I have dealt with fake people before. They were only nice to me when they wanted something from me. I began resenting them for asking so much of me, and as soon as I graduated, I immediately cut them off.
This video is so relatable to me. Well, I'm 16 years old and I don't really have any friends because I'm introverted and shy. I do have some kids my age with whom I communicate, and I know they're fake because they laugh at me when I'm sad or whisper things around me, then act like I'm one of their friends when I have things, and I don't know how to cut them off because I don't want to appear rude or anything. psych2go Because I only have one girl in my class who does everything for me, I believe it is simple to distinguish between a false and genuine buddy.
@@chynabarbieeeeee I had such people when I was your age, I'm soon 22 but I'm better off alone. I just embrace selflove. Alot of people are fake this is a fact, don't let movies lie. It's rare to get real but be patient with yourself, they exist, somewhere. 🖤👏
*A TIP* : Don't rush into a relationship. It's important, to have a positive relationship with yourself before you can have a serious, lasting relationship with someone else.
From my experience, being "too nice" attracts these types of people a LOT. I used to be a big pushover; I did not know how to be nice while also respecting myself. However, I eventually started being more independent and vocal, which actually scared those people away from me. This also made me more respected and it is helping me find right people in my life. I have not been oblivious to people's true intentions for a while, now. I advise everyone to know when to say "no," as you have every right to do so.
I can relate to everything you have mention. This happened to me and I have been through that. I have started saying No to people and focusing on myself and it’s helped me a lot.
that's nice, I hope you dont I end up in the stages of grief. Seriously tho, I hope everyone is hanging in there the future is unpredictable and stuff, I'm not alive but I'm still breathing :))
1. fake people dole out insincere sympathy 0:54 2. fake people avoid accountability 1:22 3. fake people do not make good friends 1:43 4. fake people are usually self-interested 2:09 5. fake people seek to take credit from others 2:39 6. fake people tend to not value honesty 3:01 7. they usually lead people on 3:16 8. fake people are attracted to power 3:29 9. fake people seldom commit 3:56 10. fake people frquently engage in gossip 4:16 I hope I could help!
Fake friends are like shadows : always near you at your brightest moments ,but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hours. True friends are like stars ,you don't see them but they are always there.
So basically all of my friends are like shadows xD. Went to class and then just broke down crying while none of my "friends" came even when I cried for half an hour. xDD
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Tip: when facing situations with ‘fake friends,’ it is important to always stay cool and be kind, whilst letting them know what you want to express. Be firm but respectful! Please don’t try to take revenge or such measures. Always live life as what is satisfactory to you. Stay cool like Gojo.
I can't believe this is how I treat my friend and I never even noticed it. I always said I was busy, when in fact, Im not. I feel really guilty about what I have been and I don't think I can even consider myself as a friend anymore. But, I will change. Thank you so much Psych2go for making this video. Thank you, for helping me realize how I've been treating my friend the wrong way and ignored it. Thank you, for letting me know.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
This reminds me of an anime named Oregairu, where the MC refuses to open up and be close to anyone. Then he’s forced to join a club with someone and over time he slowly starts to talk to others. Later on he breaks down and says he wants something genuine. Meaning he wants to talk to someone who doesn’t fake their emotions with talking to him, someone who only wants to be honest and not hide their true feelings. It’s relatable since like the video said, fake people tend to be self interested.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I used to relate to a lot of these, especially during high school. But I think I am slowly learning to become more genuine and honest, for myself especially. Just graduated high school last year and am learning how to be alone. I wanted to let anyone out there who feels like they relate to some of these traits, that with a little humility and acceptance, you are able to change your views :) It's not at all a bad thing
Even though all of this is true we have to remember that this doesn’t define a person. They’re human too and may not realize how they’re treating you or making you feel and you can easily turn a fake friend into a real one just by talking to them about it. That’s how I got my best friend after all.
ya. idrk. I’d say I’m more wealthy then most people, and I feel like I get used because of that a lot. it’s like, my friend addie rarely talks to me. but when I bring food she likes, she just snatches them literally without asking. i end up with a sandwich and two chips left. And yesterday in history, I finished my notes and she talks to me after a week of silence, “hhhhey Kam!!!! wanna hang out today?! oh wait I can’t I have to finish my history notes. can I borrow urs?!?!
@@khalilahd. Ofc IT define a Person. Just ASK U this For yourself what Kind of human would do such Things. So U rly Wanted to be a friend with someone Like htis ? And remember some are narcisstic and U can never Change and U should Change a Person in the First place so U can be Friends with her . U Sould Like the Person on Ur own
I think it's possible for two people to be mutually fake friends with each other. I find workplace "friendships" are often fake and have many of the components mentioned in this video. Often workplace "friends" will resent or be jealous of their fellow workers and pretend to be friends just to "cope" with the workplace environment.
Actually, I never had a work friend... I was always the odd and silent one who doesn't have a friend lol. There was someone who reached out to me during this pandemic after I just posted that I lost someone. But before that, they never did care or anything. So it weirded me out.
Relateable. I've encountered a lot of fake friends in my life or as I call them fillers in my life. I used to have friendships that I thought were genuine but as time went on I realized they were fake bc they always wanted something or me to help them and I never got help back. I don't have friends anymore bc of this. And I'm happier being alone.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I’ve had some awful friendships over the years, it really brought down my mental health. I am way too trusting in people. But currently I have the bestest friends anyone could ask for, they taught me that not everyone is willing to be a good friend to me. I appreciate them so much ^^
I had a fake friend once who I really saw a as a good friend At the time I didn’t have much friends, then she friended me. I liked that. But something felt…off. It was like she was too friendly, as if she was forcing it. But I shrugged it off. It was just normal, right? Everyone had there own personality’s, right? She’d always sound really happy when she saw me, smile and say “oh hey -name- here”. She also just kinda became my friend right away, no talk or anything. Then one day, she was laughing with her friend. When I walked back, the laughs only got louder. It puzzled me a bit but I shook it off. Then, she started saying mean things about me Then started bullying me. I never said anything to her again, just ignored her and nodded. I know it wasn’t the right thing of me to do and I’m sorry that that, but I just couldn’t face it. If I ended our friendship, that’d make it my fault that our friendship ended. Luckily where not “friends” anymore. I’ve got new friends and Im really happy with them. If you are being bullied by a friend, you need to do something. Don’t let them drag you down, push you down to the ground and into the dirt. Stand ho to yourself. Whenever it’s speaking up, walking away, clearly showing them there words don’t matter to you, etc. and there’s nothing wrong with the words hurting, it’s natural. I’m not going to be all like, “oh, ignore the words and don’t let them hurt, it’s normal and you are a great person.” I feel like that’s forcing happy emotions on someone and that isn’t healthy. Your allowed to feel sad about it, upset about it. But just know that mixed with that sadness you are a great person, and no one’s opinion can change that. We all have different personalities, and we all need to grow and learn Hope this message helped, from a human to human
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I’ve found it really helpful to ‘recategorize’ people in my life. There are few true ‘friends’. Most of the people I’ve thought as friends are either associates, assignments or advisors (see Dharius Daniels’ book Relational Intelligence). Once I got clear about the different roles people play in life, I’ve been able to adjust my expectations of them and me, which has helped me relax and enjoy my relationships much more.
I've been thinking along these lines in recent months and I can feel its the best thing to do based on my gut. It feels more a kin to thr right path, but I struggle with thr hurt of change. I will look up that book, thank you!
@@MrKezzaRHCP if you don’t mind my sharing, I have several videos on this topic. You can find them on my YT channel My Mentor Jane. The more I thought about it, I actually felt relief. Fighting against what had already happened in the relationship, just added unnecessary pressure and guilt. Take care.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I saw a post online that said “Fake friends will compliment you to your face and talk bad behind your back, true friends will talk bad to your face but compliment you behind your back.” Obviously you shouldn’t be rude towards people you care for but jokingly making fun if someone with them is a sign of a strong relationship and trust in eachother!
this pandemic really made me realise that all the friends I had this whole time are all fake. except for one friend. but she’s still friends with the rest of the group and the others hate me for no reason.. they’re always talking behind my back and my friend who has a groupchat with them tells me everything.. i literally dont know what to do. i feel so lonely at school. i don’t understand how some people are still friends with them. im literally only “friends” with them for the sake of having friends at school. i have one more year in highschool and i cant wait for it to end. i wanna start fresh and leave everything and everyone behind. sometimes when i think about it, it is sad. but my mental health is way more important
Be careful for this one friend of yours... they may be reporting your personal life to that group. I hope you find a new group of friends or just a friend.
I think it would be better that you start elsewhere instead of waiting for something to happen like participate in a workshop at your highschool or going to meeting.
Oh my god. Im dealing with this exact problem these past few days. Alot of people left my life and ignored be. After alot of tears and pain. I needed this video. Thank you..
"they do good things to be seen and applauded" such a simple but powerful statement. Definitely reminds me of my ex. There of course was red flags. but I realized he wouldn't tip someone, at a drive-through unless the person was looking at him. It was freaking weird and so narcissistic.
if you yourself can always be genuine and learn not to need anything from other people and learn how to say no to things it won’t even matter if someone is fake. they won’t be able to get anything from you and will take themselves out of your life. your real friends will be around for no reason at all.
I like people who are genuine and honest because even if we don't have a whole lot in common I feel like it gives something different to the relationship that we can discuss and exchange views on.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I can relate to the last one A LOT I lost all my “friends” because they had the audacity to say I don't care about them so I just told them I knew they like gossiping about me And that I'm not stupid. Now they just stare at me in the hallway and trying to make small talk but I just ignore them. I'm better off with no friends anyway.
