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КОМЕНТАРІ • 387

  • @airycah
    @airycah Рік тому +55

    When Jordy started singing to you, I felt my eyes well up with tears. Just the transformation from you crying last year unsure about your future to how happy and loved and cherished you are now...girl, I'm so beyond happy for you!

  • @tiffanimcdowell4184
    @tiffanimcdowell4184 Рік тому +14

    Not me tearing up as Jordy serenades you lol. What a sweet,kind human you’ve found ❤

  • @briaharris5368
    @briaharris5368 Рік тому +9

    Hey Michel, a therapist with anxiety here! One thing my therapist shared with me & that I use with my clients that has been helpful is thought dumps! I’ll write down all of the thoughts going on in my head that are making me anxious. Obviously, it doesn’t make the things that are making me anxious go away, but it certainly quiets the rush of anxious thoughts, if that makes sense. Also, reminding myself that anxiety is like a faulty smoke detector. It keeps going off & my brain is sensing danger, even though I’m not & it’s a sign that I need to use my coping skills. Praying for peace in your heart & mind 💛💛💛

  • @melissagrace3973
    @melissagrace3973 Рік тому +45

    She goes easy on me when we’re in a fight cause I can’t tell when we’re are and she’s usually right…love that line

  • @MB-ed6wi
    @MB-ed6wi Рік тому +53

    I have struggled with anxiety my whole life. Therapy has helped a lot. Emotional intelligence/maturity has also been a big help. My biggest relief came when I truly stopped overthinking how people perceived me and wanting to be “understood”.

  • @acgall
    @acgall Рік тому +4

    I know lots of people are against taking medicine for mental health but in my experience it can help clear your mind and it just gives you a bit of an edge to over come all the anxious bits. Makes days more enjoyable. Doesn’t have to be forever. Just helps you get over the hardest bit.

  • @angelac2052
    @angelac2052 Рік тому +31

    So glad you found someone who writes sweet songs for you!! Also, that beach view is so lovely . 😊

  • @mildreddiaz6435
    @mildreddiaz6435 Рік тому +14

    So happy for you you found someone that is as sweet and kind as you are. That song he wrote for you made me cry so beautiful 🥰 God bless you both with a long life of respect, understanding, dedication and love. ❤

  • @kimreese3530
    @kimreese3530 Рік тому +10

    Jordy is such a great guy. I’ve been married 26 years and I’m old enough to be your mom. I would be incredibly proud to have a daughter like you and if she brought Jordy home that would be a bonus.

  • @shelbys8458
    @shelbys8458 Рік тому +17

    One thing that has helped me is changing the way I “talk” to my feelings. A lot of times when I used to notice I was anxious, my brain would go “Oh no I’m feeling anxious! I don’t want to be anxious! There is no reason for this. STOP FEELING ANXIOUS!” Naturally, this only made things worse. Now I acknowledge the feeling and allow myself to feel it for a minute (even if it isn’t “logical”) and then I will take a deep breath, do a grounding exercise, etc. This has helped A LOT

  • @brydiedonaldsonmakeupartis5684
    @brydiedonaldsonmakeupartis5684 Рік тому +22

    I have struggled with anxiety for most of my life, I’m 36, a mother, a wife, our little boy has a chronic illness, and the fear I feel all the time is strong…. However, I’ve learnt that painting, drawing, listening to music that gives me good feels have been incredibly therapeutic to help redirect the energy. Also gardening is amazing, happy to chat more on this stuff if you ever want to. Thank you for all you do Michel x

  • @angelacimmino1102
    @angelacimmino1102 Рік тому +20

    Yes, as a bereaved mother, I had challenges and struggles with my grief journey. My son Dan passed due to cancer at age 28 over five years ago. Six months later, I lost my father to dementia, and the following year, my older brother died of a heart attack. I am grateful for my family and my faith in God. I love Jordy's song he wrote for you, about you, with you. You are blessed.

    • @xochitlgarcia9784
      @xochitlgarcia9784 Рік тому +2

      Sorry for all of your loss. All so very heartbreaking. I can't imagine your strength ❤️

    • @joyd4238
      @joyd4238 Рік тому +1

      Thank you for sharing 🌹 I'm sorry for your loss. I know through experience it's challenging to learn to adapt with our loss.

