THANK YOU! So many people don't understand the agony of not being the person you used to be. Some days I just want to stay in bed with my head buried under the sheets. Pain leads to depression and depression leads to more problems. You are an inspiration and I am so glad I found this;
This absolutely touched me. I struggle with the showering thing and then I feel not worthy of anything. I feel friends don’t understand because they can’t see the pain. Thank you so much for your videos xxxx
I’m in the Uk, but I am the same, only most of my friends have disappeared. I’ve subbed to you, I am on UA-cam but I only have two videos at he moment showing craft stuff, but am hoping to start making more soon. Are you on Facebook? Let me know and I’ll go befriend you, then if you want to talk to someone who has chronic pain you can talk to me. Huggles xxxAnnxxx
Solitude is difficult. I have a few special friends all over the world. One of my long-time meeting friends who lived in the north east US while I was in Florida, came up 20 years later on Facebook. He lives less than 6 miles away. I moved North and he moved south and somehow we met in the middle. He visits me, usually once a week. He sits on my sofa or office chair, on days that I'm living in bed. There are many days that authors are my best friends.
First of all, you are truly an inspiration. I suffer from Fibromyalgia and it is so frustrating when my mind wants to do things but my body doesn’t cooperate. Your tips are really helpful and your attitude and support are a gift to your subscribers. Thank you!!!
Please learn to be very gentle on yourself. It took me 48 years to learn that self-care is not selfish. Fibro is one of my many autoimmune disorders. Please put self-care on your green list when you have those worse days. I bullet journal, watch TED videos, binge UA-cam DIY videos, binge Netflix like it's the Lifetime Channel, read, and I just started a gentle physical therapy program. If you can tolerate chlorine, find water physical therapy. I really miss that. I also miss fibro specialized massage therapy. I always joked that the reason people feel so good after a massage is because the pain had stopped. The pain of the massage. I was sore for a few weeks but then it became a serious relief.
I so understand what your saying. Your mind, heart and soul want to get things done but your body won't let you. It is so aggravating, and then if you get company... they dont understand why your house isnt spotless and makes you feel lazy. Thank you so much for your post and for reaching out. May God bless you in all you do and bring healing to your body, mind, spirit, and soul
I knew a pastor that would scold people who refused help and say "Don't steal that person's blessing!". We bless our loved ones by letting them help us.
I have a multitude of ailments. In the early 2000's I couldn't stand straight because of pain from endometriosis. After 2 years of begging I finally had a hysterectomy. WALKING ERECT in the first time in a year made me feel human again just like you said. Now it's just my old bones and joints. I have had very serious back and neck surgeries. Also shoulder and knee. Being 56 and feeling 96 is very depressing. True story just this morning I woke up looked at the clock groaned and pulled the covers up. 10 minutes later I said NO! Get your butt up Laura your animals need to eat. It was a physical struggle but I did it. Then I sat down with a cup tea and crumb cake watched Match Game while folding a basket of towels - which I asked my boyfriend the night before to carry up from the basement and he did. He offered to fold them - but I wanted to do it because I can. Doing such a simple task does make me feel like I have purpose. Thank you for sharing and for always listening to my stories too. You are SO MUCH MORE than the Clutter Fairy. 😇😍
Hey! You're not supposed to make the Clutter Fairy cry! I loved this and am so thankful for your comment... I am putting the message on my wall. I am SO MUCH MORE than the Clutter Fairy!!!! Keep me posted - I will be your cheerleader!
Awh thank you. I will definitely keep you posted. Joe and I just cleaned out the biggest drawer in our kitchen. It was the proverbial clown car lol. Now that we can see our gizmos and gadgets we might actually use them 👍
You don’t happen to have breast implants, do you! I was sicker and sicker for over 14 years before I found out about breast implant illness, and after 3 other surgeries due to organ failure, I had them taken out. They were disgusting! Just a thought, in case anyone else doesn’t know what is wrong with them. 🙏
as someone with both chronic pain and depression, I want to thank you for this, useful, honest, and good, gentle advise & tips(and yes, the whole chicken/egg circularity of it all gets even more depressing)
Great video, thanks! I have some chronic pain issues and one thing I have found that helps me - my timer is my best at home helper - on the not so good days, I do things for two minutes at a time. Amazing what I can get done in a day, just two minutes at a time - many breaks in between. Thanks for sharing - can't imagine how many of us you have helped with just this video!
I am not all through your video, but I have to tell you: You are not alone. You are talking about me and as I read in the other comments, you touched a lot of hearts. Thank you for your courage to share all these private things with us! I hope your video reaches all the people, who struggle! God bless you and your family.
I'm often immobilized with anxiety/depression and overwhelmed by routine household chores, not to mention many projects/clutter. All is compounded with chronic health issues & debilitating pain. I too am divorced and alone. Thank you for sharing. It's such a comfort to know I'm not the only one. God bless you and the others that are commenting with similar issues.
Sending you giant hugs. 💜 I have a wonderful Facebook group where we just support each other in all ways - if you'd like to join. It helps to be in a group of people who support, encourage, and understand: facebook.com/groups/730125317461615/
I am an adult orphan, it is me & my husband. In February this year our only child, died suddenly...he was 28. I have dealt with, depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder since I was 10 years old. I was abandoned by my parents, they divorced and neither one of them wanted custody of me, they wanted freedom. I've since lost contact with my brother & sister over the years. Partly because I isolate, partly I don't understand why. I fight daily to stay alive, if my husband dies...I will truly be all alone in a camper. We are both disabled, the only time we leave our camper is to see a doctor or buy groceries (24 hour Walmart). We sleep all day & stay awake at night. I'm dealing with RA, many other health issues because of our sedentary lifestyle. I don't know where to begin digging out of this rut, or if I even want to. I will try your lists, I appreciate this video.
Christie - I beg you, please find a community outside of your trailer!! That type of isolation is very hard to combat. See if there is a community center or pain clinic around where you can meet some people. Establishing a few connections will open new 'families' to you. I am so sorry to hear about your experiences. I hope you reach out - you deserve love and happiness. Please keep in touch.
Thank you for taking the time to do this video and telling us what you have dealt with. I suffer from depression and anxiety and Fibromyalgia. My home is totally overwhelming with clutter. When I manage to just get the dishwasher loaded or a load of laundry done, I am so happy with myself that I accomplished that task. At this time I have no help. My husband has been working 58 hours weeks, this includes Saturday and stays exhausted. Thanks again.
You know how on airplanes they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first..... You have to take care of YOU first! Then check in on your husband.... appreciate the hard work he's doing. The house will survive.
Jodi I'm the same - Fibromyalgia is horrible, I used to be a really busy person, with a clean and tidy house - not since i was diagnosed with fibro - for about the last 5 years i've not been able to do as much and wondered why - eventually I went to the GP who sent me to a Rheumatologist and I was finally diagnosed with FMS and Chronic pain..... You're not alone! And the house will wait!
One thing my grammie once said has always stayed with me (& she lived by this too): "if your dishes are done & your beds are made, then your house is clean". My husband & I both suffer with chronic pain stemming from different issues & it's so hard just to make sure those two things are done every day, but no matter how many piles there are, if those two things are done... then my house feels clean --& in the end that is all that should matter!
I’m so glad you shared your struggles with us. My question is, I’d like to start at the beginning of your videos, what is the best way to go about that? I would dearly love to have a clutter free home, but where do I start? I suffer from fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue and pain and so many days I have to be happy with getting the meals on the table. That’s what is needed most. Then on days I feel better, I have to decide whether to clean something or work on my art, or in the garden. If I don’t put the “fun” stuff on top of the list, I’ll never get to do anything fun again. Balance i what I’m trying to find. Thank You for your time and insights. Thank You for any suggestions to help me start my decluttering life.
Thank you for being so genuine and forthcoming. I'm 70 and in pain every day so I relate completely. My issue in asking for help is that it feels like complaining and nobody really wants to hear that. So my standard answer is I'm fine even when I'm not.
Jean, asking for help is the hardest thing for me - even NOW! So, start with something little... And you don't need to give a reason justifying why you need help! That's something I just learned - And if someone you've asked help from wants to know why, they WANTED to hear and it's not complaining. ;) Our society has moved away from helping one another - but I think we ALL need and want it. Please keep me posted.
I'm also 70 & started having pain issues that I acknowledged at about 35. No one , not family, friends or medical professionals, seem to understand or care! I'm totally alone! Haven't talked with any of my family since 2006 except for one brother & haven't spoken to him in about 4 years! I really try not to whine but because no one understands I suppose that maybe it does sound like whining! We are fine cause we are Survivors
Sometimes dealing with the pain is easier than asking for help. Listening to well meaning advice from those not in pain, can be exhausting & demoralizing. Finding new ways of doing things as well scraping old ones can be very exciting! 😃
I tell my Male friends that when a woman says she's fine, she isn't. I use to have a local friend I met through blogging. I asked her one day and I got the fine remark. So I asked her, "so how do you really feel?"
I needed this video today. I am a full time special education teacher, a domestic violence counselor, the president of my union local, a teacher mentor, and a Sunday School teacher. I recently finished a year of cancer treatment and took very little time off. As the result of chemo and my current medication, I have autoimmune arthritis is off the charts and I have developed neuropathy in my feet. I also have lymphedema, sciatica, a cervical fusion, and severe TMJ. I recently had carpal tunnel surgery on my right hand, which fatigues very easily, as well as plantar fasciitis and a bone spur in my right foot. I LIVE in constant pain that I “push through” , but it is getting harder. I am an artist, an avid crafter, and a very organized person. However, I want to get rid of things I’m not using and I am just exhausted and overwhelmed. Thank you for the tips. I do many of these things already, but I am going to try the three-part “ to do” list. Thanks for addressing this important issue for people whose minds are willing, but whose bodies aren’t able!!👍🏻
I agree ... stop & smell the roses every so often. I also have to give you some much needed and well earned Praise because you kept going with all of your activities while dealing with all the medical issues you have. You are a Star! (&.. I wager you enjoyed everything you were doing no matter how you felt each day, that it helped keep you 'sane' during all of the miserable you had going on around you.) Keep smiling..
I remember the "push through it" days. I've lost friends who can still push through it because they cant comprehend a day when they may understand how I am. I'd never wish all of this on anyone. Take time for you to hone the axe you help other chop with... self-care is so important and it took me 48 years to learn it. Be gentle on yourself. We all seem to be walking in each others shoes.
Sister, I’m not being fresh. Your body is telling you IVE HAD ENOUGH! You need to say NO to some of those committees honey. You’re a leader, but the world will suck the life out of you only if you let it. Can you put your brakes on a bit and take care of you? Chemo deserves time off. I know, I went through it. Just honor your body. ❤️
I have a few chronic illnesses that have lead me down a real dark path. I appreciate you so much for putting a little light on so I can see a little better. I reasonable so much with your story, thank you for having the courage and compassion to tell it.
Thank you for this video. I have chronic pain, anxiety and depression. Start too many things that I can’t finish. Some days I just can’t get out of bed. I’m a neat freak with OCD, so leaving things not completed just makes me more anxious. Thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to take breaks and not get done all in one day❤️
Celebrate the small victories! Getting out of bed may be the biggest challenge of any given day, but if you manage it, give yourself the credit you deserve. I heard someone say once that when the dust bunnies got too big to ignore, she named them and called them pets! (She said it kept her sane enough to move forward without having to get everything done.)
I am a retired MD. Retired due to 3 different types of arthritis, one was an inflammatory arthritis that attacks the major joints and spines and I had 16 surgeries for the arthritises, joint replacements and seven spine surgeries due to the spurs crushing the nerves and spinal cord to the point I was 6-12 months from being permanently in a wheelchair at times. I was a workaholic. Work kept me from noticing my pain. My patients were my distraction, but it was finally so bad everyone said, “No, you have to stop working or you will die!” They were right. My stress was off the charts. I could block the pain with my conscious mind but my body felt it. The high cortisol levels from the pain, caused me to gain weight, become diabetic, my thyroid failed, my autoimmune system went crazy. Once I retired I dropped 40 pounds without trying! I cried everyday though and complained to God, “God they took away my children!” I thought no one would love my patients I had cared for for decades as much as I did (not that some doctor wasn’t as smart as I was). I knew I knew their quirks and who was the stoic and who was the complainer. Who to listen to closely no matter how long their list of complaints were or who to just hug and comfort more than doctor. A new doctor wouldn’t. As I cried to God, He reminded me, They aren’t your children. THEY ARE MY CHILDREN! I knew then they would be fine and to take care of me finally. I commend you for addressing those who are dealing with Chronic Pain and disease. There are a lot of us out here. God bless you. God called me to be a doctor and let me bless so many people, but now He has me writing books. He insisted I write. He even moved an Editor next door to my house when I complained to Him. That I didn’t even know an editor or publisher or how to write a book. I didn’t even like English lit! So two weeks later I get new neighbors who walk to my door and introduce themselves. My neighbor and his wife moved to my neighborhood in NC from Texas. He was a journalist/EDITOR and when he found out I was working on a manuscript, he was excited to edit it, because it was about miracles too and he could read the Bible in all the original languages, Latin, Ancient Greek, Hebrew, Aramaic, etc. Long story short. My Book. A Physician Witness by Sharon Boone, MD is on Amazon.com and is getting 5 stars. God had me write it to uplift the hurting and the down and out and the hopeless. People bring it to my book signings the the paperback is nearly worn off. I ask why and they tell me because they keep going back and re-reading so many parts of it because it blesses them so much and it is so uplifting. So if you like good true stories and mysterious and spiritual things, you will love this book. I am working on 3 more.
Sherry Willis I am so looking forward to purchasing your book!! I’m on a small disability check, so that may take a few months. Thank you so much for allowing our heavenly Father to use you
This video really hit home. My creative mind is running ahead of me by leaps and bounds. But I can't even get through my cleaning schedule. And I'm on my own as my retired husband doesn't want to leave his computer.
