Or imagine them moving on when they get rejected. I once saw a tumblr post that said ,,If someone loses attraction to me, I immediately lose attraction to them", I'm just like wow how nice it would be to be that way.
I had oneitis for a girl which lasted about 8 months. It was the worst time I ever had. It even lasted the full time of my summer when I didn't see the girl for full 3 months! One of the crucial important steps which I took to stop my addictive thoughts was to COMPLETELY not interacting with that girl and not looking at their social media AT ALL. You can have as much hobbies as you want and have a great social life, but it brings nothing if you are still looking at her social media and if you think that you still might have a chance and if you still think she is the best girl for you. Once I started to completely not having any kind of interaction with her, and any kind of the slightest look towards her, the addictive thoughts and my depression have gone pretty quick. Of course there are some scars left and even after 3 years I still think about her sometimes, but it is nowhere near as it was before. But I am actually now happy that this happened because during that time I improved my social life dramatically and I learned how to deal with serious problems like oneitis and depression. It gives you emotional control.
I realize that once you stop interacting with them... have delete or ignore contact from social media and out in real life. Over time you will get over with them pretty quick!
Meg Nguyen my crush started because we have all the same classes and live in the same neighborhood and I see her on her bike all the time... God she’s so pretty
I can't. I try to die but I'm found trying to die from hanging stabbing but they always find me when I try stabbing my self.. I have to talk to her. I can't stop.
Hey it sounds like you might be in the friend zone with her. If you like her and she's unwilling to develop anything with you (mainly because she also has a boyfriend) then I would try to distance yourself from her and focus on talking to other girls.
I am in a similar situation but not only are we really close friends, all of my other friends including my cousin that I am really close with are really good friends, so leaving isn’t really an option. She doesn’t have a boyfriend and I don’t think she knows I like her but she has known in the past. I just don’t know what to do.
Yes, there is a girl i had a BIG crush on her and OBBSESSED with her. But, she rejected me and never talked to me ever again. But every time I see her she also looks at me back but im still trying to get over with her but i cant 😢
i am obsessed with this person for 4 years, i can’t seem to stop it, because everytime i close my eyes she’s all i could think of. I sometimes try to like some other girls like flirting with them and spending time with them, but i still think of her. I saw her one time in my dream, we were taking pictures and thats all i could even remember. I hope this video is gonna cure it soooooo, here we go.
Did you get a new gal in your life? I want to try new things and working out to improve my health and my game in the romantic field are some of my goals.
Ok man, here’s my story: During senior year in high school, first day of French class, I was basically the oldest in the class and I thought to myself that all the other kids were like freshman and sophomores, which they were. But there’s this girl that stood out to be very quiet and isolated, that she only spoke when the teacher called on her. For me, I can tell apart pretty much every freshman, sophomore, and junior, but she was different. At the time I hadn’t yet developed any feelings for her, more like I was curious if she was either a sophomore or junior. But when the teacher ask which one us were soph-seniors, she raised her hand for a junior, and that to me kind of surprised me, like I seriously don’t know why. It was like a “Ohhh okay!” moment for me when I found out. And as the days went by, i just felt even more curious about her. I didn’t really have the chance to talk to her because she was on the other side of the classroom and it looked like she was always busy. So yeah, as the days went by, I sort of got used to her, always going for quick glances and looked at what she does and how she is in class. And a month goes by without me communicating with her, I developed mixed feeling about her, dunno why but I did. Then I started liking her, then all of a sudden she changed the way she dressed just for one day (maybe an away game for soccer) and I was like that “Ohh okay, damn that’s looks good!” moment. But same as always, she was quiet most of the time. Now the shitty thing happens. -I started getting self conscious whenever I’m around her-. Yup, that’s basically by sob story about a girl I’ve kind of got obsessed over. To this day, I still am. 🤣
Marco I don’t see the part of this that’s a sob story. So you have a crush on her, she doesn’t dislike you, neither of you are moving away, and you weren’t rejected... sounds 👍 great right?
Progression: curious > got used to > that looks good moment Next: she smiles back/talks to you some > somebody teases the both of you to each other Finally: you get into a big memorable event together > she sees someone else. Congrats, you just found the Matrix. Have a wonderful day.
Dude this is actually crazy because a lot of your story parallels my life. (I know you made this comment 5 years ago my bad for being so late). I was just a senior in high school taking an elective class of psychology and it was a very small class with this quiet girl who wasn't close to me that also didn't talk unless the teacher told her to. I also wondered if she was a sophomore or junior. I never really had feelings for her at that time but once I started talking to her and was finding out things about her like her being a junior, I began to start loving her so much. It was only a semester class and even though I was sad it was coming to an end, I was able to carry on the second semester of senior year just fine, barely thinking of her, yet still seeing her around almost every day. But then it hit me, last day of high school and after going home, going out to eat with friends to celebrate, I went home late at night just sobbing uncontrollably over her. I knew this was it. She just didn't care enough for me man. Even after months and now I'm starting college and moved away from my childhood home, I still get really sad over her thinking I just potentially lost the best girlfriend I could've had, even though there were some clear flaws I was happy to overlook. I'm curious, if you respond after all these years, how have things changed? When did it get better? (Again, I apologize if you didn't want to be reminded of this)
Thank you so much for this! I recently forced myself to confess to my crush. It was destroying me emotionally and physically as I lost my appetite also. I couldn’t stop thinking of her and fantasizing about being with her. My yearning to be with her would get so intense I’d almost start crying, and I haven’t cried in forever. I knew she would never feel the same way back. And I had to let the truth destroy my ridiculous fantasies. And the only way to do that was to force myself to confess my feelings to her. I was shaking, and it was the hardest thing to say. But I did it.
Oh gosh, thank you for this. Been obsessed with this girl lately and I hate how she's in my head 24/7. I'll try to hang out with friends and avoid eye contact with her, cuz she's my classmate. There's still a part of me that is hopeful tho :') but I know that's just my mind tricking me. Thank you so much for this!
This was really eye-opening for me. I've suffered from oneitis for a girl for over a year and a half now, and since getting rejected about a year ago, I've developed depression and I've done some really terrible things to myself. I felt like I was the only one feeling this way about someone else. Now I know I'm not. However, I still have a few questions and concerns. So, I haven't talked to her since about mid-April, mostly because I'm terrified of what she thinks of me, and I don't want to get her involved in my situation again. But even with that, I still have obsessive feelings about her. I see her maybe twice throughout the school day, and usually for no more than a few seconds. Yet, the feelings still linger. I do find safety in my feelings for her, which I can see now is only hurting me. And I know it takes a lot to take the steps away from that, but it is still really, really hard to decide that I don't want to continue working towards the goals I set for myself a year and a half ago. And, another major thing is that, well, I'm scared. I'm terrified to like anyone else because I don't want to have obsessive emotions towards anyone else, because I know now that I'm not equipped to deal with those feelings. I know this is a ton of stuff to work with but I was hoping I could get some tips for this? This girl has been my entire life for so long and it's really brought me to some dark places, and I'm just looking for a way out.
Hey, I know how hard it can be to move on from someone you've liked for so long but trust me, once you are able to shift your focus from her to yourself, life will become easier when it comes to interacting with and dating other girls.
Hayden i know it sound bad i suffered from depression the last few years at scgool because of the same thing i liked her for 3 yrs and i would have layed down my life for her. Trust me it spunds weird but if you ask her out and she rejects you with her own words instead of on text or her friends telling you it makes you get over her... i was over her for the next day and it clears your mind and you can put that towards much better things. and dont have depression anymore and i feel great
dude honestly idek anymore, i’ve liked her for almost half my life now, since we were kids. my friends are telling me to let go of her but no one understands how hard it really is, believe me, if it was that easy i would be doing so much better. i’ve tried talking to other girls but they’re just not her, it’s like to the point where i love her yet hate her. idk guys.
One thing that might help is to get to know that it happens to tons of people around the world and not just to you. By the moment you realize this is a natural feeling, you'll start to face it differently. That is because we all have this tendency to think that we are unique and we are not, when it comes to human feelings.
