Do I Have To Stop Drinking Forever - Can Alcoholics EVER Drink Socially?

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  • @burnindownthehouse
    @burnindownthehouse Рік тому +9

    I drank heavily every day for 26 years. I was a drunk. I covered it up pretty well. Only my family knew I was a drunk. But I destroyed my health by drinking so much. It totally messed up my stomach and led to serious problems with cholesterol. Then I quit cold turkey. The physical withdrawal symptoms were awful, but I made it past that stage. And then... I just didn't drink again. I still think about alcohol every day, but not in the way I used to before. This part of what I am writing pertains to your video. Every time I think about picking up a drink after I have my morning coffee, I think about the serious health problems alcohol caused me. I do kind of a cost-benefit analysis in my head. Then I come to the conclusion that I do not want to destroy my health again. And after I come to that conclusion early in every day, I make it through the day without drinking. I repeat this process every day. The longer I have been sober, the clearer this decision becomes. I am now able to use reason easier. When I was a drunk I could easily talk myself into having a drink even though it came with a bunch of guilt. But now I can talk myself into not having a drink.

    • @ccxfrank109
      @ccxfrank109 9 місяців тому +1

      im on the same boat my friend. i had to go to the ER a few times tho for withdrawals cuz it was too much. but i battled through it many times on my own. i've tried many times to quit. it's a horrible addiction.

  • @thepyramidbuilder1089
    @thepyramidbuilder1089 4 роки тому +23

    4 months sober and there it is staring at me and tempting me every day. I miss her every day. That's why I just looked this up.

    • @croplaya
      @croplaya 4 роки тому +3

      Keep doing what you're doing to stay away from it. Minute, hour, day.. one day that obsession will leave. I know we'd love to go to a bar with our buddies and get shitfaced but our buddies sober up and sleep it off the next day. We do the opposite

    • @kevinkelley4376
      @kevinkelley4376 4 роки тому

      How are you doing 9 months later?

    • @thepyramidbuilder1089
      @thepyramidbuilder1089 4 роки тому +2

      @@kevinkelley4376 ill be honest...I went through the death of my grandmother who was basically my mother and a hard break up at the same time. I've had a few, but have not overdone it. The stress of those events along with everything else going on in the country, and I was at my limit. I made it nearly a year. I've been having a couple here and there. I've been controlling it. I don't know if I'm ok or just trying to convince myself I am with it. I don't plan to go back to the habits I practiced for 20 years. I'm also over 40 lbs lighter than I used to be and my health and fitness has become very important to me. So maybe I'm OK.

    • @kevinkelley4376
      @kevinkelley4376 4 роки тому +3

      @@thepyramidbuilder1089, youre making forward progress man.. Try to keep as much time in between drinking as possible. I go back and forth with my drinking.. Ive also lost alot of weight and eat much healthier. Remember all the positives that have happened to you and your life by significantly cutting back. 🤙

  • @trutherone1725
    @trutherone1725 5 років тому +78

    Its day 1 for me pray for me yall

  • @joego7924
    @joego7924 6 років тому +45

    I know I can't have one drink, I can't stop till I close the bar down, it happens every time even if I tell myself I'm stopping after a couple drinks!

    • @3..thisiswe
      @3..thisiswe 4 роки тому

      Me too 😭😭😭😭😭😭day 3 here... I really don’t want to count a day for the rest of my life but if I have too just so I don’t pick up that 1 That I always think I can JUST have.

  • @britva836
    @britva836 5 років тому +22

    This is dead on. When I've quit before, it was like a fad diet. It was about denying myself alcohol. Now, it's about saving my life and the lives of those around me. There's a mission and purpose to sobriety now for me.

  • @jamesshielssoberlife.3701
    @jamesshielssoberlife.3701 7 років тому +65

    Your back! 900 days now for me alcohol free, it has taken 2 and half years to get fully normal. I am in my 40's.

    • @visitor3756
      @visitor3756 7 років тому +2

      James Shiels lol
      I'm double digit. Guess what Normal is a setting on your washer machine
      🤣🤣🤣 but life is good. It's great when you realize that life begins and fun can be had truly without being numb!!!

    • @victoriaoshea4865
      @victoriaoshea4865 6 років тому +3

      James Shiels congratulations that is very encouraging!

    • @GirlMomma
      @GirlMomma 5 років тому +3

      Way to go!! So proud of you! I am on day 21!👏👍

    • @treemarie3080
      @treemarie3080 5 років тому +2

      Respect! It's my goal to reach that many days too...and many, many more!

    • @GirlMomma
      @GirlMomma 5 років тому

      @@treemarie3080 you've got this!

  • @joshfeatherstone8546
    @joshfeatherstone8546 6 років тому +86

    28 days sober.

    • @sawyerramos3113
      @sawyerramos3113 6 років тому +2

      Josh Featherstone good job. Stay in the moment

    • @GirlMomma
      @GirlMomma 5 років тому +7

      You've got this! Day 21 here.

    • @treemarie3080
      @treemarie3080 5 років тому +5

      20 days here! 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️ never thought I could do it!

