"I don't miss social cues, i just don't respond" Is such a cold line for some reason and im gonna be using that because I've never been able to put that into words correctly
This is a really bad habit that I do sometimes because I don't want to say "That's a really dumb question." But it IS missing a social cue. It's rude. I find that learning how to socialize with people properly is the most essential skill you could have as an INTP. It can be learned like any other skill. We like to live in our heads and I think a little bit of narcissism is learned from that behavior. If you learn how to talk to people, they're all intelligent in some way and it's actually fascinating getting to know someone on a deeper level. I always have to remind myself that I'm not better than anyone else just because I think about things more.
I'm an INTP male and its interesting to hear the female perspective. thank you for sharing. I appreciate what you said about university. I agree totally! I bailed out of an engineering degree when I was 20 to follow a 'dream" in 3D animation partly to reform the way we 'see education'. Through this long term goal I battled constantly with procrastination and inability to focus on specific tasks. Id go down rabbit holes of all sorts of information. Extroverted Intuition is both a blessing and a curse for INTPs. But years, and buckets of tenacity later, Im running a successful 3D animation company. Have patience and trust yourselves INTPs!!
I almost bailed from my engineering degree after my first year of failing out. It was a rude awakening when i could no longer just cruise by with my typical highschool procrastination strategy on top of dealing with the expected parties and socializing that I got wrapped up in. I had to re-prioritize and focus in on my 'dream' of becoming a robotics engineer..6 years later I found myself with a masters degree in robotics engineering and a R&D Engineering job. Seems like we intps need a good slap in the face to get the motivation we need in order to get what we want out of life.
This is fascinating! It's so difficult to stay focussed, extroverted Intuition is overwhelming. What helped you to direct yourself? I find this comforting and inspiring to hear.
Perhaps our emotions are so dulled ordinarily (we seem to think it a priority to anaesthetise ourselves), we have no motivation until we are afraid. Emotions are so important and none to be found...Your job sounds really interesting, though. What do you think helped you achieve it?
@@revontulet1845 the thing that kept me "focused " as an INTP is actually realising that focus is futile and letting myself not be focused but to apply myself twice as much to compensate for all the day dreaming and procrastination. Eventually I built a team of non INTPs so I can delegate the 'doing' bits. My biggest challenge tho is a frequent sense of self doubt but I try to reframe this as my way to check for errors. I accept feeling anxious as a result. Not expecting to be happy and confident all the time actually makes me happy and confident more often. I think for INTPs the journey needs to be appreciated more than the destination. So try to drop expectations. I mean that as oppomistically as as possible.
@@JakeBananasthe thing with proving people wrong is that even when you manage to succeed with your own efforts and say you meet them again, they will be like "Had I not given you the "constructive criticism"(mostly insult) you wouldn't have made it" again undermining your hard work and making you miserable. My way is to ignore most people and keep moving towards the goal. There are 2 outcomes. You succeed or you die trying. In both cases you will be happy. If my methods are inefficient I always figure it out using logic and optimize my strategies. I don't need people other than few close ones. I especially don't need people who are emotionally driven!! Happy to see you are very successful amidst all this.
I’m INTP, older than you. All my past relationships have been with ST/NT and the worst part about it was at first, they’d be excited to have a woman that “gets” them in ways no one else does. But then eventually they’d have this almost resentment that I’m not caretaking or emotional like women are “supposed” to do you know? Like dude I’m just like you, I don’t care about this shit either, other than baseline cleanliness I don’t care about impressing anyone. no I will not be the social glue for your friends/family, no I won’t be joining the PTA. If you wanted all that you picked the wrong type
"That's interesting because I am an INTP male engaged to an ISTP female. I often find myself playing the role of a mediator between her and her family. Despite being an INTP, I believe it's important to maintain family relationships for one's well-being and health, probably because I come from a big family of seven kids. However, I find myself having to act like an ESFJ (not by choice) to get my ISTP fiance to participate in family events. It's frustrating at times because I wonder why she doesn't want to have a family and let her relationships deteriorate. I'm the only person she'll have in that case. I can relate to the challenges of social cues, but I try to make amends for my INTP nature to other types."
Love hearing from a fellow INTP female. I have no other INTP's in my real life and i often feel like an anomaly. Id like to hear from others about the struggle with "laziness" associated w being an INTP. I, personally, have periods where i don't want to do anything. Im worn down and cant find motivation. Im trying to figure out if its a personality trait or depression or im just a lazy ass who needs a kick in the pants.
It's so good to know you're also INTP. I feel like I'm a very strange person, and it's nice to know there are others. I have this problem too. I feel like my mind tires me and there's no time for anything outside it, or that everything is overwhelming. I'm interested in how much the extroverted intuition affects this, as we can't stop taking in information, and if we were to begin to do something, it's impossible to know where or how or even if it would be possible. It's so black and white, right? I think we lack an ordinary amount of feeling, and somehow we need to recapture an emotional motive to do something. Even if that's fear, even disgust, anything would be better than this. We need to do things without questioning it and then new feelings are added on top of it. I don't think it's laziness, but it's depression caused by lack of feeling because we live in a delusional world and need to get on the other side of it, whilst still managing to stimulate our intellect and at the same time not dying of exposure!
@@LegionGamingTV you could make that argument, but just... why would you type that into a reply and be like "yes this is a good addition to the discussion"
As an INTP I'm trying to understand society to fit somewhere into society. The problem is that what society believes and what society does is fractured and almost purposely contradictory. I'm highly emotional it's just I'm even more rational. In my old age I find I really needed other INTPs around me. Plus I think INTPs understand/feel emotions in a different way.
INTP male here. It's strange to listen to a woman that is somewhat reflective of how I communicate and think. I can see the gears spinning in your mind and I know what that is like. Not sure if I've had that experience before so thank you for that. I was fortunate to have learned meditation when I was younger. That was a real benefit for me as it allows me to filter my thoughts and be more focused. It helped to strengthen my nervous system, which in turn supports my overactive mind and gives me a lot of energy. Unplugging the mental machine helps me a lot. I spend a lot of my time thinking and studying but I also manage a business and have been quite successful in doing so. I don't manage people well, and people project all of their issues onto me because I don't talk very much, but I have streamlined the business and made it so efficient that the profits have increased by 400%. So, at least for me I believe if you can apply your thought process to refining / restructuring the world around you then your mind is very purposeful and you can be quite successful. But you have to find the right environment to shine. My employers are very hands off and I'm allowed to do whatever I want there which is a rare find. But I had to build up their trust over a period of years. I think searching for a place where your way of thinking is needed is important. I personally don't like to talk very much but I have found that writing is very natural to me and allows me to formulate my thoughts more coherently and in a way that other people can digest more easily. I resonate with what you said about your experience at University. Although I dropped out of school before I graduated, I still talk about my ideas before they are fully formed in an effort to create dialogue that refines my thinking. It's very valuable to have conversations with people who can engage with you on this level without overreacting or judging you. I don't often connect to my emotions but I make a distinction between emotions and deep feelings. Emotions are not very useful in my opinion. These are surface level and may or not be necessary or appropriate. I believe they are generally the result of a frayed nervous system. Deep feelings on the other hand are more difficult to connect with but have felt incredible when I have experienced them. I once cried for several weeks when I went through a healing experience and it was remarkable. It makes me feel human when I can connect to this part of myself. Meditation has helped me in this regard as well as there are many different layers and levels of the mind that can be experienced with the right technology / tools. I also teach on the side and my voice is kind of monotone too. One time I belly laughed for a while before a class and my energy was very different and my students noticed a major change in my voice and communications. I think INTPs need to laugh more. My theory anyway.
Hi, I am also INTP but a teenager, I have experienced almost everything you say except dating (I haven't even had my first kiss lol), in general people usually complain a lot about me and that I throw insensitive comments that 'normally' a woman shouldn't, I am also labeled as intense and dramatic, how have you survived being an INTP woman so far? I can't cope with so much
I was considered a "bitch" in high school for the same comments. To me I was just saying the same things my friends would say to me, we all gave each other shit, but coming out of a INTPs mouth the comments will sound different and perceived differently. I thought I was social awkward growing up, now in my 30s it's everyone's favorite trait of my friends. I've learned to not sound so cold but be just as honest. People couldn't handle it in our younger years but people will admire it when you are older.
