First thank you so much for this video. This changed so much for me in one moment! I was reluctant to click on this video because of being triggered so many times to "forcefully" process my traumatic memories, without ever feeling safe. This is the first time I hear someone stressing how much feeling safe in the present moment can help. I believe trauma can get worse if inadequately handled. Sorry for mistakes, English is not my first language. Waiting for your next video about perfectionism! Thank you once again for all that you do, you are saving lives. All the best, Isidora from Bosnia
I remember almost every moment someone made me feel embarrassed in my entire life. I have a lot of flashbacks, a different memory most of the time it's recalling moments I felt embarrassed or rejected and shuved down
@@mr.gaming6277 That happened to me as well, I was 10 years old, we were telling jokes and mine was not as good as others, so the teacher encouraged the whole class to punch my head, it was a horrible experience. Fuck*ng mokeys they were. So in my case, it was not just the laughter.
I absolutely think that "diving into it" has helped speed along the process. The problem I have is the memories are so painful i just start crying in the middle of a work day. I have also been led to gently confront my abuser with whom I am having the traumatic memories from. Thank you for explaining this, I felt that I was going crazy , i am glad I know now that this is "a thing"
Thanks. It is really hard when the ones you love are the ones that hurt you. I don't even know who my dad is anymore, he has two sides, one is good and the other is awful. Absolutely awful...
I'm 64 and have childhood trauma. 😢 I've done E.F.T, EMDR , The Baud. I had a stroke 2 yrs ago,the deeper layers of trauma emerged. I'm still recovering from the stroke . Rose
I've been struggling with PTSD for many years. Your video is giving me wonderful tools to build on, and your explanation makes perfect sense. Thank you so much for making this video!!
I remember in detail when my first anxiety attack happened while married to a narcissist. I just don't know how to stop anxiety. Thank you so much for the video! Blessings!
I'm getting ready to start therapy. It's traumatic when you get the courage up to tell what happened to you, and the police don't believe you. This strengthens the trauma. All of this makes sense to me.
You probably have enough confirmation already, Barbara, but your explanation of how and why trauma memories stay with us is sparklingly clear. Thanks for such great resources.
Thank you so much for letting me know! (It does add a bit more motivation to my day when I get feedback like this!). I wish you health and healing, Barbara
Your descriptions of trauma, its personal impact and various treatments are excellent. I’ve had 3 major traumas in my life. I think I deal with them by numbing myself. At one time, I’d describe myself as “ enthusiastic “. That person is gone. My emotions are blunted now & it is difficult to trust ppl again. A few months ago, I summoned up the courage to make an appointment with a local therapist and left a VM. She never called me back. I need to work through these traumatic experiences in life. I’m a young 70. I want to rediscover joy.
Omg, Barbara... You have no idea how much I thank you for your videos... They are concise, clear.... So important for traumatized minds to find easy to pick information... Thank you 🌷🤗💖💖
I am going to be doing EMDR soon. I have issues going back 40 years, crazy really when i think about it. But let's see if I can find some resolution to this pain.
Best explanation of how traumatic memories are formed I have heard, it really makes sense. It's also made me realize that adults in children's lives have a responsibility to not weaponize their position of authority over kids in their lives because these kids will need to come back to them for help in processing the events that happen to them in their lives through rrframing essentially reprocessing and if the kids can't feel safe around the adults, they have no way of addressing potentially traumatic situations
I unfortunately can't afford trauma therapy. I have trauma, that occurred when I was also still a baby.. So so much. Just explaining all my trauma i know (there is more, sometimes new memories come suddenly) would cost me thousands of €'s because its so much.. And yes I'm also numbing and it brought me to dangerous situations throughout my life.
I am in the same boat. What I have done is looked for resources within my means. I bought a book on healing called “Whole Again” which lead me to getting this DBT workbook. Now that might not be the route you go down because my trauma or experience might differ for yours. But the point is don’t give up on yourself. You don’t deserve to suffer your whole life. Do what you can to heal yourself because at the end of the day you’re the one who needs to. And I’m telling you, you can do it. I’m only a month and a half into my process. And there’s no time line but I have maybe one or two things that I can do now that give me even just minutes of peace. Practice, patience, and unconditional love. You can do this :)
This is another one I need to re watch and take notes. I love how articulate and knowledgeable you are, and your explanations are so helpful. So grateful for your content.
