Just a thought... just like you and Sonia show these boys kindness I think it should be instilled in them to show kindness for each other. While the money was sent for only Craig and Dave I see the bigger brothers sit there and never offered anything to their younger brother. But I do also love the lesson you taught... be glad for others and rejoice with them when good things happen for others. Yes, Junior should learn life does have days when others will get and it's just not your day.
@@Harris-Smith Enjoyed the insight…truthfully, off camera we explored the option, but I didn’t want to reward him for his blatant grab for attention and self loathing…in ten year old terms, of course.
My heart broke for Junior when his face went from excitement, to thinking he was part of the gesture, to sheer disappointment. Tyler, I truly appreciate your parenting style. As parents, we quickly realize, that giving in, or saying “yes”, is often the easier scenario. However, in life not everything is easy, handed to us, and we often have to learn things the hard way. This was a fantastic teaching moment. I love how Sonya even jumped in to say she didn’t get anything either, in hopes that would help Junior understand as well. I would love for you to someday incorporate some scenarios with the older boys to showcase empathy. Now that the boys have you, and Sonya, they are learning valuable life lessons, I feel that perhaps in their previous home, not so much. They seem very lacking of basic emotion, which will impact their life in many ways, I am glad you and Sonya are trying so hard to turn things around for them. Junior, keep trying, and doing well in life, good things will come your way my sweetheart. Love you all!
Agreed...and off camera it was discussed. The idea was presented, but I didn't want Junior feeling like he was being rewarded for crying about the situation...in my opinion it would have only supported the idea that if he cries he will get his way. Had he not had his little performance, I definitely would have supported the idea.
My heart broke for Junior when his face went from excitement, to thinking he was part of the gesture, to sheer disappointment. Tyler, I truly appreciate your parenting style. As parents, we quickly realize, that giving in, or saying “yes”, is often the easier scenario. However, in life not everything is easy, handed to us, and we often have to learn things the hard way. This was a fantastic teaching moment. I love how Sonya even jumped in to say she didn’t get anything either, in hopes that would help Junior understand as well. I would love for you to someday incorporate some scenarios with the older boys to showcase empathy. Now that the boys have you, and Sonya, they are learning valuable life lessons, I feel that perhaps in their previous home, not so much. They seem very lacking of basic emotion, which will impact their life in many ways, I am glad you and Sonya are trying so hard to turn things around for them. Junior, keep trying, and doing well in life, good things will come your way my sweetheart. Love you all!
22:38 Great life lessons, love how you preempted the reactions and talked them through it , I take my hat off to you and Sonia for the love and care you are giving this young boys and I'm sure they will will time grow into fine young men, Sending blessings from down under 🦘🇦🇺👍🇯🇲👍🏿
I agree with @Harris Smith , Dave, as the older one should show some humility. He was smirking when Junior did not receive anything. He could at least offer him $100 as a gesture. Where is the brotherly love. 😢
In Dave's defense, he did provide Junior some much needed bike parts as part of his birthday present a few days prior. We did have a conversation about the benefits of giving to others, but I opted to not to reward Junior for his antics, as he would have potentially perceived it as a reward for his crying. A learning experience for all.
Tyler, still waiting on you to decide to write a children's book! Great lesson learned today, especially by Junior. He's learning what life is about..sometimes you'll receive gifts, sometimes you won't but never ever cry over it. Learn to take it on the chin like a man. I'm sure someone is going to cheer him up by sending him a little something!
