"Modern people like to think that there is nothing dangerous about sex" Jordan Peterson
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- In this lecture, 9th in the 2017 series, he discusses some of the essential of Sigmund Freud's theories, concentrating on his conceptualizations of the dynamic (living) unconscious.
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Hard Times create Strong Men, Strong Men create Good Times, Good Times Create Weak Men, Weak Men create Hard Times.....
the vicious yet virtuous cycle
And the struggle continues.
Not sure Strong Men create Good Times. Usually it's people on the Spectrum create good times, at least they disrupt the Old Times. Besides, there can be different cycles of Strong vs Weak Males/Females going on all over the planet, in different phases, interacting. It could be that the dynamic moves around various cities, esp places where we see a lot of innovation versus places where we see less.
Stephen Lawrence hey I'm just curious about what spectrum you meant?
So weak men create strong men and vice versa or weak men create weak men strong create strong etc. Depends on your attitude
As a comment section reader, I declare this as the most amazing comment section I've seen till now.
I completely agree
@@Melly16yr10 🌻🌻🌷😊
Good morning from my time zone🌸
Haha true that
I agree!
I agree with you 👍🏾
I love when people say "just be safe about it" aka "use protection".
There's nothing "safe" about sex with strangers, or people you barely know.
jgowee Why?
@Kakashi Hatake Me too.
Exactly, only lowlifes engage in this kind of lifestyle
Everybody is a stranger to everybody at one point.
I want to know you jgowee
I'd like to thank the SJW's for protesting this man and bringing him into my life.
That's an excellent point. I need to remember that.
Amen.
T.Roll...you should be careful to not put 'paid for education' above so-called 'free advice'. Thats a fundamental and unwise decision to make. If you read a book thats has life changing advice, do you debase it because weren't reading it sat in a library at Harvard? Think about it.
sjw.. looked it up.. thats a new one on me... haha... yes... and he in your life may bring someone even greater.. and that person may bring in someone even greater... JP is great.. but there is more.. are you ready for more
SHIBBITY BEBOP i agree 100% and this is why humans are so ignorant and incapable of critical thinking, because they go to "experts" to tell them that their senses are wrong. This guy for instance, preach how dangerous sex is because of AIDS and other diseases, but if you'll do your own research, you will discover the truth about AIDS. I just recently finished reading a book called "The Beggar" by Soul LaVee and this book was a real eye opener and is highly recommended. In this book there was something that stuck with me where the beggar tells Sam how this so called experts are part of the reason we doubt ourselves. He said, experts like doctors and teachers are simply CONVEYORS of information. They are told how it is, and convey it to the ones that trust them blindly. After living on this planet long enough, i can tell you with much conviction, that most of the things they tell us and teach us, is wrong, and if they charge an arm and a leg to convey wrong information, then all the merrier.
I'm a female who recently turned 18, and the fact that the people in my life are surprised that I'm still a virgin highly concerns me.
Save yourself. Female virginity is precious, life saving. Males see as right of passage, but ignore risk. Think of it like this: you are a pedestrian in a parking lot. The cars have less to lose than you in a collision. They don't want an accident, but you'll be in worse shape than them.
stick to your guns hun
Casual sex is weird anyway... Keep you'r virginity it's special.
Keep it to a solid real relationship that is meaningful and with someone you actually care about.
Well that's how I've been living my life an I'm pretty happy with my nearly 6 year long relationship.
In Muslim countries, If you're not a virgin at 18 and have breeding time before marriage then you're considered as haram.
Proud of you!! Hold on to it until you absolutely know the person you are with is an empath and will not betray you
This guys shows how rare common sense is nowadays; apparently having it makes you brilliant
Traveling Man saying it, admitting it makes you brilliant or valuable. Cling to people who tell you the truth, even if they know it’s not what you want to hear. Otherwise, you have not grown emotionally past middle school.
common sense is so rare that we are debating whether males are different from females. my great grand mother would probably consider me incredibly stupid if i brought modern arguments of gender LOL. its so rare that nations built on capitalism have their populations opting for socialism despite all the history. its so rare that celebrities are the new role models and replace church morals with their opinions. its so rare that young women dont believe that when their youthful beauty leaves they will find it hard to attract the same quality of men they used to. its so rare that women having womens duties in the house is oppressive, yea, imagine you got a big guard dog that prefers the house cat lifestyle, what use is it to you then
Common sense isn’t so common anymore.
Indeed most people don't have common sense nowadays and have no morals whatsoever
Will Y What did you take away from the video that you didn’t know before?
“Dr Peterson, what’s your favorite sexual position?”
“Well that depends on what you mean by favorite. And it also depends on what you mean by sexual. This is a very difficult question. One must acknowledge the underlying verisimilitude that is irrevocably nested within a multi-layered metaphysical substrate that people fundamentally conflate with their ideological presuppositions with no uncertain irregularity, and not dissimilar to Jung's extrapolation of the archetypal and axiomatic juxtaposition of Raskolnikov's Neo-Marxist existential nihilism...”
You killied me.😂😂😂
LOL!
LMAO.. not to be confused with LSTALIN
@@terrythompson7535 Groan...
You missed the word hierarchy
I don’t understand how we got to a place where its considered the norm to sleep around and you get made fun of if you choose not to engage in the same practices. How does it help your future in any way to have slept with half of your college? It really isn’t difficult to understand. Humans are a complex set of emotions, we need meaningful connections and support from men and women to thrive. Thats how we were designed. If we minimize and trivialize our true essence, we suffer as individuals and as a society. Common sense has gone down the toilet 🤦🏻♀️
A T look at the media my friend. The influence out there plays a large role. Brain dead shows that focuses on gossip, sex and other morally-wrong traits (ie. kardashians focusing on looks and selfish desires that is deceptively viewed as the norm). Young girls have no real goals other than to look pretty and live a privileged life like those people. There’s also rappers becoming mainstream with derogatory lyrics about women, coupled with an overly-encouragement of the use of drugs (which then becomes the norm). There are no rational, spiritual and intellectual role models that are as easily accessible as these brain dead morons that plague the spotlight.