I learned that if you use humor too ( you make the people laugh at the end o of a harsh truth 🤭) they don’t take it thAaat personal . But of course, you’ll always find sensitive people but you’ll also be able to identify them in advance later on in life .
The benefit of the aging process (there are a few) has given the overall view of "What other people think is not my circus and I'm content to stay in my own lane!" which has brought me a great deal of peace in social situations. I'll appear to not be observing when I really am scoping the situation to bring a discussion into a worthwhile use of vocabulary. One of the Dale Carnegie techniques of finding a quality in someone you genuinely admire and delivering some kind words in that regard (grab people's egos by the jugular) will shift any conversation into someone's feelings and thoughts on a quality you can relate to.....and at that point you can engage because there is no small talk about who won which ball game, who's on the cover of a magazine, or other meaningless drivel many find suitable topics. Water cooler interactions feel like cattle at the salt lick. Fortunately a few honest words can elevate those situations.
(INTP) I actually do miss a lot of social cues and am self suspected autistic. That said, I notice a lot of extroverts I might work with one on one (cook/server) tend to do anything to get my attention, as if they want me to interact with them. Generally I ignore them, but when I do finally acknowledge them they seem satisfied even if I only give them a quick sentence or two. I find it both puzzling and fascinating that said extroverts require constant human interaction and start to fall apart when deprived of attention. I find myself having to humor them at brief intervals while trying to keep my distance so I can daydream.
I don't think intps are weird and abnormal, but everyone else. We simply love the truth, in communication and in social life as well, we do not like manipulation and the undeveloped, uncontrolled emotional outbursts that characterize them. Most of them are less emphatic than us, and cant read between the lines, so its frustrating and tiring to be amongst them. In addition, sooner or later ( rather sooner 😅) we start to get bored, because mentally we don't have the right company. It's like being around children all the time and trying to adapt to their standards. It's tiresome and pointless after a while, so it's easier to be alone. Of course, as an outside observer, this will be strange and weird, but its not us, its them, only there are far fewer of us. Sorry for my english its not my native language.
For me as an old more experienced INTP male that is an important point, a really good comment! For me it is completely relaxing listening to her, because I see her fight for her truth in every single sentence. And add the little action scene at the end of the video it was really a good and insightful video. 😁 I experience less truth with other types, and often I think, if it is at least a lie or simple bull...... In most cases the latter. You described it very well. I would like to give the advice to all INTP to contemplate about shaming techniques. It is the most common manipulation technique, because it works so good.
As a younger INTP I was less likely to have an opinion about the things I had less experience with. As I’ve aged and have spent countless hours studying all aspects of the human condition I’ve found myself having and sharing my opinions because I’ve grown tired of the less informed speaking the loudest. Typical types can be so bold to have opinions they’ve spent little to no time contemplating and it’s a problem.
I've been questioning whether or not I am an INTP for weeks now. I've been trying to learn as much as I can about it through UA-cam videos. I thought I was maybe INFP, INSJ, ISTP........The more I watch your video the more it feels like you are explaining my life. Thank you for sharing this. I guess I am an INTP. I relate so much on almost every word that comes out of your mouth.
Welcome to the gang! I think looking at "function stacks" will help determine what you are, the four functions in detail. At least, this is how I managed to understand myself. I'm so happy you relate, though!
I often stress about the way I interact with the world. Like, is there something wrong with me? do I need to change to better contribute or adapt to the people around me? My mind feel so intense or so indifferent from others, but watching your video and seeing the comments gave me relief that other people think the way I do, too.
The metal bars, as an INTP, I experienced that in college. Pre-college I was forced on ADHD meds and pretty emotionally catatonic (but dead smart), and then when I turned 18, I immediately went off them and moved away to college. During the 1st year I became aware of that Iron feeling, the metal bars, like the old pipe screensaver. And anything colorful in my head felt deeply threatening. Like it would destroy the purity of the logic in me. Or cause chaos. An ENFJ promptly found me and turned me into a project, having me sit down for long periods and describe the colors of my mind (feelings). It was like any standard phobia treatment really, just intuitively done between us. Once I let that for go, the metal bars went away and the pipes became colored in a landscape of color, and it became more about how much of that I irslis'd our into the world. Its been a decade since then and by now Im basically "normal." Still an INTP but imperceptibly so except to those close to me. No monotone voice or random statement bursts. I do still drag on when talking about things I like, but the greatest change I noticed is I stopped saying "I think" so often and started saying a lot more "I feel." I am still something like 5 mins behind everyone else emotionally and conversely 5 mins ahead logically in any given situation, l'm just... more fluid and self aware, and possibly less pure, but more whole.
So fascinating! I don't believe I've ever met an INTP before -- or at least, never interacted with one beyond a superficial encounter. I'm an INTJ male, so it's interesting to me how many similarities we have. The difference being that I'm very forceful in my convictions and can make brutal, cold-like decisions in a snap. I'm a team leader at work and have been applauded for my decision-making skills and out-of-the-box solution finding. Which, I believe, that last part you might excel at as well. Oddly enough, I seem to mostly date extroverted women (ESFJs or ENFJs especially). When I've dated a fellow introvert, it was never an INTJ like myself. I found that part of your video truly insightful... the fact that you've dated similar personality types to your own more than once. I wonder what it would be like to date a female INTJ. Or even an INTP. I think we'd both be sitting on the couch caught up in our own heads, forgetting to talk to one another LOL! :-)
Hello there. I am a female INTP and my husband is an INTJ (after your description, his job is very similar to yours). I can tell you, that it works pretty much like you describe, but we've been doing it successfully for 13 years now, so I guess that's promising. I think people often tend to believe that in a relationship you always have to interact with the other person. We're perfectly happy simply being in each others presence, but doing our own thing. Being in the same room for hours, but only talking a few times would often be seen as detrimental to the relationship, but to us it's vital. We always joke that we are the only people who don't bother us by simply existing. 😂 Every couple of days or so we have hour long conversations about the things that we've been working on, that we've been thinking about, etc. And it's a wonderful way to reconnect our brains and very stimulating to get each others perspective. INTP and INTJ is an uncommon relationship constellation, but I think it can be very stable if you find the right person. Good luck out there!
I'm an intp I don't remember encountering anyone like me. I've came across an intj woman once she was kinda like me but you can feel it's not the same anyway
Another male INTP here. I struggle a lot with social queues and figuring out the best thing to say in most conversations that don’t have an interesting subject for me, especially emotional ones. Romantic relationships are difficult too in the sense that I’m not good at expressing my feelings in words at all and do much better through either acts of service or gift giving. When stressed for prolonged periods, depression leads into anger and resentments so easily and then I feel weird for experiencing those negative emotions. God forbid anyone sees me in that state or I will think back on it years later with cringe. Edit: also, well done! I wouldn’t have the desire nor social courage to put a video up in which people could see my face. Pretty sure if I made videos it’d be more like Infographics channel or something.
I suspect I may be INTP. I find that identifying and expressing emotions (especially intensely) is hard for me. I need to "intellectualise" my feelings by thinking them through and expressing them as if they were rational thoughts. I think I may come off as being cold and lacking empathy, which I have considered. On a brighter note, I do really well in those "try not to laugh" challenges. Stone-cold face. My monotone voice might even rival your own. Thoughts often come in images or something abstract akin to a feeling. I often find it hard to put these processes into words, or actions for that matter. Thoughts and ideas sometimes marinate in my head over longer periods, remaining safely locked within my head as I a) don't see the purpose in sharing them with others and b) I never feel like my thoughts are that useful or well-thought out to begin with. I find myself prone to nihilism and questioning every societal rule. Still, I go along with many social expectations in order to maintain harmony and stop people from asking questions or getting upset with me. It's just less hassle that way, even if I never want to be inauthentic. The irony is that I don't feel like I know who I am or what I want, so how can I truly be authentically myself? Even from a young age I knew I was different. It was never a problem for me, and I honestly didn't mind being by myself, but others seemed to resent me for this. They wouldn't leave me alone to be myself, which caused me to feel resentment towards them. I've seen this as a pattern of society: they resent those who merely are different from them, and they seek to push them down. Why would I seek to be a part of such a society? I honestly find much of the world to be distasteful and intolerable to me. Still, I've had dreams of improving it.
