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  • CLEANING AFTER MY HUSBAND MOVED OUT | COMPLETE DISASTER CLEANING | CLEAN WITH ME 2023
    Hey friends, in today's video I am sharing with you cleaning after my husband moved out. This is a complete disaster cleaning in this clean with me 2023. This was a very vulnerable video to make for me so I really appreciate your love and support through this hard time in my life. Thank you for being here!
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  • @HappilyEverBecka
    @HappilyEverBecka  Рік тому +150

    Here is a link to my vlogging channel for those who want to follow along on this new journey with me ♥️
    ua-cam.com/channels/DMqJzdXaVVsdFHkQPXbE2w.html

    • @rainrabbit9209
      @rainrabbit9209 Рік тому +5

      I will ck it! I have had a similar experience. You are so brave!

    • @HappilyEverBecka
      @HappilyEverBecka  Рік тому +9

      Thank you ♥️ I’m sorry you’ve been through this too.

    • @kathybridges3343
      @kathybridges3343 Рік тому +8

      New here, I will click on it, been down this road twice, I will never marry again. It was like raising another child. And I was never young enough, hence the divorce ❤❤❤❤

    • @brendabernal2122
      @brendabernal2122 Рік тому +1

      People grow apart, because I love my husband however I’m not wanting it to work..

    • @jules1096
      @jules1096 Рік тому +1

      Thank you for this,similar experience here too. After 30yrs we divorced but live together (seperate rooms) and split everything like "roommates". Still have hard days and it hurts. Who am I and what do I want for ME? You basically read my mind through this whole video! 🙂

  • @teresameisner4895
    @teresameisner4895 Рік тому +229

    I've been through two divorces, one after 11 years & one at 34 years, so I know what you are feeling. It sort of feels like cleaning the cobwebs out so the sun can find you again. I hope you have family or friend support close by. I was 17 when I first married so I had really never been on my own my entire life. I'm now 68 and have just retired. My condo is quiet but I'm getting into things I never had time to before. Make sure to take time for you, to remind yourself. Try not to rush into another relationship. At this point in my life I've decided to just let my children, grandchildren, and some close friends be enough. Find pleasure & peace in the little things. Take care.

    • @melissamusick5864
      @melissamusick5864 Рік тому +11

      @Teresa Meisner, I got married at 20 and a second time at 43. They say "you attract what you are" and indeed I did. I was a bit broken and so were the boys I married. It wasn't a complete disaster...I have three great kids and three amazing grands, and I too have just decided to let those who are in my life be every bit of enough. Every situation is unique and the most we can do is our best to steward the things and people we are blessed to do this life with. Sounds like Becka has a level head and a good start at rediscovering all the things.

  • @abbeyanglade6762
    @abbeyanglade6762 Рік тому +134

    “Nobody cheated on anybody…nothing bad like that”
    An example of two adults mature enough to compromise on ending their relationship. If you are not happy, say so THEN go and do your “extra-curricular activities”. Have respect for the person you gave yourself to and simply communicate.
    Take notes from this gracious lady!

  • @debbieellis5074
    @debbieellis5074 Рік тому +846

    First time to your channel and want to appreciate the way you explained the situation without putting your husband down.

    • @Knitmommaniac
      @Knitmommaniac Рік тому +6

      Ditto

    • @crystalclark0583
      @crystalclark0583 Рік тому +27

      I am new as well and I agree with you. Very mature to do.

    • @JamieManous
      @JamieManous Рік тому +6

      Agree

    • @wessebaggers
      @wessebaggers Рік тому +4

      I agree ❤️❤️

    • @sandrapugh1373
      @sandrapugh1373 Рік тому +26

      I also agree. After 33 years with my husband (now ex) you will have ups and downs along the way. Be kind to yourself and treat others how you want to be treated. Now it's yours turn to follow your dreams. 🤗🤗

  • @melissahammersley7678
    @melissahammersley7678 Рік тому +47

    My husband and I separated in December so I know what you're going through. It gets easier as time goes on but it's still hard

