Is a Late-Night Text to a Married Man Inappropriate?
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- Опубліковано 9 гру 2021
- Would a late-night text to a married man make you suspicious as a wife? We want to know: What is the appropriate time to text a married man at night?
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Tbh if it's an inappropriate person sending an inappropriate text then it's always going to be an inappropriate time 😂😂
right!
Exactly
Yep lol😂😂😂💯💯👏🏽👏🏽
Exactly cus why you texting him at 4pm?
@@DKDiva804 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't know what it is but I'm loving Loni's vibe this season. She looks stunning and she just seems to be more comfortable with who she is. Her banter with Garcelle is hilarious.
I noticed that as well... I believe it's the meditation, whatever it is, I like it 😊
She's in love...she has a Partner who cares about her.
Yeah, she's much more open to being vulnerable.
It’s the meditation 🧘🏿♀️
@@fakeaccount704 bingo! She was constantly looking for laughs or ways to deflect from personal discussion. Now, she’s simply conversing with friends. It’s much more enjoyable
Garcell said it best. She’s so damn classy. If your going to text that person include the spouse.
The REAL be coming through with these girl chats!!....This season is my favorite so far, keep up the great work ladies!
You must be moist
Joshua.
Yes, save it in a draft. There's no reason for me to text a married man so late. I'm single & I find it disrespectful & I don't want someone's husband texting me that late or at all in general...
Period!
Those spouses who respond to late night texts are enablers, too. Personally, I ignore texts after a certain time from *anybody* (male/female) unless it's an emergency in order to set boundaries. Free doesn't mean available.
Same.
Plus my phone is turned OFF at 9:00pm Every Night. Some say to me "but what if I have an emergency?!" My response is always "if it's a real emergency then the number you should dial is 911."
@@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460 lol
If it's not an emergency, don't text anybody in the middle of the night. Or at least don't text me. Lol
Not even in a emergency cause imma sleep through it
Exactly
Yep lol
If it IS an emergency then they need to call 911. NOT somebody's husband.
Exactly!
It’s inappropriate. I don’t even do that for people in relationships.
It's inappropriate, it's not even about jealousy it's about respect, plain and simple. Besides, I'm sure there's people in your life you can text/call at that time of night. And why would you want to give off suspicious vibes? I wouldn't want to be accused of ruining someone's household, even if things are totally platonic.
You hit the nail on the head. Even if the married man is your friend, you need to respect that there are certain times you don’t interrupt his family time.
I txt my best friends husband anytime of the day, but it’s because I know my best friend doesn’t mind and she knows the kind of person I am. So I agree with Lonnie but I recognise that it’s not appropriate for all people and I would just txt anyone’s husband at crazy hours!
I have lots of guy friends and one of my best friends is a man. I do not text them past 9/10pm out of respect for their marriage. I just avoid anything that would give the assumption of something shady. Plus I assume that if it’s that late or middle of the night, they are spending time with their families or sleep. Whatever I have to share (likely a meme lol) can wait until the next day.
Love this !!!!
Exactly
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Agreed 💯💯👏🏽👏🏽
I don’t even text my friends female or male after a certain time . It’s just respect for peoples households in general.
Loni be gaslighting Adrienne cause she know what she saying 😂😂😂
My best guy friend got married and I don’t text him anymore. Even though I don’t like him like that, I respect his marriage and his wife and wouldn’t want something to cause a rift in their marriage or upset the wife. I’m actually good friends with her and text her to say hi and check up on them :)
Same here… I just posted the same sentiments like that above. 🙂
Girl same my best girl friend is getting married to my Best guy friend and I barely text him now and if I send him anything. She knows about it. Who wants to cause problems for people relationship?
You’re a good person
What I find annoying is when a married male friend thinks it’s ok to call me after 10pm but he expects me to never call him at that time , because you know “he is married” - I stopped picking those calls 🚮
Mhmm. It's always married men that act inappropriately when their wives are unaware.
Thats weird he does that yes i agree
Lol, why didn't you give him the same energy too and go "excuse me?!? Why you calling me so late??"
@@bluebellcrushedvelvet she’s probably single so it isn’t an issue for her
I would set the same ground rules to them. Unless it's an emergency don't call me.