This is just one of the many factors. There are more variables to it than these media people.
A T biggest word
Trying to have friendships and meaningful connections with men is nearly impossible in my experience. I've always craved the protection of a brother, the loving guidance of a father, and the understanding of a male friend. It's sad that in today's world even the slightest kindness or interest instantly becomes a perversion.
@@chellelaw667
I hate to say that I have experienced this as well unfortunately.
What's worse now is even parents encourage their teenagers to have sex because "they are going to do it anyways" so they educate them on being safe and to get them on birth control instead of telling them to abstain. Most girls start sleeping around at the age of 14 and no one thinks that's wrong anymore. As long as they are "safe" they say, and "you do you girl", "enjoy sex, your body count doesn't define you", "sleep around however you like as long as you are not hurting anyone". One night stands, friends with benefits, and even having an open relationship is something that is being pushed and normalized. What an immoral generation we live in 🤦🏽♀️
I agree.....your body is your temple and precious ..don't give it to some stranger ...take time in knowing the hygeine practises of person you are dealing
Right..I know for a fact that people who sleep around don't care about hygiene
This should clear things up a lot more....
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EAmami true. I also think DNA plays a role. When you have sex you exchange DNa and body fluids. And when you sweat you exude the others Bo. Now imagine someone whonl sleeps around They have a harder time with hygiene because the DNA from others. Imagine a gym locker room...
@Luna hard to locate? There're thousands of young thirsty virgins out there, and women despise them more than the plague.
Not saying they're in the right, but it's bullshit to say 'asexual' men are rare.
Ritu Rao Jesus loves you.
College is the worst with this culture of people, I'm just focusing on my education and career and I'll look for a wife once I'm established.
but dude how would you keep yourself in focus and not get deviated when sex is literally everywhere
@@Habsab With willpower and rationality.
That’s what I’m gonna do
@@Habsab I'm far to busy with school and work to worry about sex. You go to college for education, not sex, why else would you be paying thousands? No girl or guy is worth that.
@@ASTRA1564 exactly!
As a man, sex is VERY dangerous is so many ways... especially financially.
no truer words have been written
no doubt
(ask my father lol)
Exactly. I can't tell you how many guys I know and have known in the past who are now emaciated and have lost their interest for better things in life because they are paying alimony and support to a succubus. All because two stupid kids thought it was the thing to do because mommy and daddy got married relatively young. This is the discredit the boomers have done to younger generations because they came from a time when it was economically sound and sustainable to marry at a younger age and have bigger families so they held those old fashioned ideals while remaining ignorant of the economic and yes cultural changes that X, Y and Z have undergone. I almost want to slap those people who argue "It's the thing to do." as if just doing it because people do it is the most valid reason to make a lifelong vow of commitment to someone else. A vow that is more disregarded today than in America's history.
Xpenguin, Go do research on contraception then come back with more than a half assed response. It's tiring typing out a detailed rebuttal to someone who hasn't taken their own time to get informed. Go listen to somebody like Tom Leykis on his many discussions about the problems with contraceptions and the games people play (in that case women). Someone like him could inform you better than I could. I don't condone everything the man says or necessarily his views on women, but he is pragmatic and well informed on the issue.
As a member of Gen Z, I really needed this. It's hard to live in a world where people will tell you that hooking up and sleeping around is okay. I find that watching videos like this and reading like-minded articles help me establish what is really important in life, and it isn't sex.
Hey premarital sex has many consequences you are more likely to divorce look up the stats more likely to get an std with hookups and I'm tired of seeing women with multiple kids and no husbands or men who stay
The Bible tells us to flee fornication trust God this world is not worth it it's literally decaying
I've seen people tell me they regret all they've done
@@henrybrown6004 Exactly. There are so many single mothers roaming around. The only ones that want to defend the whole idea of having casual sex, especially through hookups, are the ones that cheapen its value of it and themselves when having a bond with someone. They treat people as an extension for their own personal pleasure. There may be some that come out being stable enough to be in a long term relationship, but many don’t come out of it like that. Unless it’s about the people that don’t want to bother being in a long term relationship at all, the ones that care about a potential partner’s sexual history should not be shunned for that. It’s like people forgot people care about it for religious reasons. I’m not even religious but I still respect their reasons while I also hold the same beliefs about sex.
@@MyndMythos Trust me ik waaaay too many unhappy people but the few who are happy have good family values and aren't perverted
True! Glad I found this out at 18 years old, struggling with porn addiction and already had my confidence ruined by Ed on a few occasions and loss of attraction, nothing feels natural anymore. Fully quit porn
😯
Gee rams it’s true brother. Maybe my anxiety’s have increased I I perceive my problems, but porn is unnatural and should not be glorified or advertised as it is
@@dewikingdon4367 You, my friend, have a brain. Congrats. You'll do well in life. So many porn-loving sheeple.
Proud of you!
Has your loss of attraction gotten better?
imagine being privileged enough to have him as your professor
This comment went over my head
@@yungbull1325 how so
>imagine wanting to pay money in order to be educated by a ZOGbot cattle-rouser
Are you a mixed-race masochist?
I’ve always sustained from promiscuous sex. Never felt right and always felt like I was giving away a piece of my soul.
*refrained
What the hell is even that 😠...
When my teens and I talk sex, I can proudly tell them I’ve only ever been with their dad. Been with the same guy since I was 16, 3 kids, 15 years of marriage and we’re happier than anyone I know.
That's rare as f**k though.
@@AliJr_MetalGames_MetalGuitar my parents are the same and everyone in my family too.
Awweeeee, I definitely want the same thing, it’s just difficult to find someone who wants that too.
Good for you
@@user-yi8hj3qd6q go to a church God is the only thing that holds a marriage together
Arent those kids lucky? Man to have such an awesome teacher...
Thanos Mighty jalous?
@@lolalolita3537 university of toronto you mean.
passionate yet still charismatic
Nah he rants a lot.
