The Myth of the Girlboss is Such a Mess | @Jouelzy
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so pretty!!!!! 🥰🥰👸🏾👸🏾
Hey Jouelzy, I have a very important question so I hope you see this. I’ve been seeing over and over people talking about dismantling capitalism and how toxic it is but I wanted to know... what are we trying to replace it with ? Is it that we’re aiming for a socialist/communist society or some other new way to operate the economy ? I’m just curious because while I know the end goal I for equality I’m not sure exactly what type of society we’re aiming for. I’m still fairly new to trying to understand all this stuff so please bare with me if my question sounds silly
Yaaaaaas!
In this discussion I am reminded of Elizabeth Holmes, the CEO of Theranos, and how she did everything from dressing like Steve Jobs and frying her voice down an octave or two to portray this image of authority and power all while her company was falling apart behind the scenes. She is a perfect example of this whole girlboss scheme.
first of all you look GLORIOUS, Jouelzy.
She really does!
Yes! And I'm glad she knows it and says it before anybody else! "I mean, if nothing else, a bitch looks good today!" !!!
I always rolled my eyes a little when I heard the term "girlboss" and even "girl power" rubs me the wrong way. If the systems of power are not changing, the idea of girl power is just putting lipstick on a pig. Power is power, adding "girl" in front of it implies that it is "other" and true power and dominance in a white supremacist, patriarchal, capitalistic society will never define power as "other." Am I making sense? Ethier way, you look stunning as always.
Make sense! Great insight!
Yup
I think it’s about how one views the term. For example to me black power is a sense of self within our community it has nothing to do with power in the white supremacy structure. Because you can gain a lot of power in the world but lack power within oneself. I don’t know about girl power because I don’t say that. But to me that is what black power means to me, not an “other” but a sense of self in which many in our community has lacked in trying to subscribe to European norms.
@Sunrise That's more about self-determination, though. Depends on how people are using it.
Girl boss, corporate feminism - ww don’t want to change anything. They want to give an illusion of supporting women
They have no incentive to.
The tea is scalding this morning
@@kxlot79 exactly white supremacy has them as the pinnacle of femininity and the most prized women so why would they want to change that and take away their privileges for other women especially not bw. Life is a competition we must acknowledge said and put ourselves as the pinnacle and not expect them to.
🙃 oop!
That's quotable af
“GiRl BoSs” is just white women’s version of “boot straps”. 🙄
Thank u 🙏🏼
Pretty much! It never spoke to me and honestly delayed my desire to become an entrepreneur.
Yessss!!
This!!
P Johnson
We’re not MAKING it a race thing, but it would be remiss to ignore the fact that the phrase “girl boss” has been overtaken by a certain group of women (largely white) who preach to the community a rhetoric of hard work, while ignoring how their own privilege has contributed to their level of success.
Kinda off topic: I started reading “eloquent rage” and I cried during chapter two. I am a true introvert so I was never surrounded by women that have the same struggles growing up with other female friends. It’s an amazing read and a comfort for those who think they are alone with certain anxieties.
That was the third book we read in the book club and there's a whole interview w/ Dr. Brittney Cooper on the SBG Book Club UA-cam.
I’m going to have to read that!
Jouelzy definitely going to watch! And I need to catch up for sure lol
I have that book!!! So glad to find another who knows about it!
1. You look especially gorgeous in this video. 2. Sitting in my car was part of my daily after work self care routine and now that I barely leave my house I don’t have that unwind and reflect time anymore and it shows. 3. The idea of Girl Boss is not inherently problematic, it’s the way it’s applied in the more high profile arenas. It’s like the higher your profile the more you pull from the patriarchal playbook to stay on top because you don’t want to put held up as an example of failure. Also the low key fame of girl boss has alluring trappings like brunches and speaking engagements, profiles and articles written about you makes it hard to see your BS if your community isn’t keeping you in check.
Ok I liked how u put that!!
I can't explain it either, but the car does hit different sometimes
but why are you looking THAT good Jouelzy? Whew, living for it
I aim to articulate my frustrations and observations this eloquently! You’re bomb!
