Talk to Me - Episode 01 - Interracial Marriages
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- Check out the first episode of Talk To Me, Eman Channel's brand new, exclusive online series!
Ali Dawah & Muhammad Hijab host a brand-new talk show, where the audience voices their opinions on a variety of contemporary, often controversial & occasionally heated topics!
With this weeks heated topic... Interracial Marriages. Which a lot of us may be in or have experienced. What are the good and bad aspects of it? Some have even suffered difficulties based on being of a different 'race' and how do we as Muslims view this?
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I remember when Palestinian parents wouldn't let me marry there daughter, because I was Somali. The girl was sad, but for the love Allah I had sabr, and let her go. That was my first taste of discrimination within the ummah. Fast forward a few years later, and I married a Somali women, but now face discrimination from my own family, because she is from a different tribe. I don't understand how Muslims can think like this. Shouldn't your love for Allah, and the great Quran He gave us be much bigger than your selfish pride, and ego? May Allah unite all Muslims. Ameen.
Xassan Daxir ameen my brother. Regardless of skin color most people forget their religion and its teachings when it comes to these things that doesn't even concern them but only the Muslim man and Muslim woman involved. Put your trust in Allah and be patient my brother, Allah will answer you and come to your aid when you least expect it insha'Allah. Islam and the prophets teachings is our culture and will unite us no matter our ethnicity; whoever says differently is close minded, stubborn and even going against Islam, let us not be among the losers like mr.devils advocate.
Ahmad k Ameen. I always thought the same way brother.
Somalis and their clans. So annoying. My father said never marry outside the country and I accepted. Now my mother is saying never marry outside the clan lol
You sound pathetic and desperate. Unless your midgan, Somalis dont care what tribe you are from if ur firm Muslim.
Mashallah bro you are right
My Father is A Mix of Pakistani, Afghan, Ugandese! My Mother is White Dutch! My Husband is Surinamese-(South American) Indian. I have a Moroccan Brother and Sister in Law! I have a Turkish Sister in Law! I have 2 White Dutch Brother in Law! I have a Native American Sister in Law! I have Polynesian, Indonesian in the Family! Its So Multicultural! Isnt Islam Great!!!
You're family is the United Nations
Just like mine sister LoL
How beautiful your family get together must be MashaAllah
@@danoneall4013hahahahahahahahahaha!
Subhanallah that is beautiful
Masha Allah and alhamdulliah
the brother from scotland Masha Allah is extremely intelligent..Masha Allah a very beautiful way of explaining and very clear
TheGoodOl'Days Which brother from Scotland
Anigaone A the guy who’s wearing glasses 🤓 at 13:20
Janka K they are closer because they chose Allah and decided to be guided while being in societies farther from Allah(swt) the effort they took is admirable. They can have more or less sins what matters is that they chose to be guided and have less resources than one born into Islam.
yes he was right.
I liked his response too! Very Spot on! All Facts!
The white brother spoke the truth. He nailed it. The brother are making an excuse to be jahaliya.
YEAHHH I KNOW RIGHTT
Every Muslim is part of the community, no matter the race. Islam teaches to practice social equality so please stop commenting nonsense if you do not have knowledge of it
@Khan Hossain interracial marriages will destroy these
@Khan Hossain lol no that's a good thing as far as I am concerned. I am a pakistani married to a Palestinian but we are both Canadian....Zero issues. No one has the time to care. Im interested in cash.
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REVERTS WILL SHOW YOU WHAT YOU CULTURE DOES WRONG.
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what do you mean?
@Fbi OpenUp why in the world would you say something like that to your sis???
@Fbi OpenUp not muslim r u?
@Fbi OpenUp if that was your mentally you should be ashamed... If you saw someone burning would you help him or walk away.. As muslim you r required to preach morals and warn against whats bad and its not moral for you to speak to your sister in faith in this mannars
Brother farooq got nothing but love and respect for you.
What you said put a massive smile on my face
Smashed it brov
You were Calm, sociable, and you showed respect to the guy that disagreed with you.
Lets all muslim brother and sisters show all respect each other.
We want this tv show better then every other tv show
Usman Iqbal your surname means 1 hair lol 😂
JazzakaAllahu Ghairan
That white brother is speaking the truth. Those other brothers and sisters are in denial they are jahaliya.
I am a Filipina Christian and my husband is a Pakistani Muslim.. we have been blessed with 4 children and trust me, it wasn’t easy in the beginning.
So many people had their opinions and disapproval’s saying it wouldn’t last! ...
but with love & patience between us and the respect we have for each other’s families, and religion and culture.. we have been happily married for 21 years this year. In Sha Allah
My children are brought up Muslim and have wonderful relationships with both sides of cultures and understanding of both religions. Who says a mixed marriage can’t work? In any marriage at the best of times there will be trials and tribulations but If you work hard in your marriage & relationships with all members in the family, by the Grace of God you can make it will work.