  • @christinemurphy8017
    @christinemurphy8017 Рік тому +3

    Hi Becka
    I also separated from my partner when my twins where 3 & my oldest was 7 1/2 .
    My relationship was different from your's.
    I was in an abusive relationship & frightened of him.
    I couldn't take it anymore.
    I finally found the courage to get him out of our lives for good.
    I went out & worked fulltime to provide for my 3 kids.
    I had to as he never paid child maintenance to me for his 3 kids.
    My house became soo much happier
    & the kids were in a much better household.
    I also bought my own house.
    My family were a great support to me with watching my 3 kids whilst I went to work.
    If your relationship isn't working out for whatever reason & you have tried to make it better & it's still not working.
    Do not waste anymore of your life on it.
    There's a big world out there.
    I was scared to on my own with 3 kids to pay the bills etc.
    But I did it & so will you.
    I wish you & your kids a lovely life .
    All the best to you Becka.x

  • @skippersheart
    @skippersheart Рік тому +14

    Watching you clean really motivates me to get up and go do my bathrooms too, bathrooms always need cleaning. You do a great job.

  • @RosaEstanli
    @RosaEstanli Рік тому +82

    This is my first time here on your page. I’m so sorry to hear about your separation. I commend you both for coming to a decision together. If things are done, it’s best not to force it and lead down the road to unhappy years. Good for you for doing what’s best for you and your family. ❤

    • @pamwood3956
      @pamwood3956 Рік тому +2

      Yes, I wasted 4 years trying to make it work and still ended up divorced. At 57 I truly feel like I wasted valuable time.

  • @MarieLoveAsbury
    @MarieLoveAsbury Рік тому +59

    Big hugs mama... You got this! 🧸 Life always works out how it's meant to in the end and there is a reason for everything. Here for all the motivation!!

    • @HappilyEverBecka
      @HappilyEverBecka  Рік тому +7

      Thank you so much girl for your sweet words and I think you’re right ♥️

    • @dawncawthra3519
      @dawncawthra3519 Рік тому +3

      I agree 100 percent! Life happens just how it should. Everything is for a reason. Always look for the positive in situations 💙

    • @rachaelnelson-fu1ec
      @rachaelnelson-fu1ec Рік тому

      God hates Divorce

  • @marciabullock5913
    @marciabullock5913 Рік тому +71

    Everyone handles their situation differently as it is unique to them. I will tell you everyone loves a great comeback story!!! You’ve got tons of content to film now for sure! Get ready with me videos where you are showing self care would be fun.

    • @nancybarrett6266
      @nancybarrett6266 Рік тому +1

      Yes ma'am. I'd love to join along with someone's journey of ***Self love & Finding & Loving Yourself right here you are if anyone has any recommendations of channels like this I would greatly appreciate knowing*** tia

  • @Letitia.P
    @Letitia.P Рік тому +12

    Omg, heart felt sorry for your situation. So shocked by this. You seemed to have the perfect family. I guess no one ever knows a person's true life. I wish you, your husband and all your family the best and hope you guys all find a way through things. But your a true inspiration. You never fail to impress me with your resilience and fighter determination to carry on. Best wishes to you all.

    • @HappilyEverBecka
      @HappilyEverBecka  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much friend! There is no such thing as perfect, we all have struggles big and small ♥️

  • @sharonlandsborough8101
    @sharonlandsborough8101 Рік тому +18

    You're doing great hun, I've been thru this myself, things get easier, just remember we all allowed bad days and a bad day doesnt mean a bad life,I have "mini" meltdowns every now and again still and I allow myself them knowing I will pick myself up again in a couple of hours (this is all I allow myself lol) ,just a wee tip about shower curtains ,I actually put 2 up ,my expensive one to the front then I hang a cheap white one at the back of it ,this is the one that gets wet and I throw out when the mildew stains it and replace with another cheap one , that way my "good one" only needs the odd freshen up , wishing you all the very best for the new chapter of youre life x

  • @traceyholley9221
    @traceyholley9221 Рік тому +5

    Being in a good relationship with yourself is the best role model for your kids, whether you are with someone or not. Wishing you so much for this new chapter in your life!

  • @erinnjackson638
    @erinnjackson638 Рік тому +12

    I'm glad you had time to process your emotions in a healthy way after your separation. Going through a good home clean was uplifting to see and hear. Thank you for this video. Also have an fun new journey even though it may seem hard at times, you are doing great as a mother. Keep up on your new journey! And keep the new content comming! This was my first video watch and I loved to see you bring some life back after a loss.

