Patrice O'Neal - Getting Out Of The Friend Zone

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  • @HoustonIsImmortal
    @HoustonIsImmortal 6 років тому +2051

    Patrice is more than a comedian. He's a legendary force for masculinity.

    • @healthcoachrich
      @healthcoachrich 5 років тому +21

      Brilliant summation.

    • @Dangerous2099
      @Dangerous2099 5 років тому +27

      And a philosopher. 😉

    • @squirrelandowl7482
      @squirrelandowl7482 4 роки тому +7

      FuckenA

    • @andrewilliams6866
      @andrewilliams6866 4 роки тому +13

      He's in the same class as Carlin imo

    • @mulehop17
      @mulehop17 3 роки тому +2

      + Truth, the world's most scarce resource at the moment. I don't know that I ever heard Patrice lie in any context that wasn't a joke set up and even then it is a rare thing

  • @christophermallett8166
    @christophermallett8166 6 років тому +2308

    "She's using you to make other guys want her".... this!!!

    • @hakunamatata289
      @hakunamatata289 5 років тому +102

      🤔🤔 One of the realist shit I have heard

    • @tommy_noble
      @tommy_noble 5 років тому +60

      That's next level

    • @barrytidmore2345
      @barrytidmore2345 5 років тому +28

      Weird, I scrolled down and read this exactly as it was said haha

    • @samiouldzeine8076
      @samiouldzeine8076 4 роки тому +14

      @Jason Mullings gaaad dammn lmao chilll

    • @victoravila866
      @victoravila866 4 роки тому +8

      It's a double standard

  • @66kaisersoza
    @66kaisersoza 5 років тому +538

    Don't say and do things to keep her.
    Say and do things to keep yourself happy. Never be afraid to take a loss

    • @freebird7284
      @freebird7284 3 роки тому +11

      paying someone to leave is the best money you will ever spend! you have the rest of your life to replace them

    • @edp3202
      @edp3202 3 місяці тому

      ​@@freebird7284toxic energy gone.

  • @Bonethugs90
    @Bonethugs90 5 років тому +454

    «CANCEL HER CONTRACT, Because you’re not her friend, you’re her timehoe» That is so beautiful!

  • @randyrandalman8234
    @randyrandalman8234 5 років тому +1568

    Patrice is right. The times I've had most success getting women was hanging out with them, getting bored, and wanting to leave to do something else. If you're trying to leave and a girl is asking you stay, then you're in. The weird thing is, while it's happening, you're not even thinking about hooking up - you are legit bored and want to do something else.

    • @Phenom98
      @Phenom98 5 років тому +95

      Word. Thats how I got laid the first time

    • @MegaMaveri
      @MegaMaveri 4 роки тому +315

      Bro. I accidentally talked myself into a three way in one day. I was thinking of food the whole time.

    • @KyComedyInc
      @KyComedyInc 4 роки тому +100

      @@MegaMaveri Fuckin Legend.

    • @gustogusto4519
      @gustogusto4519 4 роки тому +107

      That last sentence sums up the righteousness you have to walk with. It can't be an act

    • @isittechno5116
      @isittechno5116 4 роки тому +18

      Gary Johnson Well you got an entree and dessert

  • @anthonygreen6219
    @anthonygreen6219 Рік тому +165

    "Women are a fork. You need it. It's essential but it's not special" fucking genius!

  • @rarefool9520
    @rarefool9520 7 років тому +728

    for a man that didnt spend enough time here on earth,he sure left allot of advice

    • @stevelovesgod
      @stevelovesgod 6 років тому +8

      Rare Fool wrong advise for relationships.
      But great advise if you just want to get laid

    • @U9B
      @U9B 6 років тому +63

      Fantastic advice don't listen to the white knights. There's no friendzone just rejection. Leave.

    • @teddybeer6206
      @teddybeer6206 5 років тому +37

      @@stevelovesgod it's not/never about "getting laid". It's about being a man and standing your ground. The sexual aspect is to help explain but this is useful in all aspects of life, not just women.

    • @jomufilms
      @jomufilms 9 місяців тому +1

      @@teddybeer6206indeed Patrice gives advice you can even use at your job to avoid being taken advantage off

    • @IsYouStillaFan
      @IsYouStillaFan 5 місяців тому

      @@stevelovesgodif you unpack the misogyny but realize how he in tune he is with his emotions particularly anger without having to use violence. He is great relationship advice.

  • @Steve42098
    @Steve42098 7 років тому +304

    Patrice is so fucking right every time he speaks on these things. I wish I had a friend like him when I was 20

    • @deelodinero
      @deelodinero 6 років тому +11

      Steve M I needed this advice in middle school

    • @rworded
      @rworded 3 роки тому +8

      I was a late bloomer and was like that, but you learn to adapt or become bitter.