    • @GirlMomma
      @GirlMomma 5 років тому +2

      @@treemarie3080 YAY! Way to go! Rock on!

    • @GirlMomma
      @GirlMomma 5 років тому +2

      Just checking in with you and everyone else that is trying to quit. How is it going? Still sober? Thinking about you all!

  • @christinemurphy4367
    @christinemurphy4367 3 роки тому +4

    An old, like 85 year old man that used to be in AA used to say that we drinks were "SICK, SICK, SICK!!!!!!!"
    I always believed him, but I always thought it was funny the way he would say it. I didn't realize how severely ill I truly was. And AM. I have been sober almost 15 months after a deadly addiction of HELL on earth for 26 years. I drank mouthwash, extract, perfume, hand sanitizer and even rubbing alcohol. I buried my fiance in 2013 due to his addiction to alcohol. He was 46. I have been through treatment 18 times, jail at least 30 times, and have been homeless for months. It is a miracle to be sober today. Thank you for reminding me just how incapable I still am because of my prior alcohol abuse. I appreciate it more than I can say! Much love and prayers to you.

  • @itstrue2599
    @itstrue2599 5 років тому +6

    I don't drink but I'm so glad that you're helping other people stop drinking and one of the things that I realized is that if you want to accomplish things you got to start with a plan.

  • @anthonywhite9912
    @anthonywhite9912 4 роки тому +4

    158 days sober, starting to forget what it's like to be drunk, or have a hangover.
    Don't do meetings any more because I have no cravings and don't miss anything about alcohol..... I watch allot of UA-cam clips about stopping drinking alcohol though....it really is a big help.

  • @andrewnorbury2519
    @andrewnorbury2519 7 років тому +22

    Great video! Time away from alcohol is the key. A lot of people think not drinking for a week will clear their head. Like all addictions it takes at least 3 months to become rational.
    Your videos make a lot of sense.

    • @oracularcomet1915
      @oracularcomet1915 6 років тому

      Great Video,but that screeching of the chalk board almost did me in.Lol

    • @trutherone1725
      @trutherone1725 5 років тому +1

      Tomato Man try working out and drinking lots of water it helps me when trying to get sober

  • @sawyerramos3113
    @sawyerramos3113 6 років тому +30

    My higher power did for me what i couldnt do for myself. Removed that obsession. Today, 7 years later. I dont think about the drink. I stay in the moment. I am very well aware that the first drink is what will get me drunk. I dont worry about the rest of my life for I only have right now, and right now, i dont have to drink. I go to meetings. Read the big book, not often. I worked the steps. AA worked for me. Whatever works for you, so long as you achive peace. God bless you! God help us all with this, and all addictions.

    • @nikobigtime537
      @nikobigtime537 5 років тому

      Awesome Sawyer , AA almost ruined my life in many different ways , its all about the mind

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 5 років тому +1

      Niko Bigtime “It’s all about the mind”??? Hilarious. Your best thinking got you to Alcoholics Anonymous. If you’re a chronic alcoholic, and believe you can think your way out of a fatal condition, you’re doomed!

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 5 років тому

      Did AA stop working for you!

  • @naomicarrier1733
    @naomicarrier1733 6 років тому +46

    If I drink again I will die .... I nearly almost died from drinking
    Never ever again ever

    • @IhmePaskaa
      @IhmePaskaa 5 років тому

      I never had a drink for a long time

    • @wowdude7845
      @wowdude7845 5 років тому

      Naomi White Hope things are going well. I’m right there with you. Alcohol almost killed me about

    • @chadweissert6858
      @chadweissert6858 5 років тому

      Almost killed me 2 1/2 weeks ago.

    • @cooltroop2
      @cooltroop2 5 років тому +1

      What happened

    • @adyomelia4221
      @adyomelia4221 4 роки тому

      Did u drink again? Hoping you didn't die 👀🙏🏿

  • @wolf9631
    @wolf9631 5 років тому +9

    You're amazing, everything you are saying makes so much sense. It's crazy how much people who are or we're heavy drinkers have in common even our story's as drinkers. I fell as well 3 different times and this time it scared me because I didn't know we're I was. Getting sober and going to rehab is were im at. :) thank you

  • @TheFusedplug
    @TheFusedplug 6 років тому +51

    Life is so much better without a drink .. and tbh I also gave up heroin and crack but anyway I wouldn't go back to alcohol or anything for that matter life is far too beautiful now. I'm 44 and my life was put on pause when I was 16 and started drinking with fools that were older than me I ended up a lonely wreck of a person with shitty jobs and no friends and in and out of rubbish relationships.
    Now I'm about to start my own business and embark on many other things

  • @endlrls
    @endlrls 7 років тому +10

    Another great video, Marcus! It's nice to have a reminder every now and then for why I quit in first place. I'm going on 26 months sobriety myself. Keep up the great work and I love your videos!🖒

  • @GirlMomma
    @GirlMomma 5 років тому +4

    My good friend was found dead in her car, she drank herself to death in the Walmart parking lot almost a month ago. I am 21 days clean today. It's not a joke folks, it can and will literally kill you. Good luck and prayers to everyone, you guys can do this, we can do this! You are worthy and you are loved and you deserve to live a happy life. Each and everyone of us.