  • @kristicole1327
    @kristicole1327 Рік тому +11

    Much prayers to you and your boys. Just remember to take time for yourself. Also let your oldest help as much as he wants.

  • @ashleyrobinson157
    @ashleyrobinson157 Рік тому +14

    Thank you for being so brave and sharing what you are going through with your community. Hopefully finding yourself gets easier each day, everyone deserves to be happy. Take care.

  • @pamelapackard4665
    @pamelapackard4665 Рік тому +58

    Hey Becka
    I know the decision was not a easy one. It never is. You and Chris made the right choice for your family. Not everyone’s path is the same. You are a strong and amazing woman.

    • @HappilyEverBecka
      @HappilyEverBecka  Рік тому +6

      Thank you Pamela ♥️ Yes this decision was not made lightly and was considered for a long time until it was all that was left to consider.

    • @texasjones9541
      @texasjones9541 Рік тому +6

      Wonder if the children got a vote in the situation? Everyone thinks they can move on to a new relationship and things be great. When you put people into your life because you suddenly need a man, they never love your children like your previous spouse. The stepchildren are a hated part of the new relationship equation.

    • @HappilyEverBecka
      @HappilyEverBecka  Рік тому +15

      My children are my top priority and I have no intentions of getting into a relationship with anyone but myself for a long time. This is my healing journey, and if that day ever came I assure you if anyone EVER treated my children less than, they would immediately be out of my life.

    • @texasjones9541
      @texasjones9541 Рік тому +1

      @Happily Ever Becka If your top priority were the children, you would find a way to make it work without a divorce. It cannot be about you ever, until those children are grown. A stepmother 2 street over from us locks her stepchildren out till she comes home. Somewhere there is love because you have children together, now work it out.

    • @HappilyEverBecka
      @HappilyEverBecka  Рік тому +17

      I guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree because I think it’s more important for my children to see their parents happy and thriving rather then miserable. Btw if a stepmom ever did that to my children I would be in handcuffs afterwards, I will make it very well known that situations like that would never be tolerated. But to be honest I trust my children’s father enough to know he would never let something like that happen in his home to his children. Very sad for those children that went through that.

  • @jillhensley4919
    @jillhensley4919 Рік тому +5

    I had a friend that was going through the same thing I was….having her to share things with and talk to saved me.

  • @beccaponcho8670
    @beccaponcho8670 Рік тому +83

    Sorry to hear yall are going through this! You Got this, Prayers for yall 🙏 ❤️

  • @helenb9991
    @helenb9991 Рік тому +7

    I got divorced when my kids were little and of course put them first - I’m sure you are doing the same 🥰 don’t put yourself last though and make sure you find things each day that bring you joy 😊

    • @HappilyEverBecka
      @HappilyEverBecka  Рік тому

      Thank you Helen ♥️ Yes very well said and exactly what I’m trying to do.

  • @Eisingleton
    @Eisingleton Рік тому +8

    Congrats on putting you first!!! Coming from a divorced mom of twins (they were 6 at the time), the trauma of divorce even when it's the right choice is real. Our situations are very similar in that it wasn't extenuating circumstances, but it still took quite a bit of time and self-love to get me to totally me. One day at a time. Mom's work at this twice in tandem... once as a woman and once as a caregiver of their little humans. Be easy on yourself ♥️

  • @rebeccav.8560
    @rebeccav.8560 Рік тому +3

    Becka, how are you really? Please take care of yourself during this new season of your life. I'm praying for many blessings to come your way! Keep up the great job!

  • @sewndebisdream6953
    @sewndebisdream6953 Рік тому +1

    Congrats for taking your life back. Been there. Sorry about the separation ...better days ahead. Don't look back. Keep moving forward. Cleaning house always gave me a sense of freedom, especially after a break up. Looks like you're doing great! I commend you for taking a stand! 🙏👍👏 This is my first time being here. Life goes on and breakups happen for a reason. I'm happy now and you will be too!

  • @suemount6042
    @suemount6042 Рік тому +1

    I’m glad you didn’t lose your home. The final move out is always hard not leaving those spaces empty is a good move. I’m sorry you lost each other it’s a sad thing when you realise you love but your no longer in love with each other it’s a loss like no other. My best advice is don’t fightback the tears etc the storm clears quicker when you don’t it’s an important part of the healing process.

