I used to work with HIV patients. There was a patient I remember who contracted HIV in Thailand and point blank refused to tell his wife. This was despite doctors telling him that if the wife became sick and died, he would be facing serious criminal charges.
As a nurse ive had so many patients from Asia talk about the hepatitis epidemic there as well. Always get tested in the beginning of a relationship and if your partner not willing to get tested may be hiding something. I hope this man will find healing and peace of mind.
When I applied for a green card, I need to provide a document to prove that I am free from all the transfered diseases. I forgot what is that form call.
@@SwethaG-tu8qg TB is respiratory spreads through droplets in air from people coughing laughing singing etc. Although once I had a patient from Africa that had TB inside his knee and we were treating a wound. First I ever heard of that.
This is exactly why with any relationship you get serious about, always go with them to the doctor and do a full STD panel. It costs almost nothing and then you both have piece of mind. People will spend enormous amounts of money on a relationship and then not even do the most basic bit of healthcare. Boggles the mind.
@@graerindley6312 Obviously. You’re welcome to play a dozen games of Russian roulette if you wish. I won’t stop you. Go right ahead. Be my guest. I’m not in a relationship with you.
My husband secretly traveled to foreign countries and he was cheating when he was supposed to be traveling for work. Once i found out i never shared a bed with him again. I divorced him and have lost all trust in men. I praise God daily that i never contracted anything from my ex Please always be honest with the people you claim to love. Im praying for everyone who has been hurt by their spouses and hope your lives will be blessed. 🙏🏾❤
I had to go throught the same thing except that I was pregnant when he did that. I am happily divorced now. Cant blame the prostitutes, they are just working...
As an Asian woman this is my advise: most of these foreigners have been in too many countries and most are into different women too so be very careful in dealing with them. If you happen to have a relationship with them, take extra precautions by not dealing with unprotected sex or better yet submit to a test..your health is the most important. Dont just get in bed with them. A momentary flirtations could cause you your life...in the same manner than men should do the same. If a woman in just firrst meeting or 2 get in bed with you, you know then what she does or did with other men..i think i would sound judgmental with this statement but please take this as just a word of caution
What about the Asian women?! You must be angels, aren't you?! Even a bellend assumes silence when required! Supposedly, everything is wrong with you!😅😂
negative now, it just means it is not at a detectable level OR he has the delta 32 mutation in his dna, which is extremely rare, about 1% of people have this mutation, it is the same mutation that protects against the plague. either way, he has a lifetime of hiv tests to look forward to as a precaution.
Sad story, but for many thai "working women" , a true story.I also had known a beautiful thai woman (she passed away from aids at age 38. Her name was Kaya. Her story was this: Kaya started working in Nana Go go dance bars from age 17- 25.. Got too old for the bars at age 25, had stashed away some substantial money, so decided to go to school and earned a business degree in just 3 years from bangkok university. But heres where the trouble starts : she had a nice job at a company doing their marketing for a decent salary but Kaya wanted more $.. So at age 32, she went back to into prostitution and became a freelancer only on the weekends. And her regular job never knew the wiser.. She had her own website and was very discrete. But somewhere between age 34-36 she contracted Aids from a client, as she had a policy that if the client paid substantially more money, he wouldnt have to use a condom..I met Kaya just 2 1/2 years before she passed away at my GF's house and the ONLY reason she shared her life story with me is because she knew her health was in major decline and had already been diagnosed by the hospital...One of her best friend is also my thai girlfriend.She looked very sick and frail having no energy and she figured she had nothing to hide so she sat there for an hour and told me her story in broken english...Let this be a lesson to all western guys: Yes , thai women are drop dead georgeous at age 35... but what did she do for work to make all that $$$??... ask yourself that question and get her tested, before you decide not to use the condom.
He Was Chasing After Women With Money And Be Reckless. If You Listen To Him, He Got A Settlement From His First Marriage Before Going To Thailand. He Is Going Back To Thailand To Look For Another Rich Call Girl's.
Yeah even here in the Netherlands a prostitute who had a whole family said she'd not use a condom for extra money and if he seemed trustworthy. The very definition of a guy who goes to prostitutes and likes not using a condom makes them untrustworthy. And that woman had zero reason to do that for the money. She could end up infecting her husband and she had young kids to care for. You can imagine young poor women have very little choice when it comes to condom use at work but some women make terrible choices by themselves.
I worked on an AIDS floor in a hospital for 7 years in the 80's (as an RN). My question for this obviously devastated man is: How could you not tell she had AIDS? They become tremendously ill with many different diseases at the same time. The muscle wasting alone should have been a red flag months before her death. BTW it is difficult but not impossible for a woman to give a man AIDS. It depend a lot on the type of unprotected sex one has.
A lot of people don't have medical knowledge and experience with people who are chronically ill. Also aisian women tend to be slimmer and more petite than US women so maybe he thought she was naturally frail.
It’s not always obvious. We had a live-in maid who never disclosed her condition. We just thought she was naturally lean. Then one day she had a seizure and that’s how we found out. All that time she knew she had it and never disclosed it. I was a teen and shared outfits with her occasionally despite my parents apprehensions. I was non-the-wiser. She died exactly a year after we found out. She looked terrible. It was a very sad sight and experience that never fades from memory. The feeling of betrayal is also there, but love and forgiveness trumps it all because I understand why she didn’t disclose it-she needed money to take care of her parents 😢
They're a relatively wealthy couple, but she didn't take ARVs for 8 years and ended up with AIDS, and yet he didn't catch it... something's not computing for me in this story.
Because usually its harder for male to get it from the positive woman than the female getting it from the positive man. It DOES happen both ways, its risky in both ways, but females are more likely go get infested than the straight males.
I watched my beautful Thai friend Piyai die from aids,his wife gave it to him and he was married and did not know..She was a carrier but was never affected.. It hurts still ..God bless him
I work as interpreter for a number of years in the infectious diseases department in a hospital in Dublin. I’ve assisted closely hundreds of HIV cases and what I’ve learned is that once the patient has his med shots update he/she cannot pass on anything because the virus becomes undetectable. So Gary was correct his wife was taking good care of herself in order to not pass on the virus and she succeeded.
An undetectable level of HIV in the blood does NOT mean that there are no viruses in the body. Anyone who is HIV positive can potentially transmit the disease to someone else. People vary in their ability to contract an HIV infection from an HIV+ person. The probability of transmission also increases with the number of contacts, time period of contacts, and viral load of the HIV+ person at each contact, type of sexual activity and other factors.
@@Lua658Exactly. The meds that cause the viral load to drop to undetectable levels also prevent the disease from progressing to AIDS. She was NOT taking her meds properly.
My heart breaks for his loss. I am also frustrated at how her isolation probably cost her the chance to get the medical care she needed. Looking back, there were already very good treatments that were available for people with AIDS.
This is heartbreaking to watch. I feel so sorry for this man, you can tell his pain goes so deep.... And big respect and thanks to him for sharing this story with the world. I'm happy he did not catch it himself. But what a terrible thing to have to go through, losing his wife like that... Just unbelievable. I wish him all the best for the future. And thanks for bringing us his story, Pete.
As an Asian woman, particularly a Filipina..These concerns me a lot as the disease continues to rise in my country..mostly affected are the younger generations since they become more curious and adventurous when engaging to any sexual relationships and some because of poverty..they tend to work as sex workers at an early age because that’s the only thing they could do to sustain themselves and to survive..😔though the government has addressed this health issue so many times, to educate, to promote awareness and to provide necessary medical interventions or treatment, this still not enough to keep it on a slow pace any time soon..So i guess prevention is still better than cure..
She either knowingly put him at risk or she cheated on him. Since he is healthy and she is gone, he is smart for not wasting his time being angry about it. Remember the good times, learn what you can, and move forward. Cheers mate.