  • @homimatcha
    @homimatcha 5 років тому +4

    12 days sober & it's been a very shitty days ...panic attack, high BP, high heart rate, headache, fatigue, etc. But I m determined to stay sober forever as I have been a moderate drinker for more than 12 years. Thank u for encouraging me from day 8th & u got a new subs.
    Stay Sober!!

    • @kevinkelley4376
      @kevinkelley4376 4 роки тому

      How are you doing a year later?

    • @homimatcha
      @homimatcha 4 роки тому +1

      Hi @@kevinkelley4376 m doing great !! Except hypertension (which I m currently working on it) 😁 REST ALL NORMAL. Thank you once again for helping me when I needed the most. Panic attack fatigue etc lasted for more than 9-10 months (though intensity of attack was low). Yoga & other excercise did really helped me alot. And I am still determined to stay Sober!! 💪😊 Thanks man!!

    • @kevinkelley4376
      @kevinkelley4376 4 роки тому +1

      @@homimatcha, great progress dude. For the hypertension, try hot green tea with fresh mint or sage. Local honey and half a squeezed lemon.. I have 2 cups in the morning and 2 cups at night. 🤙

    • @homimatcha
      @homimatcha 4 роки тому +1

      @@kevinkelley4376 sure!! I ll definitely try.

  • @Hawgfrog
    @Hawgfrog 4 роки тому +2

    Ive been sober for a year and three months. I remember crying because i was scared to death of never drinking again. Great video. Keep up the good work.

  • @BeatJunkie-mq1tc
    @BeatJunkie-mq1tc 2 роки тому +1

    It's true yall, if ur an alcoholic u truly cannot ever drink again once you've put it down. I was in a year long rehab not for alcohol but the beer led to my relapse only after a month out of that place. All that hardwork and sobriety down the drain then I picked up the alcohol habit and that was a long dark ride. That was awhile ago and I haven't drank for 2 years but I also haven't picked up a drink since. Great video man. Stay strong everyone and remember perseverance and do not get complacent (well I can just have one cuz I've been doing really good)

  • @opencurtin
    @opencurtin 3 роки тому +4

    If you have a problem with alcohol admit it quit move on from it , if you keep drinking it will only get worse !

  • @jasminemariedarling
    @jasminemariedarling 4 роки тому +9

    I haven't had anything to drink for 10 years. I'm tired of missing it. When I first got sober, I was told that the cravings would diminish over time. Well they haven't and the thought of living the rest of my life without alcohol is getting more and more annoying as each year passes. I'm very grateful for the good things. But I never feel happy or free like when I drank. Sucks.

    • @clairmoreau2553
      @clairmoreau2553 4 роки тому +3

      I have been sober for 4 years, and lately, I crave a drink often. It is hard at the moment. I feel ya. It is boring as hell but we can't mess up now after all our hard work right?! Clair Bear

    • @kevinkelley4376
      @kevinkelley4376 4 роки тому +1

      You've made amazing progress. Your sobriety is something to be proud of..❤💪
      *I know its tempting, Im having problems with that myself.

    • @jasminemariedarling
      @jasminemariedarling 4 роки тому +4

      @@kevinkelley4376& Bear Thanks for the encouragement... So I actually tried drinking again a few months ago. It was NOT like I remembered it! It was ok, but instead of feeling extremely happy, I felt weird, thoughts muddled, and the HANGOVER lasted 2 days, barfing. I didn't even have that much. I will never touch the stuff again. Not worth it. Plus, obviously it could have triggered addiction and ruined my life, so there's that lol... Anyways, I thought I'd mention my shitty experience, might help.

  • @davemccall1134
    @davemccall1134 6 місяців тому

    First and foremost your video was very informative and constructive. My story is that when I was 65 years old when I decided to stop drinking. This was nine years ago after drinking for fifty years with the last thirty-five years drinking excessively every day. I had no doubt that I could stop drinking, my biggest concern was that I could stop drinking. Due to the fact how long I drank for as well as how much I drank. Fearing I lost the necessary social and coping skills to make a good life for myself. There were several things I felt imperative that I had to do to sustain my sobriety. To never delude myself that if I went back drinking I'd magically become a social drinker. Refusing to give myself any no fault excuses to relapse. Alcoholism is a horrible addiction that will eventually lead to mental health and physical issues. Labeling my alcoholism a discease would relieve me of any accountability fom my poor choices . I would challenge anyone to name a discease that can be overcome soley by your own force of will. Transitiooning from drinking to sobriety was my choice to repair the relationships with friends and loved ones I bankrupted from my drinking. Restoring the respect and trust I lost. Fortunately the people who I hurt became a tremendous support system for my sobriety. Couldn't be more grateful for their support. My life became less stressful and any anxiety I had has become less and less with time. Was able to make better choices to have a better life. My only regret is that I didn't quit earlier

  • @sarahavens2421
    @sarahavens2421 6 років тому +9

    Awesome video Marcus! Watching your videos has helped me so much.
    I quit drinking August 28th 2017. Feeling great. Quit smoking cigarettes a week ago. Yay! Keep up the awesome videos 🙆🙆🙆

    • @pietjebel9130
      @pietjebel9130 6 років тому

      i right now can't stand the anxiety feelings

  • @brendandaly2290
    @brendandaly2290 5 років тому +8

    142 days sober. The longest ive been since a young teen. If i can do it anybody can. And all them slogans i see in AA rooms so make sence now they didnt at the very beginning. It truly one day at a time.