What if you met an INTP whose greatest happiness in life was bonding with you and building a deep and intimate soulmate connection with you in a non-clingy high self-esteem kind of way? :)
I appreciate you going out and expressing what's on your mind. It felt so good to listen and be able to understand because it's also the way I think. It felt warm recognizing other people thinking like me.
I've never heard anything more true as an INTP woman myself - "lack of feeling to express something, cause you've already thought about it". But then, when it's something I care about a lot, I can say too much. It's my challenge to be inbetween.
Great Video! I love hearing a fellow INTP express themselves. It is like traveling down unexplored worlds with deep rich ideas and reasons to look further.
You are absolutely beautiful inside and out. Thank you for this it's very important for me to do the same in return as I think it definitely gives our "tribe" some great perspectives and really personal and rewarding information.
It looks a INFJ social five or six You always start from an intuitive assumption, you don't articulate your intuition well enough to be extroverted/you don't know how to shape it into a readable interpersonal format and I can't see a SI function
I think everyone is subconsciously building a model of the universe in their minds at the very least but the INTP's are the most consciously aware of it and are consciously building that model more than anyone else I think :)
INTP myself, Very interesting hearing from a female perspective .. What I'd like to know is what it was like Making friends and connecting with other females since females are typically feelers and not thinkers so the way you're speaking your mannerisms how was that in relationships with other women , And your childhood making friends Also your ex boyfriend Not wanting to spend time with you , Personally myself because I'm pretty apathetic especially since addict especially since really nothing has meaning so I've switched my perspective from enjoying the universe to really finding meaning and the only thing that matters is other people .. Especially open minded interesting people that are just not stuck in one point of view, People with their own independent thought and just don't follow the matrix system that's set in place being manipulated .. So for me I actually I actually really loved being in a relationship because it focused my goals because then I narrow down what future path I should progress like trying to be the best partner and focusing creating a future to buy a home and build a foundation for a family ect and I enjoyed the time together because I knew everymoment that passed we can't get back ... I've been single for a very long time but Love and at meaningful connection you formulate with somebody else is the only thing that I care about , Everything else material possessions means nothing to me ..
Fellow INTP here. Being too open-minded, totally. It's unique being introverted but also open to anything, I think it's a thing that makes our type unique.
I love u I love u I love these kind of videos thought didn't exist anymore the no extra edited caption the just record and say what u want no promos no faking man I miss these videos thank you for doing this
I only have one important purpose in life. Any other purpose I may give to myself supports that main purpose. I exist to be happy and at peace :) That is all :) I exist to love life passionately :) And the greatest happiness in life for me is soulmate love as described by Dr. Nathaniel Branden in the book Honoring the Self :)
Thanks I understand how you feel, I think we need to get out into the world and experience it to balance the vast inner world we create to amuse ourselves. I do like people but find I tire or get bored of being in close contact after awhile so It's frustrating because I just not interested in what most other people seem to enjoy, like sports and reality TV shows I need to be learning something new all the time otherwise what's the point.
Intentionally missing social cues is still missing social cues. I'm not sure if I miss them or not. I think I'm doing okay, but it's just not worth thinking about, and it's easier to just not socialize except with close friends. It's nixe to be online where you can just hop in on interesting conversations in comments without it being weird.
same, i think in images, visions, but then translating to words is a hefty process and sometimes, even just gestures with hands and moving arms about to express an idea is what I would prefer, but obviously no one could understand if i actually did that
I always explain my mind as a filing cabinet. The info is all there, organized and cross-referenced and cited. But it’s also compartmentalized and stored and completely inaccessible until I locate the file, open it, and skim through it in my head. And I’m bad at finding files. Also, nothing sticks unless it’s relevant or useful or important. I don’t know actors or movies or fashion trends or pointless bullshit videos. It drives people insane.
I would love to meet your brother! What's it like being married to someone with such similar functions to yourself? You must have great conversations with all the Ne. I imagine it would be such a creative partnership. One of my best friends is ENFP. You give us confidence!
I’m an intp female enneagram 7w8… I feel like such an oxymoron. I get bursts of energy as a 7 and can be mistaken as an extrovert. But then I will crash HARD and need like a week of recharge time lol. But I feel so misunderstood and have a hard time with dating for sure
LOL Hello, INTP male here. You dated 3 INTPs?? How.. That seems like a rather rare occurance.. I recently got deeper into this personality typing world and it's been very interesting. I don't think I have any INTPs in my small circle of people. So it's cool to see videos like these and the comments of like-minded people sharing their thoughts (in looong wall of texts that we tend to write in. lol). I've never dated an INTP either, and I'm very curious as to what that would be like. Did you feel like you understood each other completely, or did your shared flaws drive each other crazy?
Yup I pick up on social cues. I just not always choose to respond. If someone is super needy. Is just trying to get attention. It is a pass. I probably have more interesting thoughts on my mind that do not concern you. Or I cant be bothered. If it is important to us intps we will respond. But maybe later. Needy esfjs ugh.
ESFJs have never failed to dehumanise me. Our lack of conventionality is a threat! I find they enjoy giving into all their fears/anger and acting like film villains. They really seem to get off on it, and we...will just detach and make it worse! Although we are also too sceptical perhaps, so often deal with situations in the wrong way, when we would get far more leverage taking a different approach. But I think all INTPs are far more perceptive than they understand themselves to be, and are too sceptical to trust in that. It really does not seem a case of missing cues, but refusing to trust themselves/their body to react to it, and so purposefully making it awkward, or it just is not interesting or would require too much to engage!
@@revontulet1845 I am sometimes social just to get things going. To move things along. Like a lubricant for a machine. It is not like I am a person who locks himself in a lab. I do socialise just to relax without an agenda. But this is not every day. U can go days sometimes weeks. Reading. Gaming. Carpenting. Gardening. Researching thing on the internet. The best friends are those that are not high maintenence. That do nit need to have the friendsgip reaffirmed all the time. I cannot imagine having to live your life through others like some extraverted types. I choose my friends who fit my interests and needs. Not the other way around. Imagine changing your interests and tastes to match your friends. No!
🖤🩸Your channel, videos stronglly gives off early 2010s vibes which is very astounding. Pure, just pure deep thinking and calming expressions. What do you like to do on yoir free times tho?!
Big picture thinking (Ni) coupled with concerns about authenticity (Fi). Also you're process and object-oriented (Te-Se). Making you most likely an INTJ.
@@revontulet1845 How did you determine your type and how can you be so sure of it? Have you tried looking into other frameworks like Socionics or Cognitive Personality Theory where they elaborate on the cognitive function stack in more detail?
@@restoftheworld7200 Well, her shadow of ENTJ might have appeared at moments. She is not concerned about authenticity, but she was giving an insight of how schools are not concerned about authenticity. And INTPs usually do about 15 tests to make sure they are the right type. 🧐
@@dariom3731 From watching her other videos I gather that she hasn't done that many tests. Also, the way she described her thought processes, like images trying to break out of the cold hard bars of logic, says no INTP ever. What type has shadow ENTJ according to the framework that you are using? Thanks.
@@restoftheworld7200 I think that what she was trying to describe with "cb of logic" is that our hero function gets so overwhelmed with making logical sense of everything, that we sometimes can't get out of that "true/false" loop. We also have a living virtue of exploration, which ultimately makes it hard for us to make choices based on feelings or intuition since they are a bit lower in our Ego Stack than the Ti Hero.
