EFFORT MEANS ATTEMPT. THERE IS NO ATTEMPT IN NEARLY KILLING YOURSELF. ATTEMPT IS DONE TO ACHIEVE YOUR PURPOSE, SOMEONE'S PURPOSE, OR SOMETHING'S PURPOSE & ALMOST ROBBING ONESELF OF GETTING TO ACHIEVE ONE'S PURPOSE ACHIEVES NOTHING. STOP MISUSING THE WORD ATTEMPT.
Even if its for attraction that is a child they to put attention on the fact that they are unhappy someone who is happy wouldn't try to kill themselves saying its for attention honestly its more a cry for help and any parent who denies that there child is going through something shouldn't be a parent
and as if it being a cry for attention isn't alarming in itself!!! like your kid has to try to kill themself so you can become aware of how much they're suffering and you're ok with that?
EXACTLY! For Self harm in general, it isn’t unpopular for it to be for “attention”, but they’re not seeking pity, they’re seeking for someone to notice so they can get help. It’s a cry for help.
When I heard that man say "if he actually wanted to kill himself, there are ways to insure that happens. Anything else is a cry for help" I just started shaking. It's comments like these from adults that made me try in the first place! And hearing stuff like that makes me go to the doubting place and have me ask myself well was I doing it for attention maybe I was being too dramatic. and no one who is suicidal should feel like their attempt wasn't good or real enough. I honestly just can't even process this right now.
Please don’t attempt taking your life. Things just wouldn't be the same without you. You're worth it here, so please don't think you aren't. Life can be tough sometimes, but please hang on! You aren't doing it for attention, some people are just jerks who keep saying that you're doing it for attention. Block out those people and look to the brighter days soon to come. I believe that there is good in a lot of bad situations, and covid is one of the bad situations for example. Hopefully, something great will come out of this time of social isolation and madness. Idk what it will be, but just stick around with us to find out!
Dear Caitlin, please don't question yourself based on what other people are saying. Nobody risks their life because they're 'too dramatic'. The will to live is one of the strongest instincts that we have, so when something inside you gets even stronger than that, then it's serious by definition. Even IF it was a cry for attention, then that only means that you needed attention really, really badly. In the end, you did what you did because you were in a terrible place at the time, otherwise you wouldn't have done it. And there's no way that you're to blame for that. I promise. Now having said that, please promise me that if you start feeling like that again, you'll look for help. I assume that you're young, because you're talking about 'adults'. So maybe talk to your parents or a teacher that you trust. Or some other family member maybe. Or if you don't feel comfortable doing any of that, most countries have phonelines that you can dial and there are online chats that you can go to for some help. There's absolutely no shame in that. You're a beautiful person Caitlin, I can tell. I wish you all the best.
Its in the people who suffer... Sadly I want to cut myself but I'm scared because of my parents saying I'm doing for attention when really I'm suffering because of their standards for me. Its rare that I try to commit suicide but its common for me to try and cut myself... Its not attention grabbing... Its suffering and wanting to end it. But its sad we get ignored because rats called fake depressed people do it for attention. then the real ones get called fake because of them. (Never do what I do... Which is cutting currently.. Just don't. It may feel good but its not.) As the end note.. I get what you're saying... I know what you're going through.. You can make it through this... People who have suffered the same are here for you.
@@crayon294 dam is hard to imagine that 😂 but in this case her mom only focus on craig you can look when dr phil ask her mom you can't see you son at hospital 😂 but i'm 💯 percent confident if craig in hospital she can go and see craig at hospital so on basic this mom only focus on craig you can see her mom face when ask can't go see her son
I would just like to say no one who commits suicide is looking for attention. That is a complete myth. People who commit suicide are in such pain that they need a way to end it. They are in a dark tunnel and the only way out is death. They are not looking for attention at all. Those who seem fine are really the ones going through so much and need help. Don't take anyone for granted and believe me when I say no one is looking for attention. Thank you for reading this.
A lot of cries for help, are cries for attention. I've never gotten why people get mad that people who want to die, want attention. DUH. They want help at first! But eventually it gets serious.
And my mom exactly that. Dismissed my depression, basically, her personality is all the things a narcissist does packed with a Karen. I'm in 7th grade, 13 years old, have thought about cutting. I want to run away.
@@sarcasticstranger3817 I don’t think he’s implying that Dr. Phil is wrong, they’re probably meaning that the adults that are involved in the situation: Mother, Father, and Mom’s boyfriend
@@RYCH3 no way. he was in such a dark place that he wanted to end it. imagine you were so sad that there was nothing to keep you going and nothing seemed work it. you don’t know what it feels like. it’s not selfishness, you need to put some thought into what you said because you are being an inconsiderate brat.
I feel for this girl, she didn’t wake up one day and decide to attempt suicide. This was her way of saying I’m struggling and I need help. Telling your child that you did it for attention is going to make them feel worse and deter them from asking for help.
As someone who has tried to commit suicide, I can say, sometimes, sometimes it's a cry for attention. But it's not 'give me attention! Give me attention!' It's more I'm willing to risk my life in a last hope for you to finally listen. Many people are so stressed out today, so depressed that the only way out is to try and commit suicide and it's people like the mother and step father who need to wake up and see that they might be the problem.
