Managing Autism with Autistic Life Coaching (Five Life Changing Concepts)
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- Опубліковано 5 чер 2024
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Managing autism requires support, skills, and strategies, but it also demands more than a one-size-fits-all approach. Most of the time, the solutions that work for other people don’t work for us, whether that is mainstream school, mainstream employment, mainstream ways of socialization, or other social conventions that an individual needs to live a successful life.
In this video, we will explore Autistic Life Coaching, and how it acknowledges the individual patterns and challenges that come with autism through life-changing concepts that aim for self-acceptance that can help you achieve authentic, personalised goals.
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🎞️Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:11 Medication for Autism
2:05 What is Autistic Life Coaching?
7:59 The Prisoner’s Dillemma
9:44 Bonus Concept
10:05 The Emotional Brain vs The Cognitive Brain
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Some of us like long videos, so don't feel that you need to edit yourself. I personally like to get a lot of information at once.
Same. I'm also happy to have pointers for further research, but I love the detailed long videos!
I always need more words, and the story behind it creates a picture in my mind. I love your videos. Thank you for being a life raft in these tumultuous waters of autism.
I often find that short videos only contain information I know already, so I don't watch them anymore. So please elaborate
I love to have long forms to listen to while I buzz around the house. ☺️
“Life is on hard mode” absolutely it is. Man I feel that life is so hard for me. At the same time I’m an intelligent person and I feel like if the whole world had autism it would be a great place. Then I’d be on easy mode because the expectations of neurotypicals are exactly what causes my life to be on hard mode.
This needs to be longer; don't try to meet an arbitrary deadline. You were great right up until you were worried about the time - both concepts after that were a teaser, not an explanation.
Now I've got this itch in my soul and reading assignments that may or may not scratch it. Don't limit yourself that way; we're only here because we want to hear your thoughts!
Like others have said, a video on how to get started with autistic life coaching would be great.
When I found out when I likely had autism, the "now what?" was obvious. I understood why my square peg wasn't going into the round hole. So I realized I could find a square hole, or a round peg, or a smaller square peg or a bigger round hole. Now that I understand why things don't work the way I think they should, I can find ways to adapt to the situation to accomplish the desired goal. I've done my best to use that knowledge as a tool.
Nice explanation 😅
Don't ever give up on you. I went from someone who had zero awareness of my own emotions, feeling not as if I was from another planet only, but from another galaxy altogether, never managed to fit in anywhere (not that I wanted to too badly), to someone who can recognize, describe, and communicate many of my emotions and needs to myself and others. Still dealing with severe sensory sensitivities & delayed emotional processing. Surviving a workplace environmet (sounds, colors, textures, smells, ways people behave, communication while always feeling 'lost in translation') is still much harder than actual work itself, but I am doing so much better than before when I couldn't even keep a job due to frequent shutdowns & 'spacing out'.
Indeed😊
@@turtleanton6539 I always say indeed, u stole my word 😂
Thank you for putting into words what I didn’t have the language for, much less the words. I try to speak and word salad comes out. It’s so embarrassing and I have gotten to the point of not even attempting to have a 2 way conversation. They say five words so fluently and I have 10,000,000 thoughts wanting to get out at once, and what comes out is sooo not understandable, and I end up having to break it down and then am in a spotlight…eyes directly on me, waiting for an answer…I literally go completely and utterly blank. Can’t recall any of it…, and after several times of that, I have this LOUD! BLARING! FEAR VOICE …that literally wells up in my throat…and runs out my eyes right in front of people. I literally have advocated for myself better when I don’t have all these types of alarms sounding. It’s like I’m in a snow globe, with NO snow…completely clear…like a freshly cleaned glass door…and deafeningly quite…”I’m safe”, complete stillness, as if I’m HIDING! and am so small, and putting on a show, and not even a breathe am I taking…inside this head and yet my body is 5’6, and I’m watching people thru what “she” sees. I’m looking thru a “masquerade mask”. EPIPHANY…I’M MASKING. I couldn’t accept that I may not even be autistic, and claim that because it never clicked.
Damn, I gotta show this to my therapist. Thank you all if you ran down this whole rabbit hole with me. Thank you for letting me find the way that I process…it’s now my prized tool that I just discovered. Thank you all for being of service. Your comments give me a voice! 😌
Thanks! Looking forward to the video about getting along with the elephant.
At 60 I have just been diagnosed with ASD and I can finally see why all of my relationships have failed and that I am not a bad person just different . These videos are amazing thank you so much . x
I'm very intrigued by the "prisoner's dillemma"!
Hi. I’m 59 and this year I found out my parents had me diagnosed with autism when I was five and kept it from me. I can recall sitting tests and speaking to a Doctor in a clinic. I used to ask my mother later on in life why did I go there and what were the results? I got told they were worried about me. No mention of autism.
I knew I was different and have struggled with life.
I’m honest with myself and l knew l was on the spectrum , as l recognised my behaviour fitted in with it. I knew I was finding social situations awkward and uncomfortable. As a young adult I found l could only relax on a night out with friends when l had a few drinks.