There are a few tips for how to get any man you want learn to be patient Use less words and choose them with care Communicate via behaviour as well as words (I read about these and more on Maras Magic Words site )
Just found out the girl I had crush on for about an year was texting my other best friend, and now they're best friends. Welp, not falling for the love shit again.
I'm not sure we are supposed to really let go of those feelings. We will never really understand psychology, but we like them for a reason. I think we are just supposed to be happy that someone can bring up those feelings in us, and be happy carrying them around with us in our Heart. Being able to feel things like that is a gift from God. Whether or not we actually end up dating that person we do have to move forward because they are paralyzing feelings. But I think we are supposed to keep the feelings but let go of any outcome that we want associated with them. If we are happy that we can love, but not hold any conditions to it, that's really the best I think. It's not easy to carry around those things, but it's better to face them and feel them and have them burn a hole in our brain and become a part of us, than to pretend they do not exist. Talk to the person as much as possible to get to know them and open up to them. Getting to know people and accepting them as they are in their lives. Oneitis always has to do with false feelings if rejection. It isn't really real. If we don't push away those feelings and instead work on our self esteem and belief in ourselves, and make them a friend above anything else, then the next person we meet that makes us feel that way it will be easier to deal with because we have already gone thru the embarrassment and awkwardness of getting to know the first one.
My crush asked out my best friend. It’s oneitis for me. She always talks about holding hands with him and hugging him and how he calls her cutie and gorgeous and I’m just there holding back tears :’)
CyanStrawberry Plays something I learned about being in a group of guy friends: talk about women!!! Know who your friends like, let your friends know who you like. You do not date someone your friend has a crush on without talking about it. Honestly, if you and your friend were honest, he may never have liked that girl because she’s “that girl my best friend likes”. Does it rob your friend of a good relationship??? Possible, but it’s chicken egg situation. Your friend may think your feelings are more important in this situation, especially before he really started liking her. Tbh I don’t know how your best friend doesn’t know who your crush is. It all me and my friends talk about, and I’m almost 30.
The girl I soft on made my heart melt every time I looked at her. A guy named Gabe, who I had unmatched hatred for asked her out before I got the chance. After a couple of months they broke up and I befriended her and we became great friends. But I still had so much love for her that I could only just contain it. I was walking out to meet her. She was hanging with Gabe. I calmed myself and said that they were just talking. He was going on a biology camp so she went with him to say goodbye. One of my good friends told me that he had seen them kissing. It was and still is the worst pain I have ever felt. It felt like someone had harpooned me in the heart. Now I am just watching them kiss in school and hold hands. Every time I come home I feel horrible. I don't know what to do. I have never felt like this about someone. I have had crushes before but she was on a whole other level. I feel like my soul is grinding itself into pieces.
Recently I caught oneitis pretty bad and it's still very strong. Thing is I got rejected in a very friendly and understanding way by my crush and she still wants to hang out with me as friends. I agreed and told her that I will be ok with that. Of course that's not the truth and I'm suffering every time I see her while pretending that I'm fine. Breaking off contact is not an option because we are in the same circle of friends and this would be very awkward. However, it gets better every time and I hope that you're right that when I eventually meet someone new these feelings are getting shifted towards this other person.
i had oneitis for a boy 2 years ago and you’re right about still thinking about them from time to time, i wish i would’ve seen this sooner but i really appreciate it
Man I love these videos so much, with all the expert advice that I so sorely need. I've done what Josh says and have blocked this person on all social media outlets and GRATEFULLY she has left my workplace so I don't have to be around her anymore. A while ago I was just walking around town and very unluckily saw her car parked in the street!!!! THAT WAS THE LAST THING I NEEDED TO SEE!!! I turned around and ran away as quickly as possible. I still can never get her off my mind but at least I'm learning to handle this situation properly. No point wanting someone I know I can't have. Thanks Josh Speaks for all your help!!!
I have had 2 long crushes one was my first crush in middle school and that one lasted till about tenth grade. Then my senior year I started working with this girl and I have had a crush on her ever since although she is now on boyfriend #3. I think she knows how I feel but I’ve never laid it out on the line cause everytime I’m about to I find out she likes someone more or is dating somebody
Well I just go for a long and fast drive feeling close to death and wanting more. I usually go at night, I learned path and know where the police usually is so I drive as fast as I can, It helps me clear my head and it helped me learn life is short because I had so many near death accidents.
My story: Never had a girlfriend in my life, and this girl was my closest chance at ever getting a girlfriend. I feel like my hope for a love life is so slim... So there’s this really pretty girl at work, and she’s so sweet and nice to me. I love talking to her, she makes me so happy. She shows all of these signs that she likes me back, but she has a f***ing boyfriend. She also had a baby with that boyfriend too. And recently I found out that they are planning on an engagement, and when her boyfriend leaves to go to the navy, she will go with him and marry him. I know my chances with her are so very slim. But I hope I can get over her and maybe just be a good friend to her. And be there for her if she ever needs me. All I want for her is to be happy, she made me so happy. I was at a breaking point in my life with so much self doubt, and she came into my life and made me happy, and I want to make her happy too. Even if that means letting her go.
dude this helped so much i have had feeling for this amazing girl who could change my whole world and i was about to tell her how i felt when i had learned my friend kyler had asked her to prom that day... and all i am trying to say is that ur advice helped me tons thanks man
Wow, could this video come at a more perfect time?! Over the past few months, I have developed this crush on this girl that I will admit tip towards being an obsession. I would always think of her to uplift me when I was feeling down. Well, a few days ago I find out she is moving to another state and now my mind is only on her and what is never going to happen. Thanks Josh for the tips and your thoughts about the situation.
I wish I got rejected, I've liked this person for so long and I've messed so many chances I had to talk her, and now I have onecitis, I wish I could talk to her and tell her how I feel to at least get some closure, but I'm stuck in this state of obsession, it hurts when I see her and feel like I'm going insane and it's been 3 years now, I think of her lesser now, it's gonna take a while for me, and it helps alot if you avoid looking at your crush's social media.
Thats exacly what i was looking for 🔥🔥🔥 (I used to love a girl in college but i knew that there is no way to meet each other cause she was older...i was thinking of her every second of my damn life and i couldent stop...i told it to my best friend but he didnt react or help...i came to a decision of getting over it cause when i was thinking her i got hurt....i got ever her when i didnt see her for 3 months and now i still remeber the days that i was in love with her....now i like another girl (imppssible love) again
Dude I know this video is old but this girl is one of my greatest friends. She doesn't know I like her. Even if I do try to make new friends, I get kinda pissed even when I see her talking to another boy. WHY DOES LIFE HAVE TO BE SO HARD!?!?!?!?
What if I spotted a girl that I like looking at me, and when I finally walked up to her and asked for her name, she completely ignored my answer. Then I asked if she’s okay and she said no. Two days later and I find her looking at me again. Plus smiling....she’s still doing this up to today. What should I do?
So you don't know her name? I'm a girl maybe I can help you, but trust me we girls have no idea when it comes to out own feelings as well and it's different for each of us. So maybe try to be friends with her first.
I met this girl almost four years ago and I compleatly fell in love with her even tho i didnt know her that well. She already had a boyfriend. I have not seen her in almost three years but im still obsessed. Love is strange sometimes.
If you found a next girl to crush on who is called Crush B, you will eventually get over your Crush A. So far, the 1st step that is taken is not being able to see her for almost 3 years. That was what happened to me back in 2000 when I was in college. I kept taking different classes and I was always hoping to run into her somewhere but eventually, I have to accept the fact that she was no longer part of my life.
Thank you bro for these tips. I have strong feeling for 2 girls from my high school. Even though high school ended 5 fucking years ago, I just couldn't stop thinking about them. One was a crush and the other was my best friend with whom I was super close to. Unfortunately we stopped hanging around because of a stupid misunderstanding 4 years ago. 3 years I never knew why did she start avoiding me and why did she delete me from friends. I tought that she found new friends, but still couldn't understand why would she delete me from friends. We already stopped communicating months before she deleted me and when I saw that I wasn't that much surprised and it would have been super awkward to contact her and ask for explanation. It's a shame what happened, but shit happens and you just gotta move on. I had no luck finding someone as cool as she was. She was female version of me, but in order for me to forget her I must meet new girls and hope to find someone who is compatible with me to some extent like she was. Meeting new people is the key. I already kinda knew that and you confirmed it bro. Thank you again.