  • @omagunn3879
    @omagunn3879 Рік тому +3

    Hi, just found your video today. I think I’ll stick around 😊 Sorry you’re going through such a rough time, marriage is hard. But you are doing what is right for you, and that’s what matters most. Hang in there, I’ll be watching from here on out.

  • @headintheclouds2196
    @headintheclouds2196 Рік тому +2

    Yo Becka, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this horrific marital earthquake. You’re a Rock Star sis!!!!!! When your handed lemons go turn a room into YOUR OFFICE and make yourself a big glass of lemonade. Way more classy then I would have been. You are an inspiration sis. 🤗🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

  • @Katie23652
    @Katie23652 Рік тому +4

    First time here and I’ve been there…. I want to support you because you are showing such grace and strength through a very hard time so I’m subscribing. Just know there will be ups and downs, and you are worthy, not just as a Mom but as a woman. It took me a long time to figure that out but it looks like you’re already on the right track.

  • @Julie-si3hi
    @Julie-si3hi Рік тому +1

    First rime here. Wow that brought back emotions, we split over 19yrs ago and I had a 1yr old and 3yr old. You've got this x I think if social media was a thing back then I'd have filmed too even if it was painful,so you can see how far you've come x

  • @sondrasix1668
    @sondrasix1668 Рік тому +3

    Becka, you got this Girl Friend. I am here anytime for you. Love and prayers for you both and the kids. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

  • @deannevalverde1065
    @deannevalverde1065 Рік тому +2

    Separation is hard for anyone. We, as women and as moms, have to be strong even when we want to fall apart. Stay strong and find your inner peace, and each day will get better. I have been in your shoes😊

  • @bingles1993
    @bingles1993 Рік тому +9

    Hi, Becka! I know these are hard times but we're here for you. I'm a silent subscriber since then and I'm saddened by the news. But life goes on anyways. We have to move on. Stay strong momma! You're brave sharing about it to the world. You're a beautiful and strong momma to your kids. Don't worry, we'll still gonna support all the way no matter what your contents are. Looking forward to your fresh start on a new journey. Please do still make vlogs if you're gonna have a new job. More like of a "life of a working mom" video. Always keep safe! Much love from the Philippines! :)

  • @victoriafrances2432
    @victoriafrances2432 Рік тому +1

    A very cathartic thing to do. Symbolically (and literally) cleaning out the negative energy from a bad experience. Blessings.

  • @staceytinsley2492
    @staceytinsley2492 Рік тому +1

    Hi Becka, just wanted to say you're very brave to speak about what going on with you. Keep pressing forward, praying and staying positive. God will give you all the grace& strength you need. I'm glad you guys are still in a good place. Live your life and do what makes you happy.

  • @darniataylor7749
    @darniataylor7749 Рік тому +4

    Love & prayers for you and your family during this time of change.💜

  • @angelculinarykitchen
    @angelculinarykitchen Рік тому

    Your channel was a YT suggestion...so here I am. The title drew me in. Now a subscriber, of both your channels. Keep your head up, young lady. Remember to love yourself ever the more now, and CONTINUE to love yourself and those boys of yours. You will need them more now...I've been there and I don't know where my head would have been if I didn't have my 3 children at that time. Blessings and Much Favor!

  • @Gen-ol6xy
    @Gen-ol6xy Рік тому +5

    Hugs. It's never easy to close one chapter and open another even if closing one was on good terms, it's still hard to start over. I am sure you guys will be happier for the choices your making now before it got to a point of ugly. You will always have my support for your videos :)! I am not quite sure how this youtube thing works but I will even watch the ads right through if that helps support your channel :)

  • @Arleen1010
    @Arleen1010 Рік тому +1

    So sorry to hear this. Stay positive, stay busy, just breathe. Prayers coming your way for you and your family.

  • @mizzithorpe1079
    @mizzithorpe1079 Рік тому

    Just keep going don’t switch off you have to come to terms with this ,but cope you are a winner and you are strong you will find yourself and do have a purpose I’ve been through the exact same be strong if you wanna cry then cry it’s part of your healing x

  • @Teedl12
    @Teedl12 Рік тому +3

    So sorry you’re going through this! Even if it is for the best; definitely not an easy transition. Appreciate the video and your vulnerability. 🙏🏼❤️

  • @sandrastrobel1254
    @sandrastrobel1254 Рік тому +1

    The death of a dream, which is what a marriage is, is never easy. Time for a reset. Grieve the loss but dare to dream another dream for yourself.
    Your music was well chosen.

