguration Ball 😢😢😢
I’m getting gold digger vibes here 😅
She is leaving Scotland to us - poor thing…bad timing too - yikes!
Madison is killing me with her awful storytelling and draggy way of giving information! That entire call could have been half the time! Could this be part of why she is flunking interviews for jobs?? Take a public speaking class free online sis. As someone in admin, you would drive your colleagues nuts but kudos for being a saver!