I need to confess im just here to see how guys think and yes.. its so similar to girls. idk what I was expecting but im very very intrigued about this concept now
I need help talking to people please make a video about it Whenever I try starting a conversation its usually about history (Vietnam war, WWII, WWI etc) So when I try they just tell me no one cares. I also struggle speaking in crowds, I stutter a lot while speaking and make a total fool of myself Please help Josh
Naima Abdillahi talk about a hobby or interest you have (other then history) it could be a tv series you like, a movie, video game, sports team ETC. For example with the tv series you could introduce the topic of say Game of Thrones. "Hey have you ever heard of a show called Game of Thrones?" If they say no then go into detail about what its about "Its a really good show you should watch it, its about........ and i like it because you never know whats going to happen". If they say 'oh yea ik about that' then you can lead the conversation into something about the show like "oh are you caught up with season 7?........ what did you think about....?" Etc etc. Just try to pick something thats not just about history. This way it shows that you have other interests thay arent just History and the next time you go to talk to the person you have a common topic. It could be "what did you think about...." or even "Did you check out that thing i was telling you about the other day?"
We work on same place and despite knowing she is in relationship, my feelings towards her grow as time progress. To impress her I started practicing sketch. She got the hint and turn me down politely throught text. For some days, deep down, mere thinking of parting with her crushed me. Later I start avoiding her, I changed my shift, I always tried to be calm and happy around her, she tried to show concerns whether her rejection effected me but I just smile and avoid talking with her. But I think problem is not her rejection but the fantasies I created about her knowing there is other person in her life.
The thing is we got super close in school recently as classmates. He started teasing me and started doing cute lil things like hugging me super tight, complimenting me, he even kissed my forehead and basically gave so many “signs”. He also stated a few times he likes girls like me. However, what bothers me is that he has a girlfriend so I wanna get rid of this crush but for some reason I crave his attention so bad and he is still a great friend and I still think he is cute (I don’t know if he is in an open relationship though, but they seem like it, but I don’t want to assume and I don’t want to be a home wrecker lol help I’m dying)
Yes, for like 3 years, and no matter how much advise you give me I never change, no progress is ever made with this girl I like, but we talk on snapchat.
The Josh Speaks maybe, but she might now like me, I mean she looks at me, and she saves questions that I ask her about dating on snapchat, she was talking about me to her friend too, but I should try talking to her
I THINK IM EXTREAMLU OBSESSED WITH HIM AND CANT GET OVER HIM AT ALL!!! I NEED TO SEE HIS FACE!!! I CANT BREATH!!! ITS JUST A FEW HOURS SINCE I SAW HIM BUT I MISS HIM ALREADY!!! I DONT WANT SCHOOL TO END!!! I NEED TO SEE HIM!!!! I CANT EVEN CONFESS CUZ I AM AND INTROVERT!!! WHAT IF HE STARTS TO LIKE SOMEONE ELSE WITHOUT HIM KNOWING I LIKE HIM BACK?!?! I CANT!!! I WANNA CRYYYYY!!!!!!!
i was hope less and shattered before until i meant a close friend of mine who introduced me to this great powerful man who helped me out if you are interested i can drop you his whatssAPP number/+2347056688405 contact for help
ive had oneitis froma girl i worked with. shes so sweet and genuine but we dont have the same work schedule anymore and it felt like a heartbreak. now watching this vid
YellowPlayzYT Canada that’s a difficult age! You aren’t alone, like, at all. Everyone has been 12 to 14 before, and holy hell having feelings for girls at that age is real because you have the hormones of a teenager and the obsessiveness of a *child* ahem you aren’t a child you’re just becoming a young adult, and there is growing to do.
puttputt524 well, I’m not depressed, I have friends, and we were very close at one point.... idk wat happened, maybe it was time. Now we are getting closer again so I guess it ain’t bad, I like (love) her a lot I’m just scared that she’ll reject me.
YellowPlayzYT Canada she probably wanted to be your friend! People get weirded out when they figure out you like them, and your at an age where that’s normal. This is part of your learning through your early twenties.
I know it's bad, but my friend, whom I have a crush on, got me through tough emotional times, not only personally, but as an idea as a crush. We are pretty close, so I don't just want to shut her out. Both for selfish (her giving me motivation through my apathy and occasional depressions) and selfless (I am one of her only friends that offers her a place to vent, while giving her space), I honestly can't get over her.
I wanna share my story with u guys... I proposed my crush 3 weeks ago (after knowing her for 2 months), and she told me that she wasn't ready for a relationship...and the main reason was that I'd be gone abroad after 4 months from now....she said that she wanted her very first relationship to be perfect.... Although she's 18 (so am I)...she told me that she would look for a bf when she moves abroad and settles there... I tried to play cool and said that it's alright....but it's been 3 weeks and I literally have dreams about her (about us) every single day...which makes it harder for me to move on. Plus her and I have the same college group of friends...so I don't think that I want to make new friends....I mean the people I hangout with are my best of friends...but she's in the group too... HELP ME OUT HERE PLZ🙂😔
I don't like getting another crush in order of getting another one out of your head though, it's just gonna make me suffer more I just want to forget the person completely and be on my own... I liked being on my own and not having any crushes they're just so stress making. I'm also not talking to the person but I still can't get them out of my head. Please universe just get this human out of my brain and let me become a person that moves on fast..
Ngl I liked someone for a long time, then they said they liked me back but kept lying to me, never texting, and ended up basically cheating on me. I always wanted to end it but every time she said “no I like you” and then at the end of all of this she said she lied about liking me in general and everyone thinks it’s my fault e.e. I’m just wondering is it like natural for me to be incredibly pissed of at her because everyone thinks i’m just jealous.
I finally found out that I still like this guy and he's totally a rockstar and I still keep having these kind of feelings towards him personally and I keep having more very open romantic feelings towards him and he's so cute and very handsome
I had a mutual crush for a guy, we've never talked just stared, sitting next to each other in class, it's been 5 years I don't see him anymore, I don't have any contact with him but I still think about him everyday! I wish I never laid my eyes on him, it's like a curse.
It kind of sucks because me and this girl are best friends but I like her so much more but I feel like she just can go get anyone she wants and it won’t be me
I feel you mate I had the same problem. But the I got in a fight with her over my feelings and we didn't talk for 2 months. And now we are talking again and still are very good friends. But I thinks the best thing to do for you at this point is confront yourself with your feelings and move on to someone else. The easiest way is to take some time away from her. But if you don't feel like doing that just make a little space between you go talk to other girls go hangout without her stuff like that
Well the thing is the girl knows I like her but she treats me like shit and always does little things to piss me off she said she "trys" to understand me but ik she lying and she tells me that I'm annoying when I'm in my feelings and yet I try to do everything to make her happy but you know after this video I come to realize that she doesn't deserve me and yeah you're right I should just stop talking to her since she said I'm just someone to talk to thanks, it might be awhile but if you want I'll keep you guys posted 😀❤️
so everytime I try to do the right thing, which is ,talk less or you know become distant ,my crush would just not let me get over her . what I mean is she'll do stuff which will make me come back ,like she'll give me the attention that I want , but then again , I think I'll always stay in the friend zone
Mine right now is especially brutal because she DID like me and it was obvious. We are 2 states apart... with plans to see each other... But by the time covid lockdowns were lifted and she was vaccinated.... She basically is losing interest in me. What sucks is she is part of my online friend group... So it's really horrific the idea of playing games with them weekly. Trying to control my thoughts more. But it's rough for sure. I'm 33 years old. It gets somewhat easier managing this shit as you get older but it's still an emotional roller coaster when you really like a girl.
Can't blame her because when there is a pandemic, why would anyone want to leave town? You either have to enjoy quarantine right in front of her or you find someone else. Your interest and her interest won't be compatible. You got to also get used to quarantine life and getting vaccinated yourself. If you can't enjoy quarantine and letting yourself get vaccinated, you won't stand a chance to win her heart. She would see you as breaking the social distance policies. What that means is you must not feel depressed in quarantine if you want to make her like you. Otherwise you would have to settle for someone who does not depend on quarantine nor vaccination.
