When you Forget to say "Yes Ma'am" in the South
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- Опубліковано 1 сер 2017
- If you have a southern mama, you'll never forget the wrath brought down upon you if you forgot to properly address adults with "yes ma'am or sir."
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I aleays say Yes Ma'am. And Yes Sir. One time h replied "Yes sir" to someone, he told me not to call him sir, and I said "yes sir"
I called someone "sir" once and he asked if he really looks that old.
As a brand new butter bar, I said "yes sir" to a crusty Chief Master Sergeant one time. It was uh, educational.
You Should have said, "Yes ma'am". Haha
I have had kids say my name is not Sir, I have a name, or you are racist! Really strange
@@Khadi-C A sad response on his part...Bless his heart...born in a strange place I suppose...😐
My southern sister and her 5 year old son came to visit my New Englander husband and I up North. At one point my husband and nephew were in the living room playing video games, and after the kid responded to a question with "yes, sir.", my husband said, "You don't have to call me sir". From the back of the house, we hear my sister yell.... "YES HE DOES!!!". LOL.
This is so cute!! XD 💖
Hey it took her 5 years to build that respectful boy.
I can confirm this as well. My mom would get very angry if I didn’t say ma’am and I was such a brat that I would deliberately say yes over and over until she was really mad.
this has happened to me a few times at parents friends houses
@@Servant_of_Yeshua96 my mom is that way too she’s ok with being called miss but never call her ma’am like you I will occasionally call her ma’am just to get on her nerves
So true! But we ain’t gonna talk about how that little boy didn’t finish his food though?
Man, that's the first thing I noticed. NO true Southern boy is gonna let good home cookin' go to waste. And NO Southern mama is gonna let him!
hahahha
Eh, I think it’s important for kids to learn to listen to their hunger cues. Eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re full. Don’t want anyone stuffing themselves sick because there’s still food on their plate or becoming obese because they don’t know how to stop eating. There’s always leftovers.
@@PelafinaLievre The only time I was forced to finish everything on my plate, I threw up. I never forced my kids to "eat it all up"
I’m more bothered by a child old enough to take his own plate but the mom taking it for him. It’s unhealthy to force someone to stuff themselves if they are full.
Yep. Texan. In my 20s. I even say "ma'am" to the teenage checker at the grocery store when I talk to her. It's a sign of respect to someone you don't know well, or someone in a position of authority.
I'd rather someone was genuinely polite instead getting an obligatory response.
The thing about southerners is they are sincerely polite. When you ask a southerner how they are doing they assume you really do care, because when they ask you that, they really do.
@@LamesWivams it is literally an honorific. It is genuinely polite, because they do not know you personally, but still want to honor you.
Children have to be taught to respect other people because inherently they are self centered because the only experience they have in life is through their own senses, they are literally the center of their own universe. Actions change thoughts, after learning to be respectful they will ask why they are respectful and learn to think through the other person's value.
@@vidard9863 My comment stands, I can say yes sir, please, and thank you and sound polite but still have no respect for a person and let my demeanor, tone, and subtext of my words show that. I would rather someone was genuinely polite even without honorifics and the posing.
@@vidard9863 What happens when the kid learns the respect they were taught they had to give just because someone is older is not returned just because they are younger. You can't deny we patronize kids and act as though their mental comfort and sometimes physical comfort is nothing in the face of us demanding they speak when we say so, shut up when we say so, and so on.
I said yes ma'am to a woman and she told me not to get smart with her. she was NOT from the area. LOL
Phyllis Arringtion 😂😂😂😂😂
Phyllis Arringtion what is that supposed to mean "getting smart with her"
Lucas Fernandez
It means having an attitude or being sarcastic.
When I went to new york, I fancied going to a little souvenir shop. After I set all of the trinkets down on the counter for her to ring them up she asked if that would be all. I replied "Yes ma'am." At that moment, her whole countenance changes and she asked "You aren't from around here, are you?" ;/
Phyllis Arringtion Obviously a Yankee who didn't know any better!
As a Texan, I can confirm. Also, if you don't ask to be excused before leaving the table, you will be disowned by every other southerner and banished from ever returning to a southern state again.
Tori Gibson hahaha banished the basement
Tori Gibson
My parents are the same way about asking to be excused.We don't live in the south.
I’m ok with that .
Imao who gives A Fuk
Tori Gibson
If I lived somewhere that I had to ask to be excused to go use the bathroom I would probably shoot up a college
One of my favourite things when I visit Texas or Louisiana (coming from Europe) is when they address me as ma’am! I’m 37 and have always loved it. It just sounds so polite and friendly! Love, love, LOVE IT!
also there is say en Miss before a ladies name or Mr for the guys and i dont mean like their last name but their first name... I had one of my friends say you dont have to say that im like yes i do im southern its how I show respect. like your name i would say Miss Functional I hope your having a good day today.
@@katinamartin7934 never heard anyone in TN say mr or miss then use their first name if they said mr was always my last name... most the time i was called sir or just simply my first name... maybe its a location thing?