    • @edp3202
      @edp3202 3 місяці тому

      ​@@rwordedbut it is nice to have friends of opposite sex who are friends.

  • @tonymontez2358
    @tonymontez2358 7 років тому +875

    We need Patrice’s commentary for this climate we’re in now in 2017, r.i.p to the goat

    • @verve92
      @verve92 7 років тому +10

      We could use Bill Hicks and Carlin too. They wouldn't allow this shit going on in the culture.

    • @GeneticallyDefectiveBroski
      @GeneticallyDefectiveBroski 7 років тому +9

      The culture has changed a lot since Patrice was alive?

    • @tonymontez2358
      @tonymontez2358 7 років тому +9

      xkoaxian I was talking climate as in what’s going on in society not global warming

    • @GritsnBeans
      @GritsnBeans 7 років тому +7

      Its likely a russian troll bot.

    • @docgrimettv
      @docgrimettv 6 років тому +6

      We need him even more in 2k18

  • @javimiami92
    @javimiami92 5 років тому +474

    “She’s using you to make other guys want her.”
    So true

    • @rworded
      @rworded 3 роки тому +13

      While boosting her ego. It's a feedback loop.

    • @Jo-ym6id
      @Jo-ym6id 3 роки тому

      @@rworded time stamp?

    • @daquansbussy4288
      @daquansbussy4288 3 роки тому +13

      Yep and too many guys will happily help out girl's with their BS self-esteem issues for absolutely nothing but a vague promise of sex

    • @minimunk7
      @minimunk7 2 роки тому

      @@Jo-ym6id 16:16

  • @guitarfoundry
    @guitarfoundry 7 років тому +440

    i wish Bill Burr and Patrice were my best friends....Patrice was the best RIP.

    • @Neem0Mar
      @Neem0Mar 7 років тому +37

      They would probably destroy your self-esteem. :)

    • @milocreates8339
      @milocreates8339 7 років тому +16

      simon lloyd I hope you know what you're asking for. They will kill your self esteem and if you're ok with that you'll get confidence out of that destruction. But you have to be ok with what they say and take it.

    • @bigrobrooks6869
      @bigrobrooks6869 6 років тому +1

      0GR3 yes yes yes

    • @damiencondo7187
      @damiencondo7187 5 років тому +6

      they were close friends. Doesn't take much to do a little research

    • @jesuschristwithajhericurl2739
      @jesuschristwithajhericurl2739 5 років тому

      simon lloyd they are

  • @mikeg4490
    @mikeg4490 4 роки тому +535

    I wish Patrice lived longer to bash simp culture

    • @CW86228
      @CW86228 4 роки тому +4

      Wait don't tell me, nooooo

    • @rasheemthebestfirstone3274
      @rasheemthebestfirstone3274 4 роки тому +30

      Simp culture always been it’s just y’all just finding about it. Alpha and simp culture are both watered down most of the UA-camrs are simps acting as alphas

    • @CW86228
      @CW86228 4 роки тому +3

      @@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 my original comment was because I really was out the loop and didn't know he had passed. There have always been alphas and betas, this simp shit is just a term females come up with to control betas.

    • @godmind675
      @godmind675 3 роки тому +9

      Have no fear KEVIN SAMUELS is here😁😁

    • @rworded
      @rworded 3 роки тому +5

      Nice guys always existed dude.

  • @Beginningtopeak
    @Beginningtopeak 6 років тому +227

    You're five cars behind her on a one way street. One of the best analogies he ever came up with. Get off that street and convince her where your going is where she should be headed.

    • @evolution227
      @evolution227 6 років тому +5

      Michael Kerns Great comment. STAMPED

  • @nigtau2715
    @nigtau2715 7 років тому +280

    This is a hard pill to swallow....

    • @devynwilliams4666
      @devynwilliams4666 5 років тому +27

      Nig Tau yea it’s called red pill

    • @princeAJ101
      @princeAJ101 5 років тому +17

      It's call being honesty dude and you have to be honest with your self and what and how the fuck you feel...

  • @jaketd6262
    @jaketd6262 6 років тому +773

    I can’t believe this man just put all my women trouble into perspective...

    • @Super_tramp142
      @Super_tramp142 4 роки тому +74

      Welcome to church.

    • @spritemultipack
      @spritemultipack 4 роки тому +41

      The amount of wisdom I've been given through like 5 videos over the last hour is making me feel like such a handicap for not copping on sooner

    • @UNCFIPP
      @UNCFIPP 4 роки тому +11

      This is REAL pimp talk...
      NOT the "slap a bitch" pimpin, either... REAL GAME... 💯

    • @BJ52091
      @BJ52091 4 роки тому +6

      It's been two years hence, nigga. Hope you've taken this wisdom to heart and had more ass than a toilet seat!

