I burnt out spectacularly about four years ago and feel like I'm still recovering. To begin with, I would just spend hours sitting in the sun doing nothing, letting my mind drift. It was about all I could cope with. Now, I've used it as a pivot point in my life to completely change directions. I'm still figuring out where I'm going, but this has taught me to listen to myself and what I want over any shoulds. Learning to be gentle with myself was so important. And figuring out what was actually urgent and what could wait.
I studied burnout in University - it is a fascinating physical reaction to stress. Your body basically shuts down and goes on strike. Your brain doesn't function, your body doesn't work, and your brain basically says that if you aren't going to take care of yourself and take a break, it will force you to take a break. Your brain dump and planning approach is a great way to reduce the stress and recover.
I saw a video where people who were elderly were asked for their best advice for younger people. They said that, if they could live their lives over, they would spend less time doing and more time being. That is now my mantra.
I really appreciate this video. I'm going thru burn out right now. Worked for 3 months straight to finally reach a goal I'd been apprenticing 9 years for. Jumping through all the last minute technical & demanding hoops required. Mock ups, architectural changes... Only to lose it to others who had nothing to show at the required presentation & just charmed the panel. (I found out later from the head of the project, that I'd actually been selected, but 'strings' had been pulled by those with influence.) I too felt like I had worked for nothing. I got disillusioned. And I haven't bounced back yet. Everything you said, I experienced. I was also painting for shows coming up & other things. I took no real breaks. I don't want to give up on the thing I love. It took me so long to stop doing the practical soul killing jobs & finally persue art. So thank you for giving some practical advice on how to beat it. I appreciate what you and Klee do so much.
You'll recover, but only if you allow yourself to recover. Taking time for yourself is a must, I myself am having a hard time grappling with that idea. You need a break and not focus on anything work related, and I swear it will feel like a large sack of stones have been lifted from your shoulders. Mindset is sooo important, you may not think consiously about it everyday, but ones mindset is always be a make or break behind anything you do.
I simply just want to send so very much love to anyone experiencing burnout. I hope each person with their stuggles work it out to live the life that brings them happiness.
Currently trying to recover from burnout. I pushed my body and mind to the limits at my day job and then we had a family emergency. I lost it. I became so exhausted that I couldn't do daily tasks I have done for years. I stopped painting, lashed out at family, and was walking a fine line into the scary. I stepped away from work for 3 days to handle my husband's medical stuff and cleared my head. I also reached out to someone I trust and talked it out. I have also put my foot down at work. I need my down time and I am worth it. This video had the perfect timing for me.
Having suffered extreme burnout in 2005-2006 I can totally agree that it can damage your life. I haven''t 00% recovered yet. Age may contribute to this as well. It can cause fear of success because you burned out from it last time and can't go through it again. But life is so expensive that going at ypur own pace isn't an option. And almost nobody undetstands.
I'm always glad to hear someone talk about burnout. I used to lecture my students on it all the time. Just wanted to add something. People think burnout always means you want to quit. But often, the opposite occurs. That is, one becomes unable to quit. The burnout activity (whether it be art or nursing as in the case of my daughter), becomes something one cannot stop doing. No down time. The job starts to consume every waking moment even though it is causing all the symptoms you listed (fatigue, irritability etc.) One preventative measure is to put boundaries around the work from the beginning. Like 9-5 only or 5 days a week only or never on Sunday or we don't talk about work after work hours are over etc. etc. Be your own compassionate fair "boss" right from the start.
I'm a mental health worker, not an artist, but this was helpful to me. I'm so burned out, and feeling so alone. I don't even know how your video popped up on my feed. Grace, I guess! Thank you.
Key points from this wonderful video (thank you): 1. Take your time/life back. Stop everything for as long as necessary to find your self in the unhappy stew that your life has become. Stop to just be, to feel, to genuinely rest. Do not rush this crucial first step. It may take more time than you anticipated. Conversely, it may take no time at all. Sometimes the simple act of stopping, even just for a few days, is enough. 2. Look at everything you've got on your plate. Every tiny thing. Put it on paper. Sit with it. Let yourself discover what is REALLY important to you, not what you feel SHOULD be important to you. Be willing to take things off the list and yeet them out of your life. 3. Take the time to make the time for things that are important to you. Put all the remaining "things" on a timeline/calendar. Keep the daily to do list small, handle-able, and even happy-able. Be willing to switch things up as circumstances change. Remember that you can always yeet things away if they are no longer viable/desirable. 4. Enjoy moving forward, as quickly or slowly as you desire. Enjoy this new you, because that is what you have done...helped create/birth a new you. We do this all the time, all through our lives. We are always evolving. Thank you so much for this candid and wonderful video. I daresay all of us truly appreciate you guys and what you do for the world. Your art is wonderful. Your love for and support of each other is marvelous. Your willingness to share with us is a blessing. Thank you. I also thank all the art gods for putting you/your videos in my path. Thank you. 💚💙💜
❤️I am there too and your words of wisdom are so helpful. I have been feeling guilty about feeling I was unable to even focus on the artmaking. So I am giving myself permission to just “be” for a while and it is ok. Thank you!❤️
I burned out from work and realized I didn't have anything for me; so, I took a few art classes at the local college, one at a time. It took my mind off of the stuff at work I was obsessing about and gave me something I enjoyed. I think it made me realize what was important to me is what matters. This was good for me to hear now as I have been avoiding stuff I know needs addressing and I'm doing all the things you've mentioned happens (not eating right, having a mounting list and not knowing where to start...) when in burn-out. After work a few weeks ago, I made a list of what I wanted to get done the next day. It was quite a long list. I ended up getting up early and started working on the list which I wanted to get done by noon so I could take myself out to the movies later that afternoon. I was surprised at how much I got done by 10 a.m. and remember thinking, why didn't I do this before now? I'm glad I listened to this tonight and for the reminder. If I remember to do this a couple days a week, I know I'll feel better. Thank you. --KateColors
I needed to see this video. I was feeling overwhelmed looking at my master to-do list. This video was a slap in the face (but in the gentlest way) to slow down and break things into manageable pieces. You always bring the sage advice.
I have had burnout a few times. I have a complicated family and for many years I was Mr. Fix it for taking my youngest siblings, trying to help my Mother, and soom that spread to friends... Always helping with the move, finances, etc. Paired with the demands of being a public Art teacher in a high risk school a final staw fell and I.... burnt out. Badly. I am working to avoid that again with many family stressors, including raising my nephew, dealing with abusive family, COVID, many deaths, and just trying to not put myself and art always to the end of the line.... I am feeling the burn out. Thank you for reminding me to see it for what it is. It is burn out.
Rafi-I'm glad you're recovering from burnout. It will take as long as it takes, so I'm glad you're finding ways to breathe, observe nature, and set boundaries. I had a burn-out period, not from my art practice, but from my regular full time job about five years ago. It ended up causing short-term insomnia and panic attacks. It was an alarm bell for me to slow way down and start making changes in my priorities, just like you mentioned! I shifted to a different job, which gives me way more time now with family, my artwork, and myself. This shift happened at the same time I decided to start painting again after taking a long hiatus when my son was born. The anxiety still lives in me, as it will for the rest of my life, but I have a better toolbox to help recognize burnt out in myself now. BTW-thank you for your encouraging message on my Instagram-that was sweet of you to take the time!
You nailed the last few years of my life of burnout. I've been living in that zone for many *years*, and it's been ruining me. Everything you said was relatable to the situation I was in. I had some additional pressures: Involvement in a family business that was bleeding money, surrounding myself with people who couldn't help me, and never letting myself just lock the door and walk away. I was in bad enough shape that if I locked the doors and walked away from the business, I would have gained years that I could have recovered. Instead, I stuck with it and kept trying to push through it to try to make it work. Definitely listen to your best, trusted friends. They were telling me to bail years ago. The GOOD NEWS is I'm on the mend, and I thank Rafi for this video which re-affirms what I need to be doing. Others reading this: His advice is very solid. If you're feeling stressed or burned out, hear what he's saying, and take care of yourself. You're #1.