I have dealt many at school. I have these three closest friends. They are the only one I can trust but I found out hey only pretend to be nice to get something that they want from me after that they left me alone. I was depressed and until now I still have fake friends. My depression is getting worst. I even call myself dumb, selfish and others because I thought I was not perfect for them 😔😔😔
I honestly feel u there, it’s hard to give ur trust & faith to people and have it betrayed like that which can make it feel harder the next time around and hurts u the most while the people who hurt u get away with everything scotch free :( The most important thing tho is to not let their selfishness and cruelty have control over u, they don’t deserve to have anything over U It’s a very difficult process, I understand, but learning to take back what they made u feel has helped me. If u say ur selfish, be selfish, be delusional. Selfish people love themselves and if that’s something u need, go with it. Show them that what they made u feel has made u better and more powerful! They’ll not like the change Bc that means they’ll no longer have control over u but dont people please for them, work on ur self and I hope u can learn that it’s ok to be imperfectly perfect :) Hope I wasn’t too cringe or forward…I empathize with ur feelings and wish for ur future happiness with ur self! Loving ur self, however overused it is, is genuinely the first step to achieving ur dream reality, whatever it might be. At least even believing u do and staying consistent with the belief will work no matter how much ur brain will try to suppress and reject it
Honestly, I don't know what to say because I'm 15 and I had 'friends' who have used me or people were talking to me (not even my 'friends')if they needed something. Few days after, guess what was happening.. Eh, I will say one thing- I know how you feel, at least in some part but I won't lie to you- idk what you could do to find real friends. I guess, with time and being a good person maybe you will find someone. Cheers, have a good day :)
Sorry to hear that but remember you are not alone and it's not time to feel bad about what happened but learn from it. Stay strong although it's hard but it's not impossible. *hugs*
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
fake friends are everywhere. they come and go and hard to locate. but real friends are with you all the time. take care guys, look out for toxic and fake people and live your best life
i wish ya'll could make a video that's a step by step way on how to be a Nice, Genuine person which would actually help me on my quest to not be a fake person anymore.
Get a Sagittarius to teach you how to be unfiltered. Just say the truth. Especially to friends who ask for your opinion. It doesn’t matter if everyone likes you. You do not need to censor yourself. If people don’t like you don’t let it bother you or you will start to try to change yourself to impress people who are not right for you. People should be given respect only if they deserve it. If someone is constantly bullying others you should work up the courage to tell them that their behaviour is unacceptable and makes them look like a bad person.
Yes you will get in trouble especially with corrupt or nasty authority figures but they don’t deserve to be treated like a god just because of their role or job eg. a friends parent who threatens you needs to be exposed. Stop and think whether this person deserves to see you at your best. Sadly the answer is not always yes.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
This video is very relatable to me and I feel so sorry for myself and others who has had fake friends! Fake friends are the worst! I’m glad I already cut them out of my life!
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I felt this because now whenever I try to talk to her, it always seems forced and not genuine, and she also talked and laughed at me behind my back, I thought her laughing in front of me for whatever I say/do was bad but now it's worse.
Signs someone is a fake friend, They don't support your vision for life and they put you down. They don't man up and apologize when they were wrong They gossip about others behind their back (and probably you behind your back). They take more than they can give. They don't clap when you win. They don't stand up for you. You are friends because you have a similar objective, not a similar mindset. They ridicule you in front of others to make themselves look better. You only have superficial conversations. They would leave you behind if something better comes along. Unless you make plans and organize everything, then you never hang out. They spill your secrets. They tempt you towards bad habits. Your inner circle tells you that person is a fake friend. They ask for help but never offer it. We can make endless lists like this But the fact of the matter is a real friend will accept and love you as who you are and a fake one will treat you as just another side piece in their life. They use you for having fun or for personal gain and toss you aside when something better comes along. THese people are always to be avoided.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Needed this As I am growing as a young adult, I am learning heaps. Learning how to set boundaries and be myself and learning to drive But I have friends and I want to gather more friends who'll be good to me and me to them
I was often told that I never fit anywhere and that I was just too weird to belong in any friend group- especially in my childhood. For years I behaved like someone I was not: forcing myself to interact with wacky or suspicious people, feeling exhausted from all that interaction to a point I could hardly respond to my close ones when they need me, sometimes trying to be the center of attention, and even forcing myself to draw things for them. I cut off with many of these 'friendships'. It was difficult to juggle them as I felt uninterested most of the time and as I said- I did things that I wouldn't typically do just to be in a group of friends. I believe I am a people's pleaser trying to get a grip on my identity and goals, at the same time keeping my few genuine friendships, but I had several of the signs mentioned in the video. All in the effort to belong in groups I probably shouldn't have stepped in the first place. I'm a little messed up from my times of trying to fit in. I have trouble expressing emotion when I talk and I'm definitely hearing comments about me being awkward or cold, but I am doing my best to give the most company and affection to my close ones because they're the only people who really matter to me in the end
I actually appreciate ur channel i mean no one nowadays will give us these types of advices or facts for free and it feels like that u guys can read our minds and post according to that I'm a Libra and I actually think bout these topics. Most of the times I'm like do they think I'm annoying or are they fake around me cuz u never know but I kinda have one genuine best friend and I believe her more than anyone✨if anyone still wants to find a true friend just stay genuine never speak behind someone's back be bold and clear about ur feelings. one day u will find ur true friend i believe
I have this friend I was really close to once upon a time. She made me smile when no one else did. But I realized she wasn't there for me when I needed her, only there because I made her smile but she didn't want to be involved in my issues or pains. She would eventually change schools, never text me unless she was replying to my texts, and misgender me multiple times. She says she's here for me but she isn't. This probably won't be included in the video but yes, she's a fake friend, she's someone I lie to myself about being my friend only to constantly face the fact that she isn't anymore. She isn't the one who is faking, it's me. I hurt myself by holding on.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Thank you for posting videos like these it’s refreshing to see what positive and negative habits you could have. Identifying the espionage within yourself and those around you is half of the fight. Thank you for this video I hope you have a great day and may the odds be ever in your favor
You rly are a true UA-camr who replies to the persons in your comments and not still show that u have more than 9 mil subscribers..... Like at this stage no one pay attention to their audience. Good work keep it up.
As a self aware self centered person I sadly have to relate to most of the fake friend tropes, obviously I want to improve and I am trying but sometimes I simply just stop thinking about improving and do favors only to benefit me/get into friendships for benefits,blame others,try to be the center of attention, lie about saying I couldn't make it to a plan if I didnt want to actually go, and etc So after a while people around me figured out and well I was alone and it was my fault I do take full responsibility, but recently I have been really improving cause of some people I've met that are actually patient with me improving, and I couldn't be more grateful for them cause now I dont actually try to drag a conversation towards me on purpose anyway, and of course other things. Anyways if you read this message fully thank you, have lovely summer you cutie♡
My sister covers most of these especially number 10... that's why we're not close... she's my sister of course I love her but we're not friends.. I don't even have her on social media as a friend.. but my father side of the family have many many fake people.. and my brother and her was raised around those peasants. Who are narcissistic fake fools... by time I was born my parents divorced. So my mother side of the family raised me and I didn't pick.up those traits around those people. My mother side of the family was honestly good people will give the shirt off their back especially my mom's mother who raised me.. I'm thankful to be a genuine person my grandmother , auntie and uncle ( mom's brother and sister). Not saying I'm perfect but I do have a conscience on how I treat people because I don't want to be treated like that.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
She was a true friend to me but in my eyes i saw her as so much more... I genuinely cared abt her and the things she was passionate about and she made me try things that i now actually enjoy spending my free time doing. but now i have to try to move on. she doesnt share the same feelings i do and it hurts but i have to move on with life Thank you for everything Allie.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Honestly I love these videos from this channel because well most points that they use can happen and be something we all end up doing at one point and it kinda says a lot of people in general that often times we see a bad person and say “hey screw u” but this channel makes sure to point out while it’s not a excuse for our actions we often act with a cause which could happen to any of us
I think a lot of people will relate to this video. It’s a good lesson to teach younger ones also! I had a friend who I even lived with for a short period who did 90% of these things. Especially acting as likable as possible to every person they came across. After awhile it didn’t take much to notice when they acted a certain way to entertain and get people to like them. But in turn they always had “high turn over” in friends. Pretty sure I stupidly stuck around way to long to even witness such things when other friends would come and go quickly. Thankfully took the plung and bounced.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I often watch these videos not thinking they would apply to me until they do… I hope I can be less fake and less toxic :( Thank you for helping me identify areas of myself that I can work on.
I have a friend who is fake but at the same time they genuinely struggle because they don't want to be fake, they're just deeply insecure because of the way people have treated them. I see how much they suffer and struggle so I chose to be their friend, to help them feel comfortable being their genuine self instead of putting on that mask and trying to please everyone, it's a WIP, but my belief is that everyone is a WIP and if we helped each other be better instead of just fighting all the time, we'd all evolve way faster! I've also been a fake person before, due to being a bullying victim, I was so scared of not fitting in that I started being fake and trying to please everyone, it caused great harm but I was lucky to have the support I needed to go back to being myself, being a truthful person and being less and less egotistical and defensive. I don't have as much friends now, but the ones I have are my genuine friends, even with their struggles. I'm grateful.
This is so uplifting to me! Last month I quit a group that I have been helping out for three years and I feel liberated. The final straw was three weeks ago, the leader was gossiping to me about something he was doing to my mother and wouldn't stop when I told him I am not on Facebook.
