Niamh-Creates definitely, she looks like she smokes refer from time to time. And he definitely snorts Coke on the weekends then has a selfie photoshoot
SoulPancake I think opposites can attract, but I think when you bring two people who have very few things in common, especially at such an age where you are confident in what you like, it is easier to want somebody that you can relate to more. After all, who wants to debate their stance on everything with their spouse 24/7? I would be exhausted. 😂 Good try, though.
@SoulPancake , it was mostly that they seemed to have very different tastes... in almost everything. Plus, she was ready to settle down, no messing around... he has commitment issues.
From his taste in music I would have appreciated him more, but man, once you start with I am already self-absorbed and narcissistic... already a deal breaker.
Wow. She seems to be a really sweet person. Its crazy how childhood experiences affect people so much. She's 42 and crying from stuff that happened in high school. damn :¦
To be honest with you it does seem strange to me, for a white skinned person to be affected like that. And even though I am not american, neither grew up there; I'm black and have of course experienced racism. Maybe the dynamics are different but I do sympathise with her.
Missy D understandable why you wouldn't think she would go through 'traumatic racism' because she's light skinned. Honestly it's very different for everybody.
Lovely * she's not just light, she's white. Problem is that in America, there are different types of white people and I guess she wasn't the right type
I don't know what the perspectives are like in other countries, regarding what makes someone white, brown, or black, but in America, this woman will never be seen as a white person. The only people in America who I could see calling this woman white would be far-leftists who'd seek to invalidate her experience as an ethnic minority by saying she has "light-skinned privilege." In that sense, she'd be facing racism from multiple sides (which is something I've been through, myself, as a half-black, half-white person).
deadlyNightshade789 at least he knows and let's other people know instead of pretending to not be and trap people in something they weren't expecting (can't tell at all that I've been said trapped person before, hu lol 😉)
deadlyNightshade789 He doesn't seem like a narcissist even though he says he is, actual narcissists are not very self aware and wouldn't admit to being one.
He may be a narcissist, but he's self aware...that's no small feat, it inspires self change. I've met many narcissists who didn't even know they were acting a certain way which was throwing people off. He seemed down to earth, and honest almost to a fault (super rare). Fully aware of what he wants, and his self awareness led to him saying things in a way that were careful not to hurt her feelings. She was a sweetheart, passionate, and you can tell she has a protective part of her she shows to only those she cares about. Because of her struggles growing up, whether she realizes it or not, she doesn't seem to settle for anything other than what will make her happy. If she's not happy, she's gone. Most people stick around things that make them unhappy, because they're not capable of drawing clear lines. She should be proud of this part of her, it's one of her strengths. It also likely makes the relationships she has, pure gold. If you're lucky enough to be a person she has in her inner circle, she'd move mountains for you. I really like watching the interactions between people. :)
Being aware that you are a bad person isn't a mitigating factor until it actually, demonstrably results in change. Until then, it's not a source of brownie points. If anything, being a bad person and knowing it yet doing nothing to become better makes you even worse.
Music isn’t a deal breaker! This guy is 😂 all walks of music are beautiful sometimes you need house. Sometimes you need the slow melodic music! But he wasn’t her cup of tea
It is for some people. Me, for example. I see shows all the time, listen to music everywhere, am a musician. If your partner can't enjoy those things with you when it's such a huge part of your life, I'm out.
I think it is very very difficult to accurately judge someone as sexist or narcissistic without knowing them for a period of time. I guess I didn't detect any vibes like that. I've learned that most of the time, when we label someone, esp a man, as sexist, it usually turns out to not be true after getting to know them.
What clued you in? The intro where he declares himself a narcissistic megalomaniac? Lol. Who declares that as though it’s not a problem? What a creep. Or at best, he’s trying to be funny and self-deprecating, but the joke landed horribly.