@@KAG1776 I'm from North Carolina and you better believe Ms and Mr were used before first names too. My mom's closest friend when I was young was not June she was MS June. As an adult the rules are a little more relaxed among friends but at work it's quite common for people to call me Ms. Ashleigh.
See I live in Texas and when people from Utah or up north come live in my town they hate being called ma'am. They're like, you don't have to call me that. And I'm like yeah I do. Because to us its showing them respect.
@@KAG1776 as a Tennessean myself I actually have heard it, but normally I heard it as a youngish kid is addressing a family friend that they don’t tend to see a lot but still love as if they did.
Like my parent’s friends at church were “Ms Linda” or “Mr. Dug” when I was a kid. I still address them that way to be honest and I’m 32 now. But as a force of habit and term of respect and affection I still call them Ms. Linda and Mr. Dug
Yes ma’am, AND that child is old enough to take his own plate up to the sink.
Agreed! They forgot the part where Mama yells at you for expecting her to be your maid.
And say THANK YOU!
You think he could move after that haha
Define "old enough"
@@strikerbowls791 When they can carry the dishes and PLACE them in the sink, without banging them in. Not sure their is an actual age. But Mom always knows.
Not saying yes ma'am in the south is like mopping before u sweep. It's a crime
Ew!!
So oddly specific that I recoiled.
It's unsweeted tea
@@wildrandomness same
It’s a Popeyes chicken sandwich.
One time in class a girl told me something and I said yes ma'am. She was so offended, I'm like wtf
Well yeah, because generally Ma'am is said to an older woman so it's like you're calling her old. People at my job who are older then me will flag me down by saying 'Excuse me, Ma'am" and it's WEIRD. But I was kind of offended too when someone a little younger then me in n a totally different situation said 'Thank you, Ma'am." He was probably like 16 or 17 and I'm 21 and internally I was like: What the hell? Do I seem that old to you? It's MISS. I know it's all people being polite but you still have that brief moment of Um, what???
Kia Maria interesting story, Ms. Ma'am
I will often say "No ma'am/sir" or "Yes ma'am/sir" to children lol So to me it doesn't really mean your old though it is something you should definitely not forget to say to your elders. Mostly just "No ma'am/sir" for kids though lol (As in when I'm correcting them). Using it with "yes" towards kids is pretty rare but I did grow up with my mom saying it to my sister and me.
I remember one time when I was visiting family in Wisconsin as a kid, I called a lady "ma'am" that was in the store... and she yelled at me for it. I was SO shocked haha. I was probably 9 years old and she was most likely in her 30s from what I can remember.
It is interesting that in the south we take pride in being respectful and using common courtesy but yet "wtf" in text and talk is totally acceptable??! I look forward to the day this trendy -pop expression is no longer needed in our society. . . . . If a five year old should not speak thus, neither should I!
@@kiamaria331 I say it out of respect for anyone older than me. Even if it's a difference of one year.
When my son was in about 6th grade, he was inbounding the basketball. I was sitting right behind where he was throwing in the ball. The ref said something to him, and he answered with "yeah". I said sternly, loud enough for my son to hear, "YES SIR". That ref turned, looked at me and said, "You're a good mom". One of my proudest parenting moments.
Here I think you dropped this 👑
Too ridiculous
With manners like that you would be married off in a heartbeat. Aussie Jeff
Ita all about acknowledging the social status of others. As a middle aged Man i get to call Belles under 18 Miss, Over 18 Ma'am, Boys Son, Seniors older than me Sir. and men my age and equals i just tip ma hat
@@phillipsmiley5930 you call girls over 18 "ma'am" but don't call boys over 18 "sir"....you are an asshole
i said yes mam too my drill instructor....He made me a strong soldier...
LOL.
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He thought you were addressing his superior: his grandmother
Lots of pushups, huh?
Drill sergeants have absolutely no sense of humor.
When one of my drill sergeants asked me where I was from and I replied "TEXAS, DRILL SERGEANT"
I got the stereotypical "steers and queers" response.
As a Louisiana girl, I can confirm that this is true lol
It's Just Kayla -- I am from Shreveport I can second that!!
It's Just Kayla , " New Iberia ! " { LOL }
I didnt grow up in the south but learned this when i lived in KY. The correct answer in this case is "Yes ma'am" or "yes mama"
DDarrett Darrett from natchitoches!
It's Just Kayla not from there, but my mom’s side of the family were all from Bossier, Shreveport, Oakdale & Nachitoches. I miss the summers I spent there as a kid. And it was ALWAYS yes ma’am and yes sir!
I'm from Georgia and I still yes ma'am...out of fear. My Grandma might have passed away, but I'm still scared of her lol.
Em McCord call ghostbusters
Hahahaha ! Not sure they could take her !
Fear is the first and should be the thinnest layer of respect.
you should be even more scared now, cus she can haunt you!
William Tecumseh Sherman says hello.