Oh my God Rafi! I could see it with you guys and all you had to deal with and wondered how the heck you could handle it all.......but did not see it is EXACTLY where I am at right now!! The Burnout checklist ....spot on! Thank You...Thank You... THANK YOU 🙏💕💕🎨
Sometimes even 4 items is too long a list - break it down into bite sizes. Also crossing them off makes you feel better. It took well over 6 months to stop dreaming of the day job. Now I'm having weird and wacky dreams - loving it. Everyone's main priority should be themselves, but it's harder to do if you have responsibilities like kids, but listing those in order or priority also helps. Please take it slow and don't rush back into headless chicken mode.
Totally agree that crossing them off is important. Many to-do list setups delete the done things, which means you're only seeing the things you haven't done. Crossing them off shows you the things that you *have* done, what you've accomplished. That's important.
I wouldn't say I am going through burnout quite yet but I did have a wobble last week. I have read your book and that really helped! I also got my partner to listen to your channel and he's hooked!!😁 We have started a joint venture and I have to say it's primarily because of your advice. I just wanted to know that we like probably a lot of people have continued on the rogue path because of how inspiring you and Klee are and it means an awful lot. I hope you know how amazing you both are and what you are both contributing to the art community beyond your amazing art pieces. So, yes please rest your weary bones and minds then keep going with your awesomeness!!❤
Oh my, Rafi! The circumstances were different, but you totally could have recorded this about me. I was so overwhelmed at the beginning of this year. I still have it, but I'm trying to pull out. You can't imagine how many hrs of UA-cam a person can watch just to try to escape for a short time. Totally feeling you.
Having 2 kids, a new husband, a job, a pet portrait business, family deaths, family major illnesses, husband lost job, got kicked out of apartment, etc etc etc....my burn out was so severe, I still really haven't recovered. I am better today than I was last year. (All of this happened over a period of 4 years.) I didn't sleep. I only ate junk, coffee, and tylenol. My body shuttered and then turned off. ONCE I decided I literally couldn't deal with it anymore, I stopped the pet portraits. I changed my priorities. But now I'm basically a creative stay at home mom....I know money can't be the top motivator, but I don't know how to get the money to come back. I can't do commissions at all, the stress is too high. It effects my family negatively. I have a complicated plan to get long term passive income, but daily bills are the hard part. How to get easier art money without staying up all night?
This was great, I really appreciate you making this video! Afew weeks ago I was really struggling with motivation but after cleaning up my space and fuchunking (or how ever you spell it 😅) All the little annoying things, I'm finally feeling full of ideas again and motivated to get creative
burnout...yeahup...still working my way out from the consequences of "keeping on" thru viral overloads and working in soulsucking jobs to "pay rent"/"adult" ...the costs are HUGE and today, 30+years later, I am slowly restarting my life... but working at avoiding those old Type A traits that led me to burnout so completely is a constant vigilance of mindfulness & I have often slipped😅 thanks for this video Rafi, it is absolutely timely for me.... rather than get hustled into the current "hustle" biz culture, I gotta remember to flow with my own rhythms 🎉❤❤
I`v been burned out for the last 2 years and really struggled to sit in the studio and make music, just the thought of it made my stomach flip, I`v tried all sorts of things to get around this from a complete studio make-over, buying different gear, getting rid of a load of gear in hopes that less is more etc... my latest plan was to start oil painting but doing that in the same studio space! and so far so good, i`m enjoying it and feel happy in my space again but still no strong urges to make music anymore, so my next plan is to cancel my patreon and refund everyone, because I know that extrenal pressure to create is a killer for me, I must create from a place of curiosity, but when "Money" and "legal stuff" gets involved I just want run and hide and quit what I`m doing. I sincerely hope your brush with burnout ends quickly and hasn`t done any lasting damage, Your book is helping me out quite a bit too, so even though there was a lot of pressure on you getting that done, it IS helping someone, Hugs to you both! xx
Oddly enough this video was very relaxing to me. Everything you said resonated with me. I found myself actually watching the video without scrolling. Also, ur new home is so cosy. I love Klee's workspace.
It's perfect timing that this popped up on my recommended videos today. I am still recovering from a week of terrible back issues. I realized during the last week that I have a terrible cycle of pushing until something like this happens and my body and the universe force me to a standstill and rest time. Thanks for sharing your journey! It makes me think about this in another way
You are a wise soul. Good advice. I’ve been there and have gotten there way too much in life and you do have to just stop and re-evaluate and your advice is spot on. Glad to hear you are working through it positively.
I am on the verge. I have been telling people to stop, but they don’t. The boss says just do what you can, but you still have to do everything and there is no help . Oi. I have been pushing back with family, they keep tossing chores at me, but I am just walking away from them .
I’m so glad you took the break to focus on self-care and heal your mind, body, and soul. I know the feeling of the never-ending to-do list - we are building our house and it feels like the list had little baby tasks while we weren’t looking and suddenly is twice as long. I tell myself that the list is never going to go away completely so there is no rush or requirement to get things done ASAP. Still, it can be daunting.
So grateful to have come across this video! It’s a really good reminder! I suffered burnout towards the ends of last year. As a freelancer I was having my busiest, most successful but challenging work year to date. All in the midst of a contentious divorce and preparing to go to trial for a custody battle. By the end of the year there was nothing left of me. I could’ve cared less if my dreams that I’d worked and fought so hard for, over the last 8 years, burned up into a heap of ashes. My apathy & exhaustion plus a debilitating back injury also during this time forced me off my feet, flat on my back and in a period of “forced but necessary“ quiet, stillness and rest. I’d been doing so much I was basically forced to do nothing at this point. And what else could I do but accept that fact?? Now the divorce and custody issues have been resolved and this year is starting out much slower. Currently I’m nervous about work/$ and wondering why I’m not getting more calls. But I was also recently reminded that I’m likely in a state of being that I was hoping to be in last year. Enough work to get by on but with breaks in between each project. I have to be careful with my thoughts- not to feel like I’m missing out on something or not successful if I’m not crazy busy all the time. Plus as creatives I think we actually need some quiet time to let our minds wander in order to find inspiration. Thank you!
Thank you for this one! When I burn out, I do walk away. Luckily, I have other projects and long term goals to walk TO, but it makes me feel like I can't count on myself, let alone have others count on me. Lately, my big project is a big garden overhaul. And with nature and the weather, I just have to fachunk while the fachunkin' is good. But I think I hit a breakthrough. Looked at photos from last year of the whole yard and went, WHOA! We DID THIS! That really helped. And it is a big trampoline forward and upward to where I hope to be next year! That was my kind of accountability.
WOW RAFI!!! You just helped me with my brain dump list by planing it out within a 5 year range! I didn't think about that because I want to get things done "NOW" status! I currently try to put important can't be moved on my list first and try to not do soo much because my health is more important than tasks! I actually got sick over the holidays that way and I vowed NEVER AGAIN! Thanks for you and Klee being so RAD in my face!🔥✊🔥😎😃 You two always brighten my day and lighten my load! Thank you SOOO, SOOOOO MUCH!!!💖🤗💯
from what you described i felt like we were living the same lives 😂 thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and tips, glad to know we're not alone..
Burnout really can take its toll on you physically without a doubt. Money isn't my motivation at all when it comes to why I write novels. I know that I have a better chance of getting struck by lightning than ever making the best-seller list. Lack of money however greatly slows down my progress when it comes to being able to release new stories. Editors are insanely expensive when you don't have a publisher taking care of that on your behalf. I've tried to make up for it by learning to do what I can for myself without outside assistance (interior layout) and employing indie artists (cover design and illustration) whenever possible. A really hard time in my life a few years back turned into the first novel I ever wrote. It took 3 years from start to finish. I was pouring all I was dealing with back then onto the page, as a form of therapy. Even though it made several reviewers' top 10 indie book lists for the year it was released, it still felt like a complete flop. I had to remind myself that I write because it makes me happy....it's all I've ever really wanted to do since I was a kid. It's not a comfortable situation needing and asking for help. I think people are conditioned from an early age to be self-reliant whenever possible. It's hard sometimes admitting when things are just beyond your control, or that something is more than you can handle alone. Patience is difficult for a lot of us, both with others and especially with ourselves. I don't have the patience god gave a box of animal crackers some days. Watching editors pick apart my work with a fine-tooth comb isn't easy, but I have to tell myself it's all to help me improve and grow if I let them help me. I know....it's not as easy as it sounds.
