In my car one afternoon awhile back while I was driving, I looked over and caught him with his head facing forward like normal, but he was looking out the corner of his eyes with the most God awful look. Looking at me. It actually made me burst into tears. He did not think I would look over, and i could tell I caught him off guard. An Empty, shallow, contemptuous, absolutely disgusted look. Wish I could forget it. Wish I had left sooner. It's been a struggle today for some reason. Heart broken. 1.5 yrs no contact so far. Anyone out there whos struggling, keep fighting the good fight. And I'll do the same
He used to tell me it was in my head when I said he looked so disgusted when he looked at me. He used to state at me full of love. Then the words ended up matching. Telling me how repulsive I was.
Aww sweety, I wish I could hug u right now! He doesn’t deserve u meditating over him. I’m in the midst of planning my departure with 3 kids. I told myself I never want to communicate with him after even before finding out about no contact cold turkey! Just pick up the kids from daycare on his weekends and drop them off Monday mornings and leave me the heck alone forever!
When a normal person likes you, their pupils dilate. Narc's are always so tiny, especially in pictures where they are acting full of happiness & joy....it is all an act, they are cold...cold....cold.
Demonic. I know someone who is in management position, whom I report too has creepy beedy pupils. Though I have strong eye contact and X-ray vision, I am a child of the most high God. As the Bible will tell you that, the eyes are the windows into the soul. A narcissists can make strong eye contact with you but it is nothing there. No passion. No compassion. Nothing soft or safe. It is the eyes of satan which you see through a narcissists eyes. To God be the glory.
Actually, when she had me idealised, I had read on a dating/body language site that when someone is attracted to you their pupils dilate. I was looking into her eyes to try to see anything. I just saw the void. ☠️
I have said that numerous times, I fell in love with myself. He showed me a part of who he was by mirroring me, when it seems too good to be true, it is, RUN. I may be an asshole at times but in the end, I am a decent woman. When he looked at me there were times that look made me feel secure, loved, and beautiful. There were times his stare was just that, empty a soul that was dark. One year NC, I shake my head that I got sucked into his bullshit. I learned to forgive myself, I owe him nothing.
During the golden period, he would stare at me and watch me from besides, while I was driving..not saying one single word. Felt hypnotic to me. Disturbing. 3 months later came the moment I was discarded. In public. Out of NOWHERE. Icecold blue eyes. Empty. Looking at me as if he didn't even know me. A complete different person than he was 5 minutes before. Complete personality shift. I was left in trauma.
When I got that stare for the last time, I actually wrote about it in my diary and recorded that "his eyes even seemed to change colour". I escaped and was gone less than two weeks later.
This is one of my favorites. For anyone who has been ensnared by a narcissist has witnessed all these different stares. You have described them perfectly.
He stared at me like he hated me. I will never forget it . It scared me . I had no idea what I was dealing with at the time. Now I know . These people are 😈
This has to be the truest and the most creepy thing I've seen yet. I was given 18 roses every week until the wedding day and during the vows he gave me that Psychopathic look that you are describing almost contemptuous as if to DARE me to say I do. I wanted to run away. I was only 20. A malignant narcissist is dangerous to look at
I'm a empath, too nice too giving too caring, and it has got me nothing but used, by parent sibling, family and relationship, as soon as I put my foot down and say no they all can't stand me , so now I learn to only care , give to myself, now they doing smear campaign and I could care less , because I'm also a introvert , who is a loner , I enjoy my own company I leave most family alone and love them from afar, I have cut off relationships and friendships without feeling sorry about it, when I find out they were using lying and most of them narcissist
Lol I get exactly where your coming from, I feel like I have a secret rainbow and more within, but I have to hide, and almost act in a complete opposite manner than who I intrinsically am in order to hide this....😂😂 I’m laughing because I totally relate to what you said, however when left to my own thoughts it makes me sad to the core to know that you have to hide certain aspects of self, while cloaking them with others in order to survive because people with these traits will try to take you down from within...... knowledge of self and others will definitely offer maximum protection in this world. In order to defeat evil (metaphorically speaking) you have to study them, and always be mentally prepared to match their wicked( for protection purposes of coarse and not just mere revenge). Let them act in such animalistic ways, I’ll rather be a warrior than a savage bully I mean how weak is that. I’m a super empath and matching their evil goes against my nature in all elements but we are here and you have to be able to protect yourself as best you can, if you know then you know, we hate causing trouble and we hate negative energy, but I’ve learnt that petals will get crushed if they are not protected and well looked after. ❤️. Thank you for this video.
My mother randomly snaps and stares at you like she's going to kill you. Pure contempt. I think she knows how terrifying it is and she uses it to intimidate people. I've also never in my life seen her act authentic around other people. It's like she is wearing a human suit, mimicking human interaction.
My mother was the same. Your description is very apt. It's like they squeeze all the joy out of your soul. Sometimes I'm okay and other times I'm not and it's always about the rejection games she used to play.
I’ve been waiting for this one- those dolls’ eyes shark eyes- that stare that tries to steal one’s soul. That stare shows hell and damnation. I remember seeing it and also giving the stare- that taunting that daring.
Never noticed the stare. Accidently caught a look of rage quickly flash across his face. It was gone when I did a double-take. After that I always saw HIM, his eyes were dull, he felt empty, cold, there was hate in his smile.
What you happen catch was his body language ....what they call micro expressions . .that micro expression can last for a small fraction of time ...very fleeting ...look up or do a search called... duping delight ... or dupers delight ......its a smirk that people do when they think they got away with a lie or pulled the wool over your eyes .....coupled together with the narc stare .....very primevil at most
I finally saw the third one yesterday and it was the darkest thing I have ever encountered in my life. I was at a festival that he was at and he didn’t want me to be at. He kept hovering around my campsite and I managed to ignore him until he literally walked and stood directly in between me and the stage. Turned around as if surveying the crowd and looked directly at me. Made eye contact and gave me that stare. Turned around and walked away. Right over to his new supply. I had to laugh a little inside. Because he is so predictable. Thank you for explaining this all because it just helps me see who he really is. And these videos have helped me get my power back. 😊
Not being emotionally savey , I allowed myself to marry a perverse narcissist at a young age, then after getting out with my life, some years later walked eyes open into a long term relationship with another one. Got out again, broken but alive, All confidence in my ability to choose wisely , gone. Hence I have consciously withdrawn from the mating game.
I wish I knew all that while I fell to more than one narc. One was so horribly horrible, that it truly broke me in like a thousand places. The mind games. I really thought I was suffering from delusions and some kind of disorder. I am so greatful to have found this content. It changed my life.
I saw that stare where his eyes were just empty.his pupil dark shiny but it showed me how cold he is. That was during the devaluing period. His eyes were dark and soulless
When I first caught her off guard in between mimicking and mirroring, I looked into her eyes and there was absolutely no one there. Very creepy. The emptiness is like something out of a horror film.