I’ve known friends who would act supportive about someone’s romantic relationship only to turn around (while I’m still there) and whine about how the relationship is taking up that person’s time and trash talk the relationship in general. Like, it’s a romantic relationship, of course they’re going to try to be a bit more invested in that than their friends, because us as friends should’ve already built a foundation where we don’t need to be around each other 24/7 while the romantic one needs more love and care to work at.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
i’m an introvert with diagnosed social anxiety and ptsd from many toxic relationships and trauma from childhood. i struggle making freinds but it help to know what type of people i should avoid because i’m the type of person to go “but they said they’re sorry” when they’ve gaslight me and bullied me online. thanks Phsyc2go ❤️
Ahh.. man.. I needed a video or talk like this, because I have been dealing with people being fake to me for almost 2 years and its been dragging me on and on for so long that my mental health can just tank to a dead stop as soon as I see or remember these "friends" And almost all your points you elaborated on were spot in to what I'm mentally dealing with rn
I’m a fake friend because I’ll laugh at your failures, while helping you back up and giving you support, and having you back when you succeed. I just like to tease, but I expect it back
I’ve basically dropped majority of them and thankfully I did it when I wasn’t feeling hurt anymore. I read people easily now and they don’t like it. People don’t like what they hear , so when they show who they really are, you’ll know.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
If I’m being honest I fell into this because I found myself not wanting to disappoint a friend (people-pleaser heh) so I would go with what they say, what they want to do, and if I ever got annoyed with them I never brought it up along with helping them with things that I now acknowledge to be wrong. I thought this was what friends are supposed to do. Without realising I slowly kept growing resentment inside me for their selfishness and behaviours I genuinely couldn’t tolerate until I became toxic to them too. What bothers me is they think they’re the ‘victim’ in what happened between us so even if I want to talk it out with them they will always use blame against me and want me to take accountability without ever acknowledging they were mistreating me and being toxic too, I’ve tried. It’s like talking to a wall. And this person was my closest friend. It’s so painful. I’ve decided to cut them off because talking to them drains me and it never gets anywhere. It’s lonely as hell. I hope I find better friends and I will definitely become a better friend too
Omg this is exactly what I went thru the resentment grew and I just ghosted. I feel terrible but there’s no use in talking anymore I give up they always want to prove me wrong no matter what even if what they’re saying isn’t even true it’s crazy I don’t care anymore and I’m very lonely but it’s ok summer is here we will make new friends
@@Datb2 exactly that’s literally what’s giving me hope. I hope summer is good this year. And also I agree so much. Whenever I talked to them it’s like they twisted reality so it fits in with their point of view to make me seem like the bad guy instead of actually trying to listen to both sides so both of us can discuss it calmly. It’s like my side is just non-existent to them. It’s so so draining
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
@@Hakoona I feel the same....After 20 years, I think I will ghost my friend as there is no conversation that brings any satisfaction. And I feel I am being emotionally manipulated by him when we talk...
This video is so relatable to me. Well, I'm 16 years old and I don't really have any friends because I'm introverted and shy. I do have some kids my age with whom I communicate, and I know they're fake because they laugh at me when I'm sad or whisper things around me, then act like I'm one of their friends when I have things, and I don't know how to cut them off because I don't want to appear rude or anything. Thanks psych2go for making these wonderful videos all the time. I only have one girl in my class who does everything for me, shes really nice and she's seem genuine than any other classmates I've come across...I believe it is simple to distinguish between a false and genuine buddy.
You need to try to say no and try your best to stay away from them It is okay to refuse them and they have no right to get angry because you dont owe them anything, it's good to hear that a girl who's genuine, you can start to build deeper connections with her (not necessarily a relationship)
It get's better. And it's totally worth it to have high standards with who you call friends. It's been a long road but the friends I've kept at my side are some of the most loving and warm people I've ever met. I love them all dearly and know that they feel the same for me.
Yeah... I can relate to that. However, it probably would be better for you to cut them off if they are so negative towards you. However that depends on the environment. If they're not classmates and are just people you know, don't hang out with them, like if they invite you yo hang out, tell them you're busy or something. You said you are afraid of coming off rude, but that's not rude, just setting boundaries. If they catch on, depending on how they'll act you'll see their true colors. Now if they're classmates it's much easier. Show them you're not interested in them anymore, for example instead of hanging out with them, just watch UA-cam in headphones during breaks. Were they to ask you why are you avoiding them after doing any of these, however, it's best to just tell them the honest reasons as to why. They might understand you or they might not, but it's just generally a good idea to let people know why, so as to not breed further conflict. But yeah, that's about it, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk. I hope this unnecessarily long explanation might be of some help to someone.
Your videos always get uploaded or recommended to me when that exact situation is happening to me. I’ve been having doubts about some people and this perfectly describes the. I also find, ppl only talk to me for their benefit.
I've got this friend, right. She's rich and has bad grades, while I'm kind of the opposite. Just about every week she switches into this high-pitched sweet voice, and says something like "Addi, if you help me with my missing assignments I'll take you to the mall and buy you anything you want!" And yeah, it's tempting. I've never been able to have anything I wanted (I'm getting a job this summer tho). Other than that, we have: - Only ever talks about her new job, her (terrible) relationship with her mom, Justin Bieber, random 17 year olds she found on Snapchat and Omegle, starving herself to be skinny, and when her crop top is too high - Never asks about how I'm doing, but then again, that's most of my friends - Not being able to keep her mouth shut when I tell her about something that happened to me - Pulling me away from my one real friend to ask me if my cruise ship had a waterslide - Denying the fact that she was the one who ruined my relationship with my best friend - Ignores me when she sees me crying in the bathroom - Tells me to "be normal" when I'm trying to do anything fun - Only ever lets us do what she wants to do - Makes tons of dirty jokes and has never made me laugh - Mistakes my remarks about her not caring about me for my anxiety - Altogether being a manipulative bitch who always makes people take her side against me if I'm calling her short or whatever she's lucky she's one of my only friends.
What kind of people do these things? Can't handle conversations that are not about them. flirty. Change their mood from sad to laughing very quickly once you show empathy to them. Cant be alone. Sends you videos crying
This video make’s me realize how many fake friends i’ve had in middle school and elementary school, and I only made good friends recently in high school because before I didn’t have a phone till 9th grade because my dad is strict about it, so a lot of the friends i made would just lose touch and go away, so I just used to lose touch of my friends when i get out of school, and i could meet and talk about things only in school, so it was kinda hard to make genuine friends who actually wanted to be my friend.
Among some friends of mine gossips are not really negative. We tend to gossip cause we are curious to know more about some personal stuff that are not really confidential. But we use gossip as well to better know personal problems and defects in order to be more tactful and useful when needed. Of course, I totally trust these friends
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
As someone who is having a hard time finding friends And got backstabbed by fake people, this really helps me a lot, my 'friends' spreaded fake rumors of me that I lied and that I only became friends with them cause I was paid, ty for posting this it really helps me like alot. :)
I don’t really try too much to identify if someone is fake, mainly because I’m really bad at noticing (lol) but I think it’s better to try to be the best friend you can be and dedicate your energy to that and doing what you gotta do. The real will be with you always and the fakers will take care of themselves.
If there is something I am absolutely grateful for is my closest friends. I've been through very difficult times and they've been my guiding light. No matter the distance we've always been there for each other and I'd do anything in my power for them (as long as I think it's a good thing to do, remember, warning your friends when they are doing a terrible mistake is just as important). I wish everybody to have at least one real friend, because, in my opinion, it's the most important thing in the world.
They pretend to like you so you will trust them that way they can get information from you. Then they use said information against you. If you don’t like someone they will tell that person. If you have a medical issue they will tell everyone to embarrass you or even get you fired from your job. Some bosses think that it is their business to know if you have cancer or some other condition that could result in time off. Many bosses would rather sack you than pay for a potential future sick day. People like this also like to find out things that make you vulnerable like if you live in a remote area or alone for example. They might even inform a dangerous ex-partner of your new location just for the fun of it. These people can be really dangerous. Also the personal information they spread could result in you wanting to end your life. So it might seem like they are harmless but people like this have bad intentions for you and secretly hope your life turns to shit. And when it does they will pretend to be shocked and enquire about who you think was responsible (knowing full well they are). They just want to check that you don’t suspect them so they can continue to hurt you.
When I was younger, I attended dance lessons and I met there a girl with whom I thought I would never become friend. She just didn't seem kind to me. But than I met her in our town and she was really friendly to me and we became friend, or at least I thought that. Years after that she started completly ignoring me every time we met. Well, maybe I should trusted my instinct, that she is not the person she seemed to be.
i used to have been really attached to a friend that act like this. i really love them and i was too naive to realize what they've been doing to me and my other friends for the past few years. we've been friends for 4 years and in the first 2 years our relationship was really okay (for me at least), until someday when they moved out to another country they started to throw a tantrum on us by keep saying that we never care about them and they've been telling us about not having any friends beside us; while actually we really cared for them and always chat and had a call with them everyday and everytime they need someone to talk to. I'd even pick up their calls when im doing assignments or in family gathering just to accompany them talking, while im actually not used to and quite hate phone calls since im an introvert ;;;; but i'll just let those thoughts away everytime they called. and when they said they dont have friends, i often see them posting about them and their friends hanging out together and even they like to tell me that their 'friends' there like to give them gifts. the first till around the 10th time they had done this, i've been always pity them and say sorry that i couldnt be the good friend they wanted me to be. i've always been the one to say sorry, while actually i've also been really tired to deal with people & college and im starting to feel scared being around them.... my other friends have sensed the red flag long ago and started to tell me to try cutting my relationship with them for my own health sake. but i didnt really listen to them because i really love this 'fake' person and i really want them to know that i do really care about them. so my other friends let me to give them a chance and told me to really cut them off if they do something like this again. (there were actually much more red flags than what i've said here. i cant mention all of them obviously- ;;;;) i was always really worried about them since they also ever called me at 3am crying and saying how they wanted to die. at that time i tried to chat and call her multiple times and i also asked my other friends to try reaching out to them bcs im really afraid they'd do something really bad; but they didnt respond until the next day, saying that they were just asleep and everything went back to normal like nothing ever happened. and i acted like that too bcs i was too scared. until it was the beginning of february this year, they started to throw tantrum to me and my other friends in a groupchat again by saying how we didnt care about them and how they've been always holding to tell this to us for years. they told us that we've never been a good friend to them and never talk to them at times they need someone to talk to; then say that they want to cut ties with us and then left the group. i (again) was really worried and tried to chat her personally. and she replied. i kept on saying sorry on how i've never been the good friend they wanted. sorry for not being able to be there for them when they needed someone to talk to. sorry for never been the one to chat first, and etc. and they replied with more capslock sentences and how i should really feel sorry for what i've done. and it was.. really.. really painful.... i've never cried that hard in my entire life.. it was really painful i couldnt bare it. and this was not the only time they have made me feels like this. i dont know how many times have i cried because of them, a friend that i used to really really love and feel comfortable to be around with. my parents and friends were too shocked at how hard i cried bcs of one person, and so, they told us to let this person go. and i decided to actually do it. with the help of my other friends that supported me, finally i realized i was blaming myself too much for what they've become. i realized i was giving too much love and care for this one person while actually neglecting my own health and mental health. their act unconsciously made me feel depressed and bad about myself. they've never even asked me about how my days been/what i've been feeling lately. they've never helped and comforted me when i also need someone to talk to and when i was feeling bad about myself. but yeah i realized there's no use for me to tell them about it bcs i know that they wont even care about it and always ended up talking about themselves. then we've never been talking for 1,5 months. and they started to unfoll me and my other friends on insatgram. i felt a bit of relieved bcs this mean that i dont have to deal with their bshit anymore. but deep down i also still want to befriended with them because they are also one of the person that had given me joy in life. we've been making too much beautiful memories together and i dont want to lose them just like that. but then, not too long after that, they started to chat me again and said sorry for what they've done to me and my other friends. yes, they finally realized how bad they've been treating us and is willing to change. they realized it's actually us who've always been cared and be there for them. they cried while talking to me in call at how they've been feeling really horrible and disgusted about themselves for what kind of person they had become. and so, i forgave them and comforted them, and said that i'd like to fix our relationship with two conditions : that i cant act like these things never happened; and eventhough i said that i still want to befriended with them, it will never be able to be as close as it was when we first met. i might forgive them, but the scar that they left cant really heal. and yeah, we've been talking quite regularly and normally now. and now they understand and is able to respect our own spaces when i dont reply to their chat/call directly. im felling proud of them and i really hope these bad things wont be happening again in the future, and everyone should never be experience these kinds of things with anyone. therefore lets be kind and respect each other to make the society a better and safer environent for everyone! :D and sorry for the long story since i also want to share my own experience here x)
2:01 What about if a person distances from others that are going though hardship because 1. They don't know how to help or know they can't help, and that person is hard to be around when they're upset Or 2. That person is like an unstable piece of tnt, one wrong push or tug will set the whole room ablaze Is that fake or just protecting one's self?