I can relate to that Karen. Trying to declutter & clean & cook wears me out. My well meaning hubby buys groceries & just shoves them in the fridge without cleaning it. Everything falls out when I open the fridge door ..Old food is left to rot & nothing gets organized in the fridge unless do it. I'm trying to set up an estate sale in my cottage & garage but losing motivation..on my husband's day off he wants to spend time with me & I say " I want that too. But if u could just help me with a few things we could spend time together. He starts but doesn't finish, then escapes to his man cave. I told him I can't do this myself,so I hired a girl, now he's saying we can't afford to pay her. So how are we going to get out of here? If we sold this place,we could build a tiny house & be dept free. I can't get him to work on a budget with me. It seems we live separate lives & his solution is too work more. A year ago before my gallbladder surgery I was making progress ,but I just don't see a way out now. God please help us
Thank you so much for this! I saw your title and clicked so quickly. I NEEDED THIS! I have been in chronic pain and depression for 4yrs due to breaking my back and losing EVERYTHING! I used to be a social butterfly and a meticulous cleaner. I couldnt walk or move the pain was so excruciating all i could do was lay in bed. My house looks like the extreme hoarders bcus i have no help. My son is no help at all. Going from a $60,000 a yr to living off my savings ira and 401k. To my job of 20yrs forcing me to retire and live off of $300 a month. Its so hard to live like this. Im so embarrassed about how things look. I dont open my doors and my poor dogs haven't gone for a walk in yrs. Friends of 30yrs left me and when i asked for help i got excuses and flat out no. 😢 I really appreciate you for this bcus im always asking you tubers to give tips for ppl with physical pain and limitations.
I read your comment and it touched my heart. Life is so unpredictable and so much of it is out of our control. Sometimes I contemplate what is this trying to teach me. Iam trying to refrain from the cliché sayings but I hope you stay as strong as the spirits of your ancestors. Real friends stay when times are tough so those were not your real friend. Sending you light and love.
@@zendavis3501 , thank you so much. My so called family is worse and they live less than a block away. But, when i was on top of the world, i was always the fixer, comforter, helper and when i needed all of EVERYTHING i spent my life giving to others i was denied it. Being disabled sucks big time and what i spent my life building crumbled in a moment. Im hard on myself bcus i feel life just shitted on me when i have so much i wanted to accomplish. I raised my son to an adult alone with no help at all and sacrificed everytg for him. This was supposed to be my time. Idky this happened to me. It just feels so curel. Well, thank you again! I really appreciate your kind words.
@@aquafina6544 Me and your testimony is almost identical. Before I developed these debilitating health issues I had my own office at a fortune 500 company. I was also a bodybuilder who took extraordinary pride in my physique. I had a gorgeous benevolent wife who was a nurse and we have two beautiful kids. House in the suburbs with an actual picket fence. Nice vehicles and I abruptly lost all of that. When I had all that money I was exalted by family and friends. But when all that was taken away due to my health circumstances they left right along with it. That's when I realized the love of money is what this country is built on. Everyone forsaken me and just like you said, so did family members. When my family abandoned me it hurt the most and made me numb to the point I could no longer feel. So when I read your comment it resonated to me and I subsequently felt compelled to respond to you. So many people are in our position whereas an unforseen pathology comes along and plagues them. Viktor Frankl said "When we cant change circumstances we are forced to change ourselves". That is from the book "A mans search for meaning" he was a holocaust survivor. And we are survivors as well. Always feel free to respond become you are not alone.
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I had very serious back and neck surgeries and have a good number of rods and pins in me and am always in pain. I can't imagine your pain with a broken back. I lost my daughter at age 12 in an accident and that really made me a mental case. But I had the same group of friends who had work the next day come and stay with me every night until about 2 AM just keeping me company and bringing me food. Today I have several friends and a boyfriend of 11 years who will and do help me. I really really wish you had that. I would come and help you if I lived near you. I would be rather slow 🐌 but I would be there. ♥
@@zendavis3501 , thank you so so much.. You are so right! I worked for the federal govt and they buried me in red tape and paperwork just so they didnt have to pay me. Its a shame how the govt uses us and then discards us when they cant benefit from us. The ppl we encounter and family are just as bad and most times worse. ive been on yt for years but im new to all the new features. Please feel free to friend me. I will respond.
I have chronic pain and the depression and anxiety is hard to deal with. I feel ashamed that I am not the wife or mother. I use to be. I use to keep my home spotless. It is not spotless today. Thank you for this video.
Raise your hand if you feel shame or guilt that you're not the wife and mother you used to be. 🙋🏻you're not alone. I bet that many of the people here feel that way too. I know I do. We can only do our best and let God do the rest.
Wow. When you first got into the discussion and said the thing about feeling human, I had to stop and pull myself together before I could continue any more. But, coming back, I saw that you are much the same. That's really just what most of us who live in a constant state of pain want most. That desire to be understood. I have multiple health issues, pain being an intense, mean spirited constant and unwanted companion, but I look perfectly normal on the outside, so there were always those who would question me in a way that was not expressed in a compassionate way, just out of intrusive curiosity. Most just gave me that disbelieving look it when I did take a minute to explain. You know the ones. Their faces reflected their thoughts, which say "Suuuure your're ill. Riiiight." Then, you never hear from them again. I had one too many of those experiences. Now, at a vintaged age, I no longer explain myself, nor feel the need to lose my dignity in having to endure those looks. I prefer not to bring it up. I've learned coping strategies, but am very bad at the pacing myself part! I often set myself back every time I tackle something. I do get very frustrated over it, as I was once a real neatnik! I don't like things to be unorganized, messy or dirty. Yet here I sit in our new (but old) retirement house, which is in desperate need of major renovation, which we must do ourselves or not at all. Honestly, I am not up to the challenge at all. I can't even unpack, let alone find a clean place to put anything. I'm sitting in a really dirty house with boxes and clutter all around me, leaving hubby to handle it (to see where he puts things is "almost" humorous). I feel guilty, even though he's so kind about it. He knows. So yes. I'm overwhelmed and very depressed. Unfortunately, I'm new here and a shut-in, so there's no one around to help me. I probably wouldn't ask anyone anyway, for all the reasons you mentioned. Especially, embarrassment. So, I get it. I also thank you for sharing your personal story, your tips and your spirit! It is appreciated!
Where do you live?!?! I want to come help!!!! I keep joking that I am going to take my business mobile - You just make me want to jump in a car and give you the beautiful space you DESERVE! I know you are new to a place - but reach out to the new community...There ARE people who understand and can help. And I want to use ugly expletives for those cold hearted people who have judged you in the past. In the meantime; don't look at the entire house.... pick one room and start your list. It may be long - but just pick one task at a time. I am keeping my fingers crossed that you are close to where I live.
Hi....I'm a newer subbie. I just hopped on UA-cam and there you were. You were speaking to me! Although I'm old enough to be your mom, your story sounds similar to mine. Different medical issues, but issues all the same. Thank you for putting this out. You are very brave and I'm proud of you. Showers are the one chore or the day. Grocery shopping is one chore for a day. I'm supposed to be making a baby album, but I'm having trouble getting into my happy place to craft. Thank you again. Your friends Renee in western Washington.
@Renee H I'm a crafter too and completely hear you. I know that crafting makes m3 happy and calms and soothes me but if I'm not in my happy place the creative juices don't flow as easily. I find if I schedule to go to a scrap or craft day jyst being around the other super supportive creative women really helps me. Even on days when I have a bad start I try to push to go even if it's late....and it does turn my day around almost always. Happy crafting!
@@dawnhershey9174 Hey Dawn ... I make cards & .... well I'm always sampling too.. but, like you I find there are days when it just doesn't come. When I realize that I just can't focus on production, I switch to 'organizing' or just playing with some of my embellishments or inks. I find that sometimes doing a no-brainer like that starts my creativity, or I just learn a new way to use something.... added bonus is that I also feel like I accomplished something!
Thank you for being so transparent for us! I was feeling so ashamed of my inability to keep up with the household tasks and even the lack of energy to shower on a consistent basis. the pain of arthritis and congestive heart failure have limited my ability to stand and walk for more than a few minutes at a time. I felt like giving up and once in a while I don't even want to come out of my room. I am 67 years old. I feel more hopeful now since hearing you share your story. I don't feel so alone now! Thanks again.
You are NOT alone.... there are so many here that have similar stories. Read through, and feel free to make new friends who understand what you are going through. 💙 I am so happy you are here.
Hello, Thank for this video. At only 33, with 2 beautiful girls. My pride and joy. Although when I had my first girl I started to come apart. A very hard start in live, with to many scares to keep writing. And over the years getting more problems with dealing with my life. When I was pregnant with my second girl, I broke as I was lost it was all to much. The first dr I seen just said suck it up that’s life. I was so scared by this, as I was asking for help to reach out. To be put down like that. It took me a month before I when back to my old GP, to tell it all again. My anxiety, depression true out my childhood up till now, problems sleeping, constantly tends and chronic pain after a fall of a horse. All these thing are not visible on the outside and I was in so much emotion stress. My old GP, thank god. Gave me the hand I needed to start to get up a bit. But every day is a challenge, as there are things to get done. 2 kids and hubby (okay 3kids) He is a country boy and see things differently then I do, just forget and get over it. It’s hard, I would love to do this. Not long ago I lost my mom, she was my mom but she shaped my childhood. And that was painful. With her passing so much come back that I didn’t want to remember. And how I have been clinging on to so much “stuff” because it was important and has memory’s. I have brought a WorkBox 3.0 just for me and all my creativity stuff. Just a place where I can have all to me, everything els is about my family and not much space for my self. This is when I first come across your UA-cam, doing research for my WorkBox. And I got very helpful tips out of it. And today I’ve seen this one about pain in what form then what so ever. And seeing this did a lot to me, because it’s so hard to go to the gp and go over and over what my problems are. And it makes me so tired, I spend 3 weeks in hospital away for family and home. As my immune system took matters in its own hands and I ended up with ulcer on my left leg. It gave me a lot of time to think, bit to much. And I want to improve “my life” so I can be a better mom and wife. And with the space I made for my wire and bead creations “ trees of life”. I feel a bit better about me as I’m making things again like I used to. I got a long way to go to sort out my life, bit these tips and tricks you have shared with all of us makes a difference in mean life. Thanks, margreet
Hello Margreet....please try to remember that it is so important to take time for yourself, especially if you notice that it helps you. I know it is hard because we tend to want to do everything for our family but if 'you' are not happy, they will feel it too. Try to find a support group where people come together once a month to just talk about their issues, whether it be chronic pain, depression, or both. Not only will you find it informative, it will make you feel like you are not alone and after hearing their stories, you will know that 'you're not going crazy'. Take care of yourself Margreet!
Thank you and Bless you for this post. Yes I too ended up in tears. Lifelong migraines, depression, recovering alcoholic, recently diagnosed with ADHD all while being addicted to arts and crafts of every shape, size and material…literally! Always believing that no one else really understands. After watching a couple of your videos something urged me to go and start with your earliest posts. Though this video is 2 years old, you are still touching new people. Thank you! Yes I can and Yes I will
You are a treasure! My migraines started at 16 and stopped with menopause. I can so relate to the pain/depression circle as been there since first car accident at 25. Short version of my story is fibromyalgia 1989, MS 2004, stage IV breast cancer 2016 as well as a few lesser problems. Your video touched me as have been struggling with why I’m fighting so hard to stay alive with depression telling my to stop. At 61 am looking at bankruptcy to deal with all the medical bills my husband and I can’t pay. He has end stage renal disease and lives on dialysis 3 days a week. He works 16-32 hours a week in retail as well as Social Security and we can’t make ends meet. I don’t mean to unload but I found you at one of my lowest points and it is making me look forward to tomorrow for first time in a long while. Thank you for reminding me I have real reasons for my inconsistent house work and lack of self care. Keep being the beacon for us to find a way back from the darkness
Terri, I am so sorry to hear all of the struggles you are facing. PLEASE, please reach out for support!!! Your clinicians should be able to provide a listing for your area. Don't give up!!!! Unload anytime/
You really hit home. I have these lists of things to do. I also am one who doesn't know when I'm doing too much, until I have. I have anxiety, panic attacks, depression, fibromyalgia, headaches, can't sleep, get dizzy, etc. I'm going to try those lists you suggested. I'm also one to not ask for help. You're right! Doctors treat me like it is in my head. I also ended up getting divorced. Thank you for all your help!!
I watched this a year ago and am revisiting it....... My granddaughter has started using post it notes for things she's grateful for and phrases that inspired her... I'm going to suggest this video to my daughter who suffers from fibromyalgia and depression..... You're such a blessing Thank you
I am watching this at 2:30a.m., what I call "pain o'clock". In 8 days I move into my first ever owned home. The joy and excitement is being destroyed by pain. This video is everything right now. Thank you. I'd say "you can't understand what this meant to me", except clearly you can. Thank you.
Touched my heart. I used to struggle with depression. Not suicidal, but the nobody loves me nobody comes to see me......I’m better at accepting this now. But I do remember the migraines and was having issues with my cycle. I had a cyst the size of a grapefruit on my ovaries. I had a complete hysterectomy and my life completely changed for the better. So glad you got help also.sending prayers to you and everyone.
I know. Sometimes I wonder if the pain I'm going to feel getting to the kitchen is worth it. Nope. I'll just eat tomorrow. Yesterday I had to call my daughter because I couldn't reach a bottle of water on my nightstand right next to me. My body felt as if I had gotten beaten with a bat.
I'm sitting here listening to you and crying. I'm so happy to hear of someone who had chronic pain and made it out the other side. Mine will end when this bully of a body dies. My Rheumatologist has told me that I am correct in saying my body has aged faster than a year for every year it's been alive. People with all of my autoimmune diseases and disorders have been seen to do that. So I'm grateful that is so my life won't last as long as the norm. I'm past the just ask for help portion. A shower is once every two weeks and with my hubby waiting in case I need him because it took too long. I feel great when I can knit 25 stitches without stopping. These are the best of my remaining life. That's why I've been moved to tears that you got out the other side to still have a life. Praying you never get back into that situation ever again.
Kathryn - I am so sorry. My heart hurts just thinking of you in pain all of the time. Please let me know if you ever want to chat - sometimes just talking about things helps... I wish I could do more to help. 💙 CallClutterFairy@gmail.com
Thank you so much! I am a caregiver to my disabled Dad. He's easy physically but not mentally. I have chronic depression and generalized anxiety disorder. Also back problems and PCOS. I needed those words. My Dad is a classic narcissist so most of the time he really doesn't care that I have limitations. Everytime I get down he doesn't let up on me. I've been at this for the better part of 17 years now. And I've been dealing with my problems since I was 12, and yes he was around the whole time I was growing up so I had my baggage as well. I've been having a ruff time the past couple if weeks and really needed to hear this from someone who knows. Seriously take care of yourself!! I've lost teeth from not taking care of myself because of my mix.