Yes that was actually the final nail in the coffin of our 20 year marriage. He was sitting the other side of the table. I said please look at me I was going to try and talk. He looked up from eating stared at me his eyes wide open they were intense pale blue I was completely shocked at the hate the contempt the disgust in them he then looked down it was gone. 12 years later I can remember that stare
I was in bed sound asleep, woke up to mid range standing next to my bed just staring down at me. I pretended I was rolling over in my sleep still feeling him staring down at me. He stood there for another minute then left. What the hell??!!! Scariest thing ever, I kept waiting for him to attack me while I ‘slept’!
The first time I saw the stare I initially though he had been crying because the way the eyes looked, it was only after I was no longer with him that I realized that initial stare was the stare of an empty, malicious, and him getting ready to begin devaluating me. I knew that look was weird and I had never seen it before. Is almost like the demon finally manifested.. creepy!!
HG when I learned about my narcissistic boyfriend you taught me🎯 when I saw that look 😬you're talkin about !and I did not ask no questions ,when I saw your video📽 and it said when you know you go🏃♀️ all I can do is say thank you💪
I precisely remember that stare full of hate n envy hollow dark stare during devaluation and the mirroring of emotions and brightness when i provided what was needed
My ex narc would stare in my eyes after emotional abuse so he could see the confusion and pain. He would enjoy it. A real sicko. I also remember the times of contempt and prolonged silence. So glad I am away from that hell on earth.
OMG! The narcissist turned into a demon right in front of my eyes three times one of which was because I was going home after spending a week at his house as a captive literally. His supply was getting away again. I have never seen anything like it. It scared me beyond words. He is 6'4" Scorpio with a house full of weapons. I am so fortunate to have made it home as he had to drive me. This is after many discards of him on my part. I was trying to make it work out several times. I formed a trauma bond as a empath. He told me after 5 weeks that he had never felt this way before for another and that he loved me. I did not believe him. In the end he had devalued me to zero. The entire relationship was 6 months long. This has caused so much deep pain which has caused me to go deep and heal my wounds that caused me to be weak for a narcissist most of my life.
Dead behind the eyes. They stare as they are preying on you. Is this why they said "I can see it in your eyes" when he insisted I wanted him when I was in fact repulsed by him?
I saw each one through each phase of the relationship. The "loving" one who drew you in so perfectly. I also saw that blank stare when I asked him to help me with something. He didn't say a word...just that stare. Then in devalue, his beautiful blue eyes went black, his handsome face, not anymore. His evil stare and again, said nothing.
I use to date a guy and he was angry at me but was trying to act happy but I was looking at his eyes even the white of his eyes was black. He looked like a demon and I left him. I had never seen anything like that unless on a scary movie. That was really terrifying.
H. G. Tudor. This video is so spot on. My narc had light green eyes. The love stare, such exotic eyes. The empty stare, like he was looking thru me and not at me. Then the reptilian demon face. The pointy eyes AND ears. And the angry red face, is he really Lucifer? I finally went no contact. Thank God.
I used to ask him "where did you go?" "Are you zoned out?" "What's happening?" I've experienced to all three unfortunately. The last one the appearance of a demonic possession was the most horrendous!
I will never forget the stare and the worst feeling of seeing the darkness when I was least expecting. My ET didn’t let me believe when I first saw it at the beginning of the relationship. If there is one thing I can advise is - trust your feelings! Your ET will trick you! Thank you HG for all you do! 🖤
Thank you for this example of the stair. You are the first to talk about the seductive stair of a narcissist. My ex narcissist stared into every single woman's eyes that he met. And it made me so crazy. All he could say to me was, " You can't possibly know what I'm looking at" really??? It would be impossible for me to miss it as they are always staring back at him almost to the point of a car accident sometimes.
Thank you, This video is an amazingly accurate description of the phases of narcissistic abuse through the narcissists gaze!!!! Bravo! You nailed it ! I'm impressed at how you seamlessly educate the listeners and allow us to enter the mind of a narcissist. It gives me insight on how a narcissistic man I know is pursuing me ( I'm a female coworker ). He is married and so am I. He keeps pushing my boundaries and my interactions with him are arousing. He wants what I want. He desires himself in the reflections in my eyes. My eyes are a mirror. When I ask him questions, he avoids answering and becomes more inquisitive about me. Then the next day he is cold and treats me with disdain. Then he can be rude/ cruel. Then he softens and compliments me, telling me that I'm just like him. Then he begins to drink me in with his eyes again. I am very aware of what he is doing. I can see how some women could get addicted to this even though it is masochistic.
I hate the stare. I ignore it and do all I can to not give it fuel, but inside I feel so creeped out. Thanks HG for explaining the different kinds of stares and what they mean. That helps.
@@stacielivinthedream8510 that’s really interesting. I believe that my mother-in-law had narc tendencies, and she was a very jealous person, not really ever happy with herself. Also interesting after hearing HG’s video on MM imitating Diana.
You never cease to blow my mind with how much you know. I experienced ALL of these states. I remember them all very well and I saw each one as you explained them. Absolutely incredible.
It wasn't only his face which became distorted. His voice rasped , changed tone and pitch. It was the first time I didn't recognise my husband in the 16 years we had been together. It frightened me so much that I flew down the staircase. I ran from his house and didn't look back . I still have nightmares from time to time. That was from more than two years after leaving him.
I've pray and pray that I break this soul-tie from my ex narc, this going NC thing is soooooo hard. I've experienced all the stares/glances it's been times when I literally yelled " STOP FUCKIN LOOKING AT ME" !!!
It's like one of the demons in their minds takes over, I remember seeing it in my ex, similar to that of a shark, truly frightening don't know why i stayed with her so long
I have want through your channel and website ,, I found you for a reason! Thank you for the closure!! Thank you for the memories,, thank you for the clarity!! Your the King!
My nex used to do that in bed. What used to be a state of adoration degenerated into that horrible vacant stare. I couldn't look at him, it was a soul destroying experience. I honestly think that that was one of the most powerfully destructive actions my nex took. I only saw the devaluation stare a few times, just before he had a temper tantrum. He was a covert narcassist, he didn't often drop his mask, the behaviours were subtle and manipulative. It was so confusing.
My ex did this! I didn’t know it was a “thing”! Initially, when we met, this is how he locked me in control. This seems there is also how he dominated dogs to train them so I can equate myself to a dog in his mind women in the family all of them commented about his stare, and how unnerving it was, how inappropriate he felt. Even the young men in the family, he tried to control commented about how he stared. I have only been no contact for 3 1/2 months after a domestic violence and he was arrested and now he’s trying to get the restraining order modified for the divorce contact. I will only talk via email if that is the case. I will never speak to this sick person again. He is evil.
Do some narcissists avoid eye contact? I find they do stare at sometimes, for example if they are across the room. However, when I am in front of them or conversing with them they will avoid eye contact with me. EDIT: they will still be rude or nasty and direct their comment to me, but look ahead of them as they say it. Even if we are sitting next to each other.
