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We in the Netherlands we do “niksen”. The art of doing nothing. That can be sitting outside and watch the world go by but not doing anything with that. Or taking a bicycle ride or walk without a goal or destination. Or just sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and do nothing; just relax.
I recently realized that I have grown up with a scarcity mentality and it has led to my acceptance of free items or things I don't need over time. This has cluttered my house to the point where I feel smothered and can't even think anymore. The struggle is real!!
Free items are a trap, they take physical and mental space. If you don't even remember that you have something, or it didn't have any use for a few months, it should get sold/donated/trashed.
I’m on a ‘low information diet’, too. Especially now I’m in autistic burnout, it’s essential as I can’t process much new information without getting overstimulated and dysregulated. I don’t watch the news, I don’t scroll on social media (I only watch UA-cam videos, without scrolling shorts), I even avoid watching too much new content when it comes to movies & shows and tend to rewatch the same things because I know what to expect. As someone who grew up with the news on all day I can say my life is 100 times better since I’ve stopped watching the news 😂
The travel example is a really good one. My wife and I figured that out on our trip to New Zealand and Australia last year. After I had a meltdown at the Auckland airport over trying to get through customs after being unable to sleep for the incredibly long flight across the ocean from Los Angeles, we realized that I was just too exhausted on top of being autistic in the first place. So, instead of hitting the ground running after we finally got to our hotel room near the airport, we took a very long nap that wound up lasting until the next morning local time. The next day, we scrapped our preplanned itinerary and decided to spend the day trying to get over jet lag. I felt bad about that, but my wife was so understanding and said that she realized that what she really needed was rest too. We did walk about a little bit in the afternoon and got a bite to eat away from the hotel, but that was all we did that day other than rest. It wound up being the best thing we could have done because the next day, we both felt so much better. Even after that, we pared back the itinerary quite a bit and spent more time in each town and at each experience we had wanted to be sure to do (after narrowing those down to less than half of our original list). That was wonderful because we wound up having such deep, memorable experiences in those places that we probably wouldn't have had if we had only stayed at them for a couple of hours or so. For example, changing our tour of Hobbiton Movie Set from the quick tour to the dinner tour was so worth it. Spent two days in Matamata and came across all sorts of great experiences that weren't in any of the travel guides. That does sound kind of interesting and helpful to have a site that summarizes books and articles since there's just far too much information out there for anyone to really delve deep into every single topic that comes along. A way to kind of sample a topic before deciding to dive into it more. The counter arguments section is something different from other news digest sites that I've heard of or tried too. In the case of your example, I can understand the counterargument that some people might not benefit from physically decluttering their home. I have tried that a few different times in the past and discovered that I'm one of those 'maximalists' who actually becomes more stressed or uncomfortable when they are faced with having to get rid of stuff. Like moving into a new apartment and trying to set out as few collectibles or nicknacks as possible and putting only a few pictures on the walls. Never lasts long. Within a year, the walls and shelves are as covered as they were in the old apartment. Or when in a place for a long time that feels practically empty to them. Speaking of travelling, some of the hotels we stayed in while in New Zealand were very minimalistic with hardly anything in them. A couple of them didn't even have a print of a painting on the wall. At the same time, they were painted all in white with neutral colored furnishings. I found those rooms to be uncomfortable and cold. Then, we stayed in a very old hotel in Wellington that was quite ornate and had interesting little nicknacks on shelves and that had patterned wallpaper and colorful drapes etc. So much more comfortable. Both the modern minimalistic and the old fashioned baroque hotel rooms had temperature controls that worked and mattresses that weren't too firm, but the modern minimalist ones just didn't feel comfy to me. One of the things I do to deliberately do less is to only subscribe to two streaming services at a time. Cuts down on how hard it is to decide what to watch a bit and saves money too. If I decide that I really want to try a new streaming service, I tell myself that I'll have to unsubscribe from one of the current ones to make room for it.
I use a strategy of "satisficing" for decisions. I choose the first thing I like that meets my basic criteria, rather than trying to work out the "best" choice. Works every time - keeps my brain clear!
My best trick for avoiding overwhelm is cutting it off at the pass - learning to say no. Just because it is possible for me to pick up that extra shift, join the board of directors, etc., doesn't mean that I have to do it. When someone asks me, I consider what kind of commitment it is and whether I have that much energy to spare. If not, I say no. "No, thank you," is a perfectly valid response. And while the person might be disappointed for a moment, it's better than agreeing to it and backing out, doing a crummy job, or stretching myself too thin. Of course, saying no can be a skill sometimes, especially for people-pleasers like myself.
@@PatchworkDragon I am not even close to a people pleaser, but increased saying NO to invites to socializing. I find socializing too draining and time consuming while I could be doing other things I enjoy way more instead.
Learning to say No had been amazing. Even being as delicate as a burlap sack when saying no, it has been better for everyone involved than saying yes, getting burned out and spending months doing almost nothing.
Hi, I'm autistic and I have ADHD. I have many interests, many of which are special interests. This video really resonates with me because in our culture, whether you're autistic or neurotypical, there is a lot of emphasis on busying ourselves, even during our relaxation and down time. Like many, I spend a lot of time on my phone looking at things connected to my different interests, and,, combined with doing other things involving my interests on any given day, this can end up being very exhausting. I'm trying to learn to realize that I don't have to be actively involved in ALL my interests EVERY SINGLE DAY. I don't know why, but I have this compulsion that I HAVE to give such and such a portion of my attention all the time. I tend to feel this anxiety that I always have to be doing something at any given moment, I find it hard to just sit and allow myself to do nothing.
As far as I know I’m not autistic but these videos really resonate with me. Past few months I’ve been in the process of decluttering my life. It’s true that the tendency in our society is to add more things instead of taking away. Gotta deweed the garden so it can thrive. Gotta make precious space for the things I want in my life.
I don't feel overwhelmed by choices given that I am a minimalist & I live very simply. I know well what I want and why, I don't suffer from FOMO, and I have peculiar and narrow tastes in pretty much everything (what I eat, what I wear, etc.). What overwhelms me is the sheer amount of information and requests thrown at me given that I need to process everything linearly & slowly. The way information is communicated and presented in this world and expectations of me how I should understand it and how fast - none of that has ever worked for me and my brain, and never will. I constantly strive to lower amount of socializing since I feel I do it too much & I am not much into it. I don't have social media.
That's wise! I had a tendency to collect hobbies. I decided to pick one I really love and stick to it, because the possibilities are already quite extensive with just the one.