She wasn’t even staring at me and I was scared.
Respect. My northern Aunt almost punished her little girl for saying Ma'am, thinking she was "sassing" her, being sarcastic. We calmly explained that it was a form of courtesy and respect. Peace ensued.
I am sorry but Good manners is not just a southern thing. I was born in New York (state not city) and said yes ma'am or sir way before I moved down south (about the age of 9). If you had to explain that it was not sass then it is because that person was not taught manners themselves. Trust me there are some things southerns are rude about too and would have gotten me smacked if I did in front of my mama, like not say Aunt or Uncle or call are parents by their first name and we are not introducing them...which southern are very guilty of, at least in my neck of the woods they are.
@@littlemissy3936 just because you don't call someone sir or ma'am does not mean you don't have good manners. Now calling your parents by their first name is ill-mannered. Unless they dont care
@@littlemissy3936 New York state is far different than the city
@@jamessteele3093 I know that I was born in NY and grew up mostly in the south. It irks me when southerns ask me where am I am from and I tell them from NY they automatically think NYC as if that is one and the same. That to me is rude as well as to believe that anyone from the north does not have manners...
@@jamessteele3093 I only used sir or ma'am for an example because of the video. There are more ways to show manners, but you have to begin some where...
It's scary how accurate this really is. It's ment to be funny.. But southern raised children who watch this have the hairs on the backs of their neck standing up right now
@@ambersquirrel1113 Afraid of disappointing, or worse, disrespecting their parents, ... being taught respect only comes with a healthy dose of fear as a child. Otherwise you get those disrespectful children that demand things and talk back to their mothers in the middle of the store with everyone watching, or not doing what their told and running around making a nuisance of themselves. I don't know how many mom's ive seen who just let their children run all over them... and people wonder why we have spoiled millennials who get "triggered" over stupid shit.
You can always point out parents who discipline their kids, because they stay mostly quiet, they polity address adults and teachers, if you tell them no they dont pitch a fit.
Children are too mentally undeveloped to be reasoned with most the time, those who can't learn from a good talking to will only respect fear...
I loved my parents, we had a happy, loving familly... but a knowledge and fear of any consequences was drilled into me. To this day i remain polite and respectful as much as i can, while understanding the consequences of my actions.
So yes... Children in the south are taught to be afraid of their parents... because their parents love them and do it for their own good.
@@kiararose5499 why not? it's worked for 1,000's of years. And suddenly just because of our modern distorted and incorrect views of the world we decide that it's bad. You don't just wake up one day and decide to change 1000's of years of social development just because a handful of people feel uncomfortable with it. That is the height of folly. Life is downright Darwinian, and to act as if it's not is just stupid and will eventually lead to our downfall. If your child can't handle a little spanking when he's bad... good god i'd dread to see what'd happen to them in a crisis.
@@kiararose5499 pfft duh... no one said that child abuse is conductive to a healthy mentality. There is a line though.. If you tell you child to do something and they either forget or try to be sneaky and get away without doing it.. then you just tell them to do it again and be a little angry at them... no big deal. But if that kid stands up to you throwing a temper tantrum and screaming NO at you... ima be whoopin' some ass.
@@ambersquirrel1113 ugh, seriously? god we've sunk to a new low if your pulling out that crap.. tell ya what, you be you, i'll be me. just drop it, and you wont have to embarrass yourself further with juvenile remarks like that one.
@@ambersquirrel1113 "Ah, the typical thing to say when you can’t come up with an argument"
More like what you say to someone when you know your argument is like trying to yell at a brick wall... you have your stand point .. i have mine, and neither of us are going to change each others minds, so why bother?
You knew you were in trouble off the thumbnail ALONE.
Daikamaitachi lol
I know that glare way too well.... my mom’s looks *directly* into your soul
Yep. That raised right eyebrow. My first thought, "oh, sh*t!"
Love this! My Daddy grew up post Depression era in Alabama. He had to drop out of First Grade in order to join his 10 siblings to pick cotton, or they didn't eat! He explained to me that Southerners don't mind if a person is rich or poor. That does not matter much, BUT not having manners is unacceptable, Period! I like that and have tried my best to follow that. It's part of living in a Civil society and it shows love and respect to all.
This is my Dad and me in my profile picture. I was a difficult child, when he asked me "yes what?" I did my best puzzled face and said "yes... yes?" Grace and mercy are all I can claim.
Every woman even in the South needs to know what Ma'am really means. It has NOTHING to do with age. It was first used in Europe 100's of years ago and only when speaking to a Queen or Princess or lady of Royalty, of any age. It's a way for a man to show full respect and be 100% polite when addressing a Lady. So don't forget ladies when a man calls you Ma'am it's a 100% title of his respect for you he's calling you a Princess.
Isn't it strange how woman get really pissed when you call them princess. Then again maybe it's the tone I use.
It's short for madam, which wasn't only used for royalty. I agree people deserve some measure of respect, but let's not get carried away now.