The first time I saw the EVIL stare, it really scared me. His facial features changed, he contorted...I was actually afraid for my safety. Very alarming.
That happened to me too! I had no idea what I was looking at. His face contorted and his eyes dialated and went dark. That’s when I figured out I was dealing with something evil 👿
Yep... I experienced my ex covert narcissist boyfriend stalking and then staring at me 5 feet away from me at the self checkout at the grocery store last weekend, just A COLD BLANK EXPRESSION-LESS DEAD STARE looking straight at me!!!! It was so CREEPY!!!! I had to throw my stuff down and walk out because I couldn't handle him standing that close to me watching me!
Had a similar experience with my ex gf at the checkout it freaked me out have not dated her in 2 years. I think she wanted to talk to me or something I pretended she was not there, checked out and did not look back.
Oohhh yeah.. He used to stare at me for a long time, yes it was like an empty stare, i would say why are you staring at me, he said i love looking at you. I told him STOP, i hated it, creepy .. he continued..He knew what he was doing...Not attractive to me. I would move away from him. Here i thought it was a part of his attraction to me.. A nieve girl i was
Wow, HG! This is eerily precise. I’ve been waiting for this video as I have always wondered about the very dark, almost pupil-less eyes, of “the one” who temporarily ensnared me. His photos.... just like what you explain. In person the same. Chillin.... indeed.
But of course. The mysteries of narcissism resolved with a ball of string, catnip and a tin of Whiskas. The only time I have seen a narcissist´s eyes resemble anything like a cats eyes was the one I left buried in the middle of a road.
It's so embarrassing when a self proclaimed empath states authoritatively that narcs are possessed or are animals trapped in a human form. Besides everyone knows if a narc was an animal it would be a Sasquatch.
I used to catch him staring at me all the time. A goofy grin on his face. Soon as we were married it became a Stare of disgust. Guess I was stupid for falling for his game in his eyes.
Excellent. Just exactly that. This is an "eye opening" that I did stare back into "the Stare". Thank you even though you say you don't care about thank yous lol You just might have helped me from another fall... Salutations
Might I add comments reinforcing that we fall in love with parts of ourselves being mirrored is honestly helpful. Everything I loved about him. I can love about me.
I feel the eyes control the most, Sweet dancing eyes to pull you in and portray I'm so sweet. You let down your guard and try again with the person but then it slips and you realise they don't want you to walk but have back control to continue and hurt and then you see the evil stare return.
So the lesser or mid range actually believe they love? I’m confused. If they believe they’re staring in your eyes bc they don’t understand they’re a narc, do they believe they’re in love? I’ve had the love stare and I’ve had the hate stare and I’ve had the empty stare... Such a complex subject. I have no clue who the hell I was married to.
I have experienced this. I thought for sure that he was possessed by a demon or demons! He was evil incarnate. I have also caught him staring at a woman...super intensely..& could tell this person was very uncomfortable...& got the heck away from him with a quickness.
I’m glad i found this explanation because I remember this exact moment. I explained to many people his eyes changed colour to black and he looked dead inside. It was disturbing & i will never forget it
Ugh. My experience with a narcissist recently makes me feel like two different people. One of them was absolutely under his spell and there was a second me, almost but not quite subconscious that catalogued every look and behaviour and interaction that was off. Including how many times the first me caught him looking at my when he didn't think I was looking and was so confused by what I saw on his face. This makes the second me's notes make sense. He used to look at me so intensely I had to look away because something inside me sensed danger. He hated that. And loved it at the same time... Ugh. And the devaluing looks... Those were soul crushing.
This is fascinating, HG. Thank you for your insight. His final stare was frightening. I never returned to the house again. Would you mind explaining their reasons to hoard? He never allowed me to retrieve my personal belongings. I can’t help but feel they are trophies, just as I used to be ( he admitted once that he viewed me as such ). Thank you 😊
This was the first HG Tudor video I found and I knew I was in the right place. I had seen all of the looks, most notably, the last look. He was looking at me as though I were made of air. It wasn't me at all, it was the void within him. A hollow tree had more substance.
Fascinating. Not necessarily a narcissist story but "the stare" reminds me of the time I was walking down the street and passed a local high school teen who had the coldest eyes I have ever seen. I had to fight my urge too look away in fear of violence. My overriding thought was "I'm not cowering from your stare m- f-". How's that for a visceral reaction to a random person!?!
I got this stare on his birthday. I had done everything possible to make his day special...breakfast in bed, thoughtful presents (I had been treading on eggshells for weeks before because I sensed something wasn't right in my gut). On the drive to pick his son up he picked an argument and said that I was 'fuc#in selfish because I hadn't asked him if he wanted to go to the pub (on the day after his birthday!!)..but he'd already told me that he was going out on Sunday and id said no problem??? When I pointed this out to him he said I should have asked him before he said he was going??? I left 3 weeks ago when he screamed at me to f#ck off after I'd made his tea (I feel awful that his children witnessed it, but relieved that I wasn't on my own again as when I try to figure out what I must have done wrong to warrant such a reaction my head turns to mush and I make excuses for him). He phoned constantly and texted saying he was worried about me. When I felt strong enough to talk and phoned him back he said that it was my fault and I should apologise and I wasn't normal. That has been the last straw for me. I'm done. The space away from him has given me the time to think clearly. His classic line is 'but I'd never cheat on you'. Surely that's a given when you're in a relationship...not a favour 🤣🤣. I was actually starting to get scared of him...he'd look at me with pure hatred when I'd done nothing wrong. Despite all that I do hope he finds happiness, its his job to find it though and not mine. And I deserve happiness too 😊
This video made me cry- because it was gut wrenching because deep down I knew it wasn’t about me- but I just felt I didn’t care. I went with it. I snapped out of it but this video was scary.
I've lifted my eyes a number of times to find my son staring at me. He smiles every time he does it. When I ask him why the stare he just says he's thinking about something. Could he be getting fuel from me asking why he's staring at me?
Stay strong! It is a tough battle. We will do it together-I am about 10 months ago and I still think about him and the good times. It is hard to realize it was all fake for what he wanted to take.
I most remember this during the silent treatment (punishments) my narc ex ( future ex wife ) She would ignore any questions I had, turn her head look through me, then continue her silent treatment, I would wait an uncomfortable amount of time for a response, just to get frustrated and walk away. I won't miss this. Made me feel so worthless.
So interesting, I’ve never looked down to a malice stare, I mirrored him back (now it’s funny to think of that, so childish) and then he used to tell me “look at your face, you are full of rage”..... but the blank stare in moments it was all fine since my perspective, that would let me paralyzed for a moment, great info as usual, I’m becoming an expert
I did the stare back as well and he actually blinked. I felt more powerful than him at that point. I think he was surprised that I didn’t feel scared or intimidated.