I don’t drink now, not because of any reason other than l think it’s harmful and it never made me happy like most people,it just removed my anxiety on a temporary basis.
Im going for therapy and seeing my doctor as its opened a can of worms in my head.
It’s the confirmation l suppose that’s wobbled me. I feel upset that I didn’t have any support and I struggled with a stammer until l overcame it in my thirties. I received no help with that either and it made my autism worse as l withdrew into myself, as l didn’t want to be ridiculed and mocked for my speech impediment. The more anxious I became , the more l stammered. I know speak impediments are common with autism. You reach a stage where you can’t be who you want to be,because you can’t convey yourself ,as you are scared of vocalisation due to stammering. It’s a suppression of your emotions and thoughts.
I don’t feel anger towards my parents,it’s disappointed and maybe life could have been easier to navigate if I had been given some help dealing with autism. The standard response l get when I discuss this with family and friends is,it was a different time them. I don’t know if this is strictly true?
There are a few people who think it was appalling, l try to see it from the perspective of my parents at the time and was it shame and ignorance that kept my diagnosis under the carpet.
My wife was given the information from my eldest sister recently and it’s obvious to me that my close family knew .
I’m having to face it and recognise that lm responsible for other people struggling with who l am .
I feel l have to start to learn how to behave and interact with people again ,as obviously l upset others unintentionally because of my autism.
I don’t have the comfort blanket of thinking they are wrong and lm always right.
I know the majority of the time it’s probably down to how l am and people misinterpreting what lm trying to convey.
Hopefully your videos will help me understand and adapt.
I’m sure there are many more people who have a similar experience to share.
Learning new skills will hopefully make life easier and make me easier to understand 🤞
I would love to see a video on how to get started with autistic life coaching. This is something I’ve been wanting to do for a while for other newly diagnosed autistic individuals, but have no clue how to get started.
What if my emotional elephant is disabled or broken because of trauma, past and present and can't be ridden properly?
So well communicated. Just subscribed, you’re great. Thank you for doing this.
sadly for some reason the premiere wouldnt play so I couldnt watch it before but I will now!
Yes, Thinking Fast ad Slow is a great book. We had it as a mandatory read in my previous work place. His book Noise is also excellent!
Thanks for another amazing video.
The example of the elephant and the rider got straight to the point for me... I hope you will be able to discuss further on that!
Small talk in the bathroom is my love language. i get happy which is distract
That's a lot of great content! I'll be listening to it again, taking notes. Thank you!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
Please do elaborate on the man and elephant concept. It sounds like it would be very helpful for AuDHD!
Watched this several times! This is so great - I feel these concepts need a lot more detail, but it's great to have them all together in a video like this. I'm finding most of them really helpful in some shape or form as I try to re-frame and re-organise my life post-diagnosis. Hadn't heard of the Prisoner's Dilemma before, but that's very interesting! I also found, after my autism diagnosis, I was recommended the usual routes of medication, CBT, and potentially a support worker to help me with daily life tasks, but they didn't feel relevant to my particular situation, and it felt like they were missing the point, but I didn't know how or why. I am gradually understanding my autism better; I am gradually making progress in my life. Autistic life coaching has also made a huge difference to me - seeing how I think and function as a starting point to finding the right strategies for me, rather than something I need to cure.
I'm wanting coaching for autism. Can you share how or where you found the coaching that worked for you?
PLEASE!!!!!! DO A VIDEO ON “THE PRISONER’S DILLEMMA”
I’M IN THAT DILLEMMA…Please help…I don’t care how long the video is. This is water to these dry bones.
Thanks for the video Paul, and have a merry Christmas 🎄 cya next time :)
I had my assessment today. Thank you Paul and community.
I've been told there are no "bad" emotions. Even perceived negative emotions alert us and guide us through our day.
Love the elephant thing
Very interesting teaser. Now I need to know more!
I love all of these informative videos. (My teenage daughter is still awaiting her diagnosis, but we are 100% certain she is autistic. ) I learn so much from you, Paul and it all makes sense to me, as well. Will definitely show this clip to my daughter later.
Thank you ❤ 0:06
Thank you for this video! I would love more information about concept #3 in particular. I feel like it's touching on something that would be helpful to me but I couldn't fully wrap my brain around it in the few moments it was discussed.
Longer videos are fine ... or more... I like either way. You have such great ideas to share.
Paul, I studied game theory within the context of linear programming using the simplex method. I still have my book by Kathleen Trustrum. I always look for a saddle point. I have always been described as a ‘square peg in a round hole’. My autism is a double edged sword. Happy New Year 2024, Paul!
Thank you Paul...I will have to watch this again to get the most out of it...
Cheers from Scotland 😁🌠
So EXCITED for more info on using my brain wrong. Haha
Thanks for this great video. I needed your words today.. It's tricky when you can't begin to describe what you're processing.
The elephant concept feels like it hit home for me! I've never heard of things like, more exploration of that would be amazing, but I'll also see about looking into the book 😄
I do coaching online too (phonics), but I’ve found out that one on two coaching and one on three coaching works great for everyone
I can ask for a premium for more people, but since they share the cost it’s cheaper for them too.