@@ZhovtoBlakytniy I have a few hobbies, art & sports mostly, as I prefer experiences over things and items, as well as perfecting skills and building discipline and strength (mental and physical). I don't feel overwhelmed by my hobbies as I adore them & know exactly why.
I have otherwise the exact same thing going on but I would need much more socialising than I'm getting right now. Not only for the intrinsic value of social relationships but to keep myself physically healthy too. I hate sports with passion. There is no value in it for me, but if I have to force in something, I can say I thrill and adrenaline which makes mountain biking a good choice for me. I got a good purpose built bike for it too, but the problem is that I cannot do it alone. I have only one friend I could do it with, but the life has caught up to him (family and work) and he has so little time for me nowadays. One upon a time there was a period when I was able to do it alone, but it's been long since passed and starting it again seems an insurmountable step for me. And one that isn't really feasible to split into smaller steps either. Both, the lack of social life and mountain biking are the biggest and most important problems caused by my highly dysfunctional executive function skills.
So true. I couldn’t see until watching this, thank you. I’ve recently been working on keeping my life simple, though constantly frustrated in that I need to know more about lots of things. As I’ve been doing this, my head feels like it’s blocked and I’m not getting anywhere as my brain feels dumbed down in overthinking everything. I certainly don’t waste my time watching the news or using 😮ial media, but I’ve overcompensated by trying to learn more about nature, science etc. now I think absolutely everything needs to stop for awhile. I also just recently moved on from a toxic friendship that was giving me terrible anxiety. I need that low information diet.
Yes. Even if they're interests, they will still end up using some of your energy and finite amount of time you can concentrate. This is something that I've been trying to implement as well
Used it in the beginning about 15 years ago, but soon noticed the time wasting tendency’s and got rid of it as well. Never regretted the decision and if I see others using it, you can clearly see it not benefiting them. Edit: this was about social media, I quitted News about 5 years ago, the same goes for them.
Agree. I do not follow mainstream news or feeds. They are designed to propagandize and gee souls up. They also do not offer solutions because their game is based on making souls feel overwhelmed so they resort to drugs, food, cults...
Sometimes i thought, i should socialize a bit more, but every time i changed my mind and didn't went to a gathering that i wasn't convinced of, i felt really, really lucky and enjoyed the time for me alone! In earlier times i have forced myself, to go to all of these events, because i thought i would end up completely alone. But now, i have like always, only a few friends but feel, that's all i need!
@@johannbredendieck7568 Yes, me too! Socializing can be so draining & time consuming, as well as toxic and boring & I often don't see a point in it at all.
I've recently discovered switching to watching DVDs rather than browsing Netflix saves SO much time and energy, because I have a more limited choice, less sensory & information overload from being online (e.g. no pop-ups, animations, irrelevant info..) - and - chances are I've watched most of my DVDs at least twice already, so I am familiar with the movies and can match one to my current mood 🙂 (I don't just buy things on a whim, so they are in my collection specifically because I enjoy them and know I can watch them over and over and over). For me, this is quality over quantity. I still use the internet to find out about new films now and then, but if I want to watch a movie to relax, or in the background while I'm working on art, it is DEFINITELY better to narrow my choice in this way.
I don't like waiting for the next episode or season, so I rarely watch anything that is not already completely finished. That reduces the possibilities immensely, and there are years of reviews so it's really easy to distinguish the good from the average. Also, I find it fun to rewatch something to the point where you can quote some scenes.
What's funny is when you started talking about add so many ingredients my mind immediately went to the day I was a kid watching an Italian chef on TV talking about fewer and simple ingredients can make the food better, because less is more sometimes. Then you started talking about Italian food 😊 I suppose because I was instructed to cook simply long ago I'd have been the one who took away ingredients, but that's just a fluke!
I cook a lot, and sometimes all you need really is spaghetti & meatballs. There are more complicated recipes out there that are really good, but the Italians are on to something here.
Always brilliant videos. I am working on minimizing tasks - simplifying food prep, minimizing physical items and simplifying laundry (one mesh bag for "to be washed" and one mesh bin for clean clothes). Minimizing going out - I have one social event a week, usually I will ride along w my housemate when he is shopping for food. I need to minimize checking on news.
Since my autism discovery in May '23 there has been a particular "shift" (among many) revolutionizing my life, a new orientation and way, if I can put it this way, of "attacking" life (managing it, wrestling with it), and it has been profound, pervasive and viscerally regenerative.I've been aware of it without having a real name or term for it, which has been fine because the most important thing is what it does, not what I might call it. But today you defined it for me. Thank you. It's point four. I've been going with my values, pre-empting the kaleidoscopic welter of putatively important options that make me frenetically overwhelmed with (again) a "visceral" sense of obligation (to whom?; never answered) to penetrate all their possible meanings and arrive at the supremely masterful choice that signals I'm truly a viable, serious human being. Behind that crippling paralyzing overwhelm there are many "ghosts," the voices and impressions...and wounds...left by "well-meaning" people who hectored me to be "serious" as they understood "serious." To arrive where I am now, and keep going where I'm going, I've had to exorcise those ghosts. It kind of feels like murder, really, liquidating those voices, rubbing out those people's images and emptying the place they had in my psycho-emotional matrix. But once the illusion of beholdenness to them, of any intrinsic worth their lingering influence supposedly had, is fully and finally dispelled, then, yes, you are totally free to blast the ghosts into non-existence. It's not really them, the people, after all. They're who knows where doing who knows what. It's all about what you choose to do to yourself, and not do to yourself, within. There ARE no "ghosts," voices, impressions haunting you within that are anything other than you, after all. There's nobody in there, in you, but you. So you have total prrerogative to take charge of it and clean house exactly as you need to.
How funny. Point 4 runs straight into Point 5, doesn't it. The "ghosts" that compel you to prove your seriousness by being on top of all the options are the very ghosts lingering in your mind from those toxic relationships.
Have just done the tests for high masking autism and waiting on the results. Probably positive but how it plays out for my game still to be confirmed. As someone in their sixties who has never managed to hit the radar. There are some things I do that are "weird" but have helped me stay grounded and not overwhelmed. For example, I have time out days, and do not even wear a watch. Partly, this is a hat tip to my Jewish ancestry, where there is meant to be one day per week where you are not under the pump. Partly, because that when I have that one day off, my stability and life functions better overall. Secondly, I carve out the quiet time. If I am under the pump and time poor, I work out the quiet time for that week and make sure that is not up for discussion. No extra work, social obligations, or chores. It is counterintuitive in that many people think that is when you are meant to dive in and 'get stuff done'. One comment is that as we come to understand ASD more, we are going to recognize those who deliberately reduce the stimulation in themselves and their surroundings. (My theory is that ASD is partly a nervous system issue where we can be easily overstimulated and then struggle to regain equilibrium. Some of those quiet "do-nothing" souls are probably intuitively reducing the stimulation to their nervous systems to the levels they can cope).
