I’m a 55 year old lesbian who came out in 1984 at age 16 and I thought THAT was terrifying. I can’t even imagine how difficult it’s been for you both. I love you both and you’re heroes for your courage to face all the challenges and then for sharing your stories. ❤
I adore you both. I appreciate your open hearts. Being a straight 72 year old celibate woman who has struggled with being disassociated from my body and my emotions most of my life I found myself in tears as you shared your story of transition, commitment to your authenticity and love of each other. Thank you.
You are both an inspiration. I am a Christian Conservative but I truly believe that love is love and who you are is who you are. God loves us no matter what. Thanks for sharing your story.
Yes, I feel the same way, though I am 82 and for me transgender honestly has never been an issue as for me, it’s the PERSON who is important. However, I grew up in a strict, very traditional, more medieval approach Catholic in a small town in Germany (WWII & post) and struggled for years later to free myself from all dogmas, intimidations & fears. Though by far not as severe struggle as you confronted, it took many years of finding true inner spirituality, free from organized religion, leading to inner peace. You both are a remarkable couple. ❤️
I cried when I was diagnosed finally with MS after years of schizophrenia misdiagnosis. I feel like this moment where Shaye talks about discovering the diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria, and how emotional it was is very relatable. I have heard this same sentiment from many friends/ family who have other long-term or more complicated diagnosis journeys that have absolutely nothing to do with gender or gender expression at all. These personal and intimate videos do so much to show people how truly typical the whole of human experience is. I think it's so effective in contributing to long-term change and acceptance of all people, regardless of perceived differences. Humanity is a better place because of you ladies and your content.
As a 64 year old with recently diagnosed stage IV breast cancer, I could not agree more. I don't feel that I can share my diagnosis with friends and colleagues, because every interaction would become tinged with awkwardness or sadness, so I have chosen to live a lie as long as possible. These videos are amazingly comforting and filled with wisdom that validates my choice and gives me courage to carry on as long as possible until I am ready to be public on my terms.
I wish the world would look at people like you and see how hate isn’t the answer. You are a shining example of how we can love and respect and appreciate and learn from differences even if we don’t understand, or agree, or have questions, or need more time to process. The answer should never ever be a quick and automatic hatred. We need more hearts like yours in this world.
I've binged on your vlogs for a couple of days now and I can't tell you have much I admire and respect both of you. My wife and I have been together for 30 years. I got such a kick out of Amanda's comment about having found her penguin, because I have found mine too. Thank you for sharing your story! I don't know if you realize what an impact it is making at this very moment when we need it the most. Love you both!
Thank you for being so open and sharing your experiences. I have a 23yr old trans daughter, (we’re in the UK) who has been out as trans since 2020, though like Shaye she has known since she was about 3yrs old. She too found school tough, going through puberty and struggling with her identity; high school was not a happy time for her. I knew she was struggling with something, I just never knew what. When she told me it was a shock as I had never seen it coming, but with time and hindsight it’s clear the signs were there from childhood, if I had only been able to see. A lot of what you talked about resonates with me…we have been heartwarmed by the almost universal acceptance her authentic identity has received from family and friends, we too have found that when it’s personal, and the trans person is already known to you, somehow a lack of understanding of their situation is no barrier to continued love and support. My daughter may look different on the outside but she is still essentially the same person we’ve always loved. My 80yr old mum is one of her biggest supporters regardless of her strong Christian faith, and will correct people who misgender her. My son was married in October, and my new daughter in law asked my daughter to be one of the bridesmaids…my daughter was moved to tears to be asked, it was a huge honour as well as a public statement of acceptance.
What an exquisite blessing for your daughter to be accepted and celebrated as one of the bridesmaids, that was a rush of emotion to read, I can only dream of that. Thanks for your post. :)
I’ll be honest I’m a long time subscriber. Since before your life transition. I don’t understand a lot of things. That’s not at the fault of anyone or anything. This is all just different from what i know. It will take me a long time to understand everything but I’m happy for both of you. You both are so genuine in your journey and your relationship. I love seeing your content and your journey. Much love!
If anyone wants to see what true love and acceptance is.. look no further, this is it! These two you can just tell have an undeniable unconditional love for one another and its such a beautiful thing to see. 💕
Dear Scotts, both of you are amazing. Shay you are so lucky to have someone like Amanda standing by you. I hope commitment for your entire life together. Best wishes
I grew up in a very religious, very small southern city. I know how it is. Closeted for 20+ years, scared to death of losing everyone around me if I came out. Your channel is so important. Lgbt+ people have to know and see that we can have community, allies and a family. We need to hear and see happy stories, not only the difficult ones. Thank you for sharing a piece of your lives with us.💞
Love your videos as a transgender woman myself in a very long term relationship with my cisgender wife we have a very similar situation. We have been together for 40 years and have 3 grown children I started my transition in 2020 and luckily my family has been very supportive and my wife and I are closer now in so many ways. Look forward to your next video.