I hope things get better for you soon. Surround yourself with as many positive people and environments as you can! That balance will be very important for you and your interactions with your Dad. Please keep in touch.
thank you very much I suffer chronic pain. I suffered migraines when I was a young mother. I felt like a failure, on a daily basis. even today as an elderly woman, there are days I can't function at all, my house needs organizing and I thank God my daughter is helping me now but she suffers fibromyalgia as well. so there are days we suffer together.
Marcia - I am sorry to hear both you and your daughter have health issues... but I am so happy that you have each other to lean on. I hope brighter days are ahead for you.
I just saw this video in my feed, and this is a big, big struggle for me. Most days I don't want to leave my lying down position...ready to watch the video. 🙂....tears are just streaming down my face now. Thank you so much for this video.
You would not believe (but actually you know) how many of these things you mentioned at the beginning are my new normal ugh. Getting out of bed. Trying to take care of the kids while I'm dealing with my own issues. Actually taking a shower! That one is embarrassing. Getting clothes washed. Cooking etc etc. I have multiple sclerosis and started having symptons in 1997 so going on 23 years now. Im still upright and walking thank Jesus above. My house is a wreck. My purse is a wreck. I'm a wreck. On top of MS i have high blood pressure, diabetes plus now my lower back on left side has excrutiating pain. MRI said arthritis...UGH. Thank you for these videos. Yes pain and depression and dealing with MS... Its a huge vicious cycle.
For the last five or six years I have been trying to adapt to the changes in my lifestyle from an active, fit woman in her 60s to the damage and pain of Rheumatoid Arthritis in my 70s. The damage that has accumulated has caused very big changes in walking, exercising and generally life in general. I am learning and adapting but it is very hard. Small projects with resting time in between are now the new normal. I was always a go-getter and now I have to pace myself constantly or I overdo things. Pain I can cope with but the lack of mobility is what really triggers depression. Your video helps a great deal, thank you. For many of us just giving ourselves permission to rest and recharge is the hardest job of all.
Leleslie45 - I could not agree more!!!! The disappointment in ourselves from our OWN expectations are harsh. Hope you find a stride that helps you enjoy life and ease the pain.
I suffer ftom depression and PTSD. My own family doesn't understand. I went through childhood trauma. I WISH people understood that with depression you don't just choose to be happy. It's not that simple. I have had trauma after trauma after trauma. I am in therapy and have been for almost 3 years. Its good to know I'm not alone. Thank you!
I am so sorry you are going through all of this. This is another that I am really proud of.... I hope it will help and perhaps allow your family to understand. ua-cam.com/video/d9vk8RqlDxM/v-deo.html
Norrine, I feel like u were talking directly 2 me.I'm 😢 crying...so emotional right now! Thank u 4 sharing ur story&I am so Sorry that u had 2 suffer that long😢😢Unblieveable! I recently suffered a back injury.The irony was it was 2 days after Xmas&I was picking up box of items 2 take 2 thirft store&slipped on acorn, lost balance&twisted, slipped disc,which pressed on nerve.Couldn't function&take care of self. Pain&depression followed. Have made progress. Can do things now that I couldn't do b4,but not 100%.Was out of work 4 several months with no income&no one 2 help. Will have 2 watch video again about ur steps&list making&pacing self.THANK U so much 4 sharing&talking about ur experience. Pain is a very personal thing.Different 4 all! Some days r better than others. I am glad u r doing better now&trying 2 help others know they r NOT alone! Take care!💝
I started crying shortly into your video. I’ve had depression and anxiety for at least four decades (I’m in my early 60s). This weekend dropped me into a bad cycle, so much so that I couldn’t get out of bed and go to work Monday, at a job I love. I’m on meds and see a therapist every other week (plus in times of crisis). Clutter is a huge stress factor for me, for at least 20 yrs. My SO and his dtr create a lot of clutter!! My SO invited friends for dinner Sunday night. Neither he nor his dtr helped me with any cleaning. He went to breakfast with a friend that lasted five hours; she sat on the sofa playing video games. I finally had enough, called our friends, asked to postpone dinner. My SO and dtr just don’t get it. You do. You’re like a best friend in another state, always there to help, understand; your gentle manner of delivery is much appreciated as well.
Make your lists!!!! Then talk to your SO and his daughter.... GIVE them a few of the tasks. Explain how completing these items will help not just you (even thought that is the priority) but the overall feel of the house and the connection for the three of you. They may resist. If they do.... see if you can pull in any outside help. But having that list done first will really streamline and focus any help you do get. Giant hugs from your best friend in another state.
Good for you for protecting yourself by postponing that dinner if you weren't getting any help! Call Clutter Fairy has excellent tips for you to get help from now on. In the kindest way possible, they need to realize what you deal with and have to go through. Good luck!
I understand how difficult it is to deal with chronic illness, I have secondary progressive MS so my journey is challenging most days. I practice yoga and use many alternative healing modalities including acupuncture and massage. This has really helped me have a sense of control over a disease that takes much of your control away. Keep doing what makes you feel whole...
this literally brought me to tears - i suffer from chronic pain due to fibro, arthritis, migraines and chronic fatigue which has led to functioning depression. i have let everything in my life fall into a deep abyss. thank you for understanding and giving me some solutions to feel accomplished without putting myself in bed for days. thank you. i know this is an older video - but i just found you and subscribed.
It's an older video... but the message is still current 💜 The group in the comments is amazing and supportive. We all get it, and are here for you. You are definitely not alone. 🌺
I just found this video too. It was such a blessing. I feel like there is a family here. I already liked her now I love her. She helped bring a group of people together who I didn't know existed. I don't feel so alone anymore. BTW - doing the laundry equals two days of bed rest for me. Still trying to figure a better, less exhausting way to wash, dry, hang and fold clothes for 4 people.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I'm so glad I'm not the only one going through these types of things! I went through a hysterectomy in 2010. And from there I went back to school to study alternative medicine basically to learn how to fix myself, hotflashes, depression, fatigue, etc. I have learned that we have to take it one day at a time and it is a very slow process but you do get through it all with patience and fortitude. I am slowly getting through things layer by layer . Again thank you so much for your video. Needed to hear it from another person and needed the confirmation that I'm on the right road.
YES, YOU'RE ON THE RIGHT ROAD!!!! I've love to learn from you how to work on the hot-flashes and depression without medicine! I've opted to not take anything... but some days it's really hard and I think I should take soemthing.... Share, if you can.
Unfortunately I do have to be on estrogen and an anti depressant in order to function due to the hysterectomy. I have learned that u can accomplish a lot alternatively but sometimes u just have to rely on conventional medicine for some things. Lol
Oh my goodness, what a gentle soul you are! I am SO sorry to hear of your childhood trauma and how it effected you. I pray you, and all women who struggle in this area, will be healed of those memories. Being a female is a wonderful gift, but I find we are so prone to bouts of depression and oppression. Thank you for your tips, I believe we can all use them in the different seasons of our lives and mindsets. And YES, we need to learn to take care of ourselves, first....not the house, or the kids & family, but us. May you continue to help many others.
Thank you for your wonderful honesty. Getting up (i.e. moving) and getting into that shower truly is half the battle. Also, allow yourself to push any undone tasks onto next day's schedule - because you can only eat that big old elephant a little bit at a time!🐘
@@TheCraftyOrganizer Thanks! Continuing with animal analogies, once it is possible to get moving - I also find that if there's one tricky or unpleasant task to complete on a particular day- do it as early as possible and do it FIRST! On a day of severe pain or distress - that task might even be as 'simple' as making a social or medical appointment. I believe that it's called 'eating the frog'. Once that frog's stopped croaking away at you, award yourself a coffee/tea/ hot chocolate (and your favourite snack) and relax in the knowledge that you actually did it!
Thank you for your willingness to share your story. I have fibromyalgia and there are days when I have to accept that it is not going to be a productive day. I really like the idea of creating the three different task levels list. That is a very realistic way to accomplish something every day. It is extremely hard to ask for help. It took me many years before I was able to do that. I have learned that when you refuse help, you are robbing others the chance of receiving a blessing.
Oh, please tell me how it goes for you!!! It's funny, I've ALWAYS loved helping people... yet wouldn't ask or accept help. Crazy what we tell ourselves is ok and what isnt'. Please keep in touch.
I've found the work and rest method to work amazing for me. There have been days where I pushed myself too much and I do pay for it the next day... sometimes for the whole week. I think it's important to learn our limitations and find methods that work for us as individuals.
I have dealt with adrenaline fatigue and achiness from injuries and the small list idea works for me. I have one for just - check dishes, laundry, garbage, floors - shower is great, I used to drag myself through the day. Thanks, & you do look great!
I can't thank you enough for sharing this awesome video! I honestly prayed this morning for strength, motivation & direction to get some much needed cleaning & organizing done in my apt today & then I see this video. This really spoke to me because I relate so closely with so much that you shared. THANK YOU! I NEEDED THIS VIDEO!!!!
I'm two years late to your video but it's so refreshing to hear such a soft, kind and respectful voice. Someone who actually knows and understands this chronic life. Thank you for taking the time to explain part of your life and helping us. It's really appreciated. 🥰
Thank you! With chronic health issues myself this video is so Practical and fundamental which I need now. We are all in this together ! Especially asking for help is great advice. A couple weeks ago I had my first session with an organizer to help me. I hit the wall a long time ago and after an accident left me with a broken leg this Winter I actually had to learn to ask for help...after then getting basic help (including spending fee and tip for grocery delivery) a light went on and I researched local options and found my organizer too. Thanks also for the resource links. Stay strong Y’all!! We can do this!
Thank you...thank you...thank you. I have Lupus, Fibro and multiple cerebral aneurysms. I have utilized the "spoon" technique for many years. I only have so many "spoons" and when I run out of them in a day, it is time to hang it up for the day. I prioritize my tasks and have found solace in this practice. :)
Good video. I once saw a talk by a woman who works at a brain injury clinic, who said that brushing your teeth takes something like, 213 separate little tiny movements. (That might not be the exact number, but you get my drift right?) So tasks that simple to most of it are not really all that simple to some of us.
When we are healthy - it's not mean, but we take our health for granted. Doing this video reminded me what my life used to be like - and made me appreciative all over again.
I'm going to add brushing my teeth to my 15 minute list. Having trigeminal neuralgia makes it hard somedays but my natural teeth are worth it. I think i'm going to make a diy self-care checklist and put in my bathroom as a reminder these things are important!😁 Thanks for sharing!
you are absolutely ok... I could write an entire volume on just this topic... oh wait I have and do 🤗 I am a survivor of 20yrs of IPV (Intimate Partner Violence) and year ago had a full physical mental breakdown.... I now speak and teach about Complex PTSD, Life after Trauma and Unshackled Grace! WOMAN YOU ARE AMAZING AND SO BEAUTIFULLY NORMAL!!!!!!! I launch in September but we are 2 peas in a pod
Thank you. I have fibromyalgia and have had ministrokes and depression. I tend to take on too much. I have found that a checklist for daily chores helps. I see what I got done and it boosts my mood. Kathy B.
Thanks for sharing. I went through 2 times of depression in my 20's and it taught me life lessons...to eat healthier, go for walks in the sunshine, focus on the good, do the next thing, even if it was just take a shower or wash 5 dishes in a pile of dishes in the sink. Low energy can rob us of productivity which can be a downward spiral so taking care of oneself is important. I recommend the book "Happiness is a Choice" by the Minirth clinic doctors for those who are depressed and may suffer from co-dependency. It can take awhile to get up out of the "pit" but it is possible. Also my faith in God gives me hope for the future in this world so full of trials and it is that hope that keeps me going and brings me joy.
I have asked for help. They say they are & they never show up. So I'm having to learn how to Pace myself so that I don't get overwhelmed. This Video really helped. I'm not upset anymore because I can't get everything done in one day. I've got Adult A.D.D. & find it frustrating because I go from spot to spot & nothing gets completed. But learning to Pace myself really helps. ThankU again.
I have ADD and using a dry erase board or post it's with what I'm working on helps. When I have a lot of energy, using a bullet journal to track and direct what I'm doing helps
Thank you. I suffer from fibromyalgia, chronic back and neck pain, hemochromatosis and other health issues. I am so guilty of having that good day and overdoing, then pay the price. I have had to learn to just let things go. I do what I can. When I can. Things that use to take me no time at all to do, can take days to do now. It’s beyond aggravating.
But you don't give up?!?! That's AWESOME! Celebrate what you HAVE done! Enjoy the slower process with a good audio book or music. And then REST and nurture yourself.
I thank you so much for this video ..... I'm an extremely private person because of trust issues. I'm on meds for depression and anxiety.... God bless you so much..... I'm so glad you're doing so good....
Oh I know that light pain. I could be in darkness covered with blankets no light in if my husband had to come in the room and I could FEEL the light. Thank you for this video.
Norrine, It has taken me 2 months to be able to write this message. I suffer wth Chronic Back and Leg pain and everything you have said is so true. There are days when all I can do is get out of bed, shower and take my medications. I started working when I was 17 and I have always taken care of myself and have never asked for or needed anyone for help. I worked so hard for 31 years to get to where I was 5 years ago. I was the Administration Manager of a very small but successfully Accounting firm and I loved loved my job and I was dam good at it. My Chronic Pain started to present itself in 2013 but I just keep going until June 2015 where from June to December I had spend 12 weeks in hospital at time I had to learn to be able to walk again. I would fall without warning and I had to have a back operation which helped with the falling but did not reduce my pain as the nerve had been pinched so badly since 2013 so it is never going to get better. I even tried to go back to work and that was a disaster. I now can’t work and I am stuck at home on my own all day everyday. This is not the life I wanted I was going to work until retirement age which in Australia is 65 for most of us. Having to ask people to drive me to my appointments because my medication make it impossible to me to drive safely. Your tips have been very helpful. The hardest thing about all of this is asking for help it is so hard, I know I can ask all my friends and family to held and they will be there and that is very humbling as I was always the one who helped everyone. I am starting to learn to ask for help it is hard but I acknowledge that I need help now and as my psychologist said by not asking for help or accepting help I am robbing my family and friends of opportunity to pay it forward for all those times I helped them. Thinking of it that way has been a big help. It is a long and slow process but I am getting there.