I have oneitis for a girl ive liked for two years. It will be too long to go into everything, but i found out shes not interested in me. Im still taking it hard, but Im glad I watched this video
I want to stop thinking about her, but I want to think about her at the same time. I met this girl a month ago, and we talk every single day. I told her how I felt and she didn’t feel the same way, but I still want to think about her and talk to her and see her. It’s just the times when I’m not talking with her or texting her, she’s on my mind 24/7 and I feel queasy 70% of the time. *sigh*
This summer I met a really attractive funny , and all around just charming and awesome girl , we shared a lot of stuff and she told me some of her darkest secrets , everything went perfect we actually even wanted to go on a date after she would come back from the UK in December, but once she left to go to the UK things changed so much (I'm German btw, she's french) and just this Friday she started dating someone .. I can't just remove her out of my life either because we shared so much and she sometimes comes back to me to talk about her Problems and shit , and she also knows I'm in to her .(she used to be too) but this stupid trip changed that , I honestly feel heartbroken.. If you read this far thank you
Well here we go... There is this girl in my class I have had a curhs on for about 6months now first it wasn't that much of a problem because we didn't even talk so my feelings couldn't really settle but then we started talking and became friends still nothing special it was prety obvious she had a crush on 1 of my friends so I was like well give it up but then they came in a fight and because I was prety good friends with them both I kinda had to choose a side. Well then my feelings got the better of me and I choose the side of the girl and so for about 2/3months we were really close friends and by this time she knew I had feelings for her it wasn't really a problem at first cuz I knew how to deal with them but over time it kinda got out of hand. And I started getting a bit obsessed. While this was happening she and here so believed crush started getting close again and because of my obsession I started to intervene. This is when she got mad and I got in a fight with her. We didn't talk to eachother in private for about 1/2 months. Then we started talking again for a bit ( this is now ) and we talk like once or twice a week now. But even while talking to her I kinda lost my crush I mean it is still there but I do not see us come together because I just accepted she doesn't like me the way I like her. And for me at this point it has worked out fine. And I still am prety good friends with her. The main reason for this I think is because our friendgroup is prety close and we have the same friends so I just had to come over my obsession because otherwice the chance of losing more friends was possible. I mean I still like her but 1 week ago I started talking to other girls and I feel like this has really helped me because the my feelings for her are kinda being side tracked. And being friends with her is at this moment the best thing there is I feel like.
Don’t do it. And feel worse about yourself. Or stop being a chicken shit and just do it. At the very least the feeling of trying and getting rejected is a whole lot better than not trying and feeling like shit for not trying.
DaRealCheo amen. Plus if he’s too scared to talk to her then it won’t go far, just wait for a girl that you enjoy talking to and that you vibe with good. Personality > attractiveness idk if that’s a word.
Push through it and confront your crush. You gotta be aggressive to get what the fuck you want. You gotta say to yourself "I can and I will". There is no try. There is only "I can and I will."
there is a girl in my college ,like i was never into her at first but slowly i dont know how but i started liking her a lot maybe because she talks a lot with me and shares many things with me .when everything was going well one day she suddenly told me that she has a crush on my best friend and thats it .my heart was broken .i felt so bad, thats the worst feeling ever in my life.i literally cried a lot and finally came to a conclusion that i should avoid her but guess what i was unable to that .so i still like her and i know for sure she definitely dont see me in that way and will never see too.now whenever she talks about him i literally gets so angry but he is my best friend so i just go out and cry .now i know i should forget her but how could i i literally see her everyday and she talks to me .i dont know what to do.i cant stop thinking of her at all
Just 3 weeks ago, I told my crush I liked her, she is an amazing girl, pretty, sweet, fun, lovely smile, pretty much everything I like in a girl! We had never really talked until she began talking to me, it was only then I started taking notice of her. She led me on to believe that she likes me by dropping signs here and there and eventually I cottoned on and started liking her back. But when I told her.... Jeez was I wrong... I'm currently on the path of falling out of love with her. It'll be an ardous journey but I knoe someday, maybe someday soon, I'll be over her and find the one. To anyone who has been through what I have, trust me he/she is out there and one day you will find this person and be happy!
I'm sorry to hear that man, it happens sometimes when we wait for the right opportunity. Sometimes you just gotta go with your gut and act in the moment.
Imagine those lucky people, who like someone, and they like them back
My friend right there :(
Or imagine them moving on when they get rejected. I once saw a tumblr post that said ,,If someone loses attraction to me, I immediately lose attraction to them", I'm just like wow how nice it would be to be that way.
I have crushes on girs Who dont like me back
Most luckyest people in world 😥
Lucky sods
I like this girl so much that I find it hard to sleep at night because I can't stop thinking about her and it really makes me feel depressed.
I'm infected with oneitos and I'm up at 3:43am still thinking about them 😍
This was me but I confessed my feelings and I got out of this trouble
Same
Same
Same
I had oneitis for a girl which lasted about 8 months. It was the worst time I ever had. It even lasted the full time of my summer when I didn't see the girl for full 3 months! One of the crucial important steps which I took to stop my addictive thoughts was to COMPLETELY not interacting with that girl and not looking at their social media AT ALL. You can have as much hobbies as you want and have a great social life, but it brings nothing if you are still looking at her social media and if you think that you still might have a chance and if you still think she is the best girl for you. Once I started to completely not having any kind of interaction with her, and any kind of the slightest look towards her, the addictive thoughts and my depression have gone pretty quick. Of course there are some scars left and even after 3 years I still think about her sometimes, but it is nowhere near as it was before. But I am actually now happy that this happened because during that time I improved my social life dramatically and I learned how to deal with serious problems like oneitis and depression. It gives you emotional control.
madd maddinson mine lasted for 2 years and she sent me a video of her asking her abusive boy friend to homecoming so that's why I'm here
PUGZ IN PURPLE what? why would you have feelings for a bitch like that?
madd maddinson because she didn't want to join a cult when I met her
I have extreme depression. I want to die. I almost succeeded when my friends and family trying to hang myself. I try but I'm always found.
Me and this girl were really good friends but then someone told her I liked her. Then it was really awkward. Now I got oneitis
I just found out my crush is dating someone now😭😭😭
damn, that sucks 😢
The Josh Speaks they are on my mind 24/7 to the point i dream about them.... i hate my life
ItzJustLoic same bro same..
I'm sorry, I know the feeling...
Aw it's ok
I realize that once you stop interacting with them... have delete or ignore contact from social media and out in real life. Over time you will get over with them pretty quick!
Meg Nguyen Hasn't happened with me.
Meg Nguyen my crush started because we have all the same classes and live in the same neighborhood and I see her on her bike all the time...
God she’s so pretty
I can't. I try to die but I'm found trying to die from hanging stabbing but they always find me when I try stabbing my self.. I have to talk to her. I can't stop.
Not for me I ended up liking her even more
I can't stop thinking about him tho that's my problem
The thing is me and the girl i like are best friends and she doesn't wanna lose me,but she has a bf and she knows i still like her
Hey it sounds like you might be in the friend zone with her. If you like her and she's unwilling to develop anything with you (mainly because she also has a boyfriend) then I would try to distance yourself from her and focus on talking to other girls.
The Josh Speaks ight thanks bro u a real one (:
mason zapp I’m in the same situation
I am in a similar situation but not only are we really close friends, all of my other friends including my cousin that I am really close with are really good friends, so leaving isn’t really an option. She doesn’t have a boyfriend and I don’t think she knows I like her but she has known in the past. I just don’t know what to do.
mason zapp dang thats tough bro😯😯
I got rid of mine not too long ago, it was kind of difficult, but it feels great to not think of that person anymore
Yes, there is a girl i had a BIG crush on her and OBBSESSED with her. But, she rejected me and never talked to me ever again. But every time I see her she also looks at me back but im still trying to get over with her but i cant 😢
TheBlue RD1 go find a better bitch, don’t think she’s the one for you cuz she’s probably not
so how are you doing rn?
i am obsessed with this person for 4 years, i can’t seem to stop it, because everytime i close my eyes she’s all i could think of. I sometimes try to like some other girls like flirting with them and spending time with them, but i still think of her. I saw her one time in my dream, we were taking pictures and thats all i could even remember. I hope this video is gonna cure it soooooo, here we go.