  • @doloresrivera4622
    @doloresrivera4622 Рік тому

    Good for you yep you both our parents and you have to raise your kids together it's so good that you stayed and good terms you are strong God bless you guys

  • @noniboo1521
    @noniboo1521 Рік тому

    First time watching your channel. Just want you to know you will be fine. And a day will come when this is not your first thought when you wake up and all of this will not forever be front and center in your life. You will grow, get stronger and find other things that matter to you. This i promise you. ❤ Best wishes for you on this journey.

  • @cleanwithjen_
    @cleanwithjen_ Рік тому +6

    Sending love and hugs your way. I am going through the same and it's unbelievably tough, but us ladies are/can be so 💪 strong!
    P.s.. I was eyeing up the rug thinking how lovely it was the entire time, I wish I could have sneaked into your trash and took it for me 😄 🤣 haha

  • @kassylopez4487
    @kassylopez4487 Рік тому

    First time here,I subscribed because I want to support a single mama any way I can. My mama was a single mama of 4 who battled cancer yet still was a warrior til her last breath 3 years ago. She never put our father down even through his infidelity issues. We were able to grow our own emotions towards our sperm donor. You're doing AMAZING and your respect for the father of your children reminds me so much of her.

  • @edwigen.3911
    @edwigen.3911 Рік тому

    Hiii Becka
    Your history is touching me and I hope God will keep you and give you the strength to keep the head on .

  • @magdalenacarrero9908
    @magdalenacarrero9908 Рік тому

    Yes dear is a bit tough but we are build tougher. U will fine. Claiming your home is ur best start. Making your space yours again is a great beginning for u and kids. Best of luck

  • @anelisahephzibah
    @anelisahephzibah Рік тому

    So glad you came up on my feed. First thing that got my attention is the music playlist you have going on in the background, definitely here for it!! 😍 4 years divorced now and yes, as difficult as separation and or divorce is, there’s just something liberating about that space clearing in the interim. Grace to you and your family during this time. You’ve got this! 🤍

  • @CrystlesClassyLife
    @CrystlesClassyLife Рік тому

    This video came up as a suggested video . I just want you to know I’m praying for you to have peace and joy. Because I’ve been there and it’s not easy .

  • @jere5555
    @jere5555 Рік тому +1

    Wish you both well, you are doing your children a good example of respect and responsibility. 👍🏼❤️👍🏼

  • @darleneriffle2151
    @darleneriffle2151 Рік тому +1

    I hope things work out for you I know it's hard it will be alright I know how it is my husband passed away and I know you're having a hard time I Love You video God bless you and your family thank you for sharing

  • @Jettsmom98
    @Jettsmom98 Рік тому +1

    Big giant hugs for you. So sorry you’re going through this. I pray you find peace. Please take care of yourself.

  • @kathyabeauty
    @kathyabeauty Рік тому

    Good for you moving ahead and "picking up the mess" to start your new life. I had a somewhat public separation-divorce as my ex was in several videos and some people (viewers) grew fond of him over our 8 years. It's good days and bad days ahead, but you gave a great start for happiness and good times to come. Heal, get your head together, take some time to regroup and life will bring wonderful new things to you.

  • @patry1276
    @patry1276 Рік тому

    Familiar situation for me too...I went through this 6 months ago. We also decided to separate because it was the right thing to do for us and our son. It takes time to rearrange all the balances, especially the inner ones...but day by day each little piece will fall into place. Even when time seems to stretch and leave us overwhelmed and breathless. My thought of love today is for you and your family. I send you a strong and silent hug 😊

  • @annabellgomez1013
    @annabellgomez1013 Рік тому

    Thank you, first time here and always watch on silent (because of work) and read a few comments .... And instantly subscribed after a few comments . Then watched with audio. Looking forward to follow ur journey. Love that you love yourself.!!