You have described my ex to a tee, the ignoring and dismissive behaviour during the period of disengagement and my responses to that, as I had no idea what I was dealing with. It’s like you have this window and were describing the pantomime of what was my life. I find this both shocking and illuminating.😱🤔
This video reminds me of one of my Sex injury stories..usually these are hilarious but not w my narc!!During one of our escapades, I flung my head back w a little too much fervor and we bonked heads. Normal people would laugh this off, right?! I turned around laughing, but when I looked in his eyes, I could see he was fighting something back, but loosing. His eyes were narrow and dark and far away. My well meant words just bounced off his extended lethal stare. I was so hurt, I was never afraid of him until that night. His rage seemed to come so fast and then he told me “do that again and you can kiss anything breakable in this room goodbye” I was so addicted to him tho, I could not stop going back to him
I thought they did it just once every 6 months but they're doing it every time they step out of their car ...the most hideous face smirk what you call it it's just not anything that a human being can normally do ... it's very very painful after they do it I wish I had never seen it there also are very jealous of something... It's the most creepy face you've ever seen in your life .
Listening to this made my skin crawl. You people are really sick! If you had any decency you would all just go away and never bother anybody again. The only advice I can give to anyone stuck in a relationship with a narcissist, run as fast as you can and don't look back!
Everyday I as gain knowledge I’m convinced we need the narcissists to learn, they don’t have “decency”, they just don’t have empathy! We need to stop fighting them and accept we live in a dual world, there is good and bad and we can choose, we need to choose they won’t go away... and counciusness is above good or bad, hg work is a blessing if you are willing to take responsibility for your choices.
Why be mean to him. I get the pain etc they cause but he’s like the beautiful flames of the fire which are mesmerizing and one can learn so much but never get too close lest you burn.
I saw it when I called him out, he never spoke a word, he just stared blankly..I broke the eye contact as it freaked me out and his eyes became darker. It was the weirdest thing ever makes me shudder 😳
I'm being targeted by narcissistic sociopathic psychopathic people Everywhere I go Many people think wrong, use intentionally / unconsciously / subliminally / insensitively Words, or actions, or reactions or gestures Usually when I go for a walk Many people stare me down Or evil smirk Or laugh Or try to attack my confidence By imitation or intimidation Mocking me I live in Florida Miami Its been going on for years People yelling, insulting, acting hateful/toxic/negative/ or unloving But psychological and physical abuse bullying And there's too many people Gas lighting me for years
In the beginning of our relationship, I often compared photos of my narc where his face looked completely different depending on the setting and mood in which they were taken. The first time I noticed it, the hairs stood up on my arms and neck. Chilling to the bone
i look at some pictures of us with my ex during the idealizing stage he looked at me in love and smiled. during the devaluing stage i saw this stare he looked like a predator about to attack. so much hate and aggression in those eyes. other people would be scared the first time they met him.
Wow, just realize I have 2 exes who I experienced this with! It was always on the phone that I noticed something weird was with their voice! I even said it, to both of them! 😵💫 If I knew then what I know now! 😓
The Dark stare puts fear within my soul,but it lasts only a few minutes, and it doesn't work for I keep doing what I chose, this happened in the last 3 months. And control of myself is only for myself. Thankyou HG Tudor.🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
The first thing that made me fall in love with her was her eyes and gaze. They were extremely catlike, pierced. I remember telling myself "wow, she looks like a cat! So gorgeous". In about 2 months she didn't look like a cat anymore. It was more like a wolf or a shark look. I remember one day her friend looked at her and said "If you were an animal, you would be a wolf. You look like a lonely wolf". And that's exactly what she is. A lonely predator who was definitely wearing a victim mask. In the beginning, her gaze and energy were so light, like a positive kitty purring in the sun and by the end of our story she felt like a cold slippery negative shark or snake. Last time I saw her my body just wanted to get me out of there as fast as possible
In my car one afternoon awhile back while I was driving, I looked over and caught him with his head facing forward like normal, but he was looking out the corner of his eyes with the most God awful look. Looking at me. It actually made me burst into tears. He did not think I would look over, and i could tell I caught him off guard. An Empty, shallow, contemptuous, absolutely disgusted look. Wish I could forget it. Wish I had left sooner. It's been a struggle today for some reason. Heart broken. 1.5 yrs no contact so far. Anyone out there whos struggling, keep fighting the good fight. And I'll do the same
Don't look back lovely just be glad you got away from a maniac. Buy a pet instead, much more rewarding, you will find true love there
Well done for getting out. Narcs are sinister.
He used to tell me it was in my head when I said he looked so disgusted when he looked at me. He used to state at me full of love.
Then the words ended up matching. Telling me how repulsive I was.
You're doing great. You can be proud of yourself!
Aww sweety, I wish I could hug u right now! He doesn’t deserve u meditating over him. I’m in the midst of planning my departure with 3 kids. I told myself I never want to communicate with him after even before finding out about no contact cold turkey! Just pick up the kids from daycare on his weekends and drop them off Monday mornings and leave me the heck alone forever!
When a normal person likes you, their pupils dilate. Narc's are always so tiny, especially in pictures where they are acting full of happiness & joy....it is all an act, they are cold...cold....cold.
I'd noticed that as well...eerie discovery when looking back...
Very well noticed..their pupils are static..frozen. 😳
Demonic. I know someone who is in management position, whom I report too has creepy beedy pupils. Though I have strong eye contact and X-ray vision, I am a child of the most high God. As the Bible will tell you that, the eyes are the windows into the soul. A narcissists can make strong eye contact with you but it is nothing there. No passion. No compassion. Nothing soft or safe. It is the eyes of satan which you see through a narcissists eyes. To God be the glory.
Cold dead eyes of a shark.
Actually, when she had me idealised, I had read on a dating/body language site that when someone is attracted to you their pupils dilate. I was looking into her eyes to try to see anything. I just saw the void. ☠️
I have said that numerous times, I fell in love with myself. He showed me a part of who he was by mirroring me, when it seems too good to be true, it is, RUN. I may be an asshole at times but in the end, I am a decent woman. When he looked at me there were times that look made me feel secure, loved, and beautiful. There were times his stare was just that, empty a soul that was dark.
One year NC, I shake my head that I got sucked into his bullshit. I learned to forgive myself, I owe him nothing.
During the golden period, he would stare at me and watch me from besides, while I was driving..not saying one single word. Felt hypnotic to me. Disturbing. 3 months later came the moment I was discarded. In public. Out of NOWHERE. Icecold blue eyes. Empty. Looking at me as if he didn't even know me. A complete different person than he was 5 minutes before. Complete personality shift. I was left in trauma.
When I got that stare for the last time, I actually wrote about it in my diary and recorded that "his eyes even seemed to change colour". I escaped and was gone less than two weeks later.
My narcissist's eyes changed color, too. Brain chemistry changing?
So true. In my experience the eyes go from blue to cold grey
so are they possessed?
I saw them became black by one. 😱
Did not know that was possible. Went home And blocked the whatever IT was.