Yes girl I have moved past the constant hustle mentality. I realized the girl boss movement was a joke very early on. I look forward to the next discussion of the black woman empowerment brunch scams.
That mother sounds like she has narcissistic personality disorder. They love babies. They see them as a reflection of themselves and shower affection. As soon as the child is around 3-6 and starts exhibiting a personality or pushing back and having opinions and their own will the narc parent loses interest. Which really confuses the child who got used to being love bombed. Everything from then on becomes conditional love. You do what I say or you’re a disappointment. You’re a reflection of me and must never damage my image. And the affection thereafter is doled out only in public when witnesses are around to perform for.
Ouch. That hurt. My mom put someone else's kids above her own. She praises them when I did everything by the book. We didn't have food in our fridge from Sunday to Wednesday. We were yelled at to wake up and pray at 3am by my dad. My dad constantly beraided my mom. I told my mom to leave my dad at the age of probably 10. I don't know if they were narcs , bipolar , schizo, ....I just know there was constant fighting and us kids walked on eggshells. I really wish we were put into foster care. I was diagnosed with manic depression and the meds are terrible. If I was in a stable environment growing up, I would have flourished. I was # 2 on the Spanish Honor Society , numerous other awards and then I turned to stripping to support myself. Sent my family money when they needed it and they kicked me to the curb when I needed their help after Hurricane Katrina.I just started talking to my mom again after no contact for yearsss. We adressed alot of issues but she still oversteps her boundaries sometimes. She told someone who she knows bullied me growing up my personal business regarding my son. Should I just cut off all ties with them? Sometimes I don't know if they are more of a help or a hindrance.
You hit the nail on the head 😬
Cynthia Angelie Foster Care/CPS is a *huge* gamble too. Your chances of getting pulled into some trafficking or abusive home were probably even with an environment just a half step above your parents’.
Our history shapes our current self, but we can make the conscientious choice of what defines our future self.
Sometimes, “you have to learn to get up from the table where love is no longer being served.”
@@kxlot79 : Yep, definitely a gamble. Thanks for the sound advice.
Cynthia Angelie sweetheart I’m sorry for your struggles. I do wish you had a handle on what exactly they were beside awful. It helps a bit to know when you read up on their diagnoses and understand why they’re like that. Just know they can never love you like you need to be loved. It’s impossible so don’t harbour hope. Also no matter your age no contact is still best. My mom is a narcissistic personality disorder too and I’ve noticed the months I go no contact are my happiest. Contact raises my anxiety. And she acts nice at first to lower my guard but eventually she attacks like a snake bite out of nowhere. They can’t help it. Any niceness is to draw you back under their influence. They are energy vampires and you should not allow them to feed on you or expose any kid you have to them unsupervised. Cut ties if you can.
I'm looking forward to the video on the Black Woman "Empowerment" Movement/Brunch/Seminar trend. There's just so much to be said.
Yes!!!
I cackled at "empowerment brunch" 🤣
I’m so here for Jouelzy taking about books!! Such a delightful listen!🤗
Since this whole thing (society and covid) triggers my anxiety I also had to find a place to get my serenity so i completely get the car situation.
Meditation slows down and connects the mind and body. The breathwork signals your brain to lower threat messages (anxiety). Most importantly, it's a mindfulness practice that strengthens interoception and emotional intelligence/resilience (if you are doing that way).
Yasss bish! Come through grown woman looking fine as wine!!! This video is soooo needed. Most these people are MLM scammers anyway😂. Im a work from home freelancer balancing ALOT. I'm the real "girl boss" . Most these frauds just do anything for stunts and shows. 🤷
I remember your video on the girlboss book or was it a Netflix moment that flopped. So you're not cracking up you did speak on this phenomenon and wagged your finger at the hype around it.
Okay, but the QUALITY. The substance. The vibes. We don’t deserve! Now back to the prompt........Does anyone else go down the deep rabbit hole of “how do I continue to aim for my own ambitions while not mistakenly perpetuating this harmful concept in my own circle?” Like, how we do burn this down, start from scratch and do it the **right** way? That’s been my question every single day lately....
