You should tell Milo to offer his friendship to the kids who are also by themselves, the new kids, shy kids etc. He's not the only one and I'm sure he'll be more appreciated by those kids.
Totally true, it was our running joke that my circle of friends in school and I were the raggy dolls (like the 90s cartoon about the rejected dolls from the factory and their adventures - it was about being all-inclusive, not poking fun).
Here is some advise from my son Jack who is 12 and went through this for quite a while..... Milo, don't try too hard to make friends. Just keep being yourself, and keep being interested in what you like and the right people will find you. 😊
My son went thru the same kind of stuff....I would arrange play dates with the very very few kids he had as friends and went out of the way to keep friendships with kids he jelled with....Now, after many years he has many friends....trust me he will find the kids who are just like him and there will be many.
I am so delighted to read about the outpouring of love from the kids of your subscribers! Milo, so many people think you are amazing! Hang in there, the right, true friends will find you! Keep being amazing!
If there is any way I could mail you some cards from the US, my son and I would love to do that for him!! This breaks my heart. I was him as a child and still am as an adult. I never learned how to make friends! Children shouldn't have to feel like that. I'm so sorry you're both going through this because it just plain stinks.
Just love your Kitchen, the size, the white appliances, the dark chocolate wood, the back splash, and your counters. Your are so very blessed. I have always had a hard time making friends and keeping them. My youngest seems to have the same problem at school. We live in an apartment and she has been blessed by having friends here. We know the parents and also the values that their families have. The day we moved we be a blessing but extremely hard, hopefully we can try to stay in touch. My husband can make friends easier but life gets busy in the way.
Awe, I really wish I had the answers for you ♥️ My 5th grade son who has Asberger’s is getting bullied. I don’t know what to do either other than be a support system for when he comes home. I wish I had the answers too 🙏🏻
I read your comment, and just a suggestion: to enroll your child in a self defense class such as karate, or taekwondo. He will not only learn how to defend himself against bullies, but it will greatly improve his self esteem. And he might even just make a friend or two in the same karate class. I'm sure the instructors will make adjustments for him for the Asberger's. It's worth a shot.
Cass, I totally & completely understand the friend complications. Since I was a kid I've struggled with keeping friends & knowing what it means to be a friend. It's hard not to wear your heart on your sleeve - especially at a young age like Milo. But even in adult stages, we put all of our trust out there & get our hearts broken. I think it ultimately comes down to what are we fully willing to lose for a complete risk. It's a tricky one, & I hope the best for you guys!
Oh my heart!! Yes it's a bummer. Especially for us mommas to see our kiddos go through it. All you need is one good friend ;) Tell him not to change for anyone, the right friends will come in due time. I still struggle with this even as an adult 🤣
Ask Milo's teacher who he interacts with in class and then maybe invite that one child over for a few hours. Do that once in a while and hopefully they will become buddies....worth a try.. I feel so bad for him....Hugs xoxo
I'm so sorry. My granddaughter, who lives with me, is going through the same thing. She's got some emotional issues which come out when she gets upset, so the kids think she's weird and don't want to play with her. It's heartbreaking. She's so sweet and she wants to have friends and fit in. :-( Thanks for the motivational tips. I have good intentions but it's so hard to get motivated to clean and organize.
Right there with ya. Some people are gifted when it comes to making friends. I had a sister who did it so easily and the DEVOTION she got? Oh my Lord. She could get people to do anything for her. At her wedding there were FOUR women who introduced themselves to me by saying, "I am your sister's very best friend." They all believed they were. See, she made others feel good about themselves. (Me, not so much!) Girl, you have an EXTRA special, witty personality. Bet your son does, too because he comes from you. Honestly, if I met you in person I would probably assume that you had tons of special friends and didn't need another one. People assume things like that, unfortunately. I just wanted to reach in my screen today and hug you and tell you that I would LOVE to be your loyal friend! Please tell your sweet son that big hearted boys like him deserve the best friends. Tell him to keep an eye out for some kid who really needs a good friend like HIM. Love to you both!
Hugs to sweet Milo! Being a kid can be a hard job. I have 4, now grown, but I certainly do remember the struggles!! Give him a hug from me and tell him this too shall pass. If they aren’t good enough to be his friends, they aren’t good enough.
I am so sorry about Milo. I have a couple of kids and my heart breaks when their hearts are hurt. I can also relate to Milo. I have the exact same problem. Sometimes as an adult I think about giving up trying to make and keep friends. I hope Milo keeps trying.
Yes me too. I obce tried to be friends with a lonely kid but he seemed to give up on that and pushed me away. I wish that Milo truly does become blessed with a best friend.
I get it girl. Your son reminds me so much of my 3rd child when he was little. He is now an awesome adult but it doesn't make those younger years any easier. Prayers. I love your video's and your upbeat personality. You would be a blast to be around!
Your son is lucky to have such a caring mom. We cant make people be friends to our children but we will be there to guide and comfort them until they can find some! As long as they have you they are fortunate and cared for and loved and number 1 to someone and thats what matters
Oh Cass. I feel for you, and Milo. I have a child who when he was younger, had a friend who was not very nice. While I kept a close eye on things, I encouraged right behavior, talked a lot about doing what's right, and what forgiveness looks like. It wasn't easy. We all learned a lot throughout that growing time. I will pray for you guys. Thanks for sharing not only the funny things, but the challenging thing. Blessings on your house.
Thank you for sharing, it's not easy and it has happened to our family too. Big hug, you have raised your children with so much love and letting them explore and express themselves. There are some parents who would never let their kids experience anything and count every toy and make sure every part is in the box. Then accused us that we took the parts, we had the same game and we gave our pieces to them out of kindness not guilt. But once the father found the missing pieces....never apologized, never gave back our parts. But just kept on going like it never happened. I was crushed but the kids were still friends and I was on eggshells every time they asked for him to come play at their house. It's not the kids fault the parent was overly neurotic about toys. Hope you both feel better and if you want some cards I can send some from Michigan. Thank you again for making these videos and sharing your life with us.
