Though I agree with many of the comments about the elitist aspect of this talk, I would like to share this quote “Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own.” ― Bruce Lee. Cheers!
Thanks for commenting this. One of the first people outside my family to be influential as a kid. Still have posters of him around to remind me how amazing he was.
1) Imagine what you want your obituary to sound like by imagining all that you want from life and work backwards from your death. 2) Recall, with the help of those who know you best, the times you felt most alive. Draw them into a comic strip. 3) Get prepared for this drastic life change by doing uncomfortable things, mostly via social awkwardness. 4) Define your life motto that is at the heart of all that you believe in and want. 5) Figure out exactly how much cash you really need to survive by looking at your monthly expenses. (I personally advise that you factor unpredictable events also). 6) Learn what you like to do by helping solve various different challenges others are facing. 7) Have your friends hold you accountable by announcing your deadline to make the big change.
I have heard so many successful people and my mentors mention these principles. They all had a moment where they stopped and made the decision to step away and restart their lives.
Just wonderful, I have been researching "goals for 2016 ideas" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Farnicaas Switcher Capitalisation - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my partner got amazing success with it.
Lots of answers to be had by asking at any given time, "What would I do if I wasn't afraid?" It doesn't tell you HOW but it atleast reveals WHAT. It's often an easy and rather clarifying first step. Her observations of so many restless professionals reminds me of the George Carlin quote, "They call it the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it."
V. Dembsey I totally agree. She was definitely speaking to a certain demographic (she isn’t talking to people who have gambled their savings away, or are in massive school loan debt, etc). She is talking to people who are passionless, who often don’t even know where to BEGIN in liking a job (else they would have pursued their passions long ago.) Based on who her target demographic is, she should have included the clarifying step as you suggested.
i don't make much money and i still find some of her suggestions helpful. When there's a will, there's a way. It might not lead you to the best path you want, but at least you get to walk your own crafted path. Life is short. I'd rather take a shot at something scary but meaningful than to get old and regret how i spent my life.
Kudos to you for this very inspirational speach as I am a 50 year old single male who has never married, never had any children and have never owned a house. I stand here and ask myself where my life has gone and if I am truly happy with the position I am faced with!!!!!
@@curiousgeorge555 Hai, what do you mean by biggest mistake. Did you really moved into a van down by the river? Did anything went wrong, what did you do after moving to the van.
Forget the Backward Elevator test. Instead, be the last person to walk into the elevator, face everyone in the elevator and say, "I've gathered you all here today is because one of you. . . is the murderer."
I think it's sad how much negativity arises from positivity. The lady never says this is the "be all and all". Thank you Priya for your time and advice.
I'm surprised this talk has so many negative comments. I think it applies to people unhappy with their lives, regardless of income level. If you're unhappy with your life, your job, your income level then do something about it. I think this is a good talk and it has some practical tips. Also, the speaker said that this talk is specifically relevant to the 'swing voters', therefore if you're comfortable and you've accepted your lot then you won't identify with this.
This was a great talk and the timing is perfect. I am not in the higher level income, but I am newly unemployed, 64, and looking at what I really want to express in the world.
This is a powerful lecture, I thank TEDx for making these lectures available free for the community to enjoy, to benefit from and to help make this world a better place to live, Thank you for all the videos that you are sharing with us, Ciao, L
Priya - your talk stirred emotions within me and brought me to tears. One of the best and most useful TED Talks I've listened to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and please continue to inspire and share your knowledge. You could be the reason for inspiring the next great contributor to humanity
Brilliant. People who are fearful and insecure are hating on her. What she is saying is to find inspiration and like what you do. Yes, most of us are too afraid to face a little hardship to pursue it.
Not hating .... she is an idealist .... thought provoking but without merit on a mass scale. That's an amazing concept: "You disagree with me therefore you are a hater." LOL
@@retrospectiveparty it's the work that makes them miserable. Don't get me wrong, ik being poor sucks, but working all your life just so that you can ride lambos isn't that shiny either.
Inspiring and wonderful. Re-booting is a choice, one that any of us can make, if we decide to divorce ourselves from our loyalty to the way things are or have been, in favor of what they may become if we would reach beyond our comfort zones. Live beyond our comfort zones. The beauty of Priya's presentation is that she lit a giant green light encouraging us to dare to believe and to leave behind what we were taught to be and become what were meant to be.
Reading TEDx comments and slowly realizing how much uneducated individuals comment. She promotes happiness in others and fulfillment in life, changing your life doesn't have a requirement. You don't need to be rich, or have X amount of commodities, just a perception.
I'm a little surprised by some of the negative comments about this video. I do believe that a lot of Priya Parker's advice is geared toward privileged people (ex. being afraid of eating alone and staring at folks in an elevator to test one's discomfort threshold are what I'd call First World Problems). But this advice can be applicable to average joes like us too. It's not a frivolous nor elitist pursuit to make one's life more meaningful. People blame debts and bills and obligations for keeping them stuck in lives that are numbing or suffocating. But what were any of those student loans or houses or children worth if one's life revolves around fear? Making the radical choice of discovering and working toward your passion, while uncomfortable and scary in the short term, will lead to greater reward and a richer life in the long run. It's a shame the folks who might benefit most from taking a few positive risks, namely the folks thumbing this video down, will never take the leap and will continue to be miserable.
Wow... there seems to be a lot of fear ridden people commenting here. Unfortunately the fact that they are so fearful prevents them from accepting they are or even being able to see the depth of the conversation this lady is having through her talk.. :)
this rebooting idea sounds exciting in theory but many many of us cannot financially afford to push pause on the world & find our talents & start from scratch. Thanks for the inspiring words tho, I made some affirmation flash cards that will go up in my room
This woman is exellent Tells you to find out what is making you to feel alive! What is the biggest need in the world that you might have the passsion and the capacity to adress? What is my passion? What is happening in the world? You do not need a fortune to survive and you still can help others! If you have real friends, than you are a happy creature! Find a menaing in your llife! It helps you to be a better human! Mee too: Thank You Priya!
4k in 4 weeks. Is not that she thinks you need 4k to live, it just an easy way to explain her point. It makes me sad to see all the haters comments. Why leave a comment, why even watch the video if you don't like her ideas? We don't all have to agree on everything but there's no need to be cruel.
Ah, then you're not making lunar landings in your life because what's not to like about those? If you told me you're a permanent resident of Fallujah then I might nod. Create a life supernova ala experiential learning, i.e. places like Choice Center in Vegas.
This is one of the best Ted Talks I've ever seen. She hits the nail on the head about bringing clarity to your life. I also love how she says things in the universe take time and space to evolve, so basically don't beat yourself up. And omg people who are saying this is unrealistic, that is advice for people who do have good incomes, for them to realize that they actually can live on less.
This is just what I needed to hear. I could not figure out how I was going to find the time to do what I really want to do. Now I'm inspired to break free. I've been self employed before and can do it again. Thank you, Priya
Aren't these talks for us to take something valuable from and incorporate into our own life's ? Aren't those talks for us to become better selves? Aren't these talks for us to stretch our own personal boundaries/minds, overcome fears and to get into a new place within ourselves? Lets be grateful for the talks given to us for free. Why do we criticise something that is positive? Are we criticise enough negative aspects that happens in this world? Don't we all deserve to have a better world we live in? ........and frankly, does it matter what clothes one is wearing??....Is it not of a greater importance what point a person is actually trying to convey? Why do we frame people? Why are we not letting people to be themselves accepting them as they are with no judgment? Everyone has their own truth and there are many messengers out there...lets listen? :)
Renata Uznanska yes, yes, yes,because it is fun sometimes, yes, no, no, yes, because we can, because we like judging others and sometimes, its fun online, ok.
***** Hard to live without hope :) You have a more than 50% chance of being correct Anglekan. We kill zillions of cows, chickens, pigs to eat everyday (I'm no vegan) and many humans too, thru legalized wars. WAR is legal!