My man that must be horrible 😧😖
Same but I’m in middle school
@@fisherhallett8256 I hope you find peace and closure, that's horrible. you should check out my shit on the fist comments
This vid cured my 5 year on-going oneitis! Thank josh!!
J.R. 100 Jesus
Oneitis is what I've been having from High School to College.
😖
Thanks for the advice Josh!
It may be kinda weird, but when I started to work out, it kinda helped me to get over my crush.
Did you get a new gal in your life? I want to try new things and working out to improve my health and my game in the romantic field are some of my goals.
I just found out that my crush has a crush on my best friend..welp crushes were meant to be crushed
Same thing happened to me it was fucked but nothing you can't move on from.
Ok man, here’s my story:
During senior year in high school, first day of French class, I was basically the oldest in the class and I thought to myself that all the other kids were like freshman and sophomores, which they were. But there’s this girl that stood out to be very quiet and isolated, that she only spoke when the teacher called on her. For me, I can tell apart pretty much every freshman, sophomore, and junior, but she was different. At the time I hadn’t yet developed any feelings for her, more like I was curious if she was either a sophomore or junior. But when the teacher ask which one us were soph-seniors, she raised her hand for a junior, and that to me kind of surprised me, like I seriously don’t know why. It was like a “Ohhh okay!” moment for me when I found out. And as the days went by, i just felt even more curious about her. I didn’t really have the chance to talk to her because she was on the other side of the classroom and it looked like she was always busy. So yeah, as the days went by, I sort of got used to her, always going for quick glances and looked at what she does and how she is in class. And a month goes by without me communicating with her, I developed mixed feeling about her, dunno why but I did. Then I started liking her, then all of a sudden she changed the way she dressed just for one day (maybe an away game for soccer) and I was like that “Ohh okay, damn that’s looks good!” moment. But same as always, she was quiet most of the time. Now the shitty thing happens. -I started getting self conscious whenever I’m around her-. Yup, that’s basically by sob story about a girl I’ve kind of got obsessed over. To this day, I still am. 🤣
Now all i listen to “Space Age Love Song” by A Flock of Seagulls
Marco I don’t see the part of this that’s a sob story. So you have a crush on her, she doesn’t dislike you, neither of you are moving away, and you weren’t rejected... sounds 👍 great right?
Sounds like a joke
Progression: curious > got used to > that looks good moment
Next: she smiles back/talks to you some > somebody teases the both of you to each other
Finally: you get into a big memorable event together > she sees someone else.
Congrats, you just found the Matrix.
Have a wonderful day.
Dude this is actually crazy because a lot of your story parallels my life. (I know you made this comment 5 years ago my bad for being so late). I was just a senior in high school taking an elective class of psychology and it was a very small class with this quiet girl who wasn't close to me that also didn't talk unless the teacher told her to. I also wondered if she was a sophomore or junior. I never really had feelings for her at that time but once I started talking to her and was finding out things about her like her being a junior, I began to start loving her so much. It was only a semester class and even though I was sad it was coming to an end, I was able to carry on the second semester of senior year just fine, barely thinking of her, yet still seeing her around almost every day. But then it hit me, last day of high school and after going home, going out to eat with friends to celebrate, I went home late at night just sobbing uncontrollably over her. I knew this was it. She just didn't care enough for me man. Even after months and now I'm starting college and moved away from my childhood home, I still get really sad over her thinking I just potentially lost the best girlfriend I could've had, even though there were some clear flaws I was happy to overlook. I'm curious, if you respond after all these years, how have things changed? When did it get better? (Again, I apologize if you didn't want to be reminded of this)
Thank you so much for this! I recently forced myself to confess to my crush. It was destroying me emotionally and physically as I lost my appetite also. I couldn’t stop thinking of her and fantasizing about being with her. My yearning to be with her would get so intense I’d almost start crying, and I haven’t cried in forever. I knew she would never feel the same way back. And I had to let the truth destroy my ridiculous fantasies. And the only way to do that was to force myself to confess my feelings to her. I was shaking, and it was the hardest thing to say. But I did it.
Oh gosh, thank you for this. Been obsessed with this girl lately and I hate how she's in my head 24/7. I'll try to hang out with friends and avoid eye contact with her, cuz she's my classmate. There's still a part of me that is hopeful tho :') but I know that's just my mind tricking me. Thank you so much for this!
This was really eye-opening for me. I've suffered from oneitis for a girl for over a year and a half now, and since getting rejected about a year ago, I've developed depression and I've done some really terrible things to myself. I felt like I was the only one feeling this way about someone else. Now I know I'm not. However, I still have a few questions and concerns. So, I haven't talked to her since about mid-April, mostly because I'm terrified of what she thinks of me, and I don't want to get her involved in my situation again. But even with that, I still have obsessive feelings about her. I see her maybe twice throughout the school day, and usually for no more than a few seconds. Yet, the feelings still linger. I do find safety in my feelings for her, which I can see now is only hurting me. And I know it takes a lot to take the steps away from that, but it is still really, really hard to decide that I don't want to continue working towards the goals I set for myself a year and a half ago. And, another major thing is that, well, I'm scared. I'm terrified to like anyone else because I don't want to have obsessive emotions towards anyone else, because I know now that I'm not equipped to deal with those feelings. I know this is a ton of stuff to work with but I was hoping I could get some tips for this? This girl has been my entire life for so long and it's really brought me to some dark places, and I'm just looking for a way out.
Hey, I know how hard it can be to move on from someone you've liked for so long but trust me, once you are able to shift your focus from her to yourself, life will become easier when it comes to interacting with and dating other girls.
Start working out, dressing up, and improving yourself.
The Josh Speaks thanks Josh. It really does mean a lot to get some personal advice from you :)
Hayden i know it sound bad i suffered from depression the last few years at scgool because of the same thing i liked her for 3 yrs and i would have layed down my life for her. Trust me it spunds weird but if you ask her out and she rejects you with her own words instead of on text or her friends telling you it makes you get over her... i was over her for the next day and it clears your mind and you can put that towards much better things. and dont have depression anymore and i feel great
And if she says yes then there are bonuses to that aswell
I will always think twice about talking to a girl cause my crush broke my heart I don’t want that to happen again 😭
Omg, right after i'm feeling ignored and not valued, you dropped that video. Thumbs up!
#greetsfromgermany
Yuuu Deutschland
I can't get over my crush
Vilosmith 62 and now?
dude honestly idek anymore, i’ve liked her for almost half my life now, since we were kids. my friends are telling me to let go of her but no one understands how hard it really is, believe me, if it was that easy i would be doing so much better. i’ve tried talking to other girls but they’re just not her, it’s like to the point where i love her yet hate her. idk guys.
One thing that might help is to get to know that it happens to tons of people around the world and not just to you. By the moment you realize this is a natural feeling, you'll start to face it differently. That is because we all have this tendency to think that we are unique and we are not, when it comes to human feelings.
Yes
Hope you enjoy it
The Josh Speaks Josh it's hard getting over her
There are a few tips for how to get any man you want
learn to be patient
Use less words and choose them with care
Communicate via behaviour as well as words
(I read about these and more on Maras Magic Words site )
+The Josh Speaks Yo thanks for the advice, this girl is still in my head, ever since I saw her after 8 years. So thanks man.
Just found out the girl I had crush on for about an year was texting my other best friend, and now they're best friends. Welp, not falling for the love shit again.