If more parents were opened hearted... don’t you think their future son/daughter in laws would love to learn more about their culture/religion?
Who’s says a white daughter in law can’t cook currys? I cook all Pakistani food as well as Filipino food!
Respect to you all
And which country are you in?
mashallah
@@pasionextatica5675 The Uk
@@cherylbutt0211 nice. Im Bengali and I love Filipino people they're very nice educated and good food and culture.
Nothing wrong in interracial marriages as long as you respect one another’s culture and love each other for sake of Allah swt ❤️
I'm South African Zulu girl married to an Egyptian village boy. Our love was stronger than all the hardships and bad situations we found ourselves in because of race, culture and religion. We are 9 years in and it can only get easier from her inshallah. May Allah bring ease to all the interracial couples.
I am a Tswana girl and tbh my grandma and family are very tribal and xenophobic.
South Africans need to get over this, especially muslims inshaAllah🤲🇿🇦
It's true most of my family look down on him but what can we do.
The Muslims kill me coz they are the ones happy for us maybe they are not vocal but my black people will degrade me for filth.
Farooq, My Scottish brother from another mother!!!!!
He totally nailed it. It is hard to let got of culture sometimes because it is engraved in you but you have to leave the bad for the sake of Allah.
need more of the Scottish akh, thats my guy
Ineh, he’s the real g
the Scottish guy is Muslim himself so please don't use foul language :)
Need more of the Somali girl. She was firm in her believe mashallah. I commend her 100%
I would have said te same thing if i came from the same culture as the Scottish brother .
Janka K im pretty sure the guy who used foul language deleted his reply. I wouldn’t have said this for no reason lol
I will always put religion over culture
For real!!!!!
Ma shaa Allah, the brother from Scotland, the revert brother is well mannered and knowledgeable. Great understanding of Islam ma shaa Allah..
Anti-black racial prejudice is a huge problem in within british Asian communities, It would’ve been great if they would’ve spoken about that too
@thehoneyeffect True eventually that is where its all boils to .
That is why Asians should leave Africa. Malema from South Africa was just talking about Indians getting rich of Africa yet hating on Africans> ua-cam.com/video/lQqEC583-pY/v-deo.html. And do you know what? Africans are as well agreeing with him.
I agree completely. I am Black ( ethnically I am Arab. So I am a BlackArab) and South Asian and this is FACTS. I have found too many want to be racist but have no racism on them. ( my Dad is half white, hence the last name so I am extra mixed. I don't understand this racism at all.)
you can love being Black and marry someone who is not Black. Marrying someone does not equal pride.
Why would you care about what Asian ppl think anyway? Marrying into an Asian family is akin to being a maid...it's a bizzare oppressive culture.
Brother Farooq was totally right, my Scottish grandmother, uncle and aunty are all reverts, my Italian grandmother is a revert Alhamdulilah, my family is very very mixed Alhamdulilah. Culture is a disease, if it’s not about food architecture and traditional clothing or manners, then not marrying outside of your race because someone is a different race or colour is racist. Simple... there is no race or colour only to allow us to recognise one another. So leave the small minded ppl to each other and the rest of us can intermingle. Islam has no colour or race it’s a backward way of thinking. The way cultural mixes with Islam makes me sick and a lot of us don’t know how to differentiate between the two. I don’t practice what my family practices I read and learn for my self. I took my shahada and started reading children’s books about Adam and Hawa... we don’t read books enough, we rely on UA-cam videos and speakers who are everyday people and when they slip up and they are publicly outed what then. Quran and sunnah will not disappoint you or be on hypocrisy...
Nammeri George I feel rather bad for you.
Lä Dõlcê Vîtä maybe it's just your culture thats a disease.
Lä Dõlcê Vîtä do the converts in your family support the likes of Isis and anjem choudary?
Lä Dõlcê Vîtä a@@a
Shut the fuck up there is nothing good about mixed you already lost your roots i see it all time from mixed families no culture no nothing no religion stop lie now
make the white brother panelist next time
I total agree with the Scottish brother, "we r muslim first before being british , Pakistani or indian "
"Curry's not gonna save you in the after life" 😊
HAHAH
loooool too funny ماشاالله
Lol 😂
Masr 😂😂😂😂😂
Smartly put, well said!!!---
Respect your Wisdom!!!----
I thank allah then you guy's for doing this video we need this jazakallah Ali and all of u guy's
The white man is a real one
TRUE THAT
He is so real told as it is
Brother HE IS MUSLIM FIRST THEN WHITE. JUST LIKE US. SEE YOU IN JANNAH, INSHALLAH.
Babz 007 lmao, did I say otherwise?