  • @michaeld8634
    @michaeld8634 6 років тому +27

    No Alcoholic can ever Drink Safely.. Just Saying

    • @tactics-mnk6084
      @tactics-mnk6084 6 років тому

      Michael D
      Some believe it, some don’t.

    • @tactics-mnk6084
      @tactics-mnk6084 6 років тому +1

      It’s more about what you yourself “truly” believe. Then there’s no issue.

    • @chrisj197438
      @chrisj197438 6 років тому

      Michael D
      Truth!!

    • @EvySurvived
      @EvySurvived 3 роки тому

      not true! I used to drink 7 beers per night for year. I can now drink less than a drink and I lose interest

    • @AD-on4qr
      @AD-on4qr 2 роки тому

      @@EvySurvived But what's the point? To open a drink and drink less than the bottle ect. Why even bother drinking at all? I'm sober now and would have absolutely no desire to drink half a bottle of beer but fair enough.

  • @mikeheaton8424
    @mikeheaton8424 2 роки тому +4

    The desire to drink never goes away. I’m approaching 27 yrs sober ,don’t take that first drink.I hope this helps someone .it’s hard at times but we’ll worth it.

  • @thcgamer3093
    @thcgamer3093 7 років тому +6

    Hey Brother of Life, Thank You from bottom of my Wagon Core. This is My new favorite Video Brother. Exactly what I needed to learn and watch. 2 Days Sober. Hate relapse Process, So Thank you Marcus. I hope I can repay you with sober days to come. God Bless You And Your Future. Mine too, LoL

    • @patrickmadigan5479
      @patrickmadigan5479 6 років тому

      THCgamer 30 what are you gonna do when they let you out of jail with two days sober unfortunately you got a lot more misery and pain ahead

    • @patrickmadigan5479
      @patrickmadigan5479 6 років тому

      THCgamer 30 that was four days ago

  • @voodoochild3859
    @voodoochild3859 5 років тому +10

    The simple answer is no. An alcoholic can never drink again.

  • @Marlaina.
    @Marlaina. 4 місяці тому

    I became an alcoholic at 21 (now 28) and "stopped" this past May 4th...almost 1 year🎉 my version of stopping is a bit different though....I know 99% ppl probably disagree, but certain things may SOMETIMES work for others! I now drink a glass or 2 of wine at night about 3 times a week..rarely a mixed drink. (Not to get drunk)......and it is the BEST feeling because I now have CONTROL and don't NEED it to literally survive. I used to drink 2 or 3.....(sometimes more) ENTIRE water bottles of straight vodka...1st thing when I got up to the last thing before bed. I was at my lowest point....in the past I was in a mental health facility at 18 for 2 weeks for another reason, and I realized I'd have to go back if I wasn't going to change myself. I gradually, yet dangerously trailed off at home (don't recommend) or at least have a strong support system in place. I counted my stop date by AFTER I had trailed off for about 2 months, and poured my last "water bottle" in the toilet. But overall, the past 11 months have been COMPLETELY different...I'm finally actually ALIVE again ❤ all that being said, I am now a bit worried/confused after watching this 😂 I know I will NEVER drink straight vodka like that or get to that place again, but when I drink a glass of wine it makes me smile and say, "HA you're never gonna get me this time...watch this only 1 glass...oh you want me to drink more??? Awwww too bad, I win and I control YOU now," is kinda what goes through my head...it feels more than great and empowering...I don’t want to NEVER have another drop again cause that just makes me feel absolutely awful...like IT got ME instead. So can this not work for ME either???? Cause right now my life is completely changed for the better and I will never go back....I feel like a new person 😊

  • @martindebrois1472
    @martindebrois1472 3 роки тому +1

    This is an interesting question. ... I've found some people can (drink socially), some can't. I've seen some spend LOTS of time and effort, trying to drink socially. But eventually, as they get older - they have another disaster night.

  • @ald5016
    @ald5016 3 роки тому

    God bless you Marcus!!!! Your videos and life experience are helping me to climb out of this hole….I have a counselor and tried detox but had mental issues that were like ptsd from childhood when my mother was very ill mentally and in an institution…. It freaked me out being there and HAD to get out. Like everybody else I’ve had more than my share of life problems and use every freaking one of them as an excuse to drink. Your videos along with my counselor are helping! THANK YOU!!!!!

  • @smallboi1989
    @smallboi1989 5 років тому +2

    Alot of alcoholism starts with problems, depression and anything bothering you. You were introduced to alcohol in a fun environment but then it ends up being your crutch because you want that feeling during bad times, but truth is, getting drunk doesnt solve it... because the problem will be still there and/or it could have gotten worse.

  • @ajcruz4426
    @ajcruz4426 6 років тому +6

    wow didn't realize it takes that kind of time to be somewhat clear minded..I figured 24hr I was back to normal.