@taylorp2427, please do not mistake me. It's an honest question. When you say 40 years is life and you came out 4 years back, looks like you came out in your 60's or 50's? Were you holding yourself back for so many years?
I have been following your videos.I am an older trans woman and I appreciate watching your family transition . I decided to comment while watching this video where Shay made a comment about her body discomfort at the beginning of puberty. I totally understand how that felt.When I was a child/teen I did the escape into the bathroom with makeup too. I was a large kid and when I looked in the mirror I hated the image I saw. I felt hopeless probably more than you because I was in a generation that knew nothing at all about transgender or any queerness. What I really want to say is that I totally understand what you are saying. Thank you for a sincere honest presentation. I wish your family the best .Love Marie
Such amazing authenticity between the two of you. Shay’s countenance, specifically her happiness is so evident. Before you transitioned Shay you seemed more serious and a bit melancholy. I’m so happy you are now in alignment. Amanda you are an amazing supportive wife. I can see how much you love each other! Congratulations 🎉🎉❤
I THINK YOU BOTH ARE WONDERFUL. I AM A 76 YEAR OLD FEMALE, WHO HAS SUPPORTED THE LGBT COMMUNITY SINCE CHILDHOOD I AM AN EPISCOPALIAN MY CHURXH HASHAD GAY LEADERS FOR YEARS AND HONORS THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY. WHAT A WONDERFUL FAMILY YOU HAVE, IAM HAPPY YOU HAVE FOUND A SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY IN UTAH. ❤KATE CAPS FOR SIGHT CHALLENGES❤
Thank you so much for posting this. Some of the questions you’ve answered I also had. Reframing happiness is such a great way to approach I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, you’re great people, and I hope that anyone transitioning, or questioning themselves, can find your content and that it inspires them to do what they need. ❤️
I have been following your story a little bit and have learned so much through the things you have shared. I am a post Mormon and stepped away from the church when I was 55 eight years ago. It's been rough. I can only imagine how challenging that must've been for you as a family. Sending you lots of love.❤
Shaye and Amanda, thank you for making these videos. You are both such beautiful and inspiring women. I love how authentic and honest you both are, and have been deeply moved watching your videos. You are both truly soulmates.
Thank you for this video. I wanted to touch a little on a part of the video (around 22:30 mark) where you (Amanda) said that, sometimes she’ll look over at you and say, “People really don’t care, do they? Like this is really okay, huh?” It’s true. I think there’s a weird misconception between human beings where one thinks the other is automatically against the other because of religious or political stances, beliefs, what have you. And that’s just not the case. Of course, there are very, VERY close minded people on both sides of the fence and I respect their boundaries the same way I’d expect them to respect mine. But then there are those (like myself) who don’t believe there’s a fence at all because we’re all in this field of life together. Thank you, again, for sharing your lives with us.
We knew when my son was two that he would either be gay or trans! He’s 9 and LOVES wearing dresses and just loves all things girly! I’m learning and loving this developing journey and everytime I watch one of your videos I get tears! I’m grateful I get to be part of this community whatever that looks like to my son. I’m here to support and love him throughout all seasons of life! My biggest goal is to be his biggest supporter!
You two are amazing!! I am a retired high school teacher and have learned so much from you all! I loved all my students no matter who they were!! Love is love!! ❤
I am so proud of both of you. You can see your love for each other shine through. It’s not easy going against a religion. The fact that you were able to become the woman you knew was inside shows on the outside too. I hope as each day passes more and more people will start to realize we are who we are regardless of the race and sex or gender we are force to adhere to when we are born. Life evolves and we learn new things everyday. Maybe not in my lifetime but hopefully in yours and your children’s it will.
You are an amazing couple and Shaye you are a beautiful woman, also your voice fits you so well, it doesn't sound incongruous with how you look, you speak so gently and softly that it suits you ❤
I found your channel through Skylar and the Five to Love channel I have watched forgot years now. I love seeing how supportive Skylar is to you guys. My son’s bio dad came out as trans female to me a year after we ended things for unrelated reasons. I have been supportive since she told me. Some think I am crazy because she is my “ex” but like that’s my child’s other parent and we have been friends since 2007. Yeah things were toxic after we had our son but she has changed so much since she made her transition. I e get along better now than ever before.