I'm glad the app has been useful for you and these concepts have also been helpful for me, but this video as it went on felt more and more like product placement and that doesn't sit well with me personally
Generally I aim to keep my daily practical life as simple and minimalist as possible - so that - I can indulge in the complexity of things that give me the most energy and inspiration. I kind of model my life similar to the way monks and nuns live, to devote as much energy as possible to their faith (but for me it's my creative/artistic practice & philosophical thought). I found a saying once like "one mission is better than a thousand options." I think.. it's not necessarily saying keep things simple, but find your mission? Find the things you will always choose regardless of all the alternative possibilities, and then you will know which things you can reduce or discard, and which things you can allow yourself to pour yourself into fully, knowing it is never too little or too much. Easier said than done.. But I believe I can find it. I think maybe sometimes, as autistic people, we can become so overwhelmed by choice and uncertainty that we can stick to something that is familiar, even if it's not actually working that well or helping us to find our 'mission?' I stuck at a job I was unhappy with for decades because it was what I knew, and it was too hard to consider any kind of change especially as I was already so stressed. But I was forced to change when I experienced a full breakdown and burnout that meant returning to that line of work was not an option any more. Freedom of choice can also be paradoxical in that we need it to prevent restricting ourselves to something bad, and in a way, the more choices there are, the more individual differences can be catered for. But it can also ironically BECOME the bad thing, if we get lost in that 'divergent' state, and unable to 'converge' (unless we are happy being chaotic little pixies ;) ). Usually, there are SOME THINGS I need to fix, and stay fixed. Eating the same thing every day, using the same mug, wearing the same clothes, doing the same routine.. is really not hurting anyone. And actually, keeping them really simple ALLOWS ME to enjoy them and appreciate them more fully, because I'm not overwhelmed. But I also appreciate there are some areas where I want to continue to grow and learn and expand. I guess maybe this is my 'something?'
This video is soo good I keep rewatching it 💛 . I am especially trying to internalise the idea that still managing to do all the background tasks of daily living is not 'doing nothing.' Or if it is, then yes it is totally possible to do less than nothing! And maybe not always a bad thing, especially if you're in burnout.
Great video again! I have not missed anything in the last year from your channel, and I watched all the older stuff as well. I want to throw two thoughts of mine into the pot, just for sharing. 1) From a person with Autism and ADHD: I often find, that my "Doing Nothing" is very much different from other peoples' (neurotypical) in two ways. Firstly, acknowledging my autistic side, doing nothing in a positive way to recover only works in hyperfocus. If for some societal reason I can't (am not allowed to) focus on something I like, just existing is a mentally strenous task because I constantly need to put in mental energy to keep my mind away from things I just naturally fixate on, also not being fixated on anything I like opens my mind to sensory overload. When I drop this mental task of inhibiting my curiosity or stopping my interest, a neurotypical person would probably be thinking that I am intensely working and will benevolently stop me (which is horrible!) and ask me to relax and ON THE OUTSIDE do nothing, which is such a tiresome task, because then my brain + willpower has to work at 200%. Secondly, the same actually also holds true for the ADHD side of me: The two ways in which I comfortably exist are hyperfocus (see above) and the second is MOVING (wildly, energetically, marching army like, doing sports in hyperfocus, ...). So again, the neurotypical way of sitting down to take a break just backfires into more exhaustion. Because supressing my energy/momentum/need to move basically my whole body (not stimming with something small in my hands or such) will cost me so much more energy than just allowing me to follow this need, that I will actually catapult myself into a shutdown where I really have to hide under my dark blanket for a few days. When I think about my life, the amount of work and activity I display on the outside have always been criticised by others, which put me in bad places mentally and physically, or it has been abused at work. So overall, what looks like work on the outside for the neurotypical person is rest for me. And I have a feeling, that there were years in my life that I just couldn't rest because other people just thought they know me better than myself. And 2) the point you made about the auto-pilot mode resonnated strongly with me. As a late diagnosed person (at 33), I very much tried to live the neurotypical life until it just didn't work any more. But in doing this, I am very much aware, that my autopilot simply is "if it hurts/stresses/exhausts you to the point of breakdown, other people will be pleased". So after my realization that I might be on the spectrum, luckily this was before the diagnisos, I noticed that it is so hard to break a malfunctionning autopilot, even if I am fully aware that I am hurting myself, like even showing up for work when I am basically in shutdown, not even remembering how I managed to ge to the office. Creating an autopilot, which is actually beneficial for me without taking anyone else into account has been the hardest thing ever and I am not quite there yet. Eventually, I feel like most of my life I have been trained to actively go the opposite direction of what I need, because society wills it so. Maybe somebody has some useful strategies to share concerning this?
ok, this one was fun. a lot of fun, actually ! i loved the two black'n'white moments, where you feel you're goign out of topic and how you get back on the current track. and not just fun : as often in your videos, there comes a moment when you say something that hits a button that is sensitive in my experience. in this case, it was when you mentioned toxic relationships. i recently got out of a friendship that was exactly that : toxic. i have been aware of the toxicity of this particular relationship for a while, but did not want to give it up. until i realised how much the other person was having a manipulative attitude in my regards. following that ackowledgment, i then begun recounting how many times i found myself in such situations, such relationships : it is a recurring issue for me, as if i did not "learn" how to recognize manipulative behaviour. where the heck is a goddamn instructions manual for social relationships ?!? i know i went out of topic in this commenatary, but i wanted to show you my gratitude for always finding topics that are relevant ; even if they turn being relevant when they seems to be out of topic - i.e. : at 11'52" : that's why social relationships are completely draining !! PS : thank you for making me understanding why i find so good my native food diet : i am native italian. :-)
This is good timing for me. I'm hoping to spend the weekend switching off my conscious brain as much as possible and giving myself some processing space. It's been a big couple of weeks!!
So, when I subtract obligations or activities, I get “more time” but if I don’t consider how that time will be spent, I can fall on bad habits or immediately end up with too much to do again. This is great food for thought. 1) If I say I am not going to do something, I need to consciously consider what is going to replace it. 2) If I decide I am going to do something, I need to consciously consider what I will be giving up to make room for it. This is so basic. Why is it easy to think of time as a resource that changes in quantity when it is actually fixed? 😂
I tend to be overwhelmed with tasks, often at my own cost. I seem to be the go-to person for every problem. Often, my efforts to train other workers amount to wasted time and energy.