Indeed, and yes, someone has already...but I'm going to wait until a better opportune moment to give it to him, so as to not make him feel he's being rewarded for his performance. =)
Your reflection at the start of the vlog was thought provoking... and sad too but real. Personally, I had to get my son a mentor outside of our living environment so that his vision can be different. Maybe a trip to the city or special homework project of careers that are different from what they see around them might plant a seed
Junior is ONLY 10 years old. A CHILD reacted like a child. He does not yet have the emotional maturity to able to instantly process that it’s ok for his peers, and not him, to be publicly and ceremoniously rewarded, especially if context was not provided in advance, so he could prepare himself. An unfortunate colonial error cultural legacy still being practiced is, even if only subconsciously, for the world to see black children as ‘mini adults’. They are not. @Tyler and Sonia. Thank you for volunteering for the most important and probably hardest job in the world … being good parents.🙌🏽
Interesting perspective, and thanks for sharing. I guess my only two cents on the matter is I would not have handled the situation any different if he was a white child. At what age would one presume to be able to handle such a situation in your eyes? I suppose if it was not a chronic continued behavior he shows I would feel more obliged to showing a stronger sensitivity towards his reaction, but I guess I was raised differently. We'll see how things play out going forward, and he already has moved on to other engagements he perceives to be unfair, so not going to dwell on this one too much longer. Appreciate the perspective.
@ I was mindful to clarify that certain feelings can be subconscious, but you would know better than I the extent to which you may or may not have been influenced by the history and culture of the world you were raised in and the society in which you now live(that proudly has an age of consent as 16). The presumed age of being better able to control emotions can vary greatly by individual child and what his/her life experiences have been to date. But age 10 is not outside the period when children still struggle be able to not feel upset, or to successfully mask it when they do. Many adults might feel jealously and resentment in a similar situation, but are able to mask it with a smile and kind sounding words. There is still time to help Junior to not become that type of adult. Perceptions of fairness or unfairness can be based on cumulative experiences. Ty
Understandable, and I think that's in a sense was the very point...life's not fair sometimes, and we choose how best we would like to respond when those situations arise...
These kids growing up very selfish, as brothers they dont look out for each other, Craig and Dave could have given their younger sibling a grand each ,have noticed there non-unity even going to school they each leave sepurately ,no togetherness....
@@andrewcampbell2738 Sonwe discussed the idea off camera and I encouraged them not to due to it implying a reward for Juniors crying. I agree they are very independent of each other, and ok the flip side trying to get Juniors to learn that just because some get doesn’t mean he’s expected to receive as well. He often is the first to have his hand out requesting something when another has, so trying to provide opportunities for him learn he’s not always expected to get something. Can understand both sides and appreciate the perspective.
The very idea they are even discussing the bible is something I'm still having to remind myself of as a normal practice here...never would be happening in the US, and always an interesting perspective to hear about how they interpret things.
Cute puppies. Tyler, what happened to the brown puppy? I missed a few episodes due to the election. Also, you are teaching Junior virtue like a great Father.❤
Evening Theresa and thanks for the kind words…if okay with you, I’m going to wait to the opportune moment to present this to him, when the time is right. Let me know your thoughts when able. Blessings😎🤙
Tyler just remember that junior is still young and he has feelings too and maybe he doesn't understand what was going on maybe if you did explain it to him it wouldn't hurt him
We had some good conversations and can’t film everything…not his first time recognizing he won’t get his way just because he cries, which we’re trying to correct isnall
Keeping my thoughts to my self about the money gifts........I personally know what a have not with a sibling and even my mom feels like..... What was that ball cooking on the stove ?..
@@KJ-cj7zw Yea, it’s a tough one, if people send money for the kids, I feel they should receive it, and rather keep it a secret, it should be discussed…the ball…that’s a breadfruit.😎🤙
Okay, sure, gladly!!! I guess it's a bit of a personal preference, which I know isn't a good answer. If you're looking for a rich, bold, dark flavor, then any French Roast really will be the way to go. Blue mountain coffee is also fantastic, but doesn't have the same dark nodes of bitterness as it's not roasted typically in a French Roast flavor. I like Blue Mountain coffee, don't get me wrong, but personally don't feel it's worth the cost, simply because I prefer a darker roast.
Tyler, be careful about revealing money and gifts from abroad. I know that you want to provide clarity and show your appreciation to the people who sent it, but we don't want you or your family to become the target of some unfortunate situation. You can always mention the donations and donation in your vlogs but don't say the amount. I've heard about too many things happening to returning residents. You don't want people to believe that there's a lot of money at your house. Just a word to the wise.
For Junior. Keep up the good work.
Two lessons, junior needs to be happy for his brothers and Dave and Craig empathy.