Babz 007 Wallahi I didn’t say otherwise and I don’t even remember what the white guy said, I posted this comment a whole 2 years ago.
The Scottish brother ماشاءالله was right on in his statements. Culture should not be the main reason dictating a marriage. Being Muslim comes first. Then of course the educational, financial aspects be considered. Culture alone should not in the driving seat of a potential interracial marriage.
With all due respect that brother doesn’t come from a cultural family, so how could he understand what that’s like?
@Fbi OpenUp for real.
Scottish guy understands islam Ma sha Allah
give brother Ali a seat man
😂😂
Lol
Ma shaa Allah. I like how Ali smashed this subject without mercy. This subject needs to be dealt without mercy.
Our culture is the sunnah so the only difference would be food anything else that contradicts or is haram in Islam is rejected.
Be on the deen and u wont have issues..
The only reason there is an issue because they not on deen.
Im Turk married into Syrian
We have no issues at all because I dont follow Turkish culture contrary to Islam and she does not follow her Arab culture that contradicts Islam.
Syrians technically aren't Arabs
Not everything in culture contradicts Islam
@@sajidteg4682 WHO SAYS?
@@zaink7037 ? Wtf are you talking about? Its her husband she can do what ever she wants with her husband you not better you idiot...Thank Allah that she didint marry you tank Allah she married a Turkish Alpha male
@@FalloutboyLetsPlays sorry man, I'm moving on now from her. It's just that anger in me talking back then. I'm happy for her and believe it's better this way.
I’m halfway through and I’m already really impressed by this first episode, I was expecting “interracial marriages aren’t haram, anyone who stops you getting married based on race is committing a sin and is evil” things along those lines. I was pleasantly surprised to see the expanse and depth. Jazakallah
The Scotsman is spot on! BarakAllahu feek
"Is your culture going to save you on the Day of Judgement"??? ...Mic drop!
Get THE MAN A CHAIR !!
Lolmyname myname yea man looks awkward just standing there
Yh that was rly annoying me!
As an revert this breaks my heart, everywhere i go there just hate and racism, even inside the ummah.
SAME
You guys shouldn’t say “culture” when talking about what the prophet was trying to “abolish”... what we were actually trying to “abolish” was the tribal society and move towards a religious brotherhood, NOT keep the society to be a tribal brotherhood. Important point.
The prophet was abolishing the culture of the tribal societies. All cultures have some backward aspects in them that need to be abolished. It's time to acknowledge that. There's no need to praise culture at all.
Lmao man said culture is so diverse yet we try to minimise diversity in our culture by discouraging interracial marriages 🥴
My bengali muslim friend married a Romanian girl who converted to Islam after listening lot of videos of Mufti menk, ali dawah, Zakir Naik & reading English translation of Qur'an. But her parents weren't so happy knowing that she married a Muslim person. After knowing him for few month alhamdulillah they love him and now the couple have a little boy with a life full of happiness 😊
it's funny how the brother says "culture is beautiful. islam didn't come to smash culture"...so it's only your culture that's beautiful. wouldn't it be wonderful to think of interracial marriage as having two beautiful cultures..???
but it's not thought of that way...it's thought of as one culture and somehow when there is TWO that becomes a competition between the cultures...i think that's how you know there is "preference" for your own culture/kind.
I wish I could like this comment more than Once
@@user-amatussalam don't worry brother I liked it again for you
@Babz 007 whites and blacks may have been racist and still might be. but muslims CAN NOT be. If you are a muslim you become part of muslim brotherhood.. Nation, culture things are detrimental to the core to the structure on which stands the religion of Islam..
@@user-amatussalam haha sorry my sister 😆
I love your comment I see it that way too. I am a german revert and people often tend to think whatever they do is the best way of doing it. I think it is a great gift for us to be able to be in touch with different cultures and to learn from them so that we can improve our own ways. Sadly, many people are not woke and open-minded enough for that.
27 minutes is not long enough to discuss this topic. Brother Mohammed Hijab should have been given more time to speak. Further, the English brother in the audience should have been given more time to talk and the host should have had a chair to sit in as he is looking down at the panel. Take some tips from Question time on bbc on how to conduct a panel/discussion show. Please also limit points made by the audience that does not relate to the Q being asked. Also, the presenter needs to be more neutral, less interruptive and quiet. I was getting frustrated watching this, it wasn’t well conducted.
The aunty at around 9 mins says it's nothing to do with culture, then proceeds to say that the child in the interracial marriage would lose their culture 🤦🏼
Shut up you dumb revert, there nothing wrong with those wanting to preserve their ethnicity and culture.