I appreciate you both being so vulnerable and honest!!!! I have been a subscriber for a long time but have recently come back strong with watching all recent videos. Please keep helping people understand your beautiful journey together and separate!!!!! :-)
Both of you are outstandingly beautiful inside and out. Also, SAME here w/r/t not wanting to dress up or wear makeup before I realized I was trans, I felt like it would dishonor what I thought I should be, but didn't think I could be. Also also, I just had VFS this summer with Dr. Haben and it helped me a lot.
Ughhh, the "then if she accepted me, the only thing that was in the way of me was me" that is so insanely insightful. Your words are always so intelligent and honest, and thought-provoking it really makes me look inward just as a human we all can related and feel these things.
Love. My dad was a music director at Columbia and scored movies and I’ve always had a geeky live for movie scores. You two are so open and honest and it’s beautiful seeing a glimpse of your lives.
You mentioned something about your transition becoming personal to people around you and how they learned love and acceptance. That reminded me of a quote by the infamous Nan Osborne shared on Mormon No More: "Until it becomes person, you don't do the work." Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey with all of us and being so open.
You both look alike... I believe in freedom of speech, freedom of religion, freedom of expression.. as long as your path is not hurting anyone else I do not feel like anyone should judge another. I am not religious however I do believe there is a God and he should be the only judge and in the end we answered to him only❤
Aww I love this so much! Shay, I hope you feel beautiful because you absolutely are! Thanks for sharing your thoughts I really love watching you both grow in this journey!
Came here from your Mormon stories episodes bc as a trans person, I was curious to see how your journey has been going. I'm glad to see y'all so happy and absolutely gorgeous🌈
Thank you for doing the q&a, I think a lot of us straight people are still trying to understand the lgbqt community. Your story right now is really helping me understand. Also please renew your vows? I really want people to renew their vows. :)
You really are an amazing couple! And I begin to see so many parallels to Amanda particularly (teaching English at university, sewing, placing more value on self-respect and self-worth than what anyone else might say, plus your deconstruction of faith, etc.). You two are adorable and I, a boring German cis-gendered late 50s single atheist woman who considers herself a strong ally of the LGBTQ+ community want to applaud you for all the wonderful and inspiring content and information you put out to the world! Had to say it…
I believe with all my heart that openly transgender and intersex people are a gift to our world. You are helping us to move out of our binary view of our world into accepting authenticity.
I was recommended some of your shorts and now I've been binging so many of your videos. You're a gorgeous couple. I've been married 4 years, the amount of love you two have for each other even after so many years is goals for all of us. Love from the UK ❤
Watching your video with my morning coffee. For some they might think what is wrong with the world but for me watching this I felt so much love between you and I felt so much of what is right with the world. Not sure if that makes sense to anyone but with all of the horrible things that go on in life, I feel like it is pretty silly (might not be the right word 🤔 ) that anyone focuses on any hatred of transgender or any LGBTQ matters in a negative way.
Whoa I’ve been gone from UA-cam a min and wow a lot has changed congratulations I never saw that coming but that is so amazing you are so brave and bold wishing y’all nothing but happiness!!
I love the fact that you're loyal and devoted to each other and you're proud of your long term relationship and marriage. That is so admirable and heartwarming. Your story and your love for one another is gorgeous . I'm so happy for ye. God bless you with inclusive and unconditional love which Jesus is famous for. Amen
I think it’s so cool that you choose to stay in Utah. You are connected to that land and I am in awe of you shining this light onto the trans experience. You are leveraging your privilege in all the best ways possible. I hope you and your family are safe and protected and at peace. ❤❤
You are such a loving, beautiful couple. I admire your openness and commitment in helping people to understand your journey! I’ve been watching your videos since the beginning and love you all. Take care! ❤️
Thanks so much for ALL your videos, you two are a treasure to the trans / LGBTQIA+ community. I relate so strongly to Shaye's journey. I've transitioned SOCIALLY ONLY, I'm not sure what the future holds otherwise, I think FFS has always been what I would change first, I just want to see that me that is inside, though I've always had her in here. It is so BIZARRE to me those who question the authenticity of trans identity and come up with ideas like "social contagion", what a ludicrous idea. I just want to come out fully, and be accepted and loved for WHO I REALLY AM, not some idea of who I must be for others to be comfortable in their world. It's hard enough accepting and loving ourselves, whatever our natures. Thanks again ladies! :)
Greetings from Charleston SC! Thank you both for your videos! I so appreciate your honesty and explanations. Definitely opens my eyes to your world. At 70 years old it sheds so much light n this subject!! ❤❤
Seing u and ur relationship and dedication to each other burst me into tears....as turkish trans girl and culturel codes are much harsh ..u are so lucky and i wish the best to u
I appreciate you answering questions and taking the time to educate us. I learned from this which in turn will help me support my friend who's son is transitioning
I learn so much from every video and Shaye's journey (and Amanda''s too) really opened my eyes for SO much. It's really inspiring and educative to hear you both talk with so much openness and honesty. I could see how Shaye's happiness with herself can be seen through the videos more and more - it's BEAUTIFUL! All the love to you guys! thanks for sharing your journey!