I suffer from CPTSD and Borderline Personality Disorder. I have watched quite a few of your videos today and I appreciate your very thorough explanations. I have subscribed to your channel.
I am recovering from childhood PTSD, 15 years of therapy and continuing, Ive read body keeps the score and peter levines work. Your videos are awesome. I am so excited to try some of your techniques. Thank you for sharing tools on this platform.
Hi Miranda: Thank you so much for your kind words. It is so wonderful that you are accessing so many resources and moving towards healing! Yes, Peter Levine and Van der Kolk's work is excellent. Wishing you all the best!
Wow! You are incredible. I have a girlfriend that is suffering hugely from many traumatic memories. She is struggling to also pay for more EMDR therapy, so I suggested that I would help be her therapist. No, I may not be trained but I’ve been watching your videos and playlist and I’ve got a much better understanding of what she has been going through and what I would I need to do is start with a safe place and help her on a journey to desensitise her from her past and eventually look at it in a more positive way.
Just a fantastically articulated video and motivation to confront my potential avoidance of trauma memories, although it’s been hard to self diagnose never officially been diagnosed and function “well” by typical standards I.e job, exercise , meditation, no unhealthy coping mechanisms no alcohol nothing . But just occasional sleep disturbance etc so thank you very much for this video
Hi Billythekid. Thanks so much for your supportive comments and for letting me know it made a difference to you. Many high functioning people have trauma histories - and I think the question is not just how well someone functions, but how happy they are. Let me know if you have any other questions, or topics you'd like me to address. Someone recently asked me to do a video on PTSD Hyperarousal, which will (when I can get it out!) address the sleep issue, and how both pervasive that is as well as how difficult that is to change.
This is so incredibly helpful! I've been wondering why upsetting events after I went into recovery/therapy no longer caused flashbacks and weren't as upsetting as it was in my younger years. I was able to move away from a black-white sort of thinking. The example of an "upsetting" event vs a traumatic event was illuminating.
Thank you so much! Every video I find is just for coping I really appreciate you going further and talking about the need to dive into the memory to heal I completely agree i will b watching more of your videos!
I’ve only started healing trauma last year. I’ll be 38 this year. My father passed away from a drug overdose when I was 9 and i get flashbacks all the time of the day we found out from the sheriff. I’ve been trying high and low to get EMDR but my current therapist doesn’t see my fathers death as a form of PTSD (since I didn’t witness his death in person), so a trauma yes but not PTSD😢 everyone I know thinks it’s PTSD but I’m unsure and feel a little lost. It has gotten worse over the years..perhaps I buried the pain in my youth or didn’t grieve properly since I was so young. But I find myself reliving that day often and thinking of my father and just cry and feel very depressed
The best video I viewed about trauma as well as others. I'm going to regain my driving self on the freeway. And thank you for reminding me about avoidance. The information in your videos are right on the mark! Especially about medications.
Reprocessing really helps alot with the reframing journey. And the constant, synapses firing off with the trauma needs healing and rest. You are speaking on biopsychology. I also learned exercising not only helps to lower my blood pressure, but so does healthy coping techniques like dealing with trauma. I learned myself avoidance and ignoring my pain, doesn't help make it go away. And so facing it head on, allowed me to desensitize the memory by sitting with it. I realized other people, have their own work to do. And how I have way less problems, trying to save other people's emotions when I needed to deal with my own reactions
These videos are so helpful! I’m not sure if I’ve had experienced real trauma, but I for sure recognize myself in something, and I would say that if I’m using these information you are giving me to heal myself, even if mine is not proper PTSD, there is nothing wrong with that :)
I am so grateful for this acknowledgment. After an extremely traumatic event , a psychiatrist just put a diagnostic label on me and told me ot be on psychotopic medicines for life. No trauma treatment was gven or even mentioned. Even though I questioned the diagnisis and the widom of being munbed out on pills. I was "over ruled by the expert". Anger still comes up sometimes when I a thinking of this.
OMG, its like you've known me all my life.....the cortisol explanation really resonated with me.....I don't feel so ashamed that I have struggled to cognitively make sense of my emotional dysregulation
Thank you so much for letting me how much this meant. The fact that it lowered shame means a lot to me - that is so important!! I wish you health and healing!