I feel as if this applies to everyone. You'll very rarely ever meet someone who ONLY does things that align with their ideology. There will always be times when you want to be recognized for your effort even if it's something you would have done anyways. There will be people who you need to seem pleasant to even if you wouldn't normally (boss, co-workers, etc.). I think a lot of the time people can be genuine and fake, but it doesn't mean that's all they are.
i have met someone that can cover those 10 signs. they were like genuine friends, but also the fake one. the only think i know that person were fake after i heard someone that close to me tell if they were talking something about me (the last sign). it something like using me like a tools. manipulative person were hard to spotted and glad my close friend saw it. but that happen when i still 13-14 years old. now im 23 years old and i even can know someone traits just looking their face nor listening their voices (tho it's only 70% accurate). this is not recommended, but you somehow still need befriend with those fake friends until they leave you forever. why? because experience was your best teacher, and you need experienced those thing to know someone were fake or genuine.
Been friends with one for 13 yrs he suddenly found a new friend and now hes gone lol. And pretty much I experienced almost every sign that there is in this video in our friendship. Its crazy how I was blind and couldn’t see that he was kind of fake.But life goes on. Now I got more time to focus on my self and basketball
One thing that’s different about my fake friend is the honesty one. She doesn’t mind being called out for her fake behaviour because 1. As someone who’s extremely self-interested, she likes being the subject of a conversation and 2. While she doesn’t care to change her behaviour and she’s not apologetic about it, she does like having someone help her identify the cracks in her mask, so that she can hide her flaws better.
I realized that my friends are so jealous of me and are actually frenimies. Some incidents are 1. I got a chance to do anchoring in college function and my friends two very close friends were so sad that day that everyone started asking me what happened to them. Everyone was praising me that day and they were like they were about to cry. 2. We had to submit an assignment in college till 2 pm and I didn't have the book of that subject so I could not do assignment at home. All three of my close friends completed and submitted their assignment to the teacher even I was asking them to help me. They didn't have book of that subject so I asked them for their assignment so that I can have some idea of the topic and could do it myself they refused. The teacher saw all this and he agreed to hand over one assignment of my friend's assignment to me. But my friend still refused to help. I asked the teacher to give me one day extra so that I could arrange the book and do the assignment. The teacher gave me one day extra and didn't even cut my marks for late submission. There are many more incidents. I hate fake friends ,now I don't talk to these "friends" anymore.
Fake people can actually pose a threat to your physical safety if you end up entering into an agreement with them while you happen to be just recovering from a life-threatening illness and then they proceed to break that agreement while leaving you in a life-threatening situation that leads to a catastrophic relapse of your life-threatening illness. I literally still have not PHYSICALLY recovered back to the point I was at before my fake-best-friend did this to me. They are good actors and I blamed myself for a while for not being able to tell who she really is for so long.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
All my so called friends disappeared when I became a mom and I never went looking for them again because they showed me how fake they were. Don't listen to anyone who tells you need friends because you don't as you'll only end up being hurt. It's not worth it. Enjoy being alone and happy 😊
I wouldn't necessarily say I am fake to my friends but at points that I just got used to do fake stuff and just eventually enjoyed our times together. I didn't really gossip much but I hear many. I don't lie often but as much as I say the truth I also still lie. I don't tend to keep promises but due to the fact I suck at time management but manages to keep up to it. I find it difficult to find friends so I tend to try to appeal people. I always felt distant to people even being surrounded by them or collecting them. As my darkest time came I had no one to reach to. I eventually composed myself and became a bit more genuine? During my darkest times I realized that I thought having something to exchange with a friend is normal but since I was the one failing so I took the initial to back out from the friendship because I don't want to bother them with my problems. Thanks to online friends I was less lonely and eventually came to contact other friends and tell them I had a little problem but I am back up again and just have to clean my mess up. I understood we all have our own things to do and not every time someone will be there for me. I studied psychology and art of communication to fix my communication and I believe it worked ro an extent but I may not be able to recognize it. I had a decent relationship, still feels distant to technically just people and feel more comfortable with my own skin. I still try to appeal people but hopefully with a more effective method. Without losing myself but learning to be better for me and others.
I feel like throughout my life, I had little to no real friends. I dealt with fake people and it’s something that makes me upset. Those types of people can brush you off and use you. It’s not something I tolerate.
I wish I could just find one good, genuine friend. Everyone I’ve ever been friends with has been fake. I’ve never had a sincere friend, I don’t know what it feels like.
2:10 I do have a question since I feel like I'm a bit of both, and I hope somebody can clear that up. So, I love helping people out, stranger or friend, if it's within my power, then the level of help I can give you is based on how much I can also trust you, however, if I end up experiencing that I may have a friend who only takes but never gives, and as a result, I choose to no longer do anything for that person anymore either, does that make me a fake friend? I personally feel like if you're genuinely friends with somebody and you can do favors for each other, one could at least expect to also be helped every now and then, rather than you always helping them, but them never helping you with anything. Not in the sense like "Hey, I cleaned up your room, you owe me." kind of trade, since that's what my older brother did to me. Let's say I'm the friend you can confide in, even get financial help in very dire situations, and somebody you can spend time with, but when I ask you for something similar, and in context of my experience, I get rejected because it does not benefit them, am I the fake friend who expected something back? Does it even count as being a fake friend when any form of relationship is about giving/taking? At best, I'd simply be disappointed if somebody can get everything from me, but I can get nothing from them if I ever need help.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I was fake before and.. it lead to a hurtful end cause I lost my only friends so, I started changing, hanging out with my family, apologizing, and just be me. For the first time, I felt free and I love hanging out with the people I love :))
I have got a lot of problems with fake people. I see myself as an rather independent and bold person, when multiple of my friends has problems with saying no. That leads to fake people trying to use my friends usually does it when I’m not there, or by saying something like ‘I just want to be with my closest friends’ and send out me, and when all of my besties are together, the fakes gossip behind our back. I don’t know what to do!
I have dealt with fake people before. They were only nice to me when they wanted something from me. I began resenting them for asking so much of me, and as soon as I graduated, I immediately cut them off.
4 months ago?how
Time traveler
This video is so relatable to me. Well, I'm 16 years old and I don't really have any friends because I'm introverted and shy. I do have some kids my age with whom I communicate, and I know they're fake because they laugh at me when I'm sad or whisper things around me, then act like I'm one of their friends when I have things, and I don't know how to cut them off because I don't want to appear rude or anything. psych2go Because I only have one girl in my class who does everything for me, I believe it is simple to distinguish between a false and genuine buddy.
@@unknown11215 she got access to the video because she's like a member of this community. Idk how that works but I g she paid early access.
@@chynabarbieeeeee I had such people when I was your age, I'm soon 22 but I'm better off alone. I just embrace selflove. Alot of people are fake this is a fact, don't let movies lie. It's rare to get real but be patient with yourself, they exist, somewhere. 🖤👏
*A TIP* : Don't rush into a relationship. It's important, to have a positive relationship with yourself before you can have a serious, lasting relationship with someone else.
most wholesome comment ❤️
Completely agree, you can’t be honest and genuine with others if you aren’t honest and genuine with yourself first
So true. Even with friends
@@khalilahd. Definitely 👍
I'm in a relationship with myself right now I think I have a crush on me 🤭
From my experience, being "too nice" attracts these types of people a LOT. I used to be a big pushover; I did not know how to be nice while also respecting myself. However, I eventually started being more independent and vocal, which actually scared those people away from me. This also made me more respected and it is helping me find right people in my life. I have not been oblivious to people's true intentions for a while, now. I advise everyone to know when to say "no," as you have every right to do so.
I can relate to everything you have mention. This happened to me and I have been through that.
I have started saying No to people and focusing on myself and it’s helped me a lot.
That's nice.....
Omg yes, mine would suck up like crazy and then go and brag about things
that's nice, I hope you dont I end up in the stages of grief. Seriously tho, I hope everyone is hanging in there the future is unpredictable and stuff, I'm not alive but I'm still breathing :))
Hello fellow too-nicer.. completely feel you fam. It's a double-edged sword!
1. fake people dole out insincere sympathy 0:54
2. fake people avoid accountability 1:22
3. fake people do not make good friends 1:43
4. fake people are usually self-interested 2:09
5. fake people seek to take credit from others 2:39
6. fake people tend to not value honesty 3:01
7. they usually lead people on 3:16
8. fake people are attracted to power 3:29
9. fake people seldom commit 3:56
10. fake people frquently engage in gossip 4:16
I hope I could help!
4 months ago??
@@abanana They're gaming
4 months ago?huh
Thanks time travel. I was in a rush to see it
how... how are you so ahead of time? its scares me
Fake friends are like shadows : always near you at your brightest moments ,but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hours.