Renata Uznanska I am thankful to live in a country (which I have also honorably defended) in which criticism of anything free is still allowed. Why is it necessary? Because these people are selling ideas, and those ideas can lead directly to changes that affect you and society, worldwide. If we find a problem with their message or presentation, we owe it to them and those interested in comments to try to help them fix something if they agree it was wrong/a mistake or we can suggest that we do not agree with somebody's ideas and find them dangerous/incomplete/mistaken/etc. Can you imagine an America where you could only criticize things you paid for? Spooky stuff.
You don't need to want to die. By default we are all set to doom the day we are in the womb. Fail your failure to succeed in your pursuit. Don't treat yourself special.
So true! We are cheating the future of what we are able to give because of our darned fear!! It took me years to develop my discomfort muscles. I have been driving Lyft now for 4 years and the numerous encounters I have made with almost 1500 passengers have helped me do what is awkward and uncomfortable and scary. I still need to do more to get where I am supposed to be. I am not "there" yet.
To me this is a groundbreaker. I really admire this sharing. This said, I can't agree with statements like "there's nothing inherently wrong with investment banking" (for example). Well, there is, and a lot. There are many jobs which are surely useful for the particular corporations (that's why they are so well-paid), but useless (or often very harmful) to society in general, and to the world as a whole. And those frustrated cases of people doing those jobs just happen to be aware of it, or feel it.
If you have passion and capacity to address a perceivable need then the first application for that passion and capacity is finding the money. People with huge money are willing and able to support passionate pursuit of need fulfillment, both for-profit and non-profit. If you lack the personal capacity to grovel effectively for lucre then you lack the capacity to address the need and gotta find a different focus; a need within your capacity. Its the combination of fervent passion with real capacity that gives sense to Parker's paradigm.
In my life experiences there are things I wanted to do and I have made it. When I try to connect the dot, I realised God has guided my steps. I will get what God has planned for me because there were I didn't manage because it just not what I am destine to do. We all will know it when we step back and look backward what had happened in our life and it happened the way it should be when God allows it.
Thank you for your sharing...I think I am trodding my way and sometimes i don't figure out the meaning or the reasons between dots. I hope I can tell later on the invisible guidance by Him, on heaven like you mentioned.
Tony Limberg Hi, Tony. You can write to me at choypeichin@gmail.com I have dreams and visions since 18. There were many dreams and visions come to pass in my life. Some were bad and some were good. I was guided by God in life to do what I was meant to be doing although the process was not what I hoping for but everything that happened to me was meant to teach me something. I am who I am now because of all the tough and challenges I have been experiencing. When I looked back I truly understand why people always say everything happens for a reason. Write to me and I will tell you more about God which I was guided by Jesus into church and being saved from darkness into light. I wish to share more with others.
Comedian at 13:00 = C.K. Louis? No. She said the comedian QUIT A PRESTIGIOUS JOB. Louis was an auto mechanic in Boston before moving to Manhattan in 1989. He was fired as a director. He follows Carlin's work ethic of rewriting material every year. CK's life has been one big reboot!
The idea of looking back from your grave, is a real eye opener! The question is how to reboot? Very good food for thought, which might provide some answers.
I was expecting something I could use, but apparently this is just for super rich people. I have maybe 400 dollars per month for spending after bills, and that's only if I'm not running out of anything, if I was that's about 200 down the drain, so I have 200 dollars to work with, so about a good 2/3rds of this talk are impossible or pointless for me, and makes the whole process worthless when I can't do most of it. They need to relabel this ted talk with an added "If you're rich" or "if you're well off" because this was a waste of my time as a normal person.
You probably have: an internet bill, cable bill, rent/mortgage, cell phone bill, multiple vehicle bills, multiple insurance bills, other misc. bills regarding entertainment, monthly expenses on unnecessary/dangerous medicines... You probably don't: sell things on ebay/etsy/farmers markets, run a website, run a business, experiment, brainstorm, solve problems, create prototypes, craft, build things... Try to minimize bills and take up extra income, find a way to make some money on the side, preferably something you can find joy in. If you do all of these things, it is quite practical to save up lots of money. Maybe you need to get out of a mortgage and into a trailer home...
dude, you only live once. Doesn't sound like you're going for it. For example, there are very successful chefs who own several restaurants who absolutely love to cook and started out as line cooks making almost nothing, probably less than you but they didn't care. They used the time to do what they loved and soaked up everything they could to eventually build something themselves. This is also true for lots of other people who follow their passions in life. If you don't have a passion, then you're a dead and lifeless fish. Find your passion and stop whining about your life.
Love how everyone assumes I have the time to do all these things, I work, I run errands, I sleep, and repeat. The cost of living in america is incredibly high, and full times jobs are paying less and less. My full time job only pays 9 dollars an hour, that's normal here, I always hear about jobs that pay much more, but have yet to actually see one open.
There are many immigrants that arrived in NY with nothing, but they managed to change their fortunes and those of their children through sheer hard work, using their strengths and creating opportunities. Why can't you do that?
I especially love all the replies recommending that you live out of your car, stop paying for a phone or any type of internet, and somehow manage to sell things on ebay, etsy, and at the farmer's market....... How is one to do such things without means of communication, room to create products to sell (somehow) online, or land to grow things to sell at a farmer's market while maintaining good health and a full time job? Something tells me this comment thread is rife with highschoolers and college freshmen.
She makes a few good take away points and has a nice presentation. I quit my life in 2005 , not easy but the alternative was just robbing me. A Quote from 'Blade Runner' "Hard to live in fear isn't it, that what it is to be a slave"
I had nearly a decade of off and on employment, unemployment, severely dissatisfying under-employment (in some cases I really had to bite my tongue at the abuse, in others I got fired), and even though I like what she is doing, to most of us, as you pointed above, it is impossible as we have to make a living.
I agree with a lot of the people in this comment section who think this talk is largely made up of bullshit. Life these days is all about self sacrifice; deciding to fuck off and become a rockstar when you have a family to support is possibly one of the most selfish things a person could do (for example). I think a more realistic version of this talk would have been to not give up completely on what makes you feel alive and keep your passions as hobbies that will counteract the stress and dullness of the job you have. Not everyone can afford (literally) the luxury of "quitting" their lives.
the thing about following our dreams and do whatever we want to, is that it's impossible for everyone to have a success story. So some of us can follow our dreams, and do whatever we want, others must do what the others dont want to do. I know what i would like to do for living but I may dont have the skills or the oportunities to accomplish that. Sorry my poor english writing skills
Nobody mentions luck. I would like to quit my job and start my own business, but that comes at a cost. How will i finance myself while my business takes off? What if it doesn't take off? This risk also takes a toll, on your relationship(s), your family, your health etc. It's one thing to give inspiring talks, all nice and dandy, but to actually do it is a whole different game.
