Jordan should do a series where all of his characters sit in a room on have a conversation. Yilmaz, Aunt shelly, Old bogan guy, Mr giannopolous, 40 year old upperclass housewife etc.
@@madamebkrt and the nerdy guy being rejected by the lefties (Neel and the chick who's in Neel's videos) and not able to get one word in - that guy too
my 2 cents: LISTENING: 80% (at least); [+ see advice of Ben Franklin!] + good questions (esp. starting w/ "what" or "how"..) .. ---but "why" questions can make people feel defensive, according to hostage negotiators, so normally it's best to avoid that.. + John Maxwell pointed out that if you talked w/ someone anywhere, and they spent the whole time keeping the focus on you (your needs, interests, and perspective), by the time it's over you'd probably think they're a great person and conversationalist! ..even if you didn't really learn anything about them. / btw: a Nelson Mandela strength was that he EXPECTED to like others (and to be liked)! anyway, great video, Jordan. Have a great day, everyone. :-)
Something I learnt about from approaching girls is learn to converse, so I think I can throw my hat into the ring. Firstly, expect to be doing 80% of the heavy lifting, conversation wise, as most people are too fucking awkward to make good conversations, particularly with a stranger. Secondly, learn to ramble. Learn to be able to give little anecdotes of your life relevant to what's currently discussed, little factoids and other things that make you keep on talking. Thirdly, don't just ask questions but make assumptions, like instead of asking "are you from round here" say "You seem to be from round here, aren't you." Fourth is vocal inflection. Charisma is expressiveness, the more expressive you are, the more charismatic you seem. Fifth is conversation focus. With guys, focus on the facts and communicating a point or justifications for a disposition, while with girls, be more based around a story or narrative, with a more building up to information that direct communication. Finally, don't take it overly seriously. Be aloof and make some jokes now and then, even if they aren't funny. If you're laughing, chances are they'll laugh too.
You have to do the heavy-lifting if a woman isn't into you, because she's just being polite. If she's into you, she'll be asking you 50,000 questions. But then, you mentioned girls, not women, which is a different demographic.
@@ingridelknermusic this is coming from the disposition that they're a new person to you. If a girl is interested, she'll be asking 1000s of questions, yes. But how can she be interested if there's nothing to be interested on. This is why you carry the conversation initially.
Funnily, if you want to be cool to the youngs, wear an old Nirvana shirt and they will look at you like you're actually literally lit fire fam 100 can't even living for this.
Great video Since you like read comments for suggestions for your videos. I was wondering if you could do video on building ressiliance. So you don't feel drained and defeated after trying doing something productive in a troubled period. ( Not so much embarassing or cringey stuff you think about every now and then. But more on line of serious/difficult things you have to Bair through to improve your life) P.S bring back the shitty blue wall please.
You've uploaded this too late. I'll watch it once I shower. Please do a video elaborating on the growth and contribution concept because I've been feeling a bit empty in recent times, only a couple of days though.
Do a review of everyone's favourite 90's reality series featuring the guy from jersey shore.. The pickup artist..kosmo and mystery That and keys to the VIP..
Me being authentic is me asking almost no questions and mostly taking about myself so I've been trying to include questions in my conversations but they aren't anything I'm genuinely interested in. Should I be genuine or pretend not to be self absorbed?
I recently unsubscribed from lots of emails selling stuff but I regret it now because I only get 1 or 2 emails a day and I don't feel important. What should I do?
Google jordan shanks books there should be something about goodreads jordan shanks or friendlyjordies, and libraries always have a good amount of books
hey jordan, im the type of person to fly off the handle quite quickly at things that anger and annoy me by shouting, and this is not productive. I have tried working on it by letting certain things go like when im asked to do something inconvenient i just "okay , yeah sure ill do that for you" and it has been alot less worse. My crucial question is how do you control your anger in an argument and objectively listen to the other person before responding with a rational response. essentially I NO ARGUE GOOD, TEACH ME BETTER
Take a deep breath before you say anything and if they say something that angers you further. It helped me not be violent so it might help you not shout
I get in trouble for being myself and saying what I think in conversations! When I do this with family and friends this seems to get into arguments / heated debates mainly because I seem to have a very different view on most things. My other half will try to stop me mid conversation (usually when I'm trying to elaborate on something quite technical or giving examples or evidence) as they hate conflict, even when the conversation is still an exchange of opinions facts and ideas. I feel like with my own family and friends I have to tip toe around egg shells and watch what I say. You would think that if there's anyone I shouldn't have to do this with, it's my own family. This generally results in me avoiding family get togethers, or simply not engaging with anyone. I'm guessing this stems from the fact that I like to discuss larger global and technological issues which I read and follow constantly, and everyone else is seems focused on what someone did today or yesterday. They only seem to think nationally. And when they do think globally they seem to look down their noses at it. For example: "Global Warming? Heh but it's snowing in Texas". Or "I don't thinks electric cars will take off". When literally whole countries are banning the production of petrol and diesel cars in 5 years. Most of them scoff when I try to raise the security / privacy issues of using Microsoft, Google or Amazon products and services. And when the conversation comes around to this they think I'm being paranoid. (I'm the family computer nerd). I work in IT and it hurts to feel as though my views in the space I work in are dismissed by everyone Your advice seems to be wrong for me at least, in that the more books I read, and the more I be myself. The less I get along with the people I care about. I can talk to strangers far better than my own family.