There’s a great new book out called “At Your Best” by Carey Nieuwhof. It directly tackles the issue of burn out with great solutions for creatives. I highly recommend this book!
Burnout is no joke! I now have a database for all my to-dos, creative projects, $$$, etc. It took a little while to set up but it's been super helpful, even in the beginning. I use Airtable which is fully functional on their free tier and its super fun for me lol
I realized I had been feeling burnout about a month ago. It was like a 6 month stint. Not good! I'm still working through it. I had all the signs. The sense of overwhelm was debilitating :( Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad you are starting to feel better!
Wow Rafi . You have no idea how much I needed to see this video. I’m experiencing pretty much everything you’re talking about. I put on 20 pounds since April 1 that I’ve worked so hard to lose. I’ve hardly made any videos on my channel and not been creative hardly at all . I have so many creative projects I started that I have not even gotten close to completing . I’ve not even touched them in weeks or even months some even a year.I actually did have some self talk lately when I told myself I was a bit of a loser that I couldn’t do anything right, which is completely out of character for me . I haven’t even been watching your channel which is one of my favorite channels because I couldn’t bear to see creative things when I couldn’t create. I do the avoiding, procrastinating, eating crap, and just overall not getting anything done that I really need to do. I don’t know how it came to this but I need to find a way out because I can’t go on this way I am really frustrated. My daughter and I have been reselling together which has added to the pressure. She is on vacation for the next two weeks and I want to take that time to really reset myself. Figure out what exactly is going on and get back to having my life where it was. I loved making videos I loved watching your channel and a few other creative peoples channels I loved being creative, and I want that back. Thank you so much for this video, it is exactly what I needed to see right now. I plan to get out paper and pen and do some brain dumping and five year plan and figure out exactly what’s going on and what I need to do to get back on track because I am not happy with the way things are going right now. After watching this video I feel confident I can get back on track. That this is a real thing , not just in my head. Just knowing that lightened my spirits so much already . Thank you ! I have a few minutes left of the video but I just had to make this comment right now.😁❤️
Thank you, Thank you , Thank you Rafi !! I have felt like this almost constantly for years( not as severely) I had never put a name to it b4, burnout was something that happened to workaholics, but I am a bit like that anyway. So I think a lot of us are very close to this. You have opened my eyes to being ‘more aware ‘ of my feelings and thoughts. Thanks for all the tips- what would we do without you both ! Xxx
For me, I have found that burnout like everything starts with our thoughts. I know that part of my meditation practice is to separate from my thoughts,not to try to stop them. Like being a witness to them. This helps me to choose which ones that will lead to the greater good. Thoughts are just suggestions.Everyday we have thousands of them yet just being requires no thought. It's great that you're taking time for contemplation. If everyone did that the world would be a better place.
Awe, hang in there. You two turn a big wheel...and I can relate to this as I also turn a big wheel in my business. Kind of too many projects always going on...and that's the mind of highly creative people. And your move was epic. The plumbing problem was epic. Everything you describe is normal... I suspect that all of your viewers could see how much you were juggling and yet you were trying to remain so positive. If you feel like you need to jumpstart sales, you could do a repeat of the online sales night that you did a few months ago. if I recall, that came together quickly and was successful.
Rafi! I wish I could give this video 500 thumbs up! I haven’t watched your UA-cam’s in so long and I’m sucked back in. It’s like you guys speak straight to my soul sometimes! I also ignored the signs and have been burned out for a while and have been taking a lot of the steps toward health you suggested as well! Sometimes the simplest thing is the answer. Real rest, lists, and brain dumps are saviors! Also, you could never be UNFORGETTABLE! - you spread far too much love and light!
This resonated completely. You are blessed to have people who are there for you. I have lived far too much of my life in burnout and finally just couldn't do it any more. Now I'm slowly learning how to take care of me. I never did because I was always taking care of other people and just barely existing in survival mode. I'm learning how to not jump to put out the fires other people set and to make and enforce some boundaries for myself and those in my life. I'm just learning that I can and need to no matter what those around me say. Trying to come to terms with the complicated time stuff. Grief for what feels like so much wasted and facing that there will never be enough to get done everything I want to. It really makes you reassess your entire life and everything you thought you knew and thought was "important". My Daily Planner is more to anchor me in time and space and to remind me every day to "Write(journal), Heal, Make My Art, and to Enjoy & Have More Fun". Working to find who I am now and to be kind and loving and patient with her. Learning to be the absolute best human I can be. Thank you for sharing honestly and being empowering, inspiring, and awesome!
Yeap. You nailed it, Rafi. It was very close to what you described for me too. For the first time in my life I experienced creative blocks in writing and could not move myself to do anything. I did recognize it. It was scary because I'm like you, someone that sees the light at the end of the tunnel. I am an inspirer and uplifter, so that felt like I had lost my gift. What I did first of all was rest. I mean I stopped everything. I gave myself a sabbatical, which I was so happy I could do. I took a 1 year sabattical without doing anything but resting, reading for pleasure and whatever I wanted to do each day. Meanwhile I deeply relfected on my life, what gave meaning, joy and purpose. What nourished my passion. What filled my heart. What was my greatest gift to the world? ALl those things. ANd as I did I reclaimed myself and slowly regained my passion. So I deeply appreciate you taking time to let other peers know the signs and what to do. It is so important because it can lead to a wilting of our soul that makes us like ghosts and that is not our gift as artists. We are to bring beauty, joy, truth and courage. So self-care is a must for us. I now are part of a self-care program that has a group and we meet twice a month and get resources and it's with a sound healer who does sound healing for us once a month. It's awesome. I also gave myself two artists-teachers-supporters that I'm a member of their program and I receive inspiration and specific help about my art when I need it. Hoping that you all allow the vibration of joy into your hearts and know that you are never ever alone. Open your heart to receive the help, light and resources that the universe is streaming to you right now. Thanks again, Rafi. This was excellent Medicine.
I often feel that burnout is the bane of all artist. And I don't think there are any artist that haven't suffered from it. One thing's for sure, the faster you acknowledge that you're actually on the wrong path, the faster you can get out of it. But if you have been pushing through for years and years, be prepared for a long recovery. And dayplanners have to be the worst invention in that regard. It's not because they give you the possibility to micro-manage your time that you should do it. I once read that you also shouldn't buy a big family planner type calendar as there is too much space to write on them. It's not because you can write it down that you can survive it! And also, stay away from toxic people as much as possible, all they know how to do is destroy other people. As artist, we are sponges, and that makes us more fragile from the start. Accepting that fact is probably the first step to protecting yourself. Take care.
I just found your channel and this is the second video I watched. First - get out of my head. It's like you're mirroring my thoughts. Seriously - excellent video. I've been going through a massive stress-out (stress and burnout combo) since March. I've been trying to finish a massive book project which finally launched this week. Then I had a big expense at the worst possible time. I'm the same in that I like to get work finished and off my list and head. I had given myself an unreasonable six months to get the project done and it took closer to ten. Those last four months took a horrible toll on my health. And the crazy thing is that I know better. I know to chill. I know it will all work out, but I get plagued by all the negative What ifs......I'm just on the other side of it now but the health issue still lingers. So....Ohmmmmm. Thanks for the therapy session, I mean the video.
I have been diagnosed with burnout 6 months ago. Over those 6 months it has nearly claimed my life 4 times. Before i broke down, I pushed myself through stress for 5 years and did not have the knowledge to identify the warning signs. Learn to listen to yourself/ your body, before it's too late.
I started to turn this off but then realized that you are actually talking about me. I'm a Goldsmith and sculptor. I am a full time commission artist and boy do i experiance burnout constantly. The tips you talk about are good advice for all of us. I enjoy you and your wifes channel. Keep up the good work and thank you for good sound advice. Break a leg
I was burnt out in life generally so decided to just drop everything and backpack around New Zealand for a month, which was a good break, didnt draw a thing or do any work, was the break i needed at the time to reevaluate life and what i was doing with it. I know its an expensive break but was def worth it.