True friends are like stars ,you don't see them but they are always there.
this is so nice!
So basically all of my friends are like shadows xD. Went to class and then just broke down crying while none of my "friends" came even when I cried for half an hour. xDD
Kokoro maybe they didn’t know that you are crying.
@@ahmedalhamadi1231 I was literally crying xD
Added another quote!
I hate how many friends have fallen into this category over the years but I’m glad I’ve been about to learn who is truly my friend and who is not 💛
Glad to hear that this helped you!
You have a really beautiful name! ❤️ Also, I totally resonate!
@@Psych2go you’re so kind☺️
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Tip: when facing situations with ‘fake friends,’ it is important to always stay cool and be kind, whilst letting them know what you want to express. Be firm but respectful!
Please don’t try to take revenge or such measures. Always live life as what is satisfactory to you.
Stay cool like Gojo.
Thank you
I needed that.
Well said!
I can't believe this is how I treat my friend and I never even noticed it. I always said I was busy, when in fact, Im not. I feel really guilty about what I have been and I don't think I can even consider myself as a friend anymore. But, I will change. Thank you so much Psych2go for making this video. Thank you, for helping me realize how I've been treating my friend the wrong way and ignored it. Thank you, for letting me know.
Your welcome! You can always fix your mistakes
Thanks for being honest with yourself. It's very good that you admitted what you did!
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
This reminds me of an anime named Oregairu, where the MC refuses to open up and be close to anyone. Then he’s forced to join a club with someone and over time he slowly starts to talk to others. Later on he breaks down and says he wants something genuine.
Meaning he wants to talk to someone who doesn’t fake their emotions with talking to him, someone who only wants to be honest and not hide their true feelings.
It’s relatable since like the video said, fake people tend to be self interested.
Haven't watched it yet. I guess I will give it a try
@@Psych2go Don't guess, just do.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I used to relate to a lot of these, especially during high school. But I think I am slowly learning to become more genuine and honest, for myself especially. Just graduated high school last year and am learning how to be alone. I wanted to let anyone out there who feels like they relate to some of these traits, that with a little humility and acceptance, you are able to change your views :) It's not at all a bad thing
Even though all of this is true we have to remember that this doesn’t define a person. They’re human too and may not realize how they’re treating you or making you feel and you can easily turn a fake friend into a real one just by talking to them about it. That’s how I got my best friend after all.
Yes I agree!
Thanks for sharing this!
ya. idrk. I’d say I’m more wealthy then most people, and I feel like I get used because of that a lot. it’s like, my friend addie rarely talks to me. but when I bring food she likes, she just snatches them literally without asking. i end up with a sandwich and two chips left. And yesterday in history, I finished my notes and she talks to me after a week of silence, “hhhhey Kam!!!! wanna hang out today?! oh wait I can’t I have to finish my history notes. can I borrow urs?!?!
@@khalilahd. Ofc IT define a Person. Just ASK U this For yourself what Kind of human would do such Things. So U rly Wanted to be a friend with someone Like htis ? And remember some are narcisstic and U can never Change and U should Change a Person in the First place so U can be Friends with her . U Sould Like the Person on Ur own
@@kam9910 why do you even talk to her?
I think it's possible for two people to be mutually fake friends with each other. I find workplace "friendships" are often fake and have many of the components mentioned in this video. Often workplace "friends" will resent or be jealous of their fellow workers and pretend to be friends just to "cope" with the workplace environment.
Actually, I never had a work friend... I was always the odd and silent one who doesn't have a friend lol. There was someone who reached out to me during this pandemic after I just posted that I lost someone. But before that, they never did care or anything. So it weirded me out.
True!
The funny thing is I didn’t watch this video to check if i have fake friends, I watched it to check if i am a fake friend
yes same. i feel as if i might not have been treating one of my friends the way i should be
true. same.
Same
haha same, i always watch these types of videos to see if im toxic towards other people without realizing it
Same…
Relateable. I've encountered a lot of fake friends in my life or as I call them fillers in my life. I used to have friendships that I thought were genuine but as time went on I realized they were fake bc they always wanted something or me to help them and I never got help back. I don't have friends anymore bc of this. And I'm happier being alone.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Sorry about this.. all the more reason to hang on to the close, real ones :)
I’ve had some awful friendships over the years, it really brought down my mental health. I am way too trusting in people. But currently I have the bestest friends anyone could ask for, they taught me that not everyone is willing to be a good friend to me. I appreciate them so much ^^
I don't Have Any Friends,So I've Been Lonely For Many Years
I had a fake friend once who I really saw a as a good friend
At the time I didn’t have much friends, then she friended me. I liked that. But something felt…off. It was like she was too friendly, as if she was forcing it. But I shrugged it off. It was just normal, right? Everyone had there own personality’s, right? She’d always sound really happy when she saw me, smile and say “oh hey -name- here”. She also just kinda became my friend right away, no talk or anything.
Then one day, she was laughing with her friend. When I walked back, the laughs only got louder. It puzzled me a bit but I shook it off. Then, she started saying mean things about me
Then started bullying me.
I never said anything to her again, just ignored her and nodded. I know it wasn’t the right thing of me to do and I’m sorry that that, but I just couldn’t face it. If I ended our friendship, that’d make it my fault that our friendship ended.
Luckily where not “friends” anymore. I’ve got new friends and Im really happy with them. If you are being bullied by a friend, you need to do something. Don’t let them drag you down, push you down to the ground and into the dirt. Stand ho to yourself. Whenever it’s speaking up, walking away, clearly showing them there words don’t matter to you, etc. and there’s nothing wrong with the words hurting, it’s natural. I’m not going to be all like, “oh, ignore the words and don’t let them hurt, it’s normal and you are a great person.” I feel like that’s forcing happy emotions on someone and that isn’t healthy. Your allowed to feel sad about it, upset about it. But just know that mixed with that sadness you are a great person, and no one’s opinion can change that. We all have different personalities, and we all need to grow and learn
Hope this message helped, from a human to human
Thanks for sharing your story with us. Glad to hear that you are strong!
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I felt this. My old ‘good’ friend was fake because it seemed more s
I’ve found it really helpful to ‘recategorize’ people in my life. There are few true ‘friends’. Most of the people I’ve thought as friends are either associates, assignments or advisors (see Dharius Daniels’ book Relational Intelligence). Once I got clear about the different roles people play in life, I’ve been able to adjust my expectations of them and me, which has helped me relax and enjoy my relationships much more.
That's really nice
I've been thinking along these lines in recent months and I can feel its the best thing to do based on my gut. It feels more a kin to thr right path, but I struggle with thr hurt of change. I will look up that book, thank you!
@@MrKezzaRHCP if you don’t mind my sharing, I have several videos on this topic. You can find them on my YT channel My Mentor Jane. The more I thought about it, I actually felt relief. Fighting against what had already happened in the relationship, just added unnecessary pressure and guilt. Take care.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I saw a post online that said “Fake friends will compliment you to your face and talk bad behind your back, true friends will talk bad to your face but compliment you behind your back.” Obviously you shouldn’t be rude towards people you care for but jokingly making fun if someone with them is a sign of a strong relationship and trust in eachother!
this pandemic really made me realise that all the friends I had this whole time are all fake. except for one friend. but she’s still friends with the rest of the group and the others hate me for no reason.. they’re always talking behind my back and my friend who has a groupchat with them tells me everything..
i literally dont know what to do. i feel so lonely at school. i don’t understand how some people are still friends with them. im literally only “friends” with them for the sake of having friends at school. i have one more year in highschool and i cant wait for it to end. i wanna start fresh and leave everything and everyone behind. sometimes when i think about it, it is sad. but my mental health is way more important
Be careful for this one friend of yours... they may be reporting your personal life to that group. I hope you find a new group of friends or just a friend.
@@kurisuchiinu1206 true !! that’s why i don’t really tell her anything as well. cause one day, she can betray me too.
I think it would be better that you start elsewhere instead of waiting for something to happen like participate in a workshop at your highschool or going to meeting.
Best of luck on your new journey!
@@Psych2go omg thank youu 😭
Oh my god. Im dealing with this exact problem these past few days. Alot of people left my life and ignored be. After alot of tears and pain. I needed this video. Thank you..
We are glad that this could help you!
"they do good things to be seen and applauded"
such a simple but powerful statement. Definitely reminds me of my ex. There of course was red flags. but I realized he wouldn't tip someone, at a drive-through unless the person was looking at him. It was freaking weird and so narcissistic.
yup!
if you yourself can always be genuine and learn not to need anything from other people and learn how to say no to things it won’t even matter if someone is fake. they won’t be able to get anything from you and will take themselves out of your life. your real friends will be around for no reason at all.
I like people who are genuine and honest because even if we don't have a whole lot in common I feel like it gives something different to the relationship that we can discuss and exchange views on.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Exactly!!
I can relate to the last one A LOT
I lost all my “friends” because they had the audacity to say I don't care about them so I just told them I knew they like gossiping about me
And that I'm not stupid.
Now they just stare at me in the hallway and trying to make small talk but I just ignore them.
I'm better off with no friends anyway.