Sending you and your family much love and positive thoughts!!! Thank you for sharing with us. I hope you are forever and always surrounded by love and kindness!❤
I dont know if you will still read this After so Long , i think it is great the Bond you have.. You are two Beautiful Women and i wish you the Best ❤,, The world can be very hard, but God is with you😊. Where there is love, there is God❤, love You guys
You are such wonderful people. It’s been so nice to see you in my feed each day. Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are officially my favorite couple!! ❤
Thank you for displaying your beautiful relationship. I particularly love your passion for education; of others, but also your personal pursuit of higher education!
You're both so articulate, so eloquent. It really important that you have shared and continue to share your story. You're ex-Mormon and I'm an atheist from Australia/New Zealand but in sharing, you're doing god's work - if you'll pardon the literal expression.
So glad to have a new video ! I sent the pic of you two kissing to time magazine and people magazine, hoping it will be the picture of the year ! I got back the general email that says " thank you for reaching out , we will get back to you when able ". Lol I sure hope they use it ! Your family deserves a lot of prop for putting this on the Internet so everyone can see. What folks don't realize is that this is just something that's in tune with a lot of people , and it's not just the trans part, it's not a queer part , it is a prop to people that have different issues you can really come out and not feel ashamed . I am quite sure you do that for a lot of folks !
If we all behaved the way the two of you have in life we likely would have world peace. We could all take something from your story and being more accepting of others differences and less judgemental. I love your freedom in sharing your life with us, thank-you!
You two are so wonderful & open, and seeing you share your story with the world has been such an inspiring journey. Even moreso, seeing how much support the internet has given you gives me hope for the future lol. Hugs all around. PS- can't wait for the Christmas videos 🎄☃🎅
Awesome video 👏🏻 Thank you both for being so real, open and honest!! I learn so much from the two of you with each video ❤ Blessing from Green 🌱🌿🪴 Ohio 😄
You guys are awesome and I think your life stories are a great service to others on a path even remotely similar...as I think about it, I think you're a great example to anyone striving for authenticity and or to evolve . Blessings
I’m kind of surprised that you claim your house and location is a very safe place safe community but yet you comment that you didn’t want to put a gay pride flag out because it would be burned that doesn’t sound safe to me.
M 27:1727:17 y second time watching this video, i learn so much each time and feel encouraged, im 6 months on HRT every change is so welcome! Love you both!❤❤😊😊
I’m a 55 year old lesbian who came out in 1984 at age 16 and I thought THAT was terrifying. I can’t even imagine how difficult it’s been for you both. I love you both and you’re heroes for your courage to face all the challenges and then for sharing your stories. ❤
I adore you both. I appreciate your open hearts. Being a straight 72 year old celibate woman who has struggled with being disassociated from my body and my emotions most of my life I found myself in tears as you shared your story of transition, commitment to your authenticity and love of each other. Thank you.
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I believe in you, Peggy. I am sending you love
You are both an inspiration. I am a Christian Conservative but I truly believe that love is love and who you are is who you are. God loves us no matter what. Thanks for sharing your story.
As a 52 year old straight woman I look up to you guys. I have learned so much from you both and I am in awe of how brave you are!❤
Why do you white people label everything?
Yes, I feel the same way, though I am 82 and for me transgender honestly has never been an issue as for me, it’s the PERSON who is important. However, I grew up in a strict, very traditional, more medieval approach Catholic in a small town in Germany (WWII & post) and struggled for years later to free myself from all dogmas, intimidations & fears. Though by far not as severe struggle as you confronted, it took many years of finding true inner spirituality, free from organized religion, leading to inner peace.
You both are a remarkable couple. ❤️
I can not imagine how your pure honesty and sharing your journey is helping the world in the most positive way. Thank you so much.
I cried when I was diagnosed finally with MS after years of schizophrenia misdiagnosis. I feel like this moment where Shaye talks about discovering the diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria, and how emotional it was is very relatable. I have heard this same sentiment from many friends/ family who have other long-term or more complicated diagnosis journeys that have absolutely nothing to do with gender or gender expression at all.
These personal and intimate videos do so much to show people how truly typical the whole of human experience is. I think it's so effective in contributing to long-term change and acceptance of all people, regardless of perceived differences.
Humanity is a better place because of you ladies and your content.
As a 64 year old with recently diagnosed stage IV breast cancer, I could not agree more. I don't feel that I can share my diagnosis with friends and colleagues, because every interaction would become tinged with awkwardness or sadness, so I have chosen to live a lie as long as possible. These videos are amazingly comforting and filled with wisdom that validates my choice and gives me courage to carry on as long as possible until I am ready to be public on my terms.