Carla - your psychologist is absolutely right.... let the people who care about you get the gift of helping someone so deserving. I pray that you find relief from your pain and are able to enjoy the little daily things in life. Please keep in touch and know I am thinking about you ❤️
Depression is utterly vile and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I have bipolar and I call my depression ‘The many tentacled Beast’ because it wraps itself around every part of you. I’ve sometimes not showered for days and days or washed my hair. So I can empathise so much with you. Thank you for this video. You have my respect for sharing your story. And doing so can be very therapeutic and cathartic. 😉👍
Due to divorce at age 70 after 41 years of marriage, I've had to move 3 times in 18 months, the final time being across country. I have chronic pain in my lower back, neck, and knee due to arthritis plus scoliosis that I have had my whole life. I've been dealing with depression as well, so my moves were overwhelming in terms of packing and unpacking. In fact I didn't even unpack all my boxes the 2nd time I moved and lived that way for a year. If it wasn't for 3 good friends who helped pack for this last move 2200 miles away, I couldn't have done it by myself. In fact after unpacking 1-2 large boxes, I have to lay down because of the pain. It looks like I'm not motivated to unpack, but it just takes me 3x as long as 'normal people'.
If each box means equals pain... how could you be motivated?? I think setting short times and only doing what you can in that short time would be better for you. Yes, it will take longer - but you won't be hurting yourself and causing days of recovery from it. I hope you have someone who can help you where you are currently living. Please keep in touch.
I know! Not only is every task painful but physically exhausting too. Sometimes I get winded just leaning down to put my shoes and socks on. My husband is sick of me being sick. If it weren't for the kids he would have left me already. When the dishes get done he has no idea that it took me hours to do them or that my hands hurt so badly I'm afraid I'm going to drop the dishes while I'm washing them. The struggle is real. Our pain is real. It's a blessing to know that there are people who understand. I am not lazy, a bad wife or a bad mother because my house is a wreck. I'm doing the best I can. That realization took many hours of therapy.🙂
Believe it or not making lists like these is something I learned while I was attending meetings for a sales company I part of. The taught more than just sales and about their products. They taught how to take care of yourself and your family. This was many years ago so I hope they are still teaching the same things.
Thank you so much for this. Thank you for being a beacon of hope and having the courage to share your real story with us. While watching you and listening I cried because so many of your tips were so thought out and helpful and your message resonated with mine. I want you to know that you have helped me with initiating these small but yet so crucial and helpful tips to begin the process. You somehow managed to give me permission to feel depressed and still try to fight thru my day. So many people just don’t normally make that connection for me. So I genuinely want to thank you for your courage, smile, understanding and all that falls under the umbrella of you actually treating me like a person. God Bless you and I will continue to enjoy re-watching this for day to day reminders and hope. Thank you so, so , much!!!!!
Now I am crying!!!! Thank you.... I am so happy this helps you. Please keep me posted and let me know your struggles. I can try to make suggestions or find you resources. xoxox
Great video. I live with a life-threatening disease that has caused chronic pain, as well as other things. On the days I cannot physically get out of bed, I consider it God’s way of letting me know it’s time to rest. I try my best not to begrudge these days, but rather embrace them.
I needed this today. I try to motivate others even when getting my channel up every morning is a struggle for me. I hang in and smile through the pain. I struggle with Rheumatoid, Osteo, Fibro and so much more. Your tips are going to be my goal. If it was not for finding my UA-cam channel friends/family I would still be in my room and in the dark all day. I came out of the dark and made my own channel. Finding your channel was a Godsend
God do I know what you're talking about. I've suffer from depression my whole life. I met my husband when I was 20, at the same time I started suffering from migraines, people would not believe that I could hear the light bulb, for 37 years I 'd be at least 2 weeks of the months, all vacations, at work in front of a computer, asking my boss to please turn all the lights off. As soon as my menstrual cycle stopped, so did my migraines. My children, and even my granddaughter grew up seeing me suffer. My husband lived thru it with me, I know it wasn't easy but we made it. Now the only thing I don't suffer from are migraines, being old stinks. LOL. Thank you for sharing.
I love you and your transparency. I think this is why my apartment is such mess and I'm in so much pain. Maybe i am depressed. Thank you. I LOVE YOU !!!
Excellent tips! Thank you for your transparency and kindness in sharing such a personal story. I’ve been going through constant pain, fatigue, disability and illness for 28 years. I can’t think of a tip you missed! Excellent advice. Took me years to learn a lot of this, usually the hard way. This is a Master’s level class, y’all. I would only add, pray. God is real, and is waiting for you to ask *Him* for help, too. God bless! ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. I have chronic pain and wacked out hormones. Eating right and and taking supplements are key to my physical health but most of all depending on the Word of God is most important to my spiritual being. I always read the book of Psalms when I feel anxiety and depression creeping in and it works 100% of the time.
mrandmrswalkersdesigns: God’s Word is literally alive. There’s such depth in it. I too am made whole by reading it. And I especially love the book of Psalms ☀️
I don't even know if you will see the comments. But... This video was amazing. I had an injury in 2000. It radically turned my world upside down. I caused multiple surgeries, chronic pain, and PTSD. I never asked for help or had anyone offer. I went through a nasty divorce and life just sucked. I am remarried, to a semi-hoarder, and finding my way out of a big mess. I just found your channel and this video was so helpful. Thank you. I am going thru your old videos and it has been so nice. Thank you again.
I'm so sorry for what you've been through! I hope you are in a better place now. My new husband is also a 'collector'. It's interesting navigating through it with my background. Sending you hugs and hoping life is bringing you more smiles. 💐
I am watching this while I have a timer set to rest....then I see that is one of your tips! That's the only way I can maintain a home. I wish everyone in my life would watch this video.
Wow I needed this, thank you ♥️ took me 8 weeks to organise and change my twin girls bedroom, but with help I did it! Work a little, rest, work, rest, absolutely helps!
Dear friend You are not alone.i hv walked down that path.crafting makes me happy. I am a journalist by profession but what makes me happy is crafting. Prayers and crafting has helped me get up and walk faster. I am on meds but I am fe. Bless you loads
Additional hints for those with ADD/ADHD.... Susan Pinsky's ORGANIZING SOLUTIONS FOR PEOPLE WITH ADHD. Thank you, Norrine, for your time, skills, attitude!!!! You rock!
New subbie here. Just want to say "Thank you!" You are a very brave girl to have overcome all that you have! Thank you for sharing your struggle in order to help others. God bless you for doing this! I am 68 and live with chronic back and joint pain due to rheumatoid arthritis. I really enjoy doing nothing in the morning s except feeding my cats and a few dishes. Then I sit down for my "coffee hour" Mostly turns into 2 or 3 hours, lol. Will definitely use your tips to get moving in the morning!
Thank you for being so open and sharing what you were able to. I am still learning to pace myself, it's so hard to remember when I'm having a good day that I still need to have breaks so I don't overdo it. I will get there eventually. Thanks again 💖
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve suffered from migraines since I was 13. I had cluster migraines that lasted months. I also suffer from chronic pain from fibromyalgia and psoriatic arthritis. Joint replacements and the pain causes depression. It effects everything... thanks for sharing your story and tips.
My mom and grandmother both suffered from their teens to menopause with migraines. When I didn't get them as a teen, they were so relieved that it skipped me. Then when I turned 40 they hit me with a vengeance!! It took years of wasted time and money with my regular physician, testing, a neurologist, preventative medications that didn't work well enough, and even Botox. Finally convinced my GYN to run a hormone study on me and lo and behold they were way out of whack. It was hard to tell with how debilitating the migraines were, plus an autoimmune condition I have to contend with and the numerous medications and their side effects bring challenges too. I still get a migraine with my cycle, but the rest of the month I can be me again. I can't stress enough how much hormone imbalance can affect your health!
Thank you these tips were awesome! I have RA and Fibromyalgia and getting depressed and anxious go right hand-on-hand. Just getting up and doing something small is like a huge chore, but that little bit is sometimes just enough to get you thru. I have marked this video as a favorite, since I want to reflect on the tips and see how I can incorporate them. Thank you!
I just saw your channel today. I am exactly what you described. Fibromyalgia, vertigo, extreme fatigue, costochondritis ect.... I am that woman. Thank you for sharing so much.
Clutter Fairy I just stumbled upon your channel and I am going to call you my FAIRY GODMOTHER!! Thank you, thank you, thank you.... you may have just saved my life... your story and how you felt is exactly how I feel and have felt everyday of my life for so, so many yrs. You are the first person I have met, (even though we have never met... lol) that truly understands what it is that I suffer through every single day.... I am to emotional to share anymore right now, but I will be back! Thank you from Julie Queensland, Australia
Hi Julie! I am so sorry you have been carrying these feelings around alone. There are so many who suffer in silence. I hope you can find a support group here, or keep searching online. I've found so many who agree - having support (even online to vent) helps SO much!
Amen sister! Thanks for sharing your struggles. I've gone through a lot and am better. You explain things in a way that is doable. Love you 😘😘 keep up these great videos!!
I found you by accident and I am so glad that I did! I sat here crying because it was like you were talking to me! I have been depressed all my life and since my husband and my son passed away it is like I lost so much of me! I am a lot older than you are but I have seen people my age or older that seem to be enjoying life so much, and I envy them very much! My mind tells me I can do something but my body says no! Some days I ask God to take me, but I have a Daughter and Granddaughter that I must be here for! It is just so hard! Thanks for listening!
I am so sorry for your loss and for that pain you live with - both in body and in heart. Keep searching... Please keep in touch. I will be here cheering for you to find a way to discover joy through all of this. 💛
Thank you so much for listening! I recently started paper crafting to help keep my mind occupied. You do paper crafting too, right? If I can figure out a way to send a photo to you of what my craft is could you tell me, honest opinion on how I did! It is the first thing I made with chipboard! I think for a first try it isn't too awful bad but it would be nice if you could let me know. I have to figure out how to do it first. Again, thank you for listening!
That was worth the wait. Now I know how to make our list for working on the things I need done. Not only my craft room but my home office, my kitchen, my laundry room, and my two bedrooms. Thank you so much for your story. I know we can do this. I will e-mail you pictures of before and after. Thank you thank you.
Be patient with yourself. We moved my craft room into my large bedroom that I work on the bed with my laptop, tablet and sometimes phone on speaker via wifi and another running audio chats. When I have the energy to remind my brain what to do. I'm using the bullet journal method of just a book of collections to help me remember with an index. It's hard to sound stupid to others. It took me 2 years to get to 90% accomplished. I thought Konmari was a fad so I ignored knowing everything about it. I just used the "touch every little thing and only keep it if I loved it" routine. My OCD feels much better but I have to keep up with putting everything back in its place. Sometimes that takes a few days. So I alternate the sorting with the doing more now.
I know exactly what you went through. I’m 78 years old now. When I was going through the worst of it, it was the sixties and doctors in those years thought all of our female problems were just in our head. I was told that “you look good”. I felt like no one believed how sick I was. I am so happy that I was able to finally find a doctor who said “lady you are a mess”. It may sound ridiculous but that was a happy day in my life. I was going to get help. It took many years and we are just beginning to believe and understand the female body. It was difficult but when you finally get the help you need … life is worth it. God bless you Norrine. You are a blessing
I'm so sorry you went through that! But I agree completely! Hearing I had a tumor was such wonderful news - because it was FINALLY something to point at - nd no longer 'in my head'. Hope you are feeling 1000 times better these days. xoxox
best video i have seen yet. i shared. as a person who lives with disability and chronic pain, i can relate. i am never depressed, but sometimes when you can't possibly do more than wheel your chair to the kitchen for a drink of water, it is nice to hear how someone else got through it and what worked for them. i live one minute at a time- and take it one day at a time. if i don't get through it today, i know it will still be there tomorrow and tomorrow is another day.
Thank you so much for this video. I am so glad you were able to find relief from your migraines. I suffer from chronic daily headaches caused by an old neck injury and depression, anxiety and panic. What you said about having a shower is so true. Sometimes it is a huge effort, but once you do, you feel slightly better and able to tackle small jobs. The recent weeks of rain in the UK has not helped but I think the sunshine may be on its way 😀. Thank you again and take care.
Omg thank u so much! I have severe depression an anxiety, fibromyalgia an to top that off i have widespread arthritis. So if my muscles arent hurting my bones are. I dont have a family support they just tell me to just get over it an go on. I dont have many friends that was taken care of years ago, so it was so good to hear your story. I too had the female problems but finally was able to give them to my doctor on a silver plater. Best day ever! Thank you thank you so much for sharing!!
THANK YOU! So many people don't understand the agony of not being the person you used to be. Some days I just want to stay in bed with my head buried under the sheets. Pain leads to depression and depression leads to more problems. You are an inspiration and I am so glad I found this;
Thank you for say this it is me.
You have no idea how many people you helped. Just knowing one is not alone is so encouraging. Thanks again.
So right Mary.
This absolutely touched me. I struggle with the showering thing and then I feel not worthy of anything. I feel friends don’t understand because they can’t see the pain. Thank you so much for your videos xxxx
stop listening to your friends. the hardest thing i had to learn was exactly that.
I know exactly how you feel. Ignore your friends. I know that it isn't easy.
I’m in the Uk, but I am the same, only most of my friends have disappeared. I’ve subbed to you, I am on UA-cam but I only have two videos at he moment showing craft stuff, but am hoping to start making more soon. Are you on Facebook? Let me know and I’ll go befriend you, then if you want to talk to someone who has chronic pain you can talk to me. Huggles xxxAnnxxx
Solitude is difficult. I have a few special friends all over the world. One of my long-time meeting friends who lived in the north east US while I was in Florida, came up 20 years later on Facebook. He lives less than 6 miles away. I moved North and he moved south and somehow we met in the middle. He visits me, usually once a week. He sits on my sofa or office chair, on days that I'm living in bed.
There are many days that authors are my best friends.
I forgot to mention that I wish friends would still invite me even if they know I can't go.
First of all, you are truly an inspiration. I suffer from Fibromyalgia and it is so frustrating when my mind wants to do things but my body doesn’t cooperate. Your tips are really helpful and your attitude and support are a gift to your subscribers. Thank you!!!
Thank you so much, Chantal! Please keep in touch!
I totally understand that. I go through the same thing.. Stay strong!!
Chantal Salomoni Bless you and take good care of yourself. One, small baby step at a time.
Please learn to be very gentle on yourself. It took me 48 years to learn that self-care is not selfish. Fibro is one of my many autoimmune disorders.
Please put self-care on your green list when you have those worse days. I bullet journal, watch TED videos, binge UA-cam DIY videos, binge Netflix like it's the Lifetime Channel, read, and I just started a gentle physical therapy program.
If you can tolerate chlorine, find water physical therapy. I really miss that. I also miss fibro specialized massage therapy. I always joked that the reason people feel so good after a massage is because the pain had stopped. The pain of the massage. I was sore for a few weeks but then it became a serious relief.