My traumatic memories are with me every day. It’s 18 months to two years later, and I am still broken and deeply distressed and despairing at what happened
HELLO GOOD EVENING HERE JUNE 20 ... I studied CBT 6 years ago, - recent incidents allowed the Supreme anger sneak out; required me to refresh what l knew and could not access fast enough from my studies. thank you. I subscribed, because your language is clear and simple Thank you. I was now even able to tear 😢 up, and face the reality lt was not only about me, my anxiety, the friend thing is a great tool, as I empathize for others too often, and do not consider me enough to stay controlled. Love ❤ DONA 🇨🇦 🍁 I am highly sensitive 75 year hoping g to make 85 !
Started EMDR intake meeting today. I stopped dating a decade ago because I would shutdown at the first sign of discontent from partners. Lots of abandonment issues. Someone began pursuing me 9 months ago, and the last two months have been absolutely beautiful... except twice this week I have overreacted about total nothings with this person and I realize now that this trauma has affected every relationship in my life and to myself.
I truly hope the EMDR helps! So much awareness shows through in your comment, I think it is a great sign. And yes, just remember, it is not your fault - and these things do effect so much! All the best, Barbara
What about extreme embarrassment? I have visual memories of embarrassment from many years ago that still make me physically cringe. I have always had social anxiety but these memories are the worst.
@@KingLeonidas_300 It varies. If my mind is on my problems a lot then it's every few days. When things are going relatively well I might not think of them for weeks (a month or so). I'm inconsistent, sometimes I can almost convince myself that there's nothing fundamentally wrong with me, then it all comes back with severe lack of self confidence. Then my mind wanders and crappy memories come back. I feel like I'm an evolutionary dead end, a non-starter, failed experiment.
Thank you so much for sharing such valuable information. I think you are right about needing help in diving in memories to get over them, it can be really challenging to do so alone.
Hello. I would just like to say the explanation of traumatic memories, where they are located in our brain, and how it compares to other parts of the brain was very helpful. Thank you so much:-))
How do I get over this extremely intense fear of choking after it happened 1.5 years ago while driving (truck driver)? I've been in a constant state of intense survival and frequent panic attacks since it happened. It's debilitated me so much that my work performance has been minimal and can't afford therapy, even through insurance. Every single day since then has been about overthinking, overanalyzing, and hyper-focused on swallowing. I've realized over intellectualizing it and trying to constantly think the right way about it doesn't work, but every day it's this crazy fight with my body and mind, and has even gotten to the point of fighting with and fearing the reactions and thoughts themselves. I started to perform better at work and push through better, but thoughts that it wasn't legit progress would come up, I would literally overthink and fight with those thoughts, and I was out of with 1 week then I feel like it reset me back to day 1 of the event happening. I even overthink and get in mind battles just trying to remind myself not to avoid and resist it but even that becomes another issue. As crazy as it sounds, this has literally ruined my whole life and put a pause on EVERYTHING so far with no end in site. I went from being able to drive over every mountain in America and long distances with confidence ave relaxed, to getting vertigo and panicky just driving up a small hill or bridge and can't even drink water or eat a snack while driving any more because of this, but I'm stuck because I don't have anywhere to live if I'm out of the job. How the heck do I resolve this, and any others have a similar story and that over came it? I've only made it to the first reprocessing session of emdr, back account overdrawn, but stopped being able to afford it and have missed sessions over a month now since then. Even just the loss of progress reinforces it more, and that of itself becomes a new fear/trauma. Help! 😬😥
Yes I agree I’m 76yo lots of trauma since childhood Both parents died when I was a child Raised by a pedophile Never came to terms with all this That is why I’m trying to listen to all your videos So happy that I found you
I’ve worked with my therapist before with emdr to help with social anxiety from past pain and it worked well, but a month ago I went through a very traumatic event with one of my pets attacking me. We’ve tried emdr now but it’s not really helping and I have a tendency to numb out during and after the session. Your explanation of how you need to move between the safe space and the traumatic memory makes sense, but I can’t find a safe place. The attack happened in my home (that I had just moved into three weeks before!) so even the shower or my bed doesn’t feel safe. That is to say, the typical suggestions for relaxation (hot bath, meditation, etc) don’t feel safe and places I’d normally think of (a park on a sunny day for example) don’t feel safe. Really, the world doesn’t feel safe. It seems like negative, intrusive thoughts appear no matter where I try to picture as a safe place. I’m sure this is what is hindering the emdr this time. I’m going to try your mini series, but is there anything else you’d recommend I do?