This is not a social studies lesson but so funny!🤪🤪
@Caroline Green It is common courtesy and a sign of respect but maybe if we looked at true history more often instead of revised history we'd have less arguments about these things.
@@rickwillingham1421 that'd right !
I’m from Alabama, and this is so true. Every time someone says just “yes,” my mom goes “EXCUSE ME?”
If you said "You're excused!" what would have happened?
ALABAMA
I, too, am from Alabama (born & raised). It's truly hell on earth with really good barbeque 🥴
@@MisterMikeTexas i just say i dont chew my cabbage twice turn your hearing aid up fair to say im not well liked by many and thats fine with me less people around less problems
It's ALWAYS "Yes, Ma'am", "No, Ma'am", "Yes, Sir", "No, Sir". There are no other acceptable responses. Period!
Not really, I am from Charlotte and we used Mr., Mrs., and Ms. and mom and dad for parents. If you used sir or ma'am it was considered quite low-class and derogatory.
Ben Harrison what is say yes yeah sure I guess or whatever
americanbobtail1 I’m a 9th generation Charlestonion (South Carolina-not that other Charleston in WV), and we were ALWAYS raised to answer ma’am and sir. I’m not sure what’s going on with y’all in Charlotte, but if it’s good enough for South-of-Broad and the Hibernian Society here, it’s good enough for everywhere.
ProctoLion why is it so important
I'm from California originally, and my mom doesn't like it. Neither do I, because I think it should only be reserved for the military or for you Southerners. Why do the rest of us in the western United States have to deal with that shit!?
I'm from California, but I've lived in Tennessee almost 20 years now and I always say "sir", "ma'am" etc and I do that with my daughter. Also thank you, please. I was raised that way. And hoping I'm instilling good manners with my daughter
There's plenty of people out west who still use sir/ma'am even in California though its dying out.
I have a six year old sister who lives twenty minutes away from me in Illinois, (I am in Iowa,) and she knows that I am deathly serious about proper titles of respect, as is my Mom.
better say yes ma'am 😂 proud to be a southern girl
Maria Magdalena - Yep! Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, Yes Sir, No Sir, Please and Thank You! And when appropriate, “Bless your heart!” Can’t help it! It is ingrained in our DNA! I am proud and happy to be a Southern Girl, too, for all of my 56 years! 🤣🤣🤣
Glad to be from the north
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I ordered so food at a place in California once when i was a kid.
She didn't like Ma'am or sir. I'm so confused. I've only been back to California once since. It was the same. Glad i don't live there.
As a Southern boy in my own right, I do not hesitate to call people ma'am or sir
SuperKrock5 same
I explain how many times I heard " *YES WHAT* " when I was growing up
And you'd better not raise your voice.
I Got That Look From my Grandmomma Once Back When I Was 15,I’ve Been Saying Yes Ma’am Ever Since
I've lived in Oklahoma nearly me entire life and my mother taught both of us boys conversational and respect in general - you ALWAYS open doors for the ladies for example. I recently traveled to the true South, Georgia, Alabama, Mississippi and I gotta tell ya - I'm SERIOUSLY considering moving there because of my appreciation of the frequency of use of those two terms - even compared to generally mannerly Oklahoma folk (but less so since I was a kid.) It was so refreshing to hear good manners exercised nearly everywhere we stopped! It never goes out of style or appreciation in my book.
Wow! Putting on my travel list, so curious to see it!
@John O I was about 15 when told Mom that I was glad to be her son and know proper ladies that appreciated me holding open doors. I had held the door at the mall for my mother and then for another lady and her husband. I received such a hateful glare that I was nearly ready to let all women open their own doors. I have heard from a number of young men who were put off of the practices of courtesy by the vicious responses of women.
😂😂I'm actually hispanic and have to say yes ma'am, but in Spanish, "Si, señora". If not,.....well,the video sums it up😂😂
@Harry I am Colombian. My parents sometimes nag me to say it.
S.S I'm also Hispanic, but instead of saying "yes ma'am", I have to say "por fovor" if I'm asking absolutely everyone with a request.
The mom is so pretty haha
+Tavon Fenwick Tavon you a Boo boo. Good day.
Rainbow Panda says what's a boo boo
Right? She's so gorgeous! 😊
I thought she was Sasha grey for a split second
Alysa Espartinez she a decently average
Born and raised in Texas and having parents from Nuevo Leon ( Northern state in México) makes me appreciate this video twice as much.
I was born and raised in Maine and I can remember the first time I heard a friend say "Yes ma'am" and "Yes sir" to their parents when I was a kid. I thought they must had have a terrible relationship or the parents were be super strict. I can remember asking my mom if they were ok, like I was low key worried at six years old that my friends were being abused or something. 😂
I was born and raised in the South (North Carolina), but lived my mid twenties to thirties in Maine. I remember being so sad people were not brought up with manners being important up there and made others feel like being 'nice for no reason' was dumb...and as you thought, a sign of some possible abusively strict family issue...:D, I was also shocked when my third grade brother came home and told us about a kid swearing at the teacher and nothing being done about it....southern moms can be close to asian moms (but with switches instead of slipper, lol) when you disobey or are disrespectful :)
As a New Yorker, I can relate because the same thing happens if you don’t say “boss” or “bada bing, bada boom”
Boy , this ain’t no lie .