Sorry for your loss Gary. Myself and my mate used to go to Thailand a lot and had two regular girlfriends my mate became unwell about 14 years ago due to the fact he had caught HIV, he contacted the Thai girlfriend who he had finished with a couple of years before and she had the test and was also HIV positive.Ever time I visited Thailand me and the wife would meet up with his ex girlfriend as she was a friend of mine and the wife.5 years ago we celebrated new years eve together and we returned home a few days later.6 weeks later we got the call that she had died of Hiv. The girl had been in a long term relationship with a older falang for about 8 years and like Garry I dont believe he new and still doesn't to this day.
You might want to tell him about it so that he can take ARVs and other necessary medication if he needs to, to boost his immunity and to prolong his life.
She was a friend that didn’t tell your mate or the new guy she had hiv? Knowingly handing out death sentences to men? Sorry but that’s not what I’d call a friend. It’s frightening.
How irresponsible, negligent and ignorant is, not to tell your partner that you have AIDS!!! sure she knew it. The fact that AIDS wasnt detected in blood tests, it doesnt mean that there is no risk of developing the illness. I dont understand these relationships with Thai women, zero communication, sexually transmitted diseases, drugs, affairs, infected lovers, no real intimacy, everything is allowed except true love.
So glad to read your comment! I don't understand many of these relationships either and how naive many men seem to get when in contact to these women.. It's seems that genuine love, without money transactions, doesn't seem to interest these men anymore.
Are you interested in knitting your own shirt? No? So that's why you rather buy it. There are a lot of foreigners here who are interested in love but do NOT seek it with pleasure girls. The relationship with them is business, service (sex) for money. Both needs should be separated. Many foreigners can't do that. If you are looking for a love relationship here, your chances are most probably not better than at home, I would even guess worse due to a lack of cultural understanding and language skills. It needs effort, too.
True love is not possible for millions of men. They would prefer it, but it is not an option. Also, the testosterone-driven sex instinct is INTENSE, especially in younger men (and thank God for that, which is why we all are here). What would YOU have them do?
Big respect to Gary for sharing such a personal story that takes guts especially when he’s still in the process of emotionally hurting I wish him all the best for his future thank you both Pete & Gary
I know 2 women with HIV. Impossible to differentiate from anyone else as they both look healthy. Also knew a large chubby bloke about ten years ago. HIV+ full of life and fun. Not long afterwards he died of Aids. No outward signs he was ill or that he had anything seriously wrong. Nowadays with good medicine these 2 women I know both seem to live relatively normal lives.
@@NMiller80666 It’s difficult to understand this story. In another comment he said she died of a heart attack. Since AIDS doesn’t kill you with a heart attack then the title of the video is wrong or misleading. I can’t imagine in what world she wasn’t on ARV meds. Why didn’t he get her full medical record from the hospital to unravel this. So many questions here.
Today the medical industry has changed so much regarding HIV. My Dr. told me that when she has to tell her patients they have HIV, she tells them, "At least you don't have cancer." Think about that for just a moment. It's more deadly to have cancer than HIV!?!?! wow!!
People with HIV who take the ARV meds have almost a normal lifespan. It is amazing what the ARV cocktail has done for people with HIV. Magic Johnson and Greg Louganis are doing just fine after all.
I know someone who has it and he constantly has to check not just for it but for the health of his liver. The last update I heard was he had some skin lumps. I don’t know if it was related. Don’t make it as if it’s nothing serious. Also, once taken, the effect of his medication makes him nauseous so he has to take every night. If he takes it in the daylight he’ll be unproductive. He is also in constant fear that one day his medication will no longer work and or start to damage his liver.
@@whitepouch0904 It’s serious but manageable. There are many worse things to have. I know folks with HIV as well. Most don’t have serious side effects but some do. The ARV meds work and there are many different options in ARV meds. The fear that they won’t work is pretty unfounded.
@@kiwioffgrid2437 Very selfish woman it's possible she didn't find out until after hooking up with him but she could have still let him know quite sad.
There's something so very attractive in this man's composure and attitude. He's also very handsome and would be quite a catch to any woman who's willing to understand and nurture his soul after all he's been through! He's a beautiful person. ❤ Sending love from Toronto Canada. 🇨🇦
Thanks for taking these taboo stories up with great serious journalism. You have a serious angle and i always respect that. I settled in the first minutes here and already feel sorry for the guy.... Hope things will be better. Greetings/Denmark
Gary “Hong Kông Phooey” Brits is a profoundly loving forgiving person. His love ❤ story, loss, betrayal and forgiveness will make a great movie. Thank you Gary for sharing your story.
I think what people need to realise is that there’s loads of people who are walking around with HIV/AIDS and they don’t know about it but with treatment they can have a normal life remember Undetectable = Untransmittable (U=U)
If you understand the survival mindset of some Thai people, it might be easier to understand how she handled this. While I certainly don’t condone her behaviour, I’m pretty certain (if I had to guess) it was fear driven, and by that I mean-she maybe felt she was going be dumped by him if she revealed her health status. Even if she got the right antiviral meds, she’d probably feel he’d ‘let her go’ and she’d not only be without a husband and provider, but that no one else would want her in her illness. And that maybe her and her daughter would be out on the streets, with no money or options. To be clear-I’m NOT saying that this happened or saying he WOULD ‘dump’ her-I don’t know, though he seems to still love her a great deal and seems like a kind person that would have cared for her, regardless. Also, my guessing this to be the case doesn’t mean I think she was a cold, calculating person: more likely she was a protective Mama Bear, worried about herself and her family: it doesn’t mean I’m thinking the worst of her. And please understand-I’m NOT judging anyone in this story-it’s not my place to. Until you’ve walked in someone’s shoes, we have zero right to judge or guess motives. That said… It was incredibly irresponsible to treat this man that way. To expose him to a potentially deadly virus, without his knowledge. I understand that poverty (if in fact, she was poor or from a poor background) and shame make people do terrible things. But this is unconscionable, at least in my opinion. And with THAT said, I’m glad she’s no longer in pain or suffering. I’m sure she was a good person, essentially-as you can tell he loved her very much. This story could have a had far worse ending for both. I’m glad he’s ok and my heart goes out to him.
I agree. This is very much a scenario worth considering when entering into any relationship. The exact chain of reasoning applies there also which leads to nondisclosure. That said, it all can be avoided by going with your partner to the doctor and getting a full STI panel done and then everyone knows what’s up. If she won’t go then you know something is up. In another comment Gary said that she actually died of a heart attack. It’s entirely possible that she was on ARV medication and didn’t actually die of AIDS which is very uncommon today since ARV meds are both cheap and simple to take in Thailand and available at every hospital and overwhelming effecting at completely stopping viral replication. AIDS doesn’t kill you with a heart attack. It’s usually pneumonia or another infection. If she was on ARV meds her chances of giving Gary HIV are just about zero. It’s not me saying that; it’s the CDC saying that. This is a complex story and I don’t know that Gary really got the full story about her medical history. Just because someone had HIV when they died doesn’t mean they died of AIDS. AIDS relates to CD4 cells in your blood below a certain threshold. People with HIV and are on treatment (nothing more complicated than a pill a day) have almost normal lifespans.
She can't be a good person if she literally put the person who loves her at risk of death and suffering. Good people are stronger. Sorry but ....this is no way to behave.
I found out a few days ago that the Thai woman I had met in online dating and had been talking to for over 2 years and was in love with and planning on joining and perhaps marrying in Thailand has HIV. I am 68 years old and she is 64 years old . It is a very difficult thing to hear from someone I love. Years ago I had a very close friend die from AIDS. It is a very sad situation. Thank you for sharing your experience. Thank you for your channel and sharing interviews like this.
I am really grieving about this and even another "secret" she revealed the evening I wrote the previous post. I can somewhat relate deeply to the interviewee. I'm reeling and dazed and can only depend on my Christian faith to understand this cruel point in my life. God bless you all 🙏🙌🫶
I’m sorry for your pain. It’s possible to live a normal life whilst HIV +. If she is taking the AntiViral drugs she can lead a normal life. Hope it all works out for you
@@sirvicemanone it’s not her having HIV that is the issue because if she took meds and had a zero to low viral load then you won’t catch it, it’s the lies she kept from you for 2 years, waiting for you to fall in love with her before disclosing it knowing by then you would be hooked and not leave easily. I would stay away from this person.
