My Body Was Screaming at Me: How Depression Saved Omisade Burney-Scott’s Life
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- Опубліковано 27 жов 2021
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As a Black woman in America, Omisade Burney Scott always relied on her well-curated, bold vibe to keep her appearing successful and feeling accepted in this world. But when menopause hit in her late 40’s, she found herself in a deep depression that had her body screaming at her to get back to her IDGAF 10 year old self, unmasked, unencumbered by the need for external validation, and not yet scarred by the effects of colorism. Now at 54, Omisade is only speaking to herself with kindness and learning to feel valuable and loveable without any facade, even when she feels like a “hot diggity mess.” In her menopausal rebirth, she has taken the courageous step of leaving her more traditional career, gifting herself space to heal, and paying it forward to her community through the launch of her organization, Black Girls Guide to Menopause (@blackgirlsguidetomenopause). Watch Omi’s video and get a dose of how medicinal it is to let your curated vibe crumble and be “sweet to your damn self.”
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“You can show up like a raggedy, hot, shitty mess and still be lovable.” Needed to hear that. Needed the reminder that I can still love ME even when I show up raggedy. I still showed up.
I’m guilty of this, I thought feeling bad was synonymous with looking bad. The truth about showing up is that most people don’t notice and the one that do love you anyway.
We are SO happy this resonated with and empowered you! It's such an extraordinary piece of wisdom, and something we need to be reminded of often! 💗💗
Yeah it’s hard for me to feel deserving of love if I’m not attractive.
I felt raggedy today really bad.....but I showed up. 👍
Thank you....I needed this so much. As middle aged black women who haven't achieved certain goals , we are told that we need to become panicked and contort ourselves into something that is more glamorous, more desirable to succeed. I've realized that it is so important to BE KIND to ourselves, LIKE ourselves, take a break from the hamster-wheel and just let life happen without the constant struggle. We are good enough just as we are, despite what men tell us, social media tells us, the world tells us. Just breathe.
Excellent, I shall use your words “Taking a break from the hamster wheel”
This is eyes-tearing-up beautiful. We're so glad this interview helped you come to this insight ❤❤ Sending you so much love!
"Let life happen".
This might be a turning point.
Thank you!
Absolutely we are 🙌🏽💖
You better SAY THAT! 🙌🏾 Thank you. We are enough!
HER HAIR 👌🏾👌🏾
Met OmiSade at a Lemonade album listening party. She was nothing but kind and gave me the best hug. Her inside matches her outside. Beautiful and Unique
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There are the rare few people in the world whose vibrant presence is a privilege to witness. She is one of those rare few people.
Her hair is so beautiful and she's so vibrant!
Wow, this woman is like a reincarnated peacock or some mystical bird lol. She's magical.
Amen! ❤❤❤
A phoenix 🔥 💗
YES!! She truly is!!❤❤❤
I don’t curate a look but I just realized yesterday that I’ve taken myself off of my plate of people to take care of. I’ve broken my own heart 💜
This changes now and I am so happy I found your video. The Universe provides the lessons.
Thank you.
Beautiful! So happy this interview resonated with you ❤❤
Yes Ma'am!!! Do u Gurl
“I’ve broken my own heart “…Powerful words Maria…May you walk in Jah’s light always…
It's many of us who appear to be so strong, so put together, that some forget we're human too. It's tiring being strong all the time. We hurt just like everyone else, it's a misconception to simply believe strong/ strong appearing people have it together always and aren't allowed to have issues. In a judgemental & idealistic world I believe everyone struggles with something.
Amen F(f)riend
Amen and Ase'.
So true ❤
That's my experience too.
Everyone. And in the words of Mumu Fresh.."if you say you ain't, you lyin'".
This woman fucking GLOWSssssss, and without makeup!!!!!! She is EPICALLY BEAUTIFUL...geez, like a regal face, and so grounded and funny and wise too.
MY GOD! Omisade took off all the makeup. her eyes peeking through her grey/white hair‼️‼️‼️😍❤️🖤💚 I literally created a storyboard yesterday for a doc on domestic violence. hearing her mom's story of how she had to leave her children to save her life💔🕊 Have you all considered a documentary with some of your footage?! I feel you need all the awards! These interviews are truly outstanding!!!!