    • @jaketd6262
      @jaketd6262 4 роки тому +10

      DaVinci2.0 lmaoo, since, I got proposed to by a cheater and left the bitch, got me a new keeper and I’m definitely gunna tell her I love her. These women ain’t never predictable, I’ve learned that. Take care brotha!

  • @paultag45
    @paultag45 7 років тому +293

    I could listen to his advice all day.

  • @VengefulPolititron
    @VengefulPolititron 4 роки тому +326

    "Women Hate Honesty."
    - Patrice O'Neal

    • @rworded
      @rworded 3 роки тому +10

      People do in general, you show your cards and get taken advantage of by revealing too much. It's on of the 48 laws of power.

    • @VengefulPolititron
      @VengefulPolititron 3 роки тому +5

      @@rworded
      yeah I know everyone hates truth.
      crazy though.
      I became cold so I couldn't get hurt. but then I killed my inner child and lost my outer self too
      I'm dead. Spiritually. no fix.
      be soft now.
      facts can't save you. knowledge won't help you. it just makes it worse. it's temporary powerful before self destruction. and you don't see it coming.
      be nice
      be soft
      be loving
      get hurt and cry. it's healthy and we need it. I lost myself and everything
      no fix.

    • @rworded
      @rworded 3 роки тому +10

      @@VengefulPolititron The inner child I think is a myth. In the before times, children used to help plant seed, and harvest grain. They grew up to cherish themselves and their environment not their youth.

    • @VengefulPolititron
      @VengefulPolititron 3 роки тому +1

      @@rworded yes. people remained who they were their whole lives... mostly.
      being fake and secretive was less possibly than it is today with internet

    • @rworded
      @rworded 3 роки тому +3

      @@VengefulPolititron That and I think the first generation to actually have any semblance of a the modern notion of a childhood, grew up to be narcissistic; they inherited great comforts and opportunities that they never appreciated beyond the superficial level. They were taught that pure, unadulterated selfishness was a virtue rather than a flaw by a small glowing box. They moved out at 18 and shoved their parents into retirement homes, rather be burden by the responsibility of family duty.

  • @РуменКовачев-р2е
    @РуменКовачев-р2е 4 роки тому +99

    I saw a comment that is one of my favourites in a Patrice video. It was:
    'When a woman loves a man he becomes her strenght, when a guy loves a woman she becomes his weakness'
    I've heard Patrice say that when a woman loves a guy she hates him too (explains why all bitches are attracted to love-hate realtionships, movies, etc. subconciously want that kind of partnership) cuz she hates the way she loves him. He has power over her. I think for us when we love a woman, we can truly love her but we end up hating ourselves for it. Cuz it is never their fault. See the difference - woman loves to hate a man just to hate to love him ... a man loves a woman in order to love her only to find him hating himself. Both ways it is on us. It is always us. All you have to do is know your value, keep your power and might in check. Thanks Patrice. God be with you, big man.

  • @edawg0
    @edawg0 7 років тому +366

    Every time I see a new Patrice o'neal video, it's like Christmas, they're always funny

  • @mikehawk9045
    @mikehawk9045 5 років тому +845

    The friendzone isn't a friendzone, it's a deathzone. The attention and friendliess will only EVER flow one direction until you die, and that is toward the woman. Never get deluded, YOU are HER friend, she is NOT yours. You are her spare tire if she ever gets a flat, you are a status symbol, and the more "friends" a girl has the higher the status. Dudes, real talk, a girl knows within the first minute of speaking to you if they are going to fuck you or not. Nothing more pathetic than a dude beta orbiting a girl hoping she'll eventually throw him a bone, and the girl knows it most of all. Now in terms of moving out of the friendzone and becoming a better man, there are 3 methods.
    1. The first is the easiest for shy men to do: If she is your friend, ask her to do things for you. It doesn't matter what it is just as long as you aren't a resentful bitch about it. Also be sure to phrase it as a COMMAND and not a question. "Hey I need a ride to the airport." "Hey I need you to bring me something from my house." "I'm in the middle of something, I need you to get me some food and I'll pay you back." DO NOT ask her to do things WITH you, it needs to be FOR you. Remember, you are HER friend and she is NOT yours. Having her do things for you flips the power dynamic and makes her see you in a different light. And if she rejects you every time, fuck her. Cut your losses and run. Always act like you have a girl in the bullpen even if you haven't had sex for years. Anything can work if you truly don't give a fuck about how women see you.
    2. Go after her single friend. This one is a little tricky and easy to come out looking like a douche, but nothing works quite like it. If she has a single friend who has been single for a while, then the friends self esteem is probably quite low (which for a woman means it's nearing normal human levels). You don't have to fuck the friend or get to any base, just flirt with her. Express sexual desire towards the friend and she how she responds. Women are naturally competitive with men. If you go after the friend, the friend will definitely use that to stab the girl you like in the back and it will drive the main girl crazy. Real talk, I liked this girl for an entire year but she was in an another relationship and would just drag me along to show off how many men like her. So, eventually I met her single friend and had a one night stand. A literal singular week later the main girl I liked dropped her boyfriend she'd been dating for a year and asked me if I was free to hang out with her alone. Nothing works better for getting out of the friendzone than the woman feeling than that classic old sin: JEALOUSY.
    3. Man up and tell her how you feel. Now this method is extremely risky and not recommended unless you are heavily attracted to her and she isn't a total narcissist. This is the NUCLEAR OPTION! If she rejects you flat cold or tries to push you back in the friendzone, you are going to get your heart ripped out. A lot of guys don't want to offend the woman and think the woman has as much to lose as they do. THIS IS NOT TRUE! You are in a position to be hurt by someone you care for and probably really like. She on the other hand, has to deal with a cringey conversation that she will laugh about with her friends in a couple hours. If you're in the friendzone, you probably aren't special to her, so be careful when sticking your neck out there.
    Remember lads, nothing attracts a woman more than confidence, and the only way to get confidence, is to truly not care if you get rejected. ALWAYS interact with women as if you have someone else in the reserve spot if she bores you. I wouldn't tell you something if I didn't truly believe it and trust me I've verified these methods for myself. They WORK. Women do not want a man below their station, they want to attract a man that is above them, a man who is INTERESTING and has OTHER stuff going on besides them. No girl, no matter how pretty or stuck up, is above your station EVER! Who cares if she you rejects you, there are literally billions more. Never stop believing in yourself gents!

