2. How Your Anxiety Starts Forming Patterns That Don't Exist!
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- Do you know what anxiety pattern you tend to exhibit? Are you a worrying type? Catastrophising? Or ruminating? In this episode, I discuss how your anxious mind tends to form patterns and how those patterns inform your decision-making.
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What's helped me rumination a lot has been journaling more. Simple writing the thoughts on paper and throwing them out, just to let it all go. I also like using mindfulness books like "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels for meditation exercises.
Exactly!! I am a HEAVY ruminating type, but back then when I discovered I suffered from GD I eventually ended up journaling, and oh my if it has helped me, it always take my out of the anxiety loop.
Me too, I have a ruminating anxiety type. Always trying to find the perfect solution that doesn't exist
This was extremely helpful to me. I have experienced all three patterns but especially
catastrophizing and ruminating but I didn't know how to put them into words. Thanks so much for helping me understand!!!
I only recently learned that I have anxiety at all...
Turns out my "extraoridinary vivid imagination that 'really sucks sometimes'", is a catastrophising anxiety.
The biggest challenge I have with it is, even in hindsight, everything it manifests holds up to any logical scrutiny I can throw at it. 😢
It's all so grounded, so down to earth, it's horrifying.
If you've seen and recognize my comments it wouldn't be surprising that I deal with lots of anxiety. Your tip from a video recently on trusting your gut has helped me considerably.
🤔 Well, if I were to pick one of the three types you mentioned, I would probably say I'm a type 3 ruminating type. my job is all about problem solving, and using the logical mind, to solve problems as well as design out future problems. so, I am almost encouraged to ruminate, to spend time in my head questioning everything.
but, I have noticed lately that my head space also turns to the dark side! ⚠️ a very hard topic will be mentioned beyond this point!
This stems from the moment I realised I was transgender. suppressing and denying that I was transgender for years, lead to it eventually blowing up in my face. it was such a huge explosion of repressed memories and emotions, that took me to my mental limit. and there was a point when I felt the best way forward was to end my life!
now being the problem solver I am, my brain devoted some processing power to this task, and eventually presented a solution. I took that solution and thought "that's great, but let's stick a pin in it for now, shall we!" But, on the day I realised I was transgender, I reached my limit and so my brain took this solution and turned it from a sound solution to let's implement this plan! so I thought, good idea - let's implement!
I was fully committed to this plan, and the only reason I am now able to write this comment, is because my aunt called me to say she has just been told and she is supportive. we had the first of many long chats, and I started to step back from the brink. just having that one person who believes in you, is enough to keep you going.
but, after surviving, a toxic working environment, only to discover my brother would have preferred it if I had taken my own life. My father too, is in a similar camp. My partner(now ex!), adding to the stress, by making sure home life was just as toxic as work was - which combinated in her becoming physically violent towards me. I was therefore told to leave and have spent the last few months settling up a new home for myself. the early days of my transition have been pretty hectic, stressful and bad!
But throughout all that, and while sitting all alone, I sometimes start to feel low, darkness starts to cloud the mind, and I have found myself ruminating over if I made the right decision not to go through with the plan. the darkness is still there and it can be very difficult not to dwell on it, especially when I am all alone.
but, the better parts of my head knows how positive embracing my true self has been. throughout all that above-mentioned bullshit, I never felt that I was doing the wrong thing, by being my true self. I love being the real me, I am more engaged with the person I see looking back at me in the mirror. she is amazing and I can't wait to move on from just social transition to medical. transition is the best way forward for me, I know that, but I'm in need of some me time. to reflect on my past year and a bit, and once again, pick up the pieces of my life and start putting them together again - hopefully this time, it will be the firm footing I am looking for!
Thank you Goddess
For anyone worrying about HRT and waking up with sudden changes, it doesn't work that way. It's a very gradual, long term process, and the changes are typically less pronounced than they would be during puberty from natal hormones. My biggest anxiety is quite the opposite, that absolutely nothing will happen, and I'll be stuck.
For me my anxiety has gone done but still persists, on bad days I freak out about how my life will change. But what many of us find is that you have two choices: Stop / pause HRT or continue. And stopping ends up feeling scarier than anything, especially if you've had changes already. I just cant go back to looking like a man no matter how anxious and scared I am.
Thank you again , I need to reflect and listen to this again a couple of times . I have major anxiety disorder . Thank you .JW 💜❤️💜🐾🐕💃🌈
I'm glad you posted it here ❤
Unrelated to this but thought quicker to comment - on your new quiz (and thanks for doing it!) the options only give Always, Sometimes or Never. I almost always want to select Often but it’s not an option. It’s the same with almost every other quiz. Think it would make more accurate and helpful. Thanks
Looking forward to this..
Great insight. Again thank you for your valuable content.
I seem to be a combination of all three trifecta of crazy
Hello Dr. I have 2 questions..i'm begining to take estradiol to feel and look a little more femenine but i'm not ready to transition bc of social pressure...what dosage would you recommend? (I started with 3mg) and will everything go back to normal if i feel too much change and stop taking it?
This is off topic. You previous had a video on FFS, Don't expect changes. How do you explain this Just the way I feel inside I can go from a person that is a dangerous hit man to looking like a pretty woman (average looking) ? I can drastically change my appearance without any surgeries just the way I think. When I hate myself extremely, I am totally misgendered, treated disrespectfully more like non human). But when I am more softer, love life very little, less depress I am never misgendered. Please explain this to me on your next video.
can't sleep take Progesterone at night before sleep. besides helping my breasts, it also helps me sleep
Hey DR z I explored as you advised me , and I felt more dysphoric , what that means ?! I have tried some elements of feminizing myself and I felt dysphoric and guilty and confused 😢
Just started listening to your podcasts. I have always watched your youyube videos
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