I wish the world would look at people like you and see how hate isn’t the answer. You are a shining example of how we can love and respect and appreciate and learn from differences even if we don’t understand, or agree, or have questions, or need more time to process. The answer should never ever be a quick and automatic hatred. We need more hearts like yours in this world.
I've binged on your vlogs for a couple of days now and I can't tell you have much I admire and respect both of you. My wife and I have been together for 30 years. I got such a kick out of Amanda's comment about having found her penguin, because I have found mine too. Thank you for sharing your story! I don't know if you realize what an impact it is making at this very moment when we need it the most. Love you both!
Thank you for being so open and sharing your experiences. I have a 23yr old trans daughter, (we’re in the UK) who has been out as trans since 2020, though like Shaye she has known since she was about 3yrs old. She too found school tough, going through puberty and struggling with her identity; high school was not a happy time for her. I knew she was struggling with something, I just never knew what. When she told me it was a shock as I had never seen it coming, but with time and hindsight it’s clear the signs were there from childhood, if I had only been able to see. A lot of what you talked about resonates with me…we have been heartwarmed by the almost universal acceptance her authentic identity has received from family and friends, we too have found that when it’s personal, and the trans person is already known to you, somehow a lack of understanding of their situation is no barrier to continued love and support. My daughter may look different on the outside but she is still essentially the same person we’ve always loved. My 80yr old mum is one of her biggest supporters regardless of her strong Christian faith, and will correct people who misgender her. My son was married in October, and my new daughter in law asked my daughter to be one of the bridesmaids…my daughter was moved to tears to be asked, it was a huge honour as well as a public statement of acceptance.
What an exquisite blessing for your daughter to be accepted and celebrated as one of the bridesmaids, that was a rush of emotion to read, I can only dream of that. Thanks for your post. :)
Don’t forget about the souls. Yes of course no one should be mistreated in any way but people are not thinking about their souls it is eternal
I’ll be honest I’m a long time subscriber. Since before your life transition. I don’t understand a lot of things. That’s not at the fault of anyone or anything. This is all just different from what i know. It will take me a long time to understand everything but I’m happy for both of you. You both are so genuine in your journey and your relationship. I love seeing your content and your journey. Much love!
The education you are providing for the general population is so imperative. Your grace and authenticity are a gift to experience.
If anyone wants to see what true love and acceptance is.. look no further, this is it! These two you can just tell have an undeniable unconditional love for one another and its such a beautiful thing to see. 💕
Beautiful couple. God wants u to be happy and thats it. Im highly religious and i truly believe that this is a beautiful story
Dear Scotts, both of you are amazing. Shay you are so lucky to have someone like Amanda standing by you. I hope commitment for your entire life together. Best wishes
I grew up in a very religious, very small southern city. I know how it is. Closeted for 20+ years, scared to death of losing everyone around me if I came out. Your channel is so important. Lgbt+ people have to know and see that we can have community, allies and a family. We need to hear and see happy stories, not only the difficult ones. Thank you for sharing a piece of your lives with us.💞
The same here, very religious and a military family too.
Love your videos as a transgender woman myself in a very long term relationship with my cisgender wife we have a very similar situation. We have been together for 40 years and have 3 grown children I started my transition in 2020 and luckily my family has been very supportive and my wife and I are closer now in so many ways. Look forward to your next video.
Wow, this is beautiful. ❤
@taylorp2427, please do not mistake me. It's an honest question. When you say 40 years is life and you came out 4 years back, looks like you came out in your 60's or 50's? Were you holding yourself back for so many years?