I know that Loni would feel a type of way if James was texting late at night with a girl “friend”
Lol Loni has told us about her friend Willis before and even how his wife surprised him by putting up a picture of him and Loni at prom in their home. Few people know how to be friends with the opposite sex so yes Lonj would be right to be suspicious if James did it😂. But Loni and Willis have like a sibling relationship since high school. Nothing going on there, even his wife knows.
@@omphilemoerane2569 yess I remember Willis LOL
@@omphilemoerane2569 that’s not a great comparison. I’m absolutely certain the wife would not have done that if Loni looked like Tyra Banks or Rihanna.
@@AkireMaru I'm not going to disagree with you there.
@@AkireMaru 👏
Loni always thinks she is the exception to coming off as “disrespectful”. No sis, u dont get the free pass to do what you want even if your intentions are well you need to have boundaries out of respect for the other female.
Well say.
Loni did say that if a guy friend tells her that his wife is the crazy or jealous type, then she would respect that and not text him late at night. 😂😂😂
Are you Willis’s wife? No? Then have several seats!! Why don’t you chain your man up in a basement then?
Nah I think Loni’s chill and respectful. Also, I don’t understand why you wouldn’t just ask your husband to not respond that late
if willis’s wife dgaf then why should we. and if she does then WILLIS needs to tell her, but considering shes been doing this for years, it probably aint that deep
people can have affairs in the morning or the afternoon! lol it's not the time, it's who's texting and what they're texting
No, it’s inappropriate to text anyone in a relationship late. It just doesn’t look good! If YOU work late at night and he doesn’t then it’s inappropriate!
If he is really your friend you wouldn't have an issue showing respect to the woman he married. I would never do anything to cause stress to my friend or his family.
There's no reason for another woman to be casually texting my husband past a certain time, unless it's his mama or his sister. Them after dark hours are for me and him, after a long day. Sorry, wait to text the next day, or if you have a work idea then send an email and he'll check it the next day.
Exactly! Like
Wusup
You up?
No!!
Texting someone’s husband late at night to say ‘what up?’ is not cool. You got a whole contact list and you choose the husband?
Text a single person or comment on UA-cam videos lol
Facts !
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yes the group text!
Where's the respect for the person's marriage and space? Inviting yourself to call a person whose taken whether on a friends basis is inappropriate and late calls signify comfortability which should not be anyway. If this is a mutual friend the marriage couple knows and the spouse is aware of the friendship fine if not this is just giving toooooooo much attention and this is not ok
It's unacceptable. No need for that.
It’s not that deep bro..
@@rootzx4689 When you don't respect I guess it isn't that deep.
@@ssmith6963 no if ur selfish and think everyone abides by ur rules and time u set that kind of boundary . It’s a text. Also r u forgetting that a person can ignore a text …if they don’t like the text don’t reply
@@rootzx4689 It's rude, just like your reply. My selfish rules...who is getting deep? 🤮
@@ssmith6963 the person who said I don’t respect is.. so I responded. Respect my opinion. I don’t think it’s disrespectful. You do. That’s fine. Don’t come for my integrity because of that. Not about to argue with a stranger about morals…
My closest friend is a guy. He’s not married, but when he’s in a relationship, out of respect to his girlfriend, I do not text him late at night. His girlfriends always know about me early (to avoid any awkwardness or drama from finding out there’s a woman he texts/talks to) and I become friends with some of them. Despite them knowing there’s nothing romantic between us and us not wanting that, out of respect, my texts can wait till the morning (regardless of if he’s cohabiting with his girlfriend or not).
The only time I might text/call late is if his girlfriend tells me she can’t reach him or something happened.
This was a decision I made by myself when he started dating after we became close friends. Before he got into a relationship, we would talk through the night about whatever and just joke around, but I had to think of what I would be comfortable with as the girlfriend/wife of a guy whose best friend is a girl and I set boundaries for myself out of respect for his significant other.
As far as I know, no one he’s dated has ever had an issue with our friendship.
Adult woman with common sense right here! That is all. Lol
I only text my guy best friend who is now engaged only during the day, on weekdays. Lol
True friend👏👏
THIS IS HOW TO DO IT!!!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💕💕💕💕
You get it sis!