Louella.y that’s me lol. I like music but I don’t go out of my way to play it unless I’m exercising, I also don’t have a strong preference really 🤷🏻♀️
Why are you all hating this man? I actually loved both of them! This might be my favorite episode so far.. I watched this episode 2 times so that I would understand why people are not liking this guy, but I didn't find anything wrong with him.
For *you*. People are allowed to decide what matters for them. I'm a music journalist and a lot of my life revolves around music, so it'd be pretty impossible for me to date someone who has no interest in music, for example. I want the important people in my life to be able to engage with what matters most to me.
Uhhhh, you literally used to the words *your* s/o and *have to* so you were generalizing your opinion to the entire population. Also that language you used it childish and offensive, grow up.
I love her!!! She said South African house music, I was in! Glad they were honest enough to say "No bueno on the dating thing". Liberating to just be honest & know what you don't want. Good luck to both of them!
Um yes music taste is definitely a deal breaker for me it says a lot about the person their taste but as well as the person personality I mean music is life to me so I would definitely need and want someone who loves it like I do I don't discriminate I love all types of music if it sounds great then I'm all for it I'm highly Opened minded i understand what the lady was coming from her soul is beautiful I wish her nothing but the best in life in finding a partner
Interesting take. What if someone doesn't know about the type of music you like? Would you be open to to introducing it to them or should they know it from jump?
By the way your name is I could tell you why rap. And if you want to assume that music describes a person I see you as a drug dealer that beats woman. Because that's what rappers do in 2018. I listen to a whole bunch of different music, it doesn't indicate my life though. I can go from wanting to listen to Green Day to wanting to listen to Beethoven. I can go from wanting to listen to Drake Bell to wanting to listen to Selena ( not Gomez). Music does not indicate how a person is.
Though I see the point of many videos on your channel to be about first impressions and judgement. It could just be me, but seeing someone look from top to bottom and then respond with a very disinterested judgemental tone is unpleasant to see.
ulovedai I think it's crazy how the people in the videos can be so different but yet they get along and aren't at each other's throats and then you come to the comments where people are talking about them but are not nice and are fighting...
I gotta say before I go any further in the video, SoulPancake please please please bring the old set of these meetings!!!!! The black room does NOT WORK AT ALL! Bring back the open wide light gray room please and thank you!
The moment he said he is narcissist... his expressions on all her answers specially on house music and gay parade part... she deserved a better match. She is beautiful inside and outside.
I love this series so much! It gives me so much perspective on how people may be perceiving me and it’s interesting. I love the black background. You only focus on the people. 👍🏻👍🏻
Agreed.....when one watches these videos, they have to realise that it is difficult to be genuine even when trying really hard. The man could be very humble and we did not get a chance to see it.
I'm SO glad these 2 aren't getting together!!! They're a horrible match! But she's tooooo adorable and I really really hope she finds the love of her life and he treats her like a Queen cause she's a little treasure!!! And should be treated like one! He will be a lucky man to get her, whoever he is!
Augusto Polloni Controlling parents can scar their children for life. Their unreasonable expectations and manipulative ways can instill self- doubt, anxiety and frustration in kids. He does say that he is a megalomaniac, right? Also a narcissist. So even though I know that it isn't my place, he really came off to me as someone who would constantly try to change your mind about something important to you. And this is toxic. Both to the partner and the kids. Some people, with their constant need to defend their egos and their blunt rejection of anybody's views different to theirs, are toxic. Really toxic. When they make you feel stupid every chance they get, it destroys you as a person. But like you said, I might be wrong. He might turn out to be a good father and I earnestly hope that you are right.
Its amazing how delightful and warm people can be when they are truly themselves, no excuses. This lady beams with light and happiness, but this guy is too busy looking for flaws and ways that they dont connect, that he's not only missing out on the joy that is this lovely woman, but diminishing his own light when he could shine just as brightly. Im sure he's just not nearly as comfortable with who he is as she is.