This makes me make more money per coaching hour, thus reducing how much work hours I need to put out!
U just got lifecoached, son lol
Thanks a million, your channel has been instrumental in helping me find my way :)
And sure one on many presents a teeny bit more setting up, but the reasons for it are many too!
Ciao ~~~~
Take a look at the book "A Path through the Jungle"
I am curious about autism and separation anxiety. Specifically, how this manifests in adulthood and how to ease such anxiety in a partner.
Great video - also you can try Baysian thinking to help clarify the likehood of something - I think Julia Galef has a good video on that.
I am very conflicted about whether I want to consider myself autistic or not, but all of these concepts are ideas that I have got a lot out of, but They have been hard won. I can only imagine what my life would have looked like if I was more self-aware in my 20s for example.
I think it's best to consult with professionals to be honest.
Don't just rely on your own perception and definitely try not to obsess or over-watch media on here.
I think we can start to misread or read into our character and then adopt the label Autistic.
I had a formal investigation by professionals and over 4 hours in two sessions, they placed me on the spectrum; given my mental health struggles & history.
@@JB.zero.zero.1 my therapist has told me she thinks I should be assessed and that I likely qualify but I haven’t wanted to do it because it doesn’t matter. I’m not going to get any type of extra help I’m an adult. I can try the advice that would be given whether I have a diagnosis or not and if it helps it helps. It’s not like there is a biological test anyway so in the end it comes down to opinion. Idk I don’t see why I should care about the label.
Make a video of that dilemma
That is so true.. :)
That "using your brain wrong" analogy really resonated with me. I get the impression autism is comehow linked to an overactive cognitive mind/conscious awareness, which is ironic given how everyone else seems to struggle to be more aware/in control of themselves. Guess all those a accusations of being a robot had some basis 😂
One reoccurring thought is how people are expected to think and education where it is basically like expecting to run Vista on an M era Mac without there being effort towards improving such so those with different minds are having to put in extra effort to effectively run the mental software that is the norm these days.
Good advice, thank you. It seems that these require metacognitive thinking.
I like the concept I'm Not Changing for Anyone, but Conforaty and Masking to me at least is far safer. Is it good to mask maybe not.
Hola. Paul, mi elefante está lejos y dejó al pequeño jinete tirado!
Hay recursos en español? Tengo que ver los videos con traducción automática y traducir los comentarios!
Saludos desde SLP -MEX.
I didn’t understand concept three, can someone explain to me please?
My poor little elephant. I loved this analogy. I will check out the book as well. ❤
Hi this made a lot of sense. And if I could wish I’d wish for you to make a longer video going over all 5 steps including the bonus step. But! I’m immensely grateful for this video it gave me a lot to think about and do some own research. Thank you 🙏 Respectfully, Grace 🩰
Where can I access your course on the elephant and rider concept?
There's a ton to unpack here. The question, "Is there a medication for autism?" is NOT the same as asking, "Are there any medications that research has shown to be beneficial for autistic people?". The first way of asking aligns with the pathology paradigm, in which case the person asking doesn't merely "miss the point a bit". But when the inquiry is presented respectfully (as in the second question above), it's a valid question that merits an informed answer. Look, I get it... you're a content creator. You obviously used this question as a way to introduce what you really wanted to discuss in the video: autistic life coaching. You want to share your ideas and experience, and you want to package them into short videos that advertise your other enterprises... one of which is autistic life coaching. That's fair; but taking the time to address the initial question would also be fair, rather than using it as a vehicle to direct viewers to one of your paid services.
whats the pricing structure?
Im autistic, not flexible and mask to much,
Over clean to the point i wont touch anything where if i use them, i need to clean them and have a total lack of organisation to even plan it
bro I'm from India. my son 7 years I don't know. I'm thinking he is not normal doctor said take occupational therophy 1 year not use. he is studying 1std.he is biting other. no eye consentration. I want to conform. this is autism. any test will conform.
4:00. Diaectics
I'm so screwed.
40. No clothes. No possessions.
Calamity to calamity.
Bounce between isolation and alcohol fuelled calamity fishing.
Arrrgghh. Have to be ignorant or I just cry and collapse.
Do you have problems with histamine or your gut (do you know mcas syndrome)?
I have big problems and the worse it gets the more autism signs i have. But when i am in a good phase i can even be a very charismatic guy who can flirt with women. That tells me that maybe autism is just a configuration of treats that are caused by possibly many diffrent things.
So i think that food is very important in mental health. Especially gluten and glutamat. These substances including hustamine can literally send me into the worst Depression within hours including the autism signs. I really recommend to others to be careful with processed food in gerneral and the obove mentioned substances.
Maybe i am just very sensitive. I also have stronger senses, stronger emotions, faster reaction times and also high iq(dont want to brag).
Its destrozyng my life. I got sick at age 12 and never recovered for over 20 years. Thanks for listening to my crying 😂