@@reeperrad6764 you piece of shit, who are you to talk like that?? Take your disgusting culture and stick it up your ass, now fuck off
Reeper rad I’ll bet 10000 you’re not Muslim. CALLING HIM A DUMB REVERT?????? Even if you are somehow Muslim, do you even know that somewhere down you’re history one of you’re ancestors or grandfathers was a revert who converted to Islam?! Go call you’re ancestor who converted a dumb revert. Stuff you’re culture- preserve Islam not you’re culture. Culture is a man made construct. Preserve your deen. Man racists still exist out there and it’s scary.
@@reeperrad6764 disgusting
The ones that insulted with no reason need to calm down and apologize Islam is not about insulting reverts of dumb reverts. Abu Bakr ra was a revert so treat him the way you would treat the companions
My husband is tunisian . I'm native American Canadian. Both of us are Muslim. It's not easy but we working together for our life together.. we been together for 7 yrs . Married for 3..
I like your honesty. Inter racial marriage is hard.
@@hawaali4115 yes. But when u love someone so much . Race is not an issue ..
@@jodifloria6647 Yes love conquers all.
I was talking to a Palestinian girl recently and I’m Afghan. There was an attempt from her and her family to have their culture dominate over mine. There were also extravagant requests for mahr , rings and wedding expenses. It was disrespectful to my family and I. Things didn’t move forward.
I don’t know what’s up with some afghans and always marrying Palestinians. Is it some woke thing or you feeling sorry for them because they are oppressed?
"Islam is the best way to live and we should put that above everything else".
Baraka Allah fika brother farooq.
I love the scottish guy😂
Why?
@@FalloutboyLetsPlays because he speaks islam.
@@farhidahmed4473 islam isnt a language its a religion
Also being third generation British marrying a partner from different ethnicity should not make a difference if both marriageable person are brought up in the same country with the same social experience and spirituality
What ethnicity are you marrying?
I honestly believe that racism is wrong. However going against interracial marriage due to cultural clashes is a big problem. We are taught islamically that: if our religion says nothing about it, then we should follow our cultures. Clashes of culture sometimes, depending on the difference, can cause problems for families, as I have seen on many occasion.
I like the white guy. He’s the only one making sense and directly answering the question
Exactly everyone else is saying being prejudice is ok
I totally agree with the Scottish man . He is sayng the truth 👌🏻
Really interesting debate keep them coming in shaa allah
I’m Bengali and my husband is Moroccan/Irish
My family kept disagreeing with it but I’m too old for them to say no 😂😂😂 unless they want me to be a spinster so they eventually agreed to it.
I found that if I did stick to my culture I would have been single for way longer cos I would have been judged for my age and skin colour and job and height etc... so I decided to marry out
But I also found when I was talking to people from other cultures ie Arab or Pakistani or whatever the brothers that were initially interested changed their minds because their parents wouldn’t accept a Bengali girl and didn’t want to displease their parents by marrying out of their culture, I don’t hate them for it they are entitled to their beliefs but it was disrespectful to talk to someone if you know you can’t marry outside of your culture.
Alhamdollilah my husband was man enough to take me to his parents and I rate him for it, as opposed to the brothers that were worried about what their parents would think.
White worshipper.
@@Theshowoffcollector Its either white or black. Take your pick.
You did well white men do treat women better. I hope I can get a lovely man too. Within Asian culture you get judged for everything and women are seen as a product
MashAllah. Happy for you! 💓
@Maksud Mehraz I mean, not with Moroccan and Irish people. They don't 'really' care about skin colour...
Just give Mohammed Hijab the stage already 🤦🏽♂️
Abu Kalashnikov father of a machine gun lol 😂
Abu Kalashnikov You’re Chechen aren’t you?)
🤣🤣🤣
Not his topic honestly lol
I love that Scottish guy!❤️❤️❤️ Mashallah ,may allah grant us Jannah
May Allah bless that Scottish man. He shed a light on things that we neglect or take for granted. Much respect and luv to you brother. No wonder Allah called you guys the winners you will raise his flag!
Why the sound is so low?
if couples are from two different cultures then you have more to celebrate, so that should be a good thing. right!
Wow the white man is a revert ... he knows better then born muslims subhan Allah
Why isn't there a knowledgeable person overseeing this discussion? As host, you shouldn't be pushing your bias onto the spotlight.
Why do you assume that fundamentalists are interested in hearing opposing/conflicting world views?
Ali needs dawah
Normal Muslims should discuss these issues its not always possible to have a very knowledgable person there.