Wow I didn’t think that anyone else thought this way, I’ve been seeing other people say “no one EVER does it for attention” etc etc which, is wrong. Sometimes we do. I’ve attempted more times than I remember, whether I was too drunk to remember or if my trauma doesn’t let me but I know that many of those times I was trying to get attention, exactly the way you explained. It wasn’t a “look at me” “look at me”. I thought that if I did it, the people who were the reason for me doing it would see just how severe their actions were and that they would change. I thought that if I was mourned by my family and friends it would prove they really did love me, it would just take my death for them and i to see that. I wanted to die but if I gave my life to teach a lesson to people then it made me feel like I wasn’t going to be remembered as a coward who “gave up” or wasn’t strong enough. I never really said these things because I thought no one would understand and I too would be dubbed as an “attention seeker”. I wasn’t looking for attention I just wanted people to be aware, I was looking for love and understanding :( Ive never been so relieved at a UA-cam comment, knowing that I wasn’t alone in feeling this way, and being kind of ashamed of it. I hope someone else with the same feelings can see our comments.
it’s only for attention if they say it constantly arent showing any signs of truley feeling pain or depression and using it to get what they want (manipulation) or for validation in my opinion
I’ve been depressed since 7th grade & I finally told my parents about my mental health issues when I was a junior. I had contemplated suicide before, but when I told them, I was no longer in that dark place. My mom proceeded to gaslight me and scream at me because I asked my counselor how to get help before coming to them :/ Well, long story short, she accused me of making stuff up and wanting to make her feel bad lmao & I told her she wouldn’t believe me unless I tried to kill myself, but thinking about it now, maybe she still wouldn’t believe me lol
Hey Army I am really sorry for you. I never attempted suicide but I had suicidal ideation due to some personal reasons. When I told my parents that I had depression they just acted so much coldly towards me that I still can't believe it. They said that I don't know how to tolerate something in life that's why I had depression, and I am a spoiled kid :( We all are in the same boat
@@adu1991 People who don't their own children are absolutely not parents at all.They are nothing but evil,selfish,disgusting,nasty people who don't deserve to have any children at all.Does anyone else agree with me?.
hi guys, I just want to remind you to eat, take care of yourself, spoil yourself, etc. You deserve more than the world can give. Hope all of you are doing well, ily.
or parents pretend to care and then when i do ask for help i get called childish or immature or selfish.. then it makes me feel guilty and i repress further
@@roguejester4986 I agree with you.If you can't accept your own children for who they are and/or listen to your own children whenever they have any problems,don't have any children at all!.Does anyone else agree with me?.
My mum is this. I cut for attention, I attempted suicide AND TOLD HER I WAS GOING TO beforehand when we were arguing. She still thinks it was for attention. I’m so tired
This makes my blood boil not everything is about you your child is worth more then money “she didn’t want to pay the ambulance bill” your daughter is so so sad HELP HER
this makes me so angry. is the mother gunna say, “oh she just killed herself for attention” if she actually does it? this makes me sick. suicide is NOT a joke..
“We stay away from you!” So. Instead of. Helping her through her emotions. Helping her learn to cope with tragedy and loss. You just… leave her? Wowwww
all the gaslighting coming from this mother is insane. “youre changing your story” “i never said that” you can tell the girl is so frustrated, shes even recording conversations but clearly facts are no match for whatever narrative the immature adults in her life are spinning. some people should not be parents
this is literally how my parents talk to me whenever i have any type of feeling other than happiness. i completely understand how she feels the fact that her parents are trying to manipulate her. i really hope she gets through this and gets away from them
Every single one of those adults are immature and need serious help getting their stuff together. Everything this mother said in this video is so messed up
people try to use suicide as a method of getting attention all the time as a form of manipulation, but this girl is just young and emotional. i attempted three times and my story sounds really similar to hers, i think she’ll grow out of it. at least i hope so, i really hope she realizes how precious her life is.
I understand what you are saying and all but you shouldn’t say it was for attention, just cause you did it and say its for attention doesn’t mean other also do it for attention. Some people honestly are in so much pain the think it’s the only way out, or do it for help. I do agree with you that her life is precious but I wouldn’t say it’s for attention
“She is young and emotional” or she has a mental illness as in depression. She is obviously not feeling good so I don’t think saying that she’s young is a part of it, I agree that hormones can cause a few things but you don’t try to kill yourself just cause you are young, young people are smarter than adults now days
@@nosir4707 wait what, I was literally saying that they (they person who commented this) shouldn’t say it’s for attention, idk if you understood what I meant or not lol
A friend of my daughters talked about suicide also , but she was really pretty and seemed to have so much to live for. Nobody took her seriously either and made comments about her wanting attention. Well , everyone's attention was certainly gotten when they found her a short time later hanging by the neck from a local bridge! NEVER ignore a suicide threat! That is something mist people would never play around about!
That's a pretty insensitive thing for the mom to say... ~ I just want anyone out there whether you having a bad time or doing great, please know that's better to keep going please stay :)
I forgot to mention why are you even including the fact that the daughter is cursing? This isn't even about the daughter cursing. It's about how the mom is being so narcissistic to say that her daughter is attempting suicide for attention!
I remember being abused to that extent that I started carving out lines on my hands with a broken piece of bangle and blood started oozing out . My parents standing in front of me , mom looked straight into my eyes and said and I'm learning all these things from watching movies . She said I wa trying to hurt her when I'm the one mentally qnd physically abused . This was in 8th or 7th grade. Im starting college this year after my exams . Watching the mom in this video talk about how her "daughter only wants to hurt her feelings" reminded me of my mother . Don't get me wrong , my parents love me and I love them too . I would literally die for them but all this abuse has left me with being abusive with them and having very bad anger issues to the point where I start shaking trying to control my emotions when my parents say something to me . it has totally ruined my life but I found bts and they take majority of my pain now a days and they actually help me control my anger . so thank you bangtan 💜
Why does every parent with an unhealthy, depressed child either A. abuse and beat their child or B. ignore it? Seriously, I'm a MINOR and I could be a better parent.
That mother is wrong.Not everything is about her and the whole wide world also does not revolve around her too.She is not a good mother at all.She is nothing but a dirty selfish woman too.Does anyone else agree with me?.