    • @edetortopaz4976
      @edetortopaz4976 5 років тому +62

      Post of the century

    • @JayLawson
      @JayLawson 5 років тому +38

      Excellent post

    • @brandonx8292
      @brandonx8292 5 років тому +22

      Dude.. I'm gonna take this information... and share it!

    • @hantory9970
      @hantory9970 5 років тому +10

      you re the man

    • @georgeholt325
      @georgeholt325 5 років тому +36

      There is so much power in changing your thinking. The key is not to ACT like you don't care, but to actually NOT care. Try it and see.

  • @es_three232
    @es_three232 5 років тому +231

    I wish I would've seen this years ago. I just dropped a girl yesterday who used me like that for 5 years. She even used to tell me she loved me whenever I tried to called her out on it. I finally realized that I wasted years of my life on bitch who used me for everything. She deadass disrespected me & I finally had enough & now I feel like a new man. Patrice man you were a fucking Icon, Rest in Paradise bro

    • @Legend-ib9ik
      @Legend-ib9ik 4 роки тому +6

      Es_Three you on you’re way to enlightenment youngking

    • @jaredjames1989
      @jaredjames1989 4 роки тому +3

      Had a best friend like that. When I asked her opinion on a girl I'ma go steady with that's hotter than her I get the "she looks like a whore" line lol. It's hilarious now to watch her stew on her missed chance while getting pumped and dumped by Chads. Success is the best revenge.

    • @jaimeherrera4995
      @jaimeherrera4995 3 роки тому +7

      Better to have learned now than later on my friend.

    • @es_three232
      @es_three232 3 роки тому +8

      @Hichem H21 it was on & off, but I was in the military for most of it & she did me dirty, we ended up talking after like a year & when I got out She kept fucking with my feelings. It was all We're just friends but when I was with a new girl she got jealous & would say she realized she loved me. She used tf outta me, I was a bouncer at a nightclub & she used me to go out partying with her friends in the VIP, free drinks & weed.

    • @guitarman0365
      @guitarman0365 3 роки тому +3

      you can always tell by actions. never listen to words. I don't care if its i love you, im going to keep you after you say something she fines funny. I don't care what comes out of that mouth if nothing is going in it. She ain't into you like that.

  • @heresYoshii
    @heresYoshii 4 роки тому +93

    "I control my destiny." This is something everyone needs to realize

  • @oeckstei
    @oeckstei 3 роки тому +44

    You don’t have casual sex but you’ll have casual conversations, lol 😂 President O’ Neal

  • @siciliandragon340
    @siciliandragon340 4 роки тому +106

    When my college asks what the hell were you doing during quarantine , I am gonna say I learned philosophy.

  • @badazzmaro
    @badazzmaro 7 років тому +220

    take the ball home, walk away. cut your losses, walk away.

    • @daytonasayswhat9333
      @daytonasayswhat9333 6 років тому +6

      Flip the chessboard.

    • @lawrencemerriman8768
      @lawrencemerriman8768 5 років тому +2

      @@daytonasayswhat9333 the monopoly board is the best to flip 😂

    • @iHOOPseventy7
      @iHOOPseventy7 5 років тому +3

      Alot of times I find myself just goin ghost. N it keeps them on my hip lol

  • @xeikai
    @xeikai 7 років тому +228

    Alot of this is so true. If you're interested in a woman you cannot be her friend.