@@ramon2008 that rant has the power to change you
Finally a comments section I can get behind. THE SMART PEOPLE
Yes. For now. Until someone posts bible verses. Then watch how fast it goes south!
Then what are you doing here??
You are new here I see
Stfu
@Alpha Charlie ironically, you're telling the dude what to do
I never had sex , i am 28 and getting married soon. I am still trying to quit watching porn. Finding the right person is really difficult , it takes time but eventually it's safe and beautiful.
Any tips on finding a (good) girlfriend? It's hard after you're out of college.
You can be as careful as you want, but it’s never truly safe. Check out the divorce rates. Nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women. Among college-educated women, this number jumps up to 90%. But I wish you luck. The risk is worth it for some. How long have you been with this girl for?
@@GhostBearCommander
I would stick to libraries, cafes, and certain parks. Although it’s much easier to meet girls through family and mutual friends, if that’s a possibility for you
@@codyh2492 What if they divorced because their husbands cheat?
@@GhostBearCommander The match dating website worked really well for me.
This kind of thinking exists in many religions. Sometimes, religions can bring good things to our lives.
Yet people only want to see the negative side of it.
religion isn’t necessary for these types of thinking, and many of them also have destructive ways of thinkint
@@TariqNavabiGaming like?
@@cerenb7909 well, every religion is it’s own case.
The thing about religion is that it controls the crowd by fear, whether its the fear of hell in afterlife or being stuck in a cycle of birth and death, we have to educate people, not control them with fear like your madeival barbaric religions do
Preach!!!! Promiscuity causes so much collateral damage. At some point someone else's promiscuity hurt so much of my life. Just think a little longer before you act. Care a little more about consequences.
Its a sad feeling I'd say, more than sad; that the person who would be your first or with whom you are sharing something so intimate for the first time, to them it is just a casual thing or not as significant. Even if they say that it is special for them, some where behind in your head you are left feeling otherwise.
@@potatowarrior747 agreed!
Call me old school but it always amazes me how younger generation can have sex without any emotional connection AKA one night stand!???
It's very easy to do. I started a couple of years ago and chose my partners for it carefully, not just random people from a club or something, not that I go to those anyway.
You can easily find people who are looking for NSA who are just normal people. I don't want a relationship but neither do I want to live 5+ years of my life celibate. For what? I don't plan on marrying and I don't want children so there's no reason to sit around waiting for the 'one true love', which I don't believe in anyway.
It's not a trophy and I don't go around telling people either as I'm very private.
@Anna Garcia the end result of what you suggest leaves me hooking up with someone, so really it's not that different from what I already do, only, the way I do it I don't have to go through the whole effort of getting into a relationship (which I don't want). Also, not to be rude but that doesn't make sense to say if you break up with someone, if you're in a healthy relationship you can still have sex?
It's a much quicker and easier option to just arrange hook ups than it is to go searching for a relationship, to then break up with them to continue hooking up with them.
@Anna Garcia er... Yea go for it
All you need is that "Sex Drive" , sad you dont have that or is low on that.
@@AllsortPassport God created sex for marriage. You don't want to marry or have children? Fine. Then you shouldn't be allowed to have sex.
The sexual revolution was caused by a new generation trying to oppose their previous generations sexual paranoia/anxiety.
There's a balance in all of this but it doesn't change the reasons why sleeping with everyone is a terrible idea.
Pill pushers.
@@gavinreid5387 and thank God for it, my pill helps me function because my hormones are messed up 😊
Let's start a Dialogue, eh? I wonder why they’re messed up
Yeah people are so reactionary. They swung from sexual oppression to sexual liberation way too hard. Never in moderation
Our culture is on a path set to demoralise, corrupt and divide us from our families, communities, etc. When there is true equality, that means all types of evil is also accepted. Murder, rape, incest, pedophilia, etc. We see them conditioning us with these things already through Hollywood and porn.
Sex is a sacred soul connection to the person you love
Aubrey Balberan not to a lot of people nowadays 😂 sex is exploited in society and it’s not sacred anymore.
@@em2106 that's right, and its so disheartening to say the fact
Can you define sacred ?
Aubrey Balberan I know :(💔
Jimmy Divicio instead of sex being an intimate experience for you and your partner, sex is exploited in the media and a lot of people don’t view sex as a bonding experience anymore. So many people detach their heart from what’s “down there”. And have sex with multiple people, not caring about the bond between the person.
As a virgin and someone who will wait til marriage, this video is fantastic! I agree with all of his points and yes STDs are a really huge concern of sex because some of them can be really troublesome and can stuck with you for life such as hepatitis. Hookup culture is so rampant today especially in college campus but I know I’m not into that and I just want to study hard to get into a good graduate school. I’m focusing on studying and I will wait for that right person who I trust to have sex with. There’s nothing wrong or shameful in waiting til marriage and if someone is not willing to wait, then he’s not worth it.
The more I hear this man speak, the more I believe that we need to start listening as a society.
Jordan is an arrogant fool and his ideas are outdated
Indeed as I get older I realize that sex is not everything
"It's free fun for poor people" -Doug Stanhope
QuartuvLarry Stanhope is a nihilistic moron.
Lol
Not exactly the ride you get off and say, "LET'S DO THAT AGAIN!"
no. Stanhope is a brilliant comedian, staunch free speech and free market advocate, and anti-authoritarian. He is also nihilistic, yes, but no moron.
Is it? How much do abortions cost? Or treatments of STD's? How many poor, single mothers are getting child support from the state? How high are the costs of the drastically increased rate of unemployment, prison sentences, drug abuse and so on, among children born and raised by poor people who used sex irresponsibly? Not to mention that girls who have been born in such circumstances have a ten times higher risk to end up as poor single moms and to repeat that circle of degeneration.
When a man uses testosterone, his behaviour is instantly linked to the testosterone. With the pill we dont talk about behaviour changes in women. Nice subject mr Peterson.
I only knew my rather overweight kindergarten teacher step mother was by far the MOST violent person I have ever met, or seen on TV, where ever.
I knew she was on the pill.
I think for that reason alone, the PILL always stuck out as a really BAD IDEA to me.
