In America it is not an "old people's" disease. Hmm. And this young woman is so well spoken. I am 36, live in the states and was just diagnosed with malignant melanoma. I have a great doctor. My baby is only 16 months old and makes me so joyful and super happy every moment. I get to be a stay-at-home mom. I'm enjoying every second of life just like I did before my diagnosis. I will say I used tanning beds as a tween and lived life in the sun as you should. I usually wore sunscreen. I have a degree in Medical Sociology so I will be the one to counsel patients and their families in situations like this...I want to be ultra sensitive and tactful, professional, and loving! I will say that life is painful for all at some point and we just do the best we can and do right by people. I give my son the best life and confident I will be cured of this before it reaches any lymph node. ❤
Yeah . They gotta head it off at the pass " Lymph " before it sets up . I am Stage 4 Melanoma and it went to three spots in my brain . Fortunately they have a machine " Truebeam " that disintegrates tumors but I am told they lurk . They also put my on immunotherapy and it seemingly worked for the rest of the body , But after 3 years of infusions they ceased because of side effects .My melanoma started in a very odd place , Under the thumbnail . Had to amputate the thumb. In all of my studies , Once it goes to the brain it's generally 3-4 months , I am at 40 months but getting weaker everyday . Just a droning nausea and body weakness . I am reminded by my oncologist a few times " Had it been a few years earlier , We wouldn't be having this conversation " . Supposedly immunotherapy was a game changer . Hope all goes well and you live a long happy fruitful life .
It is terrible that the doctors did not suggest your husband preserves his sperm. My son, age 36has just been diagnosed stage 4 melanoma and he was asked if they wanted more children. As they have no plans for more children ( they fortunately have two girls) they declined . It is just an excuse to say it is a disease of old people and simply not true. A doctor should know this. It is a standard question to ask a patient when considering treatment. I am very sorry you had this experience and hopefully next year you can try for a baby xxxxx
Usually , in North America women are asked if they want their eggs frozen and fertility clinics get involved if it's a young couple. She is correct one day more was not going to make a difference . They were a newly married . I don't think the physicians were thinking and if they were , they were thinking how is she young to look after a baby snd sick husband . The subject having children should have been discussed .
I don't believe that this is the case for melanoma. Also, a mixed-race kid would have less chance to develop melanoma, as it is 20 times more common in white people. Nevertheless, we white people, despite our more fragile skin, still make babies.
Many children are born with two parents who do not have cancer and suffer terribly through neglect, abuse or just through misfortune. This baby would only ever know love, how much they were wanted and what a precious gift he/she they are. Fact check on melanoma before making such ill informed judgements for that may be construed as ignorant.
Cancer doesn’t discriminate! It doesn’t matter who you marry anybody’s color of skin what color the skin is of the person with the sperm or the eggs it has no bearing on developing cancer! White people may be more susceptible to melon noma because of lighter skin, and they can see the cancer easier! Once you have cancer and it’s in your blood, it never goes away. It may lay dormant, called remission, but it’s still there, and always comes back. Somewhere down the line before you die! That is a fact. Period if you have cancer in your blood, there’s a likelihood of a child, having cancer since that child shares your blood in the womb or in the sperm. What are one of the things that cancer centers tell you? They tell you that if you have a parent that has cancer your chances of having cancer are extremely higher. The same goes if you have a sibling, a cousin and uncle, etc..
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In America it is not an "old people's" disease. Hmm. And this young woman is so well spoken. I am 36, live in the states and was just diagnosed with malignant melanoma. I have a great doctor. My baby is only 16 months old and makes me so joyful and super happy every moment. I get to be a stay-at-home mom. I'm enjoying every second of life just like I did before my diagnosis. I will say I used tanning beds as a tween and lived life in the sun as you should. I usually wore sunscreen. I have a degree in Medical Sociology so I will be the one to counsel patients and their families in situations like this...I want to be ultra sensitive and tactful, professional, and loving! I will say that life is painful for all at some point and we just do the best we can and do right by people. I give my son the best life and confident I will be cured of this before it reaches any lymph node. ❤
Yeah . They gotta head it off at the pass " Lymph " before it sets up . I am Stage 4 Melanoma and it went to three spots in my brain . Fortunately they have a machine " Truebeam " that disintegrates tumors but I am told they lurk . They also put my on immunotherapy and it seemingly worked for the rest of the body , But after 3 years of infusions they ceased because of side effects .My melanoma started in a very odd place , Under the thumbnail . Had to amputate the thumb. In all of my studies , Once it goes to the brain it's generally 3-4 months , I am at 40 months but getting weaker everyday . Just a droning nausea and body weakness . I am reminded by my oncologist a few times " Had it been a few years earlier , We wouldn't be having this conversation " . Supposedly immunotherapy was a game changer . Hope all goes well and you live a long happy fruitful life .
I hope you're doing well.
Ohhh god I’m so sad, I still sending love hug and kisses to you all 😢
It is terrible that the doctors did not suggest your husband preserves his sperm. My son, age 36has just been diagnosed stage 4 melanoma and he was asked if they wanted more children. As they have no plans for more children ( they fortunately have two girls) they declined . It is just an excuse to say it is a disease of old people and simply not true. A doctor should know this. It is a standard question to ask a patient when considering treatment. I am very sorry you had this experience and hopefully next year you can try for a baby xxxxx
Usually , in North America women are asked if they want their eggs frozen and fertility clinics get involved if it's a young couple. She is correct one day more was not going to make a difference . They were a newly married . I don't think the physicians were thinking and if they were , they were thinking how is she young to look after a baby snd sick husband . The subject having children should have been discussed .
Merci Jade, j'espere que tout va bien pour vous et votre mari xxx
I can guess why the Doctor "forgot". 🤬
First thing that crossed my mind too. I'm sure Dr "FORGOT"...🤔😒🙄
you stil here🙌
U are an interracial couple. Of course they would not give u and ur hubby the opportunity. Sad but its the harsh reality we live in!
I think it is a selfish act to conceive a child with sperm from a man with a history of cancer. You possibly create a life that is destined to suffer.
I don't believe that this is the case for melanoma. Also, a mixed-race kid would have less chance to develop melanoma, as it is 20 times more common in white people. Nevertheless, we white people, despite our more fragile skin, still make babies.
Many children are born with two parents who do not have cancer and suffer terribly through neglect, abuse or just through misfortune. This baby would only ever know love, how much they were wanted and what a precious gift he/she they are. Fact check on melanoma before making such ill informed judgements for that may be construed as ignorant.
Cancer doesn’t discriminate! It doesn’t matter who you marry anybody’s color of skin what color the skin is of the person with the sperm or the eggs it has no bearing on developing cancer! White people may be more susceptible to melon noma because of lighter skin, and they can see the cancer easier!
Once you have cancer and it’s in your blood, it never goes away. It may lay dormant, called remission, but it’s still there, and always comes back. Somewhere down the line before you die! That is a fact. Period if you have cancer in your blood, there’s a likelihood of a child, having cancer since that child shares your blood in the womb or in the sperm. What are one of the things that cancer centers tell you? They tell you that if you have a parent that has cancer your chances of having cancer are extremely higher. The same goes if you have a sibling, a cousin and uncle, etc..
What an ignorant thing to say.
it’s not your decision to choose who does and doesn’t have children, and thank god for that.