Unless you’re sick, dying or dead…don’t text him late at night. Even then, don’t do it. There are 3 other men you can call before calling MY husband. God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Now will they answer immediately, maybe not. But I heard they’ll 🎵be there right on time. 🎶
💥 BOOM 💥
It depends on the reason. I think it’s pointless to start a casual conversation at 11 pm. Just wait until the next day.
It’s inappropriate to text any person at 11PM lol. Those are drunk dialing hours. And people gotta sleep.
I literally never agree with Loni on anything but I’m glad she’s sharing a little more nowadays
Idk why this is so funny to me lol
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That's becuase Jeannie is on leave and she has to help fill the void. Earn her paycheck. She used to be happy to let Jeannie and Adrienne get long winded and carry the girl chat. Now she has to step up.
Maybe it was because of Garcelle huh???🤔 who knows 🤷🏽♀️
@@karengutloff2004 Or maybe it was because of garcelle being added into the mix hmmm???🤔 Who knows🤷🏽♀️👀
Nope, it's just about respect. Often times night time is a couples one on one time, especially with work and if they have kids. So if they're in the middle of the only one on one time they get in a day, what do you have to say that so important as to interrupt it? When they're in the middle of their intimate time with one another, they don't need a woman nor man trying to have a random conversation, asking for life advice and so on.
Personally I don't think it's ever OK to text a married man
Group text is the way to go! Especially after 11pm.
Yes! IN.Appropri.Ate! Women need to be more respectful when it comes to this. It really depends on context as well, but even seemly “innocent” texts can masked when they just want to get close to your man and you feel it. It can wait for working hours. Thanks.
Garcelle, that high ponytail is YOURS!
I think anytime you put yourself in a position where you now could be questioned on your morals and respect to the sanctity of another persons marriage… you are now allowing drama into a persons space that was not necessary ! I would not want to cause the wrong idea… I out of respect would’ve either had the persons significant other as a emergency contact so they don’t feel like I’m intruding or infiltrating over their life! Now if you’re intentionally being inappropriate then that’s another story but if you’re not and it just happens to become an issue then sometimes be self aware to the consequences of your actions and how it may come off
Maybe I'm a bit different but it doesn't matter what time the text are being exchanged, If the intentions are bad, it won't change at 10am. I guess it feeds one's ego to say he's not texting another woman when he's with me.
People just need to admit that they are insecure in their relationship and don’t fully wholeheartedly trust their partners because if you trust your partner it really shouldn’t matter what time they receive a text from someone and if they honor and respect your relationship they will set that boundary. A person that truly honors you will never make you question or second guess yourself or put you in a position where you feel threatened by anyone outside of your relationship.
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Agree.
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FACTS‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️💯
Far from it.
Adrienne, NO ONE should be calling your husband about a song at 11pm! Don't you know how messy worshippers are?? That's a complete generalisation but y'all hear me 🤣💀 anyway it's an age old trick... Making sure you're the last person someone thinks about before they fall asleep. You do that enough times, an entanglement is bound to ensue! After hours assume he's home with his family y'all. Tomorrow is another day!
just get yourself a faithful, respectful man, and you dont have to worry if someone texts him in the evening or in the morning?!
Exactly, adrienne married a known cheater so of course she's going to be offended by everything. It's her insecurities taking over because she knows what he is capable of.
I don’t think it’s that black and white. It’s about respect. Even if you have a trustworthy person you may deem it disrespectful if someone messages them after a certain time.
I ain't texting NOBODY husband late at night. Heck, I don't even want to text them period 😂
Me too, and as a married woman I do not like when men text me for small talks. I ignore the texts everytime.
@@zharyandy100 the audacity!!
Yeah I do exactly what Garcelle suggested. Because the wife or husband will be suspicious and think 🤔 your cheating with the wife or husband.