This is a moving story. The gentleman does appear to have loved his late wife very much. He seems more concerned about having lost her than anything else. Quite understandably, many people in his position would have been angered at his/her partner putting his/her life at risk. However, he chooses to continue thinking the best of her and honoring her memory, regardless of the circumstances. A most remarkable testimony to the enduring power of true love.
Yeah. Except no 🙃 True love doesn't involve keeping secrets from each other. She didn't trust the guy enough to confide in him. She trusted her own country people. Not him. In her eyes he was a foreigner. Not to be trusted.
A lot of respectful young people, my son included, go to get checked out at a clinic these days before beginning a new relationship. It really is a very common mode de vie and then it is also considerate and almost puts a level of commitment to the couple. These days many STDs can be hard to detect also.
Hey Pete. Thank you very much for making us aware of realistic health risks when we are going to have fun in Asia. Feel very sorry for the pain he had to go through, don't think he deserved it. Wish him all the best for his future!!!
Thank you for your comment. I have no idea what a passport bro is. What I can tell you is I didn’t go there looking for a Thai wife. I went for work and happened to meet someone 😊
I have a lump in my throat.What a humble,loving,empathetic guy...someone that would go to the moon and back to help someone.I can only wish you and yours,and especially your daughter ,Gary,all the health,happiness and success until the day after forever.keep strong,Gary, one day at a time.
Oh gosh what a heartbreaking story. Sorry for your loss Gary. Thank you for sharing such a personal loss. I wish you the best with your daughter. You’re a very inspiring person. ❤
This man has gone through a lot. Me growing up in that part of the world, it's an unfortunate that a lot of poor and desperate women living in that part of the world have to do what it takes to survive and provide for the family. This is not to take away this man's struggles. I feel for him.
@@loisaustin6200 It's a sad state of the world. I know it's *_"What If"_* type of thing to say, but it need to be said. Imagine if the west stopped meddling in Asia's political affairs since the end of WW2, but, instead, help Asian countries and making money at the same time for the west, it would be a better world.
All of the crying was your mourning over all the loss. You have suffered, the fear alone is overwhelming. Shocking way to end a marriage, there had to be conflicting thoughts down deep. Sorry for your loss.
There was a documentary few years back, also in Thailand. About a twelve year old Thailand girl who was sold by her parents to work in a brothel as janitor. But the owner made her sex slave for foreigners/tourists in Thailand. Eventually, she contracted Aids, without her knowing it, & continued to please clients. Eventually, she died of this disease at a young age. 🥵
Just something doesn't gel with this story.... 8 years with a women married!! And you do not know ? I would be the first talking to the doctor, The doctor , staff , hospital , Does not know its you wife ? He are in UK while you wife is sick, or you didn't know either, very strange story !
Wow! Gary mate. My heart goes out to you big time. I can tell by your words that you are a straight up geezer with a lot of warmth and compassion in your heart. Not many like you around these days pal! Bless you and all the luck in the world for your future. 🙏🏻
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your wife sounds a beautiful person. I wish you and your daughter the very best and I hope you’re able to find peace in time 🙏
It takes a special person to deal with all of this and process the way he is. God bless the man and is family. I hope his wife has peace wherever she may be.
In the states there are HIPAA laws that state you cant disclose a patient's health info with anyone but the patient. Not sure what they are like in Thailand. Also not sure if there is any disclosure law concerning AIDS in general... i should google it.
Such a terribly sad story. I hope that the pain he suffers fades and that he finds happiness again in the future. True gentleman for caring for their daughter. She clearly brings Gary great joy.
If she had said something or sought treatment she could be healthy and living her life and the husband could be taking Prep medication to prevent him from getting HIV. They could even have children. It’s all very sad.
I take Prep as a precaution. My only question is what year he's talking about but surely even back in mid 2000s which I think he's talking about they would've had anti virals.
@@GK-wx6xo she may have been in denial or refused care, or the healthcare may not have been great. I’ve had patients refuse to take antivirals for whatever reason no matter how hard I tried to change their minds.
I totally agree with that, is a sex crime possibly leading to death. As a matter of fact I don't understand this guy, who was heavily betrayed by his wife and not being mad at her. Probably because he's clean, I think it would have been a totally different story if he was sick.
What an amazing person who obviously loved his wife very much. Thank you for sharing and being so open, all the very best going forward with your life.
I don't normally comment on any videos, but I was deeply moved by this (to tears). Love to Gary, such a tragic story. I have recently lost my Thai gf of 3.5 years, not because she's died - she's just run off with someone else. I am devastated, but Gary's story gives me a sense of perspective. Brilliant interview Pete, as always - such a good interviewer who just lets subjects tell their story.
Thanks for your comment. I likewise found an Issan girl with a 2 year old son (she's never worked as a bar girl) and we were BF/GF for almost 2 years -- I visited her village (she lived with her parents), met her parents and whole family -- we planned the Issan wedding... then out of the blue, she finds a German guy online, and he came for his visit. He quickly got her a tourist visa to Germany, and she lives in Germany... It was out-of-the-blue. I still don't really know what happened. My guess is that his monthly donation was much higher than mine.
@@KrisWustrow Sorry to hear this mate. My girl was Uni educated, from a middle-class family, with her own jewellery wholesale business. I guess the old saying of "you don't really know what they're thinking" is true. My family adored her, but it appears she was leading a double life....and off she went, dropping me from a great height. C'est la vie I suppose 😬
@@africansister why can't you love African UA-cam channels, and just look at those - there are plenty of good UA-cam channels there in Africa? What I have just done, is ask you a deliberately stupid question, in case you weren't sure. Hope you see my point - one world!
Similar thing happened to my coworker, except it was his Thai girlfriend. They weren’t married but they lived together as tho they were. SHE KNEW… but kept it from him. Now he has it too. They’re both still living but he’s not well last I heard.
I don't think this guys is entirely honest about her. Just goes to show you can live a decent life but still end up being a deceitful liar who cares about nobody but themselves. He's very lucky he did not get infected. Did he not notice her taking medications, hospital visits and asking what it was all about?
If You Listen To Him, He Got Settlement From His First Divorce. I Believe He Married Her For Her Money And Ignored His Wife's disease. He Is Going Back To Thailand To Claim All The Wealth He Got From His Wife's Money
I’m sure you’re not going to read this but my dad Vinny whom you may know from work as a scuba diving instructor before is truly, truly sorry about hearing such news. Our deepest condolences❤
People may wonder how it was possible that he didn’t get HIV with sustained unprotected sex. That’s actually the likely outcome. Regular P in V insertive sex has a transmission risk from the CDC of 1 in 2500. Even if you had sex everyday that’s 6.8 years of daily sex before transmission. Anyone that’s had a relationship knows the sex tapers off enormously over time. I know a number of people with HIV that have had it for decades. If anyone has any questions about HIV, just ask. It’s worth mentioning that had she told him, he could have taken prep meds like Truvada or Descovy and there would be near zero transmission risk. Silence and stigma are as deadly as HIV itself which is why stories like this are enormously important to hear.
Thank you. there is such a stigma to AIDS and HIV. It's a shame that there is such stigma attached to it. I still question how it didn't get passed to me.
@@yourdadsvan6763 It’s just a roulette wheel with 2500 slots. You didn’t spin it enough times to land on zero. Simple as that. HIV has a difficult time surviving in the vaginal canal and getting into your body through the tip of your penis. Especially the latter. Circumcised guys actually have less HIV infection risk because of this. Look it up. Pretty interesting stuff.
@@Fran234-h9j I’m not putting it at zero since adherence is never 100% and immune system response is variable you never get to zero. Hundreds of thousands to one.
I know that this isn't the case in this story, but I worry about the men going over to Thailand for the bar scene and having unprotected sex. It isn't only HIV, but silent killers with no symptoms like HPV that they may pass on to wives, girlfriends or future girlfriends, be sensible and use protection.