I love you both, I'm also Transgender M-to- F and started transitioning at age 65 which has it's problems. God I wish we could talk.❤
I have been following your videos.I am an older trans woman and I appreciate watching your family transition . I decided to comment while watching this video where Shay made a comment about her body discomfort at the beginning of puberty. I totally understand how that felt.When I was a child/teen I did the escape into the bathroom with makeup too. I was a large kid and when I looked in the mirror I hated the image I saw. I felt hopeless probably more than you because I was in a generation that knew nothing at all about transgender or any queerness. What I really want to say is that I totally understand what you are saying. Thank you for a sincere honest presentation. I wish your family the best .Love Marie
Shay, I love your voice, don’t change it, you’re voice is so soft and gentle ❤️
She's changing it now 😢
Such amazing authenticity between the two of you. Shay’s countenance, specifically her happiness is so evident. Before you transitioned Shay you seemed more serious and a bit melancholy. I’m so happy you are now in alignment. Amanda you are an amazing supportive wife. I can see how much you love each other! Congratulations 🎉🎉❤
I totally could see this too...there's a lot of peace in her eyes, so great to see! x
I THINK YOU BOTH ARE WONDERFUL. I AM A 76 YEAR OLD FEMALE, WHO HAS SUPPORTED THE LGBT COMMUNITY SINCE CHILDHOOD I AM AN EPISCOPALIAN MY CHURXH HASHAD GAY LEADERS FOR YEARS AND HONORS THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY. WHAT A WONDERFUL FAMILY YOU HAVE, IAM HAPPY YOU HAVE FOUND A SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY IN UTAH. ❤KATE CAPS FOR SIGHT CHALLENGES❤
Thank you so much for posting this. Some of the questions you’ve answered I also had. Reframing happiness is such a great way to approach
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, you’re great people, and I hope that anyone transitioning, or questioning themselves, can find your content and that it inspires them to do what they need. ❤️
I have been following your story a little bit and have learned so much through the things you have shared. I am a post Mormon and stepped away from the church when I was 55 eight years ago. It's been rough. I can only imagine how challenging that must've been for you as a family. Sending you lots of love.❤
Shaye and Amanda, thank you for making these videos. You are both such beautiful and inspiring women. I love how authentic and honest you both are, and have been deeply moved watching your videos. You are both truly soulmates.
11:43- oh man. I am crying.
You are just beautiful, inside and out. BOTH of you are! I’m so happy I found this channel!
Thank you for this video. I wanted to touch a little on a part of the video (around 22:30 mark) where you (Amanda) said that, sometimes she’ll look over at you and say, “People really don’t care, do they? Like this is really okay, huh?” It’s true. I think there’s a weird misconception between human beings where one thinks the other is automatically against the other because of religious or political stances, beliefs, what have you. And that’s just not the case. Of course, there are very, VERY close minded people on both sides of the fence and I respect their boundaries the same way I’d expect them to respect mine. But then there are those (like myself) who don’t believe there’s a fence at all because we’re all in this field of life together.
Thank you, again, for sharing your lives with us.
Gorgeous humans inside and out. Shae, have you ever thought about reading for books on tape? Your voice is so calming!
We knew when my son was two that he would either be gay or trans! He’s 9 and LOVES wearing dresses and just loves all things girly! I’m learning and loving this developing journey and everytime I watch one of your videos I get tears! I’m grateful I get to be part of this community whatever that looks like to my son. I’m here to support and love him throughout all seasons of life! My biggest goal is to be his biggest supporter!
You two are amazing!! I am a retired high school teacher and have learned so much from you all! I loved all my students no matter who they were!! Love is love!! ❤
I am so proud of both of you. You can see your love for each other shine through. It’s not easy going against a religion. The fact that you were able to become the woman you knew was inside shows on the outside too. I hope as each day passes more and more people will start to realize we are who we are regardless of the race and sex or gender we are force to adhere to when we are born. Life evolves and we learn new things everyday. Maybe not in my lifetime but hopefully in yours and your children’s it will.
You are an amazing couple and Shaye you are a beautiful woman, also your voice fits you so well, it doesn't sound incongruous with how you look, you speak so gently and softly that it suits you ❤
You’re both such beautiful, articulate women. Thank you for sharing so openly. ❤
i adore this family so much & wish for nothing but peace and genuine joy for you all 💓 what a privilege it is to hear the story of the great scotts !
This is so refreshing. Reminds me to respect people where they are.
I've been watching y'all since the beginning and I love the support and love you have for one another!
I found your channel through Skylar and the Five to Love channel I have watched forgot years now. I love seeing how supportive Skylar is to you guys. My son’s bio dad came out as trans female to me a year after we ended things for unrelated reasons. I have been supportive since she told me. Some think I am crazy because she is my “ex” but like that’s my child’s other parent and we have been friends since 2007. Yeah things were toxic after we had our son but she has changed so much since she made her transition. I e get along better now than ever before.
I appreciate you both being so vulnerable and honest!!!! I have been a subscriber for a long time but have recently come back strong with watching all recent videos. Please keep helping people understand your beautiful journey together and separate!!!!! :-)
So proud of Shaye & Skyler ❤
Both of you are outstandingly beautiful inside and out. Also, SAME here w/r/t not wanting to dress up or wear makeup before I realized I was trans, I felt like it would dishonor what I thought I should be, but didn't think I could be. Also also, I just had VFS this summer with Dr. Haben and it helped me a lot.
Ughhh, the "then if she accepted me, the only thing that was in the way of me was me" that is so insanely insightful. Your words are always so intelligent and honest, and thought-provoking it really makes me look inward just as a human we all can related and feel these things.