The thing is, you don't. You do not quit a job for a business. Rather you start it up as a side project, and if it becomes successful you quit your current job and work on your business by then.
aerozg What do you define luck to be? It is an important concept, humans have considered, probably as long as humans have existed. How is it that an observable phenomena associated with positive and fortunate results can occur with regularity and frequency is considered taboo and unbelievable? Most commonly acknowledged, is the jealously negative internalization. "How come your so lucky, nothing like that ever happens to me." Very seldom do people admit to being or feeling lucky with any frequency, ashamed or embarrassed, though it is often remarked on by others how lucky they are--also negative internalization. Often luck is explained as receiving some benefit without reason or undeserved which coupled with random happenstance, "being in the right place at the right time." Also negative internalization. It's that these negatives are part and parcel to the internalized notion of luck that it does not receive the attention or consideration it should. But what if it was accepted in a different framework of rationalization? I suggest that it should and it is simple to do if one truly pays attention and accepts the resulting perspective. Ever notice how "some people have all the luck" or "a person can have a streak or run of luck." Do you ever consider that luck is not only possible as a positive result but can also be a negative one? That some people are just unlucky? If it's Real and can be Good or Bad, and often occurs in serial progressions. Then perhaps there are causal factors, which is the point of this narration: Luck or the acronym LUCK is Labor Utilizing Correct Knowledge. Often casually observed results are the product of intentionally pursued goals. What appears easy, random and undeserved actually involved work, persistence and research or planning. That this is far more often the truth, than common perceptive. One who hopes for luck when its needed is doomed to fail. One who relies on LUCK and seeks to find it is destined for success. Nobody mentioned luck. Peace
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+Julie Figueroa I first read "Think and Grow Rich" in my early teens and became a fan instantly. Your right, repeat often for best results. In my own experiences, I found that often will apply 3 or 4 principles at any time based on current needs and challenges becomes either tunnel vision or temporary amnesia. Most are so simple to implement and utilize but easily forgotten when not in use. It's been decades since I've read that, may need to dust off the hardcover. (-;\
Anonymous User -And if you can't find it, you can download it free OR stream it on UA-cam (as an audiobook). 😁 Did you know there are ENTIRE CHANNELS here devoted to motivational audio books?!? Well, there are!!! I hardly watch TV anymore...no time for junk.
I been doing that most of my life and I can tell you I'm not happy, messing with people and put them in uncomfortable situations does not make your life any better
Quit my job; junk my truck; sold my stock. Shop @ 5 and 10 cent store, pawn shops, beauty salons, coffee shop. I walked to school three times a day. No income. One bicycle, three friends, one camera and a fish.
To many commenters: Yes, she is speaking mostly to the rich, privileged, basically financially secure people. Yet the rest of us can still learn several things from that address.For example, that earning all the money in the world doesn't necessarily make you happy. Or even, make you feel like you belong.
To be honest this ted talk is just a miss. I dont believe she is talking to the majority of people who are actually unsatisfied and also dont have the means to just quit there life and try and start over. Facts are most people( at least in America) live paycheck to paycheck. Also most dont have more than $1500 dollars in savings. I somewhat understand what she was going for but it seemed to only apply the 5-10%. In my opinion the true answer is to first find your passion and what you love to do and find a way to make a living doing it. In addition, be conservative with your spending and dont live up to your means. Save 30% and live off the 70% left. If you are already rich than this talk may have been perfect for you. Im talking to the other 90%.
she said in the first 60 seconds, she is talking about people that have, quote "prestigious jobs" like investment bankers, corporate lawyers etc. > 5:15 the problem is people drived by fear can't have passion for the job. she comes to slove this problem7 tools to provide 7:16 the first tool ??? 7:52 the tool No.2 ??? 9:15 No.3 being comfortable with dis-comfortableness singing publicly, going out dinner alone,facing other in elevate, 11:21 No.4 life sentence,== ultimate goal??? 13:23 No.5 income volatility solution: 1.minimum expense 2. 40%-30-20-10 each week 3.understand how much less you need for your life 15:57 No.6 help somebody else 17:00 No.7 make a public annocement 17:47 do avoid thinking about the meaning just because it scares you 18:22 what I would urge you to do, think about what matters to you, what make you alive. And what is happening in the wolrd. Then decide how you want to dive in
Rebooting is easily talked about than real, I do not care how many tests you subject yourself to. All jobs make you settle into a ritual sooner or later. That is what makes people miserable. The focus on fear is exaggerated. My fear is that I may find it easy to quit the job I am doing now, and not find any motivation to do anything else than watching TV and getting stoned. There is nothing more off putting than narcissists, drama prone individuals, boring company, and incurious and dull individuals, whose behavior is modeled behavior (largely from movies), and conversation is peppered with modular language, often also from movies and such. I crave authenticity and originality, and abhor the unreal world we have created. Believe me, I am not excepting myself. But I am constantly aware of it. Rebooting may be easier for politicians, office worms, power mongers, boors, and any one else who needs people to thrive off of.
Thanks for the excellent advice, Priya. It was all very helpful for me personally. I'm a creative, visual person so I particularly liked your idea of sketching life out.
I wonder how many people are kicking themselves for quitting a good paying job to follow their "passion" and how many people have actually done it successfully. I'm fairly certain we only hear from the folks who have done it successfully. Unless you've built-up an extensive skillset in whatever career your passion lies in, I suspect you're better off staying on your current career path and pursue your passion in your free time. Without a solid skill-set and thorough planning, I'd wager it's a real bad idea.
The link of education quality of your children by the government forces to your income through home property values is the one that causes the biggest fear in people to not do what they want...and then insurance for their families.
may i humbly suggest, that you did NOT lose everything... you still have your art. Don't give up. keep going..The world needs people like you.... and what you have to give the world..
Learn from the hard experiences in life. You may need to reexamine what you are doing as an artist to inspire people. Find successful people in your field and invite them to criticize your work. It will probably be painful but if accepted in the right spirit you may get some substantial help.
There is much to consider in your comment. 1) "Lost everything..." I know a talented but unappreciated visual artist who insanely cut off his own ear while confined to an asylum. How far did you fall? 2) "who inspires people..." Not yet. Inspiration is viral. Did you really inspire people? How did you plan to monetize their inspiration? A storefront preacher can do it. Why can't you? 3) "people didn't want...." Your mindset ain't right. Jettison the baggage. Ignore the haters. Wipe your tears. Get back on your bike and ride!
Ken Portnoy Here's an article about me, years ago: 2-7-03 Let’s talk local, “Community” Profiles in Courage! “Don’t let it be forgot that once there was a spot For one brief shining moment!” Nine years ago, a man came to Ft. Myers Beach. This man was not big in stature, but he looms larger than life in reality to many. Myself especially! He had an idea, a vision. He wanted to bring the arts and some culture to this beach. Something that 9 years ago, this beach was completely void of! Unlike others though, he took a proactive approach to it! He opened a shop behind the Cottage, The Scope Shack. He survived by taking pictures of parasail customers, selling those pictures and putting the pictures into small key chain “scopes”, selling them to the parasailers. But, art was his passion. He was the curator of a gallery in Ohio prior to moving to the beach, and holds a B.A.F. in fine arts. He eventually moved to the Key Estero shops, opening a gallery, featuring different local artists each month and continuing to run his scope business in order to pay his rent. His third move two years ago, was to The Sea Farer’s Village Mall, where he finally changed the business name to “The Red Curtain Gallery”. Here he continued the gallery in a much more professional manner and also produced theatrical productions. In the spring of 2002 he ran into trouble with “The City of Ft. Myers Beach”. There were a couple local filmmakers who submitted films to the “Ft. Myers Beach Film Festival” and didn’t even receive the dignity of a response back from them. This man, along with John Heim, one of the filmmakers, decided to produce a Ft. Myers Beach “Shadow” Film Festival, literally “shadowing” the original. The town was so upset; they tried every imaginable legal maneuver to prevent him from going forward with this alternative festival. I was actually present in the company of a rival Publisher/Editor when this Editor stated, “I’m going to do everything I can, to see that this guy fails!” The real irony there is: This is the Publisher of a local newspaper that claims to be all for, and about “the community!” How about them apples?! The town tried everything from requiring him to draw a permit that could not be obtained until after the Festival’s start date, to threatening him with arrest! I had actually met with this man and some of these “politicos” in order to try and come to some sort of equitable, compromise resolution. The scenario they painted was so bleak and threatening, I was totally intimidated, and I have balls the size of King Kong’s! This guy was never even fazed though! He struggled on in the face of overwhelming adversity, brilliantly, strategically and dangerously outmaneuvering his opposition and the local government, and went on with “The Shadow Film Festival” right on schedule. The Shadow Festival turned out to be a huge success! Not just for the filmmakers and this man’s gallery, but for the triumph of the little guy over the larger, bully oppressor! I was thoroughly amazed at the lengths the town went to, in order to squash this thing. What was their worry? How come this consumed them to such a degree? Was there not room on this Beach for more art and culture, or was it just a case of a childish, selfish display by the town? Unfortunately, I believe it’s obvious the latter was to be the case! For the past year The Red Curtain Gallery has been doing some remarkable things. Including a production of “Jesus Christ Superstar” in which the roles were reversed, with Jesus being played by a woman and Mary (Murray?) Magdalene being played by a man! There has also been “Art Erotica” night every Thursday night, where every week a different nude model was painted while DJ’s spun music. There has been live music, spoken word poetry and just an extraordinary, eclectic collection of people communicating in many diverse ways. A true “artist’s outlet”! Well, it seems that Mother Nature has achieved what the City of Ft. Myers Beach and others were unable to do. Because of a terminal illness in his family, this man is forced to return up north to his family’s home. As usual, his integrity is shining through and he’s doing the right thing! Ken Kesey once said: “Nothing is forever!” And, I guess this, and Quantum physics have proven him correct. Many others and myself will sorely miss this man, and The Red Curtain Gallery! My own life, and the lives of those lucky enough to have participated in this experiment on the beach, have been enriched immensely! But, like all indomitable spirits, I am also confident the man, and his dream will rise again from the ashes, somewhere, sometime. I love you Paul Longua! And, we will all miss you! Go in peace, knowing there are many of the significant, if not the majority, wishing you the best this life has to offer! Chris Capp "It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that." - G.H. Hardy
+Mind Surgeon I couldn't work out what to call it either. Tongue clicking maybe? Whatever it is, it became so distracting. Perhaps she needs to play her videos back so she can improve her delivery.