Wow! I found him strangely attractive. Like a male version to my female version. The difference being he acknowledges freely, and is self-aware enough, to tell us he is self-absorbed and narcissistic(I have been told by some family members I have these tendencies). I get that as a musician, certain types of music are just absolute no-go's. For example, my classically trained violin teacher could not listen to Jazz 'Manouche' or Jazz violin, she missed the structure. Barbara is such a sweetheart. Being latina growing up outside of latin america, I can relate with the difficulties of fitting in. Her love of House could come from her emotional association to hearing that music at the place she 'finally' felt accepted and welcomed. Two sweet people coming from different perspectives but able to meet half way and not hurt each others feelings. This was great. I wish them the best, respectively. Peace.
The ghosting on the sex thing bothered me a bit, if you don't like it, TALK to the person.Worked for me & I was So glad I did!Fantastic guy, just needed a little help!
I feel like music is a deal breaker because I like mostly everything. I will give anything an ear but if I can't get into it. then it will just be awkward. shes so sweet!
Its funny that all the comments are hating on him being judgemental while the’re being judgemental themselfs abd i totally get the guy he’s a musician so music probably means a lot to him and if she doesn’t like his taste and he doesn’t like hers it’s a dealbreaker.
I don´t know why everyone has so much negativity towards him in the comments. To me he is just an honest and straightforward guy, a little rough but it´s okay, just masculine. I liked them both and the fact that they could explain their choice at the end in such a friendly way, laughing about it and all, makes me like them both even more.
The people in the New York Edition have far less chemistry! Such a shame, but all I can think now is: they are far worse actors than the people in LA lol Loved the fact that the guy told us that he is a narcassist, because most people don't admit it! But I am so happy for Barbara that she said "No." I can't imagine dating someone like him...
I smiled when she said that her favorite music is South African house music. I’m South African and the music here is great, especially the house music.
I hate absolutely despise night clubs I cannot stand the music but I shut up and deal with it if my girl wants to go because I'm not gonna let goddamn music ruin my relationship. I like death metal or hardcore punk so I hate almost all her music but I have a type and that type is never going to like my music and if I turned down every one I'd die alone.
music is everything to me, so of course it's a deal breaker. The music a person likes says everything about what kind of wavelength they are on, emotionally, intellectually, artistically, existentially...
AGT is a master at making sappy stories the hook even though there is no Extraordinary talent behind the contestant. That's exactly how I feel with Barbara. I won't fall for her sad "I want to find love that don't judge me" tears. The subject about sex (both in the bedroom and the "talk" with children) just told me everything I need to know about her.
Yall did Barbara wrong for this one. She deserves better.
yeah, they gave her a selfaware narcisst lol woooow
Who this guy think he is?
i‘m waiting for the day where one of the names will be correct in the beginning
Yes!!!!!!!
They spelled my name wrong! It's Barbra not Barbara! :)
Blove212 awww. I loved you! You seem so caring and free. I’m glad you have friends that love who you are.
me too!!
i was JUST thinking that
she's amazing and super open minded, i really like her. but i feel like he was judging her all the time, it was really off-putting.
She judged HIM for being a musician. Why doesn't anyone see that? :/
We all judge. Being judgmental can be a good thing, and if you're too open minded your brain falls out.
I love her. I really hope she finds a good man!
she won't she thinks she's special
@@dtmt502 I hope she Knows that she's special. She deserves someone just as great.
I could tell from the beginning that they weren't compatible.
What hints did you pick up to get to that conclusion?
Niamh-Creates definitely, she looks like she smokes refer from time to time.
And he definitely snorts Coke on the weekends then has a selfie photoshoot
SoulPancake
I think opposites can attract, but I think when you bring two people who have very few things in common, especially at such an age where you are confident in what you like, it is easier to want somebody that you can relate to more. After all, who wants to debate their stance on everything with their spouse 24/7? I would be exhausted. 😂 Good try, though.