You got this! There are real friends out there waiting for you :)
I have dealt many at school. I have these three closest friends. They are the only one I can trust but I found out hey only pretend to be nice to get something that they want from me after that they left me alone. I was depressed and until now I still have fake friends. My depression is getting worst. I even call myself dumb, selfish and others because I thought I was not perfect for them 😔😔😔
I honestly feel u there, it’s hard to give ur trust & faith to people and have it betrayed like that which can make it feel harder the next time around and hurts u the most while the people who hurt u get away with everything scotch free :(
The most important thing tho is to not let their selfishness and cruelty have control over u, they don’t deserve to have anything over U
It’s a very difficult process, I understand, but learning to take back what they made u feel has helped me. If u say ur selfish, be selfish, be delusional. Selfish people love themselves and if that’s something u need, go with it. Show them that what they made u feel has made u better and more powerful! They’ll not like the change Bc that means they’ll no longer have control over u but dont people please for them, work on ur self and I hope u can learn that it’s ok to be imperfectly perfect :)
Hope I wasn’t too cringe or forward…I empathize with ur feelings and wish for ur future happiness with ur self! Loving ur self, however overused it is, is genuinely the first step to achieving ur dream reality, whatever it might be. At least even believing u do and staying consistent with the belief will work no matter how much ur brain will try to suppress and reject it
Honestly, I don't know what to say because I'm 15 and I had 'friends' who have used me or people were talking to me (not even my 'friends')if they needed something. Few days after, guess what was happening.. Eh, I will say one thing- I know how you feel, at least in some part but I won't lie to you- idk what you could do to find real friends. I guess, with time and being a good person maybe you will find someone. Cheers, have a good day :)
Sorry to hear that but remember you are not alone and it's not time to feel bad about what happened but learn from it. Stay strong although it's hard but it's not impossible. *hugs*
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
This actually helped me feel like a good friend after some self-reflection during this video. I'm so glad
Yay!
fake friends are everywhere. they come and go and hard to locate. but real friends are with you all the time. take care guys, look out for toxic and fake people and live your best life
i wish ya'll could make a video that's a step by step way on how to be a Nice, Genuine person which would actually help me on my quest to not be a fake person anymore.
Get a Sagittarius to teach you how to be unfiltered. Just say the truth. Especially to friends who ask for your opinion. It doesn’t matter if everyone likes you. You do not need to censor yourself. If people don’t like you don’t let it bother you or you will start to try to change yourself to impress people who are not right for you. People should be given respect only if they deserve it. If someone is constantly bullying others you should work up the courage to tell them that their behaviour is unacceptable and makes them look like a bad person.
Yes you will get in trouble especially with corrupt or nasty authority figures but they don’t deserve to be treated like a god just because of their role or job eg. a friends parent who threatens you needs to be exposed. Stop and think whether this person deserves to see you at your best. Sadly the answer is not always yes.
Follow Dan O'Connor here in UA-cam He teaches what we gonna say in any situation specially how to say no with love
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
This video is very relatable to me and I feel so sorry for myself and others who has had fake friends! Fake friends are the worst! I’m glad I already cut them out of my life!
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Yes!
I felt this because now whenever I try to talk to her, it always seems forced and not genuine, and she also talked and laughed at me behind my back, I thought her laughing in front of me for whatever I say/do was bad but now it's worse.
I DID REACTIONS TO THIS CHAN . I LOVE IT HERE
Signs someone is a fake friend,
They don't support your vision for life and they put you down.
They don't man up and apologize when they were wrong
They gossip about others behind their back (and probably you behind your back).
They take more than they can give.
They don't clap when you win.
They don't stand up for you.
You are friends because you have a similar objective, not a similar mindset.
They ridicule you in front of others to make themselves look better.
You only have superficial conversations.
They would leave you behind if something better comes along.
Unless you make plans and organize everything, then you never hang out.
They spill your secrets.
They tempt you towards bad habits.
Your inner circle tells you that person is a fake friend.
They ask for help but never offer it.
We can make endless lists like this But the fact of the matter is a real friend will accept and love you as who you are and a fake one will treat you as just another side piece in their life. They use you for having fun or for personal gain and toss you aside when something better comes along. THese people are always to be avoided.
True.
im being called out
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Needed this
As I am growing as a young adult, I am learning heaps. Learning how to set boundaries and be myself and learning to drive
But I have friends and I want to gather more friends who'll be good to me and me to them
Glad to hear that :)
I was often told that I never fit anywhere and that I was just too weird to belong in any friend group- especially in my childhood. For years I behaved like someone I was not: forcing myself to interact with wacky or suspicious people, feeling exhausted from all that interaction to a point I could hardly respond to my close ones when they need me, sometimes trying to be the center of attention, and even forcing myself to draw things for them. I cut off with many of these 'friendships'. It was difficult to juggle them as I felt uninterested most of the time and as I said- I did things that I wouldn't typically do just to be in a group of friends. I believe I am a people's pleaser trying to get a grip on my identity and goals, at the same time keeping my few genuine friendships, but I had several of the signs mentioned in the video. All in the effort to belong in groups I probably shouldn't have stepped in the first place.
I'm a little messed up from my times of trying to fit in. I have trouble expressing emotion when I talk and I'm definitely hearing comments about me being awkward or cold, but I am doing my best to give the most company and affection to my close ones because they're the only people who really matter to me in the end
you are very strong!
I actually appreciate ur channel i mean no one nowadays will give us these types of advices or facts for free and it feels like that u guys can read our minds and post according to that I'm a Libra and I actually think bout these topics. Most of the times I'm like do they think I'm annoying or are they fake around me cuz u never know but I kinda have one genuine best friend and I believe her more than anyone✨if anyone still wants to find a true friend just stay genuine never speak behind someone's back be bold and clear about ur feelings. one day u will find ur true friend i believe
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I have this friend I was really close to once upon a time. She made me smile when no one else did. But I realized she wasn't there for me when I needed her, only there because I made her smile but she didn't want to be involved in my issues or pains. She would eventually change schools, never text me unless she was replying to my texts, and misgender me multiple times. She says she's here for me but she isn't. This probably won't be included in the video but yes, she's a fake friend, she's someone I lie to myself about being my friend only to constantly face the fact that she isn't anymore. She isn't the one who is faking, it's me. I hurt myself by holding on.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Sorry about this..
Thank you for posting videos like these it’s refreshing to see what positive and negative habits you could have. Identifying the espionage within yourself and those around you is half of the fight. Thank you for this video I hope you have a great day and may the odds be ever in your favor
Glad you enjoyed it!
thank you for this video, its such an important topic as the quality of our relationships are crucial for our happiness and mental well-being 🥰
Glad we could help!
You rly are a true UA-camr who replies to the persons in your comments and not still show that u have more than 9 mil subscribers..... Like at this stage no one pay attention to their audience. Good work keep it up.
As a self aware self centered person I sadly have to relate to most of the fake friend tropes, obviously I want to improve and I am trying but sometimes I simply just stop thinking about improving and do favors only to benefit me/get into friendships for benefits,blame others,try to be the center of attention, lie about saying I couldn't make it to a plan if I didnt want to actually go, and etc
So after a while people around me figured out and well I was alone and it was my fault I do take full responsibility, but recently I have been really improving cause of some people I've met that are actually patient with me improving, and I couldn't be more grateful for them cause now I dont actually try to drag a conversation towards me on purpose anyway, and of course other things.
Anyways if you read this message fully thank you, have lovely summer you cutie♡
My sister covers most of these especially number 10... that's why we're not close... she's my sister of course I love her but we're not friends.. I don't even have her on social media as a friend.. but my father side of the family have many many fake people.. and my brother and her was raised around those peasants. Who are narcissistic fake fools... by time I was born my parents divorced. So my mother side of the family raised me and I didn't pick.up those traits around those people. My mother side of the family was honestly good people will give the shirt off their back especially my mom's mother who raised me.. I'm thankful to be a genuine person my grandmother , auntie and uncle ( mom's brother and sister). Not saying I'm perfect but I do have a conscience on how I treat people because I don't want to be treated like that.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
ive dealt with so many fake people.. they always use you for stuff and THATS when they are "nice" to you.. :(
Oh hell yes, relatable AF. To be honest, my entire final year has gone in me segregating fake and self_absorbed people from genuine ones
She was a true friend to me but in my eyes i saw her as so much more...
I genuinely cared abt her and the things she was passionate about and she made me try things that i now actually enjoy spending my free time doing. but now i have to try to move on. she doesnt share the same feelings i do and it hurts but i have to move on with life
Thank you for everything Allie.
Aww.. *pat pat*
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Honestly I love these videos from this channel because well most points that they use can happen and be something we all end up doing at one point and it kinda says a lot of people in general that often times we see a bad person and say “hey screw u” but this channel makes sure to point out while it’s not a excuse for our actions we often act with a cause which could happen to any of us
Luv u!
I think a lot of people will relate to this video. It’s a good lesson to teach younger ones also!
I had a friend who I even lived with for a short period who did 90% of these things. Especially acting as likable as possible to every person they came across. After awhile it didn’t take much to notice when they acted a certain way to entertain and get people to like them. But in turn they always had “high turn over” in friends. Pretty sure I stupidly stuck around way to long to even witness such things when other friends would come and go quickly. Thankfully took the plung and bounced.
Not to mention once I left, I saw a status on fb quickly posted as almost an “advertisement” for my replacement. 😅
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I often watch these videos not thinking they would apply to me until they do… I hope I can be less fake and less toxic :( Thank you for helping me identify areas of myself that I can work on.
I have a friend who is fake but at the same time they genuinely struggle because they don't want to be fake, they're just deeply insecure because of the way people have treated them.
I see how much they suffer and struggle so I chose to be their friend, to help them feel comfortable being their genuine self instead of putting on that mask and trying to please everyone, it's a WIP, but my belief is that everyone is a WIP and if we helped each other be better instead of just fighting all the time, we'd all evolve way faster!
I've also been a fake person before, due to being a bullying victim, I was so scared of not fitting in that I started being fake and trying to please everyone, it caused great harm but I was lucky to have the support I needed to go back to being myself, being a truthful person and being less and less egotistical and defensive. I don't have as much friends now, but the ones I have are my genuine friends, even with their struggles. I'm grateful.
This is so uplifting to me! Last month I quit a group that I have been helping out for three years and I feel liberated. The final straw was three weeks ago, the leader was gossiping to me about something he was doing to my mother and wouldn't stop when I told him I am not on Facebook.
Yay!
I’ve known friends who would act supportive about someone’s romantic relationship only to turn around (while I’m still there) and whine about how the relationship is taking up that person’s time and trash talk the relationship in general. Like, it’s a romantic relationship, of course they’re going to try to be a bit more invested in that than their friends, because us as friends should’ve already built a foundation where we don’t need to be around each other 24/7 while the romantic one needs more love and care to work at.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Oh do I ever relate to this video. Learning to avoid fake people is a life long experience.
i’m an introvert with diagnosed social anxiety and ptsd from many toxic relationships and trauma from childhood. i struggle making freinds but it help to know what type of people i should avoid because i’m the type of person to go “but they said they’re sorry” when they’ve gaslight me and bullied me online. thanks Phsyc2go ❤️
Ahh.. man.. I needed a video or talk like this, because I have been dealing with people being fake to me for almost 2 years and its been dragging me on and on for so long that my mental health can just tank to a dead stop as soon as I see or remember these "friends"
And almost all your points you elaborated on were spot in to what I'm mentally dealing with rn
The animation is incredibly decent. I appreciate it..😍🤩
Thank you!