I am SO sorry that happened to you. How terrifying. I do think EMDR can help with that eventually, but for now it sounds like as physiological relaxation as much as possible is the key. Working on accessing a feeling of safety in the moment in your home as much as you can. It will probably take time. Hopefully the mini series helps. I also did this video live: ua-cam.com/video/gdnTCfiS-jo/v-deo.html - which utilizes a safe place from your past...
Great video! I love that you talk about physiological safety and shared books we can read to learn more about this topic! Subscribed :) Can't wait for the next vidddd!
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Hi everyone: Thanks for watching! Please do let me know what you think!
Are you providing online counseling sessions
@@Egyglory Hi: Yes, I do online video counseling. You can find more information here: www.mindfulpsychotherapyllc.com/client-portal
Hi Barbara. Thank you for the short but useful video. It touched my feelings and I am going to seriously continue listening your next videos.
The audio of these early videos is pretty quiet, it's hard to hear you even at full volume on my phone. Thank you for the video!
First thank you so much for this video. This changed so much for me in one moment!
I was reluctant to click on this video because of being triggered so many times to "forcefully" process my traumatic memories, without ever feeling safe. This is the first time I hear someone stressing how much feeling safe in the present moment can help.
I believe trauma can get worse if inadequately handled.
Sorry for mistakes, English is not my first language. Waiting for your next video about perfectionism!
Thank you once again for all that you do, you are saving lives.
All the best,
Isidora from Bosnia
I remember almost every moment someone made me feel embarrassed in my entire life. I have a lot of flashbacks, a different memory most of the time it's recalling moments I felt embarrassed or rejected and shuved down
EMDR might be helpful for that. Healing is possible :)
Omg yes....😓
@@mr.gaming6277 That happened to me as well, I was 10 years old, we were telling jokes and mine was not as good as others, so the teacher encouraged the whole class to punch my head, it was a horrible experience. Fuck*ng mokeys they were. So in my case, it was not just the laughter.
Same here
@@hector_romero wtf, sorry you went through this. what kind of teacher does that?
I absolutely think that "diving into it" has helped speed along the process. The problem I have is the memories are so painful i just start crying in the middle of a work day. I have also been led to gently confront my abuser with whom I am having the traumatic memories from. Thank you for explaining this, I felt that I was going crazy , i am glad I know now that this is "a thing"
I appreciate this information. I am currently processing trauma and becoming aware. This makes sense.
So pleased it is helpful!
Thanks. It is really hard when the ones you love are the ones that hurt you. I don't even know who my dad is anymore, he has two sides, one is good and the other is awful. Absolutely awful...
I'm 64 and have childhood trauma. 😢
I've done E.F.T, EMDR , The Baud. I had a stroke 2 yrs ago,the deeper layers of trauma emerged. I'm still recovering from the stroke .
Rose
I love how you breakdown the SCIENCE of this in such a simple to understand way! Reprocessing the event. Brilliant!
So pleased you liked that part of it! Sometimes it helps to know why we are the way we are :)
I've been struggling with PTSD for many years. Your video is giving me wonderful tools to build on, and your explanation makes perfect sense. Thank you so much for making this video!!
I remember in detail when my first anxiety attack happened while married to a narcissist. I just don't know how to stop anxiety. Thank you so much for the video! Blessings!
This makes perfect sense of why I only have flashes of memories of my childhood until about 6 years ago.
I'm getting ready to start therapy. It's traumatic when you get the courage up to tell what happened to you, and the police don't believe you. This strengthens the trauma. All of this makes sense to me.
You probably have enough confirmation already, Barbara, but your explanation of how and why trauma memories stay with us is sparklingly clear. Thanks for such great resources.