I was sure her broken behaviour was down to her estrogen dominance problems.
Interesting subject.
Actually I have had severe depression, I found especially when I'm ovulating, and so I was recommended the pill after other things I had tried. I don't remember the last time I felt this normal. I hadn't wanted to do it because I think messing with hormones should be avoided, but it seems to seriously help me function, so I'm glad I have it.
Also people blame a woman's behavior on PMS all the time 🤣 I do think the pill should be talked more about, but women talk about it a lot with other women at least. It messes people up sometimes, in fact is more likely to make you sad and emotional, and commonly lowers libido, funnily enough. So I do agree it can be dangerous, but it's so different for everyone.
Yeah of course. Because of the pill women might prefer men with lower testosterone levels. Of course that led to women wanting human rights - I mean what kind of crazy person does want human rights?? Of course, it's the Pill causing women to do that..
But the pill is so different for all women. For my sister it did wonders, for my wife it was a living hell. There are many brands, many substances and many side effects. It's very hard to make a general assumption.
@@liloruf2838 ok slave moralist
This makes me feel better about recently deciding to be more reserved about sex. Tired of these pointless flings.
Same ...
@@marilyncarlosog647 lemme hit first for the one time then you can go the reserved route 🥵
it's dangerous to screw around.Your also screwing everyone else they ever screwed too.Theres some pretty raunchy stuff out there and lot of poeple participate in it,and it doesn't just wash off in the shower.
True story.i think you're the only in the comments who gets it. There's energy in the world which can't be seen by the naked eye. People possess energy as well.good and evil which is passed around through sex.
@@stephenstephenson8349 very true. My friend sleeps around a lot for attention and makes jokes about me because I'm not an easy girl like her. I don't get the whole idea of everyone just swapping bodily fluids for "fun"
Give em bleach
@@graceg4996 you are like rare bird, no wonder can't find one.
Facts 💯
Finally a person with common sense about bloody time.
I'm gobsmacked by how much history has been rewritten these days. His analysis of Victorian sexual repression, while not fun, is practical and understandable. Speak to a kid today and you're likely to hear it was because men were oppressing women. Same with slavery. Yes, it was bad. And it has always existed and it has always been bad. This wider context is simply not taught to the kids anymore. Nor that the British were the first people ever to outlaw. Strange times we live in. The material decadence has rubbed out all but the politicised history the ideologues today crave.
Actually the Victorian era's views on sexuality were largely shaped by queen Victoria herself. She was the only legitimate heir to the throne, though her father had produced several illegitimate children. She was further put off fornication by her mother sleeping with a steward while running the country in her stead until she came of age. However, she was not against sex entirely, as she and her husband had 12 kids together (that hurts just thinking about it). The people of the Victorian era followed her lead, and denigrated sexuality entirely, or at least outside of marriage. Though adultery was hardly unknown in the Victorian era, just looked down upon.
However, the earlier Regency period, which had some of the same problems with sex the Victorian era had (STDs and unwanted pregnancy), was well known for people engaging in fornication and adultery, and behind the scenes several other sex acts generally ill-regarded by the church and growing middle class. Making sure farms were staffed by laborers was generally held as more important than how those children were produced. Likewise, Kings were generally obsessed with producing a male heir, (Henry the 8th being a notorious example) and were known to sleep around, leading to Victoria taking the throne and the sudden change during her rule.
Yeah, we know all that. You're correct. Meanwhile, the masses want a shag. That's what JP is talking about.
Supermandan, I agree. We've all been raised with the line about how Victorian repression was strictly the result of a chauvinistic, religious, patriarchal society. While there's truth to the chauvinistic, religious and patriarchal aspects of Victorian society, the practical reasons Jordan mentioned get conveniently left out. As with so much of history, we only get half the story, until we start digging for ourselves and find someone like Peterson who's willing to give us the other half.
"I'm gobsmacked by how much history has been Rewritten these days..." lol
everything after that is just *extra information* as my old English teacher would have said. Also...
That's why it's called...history!
I'm not sure where you live but we had to go through the entire history of the abolitionist movement in great Britain, and we don't live there.
This comment section gives me hope. Where are the people who want an emotional and psychological connection in my town? 😭
Same 😭
the emphasis on sex is ridiculous, saying this as an asexual person.
Anything is dangerous if you're not responsible enough, sex is no different.
I knew I could count on someone with an avatar like yours to make good sense in this chat.
exactly.
Been scrolling for a while and yours are the best on so far.....
Thanks for giving me useful information 💯💯💯💯
Amén.
Well its not dangerous to play sport, or go swimming, or do painting, music or art. There are millions of things in life that are not dangerous.
The "friends" serie is the example of this hookup culture.
Replying to EM ... I absolutely loved Friends and still really enjoy watching it but you are completely right, they made it look like you can go on a date and have sex every other week, and this is what we should achieve ? Sex is the most powerful, and emotionally charged practice you can take part in, but when the relationship ends a part of you is gone forever and all that’s left is pain... I know this to be true.
@@stuartforrest7610 There's truth in your words, my friend.
Yep. Very 1st Episode Centered Around a Hook-Up
I never watched friends but I recently started to watch some clips. I was thinking omg this is such a big influence on today. It's a good show. However not morally right kind of sad.
And Seinfeld has the same problem too!
It feels good to know that there are people who hold the same values.
I think it is more the overly casual mindset we have about sex. Most of the time, people don't sleep with others because they want to, but because they feel like they should, to not be considered boring or a looser. Of course both genders have biological drives, but they are not the ones we are acting on.
HereIAm247 too often true. The marketing department has won, and we all lost
Culture tells ppl and make sex more casual then sacred that's why you talk to your children because truth is God created sex for marriage but it's powerful and should at least be between two ppl who care 4 eachother and respect eachother...
Lol i disagree. What drived me to have sex was coz the girl was hot and i was super horny. Thats it. I spent my highschool life in holland . And wanted to have sex coz girls at my school was hot. Plain and simple. No one really made me feel bad when i was a Virgin. Its probably different in america. There are tons of nerds at my school too. No one really cares and i honestly think they get pussy too.