Amen to that man, A fucking MEN
I'm not sure we are supposed to really let go of those feelings. We will never really understand psychology, but we like them for a reason. I think we are just supposed to be happy that someone can bring up those feelings in us, and be happy carrying them around with us in our Heart. Being able to feel things like that is a gift from God. Whether or not we actually end up dating that person we do have to move forward because they are paralyzing feelings. But I think we are supposed to keep the feelings but let go of any outcome that we want associated with them. If we are happy that we can love, but not hold any conditions to it, that's really the best I think. It's not easy to carry around those things, but it's better to face them and feel them and have them burn a hole in our brain and become a part of us, than to pretend they do not exist. Talk to the person as much as possible to get to know them and open up to them. Getting to know people and accepting them as they are in their lives. Oneitis always has to do with false feelings if rejection. It isn't really real. If we don't push away those feelings and instead work on our self esteem and belief in ourselves, and make them a friend above anything else, then the next person we meet that makes us feel that way it will be easier to deal with because we have already gone thru the embarrassment and awkwardness of getting to know the first one.
My crush asked out my best friend. It’s oneitis for me. She always talks about holding hands with him and hugging him and how he calls her cutie and gorgeous and I’m just there holding back tears :’)
CyanStrawberry Plays something I learned about being in a group of guy friends: talk about women!!! Know who your friends like, let your friends know who you like. You do not date someone your friend has a crush on without talking about it.
Honestly, if you and your friend were honest, he may never have liked that girl because she’s “that girl my best friend likes”. Does it rob your friend of a good relationship??? Possible, but it’s chicken egg situation. Your friend may think your feelings are more important in this situation, especially before he really started liking her.
Tbh I don’t know how your best friend doesn’t know who your crush is. It all me and my friends talk about, and I’m almost 30.
2 weeks earlier: 5 signs your crush loves you 2 weeks later: how to get over
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The girl I soft on made my heart melt every time I looked at her. A guy named Gabe, who I had unmatched hatred for asked her out before I got the chance. After a couple of months they broke up and I befriended her and we became great friends. But I still had so much love for her that I could only just contain it. I was walking out to meet her. She was hanging with Gabe. I calmed myself and said that they were just talking. He was going on a biology camp so she went with him to say goodbye. One of my good friends told me that he had seen them kissing. It was and still is the worst pain I have ever felt. It felt like someone had harpooned me in the heart. Now I am just watching them kiss in school and hold hands. Every time I come home I feel horrible. I don't know what to do. I have never felt like this about someone. I have had crushes before but she was on a whole other level. I feel like my soul is grinding itself into pieces.
Recently I caught oneitis pretty bad and it's still very strong. Thing is I got rejected in a very friendly and understanding way by my crush and she still wants to hang out with me as friends. I agreed and told her that I will be ok with that. Of course that's not the truth and I'm suffering every time I see her while pretending that I'm fine. Breaking off contact is not an option because we are in the same circle of friends and this would be very awkward.
However, it gets better every time and I hope that you're right that when I eventually meet someone new these feelings are getting shifted towards this other person.
i had oneitis for a boy 2 years ago and you’re right about still thinking about them from time to time, i wish i would’ve seen this sooner but i really appreciate it
Man I love these videos so much, with all the expert advice that I so sorely need.
I've done what Josh says and have blocked this person on all social media outlets and GRATEFULLY she has left my workplace so I don't have to be around her anymore.
A while ago I was just walking around town and very unluckily saw her car parked in the street!!!!
THAT WAS THE LAST THING I NEEDED TO SEE!!!
I turned around and ran away as quickly as possible.
I still can never get her off my mind but at least I'm learning to handle this situation properly.
No point wanting someone I know I can't have.
Thanks Josh Speaks for all your help!!!
I have had 2 long crushes one was my first crush in middle school and that one lasted till about tenth grade. Then my senior year I started working with this girl and I have had a crush on her ever since although she is now on boyfriend #3. I think she knows how I feel but I’ve never laid it out on the line cause everytime I’m about to I find out she likes someone more or is dating somebody
The First Tip Of Overcoming Oneitis Really Helpful
I didnt talk to her for 2 months and every day I thought of her even more than the last so that tip went down the drain
I did this for like 6 months
@@beforegrim same haha
Well I just go for a long and fast drive feeling close to death and wanting more. I usually go at night, I learned path and know where the police usually is so I drive as fast as I can, It helps me clear my head and it helped me learn life is short because I had so many near death accidents.
Fuckin A. Peace and quiet also helps. I like being left the fuck alone. I can clear my head n shit. Screaming FUCK at the top of my lungs also helps
I hate having romantic dreams about someone whose taken cuz you wake up having feelings for them but can’t do anything about it 😭💔
I am still thinking of her , day and night from last 8 years .........
My story:
Never had a girlfriend in my life, and this girl was my closest chance at ever getting a girlfriend. I feel like my hope for a love life is so slim...
So there’s this really pretty girl at work, and she’s so sweet and nice to me. I love talking to her, she makes me so happy.
She shows all of these signs that she likes me back, but she has a f***ing boyfriend.
She also had a baby with that boyfriend too.
And recently I found out that they are planning on an engagement, and when her boyfriend leaves to go to the navy, she will go with him and marry him.
I know my chances with her are so very slim. But I hope I can get over her and maybe just be a good friend to her. And be there for her if she ever needs me. All I want for her is to be happy, she made me so happy. I was at a breaking point in my life with so much self doubt, and she came into my life and made me happy, and I want to make her happy too. Even if that means letting her go.
Love the analogy of the monkey with the berries. And I can certainly empathise with the term "oneitis".
I used to have this earlier this year... thankfully I got over her
Good for you man
dude this helped so much i have had feeling for this amazing girl who could change my whole world and i was about to tell her how i felt when i had learned my friend kyler had asked her to prom that day... and all i am trying to say is that ur advice helped me tons thanks man
Wow, could this video come at a more perfect time?! Over the past few months, I have developed this crush on this girl that I will admit tip towards being an obsession. I would always think of her to uplift me when I was feeling down. Well, a few days ago I find out she is moving to another state and now my mind is only on her and what is never going to happen. Thanks Josh for the tips and your thoughts about the situation.
I wish I got rejected, I've liked this person for so long and I've messed so many chances I had to talk her, and now I have onecitis, I wish I could talk to her and tell her how I feel to at least get some closure, but I'm stuck in this state of obsession, it hurts when I see her and feel like I'm going insane and it's been 3 years now, I think of her lesser now, it's gonna take a while for me, and it helps alot if you avoid looking at your crush's social media.
Thats exacly what i was looking for 🔥🔥🔥
(I used to love a girl in college but i knew that there is no way to meet each other cause she was older...i was thinking of her every second of my damn life and i couldent stop...i told it to my best friend but he didnt react or help...i came to a decision of getting over it cause when i was thinking her i got hurt....i got ever her when i didnt see her for 3 months and now i still remeber the days that i was in love with her....now i like another girl (imppssible love) again
Dude I know this video is old but this girl is one of my greatest friends. She doesn't know I like her. Even if I do try to make new friends, I get kinda pissed even when I see her talking to another boy. WHY DOES LIFE HAVE TO BE SO HARD!?!?!?!?
What if I spotted a girl that I like looking at me, and when I finally walked up to her and asked for her name, she completely ignored my answer. Then I asked if she’s okay and she said no. Two days later and I find her looking at me again. Plus smiling....she’s still doing this up to today. What should I do?
throw a lawnmower at me yeah but how should I actually approach? I mean how should I open up...? Fuck’s sake
MCY poke her eyes . Why is she looking at you ? Hahahahahaha ☺☺
Do you still like her?
So you don't know her name? I'm a girl maybe I can help you, but trust me we girls have no idea when it comes to out own feelings as well and it's different for each of us. So maybe try to be friends with her first.
Don’t give her any attention, let that bitch make the first move don’t waste your time homeboy
Thanks for the advice Josh it really helped me
i've been crushing on this girl for 4 years bro
i know she likes someone else and i know who it is
Alaa exact same situation are you still in school
Keep it moving and find someone who wants you. I know It's hard but that's the way it is. Drop it like a hot plate.
yes at 40 year's old it's 1 of the most harsh things i ever experiences wish i woke up as Spock from Star Trek
I met this girl almost four years ago and I compleatly fell in love with her even tho i didnt know her that well. She already had a boyfriend. I have not seen her in almost three years but im still obsessed. Love is strange sometimes.