    • @angelacimmino1102
      @angelacimmino1102 Рік тому +1

      @@xochitlgarcia9784 Thank you!

    • @angelacimmino1102
      @angelacimmino1102 Рік тому

      @@joyd4238 Thank you!

    • @lintilla2002ify
      @lintilla2002ify Рік тому

      ❤️

  • @deanadick2700
    @deanadick2700 Рік тому +4

    Beautiful song! I love his voice. Anxiety is difficult and I have had it for years. I like watching ASMR videos and love doing coloring app and reading. Taking a walk is good or just relax and take a nap. Maybe do a puzzle, listen to music and working out is also good. Praying. for you. You encourage so many so thank you for being transparent. ❤

  • @maryann9929
    @maryann9929 Рік тому +4

    Intentional daily devotional reading and prayer is helpful to me. 🙏

  • @bryony3182
    @bryony3182 Рік тому +11

    I really find a lot of peace in the Lord - Taking our thoughts captive to Christ. Most of my anxiety comes from worries about the future. So it really helps me to dwell on Matthew 6:25-34

    • @roseannepryor4068
      @roseannepryor4068 Рік тому +1

      Agreed! If you’re having some of these issues, it’s sometimes because you’re not letting the lord lead your life. Instead you are trying to control it! It never goes right when we’re trying to be in control !

    • @roseannepryor4068
      @roseannepryor4068 Рік тому

      Also I pray for Michel & Jordy. They’ll do just fine.

    • @vbuzani79
      @vbuzani79 Рік тому

      When you surrender to Jesus he will bring you peace. Yes everything won’t be perfect but you won’t go through so much anxiety and a feeling of uneasiness. Jesus is here for you , ask him to guide you.

  • @lyssaevelyn7737
    @lyssaevelyn7737 Рік тому +1

    Girl, the part where Jordy sings to you, had me crying. You two make me want to be a better fiancee to my man. You inspire me to be a better me with every one of your videos. Thank you for being such a light in my life. I love you. 💜

  • @DogGoneDayz
    @DogGoneDayz Рік тому +1

    Anxiety has come and gone in my life, and I know how overwhelming it can be. Some things that have worked for me or have worked for others that I haven't heard you mention (or maybe you have, and I missed it) Meditation... It takes practive to get into deep meditation, and I even struggle with still but I practice deep breathing (breathe in 1.2.3....10, Hold for 5, then exhale 10...3.2.1.) It's amazing how it can deescalate things. Another thing I found to be very helpful for myself is gratitude. If there is something, I always remind myself of how thanksful I am for the things I HAVE accomplished or do have (loving husband, family, mom, dad, etc..) it kind of rewrites the brain to be like "Hey it's not so bad!" with that, just being in present.. Not going forward OR backward with thoughts/memories, they dont serve you any longer. Simply serve the present, as it is actively serving you.

  • @Shop-Girl
    @Shop-Girl Рік тому +3

    Hi Michel, I wish more studies were done on auto immune diseases and mental health. As I have a few auto immune diseases, myself, and have mental health issues. I do take medication’s, however, mindfulness, grounding myself is a game changer. Making sure that you’re using all five of your senses. Touch, taste, smell, site, and sound. Once I have all of those senses going the anxiety dissipates. You’re definitely not alone. And I love that you’re talking about this. So many people struggle in silence. We as a society need to understand that mental health is no different than physical health. Love you friend.

  • @PolishAngel96
    @PolishAngel96 Рік тому +10

    Having less caffeine also helped me as well as exercise. The biggest thing for me is being able to walk outside in a forest or some sort of nice nature-esque place. But ultimately my anxiety didn’t get better until I started taking medication and that’s been a game changer cuz I no longer just live in a constant state of anxiety like I did before so it depends how bad it is. Mine got very bad until the medication.

    • @PolishAngel96
      @PolishAngel96 Рік тому

      Also how flipping cute that song he wrote! Aww

  • @lynny397
    @lynny397 Рік тому +1

    Prayer in the AM and before bed. I’m also looking into a journaling format that is like writing daily letters to God- praise, gratitude, and emotional intimacy with Him.