@@Surfing566 Of course, initiating discussions or at least helping one another to express ourselves in safe spaces is a must, all age groups above 16 should definitely get involved. Having said so, in order to engage in meaningful dialogue and establishing a coherent vision, it is necessary for subject experts and community members to participate in round-table discussions, i.e. we need representatives and notary members of public to develop opinions for critical thought. We need reference points and clarification of what is testimony and what is covenant, what do we believe and what do we uphold? Although a knowledgeable person is not present, we must forsake our personal opinions and only offer them as mere ideas that are not meant to establish consensus. I appreciate the ethical quality of being open was maintained by the audience listeners, but the arrangement and structure of the episode was missing scholastic tradition, community journalists and proactive members of the local community. Perhaps it would of been more helpful to conduct/reveal results of polls, surveys conducted across the UK to help elevate differences and provide the audience a means to critically discuss direct implications to their lives. This program could then be played several times on tv to encourage families to also engage in the same topics. Just my thoughts to improve the program.
Most ppl don't point blank say it's racism. They try to legitimise and rationalise it (believing those reasons) by saying eg, 'That race does polygamy', 'They can't adequately mix or communicate with our family', 'How can we check up on this person's background when no one knows his/her background?' Etc, etc. Some reasons have a basis. But at the end of the day it seems to be increasingly hard to get married and there are many ppl who have been looking for ages. It's pretty grim. So really we should recognise there are far worse things that people are doing than choosing to marry a decent spouse who is a different race. But I do sympathise with parents too. Psychologically they may find it too much because of upbringing etc. Polygamy 's halal but how many sisters find accepting that easy?
what needs to be addressed is the root concern the parents may have in the first place, the premarital interactions two people may have already developed which then leads up to them asking parents that they want to get married. This is why parents will be comfortable trying to find a partner for there child themselves, and hence from the people they know from the same race. Please talk about how man or woman should approach relationships in an Islamic way first.
Farzana Haq . yep Pakistani.
Brother has a good point (Z Nike). lol
A very good point
I'm Mexican and my spouse is Pakistani... It was difficult for their family to accept.
Just love the reply from that Scottish revert & Ali, nowadays my mum is driving me nuts wanting me to marry pakistani punjabi girl (thinking they're the best muslims), not any other provinces let alone other Muslim countries. I have no preference in race but I keep open mind on who is honest, relatable and trustworthy, culture you can change, religion you can't, that's why Allah created us in variety of tribes, to learn from each other.
What culture are we talking about do we have a culture other than Islam ?
Wiil Hoog 👏👏👏
Wiil Hoog EXACTLY 👍
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Jazkhallah khair for posting this video
The Scottish brother looks kashmiri/pashtun himself lool
White guy shows these Asian men up
He couldn’t understand what it’s like to be Bengali and to see Pakistan be such a nationalist country when they were killing us less than 50 years ago. Why should we have ourselves over to them when many still see us as short, dark and ugly?
As a Muslim its disheartening to even think that there should be a debate for this. When Non-Muslims(where mostly cultural identity is stronger than religious belief) have learnt to marry and live interracially, and inter caste wise, we Muslim who were the first to demolish racism and castism, are rejecting other Muslims based on their skin color or culture? Agree with the Scottish brother, Islam comes first, then your culture or race
I'm going to have to disagree with Hamza...A woman can learn to cook your mother's food.. stop thinking about your belly.
If you are marrying someone so they can be your second mom, please confirm with your partner first is she is ok with this. I mean, sounds weirds
Looool
According to me I like interracial marriage because of many reasons.
The brother in the audience who is a revert with a Kashmiri wife is making sense but from the British perspective, most of the Muslims come from already Muslim countries whose culture is intertwined with the religion, we have many traditions that are Islamically permissible and help us assimilate and belong together more easier.
Brother Ali
You are the host
You are the guest
You are the speaker
I’m a white English revert and my husband is Yemeni Kenyan he has Neva compared nor does he complain bout how I treat him or look after him yes we are from a different culture but we adapt as modern people have done for many years the main thing is following Islam and sunnah to the best of our abilities and may Allah b happy with us all inshallah
Fbi OpenUp we discussed that possibility before we got married and it depends on what circumstances
Fbi OpenUp that’s obviously the right way to do it have a open and honest conversation before marriage about the things that you personally want or expect from your future spouse (man and woman both sides) and talk about the things you are willing to compromise on that way it saves future arguments or upset
The racism coming out from the muslim brothers and sisters mouth is BEYOND me
That's how real men talk.
Bro Farouq over all.
Mashallah....excellent show...may Allah bless you all...
Islam doesn't stop someone from marrying within the culture nothing wrong with that. A white will marry a white because they find common aspects, Pakistani would marry a Pakistani because they find common grounds. Islam doesnt stop us from that.
That's not the problem. The problem arises when parents say to their child 'You aren't allowed to marry outside of our culture/skin colour/tribe'
If the potential spouse practises the deen and has ikhlas, then there sholdn't be a problem
Not imposing talking through experience.