We're so beyond grateful for your support! And so beyond overjoyed that you are moved by our interviews! Sending you sooo much love!!!💖
Her referring to “the gift of therapy” 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 yes!!!
The way that she takes care when she's taking her clothes and accessories off and not letting them hit the floor and her shoes placed closely by and together... Is so real for me.. Even when I go to the doctor for an exam I take my clothes off, gently fold them, and place them on a chair or in a locker. I do the same with my shoes. It's the little things that matter to me more than almost anything else. They speak volumes without saying a word.
Never has something resonated with me sooo much-“your not really a pretty girl but you can suit up”!!!
I realised yesterday that when my mind, body and spirit are screaming and screaming at me, I respond to that visceral message with, "Shhhhhhh... you can do it," and push myself a little more. I too can treat myself really horribly, because if I'm not serving someone else, where's my value? The real work for me is interrogating the guilt of being told I'm letting people down by not letting them eat me alive. Thanks to Omisade for her incredible sharing x
As a woman of 58, menopause has orchestrated my life to lead me into owning my own authenticity ... my own sovereignty. I could relate completely to this story ... to the little girl who asking to be seen, acknowledged and brought forth into this new chapter of my life.
I'm still trying to find my style ... now that my body has expanded and taken on a new shape. it seems foreign to me. Still more healing happening.
We are so grateful you shared this, and are delighted that this interview resonates with you. Seeing reflections of ourselves and our journeys in others is one of the most powerful feelings. That's why representation is so valuable and moving! 💖💖
@@StyleLikeU1 Thank you so much for this gift…An interview with a mahogany Phoenix…I want your staff to know that these interviews are “freeing” women…”Truth to Power”…
“Curator: a manager or an overseer.” If that doesn’t define WOMAN and MOM, I don’t know what does! I love how purposefully she chooses her words. Sometimes redefining words seems to “dumb them down” but she did the opposite! She educated herself and most of us who watched this I believe, on the meaning of words and how she is going to use them to empower her! Love this!!!
Without the lipstick and glasses...she struck me. Striking and soft. It was like I finally got to really see her and see her essence. Amazing soul.
This channel is like a love poem to my soul! ❤️ Every person interviewed brings light to the darkest parts of me.
I hope my hair turns out that color. It’s short and natural, but seems like it is turning gray one strand at a time. Hers is so beautiful.
Her gray is absolutely gorgeous!! I don't like the way my gray is coming in but I am going Forward on my gray hair journey
I love her hair so much. Mine is here and there and I wish it would all be grey. But am letting it do it’s thang 😂
I loved how she made a commitment to being soft and then cried in a way I’ve never seen nor felt someone cry. Like I felt her vulnerability.
Thank you so much. Her body and soul are so beautiful, she’s the kind of role model I want to have. I’m a 21 white girl living in switzerland ( so very far away from that woman’s experience of life I guess) and I hope I’ll be able to become a bit like her in my life. Taking the place you deserve, being able to express your weeknesses and be kind. Sorry for my bad english, but I just wanted to say my gratitude. Thank you ❤️
Your English is perfect and you expressed yourself beautifully 🙏
Wow. Just wow. “My body was was screaming at me….finally I could stop to say ‘what do I need?’ “ “I learned to be sweet to myself “ “What would it look like to take a year off?” So much here & I can totally relate. Love her! Omi rocks! Thank you for showing us your Goddess. 🙏 Something sorely missing from our world in vast ways. Even from the pulpit…the Goddess isn’t acknowledged. Like she was erased. Eve was doomed from the jump. I don’t think that is a Divinely inspired story. When I look at the world within & around me, I see representations of the Divine that are most definitely Feminine. Something our world desperately needs. Great series. Really helped me today. Thank you 🙏
"Be human only." This touched my whole being. Thank you ❤️
I love how you said, "He couldn't feel me," because that's how I feel with my mom. I am 30 years old and I've been grieving over her for my entire life. And it's powerful how you said you put on masks, but you still showed up.