I'm in this situation with my nine year old. She is such an amazing, awesome kid and shes always struggled to make friends. I've cried countless times when shes told me how she has noone to play with. I try to reassure her and spend extra time at home with her to hopefully make her day brighter. One day she'll find that friend who gets her and they'll be inseparable xx
No tip can help me right now, my brain has been out of service until further notice, but thank you for a good try!! As for (fake) friendships, yes, we've all been in Milo's shoes, unfortunately. I think real friends are like winning the lottery, but it can happen, right? My best wishes to you and your family!!
Awe. Hugs to you and your son ❤❤❤. My 7 yr old is the exact same way. We recently moved to a different city. My son made a couple of great friends but he had to find out the hard way some kids who were initially nice were just out to use him and get his toys from him. It really breaks our hearts seeing them go through this. Praying for you.
Cas, when our kids hurt we hurt. Best wishes for healing hearts. I used to pray my kids had at least one buddy by their side through their school years. They did. It’s not the number of friends, it’s the authenticity of the friends.
Thanks for the tips! Praying for Milo! 💙🙏 My husband and I were both bullied in elementary school. We both learned to just be ourselves and eventually attracted good friends, some for life. It’s hard now, but it will get better for Milo as he grows to love himself!
Milo and all of your kids are great. They are so full of life and funny (like their mom). I don’t have children myself but I do have a niece that has always struggled with making friends. It is a very difficult thing. I feel so bad for the little guy. He will be fine though. It is just so hard to watch them hurt, I know. Prayers for Milo and your family. We love you guys! ❤️
At the end of this when you got upset... I understood how you felt and what you were trying to say without you saying a word. My son is the same. Milo keep being you buddy and somewhere out there is a friend that will love you for you and be your friend for life. And that's more precious than those faking it just to get something from you. 💜
Thank you! You have no idea how badly my motivation has been for almost two weeks now. I need to pair. Hmmm Hugs to you, mom. So hard! One of our sons had to be checked before school to make sure he wasn't giving away stuff. Hes now a confident 30 year old starting his own catering business. Maybe daily affirmations would help him?
I’m very introverted and have very few friends and both my daughters struggle as well, probably learning that behaviour from me. I hope things work out better for him. The fact that he put himself out there is very brave of him xxxx
Cass I've been watching you for a couple of years and admittedly I don't usually watch too many of your personal notes at the end but today I watched and when you started talking about what happened to Milo at school it was all I could do to blink back the tears. I'm sure you have a wonderful son, a perfect testament to this is that he was willing to give up his treasures to make friends, the act of a generous soul with a normal desire for acceptance and association. Those of us with big hearts suffer a lot of pain in our lifetimes. A couple of things have occurred to me over the years of rejection, use, abuse and the heartbreak. Firstly that we have to put up boundaries to protect ourselves from the users. Not only is this acceptable, it is NECESSARY and APPROPRIATE. One point of this is that once boundaries are established they must be defended and that's not fun. Secondly and perhaps more importantly, it is not our failing as soft-hearted people. It is the failing of a society that encourages, nurtures and excuses narcissistic and sociopathic behavior. Things have changed a lot in 50 years. There was a time when I, too, had very few friends... sometimes none. But I got OK with being alone and I just do me; 100% 24/7. And for many years now I've had a LOT of friends. Close friends, confidants are but a trusted few and they have EARNED my trust. I hope Milo and yourself stay encouraged. Good luck with your surgery... I had it a couple of decades ago. Hang in there, baby... it's all just a roller coaster ride and not a very long one.
Thank you for sharing your tips and tricks for a clean house, more importantly your heart. I can totally relate to your family social struggles. 💗🙌 Hugs!
First of all, the book Educated was SO good! I actually grew up within an hour of the family mentioned. I hear they aren't as extreme as she paints them to be. I know people who know them. It's a pretty fascinating experience! I'd be very willing to discuss it.. I homeschool my kids and have a more holistic mindset as well, and I grew up in the same area with parents with similar (although not as extreme) worldviews. So I can relate to both side of the coin here! As for the reality of people not being genuine or trust worthy, it is one of the saddest lessons we have learned in this house too. I feel like I have to constantly coach my children to help them understand that they do not have to give up anything about themselves, or their things to be accepted. The right people will come along... easier said than done for sure! Thanks again for all of the tips!
My son has Aspergers and has social issues. He didn't have any friends until he was 13. I taught him how to find something nice to say about people...something that he genuinely liked. I told him to tell people those nice things that he thought and that eventually, someone would be nice back. He is 17 and has three close friends now. It works and your son will have friends. I know how hard it is. There were times that I wanted to literally smack other children who I saw being mean to my son. My son has a great heart and I worry that people will take advantage of that but over time he has learned how to be a friend and he surrounds himself with good kids.
Number one, your stories are my favorite part even though I love your tips and cleaning motivation. One of my four children struggles with this and it is a constant source of pain and anxiety for me. And obviously for my child. I try to encourage sibling friendship and remind them their siblings are their life long friends. While they may fight and annoy you at times, other friends may come and go but your siblings are forever friends. That said, it still sucks and doesn’t help at school and weekend sleepovers and it’s honestly a constant source of pain for my child and for me having to see her go through it.
You brought tears to my eyes. A similar thing happen to my son's as well, back when pokemon 1st came out. Charzard was the ultimate card, my son got it. His fred stole it. Needless to say he was crushed. Hang in there lil guy things get better. Hugs to you and your son.
I can relate Even though my children are now grown seeing them struggle to make friends was hard. Also seeing people take advantage of their kindness and soft heart was difficult. It’s hard to understand why people are user. I myself am very untrusting of people because I have also seen first hand how people can and will use you. So I have very few I call a friend. Here is to us, maybe one day we will find those who are true friends. 🍾 You are not alone.
AMEN for awkward people!!! Love the video! Heartstrings pulled when you told the story! I have 3 kids & wherever I went, (Military Mom) we would start out again trying to make friends. It sucks when you tire yourself out trying to make/keep friends! Fist Bump for the story!