My first attempt was age 8 since then I have attempted 11 times. My mother has said 100s of times it was for attention. That caused my most recent attempt. None of it has ever been for attention
My father yelled and punched things when I told him how stressful I am because of my suicidal thoughts. He blamed everything, and called me weak and loser. I thought he would understand my pain. I thought he would listen. It really hurts, please someone help me
When I was in college, I attempted by overdosing, and my friends took me to the ER. They begged me to call my parents, even though I told them they wouldn't care, but I eventually did. I got a hold of my father, who was only an hour away. I told him I was in the ER, he asked why, and I told him. He said, 'So, like, do you need me there or what?' I told him no, because it was obvious he didn't care and saw it and me as a bother. Then he said that I didn't need to bother my mom with it. I was in the hospital for 3 days. It happened to coincide with a 3 day weekend from classes. So, after, I just went back to classes like nothing happened. We never spoke of it again. My friends were pretty horrified, though, and completely understood my relationship to my family after that.
If someone harms themself or tries to kill themself for attention that itself shows the person is suffering from severe mental health issues and should be taken just as serious as a legitimate suicide attempt
I saw a therapist as a teenager because I was suicidal. It didn't improve my relationship with my parents at all. My mother continued to abuse me. She was the one who needed a therapist, not me.
Oh man, this is sad. The leading cause of suicide is a lack of love. Theres a child who tried to end her life and they're arguing about her reasons. To me it doesn't matter if it was done for attention because if someone has to do that for attention, then they're obviously feeling like the only way to get love and attention is through drastic measures and that should never have to be the case.
I think it is a cry for attention, but not in the negative connotation that we put it in. The attention they want is not the kind presented in the negative connotation such as popularity, rather it's attention like emotional attention or helping attention. The problem is the negative connotation we put behind the phrase as a way to dismiss it because it is indeed partially right, but it's still flawed and shouldn't be said in that connotation.
The one thing I wanted Dr Phil to say to Craig is “You are not their father, stop trying to replace him. And stop telling them what they feel and don’t feel.” Same with that pathetic gaslighting excuse of a mother!
Even if someone tries to commit suicide for attention, “so they say,” they’ll be gone and won’t indulge in the attention itself. She could have lost her daughter forever just because she couldn’t push her judgments aside. Sad
It's called a suicide note that someone with mental health problems like bipolar depression writes to there family members and friends when they try to attempt suicide. Suicide is a real thing that happens more often than you think and these parents are handling the substation horribly and being ignorant. People don't do this stuff for attention they do it for a cry for help or they just don't want to do it anymore.
...imagine not showing up to the hospital when your doctor tried to COMMIT SUICIDE. This makes me so grateful for both of my parents. When I was in a mental hospital I never heard any complaining about the price > which was 10,000 without insurance and about 2k with insurance. My mother brought me things like clothes, some books, etc. Could have been so much worse (I wasn't even there for a suicide attempt). Wow. What failures of parents, clearly some mental illness with them too considering the father's suicide attempt, sad situation all around.
If I had to pick one of them that I think should shut their mouth its the mothers boyfriend. I think if you don't have a biological connection to any of the family you should stay out of it.
When I heared "I had to stay at work" I was just like "I would leave work at any costs, when my kid is in hospital!" I heared a few sentences of her and I knew that she is no good parent. I mean even if the suicide attempt was for attention, that would mean this teen had nobody that listened to her, otherwise there would be no reason to choose such a drastic way to get attention. I had 6 suicide attempts by now and none of them were ever meant to get attention. I mean, I knew I would get attention when I try and fail and that thought sometimes really stopped me from doing so, but I had so many suicide attempts because I saw no other way. I don't know how to cope with the pain, I don't know how to cope with all the pressure of life and my biggest wish is to be free and my opinion is, that I can never reach the state of being free, when I am alive. A suicide attempt is always a cry for help, believe it or not. I didn't say that the main idea that caused the suicide attempt is a cry for help. It is more likely a side effect.
The guy saying that unless your suicide attempts succeed then it’s just a cry for attention really hurts me so much. I’ve had between 20 and 25 attempts, obviously none of them successful, but I never did it for attention. In fact I always hated the attention people gave me for it. I could just never imagine saying someone just did it for attention. Also, the mother saying she couldn’t go to see her daughter at the hospital also hurts. My mum flew from one region of the country to another with my 6 month old sister just to see me in hospital. This whole situation just hits on a deep and personal level and I can’t believe anyone could be like this.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I am so glad you're here ❤ I've had about 11 attempts and I'm glad they didn't take. When I'm depressed I feel differently but it changes. People saying that oh you did it to get attention are just horrible people. Its like bloody listen to why they even went to attempt instead of sweeping it under the rug. I was in an abusive domestic violence marriage and my ex did not care at all. It hurts knowing how serious this is and people just don't care.
@@bluebree don't be sorry. I'm not. I'm not in that mindset anymore and its been just under a year since my last one but I wouldn't change it. Its given me the first hand experience along with understanding and more empathy for when I go into nursing. I wouldn't be who I am today without those struggles. I'm glad you're still here and I'm sending you lots of hugs and warm vibes 💖
@@bluebree thank you. I’m the kind of person that has accepted that that’s what happened to me. And if I can’t change it then I may as well embrace it. That’s not at all to say that it’s not hard to do (it’s just easier than trying to change it), or that I don’t have problems from it. I have ptsd and tachycardia from it and I’m absolutely not ashamed to say it. I used to be because “I did it to myself” but therapy and great support from my family and friends have taught me it’s not my fault and I can be proud because I survived and I am a fierce warrior. And you are too. Stay that warrior. I wear my scars with pride, not because of what they are from but because they represent how far I’ve come. I’m so proud of you and I love you. And just remember I’m always here❤️
@@hanns115 Aw same here, if you ever need to talk let me know ❤ I have multiple mental illnesses and take medication, I'm also in therapy which has definetly helped a lot. It hasn't been easy but I've incorporated a lot of skills from therapy into my daily life. I have been self harming since 12 and am in recovery. I haven't been ashamed of my scars for years now and it feels good to just not care what people think. I'm sorry you've got PTSD and tachycardia but I'm glad that you're not ashamed because that's not an easy thing to do. I always strive to stay a warrior for my family, friends and my 2 yr old daughter 🙂
I don’t know why but when I found out what her mum said about the attention it just made me so upset and I started crying, like how could she say that!
after my first half hearted attempt my mom yelled at me saying "how would YOU feel if i told you i tried to kill myself? how would you feel if i succeeded?" that has stuck with me almost a year now.