Love. My dad was a music director at Columbia and scored movies and I’ve always had a geeky live for movie scores. You two are so open and honest and it’s beautiful seeing a glimpse of your lives.
Thank you for making these videos. I hope you realize how helpful they are for folks going through similar situations.
You mentioned something about your transition becoming personal to people around you and how they learned love and acceptance. That reminded me of a quote by the infamous Nan Osborne shared on Mormon No More: "Until it becomes person, you don't do the work." Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey with all of us and being so open.
You ladies are pure joy!
You both look alike... I believe in freedom of speech, freedom of religion, freedom of expression.. as long as your path is not hurting anyone else I do not feel like anyone should judge another. I am not religious however I do believe there is a God and he should be the only judge and in the end we answered to him only❤
Aww I love this so much! Shay, I hope you feel beautiful because you absolutely are! Thanks for sharing your thoughts I really love watching you both grow in this journey!
What a beautiful relationship between the both of you. You’re both so kind to each other and so strong.
Came here from your Mormon stories episodes bc as a trans person, I was curious to see how your journey has been going. I'm glad to see y'all so happy and absolutely gorgeous🌈
I’m a 60+ woman and I think Shaye does her makeup better than me. You are just a wonderful couple in so many ways. 🇬🇧
Thank you for doing the q&a, I think a lot of us straight people are still trying to understand the lgbqt community. Your story right now is really helping me understand. Also please renew your vows? I really want people to renew their vows. :)
You are so beautiful and I love seeing how happy you are being more in alignment. You are so brave and amazing!!
Faith expansion! I love that! I am going to use that in describing my faith journey-I am so far from the black and white religion I was raised with.
You really are an amazing couple! And I begin to see so many parallels to Amanda particularly (teaching English at university, sewing, placing more value on self-respect and self-worth than what anyone else might say, plus your deconstruction of faith, etc.). You two are adorable and I, a boring German cis-gendered late 50s single atheist woman who considers herself a strong ally of the LGBTQ+ community want to applaud you for all the wonderful and inspiring content and information you put out to the world! Had to say it…
I believe with all my heart that openly transgender and intersex people are a gift to our world. You are helping us to move out of our binary view of our world into accepting authenticity.
mental health is so important.
I was recommended some of your shorts and now I've been binging so many of your videos. You're a gorgeous couple. I've been married 4 years, the amount of love you two have for each other even after so many years is goals for all of us. Love from the UK ❤
Watching your video with my morning coffee. For some they might think what is wrong with the world but for me watching this I felt so much love between you and I felt so much of what is right with the world. Not sure if that makes sense to anyone but with all of the horrible things that go on in life, I feel like it is pretty silly (might not be the right word 🤔 ) that anyone focuses on any hatred of transgender or any LGBTQ matters in a negative way.
Whoa I’ve been gone from UA-cam a min and wow a lot has changed congratulations I never saw that coming but that is so amazing you are so brave and bold wishing y’all nothing but happiness!!
You two are such a gorgeous couple. I love the way you support each other.
I love the fact that you're loyal and devoted to each other and you're proud of your long term relationship and marriage. That is so admirable and heartwarming. Your story and your love for one another is gorgeous . I'm so happy for ye. God bless you with inclusive and unconditional love which Jesus is famous for. Amen
I think it’s so cool that you choose to stay in Utah. You are connected to that land and I am in awe of you shining this light onto the trans experience. You are leveraging your privilege in all the best ways possible. I hope you and your family are safe and protected and at peace. ❤❤
You each are amazingly good people!!! You are a joy & inspiration!!! Thank you for being you!!
the love... the love!!! my goodness i hope you all the best, the love you share is BLINDING!!!!! im obsessed.. thank you for sharing your story.
You are such a loving, beautiful couple. I admire your openness and commitment in helping people to understand your journey! I’ve been watching your videos since the beginning and love you all. Take care! ❤️
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Thanks so much for ALL your videos, you two are a treasure to the trans / LGBTQIA+ community. I relate so strongly to Shaye's journey. I've transitioned SOCIALLY ONLY, I'm not sure what the future holds otherwise, I think FFS has always been what I would change first, I just want to see that me that is inside, though I've always had her in here. It is so BIZARRE to me those who question the authenticity of trans identity and come up with ideas like "social contagion", what a ludicrous idea. I just want to come out fully, and be accepted and loved for WHO I REALLY AM, not some idea of who I must be for others to be comfortable in their world. It's hard enough accepting and loving ourselves, whatever our natures. Thanks again ladies! :)
Find a queer community and therapist if you haven’t already! You deserve to live freely and be loved as your authentic self.