Мне нравится этот вопрос, и я слышал, что в России есть своя версия Майерс-Бриггс. Я подумаю об этом. Однако мой двойник по характеру - польский INTP :)
@@revontulet1845 I feel like everyone around is stupid and I started discovering it clearly at age of 17 when I started seeing incompetence of workers at different places, for example Electronic stores. It may be contradiction, because I often make errors when typing in English, but anyway, in school I was doing exercises forward, because time, teacher was giving to entire class, was too long for me and I felt bored, so I finished whole book 2x faster and then had nothing to do on those lessons, so teacher gave me additional work, because I am was not stoic at this time, more like adhd one. And I still need much stimulation. I smoke weed daily since 18 and final exams time, because everyone around me, teachers, mother (don't have father), peers. friends were telling me to go to school more often and start to learn, because my grades and attendance were horrible. In half year of final class I had grade F, but I was feeling confident, because I knew it's easy and I will pass those exams easily later, because now I am busy doing bussiness things (MLM). Everyone stressed me so much and didn't listen to me when I explained I will pass it easily and constantly tried convince me to their rights. Those days I felt like Alien, felt betrayed, because no one was by my side and also felt like Raskolnikov, because everyone was stupid in my eyes. If you're curious and still reading, yes. I passed final exams. I gave myself one month to learn entire material from 3 years and finally started 2 weeks before, just to finish them at above average/high score. Those scores gave me easily access to public Universities in one of biggest town in Poland- Wrocław. NO ONE admited that they was wrong and NO ONE apologized me for ruining my trust to this person because of how they didn't believe in me and tried to put me in those narrow brackets (I mean doing how system told you, not being flexible and for example finish school 2 years later, after my bussines fail. I can always repeat school, but I can't lose people whom I dragged into structure and was working with{and btw I was very happy I making my own money at school time, because 1. I am poor. 2. I loved this activity and this related to this}). Finally I left both Universities. From first I left, because I felt like those people can't teach me nothing and when talking about topics I read a lot, they lie. Also peers were sooo fcking stupid. Parties and alcohol. I felt like in kindergarten. Next year I went to second University. Those people were so woooke. OMG. They started offending me vulgar on chat, while teacher was on it leading a lesson. They did it just because I told that there are political parties, that gain voters, by promoting LGBT. And I told that, because teacher told opposite. That there are parties, that gain voters, by offending LGBT. Anyway. I got kicked from this University, because of my no attendance in first month, because there was covid and I didn't know anyone on this University and it was closed anyway. No phones, no emails, no nothing. And after 2 months of attendance I got kicked for no attendance in first month xD Living this alone life, surrounded by knowledge, peace, weed and video games.
If you don't like the way you talk, I recommend finding an INFP and copying their speech patterns. That's what I tried doing. But I'm a guy, so the higher voice doesn't really suit me quite as well. But it doesn't make me come off as friendlier.
@@fyrsstatusrecords5754 copying people is the best way to notice possible thought patterns. I tried that with the INFJ, then the INFP, then the ISTP. And depending on the state of mind I'm trying to keep, my voice automatically changes to fit the mood. However, as an INTP, trying to act like a xxxJ type is actually the most difficult to be consistent with.
Also, I've been studying story structure and general entertainment for years before I managed to get out of the house. Without the understanding of what people are like, I basically tried to think of my every moment like it was a series of episodes, which I would basically direct. Before hand, I actually ended up watching a bunch of INFJ shows, which helped give me a frame of reference to emulate.
@@BartholomewHenryAllen yeah man I dunno sounds too much of a hustle I know we are not the best talkers but yeah that sounds a bit too much but if it helped you it's all good
@@fyrsstatusrecords5754 I personally think it's kind of fun. Especially when nobody expects it. I usually come off as funny without meaning to, but I c as n just go alone with it and nobody seems to notice. However, it does make it harder for people to understand me. To be clear though, I don't expect anyone to do research. It's just something that just so happened to help me getting and keeping my first job. But it's not actually necessary to copy people's speech patterns. I should probably mention that I have low functioning Asperger's. But it's likely just NE parent. But I usually try to focus on getting things right before I breakdown things for myself. I usually learn things faster subconsciously and I can always deal with the nitty gritty later, so. I don't worry about understanding the patterns until after I got things down. Then I white everything down to organize my thoughts. That way I don't have to remember things as much.
If you think about it, I'm not sure that's the best advice. Review the thought around 6 minutes. Suggesting to an INTP that they should inhibit their action to be more precise... and is counter productive.
@@abigailtorresrodriguez6895 I had a book called Personality Types, by Don Richard Riso of the Enneagram Institute. I don't remember where I did the online test, but I didn't pay for it. Where did you do yours? 4w5 is so interesting.
I don't know iv been to lots of intp groups on fb in kinda disappointed even there I have arguings with people I dunno maybe not being 5w4 is a totally different intp? I dunno
What was disappointing about them? When I argued with INTPs I think it was because the internal logic was too stubborn and didn't try to embrace the other, only hold itself up as some pure standard. Even INTPs do not appreciate that! Some things won't be done with reason, and even then, can you trust your reason beyond its meaning to you as a self-serving system to understand and cope? I feel like all INTPs must be a 5 enneagram, but know this isn't taken for fact. What's yours?
@@revontulet1845 yeah I dunno smthn among these lines. What disappointed me with some of them is their reaction. It's the same reaction I'd expect from normal people or most people like you know ignoring facts not connecting dots and disagreeing just for the sake of it. I'm 5w4 and I'm thinking that maybe other sub types of intps are totally different in they way they use logic? I'm not an expert it's just a guess
@@fyrsstatusrecords5754 I think this might be true. Or some are so enmeshed in their social sphere and appearing harmless that they struggle to think outside of it, or at least to demonstrate that they do. Internally, the thought process might be the same, but they don't express or find interest in the same way. I also think we tend to expect more of other INTPs, so we might suppose things worse than they are when they don't meet our very high standards for connection. We want to be understood, so it's painful.
"I don't miss social cues, i just don't respond"
Is such a cold line for some reason and im gonna be using that because I've never been able to put that into words correctly
I honestly relate to it a lot sometimes, not cus i want to seem cold or rude but it just happens TvT
This is a really bad habit that I do sometimes because I don't want to say "That's a really dumb question." But it IS missing a social cue. It's rude. I find that learning how to socialize with people properly is the most essential skill you could have as an INTP. It can be learned like any other skill. We like to live in our heads and I think a little bit of narcissism is learned from that behavior. If you learn how to talk to people, they're all intelligent in some way and it's actually fascinating getting to know someone on a deeper level. I always have to remind myself that I'm not better than anyone else just because I think about things more.
I'm an INTP male and its interesting to hear the female perspective. thank you for sharing. I appreciate what you said about university. I agree totally! I bailed out of an engineering degree when I was 20 to follow a 'dream" in 3D animation partly to reform the way we 'see education'. Through this long term goal I battled constantly with procrastination and inability to focus on specific tasks. Id go down rabbit holes of all sorts of information. Extroverted Intuition is both a blessing and a curse for INTPs. But years, and buckets of tenacity later, Im running a successful 3D animation company. Have patience and trust yourselves INTPs!!
I almost bailed from my engineering degree after my first year of failing out. It was a rude awakening when i could no longer just cruise by with my typical highschool procrastination strategy on top of dealing with the expected parties and socializing that I got wrapped up in. I had to re-prioritize and focus in on my 'dream' of becoming a robotics engineer..6 years later I found myself with a masters degree in robotics engineering and a R&D Engineering job. Seems like we intps need a good slap in the face to get the motivation we need in order to get what we want out of life.
This is fascinating! It's so difficult to stay focussed, extroverted Intuition is overwhelming. What helped you to direct yourself? I find this comforting and inspiring to hear.
Perhaps our emotions are so dulled ordinarily (we seem to think it a priority to anaesthetise ourselves), we have no motivation until we are afraid. Emotions are so important and none to be found...Your job sounds really interesting, though. What do you think helped you achieve it?