  • @TheFusedplug
    @TheFusedplug 6 років тому +5

    Useful advice Marcus my girlfriend is not cured she's still a 24/7 alcoholic which is causing great strain on what's left of our relationship. I know I can't force her to stop but this video is a really useful one I've posted it to her so I can at least advise her to do 90 days and then get her head around things with a clear mind

  • @chrisj197438
    @chrisj197438 6 років тому +2

    If you’re an alcoholic you can NEVER drink again!!!!! I’m over 6 years sober and there is no doubt that if I take another drink I will spiral out of control again and return to where I was and most likely I’ll be even worse which would probably kill me.

  • @chinogambino9375
    @chinogambino9375 2 роки тому +1

    I've found I can drink socially again without problems. I was cold turkey for years, only fell off the wagon once after a break up but that was short. The problem for me I think was booze was an activity in of itself, I allotted it time slots in my life and it was always a reward for a job well done. Its stupid because drinking is not an activity, being a drinker is not a skill or hobby. I don't think about 'drinking' at all now, there is no regular time for it. If I drink booze its not planned by me, its outside the home and I'm not choosing what we drink even if I'm paying for it; I don't feel guilty and I don't limit it to a few to be 'good'. I just leave it at the occasion, which really is a handful of times a year at most(weddings, meeting old friends etc). I used to abstain totally on these occasions but I realized it felt too frustrating, we barely have any free time to see each other these days.
    I was convinced it couldn't be done for the longest time but I know in myself there's a difference between before and now after these drinking sessions, there's no desire anymore. If I can't stick to a few rules then I know booze is too much for me and I just have to never drink again. Thankfully it doesn't seem that intense for me. I'm not sure if this is a common experience for alcos after years of sobriety. I get this can be a completely not worth it idiotic experiment for others though.

  • @kevinawilliams9703
    @kevinawilliams9703 6 років тому +4

    This guy is excellent.

  • @macgruber4689
    @macgruber4689 7 років тому +2

    Another great Video, good to see you back here!

  • @anthonyshaw8698
    @anthonyshaw8698 4 роки тому +1

    Excellent!!!!!
    I'm going to rehab this coming weekend. 30 day program

  • @randyfreeze29
    @randyfreeze29 5 років тому

    Thank you for this video 10 days sober today and this video is just what I needed.

  • @lovetoloveu35
    @lovetoloveu35 4 роки тому +1

    You make so much sense and i hear everything you are saying … I went to detox twice and ended back drinking within two weeks of being home.. through this isolation I have done it myself.. on campral and valium and talking with my phsychologist and gp.. I am now 42 days sober.. but I would kill for a drink right now... its so very hard and yes the biggest thing has always been … does that mean can I never have a drink again? that has always saddened me.. I love to sit and have a glass a wine with a friend or partner and chat.. but I no longer could control that anymore and it was a real problem for over 6 years.. it had so much control over me I could go on for ages but you know it all anyhow...
    I said to my mother two days ago I wish I could be someone who like I was years ago can just have a social drink once and a while.. and she asked me surely you can.. I said you know what mum I would love to think I could one day.. I highly doubt it.. I know right now I cant try that.. because I know it has too much of a hold of me... and probably will in one years time too.. who knows... but yes I do feel sad that I may never be able to just enjoy that one glass again socially.. savoir the taste and not just drink to reach a high.

  • @TonyRome402
    @TonyRome402 10 місяців тому

    There was a time when I couldn't imagine not drinking for the holidays or sporting event. Now, 8 years later, without a drop of alcohol; I can not imagine how alcohol can enhance the joy of the holidays or any occasion. I can not even imagine ever again picking up a drink for any reason.

  • @benjaminbelzer5693
    @benjaminbelzer5693 4 роки тому

    Wow, this was my favorite video by far. Very insightful and helpful

  • @Oamiano
    @Oamiano Рік тому

    I used to be a RAGING and i mean RAAAAGING alcoholic. One day I realized I was 22 years old, puking up beer in the morning. I’d drink 3, puke em up and finish the last 21 beers. Since I put it down, I’ve been repulsed by alcohol, I’ve been able to drink socially. But it never gets out of control because literally 2-3 drinks makes me sick to my stomach and my brain associates that sick feeling with drinking. Opioids on the other hand…. Could never casually just bust a hydromorphone 8 and I have 1 and be done….

  • @pietjebel9130
    @pietjebel9130 6 років тому +6

    a yr and a half, only 3 wks scares me

  • @kkffjjkkffjj
    @kkffjjkkffjj 4 роки тому +1

    "alcohol has a built-in forgetter" - is that a technical term? LOL. Jokes aside, your talks are very good and have helped me. Thanks.

  • @paulflint6254
    @paulflint6254 Рік тому +1

    Making money, better health, better mood. There are many positives to not drinking. These things help me. Good reasons not to drink, in my book.

  • @geoffsaunderson5766
    @geoffsaunderson5766 6 років тому +4

    Thank you! I'm just tapering off after a 10 day bender, it's about the next week for me (3 days in) then after this week I'll think about next week.