Oh boy.. Rings a bell.. You two have each other, and so much going for you. Hang in there! Rome wasn't built in a day. Lots of love😘😘 Glad you're taking time to take care. Good catch on grasping that mind of yours. I like that. "hey, you're my mind and you're going to listen to what I say"! Hang in there Rafi & Klee. Take it slow.
I took a 3 year computer animation diploma in college. I met my best and only real friend there in the 1st one. somehow we were the only 2 who were serious about our studies, and time together in class to really work with each other, and that eventually extended to me and her drawing at her house every night for hours after school. she dropped out during her 2nd year. I felt really sad for both of us. what's worse it I asked her if she'd like to stay friends and she said no. to this day I have no idea why. But let me get down to the reason for my burnout. 3rd year was the hardest one. I spent it all alone with no friends, because none of them were taking their studies seriously and even had moments where I was completely offended by a few of them and just had to keep my mouth shut because their clicks (or whatever you wanted to call them) would threaten me by saying they would speak to the supervisor and get me expelled. now everyone knows just how immature my class mates were in college. sorry for venting. But I honestly spent so long trying to figure things out on my own and barely got passing grades, with no friends to spend time with outside of school I just felt lonely and couldn't draw even when I wanted to because school was hard enough. Thankfully I graduated, and it wasn't easy, but it really took a toll on me as an artist. I've even heard of stories worse than this so I can't complain but college was honestly one of the worst experiences of my life now that I think of it.
My burnout came from many tragic events in my life over decades. To tragic to share. To describe it I have lived on the far extreme ends of the bell curve of life at no fault of my own. Sadly there are people in the world that will stop at nothing to destroy your life and reputation. I had to give up my profession, suffer from PTSD, depression etc. Meds help, but after so many decades of hell, I'm now in an almost permanent state of burnout. I had to go on disability. I now only paint when the "Zone" hits me. Other than that nothing. It takes me 6 months to complete one painting. So now I just try and take life as it comes. I don't have a choice.
I've burned out several times in the last 2 years. I just keep going back to my bad habits of trying to do too much. Now I'm focusing on healing my back. I'm doing acupuncture and physio. No more overloading myself, that's no way of living life
I had no idea other people don’t feel like this on a regular basis. Everything you described has been my entire life experience. I have always struggled, between depression and chronic illness, and I’ve always felt like a huge failure. I guess maybe I ought to cut myself some slack.
I look forward to a cup of tea and a cookie, I just want to push forward, but honestly there are so many things to do. I'm always writing lists, I check them off, I do little bits and pieces, check, check, check...I look at them, then I write more, they change all the time, but sometimes they are the same. I just can't get it all done. Lol. The thing I love is that I make things like a trip, to give me a big incentive. I need something to look forward to. Then, the best thing is to find time to pray, read the bible if that's not too weird for you, enjoy being grateful for all your blessings. Find time everyday to laugh, joke, have some kind of fun, watch a comedy, I often watch you guys to keep my life light, yet focused. Gardening and outdoor related things also help keep my spirit in the game. All that you have been saying here is very valuable and true. (I often spend more time writing lists, than doing, but sometimes I have insights that make that list more tangible, and then innovation happens. ;))
I finished my first drawing, it’s great to me but disproportionate in a lot of areas, it’s been 2 days and haven’t been able to pick up my pencil since, I’m surprised I’m feeling burnout after my first drawing, hope this isn’t a common cycle
I confess I feel a little like that but for me it is not "burn out". I am just fed up with life in general. I recognise I am feeling lonely and isolated. I am used to living alone as I have done for years, so it is not that, but I think with my current health and all the lock downs it has really taken its toll on me. I have noticed over the past couple of years I have not been sleeping well at all. I think some of it is being a woman at my age, so I think some of it is hormonal and not something I necessarily have control over, though I am hoping that by trying hormone replacement this will help. I am okay though, I am not "depressed" but I am physically tired from lack of sleep and Ive started getting migraines that I have never had ever before. So I am sorry I have not been around as much as before. I am hopeful I will get on top of my feelings and improve them T x
DEVO sang 👨🎤🎼 .. Now Whip it ...into shape... shape it up... get straight ...go forward... move ahead... try to dectect it ...it's not too late... to whip it... Whip it good!🎶 Of course that's easier sung that done. We all have that stuff in our lives and minds that can get you bummed. And having feelings about that stuff is the stuff of life as you say.👩🎨
My wife suffered from anxiety disorder. Not saying you are but the lists of lists of lists were both a help and a definite trigger for her if she didn’t complete her 40 plus item list of things to do for the day. You’re on the right path buddy. Keep it short and simple. Self care is key.
I got burned out looking at your lists. I hope I recover! The planner freaked me out. Please never show those things again. Just joking. Burnout doesn't happen to us; it happens because of us. We need to look deep inside to determine why we drive ourselves so hard. We need to find out why we are workaholics. Otherwise, we will keep getting burned out. If not already, get yourself financially free, and then don't worry as much. In other words, become less insecure. Keep up the great work. Oops, did I say work? I meant life.
"People are going to forget about us.." You just really hit a chord. I had just started my art career before Covid happened, and I thought it was going really well. I'd had a few sales, won a few awards, was showing in a few small, local galleries, was working as a docent at one of them, as part of my hanging space agreement. I was really happy, had won a spot in a 4-person show, and had arranged my first solo show. It was so exciting. Then Covid hit. The person who was giving me rides to the furthest of the galleries and shows became ill. The four person show was hung, but nobody attended it. My solo show was cancelled. The gallery that gave me my start and almost all of my awards went out of business. It was like waiting a lifetime for my dream to come true, and then having it trashed. At the same time, I was removed from my friends, my social circle, all of the things that I did to relax, and was totally locked in with my parents and sister for over two years. I didn't realize it, but I suppose it started with the sure knowledge that people were going to forget about me, just when I was getting started, coupled with the knowledge that I thought I'd finally found a way around my illness, where I wouldn't be a burden on my parents any longer, only to wind up locked exclusively with them, with no reprieve. Needless to say, I burnt out spectacularly. Surprisingly, I didn't even realize it till just now.
Awesome ideas Rafi. I think I'm suffering from burnout again....because I'm finding myself saying...I don't care...🥲... That is not me...I'm a happy person....I do Care... a lot and I also multitask...and that is the problem. So I'm implementing a long term positive plan like yours. Mine will be on a monthly basis...bite size portions...so I can work on one project at a time...and I'm going to try to stop placing so many task on myself all at once. Thank YOU again for being such an encourager... Love to you and Cle
I burnt out spectacularly about four years ago and feel like I'm still recovering. To begin with, I would just spend hours sitting in the sun doing nothing, letting my mind drift. It was about all I could cope with. Now, I've used it as a pivot point in my life to completely change directions. I'm still figuring out where I'm going, but this has taught me to listen to myself and what I want over any shoulds. Learning to be gentle with myself was so important. And figuring out what was actually urgent and what could wait.
Same !
Same here 🙋
I studied burnout in University - it is a fascinating physical reaction to stress. Your body basically shuts down and goes on strike. Your brain doesn't function, your body doesn't work, and your brain basically says that if you aren't going to take care of yourself and take a break, it will force you to take a break. Your brain dump and planning approach is a great way to reduce the stress and recover.
The sad reality of science... we know the causes, come up with solutions, but governments and business organizations don't care to fix it.
I saw a video where people who were elderly were asked for their best advice for younger people. They said that, if they could live their lives over, they would spend less time doing and more time being. That is now my mantra.
I really appreciate this video. I'm going thru burn out right now. Worked for 3 months straight to finally reach a goal I'd been apprenticing 9 years for. Jumping through all the last minute technical & demanding hoops required. Mock ups, architectural changes... Only to lose it to others who had nothing to show at the required presentation & just charmed the panel. (I found out later from the head of the project, that I'd actually been selected, but 'strings' had been pulled by those with influence.) I too felt like I had worked for nothing. I got disillusioned. And I haven't bounced back yet. Everything you said, I experienced. I was also painting for shows coming up & other things. I took no real breaks. I don't want to give up on the thing I love. It took me so long to stop doing the practical soul killing jobs & finally persue art.