Umar Khalid what you said is 100% true but that is NOT the point of this whole debate, the debate is about for example; let's say your daughter fell in love with a white revert, he is respecting of parents and had very good aspects and most importantly is a good Muslim, if you was to then turn around and say "no" because of cultural differences and race then islamically that is wrong.
Your daughter loves this man she doesn't see any differences they probably have things in common ect.. who are you as a parent with no valid reason to reject this marriage?
That's the point of the debate.
Some valid points there. But Love doesn't happen before marriage, when someone says I love a woman before marriage most likely its for desires and lust. Love comes after marriage.
on Ali dawah's channel there is a video in which a man had a relationship before marriage for 5 years and when he got married to the same lady within a few months he got divorced.
Love doesn't happen before marriage this is Hollywood and Bollywood thinking. Real love comes after marriage, you know the person properly, u live with them you know their habits and their traits.
Umar Khalid but
I see exactly what you mean but in today day and age especially in western countries dating unfortunately is something which happens, now hear me out,
I have had family members who have dated the halal way, and by dating its with their parents + halal chaperone and this is aloud in Islam and is not haram.
For example if my daughter liked someone she would go on "dates" with me or her father present and the boy would do the same, these types of meeting before marriage is aloud... a couple of my family members have done this and have been happily married for 30+ years.
Hear me out, tbh I would prefer marriage this way because in today's day an age especially the Muslim ummah in western societies, they are growing up in a diverse society, they are falling in love, it happens Allah has given us these feelings for a reason, we grow up in mixed schools, mixed universities, it's bound to happen and if a family reject someones feelings of love such as your daughters or your sons, she/he will just go behind your back and see them the haram way, and by co-operating and helping them make it halal this will prevent Zina,
make the relationship halal not haram.
In today's society children REBEL arrange marriages, culture needs to change, you DO NOT have to have a arrange marriage in Islam, as long as you do it the halal way and nothing haram happens you CAN fall in love before marriage.
"Love before marriage doesn't exists" - this is a cultural quote not an Islamic one.
Some Muslims can be engaged for years before marrying, some Muslims carry on meeting the halal way for years to, getting to know the person is CRUCIAL before marriage.
Stop backwards culture, the only way to keep our youth on the right path is by adapting to their ways, it's hard but must be done
I'm French caribbean and married and afghani, the mother in-law was a complete racist and I had no idea before hand. Mixed marriages can beautiful, as long as the couple take the time to get to know each other properly.
To say that it's impossible to integrate is nonese.
The presenter needs to brush up on presenting skills
ManyProphets OneMessage Actually he kind of hosted his marriage series with Mufti Menk
I agree, I feel like he’s trying to apply his debate-skills instead of being an actual neutral host
He needs to do some research and watch some other classic hosts like Oprah Winfrey or Michael Parkinson or something
I love this show. I subscribed. Is this available as a podcast so I can listen during my commute?
Watching this is so educating
SubhanAllah SubhanAllah A Revert Scottish brother apperently seem's to know more then these pakistanis who are just worried about the roti its so sad
The presenter should know in fiqh chosing someone from your ethnicity or background is allowed and not racism and if your parents chose that it is okay.
also in terms of marriages prophet muhammad SAW permitted the norm practices as long as they are not against islaam. Brother Farooq might have adopted Kashmiri culture because it is more islaamic.
TheSabiqoon
Yeah preference is alright but let’s be honest, many of our parents have racism deep rooted inside them. For example not many Bengali parents would allow their son or daughter to marry a black person...there is a fine line between preference and racism.
Babz 007 brother how about you just focus on yourself and the deen. Alhamdulilah Pakistani culture is good, so just focus on that ahki, you trying to do all this is really just you taking on extra sins for no reason
Babz 007 brother I’ve already seened all your other comments. Please just ask allah for forgiveness and I will as well. Truth of the fact is intermixing does have some stigma behind it but the best we can do is help the situation. If your cousin was to marry a morrocan for example I hope you would support the situation, not hating your cousin! Remember the prophet(SAW) lineage was also mixed and Musa (AS) married out of his tribe and bilal(RA) also did as well! Don’t get yourself tied up in this hatred! I hope u are well ahki! Barikhilafeek
Babz 007 it’s fine to have the best intentions for them, but help them when the time comes, because abuse is non discriminatory regardless of inclusive or intermix. So stay up my brother, we got much love for u over here on the Jamaican side 😂😂😂 Pakistan Zindabaddddd
And people do realize that the muslim world cultures are very very similar because of islaam. In somali, arab, turkish, desi, african or east asian cultures there are many common things and that is BECAUSE OF ISLAAM. So they are not that far off anyways.
TheSabiqoon exactly
Somali culture is not similar to any of the above,dont paint us all under the same brush.The only thing we have in common is Islam.
Following Islam doesn’t mean all those people are culturally similar lol.