@SoulPancake , it was mostly that they seemed to have very different tastes... in almost everything. Plus, she was ready to settle down, no messing around... he has commitment issues.
Niamh-Creates i think he was put off by the tattoos tbh
Within 5 seconds of his opening speech, I already dislike him.
Same. When someone comes right out and says they're a megalomaniac, steer clear!
same.
Au'Brie McKoy-Marshall same
Oof the vibe was terrible
🤣🤣😂😂
He should just date music. That seems like the perfect partner.
Mbula M. Lol true.
Fatimah
Haha! He's too complicated for anyone's tolerance 😂
j vall
Haha! ✨
LOL im weakkk
From his taste in music I would have appreciated him more, but man, once you start with I am already self-absorbed and narcissistic... already a deal breaker.
Salma Rouyett at least he was honest and not pretentious and you have to give him for that
Rightt??
Lawstidentity
That doesn't suddenly make him redeemable now
@@berlinwall6674 we all have flaws, at least he admitted his.
Facts like wtf 😭
Wow. She seems to be a really sweet person. Its crazy how childhood experiences affect people so much. She's 42 and crying from stuff that happened in high school. damn :¦
Missy D I'm guessing you never experienced the kind of racism that existed decades ago
To be honest with you it does seem strange to me, for a white skinned person to be affected like that.
And even though I am not american, neither grew up there; I'm black and have of course experienced racism. Maybe the dynamics are different but I do sympathise with her.
Missy D understandable why you wouldn't think she would go through 'traumatic racism' because she's light skinned. Honestly it's very different for everybody.
Lovely * she's not just light, she's white. Problem is that in America, there are different types of white people and I guess she wasn't the right type
I don't know what the perspectives are like in other countries, regarding what makes someone white, brown, or black, but in America, this woman will never be seen as a white person. The only people in America who I could see calling this woman white would be far-leftists who'd seek to invalidate her experience as an ethnic minority by saying she has "light-skinned privilege." In that sense, she'd be facing racism from multiple sides (which is something I've been through, myself, as a half-black, half-white person).
Oh he's a narcissist alright
deadlyNightshade789 at least he knows and let's other people know instead of pretending to not be and trap people in something they weren't expecting (can't tell at all that I've been said trapped person before, hu lol 😉)
Narcissism is a fickle thing.
deadlyNightshade789
He doesn't seem like a narcissist even though he says he is, actual narcissists are not very self aware and wouldn't admit to being one.
You would think narcissists would at least be attractive or put in the effort. This guy is hairy AND fat. Not a good combo
Stacy Higginson
Except.....he didnt actually tell her this. He told the camera about these bad qualities before she showed up
He may be a narcissist, but he's self aware...that's no small feat, it inspires self change. I've met many narcissists who didn't even know they were acting a certain way which was throwing people off. He seemed down to earth, and honest almost to a fault (super rare). Fully aware of what he wants, and his self awareness led to him saying things in a way that were careful not to hurt her feelings.
She was a sweetheart, passionate, and you can tell she has a protective part of her she shows to only those she cares about. Because of her struggles growing up, whether she realizes it or not, she doesn't seem to settle for anything other than what will make her happy. If she's not happy, she's gone. Most people stick around things that make them unhappy, because they're not capable of drawing clear lines. She should be proud of this part of her, it's one of her strengths. It also likely makes the relationships she has, pure gold. If you're lucky enough to be a person she has in her inner circle, she'd move mountains for you.
I really like watching the interactions between people. :)
really like your comment! I agree fully.
Damn, one sad ass existence then...
But with the way he was talking he had no intention of changing
Being aware that you are a bad person isn't a mitigating factor until it actually, demonstrably results in change. Until then, it's not a source of brownie points. If anything, being a bad person and knowing it yet doing nothing to become better makes you even worse.
Wow, Chrissy. Can you please be my therapist? I am serious.
