here is my story : a friend of mine since high school was really sad due to parents divorce and an ex boyfriend died in a car accident.. i understood her and listened to her almost every day for at least an hour, she cried and talked about it for 3 years and she took my happiness, power and joy.. after 3 years of being her psychologic friend i talked about something really bad happening to me and she changed the topic to talk about her.. i was in shock! then i never talked to her again and i felt free and happy! since then i never let anyone drain power and happiness from me..
Hi gal, thanks for sharing your story. It's great that you were such a good energy giver to your friend! In our livestream we talk about the Communication Characteristics of Energy Vampires and Energy Givers ua-cam.com/video/I-ywPChYj38/v-deo.html It's great that you were able to recognize that reciprocity in friendship is very important! Hope you enjoy the live conversation, we discuss the power of providing the energy in a conversation and the exchange of energy throughout a conversation as well. Communication is a two way street, there's some give and some take :) Happy Explearning ⚡ Great to have you here!
The people in my life that try 2 drain and zap my energy I limit the time I spend with them and do crystal meditation to ground myself,energy drainers are lost souls
When it comes to my private life I dont deal with energy vampires. But it's harder when you have them as coworkers. So I will definitely use these strategies when dealing with certain coworkers
I’m by nature friendly…I’ve encountered many EV’s throughout my life. Specifically those who like to insult and belittle me. I think their toxic energy is trying to pull my good aura, unfortunately most times I let them have it.
A lot of my problem is my vamp will often call late at night for hours wanting advice & encouragement til I'm deliriously tired. She's kind, giving & reasonable but doesn't respect my time or ask about my life
Well, trust me, she is not kind and sweet at all! She knows perfectly that she drains life out of you, but don't give a sh...t. Time will tell you that.
This is happening with me with one of my friend. Our friendship has always been like this me listening and her talking, I never thought that it would be a problem later on. But now it seems like this is the reason that the conversation with her is draining me. I love her very much and we have been friends for almost 5 years now. But every time we hangout it is always about her (which I recently realized). Whenever we hangout or just talking in general, the only thing being discussed in that conversation is her crushes and how she feel like her crush likes her and what is she gonna do when she is in a relationship, how a random guy who walks past us or even be near her in 10 meter radius is staring at her and so much more things like this. I am just tired of having the conversation about the same topics (boys). I don't know if I am over thinking but every time I finish hanging out with her I feel drained and do not have energy to do anything else. And this I realized recently that if I tried to change the conversation she would just say somethings like "oh, yea, true, yea, yea" and shift the conversation back to whatever she was saying which made me realized that I am not a friend to her, I am just someone she can talk to and do not wanna listen what I have to say or anything. I am now keeping my distance from her and setting some boundaries, because every time I tried to tell her that why our friendship is not working and what we can do to build our relationship. She reply with "you are the last friend I am having, I already had many bad friends, you are now last one, if you betray me as well, I can stay own my own" and starts crying which makes me feel bad for some reason. But one thing for sure is that I am tired I do not know why I am sharing this online but yea I am stressed bcs of this friendship. I genuinely don't know what to do atp.
Hi @iamtallerthanyou7152, Firstly, thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences with us. It takes courage to open up about personal struggles, especially in a public space like this. 🌟 Your situation with your friend sounds quite challenging. Friendships, like any relationship, should ideally be a two-way street where both parties feel heard and valued. It's understandable that consistently one-sided conversations can leave you feeling drained and unappreciated. It's commendable that you've recognized this pattern and are taking steps to set boundaries. This is often a necessary step in preserving not only the health of the relationship but also your own well-being. Remember, setting boundaries is not a betrayal; it's a way of ensuring that the relationship is mutually respectful and fulfilling. Regarding your friend's reaction when you try to address the issue, it's important to approach such conversations with empathy but also firmness. It's okay to express your needs in a friendship. If she truly values your relationship, she will be open to understanding your perspective. It's all about finding a balance that works for both of you, where you can support each other without feeling overwhelmed. Lastly, if you ever feel too stressed or unsure about how to proceed, seeking advice from a counselor or a trusted person can provide valuable insights and support. Take care of yourself, and remember, your feelings and needs are just as important as anyone else's ✨💪
Your friend is being manipulative by crying and saying you’re her only good friend (i wonder why she doesn’t have many good friends 🤔). Put yourself first and don’t let people take advantage of you. I have been in your situation many times before; I empathise with you.