***** I paid of 15K in under a year by cutting out everything in my life that is not necessary. 20K to go. Once I have the rest of it paid off I'm financially free and that means I get to do whatever I want. Maybe it's slow going but it's never hopeless.
James Wagner I've tried that. I owe twice as much as you, and most of my loans are private bc the school lied to me and told me not to bother with federal bc my parents made too much. I make $20,000/yr (no degree), I live with my parents, and was still only able to save $6000 last year. I'm scared to apply that money to my loans bc if something happens i won't have the money to fall back on.
***** Try workamping. Live in a van, move to where the jobs are, seek inspiration everywhere. Plenty of work in the oilfields and national parks. Travel light.
It was all going sort of ok, it started like its on the right track, yes we all do live in fear of something so you can't disagree. But the more it went on the more it became something only for the wealthy eg 4000 a month (that shows),Priya has lived far too long in a well to do bubble.
Madam I admire you grasp, confidence and composure in delivery of the topic you were speaking on. You are truly beauty with brains and thanks for contributing you bit for making the world a better place for those lost in the humdrum of life.
The job I do is out of fear of being homeless. I've had better jobs, quit higher paying job, it's my time I can't get back. The fear is I have less time than I think.
Speaking from the perspective of a man who is actually living in a hotel, who has been living by his passion (I am a painter.) for a lifetime and traveling with it for over a year now... my guess is, she is not talking to me, nor is she talking to anyone like me. Instead, she is talking to people who have enough money to pay a "consultant" to give them permission to think about something other than making money and being responsible to their companies and to their families. These people will never, "reboot" their lives. Rather, they may suffer through a mid-life crisis, downsize, and make a career change to something they hopefully will either enjoy more, or at least hate less. It's great that she is willing to cash in on these people's existential angst, but not only did I not hear any useful advise ( for someone who actually has the courage to do what she is asking), neither did I get from her any notion of personal experience to validate or justify any of her "techniques". Can you spell L*I*F*E*C*O*A*C*H? I guess it takes all kinds.
Fear stops rich people. The rest of us are stopped by much more concrete and insurmountable problems, and we can't afford to hire people like Priya Parker to run a consultant analysis on our lives.
So, is the problem that other people in the bank might get offended, or some bureaucratic political reason. Let's say this person does go outside to relieve her artistic itch, and angers some members of the public, then abused, attacked whatever. Is this a scenario you thought of when you made your comment. If I was in that bank, and she was asked/forced whatever, to leave for singing, I would start singing, even if they let her sing, and she was flat, I would still sing along. Its not a WMD.
I think students need to watch this talk. Yes, it sounds as if those problems are only felt by the rich people in the world. But actually, I think they are also experienced by the working class society, the working bees. I am an architecture student who is about to graduate in a year, and I have a lot of fears and anxieties in my mind about what I will be doing in my life. I might have the instinct deep inside that the values she talked about are true. But she puts it nicely, and structured, It gives me insights and ideas..
Tool 2: Ask your friends what your passions are, right? When I asked, my passion is passion itself. I live to love and be loved. I'm perfectly fine in a small home, working stupid hours for minimum wage, as long as I have love. I just wish my love could have understood that before she left. Now, I'm broken.
Tests of discomfort were nice. :) I would like to try elevator one. For this talk, I think many people are not forced into the job because of fear but because of lack of choice, responsibilities, fortune. So the tools you mentioned are difficult to apply for such people. I said difficult not impossible.
Though I agree with many of the comments about the elitist aspect of this talk, I would like to share this quote “Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own.” ― Bruce Lee. Cheers!
That was good
This is a talk I keep coming back to, lots of concrete suggestions. Your quote is also apt.
Thanks for commenting this. One of the first people outside my family to be influential as a kid. Still have posters of him around to remind me how amazing he was.
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1) Imagine what you want your obituary to sound like by imagining all that you want from life and work backwards from your death.
2) Recall, with the help of those who know you best, the times you felt most alive. Draw them into a comic strip.
3) Get prepared for this drastic life change by doing uncomfortable things, mostly via social awkwardness.
4) Define your life motto that is at the heart of all that you believe in and want.
5) Figure out exactly how much cash you really need to survive by looking at your monthly expenses. (I personally advise that you factor unpredictable events also).
6) Learn what you like to do by helping solve various different challenges others are facing.
7) Have your friends hold you accountable by announcing your deadline to make the big change.
Very cool I must try these
I have heard so many successful people and my mentors mention these principles. They all had a moment where they stopped and made the decision to step away and restart their lives.
I still come back to rewatch this every few months. Anyone else? Helped me SO MUCH when I was preparing to quit.
I'm glad I watched this even after reading the comments. Regardless of income, she drops some jewels
Just wonderful, I have been researching "goals for 2016 ideas" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Farnicaas Switcher Capitalisation - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my partner got amazing success with it.
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Lots of answers to be had by asking at any given time, "What would I do if I wasn't afraid?" It doesn't tell you HOW but it atleast reveals WHAT. It's often an easy and rather clarifying first step. Her observations of so many restless professionals reminds me of the George Carlin quote, "They call it the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it."
V. Dembsey I totally agree. She was definitely speaking to a certain demographic (she isn’t talking to people who have gambled their savings away, or are in massive school loan debt, etc). She is talking to people who are passionless, who often don’t even know where to BEGIN in liking a job (else they would have pursued their passions long ago.) Based on who her target demographic is, she should have included the clarifying step as you suggested.
i don't make much money and i still find some of her suggestions helpful. When there's a will, there's a way. It might not lead you to the best path you want, but at least you get to walk your own crafted path. Life is short. I'd rather take a shot at something scary but meaningful than to get old and regret how i spent my life.
Solitude is the best thing for recreation it helps you to know your true inner being.
Kudos to you for this very inspirational speach as I am a 50 year old single male who has never married, never had any children and have never owned a house. I stand here and ask myself where my life has gone and if I am truly happy with the position I am faced with!!!!!
Maybe I'll "quit my life" and move into a van down by the river and then follow my dreams.
Seriously!
That sounds nice!
I dream of going back home to Bac Ninh in Vietnam
(I was adopted and raised in Canada)
Or maybe I’ll go to Japan
I've considered it
Just out of curiosity, did you?
@@levity90 Yes I did! Biggest mistake of my life.
@@curiousgeorge555 Hai, what do you mean by biggest mistake.