@@Joe-ou1iw Sorry, the wording made me think you were trying to see it from both sides. Completely normal response to such a neglectful and immature way of thinking. I hope this can positively affect you so that you keep your circle clear of people who invalidate your emotions. Much love❤❤
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@@hannahrepollo lmaooo
EFFORT MEANS ATTEMPT. THERE IS NO ATTEMPT IN NEARLY KILLING YOURSELF. ATTEMPT IS DONE TO ACHIEVE YOUR PURPOSE, SOMEONE'S PURPOSE, OR SOMETHING'S PURPOSE & ALMOST ROBBING ONESELF OF GETTING TO ACHIEVE ONE'S PURPOSE ACHIEVES NOTHING. STOP MISUSING THE WORD ATTEMPT.
@@colder8741 i couldnt say it better
Parents who say "It's just a cry for attention" and shrug, should never have become parents in the first place, even if they're right.
@Lauren Lumsden these type of parents are literally idiots, i hope they get their children taken away from them, they are dangerous to them
Even if its for attraction that is a child they to put attention on the fact that they are unhappy someone who is happy wouldn't try to kill themselves saying its for attention honestly its more a cry for help and any parent who denies that there child is going through something shouldn't be a parent
and as if it being a cry for attention isn't alarming in itself!!! like your kid has to try to kill themself so you can become aware of how much they're suffering and you're ok with that?
EXACTLY! For Self harm in general, it isn’t unpopular for it to be for “attention”, but they’re not seeking pity, they’re seeking for someone to notice so they can get help. It’s a cry for help.
Well said
"I honestly think she did it (attempted suicide) to hurt me"
I've never heard a more narcissistic statement in my whole life.
Exactly my first thought.
Second was this B thinks she’s the center of the universe.
Some people should never have kids.
I thought the same thing at first, but she admitted she did it for that reason.
When my mom found out I was cutting her first words were “are you trying to get me in trouble?”
@@Kat-jw6wt LITERALLY MY MOM'S MAIN CONCERN WAS HER EGO AND REPUTATION
Exactly what I thought too. It makes me so glad I don’t have a mom like this. My mom would be devastated if I did this.
When I heard that man say "if he actually wanted to kill himself, there are ways to insure that happens. Anything else is a cry for help" I just started shaking. It's comments like these from adults that made me try in the first place! And hearing stuff like that makes me go to the doubting place and have me ask myself well was I doing it for attention maybe I was being too dramatic. and no one who is suicidal should feel like their attempt wasn't good or real enough. I honestly just can't even process this right now.
You are worth being here. And tomorrow wouldn’t be the same without you 💗
you are worthy of this world, everything you have been through has caused you to be here and now where you are meant to be
Please don’t attempt taking your life. Things just wouldn't be the same without you. You're worth it here, so please don't think you aren't. Life can be tough sometimes, but please hang on! You aren't doing it for attention, some people are just jerks who keep saying that you're doing it for attention. Block out those people and look to the brighter days soon to come. I believe that there is good in a lot of bad situations, and covid is one of the bad situations for example. Hopefully, something great will come out of this time of social isolation and madness. Idk what it will be, but just stick around with us to find out!
Dear Caitlin, please don't question yourself based on what other people are saying. Nobody risks their life because they're 'too dramatic'. The will to live is one of the strongest instincts that we have, so when something inside you gets even stronger than that, then it's serious by definition. Even IF it was a cry for attention, then that only means that you needed attention really, really badly. In the end, you did what you did because you were in a terrible place at the time, otherwise you wouldn't have done it. And there's no way that you're to blame for that. I promise.
Now having said that, please promise me that if you start feeling like that again, you'll look for help. I assume that you're young, because you're talking about 'adults'. So maybe talk to your parents or a teacher that you trust. Or some other family member maybe. Or if you don't feel comfortable doing any of that, most countries have phonelines that you can dial and there are online chats that you can go to for some help. There's absolutely no shame in that.
You're a beautiful person Caitlin, I can tell. I wish you all the best.
Its in the people who suffer... Sadly I want to cut myself but I'm scared because of my parents saying I'm doing for attention when really I'm suffering because of their standards for me. Its rare that I try to commit suicide but its common for me to try and cut myself... Its not attention grabbing... Its suffering and wanting to end it. But its sad we get ignored because rats called fake depressed people do it for attention. then the real ones get called fake because of them.
(Never do what I do... Which is cutting currently.. Just don't. It may feel good but its not.)
As the end note.. I get what you're saying... I know what you're going through.. You can make it through this... People who have suffered the same are here for you.
I hate Craig. He is like a toxic friend but he is a grown-up and not her age
Imagine your best friend makes your wife cheat on you
@@crayon294 dam is hard to imagine that 😂 but in this case her mom only focus on craig you can look when dr phil ask her mom you can't see you son at hospital 😂 but i'm 💯 percent confident if craig in hospital she can go and see craig at hospital so on basic this mom only focus on craig you can see her mom face when ask can't go see her son
he is nearly 50 son
And he’s trying to replace their father. And is constantly going on and on “But they HAVE to like me because they do this, they do that, etc”
I would just like to say no one who commits suicide is looking for attention. That is a complete myth. People who commit suicide are in such pain that they need a way to end it. They are in a dark tunnel and the only way out is death. They are not looking for attention at all. Those who seem fine are really the ones going through so much and need help. Don't take anyone for granted and believe me when I say no one is looking for attention. Thank you for reading this.
well some might, but the reasoning of the attention must be taken seriously
Exactly. Attention is worth nothing if you’re dead. People don’t take such drastic measures for attention. This is them giving up.