I think homeboys big ol head is the deal breaker
Grant Jackson lolaa
i know right, the first few sentences threw me off
Grant Jackson 😭😂😂😂
😂😂😂
LMaooo
From the start, I knew they were not going to work out.
What lead you on to believe they were not going to work out?
well, i assumed it then i was like you know what i'll give them a shot. But as the video progressed all of her comments kind of let me down.
I love how friendly they rejected each other. It made the "I would not date you" issue SO much less awkward!
Or not awkward at all, really
Yes very well done!!
Music isn’t a deal breaker! This guy is 😂 all walks of music are beautiful sometimes you need house. Sometimes you need the slow melodic music! But he wasn’t her cup of tea
Tee Right! Especially with artists around like Cinematic Orchestra and others who mesh a variety of genres into one.
Everyone needs some headbanging metal.
It is for some people. Me, for example. I see shows all the time, listen to music everywhere, am a musician. If your partner can't enjoy those things with you when it's such a huge part of your life, I'm out.
I need more Tell My Story in my life!!! These are great!
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Thanks! But I have seen all the episodes of the Tell My Story Series! They are fantastic to watch, so keep it up! :D
Barbara is the sweetest lady ever omg. I almost cried when she cried
huntopia wow thanks for the kind words 🙏🏾😊
The guy had a creepy sexist, narcissistic vibe. The girl was awesome though.
I think it is very very difficult to accurately judge someone as sexist or narcissistic without knowing them for a period of time. I guess I didn't detect any vibes like that. I've learned that most of the time, when we label someone, esp a man, as sexist, it usually turns out to not be true after getting to know them.
What clued you in? The intro where he declares himself a narcissistic megalomaniac? Lol. Who declares that as though it’s not a problem? What a creep. Or at best, he’s trying to be funny and self-deprecating, but the joke landed horribly.
That “gay pride” answer was so wholesome❤️
yes it was :-)
Even gay people have judgements. When I tell gay people I am a Christian and a conservative the crap hits the fan.
The deal breaker for me is if the person doesn't care about music.
Louella.y that’s me lol. I like music but I don’t go out of my way to play it unless I’m exercising, I also don’t have a strong preference really 🤷🏻♀️
Louella.y - do you really like ALL music.
Most who love opera, do not love rap and/or punk.
Most who love rap and/or punk do not love opera.
Louella.y RIGHT?!?! Like, who in the world doesn't care or have an opinion about music?!
@msc14111990 I don't understand those people. "Life without music is no life at all." - Friedrich Nietzsche
I love that she likes South African house music.. I'm from South Africa!!!
simone smith Have any recommendations?
she's such a sweetheart!!
Victoria Jones thank you for that 🙏🏾❤️
Yes! I felt like giving her a big warm hug when she talked about her past struggles. 💕
NO JOKE I GUESSED HER NAME WAS THERESA 😂
😂
Abby Astella lol I can’t 🤦🏽♀️
Lmao no aye 😂🤦🏽♀️
Why are you all hating this man? I actually loved both of them! This might be my favorite episode so far.. I watched this episode 2 times so that I would understand why people are not liking this guy, but I didn't find anything wrong with him.
I did not find anything wrong with him either.
okay if the person im dating doesnt like Melodrama by Lorde im suddenly single
MELODRAMA IS A MASTERPIECE
You're god damn right Lmao
aladinoux
Try Billie Ellish....she is 16, also an "art pop"/alt-pop artist
Finna supercut they ass outta our lives
SAMEEEEEEE
Taste in music *should not matter*.Your S/O doesn't need to like everything you do,tastes can differ they just have to respect your preference
For *you*. People are allowed to decide what matters for them. I'm a music journalist and a lot of my life revolves around music, so it'd be pretty impossible for me to date someone who has no interest in music, for example. I want the important people in my life to be able to engage with what matters most to me.
Uhhhh, you literally used to the words *your* s/o and *have to* so you were generalizing your opinion to the entire population. Also that language you used it childish and offensive, grow up.
him - 'I could become who I wanted to be' and he chose this guy..
