3 ways to resolve a conflict | Dorothy Walker | TED Institute

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  • Anybody can help resolve a conflict, says project manager Dorothy Walker. With three simple steps, she shares how you can use positive energy to solve conflicts between friends, coworkers, strangers, kids and beyond.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 73

  • @pankajhello
    @pankajhello 3 роки тому +160

    Folks she is my colleague and we worked together for same assignment last year very closely. She is very positive, dude! She mean every bit of what she is speaking here

  • @iceice8327
    @iceice8327 3 роки тому +215

    Step one = 3:50
    Step two = 5:27
    Step three = 7:23

  • @celinapolos2203
    @celinapolos2203 3 роки тому +67

    Wow she has such a beautiful calming energy, her message is so powerful, in just 8 minutes! Really gave great value to my day! Beautiful woman and personality

    • @teodosiygeorgiev2966
      @teodosiygeorgiev2966 2 роки тому +2

      stop the cap bruh no wonder why her marriage didnt work out....

  • @pacha_157
    @pacha_157 Рік тому +4

    Resolve is the fuel to discipline. I just wanted to say this video is granting me the power within myself to start working out, making a name for myself, and strive to be a better person. When I have internal conflicts like if I don't want to do something for example, I observe listen and dissolve the emotion while at an appropriate state of mind in order to come to a resolve. Through this resolving method I thank you.

  • @spencerleek
    @spencerleek Рік тому +7

    This advise truly helped in a mediation that I just facilitated. Thank you!

  • @mikecamacho1934
    @mikecamacho1934 2 роки тому +24

    Most conflicts come from implied expectations. And not having definitive agreements. Seneca(4BC-65AD) Talks about how unmet expectations, is the cause of anger.

    • @iRideuWatch
      @iRideuWatch 2 роки тому

      So true. Why do people so often assume both or all parties have understood and agreed to the expectations?

    • @keimaari
      @keimaari 2 роки тому

      oh... this is a word.

    • @colinellesmere
      @colinellesmere Рік тому +1

      I agree. Agreements are so important. I am in a situation where agreements have been broken. I am displaying negative energy. Bht its hard to shift that based on things that have happened. But it would be great to shift it with positive energy. My mind state definitely does not help at all.

    • @jp9707
      @jp9707 Рік тому +3

      @@colinellesmere I hope things have gotten better for you since you wrote your comment

    • @colinellesmere
      @colinellesmere Рік тому +2

      They got better then worse and I was leaving the situation and got pushed before resigning. But my mental states are better now I am out of that situation. The comment by Seneca about understanding expectations and pinning them down is so important. It is where so much conflict comes from.

  • @karenbenjamin7165
    @karenbenjamin7165 2 роки тому +8

    Delivery was on point. The steps are realistic and actionable. Thank you

  • @Etmanuel88
    @Etmanuel88 3 роки тому +14

    I 100% agree with you. I've created my own process that is similar to yours. The "Energy transference" has helped both myself and whoever I'm speaking with to remain calm and focus on the facts AND a realistic solution. When dealing with a company - always ask for formal documentation of XYZ (this makes them soooo much more agreeable)!

  • @khaiahmann9192
    @khaiahmann9192 6 місяців тому +3

    This was good. ✨
    And asking if all parties want to actually work the issue out, is key for sure.

  • @shasha6982
    @shasha6982 11 місяців тому +1

    This was great information. Thank you

  • @austinthaijam7009
    @austinthaijam7009 3 роки тому +3

    helpful. thank you Dorothy

  • @chrisshackelford4385
    @chrisshackelford4385 7 місяців тому +1

    That was awesome. I took notes the whole time!!!😂

  • @faithjerielmacauley3356
    @faithjerielmacauley3356 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks veryfor that good presentation.

  • @pepesapo3277
    @pepesapo3277 3 роки тому +12

    How do i kick all 3 of my roomates butts at once? THEY do not get along ☹

  • @habbosim100
    @habbosim100 3 роки тому +21

    I love her outfit and make-up btw

    • @josh-sv1hq
      @josh-sv1hq 3 роки тому

      Cool story bro

    • @josh-sv1hq
      @josh-sv1hq 3 роки тому +1

      What if something fake is being forced in front of you and you describe why it's not true and people get mad? I am not sure what else to do...

  • @sights3103
    @sights3103 3 роки тому +20

    who else got this as a English class assignment

    • @YVNG_SHAQUAN
      @YVNG_SHAQUAN 3 роки тому +1

      I got in for a Life Orientation Project

    • @TamTam-bd5qw
      @TamTam-bd5qw 2 роки тому +1

      Management class.

    • @the25thfan58
      @the25thfan58 2 роки тому +1

      Health class

    • @NomsLoots
      @NomsLoots 7 місяців тому +1

      @@YVNG_SHAQUANyou South African?

    • @YVNG_SHAQUAN
      @YVNG_SHAQUAN 7 місяців тому +1

      @@NomsLoots yes I am

  • @LilacLioness98
    @LilacLioness98 2 роки тому +2

    This was great and helpful 👍🏻❤️

  • @nathaliem9597
    @nathaliem9597 3 роки тому +3

    Brilliant!

  • @marshall886
    @marshall886 2 роки тому +5

    I don't think how you can talk about conflict without talking about justice. I don't think you can reduce it to energy exchange. Yes, having people in emotional state where they can listen actively to the other party but it is just defines desirable terms to which to hear each other.