Thank you for those good tips. =) I'm sorry to hear your children are having trouble making friends. awe. yeah, that is heartbreaking, about Milo and his Pokémon cards. =(
I went through that too, I now tell my children... sometimes we need to learn what friends are not... before we can really know and truly love and appreciate what friends are... and I think many lessons in life are like that.
Just came across your Channel. You are so fun and bubbly. Thank you for being you. Love your wall colors. If you don't already have one can you make a video of your wall colors?
Pleaaaasssseee...you dont get heartbroken... My daughter has been struggling with this since last 2 yrs..and she is just 9 now.. Finally I told her that the world doesnt end if you dont have friends. It's better to be yourself instead of peopke using you...! I truly loved Jack's advice...👍👏 And moreover..if this affects you..we wouldnt like to see you depressed. You are our motivation... Lovely tips in the video..thanks a ton...❤️❤️
New to your channel, but wanted to say I’ve been there both with my kids and myself and I feel for ya! Kids can be so cruel (parents can too). Prayers he finds his crew!
Helpful tips! And, yeah, making good friends isn’t always easy. Having 1-2 good friends is amazing. But it stinks when you want that and you don’t have it. And some people are just mean and others oblivious. Poor sweetie! I hope he finds his 1-2 really good friends soon!
Hi, I have a son that has struggled socially. Kids at school can be really mean. My son struggled the most in 7th grade. He’s in 9th grade now. Our church has helped him tremendously! He is so involved in church now and has more friends there then at school. He has found a safe place to be himself. Prayers for your son to find some true friends.🙏
You are such a precious, generous, loving person. Beautiful traits that you're clearly instilling in your babies. The story about Milo sure did tug at my heart strings. Sometimes episodes like that can make you feel unlovable even if you're an adult. He is so blessed to be surrounded by so much love and support at home. Thank you for all of your efforts and taking the time to share with us. Wishing you and your family the best always ❤️
So funny that you said to pair doing chores with something you enjoy, I let myself watch UA-cam videos (often YOURS!) while I wash dishes. I was watching this video while I’m doing dishes now, ha ha!! Thanks so much for great tools for keeping my house clean. And I just finished Educated on audiobook last week, INCREDIBLE! And I’m so sorry about your son having trouble... my daughter has a similar problem. It’s hard for me because I am usually good and making friends, but she struggles 😔 And her friends often leave her to go play with my son/her brother.
You are not alone! My little guy struggles, too. We try to tell him it’s more important to look for quality over quantity. He still wants to be friends with everyone and has the sweetest heart. It’s hard to watch them be amazing and feel like one of a few who see it.
I can't imagine you having a hard time making friends, you're so funny and creative. It's hard to watch our kids go through hard challenges, but be supportive and let him know how you feel about him. Tell him to be himself you can't buy friends, we all have to learn this. Life is about finding joy, love and our place. Before you know it he'll be bringing his high school buddies home to hang out...
I feel your pain. So sorry to hear. My son had the same issue 20 years ago. We started his collection over. We learned our lesson and actually put my son in counseling. He invited his friends to join him with the psychologist. (brought a business card and permission slips for the kids to join ) Hugs Momma
I had to watch it again,the second time. Totally this video is for me,i find myself so many times in this situations. It's hard to do it alone,but i have to. Thank you Cas .Now everytime when i'm feeling down,i'm gonna come back to this video and take my motivation from it. Love your thinking and your style 🤗😘🤗😘
Tell Milo, he is being loved. Just stay being friendly and cool. My little boy here could be his friend in the virtual world. Send my hugs and kisses to your little guy.
It’s always a parents heartache to watch their children struggle with other kids. Mine are now in their 30’s so what I can say is that it does get better, for you and your kids. Hang in there, Angie💕
These are great tips! I really struggle with cleaning motivation. I’m going to put all of these tips into action. Also, I really appreciate your honesty. Nothing hurts more than seeing your children hurting and being used. It’s a pain like no other. What I’ve learnt from my own pain and watching my kids go through similar struggles is that there is always purpose in our pain. I’ve learnt my most important lessons in my most difficult circumstances. Your son will learn a compassion and sensitivity from being treated this way that will make him a wonderful friend in the future. I’m a new subscriber. Your channel is awsome and so are you! 😊
I can totally relate & I just want you to know that I love your beautiful soul that you passed down to your children. He will find the right friends soon love bug!
I was legit JUST scouring UA-cam and Pinterest for cleaning motivation tips just like these (not just "clean with me"s) when your video popped up on my notifications 😁 THANK YOU THANK YOU! ✨Perfect timing✨ ...and I feel you on the subject about your son. My son is 6 and he's so sweet and tries hard to make friends with everyone he meets but some kids are just rude and take advantage of kids like him who share and let others go first. He doesn't always realize when kids are being mean to him and it hurts to see it in person and it's even worse knowing stuff like that happens when we're not around. I've recently had to tell him that not everyone is worth his friendship and if someone is not being fair or nice to him that he can find someone else to play with. Hopefully things improve for your son ❤️
Oh Cass... I am sending you hugs and Milo too. That's so hard!!! For my kids they found decent friends in activities they took part in. My older daughter played soccer. My younger daughter was in choir. They just need something to have in common. But even then I get it. For me I went through a horrible experience four years ago and three women I thought were my friends turned on me when I needed them most. And my really close friend died from cancer. It was such a hard time. But I've found out that I like who I am and I truly love my family. So I spend time with my family and I'm so careful about letting people get close to me now.
Sometimes being a mum is the most heartbreaking thing in the world 😢 I can definitely relate 💔 just be there & give him lots of love & fun at home 🙆 you'll get him there 😘
We can all relate The ones who can’t are probably the mean kids. I know your heart is breaking. It SUCKS but it builds compassion and character in a person. He will be kind to others and bring joy and light to the world. Hugs from one mama to another.
OMG. I am heartbroken, too. And even though I am an extrovert, I have had times were people just don't like me, or that I didn't fit in. Same for my son. We always worry and we do get our hearts broken. SO yes, I can relate. I got emotional, too. I love the advice other people gave, below. Lots of love here!!!