  • @pricilareyes4588
    @pricilareyes4588 Рік тому +4

    Im so happy you found someone that treats you the way you deserve to be treated ❤

  • @Angelica-ff2re
    @Angelica-ff2re Рік тому +7

    I can relate the the anxious moments. When my anxiety flare, I take a second to access what I'm doing and where I am. Over time I realized that my anxiety was being triggered by my subconscious associated whats happening around me... to something that hurt me in the past. I had an abusive relationship end all the way back in 2012... and sometimes I'll get random flares of anxiety or anxious thoughts only to realize it is similar to a bad event from my past. I tell myself that I'm safe; that person, place or situation isn't THIS situation. Then I take deep breathes to ground myself and look around me to bring myself to the present.

  • @LeaveMeAloneIAmReading
    @LeaveMeAloneIAmReading Рік тому

    I am so obsessed with you and Jordy. It makes me so happy to see you just glow with happiness. 🥰

  • @sandynaranjo2731
    @sandynaranjo2731 Рік тому

    Oh my heart! This is all so sweet! You are the only person who’s videos I can watch and it calm my anxiety. Thank you for being you!

  • @pamelawilliams9574
    @pamelawilliams9574 Рік тому

    YES!! Working out has been my therapy for years now. I can go to the gym in a bad mood and leave feeling so much better. Glad you are finding ways to help your anxiety!

  • @starbrown1219
    @starbrown1219 Рік тому +1

    You look so happy and relaxed when you are with Jordy. What a comforting and talented guy.

  • @babomeimei
    @babomeimei Рік тому +1

    I don’t comment enough. Love your calming presence in your vlogs and thanks for speaking on anxiety feelings cuz it helps us all feel less alone. That we are all on this journey of mental health is important

  • @kendralala580
    @kendralala580 Рік тому

    Jordy 🥹
    Michel, it’s so good to see you loved well! Thanks for taking us along for the ride!

  • @katherineperkin2723
    @katherineperkin2723 Рік тому +2

    Love your channel, thank you for always being so open and vulnerable. You're amazing! A game changer for my anxiety was allowing it to be there. For years I thought anxiety was bad, I needed to change it, fix it, try this or that. I started acknowledging my anxiety from a more objective position and just allowing it to be. I give myself grace and say things like "Oh hey, anxiety guess you're coming along for the day today!" The simple act of acknowledgement, letting the anxiety flow through me like any other emotion usually ends up stopping the anxious thoughts.

  • @EllaDABAMMS
    @EllaDABAMMS Рік тому

    My heart melted when Jordy serenaded you! You two are so precious!!!! Squee!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @hfrisch007
    @hfrisch007 Рік тому

    Therapy is AMAZING ,You are worth everything 😌 taking care of yourself is always priority💕

  • @amandaellis9656
    @amandaellis9656 Рік тому

    You and Jordy are just the sweetest! I’m so happy you found one another! Y’all deserve the world! 🥰💛

  • @nicolaevans6478
    @nicolaevans6478 Рік тому +3

    Great song Jordy. What a lovely sentiment. Truly heartfelt. Lovely what great talent. Love his voice. You are so great together! ❤

  • @labarrett100
    @labarrett100 Рік тому +5

    Hi Michel, Matcha has more caffeine than coffee, so may be hurting more than helping if you are also having coffee. But if you are drinking only one caffeinated drink a day then that is good :D

  • @EmilyCJelen
    @EmilyCJelen Рік тому +7

    Hi from West Texas! I'm a Certified Mental Health Coach here, and struggle with many of the same issues, primarily the feelings of anxiety in my brain and chest. I am not a doctor and cannot prescribe meds, but I personally love to supplement with GABA and Ashwaghanda. GABA specifically is a neurotransmitter which should be naturally produced by your body. However, GABA deficiencies can contribute to anxiety symptoms.
    There are some great GABA gummy options. When I take them, I notice that my racing thoughts slow down considerably and overall cognition improves. I also gain a sense of overall calmness and well being. I can't recommend it enough. I too have tried making so many lifestyle modifications to feel better, but if you have a true deficiency, supplementation may be a necessary component to feeling better.
    Much love and wishing you all the best!!