@@janderson947 agree w u.
HereIAm247 “to not be considered boring or a looser”. Well, you very well may be considered “looser”. 😅
I never understood casual sex anyway. Team celibacy
hello miss Hakobyan 😊
@@FuckZionify she's celibate
👍👍👍
@@archanadubey9878 😂😂😂
Never met a girl who was actually celibate in my life
These days if you are still virgin by the age of 20 you are destroyed by the community.
That is such a true observation! My Granddaughter at the age of 5 told me one day, "I'll be so glad when I'm not a virgin anymore."
My jaw dropped and my sexual perpetrator radar clicked on! Who had implanted this idea into my granddaughter's mind? How did she come to say such a thing? What did she know about virgins or of losing one's virginity?
After taking a few deep breaths and regaining my composure I began a friendly interrogation.
Me: "You don't like being a virgin, Sammie?"
Sam: "No, the other kids make fun of you. It's bad to be a virgin."
Me: "it's bad, huh? Why do you think that?"
Sam: "Because the other girls make fun of you."
Me: "It doesn't feel good when people are mean to you. Do you know what being a virgin means, Sammie?"
Sam: "No, but I know I don't want to be one."
Me: "How did you learn that being a virgin is a bad thing?"
Sam: "From TV."
Sammie's parents allowed her to watch Nickelodeon, Saturday Night Live, The Simpsons, King of the Hill and to sit with them while they watched their own nighttime television.
At five years of age my sweet, innocent, naive Granddaughter surmised that being a "VIRGIN" was socially unacceptable!
I am 17 and my parents are often telling me ‘I hope you won’t stay single and a virgin’. Like leave me the f*** alone.
Lol meanwhile in muslim community no one cares if you are virgin at 25
@@hassanlabyad4082 or in any community outside the US lol
Youre not actually destroyed, you’re made fun of maybe, but people actually respect you. If you can make it through i believe it actually helps your standing in the community in the long run.
Being an asexual in these times is such a blessing
Fun fact: there's a link between asexuality (little to no sex drive) and excessive porn consumption
And what if you’re asexual but never watch porn
@@aleta833 then you have a disorder of some description
@@lolcano2346 being a lustful idiot sounds like a rotten disease to me lmao
@@aleta833 Being a "lustful idiot" doesn't sound like it comes without problems but no- being "A-sexual" (if such a thing actually exists, which it probably doesn't) is something that can actually be considered a disorder... you know.. because all healthy human beings have thing called sex drive.
It's basic biology
“Sex is dangerous”
Me: *laughs in virgin*
Also me: *cries im virgin*
How old are you? Strange you're virgins in these times.
Going on 21 soon, still a virgin 👍🏼
21, still a virgin and no regrets about it. This modern lifestyle doesn't suit me. I'll do it when I find a girl that I actually care about.
There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin. I’m not saying that I have slept around with a lot of woman. But I’m pretty sure that that doesn’t bring forth any happiness. Wait till marriage. I wish I did, it would have been much more beautiful that way. The only way to happiness is Jesus. If you have any questions just reply to my comment, stay prayed up.
@@paoloscippa9215 Why do people always say that? There's nothing more out of reach than sex to me. How it be so damn easy for some people?
Just pump the brakes and stop esteeming sex like it's the be all and end all. Don't live for that reason alone, it's a bad long term strategy.
When i let the Lord into my heart, i quit trying to get attention from the opposite sex for validation and stopped being open to sharing my body with anyone who gave me attention. Im perfectly fine dying a virgin now, as long as I've got a friend in Jesus im good to go. No person can come before my relationship with God. I encourage us all to do this as well
that's why your name is squishy booty
@@mariadoronchenkova4342
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squishy booty am with you
squishy booty
Why have sex with a girl when you can have sex with your soul
Okay whatever you say squishy booty
Intercourse is basically giving someone 'access' (not a good word. I know) to your body. There will always be potential risk. The fact that some people can sleep with complete strangers is astounding to me.
how do people who went to school not like..... get this already? I'm feel like I've always known this....
Schools dumb you down not educate you
I blame it on bad parenting
Because every single biology teacher is a female mentally ill sex-maniac getting into people's mind driving them to the point where they can only think about sex.
@@iamchannelll in fact, school is a system designed to put people on "the right career"
Literally 40 seconds in and I'm already having my mind expanded. This dude.
Bro some of these comments are so evil 🤣 I read more than one specifically telling people how they will die alone. How you gonna wish that on someone 🤣🤣 human nature is something real huh
I like to say that justification is the key to cruelty. People usually enjoy being bullies and fail to realize that that's what they are. Very frequently, they rationalize their behavior by blaming the victim and saying that they deserve it. Bullies seem to think of themselves as righteous judicators putting inferior people in their proper place. Furthermore, I've noticed that most people will join in on something evil being done rather than trying to stop it. Certainly explains why slavery has been so popular throughout human history.
It's a grim thing to realize, especially when you come to terms with the fact that you're perfectly capable of and probably have done the exact same thing yourself. But at least this human nature can be suppressed and defeated, so despair is not the only option.
Well said, my friend, well said.
@@warrioroflight6872 Oh yeah, the tribalism of human beings is something we'll probably never get rid of. Sports is group-based competition. You have an in-group you support and "identify" with, and an out-group you wish to see lose. Fans will yell and fight, as if any of it even mattered in the first place. So it is in politics as well, especially in a country that's in trouble. People can get killed for supporting the wrong ideology, "wrong" meaning a wide variety of arbitrary things sometimes. Families compete by comparing eachothers' children, and the parents brag about various trivial and non-trivial things they do or don't do that make their children&their relationship much better than that of the other family's. Lying is of course used as a tool as well, in all settings where a group is trying to maintain&expand its position.
I would go further and argue that the hormones in food have feminized men as well
Which ones? The muscle enhancing hormones in beef? Or the oestrogen in milk?