@@revontulet1845 the thing that kept me "focused " as an INTP is actually realising that focus is futile and letting myself not be focused but to apply myself twice as much to compensate for all the day dreaming and procrastination. Eventually I built a team of non INTPs so I can delegate the 'doing' bits. My biggest challenge tho is a frequent sense of self doubt but I try to reframe this as my way to check for errors. I accept feeling anxious as a result. Not expecting to be happy and confident all the time actually makes me happy and confident more often. I think for INTPs the journey needs to be appreciated more than the destination. So try to drop expectations. I mean that as oppomistically as as possible.
@@JakeBananasthe thing with proving people wrong is that even when you manage to succeed with your own efforts and say you meet them again, they will be like "Had I not given you the "constructive criticism"(mostly insult) you wouldn't have made it" again undermining your hard work and making you miserable.
My way is to ignore most people and keep moving towards the goal. There are 2 outcomes. You succeed or you die trying. In both cases you will be happy. If my methods are inefficient I always figure it out using logic and optimize my strategies. I don't need people other than few close ones. I especially don't need people who are emotionally driven!!
Happy to see you are very successful amidst all this.
INTP women are like gothic unicorns, i love it
Just another way of saying , AUTISTIC AS HECK
I’m INTP, older than you. All my past relationships have been with ST/NT and the worst part about it was at first, they’d be excited to have a woman that “gets” them in ways no one else does. But then eventually they’d have this almost resentment that I’m not caretaking or emotional like women are “supposed” to do you know? Like dude I’m just like you, I don’t care about this shit either, other than baseline cleanliness I don’t care about impressing anyone. no I will not be the social glue for your friends/family, no I won’t be joining the PTA. If you wanted all that you picked the wrong type
lol, fr, that’s so interesting tho.
"That's interesting because I am an INTP male engaged to an ISTP female. I often find myself playing the role of a mediator between her and her family. Despite being an INTP, I believe it's important to maintain family relationships for one's well-being and health, probably because I come from a big family of seven kids. However, I find myself having to act like an ESFJ (not by choice) to get my ISTP fiance to participate in family events. It's frustrating at times because I wonder why she doesn't want to have a family and let her relationships deteriorate. I'm the only person she'll have in that case. I can relate to the challenges of social cues, but I try to make amends for my INTP nature to other types."
Love hearing from a fellow INTP female. I have no other INTP's in my real life and i often feel like an anomaly.
Id like to hear from others about the struggle with "laziness" associated w being an INTP. I, personally, have periods where i don't want to do anything. Im worn down and cant find motivation.
Im trying to figure out if its a personality trait or depression or im just a lazy ass who needs a kick in the pants.
It's so good to know you're also INTP. I feel like I'm a very strange person, and it's nice to know there are others. I have this problem too. I feel like my mind tires me and there's no time for anything outside it, or that everything is overwhelming. I'm interested in how much the extroverted intuition affects this, as we can't stop taking in information, and if we were to begin to do something, it's impossible to know where or how or even if it would be possible. It's so black and white, right? I think we lack an ordinary amount of feeling, and somehow we need to recapture an emotional motive to do something. Even if that's fear, even disgust, anything would be better than this. We need to do things without questioning it and then new feelings are added on top of it. I don't think it's laziness, but it's depression caused by lack of feeling because we live in a delusional world and need to get on the other side of it, whilst still managing to stimulate our intellect and at the same time not dying of exposure!
I love your voice and nice to meet a fellow INTP. People accuse me of talking in a monotone too
You didn’t meet anyone.. this is a face inside of a screen..
@@LegionGamingTV you could make that argument, but just... why would you type that into a reply and be like "yes this is a good addition to the discussion"
As an INFJ, I love INTPs and although we have different cognitive functions, I still relate to a lot of things you said.
I love how all intps came together to this video :) makes me feel less alone
As an INTP I'm trying to understand society to fit somewhere into society. The problem is that what society believes and what society does is fractured and almost purposely contradictory. I'm highly emotional it's just I'm even more rational. In my old age I find I really needed other INTPs around me. Plus I think INTPs understand/feel emotions in a different way.
Could we all talk about how literally ABSOLUTELY Beautiful this girl is??
INTP male here. It's strange to listen to a woman that is somewhat reflective of how I communicate and think. I can see the gears spinning in your mind and I know what that is like. Not sure if I've had that experience before so thank you for that.
I was fortunate to have learned meditation when I was younger. That was a real benefit for me as it allows me to filter my thoughts and be more focused. It helped to strengthen my nervous system, which in turn supports my overactive mind and gives me a lot of energy. Unplugging the mental machine helps me a lot.
I spend a lot of my time thinking and studying but I also manage a business and have been quite successful in doing so. I don't manage people well, and people project all of their issues onto me because I don't talk very much, but I have streamlined the business and made it so efficient that the profits have increased by 400%. So, at least for me I believe if you can apply your thought process to refining / restructuring the world around you then your mind is very purposeful and you can be quite successful. But you have to find the right environment to shine. My employers are very hands off and I'm allowed to do whatever I want there which is a rare find. But I had to build up their trust over a period of years. I think searching for a place where your way of thinking is needed is important.
I personally don't like to talk very much but I have found that writing is very natural to me and allows me to formulate my thoughts more coherently and in a way that other people can digest more easily. I resonate with what you said about your experience at University. Although I dropped out of school before I graduated, I still talk about my ideas before they are fully formed in an effort to create dialogue that refines my thinking. It's very valuable to have conversations with people who can engage with you on this level without overreacting or judging you.
I don't often connect to my emotions but I make a distinction between emotions and deep feelings. Emotions are not very useful in my opinion. These are surface level and may or not be necessary or appropriate. I believe they are generally the result of a frayed nervous system. Deep feelings on the other hand are more difficult to connect with but have felt incredible when I have experienced them. I once cried for several weeks when I went through a healing experience and it was remarkable. It makes me feel human when I can connect to this part of myself. Meditation has helped me in this regard as well as there are many different layers and levels of the mind that can be experienced with the right technology / tools.
I also teach on the side and my voice is kind of monotone too. One time I belly laughed for a while before a class and my energy was very different and my students noticed a major change in my voice and communications. I think INTPs need to laugh more. My theory anyway.
That last phrase is perfect. "...we've already thought about it, so why bother?"
That's me every day in some way.
Hi, I am also INTP but a teenager, I have experienced almost everything you say except dating (I haven't even had my first kiss lol), in general people usually complain a lot about me and that I throw insensitive comments that 'normally' a woman shouldn't, I am also labeled as intense and dramatic, how have you survived being an INTP woman so far? I can't cope with so much
I was considered a "bitch" in high school for the same comments. To me I was just saying the same things my friends would say to me, we all gave each other shit, but coming out of a INTPs mouth the comments will sound different and perceived differently. I thought I was social awkward growing up, now in my 30s it's everyone's favorite trait of my friends. I've learned to not sound so cold but be just as honest. People couldn't handle it in our younger years but people will admire it when you are older.
INTP honesty is bitchiness to ordinary females. So you will end up having more male friends and fewer female friends.
I learned that if you use humor too ( you make the people laugh at the end o of a harsh truth 🤭) they don’t take it thAaat personal . But of course, you’ll always find sensitive people but you’ll also be able to identify them in advance later on in life .
I'm glad to say that you've typed yourself correctly. I see many who are incorrectly typed, but you are absolutely INTP.
The benefit of the aging process (there are a few) has given the overall view of "What other people think is not my circus and I'm content to stay in my own lane!" which has brought me a great deal of peace in social situations. I'll appear to not be observing when I really am scoping the situation to bring a discussion into a worthwhile use of vocabulary. One of the Dale Carnegie techniques of finding a quality in someone you genuinely admire and delivering some kind words in that regard (grab people's egos by the jugular) will shift any conversation into someone's feelings and thoughts on a quality you can relate to.....and at that point you can engage because there is no small talk about who won which ball game, who's on the cover of a magazine, or other meaningless drivel many find suitable topics. Water cooler interactions feel like cattle at the salt lick. Fortunately a few honest words can elevate those situations.
I an INTJ/P man. Love this video, it is difficult because we are rare. Not many people get us. Thank you for your insights from your experience.