@@wms72 my sons have blue grey eyes and they change color by mood and the colors they wear. They are not evil btw 🤣🤣
This is one of my favorites.
For anyone who has been ensnared by a narcissist has witnessed all these different stares.
You have described them perfectly.
Can you give an example that might show this state in a movie?
Zoltan Hound of Dracula
@@TheRonaldbaxter lolllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll
He stared at me like he hated me. I will never forget it . It scared me . I had no idea what I was dealing with at the time. Now I know . These people are 😈
I remember saying to my narc-ex "You say you love me but it feels like you hate me".
This has to be the truest and the most creepy thing I've seen yet. I was given 18 roses every week until the wedding day and during the vows he gave me that Psychopathic look that you are describing almost contemptuous as if to DARE me to say I do. I wanted to run away. I was only 20. A malignant narcissist is dangerous to look at
As soon as the vows are said, the switch flips
@@jadetrunick3514 - The ‘gotcha’ phase ensues.
I'm a empath, too nice too giving too caring, and it has got me nothing but used, by parent sibling, family and relationship, as soon as I put my foot down and say no they all can't stand me , so now I learn to only care , give to myself, now they doing smear campaign and I could care less , because I'm also a introvert , who is a loner , I enjoy my own company I leave most family alone and love them from afar, I have cut off relationships and friendships without feeling sorry about it, when I find out they were using lying and most of them narcissist
Realize we're in a spiritual war
Same! 🔨👍🏿
Kevin Ford yes we are
Wings of An Eagle it sure is
Lol I get exactly where your coming from, I feel like I have a secret rainbow and more within, but I have to hide, and almost act in a complete opposite manner than who I intrinsically am in order to hide this....😂😂 I’m laughing because I totally relate to what you said, however when left to my own thoughts it makes me sad to the core to know that you have to hide certain aspects of self, while cloaking them with others in order to survive because people with these traits will try to take you down from within...... knowledge of self and others will definitely offer maximum protection in this world. In order to defeat evil (metaphorically speaking) you have to study them, and always be mentally prepared to match their wicked( for protection purposes of coarse and not just mere revenge). Let them act in such animalistic ways, I’ll rather be a warrior than a savage bully I mean how weak is that. I’m a super empath and matching their evil goes against my nature in all elements but we are here and you have to be able to protect yourself as best you can, if you know then you know, we hate causing trouble and we hate negative energy, but I’ve learnt that petals will get crushed if they are not protected and well looked after. ❤️. Thank you for this video.
it was dead and empty, cold, calculating
And guess what, the next day, it was all happiness and light...should of, could of, would of...but didn't..
Another amazing Maya Angelou quote.." When we know better, we do better"..❤
Not so for the narcissist....
Hm. Na ja....wie ubung macht den meister....ja so
@@elainnajones9107 not meant for the empty narcissist who doesn't have a soul
My mother randomly snaps and stares at you like she's going to kill you. Pure contempt. I think she knows how terrifying it is and she uses it to intimidate people. I've also never in my life seen her act authentic around other people. It's like she is wearing a human suit, mimicking human interaction.
My mother was the same. Your description is very apt. It's like they squeeze all the joy out of your soul. Sometimes I'm okay and other times I'm not and it's always about the rejection games she used to play.
I’ve been waiting for this one- those dolls’ eyes shark eyes- that stare that tries to steal one’s soul. That stare shows hell and damnation. I remember seeing it and also giving the stare- that taunting that daring.
Never noticed the stare. Accidently caught a look of rage quickly flash across his face. It was gone when I did a double-take. After that I always saw HIM, his eyes were dull, he felt empty, cold, there was hate in his smile.
What you happen catch was his body language ....what they call micro expressions . .that micro expression can last for a small fraction of time ...very fleeting ...look up or do a search called... duping delight ... or dupers delight ......its a smirk that people do when they think they got away with a lie or pulled the wool over your eyes .....coupled together with the narc stare .....very primevil at most
"Hate in his smile". I remember that.
The dark, hard, steely eyes of the narcissist is the psychopathy in them. Leave quietly and safely people!!!
I finally saw the third one yesterday and it was the darkest thing I have ever encountered in my life. I was at a festival that he was at and he didn’t want me to be at. He kept hovering around my campsite and I managed to ignore him until he literally walked and stood directly in between me and the stage. Turned around as if surveying the crowd and looked directly at me. Made eye contact and gave me that stare. Turned around and walked away. Right over to his new supply. I had to laugh a little inside. Because he is so predictable. Thank you for explaining this all because it just helps me see who he really is. And these videos have helped me get my power back. 😊
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Not being emotionally savey , I allowed myself to marry a perverse narcissist at a young age, then after getting out with my life, some years later walked eyes open into a long term relationship with another one. Got out again, broken but alive, All confidence in my ability to choose wisely , gone. Hence I have consciously withdrawn from the mating game.
I wish I knew all that while I fell to more than one narc. One was so horribly horrible, that it truly broke me in like a thousand places. The mind games. I really thought I was suffering from delusions and some kind of disorder.
I am so greatful to have found this content. It changed my life.
Powerful lesson. It was his eyes that captivated me.
I saw that stare where his eyes were just empty.his pupil dark shiny but it showed me how cold he is. That was during the devaluing period. His eyes were dark and soulless
When I first caught her off guard in between mimicking and mirroring, I looked into her eyes and there was absolutely no one there. Very creepy. The emptiness is like something out of a horror film.
Yes, like those dolls with glass eyes, or a shark....(shudder)
This rings so true it's creeping me out. It was his seductive stare at me that drew me In. It was his non-stop eye locking gaze that hooked me.
Me too.
It was like a drug.
That stare killed any feeling I had left for him!
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😳 that look 🤣🤣🤣
Yes that was actually the final nail in the coffin of our 20 year marriage. He was sitting the other side of the table. I said please look at me I was going to try and talk. He looked up from eating stared at me his eyes wide open they were intense pale blue I was completely shocked at the hate the contempt the disgust in them he then looked down it was gone. 12 years later I can remember that stare
I was in bed sound asleep, woke up to mid range standing next to my bed just staring down at me. I pretended I was rolling over in my sleep still feeling him staring down at me. He stood there for another minute then left. What the hell??!!! Scariest thing ever, I kept waiting for him to attack me while I ‘slept’!
Lisa, hope he is your EX!. Look after yourself. Much love. 💗
That sounds so scary, hope you're ok now
My ex husband did this many times. It was terrifying. He's a mid range also.
Gosh 🙏
i have experienced this, so creepy scary.
The first time I saw the stare I initially though he had been crying because the way the eyes looked, it was only after I was no longer with him that I realized that initial stare was the stare of an empty, malicious, and him getting ready to begin devaluating me. I knew that look was weird and I had never seen it before. Is almost like the demon finally manifested.. creepy!!
The stares are awful. Creepy.