Sometimes we can unintentionally fall into this categories ourselfs, thank goodness this video is here to show us the signs before it's too late 😔😑😌
I’m a fake friend because I’ll laugh at your failures, while helping you back up and giving you support, and having you back when you succeed. I just like to tease, but I expect it back
I’ve dealt with fake friends before. Luckily, my true friends were there and got me out of those fake friendships, and I’m very grateful for that.
I’ve basically dropped majority of them and thankfully I did it when I wasn’t feeling hurt anymore. I read people easily now and they don’t like it. People don’t like what they hear , so when they show who they really are, you’ll know.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
good!
If I’m being honest I fell into this because I found myself not wanting to disappoint a friend (people-pleaser heh) so I would go with what they say, what they want to do, and if I ever got annoyed with them I never brought it up along with helping them with things that I now acknowledge to be wrong. I thought this was what friends are supposed to do. Without realising I slowly kept growing resentment inside me for their selfishness and behaviours I genuinely couldn’t tolerate until I became toxic to them too. What bothers me is they think they’re the ‘victim’ in what happened between us so even if I want to talk it out with them they will always use blame against me and want me to take accountability without ever acknowledging they were mistreating me and being toxic too, I’ve tried. It’s like talking to a wall. And this person was my closest friend. It’s so painful. I’ve decided to cut them off because talking to them drains me and it never gets anywhere. It’s lonely as hell. I hope I find better friends and I will definitely become a better friend too
Omg this is exactly what I went thru the resentment grew and I just ghosted. I feel terrible but there’s no use in talking anymore I give up they always want to prove me wrong no matter what even if what they’re saying isn’t even true it’s crazy I don’t care anymore and I’m very lonely but it’s ok summer is here we will make new friends
It was exhausting having conversations
@@Datb2 exactly that’s literally what’s giving me hope. I hope summer is good this year. And also I agree so much. Whenever I talked to them it’s like they twisted reality so it fits in with their point of view to make me seem like the bad guy instead of actually trying to listen to both sides so both of us can discuss it calmly. It’s like my side is just non-existent to them. It’s so so draining
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
@@Hakoona I feel the same....After 20 years, I think I will ghost my friend as there is no conversation that brings any satisfaction. And I feel I am being emotionally manipulated by him when we talk...
It seems like whenever a problem pops up in my life this channel is here to help me with it :D
I think seeing this on my timeline is a sign, because I’ve been questioning my friendship with someone.
This video is so relatable to me. Well, I'm 16 years old and I don't really have any friends because I'm introverted and shy. I do have some kids my age with whom I communicate, and I know they're fake because they laugh at me when I'm sad or whisper things around me, then act like I'm one of their friends when I have things, and I don't know how to cut them off because I don't want to appear rude or anything. Thanks psych2go for making these wonderful videos all the time. I only have one girl in my class who does everything for me, shes really nice and she's seem genuine than any other classmates I've come across...I believe it is simple to distinguish between a false and genuine buddy.
You need to try to say no and try your best to stay away from them
It is okay to refuse them and they have no right to get angry because you dont owe them anything, it's good to hear that a girl who's genuine, you can start to build deeper connections with her (not necessarily a relationship)
It get's better. And it's totally worth it to have high standards with who you call friends. It's been a long road but the friends I've kept at my side are some of the most loving and warm people I've ever met. I love them all dearly and know that they feel the same for me.
I am too 16 and same situation 😢
Yeah... I can relate to that.
However, it probably would be better for you to cut them off if they are so negative towards you. However that depends on the environment. If they're not classmates and are just people you know, don't hang out with them, like if they invite you yo hang out, tell them you're busy or something. You said you are afraid of coming off rude, but that's not rude, just setting boundaries. If they catch on, depending on how they'll act you'll see their true colors.
Now if they're classmates it's much easier. Show them you're not interested in them anymore, for example instead of hanging out with them, just watch UA-cam in headphones during breaks. Were they to ask you why are you avoiding them after doing any of these, however, it's best to just tell them the honest reasons as to why. They might understand you or they might not, but it's just generally a good idea to let people know why, so as to not breed further conflict.
But yeah, that's about it, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk. I hope this unnecessarily long explanation might be of some help to someone.
Me too. I've had a fake friend.
Your videos always get uploaded or recommended to me when that exact situation is happening to me. I’ve been having doubts about some people and this perfectly describes the. I also find, ppl only talk to me for their benefit.
growing up in fake people’s family is quite painful and confused.
Heck thats true, in my case each has a different personality but most are just narcissistic or something like that
I've got this friend, right. She's rich and has bad grades, while I'm kind of the opposite. Just about every week she switches into this high-pitched sweet voice, and says something like "Addi, if you help me with my missing assignments I'll take you to the mall and buy you anything you want!" And yeah, it's tempting. I've never been able to have anything I wanted (I'm getting a job this summer tho). Other than that, we have:
- Only ever talks about her new job, her (terrible) relationship with her mom, Justin Bieber, random 17 year olds she found on Snapchat and Omegle, starving herself to be skinny, and when her crop top is too high
- Never asks about how I'm doing, but then again, that's most of my friends
- Not being able to keep her mouth shut when I tell her about something that happened to me
- Pulling me away from my one real friend to ask me if my cruise ship had a waterslide
- Denying the fact that she was the one who ruined my relationship with my best friend
- Ignores me when she sees me crying in the bathroom
- Tells me to "be normal" when I'm trying to do anything fun
- Only ever lets us do what she wants to do
- Makes tons of dirty jokes and has never made me laugh
- Mistakes my remarks about her not caring about me for my anxiety
- Altogether being a manipulative bitch who always makes people take her side against me if I'm calling her short or whatever
she's lucky she's one of my only friends.
What kind of people do these things?
Can't handle conversations that are not about them.
flirty.
Change their mood from sad to laughing very quickly once you show empathy to them.
Cant be alone.
Sends you videos crying
This video make’s me realize how many fake friends i’ve had in middle school and elementary school, and I only made good friends recently in high school because before I didn’t have a phone till 9th grade because my dad is strict about it, so a lot of the friends i made would just lose touch and go away, so I just used to lose touch of my friends when i get out of school, and i could meet and talk about things only in school, so it was kinda hard to make genuine friends who actually wanted to be my friend.
Among some friends of mine gossips are not really negative. We tend to gossip cause we are curious to know more about some personal stuff that are not really confidential. But we use gossip as well to better know personal problems and defects in order to be more tactful and useful when needed. Of course, I totally trust these friends
cool!
Totally couldn't agree more with the points made in this video!
Thank you for the videos!
Glad you like them!
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
As someone who is having a hard time finding friends And got backstabbed by fake people, this really helps me a lot, my 'friends' spreaded fake rumors of me that I lied and that I only became friends with them cause I was paid, ty for posting this it really helps me like alot. :)
I don’t really try too much to identify if someone is fake, mainly because I’m really bad at noticing (lol) but I think it’s better to try to be the best friend you can be and dedicate your energy to that and doing what you gotta do. The real will be with you always and the fakers will take care of themselves.
If there is something I am absolutely grateful for is my closest friends.
I've been through very difficult times and they've been my guiding light.
No matter the distance we've always been there for each other and I'd do anything in my power for them (as long as I think it's a good thing to do, remember, warning your friends when they are doing a terrible mistake is just as important).
I wish everybody to have at least one real friend, because, in my opinion, it's the most important thing in the world.
They pretend to like you so you will trust them that way they can get information from you. Then they use said information against you. If you don’t like someone they will tell that person. If you have a medical issue they will tell everyone to embarrass you or even get you fired from your job. Some bosses think that it is their business to know if you have cancer or some other condition that could result in time off. Many bosses would rather sack you than pay for a potential future sick day. People like this also like to find out things that make you vulnerable like if you live in a remote area or alone for example. They might even inform a dangerous ex-partner of your new location just for the fun of it. These people can be really dangerous. Also the personal information they spread could result in you wanting to end your life. So it might seem like they are harmless but people like this have bad intentions for you and secretly hope your life turns to shit. And when it does they will pretend to be shocked and enquire about who you think was responsible (knowing full well they are). They just want to check that you don’t suspect them so they can continue to hurt you.
When I was younger, I attended dance lessons and I met there a girl with whom I thought I would never become friend. She just didn't seem kind to me. But than I met her in our town and she was really friendly to me and we became friend, or at least I thought that. Years after that she started completly ignoring me every time we met. Well, maybe I should trusted my instinct, that she is not the person she seemed to be.
i used to have been really attached to a friend that act like this. i really love them and i was too naive to realize what they've been doing to me and my other friends for the past few years.
we've been friends for 4 years and in the first 2 years our relationship was really okay (for me at least), until someday when they moved out to another country they started to throw a tantrum on us by keep saying that we never care about them and they've been telling us about not having any friends beside us; while actually we really cared for them and always chat and had a call with them everyday and everytime they need someone to talk to. I'd even pick up their calls when im doing assignments or in family gathering just to accompany them talking, while im actually not used to and quite hate phone calls since im an introvert ;;;; but i'll just let those thoughts away everytime they called. and when they said they dont have friends, i often see them posting about them and their friends hanging out together and even they like to tell me that their 'friends' there like to give them gifts.
the first till around the 10th time they had done this, i've been always pity them and say sorry that i couldnt be the good friend they wanted me to be. i've always been the one to say sorry, while actually i've also been really tired to deal with people & college and im starting to feel scared being around them.... my other friends have sensed the red flag long ago and started to tell me to try cutting my relationship with them for my own health sake. but i didnt really listen to them because i really love this 'fake' person and i really want them to know that i do really care about them. so my other friends let me to give them a chance and told me to really cut them off if they do something like this again. (there were actually much more red flags than what i've said here. i cant mention all of them obviously- ;;;;)
i was always really worried about them since they also ever called me at 3am crying and saying how they wanted to die. at that time i tried to chat and call her multiple times and i also asked my other friends to try reaching out to them bcs im really afraid they'd do something really bad; but they didnt respond until the next day, saying that they were just asleep and everything went back to normal like nothing ever happened. and i acted like that too bcs i was too scared.