  • @leahv.2537
    @leahv.2537 Рік тому

    Sending hugs and love to you. I'm not married so I have no idea what it's like to clean the room in that situation.
    But I cleaned, sent stuff back to the hospice service, put stuff away to keep and packed stuff to give to my sisters and donate after my mom passed two years ago. Man it's hard and gut wrenching.... can't really describe it.
    My heart goes out to you ❤️

  • @marileejohnson348
    @marileejohnson348 Рік тому

    I have gone through a divorce and it was really hard. I lived with my ex while we were separated too. It took me a while to heal. I chose to focus on myself and of course my son. Although it was hard at first I got to know myself and became happy. In the long, run my divorce was the best decision at that time. I am currently married and very happy. I am a new subscriber. I think it is great how you're handling this.

  • @AleahMartins
    @AleahMartins Рік тому +2

    Sending you so much love during this time ❤️❤️❤️ you got this mama!

  • @diamondpeterson617
    @diamondpeterson617 Рік тому +1

    I know it's hard for all parties, but you got this. Thanks for sharing. Can't wait to see how you transition your bedroom. Keep the videos coming.....

  • @YoNikkiNicole
    @YoNikkiNicole Рік тому

    Pray for strength and embrace the woman that you are.. love on your self, be encouraged you’ve got this. I completely understand where you are one day at a time.

  • @debraarbuthnott3380
    @debraarbuthnott3380 Рік тому

    This is the first video I've seen of yours - now a subscriber. My advise is to not compare yourself to others who are/have going /gone through this. Go at your own pace, you will still cry from time to time, that's normal. The weirdest things will set you off. Take a deep breath, remember why the decision was made and take time to look after yourself. There is a whole world of discovery inside and outside of you. Embrace the journey

  • @ashleymatney6078
    @ashleymatney6078 Рік тому

    Sweet girl, many prayers for you as you navigate this new journey. Please take care of yourself. You are beautiful and strong and you CAN and WILL be just fine! If you lived near me, I’d drive to your house this very second and give you a big ole hug! ❤

  • @andreapantel3085
    @andreapantel3085 Рік тому

    I have been divorced for a long time and I am sorry you have to go through this. Glad you are on good terms, I was not that lucky. - It takes time! The one thing I wished I had done differently is seeking counseling. I only realized the huge value of it much later related to something else. It helps talking to someone who can help you sort things out. Plus, it will not leave the room.
    Love and blessings, remember: you got this!!!

  • @sarahtaylor2492
    @sarahtaylor2492 Рік тому

    Hi Becka, I too have been in this scenario, look at finding yourself as a possitive and new exciting step in your life, remember self care, go and get your nails done get pampered remember you and take care of you, the next journey will be full of lots of emotions but also a chance to self reflect and you will be just fine. Thankyou for sharing this video, take good care x

  • @sonnyroy497
    @sonnyroy497 Рік тому +1

    I do understand. There's a lot of 'cleaning' to be done....to your home AND your heart ❤️.

  • @stephanievelez-dh8yv
    @stephanievelez-dh8yv Рік тому

    This is my first video here, and when I say you give me such mature, positive and good vibes. As a first impression… you seem like such a sweet/good person.

  • @blacknbougie8021
    @blacknbougie8021 Рік тому

    This hurts like hell but it does ease with time. I remember redecorating the house & buying a new wardrobe after my divorce. It was so liberating. I also began realizing that I should practice gratitude. Gratitude for the things I DO HAVE, which are my children & a very supportive family. I might've loved my ex but I DIDN'T NEED HIM & I CERTAINLY DIDN'T LOVE HIM AS MUCH AS I LOVED MY KIDS. so that became the driving force for me. You will mourn what could've been but eventually you won't even care. You'll enjoy the new person you've become & being with him will be nothing more than a distant memory.
    I wish you the best.

  • @heartslessons6243
    @heartslessons6243 Рік тому

    Loving yourself first, makes life easier and happier. 🙂 look at all the wonderful things inside of you.💗💯%

  • @karenhagstrom1505
    @karenhagstrom1505 Рік тому

    You seem at peace and all my best as you navigate the next chapter in your life! God bless

  • @LittleGirl1023
    @LittleGirl1023 Рік тому

    God bless and enjoy next chapter and the new adventures!

  • @MarySmith-zn5dz
    @MarySmith-zn5dz Рік тому

    First time here, not my last. You are in my prayers and I went through this twenty years ago after a twenty year marriage. It is devastating. Remain strong.

  • @parislady6138
    @parislady6138 Рік тому

    Bless your heart. I was a single mom for 9 years. It was some of my most challenging years but also some of my best. Prayers for you and your family. I pray God grows your business so you can stay home with your children.