There is very little evidence to say that soy has a large effect on male hormones. I'd say the #1 reason is lack of exercise due to technology. Exercise has the largest effect on testosterone than any other thing (other than steroids)
true, exercise and u will get better :)
Don't forget mercury from coal.
I think you also have a very large feeling of lack of power and purpose due to economic instability, no good job growth, feeling more like a number than someone serving a purpose when it comes to careers etc. Not to mention the lack of education on taking care of our minds, setting everyone up for depression and anxiety issues at the minimum.
I find his voice so soothing. When I close my eyes it sounds like Kermit the frog mixed with Peewee Herman. Thank you Jordan for bringing me back to good times.
tutu beast lmaooo
Wow thanks, now I can’t listen to him without thinking of a very well aged and wise Kermit.
Lmao he does sound like Kermit the frog 😆
😂😂😂😂
Oh no...and oh yes!!!
And why there is Angelina Jolie from Beowulf on thumbnail?
The character she played represents Danger and sexuality pretty well I think
If you have to ask why then you haven't understood the movie
Apollyon. Angelina Jolie character was one of a "nephilim entity". Its why Beowulf offspring came out a dragon. And the prior King his offspring was Grendall the monster. If you're aware of the true story of the fall of satan from the Heavens and how he and his fallen corrupted human DNA, it will be easier to explain/ for you to understand the extreme dangers of (strange sex).
because shes sexy asf
These comment sections are entertaining. Thank you, professor.
Stay safe stay virgin
stay a loser
Stay a virgin until you meet someone you're compatible with, so you don't have to grow old alone and without legacy.
Sleeping around too much is gonna keep you popular when you're still young and attractive, but that "loser" life is gonna catch up with you eventually.
Pump and Dump
Stay virgin, stay safe
@@Victoria-bo9xk Whores are losers.Like a used up pair of shoes or underwear. Your'e right you can stay that way.
Sex is dangerous because it can also be used as an emotional weapon between couples and on a larger scale, as a weapon to supress (mainly) women.
I thought everyone in this world were mindless sex-crazy NPCs, but seeing this comment section puts a smile on my face. Thank you
Same here. I felt wierd thank God.
I wish that the whole talk was uploaded. He got me hooked.
I always feel at peace with the world when I hop into a Jordan lecture. Keeps me hopeful.
Great lecture! Finally some truth about sex. In the world where promiscuity seems to be highly encouraged and commercialized everywhere you go, hearing the truth about how dangerous both emotionally and physically sexual relationship is, is very important.
To quote my wise aunt, "You don't break God's law and get away with it."
It can't get dumber than this.
Jesse Alvarez god lol
Wisest man on this page.
Facts 💯
You’re not wrong
The MOST dangerous part of freewheeling sexuality is that it destroys a persons ability to Love another after a period of time as well as becoming a bargaining chip.
Working at a gyn clinic makes me not even want to shake hands with people ..
Good video! Love the explainations that do NOT get told to our youth here in America. The media promotes premarital sex at younger and younger ages, but never talks about the risks, and the dangers. Teens keep having sex with NO protection and preganancy rates still continue, when it's SO preventable. We have an epidemic of too young single mother households in society today. It's not sustainable, but they won't choose better for themselves. Sad.
Teens have been marrying as young as 12-13 since humans invented the institution of marriage. It hasn’t been since about the 1950/60’s that social mores changed on that. Some states still allow marriage at around that age with parental consent. You’re knowledge of history is just a wee bit fucked up.
You're wrong dede4004. God's way is for people to have sex at a young age (14-17 women, 18-27 men) and with one person for life. The evil World's way is to simultaneously infantilize young women while also normalizing promiscuity for them so they F a ton of guys from 15 to 25 and wind up single and undesired.
Dammed if you do dammed if you don't
Yeah it seems you can't even make mistakes, Even this guy makes me feel like shit. To all the lousy exes in my life .
Hook ups, living together without marriage etc., are the trends of today.. Mankind has become so corrupt that what is evil doesn't look like it anymore. May God save us all
"Humanae Vitae, I told you so" - Paul VI
When I came back into catholicism. I didn't know how much the Popes successfully called out the ills of society back in their time and say it will get worse if not taken during their lifetime. Pope Paul VI was right.
tito810 did the father come into you, Catholic boy?
chamade166.....truth hurts....anticatholic bigotry is unbecoming and the tool of a weak mind
Yeah but noone listens to the warnings of the imperfect, though noone is perfect...
When you really, really wanna then you'll make any excuses and feel like you just used solid argumentation.
Irresponsible sex is dangerous.... I don't understand why you would not have sex with the girl you wanna marry and move in with her before the contrat (God or not)... you wanna know if compatible. Don't know much happy "chastity" couple other than growing up their kids. Anyway gotta give it to the Pope in TheologyoftheBody and Humanae Vitae to have predicted the futur for irresponsible sex... and people are irresponsible lol
Love just a woman only and live with her only till you take your last breath
Omg...i read.this as "....til you take HER last breath...glad.i reread it before I started commenting lol
The Joker why so bitter? You must be gay?
Dr. Ismayil Edavarad Jesus loves you.
The Joker You’re such a crying baby... That’s why you’re alone, an intelligent woman would never want a pig like you by her side. Poor clown.
Dr. Ismayil Edavarad Intelligent choice. God bless you, you’re a smart man.
I am a woman. I don't use any type of contraception. I always had attraction for masculine men not soy boys.
🤣😂😂
He is right.
You got a lotta DNA perminently stuck in you
I don't think any straight woman would be attracted to a soy boy lmao
@@turningmememachine7256 What's a Soyboy?
@@Melly16yr10 It's a pejorative term referring to modern effeminate men who supposedly like to drink soy (which is said to increase estrogen levels).
@@radthadd 😂🤣
I wondered that. Taking a chemical that changes your hormones or whatever is does, surely that changes your preference for the opposite sex?
Fun fact: lesbians don't take the pill.
Well yes, it does.
You trying to sell Alex Jone's gay frogs? What an idiot.