Lol at that bro commenting on Bengali sisters. Bruv you are just concerned about your belly. Im Bengali married to a non Bengali. I dont have to put up with the traditional Bengali crap and guess what I love it and can cook a curry 🙂
xoxStarxox that brother spoke out of ignorance. I'm Naija married to Bengali lol
Khan hossain u r truly ignorant
Khan Hossain May Allah subhana wa ta’ala guide you and erase racism from your heart Ameen
@Khan Hossain you are actually a dumb arse. You generalize with no evidence Allah forgive us all. You show a a lack of knowledge about this. You are probably I am guessing a cultural Muslim
Babz 007 how is that not racist? You people are actually so dumb. Marry who you like, but who are you to dictate who someone else should or shouldn’t marry? 🤦♀️
Always wished for this kinds of shows 🙌 mashaa Allah it's amazing 👏👏👏 and our Scottish brother is a good speaker mashaa Allah 👍.
Please correct me if I am wrong. Parents' for the most part are looking out for the best interests of their children. On Earth, I doubt there are two people (for most) that you can trust more so than them. Unfortunately, as br. Ali mentioned, those interests might not be aligned with your well being in the after life. Try to educate your parents and lead them away from this cultural mentality but remember at the end of the day, you have to weigh things out. Is it worth starting arguments where in you risk your parents' ill will on yourself despite you being right? Do you really need to marry someone of the other race? Are there other options? Everyone knows the hadith about paradise laying beneath your mother's foot. Are you ready to risk that over marriage when there are sure to be individuals that might belong to your own race and are pious/righteous? These are just hypotheticals that one has to consider. If Allah (SWT) gave you the guidance of having learned Islam away from the myopia of cultural lenses, then you should be actively educating them and helping them understand what it really comes down to, as br. Ali put it, Day of Judgement. Don't just surprise your parents and then get angry when they don't understand.
On a side note, I think it's interesting the sister brought up Ibrahim (AS) and Ismael (AS) as their background would suggest the opposite of the sister's view. Ismael (AS)'s mother was Egyptian and his father was aramaic speaking. So Ibrahim (AS) married someone from outside his race. Secondly, when Ismael (AS) and his mother came upon the well of ZamZam, they joined with a tribe that came upon them in the desert. Hence the beginning of Makkah. Ismael (AS) married a woman from amongst them and adopted arabic as his language. His descendants eventually spread throughout the land and amongst them was born the greatest of all Messengers, Muhammad (SA).
P.S. I think Br. Mohammad needs to explain in depth some of the rulings on marriage!
May Allah (SWT) guide and keep us on the straight path, make marriage easy for all our young brothers/sisters and give us what is best for our life in the Hereafter.
Put it in this way, if you’re Christian mother forbid you to convert, by the logic presented, heaven is in her feet, do you really want to risk losing you’re mother over religion? The argument you said could be applied in this context too. When Islam says parents first, it says treat them well, put them above your head, it doesn’t say listen to them, bow down to them and follow their ways.
MashaAllah Allahumabarik brother farooq is a great debater
I think what the lady at 11.50 and other parents are so focused on marrying there child to some one of there own country or race because they think they will wonder off into a different lifestyle eg western or non muslim lifestyle as they was secure in there own and want the same for there own children.. Its wrong though id say aslong as they are muslim and practice in islam in the correct way that should come first
@Usher What? They are right.
True
MashaAllah
The Faruq knows Deen mashaAllah
Sister in the grey scarf nailed it.
Theres nothing wrong in preference for your own culture person for yourself or your child as parents know what goes in a marriage, marriage is so much harder to maintain and help grow, and yes religion is king of it all but also we have been created in tribes and languages and similarities that help keep the glue of the marriage stronger.
In the sense that family bonds are tighter, more easier to fit in, no shocking revelations etc, its more a safety net.
Yes interracial marriages are allowed and works for some not all.
I wanna marry this Black American converted guy and I'm from South East Asia . My mom is okay with it , didn't told my Dad yet . Please pray for me 🥺. We wanna make it halal and no we're not having a relationship, we are just on knowing each other phase
Make sure he converted for right reason. Otherwise it will be hell.
I just recently saw this video about Interracial marriage.
I would like to share my own point of view. 😊
For me, I find Interracial marriage interesting and amazing at the same time. Despite of our differences like we came from different nationalities, culture, tribes and etc. you're both United by Allah because you both believe in Him and that's the most important thing. Though some of us would actually be worried about this big differences but as long as you place Islam sincerely into your mind, heart and soul, this differences will never be a barrier nor a hindrance. We just have to put our trust to Allah because he's the controller of our hearts and soul. 😊 That is why it's really important for all of us to understand the real teachings of Islam. We have to respect each culture and traditions but for me we don't have to base our life in this cultures and traditions because we have Islam which is a Complete way of life. If we based in our cultures to be the controller of our life, we will never be United as one. 😊
One simple sincere suggestion: Ali, you should allow the guests and audience members to continue their talk. It’s not polite nor productive to cut off a person while they are talking... it cuts their train of thought.
