Decolonizing Non-Violent Communication Author Q&A

Meenadchi answers questions about their book, "Decolonizing Non-Violent Communication". DNVC is a workbook with thoughtful passages built for reflection, and implementation activities that focus on being in touch with our bodies and how that connection affects our communication with ourselves and others.

[@robertsmithee1455]

After listening I remain unsure of how one would differentiate DNVC from NVC.
What 'Abelist/Colonizing' harm is 'built into NVC' that is not based on individuals leveraging tools/skills/ignorance that hold power/authority to 'do violence' with that power. This 'authoritarian' violence seems to be what NVC was specifically developed to address and I'm not sure how it differs from the 'harmful power of a Colonizer'.
I do understand that BIPOC/Neurodivergent/LGBTQ+ intersectionalities have complex violence done to them in micro and macro ways everywhere internally lodged abelist/colonizing views exist, I'm just trying to understand what structurally/ontologically about NVC perpetuates that violence.

[@erin_3569]

Basically, it negates conflict whereas when you're oppressed or abused, acknowledging conflict and power dynamics is essential to defend yourself