    • @senecanicholson1090
      @senecanicholson1090 6 років тому +18

      xeikai The woman has to be interested, more so than anything.

    • @semjb
      @semjb 6 років тому +43

      if so, why can't y'all just tell us if you are or aren't? i've made the mistake of thinking this girl was "interested" in me because in my eyes she was giving me all the right signals. when i make my move she rejects me. all i'm saying is yall need to be straight up and tell me. Took a major L but learned my lesson.

    • @13johnnyemo
      @13johnnyemo 6 років тому +16

      Everything is a game of would you rather. Do you value this person as your friend or do you just want to fuck? Whichever choice you make is fine, you just have to make sure you're getting what you want most out of the relationship

    • @Thabooka
      @Thabooka 6 років тому +15

      @@semjb because I guy like you will be a unlimited resource that's keeps paying for movies/dates/food - females keep a few guys like this till they hit the wall(get old not as attractive) and it dries up then they marry some dude that could never get women in the first place

    • @semjb
      @semjb 6 років тому +3

      @@Thabooka i don't pay for everything. she'll pay for our dates other times we'll split it... I'm definitely not a "unlimited resource" type but i see what you're saying

  • @IRON5
    @IRON5 6 років тому +109

    The brilliance of Patrice O'Neal is so truly missed today.

  • @svalbard01
    @svalbard01 6 років тому +395

    The problem with all these Patrice interviews is... all the people talking that aren't Patrice. Every time he gets on a roll and I'm ready to start taking notes, some lame interrupts and tells their version of the issue.

    • @brandonknable7890
      @brandonknable7890 6 років тому +31

      Agreed

    • @desmondciauri4616
      @desmondciauri4616 5 років тому +15

      Goals=don’t be that lame.

    • @buyimajola4245
      @buyimajola4245 4 роки тому +7

      Well said.

    • @mickys333
      @mickys333 4 роки тому +33

      @J If only Patrice was alive in this age where podcasts are blowing up, he'd be one of the top ones for sure.

    • @TheGaryHogue
      @TheGaryHogue 3 роки тому +4

      That is actually not the problem. If this makes sense you learned that it was the problem and you yourself learned from that to recognize it. So even though he didn’t get to finish exactly what he was saying you still learned.

  • @benjamingentile1660
    @benjamingentile1660 7 років тому +303

    20:12 Patrice's evil laugh has been known to cure most forms of cancer

  • @hahahans2403
    @hahahans2403 4 роки тому +80

    all patrice's tips have one thing in common: men should know their worth and not let women dictate it. there is absolutely NO WOMAN worth wasting your time if she doesn't reciprocate your love and effort.

  • @gorillacannible3198
    @gorillacannible3198 6 років тому +59

    These are things we all knew and felt but couldn't put in words, but Patrice nailed it in such a genuinely genius way.
    RIP

  • @VlaseRadu
    @VlaseRadu 5 років тому +22

    Finding Patrice radio shows on youtube it's like getting an education!

  • @encinoman903
    @encinoman903 5 років тому +30

    Men need to hear this now more than ever.

  • @eastside7793
    @eastside7793 4 роки тому +23

    R.I.P. Patrice O'Neal. Sad he knew he was dying but but so glad he spoke his mind 1000 %. Real muthafuka. I love u dawg

  • @davidgaugamela9801
    @davidgaugamela9801 6 років тому +65

    The difference between what we have been socialized to think versus what is our essential nature.

  • @7ackass
    @7ackass 6 років тому +31

    This is a must listen from beginning to the end.

  • @redscarecomixx
    @redscarecomixx 4 роки тому +13

    Patrice makes me feel so much better about myself as a man. Bravo Sir

  • @nocturnalferalguitarist
    @nocturnalferalguitarist 5 років тому +33

    Patrice was a hilarious bad ass with a huge heart.

  • @carlossanchezr.7283
    @carlossanchezr.7283 4 роки тому +14

    I made all those mistakes, but my son will not. Thank you, Patrice you beautiful Angel you.

    • @zulu3274
      @zulu3274 4 роки тому +3

      You Are Not alone I wish I would have heard some of this stuff YEARS ago....

  • @maxlewis2011
    @maxlewis2011 2 роки тому +5

    This is the #1 video lesson mindset that any man needs to know about relationship. Way Better than today's current UA-cam podcast programs

  • @sidowninc
    @sidowninc 7 років тому +95

    Knowledge dropped.

  • @ifacecheck
    @ifacecheck 5 років тому +16

    This man is needed now more than ever

  • @NEXO_JA_The_Emcee
    @NEXO_JA_The_Emcee 7 років тому +142

    The G.O.A.T.

  • @smokescreen69
    @smokescreen69 7 років тому +46

    26:26 It's like Patrice is speaking directly to me!! Man I love this guy - RIP Patrice.