  • @melodyabbee5325
    @melodyabbee5325 Рік тому +1

    Yeah Jordy...You did good!! You two are so sweet together! Jordy, you make our girl smile!!

  • @savannahdwyer
    @savannahdwyer Рік тому

    OMFG that song. I cannot with the sweetness. Jordy’s voice is magical. LOVE!

  • @rolizejoubert3301
    @rolizejoubert3301 Рік тому

    Wow, what a beautiful song from Jordy 🤩 It is wonderful to see you being so loved and appreciated, you two are an inspiration ❤️

  • @teresadepace6457
    @teresadepace6457 Рік тому

    Can so relate to that heavy chest feeling. I had a really sudden onset of a lot of anxiety and found that therapy, meditation, yoga and breathing exercises are so helpful. If I am out and about and have a big wave of anxiety come over me, just taking a minute to take a few deep breaths and remind myself “I’m ok” can often make me feel a little better.

  • @cornjuiceproductions2887
    @cornjuiceproductions2887 Рік тому +5

    I was very mentally strong growing up and had some stuff in my early twenties that crushed me. Since then I also have a shorter fuse on my emotions and having to navigate regulating them differently than I used to. I saw this Pinterest quote that said if you’re overthinking, write. If you’re anxious, move. If you’re tired, read. And if you’re sad, exercise. This helps me to remember what to do in those scenarios and not just sit in them, haha.

  • @nessness_x
    @nessness_x Рік тому

    You described perfectly, how I've been feeling lately. I'm not generally an anxious person, but I finally understand what people mean when they talk about anxiety - the tension in my chest was especially spot on. Going to hot pilates + yoga, finding moments of complete silence without something on (not even music), doing short meditations in the morning (I like Headspace), taking longer to respond to texts, and stopping myself when I start trying to plan my future (this is a big one for me) has been easing the anxiety up quite a bit.

  • @davidhorwood6741
    @davidhorwood6741 Рік тому +1

    Jordy, what a talent!! Beautiful song. Giving up coffee/caffeine reduces anxiety for sure. Focus on your breathing and sitting in nature helps to grounds us too..😊

  • @jessicarichardson2505
    @jessicarichardson2505 Рік тому +1

    LOVE THE SONG!! Also love seeing your personality come more out through these videos lol I’ve done therapy but what helped me the most is lots of prayer/diving into the word/relying on God, now I finally feel peace

  • @annejia5382
    @annejia5382 Рік тому

    yall two are so sweet and cheesy and i love it 😭 the song is sooo cute and genuine 🥰

  • @sheilafarley7120
    @sheilafarley7120 Рік тому

    Literal tears of happiness. You’ve really come so far.

  • @savannaromeo6965
    @savannaromeo6965 Рік тому

    I have always been a very emotional, sensitive person. I think feeling is beautiful; for me I appreciate those beautiful, joyful moments even more because I know deep sadness and grief. I also believe expressing your emotions is so brave and strong, so perhaps changing your perspective on feeling emotions may help a bit. But, I have felt that kind of anxiety from childhood trauma and during those times it helps to ground myself. So when I feel my body panic I have to let it know that it is safe now. So looking at things around me taking notice of them helps and also literally tell myself I know you feel scared but you are safe now, you are loved, you are strong now. The body does keep score❤️

  • @lisareeves6086
    @lisareeves6086 Рік тому

    I had life altering, completely debilitating anxiety that I couldn’t self manage until I got put onto medication. It’s worked wonders for me. I got my life back. Now I find working out and being outside and with friends is amazing. Good luck finding what helps you ❤ and the daily songs from the bf are so incredibly sweet

  • @sarameier
    @sarameier Рік тому

    Jordy’s song for you was so sweet! I loved it so much. I’m so excited for your candle project!

  • @madigagliardi
    @madigagliardi Рік тому

    crying at jordy's song. ughhhhh you deserve that love honey.

  • @kaylawhite2785
    @kaylawhite2785 Рік тому

    Y'all are the sweetest couple! That song made me cry!!