I wouldn’t dream of not sayin “Ma’am “ to my momma , even to this day ...
And I'll just add, NEVER, ever answer with 'Yeah' to your parents or let them see you do it to another adult. I recall telling my kid 'Yeah is for when you're with your friends, not when you are answering an adult or older person. I don't care if it's a teacher, cashier or waiter, being respectful is important'. I'm over 50 and I still use ma'am and sir with seniors. I will also sometimes use it with children and people my own age, but in that context, it's considered more as a way of showing endearment and is even pronounced slightly differently. For example:
Co-worker: 'Hey did you get those reports finished?
Me: 'Yessir or Yes'm, I sure did!
When out about town I reply yes ma'am/sir to young wait staff or counter staff at fast food joints and any store personnel who assist me will get a hearty thank you ma'am/sir lest my mother rise from the grave and smack me upside my head!
Respect needs to come back. 😢
I'm a Southerner, and my Mom would smack me in the back of the head if I failed to render the proper respect to a woman!
Woah, smacked!? I'm not tryna be sensitive but is that normal? It doesn't sound normal to smack you kid's head. Sure in some cases the bottom or hand is okay but head!?
@@riverramos9586 Hi!
Well Bless your heart! You are not from below the Mason-Dixon line are ya darlin?
And you have never watched an episode of NCIS either have you? The character Jethro, the boss, smacks his employees in the back of the head all of the time. He's from below the Mason-Dixon line, even if the show is supposed to be set in Washington DC.
It's normal in the South to get biffed in the back of the head when you do something wrong or stupid. Friends will do it to each other too.
Take care, stay safe, have a nice day.
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@@BROUBoomer Thank you. I've only been to the south for three days. And yes I haven't watched a single episode. 😅 Also that bless your heart was actually ment, right. I know it can have a second meaning in the south.
@@riverramos9586 Hi!
Oh “Bless your heart” can have many meanings. It depends on who said it and how old they are, in what context it was used, and the type of conversation it was used in. Anything from “you just don't know any better do you?”, to “dang are you dumb”, to “boy are you young and innocent”, to “may God have mercy on your soul your troubles are so huge”, to “I'm secretly glad it's you, and not me”, and a few other things too.
It's sorta like aloha is in Hawaiian, it means a lot of different things, depending on how it was used.
My mother-in-law was from up North, she came in to the shop I was working at, and overheard me answering a tourist's question. I didn't know anyone else could hear me. She burst out laughing and said “I wonder how long before that person realizes how politely you just told them they're stupid?”. Oops... Did I do that? She said “yes you did. Slicker than a snake oil salesmen.”. And with a smile on my face, and a sweet Southern accent, they never knew what hit them. Kinda like listening to someone from England, they can cuss you out and it still sounds so fancy that you don't realize what just happened.
You said you've been here for 3 days, are you visiting or moved down here? Because if you are here to stay you need to learn Southern real fast. The insults are very subtle, and very deep. Sometimes it's the what did not get said that's the insult. The pause in between, the look, the body language. I've left from a party at a friend's house and screeched all the way home about the insults I was given. And my husband didn't know anything was wrong at the party, until I explained it to him. Bless his heart, he's a Yankee, he had no idea. It took him years to understand Southerners. Even though they moved down here when he was 6, he still didn't understand it. Kinda like on StarTrek Next Generation, when Data gets that computer chip that gives him emotions; and he finally understands jokes that were told to him years ago. It was like that for my husband. The older he got, the better he was at recognizing the insults, and giving the insults. He just couldn't bring himself to saying “well bless your heart”; but he understood the meanings.
Welcome to the South.
Y'all have a good day now.
Take care, stay safe.
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@@BROUBoomer ok thx. Yeah oh and uh im actually back home now. I'm didn't stay for more than three days but I really enjoyed it. I'm sorry if I confused you when I said "I've only been for three days." I ment like in the past. It was summer 2017. The only actual experience with locals I got was at a restaurant as we were staying on the army base. I really appreciate all the advice tho. I kinda have picked up some wording from different accents. 😅 I say y'all a lot and I also kinda picked up a little bit from Brits. 😅 If I do move i want to go to like England or Ireland.
I'm 66 YO. I don't feel right if I don't say "sir" and "ma'am". Also, I say "Miss (first name)", unless I'm on right friendly terms with the young lady; then I'll use first name. Otherwise, it's "Ms/Miss/Mrs (last name)". And, I refer to every female is a "young lady", until she tells me she's not young or proves she is no lady.
I like the way you think!
I was Miss Delchamps for 20 years and have been Mrs. Sweezey for almost 43 years. I hate Ms. and will correct anybody who calls me that (nicely, of course). My Sunday School students call me Miss Hilary which is fine since I've known them all their lives and taught their parents, too.