Did you really moved into a van down by the river?
Did anything went wrong, what did you do after moving to the van.
Forget the Backward Elevator test. Instead, be the last person to walk into the elevator, face everyone in the elevator and say, "I've gathered you all here today is because one of you. . . is the murderer."
Haha, love this idea. My kind of humor.
😂😂😂😂 This comment has made my day. Total deep belly laugh 😂😂😂😂
Lmao.... Good one. I walk in public with a feed the children red nose
XDXDXDXD
I would love to do this if my boss is in that elevator.
I think it's sad how much negativity arises from positivity. The lady never says this is the "be all and all". Thank you Priya for your time and advice.
I'm surprised this talk has so many negative comments. I think it applies to people unhappy with their lives, regardless of income level. If you're unhappy with your life, your job, your income level then do something about it. I think this is a good talk and it has some practical tips.
Also, the speaker said that this talk is specifically relevant to the 'swing voters', therefore if you're comfortable and you've accepted your lot then you won't identify with this.
Guero Smith you're definitely right. internet is like gold mining field, before you get the golds, you have to deal with a lot of **** people.
This was a great talk and the timing is perfect. I am not in the higher level income, but I am newly unemployed, 64, and looking at what I really want to express in the world.
This is a powerful lecture, I thank TEDx for making these lectures available free for the community to enjoy, to benefit from and to help make this world a better place to live, Thank you for all the videos that you are sharing with us, Ciao, L
Priya - your talk stirred emotions within me and brought me to tears. One of the best and most useful TED Talks I've listened to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and please continue to inspire and share your knowledge. You could be the reason for inspiring the next great contributor to humanity
Brilliant. People who are fearful and insecure are hating on her. What she is saying is to find inspiration and like what you do. Yes, most of us are too afraid to face a little hardship to pursue it.
Not hating .... she is an idealist .... thought provoking but without merit on a mass scale. That's an amazing concept: "You disagree with me therefore you are a hater." LOL
I like that she offers actual hacks and techniques instead of just giving a fluffy speech.
If you are poor and unemployed, just remember - the investment banker in the shiny Mercedes is feeling absolutely miserable
Take it from me, finance is not all it’s cut out to be. Focus on happiness.
They are still human...
But wouldnt u rather be feeling miserable in a shiny mercedez than poor and unemployed?
@@retrospectiveparty Point.
@@retrospectiveparty it's the work that makes them miserable. Don't get me wrong, ik being poor sucks, but working all your life just so that you can ride lambos isn't that shiny either.
Inspiring and wonderful. Re-booting is a choice, one that any of us can make, if we decide to divorce ourselves from our loyalty to the way things are or have been, in favor of what they may become if we would reach beyond our comfort zones. Live beyond our comfort zones. The beauty of Priya's presentation is that she lit a giant green light encouraging us to dare to believe and to leave behind what we were taught to be and become what were meant to be.
Reading TEDx comments and slowly realizing how much uneducated individuals comment.
She promotes happiness in others and fulfillment in life, changing your life doesn't have a requirement. You don't need to be rich, or have X amount of commodities, just a perception.
I'm a little surprised by some of the negative comments about this video. I do believe that a lot of Priya Parker's advice is geared toward privileged people (ex. being afraid of eating alone and staring at folks in an elevator to test one's discomfort threshold are what I'd call First World Problems). But this advice can be applicable to average joes like us too. It's not a frivolous nor elitist pursuit to make one's life more meaningful. People blame debts and bills and obligations for keeping them stuck in lives that are numbing or suffocating. But what were any of those student loans or houses or children worth if one's life revolves around fear? Making the radical choice of discovering and working toward your passion, while uncomfortable and scary in the short term, will lead to greater reward and a richer life in the long run. It's a shame the folks who might benefit most from taking a few positive risks, namely the folks thumbing this video down, will never take the leap and will continue to be miserable.
Wow... there seems to be a lot of fear ridden people commenting here. Unfortunately the fact that they are so fearful prevents them from accepting they are or even being able to see the depth of the conversation this lady is having through her talk.. :)
She sounds like a Landmark graduate
this rebooting idea sounds exciting in theory but many many of us cannot financially afford to push pause on the world & find our talents & start from scratch. Thanks for the inspiring words tho, I made some affirmation flash cards that will go up in my room
This woman is exellent Tells you to find out what is making you to feel alive! What is the biggest need in the world that you might have the passsion and the capacity to adress? What is my passion? What is happening in the world? You do not need a fortune to survive and you still can help others! If you have real friends, than you are a happy creature! Find a menaing in your llife! It helps you to be a better human! Mee too: Thank You Priya!
4k in 4 weeks. Is not that she thinks you need 4k to live, it just an easy way to explain her point. It makes me sad to see all the haters comments. Why leave a comment, why even watch the video if you don't like her ideas? We don't all have to agree on everything but there's no need to be cruel.
I am so speechless on her speech. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you so much Priya!
It is probably the most profound TED talk I have heard in the last few years! Thank you.
Really good message! thanks Irina :)
Not death by PowerPoint, very refreshing!
Very good speaker until the last word.
one of the best seminars I have listened to all year!!! Amazing!!!
if you're stuck in the past, keep in mind that if made all the decisions you think you should've made, you could still have ended up being miserable.
This woman is a genius!!! Such profound insights expressed in such a practical manner. These are ideas definitely worth spreading.
I don't like life and I never will.
same here...Em atheist too.
Ah, then you're not making lunar landings in your life because what's not to like about those? If you told me you're a permanent resident of Fallujah then I might nod. Create a life supernova ala experiential learning, i.e. places like Choice Center in Vegas.
me neither wish I wasn't born
This is one of the best Ted Talks I've ever seen. She hits the nail on the head about bringing clarity to your life. I also love how she says things in the universe take time and space to evolve, so basically don't beat yourself up. And omg people who are saying this is unrealistic, that is advice for people who do have good incomes, for them to realize that they actually can live on less.
This is just what I needed to hear. I could not figure out how I was going to find the time to do what I really want to do. Now I'm inspired to break free. I've been self employed before and can do it again. Thank you, Priya
Aren't these talks for us to take something valuable from and incorporate into our own life's ? Aren't those talks for us to become better selves?
Aren't these talks for us to stretch our own personal boundaries/minds, overcome fears and to get into a new place within ourselves?
Lets be grateful for the talks given to us for free. Why do we criticise something that is positive? Are we criticise enough negative aspects that happens in this world?
Don't we all deserve to have a better world we live in? ........and frankly, does it matter what clothes one is wearing??....Is it not of a greater importance what point a person is actually trying to convey?
Why do we frame people? Why are we not letting people to be themselves accepting them as they are with no judgment?
Everyone has their own truth and there are many messengers out there...lets listen? :)
It's free too!
People are stupid.
Well said!
Renata Uznanska yes, yes, yes,because it is fun sometimes, yes, no, no, yes, because we can, because we like judging others and sometimes, its fun online, ok.
***** Hard to live without hope :) You have a more than 50% chance
of being correct Anglekan. We kill zillions of cows, chickens, pigs
to eat everyday (I'm no vegan) and many humans too, thru legalized wars.
WAR is legal!
Renata Uznanska I am thankful to live in a country (which I have also honorably defended) in which criticism of anything free is still allowed. Why is it necessary? Because these people are selling ideas, and those ideas can lead directly to changes that affect you and society, worldwide. If we find a problem with their message or presentation, we owe it to them and those interested in comments to try to help them fix something if they agree it was wrong/a mistake or we can suggest that we do not agree with somebody's ideas and find them dangerous/incomplete/mistaken/etc. Can you imagine an America where you could only criticize things you paid for? Spooky stuff.
I quit my job to start a business. it failed, now I want to die.
Failed because you gave up?
You don't need to want to die. By default we are all set to doom the day we are in the womb.
Fail your failure to succeed in your pursuit. Don't treat yourself special.
How you doing now? Goes a year you quit your job.