(INTP) I actually do miss a lot of social cues and am self suspected autistic. That said, I notice a lot of extroverts I might work with one on one (cook/server) tend to do anything to get my attention, as if they want me to interact with them. Generally I ignore them, but when I do finally acknowledge them they seem satisfied even if I only give them a quick sentence or two. I find it both puzzling and fascinating that said extroverts require constant human interaction and start to fall apart when deprived of attention. I find myself having to humor them at brief intervals while trying to keep my distance so I can daydream.
I don't think intps are weird and abnormal, but everyone else. We simply love the truth, in communication and in social life as well, we do not like manipulation and the undeveloped, uncontrolled emotional outbursts that characterize them. Most of them are less emphatic than us, and cant read between the lines, so its frustrating and tiring to be amongst them. In addition, sooner or later ( rather sooner 😅) we start to get bored, because mentally we don't have the right company. It's like being around children all the time and trying to adapt to their standards. It's tiresome and pointless after a while, so it's easier to be alone. Of course, as an outside observer, this will be strange and weird, but its not us, its them, only there are far fewer of us. Sorry for my english its not my native language.
For me as an old more experienced INTP male that is an important point, a really good comment! For me it is completely relaxing listening to her, because I see her fight for her truth in every single sentence. And add the little action scene at the end of the video it was really a good and insightful video. 😁
I experience less truth with other types, and often I think, if it is at least a lie or simple bull......
In most cases the latter. You described it very well.
I would like to give the advice to all INTP to contemplate about shaming techniques. It is the most common manipulation technique, because it works so good.
@@GermanTaffer " it is at least a lie or simple a bull..." exactly.
As a younger INTP I was less likely to have an opinion about the things I had less experience with. As I’ve aged and have spent countless hours studying all aspects of the human condition I’ve found myself having and sharing my opinions because I’ve grown tired of the less informed speaking the loudest. Typical types can be so bold to have opinions they’ve spent little to no time contemplating and it’s a problem.
I've been questioning whether or not I am an INTP for weeks now. I've been trying to learn as much as I can about it through UA-cam videos. I thought I was maybe INFP, INSJ, ISTP........The more I watch your video the more it feels like you are explaining my life. Thank you for sharing this. I guess I am an INTP. I relate so much on almost every word that comes out of your mouth.
Welcome to the gang! I think looking at "function stacks" will help determine what you are, the four functions in detail. At least, this is how I managed to understand myself. I'm so happy you relate, though!
I often stress about the way I interact with the world. Like, is there something wrong with me? do I need to change to better contribute or adapt to the people around me? My mind feel so intense or so indifferent from others, but watching your video and seeing the comments gave me relief that other people think the way I do, too.
The metal bars, as an INTP, I experienced that in college. Pre-college I was forced on ADHD meds and pretty emotionally catatonic (but dead smart), and then when I turned 18, I immediately went off them and moved away to college. During the 1st year I became aware of that Iron feeling, the metal bars, like the old pipe screensaver. And anything colorful in my head felt deeply threatening. Like it would destroy the purity of the logic in me. Or cause chaos. An ENFJ promptly found me and turned me into a project, having me sit down for long periods and describe the colors of my mind (feelings). It was like any standard phobia treatment really, just intuitively done between us. Once I let that for go, the metal bars went away and the pipes became colored in a landscape of color, and it became more about how much of that I irslis'd our into the world. Its been a decade since then and by now Im basically "normal." Still an INTP but imperceptibly so except to those close to me. No monotone voice or random statement bursts. I do still drag on when talking about things I like, but the greatest change I noticed is I stopped saying "I think" so often and started saying a lot more "I feel."
I am still something like 5 mins behind everyone else emotionally and conversely 5 mins ahead logically in any given situation, l'm just... more fluid and self aware, and possibly less pure, but more whole.
So fascinating! I don't believe I've ever met an INTP before -- or at least, never interacted with one beyond a superficial encounter. I'm an INTJ male, so it's interesting to me how many similarities we have. The difference being that I'm very forceful in my convictions and can make brutal, cold-like decisions in a snap. I'm a team leader at work and have been applauded for my decision-making skills and out-of-the-box solution finding. Which, I believe, that last part you might excel at as well.
Oddly enough, I seem to mostly date extroverted women (ESFJs or ENFJs especially). When I've dated a fellow introvert, it was never an INTJ like myself. I found that part of your video truly insightful... the fact that you've dated similar personality types to your own more than once.
I wonder what it would be like to date a female INTJ. Or even an INTP. I think we'd both be sitting on the couch caught up in our own heads, forgetting to talk to one another LOL! :-)
Hello there.
I am a female INTP and my husband is an INTJ (after your description, his job is very similar to yours). I can tell you, that it works pretty much like you describe, but we've been doing it successfully for 13 years now, so I guess that's promising. I think people often tend to believe that in a relationship you always have to interact with the other person. We're perfectly happy simply being in each others presence, but doing our own thing. Being in the same room for hours, but only talking a few times would often be seen as detrimental to the relationship, but to us it's vital. We always joke that we are the only people who don't bother us by simply existing. 😂 Every couple of days or so we have hour long conversations about the things that we've been working on, that we've been thinking about, etc. And it's a wonderful way to reconnect our brains and very stimulating to get each others perspective.
INTP and INTJ is an uncommon relationship constellation, but I think it can be very stable if you find the right person. Good luck out there!
I'm an intp I don't remember encountering anyone like me. I've came across an intj woman once she was kinda like me but you can feel it's not the same anyway
Another male INTP here. I struggle a lot with social queues and figuring out the best thing to say in most conversations that don’t have an interesting subject for me, especially emotional ones. Romantic relationships are difficult too in the sense that I’m not good at expressing my feelings in words at all and do much better through either acts of service or gift giving. When stressed for prolonged periods, depression leads into anger and resentments so easily and then I feel weird for experiencing those negative emotions. God forbid anyone sees me in that state or I will think back on it years later with cringe.
Edit: also, well done! I wouldn’t have the desire nor social courage to put a video up in which people could see my face. Pretty sure if I made videos it’d be more like Infographics channel or something.
Cues, not queues
I suspect I may be INTP. I find that identifying and expressing emotions (especially intensely) is hard for me. I need to "intellectualise" my feelings by thinking them through and expressing them as if they were rational thoughts. I think I may come off as being cold and lacking empathy, which I have considered. On a brighter note, I do really well in those "try not to laugh" challenges. Stone-cold face. My monotone voice might even rival your own.
Thoughts often come in images or something abstract akin to a feeling. I often find it hard to put these processes into words, or actions for that matter. Thoughts and ideas sometimes marinate in my head over longer periods, remaining safely locked within my head as I a) don't see the purpose in sharing them with others and b) I never feel like my thoughts are that useful or well-thought out to begin with.
I find myself prone to nihilism and questioning every societal rule. Still, I go along with many social expectations in order to maintain harmony and stop people from asking questions or getting upset with me. It's just less hassle that way, even if I never want to be inauthentic. The irony is that I don't feel like I know who I am or what I want, so how can I truly be authentically myself?
Even from a young age I knew I was different. It was never a problem for me, and I honestly didn't mind being by myself, but others seemed to resent me for this. They wouldn't leave me alone to be myself, which caused me to feel resentment towards them. I've seen this as a pattern of society: they resent those who merely are different from them, and they seek to push them down. Why would I seek to be a part of such a society? I honestly find much of the world to be distasteful and intolerable to me. Still, I've had dreams of improving it.
I haven't even read anything as a intp too and u just said I suspect u def are 😭
What if you met an INTP whose greatest happiness in life was bonding with you and building a deep and intimate soulmate connection with you in a non-clingy high self-esteem kind of way? :)
I appreciate you going out and expressing what's on your mind. It felt so good to listen and be able to understand because it's also the way I think. It felt warm recognizing other people thinking like me.
I've never heard anything more true as an INTP woman myself - "lack of feeling to express something, cause you've already thought about it". But then, when it's something I care about a lot, I can say too much. It's my challenge to be inbetween.