Im literally going through the same exact thing with a boy crazy friend! I distanced myself, by becoming busy going to the gym,hobbies, spending time with other friends etc… at first she started to sub me on IG ..saying things like “im all alone in this world” or “whoever wants to cut me off go ahead!” But eventually she got over it and accepted my boundaries. I am her only friend and I use to feel bad about hanging with other people , until I recently realized that its her own fault she has no friends. Set your boundaries, either she will self-reflect and come around or she will remove herself, which is highly unlikely because you sound like her only good friend.
What does the energy vampire do with the energy they’ve stolen? Do they like low key “become you” like do they start using your mannerisms or speeches & opportunities? What do they gain from the temporary energy of another? Especially if the energy isn’t authentically theirs, it won’t last. So what do they gain from stealing some temporary energy? I’ve been searching for videos about that one question & can’t find it specifically. Thanks to whomever can explain!
@@zerogravity213 that’s about all I’ve noticed as well. So weird! Idk why I thought they’d transmute it & turn it into their own but that’s defeats the whole purpose of stealing someone else’s energy in the first place. I guess they truly have no identity or soul of their own. Just meat packs.
From what I heared these people target positive, nice type of people. They are jealous since they dont have that themselves. So they want to steal that joy from you. When they tear you down they become happy or settle within themselves somehow
They corner u frm all othr near ones slowly slowly. They use ur positive energy for their benefit n in return give u negative energy. They always complain u about which u r not in real n one day u ll end up as that bad prsn. They use ur intelligence brain n many other secrets n implement in their life n becomes successful and u end up as pyscho unsuccessful prsn who will suicide one day or will go in depression or u ll have severe major accidents.. My prsnl experience.. facing mental torture, cornered out frm everywhere, had severe four accidents..one yesterday only but still surviving..but surely i was player before n athlete too but im half fckd up already. Don't know how to come out from all this
A lot of times it’s of no use to them aka incompatible. But like drag addiction, they don’t see it. You will find when they can’t find someone to drain, they become sick themselves. You might see that if they can’t suck out positive emotions out of you and replace them with their negativity, or they are left alone for any amount of time they feel unwell. Teaching them chi gong, going to the park, is of no use, they don’t want to learn.
Yes, really useful, especially time boundary setting. With my partner who's a narcissistic energy vampire she will start a conversation topic to do with her life and we'll still be talking about it 10 minures later. On the other hand I will introduce a topic (not about her) and get an uh-huh from her and that's that. Or I might mention something that's important to me and almost straight away she'll state her own experience on the same topic and we're back to her life for another 10 minutes or more. She does this constantly throughout the day. I'm beginning to realize that she's not in love with me but only with the time and energy that she can get from me. How she gets away with it is that I'm a good listener. And that she powerfully creates the world around her so that I'm always in HER world when we're together. Not a neutral world. Not my world. Somehow it's always her world that we're in.
Some energy vampire may be suffering from bipolar disorder, or a number of disorders caused by growing up in a toxic family, or working with people with a high level of crab mentality workplace bullies driving you so crazy you become such a person, a loved one dies and this some one has lost it emotionally overloaded. Unfortunately there is a lot of reasons people get this way. Maybe they were once easy going happy people before these events came along in their lives, fir sure some people can really be annoying to be around, but i think better to give them some advice to seek professional help from a psychiatrist.
I have been sick for 2 days because of energy draining. One of my bf friends has visited our town, and met for coffee every day for 2 weeks. It slowly sucked up my energy and I fell down. He is very generous and positive but talks about himself forever and very delusional. It seems he is always trying to prove himself bigger than reality. But maybe in his mind, he is a real super star or something... I met a real energy vampire finally...
@okrathemountain Wow, it sounds like you’ve been through a lot lately. Energy vampires can be so draining, especially when they’re constantly seeking validation and talking about themselves. Even with the best intentions, it can be exhausting to be around someone who pulls your energy like that. Sometimes, setting boundaries and taking time for yourself can really help recharge. You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way-so many people experience it too! Hope you’re able to rest up and feel back to yourself soon. 😊🌱
My dad is a vulnerable covert narcissist and a huge energy vampire. He is collin robinsonfrom what we do in shadows level. He can drain any room in a matter of minutes.