  • @JAVIERCALDERON90
    @JAVIERCALDERON90 4 роки тому +115

    “Smells like the inside of a boxing glove after a 12 round fight”

  • @MitchC-vr8nw
    @MitchC-vr8nw 6 років тому +128

    I've told so many dudes about the friend zone much like Patrice did, but betas are too weak to wake up and own their own sexual destiny. Move on!

  • @tbutter9194
    @tbutter9194 7 років тому +83

    dam I wish I heard this when I was younger, could have spared me a lot of bullshit.

    • @Jesusistraining
      @Jesusistraining 7 років тому +8

      T Butter things like these, listening is never enough. You don't get to believe it until life has proven it to be true. In the aftermath, you are more receptive to patrices kind of analisis. Then you say Ahá! It IS TRUE

    • @jasonbourne6365
      @jasonbourne6365 7 років тому

      Achristic It's true.

    • @tbutter9194
      @tbutter9194 7 років тому

      Achristic I feel you there's a lot of truth to that , I wouldn't say you always only get to believe after it's happened though. Like I said it would have spared me alot of bullshit shit but I did escape the "zone " plenty times and fuckt em on the regular without ultimatums way before hearing this. Maby that's where the phrase getting lucky comes from lol. Not counting the girls I pulled off the rip and never was friends to begin with . It just would have spared me a lot of bullshit with the ones I strictly was trying to fuk and ended up putting the pussy on a pedestal getting the game twisted that's where this really could have helped me but i agree you right in those cases you have to go through it before you can over come it. Kinda like learning to fight if you ain't been punched you won't know how to block and dodge. The more I think about it the more I agree with you, still it depends on the case though and how thirsty you act to em. Respect and peace homie.

  • @RyanJamesOfficial
    @RyanJamesOfficial 6 років тому +98

    Just went on a second date, made a move, got shut down and told that we should be friends. LOL told her that it just ain't gonna happen like that and peaced out. Sorry, no time for that shit.

    • @montinyek6554
      @montinyek6554 6 років тому +6

      Ryan James so you technically dated since you had 2 dates?

    • @taylorx2
      @taylorx2 5 років тому +15

      If she says anything about being friends say you don’t need anymore friends you already have plenty leaving only one of two options. 1)y’all end up fucking/relationship if that’s what you want or 2)next her

  • @darthkahn45
    @darthkahn45 11 місяців тому +3

    That was some profound and wise shit.
    We miss you Patrice

  • @saladinthedark7459
    @saladinthedark7459 6 років тому +12

    this guy is my favorite philosopher

  • @jonathanp1886
    @jonathanp1886 3 роки тому +6

    Jeeeesus christ man. This is exactly what I've needed to hear. He's so brilliant

  • @wizmanballin8498
    @wizmanballin8498 7 років тому +75

    "smell like the inside of a boxing glove after a 12 round fight!" ROFLMAO!!!! This dude was something...but true on so many levels. R.I.P. Patrice!

  • @SFsailingbiking
    @SFsailingbiking 5 років тому +10

    I love listening to anything& everything with Patrice. RIP

  • @bwilhelm4214
    @bwilhelm4214 7 років тому +32

    A GREAT MAN. R.I.P.

  • @Buitreaux
    @Buitreaux 7 років тому +55

    Wisdom!!!
    Patrice was the greatest. I misd you Mr P!

  • @nickfonseca484
    @nickfonseca484 5 років тому +27

    Man I cried laughing at 4:28 when they keep talking at the same time and Patrice jus goes “alright”.

  • @Blake_.Dryden
    @Blake_.Dryden 7 років тому +53

    Not to wax poetic, but Patrice was absolutely brilliant, and compassionate as hell on top of it. Couldn't be a more WELL-ROUNDED individual. .. . Bwah bwah hah

  • @kalilong6729
    @kalilong6729 4 роки тому +9

    patrice was a real one... u r missed my friend... rip.

  • @SuperSoupy
    @SuperSoupy 2 роки тому +6

    Dude, right at the end of this vid.. You know how you have to talk for a while in order to eventually find the point? It's right here at the end:
    "Look, this is how I feel about this.. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. I feel like you're using me. And this is how I FEEL. I FEEL this way.
    Now it may be wrong, it may be right, but I'm telling you what's in my gut. I FEEL something, and I'm not going to automatically destroy what I feel, to make you feel better. I'm gonna TELL you how I feel."
    This is it. Right here. Thanks Patrice.

  • @cc-tz6kq
    @cc-tz6kq 6 років тому +17

    We all need that friend like Patrice

  • @CopycatNinja875
    @CopycatNinja875 7 років тому +585

    The friendzone is literally an extension of feminism. Its based on this whole idea that both genders are similar and deceives men believing that women like guys that are always nice, friendly, and available. I have females that I get along with and view them as acquaintances but I would never waste my time being their doormat and emotional tampon. The only time you should hang around chicks is if you are interested hooking up and banging them. If weeks and months pass by and it does not lead to anything, you should cut all your personal contact with the girl to prevent yourself from being led on.