As an INTP I truly relate to your way of thinking
Great Video! I love hearing a fellow INTP express themselves. It is like traveling down unexplored worlds with deep rich ideas and reasons to look further.
You are absolutely beautiful inside and out. Thank you for this it's very important for me to do the same in return as I think it definitely gives our "tribe" some great perspectives and really personal and rewarding information.
An INTP male here and it's great to get insights from an INTP woman.
It looks a INFJ social five or six
You always start from an intuitive assumption, you don't articulate your intuition well enough to be extroverted/you don't know how to shape it into a readable interpersonal format and I can't see a SI function
She’s probably an intj.
I think everyone is subconsciously building a model of the universe in their minds at the very least but the INTP's are the most consciously aware of it and are consciously building that model more than anyone else I think :)
INTP myself, Very interesting hearing from a female perspective .. What I'd like to know is what it was like Making friends and connecting with other females since females are typically feelers and not thinkers so the way you're speaking your mannerisms how was that in relationships with other women , And your childhood making friends
Also your ex boyfriend Not wanting to spend time with you , Personally myself because I'm pretty apathetic especially since addict especially since really nothing has meaning so I've switched my perspective from enjoying the universe to really finding meaning and the only thing that matters is other people .. Especially open minded interesting people that are just not stuck in one point of view, People with their own independent thought and just don't follow the matrix system that's set in place being manipulated .. So for me I actually I actually really loved being in a relationship because it focused my goals because then I narrow down what future path I should progress like trying to be the best partner and focusing creating a future to buy a home and build a foundation for a family ect and I enjoyed the time together because I knew everymoment that passed we can't get back ... I've been single for a very long time but Love and at meaningful connection you formulate with somebody else is the only thing that I care about , Everything else material possessions means nothing to me ..
I'm just a simple INTP fella who wouldn't mind spending time with an INTP gal.
Trust me won't work out.
Cognitive synchronicity is necessary.
Fellow INTP here. Being too open-minded, totally. It's unique being introverted but also open to anything, I think it's a thing that makes our type unique.
I love u I love u I love these kind of videos thought didn't exist anymore the no extra edited caption the just record and say what u want no promos no faking man I miss these videos thank you for doing this
Thank you!
I only have one important purpose in life. Any other purpose I may give to myself supports that main purpose. I exist to be happy and at peace :) That is all :) I exist to love life passionately :) And the greatest happiness in life for me is soulmate love as described by Dr. Nathaniel Branden in the book Honoring the Self :)
I find intp interesting and they should be protected at all costs and not changed.❤ My son is intp and everyone tries to change him
I wish to be at a party full of INTP's.
It will be very quiet and awkward haha
Thanks I understand how you feel, I think we need to get out into the world and experience it to balance the vast inner world we create to amuse ourselves. I do like people but find I tire or get bored of being in close contact after awhile so
It's frustrating because I just not interested in what most other people seem to enjoy, like sports and reality TV shows I need to be learning something new all the time otherwise what's the point.
Intentionally missing social cues is still missing social cues. I'm not sure if I miss them or not. I think I'm doing okay, but it's just not worth thinking about, and it's easier to just not socialize except with close friends.
It's nixe to be online where you can just hop in on interesting conversations in comments without it being weird.
My mind is more like a group of oddly assorted file cabinets, rather than a "mind palace", but they make sense to me.
same, i think in images, visions, but then translating to words is a hefty process and sometimes, even just gestures with hands and moving arms about to express an idea is what I would prefer, but obviously no one could understand if i actually did that
My experiences with female INTPs have been concerning. It goes way beyond social cues.
Please keep doing these videos. I'm very curious about my female counterpart.
I always explain my mind as a filing cabinet. The info is all there, organized and cross-referenced and cited. But it’s also compartmentalized and stored and completely inaccessible until I locate the file, open it, and skim through it in my head. And I’m bad at finding files.
Also, nothing sticks unless it’s relevant or useful or important. I don’t know actors or movies or fashion trends or pointless bullshit videos. It drives people insane.
Robot like expressions, but I guess we intps have worked hard at our poker face that we don't even realize it.
I do not think you are weird. the word weird has a negative connotation to it. I think you are extraordinary. Not ordinary. Extraordinary :)
Well said. I just wanted to say that you have a very beautiful face.
Please make more videos so I can listen to you nonestop as background music haha
Hi from an INTP. We are not weird, we are unique. ;)
My brother is an INTP. Haha, you are very similar to him.. 😅🥳 im an ENFP and my Wife INFP. Can see some similarities though.. 🤙😍 great video.
I would love to meet your brother! What's it like being married to someone with such similar functions to yourself? You must have great conversations with all the Ne. I imagine it would be such a creative partnership. One of my best friends is ENFP. You give us confidence!
I’m an intp female enneagram 7w8… I feel like such an oxymoron. I get bursts of energy as a 7 and can be mistaken as an extrovert. But then I will crash HARD and need like a week of recharge time lol. But I feel so misunderstood and have a hard time with dating for sure
You need to raise your volume. I had to tun on subtitles to understand almost half your words.
LOL Hello, INTP male here. You dated 3 INTPs?? How.. That seems like a rather rare occurance.. I recently got deeper into this personality typing world and it's been very interesting. I don't think I have any INTPs in my small circle of people. So it's cool to see videos like these and the comments of like-minded people sharing their thoughts (in looong wall of texts that we tend to write in. lol). I've never dated an INTP either, and I'm very curious as to what that would be like. Did you feel like you understood each other completely, or did your shared flaws drive each other crazy?
Exactly. In fact introverts are scanty where I live. People are just too loud, confident.
Introverts can masquerade as extroverts but I think there should be tall-tale signs...@@aravindg2504
Yup I pick up on social cues. I just not always choose to respond. If someone is super needy. Is just trying to get attention. It is a pass.
I probably have more interesting thoughts on my mind that do not concern you. Or I cant be bothered.
If it is important to us intps we will respond. But maybe later.
Needy esfjs ugh.
ESFJs have never failed to dehumanise me. Our lack of conventionality is a threat! I find they enjoy giving into all their fears/anger and acting like film villains. They really seem to get off on it, and we...will just detach and make it worse! Although we are also too sceptical perhaps, so often deal with situations in the wrong way, when we would get far more leverage taking a different approach. But I think all INTPs are far more perceptive than they understand themselves to be, and are too sceptical to trust in that. It really does not seem a case of missing cues, but refusing to trust themselves/their body to react to it, and so purposefully making it awkward, or it just is not interesting or would require too much to engage!
@@revontulet1845 I am sometimes social just to get things going. To move things along.
Like a lubricant for a machine.
It is not like I am a person who locks himself in a lab.
I do socialise just to relax without an agenda.
But this is not every day. U can go days sometimes weeks. Reading. Gaming. Carpenting. Gardening. Researching thing on the internet.
The best friends are those that are not high maintenence. That do nit need to have the friendsgip reaffirmed all the time.
I cannot imagine having to live your life through others like some extraverted types.
I choose my friends who fit my interests and needs. Not the other way around. Imagine changing your interests and tastes to match your friends. No!
Thems some real nice thoughts there, mate.
🖤🩸Your channel, videos stronglly gives off early 2010s vibes which is very astounding. Pure, just pure deep thinking and calming expressions. What do you like to do on yoir free times tho?!
It’d love to just talk to you I’m an intp monk now am a 38 year old male but you’re brain seem like a nice conversation
i love this comment section. big smile on me
You are awesome :)
Intp male here love to know that there other intps
female intp's >>>>>>>>>>
What it's like to be a female INTP. I think... The End lol
I'm in love
If you're thinking in the big picture and find that the metal bars of logic limit you, then you are most likely an INTJ.
Big picture thinking (Ni) coupled with concerns about authenticity (Fi). Also you're process and object-oriented (Te-Se). Making you most likely an INTJ.
I'm definitely not an INTJ 😂
@@revontulet1845 How did you determine your type and how can you be so sure of it? Have you tried looking into other frameworks like Socionics or Cognitive Personality Theory where they elaborate on the cognitive function stack in more detail?