until it was the beginning of february this year, they started to throw tantrum to me and my other friends in a groupchat again by saying how we didnt care about them and how they've been always holding to tell this to us for years. they told us that we've never been a good friend to them and never talk to them at times they need someone to talk to; then say that they want to cut ties with us and then left the group.
i (again) was really worried and tried to chat her personally. and she replied. i kept on saying sorry on how i've never been the good friend they wanted. sorry for not being able to be there for them when they needed someone to talk to. sorry for never been the one to chat first, and etc. and they replied with more capslock sentences and how i should really feel sorry for what i've done. and it was.. really.. really painful.... i've never cried that hard in my entire life.. it was really painful i couldnt bare it. and this was not the only time they have made me feels like this. i dont know how many times have i cried because of them, a friend that i used to really really love and feel comfortable to be around with. my parents and friends were too shocked at how hard i cried bcs of one person, and so, they told us to let this person go. and i decided to actually do it.
with the help of my other friends that supported me, finally i realized i was blaming myself too much for what they've become. i realized i was giving too much love and care for this one person while actually neglecting my own health and mental health. their act unconsciously made me feel depressed and bad about myself. they've never even asked me about how my days been/what i've been feeling lately. they've never helped and comforted me when i also need someone to talk to and when i was feeling bad about myself. but yeah i realized there's no use for me to tell them about it bcs i know that they wont even care about it and always ended up talking about themselves.
then we've never been talking for 1,5 months. and they started to unfoll me and my other friends on insatgram. i felt a bit of relieved bcs this mean that i dont have to deal with their bshit anymore. but deep down i also still want to befriended with them because they are also one of the person that had given me joy in life. we've been making too much beautiful memories together and i dont want to lose them just like that.
but then, not too long after that, they started to chat me again and said sorry for what they've done to me and my other friends. yes, they finally realized how bad they've been treating us and is willing to change. they realized it's actually us who've always been cared and be there for them. they cried while talking to me in call at how they've been feeling really horrible and disgusted about themselves for what kind of person they had become. and so, i forgave them and comforted them, and said that i'd like to fix our relationship with two conditions : that i cant act like these things never happened; and eventhough i said that i still want to befriended with them, it will never be able to be as close as it was when we first met. i might forgive them, but the scar that they left cant really heal.
and yeah, we've been talking quite regularly and normally now. and now they understand and is able to respect our own spaces when i dont reply to their chat/call directly. im felling proud of them and i really hope these bad things wont be happening again in the future, and everyone should never be experience these kinds of things with anyone. therefore lets be kind and respect each other to make the society a better and safer environent for everyone! :D and sorry for the long story since i also want to share my own experience here x)
What an essay! Thank you for sharing this
Honestly I had a friend who really screwed me over and she did a LOT of these things. I feel like I should've been more aware
It's okay! now you're aware :)
2:01
What about if a person distances from others that are going though hardship because
1. They don't know how to help or know they can't help, and that person is hard to be around when they're upset
Or
2. That person is like an unstable piece of tnt, one wrong push or tug will set the whole room ablaze
Is that fake or just protecting one's self?
I feel as if this applies to everyone. You'll very rarely ever meet someone who ONLY does things that align with their ideology. There will always be times when you want to be recognized for your effort even if it's something you would have done anyways. There will be people who you need to seem pleasant to even if you wouldn't normally (boss, co-workers, etc.). I think a lot of the time people can be genuine and fake, but it doesn't mean that's all they are.
One thing my dad taught me is: If your friends are talking badly about someone, they are most likely to talk bad about you
i have met someone that can cover those 10 signs. they were like genuine friends, but also the fake one. the only think i know that person were fake after i heard someone that close to me tell if they were talking something about me (the last sign). it something like using me like a tools. manipulative person were hard to spotted and glad my close friend saw it.
but that happen when i still 13-14 years old. now im 23 years old and i even can know someone traits just looking their face nor listening their voices (tho it's only 70% accurate).
this is not recommended, but you somehow still need befriend with those fake friends until they leave you forever. why? because experience was your best teacher, and you need experienced those thing to know someone were fake or genuine.
Been friends with one for 13 yrs he suddenly found a new friend and now hes gone lol. And pretty much I experienced almost every sign that there is in this video in our friendship. Its crazy how I was blind and couldn’t see that he was kind of fake.But life goes on. Now I got more time to focus on my self and basketball
One thing that’s different about my fake friend is the honesty one. She doesn’t mind being called out for her fake behaviour because 1. As someone who’s extremely self-interested, she likes being the subject of a conversation and 2. While she doesn’t care to change her behaviour and she’s not apologetic about it, she does like having someone help her identify the cracks in her mask, so that she can hide her flaws better.
I realized that my friends are so jealous of me and are actually frenimies. Some incidents are
1. I got a chance to do anchoring in college function and my friends two very close friends were so sad that day that everyone started asking me what happened to them. Everyone was praising me that day and they were like they were about to cry.
2. We had to submit an assignment in college till 2 pm and I didn't have the book of that subject so I could not do assignment at home. All three of my close friends completed and submitted their assignment to the teacher even I was asking them to help me. They didn't have book of that subject so I asked them for their assignment so that I can have some idea of the topic and could do it myself they refused. The teacher saw all this and he agreed to hand over one assignment of my friend's assignment to me. But my friend still refused to help. I asked the teacher to give me one day extra so that I could arrange the book and do the assignment. The teacher gave me one day extra and didn't even cut my marks for late submission.
There are many more incidents. I hate fake friends ,now I don't talk to these "friends" anymore.
So what do I do about this then? Cutting these people out has only ever left me isolated
Fake people can actually pose a threat to your physical safety if you end up entering into an agreement with them while you happen to be just recovering from a life-threatening illness and then they proceed to break that agreement while leaving you in a life-threatening situation that leads to a catastrophic relapse of your life-threatening illness. I literally still have not PHYSICALLY recovered back to the point I was at before my fake-best-friend did this to me. They are good actors and I blamed myself for a while for not being able to tell who she really is for so long.
Omg- 1:05 i love the Basil drawing you used as the example of an art work- :0
glad to be a 1 in a million, genuine people are superior!
My friends only contacts me when they want something from me...
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
Sorry about this. red flag!
I am allowed to say no to others and yes to myself.😇
All my so called friends disappeared when I became a mom and I never went looking for them again because they showed me how fake they were. Don't listen to anyone who tells you need friends because you don't as you'll only end up being hurt. It's not worth it. Enjoy being alone and happy 😊
Remember, friendships should be two sided, not two faced
I wouldn't necessarily say I am fake to my friends but at points that I just got used to do fake stuff and just eventually enjoyed our times together. I didn't really gossip much but I hear many. I don't lie often but as much as I say the truth I also still lie. I don't tend to keep promises but due to the fact I suck at time management but manages to keep up to it. I find it difficult to find friends so I tend to try to appeal people. I always felt distant to people even being surrounded by them or collecting them. As my darkest time came I had no one to reach to. I eventually composed myself and became a bit more genuine? During my darkest times I realized that I thought having something to exchange with a friend is normal but since I was the one failing so I took the initial to back out from the friendship because I don't want to bother them with my problems.
Thanks to online friends I was less lonely and eventually came to contact other friends and tell them I had a little problem but I am back up again and just have to clean my mess up. I understood we all have our own things to do and not every time someone will be there for me. I studied psychology and art of communication to fix my communication and I believe it worked ro an extent but I may not be able to recognize it.
I had a decent relationship, still feels distant to technically just people and feel more comfortable with my own skin. I still try to appeal people but hopefully with a more effective method. Without losing myself but learning to be better for me and others.
I actually have a fake freind but never knew if he’s fake or not. Thank you so much for uploading this it means a lot to me. Thank you.
I feel like throughout my life, I had little to no real friends. I dealt with fake people and it’s something that makes me upset. Those types of people can brush you off and use you. It’s not something I tolerate.
I wish I could just find one good, genuine friend. Everyone I’ve ever been friends with has been fake. I’ve never had a sincere friend, I don’t know what it feels like.
Did I relate to his video? Girl did I. Thank you so much. Stay awesome 😁
2:10 I do have a question since I feel like I'm a bit of both, and I hope somebody can clear that up.
So, I love helping people out, stranger or friend, if it's within my power, then the level of help I can give you is based on how much I can also trust you, however, if I end up experiencing that I may have a friend who only takes but never gives, and as a result, I choose to no longer do anything for that person anymore either, does that make me a fake friend? I personally feel like if you're genuinely friends with somebody and you can do favors for each other, one could at least expect to also be helped every now and then, rather than you always helping them, but them never helping you with anything. Not in the sense like "Hey, I cleaned up your room, you owe me." kind of trade, since that's what my older brother did to me.
Let's say I'm the friend you can confide in, even get financial help in very dire situations, and somebody you can spend time with, but when I ask you for something similar, and in context of my experience, I get rejected because it does not benefit them, am I the fake friend who expected something back? Does it even count as being a fake friend when any form of relationship is about giving/taking? At best, I'd simply be disappointed if somebody can get everything from me, but I can get nothing from them if I ever need help.
Those fake friends are hating on you in plain sight I promise, they gonna be nice to your face but have hidden intentions it’s like they got demons inside them and those people from your past will hate you and talk bad because they see you’re doing fine without them. You can’t even flex on your haters because that evil eye shit is real man anyway I just made a vid going deep on all this stay blessed 🙏
I relate to being a victim of these people over and over again. Glad I found people who are genuine
happy for you!
I was fake before and.. it lead to a hurtful end cause I lost my only friends so, I started changing, hanging out with my family, apologizing, and just be me. For the first time, I felt free and I love hanging out with the people I love :))
I have got a lot of problems with fake people. I see myself as an rather independent and bold person, when multiple of my friends has problems with saying no. That leads to fake people trying to use my friends usually does it when I’m not there, or by saying something like ‘I just want to be with my closest friends’ and send out me, and when all of my besties are together, the fakes gossip behind our back. I don’t know what to do!