Thank you so much for letting me know! (It does add a bit more motivation to my day when I get feedback like this!). I wish you health and healing, Barbara
Your descriptions of trauma, its personal impact and various treatments are excellent. I’ve had 3 major traumas in my life. I think I deal with them by numbing myself. At one time, I’d describe myself as “ enthusiastic “. That person is gone. My emotions are blunted now & it is difficult to trust ppl again. A few months ago, I summoned up the courage to make an appointment with a local therapist and left a VM. She never called me back. I need to work through these traumatic experiences in life. I’m a young 70. I want to rediscover joy.
I feel the same Susan. I am 62. It’s overwhelming and debilitating. If you ever want to talk. DM me. ❤️❤️
Omg, Barbara... You have no idea how much I thank you for your videos... They are concise, clear.... So important for traumatized minds to find easy to pick information... Thank you 🌷🤗💖💖
You are so welcome 🙏
Actually that s the most explicit and amazing analysis of what happens in trauma processing. Thank you so much Barbara Heffernan!
You are welcome and thanks for the positive feedback!!
I am going to be doing EMDR soon. I have issues going back 40 years, crazy really when i think about it. But let's see if I can find some resolution to this pain.
It's like you are the only one who understand how I am feeling. I need this.
Best explanation of how traumatic memories are formed I have heard, it really makes sense. It's also made me realize that adults in children's lives have a responsibility to not weaponize their position of authority over kids in their lives because these kids will need to come back to them for help in processing the events that happen to them in their lives through rrframing essentially reprocessing and if the kids can't feel safe around the adults, they have no way of addressing potentially traumatic situations
Totally agree!
I unfortunately can't afford trauma therapy. I have trauma, that occurred when I was also still a baby.. So so much. Just explaining all my trauma i know (there is more, sometimes new memories come suddenly) would cost me thousands of €'s because its so much.. And yes I'm also numbing and it brought me to dangerous situations throughout my life.
I am in the same boat.
What I have done is looked for resources within my means. I bought a book on healing called “Whole Again” which lead me to getting this DBT workbook. Now that might not be the route you go down because my trauma or experience might differ for yours. But the point is don’t give up on yourself. You don’t deserve to suffer your whole life. Do what you can to heal yourself because at the end of the day you’re the one who needs to. And I’m telling you, you can do it. I’m only a month and a half into my process. And there’s no time line but I have maybe one or two things that I can do now that give me even just minutes of peace. Practice, patience, and unconditional love. You can do this :)
Best explanation I’ve ever heard. TY!!!
This is another one I need to re watch and take notes. I love how articulate and knowledgeable you are, and your explanations are so helpful. So grateful for your content.
Thank you for letting me know :)
You are a very blessed person. Thank you very much for dedicating your life to help people live without traumas.
Thank you, Lucas!
As a CBT trauma therapist myself - thank you
Hi do you have an email? So desperate right now
This was so satisfying to watch - you've just put it in such a simple way to understand! You're a great teacher - Thank you!
You're very welcome! And thank you for letting me know :)
I suffer from CPTSD and Borderline Personality Disorder. I have watched quite a few of your videos today and I appreciate your very thorough explanations. I have subscribed to your channel.
Welcome to the channel! I hope my videos are helpful to you. Wishing you health and healing.
Being overwhelmed, yes I understand that
I am recovering from childhood PTSD, 15 years of therapy and continuing, Ive read body keeps the score and peter levines work. Your videos are awesome. I am so excited to try some of your techniques. Thank you for sharing tools on this platform.
Hi Miranda: Thank you so much for your kind words. It is so wonderful that you are accessing so many resources and moving towards healing! Yes, Peter Levine and Van der Kolk's work is excellent. Wishing you all the best!
I am just reading them now too :) Wishing you all the strength and healing you need!
Wow! You are incredible. I have a girlfriend that is suffering hugely from many traumatic memories. She is struggling to also pay for more EMDR therapy, so I suggested that I would help be her therapist. No, I may not be trained but I’ve been watching your videos and playlist and I’ve got a much better understanding of what she has been going through and what I would I need to do is start with a safe place and help her on a journey to desensitise her from her past and eventually look at it in a more positive way.
Thanks! This is the first video about getting over trauma that i actually find useful!
Thank you for letting me know! I am pleased it was helpful for you.
Yes, all you words made a lot of sense. Thank you for bringing this video.
Everything's spot on and what struck me the most is number 3. Thank you sooo much!
This is an awesome video! Hopefully it helps my family members understand why therapy is hard work!