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Jordan should do a series where all of his characters sit in a room on have a conversation. Yilmaz, Aunt shelly, Old bogan guy, Mr giannopolous, 40 year old upperclass housewife etc.
Yes, this needs to happen
Kinda similar to inbox therapy having the conversation with himself about a certain topic
Also that one talk show guest from the vid he did with Neel a few years ago lmao
All giving Jordie a intervention for his constant obsession with wigs
@@madamebkrt and the nerdy guy being rejected by the lefties (Neel and the chick who's in Neel's videos) and not able to get one word in - that guy too
“Most people don't listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” -Stephen R. Covey.
Jordies is a member of house Telvanni cause he's elevating us to a higher place
Ah, a man of culture
I’m embarrassed that I know what ur talking about
my 2 cents: LISTENING: 80% (at least); [+ see advice of Ben Franklin!] + good questions (esp. starting w/ "what" or "how"..) .. ---but "why" questions can make people feel defensive, according to hostage negotiators, so normally it's best to avoid that.. + John Maxwell pointed out that if you talked w/ someone anywhere, and they spent the whole time keeping the focus on you (your needs, interests, and perspective), by the time it's over you'd probably think they're a great person and conversationalist! ..even if you didn't really learn anything about them. / btw: a Nelson Mandela strength was that he EXPECTED to like others (and to be liked)! anyway, great video, Jordan. Have a great day, everyone. :-)
this feels like a conversation with my autist cousin who just learnt the nuances of conversation
Something I learnt about from approaching girls is learn to converse, so I think I can throw my hat into the ring. Firstly, expect to be doing 80% of the heavy lifting, conversation wise, as most people are too fucking awkward to make good conversations, particularly with a stranger. Secondly, learn to ramble. Learn to be able to give little anecdotes of your life relevant to what's currently discussed, little factoids and other things that make you keep on talking. Thirdly, don't just ask questions but make assumptions, like instead of asking "are you from round here" say "You seem to be from round here, aren't you." Fourth is vocal inflection. Charisma is expressiveness, the more expressive you are, the more charismatic you seem. Fifth is conversation focus. With guys, focus on the facts and communicating a point or justifications for a disposition, while with girls, be more based around a story or narrative, with a more building up to information that direct communication. Finally, don't take it overly seriously. Be aloof and make some jokes now and then, even if they aren't funny. If you're laughing, chances are they'll laugh too.
You have to do the heavy-lifting if a woman isn't into you, because she's just being polite. If she's into you, she'll be asking you 50,000 questions.
But then, you mentioned girls, not women, which is a different demographic.
@@ingridelknermusic this is coming from the disposition that they're a new person to you. If a girl is interested, she'll be asking 1000s of questions, yes. But how can she be interested if there's nothing to be interested on. This is why you carry the conversation initially.
WTF IS A FIVTH????
Funnily, if you want to be cool to the youngs, wear an old Nirvana shirt and they will look at you like you're actually literally lit fire fam 100 can't even living for this.
these vids are very insightful. thanks for taking the time to make them
Great video and no new knowledge was extracted. Thankyou.
A video on how to deal with narcissistic people would be a big help.
Here's how: Don't.
Cut that shit out of your life, my dude
@@CarlsGravy hard when its one of your parents lol
@@coopercooper58 Family, religion, friendship. These are the three demons you must slay if you wish to succeed in business.
I always stuggle when the other person doesn't make room or that safe space. Feeling constantly judged. So exhausting to try get confidence back.
I really can confirm this, I started reading way more about year ago and it's already clear that I'm so much better at conversations than I was
The Morrowind references. A man of culture 😏
"Woody Allen...Old eh...lets not get into that". ....yep....lets NOT.
Great video
Since you like read comments for suggestions for your videos. I was wondering if you could do video on building ressiliance. So you don't feel drained and defeated after trying doing something productive in a troubled period. ( Not so much embarassing or cringey stuff you think about every now and then. But more on line of serious/difficult things you have to Bair through to improve your life)
P.S bring back the shitty blue wall please.
Jokes on you Jordies, to meet people i'd have to be invited to something.