I love this! Thank you for the motivation - I definitely needed it today! My heart hurts for you & for your sweet kiddo - he is adorable. Keep smiling! ~Kristin (Salt Lake City, Utah, USA)
Cas - am so sorry your family is going thru that situation. Been there - done that. It is so disappointing to realize that the love and positivity you send out into the world can be twisted an used by people you thought were of the same mind-set as you. Stay strong and know that not every one is like that. Sending love and air-hugs to you and milo! judith
Great Tips. Poor Milo. I'm a teacher and I see that stuff all the time. So hard for you. I had trouble making friends when I was a kid. Now I have lots of people who I'm friends with and some very very close friends. I'm sure Milo will make new friends as time goes on. Doesn't help the hurt now, but just keep loving him and caring. You're doing a great job!
Great tips in the video. Thank you. I can so relate to what your son is going through. As you probably know it gets easier as you get older and develop your own interest and then people naturally come into your life to share those same interests . But it doesn’t make it easier now. I’m pretty sure that his parents remind him frequently how awesome he is 😀Keep the faith ❤️
Thanks for the awesome new ideas for tricking my brain! As for your son, my heart breaks. I too, can relate and have always found it difficult to have/keep good friends. I remember giving my things away too as a child to try to make friends. I am sorry... wish I had some good advice, but I don't. Just love on him and let him know what an awesome little guy he is.
Hi Cas, believe me I totally know how you feel. It is hesrtbreaking. And even more if it is happening with your kid... I‘ve been there... it is getting better... I love love love your humour and your personality. Often people do not get you, I totally understand you!
Hi I totally love your honesty and connection with real feelings! I have a pretty cool girl with the same issues. It’s Difficult and I share your heart warming motherly concern .
I feel you. I too am socially awkward and have a hard time making friends. Never felt that I was good enough. I really have no advice but just wanted to let you know that I think you are awesome and would love to be your friend. Can't imagine why someone else wouldn't want to be.
Oh my heart hurts for your sweet boy. My oldest is in kindergarten and has had similar things happen. Wish I had some Pokemon cards to mail him! I was surprised to hear you say you don't make friends easily. You are so fun and relatable and likable. Genuinely. You just haven't met cool enough friends yet. Love to y'all both from FL!
I can relate, Cass. Big hugs. I was going to suggest a team sport maybe. Organized activities were a huge help for my son. He is a huge hockey player now and most of his friends are hockey friends. I hope Milo can work through this. It is hard though, not for the faint of heart for sure, but you sure are not alone!
I totally understand. My son went through this earlier in the year with his Pokémon. He was new to them and was totally taken advantage of by others in class with older siblings who know how to rip a person off. The old yea trade me and I’ll bring you a card tomorrow! But the cards never come. And he’s gives them away to make friends who don’t reciprocate. I was aching inside for him! Milo will find his people. We always do, even if it’s that one best friend, they’re still our people and they get us. Thanks for sharing.
I know this was a year ago, but this was so heartbreaking and u could relate so much. My son is autistic and has other issues. He has always had problems making friends. He has been bullied, picked on and actually physically assaulted numerous times. It has been so bad u have started homeschooling him. He is 16 now and I just started home schooling him this year. I hate that he has to, but I also refuse to allow him to be treated like that. It got so bad last year he was threatening to hurt himself and I had to take him to hospital where he was admitted for 4 days. That was the worst 4 days of my life. I feel for you and feel so had for your kids. Only advice I can give, let them vent and do whatever makes them comfortable. My son's "outlet" us his videos.
If we don't know how to make friends, we get taken advantage of because we don't have enough experience to sense who the takers and users are. This is a life lesson for Milo, and will help him choose friends who are as generous as he is. Most important is that he knows his Mom is on his side, supporting and coaching him as he makes his way.
My daughter has high functioning autism and I seen her heartbroken (along with mine for her) so many times. She would try so hard to make friends. But you know what? She learned to just be who she is - and the right people found her. She still has two close friends from school. They’re quiet too round other people, but together they have a blast. She recently got a new job as a nursing assistant in a hospital and I worried about the patient interaction part..turns out she LOVES it and it getting such a good reputation..seems this ‘planned’ and ‘in context” interaction is ok for her! Also turns out that the way she felt when younger has made her want to help Others feel better about themselves. It’s a hard lesson, but Milo will be the better person for it in the long run ❤️
You should tell Milo to offer his friendship to the kids who are also by themselves, the new kids, shy kids etc. He's not the only one and I'm sure he'll be more appreciated by those kids.
I've always found those are the most interesting people and make the most loyal and true friends
Yes!
Totally true, it was our running joke that my circle of friends in school and I were the raggy dolls (like the 90s cartoon about the rejected dolls from the factory and their adventures - it was about being all-inclusive, not poking fun).
Here is some advise from my son Jack who is 12 and went through this for quite a while.....
Milo, don't try too hard to make friends. Just keep being yourself, and keep being interested in what you like and the right people will find you. 😊
Jack, you rock!
My son went thru the same kind of stuff....I would arrange play dates with the very very few kids he had as friends and went out of the way to keep friendships with kids he jelled with....Now, after many years he has many friends....trust me he will find the kids who are just like him and there will be many.
Such wise words ❤️❤️!!
Tell Jack that he is a star! 👍🏼🌹
100% agree
So sorry about Milo. I can totally relate. I've always been socially awkward, a total introvert. Just keep reassuring him that he's a cool kid.
I am so with you. You are such a good mama! What a precious boy. I just wanted to give you a hug. There are still many loving and kind people.
I'm usually laughing through & by the end of your video, but not today. This breaks my heart for Milo. Big hugs for you both!
I am so delighted to read about the outpouring of love from the kids of your subscribers! Milo, so many people think you are amazing! Hang in there, the right, true friends will find you! Keep being amazing!