I love your topic, besides you have advanced english phrases, vocabulary and idioms I broke your videos down into several parts to learn english from you 😃
I wish there was such a video for self proclaimed religious guru zealots like this. Then again I am a practicing reiki master and a vampire so I may be a bit biased, but at least I'm being honest about it.
Thank you thank you thank you And most of this really works with diplomatic people, but when one has to deal with a vile person because there is No Other Option, I just going to let them have it and let them know that I am not asking, I am (Telling You) and then stop the interaction. This is not for everyone, this could create more intense problems. But I find that keeping quiet and just protecting yourself will not stop the persistent attacks!!! 😵💫😳🤔 ✌️🙌🙏 😅😂🤣👻👻👻
You really have to limit it and do not share personal information no matter how you feel about helping those in need most of the time they will just use that as an opportunity to get you to use your energy for their benefit.
Someone who you have given countless compliments to but sees something they like about you or on you or you have and they can’t muster up the respect to give you a compliment back but they just keep it to themselves and get jealous BYE! No second chances - that’s garbage energy
@@ExplearningCo im already got trapped in this frm 10 years. My career everything got spoiled..how to recover or get rid frm this type of ppl. she is not ready to leave me also. But she complains about me day n night to everyone n from a dearest child of all relatives n ppl. M their enemy n villain today
I think that’s true for a lot of people, but there are some people who are very aware that they suck the energy out of people and they don’t care to change. I just met someone like this.
here is my story : a friend of mine since high school was really sad due to parents divorce and an ex boyfriend died in a car accident..
i understood her and listened to her almost every day for at least an hour, she cried and talked about it for 3 years and she took my happiness, power and joy..
after 3 years of being her psychologic friend i talked about something really bad happening to me and she changed the topic to talk about her..
i was in shock!
then i never talked to her again
and i felt free and happy!
since then i never let anyone drain power and happiness from me..
Hi gal, thanks for sharing your story. It's great that you were such a good energy giver to your friend! In our livestream we talk about the Communication Characteristics of Energy Vampires and Energy Givers ua-cam.com/video/I-ywPChYj38/v-deo.html It's great that you were able to recognize that reciprocity in friendship is very important! Hope you enjoy the live conversation, we discuss the power of providing the energy in a conversation and the exchange of energy throughout a conversation as well. Communication is a two way street, there's some give and some take :) Happy Explearning ⚡ Great to have you here!
I had one individual in my surrounding who always condradict me when i say something..my only way out was to avoid any conversation with this person .
I pretty much avoid energy vampires at all costs.
The people in my life that try 2 drain and zap my energy I limit the time I spend with them and do crystal meditation to ground myself,energy drainers are lost souls
When it comes to my private life I dont deal with energy vampires. But it's harder when you have them as coworkers. So I will definitely use these strategies when dealing with certain coworkers
I’m by nature friendly…I’ve encountered many EV’s throughout my life. Specifically those who like to insult and belittle me.
I think their toxic energy is trying to pull my good aura, unfortunately most times I let them have it.
Jajaja I'm having fun with this post I always let them have it too because being diplomatic works with people that are diplomatic!!!
✌️🙌🙏
@@Hugo-ol2sc preach!
A lot of my problem is my vamp will often call late at night for hours wanting advice & encouragement til I'm deliriously tired. She's kind, giving & reasonable but doesn't respect my time or ask about my life
Well, trust me, she is not kind and sweet at all! She knows perfectly that she drains life out of you, but don't give a sh...t. Time will tell you that.
That’s not kind if she doesn’t care about your life or time….wake up! She thinks your beneath her and is taking advantage of you … using you
This is happening with me with one of my friend. Our friendship has always been like this me listening and her talking, I never thought that it would be a problem later on. But now it seems like this is the reason that the conversation with her is draining me. I love her very much and we have been friends for almost 5 years now. But every time we hangout it is always about her (which I recently realized). Whenever we hangout or just talking in general, the only thing being discussed in that conversation is her crushes and how she feel like her crush likes her and what is she gonna do when she is in a relationship, how a random guy who walks past us or even be near her in 10 meter radius is staring at her and so much more things like this. I am just tired of having the conversation about the same topics (boys). I don't know if I am over thinking but every time I finish hanging out with her I feel drained and do not have energy to do anything else. And this I realized recently that if I tried to change the conversation she would just say somethings like "oh, yea, true, yea, yea" and shift the conversation back to whatever she was saying which made me realized that I am not a friend to her, I am just someone she can talk to and do not wanna listen what I have to say or anything. I am now keeping my distance from her and setting some boundaries, because every time I tried to tell her that why our friendship is not working and what we can do to build our relationship. She reply with "you are the last friend I am having, I already had many bad friends, you are now last one, if you betray me as well, I can stay own my own" and starts crying which makes me feel bad for some reason. But one thing for sure is that I am tired
I do not know why I am sharing this online but yea I am stressed bcs of this friendship. I genuinely don't know what to do atp.