Don't die. Start again.
Isaac Tt What an awfully judgmental and assuming thing to write.
This interview is so underrated. This should have way more views! Great 👍🏼
At the 7 min marks, how to.....instructions to quit and reboot. Great plans, lessons,effective and powerful
An axiom I'm particularly fond of: "Why be safe? Safe is what everyone else is doing; look where it got them." ~ D.A.Kelorii
So true! We are cheating the future of what we are able to give because of our darned fear!! It took me years to develop my discomfort muscles. I have been driving Lyft now for 4 years and the numerous encounters I have made with almost 1500 passengers have helped me do what is awkward and uncomfortable and scary. I still need to do more to get where I am supposed to be. I am not "there" yet.
To me this is a groundbreaker. I really admire this sharing. This said, I can't agree with statements like "there's nothing inherently wrong with investment banking" (for example). Well, there is, and a lot. There are many jobs which are surely useful for the particular corporations (that's why they are so well-paid), but useless (or often very harmful) to society in general, and to the world as a whole. And those frustrated cases of people doing those jobs just happen to be aware of it, or feel it.
ColargolPL i agree so hard with this. Finally someone speaking the truth
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Couldn't have come at a better time. So many of us are numbed, paralyzed by fear.
Lots of people have a ton of passion. Just no money to actually follow them LOL.
If you have passion and capacity to address a perceivable need then the first application for that passion and capacity is finding the money. People with huge money are willing and able to support passionate pursuit of need fulfillment, both for-profit and non-profit. If you lack the personal capacity to grovel effectively for lucre then you lack the capacity to address the need and gotta find a different focus; a need within your capacity. Its the combination of fervent passion with real capacity that gives sense to Parker's paradigm.
In my life experiences there are things I wanted to do and I have made it. When I try to connect the dot, I realised God has guided my steps. I will get what God has planned for me because there were I didn't manage because it just not what I am destine to do. We all will know it when we step back and look backward what had happened in our life and it happened the way it should be when God allows it.
Thank you for your sharing...I think I am trodding my way and sometimes i don't figure out the meaning or the reasons between dots. I hope I can tell later on the invisible guidance by Him, on heaven like you mentioned.
Tony Limberg Hi, Tony. You can write to me at choypeichin@gmail.com I have dreams and visions since 18. There were many dreams and visions come to pass in my life. Some were bad and some were good. I was guided by God in life to do what I was meant to be doing although the process was not what I hoping for but everything that happened to me was meant to teach me something. I am who I am now because of all the tough and challenges I have been experiencing. When I looked back I truly understand why people always say everything happens for a reason. Write to me and I will tell you more about God which I was guided by Jesus into church and being saved from darkness into light. I wish to share more with others.
Comedian at 13:00 = C.K. Louis?
No. She said the comedian QUIT A PRESTIGIOUS JOB. Louis was an auto mechanic in Boston before moving to Manhattan in 1989. He was fired as a director. He follows Carlin's work ethic of rewriting material every year. CK's life has been one big reboot!
The idea of looking back from your grave, is a real eye opener! The question is how to reboot? Very good food for thought, which might provide some answers.
I was expecting something I could use, but apparently this is just for super rich people. I have maybe 400 dollars per month for spending after bills, and that's only if I'm not running out of anything, if I was that's about 200 down the drain, so I have 200 dollars to work with, so about a good 2/3rds of this talk are impossible or pointless for me, and makes the whole process worthless when I can't do most of it. They need to relabel this ted talk with an added "If you're rich" or "if you're well off" because this was a waste of my time as a normal person.
You probably have: an internet bill, cable bill, rent/mortgage, cell phone bill, multiple vehicle bills, multiple insurance bills, other misc. bills regarding entertainment, monthly expenses on unnecessary/dangerous medicines...
You probably don't: sell things on ebay/etsy/farmers markets, run a website, run a business, experiment, brainstorm, solve problems, create prototypes, craft, build things...
Try to minimize bills and take up extra income, find a way to make some money on the side, preferably something you can find joy in. If you do all of these things, it is quite practical to save up lots of money. Maybe you need to get out of a mortgage and into a trailer home...
dude, you only live once. Doesn't sound like you're going for it. For example, there are very successful chefs who own several restaurants who absolutely love to cook and started out as line cooks making almost nothing, probably less than you but they didn't care. They used the time to do what they loved and soaked up everything they could to eventually build something themselves. This is also true for lots of other people who follow their passions in life. If you don't have a passion, then you're a dead and lifeless fish. Find your passion and stop whining about your life.
Love how everyone assumes I have the time to do all these things, I work, I run errands, I sleep, and repeat. The cost of living in america is incredibly high, and full times jobs are paying less and less. My full time job only pays 9 dollars an hour, that's normal here, I always hear about jobs that pay much more, but have yet to actually see one open.
There are many immigrants that arrived in NY with nothing, but they managed to change their fortunes and those of their children through sheer hard work, using their strengths and creating opportunities. Why can't you do that?
I especially love all the replies recommending that you live out of your car, stop paying for a phone or any type of internet, and somehow manage to sell things on ebay, etsy, and at the farmer's market....... How is one to do such things without means of communication, room to create products to sell (somehow) online, or land to grow things to sell at a farmer's market while maintaining good health and a full time job? Something tells me this comment thread is rife with highschoolers and college freshmen.
She makes a few good take away points and has a nice presentation. I quit my life in 2005 , not easy but the alternative was just robbing me. A Quote from 'Blade Runner' "Hard to live in fear isn't it, that what it is to be a slave"
The quote is "Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave."
But you made a good point.
I had nearly a decade of off and on employment, unemployment, severely dissatisfying under-employment (in some cases I really had to bite my tongue at the abuse, in others I got fired), and even though I like what she is doing, to most of us, as you pointed above, it is impossible as we have to make a living.
I had a profession but my life took a radical change, now I don't know what to do...That is why I'm watching this video.
I agree with a lot of the people in this comment section who think this talk is largely made up of bullshit. Life these days is all about self sacrifice; deciding to fuck off and become a rockstar when you have a family to support is possibly one of the most selfish things a person could do (for example). I think a more realistic version of this talk would have been to not give up completely on what makes you feel alive and keep your passions as hobbies that will counteract the stress and dullness of the job you have. Not everyone can afford (literally) the luxury of "quitting" their lives.
karmakameleon113 I think you made great points. You should do a Ted talk at some point.
she is fantastic. thank you so much for posting this.
the thing about following our dreams and do whatever we want to, is that it's impossible for everyone to have a success story. So some of us can follow our dreams, and do whatever we want, others must do what the others dont want to do. I know what i would like to do for living but I may dont have the skills or the oportunities to accomplish that.
Sorry my poor english writing skills
I really love this.... awesome.
I am all in; I completely agree.
Two thumbs up!
Nobody mentions luck. I would like to quit my job and start my own business, but that comes at a cost. How will i finance myself while my business takes off? What if it doesn't take off? This risk also takes a toll, on your relationship(s), your family, your health etc. It's one thing to give inspiring talks, all nice and dandy, but to actually do it is a whole different game.
The thing is, you don't. You do not quit a job for a business. Rather you start it up as a side project, and if it becomes successful you quit your current job and work on your business by then.
aerozg
What do you define luck to be? It is an important concept, humans have considered, probably as long as humans have existed. How is it that an observable phenomena associated with positive and fortunate results can occur with regularity and frequency is considered taboo and unbelievable?
Most commonly acknowledged, is the jealously negative internalization. "How come your so lucky, nothing like that ever happens to me." Very seldom do people admit to being or feeling lucky with any frequency, ashamed or embarrassed, though it is often remarked on by others how lucky they are--also negative internalization.
Often luck is explained as receiving some benefit without reason or undeserved which coupled with random happenstance, "being in the right place at the right time." Also negative internalization.