Just a fantastically articulated video and motivation to confront my potential avoidance of trauma memories, although it’s been hard to self diagnose never officially been diagnosed and function “well” by typical standards I.e job, exercise , meditation, no unhealthy coping mechanisms no alcohol nothing . But just occasional sleep disturbance etc so thank you very much for this video
Hi Billythekid. Thanks so much for your supportive comments and for letting me know it made a difference to you. Many high functioning people have trauma histories - and I think the question is not just how well someone functions, but how happy they are. Let me know if you have any other questions, or topics you'd like me to address. Someone recently asked me to do a video on PTSD Hyperarousal, which will (when I can get it out!) address the sleep issue, and how both pervasive that is as well as how difficult that is to change.
This is so incredibly helpful! I've been wondering why upsetting events after I went into recovery/therapy no longer caused flashbacks and weren't as upsetting as it was in my younger years. I was able to move away from a black-white sort of thinking. The example of an "upsetting" event vs a traumatic event was illuminating.
Thank you so much! Every video I find is just for coping I really appreciate you going further and talking about the need to dive into the memory to heal I completely agree i will b watching more of your videos!
Hi Maggie: You so so welcome! And thank you for articulating how my videos dffer - that is very helpful to hear!
I’ve only started healing trauma last year. I’ll be 38 this year. My father passed away from a drug overdose when I was 9 and i get flashbacks all the time of the day we found out from the sheriff. I’ve been trying high and low to get EMDR but my current therapist doesn’t see my fathers death as a form of PTSD (since I didn’t witness his death in person), so a trauma yes but not PTSD😢 everyone I know thinks it’s PTSD but I’m unsure and feel a little lost. It has gotten worse over the years..perhaps I buried the pain in my youth or didn’t grieve properly since I was so young. But I find myself reliving that day often and thinking of my father and just cry and feel very depressed
The best video I viewed about trauma as well as others. I'm going to regain my driving self on the freeway. And thank you for reminding me about avoidance.
The information in your videos are right on the mark! Especially about medications.
So glad to hear the videos are resonating with you and helping!! I wish you all the best!
Reprocessing really helps alot with the reframing journey. And the constant, synapses firing off with the trauma needs healing and rest. You are speaking on biopsychology. I also learned exercising not only helps to lower my blood pressure, but so does healthy coping techniques like dealing with trauma. I learned myself avoidance and ignoring my pain, doesn't help make it go away. And so facing it head on, allowed me to desensitize the memory by sitting with it. I realized other people, have their own work to do. And how I have way less problems, trying to save other people's emotions when I needed to deal with my own reactions
Gosh, this video helps me understand more about my traumas than all the therapy I've been doing until now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥️
You are very welcome. I truly hope it helps with healing... all the best, Barbara
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Thank you this video is very helpful I was just hit by a car and can’t get the memory out of my head and this helped thank you
I'm so glad it helped. I wish you health and healing.
Tromatic memory makes so much sense to me
This an an AMAZING video. Incredibly well explained.
Thank you. So pleased you found it helpful!
These videos are so helpful! I’m not sure if I’ve had experienced real trauma, but I for sure recognize myself in something, and I would say that if I’m using these information you are giving me to heal myself, even if mine is not proper PTSD, there is nothing wrong with that :)
I'm so pleased the videos are helpful, and yes! These tools can be useful for many people!
Thanks for reminding me of some amazing resources and books regarding trauma! It's clear that you have a lot of experience!
I'm so glad even experienced healers like you can find my videos helpful!
the explanation of traumatic memory is the best one that I have learnt. It helps me. Thank you!
So glad to hear that and I truly appreciate the feedback!
I am so grateful for this acknowledgment. After an extremely traumatic event , a psychiatrist just put a diagnostic label on me and told me ot be on psychotopic medicines for life. No trauma treatment was gven or even mentioned. Even though I questioned the diagnisis and the widom of being munbed out on pills. I was "over ruled by the expert". Anger still comes up sometimes when I a thinking of this.
I'm so sorry to hear this.... I hope you might be willing to trust that you can find someone compassionate and knowledgeable.