I don’t agree with the “disrespectful” part. I’m happily engaged and have best friends who are in committed relationships. I’m close with them, not their partner. I don’t see anything wrong with sending them a text to share something with them! Especially if they’re my best friend, ain’t no bad intention behind it. AMEN to Loni. She makes sense
if you respect their spouses,do as Garcelle says, group text. if they are your best friends it is mature to also include their spouses in your texts,plans etc. it is just being respectful seeing as things have changed now, they are no longer single. someone else has joined their life and for good,so whether we want it or not, they will eventually take that best friend role and that is how it is supposed to be. That is evolving,that is life.
@@immaculateclare6641 i understand your point but I also don’t agree since I don’t know the spouse very well in that case. She’s very reserved and doesn’t have lots of friends. I always include her in plans but I’m sorry a conversation between friends is supposed to stay between friends and thats okay. (Again, when the intentions are pure) i see my best guy friends as my best girl friends, there’s not an ounce of weirdness behind it
Exactly 👏🏽👏🏽💯💯💯 I fully agree
I agree 💯 But maybe it’s a cultural thing, I’ve never heard this unspoken rule about texting 😅
I agree with both to an extent. If it’s just about a random story or to catch up on life, you need to chill like Loni said! I’m usually asleep tho like her so it wouldn’t happen to me often 😂. But I do see what the others say just wait until the morning. Adrienne’s right, it depends on the person and what type of message it is. I’m a paranoid person, so I have to be tight with the woman to be relaxed and not eavesdrop lol
Honestly, if I don't have reason to mistrust my man or husband and he is giving me the attention I need when we are together, I really don't care who is texting him and when. If you are already suspicious and think something is up, that's when everything becomes shady.
im so glad loni took off that jacket..not bc i didnt like it but bc that top is hella cute! she looks great in this deep red/maroon color!
Lmaooo I like/ love the ending when both loni & especially garcelle imitated & said hey both in their pretend m best male voices for expressions for pretend for a change 😊
I'm gay and even me know damn well not to text or call my married straight girl best friend after dark ! And if I do I make sure to say hello to her husband or text him the next day telling him I talked to his wife and ask for how he's doing. Etiquette, m
Politeness, common sense !
Respect ✊ goes along way!! Don’t be texting anyone’s significant other after 7pm if they are married unless it’s an emergency!!! There is no reason you should be texting a married person last late. It’s rude and disrespectful to the family……. No if and’s or but about it!!!
Im with loni on this
Loni low key in the hot seat! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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By far my favorite season❤️ the ladies had so much time apart last season it’s amazing to see them back, we still miss you Tam❤️
When I was younger, it may not have bothered me.
But, now that I'm older, I find it inappropriate to call or text ANYONE late at night.
I don't call or text anyone after 8pm during the week and 9pm on the weekend and PLEASE don't call or text me.
I'm not answering or responding.
Lmaooo loni we struggling with that jacket to take off lmaooooo😊😭😂😅🥴
My girlfriends are like my sisters and I’m close with all their husbands/boyfriends. I would never text or call them late at night. I would never even call to have a conversation during the day unless it was specifically pertaining to something.
Garcelle that’s good! I wouldn’t jump to conclusions right away. But I agree with Loni too tho. I don’t let everything bother me so much.
If its not an emergency Don't text anyone after hours, married or not
Factual
If it’s a best friend or a good friend And all of us know each other (group of friends) i wouldn’t have a problem.
I’m with Loni but if you know your friend is like Adrienne don’t text at all. Deep down Adrienne doesn’t like that it took a lot of her to say “yeah if it’s blah blah okay” no she didn’t like that period.
Adrienne doesn't trust Mr H. She searched the man's apartment, recorded him and had her publicist find out if he had really filed for divorce cause she couldn't just take his word so no surprise she doesn't trust him to innocently receive a late night text.
@@omphilemoerane2569 When did she record him?
@@gaila.9852 She said it was when they were dating. She left her iPhone in the car while she popped in a store. When she eventually listened to the recording it turned out he was just singing and seemed to be making up lyrics for a new song.
She talked about it during one of the episodes when Tam was still around.
@@omphilemoerane2569 Gotcha, I hadn’t heard that story. Anyway, all those stories are from when they were dating. I’m sure their relationship has grown since then.
@@gaila.9852 I do hope so cause you can tell he tries REALLY hard to be the best husband he can be to Adrienne.
You would never txt my husband late night. Don’t care about the text.