Just a thought... just like you and Sonia show these boys kindness I think it should be instilled in them to show kindness for each other. While the money was sent for only Craig and Dave I see the bigger brothers sit there and never offered anything to their younger brother. But I do also love the lesson you taught... be glad for others and rejoice with them when good things happen for others. Yes, Junior should learn life does have days when others will get and it's just not your day.
@@Harris-Smith Enjoyed the insight…truthfully, off camera we explored the option, but I didn’t want to reward him for his blatant grab for attention and self loathing…in ten year old terms, of course.
My heart broke for Junior when his face went from excitement, to thinking he was part of the gesture, to sheer disappointment.
Tyler, I truly appreciate your parenting style.
As parents, we quickly realize, that giving in, or saying “yes”, is often the easier scenario.
However, in life not everything is easy, handed to us, and we often have to learn things the hard way.
This was a fantastic teaching moment.
I love how Sonya even jumped in to say she didn’t get anything either, in hopes that would help Junior understand as well.
I would love for you to someday incorporate some scenarios with the older boys to showcase empathy.
Now that the boys have you, and Sonya, they are learning valuable life lessons, I feel that perhaps in their previous home, not so much.
They seem very lacking of basic emotion, which will impact their life in many ways, I am glad you and Sonya are trying so hard to turn things around for them.
Junior, keep trying, and doing well in life, good things will come your way my sweetheart.
Love you all!
Well said and good feedback😎🤙
Dear Sonia, Tyler , Greg, Dave Junior and adorable puppies. Good day. Make guava jam with the guavas
Hiya Fire and Irie family..Good lesson for Junior but I wish his older brothers had shared their gifts with him..lessons could be taught both ways..❤❤
Agreed...and off camera it was discussed. The idea was presented, but I didn't want Junior feeling like he was being rewarded for crying about the situation...in my opinion it would have only supported the idea that if he cries he will get his way. Had he not had his little performance, I definitely would have supported the idea.
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My heart broke for Junior when his face went from excitement, to thinking he was part of the gesture, to sheer disappointment.
Tyler, I truly appreciate your parenting style.
As parents, we quickly realize, that giving in, or saying “yes”, is often the easier scenario.
However, in life not everything is easy, handed to us, and we often have to learn things the hard way.
This was a fantastic teaching moment.
I love how Sonya even jumped in to say she didn’t get anything either, in hopes that would help Junior understand as well.
I would love for you to someday incorporate some scenarios with the older boys to showcase empathy.
Now that the boys have you, and Sonya, they are learning valuable life lessons, I feel that perhaps in their previous home, not so much.
They seem very lacking of basic emotion, which will impact their life in many ways, I am glad you and Sonya are trying so hard to turn things around for them.
Junior, keep trying, and doing well in life, good things will come your way my sweetheart.
Love you all!
One of my favourite Hymns, Take The Name of Jesus With You. Enjoyed the selections. Tyler, your reflections are so deep. Thank you, sir
My pleasure!
22:38 Great life lessons, love how you preempted the reactions and talked them through it , I take my hat off to you and Sonia for the love and care you are giving this young boys and I'm sure they will will time grow into fine young men, Sending blessings from down under 🦘🇦🇺👍🇯🇲👍🏿
It’s been a year together already and getting the hang of things a little better now…slowly but surely. Is it really summer there now?
Thanks for sharing!!!
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I just love the way ander and Tyler talk to each other 😂
Great lesson. One day, Junior and Andre may get something that Craig and Dave never got ❤❤❤
You never know
Life’s a funny thing like that, gotta keep on trying 💪
Love that musical selection, deep❤
Glad you enjoyed😎🤙
Thanks for sharing
Tyler, you should do a review on all the coffee brands you have ever tried if UA-cam allows you to show the brands
Would definitely be a long list, and we'll see what we can do...enjoy the day. =)
This is a great learning lesson for all of the boys, not just Junior. Tyler ,It's winter where I live ( Massachusetts USA 🇺🇲)
Nothing like a good ol' Boston lager for those cold snowy nights...those were the days...=)
The two brothers could give junior something out of their money 💰
It’s true and was discussed off camera…maybe next time
Tyler you love going to Highgate
Ha, yea, we gotta get out more…we typically save our leave the house adventures for video days and it’s the closest🤣
I agree with @Harris Smith , Dave, as the older one should show some humility. He was smirking when Junior did not receive anything. He could at least offer him $100 as a gesture. Where is the brotherly love. 😢
In Dave's defense, he did provide Junior some much needed bike parts as part of his birthday present a few days prior. We did have a conversation about the benefits of giving to others, but I opted to not to reward Junior for his antics, as he would have potentially perceived it as a reward for his crying. A learning experience for all.