  • @ed4253
    @ed4253 5 років тому +3

    Sean Astins brother is very informative

  • @ShadesOClarity
    @ShadesOClarity 7 місяців тому

    The disease process - once those changes occur in the hippocampus, I would say no. I just started a new UA-cam channel on recovery. I am sorry about your father. There was no moderation. I drank for so long off and on - which through the phenomenon known as "kindling" can cause increasingly bad withdrawal. Congrats on the sobriety.

  • @SpiritFitVices
    @SpiritFitVices 6 років тому

    You CAN TRY....but its just not worth it if you have a problem. Great video!

  • @jorgevencespizzakiller933
    @jorgevencespizzakiller933 6 років тому +2

    The way you started the video is the reason why family members tell theirs it's time to cut back , CUT BACK. NOT stop drinking 😂

  • @smoozerish
    @smoozerish 4 роки тому +2

    No........that's the answer.....QED

  • @franciscoraupp
    @franciscoraupp 2 роки тому +1

    Your videos are a blessing!

  • @thegreath.sapiensapien6907
    @thegreath.sapiensapien6907 5 років тому +3

    its been 8yr i did not drink, i will never drink again, i try too.

  • @douglasrandall6737
    @douglasrandall6737 4 роки тому

    Good talk. I’m a AA guy for the last 30 years. Could not get sober by myself.

  • @billybobobenner
    @billybobobenner 5 років тому +1

    You don't have to stop drinking forever. Anytime you want all of that shit back in your life, take a drink!

  • @acsfivepall1261
    @acsfivepall1261 6 років тому

    I think there are 2 main reasons people resist completely abstaining. Neither is about being "scared of never drinking again" btw.
    #1 Ego. Our need to control, in this case ourselves. The term "quitter" applies at some level. It's a lot like "giving up" in a general sense, say at something else that you couldn't handle. Compare it with dropping out of school or quitting a boxing match without fighting it through, or any other thing that hurts the ego to not be able to handle. In other words completely abstaining equals giving up, being beaten. The ego doesn't like that.
    #2 Some distant fear that at some point there will be an accidental drink... literally by accident. Pick up the wrong glass at a picnic, maybe take a swig of wine instead of your juice at a wedding etc. For someone 20 years sober, for example, that one misplaced tumbler just shot 20 years of striving work right down the drain. That could be scary. Having that as a constant underlying "threat"... source of anxiety in itself.

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 5 років тому

      Acsfive Pall #2 is nonsense.

  • @mikehalpin3017
    @mikehalpin3017 3 роки тому +1

    thank you Marcus!avery timely word

  • @lesleybrown1583
    @lesleybrown1583 6 років тому +2

    great talk watch it daily!

  • @johnfeehan7502
    @johnfeehan7502 4 роки тому

    Thankyou for the videos marcus , im at abit of a crossroad with drinking now looking back at all the damage its caused in my life. First goal is to do the 90 days.

    • @jamieknight9636
      @jamieknight9636 3 роки тому

      How are you going? I'm at cross roads atm,,,,kinda dreading upsetting my social circle. day 7

    • @johnfeehan7502
      @johnfeehan7502 3 роки тому +1

      @@jamieknight9636 hi mate since I wrote that comment I've been in 4 inpatient detox's and had a few months sober here and there. One thing I did notice about becoming sober I found out alot of "mates" were just drinking associates ! All the best.

  • @runplatypus
    @runplatypus 7 років тому +2

    Thanks for this helpful video.

  • @crazedoutlook
    @crazedoutlook 6 років тому +4

    Easy breezy, as long as you’re willing to sacrifice certain aspects of your social life. Or maybe your entire social life. That’s not necessarily a bad thing.

    • @treemarie3080
      @treemarie3080 5 років тому +2

      I haven't necessarily sacrificed my social life... I just cut certain toxic people out of my life that are poison and don't have the same priorities as me. And my #1 priority right now is staying sober and staying away from any triggering environments. I keep myself busy with working out and eating healthy and surprisingly...I know quite a few people who are on that same path :)

  • @ericjkoning925
    @ericjkoning925 6 років тому +2

    My goal was to go one year sober. I am two weeks away from that now. Before than I never tried quitting before, I no Anxiety is the biggest trigger for me. Can I drink like a normal person idk I never tried that before. I’m running out of momentum I accomplished my goal.

    • @ed4253
      @ed4253 5 років тому

      Just remind yourself that 'you can have a drink tomorrow' and repeat that daily

  • @annagrass4619
    @annagrass4619 5 років тому +1

    No but you can choose too stop ODAT
    Been sober nearly 40 years, but with help..I have.

  • @PDBowden16
    @PDBowden16 5 років тому +1

    Alcohol is a waste of time, money, and your life. The best way not to have an alcohol problem is never get started with it.

  • @phyllisarringtion5354
    @phyllisarringtion5354 6 років тому +8

    "No", you only need to quit one day at a time.

  • @sittinguysittinguy789
    @sittinguysittinguy789 7 років тому +3

    Thanks, 3 weeks alcohol free today after 15 yrs. Cravings suck! but i'm in it to win. Just not sure what to do about,, lets say a single glass of champagne at thanksgiving or something.?