  • @Laura-iw8wq
    @Laura-iw8wq Рік тому

    I love that song so much ❤ so excited for your candle launch!
    And honestly Yoga has helped my anxiety a lot

  • @abigailcompton9488
    @abigailcompton9488 Рік тому +3

    So excited about the candle! I am such a candle lover and the scent sounds so unique ❤

  • @maryrain2162
    @maryrain2162 Рік тому +2

    Michel...I struggle with anxiety. I find if I take the time to do some deep breathing & listen to instrumental soaking music and praying of course calms me. It is so important to take the time for our well being. Love & prayers💗💗💗🙏🙏🙏

  • @annezylick3112
    @annezylick3112 Рік тому

    That was literally the sweetest song! So happy for you two ❤

  • @vickyb9918
    @vickyb9918 Рік тому

    So excited for you candle! I hope it’s in a nice reusable holder. Those to me are the best and eye catching and different than the normal containers we usually see.
    Max is so cute!

  • @suerra23
    @suerra23 Рік тому

    Omg that's the sweetest song ever! ❤️ I'm happy for you.

  • @karatheyaroxan6852
    @karatheyaroxan6852 Рік тому

    I love Jordy's song. I am so glad he had such a great birthday. Happy Belated Birthday. OMG those pants look fabulous!

  • @patriciacordischi7880
    @patriciacordischi7880 Рік тому

    I have struggled with anxiety and OCD my whole life and a huge thing is accepting the anxiety as it is and not trying to fight it. In the moment, speaking kindly to yourself and taking deep, grounding breaths really help. I have also found that doing a puzzle completely shuts my mind off. Could be a great way to work on taming the anxiety in your down time and it helps you feel really accomplished too!

  • @tara1638
    @tara1638 Рік тому

    Yay! Good for you with the candle! Can’t wait!!❤

  • @nataliegjatzlau
    @nataliegjatzlau Рік тому +9

    Yoga was a gamechanger when I had a lot of work anxiety. Journaling about what is and isn't true was also helpful for me. I also like dancing or hopping/side stepping/side jumping. And breathing techniques, insight timer has been nice!

    • @MichelJanse
      @MichelJanse  Рік тому +3

      Great tips!! Thank you friend!! 🫶🏼

  • @heatherelliott4086
    @heatherelliott4086 Рік тому

    I feel ya on the anxiety! I’m sadly very familiar with that anxious, panicky, weight on your chest feeling. What helps me is an early morning routine including exercise or meditation first thing, coffee afterward (I like to think of it as my reward), journal (intentionally practice gratitude), and plan my day (starts with setting an intention). I hope you begin to feel more balanced soon! 🙏🏻
    Love you, love your channel; you’re a pretty impressive human, y’know? You got this. ✨ 💪🏻
    Also, I’m very excited to try that easy matcha hack! Thank you!

  • @lindsayriggsbrown979
    @lindsayriggsbrown979 Рік тому +3

    Meditation, journaling, and gratitude lists have been the most helpful for me with calming my anxious thoughts and feelings-those along with exercise and cutting caffeine consumption.

  • @joyd4238
    @joyd4238 Рік тому

    OMGosh, you described where Iam at in my journey.
    I don't know how to regulate feeling the feelings after all that happens, It cannot be suppressed or just let it go as it just got and continues to be overwhelming.
    My physical pain puts a burden in processing it out outside my home. It's like having a weight on in the middle of the ocean. I want to scream and cry at the same time. I believe at most critical times id be better off if I had support or an advocate, I got through most my life without this isn't the path any longer.
    Life is just difficult sometimes and changes fast.
    I love your videos.
    I appreciate your chats and sharing what you do or feel able to on social media. 🌹 You seem to have a great team of people to love on you during this time as you process your thoughts and steps of "feeling the feels"
    Accepting, validation and being heard are key factors.
    Hugs

  • @adriakamm8419
    @adriakamm8419 Рік тому +1

    For me I’ve had anxiety for years. What I try and do when I get flare ups is unplug entirely, delete socials for a few hours if needed. Read a book, drink some tea, and write out thoughts whether that be just a list, words that describe how you’re feeling, etc. Also, phoning a friend is super helpful! For me it helps getting those feelings out so I don’t feel that weight on the inside. ❤

  • @Lovebrittwoods
    @Lovebrittwoods Рік тому

    Omg that song! Jordy is perfect for you! You are perfect for each other and I’m so happy for you❤

  • @reesac34
    @reesac34 Рік тому

    Love the song and y’all are just too cute together and I think everyone would agree that love looks good on the two of you!😊

  • @nayelihernandez4559
    @nayelihernandez4559 Рік тому

    Omg he’s adorable. You guys look great together

  • @Sophosg
    @Sophosg Рік тому

    Stopppp this was so beautiful ❤️ that songggg!!!