If there is any way I could mail you some cards from the US, my son and I would love to do that for him!! This breaks my heart. I was him as a child and still am as an adult. I never learned how to make friends! Children shouldn't have to feel like that. I'm so sorry you're both going through this because it just plain stinks.
I would LOVE TO TOO!!! I told my 11 year old to go through his cards and see what we could send to yall!!!
Yes! We want to do the same! Even my 16 year old son was heartbroken when he heard this.
This is so nice of you! ❤️
That is such an awesome idea. I'm in...
Count me in too! Do you have a PO Box?
Just love your Kitchen, the size, the white appliances, the dark chocolate wood, the back splash, and your counters. Your are so very blessed.
I have always had a hard time making friends and keeping them. My youngest seems to have the same problem at school. We live in an apartment and she has been blessed by having friends here. We know the parents and also the values that their families have. The day we moved we be a blessing but extremely hard, hopefully we can try to stay in touch. My husband can make friends easier but life gets busy in the way.
Awe, I really wish I had the answers for you ♥️ My 5th grade son who has Asberger’s is getting bullied. I don’t know what to do either other than be a support system for when he comes home. I wish I had the answers too 🙏🏻
I read your comment, and just a suggestion: to enroll your child in a self defense class such as karate, or taekwondo. He will not only learn how to defend himself against bullies, but it will greatly improve his self esteem. And he might even just make a friend or two in the same karate class. I'm sure the instructors will make adjustments for him for the Asberger's. It's worth a shot.
Kids can be so mean🙁 show him as much love as possible. Went through the same thing growing up. It’s no fun, but thankful for loving parents
Your son's bedroom. OMG. My son would totally love it.
Cass, I totally & completely understand the friend complications. Since I was a kid I've struggled with keeping friends & knowing what it means to be a friend. It's hard not to wear your heart on your sleeve - especially at a young age like Milo. But even in adult stages, we put all of our trust out there & get our hearts broken. I think it ultimately comes down to what are we fully willing to lose for a complete risk. It's a tricky one, & I hope the best for you guys!
It’s always hard to see our children suffer. I just show them and others love and pray for the best. Gob bless you and your family
Oh my heart!! Yes it's a bummer. Especially for us mommas to see our kiddos go through it. All you need is one good friend ;) Tell him not to change for anyone, the right friends will come in due time.
I still struggle with this even as an adult 🤣
Ask Milo's teacher who he interacts with in class and then maybe invite that one child over for a few hours. Do that once in a while and hopefully they will become buddies....worth a try.. I feel so bad for him....Hugs xoxo
When our kids hurt, we hurt. He is so fortunate to have a great Mom. Continue to encourage him and love him, you have a great kid!
I'm so sorry. My granddaughter, who lives with me, is going through the same thing. She's got some emotional issues which come out when she gets upset, so the kids think she's weird and don't want to play with her. It's heartbreaking. She's so sweet and she wants to have friends and fit in. :-(
Thanks for the motivational tips. I have good intentions but it's so hard to get motivated to clean and organize.
Real friends like you as you are
Right there with ya. Some people are gifted when it comes to making friends. I had a sister who did it so easily and the DEVOTION she got? Oh my Lord. She could get people to do anything for her. At her wedding there were FOUR women who introduced themselves to me by saying, "I am your sister's very best friend." They all believed they were. See, she made others feel good about themselves. (Me, not so much!)
Girl, you have an EXTRA special, witty personality. Bet your son does, too because he comes from you. Honestly, if I met you in person I would probably assume that you had tons of special friends and didn't need another one. People assume things like that, unfortunately. I just wanted to reach in my screen today and hug you and tell you that I would LOVE to be your loyal friend! Please tell your sweet son that big hearted boys like him deserve the best friends. Tell him to keep an eye out for some kid who really needs a good friend like HIM. Love to you both!
Hugs to sweet Milo! Being a kid can be a hard job. I have 4, now grown, but I certainly do remember the struggles!! Give him a hug from me and tell him this too shall pass. If they aren’t good enough to be his friends, they aren’t good enough.
I am so sorry about Milo. I have a couple of kids and my heart breaks when their hearts are hurt. I can also relate to Milo. I have the exact same problem. Sometimes as an adult I think about giving up trying to make and keep friends. I hope Milo keeps trying.
Yes me too. I obce tried to be friends with a lonely kid but he seemed to give up on that and pushed me away. I wish that Milo truly does become blessed with a best friend.
I get it girl. Your son reminds me so much of my 3rd child when he was little. He is now an awesome adult but it doesn't make those younger years any easier. Prayers. I love your video's and your upbeat personality. You would be a blast to be around!
Your son is lucky to have such a caring mom. We cant make people be friends to our children but we will be there to guide and comfort them until they can find some! As long as they have you they are fortunate and cared for and loved and number 1 to someone and thats what matters
I think your Son is a fantastic kid and you are a great mom! 😘
Oh Cass. I feel for you, and Milo. I have a child who when he was younger, had a friend who was not very nice. While I kept a close eye on things, I encouraged right behavior, talked a lot about doing what's right, and what forgiveness looks like. It wasn't easy. We all learned a lot throughout that growing time. I will pray for you guys. Thanks for sharing not only the funny things, but the challenging thing. Blessings on your house.
Thank you for sharing, it's not easy and it has happened to our family too. Big hug, you have raised your children with so much love and letting them explore and express themselves. There are some parents who would never let their kids experience anything and count every toy and make sure every part is in the box. Then accused us that we took the parts, we had the same game and we gave our pieces to them out of kindness not guilt. But once the father found the missing pieces....never apologized, never gave back our parts. But just kept on going like it never happened. I was crushed but the kids were still friends and I was on eggshells every time they asked for him to come play at their house. It's not the kids fault the parent was overly neurotic about toys. Hope you both feel better and if you want some cards I can send some from Michigan. Thank you again for making these videos and sharing your life with us.
I'm in this situation with my nine year old. She is such an amazing, awesome kid and shes always struggled to make friends. I've cried countless times when shes told me how she has noone to play with. I try to reassure her and spend extra time at home with her to hopefully make her day brighter. One day she'll find that friend who gets her and they'll be inseparable xx
No tip can help me right now, my brain has been out of service until further notice, but thank you for a good try!!