Proud tradition!
My southern ,and I do mean southern , mama hated being called Miss Jean !
As a Northern transplant to Arkansas, I found a delightful custom in these parts in addressing a person you should respect as a result of their age or position, but with whom you have a long-term or close relationship: They are addressed by their first name but with the title "Mister," or"Miz," as in "Mr. Paul," "Miz Judy," etc. As a result, you can show both intimacy (first name) and respect (title.) In a region of the Ozarks I once lived, old people, no matter what their relationship to you, were sometimes addressed as a grandparent, as in "Grandpa Jones," or "Grandma Brown."
As a Mississippian I can confirm this is all too true 😂
I always heard, “Better put a handle on that “yes”, boy!”
I'm a Canadian and I spent a week in Nashville (amazing holiday, FYI) and on the fourth day a lady asked if I had I.D. to pick up my tickets to a show and I said, "Yes, Ma'am". Then my mom and I both cracked up. I had no idea where it came from. We aren't rude up here, but we don't "Yes, Ma'am" on the regular. My normal response would be "Oh, sure", "You bet" or "Yes, of course, here you go". I don't think it takes long for Southern manners to kick in.
Truth. Every female I meet in public is "ma,am," and every male is "sir." I'm trying to instill the same in my son. It's just respectful. It says, "Hello, I value you as a person." That's all.
Thank you! I've done the same. The world is a better place for having a little courtesy and respect in it.
What about non bianary folks? Well I guess there wouldn’t be much of those in the south...
@@laurenj432 I'm about two months late to this but I'll answer anyways. I'm nonbinary myself (and from the south) and coming across androgynous people has made me short-circuit in ways unimaginable. I aspire to be that level of androgynous that I strike the fear of god in Southern People's hearts when they don't know whether to use ma'am or sir. In the event that I don't know outright what their identity is, in terms of gender, I just outright don't say anything or say somethin' along the lines of "Yes, thank you."
(Also, this doesn't just go to wanting to confusing southern people, I wanna make everyone short-circuit. That's the dream.)
Beautiful Chaos Lol I like you😂 I’m not a fan of stiff politeness or fake manners, I much prefer genuine kindness and laughter and human connection☺️
@@laurenj432 I very much agree. I wouldn't say I unlearned this behavior, but the yes ma'am and sir has declined in sincerity with strangers and increased in sincerity with friends
I grew up in the south and it was "yes ma'am and yes sir" all the way. We knew it was showing respect to any one older than us or in a position of authority. When I moved to Illinois some women did not like me saying "yes ma'am". One lady said that it made her feel like an old women. Wow, it's hard to stop responding this way after 20 years! I actually taught my 4 year old class of 12 little kids in Illinois to say "yes ma'am" when they answered me. No parents complained and it certainly shows respect.
In northern States, your tone is important when speaking to teachers or cops. Yes sir can sound snotty and get ya in trouble
Might be better to say Yes, Mr. Smith and Yes. Right away, Officer.
wouldn't have gotten away with leaving that much food on your plate in my house lol
I am over 40 and I still say “ yes/no ma’am and sir” to teenagers at the drive-thru. It may literally be branded into my DNA.
I am 39 and from Fl., and I still say yes sir/ma'am. I can't help it lol.
YESSS!. I live in Indy but my parents are from Alabama and Mississippi. Sir and Ma'am are not to played with! lol
Memories of my childhood, but now I'm very grateful for it . He didn't eat all the food on his plate and that would have never happened (LOL)
When I was camping in Texas, the slow drawl “yes mam” from Texan men had me melting!
What does Yes Ma'am and tipping my hat do for you? ;-)
I’m from Texas and this is true 100% no joke!
Haha! So true! Mississippian here and I can definitely vouch for this, LOL
The students in my lessons department at work calls me “Miss Nikki” and it just melts my heart. I moved to Florida from St Louis so it’s not a common thing I heard before moving to Florida.
I'm a Georgia peach through and through; and I can confirm this is very much a living, breathing sign of respect still down here in the deep south. I've gotten that look countless times while growing up. That and having to be excused from the dinner table. Oh and you better put your dishes in the dishwasher. As my momma would say, "I a'int your maid." 😅
YESSS
That's not "respect". You can't *force* somebody to respect you, because respect is about the feelings they have for you, not the words they use. If someone says "ma'am" but actually hates your guts, you'd be a fool to believe they respect you. All this does is condition children to pantomime respect regardless of whether they're actually respectful.
A lesson you must learn when you move south like I did. Shocked me the first time I went on my date and he said "yes Ma'am". I sat there stunned for a few seconds I didn't know what to say back. lol
A gentleman.
Doesn't say "ma'am": Storms come on.
Says "What?" instead: Apocalypse.
Back in my day (I'm very old), a child did not say yes or no to an adult without a "ma'am" or "sir." Until I grew to become the oldest person in the room, I would still say "ma'am" and "sir" to people I perceived to be older than me.