What you talking bout Willis????
Don’t care if your got an idea, meme or memo don’t play yourself. Periodt. Need a word, motivation or anything.
In the word of Ade… “try me noooot”
Nah. My husbands best friends are all gamers so they stay up late at night. I had to let him know that I find it disrespectful for anything to go down in the texts or the DMs after dark and he’s cool with that. My parents just raised me that way
How is talking to friends at night disrespectful? I’m genuinely asking.
@@gaila.9852 I think it’s more so the « being on the phone part » that’s disrespectful. Playing video games on a big screen late night is one thing, but being on the phone texting or dming, that just looks bad/suspicious.
Disrespectful might not be the right word. But I wouldn’t call or be texting anyone late unless it was really important. I think it’s a certain etiquette that you should have especially if that person is married or has kids
@@08angelluver I personally don’t think texting friends should seem suspicious.
@@luckyarchery Gotcha! I’m sure that’s something that differs depending on the stage of life you’re in.
Marriage is not a marriage without trust
No Loni. After my close make friend got married I was not going call or text late at night. To add to it, he even said Lexi, this would be our last late night calls before tomorrow when I am get married which was understood. Listen I don't want to cause problems in people's lives regardless if they are married or in a relationship. People are disrespectful, insensitive, entitled and don't know boundaries especially women and I had a few of those trifling females calling my ex after hours when we are sleeping. I don't play those games period.
This is so ridiculous lmaoooo if I wanna text my friend**** I should be able to text them at whatever time. Wth it gotta do with their marriage? This is so weird
Are you married
@@shantell4847 yes :) and so are all my closest friends.
Lol…I dunno, you had all day long to text, why choose a late night text when he’s home with his family.
‘Don’t do bad things that look good and don’t do good things that look bad’
@@AD-xe9pn because I’m up late and he’s my best friend and has been before either of our partners came into our lives. If I happen to think of something Late and vice versa, it literally has nothing to do with their relationship-it’s between us.
@@Nursexmaria So you wouldn't mind your husband texting another woman late at night
If you really worried about the timing of a text , you need to do some self work… because no one should have to think about the time they text someone because their partners jealous. That’s dumb.
How about you just respect other people's boundaries that they set for their marriage/home life. Why make it about you and how you think people should operate in their own relationship. You are the offending party that is infringing by texting at an inappropriate time when the recipient is supposed to be with their partner, and yet you want to turn around and regulate/judge the offended party's reaction.
@@zharyandy100 since when did other people have to operate on specific peoples time? If they don’t like the time , the person can simply not reply. This is not a major boundary, it’s time. It’s not that deep. What may be an inappropriate time to one person, may not be to another. It’s just a text.
Loni don't understand because she not married. If she was married she would have a fit if a female was texting her man late night. Adrienne understands and that's why
she's married.
Wow, Adrienne looks 🔥🔥🔥 today! Loving the whole look. 👌
And childless lol
@@madridista703usa3 What does your comment "childless" have anything to do with how beautiful she looks?
Loni needs to learn boundaries. Your friend is married, stop bringing your drama into his marriage. What a narc
Boundaries and respect goes a long way
The content of the message matters most lol. You can be inappropriate or cheating at 4 in the day lol 🤣
My married coworker and I also married would text all the time bc of crazy work schedules and general work chat … seriously it was innocent!! I swear!!! BUT inevitably that led to a year later when we started to be share things closer than coworkers should!! we shared lots of stories about our past we both lost a parent very young many laughs and cries were shared. Became best friends. That “friendship” just about ruined our lives We both got divorced from our spouses and we are now pretty damn happy and going on 3 years together. Men and women can’t be friends it’s just a matter of time and circumstances and things will progress it’s only natural. It’s not easy for me to type all of this I’m sure I’ll get hate. Take it as a cautionary tale.
exactly why my husband will not be texting female co workers. it can wait for work.
I'm curious, are you afraid your husband will do the same thing to you like how you did with your ex-husband? I mean you both engaged in an emotional affair with each other while you were married to other people, so what is stopping your husband to not do the same thing that he did to his ex-wife with you?
@@v.0624 She just said she’s happy and divorced, so mind your business and leave her alone.