OMG, its like you've known me all my life.....the cortisol explanation really resonated with me.....I don't feel so ashamed that I have struggled to cognitively make sense of my emotional dysregulation
Thank you so much for letting me how much this meant. The fact that it lowered shame means a lot to me - that is so important!! I wish you health and healing!
Makes perfect sense. God bless you.
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Thank you so much - what a wonderfully clarifying video.
You are so welcome!
My traumatic memories are with me every day. It’s 18 months to two years later, and I am still broken and deeply distressed and despairing at what happened
So grateful to have found your series of videos. Thank you for sharing this work, Doc.
You are very welcome! Thanks for letting me know.
You made that explanation so crystal clear, i understand it now. Thank you so much 🙏
I'm so glad! And thank you for letting me know. I appreciate it!
HELLO GOOD EVENING HERE JUNE 20 ... I studied CBT 6 years ago, - recent incidents allowed the Supreme anger sneak out; required me to refresh what l knew and could not access fast enough from my studies. thank you. I subscribed, because your language is clear and simple Thank you. I was now even able to tear 😢 up, and face the reality lt was not only about me, my anxiety, the friend thing is a great tool, as I empathize for others too often, and do not consider me enough to stay controlled. Love ❤
DONA 🇨🇦 🍁
I am highly sensitive 75 year hoping g to make 85 !
I am so pleased you are finding this helpful! I truly wish you health and healing and peace!
Thank you for the video. You have a great way of explaining how trauma works. I wish I could have you for my therapist.
Thank you so much. This was so informative.
Started EMDR intake meeting today. I stopped dating a decade ago because I would shutdown at the first sign of discontent from partners. Lots of abandonment issues. Someone began pursuing me 9 months ago, and the last two months have been absolutely beautiful... except twice this week I have overreacted about total nothings with this person and I realize now that this trauma has affected every relationship in my life and to myself.
I truly hope the EMDR helps! So much awareness shows through in your comment, I think it is a great sign. And yes, just remember, it is not your fault - and these things do effect so much! All the best, Barbara
This video made perfect sense, thank you so much for posting it.
You're very welcome! So glad this was helpful.
I am very grateful for your ,immensely helpful information. It's really helped me a lot.
Hi Moses: Thanks for letting me know. I am very happy to hear it is helpful to you!
What about extreme embarrassment? I have visual memories of embarrassment from many years ago that still make me physically cringe. I have always had social anxiety but these memories are the worst.
Same here. How often do those memories enter your mind?
@@KingLeonidas_300 It varies. If my mind is on my problems a lot then it's every few days. When things are going relatively well I might not think of them for weeks (a month or so).
I'm inconsistent, sometimes I can almost convince myself that there's nothing fundamentally wrong with me, then it all comes back with severe lack of self confidence. Then my mind wanders and crappy memories come back.
I feel like I'm an evolutionary dead end, a non-starter, failed experiment.
great explanation
Another fantastic explanation!! Fellow LCSW trauma therapist here.
Thanks! And how wonderful you are doing this work!!
Fabulous explanation!
Glad you think so!
Thank you so much for sharing such valuable information. I think you are right about needing help in diving in memories to get over them, it can be really challenging to do so alone.
Yes. It definitely helps to have support while doing this work. Wishing you all the best!
Brilliant explanation
Thank you!!
Is a super helpful description thank you so much
You are very welcome. I’m glad it helped!
Great explanation!
Thank you so much for the great explanation , you are amazing :)
Thanks for this video!
You are very welcome! I hope it is helpful!
Wow my husband josh it's to long a story but God bless you and your family xxx your an angel 😇
❤ Wishing you the best!
Thankyou ma'am for sharing this important information 🙏
My pleasure 😊
Such a great video! Thank you so much! Very informative and helpful. ❤️
That made sense to me.
Terrific. I hope it is helpful.
Thank you.
Your explanation was really good! Great new video :)
Thank you Caleb!
Light bulb just went off in my head. Thank YOU!
Hurray!!
Hello. I would just like to say the explanation of traumatic memories, where they are located in our brain, and how it compares to other parts of the brain was very helpful. Thank you so much:-))
You are so welcome!
Yes great explanation thanks Barbara
Very exhaustive explanation, thank you.
You are welcome! Hopefully it wasn't exhausting! :)
Excellent video. Very helpful. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Learned a lot from this video! Subscribed.
Thanks Jane!