I didn't see the links to the articles you referenced.
"replicating the same systems that keep people out to let an individual in, doesn't actually change anything"
That's👏🏾
A👏🏾
WORD👏🏾!
I went and bought that audiobooks 04.00 mins into the video. Great convo around Girl Boss. I was sucked back then in 2017. I've learnt a lot since then. Even more so since working for myself.
In the first couple minutes I felt a soul hug... like, I feel seen and I feel HEARD and this is major for me right now.
Yes next time about class and black ppl and how upper class black ppl sometime enter twine with white ppl. Example: Khloe and malika
I agree with everything you said. Well communicated and entertaining as usual💕. I also never liked the term girl boss from its onset. It always felt very exclusionary. That and the fact that I just cant stand it when grown women refer to themselves as girls. "Girl boss". That always makes me feel uncomfortable as well. Thank you for an amazing video!
Ok but I felt that first 3 mins to my whole mfn CORE. If there is a center of your core like "your cores core" that's where that hit.
Your hair, makeup and look is a vibe!
The grocery store thing happened to me. I was a nanny in Orange County and the little one threw a fit. Her mother asked me to take her outside and some white woman came up and asked me if I was her mother (obviously not she’s very white this kid) and I’m obviously not stealing her considering I’m just outside pacing in front of the store. So we had to go back in and get the mother for this woman to believe I wasn’t kidnapping this kid. It was horrifying.
The Louis meme 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I died. I love you
STUNNING SIS! 😍
Your energy was very different in this video compared to others I've seen! I could tell that you were genuinely entertained by the book while also being able to conjure up some great critical thought. Like you said this seems to be a more lighthearted read (although still laced with some important commentary) and it showed through your presentation of it! Not to mention..you look so pretty!
You touched on so many gems.💎 I will admit now I am definitely looking at the "Girl Boss" movement in a different light now. I have seen it first hand since I am part of a local Blogger group who are predominately with varying opinions (stories for days).
I love your boho locs!!
Is that what their called? I'm watching trying to figure out what type of braids they were...I'm not trying to risk it in coronavirus land.
@@gospel3067 They are crochet braids. You buy them online.. I have some installed, but mine are like 30". They are pricey.
lol it's regular braids, my sister did, with most of the hair left out and then I perm rodded them.
@@jouelzy Ohh!! Omg. They look really good. They look like Boho locs, I think because of the end, they remained me of boho locs
You spoke the unequivocal and undisputed truth around the girl boss and white feminism upholding the patriarchy. Thank you. I read the book It's Such a Fun Age. It was fantastic. If there is a movie or tv adaptation, I will plunk down my money and make time... If for anything else then seeing the last a couple chapters re-enacted. I want to SEE Alex's face when the gig is UP! Great channel. You look fabulous.
Jouelzy you look so good!!!! Love this look!
I literally came herr because her look was so cute the hair makeup and top even the background all eccentric and natural💜
Great points! As you spoke it made me think of the Suffrage Movement and how it in many ways black women out and controlled the narrative of feminism.
I missed you girl!! And cyber hug, yes the world is on fire but the love is still here for you sistah! in therapy myself, working from home as always, dealing liken the rest, rooting for us all.
OK Jouelzy! Looking amazing 😍😍
Jouelzy, I’ve been going back and forth about reading this book. You sold me on it! I’m ordering it right now!
Excitedly looking forward to the Black Women Empowermenr Brunch discussion. Just attended my first Essence Fest brunch in 2019 and it was interesting to say the least.
You look good lady!! Keep educating the people 🗣🗣🗣
Wow! Something is different about your look. But, whatever it is it’s working for you!! Love to see it. 🙌🏽
I subscribed to your book club and just got Such a Fun Age on Audible! Excited to engage with other readers and get book recommendations that are more likely to matter to me! Thank you for this! I know maintaining a 2nd channel can be alot.
Jouelzy you coming for people’s head with your fine self?!