I’ve just started using the how much energy will each thing take, and can I spare it, approach this year, and it’s helped a lot. I didn’t realize how much energy goes into small everyday tasks, and how much I need to cut back on non essential things. I don’t look at the news almost ever, if something really important happens my brother tells me, which is a huge mental load off my mind. Cause for me not only is the news mentally draining, but emotionally as well
Yes. All of this. I have come to really love the concept of mimimalizing but I do wrestle with the guilt issue. There are a lot of "shoulds" that rise up in my brain, especically about using gifts given or things I was talked into having or purchasing. Also, living with someone that amasses a lot and does not like to put or throw away makes it hard to have the enviroment my brain longs for. Carving out what I can, however.
I think it will be very helpful for me to identify and remove habits that consume a lot of my time, energy and attention but don't contribute proportionally to my well-being or aren't that enjoyable. Thanks :3
I am really so glad to meet you! Your videos are so helpful and always you choose a topic that somehow related my previous day's anxiety. Thank you so much Paul! I don't watch news in general, just get brief news via my partner. My mum also has asperger's and she uses my dad as a summarizer 🙈 Brilliant, right😂
my clutter, toys and addictions mostly come in to numb the pain of stuggling to fill life with meaningful and healthy human connection. i knew what i did when i opened yt to see familiar faces.
In 60 years of life I have literally never intentionally watched or read news content. The number of times I have felt that I missed out on some vital information (actually I always got the information, just a bit belatedly a few times) could be counted on one hand. It's really not as important as people think. Even if I had no idea we were in lockdown, soon enough I would turn up at the gym and find it closed or something. You don't need to know as much as you think you do.
My own go-to is to deliberately do something non-productive that requires little to no effort while still keeping me occupied enough to avoid the default mode trap, like cycling or walking in a quiet, low traffic area I know well (no navigation challenge). Importantly, I'm not talking about getting some exercise in - No chasing numbers, not even "gotta be home by ...", and, ideally, no phone* or similar distractions. Usually, that gets me through the worst of it, at least to the point where I have a chance to actually find rest for the night. * No phone can be a bit unsafe in many areas. I have a cheap phone without a SIM card to use in an emergency - this should work in most countries. Its internal clock is unreliable enough to be useless as well.
Hello! This is really useful for ADHD too, thanks! One thing that helped me too is to use AI to summarize stuff, like the news, for me or to do a research for me to satisfy my curiosity, instead of hyperfocusing on something that is not a priority and losing track of time XD
@@melodyrector719 - I always really enjoy it when I get lectured on the interwebs by some random dude. I'm an autistic person in the mid-50s and I'm - due to decades-long struggle and practise - absolutely allergic to autism advodacts using the exact same means and methods a lot of autistic persons really struggle the most with. There are some things where you can't have it both ways. You got it? Or do I have explain it once more? I will be very patient by doing so.
@@brukernavn3409 - If this is yet to hard to understand for you than it is very likely that I'm not the right person for you to have a conversation with. There are a lot of ressources out there in the world just waiting to get explored by you.
9:52 But to find your two favourite flavours (or choices in whatever) it takes to try out 100 involving all the time, money and overwhelm, and then the work to get rid of the 98 (loosing a lot of money and takes time again) - unless you just don't care, don't have special tastes and take the first thing you get. Like it was a couple of decades ago, you were lucky and happy to have the one thing (we now have 500 choices of)
Minimalist food is the way to go (as is everything else), less is always more, as long as you can combine tastes and flavours correctly, depending on who you are cooking for.
My partner doesn't think I'm autistic or rather says he needs proof, my parents think there is absolutely nothing wrong with me and autism is the latest trend. I feel like I am dying on the inside because I believe I am on the spectrum but the closest people to me seem to disagree wildly. And I keep getting yelled at about not doing all the dishes, called lazy and stupid. I have been unemployed for over 3 months now. I get the overwhelm they are struggling with but I keep feeling unheard and hurt. What was your solution to meltdowns and burnouts before getting diagnosed? I would really appreciate any advice.
I don't scroll. If I am curious about something, I'll go find it, and it won't be 'too late.' If more people behaved this way, creators wouldn't be so beholden to the hellscape of Algorithm... just sayin'
algorithm's older brother: hellscape of SEO. are you conscious about which search engines to use and when? engine biases, settings, limits, personalisations
@@lightbeingform nah, it's just you said you'll find things you are curious about and it made me wonder about your search approach a bit. It's such a fascinating topic, instrumental to the inner world building, thing we search for and how we do it, things we find and interpret.
Yeah like, free giveaways. Bro, now you have to be somewhere at a particular time to get your "free" chance to win stuff filling something out or even shill it. Bruh. Its usually a 1 in 10.000 at the very least...
I'm surprised that you don't get the concept of it being a noun as I've used it throughout my 72 years. Apparently it's been used this way since 1500. Had it possibly gone out of fashion and I didn't notice? I'm always in a state of overwhelm 😂
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We in the Netherlands we do “niksen”. The art of doing nothing.
That can be sitting outside and watch the world go by but not doing anything with that. Or taking a bicycle ride or walk without a goal or destination.
Or just sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and do nothing; just relax.
Very cool! This needs to become an accepted practice in every country.
I recently realized that I have grown up with a scarcity mentality and it has led to my acceptance of free items or things I don't need over time. This has cluttered my house to the point where I feel smothered and can't even think anymore. The struggle is real!!
Free items are a trap, they take physical and mental space. If you don't even remember that you have something, or it didn't have any use for a few months, it should get sold/donated/trashed.
I often find the need for a nap. This helps me avoid accidentally going down one rabbit hole or another.
I’m on a ‘low information diet’, too. Especially now I’m in autistic burnout, it’s essential as I can’t process much new information without getting overstimulated and dysregulated. I don’t watch the news, I don’t scroll on social media (I only watch UA-cam videos, without scrolling shorts), I even avoid watching too much new content when it comes to movies & shows and tend to rewatch the same things because I know what to expect. As someone who grew up with the news on all day I can say my life is 100 times better since I’ve stopped watching the news 😂
The travel example is a really good one. My wife and I figured that out on our trip to New Zealand and Australia last year. After I had a meltdown at the Auckland airport over trying to get through customs after being unable to sleep for the incredibly long flight across the ocean from Los Angeles, we realized that I was just too exhausted on top of being autistic in the first place. So, instead of hitting the ground running after we finally got to our hotel room near the airport, we took a very long nap that wound up lasting until the next morning local time.