  • @foxy19681904
    @foxy19681904 2 роки тому +6

    All this is well and good, but when your government puts guns in the hands of the population it is clearly not supporting conflict resolution by negotiation. It is clearly supporting violence as the next step after conflict occurs. The government as the acting parent of the country should be doing all it can to help its population to make good decisions by not giving its population guns and making it clear that violence is never the answer to conflict. Then knowledge like this TED Talk might mean something.

    • @sachinks229
      @sachinks229 Рік тому

      Not everyone lives in America
      So it's still helpful
      And honestly I don't think guns is the reason
      It's just that people who can be easily provoked shouldn't have a gun in the first place
      Just like any other countries u can get a knife in pretty much everywhere it's deadly too
      But sure not as convenient but the root cause isn't the gun it's the mentality to not listen and run on the rail directly
      It happens in everywhere so no need to say that 5jis isn't useful this is highly useful where u can actually stop people

    • @foxy19681904
      @foxy19681904 Рік тому +1

      @@sachinks229 That is what I am saying. The second amendments advice that guns and violence are the solution to a problem leads the population to use that same reasoning for any conflict or problem they have.
      Basically though "Guns don't kill people. People kill people. So don't give people guns.".

  • @lucian1607
    @lucian1607 Рік тому +1

    Solid walkthrough. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!

  • @sukumarbarman6905
    @sukumarbarman6905 4 роки тому +3

    সত্য সুন্দর প্রকৃতির শক্তি সৃষ্টির সেরা বীজ মন্ত্র জীবন তৈরির মহামূল্যবান সূত্র চিন্তা চেতনার বিকাশ সাধন।সব সত্য প্রকাশে স্বাধীনতা ইতিহাস সৃষ্টি সত্য প্রকাশে দশন শান্তি আলোচনা মূল্যবান সম্পদ অনুসন্ধানে কর্মকর্তা।

  • @mohamedismailmohamedazath6944
    @mohamedismailmohamedazath6944 2 роки тому +1

    Nice points

  • @ccwalker050
    @ccwalker050 4 роки тому +1

    Nice! Very Nice!!

  • @Birdman117
    @Birdman117 Рік тому

    I agree with 95 percent of this

  • @shawnaT456
    @shawnaT456 2 роки тому +1

    I wanted to do this with my partner but he thought it was stupid and basically the same as just hashing it out in the moment...

  • @varunbarma2067
    @varunbarma2067 2 роки тому +1

    Nice

  • @willmen08
    @willmen08 Рік тому +2

    What happened to the bungee jumping girl? How was that resolved? Wish she would have walked us through one situation instead of 3 different half stories.

  • @mikecamacho1934
    @mikecamacho1934 2 роки тому +4

    Step one is actually, do you want to work it out lol

  • @patchesohoulihan2009
    @patchesohoulihan2009 5 місяців тому

    Is UA-cam just filtering out all the negative comments?

  • @k.8521
    @k.8521 Рік тому

    Lmao my teacher mad at me now the whole class hates me :')

  • @mirandarandolph8240
    @mirandarandolph8240 2 роки тому

    5:08 ain’t nobody about to do that

  • @ianlondon2888
    @ianlondon2888 Рік тому

    There is no where to go except court when a side has contempt for the other side.

  • @heikika6078
    @heikika6078 3 роки тому

    ♥️

  • @ЛізаСкрипник-ъ9ф
    @ЛізаСкрипник-ъ9ф 2 роки тому +4

    Слава Україні! 🇺🇦)

  • @vatsaj
    @vatsaj Рік тому +1

    someone: its fine, but what you said is wrong
    speaker: i think you did not understand what I said
    someone: no you did not understand other than talking smooth
    ........conflict starts..............PhD gone to streets

  • @JustinBurns-xw7cd
    @JustinBurns-xw7cd 9 місяців тому

    This was uploaded on april 1st, therefore it must not be true

  • @br2266
    @br2266 4 роки тому +9

    Speaking of energy, where is hers? lol nice speech though

    • @LiljanaWood
      @LiljanaWood 3 роки тому +12

      Lol the speech was perfect

    • @OGAngie
      @OGAngie 3 роки тому +22

      Calm and thoughtful energy is still energy.

    • @jameelahkelly995
      @jameelahkelly995 2 роки тому +4

      The energy she means doesn’t actually mean fully charged and bouncing off walls. She just means what she says positive and negative energy.

  • @teodosiygeorgiev2966
    @teodosiygeorgiev2966 2 роки тому +2

    Use me as dislike button

  • @Birdman117
    @Birdman117 Рік тому

    U lost me at give some time to allow emotions to settle, such a female comment

    • @zapatalasvegas
      @zapatalasvegas Рік тому +8

      such a male response

    • @lalaheart76
      @lalaheart76 Рік тому

      @@zapatalasvegas I concur

    • @thesandman8669
      @thesandman8669 Рік тому

      @@zapatalasvegas @birdman5684 now that y’all have had some time for emotions to settle, let’s grab a glass of cold water and meditate before we move onto the next step

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare 2 роки тому +3

    Great insights. Thank you 😊

  • @theviewschor919
    @theviewschor919 2 роки тому

    Aur lalit.. Comment mat pdh