They really are. It's a very strange experience.
making facial expressions like what you are saying doesn't make any sense. Shitty
HG when I learned about my narcissistic boyfriend you taught me🎯 when I saw that look 😬you're talkin about !and I did not ask no questions ,when I saw your video📽 and it said when you know you go🏃♀️ all I can do is say thank you💪
I precisely remember that stare full of hate n envy hollow dark stare during devaluation and the mirroring of emotions and brightness when i provided what was needed
For all that is holy and sacred dearest HG. That voice of yours…pure bliss. Darling narcissist.
My ex narc would stare in my eyes after emotional abuse so he could see the confusion and pain. He would enjoy it. A real sicko. I also remember the times of contempt and prolonged silence. So glad I am away from that hell on earth.
One of the most memorable moments of my life. I gasped in shock at the power of his eye lock.
Me too
OMG! The narcissist turned into a demon right in front of my eyes three times one of which was because I was going home after spending a week at his house as a captive literally. His supply was getting away again. I have never seen anything like it. It scared me beyond words. He is 6'4" Scorpio with a house full of weapons. I am so fortunate to have made it home as he had to drive me. This is after many discards of him on my part. I was trying to make it work out several times. I formed a trauma bond as a empath. He told me after 5 weeks that he had never felt this way before for another and that he loved me. I did not believe him. In the end he had devalued me to zero. The entire relationship was 6 months long. This has caused so much deep pain which has caused me to go deep and heal my wounds that caused me to be weak for a narcissist most of my life.
This is so accurate... 😲
Dead behind the eyes. They stare as they are preying on you.
Is this why they said "I can see it in your eyes" when he insisted I wanted him when I was in fact repulsed by him?
I saw pure hatred..it was chilling..
So did i
I saw the look and the eyes and it was scary. They get into your head and destroy confidence and make you feel a bad person.
Now that's short and to the point ...
I saw each one through each phase of the relationship. The "loving" one who drew you in so perfectly. I also saw that blank stare when I asked him to help me with something. He didn't say a word...just that stare. Then in devalue, his beautiful blue eyes went black, his handsome face, not anymore. His evil stare and again, said nothing.
I use to date a guy and he was angry at me but was trying to act happy but I was looking at his eyes even the white of his eyes was black. He looked like a demon and I left him. I had never seen anything like that unless on a scary movie. That was really terrifying.
Their face really changes also. At the end i could not understand why he looked different. Ugly. Was when he was lying i found out.
H. G. Tudor. This video is so spot on. My narc had light green eyes. The love stare, such exotic eyes. The empty stare, like he was looking thru me and not at me. Then the reptilian demon face. The pointy eyes AND ears. And the angry red face, is he really Lucifer? I finally went no contact. Thank God.
I used to ask him "where did you go?" "Are you zoned out?" "What's happening?" I've experienced to all three unfortunately. The last one the appearance of a demonic possession was the most horrendous!
I will never forget the stare and the worst feeling of seeing the darkness when I was least expecting. My ET didn’t let me believe when I first saw it at the beginning of the relationship. If there is one thing I can advise is - trust your feelings! Your ET will trick you! Thank you HG for all you do! 🖤
Thank you for this example of the stair. You are the first to talk about the seductive stair of a narcissist. My ex narcissist stared into every single woman's eyes that he met. And it made me so crazy. All he could say to me was, " You can't possibly know what I'm looking at" really??? It would be impossible for me to miss it as they are always staring back at him almost to the point of a car accident sometimes.
This video is actually about "stares" not house features.
@@jackiehamilton2738 wtf you talking about?
Thank you,
This video is an amazingly accurate description of the phases of narcissistic abuse through the narcissists gaze!!!! Bravo! You nailed it ! I'm impressed at how you seamlessly educate the listeners and allow us to enter the mind of a narcissist. It gives me insight on how a narcissistic man I know is pursuing me ( I'm a female coworker ). He is married and so am I. He keeps pushing my boundaries and my interactions with him are arousing. He wants what I want. He desires himself in the reflections in my eyes. My eyes are a mirror. When I ask him questions, he avoids answering and becomes more inquisitive about me. Then the next day he is cold and treats me with disdain. Then he can be rude/ cruel. Then he softens and compliments me, telling me that I'm just like him. Then he begins to drink me in with his eyes again. I am very aware of what he is doing. I can see how some women could get addicted to this even though it is masochistic.
That stare is the demon inside of that person looking out at you .. that's why it's oblivious and or hateful or hysterical
I hate the stare. I ignore it and do all I can to not give it fuel, but inside I feel so creeped out. Thanks HG for explaining the different kinds of stares and what they mean. That helps.
This is exactly what I saw and experienced . Very creepy hollow black eyes . Your videos are helpful and I want to Thank you so very much!
And this is called a "Personality Disorder"?...seems more .."Psychotic ".
It's demonic...
Yes it is! They have no identity hence why they have to find theirs in us!
@@themegaislandman yes it is truly demonic! We have been put into their own private hells!
@@stacielivinthedream8510 that’s really interesting. I believe that my mother-in-law had narc tendencies, and she was a very jealous person, not really ever happy with herself. Also interesting after hearing HG’s video on MM imitating Diana.
DEMONIC
You never cease to blow my mind with how much you know. I experienced ALL of these states. I remember them all very well and I saw each one as you explained them. Absolutely incredible.
I always knew when he was about to attack me with the look. Also the stare was another red flag to start a fight with me. Pure hate in them.
Dead eyes looking to see how they can break the target.
It wasn't only his face which became distorted. His voice rasped , changed tone and pitch. It was the first time I didn't recognise my husband in the 16 years we had been together. It frightened me so much that I flew down the staircase. I ran from his house and didn't look back . I still have nightmares from time to time. That was from more than two years after leaving him.
I've pray and pray that I break this soul-tie from my ex narc, this going NC thing is soooooo hard. I've experienced all the stares/glances it's been times when I literally yelled " STOP FUCKIN LOOKING AT ME" !!!
Hell yess....I have even used my hands as "Covers/shields".....but that stare still penetrated
Something really creepy and evil about their stare.
Megan Narc-le has been caught many times with "the stare" on camera, it's terrifying.
She has one creepy stare. Little shark eyes like Charlie manson.
She has... that doey eye look she does too.. all an act.
I’ve always said that.👍
So true she looks nuts
Meghan Narc-le, love it thank you for this
It's like one of the demons in their minds takes over, I remember seeing it in my ex, similar to that of a shark, truly frightening don't know why i stayed with her so long
I have want through your channel and website ,, I found you for a reason! Thank you for the closure!! Thank you for the memories,, thank you for the clarity!! Your the King!
My nex used to do that in bed. What used to be a state of adoration degenerated into that horrible vacant stare. I couldn't look at him, it was a soul destroying experience. I honestly think that that was one of the most powerfully destructive actions my nex took. I only saw the devaluation stare a few times, just before he had a temper tantrum. He was a covert narcassist, he didn't often drop his mask, the behaviours were subtle and manipulative. It was so confusing.