It's that these negatives are part and parcel to the internalized notion of luck that it does not receive the attention or consideration it should. But what if it was accepted in a different framework of rationalization? I suggest that it should and it is simple to do if one truly pays attention and accepts the resulting perspective. Ever notice how "some people have all the luck" or "a person can have a streak or run of luck." Do you ever consider that luck is not only possible as a positive result but can also be a negative one? That some people are just unlucky?
If it's Real and can be Good or Bad, and often occurs in serial progressions. Then perhaps there are causal factors, which is the point of this narration: Luck or the acronym LUCK is Labor Utilizing Correct Knowledge. Often casually observed results are the product of intentionally pursued goals. What appears easy, random and undeserved actually involved work, persistence and research or planning. That this is far more often the truth, than common perceptive.
One who hopes for luck when its needed is doomed to fail. One who relies on LUCK and seeks to find it is destined for success. Nobody mentioned luck. Peace
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+Julie Figueroa
I first read "Think and Grow Rich" in my early teens and became a fan instantly. Your right, repeat often for best results. In my own experiences, I found that often will apply 3 or 4 principles at any time based on current needs and challenges becomes either tunnel vision or temporary amnesia. Most are so simple to implement and utilize but easily forgotten when not in use.
It's been decades since I've read that, may need to dust off the hardcover. (-;\
Anonymous User -And if you can't find it, you can download it free OR stream it on UA-cam (as an audiobook). 😁 Did you know there are ENTIRE CHANNELS here devoted to motivational audio books?!? Well, there are!!! I hardly watch TV anymore...no time for junk.
'Align the internal with the external'
I don't follow that, i just exist and live off of others.
I been doing that most of my life and I can tell you I'm not happy, messing with people and put them in uncomfortable situations does not make your life any better
I've always been told that winners never quit and quitters never win.
Excellent--------
And, there are ideas for all, even if some don't want to implement everything!!
Quit my job; junk my truck; sold my stock. Shop @ 5 and 10 cent store, pawn shops, beauty salons, coffee shop. I walked to school three times a day. No income. One bicycle, three friends, one camera and a fish.
Sorry I dont know why I'm laughing at this lol
To many commenters: Yes, she is speaking mostly to the rich, privileged, basically financially secure people. Yet the rest of us can still learn several things from that address.For example, that earning all the money in the world doesn't necessarily make you happy. Or even, make you feel like you belong.
To be honest this ted talk is just a miss. I dont believe she is talking to the majority of people who are actually unsatisfied and also dont have the means to just quit there life and try and start over. Facts are most people( at least in America) live paycheck to paycheck. Also most dont have more than $1500 dollars in savings. I somewhat understand what she was going for but it seemed to only apply the 5-10%. In my opinion the true answer is to first find your passion and what you love to do and find a way to make a living doing it. In addition, be conservative with your spending and dont live up to your means. Save 30% and live off the 70% left. If you are already rich than this talk may have been perfect for you. Im talking to the other 90%.
I'll try to build my muscles of discomfort...
she said in the first 60 seconds, she is talking about people that have, quote "prestigious jobs" like investment bankers, corporate lawyers etc. >
5:15 the problem is people drived by fear can't have passion for the job. she comes to slove this problem7 tools to provide
7:16 the first tool ???
7:52 the tool No.2 ???
9:15 No.3 being comfortable with dis-comfortableness singing publicly, going out dinner alone,facing other in elevate,
11:21 No.4 life sentence,== ultimate goal???
13:23 No.5 income volatility solution: 1.minimum expense 2. 40%-30-20-10 each week 3.understand how much less you need for your life
15:57 No.6 help somebody else
17:00 No.7 make a public annocement
17:47 do avoid thinking about the meaning just because it scares you
18:22 what I would urge you to do, think about what matters to you, what make you alive. And what is happening in the wolrd. Then decide how you want to dive in
Rebooting is easily talked about than real, I do not care how many tests you subject yourself to. All jobs make you settle into a ritual sooner or later. That is what makes people miserable. The focus on fear is exaggerated. My fear is that I may find it easy to quit the job I am doing now, and not find any motivation to do anything else than watching TV and getting stoned.
There is nothing more off putting than narcissists, drama prone individuals, boring company, and incurious and dull individuals, whose behavior is modeled behavior (largely from movies), and conversation is peppered with modular language, often also from movies and such. I crave authenticity and originality, and abhor the unreal world we have created. Believe me, I am not excepting myself. But I am constantly aware of it. Rebooting may be easier for politicians, office worms, power mongers, boors, and any one else who needs people to thrive off of.
the first paragraph is a plus. but the rest is strange.
Great, concrete exercises to help individuals who are interested in starting over in their career and life.
Thanks for the excellent advice, Priya. It was all very helpful for me personally. I'm a creative, visual person so I particularly liked your idea of sketching life out.
I wonder how many people are kicking themselves for quitting a good paying job to follow their "passion" and how many people have actually done it successfully. I'm fairly certain we only hear from the folks who have done it successfully. Unless you've built-up an extensive skillset in whatever career your passion lies in, I suspect you're better off staying on your current career path and pursue your passion in your free time. Without a solid skill-set and thorough planning, I'd wager it's a real bad idea.
The link of education quality of your children by the government forces to your income through home property values is the one that causes the biggest fear in people to not do what they want...and then insurance for their families.
love that she makes the initiative to make us wna try different ways to discover ourselves. thanks priya!
It's not fear. It's greed. Going into the private sector or public sector isn't risky. It just pays less.
I did what I wanted to do and I lost everything. I am an artist who inspires people. but people didn't want me to be successful
may i humbly suggest, that you did NOT lose everything... you still have your art. Don't give up. keep going..The world needs people like you.... and what you have to give the world..
Ditto!
Learn from the hard experiences in life. You may need to reexamine what you are doing as an artist to inspire people. Find successful people in your field and invite them to criticize your work. It will probably be painful but if accepted in the right spirit you may get some substantial help.
There is much to consider in your comment. 1) "Lost everything..." I know a talented but unappreciated visual artist who insanely cut off his own ear while confined to an asylum. How far did you fall? 2) "who inspires people..." Not yet. Inspiration is viral. Did you really inspire people? How did you plan to monetize their inspiration? A storefront preacher can do it. Why can't you? 3) "people didn't want...." Your mindset ain't right. Jettison the baggage. Ignore the haters. Wipe your tears. Get back on your bike and ride!
Ken Portnoy Here's an article about me, years ago: 2-7-03 Let’s talk local, “Community” Profiles in Courage! “Don’t let it be forgot that once there was a spot For one brief shining moment!” Nine years ago, a man came to Ft. Myers Beach. This man was not big in stature, but he looms larger than life in reality to many. Myself especially! He had an idea, a vision. He wanted to bring the arts and some culture to this beach. Something that 9 years ago, this beach was completely void of! Unlike others though, he took a proactive approach to it! He opened a shop behind the Cottage, The Scope Shack. He survived by taking pictures of parasail customers, selling those pictures and putting the pictures into small key chain “scopes”, selling them to the parasailers.
But, art was his passion. He was the curator of a gallery in Ohio prior to moving to the beach, and holds a B.A.F. in fine arts. He eventually moved to the Key Estero shops, opening a gallery, featuring different local artists each month and continuing to run his scope business in order to pay his rent. His third move two years ago, was to The Sea Farer’s Village Mall, where he finally changed the business name to “The Red Curtain Gallery”. Here he continued the gallery in a much more professional manner and also produced theatrical productions.
In the spring of 2002 he ran into trouble with “The City of Ft. Myers Beach”. There were a couple local filmmakers who submitted films to the “Ft. Myers Beach Film Festival” and didn’t even receive the dignity of a response back from them. This man, along with John Heim, one of the filmmakers, decided to produce a Ft. Myers Beach “Shadow” Film Festival, literally “shadowing” the original.