@@lasagnekiller Well, a lot of people are happy and kept in the dark of their significant other cheating. Might as well not be surprised if her husband is cheating on her because what she has shown her current husband is that it's okay to to cheat on a significant other because she cheated on her ex husband to be with her current husband.
It's giving a question of what makes you think your husband is not doing the same thing behind your back as he did to own ex wife because I'm sure their own former spouses were happy within the marriage until being cheated on and then received a divorce.
It's important to know because most relationships that begin due to cheating end up having a significant other cheat on their significant other because if willing to enter a relationship by cheating is willing to be cheated on is essentially what happens.
With respect, you can't be platonic friends with men. There are plenty of women and men who are just friends and have never crossed boundaries.
Girl this season caught be and won't let me go. So good
These ladies knowwwww they got it this season! I missed the studio audience vibe during the pandemic but now that damn audience can stay gone. The ladies can carry this show without it we just had to get them off zoom lol
“ you can say hi in the morning”😭
You don’t need to be texting a married man late hours. Whatever you need to say can be said during normal business hours. Period.
it’s all about boundaries, you should know your friend & know your friends spouses so move accordingly.
To me, if he’s a good friend I know what his boundaries are. I won’t text anyone at night who isn’t comfortable with it. Plus, most of my friends have their phones on DND at night so I realize they won’t see it until the morning anyways.
Bestie from back in the day shouldn’t be texting in day time either
My thing is, why not agree to put your phone on night mode when you’re with your spouse? I never check my phone when I’m having down time with my boyfriend, I don’t care who texts me (people will call if it’s urgent)
The time literally don’t matter 💀. Somebody can send an inappropriate during the day who cares what time is it😂?!
Right lol
Good topic but I'm dyin over here cause of Loni and that jacket 🤣🤣🤣🤣
my mom always made me very aware of boundaries with ppl in a relationship early on. loni already told yall shes not loyal lol she doesnt believe in girlcode.
I love Garcelle’s look!
The answer is, like with most situations, it depends.
Generally, it's not ok to call or text someone late at night for small talks. Also, a cheating person will entertain those calls no matter the time of day
2:23 🤣🤣 Loni
2:27 🤔💭 Whoa❕🤯
Looks like Adrienne
got caught up in The Matrix. 🌐 It’s giving “🗣 Hello
Mrs. Anderson”😎❕🤷🏽♂️😩🤣
Loni hot flashin like crazy sittin up under them lights! I get it girl I get it!😂😂😂
A’s dress is amazing 😻
Most of the time, I don’t think you even need your friend’s husband phone number. I don’t even have any of my friends’ bf’s phone numbers. If I need to contact them, I can ask on Facebook lol
I think it depends on the relationship. Everyone is different and has different friendships with people
If this man is your friend, it SHOULD BE OKAY. I'm not some woman, i am his friend. Nothing inappropriate about that. Also, it won't be everyday. Now some random woman/man, it can wait. Text at an appropriate time.
My best friend’s husband sometimes comments or text me on social media, but I always tell her almost immediately or before the day ends. Even though he already told her or not. I just think it is respectful. I love them both and my little nephew 💕
I think the live audience was pulling this show down. It's so much better like this!
Once they aren't hiding it...and also able to give me attention at the same time. But tbh, why you even want your phone if you with me lol. We should be watching a movie, talking, making love or asleep lol
Nope I’m single and have married guy friends whose wives know me. It’s just not a good look IMO. If it’s 11 PM and he’s married he’s either with his wife having fun or sleep. Unless it’s a hospital type emergency then why are you interfering with his night? I don’t like it and I wouldn’t want to be treated like that as the wife.
That should be common sense!
As a creative , we usually work 24/7 on projects so it's normal if it's an update on the project but other than that no
I was sure before but I’m even more sure now - I love Loni Love.
Yes, period!
Yeah I think it's inappropriate to text a married man after a certain time. Especially if you texting to say hey or what u up to? That definitely can wait until the next day or text someone you know single.
I think it depends. If it can wait it's inappriate to text anyone late. If you need to ask something imporant that can't wait it's fine to text anytime. Sending texts with the wrong intentions are always going to be inappropriate.