    • @sittinguysittinguy789
      @sittinguysittinguy789 7 років тому +4

      thanks for the reply. Had my Dad over for dinner last night and he showed up with beer. He knows I liked craft beer, I had tea.

    • @sittinguysittinguy789
      @sittinguysittinguy789 7 років тому +1

      No, I don't feel ready to start telling everyone, and seem like I have had a problem. No body knows how much I drank, not even my wife. I'm OK turning it down, I've had to many times in the last 3 weeks, for someone trying to quit, you know alcohol will literally fall out of the sky on you. I'm just picturing Thanksgiving with prefilled glasses of champagne at the table for a toast. I'm thinking it will be Ok to toast have a sip and leave the rest at this point. Thanks

  • @Greeenfiire
    @Greeenfiire 2 роки тому +1

    I love you thank you.

  • @lindadriscoll7386
    @lindadriscoll7386 6 років тому +2

    Uh.... how about switching to a white board instead of that chalkboard.... can't see it very well but the screeching.... awful. Thanks for the video

  • @debbiethompson14
    @debbiethompson14 4 роки тому

    WHAT ABOUT CAUSES AND CONDITIONS? What about trauma? Either childhood trauma or adult trauma? 90 days give yourself 90 days to do what? Suffer and..... yo man, that's a shame I almost recommended you to a group of AA friends like 30 people that I'm sending out videos all during the quarantine and I can't now. You see, I don't know why you guys feel the need to AA Bash! AA never said stay sober for the rest of your life. AA says ONE DAY AT A TIME and surrender to God. And it has totally worked for me! By working the steps, I've been able to work through all my mommy issues and my ex-husband issues and my anger with all that and my resentment with all that and I've been able to live in the moment not in the future or the past. I'm happier than I've ever been and I'm completely sober so I really think you're doing people a disservice. I mean, maybe you're program does work but WHY do you have to bash AA??? If you really believed in your program, you wouldn't have to put down anyone else program. For example, if I'm selling soap and if I believe in myself, why do I have to buy Ivory soap or Dove soap or Dial soap? I don't need to bash other soaps. I KNOW my soap is good! I sent one of your videos out because you didn't AA Bastion it was great! I was listening to this one to send it out tomorrow but since you started a bashing it's out. Please just present your material and stick to your program. There's no need to AA Bash.

  • @sharonharding3478
    @sharonharding3478 5 років тому

    After nine month I cracked and went on one big bender. I'd be lying if I said it wasn't good it bloody was.
    I've managed to reign it in again, as you all know it isn't easy.
    What's making me realise it's not the drinking, it's the expense of the stuff and it takes a lot longer to recover. So the story so far I'm back on the waggon..... One minute at a time.

  • @ivanildoalmada5458
    @ivanildoalmada5458 2 роки тому

    the best video I ever seen

  • @BurnzyRaps
    @BurnzyRaps 5 років тому +1

    Thanks for the videos bud

  • @aimeerebecca1
    @aimeerebecca1 5 років тому

    What if someone has no rock bottom? What if he is faced with all those consequences over and over, given ample loving support, been in and out of AA and rehab, lost his children and entire family, lost jobs and all possessions, plenty of legal trouble, faced homelessness, and finally, facing dire health issues (advanced congestive heart failure).... and STILL isn’t giving it up? Besides protecting oneself and family, since we know we can’t save them, anybody have suggestions on how to reach them? I won’t enable, but I won’t give up hope until the very end.

  • @MiraSthira
    @MiraSthira 2 роки тому

    I really loved this video but unfortunately I had to stop playing it for the groups I run because people really didn't like that you were smoking a pipe when they were trying to quit smoking.

  • @eeerik79
    @eeerik79 6 років тому

    Great vid! But not wanting to give up alcohol for a year doesn´t mean you have an alcoholic brain. It can just mean you really enjoy a glass occasionally or dosen´t see the need to do it.

  • @BurnzyRaps
    @BurnzyRaps 4 роки тому +1

    Thanks bro appreciate your videos

  • @phyllisarringtion5354
    @phyllisarringtion5354 6 років тому +1

    Cunning, baffling, powerful!

    • @sawyerramos3113
      @sawyerramos3113 6 років тому

      Phyllis Arringtion without help, it is too much for us.

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 5 років тому

      It’s not the alcohol, it’s the “ism” that’s cunning, baffling, and powerful.

  • @dhanyadear
    @dhanyadear 6 років тому +3

    1 week sober very hard

  • @sharonsmiler4938
    @sharonsmiler4938 Рік тому

    Great video xx

  • @cynt123able
    @cynt123able 6 років тому +1

    I don't mean to be technical but AA says one day at a time it does not say hello I'm an alcoholic I can never drink again.

  • @nickinurse6433
    @nickinurse6433 6 років тому

    When you just said .."do I have to never drink again like these guys in AA" I had a physical twang of fear. I go weeks at a time without it.....rarely drink more than 2 glasses of wine when I do drink, but I still don't like that I always come back to it. I know I should stop all together, it's poison.