  • @maddy27285
    @maddy27285 Рік тому +1

    I have struggled with anxiety to the point that I developed insomnia and had major issues trying to fall asleep. I would dread going to bed because I was scared of feeling the anxiety and fighting with my brain all night. I recently got sick and wasn't drinking coffee and noticed a HUGE difference. I have WAY less anxiety and actually look forward to getting into bed now! It's been such a game-changer.
    Like Michel, I loved my morning lattes so I have since switched to decaf ☕️

  • @JoaneDV
    @JoaneDV Рік тому

    I have these moments too. I decided to recognize the feeling, acknowledge it, and reassure myself that I am fine. I find that exercice, hobbies, music, cleaning/organizing, speaking with a friend/ask how they are doing, helps me (not all these at the same time 😂 except for music. I love music with everything 😀). I like Jordy’s song!

  • @elecops9825
    @elecops9825 Рік тому +9

    I get a lot of anxious thoughts. I have an office job, which I truly love, but is high pressure with lots of deadlines. I also get 'stress-y' and get chest palpitations as well. I don't drink a lot of hot drinks, so I've cut myself down to 1 Diet Coke/ Pepsi a day. I actually drink a lot of milk, which helps the chest palpitations, it just soothes it and helps me relax. I take breaks and read a book for a little bit (to cut down on my doom scrolling). When I'm out and about, I take several deep breaths. People sometimes ask if I'm OK because I sound like I'm sighing, but I'm actually just taking a deep breath. I count to 10 a lot as well. People talk about counting to 10 when you're angry, but I actually do it to help with anxious thoughts, counting to 10 gives a couple of seconds of distraction, which is sometimes all you need to restart your brain (and when that doesn't work I say the alphabet in my head). I probably sound like a weirdo, but they do work!

    • @nataliegjatzlau
      @nataliegjatzlau Рік тому +4

      Wow there's a few things I haven't heard of before, thanks for sharing, I'll have to try!

    • @MichelJanse
      @MichelJanse  Рік тому +1

      Thank you for sharing Ele 🤍🤍

  • @christinalarson54
    @christinalarson54 Рік тому

    Oh Jordy, that song totally made me cry. That was such a sweet song. I think I cried because I'm so happy that you found that big, beautiful love that you so deserve. I'm so happy for you.
    I also suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. I know caffeine really effects me. Green tea (matcha) can sometimes have more caffeine than some coffee. I think you're doing everything right though. For me acknowledging it, and knowing that the feelings were controlled by my brain made it better for me. You feel as though you're physically dying, and that made my anxiety worse. I think you're on the right track!

  • @Cheletaylor3
    @Cheletaylor3 Рік тому

    Love me some Jordy. He’s perfect 🫶🏾I enjoy watching your journey. Can’t wait to see what this year will brings for both of you. 🥰

  • @emiliachapman3502
    @emiliachapman3502 Рік тому

    Jordy is the sweetest 🥰 he’s a keeper!

  • @simplyfrolicking
    @simplyfrolicking Рік тому

    Thanks for sharing your ways that you’re dealing with anxiety. I could totally related to those feelings you described. Something I’ve been trying to practice more off too is meditation. I find it to be calming and focusing and after I usually feel less anxious.

  • @kellypotts4549
    @kellypotts4549 Рік тому

    You guys are seriously the cutest couple ever.

  • @iwasalllikeomg
    @iwasalllikeomg Рік тому

    That song, my heart! He really sees you.

  • @maec7
    @maec7 Рік тому

    Jordy’s song 😭❤️ so so sweet!!!! Praying for you as you navigate through anxiety, dear friend. Still trying to work through it myself. It’s no joke!