I so understand what your saying. Your mind, heart and soul want to get things done but your body won't let you. It is so aggravating, and then if you get company... they dont understand why your house isnt spotless and makes you feel lazy.
Thank you so much for your post and for reaching out.
May God bless you in all you do and bring healing to your body, mind, spirit, and soul
I knew a pastor that would scold people who refused help and say "Don't steal that person's blessing!". We bless our loved ones by letting them help us.
So true!!!!
I have a multitude of ailments. In the early 2000's I couldn't stand straight because of pain from endometriosis. After 2 years of begging I finally had a hysterectomy. WALKING ERECT in the first time in a year made me feel human again just like you said. Now it's just my old bones and joints. I have had very serious back and neck surgeries. Also shoulder and knee. Being 56 and feeling 96 is very depressing. True story just this morning I woke up looked at the clock groaned and pulled the covers up. 10 minutes later I said NO! Get your butt up Laura your animals need to eat. It was a physical struggle but I did it. Then I sat down with a cup tea and crumb cake watched Match Game while folding a basket of towels - which I asked my boyfriend the night before to carry up from the basement and he did. He offered to fold them - but I wanted to do it because I can. Doing such a simple task does make me feel like I have purpose. Thank you for sharing and for always listening to my stories too. You are SO MUCH MORE than the Clutter Fairy. 😇😍
Hey! You're not supposed to make the Clutter Fairy cry! I loved this and am so thankful for your comment... I am putting the message on my wall. I am SO MUCH MORE than the Clutter Fairy!!!! Keep me posted - I will be your cheerleader!
Awh thank you. I will definitely keep you posted. Joe and I just cleaned out the biggest drawer in our kitchen. It was the proverbial clown car lol. Now that we can see our gizmos and gadgets we might actually use them 👍
That is awesome!!!! Way to go!
ME TOO. BUT I DON'T HAVE A HUSBAND. LONG STORY. I CAN'T ORGANIZE FOR ANYTHING. I WATCHED DO IT ON A DIME. THEN IT CLICKED! ONLY I LOVE COLOR.
You don’t happen to have breast implants, do you! I was sicker and sicker for over 14 years before I found out about breast implant illness, and after 3 other surgeries due to organ failure, I had them taken out. They were disgusting! Just a thought, in case anyone else doesn’t know what is wrong with them. 🙏
as someone with both chronic pain and depression, I want to thank you for this, useful, honest, and good, gentle advise & tips(and yes, the whole chicken/egg circularity of it all gets even more depressing)
Great video, thanks! I have some chronic pain issues and one thing I have found that helps me - my timer is my best at home helper - on the not so good days, I do things for two minutes at a time. Amazing what I can get done in a day, just two minutes at a time - many breaks in between. Thanks for sharing - can't imagine how many of us you have helped with just this video!
2 minutes at a time. Great advice
The fact that you even thought to make this video is amazing! Thank you so much!
I am not all through your video, but I have to tell you: You are not alone. You are talking about me and as I read in the other comments, you touched a lot of hearts. Thank you for your courage to share all these private things with us! I hope your video reaches all the people, who struggle! God bless you and your family.
Thank you... Hope you are able to find a way to deal with your pain.
I'm often immobilized with anxiety/depression and overwhelmed by routine household chores, not to mention many projects/clutter. All is compounded with chronic health issues & debilitating pain. I too am divorced and alone. Thank you for sharing. It's such a comfort to know I'm not the only one. God bless you and the others that are commenting with similar issues.
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Me too.
Thank you. You have no clue how much you helped me today. I have chronic back & leg pain, PTSD, depression, and anxiety. You are my blessing from God.
Sending you giant hugs. 💜 I have a wonderful Facebook group where we just support each other in all ways - if you'd like to join. It helps to be in a group of people who support, encourage, and understand: facebook.com/groups/730125317461615/
I am an adult orphan, it is me & my husband. In February this year our only child, died suddenly...he was 28. I have dealt with, depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder since I was 10 years old. I was abandoned by my parents, they divorced and neither one of them wanted custody of me, they wanted freedom. I've since lost contact with my brother & sister over the years. Partly because I isolate, partly I don't understand why. I fight daily to stay alive, if my husband dies...I will truly be all alone in a camper. We are both disabled, the only time we leave our camper is to see a doctor or buy groceries (24 hour Walmart). We sleep all day & stay awake at night. I'm dealing with RA, many other health issues because of our sedentary lifestyle. I don't know where to begin digging out of this rut, or if I even want to. I will try your lists, I appreciate this video.
Christie - I beg you, please find a community outside of your trailer!! That type of isolation is very hard to combat. See if there is a community center or pain clinic around where you can meet some people. Establishing a few connections will open new 'families' to you. I am so sorry to hear about your experiences. I hope you reach out - you deserve love and happiness. Please keep in touch.
Thank you for taking the time to do this video and telling us what you have dealt with. I suffer from depression and anxiety and Fibromyalgia. My home is totally overwhelming with clutter. When I manage to just get the dishwasher loaded or a load of laundry done, I am so happy with myself that I accomplished that task. At this time I have no help. My husband has been working 58 hours weeks, this includes Saturday and stays exhausted. Thanks again.
You know how on airplanes they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first..... You have to take care of YOU first! Then check in on your husband.... appreciate the hard work he's doing. The house will survive.
Jodi I'm the same - Fibromyalgia is horrible, I used to be a really busy person, with a clean and tidy house - not since i was diagnosed with fibro - for about the last 5 years i've not been able to do as much and wondered why - eventually I went to the GP who sent me to a Rheumatologist and I was finally diagnosed with FMS and Chronic pain..... You're not alone!
And the house will wait!
One thing my grammie once said has always stayed with me (& she lived by this too): "if your dishes are done & your beds are made, then your house is clean". My husband & I both suffer with chronic pain stemming from different issues & it's so hard just to make sure those two things are done every day, but no matter how many piles there are, if those two things are done... then my house feels clean --& in the end that is all that should matter!
I’m so glad you shared your struggles with us. My question is, I’d like to start at the beginning of your videos, what is the best way to go about that? I would dearly love to have a clutter free home, but where do I start?
I suffer from fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue and pain and so many days I have to be happy with getting the meals on the table. That’s what is needed most. Then on days I feel better, I have to decide whether to clean something or work on my art, or in the garden. If I don’t put the “fun” stuff on top of the list, I’ll never get to do anything fun again. Balance i what I’m trying to find.
Thank You for your time and insights. Thank You for any suggestions to help me start my decluttering life.
I made a step by step playlist 💛 Hope you like it. ua-cam.com/video/jmZ93jiz5tU/v-deo.html
Thank you for being so genuine and forthcoming. I'm 70 and in pain every day so I relate completely. My issue in asking for help is that it feels like complaining and nobody really wants to hear that. So my standard answer is I'm fine even when I'm not.
Oh my gosh...I hug you..... I'll be 74 in June and understand where you are
Jean, asking for help is the hardest thing for me - even NOW! So, start with something little... And you don't need to give a reason justifying why you need help! That's something I just learned - And if someone you've asked help from wants to know why, they WANTED to hear and it's not complaining. ;) Our society has moved away from helping one another - but I think we ALL need and want it. Please keep me posted.
I'm also 70 & started having pain issues that I acknowledged at about 35.
No one , not family, friends or medical professionals, seem to understand or care! I'm totally alone! Haven't talked with any of my family since 2006 except for one brother & haven't spoken to him in about 4 years!
I really try not to whine but because no one understands I suppose that maybe it does sound like whining!
We are fine cause we are Survivors
Sometimes dealing with the pain is easier than asking for help. Listening to well meaning advice from those not in pain, can be exhausting & demoralizing. Finding new ways of doing things as well scraping old ones can be very exciting! 😃
I tell my Male friends that when a woman says she's fine, she isn't. I use to have a local friend I met through blogging.
I asked her one day and I got the fine remark. So I asked her, "so how do you really feel?"
I cried through this whole video. It is an incredible feeling to know someone understands and cares. Thank you.
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I needed this video today. I am a full time special education teacher, a domestic violence counselor, the president of my union local, a teacher mentor, and a Sunday School teacher. I recently finished a year of cancer treatment and took very little time off. As the result of chemo and my current medication, I have autoimmune arthritis is off the charts and I have developed neuropathy in my feet. I also have lymphedema, sciatica, a cervical fusion, and severe TMJ. I recently had carpal tunnel surgery on my right hand, which fatigues very easily, as well as plantar fasciitis and a bone spur in my right foot. I LIVE in constant pain that I “push through” , but it is getting harder. I am an artist, an avid crafter, and a very organized person. However, I want to get rid of things I’m not using and I am just exhausted and overwhelmed. Thank you for the tips. I do many of these things already, but I am going to try the three-part “ to do” list. Thanks for addressing this important issue for people whose minds are willing, but whose bodies aren’t able!!👍🏻
Please keep me posted on how you are doing!!!! I hope the lists help.... but I hope you slow down and take care of YOU first.
I agree ... stop & smell the roses every so often. I also have to give you some much needed and well earned Praise because you kept going with all of your activities while dealing with all the medical issues you have. You are a Star! (&.. I wager you enjoyed everything you were doing no matter how you felt each day, that it helped keep you 'sane' during all of the miserable you had going on around you.) Keep smiling..
I remember the "push through it" days. I've lost friends who can still push through it because they cant comprehend a day when they may understand how I am. I'd never wish all of this on anyone.
Take time for you to hone the axe you help other chop with... self-care is so important and it took me 48 years to learn it. Be gentle on yourself. We all seem to be walking in each others shoes.
Sister, I’m not being fresh. Your body is telling you IVE HAD ENOUGH! You need to say NO to some of those committees honey. You’re a leader, but the world will suck the life out of you only if you let it. Can you put your brakes on a bit and take care of you? Chemo deserves time off. I know, I went through it. Just honor your body. ❤️
Bless you
I have a few chronic illnesses that have lead me down a real dark path. I appreciate you so much for putting a little light on so I can see a little better. I reasonable so much with your story, thank you for having the courage and compassion to tell it.
Thank you. I suffer from anexity and depression. Thank you for the tips
Thank you for this video. I have chronic pain, anxiety and depression. Start too many things that I can’t finish. Some days I just can’t get out of bed. I’m a neat freak with OCD, so leaving things not completed just makes me more anxious. Thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to take breaks and not get done all in one day❤️
The hardest thing I had to do with all my battles is teach my brain to let OCD go. With help from my psychiatrist.
Celebrate the small victories! Getting out of bed may be the biggest challenge of any given day, but if you manage it, give yourself the credit you deserve. I heard someone say once that when the dust bunnies got too big to ignore, she named them and called them pets! (She said it kept her sane enough to move forward without having to get everything done.)
I am a retired MD. Retired due to 3 different types of arthritis, one was an inflammatory arthritis that attacks the major joints and spines and I had 16 surgeries for the arthritises, joint replacements and seven spine surgeries due to the spurs crushing the nerves and spinal cord to the point I was 6-12 months from being permanently in a wheelchair at times. I was a workaholic. Work kept me from noticing my pain. My patients were my distraction, but it was finally so bad everyone said, “No, you have to stop working or you will die!” They were right. My stress was off the charts. I could block the pain with my conscious mind but my body felt it. The high cortisol levels from the pain, caused me to gain weight, become diabetic, my thyroid failed, my autoimmune system went crazy. Once I retired I dropped 40 pounds without trying! I cried everyday though and complained to God, “God they took away my children!” I thought no one would love my patients I had cared for for decades as much as I did (not that some doctor wasn’t as smart as I was). I knew I knew their quirks and who was the stoic and who was the complainer. Who to listen to closely no matter how long their list of complaints were or who to just hug and comfort more than doctor. A new doctor wouldn’t. As I cried to God, He reminded me, They aren’t your children. THEY ARE MY CHILDREN! I knew then they would be fine and to take care of me finally. I commend you for addressing those who are dealing with Chronic Pain and disease. There are a lot of us out here. God bless you.
God called me to be a doctor and let me bless so many people, but now He has me writing books. He insisted I write. He even moved an Editor next door to my house when I complained to Him. That I didn’t even know an editor or publisher or how to write a book. I didn’t even like English lit! So two weeks later I get new neighbors who walk to my door and introduce themselves. My neighbor and his wife moved to my neighborhood in NC from Texas. He was a journalist/EDITOR and when he found out I was working on a manuscript, he was excited to edit it, because it was about miracles too and he could read the Bible in all the original languages, Latin, Ancient Greek, Hebrew, Aramaic, etc. Long story short. My Book. A Physician Witness by Sharon Boone, MD is on Amazon.com and is getting 5 stars. God had me write it to uplift the hurting and the down and out and the hopeless. People bring it to my book signings the the paperback is nearly worn off. I ask why and they tell me because they keep going back and re-reading so many parts of it because it blesses them so much and it is so uplifting. So if you like good true stories and mysterious and spiritual things, you will love this book. I am working on 3 more.
Sherry Willis I am so looking forward to purchasing your book!! I’m on a small disability check, so that may take a few months. Thank you so much for allowing our heavenly Father to use you
Wow you are very blessed
This video really hit home. My creative mind is running ahead of me by leaps and bounds. But I can't even get through my cleaning schedule. And I'm on my own as my retired husband doesn't want to leave his computer.
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I can relate to that Karen. Trying to declutter & clean & cook wears me out. My well meaning hubby buys groceries & just shoves them in the fridge without cleaning it. Everything falls out when I open the fridge door ..Old food is left to rot & nothing gets organized in the fridge unless do it.
I'm trying to set up an estate sale in my cottage & garage but losing motivation..on my husband's day off he wants to spend time with me & I say " I want that too. But if u could just help me with a few things we could spend time together. He starts but doesn't finish, then escapes to his man cave. I told him I can't do this myself,so I hired a girl, now he's saying we can't afford to pay her. So how are we going to get out of here? If we sold this place,we could build a tiny house & be dept free. I can't get him to work on a budget with me. It seems we live separate lives & his solution is too work more. A year ago before my gallbladder surgery I was making progress ,but I just don't see a way out now. God please help us
Thank you! I have Autoimmune Disease with Hashimotos and several other autoimmune issues. This is a blessing.
I'm sorry we walk in similar paths. I also have several autoimmune issues, including Hashimotos. Be gentle on yourself.
Thank you so much for this! I saw your title and clicked so quickly. I NEEDED THIS! I have been in chronic pain and depression for 4yrs due to breaking my back and losing EVERYTHING! I used to be a social butterfly and a meticulous cleaner. I couldnt walk or move the pain was so excruciating all i could do was lay in bed. My house looks like the extreme hoarders bcus i have no help. My son is no help at all. Going from a $60,000 a yr to living off my savings ira and 401k. To my job of 20yrs forcing me to retire and live off of $300 a month.
