Toxic people only makes me step away from getting into any relationships, even having such friends can be very mind deteriorating ngl, thank you for comfort!~
Thanks for this. Unfortunately I have to see my emotionally abusive ex fairly regularly due to financial reasons. Each time he visits I’m an anxious mess.
(TW: SA, DV, abuse) Presumably you mean say no to the men who abuse you and everything will be fine, right? Well if this were a perfect world it would work like that. But instead, a majority of the time men IGNORE when women say no. If men listened to the word "no" then the percentage of women being raped and sexually assaulted wouldn't be so high. According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, 81% percent of women reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment or assault in their lifetime (don't worry I've linked the website below so you can read and educate yourself (1)). And 51.1% of women rape victims were raped by their intimate partner and 40.8% were raped by an acquaintance (1). And according to U.S. Department of Justice, 99% of perpetrators are MALE (don't worry I have that one linked too (2)). In addition, 80%-85% of completed rapes are committed by someone who is known to the victim (2). Maybe you're not talking about sexual assault and you're instead referring to just saying no to your partner gaslighting you. Well, a study by ASA interviewed 43 women and stated "all but three of the 43 women I interviewed reported that their abusers called them 'crazy.' All 43 women described some degree of gaslighting, especially their abuser “flipping” stories or events to make them seem like 'the crazy one.'" The study followed that up by saying "of the 43 women who participated, all but two identified a male partner as their primary abuser." (And I have that study linked as well (3)). WELL MAYBE you're not referring to that either. Maybe you mean just tell men to stop being physically abusive. You know, tell them to stop and make them realize what they're doing is wrong. Well 1 in 3 women have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner, 1 in 7 women have been injured by an intimate partner, and 1 in 4 women have experienced severe physical violence (e.g. beating, burning, strangling) by an intimate partner in their lifetime. (I have a link to this source as well (4)). And according to that same website, intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crimes. Oh and just in case you're wondering, no I didn't forget about male victims. Here's some stats on them as well: 24.8% of men experienced some form of sexual violence in their lifetime (1). 52.4% of male rape victims were raped by an acquaintance (1). 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner (4). 1 in 25 men have been injured by an intimate partner (4). 1 in 7 men have experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime (4). And although I specifically left out any statistics about children experiencing these crimes for time and relevancy's sake, I'd like to add this one I found which states that "1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence" (4). And my point to all of this? If saying "no" stopped abuse from happening, don't you think ALL THESE PEOPLE would've said no? If telling their intimate partner to stop ACTUALLY MADE THEM STOP, don't you think the victims would have thought of that? Stop victim blaming. You're part of the problem and blaming victims for their abuse makes you a horrifically horrible human being. Educate yourself and while you're at it, delete that disgusting reply you left under RogueRider29's comment. It makes me sick. Sources: (copy/paste into google and then delete the space in the middle of the URL) (1) www.nsvrc. org/statistics (2) supportingsurvivors.humboldt. edu/statistics#1 (3) www.asanet. org/sites/default/files/attach/journals/oct19asrfeature.pdf (4) ncadv. org/STATISTICS Oh and btw I found all of this on Google and it took me MINUTES to find all this information. And the information I typed up in this comment is only a FRACTION of the information I found. You literally have no excuse.
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Toxic people only makes me step away from getting into any relationships, even having such friends can be very mind deteriorating ngl, thank you for comfort!~
You've no idea, how comforting your video is and how badly i needed this🥺
Okay this is incredible but did you just break the fourth wall?!
"Look right into the camera"
YOU BROKE IT YOU SHATTERED IT.
IM WATCHING YOU-
Not really, though. In that context, "look right into the camera" means "look right into my eyes."
@@MoonlightAudio I know! This is great though very comforting.
I'm not crying, you're crying
Thanks for this. Unfortunately I have to see my emotionally abusive ex fairly regularly due to financial reasons. Each time he visits I’m an anxious mess.
You don’t need to get help
@@marnkalman In case you forgot Marna
Here's your comment so you can delete it
ah perfect, i just finished my project and my back hurts so much, i just want a long sleep and you uploaded! thanks 🥳
the way u broke the fourth wall
Moooniee! I was about to fall asleep and then "Ding"! Your new video shows up~
Your voice is so calming ❤️❤️ thank you for this
❤
The answer is no say it
(TW: SA, DV, abuse)
Presumably you mean say no to the men who abuse you and everything will be fine, right? Well if this were a perfect world it would work like that. But instead, a majority of the time men IGNORE when women say no. If men listened to the word "no" then the percentage of women being raped and sexually assaulted wouldn't be so high. According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, 81% percent of women reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment or assault in their lifetime (don't worry I've linked the website below so you can read and educate yourself (1)). And 51.1% of women rape victims were raped by their intimate partner and 40.8% were raped by an acquaintance (1). And according to U.S. Department of Justice, 99% of perpetrators are MALE (don't worry I have that one linked too (2)). In addition, 80%-85% of completed rapes are committed by someone who is known to the victim (2). Maybe you're not talking about sexual assault and you're instead referring to just saying no to your partner gaslighting you. Well, a study by ASA interviewed 43 women and stated "all but three of the 43 women I interviewed reported that their abusers called them 'crazy.' All 43 women described some degree of gaslighting, especially their abuser “flipping” stories or events to make them seem like 'the crazy one.'" The study followed that up by saying "of the 43 women who participated, all but two identified a male partner as their primary abuser." (And I have that study linked as well (3)). WELL MAYBE you're not referring to that either. Maybe you mean just tell men to stop being physically abusive. You know, tell them to stop and make them realize what they're doing is wrong. Well 1 in 3 women have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner, 1 in 7 women have been injured by an intimate partner, and 1 in 4 women have experienced severe physical violence (e.g. beating, burning, strangling) by an intimate partner in their lifetime. (I have a link to this source as well (4)). And according to that same website, intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crimes.
Oh and just in case you're wondering, no I didn't forget about male victims. Here's some stats on them as well:
24.8% of men experienced some form of sexual violence in their lifetime (1).
52.4% of male rape victims were raped by an acquaintance (1).
1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner (4).
1 in 25 men have been injured by an intimate partner (4).
1 in 7 men have experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime (4).
And although I specifically left out any statistics about children experiencing these crimes for time and relevancy's sake, I'd like to add this one I found which states that "1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence" (4).
And my point to all of this? If saying "no" stopped abuse from happening, don't you think ALL THESE PEOPLE would've said no? If telling their intimate partner to stop ACTUALLY MADE THEM STOP, don't you think the victims would have thought of that? Stop victim blaming. You're part of the problem and blaming victims for their abuse makes you a horrifically horrible human being. Educate yourself and while you're at it, delete that disgusting reply you left under RogueRider29's comment. It makes me sick.
Sources:
(copy/paste into google and then delete the space in the middle of the URL)
(1) www.nsvrc. org/statistics
(2) supportingsurvivors.humboldt. edu/statistics#1
(3) www.asanet. org/sites/default/files/attach/journals/oct19asrfeature.pdf
(4) ncadv. org/STATISTICS
Oh and btw I found all of this on Google and it took me MINUTES to find all this information. And the information I typed up in this comment is only a FRACTION of the information I found. You literally have no excuse.