My brother died from this terrible disease..an i watched him suffer an loae all hope for years.....but you sir should be extremely pissed at your x wife...loving her is one thing...but her killing you is murder...look at it how you want..facts are facts...
This is very sad 😞 Sad too that his wife didn’t feel able to tell her husband she was ill. I hope the lady’s daughter is doing well 🩷 and I hope in time this man’s heart can heal ❤️🩹
Brave telling your story. May your late wife rest in peace. She loved you and she just wanted to stay with you and would not tell because she was afraid to loose you. I was in Pattaya first time when I was 25. Like you I Hated it. Was just there again recently now 55 years old, and that was much better. Interestingly how perspective changes. But remember it only take one minute to catch AIDS, so let's all be aware of that. All the best.
Would you want someone to do this to you,I think love is being truthful and not wanting ur love ones to be hurt,I see if u had that disease u would willfully give it to someone u claimed u love,that's heartless
Thank you Pete for letting my share my story. Nothing but love. ❤
It was a pleasure Gary, wishing you nothing but the best
Well done Gary for being brave and sharing you're story. Very heartbreaking. Big love to you.
@@lawell2006 thank you.
I recently heard a very similar story on Thai talk with Dan
Keep strong fella best of luck ;)
I think it's absolutly disgusting that a person would not disclose a potentially life ending desease to their husband /wife
I used to work with HIV patients. There was a patient I remember who contracted HIV in Thailand and point blank refused to tell his wife. This was despite doctors telling him that if the wife became sick and died, he would be facing serious criminal charges.
Did she even know? I met a 72 year old lady who was diagnosed late in life and genuinely couldn’t even recall how she’d gotten infected.
Terrible
many dont in the thai bar industry
Sad story
As a nurse ive had so many patients from Asia talk about the hepatitis epidemic there as well. Always get tested in the beginning of a relationship and if your partner not willing to get tested may be hiding something. I hope this man will find healing and peace of mind.
While Hep is curable most people have no idea that you can buy a used Lamborghini for the same amount as a full treatment course.
@@SwethaG-tu8qgabsolutely!
When I applied for a green card, I need to provide a document to prove that I am free from all the transfered diseases. I forgot what is that form call.
Wdym u had so many patients from asia? You live in asia? 😂 Asia is not a country yk
@@SwethaG-tu8qg TB is respiratory spreads through droplets in air from people coughing laughing singing etc. Although once I had a patient from Africa that had TB inside his knee and we were treating a wound. First I ever heard of that.
It is cruel to knowingly have unprotected sex when you know you’re HIV positive.
It's a rough world these people live in. They do what they have to do.
Cruel? Beating your dog for pissing on your carpet is cruel. This kind of shit is straight evil...
@@JohnS-gf4szYou think beating a dog is okay??
@@sugarpuff2978 Where in your peanut sized brain did you come to that conclusion?
She may not have known …
This is exactly why with any relationship you get serious about, always go with them to the doctor and do a full STD panel. It costs almost nothing and then you both have piece of mind. People will spend enormous amounts of money on a relationship and then not even do the most basic bit of healthcare. Boggles the mind.
i dont know anyone thats ever done that
@@adZHARRISON Annnnnd that’s why STIs are such a big problem. Stigma and negligence.
different people feel differently about risks, freedom of choice.
@@graerindley6312 Obviously. You’re welcome to play a dozen games of Russian roulette if you wish. I won’t stop you. Go right ahead. Be my guest. I’m not in a relationship with you.
Not all of enter into relationships with bar girls and dubious women
My husband secretly traveled to foreign countries and he was cheating when he was supposed to be traveling for work. Once i found out i never shared a bed with him again. I divorced him and have lost all trust in men. I praise God daily that i never contracted anything from my ex Please always be honest with the people you claim to love. Im praying for everyone who has been hurt by their spouses and hope your lives will be blessed. 🙏🏾❤
I had to go throught the same thing except that I was pregnant when he did that. I am happily divorced now. Cant blame the prostitutes, they are just working...
Yuck...he was probably with underage girls. I wouldn't want him to have custody of the kids
Lady, you made the right move...letting him go!
Now how did you figure he was sleeping around? Foreign women don't call or text lol
I agree that happened to me. I cried when I found out. I ran to the clinic to get tested. I was cleared of all STDs I divorced him straight away.
As an Asian woman this is my advise: most of these foreigners have been in too many countries and most are into different women too so be very careful in dealing with them. If you happen to have a relationship with them, take extra precautions by not dealing with unprotected sex or better yet submit to a test..your health is the most important. Dont just get in bed with them. A momentary flirtations could cause you your life...in the same manner than men should do the same. If a woman in just firrst meeting or 2 get in bed with you, you know then what she does or did with other men..i think i would sound judgmental with this statement but please take this as just a word of caution
Alot of men are bisexual! And don't use protection! Use a condom every time,trust nobody. So many people lie, it's deadly🕵️
It's true; a large number of people with HIV do not even know that they have it.
Very safe advice. Thank you
What about the Asian women?! You must be angels, aren't you?! Even a bellend assumes silence when required! Supposedly, everything is wrong with you!😅😂
@@AnotherTruth; and right as rain!😅 Hehehe🎉
Utterly diabolical!
As an outsider and not related, I felt a strong relief hearing the test was negative!!! All the best to you, Gary!!!
It can be window period
negative now, it just means it is not at a detectable level OR he has the delta 32 mutation in his dna, which is extremely rare, about 1% of people have this mutation, it is the same mutation that protects against the plague. either way, he has a lifetime of hiv tests to look forward to as a precaution.
10 year's find out they give him Medicine. @crimsonchronicles1610
@@ravencroftgraphics3dlook it up women don’t pass it on. Only down low gay men pass it on to unsuspecting women
@@ravencroftgraphics3dno! , it does not "just mean"! It is a fact?! yes it is possible and we are happy for him
Very brave man for discussing such a painful part of his past. I wish him all the best in his future. A genuinely nice guy. Much love.
He seems like a really good man. Such a sad story.
How fo you know ???? Just because he talked ???? 😢😢😢😮😮😮
Personally, I feel sorry for this guy. He knows he will have Aids soon and that he will die from it.
@@thisisme3238he’s tested negative this time so it’s not a forgone conclusion that he will develop HIV and AIDS down the line hopefully he wont
@@lovepower1440😂😂😂
Sad story, but for many thai "working women" , a true story.I also had known a beautiful thai woman (she passed away from aids at age 38. Her name was Kaya. Her story was this: Kaya started working in Nana Go go dance bars from age 17- 25.. Got too old for the bars at age 25, had stashed away some substantial money, so decided to go to school and earned a business degree in just 3 years from bangkok university. But heres where the trouble starts : she had a nice job at a company doing their marketing for a decent salary but Kaya wanted more $.. So at age 32, she went back to into prostitution and became a freelancer only on the weekends. And her regular job never knew the wiser.. She had her own website and was very discrete. But somewhere between age 34-36 she contracted Aids from a client, as she had a policy that if the client paid substantially more money, he wouldnt have to use a condom..I met Kaya just 2 1/2 years before she passed away at my GF's house and the ONLY reason she shared her life story with me is because she knew her health was in major decline and had already been diagnosed by the hospital...One of her best friend is also my thai girlfriend.She looked very sick and frail having no energy and she figured she had nothing to hide so she sat there for an hour and told me her story in broken english...Let this be a lesson to all western guys: Yes , thai women are drop dead georgeous at age 35... but what did she do for work to make all that $$$??... ask yourself that question and get her tested, before you decide not to use the condom.
Bro i even get scared of having sex with a condom
Thanks for the advice
If only people would know.
I agree you can’t just be reckless because your driven by lust
He Was Chasing After Women With Money And Be Reckless. If You Listen To Him, He Got A Settlement From His First Marriage Before Going To Thailand. He Is Going Back To Thailand To Look For Another Rich Call Girl's.