Its so hard to live like this. Im so embarrassed about how things look. I dont open my doors and my poor dogs haven't gone for a walk in yrs. Friends of 30yrs left me and when i asked for help i got excuses and flat out no. 😢
I really appreciate you for this bcus im always asking you tubers to give tips for ppl with physical pain and limitations.
I read your comment and it touched my heart. Life is so unpredictable and so much of it is out of our control. Sometimes I contemplate what is this trying to teach me. Iam trying to refrain from the cliché sayings but I hope you stay as strong as the spirits of your ancestors. Real friends stay when times are tough so those were not your real friend. Sending you light and love.
@@zendavis3501 , thank you so much. My so called family is worse and they live less than a block away. But, when i was on top of the world, i was always the fixer, comforter, helper and when i needed all of EVERYTHING i spent my life giving to others i was denied it. Being disabled sucks big time and what i spent my life building crumbled in a moment. Im hard on myself bcus i feel life just shitted on me when i have so much i wanted to accomplish. I raised my son to an adult alone with no help at all and sacrificed everytg for him. This was supposed to be my time. Idky this happened to me. It just feels so curel. Well, thank you again! I really appreciate your kind words.
@@aquafina6544 Me and your testimony is almost identical. Before I developed these debilitating health issues I had my own office at a fortune 500 company. I was also a bodybuilder who took extraordinary pride in my physique. I had a gorgeous benevolent wife who was a nurse and we have two beautiful kids. House in the suburbs with an actual picket fence. Nice vehicles and I abruptly lost all of that. When I had all that money I was exalted by family and friends. But when all that was taken away due to my health circumstances they left right along with it. That's when I realized the love of money is what this country is built on. Everyone forsaken me and just like you said, so did family members. When my family abandoned me it hurt the most and made me numb to the point I could no longer feel. So when I read your comment it resonated to me and I subsequently felt compelled to respond to you. So many people are in our position whereas an unforseen pathology comes along and plagues them. Viktor Frankl said "When we cant change circumstances we are forced to change ourselves". That is from the book "A mans search for meaning" he was a holocaust survivor. And we are survivors as well. Always feel free to respond become you are not alone.
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I had very serious back and neck surgeries and have a good number of rods and pins in me and am always in pain. I can't imagine your pain with a broken back. I lost my daughter at age 12 in an accident and that really made me a mental case. But I had the same group of friends who had work the next day come and stay with me every night until about 2 AM just keeping me company and bringing me food. Today I have several friends and a boyfriend of 11 years who will and do help me. I really really wish you had that. I would come and help you if I lived near you. I would be rather slow 🐌 but I would be there. ♥
@@zendavis3501 , thank you so so much.. You are so right! I worked for the federal govt and they buried me in red tape and paperwork just so they didnt have to pay me. Its a shame how the govt uses us and then discards us when they cant benefit from us. The ppl we encounter and family are just as bad and most times worse. ive been on yt for years but im new to all the new features. Please feel free to friend me. I will respond.
I have chronic pain and the depression and anxiety is hard to deal with. I feel ashamed that I am not the wife or mother. I use to be. I use to keep my home spotless. It is not spotless today. Thank you for this video.
And the spouse and kids STILL love you. Love and take care of yourself. The home can be spotless with help.
Raise your hand if you feel shame or guilt that you're not the wife and mother you used to be. 🙋🏻you're not alone. I bet that many of the people here feel that way too. I know I do. We can only do our best and let God do the rest.
Wow. When you first got into the discussion and said the thing about feeling human, I had to stop and pull myself together before I could continue any more. But, coming back, I saw that you are much the same. That's really just what most of us who live in a constant state of pain want most. That desire to be understood. I have multiple health issues, pain being an intense, mean spirited constant and unwanted companion, but I look perfectly normal on the outside, so there were always those who would question me in a way that was not expressed in a compassionate way, just out of intrusive curiosity. Most just gave me that disbelieving look it when I did take a minute to explain. You know the ones. Their faces reflected their thoughts, which say "Suuuure your're ill. Riiiight." Then, you never hear from them again. I had one too many of those experiences. Now, at a vintaged age, I no longer explain myself, nor feel the need to lose my dignity in having to endure those looks. I prefer not to bring it up. I've learned coping strategies, but am very bad at the pacing myself part! I often set myself back every time I tackle something. I do get very frustrated over it, as I was once a real neatnik! I don't like things to be unorganized, messy or dirty. Yet here I sit in our new (but old) retirement house, which is in desperate need of major renovation, which we must do ourselves or not at all. Honestly, I am not up to the challenge at all. I can't even unpack, let alone find a clean place to put anything. I'm sitting in a really dirty house with boxes and clutter all around me, leaving hubby to handle it (to see where he puts things is "almost" humorous). I feel guilty, even though he's so kind about it. He knows. So yes. I'm overwhelmed and very depressed. Unfortunately, I'm new here and a shut-in, so there's no one around to help me. I probably wouldn't ask anyone anyway, for all the reasons you mentioned. Especially, embarrassment. So, I get it. I also thank you for sharing your personal story, your tips and your spirit! It is appreciated!
Where do you live?!?! I want to come help!!!! I keep joking that I am going to take my business mobile - You just make me want to jump in a car and give you the beautiful space you DESERVE! I know you are new to a place - but reach out to the new community...There ARE people who understand and can help. And I want to use ugly expletives for those cold hearted people who have judged you in the past. In the meantime; don't look at the entire house.... pick one room and start your list. It may be long - but just pick one task at a time. I am keeping my fingers crossed that you are close to where I live.
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Hi....I'm a newer subbie. I just hopped on UA-cam and there you were. You were speaking to me! Although I'm old enough to be your mom, your story sounds similar to mine. Different medical issues, but issues all the same.
Thank you for putting this out. You are very brave and I'm proud of you.
Showers are the one chore or the day. Grocery shopping is one chore for a day. I'm supposed to be making a baby album, but I'm having trouble getting into my happy place to craft.
Thank you again. Your friends Renee in western Washington.
You've got a place here
@Renee H I'm a crafter too and completely hear you. I know that crafting makes m3 happy and calms and soothes me but if I'm not in my happy place the creative juices don't flow as easily. I find if I schedule to go to a scrap or craft day jyst being around the other super supportive creative women really helps me. Even on days when I have a bad start I try to push to go even if it's late....and it does turn my day around almost always.
Happy crafting!
@@dawnhershey9174 Hey Dawn ... I make cards & .... well I'm always sampling too.. but, like you I find there are days when it just doesn't come. When I realize that I just can't focus on production, I switch to 'organizing' or just playing with some of my embellishments or inks. I find that sometimes doing a no-brainer like that starts my creativity, or I just learn a new way to use something.... added bonus is that I also feel like I accomplished something!
Thank you for being so transparent for us! I was feeling so ashamed of my inability to keep up with the household tasks and even the lack of energy to shower on a consistent basis. the pain of arthritis and congestive heart failure have limited my ability to stand and walk for more than a few minutes at a time. I felt like giving up and once in a while I don't even want to come out of my room. I am 67 years old. I feel more hopeful now since hearing you share your story.
I don't feel so alone now! Thanks again.
You are NOT alone.... there are so many here that have similar stories. Read through, and feel free to make new friends who understand what you are going through. 💙 I am so happy you are here.
Hello,
Thank for this video.
At only 33, with 2 beautiful girls. My pride and joy.
Although when I had my first girl I started to come apart.
A very hard start in live, with to many scares to keep writing.
And over the years getting more problems with dealing with my life.
When I was pregnant with my second girl, I broke as I was lost it was all to much.
The first dr I seen just said suck it up that’s life.
I was so scared by this, as I was asking for help to reach out. To be put down like that.
It took me a month before I when back to my old GP, to tell it all again.
My anxiety, depression true out my childhood up till now, problems sleeping, constantly tends and chronic pain after a fall of a horse.
All these thing are not visible on the outside and I was in so much emotion stress.
My old GP, thank god. Gave me the hand I needed to start to get up a bit.
But every day is a challenge, as there are things to get done. 2 kids and hubby (okay 3kids)
He is a country boy and see things differently then I do, just forget and get over it.
It’s hard, I would love to do this.
Not long ago I lost my mom, she was my mom but she shaped my childhood.
And that was painful. With her passing so much come back that I didn’t want to remember.
And how I have been clinging on to so much “stuff” because it was important and has memory’s.
I have brought a WorkBox 3.0 just for me and all my creativity stuff.
Just a place where I can have all to me, everything els is about my family and not much space for my self.
This is when I first come across your UA-cam, doing research for my WorkBox.
And I got very helpful tips out of it.
And today I’ve seen this one about pain in what form then what so ever.
And seeing this did a lot to me, because it’s so hard to go to the gp and go over and over what my problems are.
And it makes me so tired, I spend 3 weeks in hospital away for family and home.
As my immune system took matters in its own hands and I ended up with ulcer on my left leg.
It gave me a lot of time to think, bit to much.
And I want to improve “my life” so I can be a better mom and wife.
And with the space I made for my wire and bead creations “ trees of life”.
I feel a bit better about me as I’m making things again like I used to.
I got a long way to go to sort out my life, bit these tips and tricks you have shared with all of us makes a difference in mean life.
Thanks, margreet
Hello Margreet....please try to remember that it is so important to take time for yourself, especially if you notice that it helps you. I know it is hard because we tend to want to do everything for our family but if 'you' are not happy, they will feel it too. Try to find a support group where people come together once a month to just talk about their issues, whether it be chronic pain, depression, or both. Not only will you find it informative, it will make you feel like you are not alone and after hearing their stories, you will know that 'you're not going crazy'. Take care of yourself Margreet!
Thank you and Bless you for this post. Yes I too ended up in tears. Lifelong migraines, depression, recovering alcoholic, recently diagnosed with ADHD all while being addicted to arts and crafts of every shape, size and material…literally! Always believing that no one else really understands. After watching a couple of your videos something urged me to go and start with your earliest posts. Though this video is 2 years old, you are still touching new people. Thank you! Yes I can and Yes I will
You are a treasure! My migraines started at 16 and stopped with menopause. I can so relate to the pain/depression circle as been there since first car accident at 25. Short version of my story is fibromyalgia 1989, MS 2004, stage IV breast cancer 2016 as well as a few lesser problems. Your video touched me as have been struggling with why I’m fighting so hard to stay alive with depression telling my to stop. At 61 am looking at bankruptcy to deal with all the medical bills my husband and I can’t pay. He has end stage renal disease and lives on dialysis 3 days a week. He works 16-32 hours a week in retail as well as Social Security and we can’t make ends meet. I don’t mean to unload but I found you at one of my lowest points and it is making me look forward to tomorrow for first time in a long while. Thank you for reminding me I have real reasons for my inconsistent house work and lack of self care. Keep being the beacon for us to find a way back from the darkness
Terri, I am so sorry to hear all of the struggles you are facing. PLEASE, please reach out for support!!! Your clinicians should be able to provide a listing for your area. Don't give up!!!! Unload anytime/
I will be praying for you to find peace and joy...and less pain.
You really hit home. I have these lists of things to do. I also am one who doesn't know when I'm doing too much, until I have. I have anxiety, panic attacks, depression, fibromyalgia, headaches, can't sleep, get dizzy, etc.
I'm going to try those lists you suggested. I'm also one to not ask for help. You're right! Doctors treat me like it is in my head. I also ended up getting divorced. Thank you for all your help!!
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I watched this a year ago and am revisiting it.......
My granddaughter has started using post it notes for things she's grateful for and phrases that inspired her... I'm going to suggest this video to my daughter who suffers from fibromyalgia and depression.....
You're such a blessing
Thank you
I am so glad it was helpful... and thank you for sharing!
I am watching this at 2:30a.m., what I call "pain o'clock". In 8 days I move into my first ever owned home. The joy and excitement is being destroyed by pain. This video is everything right now.
Thank you. I'd say "you can't understand what this meant to me", except clearly you can. Thank you.
I used to call it my witching hour.... Hope the joy overcomes again quickly for you. Please let me know how your move goes 💙
Touched my heart. I used to struggle with depression. Not suicidal, but the nobody loves me nobody comes to see me......I’m better at accepting this now. But I do remember the migraines and was having issues with my cycle. I had a cyst the size of a grapefruit on my ovaries. I had a complete hysterectomy and my life completely changed for the better. So glad you got help also.sending prayers to you and everyone.
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Pacing is always a trial. It is so hard to not be able to do, yep sometimes even eating is difficult.
I know. Sometimes I wonder if the pain I'm going to feel getting to the kitchen is worth it. Nope. I'll just eat tomorrow. Yesterday I had to call my daughter because I couldn't reach a bottle of water on my nightstand right next to me. My body felt as if I had gotten beaten with a bat.
I'm sitting here listening to you and crying. I'm so happy to hear of someone who had chronic pain and made it out the other side. Mine will end when this bully of a body dies. My Rheumatologist has told me that I am correct in saying my body has aged faster than a year for every year it's been alive. People with all of my autoimmune diseases and disorders have been seen to do that. So I'm grateful that is so my life won't last as long as the norm. I'm past the just ask for help portion. A shower is once every two weeks and with my hubby waiting in case I need him because it took too long. I feel great when I can knit 25 stitches without stopping. These are the best of my remaining life. That's why I've been moved to tears that you got out the other side to still have a life. Praying you never get back into that situation ever again.
Kathryn - I am so sorry. My heart hurts just thinking of you in pain all of the time. Please let me know if you ever want to chat - sometimes just talking about things helps... I wish I could do more to help. 💙 CallClutterFairy@gmail.com
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Thank you so much! I am a caregiver to my disabled Dad. He's easy physically but not mentally. I have chronic depression and generalized anxiety disorder. Also back problems and PCOS. I needed those words. My Dad is a classic narcissist so most of the time he really doesn't care that I have limitations. Everytime I get down he doesn't let up on me. I've been at this for the better part of 17 years now. And I've been dealing with my problems since I was 12, and yes he was around the whole time I was growing up so I had my baggage as well. I've been having a ruff time the past couple if weeks and really needed to hear this from someone who knows. Seriously take care of yourself!! I've lost teeth from not taking care of myself because of my mix.
I hope things get better for you soon. Surround yourself with as many positive people and environments as you can! That balance will be very important for you and your interactions with your Dad. Please keep in touch.