Hi @iamtallerthanyou7152,
Firstly, thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences with us. It takes courage to open up about personal struggles, especially in a public space like this. 🌟
Your situation with your friend sounds quite challenging. Friendships, like any relationship, should ideally be a two-way street where both parties feel heard and valued. It's understandable that consistently one-sided conversations can leave you feeling drained and unappreciated.
It's commendable that you've recognized this pattern and are taking steps to set boundaries. This is often a necessary step in preserving not only the health of the relationship but also your own well-being. Remember, setting boundaries is not a betrayal; it's a way of ensuring that the relationship is mutually respectful and fulfilling.
Regarding your friend's reaction when you try to address the issue, it's important to approach such conversations with empathy but also firmness. It's okay to express your needs in a friendship. If she truly values your relationship, she will be open to understanding your perspective.
It's all about finding a balance that works for both of you, where you can support each other without feeling overwhelmed.
Lastly, if you ever feel too stressed or unsure about how to proceed, seeking advice from a counselor or a trusted person can provide valuable insights and support.
Take care of yourself, and remember, your feelings and needs are just as important as anyone else's ✨💪
Your friend is being manipulative by crying and saying you’re her only good friend (i wonder why she doesn’t have many good friends 🤔). Put yourself first and don’t let people take advantage of you. I have been in your situation many times before; I empathise with you.
Im literally going through the same exact thing with a boy crazy friend! I distanced myself, by becoming busy going to the gym,hobbies, spending time with other friends etc… at first she started to sub me on IG ..saying things like “im all alone in this world” or “whoever wants to cut me off go ahead!” But eventually she got over it and accepted my boundaries.
I am her only friend and I use to feel bad about hanging with other people , until I recently realized that its her own fault she has no friends. Set your boundaries, either she will self-reflect and come around or she will remove herself, which is highly unlikely because you sound like her only good friend.
These techniques don't work on narcissists and energy vampires who devalue humans.
Listening to this ANSWERED SO MANY questions , I had about a recent break-up .. Just give me SO MUCH enlightenment 😊 and lifted my spirits
tips start at 3:35. if you need the definition, start from the beginning
What does the energy vampire do with the energy they’ve stolen? Do they like low key “become you” like do they start using your mannerisms or speeches & opportunities?
What do they gain from the temporary energy of another?
Especially if the energy isn’t authentically theirs, it won’t last. So what do they gain from stealing some temporary energy?
I’ve been searching for videos about that one question & can’t find it specifically. Thanks to whomever can explain!
Spirits stolen and energy in my opinion. Act similar. Monkey see monkey do 🙈
@@zerogravity213 that’s about all I’ve noticed as well. So weird! Idk why I thought they’d transmute it & turn it into their own but that’s defeats the whole purpose of stealing someone else’s energy in the first place. I guess they truly have no identity or soul of their own. Just meat packs.
From what I heared these people target positive, nice type of people. They are jealous since they dont have that themselves. So they want to steal that joy from you. When they tear you down they become happy or settle within themselves somehow
They corner u frm all othr near ones slowly slowly.
They use ur positive energy for their benefit n in return give u negative energy. They always complain u about which u r not in real n one day u ll end up as that bad prsn.
They use ur intelligence brain n many other secrets n implement in their life n becomes successful and u end up as pyscho unsuccessful prsn who will suicide one day or will go in depression or u ll have severe major accidents..
My prsnl experience.. facing mental torture, cornered out frm everywhere, had severe four accidents..one yesterday only but still surviving..but surely i was player before n athlete too but im half fckd up already.
Don't know how to come out from all this
A lot of times it’s of no use to them aka incompatible. But like drag addiction, they don’t see it. You will find when they can’t find someone to drain, they become sick themselves. You might see that if they can’t suck out positive emotions out of you and replace them with their negativity, or they are left alone for any amount of time they feel unwell. Teaching them chi gong, going to the park, is of no use, they don’t want to learn.