My ex did this! I didn’t know it was a “thing”! Initially, when we met, this is how he locked me in control. This seems there is also how he dominated dogs to train them so I can equate myself to a dog in his mind women in the family all of them commented about his stare, and how unnerving it was, how inappropriate he felt. Even the young men in the family, he tried to control commented about how he stared. I have only been no contact for 3 1/2 months after a domestic violence and he was arrested and now he’s trying to get the restraining order modified for the divorce contact. I will only talk via email if that is the case. I will never speak to this sick person again. He is evil.
Do some narcissists avoid eye contact? I find they do stare at sometimes, for example if they are across the room. However, when I am in front of them or conversing with them they will avoid eye contact with me. EDIT: they will still be rude or nasty and direct their comment to me, but look ahead of them as they say it. Even if we are sitting next to each other.
if i ask him to look at me and tell me the truth he will but his stare will be empty. it was weird.
The first time I saw the EVIL stare, it really scared me. His facial features changed, he contorted...I was actually afraid for my safety. Very alarming.
That happened to me too! I had no idea what I was looking at. His face contorted and his eyes dialated and went dark. That’s when I figured out I was dealing with something evil 👿
Yep... I experienced my ex covert narcissist boyfriend stalking and then staring at me 5 feet away from me at the self checkout at the grocery store last weekend, just A COLD BLANK EXPRESSION-LESS DEAD STARE looking straight at me!!!! It was so CREEPY!!!! I had to throw my stuff down and walk out because I couldn't handle him standing that close to me watching me!
Had a similar experience with my ex gf at the checkout it freaked me out have not dated her in 2 years. I think she wanted to talk to me or something I pretended she was not there, checked out and did not look back.
Oohhh yeah.. He used to stare at me for a long time, yes it was like an empty stare, i would say why are you staring at me, he said i love looking at you. I told him STOP, i hated it, creepy .. he continued..He knew what he was doing...Not attractive to me. I would move away from him. Here i thought it was a part of his attraction to me.. A nieve girl i was
Same thing happened to me
"I love looking at you." LOL 😂
Same experience.Verbatim. I can’t believe how naive I was. Astonished I’m still struggling to get over it despite having escaped.
i have seen in many times in several people. you never forget it.
Wow, HG! This is eerily precise. I’ve been waiting for this video as I have always wondered about the very dark, almost pupil-less eyes, of “the one” who temporarily ensnared me. His photos.... just like what you explain. In person the same. Chillin.... indeed.
THEY DON’T HAVE PUPILS!! ☮️♥️😀
Didn’t you know that narcissists are cats in human form a cats eyes and a narcs eyes are very similar.
But of course. The mysteries of narcissism resolved with a ball of string, catnip and a tin of Whiskas. The only time I have seen a narcissist´s eyes resemble anything like a cats eyes was the one I left buried in the middle of a road.
@HG Tudor, I came up with that theory after watching a movie called Stephen Kings Sleepwalkers.
It's so embarrassing when a self proclaimed empath states authoritatively that narcs are possessed or are animals trapped in a human form. Besides everyone knows if a narc was an animal it would be a Sasquatch.
I used to catch him staring at me all the time. A goofy grin on his face. Soon as we were married it became a Stare of disgust.
Guess I was stupid for falling for his game in his eyes.
Excellent. Just exactly that. This is an "eye opening" that I did stare back into "the Stare". Thank you even though you say you don't care about thank yous lol You just might have helped me from another fall... Salutations
Might I add comments reinforcing that we fall in love with parts of ourselves being mirrored is honestly helpful. Everything I loved about him. I can love about me.
Meghan Markle's stare gives me the willies
Just looking at her makes me think she’s a dangerous sociopath.
The stare is empty...so there's nothing in there, so there's nothing to be afraid of...
She looks like she has duper’s delight
She does so much.
Who cares about her though?
Ohhooeewwwhh this info is so true; scary narration H.G. I need a coffee to warm up again....
I feel the eyes control the most, Sweet dancing eyes to pull you in and portray I'm so sweet. You let down your guard and try again with the person but then it slips and you realise they don't want you to walk but have back control to continue and hurt and then you see the evil stare return.
I've seen that stare...all it did was make me angry enough to walk away and never look back.
So the lesser or mid range actually believe they love? I’m confused.
If they believe they’re staring in your eyes bc they don’t understand they’re a narc, do they believe they’re in love?
I’ve had the love stare and I’ve had the hate stare and I’ve had the empty stare...
Such a complex subject. I have no clue who the hell I was married to.
Key word, "believe". That doesn't mean it is true or factual.
I have experienced this. I thought for sure that he was possessed by a demon or demons! He was evil incarnate.
I have also caught him staring at a woman...super intensely..& could tell this person was very uncomfortable...& got the heck away from him with a quickness.
I’m glad i found this explanation because I remember this exact moment. I explained to many people his eyes changed colour to black and he looked dead inside. It was disturbing & i will never forget it
Ugh. My experience with a narcissist recently makes me feel like two different people. One of them was absolutely under his spell and there was a second me, almost but not quite subconscious that catalogued every look and behaviour and interaction that was off.
Including how many times the first me caught him looking at my when he didn't think I was looking and was so confused by what I saw on his face. This makes the second me's notes make sense. He used to look at me so intensely I had to look away because something inside me sensed danger. He hated that.
And loved it at the same time... Ugh.
And the devaluing looks...
Those were soul crushing.
More brilliance by HG, thank you...
This is fascinating, HG. Thank you for your insight.
His final stare was frightening. I never returned to the house again.
Would you mind explaining their reasons to hoard? He never allowed me to retrieve my personal belongings. I can’t help but feel they are trophies, just as I used to be ( he admitted once that he viewed me as such ).
Thank you 😊
Yes hoarding and also went through and was burning my things that I didn't even realize until a while later.... paperwork, personal memorabilia etc
HG, thank you for helping me understand me
This was the first HG Tudor video I found and I knew I was in the right place. I had seen all of the looks, most notably, the last look. He was looking at me as though I were made of air. It wasn't me at all, it was the void within him. A hollow tree had more substance.
Fascinating.
Not necessarily a narcissist story but "the stare" reminds me of the time I was walking down the street and passed a local high school teen who had the coldest eyes I have ever seen. I had to fight my urge too look away in fear of violence. My overriding thought was "I'm not cowering from your stare m- f-". How's that for a visceral reaction to a random person!?!
When I saw that stare, I was gone. No contact 5 years.
Thank you for explaining why the face appeared to change with the look of Malice. Is definitely a stare you don’t forget.