@@TheCraftyOrganizer Thank you so much💗
This put me in tears. Thank you
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thank you very much I suffer chronic pain. I suffered migraines when I was a young mother. I felt like a failure, on a daily basis. even today as an elderly woman, there are days I can't function at all, my house needs organizing and I thank God my daughter is helping me now but she suffers fibromyalgia as well. so there are days we suffer together.
Marcia - I am sorry to hear both you and your daughter have health issues... but I am so happy that you have each other to lean on. I hope brighter days are ahead for you.
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I just saw this video in my feed, and this is a big, big struggle for me. Most days I don't want to leave my lying down position...ready to watch the video. 🙂....tears are just streaming down my face now. Thank you so much for this video.
I hope it helps.... keep looking until you find someone who clicks with you. Don't give up
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You would not believe (but actually you know) how many of these things you mentioned at the beginning are my new normal ugh. Getting out of bed. Trying to take care of the kids while I'm dealing with my own issues. Actually taking a shower! That one is embarrassing. Getting clothes washed. Cooking etc etc. I have multiple sclerosis and started having symptons in 1997 so going on 23 years now. Im still upright and walking thank Jesus above. My house is a wreck. My purse is a wreck. I'm a wreck. On top of MS i have high blood pressure, diabetes plus now my lower back on left side has excrutiating pain. MRI said arthritis...UGH. Thank you for these videos. Yes pain and depression and dealing with MS... Its a huge vicious cycle.
For the last five or six years I have been trying to adapt to the changes in my lifestyle from an active, fit woman in her 60s to the damage and pain of Rheumatoid Arthritis in my 70s. The damage that has accumulated has caused very big changes in walking, exercising and generally life in general. I am learning and adapting but it is very hard. Small projects with resting time in between are now the new normal. I was always a go-getter and now I have to pace myself constantly or I overdo things. Pain I can cope with but the lack of mobility is what really triggers depression. Your video helps a great deal, thank you. For many of us just giving ourselves permission to rest and recharge is the hardest job of all.
Leleslie45 - I could not agree more!!!! The disappointment in ourselves from our OWN expectations are harsh. Hope you find a stride that helps you enjoy life and ease the pain.
I suffer ftom depression and PTSD. My own family doesn't understand. I went through childhood trauma. I WISH people understood that with depression you don't just choose to be happy. It's not that simple. I have had trauma after trauma after trauma. I am in therapy and have been for almost 3 years. Its good to know I'm not alone. Thank you!
I am so sorry you are going through all of this. This is another that I am really proud of.... I hope it will help and perhaps allow your family to understand. ua-cam.com/video/d9vk8RqlDxM/v-deo.html
Norrine, I feel like u were talking directly 2 me.I'm 😢 crying...so emotional right now! Thank u 4 sharing ur story&I am so Sorry that u had 2 suffer that long😢😢Unblieveable! I recently suffered a back injury.The irony was it was 2 days after Xmas&I was picking up box of items 2 take 2 thirft store&slipped on acorn, lost balance&twisted, slipped disc,which pressed on nerve.Couldn't function&take care of self. Pain&depression followed. Have made progress. Can do things now that I couldn't do b4,but not 100%.Was out of work 4 several months with no income&no one 2 help. Will have 2 watch video again about ur steps&list making&pacing self.THANK U so much 4 sharing&talking about ur experience. Pain is a very personal thing.Different 4 all! Some days r better than others. I am glad u r doing better now&trying 2 help others know they r NOT alone! Take care!💝
You're not alone either 💜💜💜
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I started crying shortly into your video. I’ve had depression and anxiety for at least four decades (I’m in my early 60s). This weekend dropped me into a bad cycle, so much so that I couldn’t get out of bed and go to work Monday, at a job I love. I’m on meds and see a therapist every other week (plus in times of crisis).
Clutter is a huge stress factor for me, for at least 20 yrs. My SO and his dtr create a lot of clutter!! My SO invited friends for dinner Sunday night. Neither he nor his dtr helped me with any cleaning. He went to breakfast with a friend that lasted five hours; she sat on the sofa playing video games. I finally had enough, called our friends, asked to postpone dinner. My SO and dtr just don’t get it. You do.
You’re like a best friend in another state, always there to help, understand; your gentle manner of delivery is much appreciated as well.
Make your lists!!!! Then talk to your SO and his daughter.... GIVE them a few of the tasks. Explain how completing these items will help not just you (even thought that is the priority) but the overall feel of the house and the connection for the three of you. They may resist. If they do.... see if you can pull in any outside help. But having that list done first will really streamline and focus any help you do get. Giant hugs from your best friend in another state.
Call Clutter Fairy thank you.
Good for you for protecting yourself by postponing that dinner if you weren't getting any help! Call Clutter Fairy has excellent tips for you to get help from now on. In the kindest way possible, they need to realize what you deal with and have to go through. Good luck!
I understand how difficult it is to deal with chronic illness, I have secondary progressive MS so my journey is challenging most days. I practice yoga and use many alternative healing modalities including acupuncture and massage. This has really helped me have a sense of control over a disease that takes much of your control away. Keep doing what makes you feel whole...
I am SO happy you have found techniques to help you!!!! And I agree, keep doing what makes you feel whole
@R&S B. Sending healing energy and prayers to you as well!!
Thank you for being real...depression here...it’s always nice to not feel alone in our struggles!
This is an amazing group. You're not alone ❤️
this literally brought me to tears - i suffer from chronic pain due to fibro, arthritis, migraines and chronic fatigue which has led to functioning depression. i have let everything in my life fall into a deep abyss. thank you for understanding and giving me some solutions to feel accomplished without putting myself in bed for days. thank you. i know this is an older video - but i just found you and subscribed.
It's an older video... but the message is still current 💜 The group in the comments is amazing and supportive. We all get it, and are here for you. You are definitely not alone. 🌺
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I just found this video too. It was such a blessing. I feel like there is a family here. I already liked her now I love her. She helped bring a group of people together who I didn't know existed. I don't feel so alone anymore. BTW - doing the laundry equals two days of bed rest for me. Still trying to figure a better, less exhausting way to wash, dry, hang and fold clothes for 4 people.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I'm so glad I'm not the only one going through these types of things! I went through a hysterectomy in 2010. And from there I went back to school to study alternative medicine basically to learn how to fix myself, hotflashes, depression, fatigue, etc. I have learned that we have to take it one day at a time and it is a very slow process but you do get through it all with patience and fortitude. I am slowly getting through things layer by layer . Again thank you so much for your video. Needed to hear it from another person and needed the confirmation that I'm on the right road.
YES, YOU'RE ON THE RIGHT ROAD!!!! I've love to learn from you how to work on the hot-flashes and depression without medicine! I've opted to not take anything... but some days it's really hard and I think I should take soemthing.... Share, if you can.
Unfortunately I do have to be on estrogen and an anti depressant in order to function due to the hysterectomy. I have learned that u can accomplish a lot alternatively but sometimes u just have to rely on conventional medicine for some things. Lol
Oh my goodness, what a gentle soul you are!
I am SO sorry to hear of your childhood trauma and how
it effected you. I pray you, and all women who struggle in this area, will be healed of those memories. Being a female is a wonderful gift, but I find we are so prone to bouts of depression and oppression. Thank you for your tips, I believe we can all use them in the different seasons of our lives and mindsets. And YES, we need to learn to take care of ourselves, first....not the house, or the kids & family, but us. May you continue to help many others.
Thank you, Laurette!
Oh man I also have chronic pain and depression. Bless you for sharing your story and your tips!
Thank you for your wonderful honesty. Getting up (i.e. moving) and getting into that shower truly is half the battle. Also, allow yourself to push any undone tasks onto next day's schedule - because you can only eat that big old elephant a little bit at a time!🐘
That's my favorite analogy!!!!! One bite at a time :D
@@TheCraftyOrganizer Thanks! Continuing with animal analogies, once it is possible to get moving - I also find that if there's one tricky or unpleasant task to complete on a particular day- do it as early as possible and do it FIRST! On a day of severe pain or distress - that task might even be as 'simple' as making a social or medical appointment.
I believe that it's called 'eating the frog'. Once that frog's stopped croaking away at you, award yourself a coffee/tea/ hot chocolate (and your favourite snack) and relax in the knowledge that you actually did it!
Thank you for your willingness to share your story. I have fibromyalgia and there are days when I have to accept that it is not going to be a productive day. I really like the idea of creating the three different task levels list. That is a very realistic way to accomplish something every day. It is extremely hard to ask for help. It took me many years before I was able to do that. I have learned that when you refuse help, you are robbing others the chance of receiving a blessing.
Oh, please tell me how it goes for you!!! It's funny, I've ALWAYS loved helping people... yet wouldn't ask or accept help. Crazy what we tell ourselves is ok and what isnt'. Please keep in touch.
I've found the work and rest method to work amazing for me. There have been days where I pushed myself too much and I do pay for it the next day... sometimes for the whole week. I think it's important to learn our limitations and find methods that work for us as individuals.
I am so glad that works for you!!!!! And if you pace you actually get MORE done - and that is a whole different medicine that we need.
I have dealt with adrenaline fatigue and achiness from injuries and the small list idea works for me. I have one for just - check dishes, laundry, garbage, floors - shower is great, I used to drag myself through the day. Thanks, & you do look great!
Great idea! Thank you for sharing :D
I can't thank you enough for sharing this awesome video! I honestly prayed this morning for strength, motivation & direction to get some much needed cleaning & organizing done in my apt today & then I see this video. This really spoke to me because I relate so closely with so much that you shared. THANK YOU! I NEEDED THIS VIDEO!!!!
I am so glad! You've got this!!!! Let me know if you run into any problems. xoxoxo
I'm two years late to your video but it's so refreshing to hear such a soft, kind and respectful voice. Someone who actually knows and understands this chronic life. Thank you for taking the time to explain part of your life and helping us. It's really appreciated. 🥰
I am so glad it was helpful. Just knowing you are not alone was one of the biggest helpers for me. xoxoxo
Thank you! With chronic health issues myself this video is so Practical and fundamental which I need now. We are all in this together ! Especially asking for help is great advice. A couple weeks ago I had my first session with an organizer to help me. I hit the wall a long time ago and after an accident left me with a broken leg this Winter I actually had to learn to ask for help...after then getting basic help (including spending fee and tip for grocery delivery) a light went on and I researched local options and found my organizer too.
Thanks also for the resource links. Stay strong Y’all!! We can do this!
Would like to talk to you in private I am in constant pain 24 seven and have been for over 30 years I am 85 now you can reach me on messenger
Thank you...thank you...thank you. I have Lupus, Fibro and multiple cerebral aneurysms. I have utilized the "spoon" technique for many years. I only have so many "spoons" and when I run out of them in a day, it is time to hang it up for the day. I prioritize my tasks and have found solace in this practice. :)
Good video. I once saw a talk by a woman who works at a brain injury clinic, who said that brushing your teeth takes something like, 213 separate little tiny movements. (That might not be the exact number, but you get my drift right?) So tasks that simple to most of it are not really all that simple to some of us.
When we are healthy - it's not mean, but we take our health for granted. Doing this video reminded me what my life used to be like - and made me appreciative all over again.
I'm going to add brushing my teeth to my 15 minute list. Having trigeminal neuralgia makes it hard somedays but my natural teeth are worth it. I think i'm going to make a diy self-care checklist and put in my bathroom as a reminder these things are important!😁 Thanks for sharing!
you are absolutely ok... I could write an entire volume on just this topic... oh wait I have and do 🤗 I am a survivor of 20yrs of IPV (Intimate Partner Violence) and year ago had a full physical mental breakdown.... I now speak and teach about Complex PTSD, Life after Trauma and Unshackled Grace! WOMAN YOU ARE AMAZING AND SO BEAUTIFULLY NORMAL!!!!!!! I launch in September but we are 2 peas in a pod
PLEASE share your info! I'd love others to find healing ❤️
Thank you. I have fibromyalgia and have had ministrokes and depression. I tend to take on too much.
I have found that a checklist for daily chores helps. I see what I got done and it boosts my mood.
Kathy B.
That makes me happy!!!!
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Thanks for sharing. I went through 2 times of depression in my 20's and it taught me life lessons...to eat healthier, go for walks in the sunshine, focus on the good, do the next thing, even if it was just take a shower or wash 5 dishes in a pile of dishes in the sink. Low energy can rob us of productivity which can be a downward spiral so taking care of oneself is important. I recommend the book "Happiness is a Choice" by the Minirth clinic doctors for those who are depressed and may suffer from co-dependency. It can take awhile to get up out of the "pit" but it is possible. Also my faith in God gives me hope for the future in this world so full of trials and it is that hope that keeps me going and brings me joy.
Thank you Sharon! Anything that helps is wonderful.
Sharon Peck Your faith in our heavenly Father is your greatest asset. Send hugs and blessings
I have asked for help. They say they are & they never show up. So I'm having to learn how to Pace myself so that I don't get overwhelmed. This Video really helped. I'm not upset anymore because I can't get everything done in one day. I've got Adult A.D.D. & find it frustrating because I go from spot to spot & nothing gets completed. But learning to Pace myself really helps. ThankU again.
Check out the channel How to ADHD! I love her tips and suggestions - and she's wonderful to watch.
I have ADD and using a dry erase board or post it's with what I'm working on helps. When I have a lot of energy, using a bullet journal to track and direct what I'm doing helps
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Thank you. I suffer from fibromyalgia, chronic back and neck pain, hemochromatosis and other health issues. I am so guilty of having that good day and overdoing, then pay the price. I have had to learn to just let things go. I do what I can. When I can. Things that use to take me no time at all to do, can take days to do now. It’s beyond aggravating.
But you don't give up?!?! That's AWESOME! Celebrate what you HAVE done! Enjoy the slower process with a good audio book or music. And then REST and nurture yourself.
I thank you so much for this video ..... I'm an extremely private person because of trust issues. I'm on meds for depression and anxiety.... God bless you so much..... I'm so glad you're doing so good....
Hope you find supports to place in your life that help. Don't give up - ever!
Oh I know that light pain. I could be in darkness covered with blankets no light in if my husband had to come in the room and I could FEEL the light. Thank you for this video.