You've uploaded this too late. I'll watch it once I shower. Please do a video elaborating on the growth and contribution concept because I've been feeling a bit empty in recent times, only a couple of days though.
its 8-11pm bro how the fuck have u not showered
@@rohan1_ I always shower at night
Currently reading: A Hero Born by Jin Yong and Party Animals by Samantha Maiden
The thumbnail for this video reminds me of THAT scene from inland empire (you know the one)
thanks for helping with my addiction bro
I feel like technology is leaving my sorry ass behind.
You know Jordies is getting old when his reference is not oblivion, not Skyrim, but Morrowind.
I dont really know any of those, but I hear Jordan likes something called HammerWar??
that late night tip yeah sonny
Yes more Jordies
my thoughts exactly
Do a review of everyone's favourite 90's reality series featuring the guy from jersey shore..
The pickup artist..kosmo and mystery
That and keys to the VIP..
Me being authentic is me asking almost no questions and mostly taking about myself so I've been trying to include questions in my conversations but they aren't anything I'm genuinely interested in. Should I be genuine or pretend not to be self absorbed?
2nd point was really good
How do i get over a breakup? I think I have been in denial for the past month and it has finally hit me what happened. Any solutions Jordan?
Hi Jordan please do a vid on time management say it with me life management
Yes Jordan, I'm reading books...well, manga...shounen manga...it's Fairy Tail...
+ one Fairy Tail, Go check out Konasuba
Surely do a video on how to focus
Conversational skills lads
[gasp!] How did he know
7:25. That drip.
Ngl wish this guy had a third channel
I recently unsubscribed from lots of emails selling stuff but I regret it now because I only get 1 or 2 emails a day and I don't feel important. What should I do?
5:50 *fewer and fewer friends
Did you know UA-cam have a free one month trial for UA-cam Premium ad you can skip?
Yeah. I hate it too.
You have UA-cam premium?
Yeah looks pretty good, I think.
I like Nirvana
Did you know you can SKIP PAYMENTS of premium.. simply by dragging the red dot to the other end of the video and pressing restart..
@@garystinten9339 everyone knows you can never catch the red dot.
Books/authors recommendations and where to get cheap/free copies of said books please and thank you xo
Google jordan shanks books there should be something about goodreads jordan shanks or friendlyjordies, and libraries always have a good amount of books
hey jordan, im the type of person to fly off the handle quite quickly at things that anger and annoy me by shouting, and this is not productive. I have tried working on it by letting certain things go like when im asked to do something inconvenient i just "okay , yeah sure ill do that for you" and it has been alot less worse. My crucial question is how do you control your anger in an argument and objectively listen to the other person before responding with a rational response. essentially I NO ARGUE GOOD, TEACH ME BETTER
Take a deep breath before you say anything and if they say something that angers you further. It helped me not be violent so it might help you not shout
yeah brah
'Everyone is friendly" how do you deal when ppl are jerks.
Haha I am playing Morrowind right now
First unfriendlyjordies
Video on Caffeine... :)
Man you need subtitles
Sorry, what was that?
Yo Jordan have you checked out the little red book by Carl Jung? Just picked it up it's fucking hectic.
I get in trouble for being myself and saying what I think in conversations! When I do this with family and friends this seems to get into arguments / heated debates mainly because I seem to have a very different view on most things. My other half will try to stop me mid conversation (usually when I'm trying to elaborate on something quite technical or giving examples or evidence) as they hate conflict, even when the conversation is still an exchange of opinions facts and ideas.
I feel like with my own family and friends I have to tip toe around egg shells and watch what I say. You would think that if there's anyone I shouldn't have to do this with, it's my own family. This generally results in me avoiding family get togethers, or simply not engaging with anyone.
I'm guessing this stems from the fact that I like to discuss larger global and technological issues which I read and follow constantly, and everyone else is seems focused on what someone did today or yesterday.
They only seem to think nationally. And when they do think globally they seem to look down their noses at it. For example:
"Global Warming? Heh but it's snowing in Texas". Or "I don't thinks electric cars will take off". When literally whole countries are banning the production of petrol and diesel cars in 5 years. Most of them scoff when I try to raise the security / privacy issues of using Microsoft, Google or Amazon products and services. And when the conversation comes around to this they think I'm being paranoid. (I'm the family computer nerd). I work in IT and it hurts to feel as though my views in the space I work in are dismissed by everyone
Your advice seems to be wrong for me at least, in that the more books I read, and the more I be myself. The less I get along with the people I care about. I can talk to strangers far better than my own family.
Yes
I like audio books
jordan do u have a book list of recommendations? :p
Tony robbins, how to be a huge man with perfect teeth.
Elon Musk story is pretty good read so far
Google jordan shanks books and theres a goodreads rec list
About 3 hours too late for me. I Fucken blew it haha
Opstay ordanjay easeplay
Jordie freshness podcast
9:25 so you have covid then.
why do you have a joking tone while talking about a favour or asking your audience for something?
Debaye Destiny and grow your channel
Oi talk about narcissists
And how to wreck them.. i hate narcissists..
my ears are heaps bigger than yours