So thank you for giving some practical advice on how to beat it. I appreciate what you and Klee do so much.
You'll recover, but only if you allow yourself to recover. Taking time for yourself is a must, I myself am having a hard time grappling with that idea. You need a break and not focus on anything work related, and I swear it will feel like a large sack of stones have been lifted from your shoulders. Mindset is sooo important, you may not think consiously about it everyday, but ones mindset is always be a make or break behind anything you do.
So sorry about the outcome of yr project! Work yrself to the bone, then get disappointed like that. Be proud of what u did anyway.
I simply just want to send so very much love to anyone experiencing burnout. I hope each person with their stuggles work it out to live the life that brings them happiness.
That is such a kind and wonderful thing to say. Thank you.
We adore you @dh7217!
I so appreciate your honesty and humble selves. How I deal with burn out.. I pet my dog and we talk.. (He listens) throughout my day.
So pleased it’s not him who talks and you listen, that’s a whole other video 😄x
Currently trying to recover from burnout. I pushed my body and mind to the limits at my day job and then we had a family emergency. I lost it. I became so exhausted that I couldn't do daily tasks I have done for years. I stopped painting, lashed out at family, and was walking a fine line into the scary. I stepped away from work for 3 days to handle my husband's medical stuff and cleared my head. I also reached out to someone I trust and talked it out. I have also put my foot down at work. I need my down time and I am worth it. This video had the perfect timing for me.
Having suffered extreme burnout in 2005-2006 I can totally agree that it can damage your life. I haven''t 00% recovered yet. Age may contribute to this as well. It can cause fear of success because you burned out from it last time and can't go through it again. But life is so expensive that going at ypur own pace isn't an option. And almost nobody undetstands.
I'm always glad to hear someone talk about burnout. I used to lecture my students on it all the time. Just wanted to add something. People think burnout always means you want to quit. But often, the opposite occurs. That is, one becomes unable to quit. The burnout activity (whether it be art or nursing as in the case of my daughter), becomes something one cannot stop doing. No down time. The job starts to consume every waking moment even though it is causing all the symptoms you listed (fatigue, irritability etc.) One preventative measure is to put boundaries around the work from the beginning. Like 9-5 only or 5 days a week only or never on Sunday or we don't talk about work after work hours are over etc. etc. Be your own compassionate fair "boss" right from the start.
Good point. One of my boundaries from the start was to never take work home. But with working-from-home, that's rather difficult to do!
@@kerravonsen2810 One is often one's own worse boss. I used to joke that I needed a Union to protect me from myself.
I'm a mental health worker, not an artist, but this was helpful to me. I'm so burned out, and feeling so alone. I don't even know how your video popped up on my feed. Grace, I guess! Thank you.
Key points from this wonderful video (thank you):
1. Take your time/life back. Stop everything for as long as necessary to find your self in the unhappy stew that your life has become. Stop to just be, to feel, to genuinely rest. Do not rush this crucial first step. It may take more time than you anticipated. Conversely, it may take no time at all. Sometimes the simple act of stopping, even just for a few days, is enough.
2. Look at everything you've got on your plate. Every tiny thing. Put it on paper. Sit with it. Let yourself discover what is REALLY important to you, not what you feel SHOULD be important to you. Be willing to take things off the list and yeet them out of your life.
3. Take the time to make the time for things that are important to you. Put all the remaining "things" on a timeline/calendar. Keep the daily to do list small, handle-able, and even happy-able. Be willing to switch things up as circumstances change. Remember that you can always yeet things away if they are no longer viable/desirable.
4. Enjoy moving forward, as quickly or slowly as you desire. Enjoy this new you, because that is what you have done...helped create/birth a new you. We do this all the time, all through our lives. We are always evolving.
Thank you so much for this candid and wonderful video. I daresay all of us truly appreciate you guys and what you do for the world. Your art is wonderful. Your love for and support of each other is marvelous. Your willingness to share with us is a blessing. Thank you. I also thank all the art gods for putting you/your videos in my path. Thank you. 💚💙💜
Thanks for condensing into bullet points for us all, I needed that too x
❤️I am there too and your words of wisdom are so helpful. I have been feeling guilty about feeling I was unable to even focus on the artmaking. So I am giving myself permission to just “be” for a while and it is ok. Thank you!❤️
I burned out from work and realized I didn't have anything for me; so, I took a few art classes at the local college, one at a time. It took my mind off of the stuff at work I was obsessing about and gave me something I enjoyed. I think it made me realize what was important to me is what matters. This was good for me to hear now as I have been avoiding stuff I know needs addressing and I'm doing all the things you've mentioned happens (not eating right, having a mounting list and not knowing where to start...) when in burn-out. After work a few weeks ago, I made a list of what I wanted to get done the next day. It was quite a long list. I ended up getting up early and started working on the list which I wanted to get done by noon so I could take myself out to the movies later that afternoon. I was surprised at how much I got done by 10 a.m. and remember thinking, why didn't I do this before now? I'm glad I listened to this tonight and for the reminder. If I remember to do this a couple days a week, I know I'll feel better. Thank you. --KateColors
I needed to see this video. I was feeling overwhelmed looking at my master to-do list. This video was a slap in the face (but in the gentlest way) to slow down and break things into manageable pieces. You always bring the sage advice.
I have had burnout a few times. I have a complicated family and for many years I was Mr. Fix it for taking my youngest siblings, trying to help my Mother, and soom that spread to friends... Always helping with the move, finances, etc. Paired with the demands of being a public Art teacher in a high risk school a final staw fell and I.... burnt out. Badly.
I am working to avoid that again with many family stressors, including raising my nephew, dealing with abusive family, COVID, many deaths, and just trying to not put myself and art always to the end of the line.... I am feeling the burn out.
Thank you for reminding me to see it for what it is. It is burn out.
Rafi-I'm glad you're recovering from burnout. It will take as long as it takes, so I'm glad you're finding ways to breathe, observe nature, and set boundaries. I had a burn-out period, not from my art practice, but from my regular full time job about five years ago. It ended up causing short-term insomnia and panic attacks. It was an alarm bell for me to slow way down and start making changes in my priorities, just like you mentioned! I shifted to a different job, which gives me way more time now with family, my artwork, and myself. This shift happened at the same time I decided to start painting again after taking a long hiatus when my son was born. The anxiety still lives in me, as it will for the rest of my life, but I have a better toolbox to help recognize burnt out in myself now. BTW-thank you for your encouraging message on my Instagram-that was sweet of you to take the time!
You nailed the last few years of my life of burnout. I've been living in that zone for many *years*, and it's been ruining me. Everything you said was relatable to the situation I was in. I had some additional pressures: Involvement in a family business that was bleeding money, surrounding myself with people who couldn't help me, and never letting myself just lock the door and walk away. I was in bad enough shape that if I locked the doors and walked away from the business, I would have gained years that I could have recovered. Instead, I stuck with it and kept trying to push through it to try to make it work. Definitely listen to your best, trusted friends. They were telling me to bail years ago. The GOOD NEWS is I'm on the mend, and I thank Rafi for this video which re-affirms what I need to be doing.
Others reading this: His advice is very solid. If you're feeling stressed or burned out, hear what he's saying, and take care of yourself. You're #1.
Oh my God Rafi! I could see it with you guys and all you had to deal with and wondered how the heck you could handle it all.......but did not see it is EXACTLY where I am at right now!!
The Burnout checklist ....spot on!
Thank You...Thank You...
THANK YOU 🙏💕💕🎨
Sometimes even 4 items is too long a list - break it down into bite sizes. Also crossing them off makes you feel better. It took well over 6 months to stop dreaming of the day job. Now I'm having weird and wacky dreams - loving it. Everyone's main priority should be themselves, but it's harder to do if you have responsibilities like kids, but listing those in order or priority also helps. Please take it slow and don't rush back into headless chicken mode.
Totally agree that crossing them off is important. Many to-do list setups delete the done things, which means you're only seeing the things you haven't done. Crossing them off shows you the things that you *have* done, what you've accomplished. That's important.