Norrine, It has taken me 2 months to be able to write this message. I suffer wth Chronic Back and Leg pain and everything you have said is so true. There are days when all I can do is get out of bed, shower and take my medications. I started working when I was 17 and I have always taken care of myself and have never asked for or needed anyone for help. I worked so hard for 31 years to get to where I was 5 years ago. I was the Administration Manager of a very small but successfully Accounting firm and I loved loved my job and I was dam good at it. My Chronic Pain started to present itself in 2013 but I just keep going until June 2015 where from June to December I had spend 12 weeks in hospital at time I had to learn to be able to walk again. I would fall without warning and I had to have a back operation which helped with the falling but did not reduce my pain as the nerve had been pinched so badly since 2013 so it is never going to get better. I even tried to go back to work and that was a disaster. I now can’t work and I am stuck at home on my own all day everyday. This is not the life I wanted I was going to work until retirement age which in Australia is 65 for most of us. Having to ask people to drive me to my appointments because my medication make it impossible to me to drive safely. Your tips have been very helpful. The hardest thing about all of this is asking for help it is so hard, I know I can ask all my friends and family to held and they will be there and that is very humbling as I was always the one who helped everyone. I am starting to learn to ask for help it is hard but I acknowledge that I need help now and as my psychologist said by not asking for help or accepting help I am robbing my family and friends of opportunity to pay it forward for all those times I helped them. Thinking of it that way has been a big help. It is a long and slow process but I am getting there.
Carla - your psychologist is absolutely right.... let the people who care about you get the gift of helping someone so deserving. I pray that you find relief from your pain and are able to enjoy the little daily things in life. Please keep in touch and know I am thinking about you ❤️
Depression is utterly vile and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I have bipolar and I call my depression ‘The many tentacled Beast’ because it wraps itself around every part of you. I’ve sometimes not showered for days and days or washed my hair. So I can empathise so much with you.
Thank you for this video. You have my respect for sharing your story. And doing so can be very therapeutic and cathartic. 😉👍
I could not agree more!!! And it seems to sneak up and grab ya out of nowhere sometimes! Hope you are feeling better these days. xoxox
@@TheCraftyOrganizer I am, thank you. And I hope you are as well. 😘
Due to divorce at age 70 after 41 years of marriage, I've had to move 3 times in 18 months, the final time being across country. I have chronic pain in my lower back, neck, and knee due to arthritis plus scoliosis that I have had my whole life. I've been dealing with depression as well, so my moves were overwhelming in terms of packing and unpacking. In fact I didn't even unpack all my boxes the 2nd time I moved and lived that way for a year. If it wasn't for 3 good friends who helped pack for this last move 2200 miles away, I couldn't have done it by myself. In fact after unpacking 1-2 large boxes, I have to lay down because of the pain. It looks like I'm not motivated to unpack, but it just takes me 3x as long as 'normal people'.
If each box means equals pain... how could you be motivated?? I think setting short times and only doing what you can in that short time would be better for you. Yes, it will take longer - but you won't be hurting yourself and causing days of recovery from it. I hope you have someone who can help you where you are currently living. Please keep in touch.
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I know! Not only is every task painful but physically exhausting too. Sometimes I get winded just leaning down to put my shoes and socks on. My husband is sick of me being sick. If it weren't for the kids he would have left me already. When the dishes get done he has no idea that it took me hours to do them or that my hands hurt so badly I'm afraid I'm going to drop the dishes while I'm washing them. The struggle is real. Our pain is real. It's a blessing to know that there are people who understand. I am not lazy, a bad wife or a bad mother because my house is a wreck. I'm doing the best I can. That realization took many hours of therapy.🙂
Believe it or not making lists like these is something I learned while I was attending meetings for a sales company I part of. The taught more than just sales and about their products. They taught how to take care of yourself and your family. This was many years ago so I hope they are still teaching the same things.
Thank you so much for this. Thank you for being a beacon of hope and having the courage to share your real story with us. While watching you and listening I cried because so many of your tips were so thought out and helpful and your message resonated with mine. I want you to know that you have helped me with initiating these small but yet so crucial and helpful tips to begin the process. You somehow managed to give me permission to feel depressed and still try to fight thru my day. So many people just don’t normally make that connection for me. So I genuinely want to thank you for your courage, smile, understanding and all that falls under the umbrella of you actually treating me like a person. God Bless you and I will continue to enjoy re-watching this for day to day reminders and hope. Thank you so, so , much!!!!!
Now I am crying!!!! Thank you.... I am so happy this helps you. Please keep me posted and let me know your struggles. I can try to make suggestions or find you resources. xoxox
Great video. I live with a life-threatening disease that has caused chronic pain, as well as other things. On the days I cannot physically get out of bed, I consider it God’s way of letting me know it’s time to rest. I try my best not to begrudge these days, but rather embrace them.
Resting is necessary I just caution against too many rest days in a row.... it's an entire new rabbit hole. Stay positive, take care of you!
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I needed this today. I try to motivate others even when getting my channel up every morning is a struggle for me. I hang in and smile through the pain. I struggle with Rheumatoid, Osteo, Fibro and so much more. Your tips are going to be my goal. If it was not for finding my UA-cam channel friends/family I would still be in my room and in the dark all day. I came out of the dark and made my own channel. Finding your channel was a Godsend
You are too sweet. Keep me updated on how you are doing. 💙
God do I know what you're talking about. I've suffer from depression my whole life. I met my husband when I was 20, at the same time I started suffering from migraines, people would not believe that I could hear the light bulb, for 37 years I 'd be at least 2 weeks of the months, all vacations, at work in front of a computer, asking my boss to please turn all the lights off. As soon as my menstrual cycle stopped, so did my migraines. My children, and even my granddaughter grew up seeing me suffer. My husband lived thru it with me, I know it wasn't easy but we made it. Now the only thing I don't suffer from are migraines, being old stinks. LOL. Thank you for sharing.
I love you and your transparency. I think this is why my apartment is such mess and I'm in so much pain. Maybe i am depressed. Thank you. I LOVE YOU !!!
Depression is a sneaky beast! But it can be beaten down!!!! Reach out and get help - it won't take long to start feeling better. Keep me posted!!!!
Excellent tips! Thank you for your transparency and kindness in sharing such a personal story. I’ve been going through constant pain, fatigue, disability and illness for 28 years. I can’t think of a tip you missed! Excellent advice. Took me years to learn a lot of this, usually the hard way. This is a Master’s level class, y’all. I would only add, pray. God is real, and is waiting for you to ask *Him* for help, too. God bless! ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. I have chronic pain and wacked out hormones. Eating right and and taking supplements are key to my physical health but most of all depending on the Word of God is most important to my spiritual being. I always read the book of Psalms when I feel anxiety and depression creeping in and it works 100% of the time.
mrandmrswalkersdesigns: God’s Word is literally alive. There’s such depth in it. I too am made whole by reading it. And I especially love the book of Psalms ☀️
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This video was amazing. I had an injury in 2000. It radically turned my world upside down. I caused multiple surgeries, chronic pain, and PTSD. I never asked for help or had anyone offer. I went through a nasty divorce and life just sucked.
I am remarried, to a semi-hoarder, and finding my way out of a big mess. I just found your channel and this video was so helpful. Thank you. I am going thru your old videos and it has been so nice. Thank you again.
I'm so sorry for what you've been through! I hope you are in a better place now. My new husband is also a 'collector'. It's interesting navigating through it with my background. Sending you hugs and hoping life is bringing you more smiles. 💐
Thank you for the candid disclosure!
The tips too. 🤗
This video will help many people.
God bless.
I am watching this while I have a timer set to rest....then I see that is one of your tips! That's the only way I can maintain a home.
I wish everyone in my life would watch this video.
Wow I needed this, thank you ♥️ took me 8 weeks to organise and change my twin girls bedroom, but with help I did it! Work a little, rest, work, rest, absolutely helps!
That is awesome!!!!!!
Dear friend
You are not alone.i hv walked down that path.crafting makes me happy. I am a journalist by profession but what makes me happy is crafting. Prayers and crafting has helped me get up and walk faster. I am on meds but I am fe. Bless you loads
Additional hints for those with ADD/ADHD.... Susan Pinsky's ORGANIZING SOLUTIONS FOR PEOPLE WITH ADHD. Thank you, Norrine, for your time, skills, attitude!!!! You rock!
Thank for the additional info!!! :D
New subbie here. Just want to say "Thank you!" You are a very brave girl to have overcome all that you have! Thank you for sharing your struggle in order to help others. God bless you for doing this! I am 68 and live with chronic back and joint pain due to rheumatoid arthritis. I really enjoy doing nothing in the morning s except feeding my cats and a few dishes. Then I sit down for my "coffee hour" Mostly turns into 2 or 3 hours, lol. Will definitely use your tips to get moving in the morning!
Thank you for being so open and sharing what you were able to. I am still learning to pace myself, it's so hard to remember when I'm having a good day that I still need to have breaks so I don't overdo it. I will get there eventually. Thanks again 💖
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve suffered from migraines since I was 13. I had cluster migraines that lasted months. I also suffer from chronic pain from fibromyalgia and psoriatic arthritis. Joint replacements and the pain causes depression. It effects everything... thanks for sharing your story and tips.
My mom and grandmother both suffered from their teens to menopause with migraines. When I didn't get them as a teen, they were so relieved that it skipped me. Then when I turned 40 they hit me with a vengeance!! It took years of wasted time and money with my regular physician, testing, a neurologist, preventative medications that didn't work well enough, and even Botox. Finally convinced my GYN to run a hormone study on me and lo and behold they were way out of whack. It was hard to tell with how debilitating the migraines were, plus an autoimmune condition I have to contend with and the numerous medications and their side effects bring challenges too. I still get a migraine with my cycle, but the rest of the month I can be me again. I can't stress enough how much hormone imbalance can affect your health!
Thank you these tips were awesome! I have RA and Fibromyalgia and getting depressed and anxious go right hand-on-hand. Just getting up and doing something small is like a huge chore, but that little bit is sometimes just enough to get you thru. I have marked this video as a favorite, since I want to reflect on the tips and see how I can incorporate them. Thank you!
Please let me know what you still need.... I can try and find suggestions for you.
Thank you
I just saw your channel today. I am exactly what you described. Fibromyalgia, vertigo, extreme fatigue, costochondritis ect.... I am that woman. Thank you for sharing so much.
Clutter Fairy I just stumbled upon your channel and I am going to call you my FAIRY GODMOTHER!!
Thank you, thank you, thank you.... you may have just saved my life... your story and how you felt is exactly how I feel and have felt everyday of my life for so, so many yrs.
You are the first person I have met, (even though we have never met... lol) that truly understands what it is that I suffer through every single day.... I am to emotional to share anymore right now, but I will be back!
Thank you
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Hi Julie! I am so sorry you have been carrying these feelings around alone. There are so many who suffer in silence. I hope you can find a support group here, or keep searching online. I've found so many who agree - having support (even online to vent) helps SO much!
Amen sister! Thanks for sharing your struggles. I've gone through a lot and am better. You explain things in a way that is doable. Love you 😘😘 keep up these great videos!!
God bless you. Thanks thanks thanks for sharing. Hugs to you
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I found you by accident and I am so glad that I did! I sat here crying because it was like you were talking to me! I have been depressed all my life and since my husband and my son passed away it is like I lost so much of me! I am a lot older than you are but I have seen people my age or older that seem to be enjoying life so much, and I envy them very much! My mind tells me I can do something but my body says no! Some days I ask God to take me, but I have a Daughter and Granddaughter that I must be here for! It is just so hard! Thanks for listening!
I am so sorry for your loss and for that pain you live with - both in body and in heart. Keep searching... Please keep in touch. I will be here cheering for you to find a way to discover joy through all of this. 💛
Thank you so much for listening! I recently started paper crafting to help keep my mind occupied. You do paper crafting too, right? If I can figure out a way to send a photo to you of what my craft is could you tell me, honest opinion on how I did! It is the first thing I made with chipboard! I think for a first try it isn't too awful bad but it would be nice if you could let me know. I have to figure out how to do it first. Again, thank you for listening!
That was worth the wait. Now I know how to make our list for working on the things I need done. Not only my craft room but my home office, my kitchen, my laundry room, and my two bedrooms. Thank you so much for your story. I know we can do this. I will e-mail you pictures of before and after. Thank you thank you.
Can't wait to see them and celebrate with you!!!!
Be patient with yourself. We moved my craft room into my large bedroom that I work on the bed with my laptop, tablet and sometimes phone on speaker via wifi and another running audio chats. When I have the energy to remind my brain what to do. I'm using the bullet journal method of just a book of collections to help me remember with an index. It's hard to sound stupid to others.
It took me 2 years to get to 90% accomplished. I thought Konmari was a fad so I ignored knowing everything about it. I just used the "touch every little thing and only keep it if I loved it" routine. My OCD feels much better but I have to keep up with putting everything back in its place. Sometimes that takes a few days. So I alternate the sorting with the doing more now.
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I know exactly what you went through. I’m 78 years old now. When I was going through the worst of it, it was the sixties and doctors in those years thought all of our female problems were just in our head. I was told that “you look good”. I felt like no one believed how sick I was. I am so happy that I was able to finally find a doctor who said “lady you are a mess”. It may sound ridiculous but that was a happy day in my life. I was going to get help. It took many years and we are just beginning to believe and understand the female body. It was difficult but when you finally get the help you need … life is worth it. God bless you Norrine. You are a blessing
I'm so sorry you went through that! But I agree completely! Hearing I had a tumor was such wonderful news - because it was FINALLY something to point at - nd no longer 'in my head'. Hope you are feeling 1000 times better these days. xoxox
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best video i have seen yet. i shared. as a person who lives with disability and chronic pain, i can relate. i am never depressed, but sometimes when you can't possibly do more than wheel your chair to the kitchen for a drink of water, it is nice to hear how someone else got through it and what worked for them. i live one minute at a time- and take it one day at a time. if i don't get through it today, i know it will still be there tomorrow and tomorrow is another day.
WOW! That outlook is so amazing and inspiring! Thank you. One minute at a time really IS what can make the difference sometimes. xoxox
Thank you so much for this video. I am so glad you were able to find relief from your migraines. I suffer from chronic daily headaches caused by an old neck injury and depression, anxiety and panic. What you said about having a shower is so true. Sometimes it is a huge effort, but once you do, you feel slightly better and able to tackle small jobs. The recent weeks of rain in the UK has not helped but I think the sunshine may be on its way 😀. Thank you again and take care.
Omg thank u so much! I have severe depression an anxiety, fibromyalgia an to top that off i have widespread arthritis. So if my muscles arent hurting my bones are. I dont have a family support they just tell me to just get over it an go on. I dont have many friends that was taken care of years ago, so it was so good to hear your story. I too had the female problems but finally was able to give them to my doctor on a silver plater. Best day ever! Thank you thank you so much for sharing!!