A lot of cries for help, are cries for attention. I've never gotten why people get mad that people who want to die, want attention. DUH. They want help at first! But eventually it gets serious.
@@deadflowerspirit258 you’re joking, right? I can’t see anyone being serious about that.
exactly, how can someone that is litterly trying to die be faking it.
Those parents are disgusting. How dare they say she did it for attention.
Craig is disgusting how dare he say that people who attempt are crying for attention.
Also maybe even if it was it would be a cry for HELP not attention.
That's what my family said to me😂😂😂
Because she did...
@@Khoros-Mythos You cannot assume that, its awful to assume that she did it for attention.
As someone who legitimately wants to die, this can be very offensive. The level of narcissism that mother carries is unbelievable.
And my mom exactly that. Dismissed my depression, basically, her personality is all the things a narcissist does packed with a Karen. I'm in 7th grade, 13 years old, have thought about cutting. I want to run away.
@@xynium. please don’t!!! You have many people that love abs care about you❤
I hope you're still alive and well
Are you alive??
@@xynium. imagine meeting people like you...it would be amazing please...i care !!!? dont do it....
ALL of the adults are wrong in this situation.
@@sarcasticstranger3817 I don’t think he’s implying that Dr. Phil is wrong, they’re probably meaning that the adults that are involved in the situation: Mother, Father, and Mom’s boyfriend
@@taybiancucci2037 r/woosh?...
Especially the biological Father. He was willing to end it all and abandon his kids because of his ex-wife and her boyfriend? That's just selfishness.
@@RYCH3 that isn’t why he’s in the wrong… he’s in the wrong bc he gave his daughter a bong and enabled her to start taking drugs
@@RYCH3 no way. he was in such a dark place that he wanted to end it. imagine you were so sad that there was nothing to keep you going and nothing seemed work it. you don’t know what it feels like. it’s not selfishness, you need to put some thought into what you said because you are being an inconsiderate brat.
When I can’t find one right adult except dr.Phil in the whole bunch
And i oop-
@@chloeshake4568 *doctor
@@chloeshake4568 he isn't a doctor his license has expired
Well nobody is perfect, everyone has room for improvement, if we focused on dr Phil he’d be no angel either.
@@poggodoggo553 it was actually suspended I’m pretty sure over harassment.
who would fake a suicide, these parents are sick
how can someone fake a suicide attempt. its 100% real issue
Many people do.
Ummm, lots of people... Manipulation, attention seeking... ect..
I love this girl, she's so blunt. "If I was you I'd stay away from me too, I hate your guts!!" Lol I want to be her friend.
This girl was probably the only teenager on the show who I agreed with 100% and all of her actions were totally justified ❤
i also love the fact when she was like "just because i hate you doesnt mean i wont wanna use you every now and then"
@yuri same
That craig dudes comment after she read that note pisses me off so much
I hate that I see my parents in these people
Same
I’m sorry
Smh.
same
Same. I hope you’re ok
I feel for this girl, she didn’t wake up one day and decide to attempt suicide. This was her way of saying I’m struggling and I need help. Telling your child that you did it for attention is going to make them feel worse and deter them from asking for help.
She would of thought about it alot before doing it ....
I feel this girl too... I understand her pain
As someone who has tried to commit suicide, I can say, sometimes, sometimes it's a cry for attention. But it's not 'give me attention! Give me attention!' It's more I'm willing to risk my life in a last hope for you to finally listen. Many people are so stressed out today, so depressed that the only way out is to try and commit suicide and it's people like the mother and step father who need to wake up and see that they might be the problem.
Wow I didn’t think that anyone else thought this way, I’ve been seeing other people say “no one EVER does it for attention” etc etc which, is wrong. Sometimes we do. I’ve attempted more times than I remember, whether I was too drunk to remember or if my trauma doesn’t let me but I know that many of those times I was trying to get attention, exactly the way you explained. It wasn’t a “look at me” “look at me”. I thought that if I did it, the people who were the reason for me doing it would see just how severe their actions were and that they would change. I thought that if I was mourned by my family and friends it would prove they really did love me, it would just take my death for them and i to see that. I wanted to die but if I gave my life to teach a lesson to people then it made me feel like I wasn’t going to be remembered as a coward who “gave up” or wasn’t strong enough. I never really said these things because I thought no one would understand and I too would be dubbed as an “attention seeker”. I wasn’t looking for attention I just wanted people to be aware, I was looking for love and understanding :( Ive never been so relieved at a UA-cam comment, knowing that I wasn’t alone in feeling this way, and being kind of ashamed of it. I hope someone else with the same feelings can see our comments.
there's so much emotional immaturity from every adult in her life im glad she's still alive and safe though
This mom shouldn’t be called a mom.
She should be called
Satans wife
@@textinghufflepuff5666 yes exactly
@@bugsbunnypoo nah thats disrespectful to satan even he can do better
@@textinghufflepuff5666 First like!
You just called her a mom
Why would she do it for attention
But she didn't tho. People don't attempt or commit suicide for attention. They do it cause they're depressed or in pain
@@germaniaortiz7106 yeah I just don’t understand why people think like this
it’s only for attention if they say it constantly arent showing any signs of truley feeling pain or depression and using it to get what they want (manipulation) or for validation in my opinion
I’ve been depressed since 7th grade & I finally told my parents about my mental health issues when I was a junior. I had contemplated suicide before, but when I told them, I was no longer in that dark place. My mom proceeded to gaslight me and scream at me because I asked my counselor how to get help before coming to them :/ Well, long story short, she accused me of making stuff up and wanting to make her feel bad lmao & I told her she wouldn’t believe me unless I tried to kill myself, but thinking about it now, maybe she still wouldn’t believe me lol
Hey Army
I am really sorry for you. I never attempted suicide but I had suicidal ideation due to some personal reasons.