Yeah even here in the Netherlands a prostitute who had a whole family said she'd not use a condom for extra money and if he seemed trustworthy. The very definition of a guy who goes to prostitutes and likes not using a condom makes them untrustworthy. And that woman had zero reason to do that for the money. She could end up infecting her husband and she had young kids to care for.
You can imagine young poor women have very little choice when it comes to condom use at work but some women make terrible choices by themselves.
I worked on an AIDS floor in a hospital for 7 years in the 80's (as an RN).
My question for this obviously devastated man is: How could you not tell she had AIDS? They become tremendously ill with many different diseases at the same time. The muscle wasting alone should have been a red flag months before her death.
BTW it is difficult but not impossible for a woman to give a man AIDS. It depend a lot on the type of unprotected sex one has.
cunnilingus chances?
If he didn't know what to look for, I don't think he would have just guessed aids
A lot of people don't have medical knowledge and experience with people who are chronically ill. Also aisian women tend to be slimmer and more petite than US women so maybe he thought she was naturally frail.
It’s not always obvious. We had a live-in maid who never disclosed her condition. We just thought she was naturally lean. Then one day she had a seizure and that’s how we found out. All that time she knew she had it and never disclosed it. I was a teen and shared outfits with her occasionally despite my parents apprehensions. I was non-the-wiser. She died exactly a year after we found out. She looked terrible. It was a very sad sight and experience that never fades from memory. The feeling of betrayal is also there, but love and forgiveness trumps it all because I understand why she didn’t disclose it-she needed money to take care of her parents 😢
@@2020Token hiv does not transfer via clothes. It transfers via body liquids like blood and sperm.
They're a relatively wealthy couple, but she didn't take ARVs for 8 years and ended up with AIDS, and yet he didn't catch it... something's not computing for me in this story.
H the bit that HIV is not what they tell you..... people don't die from HIV they die from the AZT the corrupt medical industrial complex give them
Its difficult to catch HIV woman to man. Easy the other way around
The only possibility is that he is one of those people that have the rare gene that are immune to hiv
Because usually its harder for male to get it from the positive woman than the female getting it from the positive man. It DOES happen both ways, its risky in both ways, but females are more likely go get infested than the straight males.
True
I watched my beautful Thai friend Piyai die from aids,his wife gave it to him and he was married and did not know..She was a carrier but was never affected.. It hurts still ..God bless him
Unfortunately there's nothing like carrier....she either was negative or positive. So sad... may your friend RIP😢
@@dharmahmay4125 so she gave it to him, but everyone in the comments saying this man’s wife didn’t give it to him because of odds🤔
It is much more difficult for woman to pass to man. It isnt impossible though@ChildOfGod028
@@rnshawn1925 not much more difficult, we're talking a difference of 80 to 90 percent. Especially when you're married
With all respect, the wife had AIDS for quite a good bit! Clearly, all who knew and her situation kept it from you. As that was just cruel and wrong!
Are you sure she knew she had it? You’re an expert
@@marcK599. he said the signs was there so she definitely knew. She lied and told him it was a blood issue.
What about the farang who might have given it to her in the first place? One of those crybabies who think a condom ruins their manhood and pleasure?
People are very good at living in denial about something like HIV.
@@mermaid30019blood issue alright
I am a married man and I get tested every year not because I am cheating because I am not a cheater, it is just for peace of mind.
Not a truster either?
So you think your wife cheats on you then?
@@mah3223alia I mean there's nothing wrong with making sure you're safe.
@@mah3223alia NO ONE SHOULD BE A TRUSTER .....
YOU getting tested is just information, your partner getting tested is information that could prevent you from getting infected.
Now you need a health check, credit check, full background check before starting any relationships with anyone…
He Need To be using double protection Always. I feel sorry for any woman that will get involved with him without protection
I sincerely wish Gary and his daughter well after such a traumatic loss.
I work as interpreter for a number of years in the infectious diseases department in a hospital in Dublin. I’ve assisted closely hundreds of HIV cases and what I’ve learned is that once the patient has his med shots update he/she cannot pass on anything because the virus becomes undetectable. So Gary was correct his wife was taking good care of herself in order to not pass on the virus and she succeeded.
But wouldn't these same meds prevent her from getting ill and die?
An undetectable level of HIV in the blood does NOT mean that there are no viruses in the body. Anyone who is HIV positive can potentially transmit the disease to someone else. People vary in their ability to contract an HIV infection from an HIV+ person. The probability of transmission also increases with the number of contacts, time period of contacts, and viral load of the HIV+ person at each contact, type of sexual activity and other factors.
If you’re undetectable you cannot pass it on. Stop spreading misinformation
@@Lua658Exactly. The meds that cause the viral load to drop to undetectable levels also prevent the disease from progressing to AIDS. She was NOT taking her meds properly.
Everyone deserves a right to know.
My heart breaks for his loss. I am also frustrated at how her isolation probably cost her the chance to get the medical care she needed. Looking back, there were already very good treatments that were available for people with AIDS.
Condolences, Sir. Dealing with a death is hard enough, but to have a shock is too much.
That is shocking, the poor guy. He has such a good look back attitude so clearly a good man. Hope everything works out for him.
This is heartbreaking to watch. I feel so sorry for this man, you can tell his pain goes so deep.... And big respect and thanks to him for sharing this story with the world. I'm happy he did not catch it himself. But what a terrible thing to have to go through, losing his wife like that... Just unbelievable. I wish him all the best for the future. And thanks for bringing us his story, Pete.
@nancysamuelson9357
God is concerned about our hearts nothing else 🙏🔥🙄
As an Asian woman, particularly a Filipina..These concerns me a lot as the disease continues to rise in my country..mostly affected are the younger generations since they become more curious and adventurous when engaging to any sexual relationships and some because of poverty..they tend to work as sex workers at an early age because that’s the only thing they could do to sustain themselves and to survive..😔though the government has addressed this health issue so many times, to educate, to promote awareness and to provide necessary medical interventions or treatment, this still not enough to keep it on a slow pace any time soon..So i guess prevention is still better than cure..
Wow, I can’t believe she put him at risk like that.
This man is far more understanding and complimentary than I would be in this situation… I’m sorry, but you don’t hide something like this.
The heart mustn’t lead the head in Asia.
This man is a decent man and his original divorce affected him badly.
God Bless him
She either knowingly put him at risk or she cheated on him.
Since he is healthy and she is gone, he is smart for not wasting his time being angry about it. Remember the good times, learn what you can, and move forward. Cheers mate.
Or she learned about her HIV infection shortly before her death. No one knows the full story...
She probably didn't tell him cause she cheated
@@bogotario Hes not telling the full story
@@clivebaxter6354hmmm just hmmm
She doing more then cheating..😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Sorry for your loss Gary.
Myself and my mate used to go to Thailand a lot and had two regular girlfriends my mate became unwell about 14 years ago due to the fact he had caught HIV, he contacted the Thai girlfriend who he had finished with a couple of years before and she had the test and was also HIV positive.Ever time I visited Thailand me and the wife would meet up with his ex girlfriend as she was a friend of mine and the wife.5 years ago we celebrated new years eve together and we returned home a few days later.6 weeks later we got the call that she had died of Hiv.
The girl had been in a long term relationship with a older falang for about 8 years and like Garry I dont believe he new and still doesn't to this day.
You might want to tell him about it so that he can take ARVs and other necessary medication if he needs to, to boost his immunity and to prolong his life.
She was a friend that didn’t tell your mate or the new guy she had hiv?
Knowingly handing out death sentences to men? Sorry but that’s not what I’d call a friend. It’s frightening.
So older falang is spreading HIV unknowingly and you are ok with that?
@@welikegoodiesexactly
Tell him.
How irresponsible, negligent and ignorant is, not to tell your partner that you have AIDS!!! sure she knew it. The fact that AIDS wasnt detected in blood tests, it doesnt mean that there is no risk of developing the illness. I dont understand these relationships with Thai women, zero communication, sexually transmitted diseases, drugs, affairs, infected lovers, no real intimacy, everything is allowed except true love.
This day and age who doesn't know Thailand is a red light district. Proceed with caution with those women.