Sheesh! 🎯
Omi, you are so beautiful and real; thank you for being your authentic, gorgeous 54 year old self. You are an inspiration to my 51 year old self!!
Wow. God is so good. I have been feeling like that a lot lately and my youngest son has been doing the same thing...I'm really about to cry. So grateful. And I'm glad menopause has be talked about in these interviews recently. Right on time. I cannot believe I am flashing already. Time flies!!!
What a beautiful lady, both inside and out.
Omg, I’m 38 and I love how she speak. so descriptive-‘Beautiful adjacent’, please. She is in the center of beautiful.
“Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.”- Buddha You are already on the right path beautiful lady❤💛💚
Love this so much 💗
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Depression is all part of being human and the great thing about it is that you have company, "I'm not alone"...I love her style and healthy Spirit! Beautiful, thaaaank you 🙏 for your videos, so encouraging, so true...
Depression can be the doorway to a whole new rebirth and realignment with your true self. It's very painful when you're in it, but on the other end if you wait for that to come, the outcome is grace and softness for yourself.
Can still hear the pain in your voice baby. All will be well!!
This lady gives hope for others.
She is EVERYTHING
I relate to this so much as someone who spends a lot of time curating a precise look in how I present and even in my environment & how in so many ways it’s armor. Reaching for more vulnerability, more humanness. This was beautiful.
You go vibrant woman! I love the definition “curated”. Living with intention and grace. I agree that someone telling you you look younger then your age or that you are skinny are two compliments I don’t like. I want to hear you are a vibrant-strong-woman who shines and brings light!
Amen!! couldn't agree more 💗💗💗
I've known Omi for 30+ years and she's *always* been authentic and together amd vibrant in my eyes. 🖤
The part about dressing good despite being poor is something my mom was always known for and I am very thankful for her views but growing up I also thought and found dressing good around people that I did not like (family friends) and were also poor felt waste of time and out of place😤 some would even feel a sense of envy/jealousy and never compliment even if they deep down might of liked what I wore.
this woman is a ray of sunshine
this is one of the best channels on UA-cam
Omisade You Are Beatiful!!! I hope you see that soon. I know how that feels.
Literally one of the best interviews on the whole channel! Thank you for this Truly Dope Black Queen! Love, peace and light as you go forward into your next chapter
this made me cry because i can resonate so much with the words she’s stating.
“I can be kind to this Home” Yes Omi! Yes! 🙌🏽🥰😘
Gosh ! This woman ! The elegance ! The eloquence ! She is sooooo the type of person you would want in your life !
Love the concept of recognizing that our body is our home!💜
Well I am also going through menopause it started last year and I just turned 53 a few days ago and it's hard 😅 I am.trying to get through my adult kids have taught me alot. And I am depressed as well. I see a therapist and it helps. I am a black woman as well. I wonder when menopause ends. I know it's different but I justwonder. Thank you for your story. Be good to yourself.
Sending you love, Ginger. And prayers for relief. Sending you softness and light. Asking peace to sit with you and gently cultivate a relationship so intertwined, there is no difference between one and the other. May you always find multiple forms of therapy and support to assist, hold, and guide you through life. Be careful with yourself. 💚
She's beyond beautiful 💘
What a beautiful, vibrant soul. She is very special.
She’s stunning
I love all of these videos but this is definitely a fave. I fell instantly love with this gorgeous, savvy, thoughtful woman.
I’ve been dyeing the hell out of my hair because I thought it made me look old. This video is giving me the courage to be more authentic in how I show up, especially how I show up for myself. ❤️✨
That was so beautiful, you are so beautiful thank you for sharing your story
Thank you, Omi. You are beautiful.
I saw her true beauty the last few moments of the video.. amazing!
I love this. This lady is the epitome of beautiful.I feel women are like fine wine. They get better as they age.
I’m 43 and this spoke to me. I’ve always had this block when it comes to being comfortable with myself with other people. I feel like they see everything I don’t like about myself. It made me put a wall up to keep people out but in reality I was building a room to be alone in. I’ll definitely work more diligently on being nicer to myself and letting worthy people in.❤️
So inspiring! Thank you for the reminder to talk to ourselves like we would talk to our best friend or our children. ❤️
Omi thank you for sharing yourself with me. I feel like a better person because of your words.