  • @LuxurCr3Tv
    @LuxurCr3Tv Рік тому

    Glad to see u finding urself and cleaning to ur peace of mind finding ur comfort and safe ground keep it up queen

  • @cf3779
    @cf3779 Рік тому

    after 5 years when my husband left in July i painted the interior of my house especially changing the bedroom set up and bought new furniture, fixed up the empty rooms he left to my liking it helped with the healing process, unfortunately we don't even speak to one another, it was about choosing happiness as you said, something i wanted, life has been so much peaceful since he left and we divorced.

    • @HappilyEverBecka
      @HappilyEverBecka  Рік тому +1

      I’m so happy you found happiness, you deserve it. My ex and I didn’t have the same decorating style so it always made it hard for me to decorate exactly how I wanted so I’m looking forward to doing it my way 🥰

  • @milagrosmoore2898
    @milagrosmoore2898 Рік тому

    My prayers to you and you are strong and courageous to realize that you are the only one who can make yourself happy and have a peace about it. Nothing wrong with that.

  • @kimswrld5321
    @kimswrld5321 Рік тому

    You doing right by cleaning out and moving forward just remember it’s his lost ❤it’s nothing but good times from here on good luck to you on this new life if yours

  • @rocketchico.2149
    @rocketchico.2149 Рік тому

    Sending you love and strength. We women are a lot stronger than we think.

  • @annjohnson543
    @annjohnson543 Рік тому

    Becka, I have been where you are. Even if there is no animosity right now there are bound to be some emotions bubbling up through it all. Be prepared for it and just let yourself feel them. Be kind to yourself and just work through it all. Know that it may be a crazy couple of years, but it will all be ok.

  • @zenfullychaotic3402
    @zenfullychaotic3402 Рік тому

    God bless you sweet lady. I'm going through a difficult separation myself and so nice to see you being so positive. I need to do a deep clean soon now to help me feel better.

  • @budder71O
    @budder71O Рік тому

    Just went through a breakup after 5 years and watching this video for motivation to start cleaning and decluttering and starting fresh.

  • @hayleyfinch3369
    @hayleyfinch3369 Рік тому

    Bless you my sister has more or less just gone through this same thing,she said to me I could've stayed there for another 30years but it wouldn't be fair to him or me we live separate lives,he's not a hands on dad so 99% of stuff was for her to do with the kids including holidays and trips.she said I just simply want more I don't think that's a bad thing.i wish you and the kiddos every happiness in your new journey,all the way from the UK.

  • @abigailvomelmo1167
    @abigailvomelmo1167 Рік тому

    Hi 🙂 ! This video just popped up on my phone. I'm happy for you. You'll have fun redecorating & making more SELF space !!! That's nice that the children will peacefully still have their Dad in their Life. 🙌🙌🙌🙌
    for you & your Family💕!!!

  • @wandadavis2468
    @wandadavis2468 Рік тому

    I'm so very sorry. I know that even if its mutual and the best, its hard to see the family break apart. Love and prayers for all

  • @ginnymorales155
    @ginnymorales155 Рік тому

    Congratulations Sister you are a Strong 💪 Mother. Keep your faith you all be Blessed.

  • @jacquiebeattie649
    @jacquiebeattie649 Рік тому

    New subscriber!!!!
    Becka, I 'm sorry your going through this
    devastating time however, I know each day gets better. Took me about 2 years to become satisfied alone with 3 sons.
    My husband left me for his secretary many years ago. I had 3 jobs, thankfully my main employment was Nursing however this was in the 70's so the pay wasn't fantastic.
    The most important advice I can offer you is PLEASE don't forget about you, yes children always come first BUT you must get out of the house, visit with friends,
    Maybe go out for coffee/eat.
    My husband hung me out to dry so happy
    Chris is doing what's best for u and the children.
    Great video!!!! Will be praying for you 🙏
    See you in the next.

  • @denisereed3666
    @denisereed3666 Рік тому

    I’m new to your channel. I’ve seen couples who argue and put their children right in the middle of a already hard situation. So , just seeing how you are not being unkind to your husband and are choosing to remember that no matter what you share children together , this will benefit you all. GOD Bless you as you are going through this.