So glad to read your comment! I don't understand many of these relationships either and how naive many men seem to get when in contact to these women.. It's seems that genuine love, without money transactions, doesn't seem to interest these men anymore.
Are you interested in knitting your own shirt? No? So that's why you rather buy it.
There are a lot of foreigners here who are interested in love but do NOT seek it with pleasure girls. The relationship with them is business, service (sex) for money. Both needs should be separated. Many foreigners can't do that.
If you are looking for a love relationship here, your chances are most probably not better than at home, I would even guess worse due to a lack of cultural understanding and language skills. It needs effort, too.
True love is not possible for millions of men. They would prefer it, but it is not an option. Also, the testosterone-driven sex instinct is INTENSE, especially in younger men (and thank God for that, which is why we all are here). What would YOU have them do?
If she was taking antiretrovirals then the risk of him contracting HIV is actually quite low.
I went through something very similar in 1995. It changed the course of my life. God Bless you all
God bless this poor poor man. Thank you for allowing him to share his story.
Big respect to Gary for sharing such a personal story that takes guts especially when he’s still in the process of emotionally hurting I wish him all the best for his future thank you both Pete & Gary
I know 2 women with HIV. Impossible to differentiate from anyone else as they both look healthy. Also knew a large chubby bloke about ten years ago. HIV+ full of life and fun. Not long afterwards he died of Aids. No outward signs he was ill or that he had anything seriously wrong.
Nowadays with good medicine these 2 women I know both seem to live relatively normal lives.
The problem is paying for this medicine. Once again 🎉🎉🎉.
@@tryan7 ARV meds are extremely cheap in Thailand. Just a few hundred baht a month for an all in one cocktail drug like Efavirenz.
But I think this man's wife was not on meds. So how would he not see his wife disintegrate over time? A bit confused by this difficult story.
@@sandrabentley8111 he is a manchild and not observant. He even admits that his mind is like a 16yo. he married a wh*re she married a child
@@NMiller80666 It’s difficult to understand this story. In another comment he said she died of a heart attack. Since AIDS doesn’t kill you with a heart attack then the title of the video is wrong or misleading. I can’t imagine in what world she wasn’t on ARV meds. Why didn’t he get her full medical record from the hospital to unravel this. So many questions here.
Decent, dignified, respectful. We can all learn from this bloke about how to live our lives when adversity comes a knocking.
This is off topic butbi simply adore the way that you all say bloke. Love it! 😊❤
Today the medical industry has changed so much regarding HIV. My Dr. told me that when she has to tell her patients they have HIV, she tells them, "At least you don't have cancer." Think about that for just a moment. It's more deadly to have cancer than HIV!?!?! wow!!
People with HIV who take the ARV meds have almost a normal lifespan. It is amazing what the ARV cocktail has done for people with HIV. Magic Johnson and Greg Louganis are doing just fine after all.
Or a Kim Kardashian butt
I know someone who has it and he constantly has to check not just for it but for the health of his liver. The last update I heard was he had some skin lumps. I don’t know if it was related. Don’t make it as if it’s nothing serious. Also, once taken, the effect of his medication makes him nauseous so he has to take every night. If he takes it in the daylight he’ll be unproductive. He is also in constant fear that one day his medication will no longer work and or start to damage his liver.
@@whitepouch0904 It’s serious but manageable. There are many worse things to have. I know folks with HIV as well. Most don’t have serious side effects but some do. The ARV meds work and there are many different options in ARV meds. The fear that they won’t work is pretty unfounded.
Aids even people on drugs still get sick aids destroys your white blood cells so the get bab illness
I hope this poor man and their daughter can find peace.The fact he doesn’t blame her and still loves her shows how much they loved one another
Gary seems like a lovely man
If she loved him then she would have used protection to avoid passing on her HIV/AIDS.
@@kiwioffgrid2437 Very selfish woman it's possible she didn't find out until after hooking up with him but she could have still let him know quite sad.
It shows how much he loved her. Any conclusions of how much she loved him are assumptions.
@@Winning33 She probably didn't know she had HIV either
Here in Thailand, sadly , my cousin and uncle just recently died from HIV . They loved prostitutes , it is not my cup of tea .
So meaning there are a lot of Proustites in Thai what a country
Oh no
"Find what you love, and let it kill u" 😂
Amazing person. A absolute blessing he didn’t get HIV.
Pete is an absolute amazing soul. I loved this interview.
As long as she was using her meds and had an undetectable viral load she cannot pass along the HIV virus
Chances of getting hiv from unprotected vaginal sex with an HIV+ partner is 1 out of 10000 thousand. Not a blessing at all
Yes he didn't have because she wasn't a hoe and stop having body counts and most importantly taking her medication very effectively so he will be fine
Why have I never found a story of a woman sexually transmitting it to a man?
@Kekaweek it almost rarely happens unless its anal sex
I’m guessing this story is not rare in Thailand
I’ve lost 3 friends who went to Thailand they all came back with Full blown Aids I watched them deteriorate it was awful to see
Yes, it is.
@@tinacollins9213it’s all according to what you are looking for in Thailand.
@@tinacollins9213sounds statistically impossible. You have thousands of friends?
@@christopherpekel6096she is a liar
There's something so very attractive in this man's composure and attitude. He's also very handsome and would be quite a catch to any woman who's willing to understand and nurture his soul after all he's been through! He's a beautiful person. ❤
Sending love from Toronto Canada. 🇨🇦
Yeah what a catch dude has aids. U must be really hard up if ur willing to look past that
English men are the best ❤
@@patriciarowe6685😣😣
Wow
These thirsty women already sending in their CVs
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My wife said, "I just want to die." But I didn't think anything of it.
I hate how believable that statement was.
Thanks for taking these taboo stories up with great serious journalism. You have a serious angle and i always respect that. I settled in the first minutes here and already feel sorry for the guy.... Hope things will be better. Greetings/Denmark
Gary “Hong Kông Phooey” Brits is a profoundly loving forgiving person. His love ❤ story, loss, betrayal and forgiveness will make a great movie. Thank you Gary for sharing your story.
I think what people need to realise is that there’s loads of people who are walking around with HIV/AIDS and they don’t know about it but with treatment they can have a normal life remember Undetectable = Untransmittable (U=U)
Yes this is true but once they find out it’s their duty to tell the person they sleep with.
Yea from Thailand and Philippines.
So sorry for your loss Garry. A very kind and compassionate man.
If you understand the survival mindset of some Thai people, it might be easier to understand how she handled this. While I certainly don’t condone her behaviour, I’m pretty certain (if I had to guess) it was fear driven, and by that I mean-she maybe felt she was going be dumped by him if she revealed her health status. Even if she got the right antiviral meds, she’d probably feel he’d ‘let her go’ and she’d not only be without a husband and provider, but that no one else would want her in her illness. And that maybe her and her daughter would be out on the streets, with no money or options. To be clear-I’m NOT saying that this happened or saying he WOULD ‘dump’ her-I don’t know, though he seems to still love her a great deal and seems like a kind person that would have cared for her, regardless. Also, my guessing this to be the case doesn’t mean I think she was a cold, calculating person: more likely she was a protective Mama Bear, worried about herself and her family: it doesn’t mean I’m thinking the worst of her. And please understand-I’m NOT judging anyone in this story-it’s not my place to. Until you’ve walked in someone’s shoes, we have zero right to judge or guess motives.
That said…
It was incredibly irresponsible to treat this man that way. To expose him to a potentially deadly virus, without his knowledge. I understand that poverty (if in fact, she was poor or from a poor background) and shame make people do terrible things. But this is unconscionable, at least in my opinion. And with THAT said, I’m glad she’s no longer in pain or suffering. I’m sure she was a good person, essentially-as you can tell he loved her very much.
This story could have a had far worse ending for both. I’m glad he’s ok and my heart goes out to him.
So, murder is OK with you?