This topic NEEDS to be discussed so much more! You'd be surprised how much of the older generation are RACIST and care about their culture much more than the religion!
I CANT STRESS THIS ENOUGH!! LISTEN every Muslim which is born and bred in the U.K. ALL have the same culture, one way or another you can marry each other because your culture is the same because your all from England!
Yeah you'll have small differences because your different ethnicities, but you grew up with the same things in primary, secondary, and uni. There's ALWAYS things you can relate to, when parents say those type of marriages don't last, it's because THE FAMILY don't let it last, not because of "clashes" that's an excuse parents like to use to brainwash.
I'm gonna say it straight culture is TOXIC to Islam trust me, like they say take out the good things in culture, eg; looking after the parents and cooking ect, some good gestures. But ANY Muslim will know this isn't even cultural and COMMON SENSE! Every Muslim looks after their family don't be stupid! leave out all the bad cultural practices, one of them being rejecting other races it's ridiculous!
Allah says in the Quran it's MORE of a blessing to marry outside your race and culture and expand Islam, bringing cultures together is a beautiful thing.
The women who said she wouldn't let her daughter marry outside her faith made me really mad, you DO NOT plan your children's lives, Allah plans out their lives, she has no choice in the matter, her daughter or son will marry whoever Allah has chosen for them. And she can't say otherwise it's not her place.
Also to touch up on the cultural clash, "oh they won't know how to make curry they won't know how to care for the parents"
The curry one is petty, having that "housewife" and "breadwinner" ideology is disgusting and a backwards way of thinking.
and for the parents thing, do not worry EVERY decent human knows the basics of caring for parents, no Muslim will EVER treat their inlaws or parents harshly it's islamically incorrect to neglect your parents. Other races and cultures will know this it's common sense. Stop making up excuses.
People fail to understand women today are working they are going to uni, they are earning, buying their own houses alone, this old mentality of "housewife" needs to leave, because surprisingly enough women are the breadwinners to the families these days!ISLAM is what we should all follow regardless of culture and race, Islam unites everyone.
I see people saying "it will taint our blood we should stick with our own race" astagferullah how up your own arse can you get? Thinking one race is superior to the other? May Allah guide people who think this way.
I hope this helped one parent who was against interracial marriages, please, for the sake of your children, open up your eyes before it causes them to do haram in their life.
Ducky Doo:3 👏🏾👌🏾
yap I agree with u sister, masallah
"Allah says in the Quran it's MORE of a blessing to marry outside your race and culture and expand Islam, bringing cultures together is a beautiful thing."
Please cite your chapter and verse number.
I'm not Muslim but I agree with most of what you wrote here. You have a very progressive outlook on life
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I am the result of a mixed marriage. What I would advise is if you came to the UK to study, work or train with the intention of returning and continuing a life back home.
Do not marry until you return home and discuss with your parents. In most case's they would've had plans and expectations for you. You coming back with wife/husband and/or kids would've most certainly not be on their mind.
If you grew up in the UK then talk to your parents before hand.
Only agreed with the Scottish brother.
Just goes to show what a state the Ummah is in when this topic has to be discussed. As Muslims we have diluted Islam to such a degree that culture and nationalism has been given more regard than the deen and what has been prescribed for us. It comes as no surprise that Allah Azza wa Jal is making an example of us around the world. We really need to fear our Lord who has perfected our religion for us and return back to the way of our prophet sallalahu alayhi wa sallam. May Allah help us all. Ameen thumma Ameen.
Mashallah we Muslims should straight up be thinking like brother Farooq. Allah grant him good in both worlds amen and grant us better understanding. He needs his own UA-cam / show he's amazing!!
I agree with Mohammed Hijab in this video. Culture is not evil, but it's not the be-all-and-end-all either.
Another thing which I think should be mentioned is the issue of racist/prejudiced in-laws. I am completely in support of all kinds of marriages, however I wouldn't want to be married to someone where his extended family would look down on me for my skin colour, and possibly even reject/discriminate against our kids because they are mixed. This is another sad reality of many people.
Africa is not a country*
i’m from turkey, parents let alone marriage from a different country they want me to marry someone from the same city from turkey. :/
Your parents are smart.
12:17 I agree that man the best culture is the culture of islam if we take That point we have happy marriage
Sorry for my english
I don't think anyone has the right to tell you who to love you shouldn't have to marry for status I seen people disowned because they married a different race I'm not Muslim but I know it's a religion of love, and it doesn't teach racism.