Lauren! Sis, we watch the same content. I see your comments on For Harriet too. Lol
You look good. Period.
You better werk Jouelzy! (dating myself with that word 🤣) Hair and overall look is fabulous.
The hair, the make up and the clothes🤩
This look is EVERYTHING! You are gorgeous.
Gorgeous!!! ❤️
I just dropped in from the suggestion page to say you're looking good! ✌️🏽
What kind of braids are these called? I think I wanna do this style next!
I’m with you. I love listening to Audible while working. I can’t listen once I’m off. I like listening to preaching in the car. I don’t no why I cant listen to them in my home it is just my husband and I. SMH
You look lovely! And this topic is so needed
I miss driving to and from work because I used to get my audiobook on heavy.
Yes!!!!! For this face!!! You look amazing, diva! 💗
First of all you look great! Second of all you killed this ! I 100% Agree!
I said “yass Queen, you look tf goodt.” Then your intro hit lol ... cus it’s fikes (my plies voice)!
Love your videos, you get me thinking !
Very good commentary.
Omg you’re so pretty 😭✨🌸
I mean DAMN. You always look good, but this look here is extra special. Gorgeous. And always on point with your content.
Braids is 🔥🔥
Flawless darling!!!!
A bit sexiest commenting on her look and not the words she is saying
You look amazing Girllll !!!!!!!!!!!!
Thumbs up for the hair and makeup alone. Okay let me continue watching 😁
Jouelzy,
LibroFM could potentially be another good source for your SBG Book Club.
If you become an "influencer" with their app, you get to get new audiobooks before they come out for free, which you could screen for the book club. Such A Fun Age was one of the books a few months back, and this month, they have Morgan Jenkins; Wandering in Strange Lands as one of the seven or so audiobooks they offer.
Likewise, I believe like with Bookshop, you can also have people purchase an audiobook through the SBG Book Club and get a kickback from their purchase.
I just circled back to ask how we did these braids?
Hey Jouelzy! very mentally stimulating response. thank you
I have the Girlboss book on my shelf...I want to read now, just to see lol
I started reading the book but the moment it mentioned Aleister Crowley I was like nope. Pause this shit. Lol
You look so good!
I just clicked on the video to say you're stunning. Thats it. Have a nice day.😊
I cannot wait til you get to the black empowerment brunch scene. I’m from Houston so you know I’ve got all the things to say about that chyle.
Ordered the book 5 minutes in.
Looking extra extra good
You look beautiful!
This sounds kind of reminds me of handmaids tale, the wives were only mothers for show. Behind the scenes those woman sucked at being mothers
You look SO beautifuuuuulllllllll. I love this look
Deep breathing practices are ace for staying sane right now!
You look fabulous. NC ❤
Either Jouelzy lost weight or her contouring on fleek 🧐
WE DIDNT START THE FIRE.
THOUGH WE DIDNT IGNITE IT
STILL WE TRY TO FIGHT IT.
WE DIDNT START THE FIRE. !! Billy joel
So beautiful 😍
Haaaaaaaaaaaay Beautiful!
Do u know what a Coloured is
Total facts!!!!
Yo not the Kelie video clip 😫
The eloquence of Jouelzy !! I did not like the Girl boss book either read it back in 2016 it was a full-on privilege ! it made me feel so weird.
i love your hair
Bottom line I think it was a power play to please other audiences along with himself. I think it worked for him but on the flip side. I’m sure it messed me up as a little brown girl who looked nothing like his Preferences. I adored Carmen Electra and then came Pam Anderson eventually. So glorifying those images Totally left a negative impression on me. By twenty years old I stop watching music videos and award shows because I got tired of the mess leaving me feeling less then.
You look great!
Jewelry details please!!
Thanks I live in my car lol, I'll be there for hours at a time
Oh gosh you look beautiful 🥰🤩
Looking beautiful girl!
You are beautiful 💜 now back to the video
Took a shot everytime she said "like". I'm pretty toasted right now 😣😩
You look GOOD.
People could just make their own business.