Well said sir
I agree. This is very much a scenario worth considering when entering into any relationship. The exact chain of reasoning applies there also which leads to nondisclosure. That said, it all can be avoided by going with your partner to the doctor and getting a full STI panel done and then everyone knows what’s up. If she won’t go then you know something is up. In another comment Gary said that she actually died of a heart attack. It’s entirely possible that she was on ARV medication and didn’t actually die of AIDS which is very uncommon today since ARV meds are both cheap and simple to take in Thailand and available at every hospital and overwhelming effecting at completely stopping viral replication. AIDS doesn’t kill you with a heart attack. It’s usually pneumonia or another infection. If she was on ARV meds her chances of giving Gary HIV are just about zero. It’s not me saying that; it’s the CDC saying that. This is a complex story and I don’t know that Gary really got the full story about her medical history. Just because someone had HIV when they died doesn’t mean they died of AIDS. AIDS relates to CD4 cells in your blood below a certain threshold. People with HIV and are on treatment (nothing more complicated than a pill a day) have almost normal lifespans.
@@exnihilo415 @thairish time Pete you should pin this post. Good info.
She can't be a good person if she literally put the person who loves her at risk of death and suffering. Good people are stronger. Sorry but ....this is no way to behave.
I found out a few days ago that the Thai woman I had met in online dating and had been talking to for over 2 years and was in love with and planning on joining and perhaps marrying in Thailand has HIV.
I am 68 years old and she is 64 years old .
It is a very difficult thing to hear from someone I love.
Years ago I had a very close friend die from AIDS.
It is a very sad situation.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Thank you for your channel and sharing interviews like this.
I am really grieving about this and even another "secret" she revealed the evening I wrote the previous post.
I can somewhat relate deeply to the interviewee.
I'm reeling and dazed and can only depend on my Christian faith to understand this cruel point in my life.
God bless you all 🙏🙌🫶
I’m sorry for your pain. It’s possible to live a normal life whilst HIV +. If she is taking the AntiViral drugs she can lead a normal life. Hope it all works out for you
.. And demands for payments towards the medical bills, how convenient.. Scam alert!
@@sirvicemanone it’s not her having HIV that is the issue because if she took meds and had a zero to low viral load then you won’t catch it, it’s the lies she kept from you for 2 years, waiting for you to fall in love with her before disclosing it knowing by then you would be hooked and not leave easily. I would stay away from this person.
Anyone reading this, you can take Prep, it's cheap and will tolerated, this will avoid catching the virus.
This is a moving story. The gentleman does appear to have loved his late wife very much. He seems more concerned about having lost her than anything else. Quite understandably, many people in his position would have been angered at his/her partner putting his/her life at risk. However, he chooses to continue thinking the best of her and honoring her memory, regardless of the circumstances. A most remarkable testimony to the enduring power of true love.
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Yeah. Except no 🙃
True love doesn't involve keeping secrets from each other. She didn't trust the guy enough to confide in him. She trusted her own country people. Not him. In her eyes he was a foreigner. Not to be trusted.
A lot of respectful young people, my son included, go to get checked out at a clinic these days before beginning a new relationship. It really is a very common mode de vie and then it is also considerate and almost puts a level of commitment to the couple. These days many STDs can be hard to detect also.
Well if one keeps messing around no use
wow, this popped up on my feed and I’m so glad I watched. Thanks so much for sharing. Amazing story.💯
Sorry if you have a Thai Wife/Girlfriend most times in the shadow there is a Thai boyfriend.
Or thousands of sex partners in her history that she fails to tell you about.
Exactly
Hey Pete. Thank you very much for making us aware of realistic health risks when we are going to have fun in Asia.
Feel very sorry for the pain he had to go through, don't think he deserved it. Wish him all the best for his future!!!
Passport Bros trend is taking many decent men abroad for more traditional partners, but this needs to be seen and share his story.
Thank you for your comment. I have no idea what a passport bro is. What I can tell you is I didn’t go there looking for a Thai wife. I went for work and happened to meet someone 😊
@@yourdadsvan6763I am seeing this a year too late but hope that you and your family are well and happy. ❤
I have a lump in my throat.What a humble,loving,empathetic guy...someone that would go to the moon and back to help someone.I can only wish you and yours,and especially your daughter ,Gary,all the health,happiness and success until the day after forever.keep strong,Gary, one day at a time.
Oh gosh what a heartbreaking story. Sorry for your loss Gary. Thank you for sharing such a personal loss. I wish you the best with your daughter. You’re a very inspiring person. ❤
Sending you nothing but love Gary. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
Very moving story. This man's pain must be beyond bounds. It is so clear from his eyes.
This man has gone through a lot. Me growing up in that part of the world, it's an unfortunate that a lot of poor and desperate women living in that part of the world have to do what it takes to survive and provide for the family. This is not to take away this man's struggles. I feel for him.
My heart breaks for him, one of the saddest stories I've heard in a long time. I wish him well and send prayers.
@@loisaustin6200 It's a sad state of the world. I know it's *_"What If"_* type of thing to say, but it need to be said. Imagine if the west stopped meddling in Asia's political affairs since the end of WW2, but, instead, help Asian countries and making money at the same time for the west, it would be a better world.
With all due respect, most of this man's misery stems from his relations with women. I don't know if he is choosing the wrong types of women.
Surely this man knows he was at risk being in thailand
Thailand has nothing to do with it, if you travel in certain areas in all countries you put yourself at risk. It’s up to you.
All of the crying was your mourning over all the loss.
You have suffered, the fear alone is overwhelming. Shocking way to end a marriage, there had to be conflicting thoughts down deep.
Sorry for your loss.
There was a documentary few years back, also in Thailand. About a twelve year old Thailand girl who was sold by her parents to work in a brothel as janitor. But the owner made her sex slave for foreigners/tourists in Thailand. Eventually, she contracted Aids, without her knowing it, & continued to please clients. Eventually, she died of this disease at a young age. 🥵
Contracted HIV not AIDS
The criminal part is she was a child and those men are pedos.
Just something doesn't gel with this story.... 8 years with a women married!! And you do not know ? I would be the first talking to the doctor, The doctor , staff , hospital , Does not know its you wife ? He are in UK while you wife is sick, or you didn't know either, very strange story !
Thank you for your comment. Very strange story indeed. if it wasn’t me telling the story I would agree
He Was Pimping Her. As Long As She Was Bringing Home Alot Of Money
@@AfricanUSA-th9ovprobably
Yup i agree very shallow, he maybe not with her wife all the time and busy with other thainess 😂
Wow! Gary mate. My heart goes out to you big time. I can tell by your words that you are a straight up geezer with a lot of warmth and compassion in your heart. Not many like you around these days pal! Bless you and all the luck in the world for your future. 🙏🏻
Very nice words. I was thinking the exact same thing.
Best of luck to you. Stay positive and you will be just fine. Get regular checkups just to be sure.
@@scothai1888is geezer a nice word? And if so in which country? I thought it was a derogatory term for an old man….
That's a little like my story, I found out two years after my husband death! I emphasize with you. Stay strong!
Wow how heartbreaking. Did you find out through a test? Sorry to hear this.
how did you find out?
I think you mean to say you *empathize*
I hope you receive the best care & support🦋
Thank you! It's really tough but thus far God has brought me is a blessing.
Heart goes out to you mate.
Respect
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Your wife sounds a beautiful person. I wish you and your daughter the very best and I hope you’re able to find peace in time 🙏
Life can be quite cruel. Just counting my blessings. All the best to Gary! Thank you Pete🙏
Don't fall for his bullshit.
It takes a special person to deal with all of this and process the way he is. God bless the man and is family. I hope his wife has peace wherever she may be.
For the nurses to purposefully not tell him is despicable.
It’s also illegal.
That was the most Thai part of the entire video 💀
In the states there are HIPAA laws that state you cant disclose a patient's health info with anyone but the patient. Not sure what they are like in Thailand. Also not sure if there is any disclosure law concerning AIDS in general... i should google it.
It's probably a language barrier.
@@phoenixdavida8987 they have too if they are married
What a strong and beautiful soul ..the respect and grace you have for your wife.love from Dublin
Such a heartbreaking story. My heart goes out to him.