  • @deborahleatherman7001
    @deborahleatherman7001 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for sharing your struggles and helping to normalize mental health struggles! One thing that helps me is just journaling or writing on a post it by my bed the thoughts. Not correcting it, necessarily but just getting it out helps. Also it might help to do the “five senses” technique where you focus on the room your in and what are 5 things you are touching, smell, see, hear, and taste.

  • @courtneycollier452
    @courtneycollier452 Рік тому +16

    This might be a repeat of lots of other comments, but I’ve often struggled with postpartum depression/anxiety (hormone imbalances) - it happened to me with 3 kids and a miscarriage. Yoga and movement (especially outdoors) has always helped me so much, as well as writing down the fears/anxieties and identifying which ones are real & which are exaggerated. Be gentle with yourself though, don’t dismiss anxieties in a way you would not with a friend! Also a clean space always helps me so much. I keep things really minimal in my house. And when it’s really bad I make a stack of Bible verse flash cards and carry those around everywhere!
    Excited about your candle👍🙌
    Sweetest song!

    • @MichelJanse
      @MichelJanse  Рік тому +3

      Thank you for sharing your story friend and thank you for your tips!! I am truly honored you are here!! 🤍🤍

    • @courtneycollier452
      @courtneycollier452 Рік тому +1

      Thank you for all of your honesty, encouragement & hard work! We appreciate you🥹 I’ll be praying for your anxiety!

  • @chelsichristensen
    @chelsichristensen Рік тому

    Paying attention to what I’m eating has greatly helped reduce my anxiety. Similar to how you feel a heavy weight on your chest I felt like someone was literally choking me when I became anxious and it was difficult to catch my breath. Eating protein, healthy fats, and fiber (in that order) has been a game changer as well as lessening the amount of carbs, overly processed foods, and sugar I was eating. There’s soo many studies coming out now that strongly link anxiety and depression to diet. I really encourage you to give it a try and see how you feel! I think it could really help. Much love ❤

  • @hilariedenomme7353
    @hilariedenomme7353 Рік тому

    I find meditation to be really really helpful when feeling anxiety/overwhelming thoughts. Taking 5 minutes to try to clear your head and sit with those feelings but not judge the feelings. Acknowledging the thoughts as just that a thought or feeling really helps me create a sense of space.

  • @carriek4038
    @carriek4038 Рік тому

    The song was so sweet! Thanks for sharing that! Anxiety! That is something that, for the first time in my life, I am suffering with but so far on a limited basis. It is more around work stress and stress with caring for my aging parents. I will be looking for the answers here too! Thank you for your honesty and sharing what may help many of us out here. 👍🏼❤️🙏🏼

  • @MadeleineGardea
    @MadeleineGardea Рік тому

    hi michel! i used to have almost constant anxiety from seemingly nowhere! a few very practical things that have helped:
    - starting my day off with a high protein meal! something about it makes me feel so much more steady than starting with something high-carb like oatmeal - even though that's always what i want first thing 🥲
    - i don't know if it's worse because i'm pregnant, but i have found that now, even one cup of coffee will make me super anxious (that same tight chest feeling) for at least several hours down the line. it's sad because i used to drink multiple cups a day! but i never realized how much it affected me until now, so i stick to matcha :)
    - i used to put so much pressure on myself to always be accomplishing something, so i was always anxious whenever i was not doing something (even trying to relax felt like i was avoiding doing something i "should be"). taking that pressure off & knowing that everything will be ok, even if i rest, has been big for relieving that constant under-the-surface worry!
    - this ties into CBT, or basically any practice that has you writing out your thoughts and where they came from, and then coming up with a more realistic mindset about what's worrying you! just taking it easy on yourself, like you do with jordy :))
    hope this helps! love you and i would totally be interested in a candle by you 🤩

  • @nh9678
    @nh9678 Рік тому +1

    What a beautiful and fun song! Made me tear up. Jordy is seriously one in a million. So happy you two found each other :-)