    • @AQUAPHREESH193
      @AQUAPHREESH193 6 років тому +41

      TRUTHH lol u can be their acquaintances but as long as know da game i can't get played or delegated to the army reserves position while the navy seal niggaz get da lovin hahaha

    • @kennymichaelalanya7134
      @kennymichaelalanya7134 6 років тому +7

      @Christian 681 no, since if u have girls that are solely there for emotional support etc ur wasting time.
      And this means ur beta male.
      It pretty much means u have a hard time balancing out menial issues. 🤔

    • @leronrussell1628
      @leronrussell1628 6 років тому

      Not if your reason of being interested is because you were attracted to her and wanted her

    • @dbt4334
      @dbt4334 6 років тому

      Preach!

    • @xcaluhbration
      @xcaluhbration 5 років тому

      Copycat over here dropping JEWELS! ✊🏿

  • @niko7877
    @niko7877 4 роки тому +22

    It's crazy cause I'm 19 right and there's this girl. I haven't talked with her for over a month when until then I talked with her daily and a lot. I was giving her the time Philip mentioned and I decided I should just tell her I like her and either it goes well or I cut off contact. It's crazy how what I'm figuring out is smth he said himself. I wish I discovered him sooner, it would have saved me a lot of time although I'm glad I discovered this on my own instead of just listening it from him

    • @LeMuzi
      @LeMuzi 3 роки тому +1

      bro this hits hard, and im in a nother country phone calling this girl for 6 hours...and im like wtf am i doing

    • @devilvocano420
      @devilvocano420 2 роки тому

      @@LeMuzi
      Well long distance is fun
      But its hard for it to come to something

    • @Bofa99
      @Bofa99 2 роки тому +2

      @@devilvocano420 long distance relationships creep me out man, u never know what the hell the other person is up to. People can hide shit from you without much effort and you will never know because you don’t live in the same place.

  • @marcusguyton3062
    @marcusguyton3062 5 років тому +5

    I'm glad i'm young watching this. Going through what the last caller went through.

  • @Goldaction0
    @Goldaction0 2 місяці тому +2

    I wish l had heard this before entering high school 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @gregc33487
    @gregc33487 3 роки тому +3

    Listening to Patrice is so bitter sweet. I miss him like I knew him..

  • @teardropsonmyfallen
    @teardropsonmyfallen 4 роки тому +11

    Dude Patrice so aware and so wise it's crazy

  • @Anthony-jc1ii
    @Anthony-jc1ii 6 років тому +15

    This has been so helpful.
    So informative. Thank you Patrice O'Neill...

  • @aseelshahpoor
    @aseelshahpoor 4 роки тому +8

    Patrice really controlled the room so well here.

  • @TheGrimmCommoner
    @TheGrimmCommoner 7 років тому +277

    Seek other women and use her as abundence, for the other women to see that you have women around you. It will make those women compete for your attention and the main girl will see another girl with a guy she had and missed out on. It'll make her then compete for your time.

    • @frankdobbs7862
      @frankdobbs7862 6 років тому +30

      The word youre looking for is preselection

    • @sammyj184
      @sammyj184 6 років тому +8

      Frank Dobbs u guys are golden

    • @Brinked-Music
      @Brinked-Music 5 років тому

      stop liking 69 is perfect :)

  • @baltothetopg
    @baltothetopg 2 роки тому +3

    Who else here in 2022!?! 🪦 legend!

  • @RavenMessiah
    @RavenMessiah 4 роки тому +17

    "You're not in love, you're in lust".
    Phenomenal insight.

  • @itsabeautifulanimism3704
    @itsabeautifulanimism3704 3 роки тому +7

    Patrice was the most confident person in the planet!! I hate to see such a confident, outspoken and intelligent person gone too soon. I hate it man.

  • @mariovalencia520
    @mariovalencia520 3 роки тому +8

    “It smells like the inside of a boxing glove after a 12 round fight” 😂😂😂 dawg

  • @colepeltier8472
    @colepeltier8472 8 місяців тому +6

    "I dont have casualty sex"
    "I dont have casual conversation"

  • @nelsonsavage4635
    @nelsonsavage4635 4 роки тому +5

    Hes got the best radio voice ever.

  • @livebythews
    @livebythews 4 роки тому +11

    The hardest part is when you find one that you genuinely like and THEN trying to keep the power dynamic on your side. 28 yo and I'm still working on this shit lol

  • @barryryan8267
    @barryryan8267 6 років тому +20

    12.35 "Time-ho"....that's my Xmas tee-shirt presents sorted right there.