I got this stare on his birthday. I had done everything possible to make his day special...breakfast in bed, thoughtful presents (I had been treading on eggshells for weeks before because I sensed something wasn't right in my gut). On the drive to pick his son up he picked an argument and said that I was 'fuc#in selfish because I hadn't asked him if he wanted to go to the pub (on the day after his birthday!!)..but he'd already told me that he was going out on Sunday and id said no problem??? When I pointed this out to him he said I should have asked him before he said he was going??? I left 3 weeks ago when he screamed at me to f#ck off after I'd made his tea (I feel awful that his children witnessed it, but relieved that I wasn't on my own again as when I try to figure out what I must have done wrong to warrant such a reaction my head turns to mush and I make excuses for him). He phoned constantly and texted saying he was worried about me. When I felt strong enough to talk and phoned him back he said that it was my fault and I should apologise and I wasn't normal. That has been the last straw for me. I'm done. The space away from him has given me the time to think clearly. His classic line is 'but I'd never cheat on you'. Surely that's a given when you're in a relationship...not a favour 🤣🤣. I was actually starting to get scared of him...he'd look at me with pure hatred when I'd done nothing wrong. Despite all that I do hope he finds happiness, its his job to find it though and not mine. And I deserve happiness too 😊
Thank you H.G., I can see clearly now ... insane eyes.
This video made me cry- because it was gut wrenching because deep down I knew it wasn’t about me- but I just felt I didn’t care. I went with it. I snapped out of it but this video was scary.
I observe a narcissist reflect on a criticism 20 years ago. And a intense stare appeared it was eerie but fascinating. 👤
I've lifted my eyes a number of times to find my son staring at me. He smiles every time he does it. When I ask him why the stare he just says he's thinking about something. Could he be getting fuel from me asking why he's staring at me?
Stay strong! It is a tough battle. We will do it together-I am about 10 months ago and I still think about him and the good times. It is hard to realize it was all fake for what he wanted to take.
I most remember this during the silent treatment (punishments) my narc ex ( future ex wife )
She would ignore any questions I had, turn her head look through me, then continue her silent treatment, I would wait an uncomfortable amount of time for a response, just to get frustrated and walk away. I won't miss this. Made me feel so worthless.
So interesting, I’ve never looked down to a malice stare, I mirrored him back (now it’s funny to think of that, so childish) and then he used to tell me “look at your face, you are full of rage”..... but the blank stare in moments it was all fine since my perspective, that would let me paralyzed for a moment, great info as usual, I’m becoming an expert
I did the stare back as well and he actually blinked. I felt more powerful than him at that point. I think he was surprised that I didn’t feel scared or intimidated.
You have described my ex to a tee, the ignoring and dismissive behaviour during the period of disengagement and my responses to that, as I had no idea what I was dealing with. It’s like you have this window and were describing the pantomime of what was my life. I find this both shocking and illuminating.😱🤔
This video reminds me of one of my Sex injury stories..usually these are hilarious but not w my narc!!During one of our escapades, I flung my head back w a little too much fervor and we bonked heads. Normal people would laugh this off, right?! I turned around laughing, but when I looked in his eyes, I could see he was fighting something back, but loosing. His eyes were narrow and dark and far away. My well meant words just bounced off his extended lethal stare. I was so hurt, I was never afraid of him until that night. His rage seemed to come so fast and then he told me “do that again and you can kiss anything breakable in this room goodbye” I was so addicted to him tho, I could not stop going back to him
I thought they did it just once every 6 months but they're doing it every time they step out of their car ...the most hideous face smirk what you call it it's just not anything that a human being can normally do ... it's very very painful after they do it I wish I had never seen it there also are very jealous of something... It's the most creepy face you've ever seen in your life .
What do you mean by ‘ they do it every time they step out the car? ‘
Do you mean he/or she does that unconsciously or do I misunderstand you?
Listening to this made my skin crawl. You people are really sick! If you had any decency you would all just go away and never bother anybody again. The only advice I can give to anyone stuck in a relationship with a narcissist, run as fast as you can and don't look back!
Decency doesn't come into it, at all, period. Your advice is excellent.
Everyday I as gain knowledge I’m convinced we need the narcissists to learn, they don’t have “decency”, they just don’t have empathy! We need to stop fighting them and accept we live in a dual world, there is good and bad and we can choose, we need to choose they won’t go away... and counciusness is above good or bad, hg work is a blessing if you are willing to take responsibility for your choices.
Why be mean to him. I get the pain etc they cause but he’s like the beautiful flames of the fire which are mesmerizing and one can learn so much but never get too close lest you burn.
I saw it when I called him out, he never spoke a word, he just stared blankly..I broke the eye contact as it freaked me out and his eyes became darker.
It was the weirdest thing ever makes me shudder 😳
There are many many photos and videos of MM staring intently at Harry and (in a malevolent way) staring at other members of the Royal Family.
I'm being targeted by narcissistic sociopathic psychopathic people
Everywhere I go
Many people think wrong, use intentionally / unconsciously / subliminally / insensitively
Words, or actions, or reactions or gestures
Usually when I go for a walk
Many people stare me down
Or evil smirk
Or laugh
Or try to attack my confidence
By imitation or intimidation
Mocking me
I live in Florida Miami
Its been going on for years
People yelling, insulting, acting hateful/toxic/negative/ or unloving
But psychological and physical abuse bullying
And there's too many people
Gas lighting me for years
Its called Gangstalking and you can research it... I as well am a Targeted Individual...
In the beginning of our relationship, I often compared photos of my narc where his face looked completely different depending on the setting and mood in which they were taken. The first time I noticed it, the hairs stood up on my arms and neck. Chilling to the bone
yes! I have seen the same thing.
What about the darkening all around the eyelids and under eyes?
@@jadetrunick3514 The darkness from his demons who kept him awake all night!! Been there! Awful stuff!!
i look at some pictures of us with my ex during the idealizing stage he looked at me in love and smiled. during the devaluing stage i saw this stare he looked like a predator about to attack. so much hate and aggression in those eyes. other people would be scared the first time they met him.
What about when their voice changes? It would lower and sound gutteral. It was really spooky. I thought maybe he had another personality.
Wow, just realize I have 2 exes who I experienced this with! It was always on the phone that I noticed something weird was with their voice! I even said it, to both of them! 😵💫
If I knew then what I know now! 😓
This is an accurate description.
The Dark stare puts fear within my soul,but it lasts only a few minutes, and it doesn't work for I keep doing what I chose, this happened in the last 3 months. And control of myself is only for myself.
Thankyou HG Tudor.🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
This is crazy I used to catch him staring at me
The first thing that made me fall in love with her was her eyes and gaze. They were extremely catlike, pierced. I remember telling myself "wow, she looks like a cat! So gorgeous". In about 2 months she didn't look like a cat anymore. It was more like a wolf or a shark look. I remember one day her friend looked at her and said "If you were an animal, you would be a wolf. You look like a lonely wolf". And that's exactly what she is. A lonely predator who was definitely wearing a victim mask. In the beginning, her gaze and energy were so light, like a positive kitty purring in the sun and by the end of our story she felt like a cold slippery negative shark or snake. Last time I saw her my body just wanted to get me out of there as fast as possible