MFO lolololol!!!
lmao
Hahahaaaa
I love her!!! She said South African house music, I was in! Glad they were honest enough to say "No bueno on the dating thing". Liberating to just be honest & know what you don't want. Good luck to both of them!
Wow I felt so bad seeing her cry as she told her story growing up in a place she was not accepted. You are beautiful and have an amazing heart 💙💙💙
Um yes music taste is definitely a deal breaker for me it says a lot about the person their taste but as well as the person personality I mean music is life to me so I would definitely need and want someone who loves it like I do I don't discriminate I love all types of music if it sounds great then I'm all for it I'm highly Opened minded i understand what the lady was coming from her soul is beautiful I wish her nothing but the best in life in finding a partner
Yeet ? Lol indeed. Lol.
I too thought that was important in my youth
Interesting take. What if someone doesn't know about the type of music you like? Would you be open to to introducing it to them or should they know it from jump?
By the way your name is I could tell you why rap. And if you want to assume that music describes a person I see you as a drug dealer that beats woman. Because that's what rappers do in 2018. I listen to a whole bunch of different music, it doesn't indicate my life though. I can go from wanting to listen to Green Day to wanting to listen to Beethoven. I can go from wanting to listen to Drake Bell to wanting to listen to Selena ( not Gomez). Music does not indicate how a person is.
Little HippieP I like rock music.
Damn this is difficult to watch. I wonder how the editor got through this.
Lol what made it difficult to watch shteewen?
Though I see the point of many videos on your channel to be about first impressions and judgement. It could just be me, but seeing someone look from top to bottom and then respond with a very disinterested judgemental tone is unpleasant to see.
@@shr779 yea at least the disinterested expression should be edited out a little. Makes people uncomfortable. Like. U know.
People in the comments love making these videos so one sided. People can't have preferences?
ulovedai That is so TRUE... Finally someone pointed it out... I find it annoying... But that's just me
ulovedai I think it's crazy how the people in the videos can be so different but yet they get along and aren't at each other's throats and then you come to the comments where people are talking about them but are not nice and are fighting...
I agree with all of the comments in this one string which is the most rational
Everyone can have preferences. Just because YOU find someone hot, doesn't mean everyone else needs to you. Don't have the mindset of a 3 year old.
They look like coworkers. I don’t feel like they had any chemistry. They get along, but they’re not a good match.
Yeah co-workers who don't get along 😂.
Ends the video with electronic music lol.
Alice Marie lol
Alice Marie Soul pancake.....😂😂😂. This comment made bust out laughing.
She's AWESOME
He is boring.
She looks so much like Reba to me... lol and yes!!! Music definitely is important!!!
Anna Weyant you’re right. She looks like a South American Reba.
i was thinking a younger benny from george lopez show
Bruh i see it
I like how, once they revealed if they would date each other or not the conversation afterwards felt more relaxed.
They both deserve to be happy! They should give another chance at a second date because they already created a connection. It just needs to develop.
I gotta say before I go any further in the video, SoulPancake please please please bring the old set of these meetings!!!!! The black room does NOT WORK AT ALL! Bring back the open wide light gray room please and thank you!
I love that she's talking about different types of House music!
I really like Barbara!
trblessed1020 thank you very much ☺️
U could tell from beginning there was no spark between them...
What gave it off?
The moment he said he is narcissist... his expressions on all her answers specially on house music and gay parade part... she deserved a better match. She is beautiful inside and outside.
@@Participant Physical chemistry.
When Barbara said South african house music i had the widest grin on my face
what a kind, gentle, and open-hearted woman. god bless
these are both two beautiful human beings
I love this series so much! It gives me so much perspective on how people may be perceiving me and it’s interesting. I love the black background. You only focus on the people. 👍🏻👍🏻
I am South African. So proud to hear that she likes our music. House is a genre like hip hop or rnb
She looks like the principal from A.N.T FARM from Disney channel
LOL spot on
LMAO THANKS
am i the only one who can’t understand what people are saying about this guy? what’s everybody’s problem with him?