You nailed it. I don’t think burnout is completely preventable, but through wisdom we can overcome it.
I wouldn't say I am going through burnout quite yet but I did have a wobble last week. I have read your book and that really helped! I also got my partner to listen to your channel and he's hooked!!😁 We have started a joint venture and I have to say it's primarily because of your advice. I just wanted to know that we like probably a lot of people have continued on the rogue path because of how inspiring you and Klee are and it means an awful lot. I hope you know how amazing you both are and what you are both contributing to the art community beyond your amazing art pieces. So, yes please rest your weary bones and minds then keep going with your awesomeness!!❤
Oh my, Rafi! The circumstances were different, but you totally could have recorded this about me. I was so overwhelmed at the beginning of this year. I still have it, but I'm trying to pull out. You can't imagine how many hrs of UA-cam a person can watch just to try to escape for a short time. Totally feeling you.
Having 2 kids, a new husband, a job, a pet portrait business, family deaths, family major illnesses, husband lost job, got kicked out of apartment, etc etc etc....my burn out was so severe, I still really haven't recovered. I am better today than I was last year. (All of this happened over a period of 4 years.) I didn't sleep. I only ate junk, coffee, and tylenol. My body shuttered and then turned off. ONCE I decided I literally couldn't deal with it anymore, I stopped the pet portraits. I changed my priorities. But now I'm basically a creative stay at home mom....I know money can't be the top motivator, but I don't know how to get the money to come back. I can't do commissions at all, the stress is too high. It effects my family negatively. I have a complicated plan to get long term passive income, but daily bills are the hard part. How to get easier art money without staying up all night?
This was great, I really appreciate you making this video! Afew weeks ago I was really struggling with motivation but after cleaning up my space and fuchunking (or how ever you spell it 😅) All the little annoying things, I'm finally feeling full of ideas again and motivated to get creative
So great to hear your insights. Thanks! ❤ So glad you've come through this.
burnout...yeahup...still working my way out from the consequences of "keeping on" thru viral overloads and working in soulsucking jobs to "pay rent"/"adult" ...the costs are HUGE and today, 30+years later, I am slowly restarting my life...
but working at avoiding those old Type A traits that led me to burnout so completely is a constant vigilance of mindfulness & I have often slipped😅
thanks for this video Rafi, it is absolutely timely for me....
rather than get hustled into the current "hustle" biz culture, I gotta remember to flow with my own rhythms 🎉❤❤
I`v been burned out for the last 2 years and really struggled to sit in the studio and make music, just the thought of it made my stomach flip, I`v tried all sorts of things to get around this from a complete studio make-over, buying different gear, getting rid of a load of gear in hopes that less is more etc... my latest plan was to start oil painting but doing that in the same studio space! and so far so good, i`m enjoying it and feel happy in my space again but still no strong urges to make music anymore, so my next plan is to cancel my patreon and refund everyone, because I know that extrenal pressure to create is a killer for me, I must create from a place of curiosity, but when "Money" and "legal stuff" gets involved I just want run and hide and quit what I`m doing.
I sincerely hope your brush with burnout ends quickly and hasn`t done any lasting damage, Your book is helping me out quite a bit too, so even though there was a lot of pressure on you getting that done, it IS helping someone, Hugs to you both! xx
Oddly enough this video was very relaxing to me. Everything you said resonated with me. I found myself actually watching the video without scrolling. Also, ur new home is so cosy. I love Klee's workspace.
It's perfect timing that this popped up on my recommended videos today. I am still recovering from a week of terrible back issues. I realized during the last week that I have a terrible cycle of pushing until something like this happens and my body and the universe force me to a standstill and rest time. Thanks for sharing your journey! It makes me think about this in another way
You got this @BohoJouelSandraMBelz! You are a champion!
Glad you're upfront about the struggle, it is real. How is our lovely and talented Klee doing as well?
You are a wise soul. Good advice. I’ve been there and have gotten there way too much in life and you do have to just stop and re-evaluate and your advice is spot on. Glad to hear you are working through it positively.
I am on the verge. I have been telling people to stop, but they don’t. The boss says just do what you can, but you still have to do everything and there is no help . Oi. I have been pushing back with family, they keep tossing chores at me, but I am just walking away from them .
I’m so glad you took the break to focus on self-care and heal your mind, body, and soul. I know the feeling of the never-ending to-do list - we are building our house and it feels like the list had little baby tasks while we weren’t looking and suddenly is twice as long. I tell myself that the list is never going to go away completely so there is no rush or requirement to get things done ASAP. Still, it can be daunting.
So grateful to have come across this video! It’s a really good reminder! I suffered burnout towards the ends of last year. As a freelancer I was having my busiest, most successful but challenging work year to date. All in the midst of a contentious divorce and preparing to go to trial for a custody battle. By the end of the year there was nothing left of me. I could’ve cared less if my dreams that I’d worked and fought so hard for, over the last 8 years, burned up into a heap of ashes. My apathy & exhaustion plus a debilitating back injury also during this time forced me off my feet, flat on my back and in a period of “forced but necessary“ quiet, stillness and rest. I’d been doing so much I was basically forced to do nothing at this point. And what else could I do but accept that fact?? Now the divorce and custody issues have been resolved and this year is starting out much slower. Currently I’m nervous about work/$ and wondering why I’m not getting more calls. But I was also recently reminded that I’m likely in a state of being that I was hoping to be in last year. Enough work to get by on but with breaks in between each project. I have to be careful with my thoughts- not to feel like I’m missing out on something or not successful if I’m not crazy busy all the time. Plus as creatives I think we actually need some quiet time to let our minds wander in order to find inspiration. Thank you!
Thank you for this one! When I burn out, I do walk away. Luckily, I have other projects and long term goals to walk TO, but it makes me feel like I can't count on myself, let alone have others count on me. Lately, my big project is a big garden overhaul. And with nature and the weather, I just have to fachunk while the fachunkin' is good. But I think I hit a breakthrough. Looked at photos from last year of the whole yard and went, WHOA! We DID THIS! That really helped. And it is a big trampoline forward and upward to where I hope to be next year! That was my kind of accountability.
WOW RAFI!!! You just helped me with my brain dump list by planing it out within a 5 year range! I didn't think about that because I want to get things done "NOW" status! I currently try to put important can't be moved on my list first and try to not do soo much because my health is more important than tasks! I actually got sick over the holidays that way and I vowed NEVER AGAIN! Thanks for you and Klee being so RAD in my face!🔥✊🔥😎😃 You two always brighten my day and lighten my load! Thank you SOOO, SOOOOO MUCH!!!💖🤗💯
from what you described i felt like we were living the same lives 😂 thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and tips, glad to know we're not alone..
Burnout really can take its toll on you physically without a doubt. Money isn't my motivation at all when it comes to why I write novels. I know that I have a better chance of getting struck by lightning than ever making the best-seller list. Lack of money however greatly slows down my progress when it comes to being able to release new stories. Editors are insanely expensive when you don't have a publisher taking care of that on your behalf. I've tried to make up for it by learning to do what I can for myself without outside assistance (interior layout) and employing indie artists (cover design and illustration) whenever possible.
A really hard time in my life a few years back turned into the first novel I ever wrote. It took 3 years from start to finish. I was pouring all I was dealing with back then onto the page, as a form of therapy. Even though it made several reviewers' top 10 indie book lists for the year it was released, it still felt like a complete flop. I had to remind myself that I write because it makes me happy....it's all I've ever really wanted to do since I was a kid.
It's not a comfortable situation needing and asking for help. I think people are conditioned from an early age to be self-reliant whenever possible. It's hard sometimes admitting when things are just beyond your control, or that something is more than you can handle alone. Patience is difficult for a lot of us, both with others and especially with ourselves. I don't have the patience god gave a box of animal crackers some days. Watching editors pick apart my work with a fine-tooth comb isn't easy, but I have to tell myself it's all to help me improve and grow if I let them help me. I know....it's not as easy as it sounds.
There’s a great new book out called “At Your Best” by Carey Nieuwhof. It directly tackles the issue of burn out with great solutions for creatives. I highly recommend this book!
