Защото това е най-близкото до safe container и Unconditional Positive Regard, което някога са виждали... Знаеш ли, не мога да гледам видеата на Др. Рамани - толкова са токсични приказките и колкото и токсичното поведение на хората, за които говори. "“Simply put, there is no gold standard as to the meaning of narcissism and thus whether it is clinically described or empirically measured, it can be difficult to synthesize among and across clinical observations and empirical findings.” “We propose that narcissism be defined as one’s capacity to maintain a relatively positive self-image through a variety of self-regulation, affect-regulation, and interpersonal processes, and it underlies individuals’ needs for validation and admiration, as well as the motivation to overtly and covertly seek out self-enhancement experiences from the social environment (Pincus et al., 2009).” “From our perspective, the fundamental dysfunction associated with pathological narcissism is related to intense needs for validation and admiration that energize the person to seek out self-enhancement experiences. Such needs and motives are normal aspects of personality, but they become pathological when they are extreme and coupled with impaired regulatory capacities. It is normal for individuals to strive to see themselves in a positive light and to seek experiences of self-enhancement (e.g., Hepper, Gramzow, & Sedikides, 2010), such as successful achievements and competitive victories (Conroy, Elliot, & Thrash, 2009). Most individuals can manage these needs effectively, seek out their gratification in acceptable ways and contexts, and regulate self-esteem, negative emotion, and interpersonal behavior when disappointments are experienced. In contrast, pathological narcissism involves impairment in the ability to manage and satisfy needs for validation and admiration, such that self-enhancement becomes an overriding goal in nearly all situations and may be sought in maladaptive ways and in inappropriate contexts. This heightens sensitivity to the daily ups and downs of life and relationships (McCullough, Emmons, Kilpatrick, & Mooney, 2003; Pincus, Conroy, Hyde, & Ram, 2010) and impairs regulation of self-esteem, emotion, and behavior. Importantly, our definition of pathological narcissism incorporates the two main themes of narcissistic dysfunction identified in reviews of theory and research on narcissism (Cain et al., 2008; Pincus & Lukowitsky, 2010; Ronningstam, 2009).” ИЗ: Miller, Joshua D., Campbell, W. Keith. “The Handbook of Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder” Първите 3 глави от книгата са как от DSM-3 до DSM-5 не могат да намерят правилна дефиниция и критерии на NPD....просто защото е с разнородни прояви. Дори в DSM-5-TR отново има много пропуски в 'диагнозата', даже предложението е да я махнат от DSM като цяло. Да се лепи етикет "НАРЦИСИСТ' на някого и да се гледа на него като заразно зло в 90% от статиите в нета ми се струва толкова грешно вече.. Да, не отирчам патологията и насилието в никакъв случай. Просто виждам хора с дълбоки болезение неразрешени травми, тресящи се от хиперсензитивност и с невъзможност да погледат по-далеч от носа си. Освен това за една връзка/конфликт трябват двама - нека емпатът, живял примерно 20 години с нарцис, да не бяга от огворност за собственото си участие в цялата каша ..
Това, че знаеш защо някой системно се държи зле с теб и не те уважава, не означава че трябва да извиняваш поведението му. 😉 Неслучайно казват, че ранените хора, ако не излекуват раните си, ще кървят върху някой, който не го е заслужил.
Защото това е най-близкото до safe container и Unconditional Positive Regard, което някога са виждали...
Знаеш ли, не мога да гледам видеата на Др. Рамани - толкова са токсични приказките и колкото и токсичното поведение на хората, за които говори.
"“Simply put, there is no gold standard as to the meaning of narcissism and thus whether it is clinically described or empirically measured, it can be difficult to synthesize among and across clinical observations and empirical findings.”
“We propose that narcissism be defined as one’s capacity to maintain a relatively positive self-image through a variety of self-regulation, affect-regulation, and interpersonal processes, and it underlies individuals’ needs for validation and admiration, as well as the motivation to overtly and covertly seek out self-enhancement experiences from the social environment (Pincus et al., 2009).”
“From our perspective, the fundamental dysfunction associated with pathological narcissism is related to intense needs for validation and admiration that energize the person to seek out self-enhancement experiences. Such needs and motives are normal aspects of personality, but they become pathological when they are extreme and coupled with impaired regulatory capacities. It is normal for individuals to strive to see themselves in a positive light and to seek experiences of self-enhancement (e.g., Hepper, Gramzow, & Sedikides, 2010), such as successful achievements and competitive victories (Conroy, Elliot, & Thrash, 2009). Most individuals can manage these needs effectively, seek out their gratification in acceptable ways and contexts, and regulate self-esteem, negative emotion, and interpersonal behavior when disappointments are experienced. In contrast, pathological narcissism involves impairment in the ability to manage and satisfy needs for validation and admiration, such that self-enhancement becomes an overriding goal in nearly all situations and may be sought in maladaptive ways and in inappropriate contexts. This heightens sensitivity to the daily ups and downs of life and relationships (McCullough, Emmons, Kilpatrick, & Mooney, 2003; Pincus, Conroy, Hyde, & Ram, 2010) and impairs regulation of self-esteem, emotion, and behavior. Importantly, our definition of pathological narcissism incorporates the two main themes of narcissistic dysfunction identified in reviews of theory and research on narcissism (Cain et al., 2008; Pincus & Lukowitsky, 2010; Ronningstam, 2009).”
ИЗ: Miller, Joshua D., Campbell, W. Keith. “The Handbook of Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder”
Първите 3 глави от книгата са как от DSM-3 до DSM-5 не могат да намерят правилна дефиниция и критерии на NPD....просто защото е с разнородни прояви. Дори в DSM-5-TR отново има много пропуски в 'диагнозата', даже предложението е да я махнат от DSM като цяло.
Да се лепи етикет "НАРЦИСИСТ' на някого и да се гледа на него като заразно зло в 90% от статиите в нета ми се струва толкова грешно вече..
Да, не отирчам патологията и насилието в никакъв случай.
Просто виждам хора с дълбоки болезение неразрешени травми, тресящи се от хиперсензитивност и с невъзможност да погледат по-далеч от носа си.
Освен това за една връзка/конфликт трябват двама - нека емпатът, живял примерно 20 години с нарцис, да не бяга от огворност за собственото си участие в цялата каша ..
Това, че знаеш защо някой системно се държи зле с теб и не те уважава, не означава че трябва да извиняваш поведението му. 😉 Неслучайно казват, че ранените хора, ако не излекуват раните си, ще кървят върху някой, който не го е заслужил.