LOVE IT!!!! I was raised this way. Still catches people off guard in Colorado when I say yes ma'am and thank you kindly
The "Thank you/ya Kindly" reply throws ppl for a loop. It's funny to whatch the head tilt and and the eyes go fuzzy for a second as they are processing what happened.
How true is this. I am 7th generation South Georgia. Fire flew from her finger tips. Yes ma'am
Geo HVL .
SSSSOOOOOOO TRUE!!!!!
"Yes Ma'am"
"Yes Sir"
And when addressing an adult by first name,
"Mister...."
"Miss...."
in front of their first name.
To all who wonder "Why?"
As Aretha Franklin sang,
R E S P E C T !!!!!!!!!
I said yes ma'am to my grandma when visiting her up north and I swear to you every one in that nail salon looked at me like I had grown another head..😄
My grandfather taught me as soon as I could talk "Yes ma'am, no ma'am, thank you, ma'am, please! Yes sir, no sir, thank you, sir, please!" I'll be 50 in Nov and I still say these lol
Happy birthday,
!
Good. Standards are important,
Hi Holly Harbison,
Happy birthday!!! 🎂🎉🎊🎈
Welcome to the 50 and over club!
Now make your appointment with your doctor for all of the tests you're supposed to get once you turn 50. It could save your life.
Also, start asking for senior citizen discounts. Some places start at 50 (some Taco Bells, not all), some places it's 55, some it's 60. But it never hurts to ask. If you craft... Michael's stacks discounts!!! Your coupons, and your senior citizen discount, and sometimes if it's on sale too, so always ask. It's the only good thing about turning 50, discounts!
Make sure you are not alone on your birthday, even if it's just a phone call with friends, incase the blues hit.
Have a happy birthday ma'am!
Take care, stay safe, have a great day.
From some random old lady in Florida.
👵☺️✌️☮️🖖 😷 🙉🙈🙊
@@onesmartgirl4772 Thank you so much! 😁
@@BROUBoomer Thank you so much! That means so much to me! I truly appreciate you taking the time to lift me up and encouraging me! I have an appointment for Dec 14th to have an endoscopy so they're going to go ahead and do a "lower" scope also. The day after my birthday my husband and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary so thankfully I wasn't alone. That would've been tough. I wasn't sure about the age of senior discounts so thank you for sharing that with me. I love Michaels so that's awesome! How do I go about getting the discount show my drivers license? I did well handling turning 50 plus a few "oh mom you're an old lady now" jokes from my 2 daughters lol! It's still kind of weird to think of being 50 but I'm truly blessed to still be here. You are truly awesome for the encouragement and info! I hope you're doing well and that you have a very blessed holiday season! 💕
Southern gentlemen like me love being called "sir" or "young man". It's very respectful
I moved to Georgia when I was 7, and I had a strict teacher in 7th grade who would get mad and say " I can't hear you" if we didn't say yes ma'am😂😂
About ten years ago, I called a young woman ma'am, and she started to cry. "I'm not a ma'am" she said. I apologized saying "that's how I was raised." I get it when I'm called sir it hurts. 😂
I'm from Pennsylvania in the north and I had to ask to be excused from the table after dinner. It's just polite. I was also taught to say the "magic" words please and thank you.
Yes, good manners never go out of style nor are they ever old-fashioned ! THANK YOU for your post !
Is there a Pennsylvania in the south I'm unaware of?
@@livefreeordie9542 Oh way it's like west Virginia but it's just South Pennsylvania and West Pennsylvania and north Pennsylvania I'm pretty sure there's also a Northeast Pennsylvania that's bigger than West Pennsylvania.
From California, and it was the same. We weren't raised with sir or ma'am (it's a regional cultural thing, we weren't rude kids) but we had manners in our own way. Always say thank you for dinner, please, thank you, excuse me, etc.
Me:yeah
Mom:What did You say??
Me:yes ma'am!
Mom:that's what I thought I heard
The Intelligent Zombie 😂🙌🤦♀️😰
I totally get it! I'm a Ky girl,now living in Tx. I can spot a "foreigner" (translation Yankee) the moment the speak😊
@@jubalcalif9100 yes u did miss something. SOMETHING FUCKING HUGE
@Jaylen-Ree Wilson Well said and well put ! Refreshing to see a reply here at YT that's not filled with hate & sarcasm ! Thank you ! :-)
@@rhysstanley7387 If you're desiring a battle of wits, let's start even. I'll check half of mine at the door....
@Jaylen-Ree Wilson You''re very welcome ! Stay safe & be happy ! :-)
@Jaylen-Ree Wilson Very kind of you ! Oodles of thanks ! CHEERS !! :-)
I say "Thank ya ma'am" or Yes Ma'am to anyone female, regardless of age. To me, it's not associated with age.
Same here except for one small thing. Any female under 10 is called Miss, all other females are referred to as Ma'am. All males are Sir regardless of their age.