Thank you for the recommendation! I went and got the audiobook, and I look forward to listening to it!
Burnout is no joke! I now have a database for all my to-dos, creative projects, $$$, etc. It took a little while to set up but it's been super helpful, even in the beginning. I use Airtable which is fully functional on their free tier and its super fun for me lol
I realized I had been feeling burnout about a month ago. It was like a 6 month stint. Not good! I'm still working through it. I had all the signs. The sense of overwhelm was debilitating :( Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad you are starting to feel better!
Perfect timing🙏
Wow Rafi . You have no idea how much I needed to see this video. I’m experiencing pretty much everything you’re talking about. I put on 20 pounds since April 1 that I’ve worked so hard to lose. I’ve hardly made any videos on my channel and not been creative hardly at all . I have so many creative projects I started that I have not even gotten close to completing . I’ve not even touched them in weeks or even months some even a year.I actually did have some self talk lately when I told myself I was a bit of a loser that I couldn’t do anything right, which is completely out of character for me . I haven’t even been watching your channel which is one of my favorite channels because I couldn’t bear to see creative things when I couldn’t create. I do the avoiding, procrastinating, eating crap, and just overall not getting anything done that I really need to do. I don’t know how it came to this but I need to find a way out because I can’t go on this way I am really frustrated. My daughter and I have been reselling together which has added to the pressure. She is on vacation for the next two weeks and I want to take that time to really reset myself. Figure out what exactly is going on and get back to having my life where it was. I loved making videos I loved watching your channel and a few other creative peoples channels I loved being creative, and I want that back. Thank you so much for this video, it is exactly what I needed to see right now. I plan to get out paper and pen and do some brain dumping and five year plan and figure out exactly what’s going on and what I need to do to get back on track because I am not happy with the way things are going right now. After watching this video I feel confident I can get back on track. That this is a real thing , not just in my head. Just knowing that lightened my spirits so much already . Thank you ! I have a few minutes left of the video but I just had to make this comment right now.😁❤️
Thank you, Thank you , Thank you Rafi !! I have felt like this almost constantly for years( not as severely) I had never put a name to it b4, burnout was something that happened to workaholics, but I am a bit like that anyway. So I think a lot of us are very close to this. You have opened my eyes to being ‘more aware ‘ of my feelings and thoughts. Thanks for all the tips- what would we do without you both ! Xxx
For me, I have found that burnout like everything starts with our thoughts. I know that part of my meditation practice is to separate from my thoughts,not to try to stop them. Like being a witness to them. This helps me to choose which ones that will lead to the greater good. Thoughts are just suggestions.Everyday we have thousands of them yet just being requires no thought. It's great that you're taking time for contemplation. If everyone did that the world would be a better place.
Awe, hang in there. You two turn a big wheel...and I can relate to this as I also turn a big wheel in my business. Kind of too many projects always going on...and that's the mind of highly creative people. And your move was epic. The plumbing problem was epic. Everything you describe is normal... I suspect that all of your viewers could see how much you were juggling and yet you were trying to remain so positive. If you feel like you need to jumpstart sales, you could do a repeat of the online sales night that you did a few months ago. if I recall, that came together quickly and was successful.
Rafi! I wish I could give this video 500 thumbs up! I haven’t watched your UA-cam’s in so long and I’m sucked back in. It’s like you guys speak straight to my soul sometimes! I also ignored the signs and have been burned out for a while and have been taking a lot of the steps toward health you suggested as well! Sometimes the simplest thing is the answer. Real rest, lists, and brain dumps are saviors! Also, you could never be UNFORGETTABLE! - you spread far too much love and light!
Thank you!
This resonated completely. You are blessed to have people who are there for you. I have lived far too much of my life in burnout and finally just couldn't do it any more. Now I'm slowly learning how to take care of me. I never did because I was always taking care of other people and just barely existing in survival mode. I'm learning how to not jump to put out the fires other people set and to make and enforce some boundaries for myself and those in my life. I'm just learning that I can and need to no matter what those around me say. Trying to come to terms with the complicated time stuff. Grief for what feels like so much wasted and facing that there will never be enough to get done everything I want to. It really makes you reassess your entire life and everything you thought you knew and thought was "important". My Daily Planner is more to anchor me in time and space and to remind me every day to "Write(journal), Heal, Make My Art, and to Enjoy & Have More Fun". Working to find who I am now and to be kind and loving and patient with her. Learning to be the absolute best human I can be. Thank you for sharing honestly and being empowering, inspiring, and awesome!
That to do list is a book! Mine is normally on one sheet of paper.
Yeap. You nailed it, Rafi. It was very close to what you described for me too. For the first time in my life I experienced creative blocks in writing and could not move myself to do anything. I did recognize it. It was scary because I'm like you, someone that sees the light at the end of the tunnel. I am an inspirer and uplifter, so that felt like I had lost my gift.
What I did first of all was rest. I mean I stopped everything. I gave myself a sabbatical, which I was so happy I could do. I took a 1 year sabattical without doing anything but resting, reading for pleasure and whatever I wanted to do each day. Meanwhile I deeply relfected on my life, what gave meaning, joy and purpose. What nourished my passion. What filled my heart. What was my greatest gift to the world? ALl those things. ANd as I did I reclaimed myself and slowly regained my passion.
So I deeply appreciate you taking time to let other peers know the signs and what to do. It is so important because it can lead to a wilting of our soul that makes us like ghosts and that is not our gift as artists. We are to bring beauty, joy, truth and courage.
So self-care is a must for us. I now are part of a self-care program that has a group and we meet twice a month and get resources and it's with a sound healer who does sound healing for us once a month. It's awesome. I also gave myself two artists-teachers-supporters that I'm a member of their program and I receive inspiration and specific help about my art when I need it.
Hoping that you all allow the vibration of joy into your hearts and know that you are never ever alone. Open your heart to receive the help, light and resources that the universe is streaming to you right now.
Thanks again, Rafi. This was excellent Medicine.
I am absolutely delighted that you two are back on track. Hurrehhhhhhhh hurrehhhhhhhh hurrehhhhhhhh 😁👍🏴🏴
I often feel that burnout is the bane of all artist. And I don't think there are any artist that haven't suffered from it. One thing's for sure, the faster you acknowledge that you're actually on the wrong path, the faster you can get out of it. But if you have been pushing through for years and years, be prepared for a long recovery. And dayplanners have to be the worst invention in that regard. It's not because they give you the possibility to micro-manage your time that you should do it. I once read that you also shouldn't buy a big family planner type calendar as there is too much space to write on them. It's not because you can write it down that you can survive it! And also, stay away from toxic people as much as possible, all they know how to do is destroy other people. As artist, we are sponges, and that makes us more fragile from the start. Accepting that fact is probably the first step to protecting yourself.
Take care.
I just found your channel and this is the second video I watched. First - get out of my head. It's like you're mirroring my thoughts. Seriously - excellent video. I've been going through a massive stress-out (stress and burnout combo) since March. I've been trying to finish a massive book project which finally launched this week. Then I had a big expense at the worst possible time. I'm the same in that I like to get work finished and off my list and head. I had given myself an unreasonable six months to get the project done and it took closer to ten. Those last four months took a horrible toll on my health. And the crazy thing is that I know better. I know to chill. I know it will all work out, but I get plagued by all the negative What ifs......I'm just on the other side of it now but the health issue still lingers. So....Ohmmmmm. Thanks for the therapy session, I mean the video.
All those negative what ifs can eat a bag.
I literally just finished your audio book. I hope you take time for yourself and feel better soon. Also thank you for all the content and advice!
I have been diagnosed with burnout 6 months ago. Over those 6 months it has nearly claimed my life 4 times.
Before i broke down, I pushed myself through stress for 5 years and did not have the knowledge to identify the warning signs.
Learn to listen to yourself/ your body, before it's too late.
Thanks!
Thank you!
Thanks for this Rafi
Still in burnout. Pieces of paintings unfortunately not finished over 2 months….thanks for the beautiful video
Baby steps.
Ooops !
Too late !!
I went into that stage a long time ago 👀
> The good news is that - I’m starting to come out of it !! 😆🍊👍🏻
good, come out of that place.