  • @ThatGuyAlon
    @ThatGuyAlon 7 місяців тому

    One of Patrice’s best moments. Every guy in high school needs to watch this video

  • @onlinevisuallyleadsthatcal627
    @onlinevisuallyleadsthatcal627 6 років тому +36

    Nothing more true than what Patrice is saying...

  • @lukerussell6372
    @lukerussell6372 Рік тому +2

    Patrice understood women more than they understood themselves. RIP

  • @TheHouseOffice
    @TheHouseOffice 4 роки тому +85

    What people dont get is that he is an advocate of fairness. He is calling this "nice guy" Joe a phony. Women deal with phony guys all the time, and guys get friendzoned by girls (often a manipulation) all the time. He is good for everyone.

  • @coreyh9175
    @coreyh9175 3 роки тому +37

    We need Patrice in these emasculated times.

  • @avatarferre
    @avatarferre 4 роки тому +3

    I love all of you guys for loving our king Patrice🥰

  • @TheKbcolson
    @TheKbcolson 5 років тому +42

    Reject all friendships with women you want sex with. Don't let them waste your time.

  • @KingJin726
    @KingJin726 3 роки тому +5

    RIP. I learned about how good this guy was, way too late.

  • @jgonzales912
    @jgonzales912 4 роки тому +2

    Genius at work. RIP brother.

  • @stinkingjoke1
    @stinkingjoke1 4 роки тому +32

    I have been saying for years, before I even ever had heard of Patrice, that I think it’s impossible for men and women to be strictly platonically friends.
    This is, of course, assuming that both the man and woman are straight and unattached.
    Maybe it’s just me, but if I am talking to a single woman, I’m not trying to be their friend.

  • @turnupthesun81
    @turnupthesun81 Рік тому +5

    I’m so glad I listened to Patrice’s appearances on O and A back in the day. One of the realest things he said was “Women’s anger is tied to their emotions and there’s little to no logic behind it.” I can’t tell you how many times my wife’s been pissed at me and I’ve just blown her off and refused to argue with her and then over time (days or even weeks) she’ll be like “yeah you’re right” once she gets over the emotional part of it.

  • @TheKnightPatriot
    @TheKnightPatriot 5 років тому +25

    That shit about when you're bombing at a comedy show and get out of it by making it worse, reminds me of the Bill Burr Philly Rant. Good advice.

    • @TheWildCur
      @TheWildCur 5 років тому +9

      I did a joke about choking a prostitute and it bombed. So then I did a joke about domestic abuse and black males. Made people uncomfortable. Then I did a joke about giving my girlfriend an STD on purpose. They finally laughed. It works. Just double down and let them know they’re not going to control what you find funny.

    • @GaveMeStyle7
      @GaveMeStyle7 3 роки тому +1

      @@TheWildCur Well played lmao

    • @stanleed.harold5457
      @stanleed.harold5457 3 роки тому

      They were friends

  • @champmarly7665
    @champmarly7665 6 років тому +16

    Patrice is spot on. Miss this man's knowledge of the game

  • @Vert0313
    @Vert0313 8 місяців тому +3

    @13:57 This is PEAK Patrice. He said: "This is the thing, as guy's. This is what kills us." Dude was down for us.

  • @ajtaylor8750
    @ajtaylor8750 5 років тому +6

    Even years later after Patrice's passing, this message holds so strong. You can't be a woman's emotional tampon or personal assistant when you're trying to sleep with her, and you instead gotta put yourself first to gain her respect. Stop doing everything for her, go mess with other women, bring those other women around, and LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOU. Don't answer her every call, and be a man that values your time, and that makes a woman want to work for your attention.

  • @Ervinabrahamian
    @Ervinabrahamian 5 років тому +10

    Stefan Urkel was the ultimate example of breaking out of the friend zone

  • @santanah.6897
    @santanah.6897 Рік тому +2

    Rip to the king ‘23

  • @MrMissingnin44
    @MrMissingnin44 6 років тому +6

    I miss Patrice man R.i.p

  • @lucasdasilva5631
    @lucasdasilva5631 2 роки тому +2

    Who else is here doing a periodic review of Patrice’s wisdom? 🍻 cheers gentlemen

    • @chefntoast
      @chefntoast 2 роки тому +1

      I dont know about periódic... but Patrice, Greg , Eddie etc are the truth

  • @dominicviner6619
    @dominicviner6619 5 років тому +6

    Patrice is so wise

  • @DevonsoDivine
    @DevonsoDivine 4 роки тому +2

    This is the best one

  • @Youngsoldier93
    @Youngsoldier93 5 років тому +8

    This man kept it all the way real!

  • @quiet_guy9772
    @quiet_guy9772 4 роки тому +6

    6:55 -7:02
    I'm a little bit tipsy, but that bittersweet truth brought tears to my eyes...
    Rip Patrice.. A Prophet gone too soon🙏😭💯