These videos are awesome. You are helping so much
I'm so pleased to hear that!
I would love you to make a video about how to reach memories in Emdr. The ones you can’t reach in reality.
That makes sense!
Great!
nice video, thanks!
You’re welcome! 😀
Thank you this working out for me
Thank you! 💫 Amazing explanation 👏
How do I get over this extremely intense fear of choking after it happened 1.5 years ago while driving (truck driver)?
I've been in a constant state of intense survival and frequent panic attacks since it happened. It's debilitated me so much that my work performance has been minimal and can't afford therapy, even through insurance.
Every single day since then has been about overthinking, overanalyzing, and hyper-focused on swallowing. I've realized over intellectualizing it and trying to constantly think the right way about it doesn't work, but every day it's this crazy fight with my body and mind, and has even gotten to the point of fighting with and fearing the reactions and thoughts themselves.
I started to perform better at work and push through better, but thoughts that it wasn't legit progress would come up, I would literally overthink and fight with those thoughts, and I was out of with 1 week then I feel like it reset me back to day 1 of the event happening.
I even overthink and get in mind battles just trying to remind myself not to avoid and resist it but even that becomes another issue.
As crazy as it sounds, this has literally ruined my whole life and put a pause on EVERYTHING so far with no end in site. I went from being able to drive over every mountain in America and long distances with confidence ave relaxed, to getting vertigo and panicky just driving up a small hill or bridge and can't even drink water or eat a snack while driving any more because of this, but I'm stuck because I don't have anywhere to live if I'm out of the job. How the heck do I resolve this, and any others have a similar story and that over came it? I've only made it to the first reprocessing session of emdr, back account overdrawn, but stopped being able to afford it and have missed sessions over a month now since then.
Even just the loss of progress reinforces it more, and that of itself becomes a new fear/trauma. Help! 😬😥
Thank you so much! Your videos are very clear even if the subjects are complex.
Hi Stefania: Thank you for letting me know! It is very helpful to me :). and you are very welcome!
May God bless you
This is all true Barbara
I have a all seen and that I am now looking for videos were I can find solutions to my problems
So pleased this was helpful. Wishing you health and healing...
That was an amazing explanation
So glad it was helpful!
i just went through a school shooting 2 days ago, trying to come back to reality has been difficult.
such an important topic! Thanks so much for sharing!
Thank you Jessica!
Terrific!
I hope this was helpful!
Yes I agree I’m 76yo lots of trauma since childhood Both parents died when I was a child Raised by a pedophile Never came to terms with all this That is why I’m trying to listen to all your videos So happy that I found you
Nice explication
THANK YOU!! I had a horrible ex-friend who faked suicide and told me to die in their note. It happened awhile ago, but still sucks.
I'm sorry to hear this - that is horrible.
Love this.
So pleased!
I’ve worked with my therapist before with emdr to help with social anxiety from past pain and it worked well, but a month ago I went through a very traumatic event with one of my pets attacking me. We’ve tried emdr now but it’s not really helping and I have a tendency to numb out during and after the session. Your explanation of how you need to move between the safe space and the traumatic memory makes sense, but I can’t find a safe place. The attack happened in my home (that I had just moved into three weeks before!) so even the shower or my bed doesn’t feel safe. That is to say, the typical suggestions for relaxation (hot bath, meditation, etc) don’t feel safe and places I’d normally think of (a park on a sunny day for example) don’t feel safe. Really, the world doesn’t feel safe. It seems like negative, intrusive thoughts appear no matter where I try to picture as a safe place. I’m sure this is what is hindering the emdr this time. I’m going to try your mini series, but is there anything else you’d recommend I do?
I am SO sorry that happened to you. How terrifying. I do think EMDR can help with that eventually, but for now it sounds like as physiological relaxation as much as possible is the key. Working on accessing a feeling of safety in the moment in your home as much as you can. It will probably take time. Hopefully the mini series helps. I also did this video live: ua-cam.com/video/gdnTCfiS-jo/v-deo.html - which utilizes a safe place from your past...
Barbara Heffernan thank you so much. I will give both a try!
Great video! I love that you talk about physiological safety and shared books we can read to learn more about this topic! Subscribed :) Can't wait for the next vidddd!
Thanks! It should be coming out today 😮