As for (fake) friendships, yes, we've all been in Milo's shoes, unfortunately. I think real friends are like winning the lottery, but it can happen, right? My best wishes to you and your family!!
Awe. Hugs to you and your son ❤❤❤. My 7 yr old is the exact same way. We recently moved to a different city. My son made a couple of great friends but he had to find out the hard way some kids who were initially nice were just out to use him and get his toys from him. It really breaks our hearts seeing them go through this. Praying for you.
I can so totally relate to this! Happens to my kids a lot. :(.
Cas, when our kids hurt we hurt. Best wishes for healing hearts. I used to pray my kids had at least one buddy by their side through their school years. They did. It’s not the number of friends, it’s the authenticity of the friends.
So sorry for your boy, I think he's cool too! I pray that he will make friends, not many maybe but a few very true friends🙏
Thanks for the tips! Praying for Milo! 💙🙏 My husband and I were both bullied in elementary school. We both learned to just be ourselves and eventually attracted good friends, some for life. It’s hard now, but it will get better for Milo as he grows to love himself!
Milo and all of your kids are great. They are so full of life and funny (like their mom). I don’t have children myself but I do have a niece that has always struggled with making friends. It is a very difficult thing. I feel so bad for the little guy. He will be fine though. It is just so hard to watch them hurt, I know. Prayers for Milo and your family. We love you guys! ❤️
At the end of this when you got upset... I understood how you felt and what you were trying to say without you saying a word.
My son is the same. Milo keep being you buddy and somewhere out there is a friend that will love you for you and be your friend for life. And that's more precious than those faking it just to get something from you. 💜
Thank you! You have no idea how badly my motivation has been for almost two weeks now. I need to pair. Hmmm
Hugs to you, mom. So hard! One of our sons had to be checked before school to make sure he wasn't giving away stuff. Hes now a confident 30 year old starting his own catering business. Maybe daily affirmations would help him?
I relates to you. I have same issues. The best thing is you and your husband is there for your kids. God bless you and your family.
I’m very introverted and have very few friends and both my daughters struggle as well, probably learning that behaviour from me. I hope things work out better for him. The fact that he put himself out there is very brave of him xxxx
Cass I've been watching you for a couple of years and admittedly I don't usually watch too many of your personal notes at the end but today I watched and when you started talking about what happened to Milo at school it was all I could do to blink back the tears. I'm sure you have a wonderful son, a perfect testament to this is that he was willing to give up his treasures to make friends, the act of a generous soul with a normal desire for acceptance and association. Those of us with big hearts suffer a lot of pain in our lifetimes. A couple of things have occurred to me over the years of rejection, use, abuse and the heartbreak. Firstly that we have to put up boundaries to protect ourselves from the users. Not only is this acceptable, it is NECESSARY and APPROPRIATE. One point of this is that once boundaries are established they must be defended and that's not fun. Secondly and perhaps more importantly, it is not our failing as soft-hearted people. It is the failing of a society that encourages, nurtures and excuses narcissistic and sociopathic behavior. Things have changed a lot in 50 years. There was a time when I, too, had very few friends... sometimes none. But I got OK with being alone and I just do me; 100% 24/7. And for many years now I've had a LOT of friends. Close friends, confidants are but a trusted few and they have EARNED my trust. I hope Milo and yourself stay encouraged. Good luck with your surgery... I had it a couple of decades ago. Hang in there, baby... it's all just a roller coaster ride and not a very long one.
Relating over here 🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️. Your story broke my heart, and I’m living it, too. Hugs!!
Thank you for sharing your tips and tricks for a clean house, more importantly your heart. I can totally relate to your family social struggles. 💗🙌 Hugs!
First of all, the book Educated was SO good! I actually grew up within an hour of the family mentioned. I hear they aren't as extreme as she paints them to be. I know people who know them. It's a pretty fascinating experience! I'd be very willing to discuss it.. I homeschool my kids and have a more holistic mindset as well, and I grew up in the same area with parents with similar (although not as extreme) worldviews. So I can relate to both side of the coin here!
As for the reality of people not being genuine or trust worthy, it is one of the saddest lessons we have learned in this house too. I feel like I have to constantly coach my children to help them understand that they do not have to give up anything about themselves, or their things to be accepted. The right people will come along... easier said than done for sure!
Thanks again for all of the tips!
I also wanted to add: I really appreciate you, and I love the way you are. I could actually see you as a friend of mine
Same boat with the kid that struggles with friendships (and I do, too). Be there for one another as a family and let your home be a safety net.
Kids are so mean !
I can relate completely going through same thing .
Good luck girl hang in there just love on him 💕
My son has Aspergers and has social issues. He didn't have any friends until he was 13. I taught him how to find something nice to say about people...something that he genuinely liked. I told him to tell people those nice things that he thought and that eventually, someone would be nice back. He is 17 and has three close friends now. It works and your son will have friends. I know how hard it is. There were times that I wanted to literally smack other children who I saw being mean to my son. My son has a great heart and I worry that people will take advantage of that but over time he has learned how to be a friend and he surrounds himself with good kids.
Number one, your stories are my favorite part even though I love your tips and cleaning motivation. One of my four children struggles with this and it is a constant source of pain and anxiety for me. And obviously for my child. I try to encourage sibling friendship and remind them their siblings are their life long friends. While they may fight and annoy you at times, other friends may come and go but your siblings are forever friends. That said, it still sucks and doesn’t help at school and weekend sleepovers and it’s honestly a constant source of pain for my child and for me having to see her go through it.
You brought tears to my eyes. A similar thing happen to my son's as well, back when pokemon 1st came out. Charzard was the ultimate card, my son got it. His fred stole it. Needless to say he was crushed. Hang in there lil guy things get better. Hugs to you and your son.