@@restoftheworld7200 Well, her shadow of ENTJ might have appeared at moments. She is not concerned about authenticity, but she was giving an insight of how schools are not concerned about authenticity. And INTPs usually do about 15 tests to make sure they are the right type. 🧐
@@dariom3731 From watching her other videos I gather that she hasn't done that many tests. Also, the way she described her thought processes, like images trying to break out of the cold hard bars of logic, says no INTP ever. What type has shadow ENTJ according to the framework that you are using? Thanks.
@@restoftheworld7200 I think that what she was trying to describe with "cb of logic" is that our hero function gets so overwhelmed with making logical sense of everything, that we sometimes can't get out of that "true/false" loop. We also have a living virtue of exploration, which ultimately makes it hard for us to make choices based on feelings or intuition since they are a bit lower in our Ego Stack than the Ti Hero.
3 weeks ago. damn. same thoughts. cool video
как же все таки intp различаются по происхождению (имеются ввиду страны)
Мне нравится этот вопрос, и я слышал, что в России есть своя версия Майерс-Бриггс. Я подумаю об этом. Однако мой двойник по характеру - польский INTP :)
How are you INTP? :) Are you INTP-A or INTP-T? :)
Do you see the world as black and white?
I used to. I don't anymore, but it's like a default I've struggled with. Do you?
@@revontulet1845 im trying to figure it out. How do you percieve it full noir? 😂
@@123sLb123 There are shades of grey, and thankfully a bit of color once in a while.
Hi, intp 8w7 here
Hey! What's it like being an 8w7?
@@revontulet1845 I feel like everyone around is stupid and I started discovering it clearly at age of 17 when I started seeing incompetence of workers at different places, for example Electronic stores.
It may be contradiction, because I often make errors when typing in English, but anyway, in school I was doing exercises forward, because time, teacher was giving to entire class, was too long for me and I felt bored, so I finished whole book 2x faster and then had nothing to do on those lessons, so teacher gave me additional work, because I am was not stoic at this time, more like adhd one. And I still need much stimulation. I smoke weed daily since 18 and final exams time, because everyone around me, teachers, mother (don't have father), peers. friends were telling me to go to school more often and start to learn, because my grades and attendance were horrible. In half year of final class I had grade F, but I was feeling confident, because I knew it's easy and I will pass those exams easily later, because now I am busy doing bussiness things (MLM). Everyone stressed me so much and didn't listen to me when I explained I will pass it easily and constantly tried convince me to their rights. Those days I felt like Alien, felt betrayed, because no one was by my side and also felt like Raskolnikov, because everyone was stupid in my eyes.
If you're curious and still reading, yes. I passed final exams. I gave myself one month to learn entire material from 3 years and finally started 2 weeks before, just to finish them at above average/high score. Those scores gave me easily access to public Universities in one of biggest town in Poland- Wrocław. NO ONE admited that they was wrong and NO ONE apologized me for ruining my trust to this person because of how they didn't believe in me and tried to put me in those narrow brackets (I mean doing how system told you, not being flexible and for example finish school 2 years later, after my bussines fail. I can always repeat school, but I can't lose people whom I dragged into structure and was working with{and btw I was very happy I making my own money at school time, because 1. I am poor. 2. I loved this activity and this related to this}).
Finally I left both Universities. From first I left, because I felt like those people can't teach me nothing and when talking about topics I read a lot, they lie. Also peers were sooo fcking stupid. Parties and alcohol. I felt like in kindergarten.
Next year I went to second University. Those people were so woooke. OMG. They started offending me vulgar on chat, while teacher was on it leading a lesson. They did it just because I told that there are political parties, that gain voters, by promoting LGBT. And I told that, because teacher told opposite. That there are parties, that gain voters, by offending LGBT. Anyway. I got kicked from this University, because of my no attendance in first month, because there was covid and I didn't know anyone on this University and it was closed anyway. No phones, no emails, no nothing. And after 2 months of attendance I got kicked for no attendance in first month xD
Living this alone life, surrounded by knowledge, peace, weed and video games.
If you don't like the way you talk, I recommend finding an INFP and copying their speech patterns. That's what I tried doing. But I'm a guy, so the higher voice doesn't really suit me quite as well. But it doesn't make me come off as friendlier.
Why would she copy anyone
@@fyrsstatusrecords5754 copying people is the best way to notice possible thought patterns. I tried that with the INFJ, then the INFP, then the ISTP. And depending on the state of mind I'm trying to keep, my voice automatically changes to fit the mood.
However, as an INTP, trying to act like a xxxJ type is actually the most difficult to be consistent with.
Also, I've been studying story structure and general entertainment for years before I managed to get out of the house. Without the understanding of what people are like, I basically tried to think of my every moment like it was a series of episodes, which I would basically direct. Before hand, I actually ended up watching a bunch of INFJ shows, which helped give me a frame of reference to emulate.
@@BartholomewHenryAllen yeah man I dunno sounds too much of a hustle I know we are not the best talkers but yeah that sounds a bit too much but if it helped you it's all good
@@fyrsstatusrecords5754 I personally think it's kind of fun. Especially when nobody expects it. I usually come off as funny without meaning to, but I c as n just go alone with it and nobody seems to notice.
However, it does make it harder for people to understand me.
To be clear though, I don't expect anyone to do research. It's just something that just so happened to help me getting and keeping my first job. But it's not actually necessary to copy people's speech patterns.
I should probably mention that I have low functioning Asperger's. But it's likely just NE parent. But I usually try to focus on getting things right before I breakdown things for myself. I usually learn things faster subconsciously and I can always deal with the nitty gritty later, so. I don't worry about understanding the patterns until after I got things down. Then I white everything down to organize my thoughts. That way I don't have to remember things as much.
uhm count
Just make the title of the videos more precise so we can understand what the video is going to be about specifically
If you think about it, I'm not sure that's the best advice. Review the thought around 6 minutes. Suggesting to an INTP that they should inhibit their action to be more precise... and is counter productive.
@@kmn1794 You know how it is!
Such demands of an INTP! But I did consider this.
You have to first understand, that you are not the type a test shows. You are most likely(!!!) a shadow based INTJ yourself and not an INTP.
Which is your enneagram?
5w4. What's yours? I understand enneagram less than mbti, but it was useful. I had to repair many of the 5's struggles!
Me 4w5 or 6w5. I'm not sure. In which website did you do the enneagram test?
@@revontulet1845 im an intp 5w6 , this is very relatable .
@@abigailtorresrodriguez6895 I had a book called Personality Types, by Don Richard Riso of the Enneagram Institute. I don't remember where I did the online test, but I didn't pay for it. Where did you do yours? 4w5 is so interesting.
If your mother tongue isn't English I'm really impressed!
I don't know iv been to lots of intp groups on fb in kinda disappointed even there I have arguings with people I dunno maybe not being 5w4 is a totally different intp? I dunno
What was disappointing about them? When I argued with INTPs I think it was because the internal logic was too stubborn and didn't try to embrace the other, only hold itself up as some pure standard. Even INTPs do not appreciate that! Some things won't be done with reason, and even then, can you trust your reason beyond its meaning to you as a self-serving system to understand and cope? I feel like all INTPs must be a 5 enneagram, but know this isn't taken for fact. What's yours?
@@revontulet1845 yeah I dunno smthn among these lines. What disappointed me with some of them is their reaction. It's the same reaction I'd expect from normal people or most people like you know ignoring facts not connecting dots and disagreeing just for the sake of it.
I'm 5w4 and I'm thinking that maybe other sub types of intps are totally different in they way they use logic? I'm not an expert it's just a guess
@@fyrsstatusrecords5754 I think this might be true. Or some are so enmeshed in their social sphere and appearing harmless that they struggle to think outside of it, or at least to demonstrate that they do. Internally, the thought process might be the same, but they don't express or find interest in the same way. I also think we tend to expect more of other INTPs, so we might suppose things worse than they are when they don't meet our very high standards for connection. We want to be understood, so it's painful.