I recall watching/reading something where a lesbian undergoing hormone therapy began to look at other women like the figuritive "pieces of meat" trope once the testosterone began working and that she couldn't control it no matter how hard she tried. I don't think hormones affect how you view the opposite sex, but how you feel towards the sex you're attracted to.
hevquip - Well, women are the 'opposite' sex of testosterone.
The confusion we have these days just keeps increasing as we become more 'developed'
you know my mans JP about to lay down some facts when he starts off by talking about the ovulation cycle
As a woman who has been on birth control and is now off of it I can't help but question his theory here. While I was on it, I most definitely had a very pronounced preference for masculine men. In fact the last guy I was with while I was on it had a very strong jaw lol I decided to quit it though because I just don't think it's healthy in general, but what's ironic is that the guy I'm seeing now is not very masculine and has a relatively smaller frame. I mean, I still generally do prefer more masculine men, but it's not the end all be all. I know I'm only one person, and he's referring to the general population of women, but I'm pretty confident that for us women there is a lot more that goes into what we find attractive than just where we happen to be in our ovulation cycles.
I don’t care if I’m ovulating or not I only like masculine men
Nikki Dolce I used to like feminine/angelic men..til I got majorly screwed over..now I like none of them😳
Me too
I have chromosomal ovarian failure and I still have my preferences and attractions.
That’s normal.
And so is it that We Masculine Men only like feminine women.
Girl, same!
Toxic masculinity isn’t toxic when the time comes you need to fight and survive. People have become so complacent.
I thought I was the only one, who saw the act of $ ex as dangerous as doing heroín, If you mess it up, you in serious, serious trouble
Sex with multiple partners is detrimental.
We are conscious bundles of energy.
Our emotions drive and govern our energy.
When we have sex with a person we exchange energy which also means we exchange emotions.
If a person has negative emotions we end up taking in that energy.
Keep your energy clean , stick to one happy good person.
More the sex partners more contaminated is our energy. That's why we should be careful who we have sex with.
I agree with having 1 comitted partner/spouse.
My friends always laugh at me when I tell them this.
What energy
@@johnjordan3552 The cosmic energy that our body has. Google it.
you sound like a crazy crystal lady with all this talk about MUH energy
The perversion of sex, relationship and marriage in the 21st century is one of the reasons I chose to remain single.
I regret every single hookup I've had. By contrast, I view the sex I had in relationships by and large in good terms, even when the relationship itself was bad. The emotional factor is big for me and acting on my impulses taught me that the hard way.
tell me what went wrong after those hookups, not trying to be nosey just wanna learn.
The saddest part of this is that most people had to watch this video before they realised this
On god💯
I wouldn’t say sad... a true reality check forsure... and basically adding to everything you know up until this point... confirmation
Underrated comment ya..
Yep ...
There's something dangerous about everything. literally EVERYTHING
So get educated and make smart decisions.
@Broly The Legend No one gets out alive, we all know that. But what you do and how you do it is still important, unless you don't value your well-being.
@Broly The Legend All good sir
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I just hate cliches that actually make zero sense whatsoever.
I don't often agree with Peterson but he has a point, and I love how he backed it up without using any "divine commands" and saying it's just that , he used science as one must.. I think sex should only be done in long term relationship but other people can do whatever they want.
There is a strong eroticism in two spouses being utterly monogamous, and many of the youth miss out on that, calling it prudish... They have no idea.
Mike Judge's Idiocracy is becoming prophetic.
What an excellent premise for a terrible movie.
Suddenly im happy to be a virgin and I'd like to stay that way for couple pf years atleast XD
You are indian, we don't have this sick culture.
@@-indrajith-111 lol you're clearly mistaken.
@@anushkalols why, I know some part of india adopt western culture. But not hook up culture.
Where are you from?
Good for u ... in iraq "islam country" our girls are virgins till marriage and the boys too .
Well maybe
It’s almost like a monogamous relationship when both partners abstain until marriage is the healthiest relationship possible. Maybe the Bible is onto something...
R/whoosh.
No. Stop that. What JP is saying, which is 100% true, doesn't suddenly erase the tons of risks in purity culture or repressing your sexuality to the point of vaginismus in marriage. Or hell...just a disconnect with the psyche for sex within marriage which is what my close Christian friend has been experiencing after marriage. I tried to warn her every time her and her now husband slip up and had sex before the wedding...they would tailspin into so much guilt! They would act as though they had personally injured God and I said, "you know I love you so I want to warn you...the beliefs we tell our body about sex dont just switch off overnight. Abstinence is fine but if you treat sex with him like such a mortal sin...this shame could carry on into after you say your I dos" ....and unfortunately, I was right. They're working through it though and I think they'll be fine and their case is not as bad as some where its insanely painful for the woman to have sex.
Sex is dangerous. Whether you're having it or not having it. The only answer I've found is to try to find a middle ground. No hookups or casual sex for me. But no puritanical avoidance of sex altogether. Worked out okay. I'm engaged with a healthy sexual appetite
@@LipSyncLover Not a chistian here, but i personally think that a monogamous relationship with sexual abstinence until marriage is quite healthy. The problem comes from being prudish after marriage and treating sex like a sin as you mentioned. Since the married couple genuinely love each other and are going to be loyal to each other throughout their lives, then having an active sexual life would only make the bond stronger.
@@EiyuuOumono well yes I agree actually and I didn't mean to say no one should wait. It can be done but it must be done with a healthy perspective about sex and not a ton of shame. Like if two want to save it for marriage I firmly believe the two should at least have a healthy masturbation life so that they don't wire themselves to feel ashamed about their own bodies and they get as in touch as possible with what they like.
@@LipSyncLover Ah it seems i misread your previous comment, my bad. Good point though. :)
@@EiyuuOumono no worries :)
And yet people who want to wait to have sex until then married are ridiculed. 🤔
Sad, really.
Listened to the first 50 seconds and I'm already impressed. God bless Jordan Peterson
Like the rare ones found here, I am glad to have my own little circles of like minded people, though we don't connect beyond our friendship, unlike what those hooking up around us like to assume about our relationships. It is funny how they don't understand that that we can actually still remain friends without anything physical happening. Friend, bro or sis zoned, call it whatever they want, but I have found that the few of us that I have gotten to know so well, respect each in the way we value our own bodies.