If you found a next girl to crush on who is called Crush B, you will eventually get over your Crush A. So far, the 1st step that is taken is not being able to see her for almost 3 years. That was what happened to me back in 2000 when I was in college. I kept taking different classes and I was always hoping to run into her somewhere but eventually, I have to accept the fact that she was no longer part of my life.
Thank you bro for these tips. I have strong feeling for 2 girls from my high school. Even though high school ended 5 fucking years ago, I just couldn't stop thinking about them. One was a crush and the other was my best friend with whom I was super close to. Unfortunately we stopped hanging around because of a stupid misunderstanding 4 years ago. 3 years I never knew why did she start avoiding me and why did she delete me from friends. I tought that she found new friends, but still couldn't understand why would she delete me from friends. We already stopped communicating months before she deleted me and when I saw that I wasn't that much surprised and it would have been super awkward to contact her and ask for explanation. It's a shame what happened, but shit happens and you just gotta move on. I had no luck finding someone as cool as she was. She was female version of me, but in order for me to forget her I must meet new girls and hope to find someone who is compatible with me to some extent like she was. Meeting new people is the key. I already kinda knew that and you confirmed it bro. Thank you again.
I need to confess im just here to see how guys think and yes.. its so similar to girls. idk what I was expecting but im very very intrigued about this concept now
I need help talking to people please make a video about it
Whenever I try starting a conversation its usually about history (Vietnam war, WWII, WWI etc) So when I try they just tell me no one cares. I also struggle speaking in crowds, I stutter a lot while speaking and make a total fool of myself
Please help Josh
Same here but I don’t talk about history, I just don’t really say anything or have any thing good to say
Have you tried not talking about History?
@jjbelling I have nothing else to talk about
Naima Abdillahi talk about a hobby or interest you have (other then history) it could be a tv series you like, a movie, video game, sports team ETC. For example with the tv series you could introduce the topic of say Game of Thrones. "Hey have you ever heard of a show called Game of Thrones?" If they say no then go into detail about what its about "Its a really good show you should watch it, its about........ and i like it because you never know whats going to happen". If they say 'oh yea ik about that' then you can lead the conversation into something about the show like "oh are you caught up with season 7?........ what did you think about....?" Etc etc. Just try to pick something thats not just about history. This way it shows that you have other interests thay arent just History and the next time you go to talk to the person you have a common topic. It could be "what did you think about...." or even "Did you check out that thing i was telling you about the other day?"
Good Idea, I'll try it out. Thanks.
We work on same place and despite knowing she is in relationship, my feelings towards her grow as time progress. To impress her I started practicing sketch. She got the hint and turn me down politely throught text. For some days, deep down, mere thinking of parting with her crushed me. Later I start avoiding her, I changed my shift, I always tried to be calm and happy around her, she tried to show concerns whether her rejection effected me but I just smile and avoid talking with her. But I think problem is not her rejection but the fantasies I created about her knowing there is other person in her life.
Didn't think I really did...but when you have had feeling for someone for like a quarter of your life...yeah
I allready tried all of that from this video before i even watched it and it doean't help...i juat wanan cry all day and night becuase of her...
This just made me think about him more!
The thing is we got super close in school recently as classmates.
He started teasing me and started doing cute lil things like hugging me super tight, complimenting me, he even kissed my forehead and basically gave so many “signs”.
He also stated a few times he likes girls like me.
However, what bothers me is that he has a girlfriend so I wanna get rid of this crush but for some reason I crave his attention so bad and he is still a great friend and I still think he is cute
(I don’t know if he is in an open relationship though, but they seem like it, but I don’t want to assume and I don’t want to be a home wrecker lol help I’m dying)
But... its not a crush... im in love
Yes, for like 3 years, and no matter how much advise you give me I never change, no progress is ever made with this girl I like, but we talk on snapchat.
Hey if it's been 3 year with no progress, why not try to pursue someone else?
The Josh Speaks maybe, but she might now like me, I mean she looks at me, and she saves questions that I ask her about dating on snapchat, she was talking about me to her friend too, but I should try talking to her
GOD ... she's so beautiful
I am trying to move on and this video was the courage that I needed. Thnx
I THINK IM EXTREAMLU OBSESSED WITH HIM AND CANT GET OVER HIM AT ALL!!! I NEED TO SEE HIS FACE!!! I CANT BREATH!!! ITS JUST A FEW HOURS SINCE I SAW HIM BUT I MISS HIM ALREADY!!! I DONT WANT SCHOOL TO END!!! I NEED TO SEE HIM!!!! I CANT EVEN CONFESS CUZ I AM AND INTROVERT!!! WHAT IF HE STARTS TO LIKE SOMEONE ELSE WITHOUT HIM KNOWING I LIKE HIM BACK?!?! I CANT!!! I WANNA CRYYYYY!!!!!!!
i was hope less and shattered before until i meant a close friend of mine who introduced me to this great powerful man who helped me out if you are interested i can drop you his whatssAPP number/+2347056688405 contact for help
We’re in the exact same situation. Plus I think he likes my best friend.
@@honestgirl5616 he likes me though. thats why i fell for him in the first place
Thanks Josh for the tips, it is ALOT easier said then done for me to get over my crush.... Stupid feelings
ive had oneitis froma girl i worked with. shes so sweet and genuine but we dont have the same work schedule anymore and it felt like a heartbreak. now watching this vid
I feel this way and felt this way since grade five and I’m in 9th. R.I.P....
YellowPlayzYT Canada that’s a difficult age! You aren’t alone, like, at all. Everyone has been 12 to 14 before, and holy hell having feelings for girls at that age is real because you have the hormones of a teenager and the obsessiveness of a *child* ahem you aren’t a child you’re just becoming a young adult, and there is growing to do.
puttputt524 well, I’m not depressed, I have friends, and we were very close at one point.... idk wat happened, maybe it was time. Now we are getting closer again so I guess it ain’t bad, I like (love) her a lot I’m just scared that she’ll reject me.
puttputt524 and I’m not looking to forget her, just wanna know why I like her so much.
YellowPlayzYT Canada she probably wanted to be your friend!
People get weirded out when they figure out you like them, and your at an age where that’s normal. This is part of your learning through your early twenties.
puttputt524 oh ok, well I may ask her out at the start of summer, for the holidays. I’m not into dating but more just hanging out and talking.
I know it's bad, but my friend, whom I have a crush on, got me through tough emotional times, not only personally, but as an idea as a crush. We are pretty close, so I don't just want to shut her out.
Both for selfish (her giving me motivation through my apathy and occasional depressions) and selfless (I am one of her only friends that offers her a place to vent, while giving her space), I honestly can't get over her.
I wanna share my story with u guys...
I proposed my crush 3 weeks ago (after knowing her for 2 months), and she told me that she wasn't ready for a relationship...and the main reason was that I'd be gone abroad after 4 months from now....she said that she wanted her very first relationship to be perfect....
Although she's 18 (so am I)...she told me that she would look for a bf when she moves abroad and settles there...
I tried to play cool and said that it's alright....but it's been 3 weeks and I literally have dreams about her (about us) every single day...which makes it harder for me to move on.
Plus her and I have the same college group of friends...so I don't think that I want to make new friends....I mean the people I hangout with are my best of friends...but she's in the group too...
HELP ME OUT HERE PLZ🙂😔
Been almost 2 years, almost got over it once but it's back
I don't like getting another crush in order of getting another one out of your head though, it's just gonna make me suffer more I just want to forget the person completely and be on my own... I liked being on my own and not having any crushes they're just so stress making. I'm also not talking to the person but I still can't get them out of my head. Please universe just get this human out of my brain and let me become a person that moves on fast..
Oneitis. Saved to vocabulary.
Thanks josh,i really needed this the most,i cant get this girl out of my mind so i needed this video,thx
Ngl I liked someone for a long time, then they said they liked me back but kept lying to me, never texting, and ended up basically cheating on me. I always wanted to end it but every time she said “no I like you” and then at the end of all of this she said she lied about liking me in general and everyone thinks it’s my fault e.e. I’m just wondering is it like natural for me to be incredibly pissed of at her because everyone thinks i’m just jealous.