The next day, we scrapped our preplanned itinerary and decided to spend the day trying to get over jet lag. I felt bad about that, but my wife was so understanding and said that she realized that what she really needed was rest too. We did walk about a little bit in the afternoon and got a bite to eat away from the hotel, but that was all we did that day other than rest. It wound up being the best thing we could have done because the next day, we both felt so much better.
Even after that, we pared back the itinerary quite a bit and spent more time in each town and at each experience we had wanted to be sure to do (after narrowing those down to less than half of our original list). That was wonderful because we wound up having such deep, memorable experiences in those places that we probably wouldn't have had if we had only stayed at them for a couple of hours or so. For example, changing our tour of Hobbiton Movie Set from the quick tour to the dinner tour was so worth it. Spent two days in Matamata and came across all sorts of great experiences that weren't in any of the travel guides.
That does sound kind of interesting and helpful to have a site that summarizes books and articles since there's just far too much information out there for anyone to really delve deep into every single topic that comes along. A way to kind of sample a topic before deciding to dive into it more.
The counter arguments section is something different from other news digest sites that I've heard of or tried too. In the case of your example, I can understand the counterargument that some people might not benefit from physically decluttering their home. I have tried that a few different times in the past and discovered that I'm one of those 'maximalists' who actually becomes more stressed or uncomfortable when they are faced with having to get rid of stuff. Like moving into a new apartment and trying to set out as few collectibles or nicknacks as possible and putting only a few pictures on the walls. Never lasts long. Within a year, the walls and shelves are as covered as they were in the old apartment.
Or when in a place for a long time that feels practically empty to them. Speaking of travelling, some of the hotels we stayed in while in New Zealand were very minimalistic with hardly anything in them. A couple of them didn't even have a print of a painting on the wall. At the same time, they were painted all in white with neutral colored furnishings. I found those rooms to be uncomfortable and cold. Then, we stayed in a very old hotel in Wellington that was quite ornate and had interesting little nicknacks on shelves and that had patterned wallpaper and colorful drapes etc. So much more comfortable. Both the modern minimalistic and the old fashioned baroque hotel rooms had temperature controls that worked and mattresses that weren't too firm, but the modern minimalist ones just didn't feel comfy to me.
One of the things I do to deliberately do less is to only subscribe to two streaming services at a time. Cuts down on how hard it is to decide what to watch a bit and saves money too. If I decide that I really want to try a new streaming service, I tell myself that I'll have to unsubscribe from one of the current ones to make room for it.
I use a strategy of "satisficing" for decisions. I choose the first thing I like that meets my basic criteria, rather than trying to work out the "best" choice. Works every time - keeps my brain clear!
My best trick for avoiding overwhelm is cutting it off at the pass - learning to say no. Just because it is possible for me to pick up that extra shift, join the board of directors, etc., doesn't mean that I have to do it. When someone asks me, I consider what kind of commitment it is and whether I have that much energy to spare. If not, I say no. "No, thank you," is a perfectly valid response. And while the person might be disappointed for a moment, it's better than agreeing to it and backing out, doing a crummy job, or stretching myself too thin. Of course, saying no can be a skill sometimes, especially for people-pleasers like myself.
@@PatchworkDragon I am not even close to a people pleaser, but increased saying NO to invites to socializing. I find socializing too draining and time consuming while I could be doing other things I enjoy way more instead.
Nice method. I have been doing quite the opposite and it's not gone great.
Learning to say No had been amazing. Even being as delicate as a burlap sack when saying no, it has been better for everyone involved than saying yes, getting burned out and spending months doing almost nothing.
Hi, I'm autistic and I have ADHD. I have many interests, many of which are special interests. This video really resonates with me because in our culture, whether you're autistic or neurotypical, there is a lot of emphasis on busying ourselves, even during our relaxation and down time. Like many, I spend a lot of time on my phone looking at things connected to my different interests, and,, combined with doing other things involving my interests on any given day, this can end up being very exhausting. I'm trying to learn to realize that I don't have to be actively involved in ALL my interests EVERY SINGLE DAY. I don't know why, but I have this compulsion that I HAVE to give such and such a portion of my attention all the time. I tend to feel this anxiety that I always have to be doing something at any given moment, I find it hard to just sit and allow myself to do nothing.
Thanks so much for this! I'm Italian and autistic and I totally get it! Being part of a neurodivergent community feels so good🙏
As far as I know I’m not autistic but these videos really resonate with me. Past few months I’ve been in the process of decluttering my life. It’s true that the tendency in our society is to add more things instead of taking away. Gotta deweed the garden so it can thrive. Gotta make precious space for the things I want in my life.
I don't feel overwhelmed by choices given that I am a minimalist & I live very simply. I know well what I want and why, I don't suffer from FOMO, and I have peculiar and narrow tastes in pretty much everything (what I eat, what I wear, etc.).
What overwhelms me is the sheer amount of information and requests thrown at me given that I need to process everything linearly & slowly. The way information is communicated and presented in this world and expectations of me how I should understand it and how fast - none of that has ever worked for me and my brain, and never will.
I constantly strive to lower amount of socializing since I feel I do it too much & I am not much into it.
I don't have social media.
That's wise!
I had a tendency to collect hobbies. I decided to pick one I really love and stick to it, because the possibilities are already quite extensive with just the one.
@@ZhovtoBlakytniy I have a few hobbies, art & sports mostly, as I prefer experiences over things and items, as well as perfecting skills and building discipline and strength (mental and physical). I don't feel overwhelmed by my hobbies as I adore them & know exactly why.
I have otherwise the exact same thing going on but I would need much more socialising than I'm getting right now. Not only for the intrinsic value of social relationships but to keep myself physically healthy too. I hate sports with passion. There is no value in it for me, but if I have to force in something, I can say I thrill and adrenaline which makes mountain biking a good choice for me. I got a good purpose built bike for it too, but the problem is that I cannot do it alone. I have only one friend I could do it with, but the life has caught up to him (family and work) and he has so little time for me nowadays. One upon a time there was a period when I was able to do it alone, but it's been long since passed and starting it again seems an insurmountable step for me. And one that isn't really feasible to split into smaller steps either.
Both, the lack of social life and mountain biking are the biggest and most important problems caused by my highly dysfunctional executive function skills.