I'm with you...I don't get what everyone's deal is with the dude??! I don't understand. Seemed regular to me #kanyeshrug
me too. they were both cute lol
Agreed.....when one watches these videos, they have to realise that it is difficult to be genuine even when trying really hard. The man could be very humble and we did not get a chance to see it.
I think they are at a point in their lives where they know what they want, and they aren’t playing around. Good for them.
She's so sweet and I although I wasn't a big fan of him, gotta give him credit for knowing himself well
She the bomb!!! She loves Deep House especially South African House Music!!!
OMG I just want to give her a hug.
I'm SO glad these 2 aren't getting together!!! They're a horrible match! But she's tooooo adorable and I really really hope she finds the love of her life and he treats her like a Queen cause she's a little treasure!!! And should be treated like one! He will be a lucky man to get her, whoever he is!
Okay, I'm sorry. But this man should NEVER father a child. Or even date for that matter.
Augusto Polloni Controlling parents can scar their children for life. Their unreasonable expectations and manipulative ways can instill self- doubt, anxiety and frustration in kids. He does say that he is a megalomaniac, right? Also a narcissist.
So even though I know that it isn't my place, he really came off to me as someone who would constantly try to change your mind about something important to you. And this is toxic. Both to the partner and the kids. Some people, with their constant need to defend their egos and their blunt rejection of anybody's views different to theirs, are toxic. Really toxic. When they make you feel stupid every chance they get, it destroys you as a person.
But like you said, I might be wrong. He might turn out to be a good father and I earnestly hope that you are right.
she’s so sweet i love her
When she said her mom would ask “What color is he?” 😵😧 just sad
OH MY GOODNESS I LOVE HER SO MUCH. it is absolutely insane how much childhood can affect someone. she is fantastic.
Music taste isnt a deal breaker, but i wont sit and listen to country music every day lol
haha the electronic soulpancake-theme afterwards xD
I love her, she's phenomenal and I can totally second everything she said about going out in the LGBTQ scene.
She seems like a mess. Learn from her and don't become like her when you're old like her.
Sounds great to me, minus the kid part, I'll take cats over them any day
what a precious woman! She's just so lovely and open-minded
She seems like a mess.
Eva Braun not for me :)
Yeah.. I know.. I saw your first comment xD
She loves South African house music! Wow I like her already! 💙
"I can be crazy but the person I'm dating can't"
And we're off to a great start
Its amazing how delightful and warm people can be when they are truly themselves, no excuses. This lady beams with light and happiness, but this guy is too busy looking for flaws and ways that they dont connect, that he's not only missing out on the joy that is this lovely woman, but diminishing his own light when he could shine just as brightly. Im sure he's just not nearly as comfortable with who he is as she is.
Now that’s a New York farewell. Easy and clean and not awkward
When she was crying during her solo cut I became extremely sad :(
Wow! I found him strangely attractive. Like a male version to my female version. The difference being he acknowledges freely, and is self-aware enough, to tell us he is self-absorbed and narcissistic(I have been told by some family members I have these tendencies). I get that as a musician, certain types of music are just absolute no-go's. For example, my classically trained violin teacher could not listen to Jazz 'Manouche' or Jazz violin, she missed the structure. Barbara is such a sweetheart. Being latina growing up outside of latin america, I can relate with the difficulties of fitting in. Her love of House could come from her emotional association to hearing that music at the place she 'finally' felt accepted and welcomed. Two sweet people coming from different perspectives but able to meet half way and not hurt each others feelings. This was great. I wish them the best, respectively. Peace.
She has helped us change our judgmental ideas on house music!