Yes, really useful, especially time boundary setting. With my partner who's a narcissistic energy vampire she will start a conversation topic to do with her life and we'll still be talking about it 10 minures later. On the other hand I will introduce a topic (not about her) and get an uh-huh from her and that's that. Or I might mention something that's important to me and almost straight away she'll state her own experience on the same topic and we're back to her life for another 10 minutes or more. She does this constantly throughout the day. I'm beginning to realize that she's not in love with me but only with the time and energy that she can get from me. How she gets away with it is that I'm a good listener. And that she powerfully creates the world around her so that I'm always in HER world when we're together. Not a neutral world. Not my world. Somehow it's always her world that we're in.
Some energy vampire may be suffering from bipolar disorder, or a number of disorders caused by growing up in a toxic family, or working with people with a high level of crab mentality workplace bullies driving you so crazy you become such a person, a loved one dies and this some one has lost it emotionally overloaded. Unfortunately there is a lot of reasons people get this way. Maybe they were once easy going happy people before these events came along in their lives, fir sure some people can really be annoying to be around, but i think better to give them some advice to seek professional help from a psychiatrist.
I appreciate the recap. A natural teacher strategy. 👍👍
I have been sick for 2 days because of energy draining. One of my bf friends has visited our town, and met for coffee every day for 2 weeks. It slowly sucked up my energy and I fell down.
He is very generous and positive but talks about himself forever and very delusional. It seems he is always trying to prove himself bigger than reality.
But maybe in his mind, he is a real super star or something...
I met a real energy vampire finally...
@okrathemountain Wow, it sounds like you’ve been through a lot lately. Energy vampires can be so draining, especially when they’re constantly seeking validation and talking about themselves. Even with the best intentions, it can be exhausting to be around someone who pulls your energy like that. Sometimes, setting boundaries and taking time for yourself can really help recharge. You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way-so many people experience it too! Hope you’re able to rest up and feel back to yourself soon. 😊🌱
My dad is a vulnerable covert narcissist and a huge energy vampire. He is collin robinsonfrom what we do in shadows level. He can drain any room in a matter of minutes.
Wow this was helpful thank you 🌠
I love your topic, besides you have advanced english phrases, vocabulary and idioms
I broke your videos down into several parts to learn english from you 😃
So happy to hear that! I also have a separate channel and podcast dedicated to Advanced English : youtube.com/@AdvancedEnglish
They are in the cubicle next to me 😢
I wish there was such a video for self proclaimed religious guru zealots like this. Then again I am a practicing reiki master and a vampire so I may be a bit biased, but at least I'm being honest about it.
Thank you thank you thank you
And most of this really works with diplomatic people, but when one has to deal with a vile person because there is No Other Option, I just going to let them have it and let them know that I am not asking, I am (Telling You) and then stop the interaction. This is not for everyone, this could create more intense problems.
But I find that keeping quiet and just protecting yourself will not stop the persistent attacks!!!
😵💫😳🤔
✌️🙌🙏 😅😂🤣👻👻👻
I love this!
So happy you found it valuable :)
Very nice explanation
What if you stay at a family home and they come over every weekend for 2-3 days
Subscribed!
Cool video
You really have to limit it and do not share personal information no matter how you feel about helping those in need most of the time they will just use that as an opportunity to get you to use your energy for their benefit.
Thankyou so much
You're welcome very much!
Nargis Fakhri
Someone who you have given countless compliments to but sees something they like about you or on you or you have and they can’t muster up the respect to give you a compliment back but they just keep it to themselves and get jealous
BYE! No second chances - that’s garbage energy
Lol, I've decided to put a garlic wreath on my back door! Do you think my energy zapping neighbor will get the hint?
Don't 👀🙏
I dont think people ARE energy vampires, i think theyre drained and in a bad place sometimes and dont know how to deal
Definitely! Sometimes people zap each other's energy and it's not out of malic, it just is.
That's extremely perceptive of you.👍
@@ExplearningCo im already got trapped in this frm 10 years.
My career everything got spoiled..how to recover or get rid frm this type of ppl.
she is not ready to leave me also. But she complains about me day n night to everyone n from a dearest child of all relatives n ppl. M their enemy n villain today
I think that’s true for a lot of people, but there are some people who are very aware that they suck the energy out of people and they don’t care to change. I just met someone like this.
What about narcissists?
This is not very helpful
You are really really really cute.....so cute 🤭