My once best friend told me that I was 'expecting too much when I told him that I prefer a man who has not joined with a woman, that I want a virgin', knowing that I am one myself, guess he was defending the person who has fallen in the trend. Apparently I have come across as self righteous since.
Sad that it can be really easy to lose friends when the sense of values change.
Religion or not, I hate to think that I am expected to share my man with another woman. And since I haven't found one, more so one I can connect with. Might as well try enjoying this life as a hermit.
Also the number of dislikes on this post is surprisingly low, a fairly pleasant sight ☺️
Weston A Price did his study some eighty years ago that showed the change in jaw width from broad to narrow with crowding of the teeth was related to changes from traditional diets to processed food with the advent of canned goods starting during the American civil war or about one generation
A narrower jaw also correlates to a higher IQ:
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@@CountArtha YEAH!
2 words, "Semen Retention"
This is how you develop true bliss and find your Self.
Bramachayra
Bramachayra Brother 🙏🏾
There is immense power in doing so. Did I stress immense?
semen retention has no apparent advantage from any viewpoint whatsoever, from either an evolutionary nor psychological or mental. i could not find any scientific evidence to support the efficacy of this method
@@subhamroy8817 Science hasn't been able to pin point conciousness either. Go 1 month without releasing and then come back and tell me it doesnt work.
@@tensionascension601 well, i tried it a few months ago when i was battling porn addiction. i was able to successfully abstain for about 3.5 weeks. i felt no change as many proclaim to be feeling a mental satisfaction, i felt very tense and anxious whenever i would interact with a girl. upon deeper inspection as to why i failed, i found no scientific evidence for this, i found that nofap movement was a moneymaking scheme by some persons company and that all this retention and abstain bullshit is utter crap.
It’s just like making fun of people who don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, making fun of them when they aren’t attractive enough .What’s wrong with not being attractive , what’s wrong with not sleeping around. It’s completely the opposite.
There is a reason why Allah says fornication and adultery is wrong in the Quran. May Allah bless you for explaining why and help us all stay chaste. Ameen
Lol
"If you want to destroy any nation without war, make adultery and nudity common in the young generation." Salahuddin Al Ayyubi RA
In general, I don't judge and people who have sex casually don't surprise me. I'm not disgusted by sexuality or anything, but I just wouldn't be able to let myself go so easily. For me, being physically naked makes me perhaps even more vulnerable than being emotionally naked. Both of those, tho, are extremely important to me and I like to keep them to myself until I feel entirely comfortable with someone. I understand that some people can be relaxed about these things, but I don't understand it when they're weirded out when I say I'm not as comfortable.
I'm not saying "no sex before marriage" or "no sex at all" but I'm rather saying: I want to get to a stage where I'm comfortable with myself first, then with my partner, and I want us to get to know eachother, rely on each other, trust and develop a bond that's going to encourage us both to open up emotionally, and only after that comfort is ensured, perhaps we could also get to know each other physically. Most people don't want to invest that much time and effort, and that's ok, and I can move on- and it doesn't even bother me that much. What does bother me is people who are straight up in my face being like "oh but why didn't you have sex before" and "omg how are you still a virgin" and other stuff. Why is hookup so normalized, and someone being so intricate and careful about themselves is not normal, will forever baffle me.
Reading comments while listening to Jordan Peterson is quite difficult
This is why I am proud to be Straight Edge.
I'VE GOT STRAIGHT EDGE
What does that mean
The first minute where he's talks about how a woman is attracted to masculine men while ovulating was fascinating.
I'm the only woman in my social group of 5 that has never been on the pill. Whereas they have all been on it for at least 3-5 years and they are attracted to less masculine men.
I never thought of the pill affecting who you are attracted too, even though the girls have complained that over the years its lowered their sex drive and caused weight gain.
I think people really underestimate the affect hormones have on your mental well being and behaviours the pill is a really nasty drug with some awful side effects
The effects of the pill on attraction has been majorly disproved in a massive longitudinal study by Ben Jones and Lisa DeBruine (at the University of Glasgow).
So those theories are not backed up!
(That's the only thing I wanted to add!)
Do you know the name of the study?
Nevermind, I think I found it.
Okay, just finished reading it. Good study. Just published last year so Dr. Peterson may not have been aware of it, or this lecture was even before it came out. I found this part interesting; "These full results include a significant negative effect of cortisol on preferences for male facial symmetry".
Well check who fund the study..
@@williamrivers3335 funded by the EU (not by drug companies if that's what you're worried about!) You are welcome to look it up yourself as well of course
Hi baby I want to
This video opened my eyes to some of my own and of my family's issues regarding sex. Perfect timing, thanks
One of the things I am proud of is being Muslim. I’m 27 years old never slept with anyone, because I’m not married yet. And having a relationship with a girl without holding all responsibilities by having her with me or she having me with her doesn’t fit my life. For me, this is not about having sex it’s about attachment and life sharing. And I’m thankful that I did not experience the feel of sleeping with the wrong person, Imagine if they were people not just one person!. God!.
You don't need to be religious to be a virgin or celibate.
Good on you man! While I am not Muslim, the fundamental key to goodness is belief in a higher power and I have deal of respect for many of our Muslim brothers
I honestly think not sleeping around is starting to arise as a counterculture. Sometimes you see attractive people and would think about how many people they might have slept with when in reality it's zero. Too many preconceived notions nowadays
While on the pill I had no desire for sex at all and even trying to go there for the sake of maintaining relationship with my husband was difficult as I couldn’t even get turned on. I also had no idea what was up and that there was a connection to the pill I thought it was because I was tried due to new baby and there was something radically wrong with me. It effected my whole mood too and I only realized the connection when I came off it years later. It’s a horrible drug with lots of side effects for women that they take because they don’t want multiple pregnancies but there is a pay off against just not feeling quite yourself, lack of sex drive , weight gain,
& depression.