51, Texan, and of course, raised Southern
0:09
She's just like "you know you did wrong"
I heard this scene was going to be part of another episode and the kid slipped up. Everything after that is unscripted and real.
Being a Louisiana woman this is one of the scariest things to do to your elders, parents, and your family relatives. 😂😂😂
Omg Colombians have the same. Si señora
Interesante
Josh Jet I found Colombians to be super formal, very polite.
"Mi señora, usted es viejo y muy gordo" You see, Usted shows that you respect the person
al4sake I'm sure any Mexican grandma would appreciate if you called them old and fat
The very subtle yet visible flash reflection of the knife blade as she turns is a great touch!! My mother wasn't much into knives, so she'd have been wielding a large plastic spoon or turner instead, but same idea, never disrespect the lady of the house while her utensils are in hand!! Love this channel ❤
Omg yess lol its now imbedded in me to respond with ma'am or sir😂😂😂
Reminds me of my mom aka the true Sherrif 😂
Blessed is he, who in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of darkness, for he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who would attempt to poison and destroy my brothers. - My mom or Pops if I forgot the yes mam/sir
Never say " Kiss my Grits" to MaMa... I did once, just once lol
2yrs later still my favorite video. I’m. Always correcting my kids and other kids, Yes M’am or Yes Sir.
I just moved to California from Georgia and when I say yes ma’am, the kids stare at me.
Where have you guys been all my life?! I love your videos!! Haha!
Yes, and it's funny but let's face it -- there is something worth preserving here. The South is such a unique place in teh world. It's the only place in America that still has a distinct regional culture. We need to hold onto it.
This one is so funny. I remember getting looks like those growing up. I am gonna have to check out your channel. Thank you for making me smile. Best of luck to you all.
When I watched this video I got PTSD..... "IM SORRY I WILL SAY YES MAM DONT HURT ME PLEEEAAASSSEEE..." (starts crying)
Shoot, I still say "Yes Ma'am" to ladies a lot younger than I am. That's strong indoctrination!!
Haha so true!!! Yes ma’am! I say it because that’s the Southern way and respectful to say it to the young and old!
The look on the kid's faces at the end cracks me up every time. Priceless!
I'm from the west coast, where "sir" or "ma'am" is only ever used condescendingly. It's basically reserved for passive aggressive customer service interactions, it's like a much meaner "boss"/"chief".
Omg I live in Florida and I stumbled upon your channel. Subbed right away! So relatable!
I moved to the south from living in the north west and everyone here says ma’am and sir and it was weird since no one and I mean no one ever said that where I used to live. It was seen as a very proper thing to say, and as a thing of the movies. For the 5 years I’ve lived here I’ve said it once. Once.
My nephew lived in Texas. He went to college in Boston and quickly learned not to have manners.
@@The2ndUsername It is rude because its about acknowledging the existence of others, just because Northerners treat each other as objects doesnt make it acceptable
It's amazing how accurately she depicted my grandmother👏👏👏
I want to move to the South, (but not a big city like Memphis) , because I love the respect I saw they treat one other with respect each time I been down there.
I live in England and I always refer to people as sir or ma'am. People look at me like I'm an old man. Had one guy ask me why I was talking like a slave. It's like manners and common decency is dying
You don't call anyone ma'am where I live... It's one of the biggest insults because you're basically calling someone old. (I'm from the Midwest, btw)
Breyerlover17 - I'm a Brit but lived in KC, MO for a while. I remember one of my female friends there being upset for days after someone called her Ma'am for the very first time. She was 25 and thought her days were ended.
@@painfulorwhat8872 I'm born and raised in kansas city, KS and we were raised to say yes ma'am and sir...and miss or Mr....idk how your friend was raised but it definitely isn't the norm
I LOVE this channel! So right on!
The expressions on the children's faces! Lol 😄
I have only ever watched this on Facebook but now it's in my UA-cam recommended
i felt this in my soul
This was in my recommended videos. Glad it was, I've been cracking up.
So, I subscribed today 🙂
I'm from Ohio, and I love people from down south! ❤
Sooo friendly, and you just feel it's for real! 🙂
As a Texan I can confirm this is utterly true.
I'm Brazilian, never been to southern state EVER. And let me tell you, we share lots of similarities, but the Ma'am and Sir one: IT IS IDENTICAL. If I don't say Ma'am or sir to someone my age or older then me God forbid but I'm sure I'd be struck by a lightning at the spot
I remember the one and ONLY time I didn't say yes ma'am to my grandma in front of my parents(I was 8).I am 52 now and still can't look at twitch without a mild form of ptsd.
Ok! I was born and raise in Chamblee and Doraville Ga! City line ran smack dab in middle of neighborhood! Anyway this has to be one of the greatest skits I've seen in a while😁! Look on Little Lady's face when storm blew over and momma just goes about her way! Priceless!
People don’t realize how true these videos are! I was raised up that I will say “ma’am” and “sir” without a second thought on the matter.