I'm more of a FONSMTOAC (fear of not spending my time on anything constructive) person.
So true. I couldn’t see until watching this, thank you. I’ve recently been working on keeping my life simple, though constantly frustrated in that I need to know more about lots of things. As I’ve been doing this, my head feels like it’s blocked and I’m not getting anywhere as my brain feels dumbed down in overthinking everything. I certainly don’t waste my time watching the news or using 😮ial media, but I’ve overcompensated by trying to learn more about nature, science etc. now I think absolutely everything needs to stop for awhile. I also just recently moved on from a toxic friendship that was giving me terrible anxiety. I need that low information diet.
Yes. Even if they're interests, they will still end up using some of your energy and finite amount of time you can concentrate. This is something that I've been trying to implement as well
I banned TV/news and social media from my life a long time ago now, I have no use for those things, it's that simple.
UA-cam is social media for me, just less toxic and depressing- at least my feed
@@IrritatedGnome I guess you're right.
Used it in the beginning about 15 years ago, but soon noticed the time wasting tendency’s and got rid of it as well. Never regretted the decision and if I see others using it, you can clearly see it not benefiting them.
Edit: this was about social media, I quitted News about 5 years ago, the same goes for them.
Agree. I do not follow mainstream news or feeds. They are designed to propagandize and gee souls up. They also do not offer solutions because their game is based on making souls feel overwhelmed so they resort to drugs, food, cults...
such an easy way to drastically improve your life
Sometimes i thought, i should socialize a bit more, but every time i changed my mind and didn't went to a gathering that i wasn't convinced of, i felt really, really lucky and enjoyed the time for me alone! In earlier times i have forced myself, to go to all of these events, because i thought i would end up completely alone. But now, i have like always, only a few friends but feel, that's all i need!
@@johannbredendieck7568 Yes, me too! Socializing can be so draining & time consuming, as well as toxic and boring & I often don't see a point in it at all.
I've recently discovered switching to watching DVDs rather than browsing Netflix saves SO much time and energy, because I have a more limited choice, less sensory & information overload from being online (e.g. no pop-ups, animations, irrelevant info..) - and - chances are I've watched most of my DVDs at least twice already, so I am familiar with the movies and can match one to my current mood 🙂 (I don't just buy things on a whim, so they are in my collection specifically because I enjoy them and know I can watch them over and over and over). For me, this is quality over quantity. I still use the internet to find out about new films now and then, but if I want to watch a movie to relax, or in the background while I'm working on art, it is DEFINITELY better to narrow my choice in this way.
I don't like waiting for the next episode or season, so I rarely watch anything that is not already completely finished. That reduces the possibilities immensely, and there are years of reviews so it's really easy to distinguish the good from the average. Also, I find it fun to rewatch something to the point where you can quote some scenes.
What a great video.
I immediately removed all news apps from my phone.
Much to much doom scrolling (that started in the COVID-19 era).
What's funny is when you started talking about add so many ingredients my mind immediately went to the day I was a kid watching an Italian chef on TV talking about fewer and simple ingredients can make the food better, because less is more sometimes. Then you started talking about Italian food 😊
I suppose because I was instructed to cook simply long ago I'd have been the one who took away ingredients, but that's just a fluke!
I cook a lot, and sometimes all you need really is spaghetti & meatballs. There are more complicated recipes out there that are really good, but the Italians are on to something here.
Always brilliant videos. I am working on minimizing tasks - simplifying food prep, minimizing physical items and simplifying laundry (one mesh bag for "to be washed" and one mesh bin for clean clothes). Minimizing going out - I have one social event a week, usually I will ride along w my housemate when he is shopping for food. I need to minimize checking on news.
Since my autism discovery in May '23 there has been a particular "shift" (among many) revolutionizing my life, a new orientation and way, if I can put it this way, of "attacking" life (managing it, wrestling with it), and it has been profound, pervasive and viscerally regenerative.I've been aware of it without having a real name or term for it, which has been fine because the most important thing is what it does, not what I might call it.
But today you defined it for me. Thank you. It's point four. I've been going with my values, pre-empting the kaleidoscopic welter of putatively important options that make me frenetically overwhelmed with (again) a "visceral" sense of obligation (to whom?; never answered) to penetrate all their possible meanings and arrive at the supremely masterful choice that signals I'm truly a viable, serious human being.
Behind that crippling paralyzing overwhelm there are many "ghosts," the voices and impressions...and wounds...left by "well-meaning" people who hectored me to be "serious" as they understood "serious."
To arrive where I am now, and keep going where I'm going, I've had to exorcise those ghosts. It kind of feels like murder, really, liquidating those voices, rubbing out those people's images and emptying the place they had in my psycho-emotional matrix. But once the illusion of beholdenness to them, of any intrinsic worth their lingering influence supposedly had, is fully and finally dispelled, then, yes, you are totally free to blast the ghosts into non-existence.
It's not really them, the people, after all. They're who knows where doing who knows what. It's all about what you choose to do to yourself, and not do to yourself, within. There ARE no "ghosts," voices, impressions haunting you within that are anything other than you, after all. There's nobody in there, in you, but you. So you have total prrerogative to take charge of it and clean house exactly as you need to.
How funny. Point 4 runs straight into Point 5, doesn't it. The "ghosts" that compel you to prove your seriousness by being on top of all the options are the very ghosts lingering in your mind from those toxic relationships.
Have just done the tests for high masking autism and waiting on the results. Probably positive but how it plays out for my game still to be confirmed. As someone in their sixties who has never managed to hit the radar. There are some things I do that are "weird" but have helped me stay grounded and not overwhelmed. For example, I have time out days, and do not even wear a watch. Partly, this is a hat tip to my Jewish ancestry, where there is meant to be one day per week where you are not under the pump. Partly, because that when I have that one day off, my stability and life functions better overall. Secondly, I carve out the quiet time. If I am under the pump and time poor, I work out the quiet time for that week and make sure that is not up for discussion. No extra work, social obligations, or chores. It is counterintuitive in that many people think that is when you are meant to dive in and 'get stuff done'.
One comment is that as we come to understand ASD more, we are going to recognize those who deliberately reduce the stimulation in themselves and their surroundings. (My theory is that ASD is partly a nervous system issue where we can be easily overstimulated and then struggle to regain equilibrium. Some of those quiet "do-nothing" souls are probably intuitively reducing the stimulation to their nervous systems to the levels they can cope).
I'm glad the app has been useful for you and these concepts have also been helpful for me, but this video as it went on felt more and more like product placement and that doesn't sit well with me personally
Extremely necessary wisdom.