  • @deanhunt8188
    @deanhunt8188 6 років тому +2

    Found your channel in the side bar. Nice videos my man. I still have pains in my stomach and liver all the time. The stuff is disgusting.

    • @lesleybrown1583
      @lesleybrown1583 6 років тому

      juice---milk thistle --aloe vera will work wonders

  • @nevermind2278
    @nevermind2278 4 роки тому +1

    It s day one for me..I can't fail..i don't want kill myself..pray for me

  • @pietjebel9130
    @pietjebel9130 6 років тому

    i've been drinking before but i never experienced this dependence,
    why is it driving me so mad right now?
    yes, community pressure, i apparently have social obligations,
    i hate it, i need to be left alone for a month or so

  • @3..thisiswe
    @3..thisiswe 4 роки тому

    Awesome video. Thank you. Day 3 here...

  • @shizzle1903
    @shizzle1903 5 років тому +1

    I would drink from 5pm until the last bar closed at 5am, several times a week for years. Guinness, Jameson mostly. I thought I had the perfect balance, every two pints, 1 shot. Typing that out sounds completely disgusting. I’d wake up feeling all of the same symptoms like you. I have anxiety as it is but the hangovers, Forget it. I would stay home for two days feel better and then 💥. Back at it again. A vicious cycle that I refuse to be a part of anymore. It’s still fresh because it’s only been a few days.. I think about the social circle of an abundance of people that we all get together and know everyone in every bar. What I’m starting to understand is that many of these relationships are built mainly on.. misery loves company. I don’t drink alone, maybe a beer or something. Mostly with others. But when everyone has had enough or have gone home, and depending if I was single at the time or not.. I’d go to the strip club or casino because they were open to 6-8am. This is not healthy behavior

    • @jordanknoll2864
      @jordanknoll2864 5 років тому

      I normally drink alone, just getting blackout drunk on whiskey.

    • @jamieknight9636
      @jamieknight9636 3 роки тому +1

      How are you going now, what happened to the social circle... day7

    • @shizzle1903
      @shizzle1903 3 роки тому

      @@jamieknight9636 moved away and started fresh.
      Drink beer on occasion but nothing to that degree.
      And exercise daily. I feel much better, less stressed and lost a ton of weight.

  • @courtmg52
    @courtmg52 4 роки тому

    You are telling me that my depression and anxiety and suicidal thoughts are all stemming from my alcholic brain?

  • @krissymarklewis1793
    @krissymarklewis1793 Рік тому

    thanks.

  • @jamesdean469
    @jamesdean469 4 роки тому

    I think I have ckd and I can literally not function in any social setting with out it right now. I need it, I can’t take it. The doctor lied and said I was healthy last visit so I continued. when the ckd was building up I had to do the research on my own. To realize I’m terribly unhealthy I don’t know what to do.

  • @ivanildoalmada5458
    @ivanildoalmada5458 2 роки тому

    Man this video will change my life Irmao..

  • @ivantx2143
    @ivantx2143 5 років тому +1

    7 months sober,

  • @nicolegomez_144
    @nicolegomez_144 4 роки тому

    Ok but how do I talk about insurance issues when I sadly rely on the state? I promise you I have tried every avenue but those avenues were quick to get rid of me. I am a victim of natural selection I guess...it does suck to be me...

  • @johngallagher9786
    @johngallagher9786 4 роки тому

    I was 6 months sober but I gave up and drank over 2 weeks in smaller portions. Now only drink 2 pints at weekend's..

    • @cj5273
      @cj5273 4 роки тому +1

      That sounds like a slippery slope

  • @thegreath.sapiensapien6907
    @thegreath.sapiensapien6907 3 роки тому

    8 yrs sober, I Will never never never drink even a spoon of vodka..

  • @bluecollarstacker
    @bluecollarstacker 5 років тому

    Any tips? I've been drinking every day since I was 19 years old. I'll be 34 in less than 2 months. Mostly just beer(about 15 a day). I've asked God but never held up on my end. I have also stopped for a day or 2 along the way. But by day 4 or 5 I feel better and start right back up. Can I wean off or should I go cold Turkey? Any advice would help

  • @alexpellizzari9371
    @alexpellizzari9371 5 років тому

    i quit the wrong way by going on a high dose SSRI drug and went off cold turkey, meanwhile the going on and off the pill made me extremely depressed i no longer felt able to drink. for at least 6 months. recently i started drinking again occasionally because that experience was hell

  • @forestalmo2417
    @forestalmo2417 4 роки тому

    I'm on the piss drinking 56 percent rice Baijiu , gets you real fucked up . Hate to imagine the damage it does . If I gave up booze I would have to go back to smoking meth tbh . I fully agree with everything you're saying because its all true . I often play Titanfall 2 online and destroy people whilst on the piss . I find booze changes your mind set to I can , it stops the doubt . It makes you think you can do anything , I know its a trap tho . Iv been skating and drinking for years and had many accidents from booze . One day I dislocated my right shoulder when I feel 6 feet onto my right shoulder . The pain was a 10 out of 10 , its the sort of pain most people will never know . I still skateboard these days , but I don't get drunk to the point where I will kill myself