So true
Junior looking sad 😔 should've been crying , he will understand... great vlog
Always GOD'S BLESSINGS FAMILY, keep up the good work junior, Dave behave yourself all the time ,Andre is a start in the making
Amen...enjoy the evening. =)
@fireandirie always
Tyler, still waiting on you to decide to write a children's book! Great lesson learned today, especially by Junior. He's learning what life is about..sometimes you'll receive gifts, sometimes you won't but never ever cry over it. Learn to take it on the chin like a man. I'm sure someone is going to cheer him up by sending him a little something!
Indeed, and yes, someone has already...but I'm going to wait until a better opportune moment to give it to him, so as to not make him feel he's being rewarded for his performance. =)
Your reflection at the start of the vlog was thought provoking... and sad too but real. Personally, I had to get my son a mentor outside of our living environment so that his vision can be different. Maybe a trip to the city or special homework project of careers that are different from what they see around them might plant a seed
Definitely agree that broadening horizons is so important. 💪 Thanks for the ideas.
You are very welcome Dave, tell junior it's a new year and his birthday is coming later, great lessons Tyler,and just like that it's raining again.
Takes rain to make rainbows so they say…. Happy Monday😎🤙
Lizard likes savory food too. DWL!!!
Well worth his wait😎🤙
Welcome back andre always want to learn, one amazing kid 🤣🤣🤣
An thks a'lot guys for series show 🙏🏿🙏🏿
Thanks for continuing to watch. Happy Tuesday. =)
👏👏 great listening, lean 👌 Tyler. Please write a poetry 📚 I truly enjoy
Appreciate that! Will keep notes...
Junior is ONLY 10 years old. A CHILD reacted like a child. He does not yet have the emotional maturity to able to instantly process that it’s ok for his peers, and not him, to be publicly and ceremoniously rewarded, especially if context was not provided in advance, so he could prepare himself.
An unfortunate colonial error cultural legacy still being practiced is, even if only subconsciously, for the world to see black children as ‘mini adults’. They are not.
@Tyler and Sonia. Thank you for volunteering for the most important and probably hardest job in the world … being good parents.🙌🏽
Interesting perspective, and thanks for sharing. I guess my only two cents on the matter is I would not have handled the situation any different if he was a white child. At what age would one presume to be able to handle such a situation in your eyes? I suppose if it was not a chronic continued behavior he shows I would feel more obliged to showing a stronger sensitivity towards his reaction, but I guess I was raised differently. We'll see how things play out going forward, and he already has moved on to other engagements he perceives to be unfair, so not going to dwell on this one too much longer. Appreciate the perspective.
@ I was mindful to clarify that certain feelings can be subconscious, but you would know better than I the extent to which you may or may not have been influenced by the history and culture of the world you were raised in and the society in which you now live(that proudly has an age of consent as 16).
The presumed age of being better able to control emotions can vary greatly by individual child and what his/her life experiences have been to date. But age 10 is not outside the period when children still struggle be able to not feel upset, or to successfully mask it when they do.
Many adults might feel jealously and resentment in a similar situation, but are able to mask it with a smile and kind sounding words. There is still time to help Junior to not become that type of adult.
Perceptions of fairness or unfairness can be based on cumulative experiences. Ty
@ Well said😎🤙
Well done Tyler, lesson well taught to the boys. I hope they understand.
That was a bit unfair to junior they are all brothers, maybe he could of been given less. Just does not sit right with me
Understandable, and I think that's in a sense was the very point...life's not fair sometimes, and we choose how best we would like to respond when those situations arise...