I can relate Even though my children are now grown seeing them struggle to make friends was hard. Also seeing people take advantage of their kindness and soft heart was difficult. It’s hard to understand why people are user. I myself am very untrusting of people because I have also seen first hand how people can and will use you. So I have very few I call a friend. Here is to us, maybe one day we will find those who are true friends. 🍾 You are not alone.
Also loved the video.
AMEN for awkward people!!! Love the video! Heartstrings pulled when you told the story! I have 3 kids & wherever I went, (Military Mom) we would start out again trying to make friends. It sucks when you tire yourself out trying to make/keep friends! Fist Bump for the story!
Thank you for those good tips. =)
I'm sorry to hear your children are having trouble making friends. awe. yeah, that is heartbreaking, about Milo and his Pokémon cards. =(
Hi Cas, I really appreciate the positivity reminder, because it really does work! I am so sorry about what you and Milo are going through 😢
I went through that too, I now tell my children... sometimes we need to learn what friends are not... before we can really know and truly love and appreciate what friends are... and I think many lessons in life are like that.
Poor little guy. Sadly we've all been there.
Just came across your Channel. You are so fun and bubbly. Thank you for being you. Love your wall colors. If you don't already have one can you make a video of your wall colors?
Pleaaaasssseee...you dont get heartbroken...
My daughter has been struggling with this since last 2 yrs..and she is just 9 now..
Finally I told her that the world doesnt end if you dont have friends. It's better to be yourself instead of peopke using you...!
I truly loved Jack's advice...👍👏
And moreover..if this affects you..we wouldnt like to see you depressed. You are our motivation...
Lovely tips in the video..thanks a ton...❤️❤️
New to your channel, but wanted to say I’ve been there both with my kids and myself and I feel for ya! Kids can be so cruel (parents can too). Prayers he finds his crew!
Helpful tips! And, yeah, making good friends isn’t always easy. Having 1-2 good friends is amazing. But it stinks when you want that and you don’t have it. And some people are just mean and others oblivious. Poor sweetie! I hope he finds his 1-2 really good friends soon!
Hi, I have a son that has struggled socially. Kids at school can be really mean. My son struggled the most in 7th grade. He’s in 9th grade now. Our church has helped him tremendously! He is so involved in church now and has more friends there then at school. He has found a safe place to be himself. Prayers for your son to find some true friends.🙏
You are such a precious, generous, loving person. Beautiful traits that you're clearly instilling in your babies. The story about Milo sure did tug at my heart strings. Sometimes episodes like that can make you feel unlovable even if you're an adult. He is so blessed to be surrounded by so much love and support at home. Thank you for all of your efforts and taking the time to share with us. Wishing you and your family the best always ❤️
Oh you made me cry! I want to hug you and Milo. 💗💗💗
So funny that you said to pair doing chores with something you enjoy, I let myself watch UA-cam videos (often YOURS!) while I wash dishes. I was watching this video while I’m doing dishes now, ha ha!! Thanks so much for great tools for keeping my house clean.
And I just finished Educated on audiobook last week, INCREDIBLE!
And I’m so sorry about your son having trouble... my daughter has a similar problem. It’s hard for me because I am usually good and making friends, but she struggles 😔 And her friends often leave her to go play with my son/her brother.
You are not alone! My little guy struggles, too. We try to tell him it’s more important to look for quality over quantity. He still wants to be friends with everyone and has the sweetest heart. It’s hard to watch them be amazing and feel like one of a few who see it.
I can't imagine you having a hard time making friends, you're so funny and creative. It's hard to watch our kids go through hard challenges, but be supportive and let him know how you feel about him. Tell him to be himself you can't buy friends, we all have to learn this. Life is about finding joy, love and our place. Before you know it he'll be bringing his high school buddies home to hang out...
I can relate so much! My daughter gets along with everyone at school but first grade she had a bully and it was the hardest thing! 🖤🖤🖤
I feel your pain. So sorry to hear. My son had the same issue 20 years ago. We started his collection over. We learned our lesson and actually put my son in counseling. He invited his friends to join him with the psychologist. (brought a business card and permission slips for the kids to join ) Hugs Momma
I had to watch it again,the second time. Totally this video is for me,i find myself so many times in this situations. It's hard to do it alone,but i have to. Thank you Cas .Now everytime when i'm feeling down,i'm gonna come back to this video and take my motivation from it. Love your thinking and your style 🤗😘🤗😘
You're so real and so human xx
Tell Milo, he is being loved. Just stay being friendly and cool. My little boy here could be his friend in the virtual world. Send my hugs and kisses to your little guy.
It’s always a parents heartache to watch their children struggle with other kids. Mine are now in their 30’s so what I can say is that it does get better, for you and your kids.
Hang in there, Angie💕
These are great tips! I really struggle with cleaning motivation. I’m going to put all of these tips into action. Also, I really appreciate your honesty. Nothing hurts more than seeing your children hurting and being used. It’s a pain like no other. What I’ve learnt from my own pain and watching my kids go through similar struggles is that there is always purpose in our pain. I’ve learnt my most important lessons in my most difficult circumstances. Your son will learn a compassion and sensitivity from being treated this way that will make him a wonderful friend in the future. I’m a new subscriber. Your channel is awsome and so are you! 😊
Awwwe, it’s so hard to see your child in pain, I relate deeply.
Thank you for sharing your tips. As for parenting moment... big thank you! We are in the same boat. Hugs to all.
I can totally relate & I just want you to know that I love your beautiful soul that you passed down to your children. He will find the right friends soon love bug!
Milo you have a friend here in Texas! Wishing you the best, it's hard when our kids suffer.