  • @silviathomas3224
    @silviathomas3224 Рік тому

    Stay strong and best of luck on your new adventures.

  • @oceania4681
    @oceania4681 Рік тому

    I’m sorry for the difficult time you’re going through. I know you will thrive.

  • @lovestosingalot55bodin7
    @lovestosingalot55bodin7 Рік тому +1

    Becka, it sounds like you are adjusting quite well to your new life and getting to know yourself once again. I know exactly how that feels. I was there for everyone else in my first marriage and I lost who I was. Thankfully, there were no kids involved but when you give 20 years of your life to someone, it is hard. I am re-married and it has been almost 20 years again total. I am in a better place. Please don't forget also that Jesus is your best friend and He is there 24/7 for you ALWAYS!!! God bless you Becka and your family. from Canada xoxo

  • @denisetaylor3332
    @denisetaylor3332 Рік тому

    Newbie here, know exactly how things are except my ex made my life awful, I was out of my home with 3 small kids. I literally had to find a new place to live, no money, relocated too.
    Watching you clean. Washing him out of your space. Making it your own. So happy that you are still ‘friends’ makes it so much easier with children in the equation. 🥰

  • @melindahayes3728
    @melindahayes3728 Рік тому

    My prayers are with you and your family

  • @Blackswanempress
    @Blackswanempress Рік тому

    I just found your channel today. I am so very sorry for you all and what you are going through. I like your video very much and find your voice very soothing. I subscribed.

  • @Ringelsocke.
    @Ringelsocke. Рік тому

    No advice as we are all different and what works for one may not work for another.
    Separations are always sad and painful for everyone involved, but the fact that you don't have a fight and that you are in agreement is a good prerequisite!
    Maybe you can even treat the other person to everything that comes in life now or later (new partner, maybe children).
    Your children will benefit from happy parents and a relaxed home (or two). They can continue to count on their parents and feel safe.
    I think that once the new everyday life has settled in for a while, everything after that will be an enrichment.
    I wish you all the best!

  • @KDT227
    @KDT227 Рік тому

    Sometimes people have to separate to find themselves and when we find ourselves we can better share ourselves with others. God is with you both on your journey….

  • @saf281-o8x
    @saf281-o8x Рік тому

    Hi Becka, I'm sad for you right now watching. But I'm glad you are getting in a better place after he has moved out. I wish you nothing but the best. I'm a faithful follower, so I will still be here. Sending hugs to you and the boys. I wish you all the happiness that you deserve. Stay tough mama. 💖

  • @gloriaeren8717
    @gloriaeren8717 Рік тому

    I pray the Lord blesses you through this time that you are able to endure the hardship that it is. Your children will need you a lot to get through. This is extremely hard on children when parents separate but I pray that with God, you are able to overcome,and your children.

  • @story7088
    @story7088 Рік тому

    Going through ALL of this now too right now. The cleaning and decluttering process feels fragile at first. Over time it feels so empowering! I am still early in it and can already say that it gets a little better with the passing months. Really appreciate you sharing all this.

  • @lindaallen78
    @lindaallen78 Рік тому

    I applaud you. I think it is very cathartic to do some cleaning after any little disaster in life. I always like to clean out cupboards and the like. It's all about small steps. Routine is good, especially where children are concerned. Always follow your instincts. I have a sign on my wall which says 'She thought she could. So she did'.I never think of anything as impossible. I wish you well, young lady. You will get there. Do lots of things with your children, keep the house clean and tidy, get some ME time. You will be fine. 🥰

  • @islandgirl8914
    @islandgirl8914 Рік тому

    Thank you. I’m not alone. ❤❤❤❤

  • @dorenedaniels7493
    @dorenedaniels7493 Рік тому

    Great job on your new office.
    But take one day at a time ☺️ God bless you 🙏❤️

  • @nativeamericanfeather9948
    @nativeamericanfeather9948 Рік тому

    Every ending is a new beginning, everyday were living were dying,& you'll never be as young as you are today.Lifes too short to not be happy. Life's about finding YOUrself not someone. Enjoy this beautiful journey ❤️ I raised 4 kids completely by myself. It was the hardest but best thing I ever did. I left my ex about 10 years ago. Been single by choice for the last 6 years. Been happier than ever!♡ freedom,happiness,laughter,adventure,peaceful,& a better me♡ God Bless your children & your great journey!