The town was so upset; they tried every imaginable legal maneuver to prevent him from going forward with this alternative festival. I was actually present in the company of a rival Publisher/Editor when this Editor stated,
“I’m going to do everything I can, to see that this guy fails!” The real irony there is: This is the Publisher of a local newspaper that claims to be all for, and about “the community!” How about them apples?!
The town tried everything from requiring him to draw a permit that could not be obtained until after the Festival’s start date, to threatening him with arrest! I had actually met with this man and some of these “politicos” in order to try and come to some sort of equitable, compromise resolution. The scenario they painted was so bleak and threatening, I was totally intimidated, and I have balls the size of King Kong’s! This guy was never even fazed though! He struggled on in the face of overwhelming adversity, brilliantly, strategically and dangerously outmaneuvering his opposition and the local government, and went on with “The Shadow Film Festival” right on schedule. The Shadow Festival turned out to be a huge success! Not just for the filmmakers and this man’s gallery, but for the triumph of the little guy over the larger, bully oppressor!
I was thoroughly amazed at the lengths the town went to, in order to squash this thing. What was their worry? How come this consumed them to such a degree? Was there not room on this Beach for more art and culture, or was it just a case of a childish, selfish display by the town? Unfortunately, I believe it’s obvious the latter was to be the case!
For the past year The Red Curtain Gallery has been doing some remarkable things. Including a production of “Jesus Christ Superstar” in which the roles were reversed, with Jesus being played by a woman and Mary (Murray?) Magdalene being played by a man! There has also been “Art Erotica” night every Thursday night, where every week a different nude model was painted while DJ’s spun music. There has been live music, spoken word poetry and just an extraordinary, eclectic collection of people communicating in many diverse ways. A true “artist’s outlet”!
Well, it seems that Mother Nature has achieved what the City of Ft. Myers Beach and others were unable to do. Because of a terminal illness in his family, this man is forced to return up north to his family’s home. As usual, his integrity is shining through and he’s doing the right thing! Ken Kesey once said: “Nothing is forever!” And, I guess this, and Quantum physics have proven him correct.
Many others and myself will sorely miss this man, and The Red Curtain Gallery! My own life, and the lives of those lucky enough to have participated in this experiment on the beach, have been enriched immensely! But, like all indomitable spirits, I am also confident the man, and his dream will rise again from the ashes, somewhere, sometime. I love you Paul Longua! And, we will all miss you! Go in peace, knowing there are many of the significant, if not the majority, wishing you the best this life has to offer!
Chris Capp "It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that." - G.H. Hardy
Some of the exercises make sense but she tuts when she starts most of her sentences and it drove me nuts in the end!!
+Mind Surgeon I couldn't work out what to call it either. Tongue clicking maybe? Whatever it is, it became so distracting. Perhaps she needs to play her videos back so she can improve her delivery.
I have student loans and no degree. I can't reboot.
Dan Mc Cann
***** I paid of 15K in under a year by cutting out everything in my life that is not necessary. 20K to go. Once I have the rest of it paid off I'm financially free and that means I get to do whatever I want. Maybe it's slow going but it's never hopeless.
James Wagner I've tried that. I owe twice as much as you, and most of my loans are private bc the school lied to me and told me not to bother with federal bc my parents made too much. I make $20,000/yr (no degree), I live with my parents, and was still only able to save $6000 last year. I'm scared to apply that money to my loans bc if something happens i won't have the money to fall back on.
***** do you keep your options open on how to make money, as well as to help yourself get out of your debt DESPITE not having a degree?
***** Try workamping. Live in a van, move to where the jobs are, seek inspiration everywhere. Plenty of work in the oilfields and national parks. Travel light.
It was all going sort of ok, it started like its on the right track, yes we all do live in fear of something so you can't disagree. But the more it went on the more it became something only for the wealthy eg 4000 a month (that shows),Priya has lived far too long in a well to do bubble.
Madam I admire you grasp, confidence and composure in delivery of the topic
you were speaking on. You are truly beauty with brains and thanks for contributing
you bit for making the world a better place for those lost in the humdrum of life.
The job I do is out of fear of being homeless. I've had better jobs, quit higher paying job, it's my time I can't get back. The fear is I have less time than I think.
excellent, she has an excellent speaking flow and a powerful lesson.
This is the very reason why I started vlogging, I have done a lot of life and even business reboots and wanted to share my experiences.
I made it to 2:02. About 7.1 billion people have significantly greater problems that corporate execs that wasted their lives earning money.
This talk seems geared towards someone who has achieved financial security/freedom. It was an interesting listening but not what I was expecting.
Step one stop spending $4000 a month? First I would like to make $4000 a month.
this implies that this quit & reboot process is only for those who already makking good amount of money 😂🤣
Realistically..
Speaking from the perspective of a man who is actually living in a hotel, who has been living by his passion (I am a painter.) for a lifetime and traveling with it for over a year now... my guess is, she is not talking to me, nor is she talking to anyone like me. Instead, she is talking to people who have enough money to pay a "consultant" to give them permission to think about something other than making money and being responsible to their companies and to their families. These people will never, "reboot" their lives. Rather, they may suffer through a mid-life crisis, downsize, and make a career change to something they hopefully will either enjoy more, or at least hate less.
It's great that she is willing to cash in on these people's existential angst, but not only did I not hear any useful advise ( for someone who actually has the courage to do what she is asking), neither did I get from her any notion of personal experience to validate or justify any of her "techniques". Can you spell L*I*F*E*C*O*A*C*H? I guess it takes all kinds.
i mean like she should be happy after hr talk... but se i snot.. she is like.she is the supreme intelligent being on planet earth.
very interesting, timely for my needs, very helpful! Tbank You
Excellent talk, thank you much for sharing. It's very important to plan ahead and make sure you can find a better life, before you quit your job.
Fear stops rich people. The rest of us are stopped by much more concrete and insurmountable problems, and we can't afford to hire people like Priya Parker to run a consultant analysis on our lives.
If I started singing in a bank, they'd probably call security...
THEN GET OUT OF THE BANK AND SING SOMEWHERE ELSE!!!!!!!!! its that simple!
Ask security if they'd like a different song.
Whistle that famous Sergio tune as they're approaching....
So, is the problem that other people in the bank might get offended, or some bureaucratic political reason. Let's say this person does go outside to relieve her artistic itch, and angers some members of the public, then abused, attacked whatever. Is this a scenario you thought of when you made your comment. If I was in that bank, and she was asked/forced whatever, to leave for singing, I would start singing, even if they let her sing, and she was flat, I would still sing along. Its not a WMD.
Do it anyway! I dare you!
I think students need to watch this talk. Yes, it sounds as if those problems are only felt by the rich people in the world. But actually, I think they are also experienced by the working class society, the working bees. I am an architecture student who is about to graduate in a year, and I have a lot of fears and anxieties in my mind about what I will be doing in my life. I might have the instinct deep inside that the values she talked about are true. But she puts it nicely, and structured, It gives me insights and ideas..
Fantastic, doable tools to get out of comfort zone!
Tool 2: Ask your friends what your passions are, right? When I asked, my passion is passion itself. I live to love and be loved. I'm perfectly fine in a small home, working stupid hours for minimum wage, as long as I have love. I just wish my love could have understood that before she left. Now, I'm broken.
I have found as someone who did reboot their life that this is exactly how I did it.
Most Exhilarating talk on career and having a meaningful life.
Thank you Priya!
exactly.... ! she just generalized $4000, that's 4 times of my salary :(
I tried her method of cutting down on spending..I lost 10lbs in the 2nd week
Did you gain 20 lbs in the first?
spending $ 4K a month WTF -
I live off of $1200 Month
Im too poor
Feel the anxiety and keep going.
Tests of discomfort were nice. :) I would like to try elevator one.
For this talk, I think many people are not forced into the job because of fear but because of lack of choice, responsibilities, fortune. So the tools you mentioned are difficult to apply for such people. I said difficult not impossible.
I am not rich and I have the same problem. I feel I could do more in life. Help more people. Make a better world.