  • @ellef4812
    @ellef4812 Рік тому +7

    The Word of God is what got me through pretty crippling panic attacks that led me quickly into depression. They started after a death in the family but just hit me out of nowhere. I was NEVER the person with any kind of "mental issues" - always happy, always "go with the flow". I didn't know of anyone else dealing with this or had ever dealt with this. I had friends that tried to help and did somewhat. However, they'd never gone through this either. So it was me and Jesus. I slowly but surely stopped having panic attacks and my depression went away. It was a lot of me meditating on what God's Word said about me and my future and keeping my mind on that. That was about 10 years ago. I do have anxiety that tries to creep in, but I'm very diligent on what my thoughts are. God says to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ Jesus. I am the gatekeeper of my thoughts. I take that job seriously bc Satan walks around like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. To be "un-devourable", stay close to Jesus by knowing His Word, saying His Word, believing His Word! God bless! ❤️

    • @estaswanepoel2465
      @estaswanepoel2465 Рік тому

      Yes, Jesus is the answer. Michel, I know yoga is a big deal in the USA, but just do some research on this topic please. I know so many people who stopped doing it because of its spiritual origins. Please go do some more research. ❤

  • @annejia5382
    @annejia5382 Рік тому

    the mug is beautiful 🧡

  • @mnight4894
    @mnight4894 Рік тому +1

    With anxious thoughts for a long time I would distract myself and try think of something else or try to suppress them because the feeling felt overwhelming, now I am learning how to sit with them and allow it to be there. Meditation helps me as well to get used to sitting with the emotion. Hope this helps 🤗

  • @robinruane6255
    @robinruane6255 Рік тому

    That might be the sweetest song I've ever heard! ❤️

  • @elbow7991
    @elbow7991 Рік тому

    Jordy is so sweet ❤️love the tune! Happy for Michel 😊

  • @AvaCalhoun
    @AvaCalhoun Рік тому

    michel!! I love the new intro music and graphic!!!

  • @kerrilee1943
    @kerrilee1943 Рік тому +2

    G’day Michel, I can understand your anxiety issues. I’ve had the same anxious thoughts recently (the way you described how you experience it is the same way I do too) and something that’s helped me in those exact moments is deep breathing. A technique my BH Therapist taught me to use is ‘4B’ (4 Breaths) = breath in deep for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, breath out for 4 seconds, repeat 4 times. Hope this helps! Exercise is great too👍

  • @Shylaoutdoors
    @Shylaoutdoors Рік тому

    17:49 SO BEAUTIFUL 💖💖 I’m so happy for you guys!!! This song should seriously blow up it is incredible! It would be a perfect soundtrack for movies 🎶
    Michel is an amazing muse 🥰

  • @jackiemay3737
    @jackiemay3737 Рік тому

    I really enjoyed the song Jordy wrote for you and was gracious enough to sing for us. You both are amazing people.

  • @noshinchowdhury5
    @noshinchowdhury5 Рік тому +1

    The way my day gets instantly better when I see a new vlog from you ❤️

  • @adriennekelly2681
    @adriennekelly2681 Рік тому

    MY HEART CANNOT HANDLE THIS SONG!!!!!!!!!! OMG

  • @tinasellsbrevard7287
    @tinasellsbrevard7287 Рік тому

    The song was amazing. He’s a keeper!

  • @lexiebarry3527
    @lexiebarry3527 Рік тому

    Hey Michel! I struggled a lot with anxiety in my second year of university, and while therapy is very useful and worked wonders for me, I found that getting a prescription for the lowest dose of anxiety medication completely changed my life. I know that medication can seem controversial and maybe like “an easy out” solution to anxiety, but it truly helps me every single day. I honestly did not want to go on new medication for it, but once I did I was so thankful that I tried it out. I also love exercise and scheduling rest to help keep my mental health in check, but I feel like my medication allows me to get a basic level of anxiety out of the way so that I can focus my energy on further improving my mental health (gym, journaling, seeing friends, etc.). Not sure if this helps. Anyways, you should be really proud of yourself for making the changes that you already have! Happy to see you prioritizing how you’re feeling. Sending lots of love 💕💕

  • @lintilla2002ify
    @lintilla2002ify Рік тому

    What a talented and loving chap ❤️

  • @elecops9825
    @elecops9825 Рік тому +5

    What an exciting new project! Sounds fun, can't wait to see what this Michel-ish product looks like! I won't say what it is for people who haven't finished watching lol