The ghosting on the sex thing bothered me a bit, if you don't like it, TALK to the person.Worked for me & I was So glad I did!Fantastic guy, just needed a little help!
Why is everyone hating on the guy he seems chill
He claimed he was a narcissist and needed someone to balance him out. That is a deal breaker right there.
The way his smile drooped when they opened their eyes.
She's adorable... Inside, and out... I LOVE HER
The woman is really sweet. I hope she finds someone who will accept and love her completely.
Ok i hate him
It took you 13 seconds to hate him lol.
MONICANDO
Shut Up!
Whats wrong with him? I dont see what everyones complaining about lol
yeah he's annoying.
MONICANDO Well he doesn't even know you so no need to hate him.
Bless her heart. I hope she finds a great partner.
The fact that not one but both of their choices were music based was interesting. A near hit by SoulPancake.
I feel like music is a deal breaker because I like mostly everything. I will give anything an ear but if I can't get into it. then it will just be awkward. shes so sweet!
Its funny that all the comments are hating on him being judgemental while the’re being judgemental themselfs abd i totally get the guy he’s a musician so music probably means a lot to him and if she doesn’t like his taste and he doesn’t like hers it’s a dealbreaker.
3:11 I love her for that answer! So sweet!!
Omg I think they have great chemistry... I love their humour together and how much they laugh! Dangit
I don´t know why everyone has so much negativity towards him in the comments. To me he is just an honest and straightforward guy, a little rough but it´s okay, just masculine. I liked them both and the fact that they could explain their choice at the end in such a friendly way, laughing about it and all, makes me like them both even more.
The people in the New York Edition have far less chemistry! Such a shame, but all I can think now is: they are far worse actors than the people in LA lol
Loved the fact that the guy told us that he is a narcassist, because most people don't admit it! But I am so happy for Barbara that she said "No." I can't imagine dating someone like him...
He may not want to date her, but I certainly would.
we need MOAR of these much MOAR
IamJacksColon4 do you mean more?
The guy did the right thing. Dating a mother of a 17 year old is like trying to fit in a really tight spot.
I haven’t even seen the entire video, just when the opened their eyes...and it’s already obvious they are NOT a match!
Awww I love it when they chose someone my age yaya... Really show how different, and harder to date when you're older
I wanna give miss barbara a big fat hug and tell her this giant lesbian loves and appreciates her
Can we get one that actually works out please!
Am I the only who first thought he wore a tesbih around the neck
Yasemin Ayla Now that you mentioned it, I wonder why too. 😂 I guess maybe it's a part of his fashion statement.
Colombian**
Gerardo Medina I was looking through to see if anyone would correct it😂 People need to start getting it right👍
Seriously. I was like 🙁😒
❤️❤️🇨🇴🇨🇴
"....I'm a narcissist....." RUN!
Yes, definitely. I could NOT live in a home with blaring rap, punk or opera.
If a guy says "choose me or ur glittery korean boy band," I'd say "there's the door."
Kookie Cookie haha me too!!
I smiled when she said that her favorite music is South African house music. I’m South African and the music here is great, especially the house music.
A kud ovog narcisa da nas predstavlja. The lady seems really kind and beautiful, hope she finds a good partner she deserves 💕
She's too sweet for him.
I hate absolutely despise night clubs I cannot stand the music but I shut up and deal with it if my girl wants to go because I'm not gonna let goddamn music ruin my relationship. I like death metal or hardcore punk so I hate almost all her music but I have a type and that type is never going to like my music and if I turned down every one I'd die alone.
music is everything to me, so of course it's a deal breaker. The music a person likes says everything about what kind of wavelength they are on, emotionally, intellectually, artistically, existentially...
AGT is a master at making sappy stories the hook even though there is no Extraordinary talent behind the contestant. That's exactly how I feel with Barbara. I won't fall for her sad "I want to find love that don't judge me" tears. The subject about sex (both in the bedroom and the "talk" with children) just told me everything I need to know about her.