I get emotional when I think about me and her idk what's wrong wth me I'm crying rn damnit
I had these feelings for someone a while ago, then I moved, after a while I moved again, coincidentally they were at my new school
I finally found out that I still like this guy and he's totally a rockstar and I still keep having these kind of feelings towards him personally and I keep having more very open romantic feelings towards him and he's so cute and very handsome
I had a mutual crush for a guy, we've never talked just stared, sitting next to each other in class, it's been 5 years I don't see him anymore, I don't have any contact with him but I still think about him everyday! I wish I never laid my eyes on him, it's like a curse.
It kind of sucks because me and this girl are best friends but I like her so much more but I feel like she just can go get anyone she wants and it won’t be me
I feel you mate I had the same problem. But the I got in a fight with her over my feelings and we didn't talk for 2 months. And now we are talking again and still are very good friends. But I thinks the best thing to do for you at this point is confront yourself with your feelings and move on to someone else. The easiest way is to take some time away from her. But if you don't feel like doing that just make a little space between you go talk to other girls go hangout without her stuff like that
The thing is me and my crush are close...so I can’t cut connections with her
Bro same thing
Well the thing is the girl knows I like her but she treats me like shit and always does little things to piss me off she said she "trys" to understand me but ik she lying and she tells me that I'm annoying when I'm in my feelings and yet I try to do everything to make her happy but you know after this video I come to realize that she doesn't deserve me and yeah you're right I should just stop talking to her since she said I'm just someone to talk to thanks, it might be awhile but if you want I'll keep you guys posted 😀❤️
I have liked this girl for 2 years now and it is tearing me up inside.
Start talking to here u got this bro
so everytime I try to do the right thing, which is ,talk less or you know become distant ,my crush would just not let me get over her . what I mean is she'll do stuff which will make me come back ,like she'll give me the attention that I want , but then again , I think I'll always stay in the friend zone
Mine right now is especially brutal because she DID like me and it was obvious. We are 2 states apart... with plans to see each other... But by the time covid lockdowns were lifted and she was vaccinated.... She basically is losing interest in me. What sucks is she is part of my online friend group... So it's really horrific the idea of playing games with them weekly.
Trying to control my thoughts more. But it's rough for sure.
I'm 33 years old. It gets somewhat easier managing this shit as you get older but it's still an emotional roller coaster when you really like a girl.
Can't blame her because when there is a pandemic, why would anyone want to leave town? You either have to enjoy quarantine right in front of her or you find someone else. Your interest and her interest won't be compatible. You got to also get used to quarantine life and getting vaccinated yourself. If you can't enjoy quarantine and letting yourself get vaccinated, you won't stand a chance to win her heart. She would see you as breaking the social distance policies. What that means is you must not feel depressed in quarantine if you want to make her like you. Otherwise you would have to settle for someone who does not depend on quarantine nor vaccination.
I am 15 and I like a girl who is going to turn 18 in less than a month and she graduates in May this year
It's ok, relationships with a few years apart often work but you should probably find out if she likes you back
Matt In Full Vision Thanks man
I have oneitis for a girl ive liked for two years. It will be too long to go into everything, but i found out shes not interested in me. Im still taking it hard, but Im glad I watched this video
She showed signs then today she said who she liked to me. It’s a hard pill to swallow
Thank you for saying this it’s gunna help me so much🙏🏻
I really needed this advice right now, thanks
Whatever the circumstance, we move✌️
I want to stop thinking about her, but I want to think about her at the same time. I met this girl a month ago, and we talk every single day. I told her how I felt and she didn’t feel the same way, but I still want to think about her and talk to her and see her. It’s just the times when I’m not talking with her or texting her, she’s on my mind 24/7 and I feel queasy 70% of the time. *sigh*
This summer I met a really attractive funny , and all around just charming and awesome girl , we shared a lot of stuff and she told me some of her darkest secrets , everything went perfect we actually even wanted to go on a date after she would come back from the UK in December, but once she left to go to the UK things changed so much (I'm German btw, she's french) and just this Friday she started dating someone .. I can't just remove her out of my life either because we shared so much and she sometimes comes back to me to talk about her Problems and shit , and she also knows I'm in to her .(she used to be too) but this stupid trip changed that , I honestly feel heartbroken..
If you read this far thank you
Well here we go... There is this girl in my class I have had a curhs on for about 6months now first it wasn't that much of a problem because we didn't even talk so my feelings couldn't really settle but then we started talking and became friends still nothing special it was prety obvious she had a crush on 1 of my friends so I was like well give it up but then they came in a fight and because I was prety good friends with them both I kinda had to choose a side. Well then my feelings got the better of me and I choose the side of the girl and so for about 2/3months we were really close friends and by this time she knew I had feelings for her it wasn't really a problem at first cuz I knew how to deal with them but over time it kinda got out of hand. And I started getting a bit obsessed. While this was happening she and here so believed crush started getting close again and because of my obsession I started to intervene. This is when she got mad and I got in a fight with her. We didn't talk to eachother in private for about 1/2 months. Then we started talking again for a bit ( this is now ) and we talk like once or twice a week now. But even while talking to her I kinda lost my crush I mean it is still there but I do not see us come together because I just accepted she doesn't like me the way I like her. And for me at this point it has worked out fine. And I still am prety good friends with her. The main reason for this I think is because our friendgroup is prety close and we have the same friends so I just had to come over my obsession because otherwice the chance of losing more friends was possible. I mean I still like her but 1 week ago I started talking to other girls and I feel like this has really helped me because the my feelings for her are kinda being side tracked. And being friends with her is at this moment the best thing there is I feel like.
What if im afraid to talk to my crush? What should i do?
Danitza Galaz, he did a video about that already (shyness/ nervousness) and how to over come them
We're all gonna die anywayz so take the chance or ull regret it
Don’t do it. And feel worse about yourself. Or stop being a chicken shit and just do it. At the very least the feeling of trying and getting rejected is a whole lot better than not trying and feeling like shit for not trying.
DaRealCheo amen. Plus if he’s too scared to talk to her then it won’t go far, just wait for a girl that you enjoy talking to and that you vibe with good. Personality > attractiveness idk if that’s a word.
Push through it and confront your crush. You gotta be aggressive to get what the fuck you want. You gotta say to yourself "I can and I will". There is no try. There is only "I can and I will."
Problem is that I AM dating her....but I already am obsessed with her even tho we are dating for 1 week. I gotta do something before I scare her away.
How is it going?
ugh im done with my crush, she confuses me so much and i just need to get over her. It hurts but i need to move on.
Salvatore Villafana you will get over her you want forget her but it mean nothing due to you found reality we learn and grow
there is a girl in my college ,like i was never into her at first but slowly i dont know how but i started liking her a lot maybe because she talks a lot with me and shares many things with me .when everything was going well one day she suddenly told me that she has a crush on my best friend and thats it .my heart was broken .i felt so bad, thats the worst feeling ever in my life.i literally cried a lot and finally came to a conclusion that i should avoid her but guess what i was unable to that .so i still like her and i know for sure she definitely dont see me in that way and will never see too.now whenever she talks about him i literally gets so angry but he is my best friend so i just go out and cry .now i know i should forget her but how could i i literally see her everyday and she talks to me .i dont know what to do.i cant stop thinking of her at all
Just 3 weeks ago, I told my crush I liked her, she is an amazing girl, pretty, sweet, fun, lovely smile, pretty much everything I like in a girl! We had never really talked until she began talking to me, it was only then I started taking notice of her. She led me on to believe that she likes me by dropping signs here and there and eventually I cottoned on and started liking her back. But when I told her.... Jeez was I wrong... I'm currently on the path of falling out of love with her. It'll be an ardous journey but I knoe someday, maybe someday soon, I'll be over her and find the one. To anyone who has been through what I have, trust me he/she is out there and one day you will find this person and be happy!
Thanks man I really needed this. I've been going through alot
Theres this girl i always dream about and i like her so much but she just got a bf a couple days ago...i should have asker her out🙁
I'm sorry to hear that man, it happens sometimes when we wait for the right opportunity. Sometimes you just gotta go with your gut and act in the moment.