I can’t wait to hear your insights! I love how you explore each topic from many angles. 💜
Generally I aim to keep my daily practical life as simple and minimalist as possible - so that - I can indulge in the complexity of things that give me the most energy and inspiration. I kind of model my life similar to the way monks and nuns live, to devote as much energy as possible to their faith (but for me it's my creative/artistic practice & philosophical thought). I found a saying once like "one mission is better than a thousand options." I think.. it's not necessarily saying keep things simple, but find your mission? Find the things you will always choose regardless of all the alternative possibilities, and then you will know which things you can reduce or discard, and which things you can allow yourself to pour yourself into fully, knowing it is never too little or too much. Easier said than done.. But I believe I can find it.
I think maybe sometimes, as autistic people, we can become so overwhelmed by choice and uncertainty that we can stick to something that is familiar, even if it's not actually working that well or helping us to find our 'mission?' I stuck at a job I was unhappy with for decades because it was what I knew, and it was too hard to consider any kind of change especially as I was already so stressed. But I was forced to change when I experienced a full breakdown and burnout that meant returning to that line of work was not an option any more. Freedom of choice can also be paradoxical in that we need it to prevent restricting ourselves to something bad, and in a way, the more choices there are, the more individual differences can be catered for. But it can also ironically BECOME the bad thing, if we get lost in that 'divergent' state, and unable to 'converge' (unless we are happy being chaotic little pixies ;) ). Usually, there are SOME THINGS I need to fix, and stay fixed. Eating the same thing every day, using the same mug, wearing the same clothes, doing the same routine.. is really not hurting anyone. And actually, keeping them really simple ALLOWS ME to enjoy them and appreciate them more fully, because I'm not overwhelmed. But I also appreciate there are some areas where I want to continue to grow and learn and expand. I guess maybe this is my 'something?'
This video is soo good I keep rewatching it 💛 . I am especially trying to internalise the idea that still managing to do all the background tasks of daily living is not 'doing nothing.' Or if it is, then yes it is totally possible to do less than nothing! And maybe not always a bad thing, especially if you're in burnout.
Great video again! I have not missed anything in the last year from your channel, and I watched all the older stuff as well. I want to throw two thoughts of mine into the pot, just for sharing.
1) From a person with Autism and ADHD: I often find, that my "Doing Nothing" is very much different from other peoples' (neurotypical) in two ways.
Firstly, acknowledging my autistic side, doing nothing in a positive way to recover only works in hyperfocus. If for some societal reason I can't (am not allowed to) focus on something I like, just existing is a mentally strenous task because I constantly need to put in mental energy to keep my mind away from things I just naturally fixate on, also not being fixated on anything I like opens my mind to sensory overload. When I drop this mental task of inhibiting my curiosity or stopping my interest, a neurotypical person would probably be thinking that I am intensely working and will benevolently stop me (which is horrible!) and ask me to relax and ON THE OUTSIDE do nothing, which is such a tiresome task, because then my brain + willpower has to work at 200%.
Secondly, the same actually also holds true for the ADHD side of me: The two ways in which I comfortably exist are hyperfocus (see above) and the second is MOVING (wildly, energetically, marching army like, doing sports in hyperfocus, ...). So again, the neurotypical way of sitting down to take a break just backfires into more exhaustion. Because supressing my energy/momentum/need to move basically my whole body (not stimming with something small in my hands or such) will cost me so much more energy than just allowing me to follow this need, that I will actually catapult myself into a shutdown where I really have to hide under my dark blanket for a few days. When I think about my life, the amount of work and activity I display on the outside have always been criticised by others, which put me in bad places mentally and physically, or it has been abused at work.
So overall, what looks like work on the outside for the neurotypical person is rest for me. And I have a feeling, that there were years in my life that I just couldn't rest because other people just thought they know me better than myself.
And 2) the point you made about the auto-pilot mode resonnated strongly with me. As a late diagnosed person (at 33), I very much tried to live the neurotypical life until it just didn't work any more. But in doing this, I am very much aware, that my autopilot simply is "if it hurts/stresses/exhausts you to the point of breakdown, other people will be pleased". So after my realization that I might be on the spectrum, luckily this was before the diagnisos, I noticed that it is so hard to break a malfunctionning autopilot, even if I am fully aware that I am hurting myself, like even showing up for work when I am basically in shutdown, not even remembering how I managed to ge to the office. Creating an autopilot, which is actually beneficial for me without taking anyone else into account has been the hardest thing ever and I am not quite there yet. Eventually, I feel like most of my life I have been trained to actively go the opposite direction of what I need, because society wills it so.
Maybe somebody has some useful strategies to share concerning this?
ok, this one was fun. a lot of fun, actually ! i loved the two black'n'white moments, where you feel you're goign out of topic and how you get back on the current track. and not just fun : as often in your videos, there comes a moment when you say something that hits a button that is sensitive in my experience. in this case, it was when you mentioned toxic relationships. i recently got out of a friendship that was exactly that : toxic. i have been aware of the toxicity of this particular relationship for a while, but did not want to give it up. until i realised how much the other person was having a manipulative attitude in my regards. following that ackowledgment, i then begun recounting how many times i found myself in such situations, such relationships : it is a recurring issue for me, as if i did not "learn" how to recognize manipulative behaviour. where the heck is a goddamn instructions manual for social relationships ?!? i know i went out of topic in this commenatary, but i wanted to show you my gratitude for always finding topics that are relevant ; even if they turn being relevant when they seems to be out of topic - i.e. : at 11'52" : that's why social relationships are completely draining !! PS : thank you for making me understanding why i find so good my native food diet : i am native italian. :-)
Great video! I loved the editing, especially the tangents, you come across so upbeat and playful in your exploration of the topic here.
This is good timing for me. I'm hoping to spend the weekend switching off my conscious brain as much as possible and giving myself some processing space. It's been a big couple of weeks!!
thank you for such amazing and insightful videos
Just wanted to say a heartfelt Thankyou for your videos they are so helpful
Point #5 is the whole answer for me. THAT'S what costs me the vast majority of my energy.
Thanks for this very helpful video! 👍😁
So, when I subtract obligations or activities, I get “more time” but if I don’t consider how that time will be spent, I can fall on bad habits or immediately end up with too much to do again. This is great food for thought.
1) If I say I am not going to do something, I need to consciously consider what is going to replace it.
2) If I decide I am going to do something, I need to consciously consider what I will be giving up to make room for it.