When I told my parents that I had depression they just acted so much coldly towards me that I still can't believe it.
They said that I don't know how to tolerate something in life that's why I had depression, and I am a spoiled kid :(
We all are in the same boat
When I finally told my mother the truth about my suicide attempt in 2019 she just shrugged her shoulders and was like meh
Since when did dr.Phil let the comment section open to comment?😂
fr tho lol
For real
I thought the same thing
IKR LMAO
Right
I can’t believe how careless they are about their daughter’s situation!
Some people lack sympathy
Contrary to popular belief,, there are "parents" out there who don't love their kids.
@@adu1991 People who don't their own children are absolutely not parents at all.They are nothing but evil,selfish,disgusting,nasty people who don't deserve to have any children at all.Does anyone else agree with me?.
This is so strange. It’s not even sadness, it’s just anger. I’m genuinely confused
hi guys, I just want to remind you to eat, take care of yourself, spoil yourself, etc. You deserve more than the world can give. Hope all of you are doing well, ily.
well im currently drinking pepsi, eating pizza and watching UA-cam is this too far
@@metra8604 haha me
@@oreocult6185 which do you prefer, pepsi or coke
@@Mariaaaaaa-who say pepsi
@@Mariaaaaaa-who just say it
Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves children
Well said ✊🏾
And then parents say "why didn't my kid asked for help"... Well we try, I tried and gave up at 23, I don't talk to my mother anymore.
or parents pretend to care and then when i do ask for help i get called childish or immature or selfish.. then it makes me feel guilty and i repress further
Even if it’s for attention…. If someone goes to that extent to get your attention you know that something is wrong
if you dont accept/listen to your child, why having children in the first place?
Just so they have a scapegoat.😒
Those kind of people make me want to vomit.
@@roguejester4986 I agree with you.If you can't accept your own children for who they are and/or listen to your own children whenever they have any problems,don't have any children at all!.Does anyone else agree with me?.
My cousin committed suicide successfully….
Listen to your daughter, because there might be a day where they are finally done…💔
Mine as well, wish I could’ve been there for them more.
condolences
this “mom” 😬
welp, now i want to slap this "craig " character
My mum is this. I cut for attention, I attempted suicide AND TOLD HER I WAS GOING TO beforehand when we were arguing. She still thinks it was for attention. I’m so tired
Aweeeeee it's okay don't do it someone in this world loves you and needs you
I'm so sorry.
I am sorry for you
dude 🗿
"I cut for attention"
"She still thinks it was for attention"
Like bruh 🗿
I’ve attempted 4 times
Parents are like this. And it sucks. Your strong. I love you all if you see this.
Lmao if i was this teen, i wouldn't ever ever talk to my mom again. NEVER.
same I would never forgive the mother for not visiting when she almost died
OK well, even if she did it for attention, don't you think that she's in a really bad place if she had to resort to suicide for attention?
I don't even know what to think anymore.
That mother is horrible
I agree
This makes my blood boil not everything is about you your child is worth more then money “she didn’t want to pay the ambulance bill” your daughter is so so sad HELP HER
this makes me so angry. is the mother gunna say, “oh she just killed herself for attention” if she actually does it? this makes me sick. suicide is NOT a joke..
“We stay away from you!”
So. Instead of. Helping her through her emotions. Helping her learn to cope with tragedy and loss. You just… leave her? Wowwww
Momma is a narcissist and Craig is a sociopath. Match made in heaven.
Sounds like my mom and her boyfriend
all the gaslighting coming from this mother is insane. “youre changing your story” “i never said that” you can tell the girl is so frustrated, shes even recording conversations but clearly facts are no match for whatever narrative the immature adults in her life are spinning. some people should not be parents
this is literally how my parents talk to me whenever i have any type of feeling other than happiness. i completely understand how she feels the fact that her parents are trying to manipulate her. i really hope she gets through this and gets away from them
Every single one of those adults are immature and need serious help getting their stuff together. Everything this mother said in this video is so messed up
people try to use suicide as a method of getting attention all the time as a form of manipulation, but this girl is just young and emotional. i attempted three times and my story sounds really similar to hers, i think she’ll grow out of it. at least i hope so, i really hope she realizes how precious her life is.
I understand what you are saying and all but you shouldn’t say it was for attention, just cause you did it and say its for attention doesn’t mean other also do it for attention. Some people honestly are in so much pain the think it’s the only way out, or do it for help. I do agree with you that her life is precious but I wouldn’t say it’s for attention
“She is young and emotional” or she has a mental illness as in depression. She is obviously not feeling good so I don’t think saying that she’s young is a part of it, I agree that hormones can cause a few things but you don’t try to kill yourself just cause you are young, young people are smarter than adults now days
yes bc you grow out of depression srsly?
@@baemicha8354 If your child committed suicide for your “attention” then that just proofs what kind of mother that you are
@@nosir4707 wait what, I was literally saying that they (they person who commented this) shouldn’t say it’s for attention, idk if you understood what I meant or not lol
god bless this girl and protect her from her narcissistic mother 🥲
God*:)
I'm glad my mom died.
-Jeanette McCurdy
Even IF it was all just for attention, you’re the parent. ITS YOUR JOB TO GIVE THAT ATTENTION.
A friend of my daughters talked about suicide also , but she was really pretty and seemed to have so much to live for. Nobody took her seriously either and made comments about her wanting attention.