I started to turn this off but then realized that you are actually talking about me. I'm a Goldsmith and sculptor. I am a full time commission artist and boy do i experiance burnout constantly. The tips you talk about are good advice for all of us. I enjoy you and your wifes channel. Keep up the good work and thank you for good sound advice. Break a leg
Thank you so much for this 🙏🏻
I love the Cafe Bustelo can in the background!
I was burnt out in life generally so decided to just drop everything and backpack around New Zealand for a month, which was a good break, didnt draw a thing or do any work, was the break i needed at the time to reevaluate life and what i was doing with it. I know its an expensive break but was def worth it.
Ola / Kia Ora - thank you 😊 Rogues Rising
Love that , Rogues Rising !
Oh boy.. Rings a bell.. You two have each other, and so much going for you. Hang in there! Rome wasn't built in a day. Lots of love😘😘 Glad you're taking time to take care. Good catch on grasping that mind of yours. I like that. "hey, you're my mind and you're going to listen to what I say"! Hang in there Rafi & Klee. Take it slow.
I took a 3 year computer animation diploma in college. I met my best and only real friend there in the 1st one. somehow we were the only 2 who were serious about our studies, and time together in class to really work with each other, and that eventually extended to me and her drawing at her house every night for hours after school. she dropped out during her 2nd year. I felt really sad for both of us. what's worse it I asked her if she'd like to stay friends and she said no. to this day I have no idea why.
But let me get down to the reason for my burnout.
3rd year was the hardest one. I spent it all alone with no friends, because none of them were taking their studies seriously and even had moments where I was completely offended by a few of them and just had to keep my mouth shut because their clicks (or whatever you wanted to call them) would threaten me by saying they would speak to the supervisor and get me expelled. now everyone knows just how immature my class mates were in college. sorry for venting.
But I honestly spent so long trying to figure things out on my own and barely got passing grades, with no friends to spend time with outside of school I just felt lonely and couldn't draw even when I wanted to because school was hard enough.
Thankfully I graduated, and it wasn't easy, but it really took a toll on me as an artist. I've even heard of stories worse than this so I can't complain but college was honestly one of the worst experiences of my life now that I think of it.
Small nice thing to do to just "be": when it's sunny, go outside and blow bubbles.
Thank you
My burnout came from many tragic events in my life over decades. To tragic to share. To describe it I have lived on the far extreme ends of the bell curve of life at no fault of my own. Sadly there are people in the world that will stop at nothing to destroy your life and reputation. I had to give up my profession, suffer from PTSD, depression etc. Meds help, but after so many decades of hell, I'm now in an almost permanent state of burnout. I had to go on disability. I now only paint when the "Zone" hits me. Other than that nothing. It takes me 6 months to complete one painting. So now I just try and take life as it comes. I don't have a choice.
Great video. I take time for myself, for hours or a few days. And read motivational books, self help books.
I've burned out several times in the last 2 years. I just keep going back to my bad habits of trying to do too much. Now I'm focusing on healing my back. I'm doing acupuncture and physio. No more overloading myself, that's no way of living life
Thank you for sharing
Thanks you!
I had no idea other people don’t feel like this on a regular basis. Everything you described has been my entire life experience. I have always struggled, between depression and chronic illness, and I’ve always felt like a huge failure. I guess maybe I ought to cut myself some slack.
Glad to see that light in your eyes again :)
great talk about burnout, also shoutout to the CAFE BUSTELO can in background.
This was a perfect guide from you 👍🙌👏👏💯
I look forward to a cup of tea and a cookie, I just want to push forward, but honestly there are so many things to do. I'm always writing lists, I check them off, I do little bits and pieces, check, check, check...I look at them, then I write more, they change all the time, but sometimes they are the same. I just can't get it all done. Lol. The thing I love is that I make things like a trip, to give me a big incentive. I need something to look forward to. Then, the best thing is to find time to pray, read the bible if that's not too weird for you, enjoy being grateful for all your blessings. Find time everyday to laugh, joke, have some kind of fun, watch a comedy, I often watch you guys to keep my life light, yet focused. Gardening and outdoor related things also help keep my spirit in the game. All that you have been saying here is very valuable and true. (I often spend more time writing lists, than doing, but sometimes I have insights that make that list more tangible, and then innovation happens. ;))
Good ideas
I finished my first drawing, it’s great to me but disproportionate in a lot of areas, it’s been 2 days and haven’t been able to pick up my pencil since, I’m surprised I’m feeling burnout after my first drawing, hope this isn’t a common cycle
❤️
I confess I feel a little like that but for me it is not "burn out". I am just fed up with life in general. I recognise I am feeling lonely and isolated. I am used to living alone as I have done for years, so it is not that, but I think with my current health and all the lock downs it has really taken its toll on me. I have noticed over the past couple of years I have not been sleeping well at all. I think some of it is being a woman at my age, so I think some of it is hormonal and not something I necessarily have control over, though I am hoping that by trying hormone replacement this will help. I am okay though, I am not "depressed" but I am physically tired from lack of sleep and Ive started getting migraines that I have never had ever before. So I am sorry I have not been around as much as before. I am hopeful I will get on top of my feelings and improve them T x
DEVO sang 👨🎤🎼 .. Now Whip it ...into shape... shape it up... get straight ...go forward... move ahead... try to dectect it ...it's not too late... to whip it... Whip it good!🎶
Of course that's easier sung that done. We all have that stuff in our lives and minds that can get you bummed.
And having feelings about that stuff is the stuff of life as you say.👩🎨
My husband is seriously suffering from burn out. The problem is we can’t afford to walk away
I'm sorry, I hope you find a light at the end of the tunnel soon!
👍👍
James 😁
My wife suffered from anxiety disorder. Not saying you are but the lists of lists of lists were both a help and a definite trigger for her if she didn’t complete her 40 plus item list of things to do for the day. You’re on the right path buddy. Keep it short and simple. Self care is key.
That was really helpful.
I got burned out looking at your lists. I hope I recover! The planner freaked me out. Please never show those things again. Just joking. Burnout doesn't happen to us; it happens because of us. We need to look deep inside to determine why we drive ourselves so hard. We need to find out why we are workaholics. Otherwise, we will keep getting burned out. If not already, get yourself financially free, and then don't worry as much. In other words, become less insecure. Keep up the great work. Oops, did I say work? I meant life.
This comment seems spot on to me.
Great reply 🙂
I’ve been in burnout for years. I mean looong time. SOS!
Re-evaluate it all.
Side quest complete
It is an adventure
Sounds more like depression rather than "burnout"
It's all part of the same world.
"People are going to forget about us.." You just really hit a chord. I had just started my art career before Covid happened, and I thought it was going really well. I'd had a few sales, won a few awards, was showing in a few small, local galleries, was working as a docent at one of them, as part of my hanging space agreement. I was really happy, had won a spot in a 4-person show, and had arranged my first solo show. It was so exciting. Then Covid hit. The person who was giving me rides to the furthest of the galleries and shows became ill. The four person show was hung, but nobody attended it. My solo show was cancelled. The gallery that gave me my start and almost all of my awards went out of business. It was like waiting a lifetime for my dream to come true, and then having it trashed. At the same time, I was removed from my friends, my social circle, all of the things that I did to relax, and was totally locked in with my parents and sister for over two years. I didn't realize it, but I suppose it started with the sure knowledge that people were going to forget about me, just when I was getting started, coupled with the knowledge that I thought I'd finally found a way around my illness, where I wouldn't be a burden on my parents any longer, only to wind up locked exclusively with them, with no reprieve. Needless to say, I burnt out spectacularly. Surprisingly, I didn't even realize it till just now.
Knowing is half the battle! Great evaluation.
Very important ❤❤❤
Awesome ideas Rafi. I think I'm suffering from burnout again....because I'm finding myself saying...I don't care...🥲...
That is not me...I'm a happy person....I do Care... a lot and I also multitask...and that is the problem.
So I'm implementing a long term positive plan like yours.
Mine will be on a monthly basis...bite size portions...so I can work on one project at a time...and I'm going to try to stop placing so many task on myself all at once.
Thank YOU again for being such an encourager...
Love to you and Cle