Write ✍️ book Tyler one amazing guy 👦
Keeping notes...=)
These kids growing up very selfish, as brothers they dont look out for each other, Craig and Dave could have given their younger sibling a grand each ,have noticed there non-unity even going to school they each leave sepurately ,no togetherness....
@@andrewcampbell2738 Sonwe discussed the idea off camera and I encouraged them not to due to it implying a reward for Juniors crying. I agree they are very independent of each other, and ok the flip side trying to get Juniors to learn that just because some get doesn’t mean he’s expected to receive as well. He often is the first to have his hand out requesting something when another has, so trying to provide opportunities for him learn he’s not always expected to get something. Can understand both sides and appreciate the perspective.
Amen ❤️
Amen ❤️
Sonia 😂 you getting there with dogs 🤣🤣 , Tyler yr Real teacher with student 😂
Agreed 💯
Andre put Abel in a casket. I am weak. Not that he is wrong for his level but, if you know, you know.
The very idea they are even discussing the bible is something I'm still having to remind myself of as a normal practice here...never would be happening in the US, and always an interesting perspective to hear about how they interpret things.
Cute puppies. Tyler, what happened to the brown puppy? I missed a few episodes due to the election. Also, you are teaching Junior virtue like a great Father.❤
Evening Theresa and thanks for the kind words…if okay with you, I’m going to wait to the opportune moment to present this to him, when the time is right. Let me know your thoughts when able. Blessings😎🤙
@@fireandirie Tyler, I totally agree with you. You are teaching him a good lesson that will improve his character.
Tyler just remember that junior is still young and he has feelings too and maybe he doesn't understand what was going on maybe if you did explain it to him it wouldn't hurt him
We had some good conversations and can’t film everything…not his first time recognizing he won’t get his way just because he cries, which we’re trying to correct isnall
Keeping my thoughts to my self about the money gifts........I personally know what a have not with a sibling and even my mom feels like..... What was that ball cooking on the stove ?..
@@KJ-cj7zw Yea, it’s a tough one, if people send money for the kids, I feel they should receive it, and rather keep it a secret, it should be discussed…the ball…that’s a breadfruit.😎🤙
Tyler, here’s one for you…..’never do today what you can put off for tomorrow’……not for the kids tho, of course.
May have to write that one down…not in front of the kids🤣🤙
@ 😀😀
Welcome to vlog of FIRE AND IRIE vlog
Welcome!
Do they have savings account
We have a savings program that we match whatever they choose to save from their allowance each week. =)
Do a comparison of that dark Starbucks coffee you like against Blue mountain coffee? Give me an unbiased opinion as you can.
Okay, sure, gladly!!! I guess it's a bit of a personal preference, which I know isn't a good answer. If you're looking for a rich, bold, dark flavor, then any French Roast really will be the way to go. Blue mountain coffee is also fantastic, but doesn't have the same dark nodes of bitterness as it's not roasted typically in a French Roast flavor. I like Blue Mountain coffee, don't get me wrong, but personally don't feel it's worth the cost, simply because I prefer a darker roast.
@ ok, I appreciate that
Stupid me, thought the dogs had 2 names, Emma and spot mot. It took me a while to understand what Sonia meant 😂 and now
Haha, some days I wonder, too!
Tyler were is the brown dog 🐕
Allegedly found a female friend down the road…🤣
@@fireandirie i was just wondering if he was okay 👍
@ He swing by every now and again…looks good😎🤙
Tyler, be careful about revealing money and gifts from abroad. I know that you want to provide clarity and show your appreciation to the people who sent it, but we don't want you or your family to become the target of some unfortunate situation. You can always mention the donations and donation in your vlogs but don't say the amount. I've heard about too many things happening to returning residents. You don't want people to believe that there's a lot of money at your house. Just a word to the wise.
True, something to consider...appreciate the perspective.
You sound confused is it because you didn’t make it in life you have time you’re still young
Ha, nah, more confused because we did…
Where did they find you you like to play mind games but you are getting older
It’s a long story…🤣