The level of betrayal. I hope he is able to heal from this.
He wore a RUBBER or took a TEST.
@@sexytrinny52 That isn’t what he said.
Passport bros need to watch this🤔
He is one
My condolences to you. What a story. Very brave to share it. I can’t even imagine what you’ve gone through. Hold those close to you tight. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Such a terribly sad story. I hope that the pain he suffers fades and that he finds happiness again in the future. True gentleman for caring for their daughter. She clearly brings Gary great joy.
People who go to such places in the name of 'fun' should watch this video. Good that he is speaking out.
The stupid part is had she told him just maybe he would have helped her make sure she got the proper care.
That is TERRIBLE…..If they had known she could still be alive…..Today this is NOT A Death sentence….I’m so SORRY for Your LOSS….
Gary seems like a great guy! Sorry for you wifes passing, hope you find peace and can move past it all. Glad you are healthy ❤
If she had said something or sought treatment she could be healthy and living her life and the husband could be taking Prep medication to prevent him from getting HIV. They could even have children. It’s all very sad.
I take Prep as a precaution. My only question is what year he's talking about but surely even back in mid 2000s which I think he's talking about they would've had anti virals.
@@GK-wx6xo she may have been in denial or refused care, or the healthcare may not have been great. I’ve had patients refuse to take antivirals for whatever reason no matter how hard I tried to change their minds.
As expats in Singaporre people know people have been charged in court for not telling a sex partner they have Aids so its a criminal offence
I totally agree with that, is a sex crime possibly leading to death. As a matter of fact I don't understand this guy, who was heavily betrayed by his wife and not being mad at her. Probably because he's clean, I think it would have been a totally different story if he was sick.
What an amazing person who obviously loved his wife very much. Thank you for sharing and being so open, all the very best going forward with your life.
I don't normally comment on any videos, but I was deeply moved by this (to tears). Love to Gary, such a tragic story. I have recently lost my Thai gf of 3.5 years, not because she's died - she's just run off with someone else. I am devastated, but Gary's story gives me a sense of perspective.
Brilliant interview Pete, as always - such a good interviewer who just lets subjects tell their story.
Thanks for your comment. I likewise found an Issan girl with a 2 year old son (she's never worked as a bar girl) and we were BF/GF for almost 2 years -- I visited her village (she lived with her parents), met her parents and whole family -- we planned the Issan wedding... then out of the blue, she finds a German guy online, and he came for his visit. He quickly got her a tourist visa to Germany, and she lives in Germany... It was out-of-the-blue. I still don't really know what happened. My guess is that his monthly donation was much higher than mine.
@@KrisWustrow Sorry to hear this mate. My girl was Uni educated, from a middle-class family, with her own jewellery wholesale business. I guess the old saying of "you don't really know what they're thinking" is true. My family adored her, but it appears she was leading a double life....and off she went, dropping me from a great height. C'est la vie I suppose 😬
@@KrisWustrowYou bet. Euro dollars most expensive.
Why can't u love your own women in uk there plenty good ladies here
@@africansister why can't you love African UA-cam channels, and just look at those - there are plenty of good UA-cam channels there in Africa?
What I have just done, is ask you a deliberately stupid question, in case you weren't sure. Hope you see my point - one world!
If i was this guy i would be getting tested monthly for 2 years straight 😢
Try 6 years. I’ve been tested at least twice a year since she passed. I also insist on any new partners to be tested with me
Ten years
Similar thing happened to my coworker, except it was his Thai girlfriend. They weren’t married but they lived together as tho they were. SHE KNEW… but kept it from him. Now he has it too. They’re both still living but he’s not well last I heard.
Freaking scary 😮
I don't think this guys is entirely honest about her. Just goes to show you can live a decent life but still end up being a deceitful liar who cares about nobody but themselves. He's very lucky he did not get infected. Did he not notice her taking medications, hospital visits and asking what it was all about?
she did not take any retroviral meds that's why she died of aids. and he is not caring enough about her and kinda a manchild
If You Listen To Him, He Got Settlement From His First Divorce. I Believe He Married Her For Her Money And Ignored His Wife's disease. He Is Going Back To Thailand To Claim All The Wealth He Got From His Wife's Money
@@AfricanUSA-th9ov He'll be lucky!
I’m sure you’re not going to read this but my dad Vinny whom you may know from work as a scuba diving instructor before is truly, truly sorry about hearing such news. Our deepest condolences❤
I commend your strength Gary, truly incredible. Hope things go well for you when you return to Phuket, best.
People may wonder how it was possible that he didn’t get HIV with sustained unprotected sex. That’s actually the likely outcome. Regular P in V insertive sex has a transmission risk from the CDC of 1 in 2500. Even if you had sex everyday that’s 6.8 years of daily sex before transmission. Anyone that’s had a relationship knows the sex tapers off enormously over time. I know a number of people with HIV that have had it for decades. If anyone has any questions about HIV, just ask. It’s worth mentioning that had she told him, he could have taken prep meds like Truvada or Descovy and there would be near zero transmission risk. Silence and stigma are as deadly as HIV itself which is why stories like this are enormously important to hear.
Thank you. there is such a stigma to AIDS and HIV. It's a shame that there is such stigma attached to it. I still question how it didn't get passed to me.
@@yourdadsvan6763 It’s just a roulette wheel with 2500 slots. You didn’t spin it enough times to land on zero. Simple as that. HIV has a difficult time surviving in the vaginal canal and getting into your body through the tip of your penis. Especially the latter. Circumcised guys actually have less HIV infection risk because of this. Look it up. Pretty interesting stuff.
What you say is 100% correct
@@Fran234-h9j I’m not putting it at zero since adherence is never 100% and immune system response is variable you never get to zero. Hundreds of thousands to one.
Male circumcision can also reduce transmition for males by 50%
Man this is a tough story to hear. No winners here. I can only say I feel,for you guy.
Thanks for sharing
Your story Gary Big respect
It touched me deeply
Sending good energy and thoughts your way 🙏
Heavy stuff! Sorry for his loss. Gosh, quite a story and wish him well.
I have met Gary. Very genuine guy. Very moving. I’m wishing him the best for the future. I gave him a big hug when I saw him last. God bless.
I know that this isn't the case in this story, but I worry about the men going over to Thailand for the bar scene and having unprotected sex. It isn't only HIV, but silent killers with no symptoms like HPV that they may pass on to wives, girlfriends or future girlfriends, be sensible and use protection.
And get the HPV vaccine.
HPV is not a killer
@@raymondmunroe5459 More than 9 of every 10 cases of cervical cancer are caused by HPV.
@@Fran234-h9j everything is normal untik theyve had a skinful
@@raymondmunroe5459Precursor to cancer
Thanks for sharing your story! Wishing you all the best, mate.
My brother died from this terrible disease..an i watched him suffer an loae all hope for years.....but you sir should be extremely pissed at your x wife...loving her is one thing...but her killing you is murder...look at it how you want..facts are facts...
Thank you for your comment. I’m not sure if you noticed in the video but I’m not actually dead
@@yourdadsvan6763good way to put it .
This is very sad 😞 Sad too that his wife didn’t feel able to tell her husband she was ill. I hope the lady’s daughter is doing well 🩷 and I hope in time this man’s heart can heal ❤️🩹
I am wondering if she had HIV or something else? It pretty interesting that she didn’t passed the HIV on her husband..
So sorry for your loss Gary, and thank you for sharing your story.
Brave telling your story. May your late wife rest in peace. She loved you and she just wanted to stay with you and would not tell because she was afraid to loose you. I was in Pattaya first time when I was 25. Like you I Hated it. Was just there again recently now 55 years old, and that was much better. Interestingly how perspective changes. But remember it only take one minute to catch AIDS, so let's all be aware of that. All the best.
Would you want someone to do this to you,I think love is being truthful and not wanting ur love ones to be hurt,I see if u had that disease u would willfully give it to someone u claimed u love,that's heartless
@@islyrevans295💯 Selfish act.