Well , everyone's attention was certainly gotten when they found her a short time later hanging by the neck from a local bridge! NEVER ignore a suicide threat! That is something mist people would never play around about!
oh my gosh. thats heartbreaking, i hope you guys are holding up okay
Had she lost her daughter I wonder what she would have said
That's a pretty insensitive thing for the mom to say...
~ I just want anyone out there whether you having a bad time or doing great, please know that's better to keep going please stay :)
Wow what a mom
Honestly I'm not allowing my kid to swear till they get there learners
She's a teenager. She's allowed
I forgot to mention why are you even including the fact that the daughter is cursing? This isn't even about the daughter cursing. It's about how the mom is being so narcissistic to say that her daughter is attempting suicide for attention!
I remember being abused to that extent that I started carving out lines on my hands with a broken piece of bangle and blood started oozing out . My parents standing in front of me , mom looked straight into my eyes and said and I'm learning all these things from watching movies . She said I wa trying to hurt her when I'm the one mentally qnd physically abused . This was in 8th or 7th grade. Im starting college this year after my exams . Watching the mom in this video talk about how her "daughter only wants to hurt her feelings" reminded me of my mother . Don't get me wrong , my parents love me and I love them too . I would literally die for them but all this abuse has left me with being abusive with them and having very bad anger issues to the point where I start shaking trying to control my emotions when my parents say something to me . it has totally ruined my life but I found bts and they take majority of my pain now a days and they actually help me control my anger .
so thank you bangtan 💜
I suggest you to get a therapist or to talk to a school teacher about this.
@@astalatata school teacher? The person is in college now
Why does every parent with an unhealthy, depressed child either A. abuse and beat their child or B. ignore it? Seriously, I'm a MINOR and I could be a better parent.
Because many parents are the scum of the earth that's why, some even use their past of being abuse victims themselves as a justification
the mom thinks the world around her and everything is about herself.
That mother is wrong.Not everything is about her and the whole wide world also does not revolve around her too.She is not a good mother at all.She is nothing but a dirty selfish woman too.Does anyone else agree with me?.
what disgusting parents- imagine being mad at your child for attempting to kill themselves?? what a selfish mother
Selfish is an understatement
Okay that entire situation is just awful by its self.
My first attempt was age 8 since then I have attempted 11 times. My mother has said 100s of times it was for attention. That caused my most recent attempt. None of it has ever been for attention
i wish i could give you a hug, my mom was the SAME way! i hope you are doing ok now, take care 💜
It’s a cry for help. NOT ATTENTION!
My mother wouldn’t chose me over work she would choose work over me
My step mom would rathe the fired than me die -
Kid attempts suicide
Parents: you did it for attention!!
Kid commits suicide:
Parents: surprised Pikachu face
My father yelled and punched things when I told him how stressful I am because of my suicidal thoughts. He blamed everything, and called me weak and loser. I thought he would understand my pain. I thought he would listen. It really hurts, please someone help me
How can I help you bc I want to!
I don’t think either of my parents know about any of my suicide attempts, & we were together basically all the time.
If suicidal thoughts get bad enough it’s like having a gun in hand and your head in a hydraulic press, either you end it fast or suffer
When I was in college, I attempted by overdosing, and my friends took me to the ER. They begged me to call my parents, even though I told them they wouldn't care, but I eventually did.
I got a hold of my father, who was only an hour away. I told him I was in the ER, he asked why, and I told him. He said, 'So, like, do you need me there or what?' I told him no, because it was obvious he didn't care and saw it and me as a bother. Then he said that I didn't need to bother my mom with it. I was in the hospital for 3 days. It happened to coincide with a 3 day weekend from classes. So, after, I just went back to classes like nothing happened. We never spoke of it again.
My friends were pretty horrified, though, and completely understood my relationship to my family after that.
Based on your comment, it seems to me that your friends care more about you than your so-called "parents". It's infuriating to say the least.
The insane callousness in this family toward people attempting suicide is disturbing.
If someone harms themself or tries to kill themself for attention that itself shows the person is suffering from severe mental health issues and should be taken just as serious as a legitimate suicide attempt
I saw a therapist as a teenager because I was suicidal. It didn't improve my relationship with my parents at all. My mother continued to abuse me. She was the one who needed a therapist, not me.
People who say it’s for “attention” should be thankful they don’t know the feeling.
this is literally me trying to tell my mom i have adhd but she doesnt believe me
Oh man, this is sad. The leading cause of suicide is a lack of love. Theres a child who tried to end her life and they're arguing about her reasons. To me it doesn't matter if it was done for attention because if someone has to do that for attention, then they're obviously feeling like the only way to get love and attention is through drastic measures and that should never have to be the case.
Imagine your daughter attempting to commit suicide and not even taking it seriously. Truly the words of someone who lacks empathy
and this is why people are too scared to open up about their depression and or suicidal thoughts
It hits different when this girl has the same name as you
Same
The problem is the mother
Bruh what is her daughter actually died what would the mom think then?
In each case she would play the victim
I think it is a cry for attention, but not in the negative connotation that we put it in. The attention they want is not the kind presented in the negative connotation such as popularity, rather it's attention like emotional attention or helping attention. The problem is the negative connotation we put behind the phrase as a way to dismiss it because it is indeed partially right, but it's still flawed and shouldn't be said in that connotation.
A cry for help
I would like to personally deal with Craig in a physical manner; imagine your whole relationship is based on ruining the family of your best friend
😂...
I can't believe that these parents ACTUALLY THINK. that she's crying for attention...I hope she's alright now..
...what does it tell about your parenting if your child has to try to kill themself to get your attention?
never hate a person so much
when i s-lfharmed my parents said the exact same thing and wonder why I never stopped because they never listen to or believe me
Just for attention no one tries to kill themselves for attention parents have such a persecution complex 😢
How can you not get off of work when your daughter is going to the hospital for an attempt.