Greetings from Charleston SC! Thank you both for your videos! I so appreciate your honesty and explanations. Definitely opens my eyes to your world. At 70 years old it sheds so much light n this subject!! ❤❤
I love you guys! You would both kill it if you started a podcast, just saying
Seing u and ur relationship and dedication to each other burst me into tears....as turkish trans girl and culturel codes are much harsh ..u are so lucky and i wish the best to u
I appreciate you answering questions and taking the time to educate us. I learned from this which in turn will help me support my friend who's son is transitioning
Shaye and Amanda, you are an amazing couple, definitely soulmates!
Thank you for sharing your journey.❤️
I learn so much from every video and Shaye's journey (and Amanda''s too) really opened my eyes for SO much. It's really inspiring and educative to hear you both talk with so much openness and honesty. I could see how Shaye's happiness with herself can be seen through the videos more and more - it's BEAUTIFUL! All the love to you guys! thanks for sharing your journey!
I simply just love you both so much! That’s all.
Sending you and your family much love and positive thoughts!!! Thank you for sharing with us. I hope you are forever and always surrounded by love and kindness!❤
I love you both, as human beings, as a loving couple - and by sharing a life experience so many can be educated and inspired about ❤
I dont know if you will still read this After so Long , i think it is great the Bond you have.. You are two Beautiful Women and i wish you the Best ❤,, The world can be very hard, but God is with you😊. Where there is love, there is God❤, love You guys
You are such wonderful people. It’s been so nice to see you in my feed each day. Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are officially my favorite couple!! ❤
Thank you for displaying your beautiful relationship. I particularly love your passion for education; of others, but also your personal pursuit of higher education!
You guys are such a huge inspiration, its amazing to see you guys happy and healthy❤
You're both so articulate, so eloquent. It really important that you have shared and continue to share your story. You're ex-Mormon and I'm an atheist from Australia/New Zealand but in sharing, you're doing god's work - if you'll pardon the literal expression.
I’m so happy for you guys ! Love the love that you both have for one another !
So glad to have a new video !
I sent the pic of you two kissing to time magazine and people magazine, hoping it will be the picture of the year ! I got back the general email that says " thank you for reaching out , we will get back to you when able ". Lol I sure hope they use it ! Your family deserves a lot of prop for putting this on the Internet so everyone can see.
What folks don't realize is that this is just something that's in tune with a lot of people , and it's not just the trans part, it's not a queer part , it is a prop to people that have different issues you can really come out and not feel ashamed . I am quite sure you do that for a lot of folks !
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So wonderful to hear your story. All we can hope for is to be our authentic selves. Wishing you all the best in your familes journey. ❤
Such an amazing couple well done for surviving this process and staying strong together xxx
If we all behaved the way the two of you have in life we likely would have world peace. We could all take something from your story and being more accepting of others differences and less judgemental. I love your freedom in sharing your life with us, thank-you!
Love you guys and your story! Thank you for who you are!❤❤
Amanda is such a great listener, really attractive trait
Shaye you are a very beautiful woman And I think your voice is uniquely you! Amanda what an extremely kind and loving person you are.
You two are so wonderful & open, and seeing you share your story with the world has been such an inspiring journey. Even moreso, seeing how much support the internet has given you gives me hope for the future lol. Hugs all around. PS- can't wait for the Christmas videos 🎄☃🎅
Your relationship is the truest expression of love ❣️. Love to you both and all your family 💜💛💚
I wish you all the love and happiness for both of you
The relationship is only between the both of you and no one else.
Awesome video 👏🏻 Thank you both for being so real, open and honest!! I learn so much from the two of you with each video ❤ Blessing from Green 🌱🌿🪴 Ohio 😄
You guys are awesome and I think your life stories are a great service to others on a path even remotely similar...as I think about it, I think you're a great example to anyone striving for authenticity and or to evolve . Blessings
Thank you for sharing! You are both amazing and brave!
I’m kind of surprised that you claim your house and location is a very safe place safe community but yet you comment that you didn’t want to put a gay pride flag out because it would be burned that doesn’t sound safe to me.
They said physicly safe as in not being scared of getting beat but i think its unsafe verbally
It’s also relative. They might not understand true “safety” as we understand it for a while or until they move, etc
I absolutely adore Shaye’s freckles!
I love you guys so much thank you so for sharing your journey. I was a member of the church and left young, at 20 because of issues with the beliefs.
You both look gorgeous- love that your both doing well and are happy
I love the positive vibes in this comment section
Thank you for sharing. It means alot.
The best example of a working relationship! There is a God!
M 27:17 27:17 y second time watching this video, i learn so much each time and feel encouraged, im 6 months on HRT every change is so welcome! Love you both!❤❤😊😊
Shay, your voice is GORGEOUS! Only do the voice therapy if you really feel that it will help you feel more authentically you!