Back it up with he is giving and kind, he will learn. Much love ❤
I was legit JUST scouring UA-cam and Pinterest for cleaning motivation tips just like these (not just "clean with me"s) when your video popped up on my notifications 😁 THANK YOU THANK YOU! ✨Perfect timing✨ ...and I feel you on the subject about your son. My son is 6 and he's so sweet and tries hard to make friends with everyone he meets but some kids are just rude and take advantage of kids like him who share and let others go first. He doesn't always realize when kids are being mean to him and it hurts to see it in person and it's even worse knowing stuff like that happens when we're not around. I've recently had to tell him that not everyone is worth his friendship and if someone is not being fair or nice to him that he can find someone else to play with. Hopefully things improve for your son ❤️
Oh Cass... I am sending you hugs and Milo too. That's so hard!!! For my kids they found decent friends in activities they took part in. My older daughter played soccer. My younger daughter was in choir. They just need something to have in common. But even then I get it. For me I went through a horrible experience four years ago and three women I thought were my friends turned on me when I needed them most. And my really close friend died from cancer. It was such a hard time. But I've found out that I like who I am and I truly love my family. So I spend time with my family and I'm so careful about letting people get close to me now.
Sending love to you & your family! 🤗
Sometimes being a mum is the most heartbreaking thing in the world 😢 I can definitely relate 💔 just be there & give him lots of love & fun at home 🙆 you'll get him there 😘
We can all relate The ones who can’t are probably the mean kids. I know your heart is breaking. It SUCKS but it builds compassion and character in a person. He will be kind to others and bring joy and light to the world. Hugs from one mama to another.
OMG. I am heartbroken, too. And even though I am an extrovert, I have had times were people just don't like me, or that I didn't fit in. Same for my son. We always worry and we do get our hearts broken. SO yes, I can relate. I got emotional, too. I love the advice other people gave, below. Lots of love here!!!
What a great heart Milo has
I love this! Thank you for the motivation - I definitely needed it today! My heart hurts for you & for your sweet kiddo - he is adorable. Keep smiling!
~Kristin (Salt Lake City, Utah, USA)
I can so relate to this with myself and my children just try to keep them true to themselves and it will work out❤️
Cas - am so sorry your family is going thru that situation. Been there - done that. It is so disappointing to realize that the love and positivity you send out into the world can be twisted an used by people you thought were of the same mind-set as you. Stay strong and know that not every one is like that. Sending love and air-hugs to you and milo! judith
Great Tips. Poor Milo. I'm a teacher and I see that stuff all the time. So hard for you. I had trouble making friends when I was a kid. Now I have lots of people who I'm friends with and some very very close friends. I'm sure Milo will make new friends as time goes on. Doesn't help the hurt now, but just keep loving him and caring. You're doing a great job!
Great tips in the video. Thank you. I can so relate to what your son is going through. As you probably know it gets easier as you get older and develop your own interest and then people naturally come into your life to share those same interests . But it doesn’t make it easier now. I’m pretty sure that his parents remind him frequently how awesome he is 😀Keep the faith ❤️
Thanks for the awesome new ideas for tricking my brain!
As for your son, my heart breaks. I too, can relate and have always found it difficult to have/keep good friends. I remember giving my things away too as a child to try to make friends. I am sorry... wish I had some good advice, but I don't. Just love on him and let him know what an awesome little guy he is.
Hi Cas, believe me I totally know how you feel. It is hesrtbreaking. And even more if it is happening with your kid... I‘ve been there... it is getting better... I love love love your humour and your personality. Often people do not get you, I totally understand you!
We have been there too. Our oldest has gone through something very similar and it breaks my heart also. 😞❤️
God bless you and your kind little boy. I can relate. As a mom of two I can understand how your heart feels 🙏🏼💕 god protect and bless him
Hi I totally love your honesty and connection with real feelings! I have a pretty cool girl with the same issues. It’s Difficult and I share your heart warming motherly concern .
I feel you. I too am socially awkward and have a hard time making friends. Never felt that I was good enough. I really have no advice but just wanted to let you know that I think you are awesome and would love to be your friend. Can't imagine why someone else wouldn't want to be.
Oh my heart hurts for your sweet boy. My oldest is in kindergarten and has had similar things happen. Wish I had some Pokemon cards to mail him! I was surprised to hear you say you don't make friends easily. You are so fun and relatable and likable. Genuinely. You just haven't met cool enough friends yet. Love to y'all both from FL!
I can relate, Cass. Big hugs. I was going to suggest a team sport maybe. Organized activities were a huge help for my son. He is a huge hockey player now and most of his friends are hockey friends. I hope Milo can work through this. It is hard though, not for the faint of heart for sure, but you sure are not alone!
Oh you are an awesome mum. You make me tear. Love to Milo♥️
I totally understand. My son went through this earlier in the year with his Pokémon. He was new to them and was totally taken advantage of by others in class with older siblings who know how to rip a person off. The old yea trade me and I’ll bring you a card tomorrow! But the cards never come. And he’s gives them away to make friends who don’t reciprocate. I was aching inside for him! Milo will find his people. We always do, even if it’s that one best friend, they’re still our people and they get us. Thanks for sharing.
I know this was a year ago, but this was so heartbreaking and u could relate so much. My son is autistic and has other issues. He has always had problems making friends. He has been bullied, picked on and actually physically assaulted numerous times. It has been so bad u have started homeschooling him. He is 16 now and I just started home schooling him this year. I hate that he has to, but I also refuse to allow him to be treated like that. It got so bad last year he was threatening to hurt himself and I had to take him to hospital where he was admitted for 4 days. That was the worst 4 days of my life. I feel for you and feel so had for your kids. Only advice I can give, let them vent and do whatever makes them comfortable. My son's "outlet" us his videos.
If we don't know how to make friends, we get taken advantage of because we don't have enough experience to sense who the takers and users are. This is a life lesson for Milo, and will help him choose friends who are as generous as he is. Most important is that he knows his Mom is on his side, supporting and coaching him as he makes his way.
My daughter has high functioning autism and I seen her heartbroken (along with mine for her) so many times. She would try so hard to make friends. But you know what? She learned to just be who she is - and the right people found her. She still has two close friends from school. They’re quiet too round other people, but together they have a blast. She recently got a new job as a nursing assistant in a hospital and I worried about the patient interaction part..turns out she LOVES it and it getting such a good reputation..seems this ‘planned’ and ‘in context” interaction is ok for her! Also turns out that the way she felt when younger has made her want to help
Others feel better about themselves. It’s a hard lesson, but Milo will be the better person for it in the long run ❤️