This is so basic. Why is it easy to think of time as a resource that changes in quantity when it is actually fixed? 😂
I tend to be overwhelmed with tasks, often at my own cost. I seem to be the go-to person for every problem. Often, my efforts to train other workers amount to wasted time and energy.
Sounds like you need to learn to say no?
I’ve just started using the how much energy will each thing take, and can I spare it, approach this year, and it’s helped a lot. I didn’t realize how much energy goes into small everyday tasks, and how much I need to cut back on non essential things. I don’t look at the news almost ever, if something really important happens my brother tells me, which is a huge mental load off my mind. Cause for me not only is the news mentally draining, but emotionally as well
Shortform = just another thing to add to my daily sources of information.
Yes. All of this. I have come to really love the concept of mimimalizing but I do wrestle with the guilt issue. There are a lot of "shoulds" that rise up in my brain, especically about using gifts given or things I was talked into having or purchasing. Also, living with someone that amasses a lot and does not like to put or throw away makes it hard to have the enviroment my brain longs for. Carving out what I can, however.
I think it will be very helpful for me to identify and remove habits that consume a lot of my time, energy and attention but don't contribute proportionally to my well-being or aren't that enjoyable. Thanks :3
I get overwhelmed so incredibly easily that’s why the only job I can ever have is being a custodian 😕 (or an artist but that’s not a steady income)
I am really so glad to meet you! Your videos are so helpful and always you choose a topic that somehow related my previous day's anxiety. Thank you so much Paul!
I don't watch news in general, just get brief news via my partner. My mum also has asperger's and she uses my dad as a summarizer 🙈 Brilliant, right😂
Great lesson!
my clutter, toys and addictions mostly come in to numb the pain of stuggling to fill life with meaningful and healthy human connection.
i knew what i did when i opened yt to see familiar faces.
In 60 years of life I have literally never intentionally watched or read news content. The number of times I have felt that I missed out on some vital information (actually I always got the information, just a bit belatedly a few times) could be counted on one hand. It's really not as important as people think. Even if I had no idea we were in lockdown, soon enough I would turn up at the gym and find it closed or something. You don't need to know as much as you think you do.
My own go-to is to deliberately do something non-productive that requires little to no effort while still keeping me occupied enough to avoid the default mode trap, like cycling or walking in a quiet, low traffic area I know well (no navigation challenge). Importantly, I'm not talking about getting some exercise in - No chasing numbers, not even "gotta be home by ...", and, ideally, no phone* or similar distractions. Usually, that gets me through the worst of it, at least to the point where I have a chance to actually find rest for the night.
* No phone can be a bit unsafe in many areas. I have a cheap phone without a SIM card to use in an emergency - this should work in most countries. Its internal clock is unreliable enough to be useless as well.
Appreciate you. ❤
Hello! This is really useful for ADHD too, thanks! One thing that helped me too is to use AI to summarize stuff, like the news, for me or to do a research for me to satisfy my curiosity, instead of hyperfocusing on something that is not a priority and losing track of time XD
So this was a Shortform advertisement, right?
Yes. That being said, he also presented some good information that you can use without buying anything.
@@melodyrector719 - I always really enjoy it when I get lectured on the interwebs by some random dude. I'm an autistic person in the mid-50s and I'm - due to decades-long struggle and practise - absolutely allergic to autism advodacts using the exact same means and methods a lot of autistic persons really struggle the most with. There are some things where you can't have it both ways. You got it? Or do I have explain it once more? I will be very patient by doing so.
@@mairmatt What are you getting at? Hard to understand exactly what you mean.
@@brukernavn3409 - If this is yet to hard to understand for you than it is very likely that I'm not the right person for you to have a conversation with. There are a lot of ressources out there in the world just waiting to get explored by you.
9:52 But to find your two favourite flavours (or choices in whatever) it takes to try out 100 involving all the time, money and overwhelm, and then the work to get rid of the 98 (loosing a lot of money and takes time again) - unless you just don't care, don't have special tastes and take the first thing you get. Like it was a couple of decades ago, you were lucky and happy to have the one thing (we now have 500 choices of)
Minimalist food is the way to go (as is everything else), less is always more, as long as you can combine tastes and flavours correctly, depending on who you are cooking for.
My husband doesn't understand why I really need a full day's rest and recovery between coming back from a holiday and going to a festival.
I'm an adult and I think I might be on the spectrum. Do I need a formal diagnosis to know for sure?
My partner doesn't think I'm autistic or rather says he needs proof, my parents think there is absolutely nothing wrong with me and autism is the latest trend. I feel like I am dying on the inside because I believe I am on the spectrum but the closest people to me seem to disagree wildly. And I keep getting yelled at about not doing all the dishes, called lazy and stupid. I have been unemployed for over 3 months now. I get the overwhelm they are struggling with but I keep feeling unheard and hurt. What was your solution to meltdowns and burnouts before getting diagnosed? I would really appreciate any advice.
Do you have any resources for when things are bad and you destroyed your life and can’t cope?
I don't scroll. If I am curious about something, I'll go find it, and it won't be 'too late.' If more people behaved this way, creators wouldn't be so beholden to the hellscape of Algorithm... just sayin'
algorithm's older brother: hellscape of SEO.
are you conscious about which search engines to use and when? engine biases, settings, limits, personalisations
@@dadapotok haha yeah i mean i used to work in online marketing. why, you selling something
@@lightbeingform nah, it's just you said you'll find things you are curious about and it made me wonder about your search approach a bit. It's such a fascinating topic, instrumental to the inner world building, thing we search for and how we do it, things we find and interpret.
Yeah like, free giveaways.
Bro, now you have to be somewhere at a particular time to get your "free" chance to win stuff filling something out or even shill it.
Bruh.
Its usually a 1 in 10.000 at the very least...
Wow everyone, NT and neurodiverse, should watch this video. The analogy of the French cooking is amazing; less is more.
I will never accept 'overwhelm' as a noun!
I'm surprised that you don't get the concept of it being a noun as I've used it throughout my 72 years. Apparently it's been used this way since 1500. Had it possibly gone out of fashion and I didn't notice? I'm always in a state of overwhelm 😂
Overwhelment
@@ninaleach6350 Technically, "not getting" is not the same as "not accepting".
@brukernavn3409 Yes but I have to accept their non-acceptance. I should have written "don't *SEEM* to".
This video is just an ad. If this wasn't an excuse to show off this app would you have made this video anyway?
I get overwhelmed so incredibly easily that’s why the only job I can ever have is being a custodian 😕 (or an artist but that’s not a steady income)