When I first did this my mum didn’t take it serious either. It took her two years of me being sectioned for her to realise that I was actually unwell
The one thing I wanted Dr Phil to say to Craig is “You are not their father, stop trying to replace him. And stop telling them what they feel and don’t feel.” Same with that pathetic gaslighting excuse of a mother!
Even if someone tries to commit suicide for attention, “so they say,” they’ll be gone and won’t indulge in the attention itself. She could have lost her daughter forever just because she couldn’t push her judgments aside. Sad
The audacity 🙄
It's called a suicide note that someone with mental health problems like bipolar depression writes to there family members and friends when they try to attempt suicide. Suicide is a real thing that happens more often than you think and these parents are handling the substation horribly and being ignorant. People don't do this stuff for attention they do it for a cry for help or they just don't want to do it anymore.
Craig needs to shut up, he is has no valid opinion of voice in this.
...imagine not showing up to the hospital when your doctor tried to COMMIT SUICIDE. This makes me so grateful for both of my parents. When I was in a mental hospital I never heard any complaining about the price > which was 10,000 without insurance and about 2k with insurance. My mother brought me things like clothes, some books, etc. Could have been so much worse (I wasn't even there for a suicide attempt). Wow. What failures of parents, clearly some mental illness with them too considering the father's suicide attempt, sad situation all around.
If i was in her shoes i would leave and make it look like i commited suicide and just see their reactions to their statements
If I had to pick one of them that I think should shut their mouth its the mothers boyfriend. I think if you don't have a biological connection to any of the family you should stay out of it.
We need to make a parental permit, other wise this is going to keep happening :(
When I heared "I had to stay at work" I was just like "I would leave work at any costs, when my kid is in hospital!"
I heared a few sentences of her and I knew that she is no good parent.
I mean even if the suicide attempt was for attention, that would mean this teen had nobody that listened to her, otherwise there would be no reason to choose such a drastic way to get attention.
I had 6 suicide attempts by now and none of them were ever meant to get attention. I mean, I knew I would get attention when I try and fail and that thought sometimes really stopped me from doing so, but I had so many suicide attempts because I saw no other way. I don't know how to cope with the pain, I don't know how to cope with all the pressure of life and my biggest wish is to be free and my opinion is, that I can never reach the state of being free, when I am alive.
A suicide attempt is always a cry for help, believe it or not. I didn't say that the main idea that caused the suicide attempt is a cry for help. It is more likely a side effect.
The guy saying that unless your suicide attempts succeed then it’s just a cry for attention really hurts me so much. I’ve had between 20 and 25 attempts, obviously none of them successful, but I never did it for attention. In fact I always hated the attention people gave me for it. I could just never imagine saying someone just did it for attention. Also, the mother saying she couldn’t go to see her daughter at the hospital also hurts. My mum flew from one region of the country to another with my 6 month old sister just to see me in hospital. This whole situation just hits on a deep and personal level and I can’t believe anyone could be like this.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I am so glad you're here ❤
I've had about 11 attempts and I'm glad they didn't take. When I'm depressed I feel differently but it changes.
People saying that oh you did it to get attention are just horrible people. Its like bloody listen to why they even went to attempt instead of sweeping it under the rug.
I was in an abusive domestic violence marriage and my ex did not care at all. It hurts knowing how serious this is and people just don't care.
@@bluebree don't be sorry. I'm not. I'm not in that mindset anymore and its been just under a year since my last one but I wouldn't change it. Its given me the first hand experience along with understanding and more empathy for when I go into nursing. I wouldn't be who I am today without those struggles. I'm glad you're still here and I'm sending you lots of hugs and warm vibes 💖
@@hanns115 That's a good outlook hun, I'm so proud of you! And thank you ❤ hugs back 🙂
@@bluebree thank you. I’m the kind of person that has accepted that that’s what happened to me. And if I can’t change it then I may as well embrace it. That’s not at all to say that it’s not hard to do (it’s just easier than trying to change it), or that I don’t have problems from it. I have ptsd and tachycardia from it and I’m absolutely not ashamed to say it. I used to be because “I did it to myself” but therapy and great support from my family and friends have taught me it’s not my fault and I can be proud because I survived and I am a fierce warrior. And you are too. Stay that warrior. I wear my scars with pride, not because of what they are from but because they represent how far I’ve come. I’m so proud of you and I love you. And just remember I’m always here❤️
@@hanns115 Aw same here, if you ever need to talk let me know ❤
I have multiple mental illnesses and take medication, I'm also in therapy which has definetly helped a lot. It hasn't been easy but I've incorporated a lot of skills from therapy into my daily life. I have been self harming since 12 and am in recovery. I haven't been ashamed of my scars for years now and it feels good to just not care what people think.
I'm sorry you've got PTSD and tachycardia but I'm glad that you're not ashamed because that's not an easy thing to do.
I always strive to stay a warrior for my family, friends and my 2 yr old daughter 🙂
I don’t know why but when I found out what her mum said about the attention it just made me so upset and I started crying, like how could she say that!
after my first half hearted attempt my mom yelled at me saying "how would YOU feel if i told you i tried to kill myself? how would you feel if i succeeded?" that has stuck with me almost a year now.
That sounds bad... Was It positive or negative for you? Since you said it stuck with you for a year.
The diff is your mom is grown(I hope) and you're her child
@@LonelyAhhLoba negative..
@@UA-camwontletmecommeng yeah, sometimes i wish she would act like it
@@Joe-ou1iw Sorry, the wording made me think you were trying to see it from both sides. Completely normal response to such a neglectful and immature way of thinking. I hope this can positively affect you so that you keep your circle clear of people who invalidate your emotions. Much love❤❤
Of course its for attention, its a cry for help, saying “listen to me and actually listen”
Even my narcissistic mother isn't this selfish.
“I’m asking her I don’t need your help ✋🏽” dang that was kinda harsh 😅