Literally brought me to tears.
My heart bows to you Ladies for this sweet episode featuring Omi. Thank you.
This is my home. WOW!!! I learn something new every time I watched these interviews. Yet when she said that and the follow up comment…. I was at the right place at the right time to hear this message. I need to spending more time loving, embracing, listening and care for my home. Thank You Bonafide and True&Co for sponsoring this video!! Thank You Osimade for appearing in this series ❤️. Thank You StyleLikeU ❤️❤️.
It’s my dream to be featured on your platform- it’s a light
I’m so grateful for this video. You truly remind me of my older sister. She’s a beautiful dark skinned woman with a dazzling smile, jazzy sense of style, and a really big presence. She was so powerful and a veracious lover of her family. When I was a young person She took care of my sister and I like our mother while our moms worked too much to be around. Basically Her childhood was taken away from her she had to learn to cook, clean, do our hair, soothe us from age 9. I remember going through my inner child healing along with her several years back. It was incredible to walk along together and inspire each other to have mercy on ourselves, to be soft, to be vulnerable.
It’s been a long journey for myself but everyday I celebrate my short comings as proof of my progression and my victories as evidence of my ascension. When I notice new ways of relating to myself I stop to thank myself and god/universe/higher self whatever you call it. It’s in each celebrated moment that we can truly be kind to ourselves and that our inner child, our souls can be held in the arms of our highest truth/essence of our selves. It’s in each merciful moment that we can be lotus flowers blossoming in the most muddy waters.
Thanks for sharing your heart. I love this channel and I cannot wait to age :^)
Thank you so much for doing this!!
This touched me so deeply. Thank you.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
Love this! This is awesome and right on time.
Just brilliant, thanks for sharing.
This was so raw, deep and beautiful!
This was amazing 👏🏾✨
Loved this so much.
Wow this was so inspiring!!
This was so beautiful. Thank you.
Binging on these tonight and here for this new upload. Yay. Thank you for the beautiful stories that inspire.
I just discovered this channel, and I am loving it so much!💜☮️
Yes! Let’s just have our emotions & feel them. Then do what you know.
This was a beautiful interview 🦋🦋💛💛
Oh my word Omi thank you!!! From my heart to yours❤️❤️
Just thank you! x
This series is so important. Omi thank you! ❤️🙏🏾🌺🌻
Wow! So much of this hit me to the core. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for sharing
One of your absolute best. She is a gem. Thank you.
Thank you, Omi, for sharing your story.
so beautiful, loved this message
I'm so glad I found this page!!!
I have been recently diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Omisade articulated so clearly some of the feelings I have been experiencing; the loss of connection with the ten year old self, the masking. This is helping me see that I am not alone and it can be a blessing. Therapy is helping me to be kind to myself. I need to take care of me first . ❤️ Lovely conversation thank you.
I love these interviews.
I feel so feed. Deeply grateful for sharing her story.❤
Absolutely beautiful! 😍😍Thank you! I needed to hear this❤️❤️
She is lovely! I really enjoyed this interview.
Beautiful!
This interview was one of pure joy for me. I am a fan of both Omisade's podcast and your's so to have you together is a huge win!!!! Thank you for continuing to give voices to so many wonderful stories.
I loved this so much because I can definitely relate to her in all of her experience. I needed this message today.
I am so touched by what you say here. I had horrible issues with perimenopause that left me deeply depressed, so I have a sense of what you are talking about.
I love your style, Omi, and your hair is a dream. I'm 71, and I very recently reconnected with the gleeful 2 year old that felt so abandoned, squelched, etc. Happy is such a gift. And you, Ms. Omi, are absolutely beautiful.
This is a beautiful, beautiful comment! We are so honored that you are part of our community ❤❤❤
This was healing - thank you so much 🙏🏼
Ah. So much love to you Beautiful Woman, this was an inspiring head nodding watch!
You are definitely pretty Omisade but more importantly, you are intelligent and wise.🙂
Thank you for this beautiful interview!!
Hit home so much, the vulnerability, honesty and beauty of this woman 🤎🤎